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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay Fight to Ban. ROTC Re-Heats i WASHINGTON - Little noticed in Feb- : ruary was congressional passage of a bill, : now signed into law by PresidentCfiiiion ¯ the "Campus Access Act" that prohibits : all Defense Department funds to colleges : and .um’versities which the ,,Secretary of ¯ DefenSe :judges., have, an,.~ anti~ROTC : poii~y?’ "~lae legi~latiisn b,bfild have the ." impact of barring Defense Department ¯ funds from going to any campus where : anti-discrimination policies barfing bias : based on sexual orientation limit or re- ¯ strict Reserve OfficerTraining Corps programs. No exact figures are available on the amount ofmoney the Defense Department spends annually at U.S. colleges, but at larger schools, such as Stanford, the University of Pennsylvania, or the University of California at Los Angeles, it might easily amount to tens ofmillions of dollars each year. The term "anti-ROTC policy" is defined in the Act as prohibiting either the Defense Department from see ROTC, page 3 High School Gays. Win & Lose Some Dallas Bd. Includes Protections DALLAS - Under pressure from local rights activists, the Dallas school board decided at theIastminute toinclude sexual orientation in the anti-harassment policy it adopted at its March 28 meeting. The policy, which had not initially included sexual orientationas a category, wasadded after members of the Dallas Gay & Lesbian Allianceand other communitymembers complained that not including sexual orientation in the newpolicy could actually encourage anti-gay and -lesbian harassment in the city’s schools. The new policy bars "oral, written, psychological, physical and other demonstrative actions see School, page 3 .Marriage, Update Colorado Gov. Roy Romer has vetoed a measure :that would have explicitly banned recognizing same-sex marriages in the state, even if they were legally performedinother states, however, Romer said he would sign a bill that declared opposite-sex mamages as the "strong public policy of the state" while at the same time authorizing a study of possible ways same-sex couples could be given legal recognition of their relationships without violating that policy. He called the legislation he vetoed, a "mean-spirited and unnecessary" attack. Idaho became the 3rdstate in the U.S., joining Utah and South Dakota, to bar recognizing same-gender marriageS. The Kentucky state Senate is now considering a measure banning same,sex mamages and activists believe the anti-gay bill has a good chance of passing there. Illinois has also now received a similar ban, spurred on by leaders of the state’s antigay Christian Coalitiou and Christian Action Network. In Kansas, a bill that was already on the floor of the state tlouse of see Marriage, page 3 & Bisexual Communities-,Our Families of the Heart ¯ The Reverend Leslie Penrose, AIDS ac- : tivist Mary Fisher and a youngfriend at ¯ Community ofHope United~thodist. i Wo-men &AIDS i 400.÷HearActivist i Mom,,Mary Fisher ¯" When Janice Nicklas and her co-orga- ¯ nizerbegan planning for the first regional ." conference on Women and AIDS, they ." hoped tohave about 100 or so attend. On ¯ April 2, more than 400 people were registered for the one day conference of work- : shops at the-University of Tulsa’s ¯ Chapman Center. : The workshops ranged from AIDS 101 ¯ to HIV and Incarcerated Women or HIV ¯ tators were both local educators and ex- ¯ perts & those from around the US. The ¯" conference l~gan with a panel of those : infected or affected by HIV. ! The keynote address was ~ven at lunch byAIDS activist, Mary. Fisher, founder of : the Family AIDS Network, Inc. which : works to heighten commumty and ha- ¯ tional awareness and compassion in the : fight against HIV/AIDS. Ms. Fisher, a ~ person/iving with HIViAIDS, came to ¯ national attention when she spoke about ~ AIDS to, the:Republican-National Con- ; vention’in.Houston in-1992.. ~ Fisher’s Tulsa speech was a call to : political arms. She began with quote from ¯ a US Senate chaplin who, when asked if "- he prayed for the Senate;~said, no, after i looking at the Senate, he prayed for the ¯ people. FishersaidthatwithWashington’s ¯ and America’s response to AIDS, prayer : probably was_a good’idea. ~ ................... ¯ Fisher stated that-America.iacks -the. 3 ; basicingredients to wina fight withAIDS: ¯ no national plan for researeh~ .car~e or pre- : vention, nor visible, competent, or trusted ." leadership, nor sufficient funding. ¯ Fisher said we also must look for leadership from the uninfected, ,We. are like ; .’ .ca fl nghtsmovement whose leaders die ; ev~t~"year. : Inaninterviewwith.TFN, Fishernoted ¯ that she would have said we’re making ¯ progress in the AIDS fight prior to the ¯" 1994 Republican sweep. But now she ¯ says we haven’t followed who’s coming : up in that party and we must hold our ~ leaders feet to the fire. "We must commu- ¯ nicate that tiffs fightis about human rights, ¯¯ not about moraljudgements....women, especially, need to say I matter.’" PFLAG at Central-Library Editorial: Kudos to Tulsa Org. Themembers&officers ofTnlsaChapter of Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians &Gays deserve high praise for their exhibit currentlyat theTulsaCity,County Library, as does the libraD’ staff. The exhibit is good but you will appreciate it even more when you know that PFLAG had only a little more than a week to prepare it. The exhibit, up-through April is a snapshot of what PFL~G’s about & of Lesbian & Gay life. Tulsa Family News strongly encourages you to see the’exhibit before it doses. LESBITERIAN & ¯ StillwaterandendinginTulsaon Sunday, May 19 at College Hill Presbyterian, 712 ! S. Columbia. College"Hill will host a : dinner and dialogue at 5pro, followed by ." worshipat 7pro. Her visit is sponsored by ¯ College Hill and Presbyterians for Les- ." bian,’Gay Concerns. : Spahr is an evangelist with the special ¯ ministry ’q’hat .MI May Freely Sen’e’" of : the Downtown United Presbyterian -" Church (DUPC) ofRochester,NeW York, : in parmership with Westminster Presby- ¯ terianofTiburon, CA.In 1991,Spahrwas : by DUPC to serve as Co-pastor but was ¯ denied that position in an unprecedented i move by the ruling body of the-pre~bvterian Church (USA), the.General Ass~m- ¯ see Spahr, page 10 G reatPlains Rodeo "In OKC, May 24.26 : The Oklahoma Gay Rodeo Association ¯ (OGRA) will hold its tt.th-annual rodeo : on Memorial Day Weekend, May 24-26. : It features 2 days of rodeo at the OKC ¯ State Fairgrounds and 3 nights of parties : and exhibits at the Hilton Inn. N\V~ : OGRA beganin 1984. TheGreat Plaius : Regional Rodeo was formed through the ¯ efforts of Kansas, Missouri and Okla- : homa and held its first rodeo in 1986 In : 1993, Arkansas formed theDiamond State : Rodeo Association and joined the Great ~ Hains organization. OG1L~t’s volunteers ¯ are dedicated providing rodeo ~vents for _" Lesbians and Ga)’~menand als0 to sup- " porting AIDS charities. Membership is ¯ noflimited to rodeo .compet.it0fs Formore ¯ info. "call 405-842-0849. April 15 - May 14, 1996, Volume 3, Issue 5 ¯ Run for YourLives, Part3 i LegislativeUpdate ¯ Anti-Gay Amendments Die ¯ OK Senate staff confirm that. HB 2554 ¯ is "dead" for this session. HB 2554 ad- ¯ dressed divorce law changes but was ~ amended to ban same-gender marriage _" even if those were legal elsewhere. ¯ ~ Anamendment to the"Ryan Luke" bill, ¯ HB 2053, would ban child custody by a : "known homosexual,lesbian or bisexual." ." Rep. Laura Boyd, author ofHB 2053, told ¯ TFN that the anti-Gay amendment was ." "out for good." It appears that this session ~ will draw to a close in May without thc ." passage of any anti-Gay bibs or amend-. ments, only the anti-Gay but merely svm. ! bolic resolution #1045. " i Coming Soon! : On May 23, the Tulsa Ice Arena will ." host at 7:30pro the first Red Ribbon lc~ ." Revue. ’l’he evening will feature profes. ¯ sional skaters from Kansas City, OK(" : andTulsa All tickel proceeds will benefit : Our House which provides support for ¯ those challenged by HI\," AIDS. Tickets ¯ are $8, balcon.v seats and S12.50 for on- ¯ ice seats at the .Arena at 71st & .~.hugo ¯ (behind the 1 2 Price Store). For~more ¯ info. ".call Shane Douglas at 254--7272. ¯ ¯ Follies Revue, Inc. have announced tha! this \ear’s eveut. Follies Salute the .\hn’. ies, Will be on Juue 21 & 22at the \Varrcn ¯ Place Doubletree Hotel. The Follies will : showcase suchartists as Alexandr"Sacha’" ¯ Luiiev of the Tulsa Ballet Theatre, singers ¯ Deb Roberts and Steve Wright: For more ¯ info. call 437-0201. - : Local HI\" AIDS support org~iniza~ion, ¯ ILMN, the Regional AIDS Interfaith Net- " work is holding its volunteer training on : April 27 and May 4 at Community of , Hope from 10-Spin. And Debbie Waters, : MSW announces a support group, Phoe- ¯ nix Group, for families & friends living : with AIDS. The group meets on the Ist & : 3rd Thurs. each month: Call 584-6460. ilnterfaith AIDS Ministries Hits 10 : This May, Interfaith AIDS Ministries ¯ (IAM) will celebrate its lOth-auniversarv ! of:providing education about HIV;AIDg ¯ and ofproviding support to persons living ¯ with HIV,,AIDS (PLWA’~s)~ S_t,.Peter’s ". Episcopal Church at 9100 East 21 st Street ¯ Will host a sen’ice commemorating !0 " years of work on Sunday, May 19 at 3pm. ," !AM will also be featured at the May 14th meeting of the AIDS Coalition. 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I received a message on my machine that said. =tli Tom, t~s is Keit~ S~ from the A(’I ,V offi~ in OMahoma City....’" Smith. who’s a rc~dtor and ad s~esm~ for OKC paper The Perspec’t~ ve, was m~appy about ~ ~ficle that we wrote. The article stated that he’d helped OMa. I louse M~0ont~ Leader Benson rewrite Benson’s vcrx ant~-Gav resolution. #1~5. Sxmth clmms he heisted chm~e the anti-gay lang~ge of the ongin~ version to l~guage that ~ght be ~i~- slightly less ami:Gay. We ~so wrote that some OKC folks had accused Smith of passing ~mselfoff~ spokesperson for the OM~oma LGBT ~umties. I promised Smith that I’d address ~s c0n~ms. At one meeting with Benson, S~th says he was with Jo Ann Bell of the ACLU. Ms. Bell swe~s that Smith only represented ~mself. Smi~ says that at a later meeting (where Bell w~ not present), he helped Beuson m~e specific ch~ges in l~g~ge of # 1 045: but that he told Benson &at he nevertheless opposed the fin~ drMt (which hehelped write). Seem confusing? Smith appears to have b~n view~ by Benson, by Rcp. I ~ura Boyd. by other legislators, and by State l)emocratic P~tv Ex~ufive ~r~tor Pat Ihdl. as an anthofized ~pokesperson for Gay ~d I ~sbian counnunitv. As a result, some le~slators votedagainst us, thinking ~at they had our blessrag. Through mepmess or nmvete on ~s p~t ~d possibly opportmfism on the p~t of some le~slators, what hc clmms w~ ~ effort to m~e 100% bad rcsolution into one that would~ ody~%bad wound up being used against him and us. And while Smith may feel he’s been beat up, actually there’s enough blame to spread around. Tulsan~ should strongly object to the failure of OKC groups, who were having meeungs about #1045, to commumeate regularly with any Tulsa activists or groups. If it wasn’t Smith singlehandedly representxng the entire state, it was the OKC organizations acting as though they did. The ACLU. which is a statewide organization, made no effort to communicate, even with its Tulsa board members. OGLPC’s Paul Thompson did commumcate with TOHR when #1045 was first introduced, but apparently not when this meeting was .happening. Tulsa groups who were working on this ~ssue might also have called OKC groups. However. it seems that the greater obligation falls on those who have the advantage of proximity to the Capitol and know better when action’s happening. After stories like this, I sometimes think we are our own worst enemy.-Smith has substantial experience with the legislature, and we’d be foolish not to take advantage of it. But it also appears that we need to make sure that those who represent us at the Capitol really represent all of us - in Tulsa, and wherever else there’s an organized community in the state, as well as in Oklahoma City. Just one last thing about representation: Smith is neither an officer nor an employee of the ACLU. He volunteers but according to ACLU board president, Mark Hendricksen, Smith should not identify himself as though he’s staff or an officer. Does make you kind-of wonder, doesn’t it.’? Ilello, you don’t know me, but I certainly know you. I live with you. I work with you. I may even be involved with you. And yes, I’ve often masqueraded ,as v0u. I’ve had to: I’m practically invisible, you see.’Or maybe you don’t.... I am a transsexual. But being a transie i~ this town doesn’t add up to a great deal of visibility. That’s funny, considering that scarcely a day goes by when I DON’T hear somebody whispering b~hindmy back,"Is that a boy or a girl ! Noit’s gotta be a faggot! Well...maybe it’s a Dyke after all..." Manya ume, I, and other transsexuals/transgender persons, have taken the homophobic backlash for our gay ,and lesbian brothers and sisters, stmply because we are usually more visible than most. Nobody loves a hermaphrodite. Androgyny makes : most people really edgy. But I expect that from most people (sadly enough). What hurts though, is how Gays and Lesbians have taken little notice of : us, in their silence, colluding to collapse our distinct identities into theirs. : Let’ s face it... how many of you gays andlesbians ¯ out there, in yourpersonal and political lives, focus ¯ on gender issues just as much as you focus on sex and sexuality? In this society, gender is taken for : granted. Gender deviance ~s taken as a personal insult, see Letters, page 13 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *B,’unboo Lounge, 7204 E. Piue *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Ground Zero, 311 E. 7th *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Reuegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd *Intenu’ban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 832- 1269 744-0896 621-9376 749-1563 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Derails C. 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Mike Leavitt has vetoed a measure, SB246, that would have barred teachers 111 public sdaools from encouragtng or condoning any act that is illegal under state law. The measure-wasspecifiCallyaimed at~pre~ venting teachers from serving as sponsors fo~gay and lesbian clubs in public schools, anassue that exploded earlier this year in the state.: Even though Lea~iRt vet0ed;the measure, he nevertheless said, "I support the statement that was made in SB246, but we cannot infringe on free speech." The Utah Education Assn. had opposed the measure and said the governor "absolutely did the right tiring." Calif. Trustees Wiggle Around Outright Gay Club Ban GLENDALE, Calif. - Trustees for the Glendale, Calif., school district have decided under pressure from civil rights groups not to adopt a policy that would require students to get parental perufission in order tojotn gay and lesbian school clubs specifically, and instead modified the policy to make it apply to any "’controversial" non-curricular clubs at the city’s public schools. The school board had initially intended to make the policy apply.,,.’ only to the gay and lesbian club that students at Hoover High School had asked to form, but decided to make the policy apply generally to any "’controversial" dubs so it wouldn’t appear to be discriminatory. Civil fights advocates were not satisfied with the broader parental permission requirement and argue that the adopted policy simply covers up the original intention of the board to make it nearly impossible for gay and lesbian students to join the proposed club. Marc Elovitz, s taff attorney for the ACLU’s Lesbian mad Gay Rights Project, said the policy "’was a thinly-veiled attempt ,:o silence gay youths." "’Rather than making it more difficult for iesbi,an and gay teenagers to come out. the school board should be meeting to discuss ways to create a friendlier environment for gay youths," Elovitz said. School Board Facing Backlash ROCKVILLE, Md. - The Montgomery County (Md.) school board’s decision to include sexual~_orientation in its list of an~i-bias~prOtections passed by a 6-0 vote on Mar. 25, but it has also sparked a threat by an ad-hoc group of Hispanic parents to remove their children from the district’s p’~blic sctiools: Som~’400 pa~eh~s qUidld~, formed the ’Hispanic Paren~ of M~mgomery Coamty in an effort to convince the trustees to change their minds about ELVI Seen to with the umversiw’s, own anti-bias poll ~ ,:;ies. The }ssue of ROTC at colle2es and ~mversiues tth~oughout the conntrv has t:.cen more or less on the back buruer fin the past few years, following President (i!inton’s initial promise to end the ban. But with the so-called "don’t ask, don’t tell" policy increasingly seen by manv rights activists as no improvement over the previous policy, ROTC programs are again coming under fire.~ MIT Not Im pressed With-ROTC CAMBRIDGE. M~ss: ’- ~’At the M’assachusetts Institute of Technology, the final report presented of a speciMtask force study group on Reserve Office Training :i ~ Cbi~s uifit~ ai ~e!s’d~601~t with a Chilly : reception byMIT faculty Wh6 in April ¯ will decide what to do about the ¯ reawakened controversy. Several faculty the newly adopted policy. Many of the ~ leaders complained thal the report was tittle more than a compromise that resolved nothing, while others said the report recommendations, if adopted, would themselves amount to a violation of M1T’s anti-bias protections. parents expressed concerns the new policy would actually lead to homosexual activities in the schools and expose their children to HIV. But so far school officials are not backing away from the policy, which is simply a parallel to one already on the books for the entire county, and Paul Vance, the county’s superintendent of schools, said the new policy doesn’t "promote, encourage or approve of sexual activity of any kind." setting up or keeping an ROTC unit at the school, or preventing any student from enrolling in an ROTC program. Univ. of Penn. Drops ROTC PHILADELPHIA - Univ. of Penn. Provost Stanley Chodorow has announced that the school is dropping its Armv and" Naval Reserve Officer Training ~orps programs on campus because of the Defense Department" s continued ban against Gavs and Lesbians in the I’.S. military The decision ends a 5-year conflict between the military and the school over the anti-gay protfibit]on, wtuch is in conflict LYN Philbrook Representatives was amended without notice or hearings to protfibit same-sex marriages and passed by a4-to- 1 margin. By a 16-3 vote. the Alaska state Senate has also approved a bill that would restrict man’iage in the state to male-female. The Central Conference of American Rabbis, representing rabbis in the Reform movement, has voted to support the fight of gays and lesbians to civil marriages in the U.S. The resolution, which cites "’our Jewish commitment to the fundamental pnnciple that we are all created in the divine image," endorses "’the fight of gay and lesbian couples to share fullx and equally in the fights of civil marriage," and opposes "’govermnental efforts to ban gay and lesbian marriage." Don Thornton F~rd, 83~-7.101 {f you take an honest look ai ga lesbian attitudes towardsgcndet-bending queers in the commuiuty youwill find a good deal of resentment. The drag queens, the fem-fairy boys, the bulld~’kes are routinelv scorned (just take a look at queer personals ad). Gays mad, Dzsbians also are at great pmns to accept bisexuals. who "fide the fence," unable to linut their partners,.to asingle gender. And transies? -:;" T~hh~eyy.’l’rl eaklwiddaiyn,sg’r, ethaelmlys"elbv~es,wtohoat,ebveecrausesxe they were born & nothing more. It’~s this disregard for gender isshes that worries me the most. As queers we-all experience gender-based discrimination Yet, for all the similarities we share, there is a great deal of ignorance and apath3 about the differences, & that’s dangerous. I’m talking about the kind of ~gnorance that separates transpersons from the res~ of the crowd, threatens us, distorts us, and claims our accomplishments and experiences. It’s about reading the "Crying Game" as a gay flick rather than a film about a transgendered person. It’s abou! claiming Joan of.Arc solely as an histonc Lesbian, not a transgend~r pioneer. It’s about the Murder of Mr. Brandon Teena and his girlfriend, for being "’lesbians," reducing Teena’s life and commitment to living as a man. to a "lesbian’s" pathetic attempt to "’pass" for a straight matt. Well. I’m here to try and shed a little light on the differences and similarities among the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and trans colnmunities. M\ (trans)mission clear. I have to let you "know I’m here. And I’m listening .... Are you? - June Polk News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Attacks Drop Slightly significant increases included: " thestateSupremeCourthasagain . serviccsifhersexualorientation of energy for the day, mid you but More Violent SAN FRANCISCO - Attacks against gays and lesbians in 11 of the country’s larger cities decreased slightly overall last year according to a report compiled by the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs. But while some cities showeddramatic declines in antigay violence, ,an equal number 0fcities she.wed equally dramatic increases m attacks aimed at lesbians and gay men, according to the report’s statistics. More disturbing, anti-violence activists say, even with the small overall decline in attacks, the offenses themselves are becoming increamngly more savage. Even though the total number of all incidents reported in the 11 cities dropped to 2212 las! year from the 1994 total of 240 [, about a quarter of those incidents were assaults mid more than a third of all the victilns of these attacks suffered serious iujnrics or died as a result of the attacks in Portland. Ore.. reported anu-gay incidents dropped 56 percent last 3"ear frotn 106 in 1994 to just 47 in 1995 - the largest decrease logged nauonal report. Clficago wasn’t much behind and showed a decrease of 53 percent last year with reported incidents falling Item 177 to 83. Boston and Los :\ngeles both showed comparable decreases ~n reported attacks last year (26 percent and 23 percent respectively). Most of these decreases were offset by cities that reported dramatl~ increases in anti-gay attacks. E1 P.aso. Texas. reported the largest nsc with a42 percent increase in mm-ga3 attacks, ajump from 92 incidents in 1994to 131 last year. Other cities that showed Phoenix, a 22 % increase; Columbus, Ohio, with a 21% rise in reported incidents; and Minneapolis/St. Paul, up by 15 % last year. Hate Crimes Data Measure Before Senate WASHINGTON, D.C. - The Senate has begun its first round of hearings on reauthorizing the federal Hate Crimes Statistics Act, the 1990 le~slation that requires the Justice Department to compile and analyze hatebased crimes, including an tigay attacks. Activists have expressed some concerns the measure may have more trouble in Congress than it did 6 )’ears ago because of the increasingly conservative make-up of both houses. Anti-Violence March at Kentucky School MOREH~D, Ky. -Nearly 200 students, faculty and staff members marched through the Morehead State Umverszty campus ~n a "Take Back the Night" campaign aimed atraising awareness of anti-gay and - lesbian violence at the school. The march, the first of its kind at the school, was sparked by the Feb. 5 attack of Carrie O’Cohnor, a lesbian enrolled at MSU. According to MSU campus police, 3 masked men grabbed O’Connor as she was walking back to her dormitory and repeated ly punched and ~.icked her. Officials say they still have no suspects in that attack, but it was reported to state police as an anti-gay hate crime - the first such official report filed by the school. Georgia Sodomy Law ATLANTA-In a legal challenge to Georgia’s anti-sodomy law - broughtby L. Chris Chrisuansen, ruled that the statute does not violate the Georgia constitution’s privacy protections. Instead, the court ruling says the law furthers "’the moral welfare of the public." Christiansen was convicted on misdemeanor charges of violating the sodomy law after he propositioned an undercover sheriff’s deputy. Montana’s Sodomy Law HELENA, Mont. - Montana Attorney General Joe Mazurek has appealed a state court ruling that declared the state’s anti-gay sodomy law unconstitutional as a violation of privacy. The case automatically goes.to the ~state supreme court. Mazurek" s office said he had decided to appeal the Feb. 16 ruling because courts, especially lower courts, should be Vex3, cautious about striking down laws made by the state legislature. Gay rights activists in Montana said they weren’t surprised by the appeal and expected the case to go before the state supreme court. Lesbian Tells Parliament of Rape in Royal Navy LONDON" - Parliament heard a stunning admission from Karen Greig, who described to a select conmaittee on the armed forces how she was raped by a male sailor she served with in the Royal Navy who threatened to reveal her lesbianism to naval officers ifshe protested. Greig, 33, said she arranged to be transferred to a naval station in Scotland to escape the man’s sexual attacks, but that he later tracked her down and raped her with another male sailor. She told the select committee members that she had not reported the attacks for years because she was worried she would be discharged from the ¯ crone to light. Greig said tlmt ¯ wheu she finally reported die ¯ attacks, a superior officer ¯ suggested that perhaps the reason she wasu’t dealing with the ¯ situation very ~vell ~vas"because ¯ you’re a lcsrian." She ",also said ¯ ~hat as soon as she reported the ¯ attacks she was se nt to a ¯ psyclfiatric hospital for 3 days ¯ and that the mcu she says raped ¯ her were uever puuished. ¯ Brit Defense Minister ¯ Vows to Keep Ban ¯ LONDON - Nicholas Soames, Britain’s defense minister, told Parli,’uneut during a question- " m~swer period that 309 service ¯ members had been discharged ¯ between 1990and 1994because they were homosexual. Somnes ¯ was answering questions about ¯ a miuistry report that showed ¯¯ members of the uation’s armed forces are strongly opposed to ¯ ending the ban on gay midlesbian ¯ soldiers, sailors ~md marines. So,’unes said lie was p~epared to ¯ "’fight every inch of the way:" to ¯ keep the anti-gay ban in place. ¯ Golf Champ Comes Out ¯ NEW YORK- Muffin Spencer- " Devlin, an 18-yearveteranofthe LPGA Tour, has told Sports Illustrated in an exclusive ¯ interview that she is a lesbian. ¯ "Confiug outis like an incredibly huge ~veight being lifted from my shoulders," Spencer-Devlin told the magazine. "’No more ¯ living iu the shadows. No more lies.’" The 42-year-old pro golfer has won 3 tournament titles mad ¯ last year had 3 fiuishes in the ¯ top-10, winning more than $100,000 from tournament play. "I truly believe that keeping a secret is an energy-consurmng ¯ act," Speficer-Devlin says in the iuterview. "If every day when ¯ you wake up you have 100 units have secrets, they nfight take up 10 milts of that energy. After a time you ufightnot even be aware of it anymore, but you have that much less cuergy to apply in your life. And that’ suuliealthy." Vickie Fergon, LPGA president, mid Jim Ritts, the conunissioner, both told Sports Illustrated they support Spencer-Devlin’s decision to come out. "’I applaud Muffin," Said Fergon. ’Tm not saying every player will be thrilled about it, but we’re a family and we respect each other." Ritts is quoted as saying, "I know there are still individuals who have problems with diversity, but we’ve come so far as a society that I don’t see this as a topic that really moves people." Gay Clubs in Russia ST. PEI’ERSBURG, Russia - The Tchaikovsky Fuud, one of the few gay rights organizations in Russia, has brokennew ground with the opeuing late last year of a new club, know as "’Victor i Ya" ("Victor and I"), in the former czarist .capital. Yuri Yereyev, who heads the Tchaikovsky Fun& said the club offers not only social facilities, like a cafe mid place where people can dance, but also will be holding seminars to educate the Russian people about gays and lesbians. Another major feature of the club, Yereyev says, is an extensive AIDS education and prevention prograni. The club hands out free HIV literature as well as condoms, both of Milch are in short supply in Russia. Yereyev also said another barrier was broken in February when a lesbian club, "Safe" ("Sappho") officially opened in St. Petersburg as well, not far from the "Victor i Ya." Canadian Rights Report OTI’AWA - Max Yalden, the 1635 E. 15TH ST. TULSA, OK 74120 599-8070 Serving Our Community with Pride! cumenicaIC tho c Church meetm,O at Tile Gardbn Cfiqpe( ~S.4t 3 J’eorta ~ T~o, .’Mas.~ Saturday event.s at 6:00 P.~ "lfie 7~ev. .7~ther 7~ck .7(o~rt~swortti. 7"astor ]’,hh’/ o/S) 040-711(; J~t’std~/lcc ’(918) 742-7iz’2 BROOKSIDE JEWELRY 4649 South Peoria 743-5272 Corner of 48th & Peoria 9:30 - 5, Mon. - Fri. News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Canadian human rights commissioner has sharply criticized the Liberal government of Prime MinisterJean Chretienin a report for not protecting the rights of gays. In a parting shot, after 9 years heading the commission, Max Yalden said the failure to bar discrimination based on sexual orientation in the country is "little better than acquiescence in intolerance." Yalden’ s annual reportcalledit"afailureinmoral logic and a near-public repudiatioff’ of the rightsoflawabiding citizens mad sl~mmed the Chretien government for failing to amend the Canadian Human Rights Act during the past 2 years it has been in power despite promises to extend full civil rights to Canadian gays and lesbians. The report generated an immediate political storm in the country and Chretien told Parliament the government had already enacted legislation increasing legal penalties for anti-gay attacks and other hate crimes. He also promised that a bill anending the federal human rights laws "will be presented before this House before we move to an election." But Allan Rock, thejustice minister, said it would be "politically difficult" to enact such an anendment before the election because of disagreements within the Liberal Party. Liberal MP Grit Dan McTeague of Ontario called Yalden a "nut bar," and sever al Conservative and Reform Party members also attacked the proposal to include gays and lesbians under federal human rights protections. Canadian Commons Gives Partners Benefits OTFAWA - .Canada’s highlysecretive Commons Board of Internal Economy, which oversees internal spending for the House of Commons itself, has approved limited benefits for same-sex partners of Commons ¯ employees. The board agreed to extend bereavement and familyrelated leave to the same-sex partners of Commons employees. The decision followed a move by the country’s Treasury ¯ Board last year to extend the ¯ same benefits to same-sex ¯ partners of employees in all fe ¯ deral government departments. ¯ That measure followed a court ¯ ro!ing that. same-sex, partners h’a~,E a righi :to ihose benefits. ¯ Gay Retires from Navy ¯ SAN DIEGO, Calif, - In ,an ¯ exclusive interview in the Gay + Lesbian Times, Keith Meinhold, the openly gay sailor who ¯ successfully battled with the ¯ Na~vy’s attempt to discharge him ¯ after he came out on a national ¯¯ TV news broadcast, announced he is retiring from the military. Meinhold, 33, w,as stationed at the Moffett Field Naval Air Sta- ¯ tion where he was a well-liked : sonar instructor when he told : Ted Koppel of ABC News in ¯ 1992 that he was gay. After he fought discharge attempts for 2 ¯ years, the 9th Circuit Court of ¯ Appe~.s finally ordered the Navy not to discharge the 15-year veteran. 1st Annual Pride ¯ Paradein CapeTown ¯ CAPE TOWN, South Africa - An estimated 1,000 gays and ¯ lesbians turned out Saturday night, March 24, to march in the ¯ first annual Gay & Lesbian Festival parade. Two lone and-. gay protesters showed up along : the parade route, holding si~s with biblical quotations ¯ denouncing sodomy, but they ¯ were hardly noticed among the thousands who lined the streets to watch the landmark event. San Francisco Library’s Gay & Lesbian Wing SAN FRANCISCO - A new wing ofthe yet-to-be opened San Francisco Main Library is being called one of a kind. On March 23, hundreds of city officials, community leaders and residents gathered to preview the James C. Hormel Gay and Lesbian Cen- : ter inside the newly constructed library. The Hormel Center will serve as a research center for gay and lesbian literature, culture, - hisidry hnd’ ~r:~search. The research ~center is the first of its kind in a public institution anywhere in the country. "It’s principal benefactor, James Hormel, said the center will change the way everyone - gay and straight- looks athistory. "’It is time for us to receive the recognition we deserve and to take our place as equal members of the community at large," Anti-Bias Albany ALBANY, N.Y. - Lawmakers have adopted an anti-bias ordinance prohibiting discrimination in employment, housing and public accommodations based on race, religion, national origin, sex, age, disability and marital status, as well as sexual orientation. The countywide measure was approved 24-13. Albany Mayor Jerry Jennings has signed a measure setting up a city domestic partners registration that will allow unmarried same-sex and opposite-sex couples to register their relationship with city hall. The measure, approved by the city’s commoncouncil earlier the same week, extends no specific benefits, but does extend official recognition to the domestic partnership. Gay Cops Sue NYPD NE\V YORK - The Gay Officers’ Action League (GOAL) has filed a lawsuit in Federal District Court charging that the New York Police Dept¯ denies the gay and lesbian police officers orgamzation rights and privileges that it routinely extend s to other police fraternal groups. Although GOAL is officially recognized by the NYP1) as a fratcr,nal o~ganization, the suit charges that it has been refused permission to set up displays at police headquarters COlnmemorating gay and lesbian cops, has not beenallowed to use NYPD vehicles ~n the city" s annual Gay Pride Parade, and has been denied permission to have the force’s marching band participate in the giant parade as well The suit charges that Black, Irish and Hispamc officers" fraternal groups are routinely extended such privileges while the department continues to refuse such requests by GOAL, which has about 500 NYPD members. NYPD officials declined to coimnent on the lawsuit. Notre.Dame’s Gay Org. SOUTH BEND, Ind. - Responding to recommendations by an ad hoc Committee on Gay & Lesbian Student Needs, Patricia O’Hara, Notre Dame’s vice president for student affairs, has announced that the Catholic aniversity will allow Notre Dame Gay & Lesbian Students official recognition at the school, although it will be set up differently from other student groups on campus. The school will not, however, recognize an already existing gay and lesbian group that it rejected last .’,ear. According to O’Hara’s office, NDGLS ~vill "stand in special relationship to the Office of Student Affairs (to) assist gay and lesbian students in coufing together to lind muttml support and in exploring connnon issues within the context of this commumty and the teachmgs of the Catholic Church." NI)GI ^S" s advisors will also bc appointed by O’ ttara, uulikc other stndcnl groups on c~m~pns ~vhich sclccl their own advi.sors. The univcrsit~ will contlnnc. however, to refuse to recognize a~ unofficial student gronp, (]a\s & Lesbians of Notre l)anc and St. Mary’s College which ~vas kicked off cmnpus last year even though ~t continues to fraction as a non-canpus orgali/21tlon More Amer!eans Approve of Gays ATLANTA - Accordiug to a CNN:’[’SA Today poll conducted by the G~llnp organization, 44"% of those interviewed said they thought homoscxualit.~ acceptable, a dranatic incrcasc over a similar Gallup poll done in 1982 which fom~d only 34% said they thought being gay was OK. This year’s poll also fotmd that on13 27% said saint-sex mamages should be legal, while 68% said gay and lesbian maniages should not be legalized in this country. Earlier polls had not included questions abont legalizing sane-sex marfiagcs. Holocaust Museum’s Gay & Lesbian Campaign SAN FIL’-kNCISCO -A stellar showing on the eve of a revival production of Leonard Bemstein’s "On theTown" here raised some S150,000 for the [’.S. 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Mollyann Brodie, who conducted the survey, said Americans are actually faidy wall informed about the epidemic, but also noted that there are still some . significant misconceptions. About half those surveyed said people can get HIV by donating blood, which, they cannot. About half those polled also said people who become infected begin to show symptoms within 5 3"ears, although it is usually more than 5 years before s3anptoms become apparent. About 18% also said they believed there was "’some truth" in the idea that the virus was originally produced as part of a govethment germwarfare expemnent, while 12% said they thought-. AIDS was "’God’s punishinent’" of homosexuals. AIDS Rate High in U.S. Prisons ATLANTA - According to a report iu Baltimore Sun. the federal Ceuters for Disease Control & Prevention reports that ~inmates in the country’s largest correctional institutions are nearlv 6 times as likely as the general populatio~ to have AIDS. The paper reports that according to the CDC, the U.S. prison population has an infection rate of 5.2 cases per 1,000 prisoners, while the general U.S. population has less than 1 case (0.9) case per 1,000. CDCofficials said most inmates are already infected with HIV when they. enter the prison system, but that ,they also spread the virus ~ough shared IX, n~edles and sexual acti~;’~ties 0rice behind bars)..... Calif. Medical Assn. Drops HI~ Reporting Recommendation ~i! ANAHEIM, Calif. ~ The, Chli.forn~ Medical Associatiort ~M~lhag-cl~angffd its mind about a policy it adopted ouly last who are treated by doctors with a great deal of experience with the disease generally live significantly longer than those who go to physicians with less experience treating AIDS. AIDS experts agree that keeping up with current treatment modes is difficult for health care professionals who don’t regularly treat AIDS patients. 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But Fisher and others urged activists and public policy officials to find ways to work with managed-care facilities in responding to treating people with HW and ,AIDS. Others addres sing the conference include Dr. Sandra Hernandez, director of the San Francisco Health Department: Patsy Fleming, director of the White House Office of National AIDS Policy, and researcher Dr. Max Essex. chmrman of the Harvard AIDS Institute. D~g Distribution Comroversy LOS ANGELES - A battle is erupting ove_r the distribntion of Crixlvan, the protease ialtibitor deve!oped by Merck & Co. ihat nlmlx consider the n:ost promising therapy’ in fighdng tim infection to date. Because large-scale production of the drag isnh expected to get going nnti! late this year. Merck says it decided to distribute ~rixivan exciusiveix through the Pittsburgh, Pa.-based mail-order Stadtlm~der’s Pharmac~ Merck says n ?bled for the initiai single-source 4isvibvt~.o;7 because the d~m must bc con_m~o.... x :)n, cse tremmem is supplier. Ed Bubar, who runs FAdie’s Pharmacy in West Hollywood and a staunch opponen! of Merck’s decision, called the move "’totally unfair" to independent pharmacists in the country. "’Everybody wants to get their hands on tiffs drug,"’ he said. "If between now mad October half of nay patients are slfifted to mail-order for Crixivan, I can end tip losing half of my patient base." Merck says that when supplies of the dm~o increase it will broaden its distribution to include independent m~d chain pharmacies as well. SOt. Perry Watkins Dies TACOMA, Wash. - Sgt. Perry’ Watkins, who entered the U.S. Army as an openly gay mm: and remained despite tfi s sexual onemauon, has died of AIDS. Wmkins was 47. I :nlike other gay service members. Watkins. checked "yes" on an enlistment form in 1967 that asked about homosexuali{ y and was enrolled in the Ann,, even so. Only when the Pentagon adopted forma~ reg:,flations in 1981 barring homosexuals did the Army begin disct:arge proceedings which the 14- veto: veteran challenged in federal court. [n 1989. the U.S. 9th Circmt Court of m{ed timt the Army could not dischm’ge \Vat kins for being g’ay since it had i ni ti accepted him :rod aJ Jowed him to re-e::list 3 times, Ti:u ::.S. Supreme Court :_,q !990 :.hat ~c ~CF COl.trt F \ \ TULSA ICE ARENA. tag]l) ~. ll)IST E. AVE 71ST A?<D MING{) BEHL’<I) THE L ~ PRIUE ALL TICKET PROCEEDS (.r’O "OUR HOUSE" TICKETS: $ 8.01) BL,EACHER,5 $12.50 t;,N I...E TICKETS AVAL:[ABLE TLTLSA ICE ARE:’<A 254-7272 RENEGADES ,117TH Sponsored by Miller Lite Memorial Day Weekend May 24-26 Oklahoma City State Fairgrounds Advance Ticket Package only $25 Includes both rodeo performances & both parties. Send check or money order to OGRA, POB 12485, OKE 73157 Orders ~eceived after 5/17 will be held for pickup at the Fri. night party. L TULSA FAMILY NEWS COMMUNITY .CA EN’r R SUNDAYS Agape’ Christian Fellowship Worship Service, 10:30 am. Sheridan Center, Suite H 21st & Sheridan, 599-7688 Bless the Lord At, All Times Christian Center Sunday School, 9:45 am Worship Service. ! 1 am 2627b East 1 lth 583-7815 Community of Hope (United Methodist) Worship Service. 6 pm !703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Family of Faith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sundav School, 9:’15 Worship Service, 11 am 5451-E South Mingo. hffo: 622- t~-i 6:5’0 ou,. at Canterbury MONDAYS HIV Testing TOHR Clinic Free & anonymous testing using fingerstick method. No appointment required. Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm Results hours: 7-9 pm Info: 742-2927 Lambda Bowling League Sheridan Lanes 8:45 pm 312i S. Sheridan PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 2rid Monday of month. 6:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard info: 749-4901 OTHER GROUPS The Technicians. Leather org. info cio 621-5597 7.U.LoS.A, Tulsa Uniform ~ L.~adbr Seekers" A~’soc, >racuc.: week!v in OKC in b S38-212~ TUESDAYS HIV+ Support Group HIV Resource Consortium 1:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard, Ste H-1 Info: Wanda ~ 749-4194 Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. HW/AIDS Support Group & Friends & Famii y HIV,AIDS Support Group 7 pm, call for location: 749-7898 Community of Hope Grief Group, 6 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Grief Group ButleriStumpff Funeral Home 2103 E. 3rd St. Call for time: 587-7000 WEDNESDAYS Authority OfThe Believer Bible Study, 7 pm MCC of Greater Tulsa 1623 N. Maptewood In/o: 838-!71~ Bless The Lord At All T~mes Christian Center Prayer & Bible Stud), 7:30 pm 2627-B East 1 lth Call 593-78!5 for info. Family Of Faith MCC Praase & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Pracuce 7:30 pm 5451 -E South Mingo Call 622-1441 for info. Commnnky of Hope ~ United Methodist) Service for Peace. 6:30 om Bible Stud)’. 7 pm 1703 i! 2nd, 585-1800 THURSDAYS ]6-Step Empowerment Group For Women Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd, In/o: 585-1800 Co-Dependency Snpport Group 7:30, Family of Faith MCC 5451-E S. Mingo. 622-1441 HIV TestingTOHR Clinic Walk in testing: 7 - 8:30 pm Results hours: "~ - 9 pm In/o: 742-2927 Tulsa Family Chorale Wee"kly practice. 9:30 pm Lola’s 2630 E. 15th PFLAG Family AdDS Support Group 1st & 3rd Thursdays 4h-~ S. Harvard. 74924901 Alternatives V,’eekiv social events for LGBT’men & women, 7 Dm info: 646-5503 Substance Ab>sv Support Grou,_ for ~ersons wifi~ H!’,- 415A-S. Harvard Sic 3-4:30 pro, I~o: 749-4!%4 SATURDAYS St. Jerome’s Ecumenical Catholic Church Mass, 6 pill Garden Chapel 3841 S. Peoria In/o: Father Rick at 742-7122 Narcotics Anonymous Meets weeld y at ! I pm Confidential gnpport for recovering addicts. Cormnunitv of ! lcpc 1703 E. 2nd, Ir~fo: 585-1800 NAMES Project AIDS MemoHa~ Qui~ Sewing Bees 3rd Sat. of each inonth Info: 7dg-3 t i OTHER GROUPS Gay & Lesbian Sn~dem Assoc~o~’: hio: (£;? 762 ’ 7].3-(].- "- Womens Supper Club 6:30pro, r-Fippin’s Pie P~mtry, 7828 E. -1 WEDNESDAY, APRIL 17 Pride Picnic Planning Meeting 7 pro. Central Library. Preview Room, 4fl~ & Denver. In/o: 583-1248 THURSDAY, APRIL 18 Planning Meetingfor Gay & Lesbian Action AlertPhone Tree 6 pm, TOHR office, 40th & Harvard, 2nd ft. All welcome. In/o: 582-7548 APRIL 26-28 HIVIAIDS & SpiritualitylWholeness Retreatfor Men, In/o: 488-9215 SATURDAY, APRIL 27 Rainbow Business Guild Spring Picnic 4 pro, Zink Park, In/o: 665-5174 Regional AIDS Interfaith Network Volunteer Training (1 of2 sessions) 10-5 pm, Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd Info: 749-4213 /WEDNESDAY, MAY 1 Womens Supper Club .... i6f30pm, Olive Garden, Utica Square iInfo: 584-2978 ~.. MAY 3-5 Texas Lesbian Conference Dallas Grand Hotel Info: Naomi @ 214-520-8108 SATURDAY, MAY 4 Regional AIDS Interfaith Network Volunteer Training (2 of2 sessions) 10 - 5 pm, Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd hffo: 749-4213 Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Right~’ 7 pm. Chouteau Rin_ Chapmm~ Ctr. In/o: 743-GAYS (4297) SATURDAY, MAY 11 Dignity/Integrity Mass 5 pm, St. Dunstan’s, 5635 E. 71st In/o: 745-2363 MONDAY, MAY 13 Parents Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays Family AIDS Support Group. 6:30 pm Social and Refreshntents, 7 pm General Meeting, 7:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard, Info: 7494901 MAY 17-19 Herland Sister Resources Retreat Roman Nose State Park Registration deadline: 5/15 Info: 2312 NW 39th, OKC 73112 HIV/AIDS & Spirituality/Wholeness Retreatfor Women, hffo: 488-9215 TUESDAY, JUNE 4 Tulsa Oklahomansfor Human Rights, PFLAG & Rainbow B,tsiness GUIM present Cece Cox, pres. ofthe ’ Dallas Gay & Lesbian Alliance 7 pm, ChouteaU Rm, Chapman Ctr, TU In/o: 743-GAYS (4297) SATURDAY, JUNE 8 TOHR Ci~wide Pride Prom Location to be announced. Info: 743-GAYS (4297) SATURDAY, JUNE 15 Tulsa Pride Picnic Noon - 6pm. Location to be ammunced. In/o: 743-GAYS (4297) = The University of [ulsa StudentA.*:..’,-.)’,,~’",,’~~,’v",.,r’" ~ ~is~’:<t:al. Lesbian and ~av ~t.[ance _,..c ~_n:,vc;-sitx 1)_ [] /)re.senz the [] : 2rid Annual World Cinema Festivat [] Gay & Lesbian Cinema : ¯¯ Friday, April 19 [] ¯ []~ Gav & Lesbian History [][] [] The Homosexuals. 7 pm [] Before Stonewalh The Making of a Gay and ¯ Lesbian Comtnunirv, 8pm ¯ ¯ Last Call at Maud’s, 9:30 pm [] ¯ Saturday,., April 20 [] American Gay & Lesbian Experience ¯" ¯ [] [] Postcards From America, lpm ¯ A Comedy in Six Unnatural Acts, 2:30pm ¯ ¯ Homoteens, 3pm , ¯ The Blankpoint: What is Transexualism, 4pm ¯ ¯ ¯ Break for Dinner ¯ ¯ Super 8 112, 7pm ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ Sunday, April 21 . -" Gay & Lesbian International Film -" ¯ Wild Reeds, lpm ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ Khltsh, 3pm ¯" El Diputado, 3:30pm ¯ Break for Dinner " ¯ ¯ ¯ Boys Shorts: The New Queer Cinema, 7pm ¯ ¯ Urinal, 9pm ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ Screenings are free and in Lorton Hall//207 (enter from 8th & ¯ Evanston. Lorton faces the Oval & is north of Twin Towers Dorm) ¯ ¯ Sponsored by the TU Student Assoc~"att"on, BLGA, Office of the¯ "Provosl, School of Art, Hen~. Kendall College Division of Fine & ¯ ~-Performing Arts, Office of the President .and Tulsa Family News.~- I I i I I I I I I i I I I I I I I I I i I lilillll Illil I I.iil i i ii ’ IAM o,t’d om p. 1 Episcopal Diocese of Oklahoma. Both OKC and Tulsa members of the Task Force felt the ne2xl to provide services to PLWA’s, such as hospital visits, memorial services and education. Out of this, grew IAM which incorporated and applied for its IRS tax-exempt status in 1990. IAM was begunby Doreen Wood;Phil Wiley, Don Satterthwaite and Chaplin Diane Zike, who serves as executive director. Although IAM is an interfaith orgamzation, its origin with the Episcopal Church resulted in a grant in 1990 to run a 24hour volunteer HIV/AIDS hotline. This line was for several years the only source of24 hour information in the state. Calls to the hotline range frombasic HIV information and referrals, such as to testing sites, to providing "real" listening to those who want toknow if their actions may have put them at risk for HIV infection. IAM’s state certified volunteers and staff also provide education seminars for churches, and organizations such as the US Army Corp of Engineers, Kimberly-Clark, and booths at health fairs, conferences and conventions. IAM’s goal is to provide HIV.AIDS information from a spiritual dimension, especially for young people. According to Diane Zike, "IAM is about saving lives...w e believe in abstinence but also in giving good information so people can make good choices." Zike has recently finished a couf~e in clinical pastoral care which will allow IAM to add a new dimension to its services. IAM also offers "’trained visitors" who are available to see folks who are max be too ill to get out or x~l~o are lonely. ¯ IAM’s currentboardis Richard Reeder, ¯ Phil Wiley, Joe Myles, Lauren Green, ¯ Steven Fendt, Bill Green and Nancy Tiger. Their vision for the future hopes to add ameditation series, and various work- .- shops to their current services of provid- ¯ ing spiritual, emotional and practical sup- " port for people. ¯ IAM is a membership/volunteer sup- " ported organization. Membership is only ¯" $5/year/individualor$10/year/household ¯ and $1/year/student/low income. Volun¯ teers are especially needed for the 24 hour hofline whichis staffed in4hour blocks at ¯ the volunteer’s home. One day training is ¯ provided in HIV!AIDS information and ¯ in "active listening". For more info. or to "- volunteer, call 438-AIDS (2437). i Spahr ~on,’d~om p. 1 ¯ bly because Spahr is Lesbian. Following ¯ that ruling, DUPC and Westminister, 2 ¯ More Light (welcoming of Lesbian and ¯ Gay persons) congregations, set up the ¯ special ministry so that she could travel ¯ the US educating and informing Presbvterians and others on behalf of greater ¯ inclusiveness in the Church. Spahr also will be the featured speaker ¯ at a workshop entitled "Claiming God’s ¯ Grace" in OKC on Sat.:May 18th. The ~vorkshop is beiug called "a day of healing, learning and community as we work toward wholeness in our lives as children Of God & as Gay, Lesbian, Bi & Transgendered peoples’" 9am to 4pm at St. Andrew’s. 2712 NW 23. Preregistration encouraged, although walk-ins are welcome. Fee: S15, with scholarships available. For more izffo, call 745-9922 in Tulsa, 377-9174, Stilhvater or 840-4849 in OKC. FUNERALS JUST NEVER SEEMED RIGHT FOR MY FAMILY... THE CREMATION SOCIETY WAS CREATED FOR PEOPLE LIKE ME. enjo)" being ourselves. A funeral seems ostentatious and can cost a lot of money. A simple, ~lign~ed cremation just seems to fit our lifestyle. Cremation Society® of Oklahoma 2103 East Third, Tulsa, Oklahoma 74104-1842 918-599-7337 or toll-free, 800-994-7337 or vas~t us on the Internet at hrtp ://www. cremation, org/oklahoma!oklahoma, html For Free Literature, Withou| Cost or Obligafion, Mail this coupon today! Please contact me. I would like to learn more about your special final expense program. Name: Age: Address: City, St. &.Zip: Telephone: Play cont’dfromp. 13 John Weller for their incredible performances in the production I "directed" - HIVariations, consisting of Cater Waiter & Andre’s Mother. Special thanks to Vivica, & the rest of the cast - your suggestions & insights were extremely helpful & appreciated. I am very proud of them. They performed perfectly, & the technical aspects of the show went off without a hitch - there wasn’t a dry eye in the house when they were done. Thank you for the many hours ofwork youall put in, & for putting up with a sometimes temperamental director. Special thanks to Aaron Mooney, who worked the lights with almost no preparation, no rehearsal, & did a stellar job. A special thanks to Professor Cook, for his belief in this project, & his conviction that everyone should have a voice in theatre. I hope you’ll support the 2nd Annual World Cinema Festival of Gay" & Lesbian Cinema at the TU, which occurs Friday, April 19 - Sunday, April 21. All films will be screened in Lorton Hall, room #207, on the TU campus. For the complete schedule see the ad on page 9. See you there? Onthe local front, BA Cornn{lmi’(~Playhouse was named "Oklahoma Theatre of the Year" by the OK Community Theatre Association. According to Don Tabberer, "For a community theatre, this is equivalent to receiving the Best Picture Oscar; it is very gratifying to be recognized for the work we do here.’" BACPalso received an award for "’Excellence in Marketing". Congratulations, BACP! Their production of "’The Cemeterx: Club", a story about friendship, loss, healiug & facing life with humor, opens April 26. $ondheim’s "Company" opens June 14. BACPis also looking for directors for the upcoming season. For more info., call the BACP at 258-0077. Elvis is alive, &will probably be incognito at the Philbrook. The Philbrook Museum of Art will play host to a traveling exhibit, "Elvis + Marilyn: 2x Immortal". The exhibit examines Presley’s & Monroe’s enduring effect on American culture, & will be showing April 14- June 2, 1996. Keith Haring is one oftbe artists featured. A special event on April 28 at 2 & 4 pm, will be a concert given by J.D. Sumner & the Stamps Quartet, who performed regularly with Elvis during the height of his success. Tickets for the concert are $15, & include admission to the exhibit. Tix are available at the museum, or call 748-5307. see Play, page 15 Rainbow cont’dfromp. 11 tain state, particularly inColorado Springs. Colorado Springs’ loss is our gain. The Emerald Rainbow has always been a tremendous resource for g/l/b/tg folk, and the beat goes on. The place has a little different look, new & different siddines, and most of the familiar remains as wall. Come and see for yourself. You can meet M.C. &Linda, maybe swap or create some God stories of your own. You might pick up some incense, buy a Rainbow flag, some Freedom Rings, a gay or lesbian novel, ~nake a statement with a button or bumper sticker, mid you will deftnitely enjoy your time in the place we call paradise - Enreka Springs. (NOTE: The Fanerald Rainbow can be reached at emrain@rog.ar.ispnet.com, or visit their home page on the WorldWide Web:http: www pimps.conreurekaibizi emraiu.html) ’96 ECLIPSE SPYDER CONVERTIBLE GS $22,835 Tales of The Emerald Rainbow by Phil Boler-Schmidt Linda Williams and M.C Delahanty are not unlike many visitors to pass this way. They read that Eureka Springs hoots-a large lesbigay population in a guide about great gay places to : live,~and tiring of thebigotryand : ~hatred-erRlemi&in Springs, they decided tO ch~ckI us out.....hehe. The now proud owners ofThe Emerald Rainbow (45-1/2 Spring Street in Eureka Springs, 501-253-5445) left Colorado on a whim in early Febnmry. They had plane reservations and were planning to vacation here in March, but they decided to get a ¯ sneak preview. They knew they ¯ could stay less than two days ¯ before making the trek back to ¯ theirjobs at casinos in the Cripple ¯ Creek resort area. So sure were they that this was a quick trip, just to give us the once over, that the couple of five years did not bother to bring their checkbook along for the ride.. - .. trieve parts of herself from along some highway in Oklahoma. Jan & Kim Ridenour, the founders, and now former owners of The Emerald Rainbow, referred to this particular event as just an- Other good laugh at the Angel Bar, where some macho dyke angel said, "Hey look, we need a couplemore in Eureka Springs," In less than half a day;.~M.C..&~: ]....then, with a swift puff of air into warmth, and humor to their new venture, and the place didn’ t skip a beat. By the nme we go to press, their Grand Opemng will be past, and the official passing of the torch will be a memory. These ladies are ready to settle in for the long haul. This move was fraught with ironies for Linda & M.C. They only lived in Colorado for three Linda.~ contraeted~ to::pufeh’a!se’; .::;:hef~.blow gun, she landed the".; ye,hrsTThree years exactly to the their n~w~bfisiri~s~ an@le~e ~an~,:~" d~d,dub right on’target: ¯ apartments- all without benefit-::: All joking aside, this has been ofaLnythingothertharithemagic : quiteaseries0feventstowimess. .. money machine at alo,..~cal_~bank. .- Like most folks in our little ~’ Oh ye~;Eu’:r~k~iSpri~s~be’ ~; " t~t6pi;a;,t ,wear a, number.of katsa downrightdangerous place: r0 ! arrund town. One I have filways visitifyouhavenotalreadygiven : enjoyed is the-one I don when thought to an abbot move. We..... work-in,g, part-time at The have several- names,’~,l~or,~tli~se F Eme-rald~Rai.nbow. I feel like I kinds of occurrences ~n Eureka ; get pMd to play, and that role Springs. At MCC of the Living : continues forme as l get to know Spring, we called it another God the new Emerald Rainbow Story. Linda& M.C. consistentl~ : "morns." refer to It as a whirlwind, and each feels like she needs to reday. Both are nanve to the Baltimore, MD area. Though they moved toColorado Springs m the aftermathof the Amendment Two vote. th’e~; initially felt good about that mo~’e. They wanted a sabbatical from-the hustle and bustle of life-in th~ big city, ,’rod they weren:~t rs~ly,prepared lbr the overt:nile that ~vangelicals exert in the-once liberal uloullshe Rombow. page 10 A dull Accommodations In Eureka Springs, Arl~nsas M.C. & Linda are delightful people. They bring enthusiasm, Craftsman-style cottages with beautiful .views of the woods and wildlife -.Tucked on top of the Ozark Mountains, just a few minutes .walk to the Historic Village ofEureka Springs. 501/253-8281 Frank Green Jr.. Hosl - 50 Wall $treet - Eureka Springs. 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Inevitably, there will be periods of decline when investor assets shrink along with~m.arket. The question is, how can we rmmrmze the impact of a market decline on our investments. While you can’t avoid risk entirely, you can ~educe it through diversification. Diversification - Level 1, In its simplest form, diversifications can be achieved by investing in: a mix of investment categories including stocks, bonds, real estate and money markets; a variety of compames; both large & small com’- pany stocks; different geographical areas; U.S., domestic, and international securities; a range of investment maturities; different investment philosophies (Wowth, blended,value). You cotdd diversify your conunon stock holdings by pttrchas~n’g stocks representmg many different industries. That would bc safer than concentrating.in a single industry. And. to further mJmufize your cxposure to risk, you might put some funds into a money market account, or a similar type of low risk investment Diversification - Level 2, Many people do not have enough money to sufficiently diversify on their own. This is where mutual funds come in.. Mutual funds pool investors’ money to buy securities from a variety of companies. They enable-both large & small investors to invest in a wider range of companies and investment classes that they could working alonel Different fund families have different characteristics. In the mutual fund marketplace today, you can find funds of every kind of investment style, investing in all areas of the economy. Diversification , .Level 3, The next level of diversification ~s asset allocation. This is achieved with purposeful weighting in the different investment categories, to match an underlying strategy such as growth, income, or tax relief. With asset allocation, you mix both conservative & growth-oriented investments and arrive at a blended portfolio which is not as risky as it Would be if you were to put all your money into gro~,th instruments. This strategy offers youmore upside potential than if you were to go totally conservative. It’also offers the poter~tial advantage of.~ving you something positive to work with in nearl v every kind of market scenario. Whild one ~nvestment is performing poorly, another may be doing well. How you allocate of diversify your personal portfolio is determined I~v" your individual Investment profile - v~tir goals, your risk temperament, 3our t~.x situation and your time horizon. Your asset all ocatlon may need to change over tlllle in orderto ~’it your changing financial needs mad goals READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City/County Public Library . Twenty-six years after Stonewall and s~xteen years into the AIDS crisis, gay men are just now starting to figure out how tomakelong-term relationships work, and, more importantly, why they are significant. Author Craig Nelson takes us on a stage by sta’ge journey ~b0ut how to get, and keep, a man. In eleven readable and entertaining chapters, Nelson explores "Modem Love," "Where to Meet Men," "Date Tips for Guys" and "Keeping it Together," among other topics. Since some guys seem to find romantic success via personal ads and dating services, Nelson supplies lists of questions that help both you and )’our potential mate understand who you are and what you want. Also, under’standing that a very small percentage of people are extremelY, physically attractive, Nelson reminds th~ reader to loosen up, don’t beat up on yourself, or a potential mate, for not looking like Rod Jacksou-Paris. There is much more to life & relationships than just ha~.mg a pretty face. Nelson cites many factors that combine to sabotage long-term relationships, in- ¯ cluding poor self esteem, intemalized ¯ homophobia, lack of fidelity and the idea that the other guy is just plain nuts! The ¯ bottomline seems to be lack of communication. Everyone has quirks, so dream on ¯ if you’re looking only for Mr. Perfect, or ¯ if you think that you are Mr. Perfect! All ¯ .relationships are based on communicat- ¯ mg needs and desires. ¯ " ’There is an interesting chapter, "Fidel- ; ity, What’s Fidelity?," dealing with the apparent difficulties that many gay men ¯ have being faithful to their partner. AIDS many factors...sabotage long-term relationships... poor self-esteem, internalized homophobia, lack of fidelity and the idea that the other guy is just plain nuts[ is the obvious reason that this may be the most important chapter in the book. It’s time gay men realize that the 1970s are long gone, and now is the time to create a new standard for gay relationships. After spending the entxre first ten chapters trying to get couples together for the long haul, Nelson’s final chapter is titled "When It Falls Apart." Some relationships are simply not going to work and this chapter g~ves advice on making a breakup as painless as possible. If there was ever a time for a book like this, this is it! Please contact your local branch library, or call the Readers Services department at the Centr,’d Library at 596-7966, for dfis book & others on si]nilar subjects. Butfer-Sturnpff Funeral Home Cemetery - Funeral Home - Crematory At Butler-Stumpff Funeral Home, you and your family will be treated with dignity, compassxon, and pride. Whether it is your given or chosen family who needs our ser’vices, ’;ou can be who and what youare and you will noi be discriminated against. Weoffer our exclusive$2820 complete funeral plan, no added costs. If you have a policy’ somewhere else, you can transfer your policy to us, and may be due a cash refund if you paid more for what you have now. Our journey through life should be done with pride; shouldn’t our journey through death be done with pride as well? For more information, please all Russell Langley-Stum pff at 918-587- 7000 for all of your pre-need arrangements. (insurance policies are available with no health questions asked) 2103 East Third Tulsa, Oklahoma 74104 918-587-7000 Supporting Tulsa’s Gay & Lesbian Community "People don’t plan to fail, they fail to plan." Leanne M. Gross Retirement programs, Business Protection Planning Life, Health & Disability Insurance, Investment Placing & Advisement 744-0102 Mention this ad and receive a no cost initial consultation. From Tulsa, to Boston (easy to get to Provincetown) $329 to New York (easy to get to Firelsland) $294 to San Francisco $178 to Seattle $334 to Miami $294 Roundtrip & 14 day advance purchase (other conditions may apply) Call early to lock in these prices! Call 341.6866 International Tours for more information. IGTA member. Polo Grill: cutewaiters decent food by Jean-Pierre, TFN Food Critic Sometimes one has to consider the artistic aspects of fine dining from a more hedonistic aspect, somewhat removed from a strict analysis of the preparation and presentation of the food itself. There are restaurants which decorate with fine art or with collections of sports memorabilia, but one Tulsa establishment decorates with its wait staff. The Polo Grill, hidden away on the far east side of Utica Square but still a long time and well-known favorite of Tulsa’s social elite, has by far the most gorgeous and handsome waiters ofany restaurant in town. In fact, at least three of the waiters are positively stunning (and they know it!) and could grace the pages of most any catalog or print ad. Unfortunately, we don’t have first hand information on whether or not they would qualify for International Male. And, believe it or not, these attractive waiters are very capable at doing their jobs. If one is able to get one’s mind back on the menu, one will find a good variety of tasty, well prepared items at this popular restaurant. The decor here is very clubby, including a welcoming fireplace near the bar, and the menu reflects a man’s tastes by the emphasis on heartier entrees and the lack of trendy items. Our major complaint with the establishment is that the smoking and non-smoking sections are not fully separated, and on a busy night, no area of the restaurant is trul y free from obnoxious mid unhealthy smoke. The food here is basic; straight forward ,and no-nonsense in preparation, .you can dine on haute cuisine entrees or the ever popular $7 Polo burger. Appetizers include fried calamari (squid), shrimp cocktail, some tasty crab cakes, escargot (snails) served in mushroom caps, a tomato vegetable soup, and an assortment of soups dujour. Several big entree salads, such as a traditional Cobb, appear on the menu, and the dressings include an excellent fruit flavored poppyseed vinaigrette, one of our favorites. Caesar salads, both with Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square. Prices: expensive. Service: formal, bistro atmosphere. Hours: 11-10 pro; ’tll 11 pm on Fri. & Sat.; closed Sun. Payment: Visa, ]~laster-card, American Express, Diner’s Club, Carte Blanche; no eheel~s. Non-smol~n~ seeGon: Yes. Alcohol: Full bar. Opinion: A List. and without grilled chicken or shrimp, are also popular items. Main courses include beef, veal, lamb, duck, chicken, shrimp, and fish, with prices ranging from S 14.95 for the roast split of duckling to S 19.95 for grilled lamb chops to S22.95 or so for the fresh fish of the day. Steaks are popular with the sometimes older crowd, and the tenderloin fillet costs S16.95 for the six ounce and S18.95 for the eight ounce size, with the strip sirloin going for S 18.95 We ate the excellent veal osso bucco and our companion ordered the fish of the " day, which was a baked halibut served in Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1515 South Lewis Are you looking for a relaxed, amicable, private atmosphere for therapy? Our office provides a level of confidentiality and comfort that enhances teh therapeutic process. For further information, call 743-4117 Leah Hunt, MSW Judy Seymour-Taylor, CADC Della Blackburn, CADC Ric.hard Reeder, MS Serving a Diverse Community ¯ a champagne cream sauce. The halibut ¯ was very fresh with no hint of fishy taste, and the sauce was a light and pleasant ¯ accompaniment. The halibut was pre- ¯¯ sented along side angel hair pasta, which we thought was cooked a touch beyond al ~ dente. Our osso bucco was delicious and ¯ fork tender. A traditional Italian stewing ¯ of the veal leg served with cross sections ¯ of bone and attached meat, osso bucco is ¯ beloved not so much for the meat, but for ¯ the wonderful marrow inside the bone. ¯ Therefore, we were shocked and appalled : when our osso bucco was presented, not ¯ with a marrow scoop, but with a totally useless seafood fork! We hate to admit it in public, but we were forced to extract the marrow witha...butter spreader. Mon dieu.t Desserts are substantial._ The creme brulee and Key lime pie, both $3.50, are typical of Tulsa restaurants. Even better are the baked fudge and the cinnamon raisin, bread pudding, both $3.95. On the evemng we dined, a Grand Marnier souffle, $4.95, was apleasant finale to our meal. While the souffle was not quite as tender as what we make at home, we could hardly complain in view of the very reasonable price of this often-difficult dessert. After dinner coffees, demitasse, and drinks are available from the full bar. A fairly small wine list contains both nice drink’able wines and a few embarrassing selections that are so sadly all too popular in Tulsa. Several of the better wines are available by the glass. The Polo Grill has always been one of the consistently go~d restaurants in Tulsa. Formal and gourmet it is not, bnt management and the kitchen are very ~vell grounded in their concept of ident’itv and do a fantastic job of serving their ~iclle with well trained staff and excellent food. Marilyn Monroe,.at Philbrook’s l~vis + Marilyn: 2 x Immortal,photo: Sam Shaw by James Christjohn The University of Tulsa’s Weekend of One .Acts has come & gone. Many ontstanding productions were perfonncd, & almost everyone in the directing class is now dealin~ with a great deal of strcss reduction. However, there are three productions upcoming. Diaries, writtcn by TU students about college life from a gay perspective, will go up 4.: 29, at 7pro in Theatre 2 in Kendall Hall. On 4 30, at 7pro, Laundry & Bourbon & The lx,sson (directed by Vivica \Valkenbach) will bc performed in Theatre 2. Lisa \Vilson’s version of Bus Stop opens 4 24. I would like to take tiffs opportunity to express my th,’ulks to Michael Kippcr, Karin Sandmel, Vivica \Valcbeubach, & see Play, page lO Worship Service, 10:30 am Sheridan Center, Suite H, 21st & Sheridan, 599-7688 where pets are treated like people * Bakery Treats * Bed 8: Breakfast (boarding) " Salon * Pet Supplies: Science Diet, IAMS. Nutro Dog Food THE DOG HOUSE BROOKSIDE 3311 S. Peoria. 744-5556 [D[CC TO DISCO Wed,-Sat, 10-5 Sun, 1 The fabulous T-Town Dreamers. Photos: JD Jamett OUT & ABOUT by, J.D. Jame~t " " - int~rest ~,s known as a great neighborhood It’s spring and boy, are there a lot of bar (or two bars) - that’s right, New Age Atthe Silver Star, Fallon Scott new Miss Gay South USofA tlfings to do out and about. This next month holds a broad spectrum of events from a turn-about show at the Silver Star (April 19), followed by the 4th annual Miss Silver Star Pageant (April 21). You’ll be sorry if you missed Robbie Walker’s 2rid am~tm] Birthday Show wtfich was April. 7th at Concessions. Don’t nfiss the Miss Gay C)klahoma America Pagent (April 20) at the Peffornfing Arts Center or the Bear Bash (April 27). Contact Steve or Dick at 918- 663-5372 for more *larch came in like a lamb but went out like a drag queen with bad hair and broken heels (just-kidding). There was a lot of excellent entertaimnent last month, from .a spectacular arfiversarv show at I~ola’s which featured a new°entertainment group, The T-Town Dreamers, to the first mmual Gay South USofA pageant at the Sih’~r Star. This month’s featured establishment of Renegades and the Rainbow Room. These bars offer a little bit for everyone, a from a sit-down cruise bar to a show bar to a nice big patio with fireplace. This bar is trnly a familv affair. Dermis and lfis other half. i~arry, not only are the owners but regular bartenders. And who could ever forget Derails’ sister, Veronica, the v~vacious and light-hearted bartender in the Rainbow Room? Some of their ~nonthly events are Leather Night (Ist Friday of the month in the Rainbow Roon~), Girls Nite Out (the date varies each month but the date is always posted). May will be a particularly busy month for th’em starting with the Red Ribbon Revue (May 4) which will benefit Our House. followed by Miss Renegades ’96 (May 17), Girls Nit’e Outwith a wetjockey shorts contest (May 18) mad ending with one of the rites of spring, the GAYFEST CARNIVAL & carwash featuring Dark Shadows II, see JD, next page Coming Soon! Don’t Miss It! Special entertainers: Amanda Love Anita Richards Helen Holliday Scott Pendergrass, from Nashville An event you won’t want to miss. The most prestigious preliminary to Miss..GaY OMahoma America Tickets on sale at the P.A.C.or at most Carson Attractions outlets. $5.00 ~er person or $6°00 per couple= Phone orders ~y credit cards accepted. Liddy D.oenges Theater - use the 2rid St. entrance 1~r this event.‘ Don’t ~it~’t0 pur~h~se tickets; seating is limiteci. Thanks to the P.A.C. ~’or helping to make ~his ever~t one Tulsans of all walks of life will be proud of. For more information, call: 918.428.5330 Portions of proceeds to benefit Shanti, Inc. & Our House JD, continuedfrom page 14 also benefiting Our House (May 19). PS, speaking of drag queens, to keep all the fabulous drag divas of Tulsa happy (and so they stop pestering me about getting their names mentioned in the column), I’m now starting our Queen ofthe Month dub. This month’s winner is Katherine - ’cause she begs so sweetly. Queen ofthe Month dub rules Vary according to my whim, so be patient, sooner or later, everyone wins. Play, continuedfrom page 14 Gilcrease museum is offering an intriguing program during this month called Art WithA Tart: No, I’m not making this up; that’s the name of the event, honest! A speaker will give a tour about bits of the Gilcrease collection, & the museum restaurant makes up a box lunch comprised of a tart &a salad. I don’t think they mean the tart serves the salad, it seems a pastry tart is included in the lunch: Pity. 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Gardens has been Gay and Les those will al!ow co grazing nizin is noplace the lS no as a o si 2 ?n as an in~ Lividual? will, the first ce: in the United States section of our cemetery just for & Lesbians, and their family and friends. burial_spaces, columbarium for cremated remains, ¯ ~.g:gardens with a :memorial wall, newly expanded and renovated section of ngton. Memorial Gardens~ Cemetery. The Pride flag will proudly fly in the center of Unity Gardens to always remind us of our struggle in life for unity and pride. If you have purchased a plot elsewhere, you may be able to transfer or trade your burial plots. For more information, please call Russell Langley-Stumpff at 918-587-7000. ***Owned and operated by Butler-Stumpff Funeral Home*** Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, April 15-May 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 5 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. 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Jamett Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Leslie Penrose marriage National AIDS Conference Out and About performing arts PFLAG rape Read All About It Red Ribbon Revue restaurants schools sexual assault sodomy laws Tom Neal Tulsa City County Library Tulsa Family News viatication Women and AIDS Regional Conference https://www.history-okeq-org-red5.dev.unicomm.me/files/original/743c99ca76ab7076906a7b2a8022d2c5.jpg 482ad55dab9e2a6faf492af7491e5336 https://www.history-okeq-org-red5.dev.unicomm.me/files/original/3386204457bb1ef03081b4f817c8635c.pdf e8f28d091a9c4b5d1cdf93c31c5d6a5c Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Aug. 15-sept. 14,1996, vol. 3, no. 9 Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Congressman Comes Out WASHINGTON - Rep. Jim Kolbe, an Arizona Republican and influential member of the House Banking Committee has acknowledged that he is Gay. Confronted with the prospect of an upcoming report in The Advocate about his sexual orientation, Kolbe beat the news magazine to the punch by coming out. Kolbe, who has been a representative to C6ngress since 1984 and has been a frequent GOP point-person on the North American Free Trade Act and critic of White House budget proposals, told the Arizona Daily Star, "I think it’s unfortunate for our society that things have to happen this way." But the 54-year-old Kolbe added, "I’m the same p~rson I was yesterday, and I’ll legislatejust the same way. This should b,e. as irrelevant as the fact that Iambloe-eyed, right-handed &balding." Theupcoming Advocate story reportedly was spurred at least partly by Kolbe’s vote in July for the so-called Defense of.Marriage Act (DOMA), which rights activists had adamantly opposed. In late July, a collection.of activists also took out a full-page ad in the Washington LACK & WHITE PRESENT TOP US GAY LEADER Elizabeth Birch, executive director of the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), will give the keynote address for this year’s Black & White Charities, Inc. Gala dinner fundraiser. Birch leads the Human Rights Campaign which is the largest Lesbian and Gay political organization in the US. Birch formerly was legal counsel for Apple Computer, Inc. and also for Claris Corporation. Prior to joining Human Rights Campaign, Birch served as co-chair of the Board of Directors of the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF). . Over 260 patrons attended last year’s Gala at Philbrook Museum and a comparable numberis expected to attend the Sept. 7 event at the Downtown DoubleTree Hgtel. Over the years, Black & White Charities, Inc. have raised and donated over $31,000 in grants to other local charities. The HIV Resource Consortium will be the major recipient of this year’s grant. The HIV RC helps to provide services to "approximately 200 clients" with case management, transportation, Another part of the program will be the presentation of the first annual SWAN awards, ajoint program of PFLAG, parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays and Black & White Charities, Inc. The awards will recognize individuals "who through action and example, are helping to create a society see B & W, page 3 HOPE A New Namefor HIV Programs HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education is the new name for an health program that began in the Gay community more than 14 years ago. Claudette Peterson, director of what was known as Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR) HIV Testing Programs, announced the new name along with program’s success in getting funding for several critical new outreach programs. Peterson noted that the program had received funding for a"rural" HIV education outreach to "MSM’s" (men who have sex with men, regardless if.they identify as Bi, Gay see HOPE, page 3 Blade ur,gi,’ng "closeted gay and lesb!an members of Congress. to c0me out.. ,Headlined. ,~’A ,calL.to.. con~ ,. science," the ad didn’t threaten to out any closeted : uommunity of Hope Speaks members, butitwas the first timein5 years that closeted ¯ gays in Congress had become a national issue. Kolbe is the fourth member of Congress to publicly admit tobeing Gay - along with Reps. Gerry Studds, DMA, Barney Frank,. D-MA & Steve Gunderson, R-WI. Although Kolbe voted for DOMA, he also supports benefits for same-sex partners, and last year voted to keep the District of Columbia’s Domestic Partnership Act that gives some benefits to the partners of district employees. For Kolbe’s comments, see Kolbe, page 3 Military HIV Discharge Provision Dropped WASHINGTON -.A joint House-Senate conference committeehas unceremoniously dropped a provision in the 1997 defense authorization bill that would have required the discharge of service personnel infected with HIV. The HIV discharge provision was included in the House version of the $265.6 billion defense spending measure by Rep. Bob Doman (R-Calif.), despite objections of Pentagon officials. The Senate version of the bill included no such amendment. "Congress spoke on.this issue already when it repealed Dornan’ s HIV discharge measure in April," said Winnie Stachelberg, HRC’s’ legislative deputy. "Spite and bigotry are th~ only conb,eivable rehsons why Bob Dornan would have reintroduced this; measure after seeing itresoundingly defeated." Thejoint conference committee also :dropped a orovzszon that would have topI~led the don t ask, don t tell" policy in favor of an outright ban on Gays and Lesbians in the armed forces. Out In Sunday Tulsa World ¯ Community of Hope, a : United Methodist congre- ¯¯ gation, took $1,650 advertisement in The Sunday ¯ Tulsa Woddto speak out ¯ as a Christian community ¯ of faith "to call all Chris- " tians to stop using hateful ¯ language" against Lesbi- : ans and Gay men (see ad to ¯ right). The ad specifically : cites the language used by ¯ members" of Congress in ¯ recent debates on the"De- : fense of Marriage Act" ¯ which was co-sponsored ¯ by Tulsa Rep. Steve Largent and overwhelm- " ingly supported by ¯ Oklahoma’s House mere- ¯ bers. ! Acc°rdmg to a statemen=t ¯ gee Ad, p. 11 ¯ Elizabeth Birch, former counsel for Apple, now leads DC’s Human Rights Campaign. Coming Soon! Womens Supper Club RBG Business Fair Gay Comedy Jam Feast With Friends IAM Street Carnival RBG Lake Retreat see Coming, page 11 WE CALL ALL CHRISTIANS TO STOP USING HATEFUL LANGUAGE! UNITED METHODIST COMMUNITY OF HOPE ¯ audience with,over 400 attending on, two nights~. , ¯ : The largest grant ($3,500) went to,the HIV Resource consortium, " ¯ the second largest ($2,500) to the Medication Fund Of the Visiting " ¯ Nurse Association and grants of $1,500 went to Interfaith AIDS ¯ Ministries AIDS information line, Shanti=Tulsa Storehouse, Our " ¯ House, Regional AIDS Interfaith Network, see Follies, page 11 " Sid Spenser Singer Dies Unexpectedly ¯ : , " 1 and died ~’n hospital, see Sp ¯ Follies ReVue Beneficiaries i ’ ’ " ~ Follies Revue, Inc. has announced,the.distrib~tti0n ,of net proceeds t.rom its annu,gl, fundrais~ng peffom!,ance. Thislyear s event raised 4 $14,000 to hel~ l~d agencies that p~ovide direr support t~ persons.,~ ~AL~.Err~I~S/DIR~TO~Y p. ¯ liviongwithAIDS orvHIV ipfe~tion. Fedllies Revoe~ Irnc. has rais.ed ¯ ... . -- . . . ., . :! NEWS’BRIEFS ! $115,000 m its ezght years of servzce. This year s event which was . , P. 4 : hdd at the Doubletree Hotel, Warre~ Place attracted the largest ever " HEAL’rI~ BRIEFS i P. fi ¯ ’ CALENDAR P. 9 Many Gay Oklahomans were surprised and shocked by the news of the death in July of native singer, Sid Spencer, from complications fromAIDS in Calgary, Canada. Spencer, who performed regularly in Tulsa at the Silver Star Saloon, was performing Ot the Alberta Gay Rodeo. He was,~tficken wi,lh pneumoma P. 11 P. 12 P. 13 P, 15 EUREKA SPRINGS ADS BOOK REVIEW/ENTERTAINMENT RESTAURANT REVIEW CLASSIFIEDS 918.583.1248 Publisher/Editor, Tom Neal POB 4140 Assistant Editor, James Christjohn Writers/contributors Tulsa, Oklahoma Phyl Boier-Schmidt 74159-0140 Barry Hensley Jean=Pierre Legraridbouche Leanne Gross TulsaNews@aol.com Gerald Miller Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomes the sole property_of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence should be sent tO the address above. Each reader is entitled to one free copy of each edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. by Phyl Boler-Schmidt Last December, I decided to take on an impossible project. I knew it was impossible from the outset, but I was determined to be a.voice of reason inthe midst of many voices of confusion. What, you ask, am i talking about? With the brutal murders of Roxanne and Michelle, two lesbian activists in Oregon,my sense ofneeding to do something tobring the warring parties over lesbigay civil rights to the same tablewas literally pushed over the edge. I just had to do something. So, I decided to begin a dialogue on an Internet’.newsgroup called alt.org.promisekeepers. What I wanted to accomplish was nothing different than lesbigay civil rights activists have been working toward since the beginning of our movement. I wanted Christian fundamentalists (and everyone else for that matter) to begin to see us as human beings, to stop villifying us insearch of political advancement, to STOP the violence. Knowing full well I am only one person, see Enemy, page 3 by G. Miller. M_4. Peoplehavekiddedmefor along-time about having an answer for every problem or situation. But it occurred to me lately that what I see as common sense answers are somehow often overlooked by other people. So the following is a beginning set of things for the reader to consider in terms of how to make your daily life less complex and run more smoothly. 1. Don’t go where you are not wanted! Sounds simple and it is. If there are places or people who go out of their way to make you to less than comfortabl~, DON’T GO THERE. DOn’t go to businesses which treat you or your friends badly. 2. Stay away frompeoplewho try to make your life miserablet That includes, parents, siblings, or any form of relative. This also includes associates of friends, or coworkers in your work place. That’s right, COWORKERS. You may have to be around them to work but otherwise steer dear whenever possible. 3. 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Why are we afraid of anyone or anything that is differentfromus or our views.’? what would the world be like if we were all the same? Marriageis acommitmentbetweentwo people who love one another. Single-parent homes, illegitimate children, abusive spouses, alcoholism, joblessness and multiple marriages are aspects that are tearing the family and marriage apart. Please tell me where same-sex mamage will destroy the institutions of marriage and family. And is it wrong for a married see Eetters, page 3 Rev. Nancy J. Horvath M. Div., Pastor Sunday 9:15 am Christian Education 11:00 am Worship Service. Wednesday 6:30 pm Midweek Service 7:30 pm Choir Practice Thursday 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group 5451-E S. Mingo ¯ Tulsa~ OK ¯ 74146 (918) 622-1441 why I decided to take on the Promise Keepers is Something I really can’t explain. I just needed to do something. My experiencepleasantly surprisedme. And, I’d like to share this experience with you because I think if it worked once, it can work again.Ifmore of us step out and try to communicate with those we perceive as the enemy, perhaps we will make a difference, if not for our generation, at least for those that follow. My original note posted was entitled Opinions on Hate Speech. In it, I asked these simple questions, after outlining the events that had transpired in Oregon: "What are your feelings about this? Can you see why gays and lesbians are horrified when those among you villify us, call us child molesters, say that God hates us, and use other extremely derogatory terminology to describe who we are? Isn’t there some other way to disagree on the subject ofcivil rights legislation?Canyou see why somein yourmovementmightbe resp°nsiblealruenasdtyablef°r incitingpeople ~loe~eC~l~l~’~ for someone to hurt anyway? Isn’t there another alternative?" The immediate response by o~er 20 men who frequent the newsgroup was a defensive knee-jerk reaction. They accusedme of trying to blame Christians for everything. They toldme that a crime had been committed, and it didn’t matter if it was brought about by hatred of gays and lesbians. They tried every conceivable way to convince me that it had nothing whatsoever to do with their faith. It was only one unstablemancommitting a crime see Enemy, page 7 : ¯ sued by Rep. Jim Kolbe (R-Ariz.) on his ". announcement that he is Gay: : ’q’wenty years ago, when I first sought ¯ public office, I made a decision that my : commitment to civic involvement would : mean my public life would have to come : ahead of my personal and private life. ¯ I have, in the intervening 20 years, : sought to fulfillmypublicresponsibilifies ¯ in a manner that benefits all those I have :. represented in either the Arizona Legisla- ¯ ture or in Congress. I will continue that : commitment as long as I am in public : Service. Ilookbackon whatlhaveaccom- : proud of the record I have compiled. : NAFTA was the capstone of this vision. I ¯. have fought to lower the crushing tax ¯ burden on our families by reducing taxes. : I have worked for six years as a member _" of the budget committee to achieve a ¯. balanced budget so we can relieve our ¯ children of the burden of a crushing na- : tional debt. I have worked to keep : Arizona’s reputation as the astronomy i cOatapdivtaanlces intheawssourrlidngbaystrwonilolmgyotnheaWtforward : here. I have argued and won funds to : protect our natural heritage, including the ¯ "expansion of Saguaro National Park. And : justthis weekweachievedthemostsweep- : ing, most important reform of welfare in : decades. There is, of course, much more ¯ but this is a record I believe I can point to : with justifi-able pride. The following ts a press statement is- ¯. [ am just as proud of my record in the ¯ area ofhumanrights andindividual right.s. : I abhor and vigorously oppose discrinu- : nation in the workplace based on race, ¯ religion, gender, or sexual orientation - ." any treatment that is not based on merit. I : foug.h,t to repeal thepr.ovision inlaw which ’. armed seravnicaeus tmomemaubcerdwishcohiasrHge oIfVany-posi-reqmres : five. I support health benefits for domes- ". fie parmers. ¯ I also believe that if the citizens of ~ Hawaii believe it to be in their public ." interest to permit same-sex mamages, ¯ they should be permitted to do so. By the ¯ same token, other states - as Arizona has : done - should be allowed to define mar- : riage differently, and not be required to accept the.definition adopted by others. It .¯ is for this reason that I voted for the so- ." called Defense of Marriage Act when it ¯ was before the House a few weeks ago. °. Now, however, there are some who : have decided that theirdisagreement with : this particular vote warrants their making : public information aboutmy privatelife - ¯ information they may have heard second : or third-hand about my sexual onenta- ." tion. That I am a Gay person has never ¯ affected the way that I legislate. The fact ". that I am Gay has never, nor will it ever, : change my commitment to represent all : the people of Arizona’s 5th District. ¯ I am the same person, one who has : spentmany yearsstruggling torelieve the : tax burden for families, balance the bud- ~ get for our children’ s future, andimprove ¯ the quality of life we cherish in Southern : Arizona. I intendto continue that mission : if the voters of the 5th District, in their ¯ wisdom, decide that I should represent them in the 105th Congress.’" ¯ versity", : The Black&White Charities, Inc. Gala : will begin with a reception at 7pro fol- ¯ lowed by the dinner at 8pro. The highly ~ regarded, Follies Revue Singers will pro- : vide entertainment. Valet parking will be : provided. For more info., call 587-7314. : orheter0sexual) in smallOkl.ahomatowns : and rural areas. In particular, this effort ¯. will target Muskogee, Okmulgee, ¯ Tahlequah and Bartlesville. While it’s ". estimated that the majority of HIV trans- ~ mission/infection is these areas is still ¯ -through male to male contact, a small : survey by the Oklahoma State Dept. of : Health indicates that AIDS cases in rural : Oklahomans is still rising but that men in ¯ these areas may perceive themselves as at : lowerrisk. AndMSM’s whomay be mar- : ried to women may face challenges in : incorporating safersex practices into their ¯ relationships, and even in just getting "¯ condoms in a small town where anonym- : ity is not likely. ¯ The program will work to provide sup- . port groups, peer education and greater ." access to HIV see HOPE, page 11 ". ". WINDSOR MARKET ANTIQUES, ART & INTERIOR DES1GN DALLAS - TULSA GE:T READY TULSA THE ULTIMATE SHOPPING EXPERIENCE COMING OCTOBER 1996 IN THE VILLAGE OF WOODLAND HILLS 6808 SOUTH MEMORIAL, SUITE 300 !TULSA, OKLAHOMA 74133 PLEASE: CONTACT CINDY WATSON AT: (9t8) 254-9766 " NEW LEi SING VIGNETTES TO INTERIOR DESIGNERS, ANTIQUE.DEXLERS &. ARTISANS WITH QUALITY, INTEGRITY& CREATIVITY Zimbabwe Gays Harrassed by Govt HARARE, Zimbabwe (Aug. 2) - Gays and lesbians won a legal battle over the government of Zimbabwean President Robert Mugabe in their on-again, offagain efforts to participate in the nation’s International Book Fair, the largest publishing showcase in sub-Saharan Africa. The country’s High Court overturned a government ban on the Gays and Lesbians Association of Zimbabwe (GLAZ), saying the country’ s censorship laws were being improperly applied. The court said the government had exceeded its authority when it banned the organization withouteven exzmining theliterature the group intended to display at a booth at the fair. The government promptly said, however, that it would examine whatever books, pamphlets or otherliteratureGLAZbrings to the fairand would press charges against the group and its members if the material was believed to be "promoting homosexuality." For the 2rid year in a row, the government tried to block the only lesbian and gay group in the country from participating in the Fair. OnJuly 22, Joyce Mujuru, the country’s information minister, said the government wouldn’ t intervene in the fair to block GALZ from participating. But the next day, government spokesman Bornwell Chakaodza said gays and lesbians "have absolutely no right to publicly display literature and material at a public and cultural event where..,children visit." The Zimbabwean government, last year faced intenseinternational cfiticismwhen it banned the GALZ from the fair. Organizers of the event managed to keep the event in Zimbabwe this year, after making commitments that GALZ would be allowed to set up an exhibit stand at the fair to distribute literature. A spokespersonforGALZhassaidthe group plans to go ahead with its plans to set up a booth at the fair, despite the government’s decision. Organizers of the fair said they were still concerned about the possibility of violence because of the GLAZ booth. Among other things, shortly before the High Court ruling, a leader of Uniyersity ¯" of Zimbabwe student group With close ¯ ties to the President Robert Mugabe told ¯ the fair organizers that gays and lesbians ¯ that-show up at the event will "face public ¯ genocide." In fact, a mob of between 60 and 100 ¯¯ angry students mostly from the University of Zimbabwe showed up on the final ¯ two days of the fair. ¯ On the final day of the fair, a group of students again showed up, and GLAZ ¯ members quickly left the booth for safety. Unsatisfied with simply driving theGLAZ volunteers away, however, the student ¯ mob proceeded to thoroughly trash the ¯ booth and bum the pamphlets that had ¯ been left behind. Although book fair staffers quickly put ¯ the fire out, many of the nearby ¯ publishing booths" also felt threatened ¯ enough to pack up their own displays and ¯ leave the fair, complaining that they were ¯ losirig enormous amounts of money ¯ because of the continued disruptions. : Congressmen’s i Spouses Gang Up ¯ -on Anti-Gay Rep. WASHINGTON (July 30) - Just how ¯ disliked by gays and lesbians is Rep. Bob ¯ Doman, the Orange County, Calif., Republican? Well, earlierin JulyHerbMoses, ¯ the longtime companion of Rep. Barney ¯ Frank (D-Mass.) toldreporters in thecapi- ¯ tal that he has. been helping raise cam- " paign funds for Loretta Sanchez, the ¯ Democratwhois trying to unseat Dornan. ¯" Now Moses has now been joined by Dean Hara, the partner of Rep. Gerry ," Studds (D-Mass.) and Rob Morris, the ¯ companion of Rep. Steve Gunderson (R- ¯ Wise.), in helping raise money for : Sanchez’ campaign to oust Dornan, who ¯ has a fondness for referring to gaymen as ¯ ¯ "homos.,Morris told reporters.that the 3 openly gay members of Congress may _" attendanupcomingfundraiserforSanchez ¯ but hadn’t been asked to be involved in ¯ planning the event. "I think Herb and ¯ Deanand I want to keepBarney and Gerry ¯ and Steve out of it," Morris told The Hill. ’q’his is our project." Scottish Gays Can Adopt EDINBURGH, Scotland (July 29) - A Scottish gay man has won a court appeal that will allow him tO adopt a 5-year-old severely handicapped boy whose morn has told child welfare authorities she doesn’ t want the child. The unnamed man, identified only as a 34-year-old nurse, had earlier this year been told by a lower court that he could not adopt the boy because he is gay, even though the man and his lover have cared for.the 5-year-old for the past 18 months. But a 3-judge Scottish appeals court reversed that ruling, saying there was no legal reason prohibiting gays andlesbians from adopting children. The court said that all the information gathered about the two men and their lifestyle and relationship with the boy "’pointed strongly in favor of the proposed adoption." The child, who was put up for adoptionby his motherjust weeks afterhe was born, is both deaf and unable to talk, and can walk only with assistance. California Hate Crimes OAKLAND, Calif. (July 17) - California has just released its first full-year of data about hate crimes in the state, although authorities and anti-violence advocates agree it probably doesn’t reflect biasbased crimes very accurately. According to the state justice department summary, there were 1,754 hate crimesin California in 1995, involving more than 2,600 vierims. The only previous report for the state coveredjust the last half of 1994 and reported only 672 such crimes. Justice department officials were quick to acknowledge "holes" in the report. Among other things, only 215ofthe state’ s 750 law enforcement agencies reported any information on hate crimes. Some cities reported disproportionately higher numbers of hate crimes, possibly because police there have been more sensitized to reporting such acts of violence. San Francisco, for example, reported 290 biasbased crimes for 1995, while Santa Clara P AlrERSON REALIORSx LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: 671-2010 2642 E. 21st Stre~-t ¯ Suite 170 ,.Tulsa, Oklahoma 74114 Off: 918-749-8374., Res: 918-582-7672 ¯ Fax: 918-747-1795 Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Where God Uplifts All People Sunday,Service, 10:45 am 1623 No. Maplewood 838-1715 Community Cleaning O A Residential and Commerical Cleaning Service Kerby Baker (918) 622-0700 Call for Free Estimate DISC0 TO DISCO 20TH BUY* SELL* CONSIGN COOL 3213 E. 15th St. O’rlll:E: Tulsa, Ok 74104 (918) 749-3620 ¯ County - which has more than twice the ¯ population - reported just 47 such crimes ¯ during that year. ¯ Some 69% of the reported incidents ¯ included in the report were based on race ¯ or ethnic background; about 18% of the ¯ hate crimes reportedwerebasedonsexual ¯ orientation; just over 12% were based on : religion. According to the state report, ¯ gay men were 4 times as likely as lesbians to be the target of attacks. Lesbian Speakers at Political Conf. WASHINGTON (July 18)- According ¯ to the Washington Post, tennis superstar Martina Navratilova says she’ s head over : heals in love with model Hunter Reno, ¯ who also happens to be a niece of U.S. Attorney General Janet Reno. The Post ¯ quoted Navratilova as saying she loves the blond L’Oreal model "in a way I haven’t loved before" and that Hunter ¯ Reno said the tennis ace is a"very special : person" to her. The younger Reno will be one of sev- ¯ eral noted women slated to address the ¯¯ Human Rights Campaign’s OutVote ’96 scheduled to be held in Chicago in Au- ¯ gust.-Along with Reno will be Chastity ¯ Bono, Candace Gingrich and U.S. golfer ¯ Muffin Spencer-Devlin. ¯ Trans Ex-Husband ¯ Seeks Child Visits ¯ LONDON 0nlY 19) - A [emale-to-male ¯ transsexual who has been married to a ¯ woman for 17 years is appealingaBritish ¯ court ruling that refuses him visitation rights with the couple’ s children. ¯ A court earlier this year declared the ¯ marriage of the couple, who are not being ¯ named, annulled because of "a profound deception" on the part of the husband. ¯ During the divorce proceedings, the wife ¯ in the case told the court that she"always believed he was a man" and had undergone artificial insemination in order to have their children. ¯ But the husband, who is 50, has ap- ¯ pealed the court’s ruling that he has no ¯ visitation rights with the couplers children because he had perjured himself in order to get married in the first place. During the divorce proceedings, the wife, whois 49 years oldnow,had told the court that when she and her husband had had sex, she believed he either had a very small or deformed penis. But, She told the court, they never discussed it and that she never reMized the man was using an artificial penis during sex. ¯¯ accidentally, killin~ Smith. But prosecuting attorney Lee Davis questioned Butler about why she had not : tried to give any aid to the shot.woman or even call an ambulance. Davis also intro- " duced forensic evidence that Smith had : been shot by a pistol that had been held. ¯ only about an inch fromhermouth at the time it was fired. Tennessee Murder Chaplain Booted Trial Winds Up for Bad Att,tudes ORLANDO, Fla. (July 24) - According CHATtANOOGA, Tenn. (July 19)-As to the Orlando (Fla.) Sentinel, John B. the-murder trial of Adriana Butler, 23, ¯ Book, ahighlyvisibleanti-gayministerin drew to a dose, the college honors gradu- ." ate and mother of a 3-month-old infant, " testified ,,that she "never intended to kill ¯ anybody in the October 1994 shooting " death of Cathy Smith, even though she wanted the woman to stop having a les- ¯ bian relationship with her mother, Donna Evans. ¯ Butler said she was opposed to the " "’unnatural relationship" between Smith " and her mother, but socialized with the two women in order to maintain her faro- ¯ ily contacts. Under cross-examination, " Butleracknowledgedthat the three women " had in fact taken vaeatious in Atlanta and " Alabama together, and that they had also ° gone-to a local bar popular with lesbians " and gay men. She insisted, however, that her mother " ’~gave in to, Cathy [Smith] in order to keep the peace’ and told the court that Evans"-" was ashamed of her relationship with " Smith but was afraid of losing her job if " she broke it off. According to Butler, the night of the ° killing, Smith had shown up at her home, where Evans was staying, and an argu- : ment hadbroken out during which Smith had punched Evans in the stomach and " knocked her glasses off. The woman tes- " lifted that she also was hit by Smith when " she tried to break up the senffle outside the house between the two women. ¯ She told the court that at this point she went and got a gun and returned to the driveway where Smith and Evans were, " butbeganwalkingawayfrom Smithwhen ¯ the woman grabbed her and twirled her around suddenly and that thegun Went off " central Florida, has been fired from his post as a volunteer chaplain with the Orange County Sheriff’s Dept. afterhe publicly criticized a deputy sherifffor attending a gay pride parade earlier in June. The Sheriff’s office declined to daborate on Book’s firing except to say that his "inabilityandunwillingness" to workwith gays andlesbians in the department and in the communi,ty at large made him unacceptable in the post. Gay Videos End Coach’s Career ASHBURN, Va. (July 19) - When Jeff Bruton’s wife Melanie sued for divorce, among the evidence presented were accusations that her husband had appeared in a number of popular gay pornographic videos under the name Ty Fox. When Bruton’s employers learned of the reason forthe divorceproceedings, they launched thmeir own.inves.tigation and say that if the enare indeedone and the same, Brnton will.have to resign as aphysical education teacher and assistant coach for football, baseball and wrestling at a Sterling, Va., high school - and possibly his Virginia state teaching certification. Edgar Hatriek, superintendent of schools for Loudoun County, told reporters that teachers"are C"hOSen to bemstmc-" tors as welJ as leaders of our young people...in their professional as wall as ~edesoinsaalnlivaellse.g"aHtieoandodfeda,l"iWfeshtaytlewethhaatvies not in keeping with that." School officials, however, said they have been unable to contact Bruton directly because of the summer vacation, and also said that the gym coach’s phone number has been disconnected. But Steve Thompson, who is Bruton’s agent, confirmed for reporters that his client is in fact Ty Fox and, in addition to modding swimwear and athletic clothing, Bruton also made gay pornographic videos. Thompson also said that Brnton plans to resign his teaching post, which he’s held since 1993, "whether it’s fair or not." Choral Festival Concludes TAMPA, Fla. (July 15) - Festival V, described as the largest gay and lesbian gala in the world, drew to a dose after what organizers considered a highly successful 8 days ofsinging, singing, and still more singing. The Gay & Lesbian Association of Choruses, which sponsors the annual showcase of choruses from around the world, said more than a hundred choruses participated in Festival V, drawing more than 5,000 lesbian, gay and bisexual singers. Poet Maya Angelou gave an openingnightaddress,.. and although therehadbeen ,cgncerns that anti-gay protesters might disrupt the festivities, only a handful of prot,esters showed up at one of the earlier opemng day events. The festival also saw the premiere of several works commissioned for Festival V. ¯ answer you want to hear but...". You will .save.yourself a lot of anxiety and grief by ¯ just being truthful. This includes the so- " cial WHITE LIE. If this is too large a step ¯ then begin with simply saying you prefer not to answer, and stick to your guns. ¯ 5. Quit worrying ~b~.ut what happened yesterday. You can t fix what is already ¯ done. Equally, don’t worry about future situations over which youhaveno control ¯ anyhow. ¯ 6. Start living inside the moment you are in. If someone makes you angry, let ¯ them know it. If someone hurts your feel- ¯ ings, let them know it. If someone mis- ¯ treats you, don’t put up with it. Take action, even if that only means removing ¯ yourself from their presence. ¯ . 7. Us.e some common sense about deal- . mg with everyday life. You are in control of y.our, life far more than you ima "he n t let others take the ~mttattve of dic- ¯ ta.ting your life. They will try to get away ¯ wjth as much as possible. Learn to recogm. ze what you, can effectively handle and what you can t. ¯ Most importantly keep inmind that you ¯ don’t have to win every battle to win the ¯ war. Don’t let others sap your energies. Pick and chose the right time and right ¯ place. Truly you are the Captain of your ¯ ship and the Master of your own fate. .* We make life far more difficult than it ¯ really is and we usually fall into that trap by letting others set the situation and start ¯ the game. Remember the famous "It’s my ball and I make the rules!"? Start thinking ¯ of your life as your"ball" and when others ¯ insiston making thegamemiserable, take ¯ your ball and go home. You can always ¯ find someone else to play ball with. Keep inmind some people aren’thappy unless they are making someone else unhappy, and usually that will mean you. Don’t waste a scintilla of time or effort on those types. Move on and let them eat themselves up. ff they have so little self esteem that they have to tear someone down to feel important, @#$%^ them. Only you can start making your life easier and morerewarding. You have to start today, because each day that passes brings you closer to the great black nothingness which probably awaits us all. Copyright © 1996 Gerald Miller miserable going to social gatherings I .didn’t really want to attend because I felt ~t was my duty. BS! Now I only go where I really want to beand Ihaveamuchbetter time. This also includes favors for other people, just learn to say No in a polite fashion. 4. Don’t lie! Tell the truth when asked a question, even if you know the questioner won’t like the answer. Just preface your reply with, "I know this isn’t the St. Jerome 71ae 9L-,v. Deacon Debbie Srarnes (918) 742-6227 Kelly Kirby, CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation Come See Our New Office 4021 South Harvard, Suite 210, Tulsa 74135 747-5466 Attention Artists Anyone wishing to Donate Works for an Art Show & Sale for Our House to be held on Sept. 28 & 29 Contact Delilah at 665-1339 Works must be received by Sept. 15. ¯ QUICK SERVE ¯ PATIO BAR Traci Huntsman Owner "QUALITY WORK UNBELIEVABLE PRICE" FOR APPOINTMENT 743-7141 3225 S. Yale Tulsa, OK 74135 Clinton Pledges More forAIDS Care SAN FRANCISCO (July 23) - Ending a 2-day campaign swing through California, PresidentClinton saidduring a$1,000- per-person fund-raising dinner thathehas asked Congress for an additional $65 million for the AIDS Drug Assistance Program to help people with the disease pay for expensive new and-HIV drugs. Nearly 70,000 people get assistance for AIDS drugs through the program, which is largely paid for with federal funds. The Clinton budget proposal would increase federal spending - about two-thirds of the total program - from $115 million this year to $195million during the next fiscal year. Theomove comes in the wake of medical reports at the international AIDS conference in Vancouv& earlier in July that indicate the new class of protease inhibitors, combined with already-approved anti-HIV drags, show enormous potential for completely suppressing the virus. Patients andAIDS advocates, however, have increasingly warned that despite the heartening news about the new drugs, most people with AIDS in this country would not be able to afford the expensive new treatments. "While new drug treatments offer enormous hope to people living with HIV," Clinton said at the fundraiser, "it is also clear that our work is far from complete." Reform Party’s Lamm Suggests Cut Care for PWA’s NEW YORK (July 21) - Although it got little notice by the media, former Colorado G0v. Richard Lamm, who has declared his desire to be the 1996 presidential nominee of the Reform Party, said on a television news program Sunday, July 21, that the government should virtually write off people who already have AIDS. "I think in a world of limited resources weshould spendmoremoney onresearching the cause ofAIDS and how to prevent it than we should treating the people that are going to die anyway," Lammsaid on the CBS-TV program "Face the Nation." Mark Sturdevant, vice chairman of the Reform Party who has urged Lamm’s candidacy, later insisted the former Colorado governor wasn’t actually saying the country should "pull the plug" on people who are sick, but said that as the country,,, increasingly faced "limited resources Americans "need to start talking about these issues." Lamm raised hackles in-1984 for similarremarks whenhe said the elderly "have a duty to die and get out of the way." Gene Defect May Protect from AIDS WASHINGTON (Aug. 8) -Two separate teams of researchers have identified a genedc mutation that appears to protect some people against AIDS. The finding may-explain why some people infected with HIV remain healthy and virtually symptom-free of the disease for years. The teams of U.S., European and Japanese scientists have found that people with two copies of a certain defective gene - one each from their mother and father - appear to be resistant to the most common strain of HIV in Western countries, the one which is transmitted sexually most commonly. They estimated that ¯¯ only about 1% of the Caucasian populalion has both defective genes. : Theteam tookblood samples from 1,800 ¯ healthy U.S., European, African andJapa- ¯ nesevolunteers.Theyexposedthe samples ~ to the most common strain of HIV in test : tubes. Reporting in thejournal Nature, the ¯ researchers found that all the blood : samples were infected after exposure - ¯ except those from white people with two : copies of the mutated gene. ¯ The second team of scientists, from the : Aaron Diamond AIDS Research Center : in New York, found the same double ; genetic mutations in the blood of two ¯ white males who knowingly had unpro- : tected sex with infected partners, yet re- : main uninfected themselves. ." As these researchers report in thejour- ¯ hal Cell, they could not infect blood ¯ samples from these two men - even with ¯ 1,000 times the amount of HIV it usually : takes to trigger an infection. ¯ The researching findings suggest that : drugs to do this would probably have no ; side effects, since the lack of the protein : target in the Caucasians appears to have ¯ caused them no known negative health- : problems. : Heterosexual HIV : Showing Up in UK : LONDON (Aug. 1)-A much more vim- . lent strain of HIV, believed to be more : likely to spread by heterosexual contact, ." has ~pread from Thailand to Great Brit- " ain, researchers reportin the Britishinedi- : cal journal New Scientist. ¯ The virus .subtype E is widespread throughout Asia, where most of those ¯ infectedareheterosexual,nothomosexual. ¯ As a result, researchers and epidemiolo- : gists believe the virus subtype is more : easily spread via heterosexual sex than ¯ subtype B, which has mainly affected gay : and bisexual men in North America and ~ Europe. Since the first case of subtype E ¯ infection in England was announced earlier this year~ British health officials have since identified 72 additional subtype E infections. ¯ Report" Herpes : ¯ : Virus Linked to KS ¯ CHICAGO (July 30)-Two studies in the : healthmagaT.ineNatureMedicinestrongly ¯ suggests that Jhe human herpes virus 8 ; (,I-IHV8) isthecauseofKaposi’s sarcoma, ¯ a cancer that strikes many people with : AIDS. Using a recently devdoped blood ¯" test for HHVS, researchers say they most ." often found the virus in blood samples of ~: people with sexually transmitted diseases, ¯ a Strong implication the virusis also sexu- ." ally transmitted. 2nd HIV Home Test ¯ Approved; States ¯ Fight Availability ¯" CHICAGO (July 24) -~A 2nd HIV home- : testing kit has now gone on sale after ¯ being approved by the Food & Drug Ad- ¯ ministration. Like the already-approved : Confide test by Johnson & JOhnson, the ¯ Home Access Express test, sold by Home ¯ Access Health, is available via a toll-free ¯ number. But in spite of federal approval ¯ now of2 suchhome tests, themanufactur- : ers sdll face batdes with healthofficials in ¯ some states who are s.harply critical of NEGATIVE Even if you test HIV negative, AIDS has touched your life. 4, What’s the pointof staying negative if your lover or your friends already have HIV? 4,, Will you have to use condoms for the rest of your life? 4, Do you sometimes take risk that you regret the morning_ after? -4, What about the issues of power and trust in a relationship? 4, How has homophobia affected your self esteem? Interested in attending a discussion group for HIV negative men? 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This year the Atlanta Braves will become the 2nd pro baseball team to sponsor such an event when it hosts a "Stepping Up to the Hate Day" in Sept: at the Atlanta-Fulton Co. Stadium benefiting AIDS organizations in the Atlanta area. At the first Until There’s a Cure Day in 1994, opposing team Colorado Rockies wouldn’t even join the S.F. Giants on the field to form ahuman AIDS ribbon until they were brow-beaten into it by Giants’ teammembers andcatcalls from the stands. of violence, not a s.ymbol of a larger societal problem that lS exascerbated by like-minded individuals who blindly follow the ramblings of the likes of Pat Robertson, Jerry Falwell, Patrick Buchanon, etc. And of course, I was bombarded with Bibfieal quotations about the sinfulness of my ways. I knew this would happen, and since I had gone in with my eyes wide open, I knew I was not going to act defensively to protect my position. I wanted dialogue, not an argument. ,So, with each and every note from one of these men, I responded with the same basic premise: "Yourpremisesmaydiffer from mine, and that’s okay.We just need ¯ There are some more modern texts that : to put those on the table sowecan actually know what weare talking about. "Our premises on the Bible probably differ... I don’t know yours, but I win tell you mine. I read the Bible as a historical work. I try to read it in the context of the time it was written and to know which people were being addressed so that I have a context to base my reading upon. I also read other works of the time thathave notbeenincluded in the Canon, and many of these I find just as much validity in. I University Reports ¯ Condom Usage BOSTON (July 17) - According to a survey ofBrownUniversity students,74% of the women who dropped in at the campus clinic in 1995 said their sexual partners used acondom"always or almost always’~ when having sex. A similar survey at the school 6 years earlier found that only41% of the women visiting the clinic rel~rted such high usage of condoms by their sexual partners. rely on as well. In other words, I don’t ¯ think God stopped talking when his book : went to print. I also know that, it is more ~ than possible that the works included in ¯ the Canon have been misinterpreted ¯" through language interpretors and ver- ¯ sion editors, and there is a high probabil- ." ity that the men who chose which books ¯¯ were likely candidates to include in the Canon had their own prejudices and could ¯ have excluded some worthwhile works : and included a lot of repetition. ¯ "This does not mean that I negate the ¯ teachings of the Bible. I just feel that it, in and of itself, is an incomplete guide for my spiritual understanding." ¯ The responses I received after simply : laying my cards on the table about my : own interpretation of the Bible are what ~ surprised me the most. There were no ¯ more Biblical quotations used to try to ¯ sway me. There was no more using of i Chrisdan theology tojustify the villifying ¯ of the homosexual lifestyle.What hap- ~ petted is that we settled into a reasoned : debate. No tempers flared.No hateful ¯ names wereealled. Ibelieve that, although : I did not think my one voice would make ~ a difference, it did. ¯" And, I believe this is why: "I like being able to live my life to its fullest, and I ~ expect you to have that very same fight. It ~ is a free country in which we live, and i freedom of and from religion is one of our hallmarks of liberty... "Our ability to disagree on what God ~ thinks of my lifestyle is one of the ~eat ¯ things about this place we call America. ¯" And, I want to keep that ability for both of us. I don’t want *anyone* to try to tell me :~ I can’t have my way of life, and I sure ¯ would defend your choice as well.Wonld you do the same for meT’ i I would like to propose to all ofyou that : reason really does work. I think it is high ¯ time we appeal to reason in our political ¯" endeavors, not to high emotion. And, I : thinkitis time we quit assuming weknow : howtheothersidewillrespond.Thelouder ". weget, themorethe other sideresponds in ¯ kind. There are reasonablepeople onboth ¯ sides of the lesbigay civil fights debate, i andI,for one, wouldlike to see more ofus .... " step forward ,an~ take leadership roles. Pitcher’s Refusal to Join Game Benefit Causes Uproar SAN FRANCISCO (July 30) - The refnsal ofSanFrancisco Giants pitcherMark Dewey to join with the baseball team m support of an AIDS benefit being sponsored by.the team has outraged political leaders here and at least oneAIDS activist has called on the Giants to giveDewey his walking papers or trade him to another teal!L With nearly 35,000 fans attending the Giants-AtlantaBraves game,Dewey,who is 3-2 with a4.10 earned-run average with 36 strikeouts in 53 innings, refused tojoin players from the two teams on field for a demonstration of support in fighting the AIDS epidemic.A fundamentalist Christian who is outspoken in calling homosexuality a sin. He also turned his red AIDS ribbon sideways in imitation of the ancient "fish" symbol of Christianity. Dewey said he decided to opt out of the on-field display with teammates because some of the funds raised for the "Until There’s a Cure" day event go to promote safer-sex education and prevention programs, which he says are contrary to his religions beliefs. Jon Prevna, who works withProject Open Handin San Francisco, later wrote to Giants president Peter Magowan saying, "I seriously hope you will consider trading him [Dewey] or giving him his unconditional release." The Giants managementhas so far declined to comment on the incident. Black & White Charities, Inc. & PFLAG Lookforward to the pleasure ofyour companyfor The 1996 Black & White Gala with keynote speaker Elizabeth Birch Executive Director, Human Rights Campaign, Washington, DC and Presentation of the first annual Swan Awards Saturday, September 7th Cocktails & Conversation at seven o’clock, Concourse Dinner at eight o’clock, International Ballroom Entertainment by The Follies Revue Singers $125 each, checks may be sent to POB 14001, Tulsa, 74159 Visa or MasterCard, call 587..7314 or 800.458.4682, or e-mail: blkwhtprty@aol.com The Downtown Do.ubleTree Hotel, 616 West Seventh Benefiting the 1996 Black & White Grant Recipient, The HIV Resource Consortium, Inc. TULSA FAMILY NEWS COMMUNITY CALEND R SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School, 9:45 am Worship Service, 11 am 2627b East llth 583-7815 Community ofHope (United Methodist) Worship Service, 6 pm 1703 E. 2rid, 585-1800 Family of Faith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Worship Service, 11 am 5451-E South Mingo. Info: 622-1441 Metro. Comm. Church of Greater Tulsa Worship Service, 10:45am 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa 6:30 pm at Canterbury 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 MONDAYS ¯ TUESDAYS HIV Testing Clinic ¯ ¯: Free & anonymous testing . HHIVIVR+esSouurpcpeoCrtonGsroorutipum ¯ using fingerstick method. ¯ 1:30 pm ¯ No appointment required. ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-I ¯ Walk in testing: 7-8:30 Inn : Info: Wanda @ 749-419z : Results hours: 7-9 pm : ¯ lnfo: 742-2927 : Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. Mixed Volleyball for Fun & Competition Hclmerich Park, 6:30 pm 71st & Riverside Info: 587-6557 WEDNESDAYS Agape’ Christian Fellowship Service, 7 pm Sheridan Center, Suite H : 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 ¯ Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center ¯ Prayer & Bible Study ¯ 7~30pm 2627-B East llth Call 583-7815 for info. PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 2nd Mon. of month 6:30 pro, 4154 S. Harvard Info: 749-4901 : HIV/AIDS Support Group ¯ & Friends & Family ¯ HIV/AIDS Support Group ¯ 7 pro, call for location: " 749-7898 : Alternative Skating : 8:30 - 11 pro, 241-2282 ¯ $4, Sand Springs Skate ." OTHER GROUPS -. ¯ The Technicians, Leather " : org., Info c/o 621-5597 " ¯ T.U.L.S~4. Tulsa Uniform. : & Leather Seekers Assoc. ¯ ¯ Info: 838-1222 " . Gay & Lesbian Student " Association ¯ TJC Southeast Campus, " Iflfo: 631-7632 ¯ ¯ SWAN-Single Women’s ¯ ¯ Activity Network Grief Group Butler/Stumpff Funeral Home 2103 E. 3rd St. Call for time: 587-7000 : Family Of Faith MCC : Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm ¯ Choir Practice 7:30 pm ¯ 545 I-E South Mingo. " Call 622-1441 for info. ¯ Community of Hope ¯ (United Methodist) Service for Peace, 6:30 pm : Bible Study, 7 pm ¯ 1703 E. 2rid, 585-1800 : THURSDAYS 16-Step Empowerment ¯ Group For Women ¯ Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E.2nd, Info: 585-1800 ¯ Co-Dependency ; Support Group 7:30, Family of Faith MCC ¯ 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 ¯ HIVTestingTOHRClinic ¯ Walk in testing: 7- 8:30 pm ¯ Results hours: 7 - 9 pm Info: 742-2927 Tulsa Family Chorale Weekly practice, 9:30 pm Lola’s 2630 E. 15th PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 1st & 3rd Thursdays 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 ¯ TNAAPP Alternatives ¯ ¯ Tulsa Native American " Weekly social events for" AIDS Prevention Project ¯ LGBT men & women, 7 pm ¯ Support group ¯ Info: 646-5503 ¯ for Gay & Bi Native : ¯ American Men, 6 pm Substance Abuse at ~Community of Hope Support Group " ¯ 1703 E. 2nd " for persons with HIV/AIDS ¯ SATURDAYS St. Jerome’s Church Mass, 6 pm Garden Chapel 3841 S. Peoria Info: Father Rick at 742-7122 Narcotics Anonymous Meets weekly at 11 pm Confidential support for recovering addicts. Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt Sewing Bees 3rd Sat. of each month Info: ~/48-3111 Comedy Jam Freedom Tour MONDAY & TUESDAY SEPT. 16 & 17 8:00 PM Gay Stand-Up Comics Performing BACK BY POPULAR P EM,ANI) ! 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Kelly Kirby Oklahoma Representative 4021 South Harvard, Suite 210 Tulsa, OK 74135 918-747-3320 Home Office Dallas, Texas 800-559-4790 ¯ Booking for 800 253 Geek to GO! ThePC Specialist, 501.253.2776 Phyl Boler-Schmidt Systems & Software Specialist POB 429, Eureka Springs 72632 Books, Incense, Candles and.Rainbows! Plus lots more! (501) 253-5445 45&I/2 Spring Street Eureka Springs, Arkansas 72632 emrain@rog.ar.ispnet.com AUTHENTIC ITALIAN CUSINE FRESH RAINBOW TROUT ofEureka Springs Recommended by The New York Times (501) 253-6807, Closed Wednesday 5 Center Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 According to The Gayly Oklahoman, Spencer was born in Ada, and was raised in Tulsaand in Seminole. He attended the University. ofOklahoma and builta career as a country western entertainer, touring the Southwest and working on the Gay rodeo circuit. Friends of Spencer are holding a Celebration of Life on August 17, at the Bunkhouse in Oklahoma City, according to friend and organizer, Mike Busby. The event will feature Sonja Martinez, Deb Roberts,BradRiggins and videos ofSpencer performing. The event will include an auction of memorabilia to benefit HIV/ AIDS organizations. The Gayly also noted that Spencer’s family has requested that donations to HIV/AIDS organizations be made in lieu of flowers. Those who wish to honor the memory of Sid Spencer may do so to the organization of their choice or may send a donation care of Spencer’s father, Sid Spencer, Sr. (RR2, Box 69-G, Seminole, 74868-9614) who will donate those in his SOn’S naule. and two grants of $1,000 each to TOHR Testing Clinic (HOPE) and Catholic Charities’ St. Joseph’s House. On-September 28, Follies Revue performers will recreate this year’s show to benefit RAIN in Enid, Oklahoma. For information about booking Follies singers for corporate or private events, call 437-020L testing. Initially, events for the program will be held in Tulsa because of the conterns individuals may have about attending a "Gay" event near their homes. Petersonadded that attendance is not necessary and that they would like to hear from individuals in rural eastern Oklahoma about what it is like in those areas and how best to get education and services to the areas. HOPE has set up a telephone number, 800-282-8165, to allow individuals to call anonymously. Local callers may ring 742-2927. Peterson also announced that HOPE has .been chosen as one of 75 HIV agencies in the US to participate in a program, "Parmers in Prevention", sponsored by the Center for AIDS Intervention Research, (CAIR) of the Medical College of Wisconsin. The program is funded by the : National Institute of Mental Health andis ¯ intended to bridgeagapbetweenfront]i~" ¯ HIV/AIDS prevention organizations and : research into HIV prevention. OOO00000OO00. OOOO0®O ~ A Friendly Place to Stay ; KING’S HI-WAY ¯ INN ¯ ¯ ¯ 96 Kings Highway, Hwy. 62 W ¯ Eureka Springs, AR 72632 ¯ (501) 253-7311 ¯ 1-800-231-1442 ¯ Jerry A. Wilson. owner ¯ ¯ O ¯ 0 ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ O ¯ ¯ ¯ @ 0 A number of commtmity events are coming up. Check out the following: The NAMES PROJECT wants you to help by hosting a Feast with Friends on Sat. Sept. 14. Call 748-3111 for info. ¯ Tulsa Womens Supper Club will meet ". 8/28 at 7 at the Spaghetti Warehouse. ." Info: 584-2978. Thenext AIDS Coalition ¯ meeting is Sept. 10th. Call 585-5551. : Do not miss Interfaith AIDS Minis- : tries Old Fashioned Street Carnival on ¯ Sat. 9/21, 10-6 at Southminster Presbyte- ¯ dan, 3500 S. Peoria. : Rainbow Business Guild is having a : business fair on 8/30 (see ad, p. 5) and-a: : lake weekend on 9/21-22, call 665-5174. i Anddo not miss the Gay Comedy Jam[ written by Pastor Leslie Penrose, the congregation struggled to make. sure the ad was "responsible, given that we are a Christian commlmity of faith and not a p.o.litical advocacy group" and"adequate" s~nce members of the congregation are affected by the hate language. The statement notes that "as gay and lesbian persons have struggled in this country - in this state and city- for the right to live in dignity without fear of violence or persecution, to have their committed relationships respected, and to worship with integrity, the dialogue has become inereasingly hurtful and exclusive....we...have wondered where is the other voice of Christianity?" The statement affd~, "...when the church is silent in the face of injustice...that silence becomes complic- ¯ ity in that injustice." Penrose told TFN that so far there has ¯ been little response to the ad but that she : expects that there will likely be letters to : The Worldin response andpossible to the ¯ new Methodist bishop from more conser_ : vative Methodistcongregations. Commu_ : nity of Hope (Coil) has also organized ¯ serveral companion efforts to this ad. ¯ These include a letter and visiting cami Paigu to Don Nickles, Tom Coburn and ¯ Steve Largen.t, a speakers bureau to seek ¯ out other church groups that will listen ¯ and Coil is also planning aprayer vigil to- ¯" be conducted when and if the Senate con- , siders theDOMAbill. Formoreinfo. orto ¯ contribute to this effort, call 585-1800. Living Sprtng ...a community of friends... We welcome you to attend! Services held Sunday evenings at 7 o’clock 17 Elk Street (at the Unitarian Church) Eureka Springs, AR 72632 501-253-9337 READ ALL ABOUT IT reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library In "Immortal, Invisible," editorTamsin Wilton has compiled a lengthy collection ¯ of original essays and interviews analyzi~ ig the history and current state of the lesbian moving image, including f’rims and, to a lesser extent, television. From Marlene Deitrichin"Morocco" in 1930to 1994’s "Woman of the Wolf," this volume explores the important differences between "gay films" and "le:s.bik.a~ film,s" and why lesbian and gay male ,tim mar- .....~rs will probably never agree on a generic "queer cinema." " These are more than just simple movie reviews. The contributors explore the.s.ocial, political, historical and, in some mstances, religious aspects of these films and the text is not always light reading. Obvious popular films, such as "Personal ~ Best" and the notorious "The Children’s Hour" are supplemented ,b,y true~hous,e, lesbian films, including Desert Hearts and "Oranges Are Not the Only Fruit.!’ The seventeen contributors exhibit a wide variety of qualifications, frofi~film makers"and producers (Penny Florence and Susan Ardill) to a postgraduate student (Louise Allen) whose research is concerned with "lesbian readings of kd lang, and the emergence of country and westernlesbian culture."The authors endlessly debatewhatconsritutes lesbianform : and content. Should only films which ’ have lesbian relationships and characters beindudedin"lesbian cinema," or should : an"out" lesbian film maker also have her : film included even though the subject ¯ matter or treatment is not lesbian-spa- ¯ eific?Thereis averyinterestinginterview ¯ with lesbian film maker Greta Schiller, ¯ whoserecent efforts haveindudedawon- : derful documentary, "Maxine Sullivan: ¯ Love To Be in Love," about the hetero- ~ sexual jazz legend. : Some wall knownnames are ignored or ¯ marginalized in this volume. Barbara ¯ Hammer, whose short films have raised : more than one eyebrow as they challenge ". the "heterosexist authority system," ¯ is mentioned only a couple of rimes and given one short quote. ¯ There are many unfamiliar but intrign- ~ ing films discussedhere. They are ones to ¯ keep in mind as you are traveling to other : cities where progressive theaters may be : taking the opportunity to broa..den~ the h~o- ~ rizons of their communities, veruaps me ¯ ThirdAmmalTulsaGay andLesbianFilm ~ Festival organizers willincorporate some ". of these rifles into their schedule next ¯ snring. "Immortal, Invisible" is one of the ~ few books published that specifi- : cally discuss lesbiancinema, but there are ¯ also many other books regarding gay/ ¯ lesbian topics at your local branch library : orat the Readers Services department at : theCentralLibrarydowntown(596-7966). James Christjohn ybYeal Gaycomedyis comingback to:Fulsa on S~pt.’16th& 17th, at thePAC. The Gay Com~:ly Jam. Freedom Tour features acclaimed openly Gay comics,, Scott Kennedy and Kevin Maye, who ve been seen on HBO’s Comedy Channel and -written of in The Advocate. Their show, Gaylapalooza (last February with two other comics) played to a full house at th~ PAC’s Williams Theater and benefited Black&White Charities as does aportion of this appearance. Tickets are $12 in advance and $15 day of the show, and are available by calling 481-0558. Broken Arrow Community Playhouse announces that auditions for its Halloween producrion, two one-act plays, will be held Sund,a,,,,,y, August 18, at 6pro;, The pIays¯.are . Sorry, wrong Number , directed by Todd Murray, & "Black Comedy", directedby Jenny Jackson. Theoneacts will be performed October 11 - 20. "Sorry Wrong Number" requires afemale character, and 3-4 addirioual actors who can perform a variety of character voices. It will be staged as a radio drama. "Black Comedy" requires 5 men &3 women. Audj’rious will consist ofcold readings from the scripts and someimprov. Audirious willbeheld at the playhouse, 1800 S. Main in the Main Place complex. 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Address: _Age: City, St. &Zip:__ ~ Telephone: bYAugustJean_Pierre,nightsTFNinOklahomaCFr°°itdiChave ." of a salad & side dish or a cup of soup. ~oaY~s’ ataba~nutt~o9 hot .a~.d Sticky to .reallal~ " We started with a shrimp and lobster nne cmsme, but a new res- .bisque that was rich and quite rusty, with ctauulirnaanrtyhsecerenei.nMTicuhlsaaelhas heated up the " el,noUtsn.Kofs wofholol.be,stsemr atallilsmhreiamt.pTahnedresewvaesraal Fusco’s new venture, definite bite from cay- Flavors, fills out the space in a strip mall M;ebael Fi15co ~ enne pepper, but it was alsohome to Novel Idea Bookstore & Mexicali Border Cafe, near 71st and Sheridan. The wellknown Fusco used to be chef at Bodean’s, and openedFlavors this summer as his own place. Halfofth~ restaurant is a section of dinerstyle booths with white tablecloth covered tables. The post-modem decor features a black and white checkerboard floor, a visible kitchen window, and popular music playing over the speakers. The other half, behind a wainscotted glass wall, is aformal dining room with pale purple walls, carpeted, formal tables and place settings, and more sedate, classical music playing in the background. There is .also anotherformal din- Hollr$: IX/Ion. - Fr~., 11 to Dinner 3/][on. - Sat., 5 to 10:30 dosed Sundays Cuisine: New Amerlean Dress: Dressy Prices: Very Expensive Plastic: Non-Smoldn$ Section: Yes Alcohol: FMI bar and w~ne mgroom behind French doors for private par_ ties. The samefood and menu is available on either side, and there is no official difference, though we noticedmost gendemen in our section wereinjackets and Ratln~: ties, while the diner Side patrons were more ca_ A l;st sually attired.. Even though our visit was on a Monday night, both sections of the restaurant were nearly full. In addition to the small menu ofregular items, a blackboard reminiscent of Bodean’s announces the specials of the evening. Several selections of fresh fish are available, plus offerings of beef, veal, pork,and duck. Entrees include a choice no.t what we would call spray. Our salads came FLAVORS on huge plates (larger ~a~a~n the service plate!) 6104 E~st 71st Street wedgceosnsisted of large of iceberg lettuce with a.scattering of .thinly sliced purple omon tings, cherry tomatoes, anddiagonally sliced cucumbers, dressed in a pleasan~-- balsamic vinaigrette& crumbled S til ton cheese dressing (Stilton is the English version of bleu cheese or roquefor0. After the salad course, we were mortified to see our waiter remove our salad knife from our salad plate and set it on our bread and butter plate. One expects that fora $4.50 salad, the kitchen can wash an additional knifet Our entree was a delicious, and large servl. n.g of sauteed, thinly sliced veal hver ($9.95) presented with caramelized onions and~r2~r_ kansas bacon, withpo_ tatoes Lyonnaise. Very tasty and an excellent value. Our companion had a strikingplate that looked pretty enough to be a woman’s hat-- a bed of mashed potatoes surrounded by a panopoly of grilled i avepgeertfaeMctelys agnrdilmleud,shthroicokm, sb,ecerfotwenndederwloiittni ¯ ($21.95), sauced with a red wine reducL : tionhunter sauce, and withahuge sprig of .. fresh rosemary stuck in like a feather. ; au¯Hgirsadtienssdeirsthwoafscmreomreembruunldeaenwe:hiaclharwgee ¯ see Flavors, page 15 wnere pets are treated like ~eople ".... "’~. * Bakery Treats * Bed & Breakfast (boarding) * Salon * Pet Supplies: Science Diet, IAMS, Nutro Dog Food THE DOG HOUSE BROOKSIDE 3311 S. Peoria, 744-5556 HIV Positive?. New state-of-the-art investigational drug therapies arenow available in the Southwest for HIWAIDS and opportunistic infections. If you are interested in participating in one of the promising new investigational therapies, call us at (918) 743-1000 Jeffrey A. 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We had a flourless chocolate cake that was filled with chocolate mousse, served on a mirror of raspberry puree, and decorated with fresh strawberries, fresh blueberries, mint leaves, and real, freshly whipped unsweetened cream. Good, but we couldn’t eat it all, and.the gateaux was everso slightly overcooked. Alas, there was no espresso machine on the premises, so after dinner, we walked across the parking lot to the Novel Idea cafe to linger over cappuccinos and leer at the cute clerks selling books. Flavors also features a full bar and the wine list is interesting, emphasizing less encountered small California wineries. The food at Flavors, as one might expect from a Michael Fusco venture, is excellent, though it tends toward tile expensive (a veal chop with polenta was $28.95--but it looked divine!). Fusco is one of those chefs who has mastered~ the art of doing new & creative things with food in combinations which work, rather than shock. One can expect a pleasant & memorable dining experience from this exciting, new establishment. Just be sure to make reservations on the weekends. For film buffs who happen to be computer literate, I just received notice,of anew website, called "Popcorn Q", billed as the ultimate onlinehomefor the queermovingimage. The address is http://www.popeornq.com..According to my sources, it offers thousands of film & video descriptions (need help figuring out whatmovie to rent tonight?), sources for acquiring these films/videos, of course, graphics and photos, a directory of G/L film rests, a "Homo Home Film Fest", books to watch out for, Queer top tens, and lots o’ links. The programmer/author ofthe site is Jenni Olson, who also wrote the "Ultimate Guide toLesbian & Gay Film & Video", published in June. Not only an author, programmer, and Queer film archivist, she also produces for film and television. Hey Jenni ! Need a cheap actor/columnist-writer/ professional college student? Last but not least: if you saw the Academy Awards, you may have seen STOMP, an extraordinary dancing peicussion performance. They have come to Tulsa several times and make a point to see them if you have not done so. They will be at the PAC, Sept. 6-8 and tickets can be had from the PAC at 596-7111 or Carson Attractions at 584-2000. How To Do It First 30 words are $10. Each additional word is 25 cents. You may bring additional attention to your ad with: Bold Headline - $1, Adin capital letters - $1 Ad in bold capital letters - $2, Ad in box - $2 Ad reversed - $3, Tear sheet mailed - $2 Blind Post Office Box - $5 Please type or print your ad. Count the no. of words. (A word is a group of letters or numbers separated by a space.) Sendyour ad & payment to POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 with your name, address, tel. numbers (for us only). Ads will run in the next issue after received. TFN reserves the right to edit 6r refuse any ad. No refunds. Back in Tulsa G.W.M. 41, Gldlkg, HIV Pos. 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A downtown rejuvenation, with Central Park’s Grand Opening Celebration that benefits the United Way. ’~ Music by Debbie Campbell, Jim Sweeney, Bill Davis and an all-star band. ¯ A Taste of Tulsa provided by the finest restaurants in the downtown and midtown area -Camerelli’s, Interurban, Bravo!, Doubletree’s 7-West, Chimi’s, Bourbon Street Care, Louie Di’s and more. ¯ Professional fireworks display ¯ Horse drawn carriage rides ¯ Drawing for a Trip For Two Weekend Getaway to Miami-Beach ¯ Tour the Cityscape Views of Central Park that has 24 hour security, valet, heated outdoor, pool, lighted tennis courts., sauna/whirlpool, fitness center heart of the City living ’ 584-8400 and much more. , T’ne Liw’~ Begi.ns Now. ~,~ " " 410 West 7th (7th and Denvelr) a84-8400 .1~800-327-0555 iA portiofi of the pl"oceeds o~ each private ~residenc~.sold, dr ring the Central Park i o 1 iGrand O~emng MI ~nth,~be mad~ to ~e Uni~Way. ~o, don’t~ss this ~evenfi Come sup~ oft the ~ty, Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, August 15-September 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 9 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource August 15-September 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 9 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource James Christjohn Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Leane Gross Gerald Miller Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Tom Neal/Tulsa Family News Relation A related resource Tulsa Family News, July 15-August 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 9 Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Image PDF Online text Language A language of the resource English Type The nature or genre of the resource newspaper periodical Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Tulsa---Oklahoma Oklahoma---Tulsa United States Oklahoma Tulsa United States of America (50 states) Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context https://history.okeq.org/items/show/513 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 1996 adoption AIDS/HIV AIDS/HIV treatment arts and entertainment attorneys Barry Hensley Bars Bill Clinton Black and White Gala businesses churches comedy Community of Hope custody Dave Fleischer Entertainment Notes estate planning Follies Revue G. 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Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Communities -Our Families of the Heart December 15, 1995- January 14, 1996, Volume 3, Issue I National News Oregon Lesbian Activists Murdered : "MEDFORD, Ore. - Police in Medford, : Ore., report that they have located the ¯ bodies of Roxanne Ellis and Michelle "- Abdill; long-time lesbian activists who ¯ have been deeply involved in fighting off anti-gay ballot initiatives in the state for i several years. The 2 women, who had : been partners for 12 years, were found in : the back of a pickup trnek belonging to ¯ Ellis. The couple were last seen on Dec. 4 : see Murder, page 11 : Hearings Feature Anti-Gay Agenda Washington, DC By the end of Dec. 6th, the "Parents, Schools and Values," Congressional hearing revealed itself-to be precisely what youth advocates had feared: a taxpayer funded platform for anti-gay extremists. The two day hearing came to a close today before the House Economic and Employment Subcommittee on Oversight and Investigations.. The hearings became the focus of a national outcry when Lou Sheldon, an anti-gay extremistandChairman of the Traditional Values Coalition, claimed the hearings were scheduled at his request to discuss the "promotion of homosexuality in the public schools." see House, page 11 Hawaii Commission Urges Gay Marriage HONOLULU-The Honolulu Advertiser " has reported that the state commission " created to evaluate gay and lesbian mar- , riages will urge the legislature to "change ¯ Hawaii law toallow gay couples to marry." " The Commission on Sexual Orientation " and Law was created after the Hawaii Supreme Court ordered alower court to review a suit bylesbian andgay couples to " get mamage licenses, saying that in order : to refuse thelicenses the state had to prove ¯ a "corn pelling interest" to deny licenses because of the gender of the 2 people " involved. The commission has not yet ¯ released any actual recommendations, but the paper reported that the commission’s ¯ report will be distributed for public comsee Hawaii, page 12 " Visitation Rights ¯ Case to Continue ¯ SayS-High Court 2 WASHINGTON- The U.S. Supreme " Court has let stand; without comment, a ¯ Wisconsin statesupreme court ruling that ¯ would let .the former parmer continue ; with her court battle to have visitation ¯ rights withher ex-lover’s biological son. ¯ After Etsbeth Knott, the biological mother- "- of the boy, and Sandra Lynn Holtzman, " ended their 10-year relationship, Knott ¯ attempted to prevent Holtzman from see: ¯ ing the 6-year-old boy. The Wisconsin " Supreme Courtearlier tiffs year overturned ¯ a state lower court ruling denying ¯ Holtzman any rights, and ordered the case 12 Bill Stoskopf& Mark Lackey of Black & White Charities present gifts to SharOn Thoele of the HIVResource Consortium One ofmany organizations at the World ($5000) &to Claudette Peterson ofTOHR AIDS Day March at the Univ. of Tulsa, ($2500) from this year’s fundraisers. see related stories this page and page 8. PFLAG was also a beneficiary ($2500). ¯ PFLAG, Thwarted In TV Effort, Turns To Print Campaign For Anti-Hate Message ¯"" The Tulsa chapter of Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, in response ~ to the difficulties encountered in getting their Project Open Mind anti-hate commercials ~ on television inTulsa, have begun a campaign for a signature advertisement to run in The ¯ Tulsa World. The ad calls for Tulsans to stand against"hatred, hate speech and violence" ¯ against individuals based on their sexual orientation and "to recognize the strong link ~ between hate speech, teen suicide and violent physical attacks..." The Tulsa Worldis on ] record as having a policy banning the use of the words, Gay or Lesbian in advertising ¯ but apparently have chosen to allow an exception for this ad.The ad is scheduled to run ¯ sometime early this next year. ; Two Project Open Mind television commercials were to be tested in Tulsa, Houston : &Atlanta. InTulsa, ouly Ch. 2,KTULbriefly aired one of the pair but stopped. Attorneys ¯ for the Christian Broadcasting Network, who objected to the use of footage of evangelist ¯¯ Pat Robertson &Jerry Falwell, had threatened legal action against stations broadcasting the commercials. PFLAG is asking individuals and organizations, dubs, cong~:,e&atio~as, ¯ etc. to sign the anti-hate ad. There is no cost since funds that were to be iised ~6 buy TV ¯ air time will now oar for the-orint ad. Formore information call the PFLAG at 749-4901. ~r / ’ AIDS Day: Tulsa & Elsewhere NEW YORK - "Shared Rights, Shared Responsibilities" was the theme of.World AIDS Day, as the United Nations announced a massive global mobilization program to deal with the epidemic. From UN Secretary-General Boutros Boutros- Ghali to prominent Hollywood film personalities, from the largest cities to smaller communities, hundreds of thousands of people and some 7,.000 groups in 190 localities around the world marked the day in a varxety of ways. In Tulsa, the event was marked by Interfaith AIDS Ministries annual march and memorial service held this year at the University of Tulsa. Over 300 igeople attended with many organizations carrying banners. The service featured speakers, Jason Smith of TOHR’s Testing Clinic and attorney and longtime community. activist., Bob Inglish. Choirs from Family of Faith MCC, Tulsa Family Chorale and FirSt Presbyterian Church performed. TU Provost Dr. Lewis Duncan, the Rev. Ken McIntosh, the Rev. Henry Knight provided welcome or prayers, and Dr. Doreen Wood read a World AIDS Day proclamation from Mayor M. Susan Savage. The American Foundation for AIDS Research (AmFAR), a prominent nonprofit U.S. group that has been headed by actress Elizabeth Taylorannounced that it is awarding.nearly a million dollars in research grants to 14 scientists working on the epidemic. The foundation also named American actress Sharon Stone to 3 World 1/2M AIDS Cases WASHINGTON-Somany young Americans - one of ever." 92 young men and one of every 33 young black men - are believed infected with HIV that it threatens to become a deadly "rite of passage" in this country, said Philip Rosenberg of the National Cancer Institute. Rosenberg’s comments in the journal Science, coincide with an announcement by the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention that the AIDS epidemic has now reached 501,310 cases in the U.S. since 1981 with 311,381 deaths. The sobering statistics illuminate the government’s warnings that AIDS is quickly turning into more of a threat to the nation’s youth, even as it tapers off among older people. Using CDC. data, Rosenberg also estimated that one in every 60 Hispanic men see AIDS, page 3 White House. AIDS Conf. Heard in Tulsa WASHINGTON-"Wecan conquer this ," said President Clinton in convening the first White House conference on AIDS in~ the 15 years of the epidemic’s history, bringing together teachers, doctors, researchers, people withHIV and their family. In Tulsa, local HIV activists and specialists gathered to listen to the conference at the University Center at Tulsa. After the broadcast, locals intended to begin planning for current efforts to respond to the epidemic. Outside the Executive Office meeting in DC, however, protesters and AIDS activists demonstrated, charging that the conference i Rob Hill To Run For i School Bd. Seat 6 : Rob Hill, social services specialist with ¯ Helpline for 15 years, announces his candidancy for Tulsa Public Schools Dis- " trict 6. Hill is a graduate of Will Rogers High Schogl and a 1968 graduate of North- :: eastern.. State University in Tahlequah, ¯ with a Bachelors in Psychology. ; "I hope to bring my experience and ¯ knowledge of Tulsa’s community ser- ¯ vices and resources to Tulsa Public ¯ Schools," says Hill. "I have first hand : knowledge to help our schools deliver ¯ high quality services as efficiently as pos- ¯ sine. I’m committed to combining fiscal ¯ conservatism with the best quality education for our children." see Hill. p. 12 TOHR Votes for ¯ Community Center ¯ Tulsa moved a little closer to having a ¯ community meeting place when mem- ¯ bers of Tulsa Oklahomans for Human ¯ Rights (TOHR) voted at an emergency ~ meeting Nov. 21 to authorize TOHR of- ¯ ricers to put together an offer on a prop- - erty. As of press time, the deal with the ¯ current owner is still in negotiation but ~t ¯ is hopeful that the issues can be resolved : so that renovation of the building might ¯ ..~ti~_,.~g~: ’,~ v ex,t y-eaL At tlaat time, tnere ~W’Wi~.I~"’e a~ -n"~~."’d’ for’"c"o~’ "~;" ty" volunteers ¯ to provide painting, ci~-up, and light :,ocoi~structiOt~ work. Info: 743-GAYS, INSIDE EDITORIAL P. 2 DIRECTORY P. 2 NEWS BRIEFS P. 4 HEALTH BRIEFS P. 6 CALENDAR P. 9 EUREKA PAGES P. 10-11 New Pentecosta Church Welcomes Gays & Lesbians The Rev. Clay Cody and Agape’ Christian Fellowship, a new Pentecostal congregation, have announced that they will begin holding worship services at the Sheridan Center, Suite H, at 21st and Sheridan Road. The services will be held at 10:30 am beginning on December 31. Pastor Cody, formerly an Assembly of GodPastor Evangelist, believes that there are many Gay, Lesbian andTransgendered Pentecostal Christians in the Tulsa area who have had to worship in "mainstream’" churches and who were unable to express fully themselves as GayChristians. Agape’ Christian Fellowship "extends the fight hand of fellowship" to everyone regardless of race, gender or sexual orientation. The Pentecostal movement had its origin in the widespread desire in the hearts of men and women for greater closeness to God. It is a reaction to the formalism, coldness and .unbelief Pentecostal Christians perceive in modern churches. Pentecostal Christians profess a belief in their experience of the supernatural power of God in their lives and their faith in the Bible which they consider the infallible, 918.583.1248 POB 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-0140 TulsaNews@aol.com Publisher/Editor Issued.on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of Tom Neal this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family Assistant Editor News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without James Christjohn written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or Writers/contributors photo does not indicate thal person’s sexual orientation. Phyl Boler-Schmidt Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise Barry Hensley noted, must be signed & becomes the sole property of Tutsa Family Pat Morehead News. All correspondence should be sent to the address above. Each Staff, Photographer reader is entitled to one free copy of each edition at distribution JD Jamett points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. With this issue, Tulsa Family News begins our third year. We give our thanks to you, our readers & also to those who have-helped us; with stories& with criticism. Especially, we thank, our writers,- our advertisers & our enormously patient printers whomakebringing qualitynews reporting toTulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Transgender folk, families & friends possible. This is a labor of love, & sometimes, a little profit. So, when we’re fending off censorship or the flack that comes with having a viewpoint, it helps to remember the praise we’ve received. We were proud when distinguished former CBS News journalist, Ann Northrup, lauded Tulsa Family News, lamenting that she wished NYC had a paper like this. And we’ve heard similar praise from others. We promase you to continue bringing you the best local & national news coverage of any Oklahoma Gay paper. We have faith in Tulsa’s promise &with your help, Tulsa wil1 get better and better for us & our families. Happy holidays - Tom Neal Suck & Blow Syndrome by Pat ,.~lorehead Merry Christmas andn~iLV the Ne~:Year bring you a better yearth~ 1995. 95.hasbeen a weird year. I’m not sure we ~3an view it as a "watershed" year, but it has certainly pointed out the absolute schizophrenia of our national culture. ~I learned a long time ago of a psychological phenomenon referred to as the "suck and blow" syndrome which is where I think America is currently trapped. The suck and blow ,syndrome in essence states that one can’t.simultaneously "suck andblow". In other words it is not possible, in a healthy mental State, to perform to conceptual opposites. Translation, you are not in a healthy mental state when you are obsessed with a "pro-life" crusade that sanctions killing physicians who perform abortions as the way to advance your cause.. But it is exactly this suck and blow syndrome which seems to be driving almost every cultural force in America today. It is schizophrenic tO foist Off a life view of 1950’s and 60’s television programming in an America where elementary students carry guns. Ozzie and Harriet never had to deal with that situation. Or for cable compames to promote a KIDS CLICKER remote control to protect children from accessing what the very same cable provider carries on ft’s other channels. It is suck and blow time when in order to improve life in America for the "next generation" politicians are prepared to unfnnd and dismantle Environmental Protection laws. Or for those same politicians to continually summon images of family life and cultural values of an agrarian America which no longer exists. And at the same time to sell off the National Parks of this country in order for businesses to rape and plunder those same park lands. As my uncle used to say, someone needs to just slap some sense into us. I have hopes that 1996 will be the year when that happens. The hate-mongers see UPC, page 3 - MCC~Grehte~-TiJIsa- Responds to TFN First, Rev. Alice Jones left voluntarily because she felt God’s calling in anew direction. Rev. Jones served as pastor of MCC of Greater Tulsa for over 16 years. She frequently defended the whole Tulsa Gay/Lesbian community in situations, such as the recent Human Rights Commission hearings. Anyone who leads any group for over 16 years will have detractors who disagree with some things. Rev. Jones accomplished many things, and the congregation of MCC of Greater Tulsa are proud to have had her as our pastor. Regarding implied problems with the District of UFMCC, it is true that we were changed from a chartered.church to a commissioned church. The demands on a chartered church have changed in recent years, and this change has some important advantages for MCC of Greater Tulsa as we seek a new pastor. The main change is in the pastor compensation package, giving the local church greater flexibility. To imply a conflict exists between MCC of [(]reater] Tulsa and District leaders is wrong and inaccurate. The Board of Directors are working closely with the District on the pastoral search. Although, like many churches from time to time, we are behind in our tithes to the District. -~ However, the Board of Directors and the congregation are taking steps to correct this, and we will become a Chartered Church again. Regarding perceived irregularities in our Financial Records, the finances ofMCC of Greater Tulsa have always been open to any member or friend of the Church. Open Board meetings and Congregational meetings are held regularly, and anyone attending may ask questions. AnAudit Committee, of church members, are currently reviewing the Church records to clarify any bookkeeping errors. Volunteers handling church records may sometimes make errors, but there is no question as to the honesty and integrity of those involved. As MCC of Greater Tulsa seeks anew pastor, the members and the Board of Directors look forward to many years ahead serving the needs of the local church and the entire Tulsa Gay/Lesbian Community. - The Board of Directors & Members Editor’s response: TFN would like to make this correction: Alice Jones did notpreach on Sunday morning, Oct. 29 as we stated in .our last issue. We regret that error and apologizefor our mistake. However, we stand by the accuracy of the rest of the artgcle. ¯ TFN also applauds MCC of Greater Tulsa for : resp~idihgpublicdlly tdfU~ article~ We agreew~th ~ several oftheir points. The concerns raised in our : article are not, however, the ones they addressed. ~ The question is: what’s going onfinancially? What makes this issue a matter ofpublic concern ¯ are the size of thefinancial irregularities and the ’ appearance of no management overstght. The ¯ amountunaccountedfor,possibly as much as $6,000 ¯ or more, is significant. This is about 10% of the ¯ annual income of this church. It is too much for ¯ members to dismiss with a comment, " volunteers ¯ make mistakes..." Also in the UFMCC, the pastor ¯ serves not only as staffbut also as moderator ofthe ¯ board ofdirectors. And in that role, as "president" ¯ of the board, that person is resposibility for the ¯ proper functioning ofan organization, especially ¯ overseeingfinancial accountability, see MCC, p. 3 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Concessions, 3340 S Peoria *Ground Zero, 311 E. 7th *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Time’n’Time Again, 1515 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd *Wild Nights, 2405 E. 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"That’s a very. disturbing future," Rosenberg said. wasn’t about the disease at all, but was "election year rhetoric." Inside, Clinton underscored his administration’s commitment to battling the .epidemic, saying he had increased funding for AIDS research and treatment during his term in office, and promising to fight off efforts by the Republican-controlled Congress to cut AIDS spending next year. Clinton also announced that early next year Vice President AI Gore will host a conference of scientists and representatives from drug manufacturers to try to find ways to speed up the development of promising AIDS medications. "Our common goal must ultimately be a cure," Clinton told the some 300 people attending. "A cure for all those living with HIV, and a vaccine to protect the res t ofus from the virus. A cure and a vaccine - that must be our first and top priority." Although those attending the conference generally applauded Clinton, it was also dear that pressure on tomfoolery! even at our worst, better than~the rest Tulsa’s best Pride Store at Family of Faith MCC 5451-e So. Mingo, Sat. noon-6, 583-1248 New location coming in ’96 ¯ the administration is far from easing up. ¯ Dr. Edward Morse, a research sociologist ¯ from Louisiana, also challenged the ad- ¯ ministration to make some tough deci- ¯ sions about the epidemic. "There is no ¯¯ point in beating around the bush," Morse ~aidin presenting Clinton with areport on ¯ IV drug abuse and HIV. "We must face ¯ the issue of needle exchange. A third of ¯ AIDS cases are based on substance abuse. ¯ That is a major key in the solution to this ¯ problem." ¯ When an activist shouted that Clinton ¯ hadfailed to keep his campaign promises ¯ about AIDS, Clinton vehemently rejected ¯ the charge. Clinton quickly replied, "We ¯ had a set of recommendations that. we ~ received whe~n w~got’here, m~st of w.hieh. ¯ have been i~mplemented. I am very sorry ¯ that thereis not a cure. I amvery sorry that ¯ there is not a vaccine. I regret that every- " thing I have asked for has not been ap- ¯ proved by the Congress." ¯ have started stirring the pot and stuff is ; beginning to slop out over the edges. ¯ Things may well get worse before they ¯ get better. But I have faith that ultimately ¯ th~ basic decency and common sense of ordinary people will take command. As Mr. Lincoln said, you can fool some of the : people all of the time, and all of the people : some time, but you can’t fool all of the ¯ people all of the time. I guess those two things are my mes- ; sage of positive hope for all of us for the ¯ coming new year. I believe in the basic "- decency ofordinary people and their com- ¯ mon sense to react when things get to ¯ weird. I suggest we all start practicing THEY’LL EAT IT UP! 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And one more suggestion for the new year: always keep your powder dry, otherwise it tends~to cake up when applied around the eyes. HO HO HO! Comments, responses and cheap shots can be E-mailed to TulsaNews@aol.com We hope that there is a good explanation for the discrepancy between amount presented in theyear~endfinancial report and the much lower amount reported to be in the church’s bank account(s) at the congregational meeting. However, even if there are explanations for every dime, or even if this is an accounting error repeatedforyears, the existance ofsuch a large discrepancy in thefinancial report speakspoorly ofAliceJones’ performance, not as. pastor, but as moderator - the person ultimately responsible. When this discrepancy is combined with the issue of back tithes owed and other outstanding debts, some would say Alice Jones and her board failed ~o do their job well enough. Mismanagement is not dishonesty and mismanagement doesn’t negate the good Alice Jones has done but the church and our communities do have a right to expect accurate accounting. TO DISCO head a 3-year fundraising campaign. Hundreds of museums around the world marked the day by observing "A Day Without Art," an effort by art institutions to dramatize the effect of the epidemic on the creative community. Tulsa’s Philbrook Museum draped the Rodin statue that graces its entry to recognize the day. On the Internet, scores of World Wide Websites from Japan to Finland participated in their own version of the event, dubbed "A Day Without Graphics," by going blank, removing graphics and pho- ::r tos :for the ’day. Singers from the’Metro- :- p01itan Opera in New York performed at the United Nations, while at the city’s St. Mark’s Church, Dancers Responding to AIDS performed 24 hours nonstop, featuring dancers from the Paul Taylor and Merce Cunningham dance companies. And at least 165 cable systems and local television stations had slated a variety of AIDS-related programming, including broadcasts of "’Philadelphia," "And the Band Played On" and "Longtime Compamon" on leading premium cable systems. HIV/AIDS Education & Volunteer Training Class The HIV Resource Consortium will hold a comprehensive but non-technica] program on HIV & AIDS issues. The class will be held on a weekend and five weekday evenings beginning Jan. 13. Space ~s limited - call for more info: 749-4194. The Consortium serves as the center for s.ervices for persons affected or infected .@"...wi!~H:IV/.At.DS in northeast Oklahoma. pecialized sholo, actively buying, selling & consigning Deco, 50’s moderne furniture, kitchen kitsch, psychedelic collectables, 50"s lamps, -: costume jewelry + accessones, 3213 e, 15th 749-3620 Open Arms Open Minds open Hearts Saint Aidan’s 4045 NO. Cincinnati. 425-7882 Saint John’s 4200 So. Atlanla PI.. 742-7381 Trinity 5Ol so. C~ndnnatL 582-4128 The Episcopal Church Welcomes You News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Poet E. Hemphill Dead : ronym that stands for "double pigs." An open letter to Mugabe " areas as insurance and pension Key West MCC Excluded PHILADELPHIA-Poet, author, editor and rights activist Essex Hemphill has died of AIDS-related complications. Mr. Hemphill, author of highly acclaimed "Ceremonies: Prose and Poetry," also worked on the documentaries "Looking for Langston," "Tongues Untied" and "Black Is ... Black Ain’t." He was 38 years old at the time of his death. Nasty Reaction to ’Gay Mortgages’ in Australia " MEL’BOIJRNE,’~U~tr~fi~L~e Australian gay paper Brother Sister News has reported that an announcement earlier in November by Australian Mortgages that it would start offering discounted bank home loans to gay and lesbian couples early next)’ear has brought the lending institution a number of hostile phone calls. including abomb threat. Despite the negative reaction from some Aussies, however, a spokesperson for the firm said it had no intention of backing away from the reduced mortgage rate offer. "’We are not going to back off," Australian Mortgages" Ron Guthrie told the paper. "I’m just saddened and very disappointed at the attitude of some people.’" The company said the reduced rates for lesbian and gaY couples would probably be about 1.5% lower than standard marketrates. Australian Mortgage Saidit had decided to offer the discounted home loans partly because of the history of antigay bias in the mortgage .industry, but also because same-sex couples represent an excellent market segment for the housing industry. Guthrie’said that many gay couples are fairy well-paid professiohals with 2 incomes and no children. "They are true DINKS,’" he said, using the ac- ¯ income, no kids, single.’" ¯ Partnership Ceremony ¯ Proposal in S.F. ¯ SAN FRANCISCO - The San Francisco Board of Supervisors ¯ has received a proposed mea- ¯ sure that would authorize the ¯ county clerk’s office to perform ¯ domestic partnership ceremonies similar to the marriage ceremonies it performs for couples who ¯ get married at city hall. The city has had a domestic partner regis- ¯ tration ordinance for seve_ral " ~ years, l~tit the d~unly cl~rk’~ 6ffice has no authority tO officiate- ¯ at any civil ceremony connected ¯ with registration. The proposed ¯ measure to authorize performing the ceremony, which would ¯ convey no particular legal sta- ¯ tus, was introduced by Supervi- ¯ sor Barbara Kaufman. ¯ Mugabe Rejects Critics ¯ AUCKLAND, New Zealand - ¯¯ According to the New Zealand Herald, Zimbabwe President ¯ Robert Mugabe said he was un- ¯ concerned about sharp criticism ¯ he has received for his verbal ¯ attacks againsthomosexuals. On :,,,leaving the annual Common- "¯ wealth Heads of Government meeting, Mugabe brushed off reporters questions about criticism he has received from hu- ¯ man rights activists, saying the topic was "abhorrent.’" Lesbian ¯ and gay activists protested out- " side the meeting of the Com- ¯ monwealth Heads of Govern- " ment, to draw attention to the anti-gay attacks by Mugabe. Earlier this year, Mugabe’s gov- ¯ ernment barred the Gays & Les- ¯ bians of Zimbabwe from run- ¯ ning a literature booth at an in- " ternational book fair in Harare, ¯ the nation’s capital. In a speech ¯ he called gays "’sodomists and sexual perverts" and later said gays were "worse than dogs and Miracleglass Neil Ray Owner EXPRESS POOLS & SPAS (918) 743-9994 6310 S. Peoria Tulsa, OK 74136 from activists said, "We protest : moststrongly against these statements as we.believe that you have seriously endangered the lives and good health of a significant minority of your citizens." Federal Court OKs Anti-Bias Protections SAN FRANCISCO - The 9th . Circuit Court of Appeals’ governing Judicial Council has voted to include anti-bias protections that include sexual orientation, ifi~’fir’si ~d~r’al coh~t di~tfiCi io adopt such a policy. The newly adopted regulations apply to all circuit employees, as well as to workers under the supervision of the federal courts in the large 9th Circuit, including federal probation officers, marshals and public defenders. The new employment policy was adopted after the federal Judicial Conference, which is headed by Supreme Court Chief Justice Will- ,am Relmquist, ordered all the federal circuit appeals courts to include anti-discrimination regulations, although the Conference’s recommendations only extended to race, gender, religion, age and disability. An initial recommendation to include sexual orientation protections was dropped by a Judicial Council committee earlier this year, but when the Council reached ¯ the point of a vote on new em- ~ ployment protections xt put the sexual orientation protections back in with the approval of all 9 ¯ Council members. The 9th Circuit includes California, Wash- " ington, Oregon, Idaho, Montana, Nevada, Arizona, Hawaii, ". Alaska, Guam and the Northern ¯ Mariana Islands. : Canadian Gov’t. Adds : Gay Couples Benefits : OTYAWA - Canada’s govern- ¯ ment has taken a giant step and extended at least some of the ¯" benefits enjoyed by mamed fed- ] eral employees to gay and les- ] bian partners of government ¯ workers as well. CanadianRights ¯ activists lauded the Treasury : Board’s decision, which affects : more than 200,000 government workers, as a"great step forward : for equality" in the country. The new policy hardly represents _" putting same-sex couples on an ¯ equal footing withmamedworkers, however, and does not in- " dude such ~mportant traditional at all. But it does break dramatic new ground, activists said, and : does allow govenmlent employ-. ees to take a leave of absence for ,an ailing partner, permits workers to have bereavement leave in the event of file death of a partner, and extends to a worker’s partner the same .flight and housing allowances g~ven to spouses of govenunent employees on work asst~m~ents around the cotmtry. Conservative le~slators quickly attacked the move, saying die government had made the policy change "behind the back" of Parlimnent. The Canadian legislature recently rejected a measure that wouldhave given legal reco~fition to stone-sex couples. The new benefits pro.- granl does not apply to semiautonomous government finns (such as the Canadian Broadcasting Corp.), to the Royal Canadian Mounted Police, to the nation’s armed forces, or to Parliament itself, which all regulate their own employee policies and benefits. So. Africa May End Military Ban CAPE TOWN, South Africa - The defense committee of South Africa’s Parliament has approved a proposal that writes into the nation’s military policy a prohibition against discrimination based on sexual orientation in the country’s armed forces. African National Congress representative Lindiwe Sisulu said following the committee vote that the policy decision wouldn’t be binding on the government, but would nevertheless carry considerable political weight for any future administration. Military Recruiters Face Legal Challenge in CT NEW HAVEN, Conn. - The Connecticut Supreme Court has ¯ finished hearing arguments in a ¯ gay rights case that challenges : the right of state-supported schools to permit military recrmters on their campuses. The case argues that the University : of Connecticut violated state ¯ anti-bias laws by allowing mili- : tary recruiters on campus be- : cause of the U.S armed forces’ : policy of excluding lesbian and : gay. service members. Discriminauon based on sexual orientation is illegal under state law. From Christmas Parade (EY WEST, Fla. - Christmas arrived in this south Florida resort community with a resounding "bah, humbug" for gays and esbians who make up a substantial portion of the town’s population when the Lower Keys Mira sterial Associatton refused to allow the local Metropolitan Co~nmunity Church in its annual Christmas parade, the first time the predominantly, gay church has asked to parttopate in the event. The Rev. Gary Redwine, who heads up the celebration, denied the association’s decision was anu-gay, but said allowing MCC to join would be contrary to "the image of biblical morality and family that we wish to project." On the day of the event, several hundred protesters clustered outside one of the largest churches along the parade route in silent protest and were joined by ministers from a number of local churches who refused to participate because of MCC’s exclusion. The number of people participating in the parade this year was reportedly almost half what it usually is. Reporter’s Anti-Lesbian Remarks Confirmed NEW YORK - In May, Valerie Hehnbreck, a reporter with the Wilmington (Del.) News-Jour- ¯ hal caused a major flap in the ". sports world when she quoted ¯ CBS-TV golf commentator Ben : Wright in an interview as saying that women aren’t as good at go : Ifas men becanse they are"handi- -" capped by having boobs" and ¯ that "lesbians in the sport hurt : women’s golf"and were turning ¯ itinto a"butch game"that scared ¯ away sponsors. Wright ada- ~ mantly denied saying any of the ~ things Hdmbreck attributed to : him. CBS accepted his denial ¯ and shortly thereafter renewed Wright’s 4-year contract. But now, in the Dec. 4 issue of the subscribers-only "Golf Plus" ~ edition, no less a source than ". Sports Illustratedhas confirmed ~ that Wright did indeed make the .- remarks. The "Golf Plus" edition quotes DanJenkins, a sports writer, who said he talked to ] Wright shortly after the flap ¯. erupted. "I asked him" Did you ¯ say it?’ And he said, "Of course ¯ I said it. But I was granted com- .- plete anonymity.’" The article, ¯ entitled"Living With a Lie,"also LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: 671-2010 2642 E. 21st Street ¯ Suite 170 . Tulsa, Oklahoma 74114 Off: 918-749-8374 ° Res: 918-582-7672 ° Fax: 918-747-1795 Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Where God Uplifts All People Sunday Service, 10:45 am Wednesday Service, 6:30 pm Home Cell Groups, 2rid & 4th Sun. 1623 No. Maplewood, 838-1715 BROOKSIDE JEWELRY 4649 South Peoria 743-$272 Corner of 48th & Peori~ 9:30 - 5, Mon. - Fri. Open Saturdays thru holidays! News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News quotes Ken Doig, a part-time CBS-TV stafferanda golfcaddy, who told the magazine he listened to Wright being interviewed by Helmbreck and. confirmed the quotes. "I heard Ben say boobs (get in the way of women golfers’ swing). I heard ¯ such a respected theologian in ¯ the church’s evangelical wing, which generally opposes any acceptance of homosexuals ¯ within the church. "The Bible has been misinterpreted by ¯ evangelicals,"Vasey said. "They ¯ read anti-gay meanings into the him say lesbianism h,,urts in get- ¯ Bible to explain theirfears. There ting sponsorships, Doig is ." is no text on the lips of Jesus quoted as telling the magazine. " Christ which condemns homo- "I’m a golfer and golf is a game ¯ of integrity. I believe in telling ¯ the truth." The "Golf Plus" edition is not sold on newsstands, _" but goes out to some half-mil- ¯ lion subscribers of the maga- ¯ zine. ’Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ Goes to Appeals Court " RICHMOND, Va’. - In an un- _. usual step, all 13 judges of the . U.S. Fourth Circuit Court of Appeals heard the appeal of Lt. Paul Thomasson in his challenge ¯ to the Defense Department’s so- . called "don’t ask, don’t tell" policy ofexcluding homosexuals . from military service. ° Thomasson’s case is the first ° against the new policy to reach the federal appeals court level. : Thomasson told his command- o ing officer he was gayjust 5 days . after the new policy went into effect. The former Navy lieutenant’s attorneys argued that Thomasson’s discharge violated his First Amendment rights of free speech. But Justice Department attorneys representing the Defense Department argued that .by acknowledging that he is gay, it was reasonable to assume he has a "propensity" to engage in homosexual acts, whichmilitary officials insist "undermines the morale of t he U.S. armed services." The appeals court is not expected to rule on the case until sometime next year, No Support in Bible for Anti-Gay Attitude LONDON - British gay rights activists found unusual supp6rt in their quest to reform the view of the Church of England on homosexuality with a prominent evangdical theologian’s book that argues there is no biblical support for church con demnation of homosexuality. The Rev. Michael Vasey, a lecturer at St. John’s theological college in Durham, expounded his views on the scriptures in a just-published book Strangers andFriends. His arguments have been made before, but not by sexuality." Vasey’s book was published as the church’s general synod was winding up its annual meeting. Activists also made their point ~to church leaders as members of the rights groupOutRage! nailed ademand for a "Queer Reformation" of the Anglican Church entitled "Four Theses Against Church Homophobia" to the doors of Westminster Abbey. "What’s needed is a new Reformation to eradicate homophobia from the Church of England," said Peter Tatchdl of OutRage! "Anglican endorsement of anti-gay discrimination is a corruption of morality and a violation of the dignity oflesbian andgay people. We want the synod to overturn church support for homophobic policies." Romanian Parliament Keeps Anti-Gay Laws BUCHAREST - The Romanian Chamber of Deputies has rejected a draft proposal modifying the country’s penal code to, among other things, at least partly decriminalize homosexuality among consenting adults. The proposed change would have made homosexual acts punishable only if they created a "public scandal" and was proposed in part to help ease Romania’s entry into the European Commuuity, which requires member nations to assure basic equality for all citizens, including protections for gays and lesbians. At least 2 EC nations have already indicated they will vote against admitting Romania to the continental union if the anti-gay laws are not repealed, Jenny Jones Won’t Testify in Murder ~ase DETROIT - A county court judge has ruled that television ¯ talk show hostJemay Jones won’t have to testify in the trial of Jonathan Schmitz, who is charged with killing Scott Amedure, a gay man, after he confessed to being a "secret admirer" of Schmitz on the nationally broadcast TV show. Attorneys for Schmitz had wanted Jones to testify during the trial, but the judge heating the unusual case ruled thatJones’ taped statements and a sworn deposition she is expected to give is all that would be required of her. Schmitz claims he was misled into thinking the "secret admirer" he would meet on the show was a woman and says he was humiliated when he discovered it was Amedure. Three days after the TV program, authorities say Schmitz shot Amedure to death in nearby Orion Township. Gay Book Ban Not Legal OLATHE, Kansas - A federal district court has ruled that the Olathe, Kansas, school board acted from its own anti-gay bias and not out of the best interests in the education ofstndents when it ordered the novel "Annie On My Mind"removed from school libraries. Itis unclearifthe school board will appeal the ruling. The book, which portrays a young girl’s growing awareness of her sexual orientation, has been highly commended by the American Library Association and other groups, but also has become a lightening rod for antigay activists throughout the country. UK Court Upholds Ban LONDON The British Court of Appeal has upheld a lower court ruling supporting the Defense Ministry’s prohibition against homosexuals in the country’s armed forces, ruling that the ban "’cannot ... be sagmatized as irrational at the time these appellants were discharged." Earlier this year a lower court had ruled against the 3 gay men and 1 lesbian who have sued because of their discharges based on their sexual orientation. The 4 ex-service members vowed to appeal their case to Britain’s House of Lords - the highest judicial body in the nation- and then to the European Court if they lose in the Lords. Detroit Plans for Domestic Partnership DETROIT- A Detroit task force is in the process of wor-king on a proposal that would, ifapproved by the city council, allow gay. and nongay couples to register as domestic partners. The proposal would also give live-in partners of city workers health and other benefits like those currently enjoyed by the married spouses of city employees. The partnership registration would give domestic partners the same visitation rights as spouses or parents at all city hospitals and jails. Domestic partners of a parent or legal guardians of children would also have access to their child’s school records. The task force expects to present its completed proposals to the city council by the end of this year. N.J. Judge Rules Against Gays-in Boy Scouts TRENTON, N.J. - N.J. Superior CourtJudge Patrick McGannhas ruled that a local chapter of the Boy Scouts of America didn’t violate state antl-bias laws when it kicked out John Dale, who is gay, in 1990. In his ruling, McGann cited the biblical story ofSodom and Gomorrah, saying that "all religions deem the act of sodomy a serious moral wrong,’" adding that it was "unthinkable" that the Boy Scouts would accept gay men in leadership roles. "The criminal law has changed," McGam~ wrote. "The moral law - as to the act of sodomy - has not." AI Gore - Not a "Beauty" WASHINGTON -An unnamed gqfite House aide has told gossip columnists that although AI & Tipper Gore showed up for a Halloween party dressed as "’Beauty and the Beast, "it.wasn’t exactly what the. "second family" had at first planned. According to the aide, the Vice President had iuitially wanted to go as "’Beauty" accompauied by Mrs. Gore as the "’Beast. "The reports indicated that the Gores were finally convinced to go in the more conventional costumes only after political advisors suggested the public might not quite be ready "for a vice president who is a cross dresser.’" Tasmanian Law Fight SYDNEY - Rights activists in Australia have filed a brief with the country’s High Court in an effort to formally have Tasmania’s sodomy laws declared unconstitutional and stricken from the books. After a Uuited Nations comnfission declared the Tasmmfian law a violation of interuational human rights, the Australian Parliament enacted legislation guaranteeing the right of privacy in an effort to nullify the laws, but the state of Tasmania has refused to repeal its local anti-gay legislation. Activists say they will use the federal privacy laws in their case, but say it is important to have the Tasmania law overturned officially to remove the stigma associated with the criminalization of gay men in the state. Baptists Slam Disney TAlVIPA, Fla. -The Horida State Baptist Convention, one of the denomination’s largest, has called on its 1 million members to stop supporting Walt Disney movies, products and theme parks because of the finn’s recent decision to extend insurance benefits to same-sex domestic partners of its employees. The, resolution, which was overwhelmingly adopted by the state delegates, says in part that "Disney’~ moral leadership has been eroded by that decision, as well as its practice of holding homosexual theme nights at its parks." A spokesperson for the Walt Disney Co. said the finn "’regrets" the Florida Baptists have taken the stand they have, but so far the entertainment giant has refused to back away from the new benefits. Some Baptists indicated they would call for a boycott. It’s Time to Play. You’ve broken away from the routine. Together you’re about to explore a delicious new realm of the sensuous. 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We are proud to serve our communities with sensitive & timely information. 747-5466, POB 14011, Tulsa 74159 HIV Suppressor Found LONDON - Reporting in the prestigious British scientificjournal Nature, researchers with the Paul Erlick Institut in Germany say they have identified a naturally occurring substance in the immune system that acts as a natural defense ag ainst HIV by slowing the reproduction of the virus. While canuoning against seeing their finding as a breakthrough, the scientists said"they fOffr~d thaf i~nterleukifi:16 (IL- 16),which i’s producedby the body’ s T-cells known as CD8 cells, slowed reproduction ofHIV in laboratory tests. The researchers say that if tests of IL-16 with animals prove encouraging, they may begin human testing of the substance in about a year - a strong indication of their excitement about the finding. Their hope is that if the treatment can be effectively used it could perhaps be effective in keeping HIV from overwhelming a patient’ s immune system indefinitely. Effective HIV Inhibitor Drug BOSTON - Two studies in the New England Journal of Medicine report that an experimental drug that dogs the operation of a key HIV protein seems to keep it at bay for at least a while. The drug ritonavir, formerly known as A~T-538 and developed by Abbott Laboratories, is one of a promising new class of AIDS medicines known as protease inhibitors. AIDS researchers are excited about these new drugs because they. appear to both reduce the level of the°virus and to boost the immune system’ s strength. Although the scientists from the Academic Medical Center in Amsterdam and New York University’ s school ofmedicine who conducted the studies concluded that ritonavir was quick and effective in fighting HIV, resistance to the drug did develop over time. Abbott Laboratories quickly announced that it will make supplies of the experimental drug available to some 2,000 people with late-stage AIDS diseases and CD4 cell counts of 513 or less around the world through a lottery. For inforuaation about the Abbott Laboratories lottery, call 1-800-414-2437. Mechanism of ’Long-Term Su rvival’ Possibly Identified CHICAGO-; In a.small’-geale sm’dy published in the Proceedings ofthe National Academy of Sciences, researchers report that the’cellular response of a group of ’long-term survivors of HIV appears to help delay the progression of the virus. The team of researchers from the University of California at San Francisco, led by Dr. Jay A. Levy, compared the immune cells of people who had developed fullblown AIDS or had seriously compromised immune systems with other people infected with HIV butwho remained otherwise asvmptomatic for 10 years ormore. The CD~ immune cells of the long-term survivors produced greater amounts of proteins that help regulate "immune-system responses, the researchers report. This, the scientists say, helps keep the CD8 ceils active in fending off HIV, thereby stavingoff most of the impact of the virus longer. According tc the UC-SF researchers, the findings suggest that extra doses of the naturally occurring proteins,known as cytoklnes, might hdp more infected people stay healthier longer. FlPELITY Ho-t~AE HE6LTH CA-RE, INC. Tulsa Office 486-1174 800-999-3/!42 We provide comprehensive home health services 24 hours/day, seven dayslweek. The range ofservices include: Skilled nursing services (RN’s, LPN’s) Home health aides, Physical Therapy Speech Therapy, Occupational Therapy Medical Social Services, In-home psychiatric care Non-emergency transportation, Private duty nursing and Companion sitter services. This list is not all inclusive. Please contact our offices with specific treatment issues. FDA Committee Recommends 3 New AIDS Drugs \VASHINGTON The Food & Drug Administration’s Antiviral Drug Advisory Committee has recon~nended that the agency approve 3TC for both initial tream~ent of AIDS as welt as for advanced cases of the disease. Studies have indicated that the experimental drug, when used with AZT, reduced the spread of HIV in patients’ systems and helped bolster their immune response. The drug can have serious side effects in children, including possible pancreatitis, but appears to produce no greater side effects among adults than the AZT used alone does. The ¯ panel also recommended approv.ing the AIDS drug stavudine (whichis also known ¯ as d4T and Zerit), for people who are not responding to treatment with AZT. The ¯ advisory committee also recommended conditional approval of saquinavir, the : first protease inhibitor the panel has recommended approving to fight AIDS. Unlike other AIDS drugs, protease in- " hibitors work by preventing HIV i/self ¯ from replicating in the body and are con- " sidered the most promising new class of ¯ drugs in the epidemic. The conditional recommendation requires that saquinavir not be used as a single-drug treatment, but ¯ be prescribed along with nucleoside analogs. ¯ Non-Lethal HIV Identified : SYDNEY - A study based on a decade- " old sample of blood donations known as ¯ the Sydney Blood Bank Cohort has found ¯¯ that the blood of one gay man infected ¯ with HIV and the 7 blood recipients who became infected with the virus is infected ¯ with an entirely new - and harmless - . strain of HIV. The finding, reported in the journal Science, raises hopes that an AIDS vaccine can be devcloped using the new, benign virus s train. The researchers found that the unidentified gay man’ s blood had been used in transfusions between 1981- 84 before blood screening for HIV started in 1985. The gay man, however, never contracted AIDS. And when a Red Cross ,ocial worker began tracking people who should have been infected as a result of receiving the tainted blood, she found that after 10 years, none of the 7 recipients had become sick either although all are in fact HIV positive. The newly discovered strain has defects in its genetic elements, most notably a gene called "nef," which other studies have already shown is necessary for HIV to replicate itself.¢’~This allows the infected person’s immune system to deal with the virus - in other words, to stop it getung out of control," said Dr. Nicholas Deacon, who led the Australian research team. The discovery of the "neF" defect is especially important for possible vaccine development after studies on animals at the New Englaud Regional Primate Center showed that deleting "net" from the sirman (monkey) cousin of the virus, SIV, disarms the lethal microbe. HIV Infection Risks Among Lesbians, Bi Women CHICAGO Researchers with the San Francisco health department have reported in the American Journal ofPublic Health that lesbians and bisexual women are at small risk of HIV infection, a finding that contradicts the general idea thatthese women have no risk of contracting the virus. Researchers reported that 6 out of 498 bisexual women and lesbians tested in San Francisco and Berkdey during 1993 were infected with HIV, an infection rate of 1.2%. The researchers re- Free & Anonymous Finger Stick Method ~ B~! &for, but not exclusive to the Lesbian, Gay, & Bisexual Communities. Monday & Thursday evenings: 7-8:30 pm for testing, 7-9 pm for results. Daytime testing, Mon-Thurs by appointment. TOHR Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights 742-2927 4158 South Harvard, Suite E-2 2 doors east of the HIV Resource Consortium Look for our banner on testing nights¯ ported that they found no indication of transmission from woman-to-woman sexual contact among any of the 6 who were infected, however. Four of the infected women were both IV drug users and also reported having had unprotected sex with gay or bisexual men or male IV drag users - all high-risk groups. The other 2 infected women had had sex with men of tmknown risk status, but had not had sex with any female partners who were infected. The researchers said that educationand preventionprograms should stop.indicating that lesbians and bisexual women were at low risk of infection and should instead emphasize the importance of avoiding specific, high-risk behaviors. AnOther AIDS Drug Approved WASHINGTON - The Food & Drug Administration has quickly approved the use of lamivudine, also known as 3TC, in combination with AZT. The FDA move came just a few weeks after an advisory panel recommended approval of the combination treatment, and Glaxo, the manufacturer, said the drug would be available .quickly also - probably by the first week m December. According to Glaxo, the cost of3TC will be about the.same as that of AZT, which can Cost:several thousand dollars a year. A!DS-Type Vaccine 100% Effective in Monkeys WASHINGTON - Scientists have reported in the journal Science that an .experimental drug called PMPA suecgssfully prevented monkeys from becoming infected with the sinnan immunodeficiency virus (or SIV). In the study, none Of the 25 monkeys who were given Gilead Sciences’ experimental vaccine before or up to 24 hours after they were inoculated became infected with the simian version of the virus, while all 10 of the monkeys injected with salt water before inoculation with SIV as a control group contracted the disease. The researchers, led by Dr. Che-Chung Tsai of the Regional Primate Research Center at the University of Washington in Seattle - cautioned againstjumping to any conclusions about preventing HIV-infection or treating individuals who are already infected with the human version of the virus, but they did say they were greatly encouraged by the findings. Publication of the findings of the research were in fact delayed a full year by the scientists because they were worried there might be some mistake in the results, which Tsai, describes as "almost too good to be true." Human studies, which are tentatively scheduled for next year, would be required to determine if PMPA is safe and effective in humans. Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1 51 5 South Lewis Are you looking for a relaxed, amicable, private atmosphere for therapy? Our office provides a level of confidentiafity and comfort that enhances the therapeutic process. For further information call 743-4117 Leah Hunt, .MSW. Della Blackburn, CADC Judy Seymour-Taylor, CADC Richard Reeder, MS Serving a Diverse Commuliity [:1 FEELING SAFE ,I - !SN" T EASY. PRO|ECT ARIES PROJECT $ HERE TO ARIES HEL AIDS Risk IntErvention Series An Innovative Approach to Enhancing Your Lifestyle and Safeguarding Your Health all Today! . $84-4983 (In" Confidence) Weekly Gifts and Incentives ~for Attending a Closed Series of 12 Weekly Meetings Offered by TULSA NATIVE AMEP, rCAN AIDS PREVENTION PROJECT Endorsed by the Oklahoma State Department of Health 665-6595 ’96 ECLI PSE RS $14,728 46th & Memorial- Entertainment Notes by Jmnes Christjohn This is a new feature, dependent on whims, timing and whether or not this Assistant Editor had time/money to actually see anything new: Otherwise, I’ll be reviewing videos, revisiting (Read: inflicting!) music reviews and looks at old shows you just might like if you’d ever heard of them and other ramblings. Lately, I’ve been watching "High Society", - Mondays, 8:30pm. If you haven’t seen it, .it is one of the most hilarious shows I’ve seen on American TV. So what if it’s a "knockoff of "Absolutely fabulous"? We can’t see that here, ’cause the local cable comp..any doesn’ t carry the comedy channel ~ a:t~e crime~:Anyway, I recognize a lot of myself in this show, which has a DEFINITE queer sensibility to it. Watch it, you’ll see what I mean. ¯ Anyway, back to the subject at hand, the : new colunm: ¯ Rating system: Four snaps: Don’t miss it, ¯ in fact, get going now! Three snaps: Ok, ¯ so put the paper down first. And drive ¯ safely. Two Snaps: Ithas enough redeem- ¯¯ ing qualities to be of interest, but see the matinee. One snap. Well, if you’re really ¯ bored and can’t find anything else to do... ¯ No snaps: You’ll be sorry.. Well, what a full season thus far: ¯ Rodgers and Hammerstein’s Cinderella, ¯ a wonderful concert with Marilyn Maye ¯ and theTulsa Philharmonic, &Toy Story, ¯ the new must-see movie from the’~gayfriendly folk at Disney. If you misse~ the : live shows, well,’I’ll tell you myopinion ¯ ~a~yway (like yisii’coulil’stOp me:~.) sb -that : If th~y’come through town again, you’ll ¯ know whether to ante up for a ticket, or ¯ stay home with the telly and a cup of hot : chocolate, see Notes, page 14 FRIDAY, JANUARY 19 BroaOen Your Perspective at a celtic Music Concert. Irish fiddle great Kevin Burke and his new world Celtic enseml01e bring fiery instrumentals, dazzling footwork and original songs. 8 p.m., John H. wilhams Theatre, Tulsa Performing Arts Center CALL: 596-7111 TICKETS: $12 Eve Sunday_ December: $howtime 11p.m. €~2 Cover Beer Bust 9p.m. ~ laom~ Januaru 11 - 14 I yr. Anniversary/C6stomer Appreciation Extravaganza Weekend M~n of the Southv~est 9-2 NO COVER A~ll-Male RevUe 10 p.m. $2 Cover Dance & Party with your favorite Bar Staff Kirk, Tern/, Tommy, Scotty, Mike, Bill, Chrls & DJ Davld Oees $2 COVER Mr. Robbie Walker & the Sunday Slam (Ivana B, Real, Kris Kohl, Michelle ~~tey, Domo~ueDarnels) wiJh Special ~u~t To Be Announced ~2COVE~ K IN . COMMUNI CALEN R SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School, 9:45 am Worship Service, 11 am 2627b East 1 lth 583-7815 Community of Hope, _ (United Methodist) Worship Service, 6 pm ~ 1703E. 2nd, 585d800, Family of Faith ¯ Metro. Comm. Chureh- AdultSunday School, 9:15 " Worship Service, 11 am ." 5451-E South Mingo. ¯ Info: 622-1441 Metro. Comm. Church of Greater Tulsa Worship Service, 10:45am ¯ 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 ¯ TheBanned, OKGay Band " Practice weekly in OKC " Info: 838-2121 ¯ Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay " Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa " 6:30 pm at Canterbury ¯ 5th & Evanston Info: 583-9780 " SUNDAY, DECEMBER 17 MONDAYS : HIV Testing ¯ TOHR Clinic ¯ Free &.anonymous testing ¯ using fingerstick method. ¯ No appointment reqnired. : Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm Results hours: 7-9 pm TUESI Minister’s Class Bless the Lord at All Times Christian Center 7:30 pm 2627-B East 1 lth Info: 583-7815 HIV+ Support Group Info: 742-2927 ¯ HIV Resource Consortium ¯ :~ii~am~la : .,.,_ _: .~-~ ::-1,:30~pm~.,:J i . !~ " Bowling League :,, 4t~S. Harvard, Ste.-H-1 Sheridan Lanes 8:45 pm 3121 S. Sheridan PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 2nd Monday of month, 6:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard Info: 749-4901 Info: Wanda @ 749-4194 Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. HIV/AIDS Support Group & Friends & Family HIV/AIDS Support Group 7 pm, call for location: 749-7898 Thi ’N6w Year Drink Responsibly - Have a Designated Driver or Take a Cab WEDNESDAYS ¯ Authority OfThe Believer Bible Study, 7 pm MCC of Greater Tulsa : 1623 N. Maplewood : Info: 838-1715 Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center Choir Practice 7 pm .~ 2627-B East 1 lth : Call 583-7815 for info. Family Of Faith MCC Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Practice 7:30 pm 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. Community of Hope (United Methodist) Bible Study, 6:30 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 (no class, Dec. 27) SUNDAY, DECEMBER 31 THURSDAYS 16-Step Empowerment Group For Women Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 Faith & Struggle Dialogue Group Community of Hope United Methodist 4:30pm, 1703 E. 2nd (ongoing group) Info: 585-1800 SUNDAY, DECEMBER 17 Family ofFaith MCC Christmas Concert & Silent Auction, 7:30pm, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 TUESDAY, DECEMBER 19 GriefGroup Community of Hope United Methodist 6pro, held at Butler/Stumpff Funeral Home, 3rd St. west of Lewis (ongoing) Info: 585-1800 SUNDAY, DECEMBER 24 Family ofFaith MCC Christmas Eve Candlelight Service 10 pm, 5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 SUNDAY, DECEMBER 24 Community ofHope United Methodist Christmas Eve Peace Service, 6pm ChristmasEve CandlelightService, 1 lpm 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 TUESDAY, DECEMBER 26 GriefGroup Community of Hope United Methodist 6pm, held at Butler/Stumpff Funeral Home, 3rd St. west of Lewis (ongoing) Info: 585-1800 FRIDAY, DECEMBER 29 Feed the Homeless Community of Hope United Methodist Meet at church, 1703 E. 2nd, 5:30 pm Info: 585-1800 Family ofFaith MCC, "Let It Go" New Year’s Eve Service, 1 lain 5451-E S Mingo, Info: 622-1441 SUNDAY, JANUARY 7 Faith & Struggle Dialogue Group Community of Hope United Methodist 4:30pm, 1703 E. 2nd (ongoing group) Info: 585-1800 SUNDAY, JANUARY 7 Prime Timers Monthly Meeting Write for info: P.O. Box 52118, 74104 TUESDAY, JANUARY 9 Green Country Pride ~ Tulsa Oldahomansfor Human Rights Community-wide Meeting, 7 pm Alan Chapman Activity Center University of Tulsa 5th St. west of Harvard, Info: 743-4297 SUNDAY, JANUARY 14 Family ofFaith MCC Reclaim & Recovery Workshop: It’s Never Too Late to Have a Happy Childhood, 9 am - 3 pm 5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 TUESDAY, JANUARY 30 Rainbow Business Guild, 7 pm Call for place and speaker. Dinner Meeting, Info: 665-5174 SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 17 Family ofFaith MCC Reclaim & Recovery Workshop: Forgiveness, 9 am - 3pro 5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 Co-Dependency Support Group 7:30, Family of Faith MCC 5451-E S. Mingo Call 622-1441 for Info. HIVTestingTOHRClinic Free & anonymous testing using fingerstick method. No appointment reqnired. Walk in testing: 7 - 8:30 pm Results hours: 7 - 9 pm [nfo: 742-2927 Prayer Time MCC - Greater Tulsa, 7 pm 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 Tulsa-Family Chorale Weekly practice, 9:30 pm Lola’s 2630 E. 15th PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 1st & 3rd Thursdays 4154 S. Harvard Info: 749-4901 Out & About With JD! It’s that time of the year when you yearn for time spent with friends, and visions of fairies dance in your head. This month’s featured establishment is a great place to find both. GROUND ZERO (formerly Laffs-Underground) at 7th&Elan, in the heart of downtown Tulsa, is the place. Steve Crow, a wellknown promoter of Tulsa’s night life, has renovated this classic. location into something more than comfortable and intriguing for that first date (a dimly lit table for two), or to find that first date, (billiard and dart area), or for meedng a group of friends (a conversation area and well-lit bar). Watch for details about Tulsa’s first Intemet party, linking up via the info super hi-way to other bars across PFLAG national vice president, Nancy McDonald is joined by sevkral friends, including Prime Timer, Wesley Bauer. ¯, SATURDAYS ¯ Narcotics Anonymous ¯ Meets weekly at 11 pm ¯ Confidential support for ¯ recovering addicts. ¯ Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 : NAMES Project ¯ AIDS Memorial Quilt Sewing Bees ¯ 3rd Sat. of each month Info: 748-3111 MORE GROUPS Gay & Lesbian Student Association TJC Southeast Campus, Info: 631-7632 ¯ SWAN-Single Women’s Activity Network ¯ Call 832-2121 TOHR Helplinc Daily 8-10 pm ¯ For info. or to volunteer: ¯ 743-GAYS Tool Box Technicians, ¯ Leather org., Info cio The Tool Box: 584-1308 T.U.L.S.A. ¯ Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Assdc. ¯ Info: 838-1222 ¯ the country. Starting in January onThurs- : day nights: chicks with d contests with ¯ cash prizes, and, as always, male dancers ¯ every Friday and Saturday nights. Be sure : to join Steve and his wonderful manager Mark on December 23 for a mini-Christmas party with Reghenaand company. Also, New Year’s will be rung in with male dancers counting down the minutes to midnight, and a free champagne toast. .Also Ladonna at Barracudas sends a note of thanks to all the new Raghenna & Steve Crow faces thathave stopped ¯ in (see her ad about ¯ some new faces). : I would like take a moment to wish ¯ everybody a joyful holiday season, and a ¯ v.ery warm and happy new year. I appre- ¯ caate all the support throughout the last ¯ year. Community activists, Ken Draper, Lisa Pottorf& Tim Gillean braved the cold at TOHR Holiday Dinner & Silent Auction. Eureka Springs Honors World AIDS Day - Dec. 1 by Phyl Boler-Schmidt Living in the heart of the Bible Belt, one would not expect to find an ecumenical service dedicated to World AIDS Day m a small community. Yet, Eureka Springs held one of the most moving celebrations of unity in the fight against AIDS I have ever witnessed. On the evening of December 1, we gathered at the United Methodist Church, about 75 people in all, from all walks of lifeand all faithS. The theme of the service: was "Because God Cares," and the service was co-sponsored by the Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN) and Ozark AIDS Resources and Services (OARS). A total of ten local and area clergy were scheduled to participate in the ev.ent, andfive were calledaway at the last rmnute to attend to other events or emergencies. Those who did participate came from varying backgrounds, to be sure. Rev. Stan Adams came from the United Methodist Church, Rev. Jack Hammond is affiliated with the First Christian Church, and Rev. Mark Leuneville came from the First Presbyterian Church, all in nearby Berryville. Rev. Marilyn Webb participated from the host church in Eureka Springs. And, the m~in speaker was Rev. Kermie Wohlenham~ Pastor of MCC of the Living Spring. It was a celebration of life and healing, love; hope, and stories of miracles. Sonny Mosley, the longest living AIDS survivor, who last week graced the front page ¯ of the local newspaper, told his story. A Grandmother read a letter of love, grace, : and about her own 17-year, same-sex relationship, a letter that had been written ¯ that same day to her HIV+ grandson. We ~ all shared, prayed, sang, hoped, and cried ¯ together. ¯ Sonny’s admonition to us all was very ¯ moving. "It is my hope, and I believe that ¯¯ itis God’s hope that when you leave this piace tonight, you will go to someone and ¯ tell them you have seen a miracle. You ¯ have seen a miracle standing before you ¯ tonight.... " Sonny ] has survived 14years and seven months ¯ living with AIDS. ¯ One young man told the story of los- " ing his partner of : eight years some two ¯ years ago. He shared ¯ withus his partner’s ¯ last words to him: ¯ "Never miss an op- ¯ pornmity to love.’" ¯ It was a rare treat to experience an area- : wide service in which the official coming ¯ out of Rev. Kermie Wohlenhaus to the ¯ religious community.was enacted through ¯ aninvitation toher to give the main talk of ¯ the evening, a sermon if you will. Her ¯ time at the pulpit was preceded by a mu- ¯ sical duet by twoMCC regulars, a request ¯ made due to past performances by the ¯ MCC choir at World AIDS Day services. ¯ Pastor Wohlenhaus gave a message of ¯ healing and-an admonition to the assembled churchgoers that "This is ¯ everyone’s disease. Men, women and children are all afflicted. Each one of us." She told moving stories of Ryan White, the Names Project AIDS Memorial Quilt, Randy Shilts, and A Day Without Art. "The loss to the world is amazing! "This was Rev. Wohlenhaus’ assessment of the loss to the art world because of AIDS. But, "there is a healing part of this disease." She talked of Joan Rivers and the first AIDS benefit she put together. Ms. Rivers could get no major stars to participate in the benefit, and she received hate mail and death threats. Yes, we truly have come a long Saglttarlus You also ]]ave way toward healing. And there deep desires to....huy were stories of the expenslve, pointless, e~o- healing of families gg~ra~t’aLr in" thln~s....you and relationships, how Disney wentout l~n~w that last, red sports on alimb for its emear won’t make you a better ployees,evemnspite of pressure from the person. Don’t you? pro-familygroups. It was a moving talk ¯ indeed. "’What has happened is we are ¯ coming out as a nation. Weare healing ¯ AIDSphobiaas well as homophobiaas we : have to deal with this disease." ¯ "The voices of people th~it are HIV+ ¯ and (have) AIDS have tremendous spiri- ¯ tual messages for us. One of those mes- ¯ sages is living one day at a’fime to the fullest. They are our teachers, aren t they. ¯ This was an admonition to most of the ¯ congregation. ¯ And; to those who are HIVe- and living ¯ withAIDS,"Call upon your higherpower - whatever that is. Ask those very impor- ¯ tant questions, and be open to hear the answers. One of the answers that you may hear is to be of service, ff you are HIV+ or living with AIDS, you have a tremendous gift that you can pass on to someone. You’ve gone throughprocesses that someone else that just found out the other day needs to hear from you." ’q’he wounded healer is probably one of our most important healing persons. Avail yourself to those people." An offering was received to support RAIN and OARS, and we heard from Rev. Mark Leuneville that the Ryan White Care Act will not have any more funding until August of 1996 so, more than ever, local organizations need our support, financial as well as personal. Welearned that Carroll Regional Medical Center in Berryville has donated a fulltime counselor to staff the AIDS clinic at the hospital’s expense. A doctor also donates medical services. Testing, quality care, education and counseling are all available. And this is the Bible Belt! This reporter will not soon forget December 1, 1995. This event had a profound effect onme, and it ismyfond hope, that the same effect was felt by the rest of the assembled people at the commemoration of World AIDS Day 1995 in Eureka Springs, Arkansas, "Relieving the ostracism-of gay Ameri- ¯ cans would strengthen family values, no ¯ matter what the prevailing political di- ~ mate may dictate." -- Robert MacNeil, tv : anchor & father of a Gay son, courtesy ¯ GLAAD, The Gay &Lesbian Alliance ~ Against Defamation & Seattle Gay News "’ Jim & Brent have opened the ultimate intimate local eatery. A special, eclectic dining exp.erience.:." Stop by our lqouse for a taste of local flavor. 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It was noted that this ¯ group has recently split due to somedifferences ofopinion, and " because of the split, the KKK " has actually grown in size and strength. . Also noted by Ms. Coyle were " the militia groups that have ° formed in several areas of Ar- ¯ kansas and that activity has in- : creased in southeast Oklahoma ° as well. Other groups, mostly of ¯ the white supremacist nature, to ¯ watch out for are: the Aryan "- Nations, the White Aryan Resis- " tance, neo Nazi skinheads, the ¯ Identity Christian Church, the " Holy Alamo Christian Church, " the Populist Party, and none other ° than the Elna Smith Foundation, ¯ located right here in Eureka ¯ Springs. The Smith Foundation hosts The Great Passion Play ° and houses the Christ of the ¯ Ozarks statue. . Both Ms. Coyle and Ms. Pharr " expressed concern that many of ° the militia groups, which they ° noted are made up of mostly . disgruntled wlfitemen, havebeen " infiltrated by theKKKand other : hate groups in an attempt to recruitnew members to their cause. Ms. Pharr is well know for her work with Gay leaders in those states where anti-gay statues have been placed before the electorate, and her vast work with women’s issues is well documented. Her main thrust of the evening was to show those assembled what majormovements have been presented in the U.S. Ms. Pharr is well know for her work w .th Gay leaders in those states where anti-Gay statues have been placed before the electorate... over the past 30 years and how those intermingle and confuse the people when issues are presented for a vote. She defined three majormovements: the liberation movement (of which we are all a part), globalization of the economy, and the rise of the religious right wing fundamentalists. At issue in the liberation movement are reproductive rights, affirmative action, children’s rights, removal of sodomy laws-, and environmental action, among others. The issues for globalization of the economy are the anti-tax movement, .deregulation, NAFTA,privatization, and ahost of others. It is Ms. Pharr’s contention that the rise of the religious right came upon the heels of economic globalization, and due to this, many people do not .understand that they areresponding to problems in the economy rather than moral issues. The religious right has done a tre- ,_ mendous job of demonizang entire segments of the economy and making them (us) villains when, in fact, it Is the globalization of the economy that has taken jobs away and decreased corporate investment in employees. Ms. Pharr strongly suggested that we all become versed in economic issues and use this knowledge in our discussions with people who feel that gays and lesbians, people of color., rand women ha~¢~ contributed to the moral decline of America. She aptly proved to those of us present at her talk that when people see that they are respondmg to economic issues and their ownfinancial needs, not the need to demonize us, we have more of a chance ofconvincing them that we are not the enemy. The religious right has done its job well, for sure. After President Reagan began the move toward economic globalization, religious leaders jumped on the bandwagon and began to work at the grassroots level to convince average Americans that they should blame groups that the religious right saw as immoral for the decline in available jobs, the rise in the number of welfare recipients, the decrease in the average American’ s paycheck and companybenefits, and the movement away from keeping jobs at home. 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Murder / Opening the hearings, Chair- ¯ and rights activists in Oregon man Peter Hoekstra (D-MI) said : have been concerned that their the ten witnesses would explore ¯ disappearance ~nay have been theroleofparentsinschoolsand ¯ because of the wo men’s high values in the"big picture." Nev- ~ activist visibility during the carnertheless, by the second day as ; palgns. Authoritiesdidn’trelease witness after witness lashed out ¯ any information about how the2 against sex education, HIV pre- women died, saying they ~vould vention and youth support pro- wait for the results of an angrams in schools, the true nature topsy, but police initially deof the hearings became appar- . scribed the killing as "brutal" ent. Perhaps due to the national ~ and "violent." Police said they outcry, the subcommittee called had no specific information to on four of the ten witnesses to ° connect the deaths of the 2 address the impact of violence ." women with their political acand harassmer~t ag~i:~ youth .’. ~vis.m, but said they would uot grappling.withis.sues~:9.f sexual "discount those fears. "’ At press orientation. No gay, lesbian, bi- time, The Associated Press resexual or transgender youth ported that an arrest had been were called upon to testify at the made in this case. hearing. Govt. Asked to Supervise "LouSheldon’sextremeviews Washington, D.C - Citing the came across loud and clear,"said murders, and a tragic history of Helen Gonzales, Public Policy violence agmnst Gays in other Director- for the National Gay states with anti-gay ballot initiaand Lesbian Task Force. "Even tives, the National Gay and Lesthough the comm|ttee did not bian Task Force (NGLTF) has completelystackthedeckagainst asked U.S. Attorney General us: intolerance ofdiffering views Janet Reno to lend federal assisand an anti-democratic approach tance in investigating homicides. to education were the themes of "’We are writing to inform you the day." of a situation which unfortu- During the first day of hear- nately is becoming too commonings, witnesses William Bennett place in our country and to seek and Patricia Ann Baltz spoke in your assistance in helping progeneral terms about the need to tect the lives of, gay, lesbian, infuse values into public schools, bisexual and-., transgender Homosexuality was only men- people," said the,three-page lettioned briefly. During the sec- ter, firxedtoReno’sofficetoday. ond day, witnesses discussed "Our concern is that however school services and programs the facts in this case turn out, which address prevention of hate crimes against Gays, l_~sbi- HIV, hate-violence in schools ans, Bisexuals and Transgender andthehighincidenceofsuicide persons continue to be an epiamong gay,lesbian,bisexual and demic in this country...In the attransgender youth. Several wit- mosphereofhatredandgay-baitnesses misrepresented these ing which are expected to be community efforts as attempts waged by the Far Right during to "recruit and promote homo- next year’s anti-gay ballot and sexuality.’" At least one witness legislative state initiatives, it is complained about schools "pro- clear that such crimes will inmotinghomosexual lifestyles as crease.’" The letter went on to normal," while another witness detail the rise in anti-gay vioclaimed that "homosexuality is lence, especially in states with sinful.’" homophobic initiatives. BEAVER DAM STORE Fishing Headquarters for N.W. Arkansas Fly Tying * Fly Fishing * Equipment & Classes Open Year ’Round TROUTS - "~ - US Located 1/2 mile N. of Beaver Dam on Hwy 187 Eureka Springs, AR * 501-253-6154 Groceries * Gas * Ice ~ B~er * Licenses * Lodging Your lnukeepem. 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[1,1e.d~] "l;1,eral e~ual;ty ~n t~e eyes of t]ae state vc~t]a conservative social stability" vative social stability in a program whose twin tenets are open, un-impeded gay military service and legal gay marriage. Sullivan begins by asking, "What Is a Homosexual?" By describing his childhood experiences that he now realizes were really gay oriented situations, Sullivan makes a dear case for the inclusion of gay themes throughout our culture. Once, at the age often, heremembers being"...happily engagedinreading. Then, a girl sitting next to me looked at me with a rmxture of curiosity and disgust. "Why aren’t you out with the boys playing football’?" she asked. Because "I hate it," I replied. "’Are you sure you’re really not a girl under there?" she asked, with the suspicion of a sneer." With no mention of homosexuality in his family, ]’i~ the newspaper, at school or on television, he, like most gays gr6_wing up, had no guidance, discussion Or role models to help explain the confusion he was gorng through. The main part of this book is focused on of the political scale) which includes groups such as Queer Nation and ACI’-UP; 3) Conservatives, the authors of"don’t ask, don’t tell", and 4) Liberals, who are often simply piggybacking the gay rights movement on the back of the civil rights movement. With the first two groups intractable, Sullivan argues that a combination of the best of conservative and liberal beliefs can create a new consensus on homosexuality. His idea "affirms a simple and limited principle: that all public (as opposed to private) discrimination against homosexuals be ended and that every right and responsibility that heterosexuals enjoy as public citizens be extended to those who grow up and find themselves emotionally different." He means ALL rights and responsibilities, including marriage and military service. Sullivan is remarkably eloquent, and it is hard to disagree with his logic, although he is often accused of being too conservative. He has presented the best book to date on how and why the gay rights debate must move from the base of emotion and fear to fact~ and logic. Check for "Virtually Normal" on the Tulsa City-County Library catalog, or call 596-7966. ment shortly and will probably then be voted onagain by the commission in early December. The newspaper reported that the commission’s recommendations will also include an alternative proposal to create a statewide domestic partnership registration that would effectivdy extend to same-sex couples all the benefits under state control th at married opposite-sex couples enjoy. The Advertiser, the state’s largest-circulating daily, also editorially endorsed the commission’s anticipated action, sayang it was taking "a reasonable stand that should be adopted by the legislature" and that "gay couples should have the legal right to marry in Hawaii." Hill brings extensive experience as a trainer in suicide imervention and has served as a teacher of living skills -for legally blind citizens for the State Visual Services agency and has served on the Advisory Committee for the Assistive Technology Center. He is chair of the Para Transit Sub-committee of the Special Transportation Advisory Committee (STAC) to the Indian Nations Council of Governments (INCOG) and Tulsa Transit Hill also volunteers with Youth Services of Tulsa’s TYDD Program and is a life-long member of 1 st Lutheran Church of Tulsa where he is a member of the choir and has served twice as a member of the church board. He sings with the Tulsa Oratorio Chorus and also worships with Community of Hope congregation. reviewed, saying that the state could give visitation rights to an individual who had a"parent-likerelationship"with the child, whether the individuals were heterosexual or a non-traditional couple. Knott appealed that state high court ruling to the U.S. Supreme Court. Court Rules For Gay Adoptions NEW YORK - New York’s Court of Appeals, the state’s highest court, has ruled that couples do not have to be married in order to adopt, a ruling that, while it also applies to unmarried heterosexuals, is strongly welcomed by same-sex couples. "There’s been a collective holding of our breath around the state," said Paula Ettelbrick of the Empire State Pride Agenda. Although the high court’s ruling does notmean that gay and lesbian couples will automatically be given adoption rights, it does mean that state courts can not use marital status in determining adoption applications. 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Doors open at 8pm with a $5 cover and the pageant begins at 9 sharp. Cherry Monroe will be crowning the winner of the 1996 Miss Gay Oklahoma USofA Pageant and contestants will be competing for over $1500 in cash and prizes. Competition catagories are Personal Interview, Evening Gown and Talent. Special awards include the Amii Dyshea Talent award and Sasha Loren MostBeautiful Awardhonoring these two Notes continuedfrom page 8 First off: R & H’s Cinderdla: Starting off as the only musical Rodgers and Hammerstein wrote specifically for television, and one of the first ever written for TV, 1! was pleasant enough to see on stage, but just didn’t quite make the leap all the way across the chasm. The show did have a gay sensibility to it as directed by John Ruocco, who was assistant to the director of Terrence McNally’s very gay play, "Love! Valor! Compassion!". The King, as portrayed by David Boughn, was definitely wed to the queen as a matter of convenience. He was definitely more interested in the manservants (who were quite beautiful as well) than his wife. Like many "old-fashioned" gay man/ very missed entertainers and former Miss Gay Oklahoma USofA’s. The winner and first runner-up will represent Oklahoma in the 1996 Miss Gay USofA Pageant in May. Miss Gay USofA Pageant is the largest pageant for female impersonators in the country. The Miss Gay Oklahoma USofA Pageant has been honored by the National Pageant with the Best New Preliminary Pageant.award and the Hospitality award and the Miss Gay Oklahoma USofA Pageant owner, David Bridgrnan, was given the Owners Award for Business Person of the Year in 1995. Interested contestants may pick up info. packets at dubs and businesses across the state or may contact the pageant promoter, David Bridgman at 918-838-3701. woman marriages, the queen is a"beard". Probably best friends, and fond of each other, but quite an interesting direction for the father of Prince Charming. And they worry quite frantically over finding a woman to make him happy! Throughout the play, he seemed much more comfortable with his manservants. Speaking of, he was quite a sight to behold. There were certain attributes, visible from a seat slightly towards the rear orchestra, that were quite breathtaking to behold. What a scepter! And visible even to my nearsighted, astgmafic eyes! Needless to say, the costumes were well executed, showing off the best of the actors. The singing was very beautiful - Matt Clemens, as see Notes, page 15 9.2,3340S, Peo Tulsa, 918-744-0896 Notes cont’dfrom p. 14 Prince C, had quite alovely tenor volce, and Miss Cindy was very well sung by Leslie Lorusso. However, this production was meant for amoreintimate venue, no doubt about it. No splashy showtunes,just nice quite melodies. The stepmother and sisters were the high point of the show, being played like really mean drag queens havin~ a bad hair day. The "Stepsister’s Lament" really showcased their comedic "talents excellently, and the soundtrack (available in both Julie Andrews or Lesley Anne Warren versions) is worth having, and the show worth seeing for this song alone. It seems to be the only song R & H put any effort into. As for the rest of the show, I found it rather bland. The main problem was that the actors were "playing down" to the audience in the worst "children’s theater" manner - making sure every joke was extremely over-the-top, so all the kiddies would get it. This, I’m sure, was not the intent of R & H when they wrote the piece. In order for the show to work, it has ¯ to be treated as an adult show - much of the humor is certainly meant for adults - while retain- " ing the fairy-tale elements as ¯ well. Pacing was a crucial ele- ¯ ment as well, and unfortunately, in this aspect, the show did not ¯ succeed. Ithadmoments,butnot enough to fill two hours. Two : snaps and a yawn for the show in ¯ general, four snaps for theprince and the stepsisters. ¯ Marilyn Maye, however, puts on a terrific show - everything ¯ from standards of the ’30’s to ¯ current songs. I’d not heard of ¯ herbeforeI was told I’dbegolng ¯ to the show, but I am now a ¯ dedicated fan. After the dedication of a song "To lovers every- " where.... no matter who they love", and a wry look at to the ¯ audience- I realized this woman ¯ knew her audience included gay ¯ folk, andwas very inclusive. And ¯ what a stager/actres!! Some : people can sing prettily, but miss ¯ the wholemessage/emotionofa ¯ song. Not so, Ms. Maye. She can ¯ make you feel a song. When she ¯ comes back to Tulsa, I would ¯ urge you strongly tO see this gay- . friendly performer. Her stage persona is delightful, and the TALKING PERSONALS! HUNDREDS OF GUYS TO CH( Call The 900 number to respond to ads, browse unlisted ads, or retrieve messages. 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A lovely evening. Maybe my partner, the h,~rdest working man in Tulsa, c,~m actually take time to join me uext time! (He’d planned to, but type AAA personality that he is....) And if you haven’t seen Toy Story, don’t delay! You will be bowled over by the sheer technical genius. This is helped along by a very strong script that balances well between kiddie humor and adult guffaws. There were definitely some queer folk behind this one. It is a hoot from beginning to end. Four snaps. Tulsa HEY GIRLS: athletic attr. SWF early 30’s 5’4 1101bs brn/brn Ikg4 open minded women for discreet hot fun. call me! ~45795 great phone fun with. I love talking on the phone. Im 42 y/o and I hope you call me. n45492 Dallas AFRICAN QUEEN: I’m a 37 y/o African American Ikg4 the same 30-40.-t’m shy and I’m drug and disease free. I have Iwo dogs and I’m sincere and honest. If you are honest and sincere, call me. ~38212 BUTCH/FEM: I’m a 23 y/o female and I like poetry, cycling and music. 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And because of our established resources, we can deliver a settlement in less than a third the time other companies take by mail, typically in fewer than 30 days. We’ll do what it takes to find the best solution for you. .Home Office Dallas, Texas 800-559-4790 Kelly Kirby Oklahoma Representative POB 14011 Tulsa, OK 74159-1011 918-747-3320 Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, December 15, 1995-January 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 1 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Communities - Our Families of the Heart February 15 - March 14, 1996, Volume 3, Issue 3 National News Clinton Slams HIV+ Military Discharges WASHINGTON - The Clinton administration has announced that it believes the HIV discharge provision in the $265 billion Defense Department’s 1996 authorization defense authorzafion bill is unconstitutional and has ordered the Justice Department not to defend the provision. That provision, written by arch-conservalave Rep. Bob Dornan, R-Calif., would discharge within sxx months, regardless see Clinton, page 3 Anti-Marriage Bills ExplodeAround US PIERRE, S.D.- Sparked by the likelihood that state courts in Hawaii will soon declare same-sex mamage legal there, a rapidly growing number of state legislatures throughout the country have started arush to outlaw gay and lesbian marriages from being recognized locally, even if they should be legal elsewhere in the U.S. Legislatures in at least 18 states: AL, AK, CA, CO, GA, HI, ID, IL, IA, MO, N19I; RI, SC, SD, TN, VA, WA, WI - had various versions of"gay miscegenation" proposals before thein at press tame. In Virginia, where same-sex marriages are already forbidden by state law, under pressure from Radical Right Gov. George F. Allen, the Virginia Housing DevelopmentAuthority has reversed a 1994 policy and now effectively prohibits mmaamed or gay and lesbian couples from getting see Marriage, page 3 Gay Morn Appeals Custody DecisiOn PENSACOLA, Fla. - Mary Ward has appealed an August ruling that ordered her 11-year-old daughter be given over to the custody of the child’s father, who was convicted of killing his first wife.The decision last year by state Circuit Court Judge JosephTarbuck stunnedmany when he ruled in favor of John Ward, the girl’s father, who served 9 years in prison for killing his first wife during an argument over custody of their daughter. In deciding against Mary Ward, Tarbuck ruled see Morn, page 3 Tennessee Sodomy Law Thrown Out KNOXVILLE, Tenn. ~ The Tennessee Court of Appeals has ruled unanimously that the state’s anti-gay sodomy statute is unconstitutional. In overturning the state law the court ruled that the right to privacy includes "the fight of the plaintiffs to engage in consensual, private, non-commercial sexual conduct" that were none of the state’s business because they involve "intimate questions of personal and family concern." State officials gave no immediate indication of whether they would appeal the ruling to the state supreme court or not, but most rights advocates expect an appeal. FUSO: Friends in Unity Social Organization Tulsa’s organization forAfrican-American Gay men ~s expanding its efforts to meet both social and health needs of their immediate community, and the larger one. Over the past year they’ve established a RAIN team, which has its first client, and which may be the only all African-Amencan team in Oklahoma. Its leadership also is working on the non-profit’s tax-exempt status with the Internal Revenue Service so that they can actively seek grant funding to provide HIV education and care. Ultimately they would like to provide case management, peer education, information and referra! services, HIV testing and counseling, health and nutrition, and substance abuse counseling and a food bank in North Tulsa. Over this last year, FUSO has donated canned goods to Our House, made a gift to the victims of theOKCbombing They v e helped to represent Tulsa African-A~eri ¯ cans by sending representatives to Hoist ing the Bamwr. the state HIV AIDS con. ference in OKC addressing issnes of people of color and also participated in the statewide HIV/AIDS conference held last summer at the Doubletree Hotel, Warren Place. Its members marched in the "95 Tulsa AIDS Walk and the World AIDS Day March held at University of Tulsa. Derrick Davis, who is one of FUSO’s officers, has been nominated to be cochair of the Multi-Cultttral AIDS Coalition. FUSO also is participating in the planning of the Women and AIDS conference that will be tleld in April. Last Labor Day, FUSO held a successful Labor Day Weekend event with guests see FUSO, page 10 Vicious Pink, In the Red? OKC-owned Store Closes Vicious Pink, a Gay-oriented gift store owned by Anthony Klatt of Oklahoma City has closed after barely 6 months. The store located in Concessions at 3340 So. Peoria opened with ambitious plans and claims of being the largest such establishment in the state. Kirk Glines, one of the owners of Concessions, indicated that he and his partner Terry Kerns will reopen the shop themselves, possibly by March 1st. Klatt also opened a shop, Dusty Roads, in the Silver Star Saloon. Star owner, John Rothrock could not say whether Dusty Roads was still in business, noting that it was closed without explanation for a week recently and had not been dependably open. Tulsa Man Seeks Relief From Threats A 31-year 01d Tulsa man’s been driven from one home, has had to send his children away for their safety, has had other members of his family threatened and may have to flee his new apartment, all because he’s living with AIDS. Roscoe Pilant, who goes by the nickname, JR,just wants to be left alone to hve, and to work when he can. However, despite having swastikas and death threats marked on his door and threats to murder him left on his answering machine, Tulsa Police initially were hardly cooperative. And as a result of his complaint, investigation by legalaid attorneys have discovered that the Oklahoma S tate Bureau of Investigations might have been violating the OK hate crimes statute by not keeping statistics on hate crimes directed toward any disabled persons, including those living with AIDS. Pilant says his troubles began when he had to take a HIV related medical absence from work. After he returned, he feels that his employer, a national finn, fired him becauseof his HIV status. After the finn was contacted by Oklahoma Legal Aid attorney Darlene Shadid andwas informed that discrimination based on HIV’AIDS status is illegal under federal law, the Americans With Disabilities Act (ADA), he returned to work. And then the harassment began. see Threats, page 2 Lesbian & Gay Domestic Violence Two police officers from Tulsa area police departments spoke to the members and guests of Tulsa Oklahomans for Hnman Rights (TOHR) about do~nestic violence issues, both within and out the LesbianGay con~nunities. Both officers who are 10 year plus veterans work pmnanly on domestic violence (hereafter abbreviated as DV). Each gave profoundly sobering statistics on the extent of DV. For example, they noted that 50% of US women ~vi!l be DV violence victims, that wom_en are at a 9 times higher risk of injury in their homes than they are on the street, and that every 15 seconds a women is beaten in her own home. The officers outlined some of the social psycholoNcal dynamics of DV noting the stages of the syndrome and gave details of legal opti’ons and other resources to help victims and to identify abusers. The officers who had dealt with Lesbian/ Gay DV issues bemoaned the lack of research in this area but noted that the causes are similar to those of DV for heterosexuals. They suggested that 30% of Lesbian/Gay relationships have some DV problems but they suspected that these cases tended to be underreported because the criminal justice system rmnains homophobic. They also stated that Lesbian relationships appear to be more physically violent than those of Gay or Bi men. Also, Gay men may not report DV when it happens because the general perception is that DV ouly happens to women and often the agencies that deal with DV are not well equipped to help men. Saks 5th Avenue to Show AIDS Quilt DKNY Fashion Fundraiser-2/29 Tulsa’s Saks Fifth Avenue will display 10 sections of The NAMES PROJECT AIDS Memorial Quilt on February 21 to March 1st. Saks Fifth Avenue is the first corporation to spensor a multi-site display with 45 Saks Fifth Avenue stores and 60ff5th’s outlet centers showing memorial panels that are geographically specific to the store’s site. Later this year, the panels displayed in Tulsa will join the nearly 32,000 panels now in the Quilt. The Columbus Day weekend (Oct. 12-13) display on the Capitol Mall in Washington, DC will be the first time in four years that the Quilt has b~en seen in its entirety as it has grown so large. All fifty US states are represented as well as 39 other countries. Panels made by Saks Fifth Avenue associates from across the US will be exhibited in New YorkCity in August before going to Washington. On February 29~ Saks Fifth Avenue, Tulsa will present a DKNY Fashion extravaganza, Give My Regards to Donna, to benefit the Hope Candlelight Tonr. A silent auction and fashion show, featuring local celebrities, will unveil DKNY’s spring collection and be Tulsa’ s exclusive launch of DKNYfor Men. A few models are Debbie Campbell, I.J. Gannam, Aleksandr Lunev, Beth Reng,’d, Kevin Steincross, Mike Jones and Sonya Colberg Nanc3 Renberg, Charles & Francie Faudree. Hope Candlelight Tour benefits St. Joseph Residence and RAIN, the Regional .-kIDS Interfaith Network INSIDE-] EDITORIAL P. 2 DIRECTORY P. 2 NEWS BRIEFS P. 4 HEALTH BRIEFS P. 6 CALENDAR P. 9 EUREKA PAGE P. 11 Music for Life John McCarthy and Beverly Stanley, chairing the Walk for Ltfe committee, have zumounced that a "Blues" Festival will kick off tiff s 3’ear’ s series of events for the fourth annual Walk for Life Campaign. Mark Snider, renowned Tulsa musician, has organized an outstanding evening of the "Blues" featuring local musicians. The event will be held at the Sunset Grill, 3410 South Peoria on Tuesday, March 12. The admission donation of $5 will include two raffle tickets for items donated by the Blue Rose Cafe, the Doubletree at Warren Place, and the Celebrity Club, to nmne a few. K-MOD Radio and Budweiser will join the Sunset Grill as hosts and Paine Webber and Roche Laboratories are patron sponsors. This event is the first of several plam~ed to raise funds for Tulsa area HIV/AIDS support agencies. Other events include an art show in June and ajazz festival in July, and the 4th Walkfor Life to be at Riverside Park on October 12. Proceeds from the 1995 Walk went to 12 Tulsa community HIV/AIDS related non-profit age~l~ies. 918.583. 1248 P(~. 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-0140 TulsaNews@aol.com Publisher/Editor Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents Of Tom Neat this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family Assistant Editor News and mav not be reproduced either in whole or in part withot{t James Christjohn written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or Writers/contributors photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation. Phyl Boler-Schmidt Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise Barry Hensley noted¯ must be signed & becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family Pat Morehead News. All correspondence should be sent to the address above. Eaci~ Staff Photographer reader is entitled to one free copy of each edition at distribution JD Jamett points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. Using Gays as the scapegoat for the demise of the family is; reprehensible nonsense.. Unfortunately,, in order, to get in good with.Pat Robertson’ s Christian Coalition, Republican presidential candidates are all too willing.to go along with the lie that Gay people are somehow, a.threat.to.thefamilv. Wqaoles~le divorce among heterosexuals doe; the real damage. With a 50% divorce rate. adultery, abused women, financial conditions that require both parents to leave children home alone, abandoned and abused children and so forth, it doesn"t take much effort to see that heterosexuals have succeeded quite well in crippling the family without any he!p:from Gays and Lesbians. -~- J.J. Stogsdill, Broken Arrow I recently had the distinct pleasure Of being one of the stops along District 6 City Councilor. Art Justiss" campaign tour. I felt like I shouldn’t be the ordy one who has the advantage of "knowing how Mr. Justiss feels about Gay rights in Tulsa before I cast nay vote in the up-coming elections for City Council. My partner and I asked Mr. Justiss about the status of the Human Rights Depar.~nent (Committee on Sexual Orientation Discrimination) Proposal to the City of Tulsa. Mr. Justiss said that he would never put such a thing on the City Council agenda and he felt :quite confident that no other councillor would either. When questioned about why he was too afraid to even consider a proposal from one of the city’s own commissxons. Mr. Justiss admitted that he didn’t want to "’take the heat.’" He told us that to put something like the current proposal on the agenda would be political suicide. Of course, he added that he wouldn’t discriminate on the basis of "’race, color or sexual preference," but he felt protections for Gays against discrirmnation had no place in city government. Mr. Justiss’ visit to our home was a reminder to him that .there are Lesbians alive and living in Tulsa, OK and a reminder to us that we can’t vote for a representative who will only entertain ~ssues and concerns that are popular. - Kharma R. Amos . Many of the threats were specific in saying that if he returned to work he would die. Pilant feels his privacy was deliberately compromised by co-workers who posted his unlisted number counter to his request. When Pilant first reported the phone messages and the graffiti on his door, Tulsa police did not even send out an officer. Calls to the Mayor’s Action hotline were also unhelpful. However, after intervention by community-activist Nancy McDonald, li~ing up to her appellation "Saint McDonald", Tulsa police were more responsive and took more thorough reports. Pilant also nbted that Claudette Peterson, director of Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights’ (TOHR) HIV Testing Clinic was helpful in getting him assistance as was former TOHR president, Kelly Kirby, through whose contact, KJRH, Ch. 2 became aware of Pilant’ s dilemma and reported on by Phvl Boler-Schmidt ,:~ .A t~ureka. Spri_ngs man i.s dead. A 17-year-old Who admitted to the "killing has not been charged. And, the whole event is shrouded in mystery. This is what we -know. The "killing o~curr~d at a ~popular local lake park where the young mau was helping his; ~andmotlXe~- cSaretake th~ i-esort for the Winter. It happened at night. The dead man, in his forties and -knownby his friends to be a closeted gay man. was shot at point blank range in the face with a shotgtm. The young man did not have the gun at his immediate disposal, but had to go to another room, locate the gun, find the shells, load the weapon, then return to the place where he shot and killed the victim. The young man has said that he awoke with a start to find the he was being sprayed with ejaculate as the older man was masturbating all over him. He says he killed the man in self-defense. There aren’t many Queers in these parts who are buying that story. The police have been silent. The ~oroner’s report is not due out of Little Rock for a few weeks. No arrest has been made, no charges filed. It is minored that the dead man was found completely nude though there is no official word on this. I have decided not to publish any names here so as not to interfere with what the police are calling an ongoing investigation. Since there have been no public statements made regarding the case, I am giving law enforcement authorities the benefit of the doubt that they will continue to investigate this case. and if the facts warrant it, an arrest will be made. The benefit of the doubt. For now. I’ve spoken with a number of Gays mad Lesbians about tiffs issue. No one is taking it lightly. There is some fear that, if the case is swept under the carpet, and the young man is not charged, it will send a signal that it is okay to kill Queers because no one will do anything at~out it. I remain hopeful though skeptical. The facts that we DO "know are alarming. Even if the young man’s story is true, how could it possibly be grounds for murder’? Semen in these circumstances is not a deadly weapon, certainly not enough justification for murder. Most assuredly not - if he was free enough to leave, mad chose to go to another room, find a shotgun, load it, and return to the scene. Justhow frightened for his life could the young man have been? see Murder, page 3 it. Attomey Darlene Shadid said she was told by sources in OSBI and the Tulsa DA’s office that a decision had been made, apparently informally at a seminar in the past couple of years, not to consider persons living with AIDS to be disabled, despite federal law on the matter. Later, Shadid determined that OSBI appeared not to be keeping any statistics on hate crimes based on any disability of any kind. In response toTFN, Tim Hams ofthe Tulsa District Attorney’s office indicated that their office would enforce the Oklahoma hate crime statute as it applied to disability and noted thatnew DALaFortune has participated in the Say No to Hate Coalition for some time. Director of the Oklahoma State Bureau of Investigations (OSBI), Dwade Langley said that they would keep statistics on hate crimes based on disability but that they were entirely dependent on the local law enforcement agencies to report the incidents to them. Meanwhile, JR Pilant hopes that he can return to a quiet life with his children and family sal’e from hate and intimidation. Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine 832-1269 *Barraccuda’s, 2405 E. Admiral 582-4340 *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria 744-0896 *Ground Zero, 311 E. 7th 585-5622 *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th 749-1563 *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan 834-4234 *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main 585-3405 *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial 660-0856 *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Derails C..Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Medical & Mental Health, 2325 S. 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The new definition.of a household adopted by the VHDA states that a "single-family loan can be made to more than one person only if all such persons ... are related by blood, marriage or adoption or by legal custodial relationship." Albert Eisenberg, one of theVHDA commissioners, disagreed loudly with the change. "It is bigoted nonsense elevated to formal state policy," Eisenberg said of the new policy, which he said may lead to ~xpensive legal court challenges as well as possible trouble with federal housing agencies that underwrite most of the loans the Virgima agency makes. Most of the state’s real estate organizations opposed thenew definition, as did gay rights groups and the ACLU, which said the change would "inspire lawyers to look for loopholes." In addition to Gov. Allen’s backing, the rule change was also supported by the Virginia Family Foundation and Concemed Women for America, which argued thatonly "traditional" families should be given economic benefits from the state agency. However in Nebraska, an exception to the "stop-the-wedding" frenzy has come Nebraska where state Sen. Ernie Chambers of Omaha has introduced a measure that would amend Nebraska law to let gays and lesbians legally marry in the Cornhusker State. Chambers acknovCl-- edges that his proposal, LB1260, probably won’t win approval on its first pass through the state legislature, but he says he’s determined and won’t give tip. ’q’his is an issue related to civil rights mad civil liberties that can’t be dodged by political bodies,"-he says. "It has an impact on so many people." And in San Francisco, its Board of Supervisors created a "civil ceremony to solemnize" same-sex domestic parmerships under the aegis of the county clerk’s office, the city official who also perfolans civil wedding ceremonies for heterosexual couples. The measure, which would extend no benefits beyond its symbolic ceremony, is believed to be the first time any govenfing body has moved to create a civil rite to acknowledge same-sex umons. A board committee quic"kly approved the measure mad sent it on to the full board. Five of the board’s 11 members are cosponsors of the ceremony. The county clerk’s office has estimated that adding the ceremony would probably increase the number of registered partners by 2 or 3 times. And with a $30 fee for the ceremony itself, the clerk’s office also esti- : mated the proposed rite could add close to ¯¯ $50,000 to the city’s coffers. Back in Hawaii, Gov. Ben Cayetano ¯ has .suggested that the way for the state to extricate itself from the ongoing controversy of same-sex marriages is for the ¯ state to stop giving marriage licenses to anyone and just offer domestic partnerships to gay and non-gay couples instead. ¯ ’The institution ofmarriage shouldbe left to the church," Cayetano is quoted as saying in a report in the Honolulu Adver- ¯ tiser. ’q’he government needs to explore its role in marriages. The government : should not be in the role of sanctifying marriages. That’s when they nminto problems." State Senate leaders quickly said they didn’t think the legislature was likely to go along with Cayetano’s idea to pull the plug on marriage. While legal experts say .th.ey haveno idea if a state could even stop ~ssuing marriage licenses, they do agree that the most important benefits of legal marriage are derived from the federal government in the form of income taxes, Social Security benefits, and pensionregulations - all ofwhich depend on state legal definitions of a mamage. Gay/Bisexual Indian Men Retreat The Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project (TNAAPP) is sponsoring two free weekend camping retreats (Feb. 23-35 and June 7-9) to enhance cultural awareness and HIV!AIDS awareness. The retreat will include workshops addressing HIV AIDS, self-esteem, safer sex negotiation skills and cultural and traditional values - all presented in a safe envlroment. For a CONFIDEN~HAL application, call B-rima or Keetoo~vala. at 918-582-7225. Open Arms Open Minds Open Hearts Saint Aidan’s 4045 No. Cincinnati. 425-7882 Saint John’s 4200 So. Atlanta Pl.. 742-7381 Trinity 501 So. 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But President Clinton signed the appropriations measure because it is vital to the country’s defense needs, in spite of the Dornan provision. A measure has also been introduced by Sens. William Cohen (R-Maine) and Edward Kennedy (D-Mass.) to repeal the Dornan provision. A similar bill to overturn the measure was introduced in the Houseby Reps. PeterTorkildsen, R-Mass., Jane Harman, D-Calif., Connie Morella, R-Md., and Ron Dellums, D-Calif. Elizabeth Birch, head of the Human Rights Campaign, applauded the \Kqaite House announcement. "We asked him [Clinton] to put the full force of his administration behind overturning it and he has done just that," she said. "This is precisely the kind ofleadership we expect from Bill Clinton." Winnie Stachelberg, HRC’s senior health policy advocate, said, "q’hat [the Dornan provision] ~ as one of the meanest. most vindictive measures to come out of the 104th Congress, and we will do everything in our power to ensure,, repeal of that discmninatorv measure, The repeal bill is expected to have broad bipartisan support in both honses, Stachelberg said, noting that Georgia Sen. Sam Numa, ranking Democrat on the Senate Armed Services Committee, has called the HIV expulsion measure "pmfitive." Dornan and otherGOPextremists added the HIV provision to the House version of the defense authorization, but it was not in the Senate bill. When the two versions went to a House-Senate conference committee for reconciliation, House Republicans made sure this discriminatory measure became part of the final bill, Stachelberg said. Currently, service members with the virus that causes AIDS may serve their country as long as they can perform their duties, but they are not deployed overseas. The same policy is applied to service members who have other chronic medical conditions such as diabetes, asthma, heart disease or cancer. The Human Rights Campaign is the largest national lesbian and gay political organization, with members throughout the country. It effectively lobbies Congress, provides campaign support and educates the public to ensure that lesbian and gay Americans can be open, honest and safe at home, at work and in the community. that the daughter "should be given the opportunity and the option to live in a non-lesbian world." One new witness slated to testify in the appeal will be Michelle Mclr£nes, 25, the daughter of John Ward and the wife he "killed. During a television interview am~onncing that she ~vould testify, McInnes said her father also tried to molest her ~vhen she was 14 3ears old. This reporter does not claim to be a legal scholar, bnt from what I do kaaow, the evidence points toward premeditated mnrder, even if the provocation the young man talked about happened in exactly the way he said it did. I, for one, donbt the story, but I also doubt there is any way to disprove it. What will the offici~s cal[ it’? Murder? Justifiable homicide? A -killing in self-defense? A hate crone? Stay tuned. I’ll keep you posted. Sunday Services 11:00 am ¯ Wednesday Services 6:30 pm, 7:30 pm Choir Practice ° Thurs. 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group To do justice, love mercy & to walk humbly with our God... Micah 6:8 5451-E South Mingo Tulsa, OK 74146 . (918) 622-1441 Worship Service, 10:30 am Sheridan Center, Suite H 21st & Sheridan 599-7688 News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Survey: Less Opposition to Homosexuality WAbH., D.C. - According to the annual survey of college freshmen around the country by the University of California, the nation’s students continue to have less objection to same-sex relationships. The survey, conducted under the aegis of the American Council on Education and given to more than 300,000 freshmen entering some 641 colleges and universities in the U.S, fouud that o~fly about 31% of the students this year believed that homosexuality ~s wrong and should be forbidden. That figure is the lowest reported since the survey started in 1987 when53% said they disapproved of gay and lesbian relationships. Fed. Court Topples Alabama Anti-Gay Law MONTGOMERY, Ala. - U.S. District Court Judge Myron Thompson has declared a 1992 state law prohibiting state agencies frown using public funds in direct or indirect support of gay and lesbian orgamzations as unconstitutional. The law was quickly passed by. the state legislature and signed into law after officials at Auburn University g~ve recognition to a gay student group on the campus. Lawmakers had argued that because sodtroy is illegal in Alabama, no state funds should be used to support-the "’gay lifestyle." Judge Thompson, however, ruled that the law was simply an attempt to restrict discussion at public schools, an illegal restriction of free speech. ’Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ Hearing Begins SFATTLE - The attorueys representing Navy Lt. Richard Watson, called the military’s "don’t ask, don’t tell" policy on gays and lesbians in the armed forces"the height ofhypocrisy," arguing in federal court that it was an unconstitutional invasion of privacy. Watson, a 34-yearold officer who was training to eventually captain one of the Navy’s nuclear-powered submafines, has said he told his commandingofficer he is gay to avoid the possibility of being blackmailed as his naval career advanced. He continues to serve in the Navy wlfile his case, one of several like it, is in the federal courts. Canadian Censorhsip Case: Mixed Ruling VANCOUVER - The British Columbia Supreme Court has handed down a utixed ruling in the case of the Little Sister’s BookStore, a gay and lesbian shop that had charged Canadian Customs officials with unconstitutional censorship. The provincial high court declared that Customs officials had in fact used their power to seize published materials counng into the countU in ways that violated the nation’s Charter of Rights and Freedoms. Customs officials have seized, and sometimes destroyed, hundreds of gay m~d lesbian books and magazines ordered by Little Sister’s, maiulv from UTS. publishers, claiming the materials violated Canadian pornography laws. The court ruled that the Customs actions "’in large part.., are die arbitrary and improper consequence of a~ inadequate mad flawed admimstration of the legislation.’" It also ruled that the incidents involving Little Sister’s were isolated episodes, but constituted a"~ave systemic problem." The most d~sappointing part of the court ruling, said Janine Fuller of Little Sisters, was the justices’ failure to declare the statute that gives Customs officials the authority to seize materials as unconstitutional. Fuller called the failure of the court to overturn die Customs legislation "disappointing" and said the store would be appealing that part of the ruling, but that she was otherwise pleased with the rest of the high court’s ruling. "Ttfis decision is a complete vindication of thc gay aud lesbian conmmmty and the lives of its people mid for that we celebrate die decision," she said. "It has been a long, hard climb. We haven’t quite reached the smmnit but we’re dimm closc. We are colffident that we will succeed at the Court of Appeal." Cincinnati Bias Costs City $35 Million CINCINNATI - The Cincinnati Enquirer reports that the cit\"s Convention & Visitors Bureau says it has lost some $35 million in tourist and convention income because of an anti-gay measure approved by voters in 1993 to repeal an earlier anti-bias measure that included gays mid lesbians. The visitors bureau report had been requested by the city council and cited 10 ~arger national organizations, including die A~nerican Library Association. that specifically mentioued the repealed rights measure as their reason for not holding conventions in the city. Catholic Bishops Speak Upfor Gays in Zimbabwe HAt~kRE, Zimbabwe - Gays and lesbians in Zimbabwe have gotten some limited support from an unexpected source when the country’s Catholic Bishops’ Conference issued a pastoral letter denouncing attacks against homosexuals. Zimbabwe President Robert Mugabe, who is a Catholic, sparked an international flap last year when he refused to allow a gay rights organization in the country to operate a booth at an interuational book fair in the nation’s capital, calling homosexuals"sodomists mid sexual perverts" who ,are "’worse than dogs and pigs." He followed up later by saying the gays and lesbians have "no rights" in Zimbabwe and threatened to imprison homosexuals. Although the Catholic Church considers homosextmlity a "disorder" that should be dealt with as sucll, the Bishops Coifference letter condemned what it "called "’any attempts toinstitute a witchhunt or hate campaign" against homosexuals. "It is therefore not right for anyone, induding govenunent, to harass, persecute or torture people simply because they are known to have this indination,’" the Bishops’ Co~fference letter said. Anti-Bias Measure for CA Students Dies SACtL~kMENTO, Calif. - AB 1001, a proposed measure in the ¯ Califonfia legislature to bar discrimination because of sexual orientation in the state’s public schools and universities, failed by an 8-7 vote in the Assembly’s education colurnittee. The measure, introduced by Assemblywoman Sheila Kuehl (DFa~ cino), has languished in the committee since April 1995 when it failed to pass on a first reading there. The vote against sending the bill to the full Assembly was along party lines. Utah Wants to Stop School Gay Group SALT LAKE CITY - According to a report in the Deseret News, the Utah State Board of Education has told state officials to find "all available ~neans" to control the kinds ofnon-curriculum dubs that are formed at public schools in the state.The move is aimed at preventing a gay and lesbian student club from being formed at East High School in the state’s capital city. C. Grant Hurst, who introduced the directive, told the newspaperit wasn’t specifically about the gay dub at the high school and said he was concerned the current legal situation could allow net-Nazi groups to be formed at public schools in Utah. Hurst admitted, however, that he had gotten"numerous" phone calls opposed to the gay club and none about possible net-Nazi dubs forming.. The board’s resolution speaks only about the"formation of any organizations, in schools, that may create a disruptive or unsafe atmosphere for children or that may attract or entice children tomake decisions tllat could have a long-term negative impact on their lives." The Utah attorney general’s office told educators late last year in a letter that federal law and court rulings mandate that scllool clubs have to be treated equally no matter how potentially controversial. The board’s own attorney late in 1995 said the only way the state could keep the gay dub at East High from forming would be for all clubs to be prohinted, stop receiving federal education funds entirely,.or to ask Congress to repeal the Equal Access Act. Rally Against Blocking Gay School Clubs In Utah SALT LAKE CITY - Hundreds of gay rights activists, including the parents of gay mid lesbian teens, rallied outside the state Capitol to protest a move by conservative lawmakers who have said the state should not allow gay and lesbian student groups in public schools, even if Dan Du Vall / Owner BROOKSIDE JEWELRY South Peoria 743-$272 Corner of 48th & Peoria 9:30 - 5, Mon. - Fri. Open Saturdays thru holidays! P AII’ERSON REALTORS" LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: 671-2010 2642 E. 21st Street ¯ Suite !70 ¯ Tulsa, Oklahoma 74114 Off: 918-749-8374 ¯ Res: 918-582-7672 ° Fax: 918-747-1795 David A. Paddock, CPA, MT "Utmost Confidence Assured" 4308 S. Peoria, Suite 633 Tulsa, OK 74105 logo here Call for an appc (918) 747-7672 Computer Analysis Consultation Rich Fox P.O. Box 52708 Tulsa, OK 74152-0708 Pager: (918)690-2974 News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News the state has to refuse a $100 million education grant from the federal government or even bar all student groups. Kelli Peterson, the East High School student who asked to organize the gay and lesbian campus club, told the cheering crowd she didn’t try to start the group to advocate homosexuality or to recruit heterosexual classmates into a "homosexual lifestyle." In.stead, she said, "I started this group to end the misery and isolation of being gay in high school." Utah legisli~tors held a secret meeting earlier in the week with the state school superintendent, the commissioner of higher education and members of the Utah Attorney General’s office, reportedly to discuss legal methods to prevent gay clubs from being formed at schools in the state. But Senate President Lane Beattie dismissed the protest as a tempest in a teapot. "The infermarion given them was in error," he said. "It [the secret meeting] wasnot an anti-gay, anti-lesbian meeting. The meeting was not held to discuss issues they tlfink we discussed.’~ Beatrie said that lawmakers at the meeting were not anti-gay bnt were anti-immorality. "That includes heterosexual immorality as well as homosexual iunnorality. We m’e not going to allow immorality to be taught or encouraged in our public education system. Period." But rights activists point out that a measure that has not yet been printed for public review - SB 246 - would"prohibit schools from supporting illegal conduct" and may well mimic an Alabmna state law barring publicly supported schools from supporting any orgmfizarion that advocates illegal activities. That Alabmna measure was specifically aimed at preventing state colleges from allowing gay and lesbian student groups on campus because sodomy is illegal in Alabama, as it is in Utah. The Alabamameasure, however, was recently declared unconstitutional by a federal court. Episcopal Bishop Faces Heresy Trial WILMINGTON, Del. -Theheresy trial of retired Episcopal Bishop Alter Righter for ordainingan openly gay priest is slated to start before a panel of 9 bishops Feb. 27, only the second such heresy proceeding in the history of the church although the bishops who brought the charges against Righter say it won’t be the last. Righter, the retired bishop of Iowa, ordained- Barry Stopfel as a deacon in 1990. At the rime Stopfel not only acknowledged that he is gay, but also that he had been living with his male partner throughout his seminary studies. The 10 bishops who brought the charges against Righter say bishops in New Jersey, Philadelphia, Detroit and Washington may also be charged With heresy for similar ordinations if the ecclesiastical court finds Righter guilty. TX Radical Right Wants No Gays In Library SAN ANTONIO, Texas - Antigay flmdamentalists have tried - so far without success - to keep the Unity Foundation, an organization that’s working on plans to open a lesbian and gay community center in this SouthTexas ¯ city, fromholding mmeetings in the city’s pubhc library. Organizers of the anri-gay group have protested outside the library and city hall, and say that homosexuals shouldn’t be permitted to use ~ public facilities because sodomy ¯ is illegal under state law. But so far the anti-gay protests have been small and failed to draw wide support, while a number of mainstream religious leaders have vocally backed the Unity Foundation’ s rights both to meet at the library and to work on the community center. San Francisco Police: A ’Commanding’ Lesbian SAN FRANCISCO- As part of sweeping changes from top to bottom being instituted by newly elected Mayor Willie Brown in San Francisco, Melinda Pengel has become perhaps the highest ranking openly gay police officer in any major U.S. police e force. Pengel, who was in the first class of women cadets to join the SFPD in 1975 and iu 1994 became one of the department’s highest ranking officers when she was awarded her captain’s bars, has now been made a commander on the force of some 2,000 officers. Colnmander Pengel, 41, was named to hernew rank by Brown’s handpicked Police Chief Fred Lau. The rank of commander is below only the chief and deputy chief officials. Among her new duties, Pengel will oversee the department’s pohcing efforts on the city’s trouble-plagued public transportation system. Pengel said of the promotion, "It’s not just for me; it’s for .the other women in the department too. We’re moving into a nmv era, and I get to be a part of that." Virginia ’Diversity’ Billboard Covered Up CHRISTIANBURG, Va. - A billboard erected recently in the downtown area of this small community of some 11,000 people west of Roanoke, proclaiming simply that "Diversity Enriches,’" has been covered over by the owners of the billboard after callers threatened to damage the finn’ s property. The billboard was paid for by an informal group known as Gay & Straight Citizens of Southwest Virginia with the help of the local chapter of PFLAG (Parents & Friends of Lesbians And Gays), and went up January 18. Aside from the simple phrase, "’Diversity Enriches," the only other print on the rainbow billboard was the much smaller sponsorship tag for Gay & Straight Citizens of Southwest Virginia, which paid $450 for having its sign up for a month. But after au article with a photo of the billboard appeared in the local newspaper, Frank Amburn, manager of the lo’cal office of Outdoor East, the company that owns the billboard space, says his office was flooded with calls complaining about the sign, including several from people who threatened to destroy other billboards owned by the advertising finn. At that point, Amburn decided to cover up the billboard out of fear for his company’s property. The ad agency’ is refunding the money paid for the billboard space. Forbes’ Gay Views Become a Political Issue DES MOINES, iowa- Dmnonstrating once again - for better or f6r worse - that gay fights can no longer be separated from uational politics, Republicau pres. hopefuls have increasingly tried to derail the unexpectedly surging candidacy of multi-~nillionaire Steve Forbes by portraying him as "’pro-ga.v.’" In Iowa iu Jan., state cmnpaign officials who were supporting Sen. Phil Grannn’s bid, told reporters that Forbes supports allowing gays m~d lesbim~s to serve in the U.S. military under the current "’don’t ask, d’on’t tell’" compromise policy. Recently, Forbes was asked ifhe was in favor of allowing same-sex marriages. Although clearly uncomfortable with the question, Forbes responded," Compassion is not approval. There should be special fights for none, equal rights for all." Brits Expected to Keep Anti-Gay Military Policy LONDON" - London ucwspapers have reported that British defense lmnistry officials remmn opposed to ending the ban on gays and lesbians in the nation’ s armed forces. Several newspapers reported that Michael Portillo, the defense ~mnister, will announce sometime in Feb. the findings of a ministry review of the policy excluding homosexuals in the military, but several ministry officials have atready said the review found no reason to change the policy. If the govenunent keeps the current policy there will almost certainly be a legal challenge before ihe European Court of fluman Rights, where 4 discharged gay and lesbian service members have already’ applied for a review of their case. The uational gay rights group Stonewall has also applied for pervm ssign to appeal the policy to the House of Lords, Britain’s highest court of appeal. Gay arit to Play Wilde LONDON - Openly’ gay British comic actor Stephen Fry, perhaps best known to American audiences for his portrayal of the erudite and condescending butler in the BBC,’PBS "Wooster and Jeeves,’" says his next role will be starnng in a film bio-pic of 19th century playwright, wit mad ben vivant , Oscar Wilde. Wilde was finprisoned in 1895 for a sodomy statute violation. KELLY KIRB Y Certified Public Accountant Lesbians & Gays face many special tax situations whether single or as couples. 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Just Say No School Programs WASHINGTON" - Part of the massive welfare overhaul confessional Republicans have proposed in this year’s ongoing budget battle includes $75 millionin federal funds for state schools to each students the "gains to be realized by abstaining from sexual activity" outside marnage. The abstinence pro~am proposal would provide money for schools to teach youngsters that complete abstinence is the oulv certmn wav to avoid unwanted pregnancies and sex~ally transmitted diseases such as AIDS. Ignoring gays and lesbians ~vho cannot legally marry in this country, the language of"ihe G~)P proposal states: "A mutually faithful monogmnous relationship in the context of mamage is the expected standard of human sexual activity" mad that sex outside marnage "’is likely to have laarmful p~ychological and physical effects." Gay Medical Journal NEWYORK-The Gay &Lesbian Medical Assn. has announced plans to begin publishing what it says will be the first science journal devoted to medical issues faced byhomosexuals. Thejournal, which as yet has not been given a name, will focus on publishing findings in research on AIDS and HIV, mental health issues, breast cancer and other medical issues. FDA OK Sought for AIDS Drug STOCKHOLM - The U.S.-Swedish drug manufacturer Pharmica & Upjohn has released preliminary data on ,still-incomplete clinical trials of its drug Delavirdine (also -known as Rescriptor) because early results hold so much promise, the firm sa vs. Hoping that the early results will help get faster approval from the U.S. Food & Drug Administration for the drug, Pharmica & Upjotm said Delavirdine appears to help some patients infected with HIV stave off developing full-blown AIDS. The firm said that preliminary data from its ongoing tests with the drug indicate that patients receiving Delavirdine had been able to lower the amount ofHIV in their blood system by at least 68% for as long as 60 w~eks. Some 3,500 patients have been participating so far. Infants Shed HIV Completely LONDON - According to researchers reporUng in the medical journal Lancet, nine infants who were infected with HIV bv their mothers at birth have fended off tl~e virus. Only a few such reports of HIV relnisston have ever been reported, an~ those have beeu received with some skepticism. But the uew findings - which come from Italy, Belgium m~d Swedeu : may not be so easiix disufissed. Of some 264 babies who were born HIV-positive, the research team found nine who subsequently became free of the virus. In seven cases, both HIV tests used went from positive to negative during the course of the study; in the other two, the virus was detected even though the antibody tests indicated that the baby was not infected. 2 Different AIDS Epidemics NEW DELHI - Max Essex of the Harvard AIDS Institute said at a conference on infectious diseases that increasingly there are 2 different AIDS epidemics globally - one in the Western industrial nations, which is slowing, and another in Afr ica and Asia, which is continuing to Wow with noend in sight. Essex told the conference that the 2 epidemics are spread by different strains of HIV- 1, and that the B and E strains of the virus behave differently. Unpublished research by Essex and his team at the Harvard institute, he said, indicates that subtype E is more efficient at infecting cells in the female reproductive tract, so is more readily transmitted during heterosexual sex. The E subtype is largel y found in Africa and the Indian subcontinent. But, Essex said, the viral subtype that is largely responsible for the AIDS epidemic in Europe and North America - subtype B - targets different body cells and seems more prone to being passed on during anal sex, perhaps explaining its predominance among gay men. Essex noted that in the West, about 2 million people are infected and that that number appears to have leveled off. But, he said, there are an estimated 15 to 20 million cases in Africa and the Indian subcontinent, and that number apparently is continuing to grow unchecked. "RELIEF FROM PAIN" THOMAS CHIROPRACTIC CLINIC DR. REX M. THOMAS DR. SHIRLEY A. THOMAS FREE CON~(.LTATION PROFESSIONAL SERVICE NO NEEDLES ACUPUNTURE NECK & BACK PAIN CHRONIC PAIN ASSURED PRIVACY NUTRITION COUNSELING HEADACHES CARPAL TUNNEL SYNDROME 4138 S. HARVARD. SUITE C-1 TULS& OK 74135 (918) 742-8868 Free & Anonymous Finger Stick Method By & for, but not exclusive to the Lesbian, Gay, & Bisexual Communities. Monday & Thursday evenings: 7-8:30 pm for testing, 7-9 pm for results. Daytime testing, Mon-Thurs by appointment. TOHR Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights 742-2927 4158 South Harvard, Suite E-2 2 doors east of the HIV Resource Consortium Look for our banner on testing nights. Intimacy for Gay & Bisexual Men A 10 WEEK THERAPEUTIC GROUP EXPERIENCE The focus of the group will be the introduction of a cognitive behavioral group model for examining intimacy and .barriers to intimate relationships among gay and bisexual men. This approach is skill-based, and builds upon the strengths of group members while promoting growth at intrapersonal, interpersonal and community levels. Facilitated by Richard Reeder, M.S. When: Monday evenings, 7:00 - 9:00 P.M. 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Southwest Home Office Dailas, Texas 800-559-4790 Kelly Kirby Oklahoma Representative POB 14011 Tulsa, OK 74159-1011 918-747-3320 AT! EN !iON! r I i I I ANNOUNCING A RETREAT GAY/BISEXUAL/vkE N! WHO: Sponsore~ by TNAAPP WHAT: Weekend Retreat for Gay/Bisexual Native American Men WHEN: February 23-25, 1996 WHERE: For More information Caii Today 582-7225, Extension 21~ IT’S FREE! IT’S FUN! SIC;IV UP TOgAY! FOR t NAME: ADDRESS: CITY: TELEPHONE: STATE: Zl P: II I I I dUT ON DOTTED LINE & ,MAIL TO: TNAAPP, 915 SOUTH CINCINNATI, TULSA, OK 74ff9-2000 YES! i AM INTERESTED IN COMING TO THE RETREAT II "TULSA FAMILY NEWS COMMUNITY CA EN’I R SUNDAYS MONDAYS Agape’ Christian ¯ HIV Testing Fellowship TOHR Clinic Worship Service, 10:30 am : Free & anonymous testing Sheridan Center, Suite H 21st & Sheridan, 599-7688 Bl~ss the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School, 9:45 am Worship Service, 11 am 2627b East 1 lth 583-7815 Community of Hope (United Methodist) Worship Service, 6 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Family of Faith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 : Worship Service, 11 am 5451-E South Mingo. Info: 622-1441 Metro. Comm; Church of Greater Tulsa Worship Service, 10:45am 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa 6:30 pm at Canterbury 5th & Evanston,’ 583-9780 using fingerstick method. No appointment required. Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm Results hours: 7-9 pm Info: 742-2927 Lambda Bowling League Sheridan Lanes 8:45 pm 3121 S. Sheridan PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 2nd Monday of month, 6:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard Info: 749-4901 OTHER GROUPS : Tool Box Technicians, : Leather org., Info c/o The Too1 Box: 584-1308 T.U.L.S.A. Ti~sa Uniform ¯ & Leather Seekers Assoc. Info: 838-1222 ~ The Banned, OK Gay Band Practice weekly in OKC Info: 838-2121 TUESDAYS HIV+ Support Group HIV Resource Consortium 1:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 Info: Wanda @ 749-4194 WEDNESDAYS Authority OfThe Believer Bible Study, 7 pm MCC of Greater Tulsa 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. Bless The Lord At All HIV/AIDS Support Group : Times Christian Center .& Friends & Family HIV/AIDS Support Group 7 pm, call for location: 749-7898 Community of Hope Grief Group, 6 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Womens Grief Group sponsored by Community of Hope 6pm, Butler/Stumpff Funeral Home 2103 E. 3rd St. Info: 585-1800 ¯ Prayer & Bible Study 7:30 pm 2627-B East 1 lth Call 583-7815 for info. Family Of Faith MCC Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Practice 7:30 pm 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. Community of Hope (United Methodist) Service for Peace, 6:30 pm Bible Study, 7 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 TNAAPP Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project Support group for Gay & Bi Native American Men, 6 pm at Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd 582-7225 or 584-4983 THURSDAYS 16-Step Empowerment Group For Women Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 Co-Dependency Support Group . 7:30, Family of Faith MCC 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-144 1 HIV TestingTOHRClinic Walk in testing: 7 - 8:30 pm Results hours: 7 - 9 pm Info: 742-2927 Tulsa Family Chorale Weekly practice, 9:30 pm Lola’s 2630 E. 15th PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 1st & 3rd Thursdays 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 Alternatives Weekly social events for LGBT men & women, 7 pm Info: 646-5503 Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV’AIDS 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G 3-4:30 pm, Info: 749-4194 FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 16 Community ofHope Movie Night & Discussion: A River Runs Through It 6:30 pm, 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 17 Family ofFaith MCC Reclaim & Recovery Workshop: Forgiveness 9-3 pm, 5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 18 Community ofHope Companioning Celebration 2 pm, 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 20 WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 21 St. Jerome’s. Catholic Church (ECC) Fat Tuesday Party Ash Wednesday Service Info: page Father Rick at 646-7116 THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 22 Alternatives Social Groap - Dinner 7pm, Golden Corral, 71St & Mingo Info: 646-5503 SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 24 Shanti Mardi Gr~ Ball, 8-midnight Natl. Guard Armory, Fairgrounds " Info: 749-7898 THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 29 Alternatives Leap Year Party 7pm, Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine Info: 646-5503 TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 27 Rainbow Business Guild 7 pm, Full Moon Care, Cherry Street Dinner Meeting with speaker. Info: 665-5174 ." FRIDAY, MARCH 1 ¯ Community ofHope ¯ Movie Night & Discassion: Priest : 6:30 pm, 1703 E. 2nd, hffo: 585-1800 OF Safe Haven, a free, non-political, nonreligious, non-recovery-oriented social gathering for LGBT voimg adults. 18-30 : Family of Faith MC~, 8 - rmdnight 5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 SATURDAY, MARCH 2 Rosary at St. Jerome’s Catholic Charch The Garden Chapel, 3841 S. Peoria Info: page Father Rick at .636-7116 TUESDAY, MARCH 5 Tulsa Oklahomansfor Haman Rights Community Meeting, 7 pm Chapman Activity Ctr., Univ. of Tulsa 5th St. west of Harvard, Info: 743-4297 WEDNESDAY, MARCH 6 Marsha Stevens Concert presented by Agape Christian Fellowship 7 pm, All Soul’s Unitarian, 2952 S. Peoria Info: 599-7688 WEDNESDAY, MARCH 6 NewLGBTPolitical Groap, I st Meeting 7 pm, Martin East Regional Library 2601 So. Garnett SATURDAY, MARCH 9 Dignityllntegrity Meeting Lesbian/Gay Catholics & Episcopalians 5 pm, St. Dunstan’s Episcopal Church 5635 E. 71st, Info: POB 701044, 74170 SATURDAY, MARCH 16 Gaylapalooza, 8 pm Tulsa Performing Arts Center 110 E. Second, Info: 596-7111 SATURDAYS St. Jerome’s Ecumenical Catholic Church Mass, 6 pm Garden Chapel 3841 S. Peoria Info: Father Rick at 742-7122 Narcotics Anonymous Meets weekly at l 1 pm Confidential support for recovering addicts. Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt Sewing Bees 3rd Sat. of each month Info: 748-3111 OTHER GROUPS Gay & Lesbian Sttulent Association - TJC Southeast Can~pus, Info: 631-7632 SWAN-Single Women’s Activity Network Call 832-2121 TOHR Helpline Daily 8-10 pm For info. or to vohlntecr: 743-GAYS SCOTT ROBISON’S PRESCRIPTIONS ,Serving Tulsan’s Since 1947 Major credit cards In-store charges or Direct insurance billing for your convenience! 3 locations to serve you: Hillcrest Physician’s Building 1145 So. Utica 743-2351 Utica Square Area 1560 East 21st, Ste. 104 743-2351 The Plaza 8146-D South Lewis 299-1790 Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library This entertaining anthology combines essays, personal narratives and poetry regarding the multitude of rites and phases of lesbian life. Coming from the position that the lives of lesbians are, in many ways, very unlike the lives of heterosexual women or gay men, Dyke Life ~ves an inside perspective of lesbian marriage, parenting, stereotypes and lesbians in corporate America, among 0{her topics. There are five parts to Dyke Life: 1) Relating to Others, 2) Relating to Each Other, 3) Sex and Gender Identity, 4)The Public World, and 5) The Lesbian Body. Each section includes several entries by both well-known and obscure lesbian writers. Some of the better-known authors include JoAnn Lonlan, Del Martin, Leslea Newman and Rutt~&im Robson, all of whom have other books available in the library. The entry rifled "outing and the Politics of the Closet," by Victoria Brownworth, is an entertaining examination of the social circumstances which make the outing of women a difficult and sensitive proposition. "Creating Lesbian Families," by Heather Conrad and Kate Colwell shows the challenges and controversies surrounding lesbian parenting. One of the more unusual entries is by Hon. PanlaJ. Hepner, who is a judge on the New York State Family Court. Her entry is titled, "Oy Veh, t’he Judge on the Bench is a Dyke!’" Another valuable entry is by Jeanne Adleman, member of Old Lesbians Organizing for Change (OLOC), who contributes, "We Never Promised You Role Models." One of the best things about this book is the extensive bibliographical information that many entries contain. Often, not only books and magazines are cited, but organizarions as well, complete with address, fax and phone numbers. For aninteresting and enlightening treat, check,out Dyke Life. This and other books on similar topics are available at Tulsa City-County Libraries. Please call your local branch library or the Central Library Readers Services Department at 596-7966, for more information. traveling from around the region to participate in a picnic mad other festivities. Particular thanks went the support FUSO received from METSAS, Metropolitan Tulsa Substance Abuse Services.. On Feb. 15-19 , FUSO members are joining with members of Brother to Brother, an Oklahoma City organization, to attend the 9th Annual National Black Lesbian & Gay Conference, taking place in Dallas, titled, Black Lesbians and Gqvs: Continuing the Struggle. FUSO meets the 1st Thursday of each month at 6:30 pm at Rudisill North Regional Library, 1520 No. Hartford, 596- 7280. The meetings and membership are open to those 18 and above. presents in concert March 6th, 7prn In Her All Souls Unitarian Church Auditorium 2952 South Peoria For more information, call Agape" Christian Fellowship at 599-7688 Tul~sa’s only Gay-owned Funera~ Home Butfer-Stumpff Funera¢ Home gg Crematory ~103 /3ast Tftird~ 587-7000 Complete Services Available. For Example, Only $2820 for Casket with Complete Service. Includes: Quality Steel Sealer Casket in one of four colors, Standard Single Lawn Crypt, Service at your church or in our chapel, Hearse, Family Limousine, Pallbearers Limousine, Thank You Cards, Register Book, Memorial Folders, Visitation, Embalming, Hairdressing, Cosmetic Services, All Professional Services. If you have a prearrangement elsewhere, and paid too much, transfer your policy and you may be eligible for a cash refund. Wasfiin~Iton Memorial~ Gardens 4300 East 91st Street South Special Offer! Burial Space for Just $200, pre-construction. by Phyl Boler-Schmidt An excitement has erupted in Eureka Springs, and you’ll find j.’ust about everyone talking about it - gay, straight, businessman, minister, lodging owner, photographer, realtor, even computer geek. Okay, especially computer geek! So, what’s :the fuss? ~ureka now has a whole lot of information available on the Internet and WorldWide Web. Most of it has just popped up, seemingly out of nowhere, in the last month. And, where is it coming from? Who would spend a lot of time promoting Eureka Springs? Positive Idea Marketing Plans (PIMP, for short) is the source of all the hubbub, and not surprisingly, PIMP is a family-owned and operated company. Jan and Kim Ridenour own PIMP, and they. have put their company in literal overdrive on this new project since the year began. You probably remember Jan and Kim. They are the soon-tobe- former owners of The EmeraldRainbow, andKim frequently writes the astrology column for Tulsa Family News, PIMP (among other things) owns its own Web domain, and the Ridenours have been processing and publishing pages on that domain (PIMPS.corn). Everything imaginable is available with the click of a mouse, mad new pages are being added daily. Just what is available for Eureka on the Web? As of this writing (you never know what else will be there by the time we are published and distributed)~ you can access pages about the town of Eureka, complete with gorgeous photographs, and there is also a page about the Ozark region. When you first see the pictures, some may seem familiar. That’s because many of the pictures are from the collection of Susan Storch, master photographer. Susan is responsible for many of the photos that appear on .postcards for Eureka and the reg~oni And Susan’s shop, The Imagery also has a page on the Web, complete with more samples of her work. There is a page for Weddings and Holy Unions and how to set up the honeymoon of your dreams right here in the Ozarks. A standard wedding page also exists (you know, standard - one boy, ,one girl), complete with more photos. Pond Mountain, a favorite bed and breakfast inn, has a page complete with details on lodging, wedding setups, honeymoons, and breathtaking photos. Two local realtor~ are represented in the Enreka pages: Century 21 Woodland Real Estate, a partly family-owned operation, and McClung Realty, a regular advertiser in these pages. For those of you that were fortunate to stop in and visit The Emerald Rainbow in the past year, you may have met Alice P(ig) Bailey. Alice now has her own page on the information superhighway, and even has an advice column. Stay tuned for pig astrology. There are a number offamilyspecific sites as well. In addition to the weddings and holy unions page, there is a site for g/l/b/t retreats, Our Worm Magazine is published on line, and Guru to Go, Kim’s astrology.page, is there too. So, I guess you could call tiffs Queer Eureka OnLine too. Local weather forecasts are easy to access, and there is a feature site of the week as well. Yahoo, one of the premiere Internet search engines can be acces sed, and you can download the latest in browser software. I know of several more pages that are in the making, and there are listings of pages that are due to be available soon. The Eureka pages continue to grow in number every time I look at the WorldWi’de Web. But, it doesn’t stop with Eureka Springs. The Internet and the Web are national and international communications systems. I+inks tO related sites can be found ~dl over the PIMP pages, and other companies that aren’t specific to Eureka Springs have an opportunity to get on the PIMP bandwagon too. If you have never had the opportunity to browse around the Web, it is a thrill you will not easily forget. Once a person realizes how easy ~t is to access an entire world of information with the click of a mouse, the task of looking things up in a phone book, a dictionary, or an encyclopedia becomes downright mundane. For those of you who are already on line: if you haven’t used thatWebbrowser that came with your signup package, give it a try. You’ll never look at a compute.r screenin quite the same way again. And, if you want a first place to look, use this address: http://www.pimps.com/ For you experienced Web browsers out there, go to the address above, then put it on a bookmark. New pages are being added all the time. Follow all the links on that front page, and you could easily spend a couple of hours just looking at what is available in and near Eureka Springs, and especially what is available that isfamily-specific If you don’t have a computer, or hive one and have not vet made the leap to cyberspace, n~w is the time. An entire world of information, resources, new friends, business contacts, and just plain fun is to be had. Since I’m your basic computer geek, this has been an especi,’dly exciting time for me. I have watched as numerous people have accessed the Web for the first time, and I gotta tell you, it’s an amazing thing to see thc excitement in the eyes of someone who has just discovered the answer to his or her dreams. If you don’t have access to the Interuet, find a friend who does. Buy the beer and bribe your friend into showing you how to access cyberspace. If you do have access, point your browser to the address given above. You can also reach PIMP by e-mail at emerald@intellinet.com. If you aren’t on line, or if youjust want to talk to a real live human, call 501-253-2401. Be brave. Step out. You’ll be glad you did! Georgia Ragsdale, who has filmed a movie, "’Never Met Picasso, soon to be released, with co-star Margot Kidder. Their shows have been sellouts wherever they’ve played. Tickets for this "Doh’t-miss"onc of a -kind show are available at the PAC and Carson Attractions, for S15.50 to $18.50. The show has one performance at 8 pm Saturday, March 16th Mark your calendars now, because this is one show yon won’t want to miss out on, and it’s the first of its kind in Tulsa. That’s progress ! O000000000000000000 ¯¯ A Friendly Place to Stay ¯ ¯¯ KING’S HI-WAY ¯¯ INN ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ 96 Kings Highway, Hwy. 62 W Eureka Springs, AR 72632 (501) 253-7311 1-800-231-1442 Jerry A. 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You can also open an Individual Retirment Account (I.R.A.); however, if you have a retirment plan at work, there will not be much room, if any, to deduct your I.R.A. If you do not have a retirment plan at your place of employment, try opening an I.R.A. at your bank or with a financial consultant. * If you are self-employed or a small company employer of25 or less employees, you may ~ualify for the Simplified Employee Pension plan (SEP) A SEP provides an employer with a simplified way to make contributions to an employee’s Individual Retirement Account or Individual Retirement Annuity. 1. Employer contributions are made directly to SEP-IRAs set up for each employee with a bank, insurance company or other qualified financial institution. 2. Employer contributions are tax deductible. 3. Contributions are not taxed currently to the employee. 4. Earnings accumulate income tax-deferred. ADDITIONAL CONSIDERATIONS 1. ANNUAL CONTRIBUTION. No annual contribution is required. If a contribution is made, the allocation must be the same percentage for each eligible employee. 2.INDIVIDUALLIMITS.The allocation of employer contributions to a participant’ s account may not exceed the lesser of 15% of compensation or $22,500. For the selfemployed, these values are reduced to 13.0435% and $19,565. 3. TIME OF CONTRIBUTION. Contributions can be made until the due date (plus extensions) of the employer’s return. 4. VESTING. Vesting must always be 100%. 5. ADDITIONAL IRAs. Additional IRAs are permitted if the combination meets overall ItLa~ limits. 6. WHO MAY PARTICIPATE? Any employee who is at least 21 and has performed "service" in at lehst 3 of the last 5 calendar years must be permitted to participate under the SEP, unless her total compensation is less than $400 for the ye.ar. 7. INVESTMENT OF PLAN ASSETS. 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Contributions and costs are totally flexible. 3. Reporting is very minimal -- no IRS or Dept. of Labor forms. 4. The plan is easy to understand by the employees. 5. The plan is easy to set up by merely completing IRS Form 5305-SEP*. 6. There is little or no administrative expense. II. ADVANTAGES TO EMPLOYEES 1. Annual contributions are not taxed to the participant. 2. Earnings on the account are not currently taxed. 3. Participants have the right to direct investments. 4. Participants can also have a regular deductible IRA, if the combined accounts meet overall IRA requirements. 5. Funds can be withdrawn at any time; e.g., in the event of an emergency, although there will be penalties if the participant is not yet 59 1/2, unless the participant is deceased or disabled, or a special annui.ty pay out (of substantially equal payments) is chosen. III. DISADVANTAGES TO EMPLOYER 1. Contributions must be made for part-time and seasonal employees. 2. Employees can withdraw the funds as fast as they are put into the account. 3. Employees are always 100% vested -- there are no forfeitures to reduce employer contributions. 4. Employees control investments. 5. Allocation methods which reduce employer costs may not be used. IV. DISADVANTAGES TO EMPLOYEES 1. There is no guarantee as to future benefits 2. Investment risks rest on the participant. 3. There is no assurance as to the frequency and amount of employer contributions. 4. Special lump-sum tax treatment of distributions is not available. 5. No tax-free disability pay out is available. 6. There are no forfeitures to be reallocated 7. Life insurance funding is not’available. 8. Cannot contribute over the 15% limit (compared to a 25% limit permitted tinder Qualified Defined Contribution Plans). 9. Bankruptcy protection from creditors is uot afforded. Pres. Clinton said during his "’S tate of the l’nion’" address, your retirement program is going to be up to us. Talk to your employer. T,*~ke a look at your own plan. Today! ! "" My interest is in the future because I am going to spend the rest of my life there." Charles F. Kettering Photos, JD Jamett, 621-5597 mmmmmmmmmmmmmnmmmmmm 2405 E. Adrnira ¯ ¯ in Historic "_ Whittier Square "_ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ 582-4340,! People don’t plan to fail, they fail to plan. Leanne Gross Retirement planning, Life, health & income insurance, & investment placing. 744-0102 Mention this ad to receive free initial consultation. Making Sense If you missed it the first time, don’t miss it this time. Making Sense: Innovative and challenging: A program that only TOHR could bring you. Making Sense Program begins February 20. Call T©HR for more information and to enroll. Ask for Jason. 743.4297 by Jean-Pierre It’s 2 a.m., the bars have closed, and you’re hungry. Where in Tulsa can you go’? The restaurants revxewed here are open all night and have table service. Clearly, the unquestionable winner in the all-night category has to be the Village Inn chain. While service quality varies a bit from store to store, it is generally reasonably prompt, and, as long as you. d.on’t have any special requests or instructions, reasonably efficient. Breakfast is.Village Inn’s forte. They " are Particularly known for theirextremely fluffy omelettes, made so by a quick whirl in the blender before cooking. Otherpopular breakfasts are the several varieties of "skillets", which feature diced potatoes, a meat, and onions and other vegetables, all sauteed together, and then topped with eggs to order and a sauce or gravy ofsome sort. Of course, you can also get sandwiches and regular diner food. We particularly like the Cobb salad, of mosdy iceberg lettuce, but topped with aplethora ofother tasty items like bleu cheese, fresh bacon, grilled chicken breast, an~ diced avocados. Be sure and ask if the avocados are ripe, since we were served hard and tasteless avocados on several occassions. Those of you not counting fat grams will no doubt be quite favorably impressed by the double cheeseburger, f~aturing two j’ulcv hamburger patties, grilled onions, ba0o~ ~trips, cheese, & thousand island dressing. Our biggest complaint with the Village Im] chain is that the3 close at midnight on Sunday and Monday nights. On those unfortunate nights, the default choice has to be Kettle. We are sorry to report that the corporate Kettle entity was recently purchased by Denny’s. None of the employees in any of the local stores are able to tell us whether ornot there will be any change in the restaurant’s Policies , orif the Kettle stores will become Dermy’s. Kettle’s food is pretty standard and generic fare. They also do a better job on dinner entrees than most of their competitors, but even so, none meet the excruciatingly high Jean-Pierre standards. Denny’s is the traditional American allnightrestaurant, andis the standard against which other competitors are measured. Fortunately for those competitors, the local Denny’s don’t meet the old Denny’s standard. Over the last three months, we made twovisits each to three ofthe local Deuny’s stores. In each case, the service was unacceptably slow. Twice we heard patrons at other tables get almost violently loud with their server over delays, wrong orders, and poor food. The most frequent problem we encountered was cold .food. Runner up was overcooked food. To make all of. this worse, Denny’s famous budgetsaver "Grand Slam"brealffast is not served during the midnight to 6 a.m period. Frequent road-trippers will no doubt be familiar with the Waffle House chain. Small and unpretentious, Waffle House can serve a decent and cheap breakfast. Unfortunately we found that food quality vanes greatly from store to store. All Waffle Houses have wmtresses that call their customers "Hon." It’s a tradition. But, what realh scares us at Waffle House is the fa~t tl~at your short-order cook works in full view.’Some thin2s are probably better left unsaid. Waffle House has an All You Can Eat special for $4.59, slightly higher during the 10 p.m. to 6 a.m. period, that is worth yourmoney and probably the best way for you to eat. The signature food is the pecan waffle, which appears hot off the iron golden brown, fragrant, and filled with pieces of pecan throughout the batter. We’ve never yet had a bad pecan waffle at a Waffle House. Other items are not so lucky. The grits we were served were a congealed mass of got bathed in some type of yellow oi!y substance we took to be melted margarine. Three ’local" restaurants exist Unfortunately, with no nadonal standards to meet, all three have definite short-comings, and we tend to avoid them. They are Mama Lou’s, Perry’s, and Kelly’s. So, as you can see, goodreaders,Tulsa’a late night dining scene Is not paricularly condusive to the gourmet experience. We do, however, have to ~ve honorable mentlons to the Whataburger and Tact Cabana chains. The food at Tact Cabana is pretty good, although not as good as what we’ve had at their San Antonio stores. Also, a favorite spot we had to mention is the Country Ketde/Texaco truck stop way out east of town on 1-44. Technically, it’s in Catoosa city limits, but just across the highway is sti]l within Tulsa city limits. Ourrecommendation?Hone vou~ gourmet skills at home for your friends. Eat before ten o’clock. Move to New York. Otherwise, head to a Village Inn, maybe eat at Tact Cabana, or try your luck with a gamble at one of the other restaurants. by James Christjohn ¯ If you missed the last two concerts in the Celtic Music series at the PAC, you : missed some great entertainment! Celtic music is the great-grandperson of bluegrass and country, yet has a quality all its ¯ own. Haunting and celebratory, often at the same time, it is great music to dis- , cover, or if you already have, to explore. ¯ Coming up is the third and final (sadly) ; concert of the Celtic Music Series, the ¯ Cassidys, 5musical Irish brothers (hate to be in the middle of one of their family ¯ spats!),atthePAC nMarch 13. They ve ¯ played for two Presidents, and filled Ra¯ dio City Music & Carnegie Halls. This will be their Tulsa debut. For info and ¯ tickets, call the PAC ticket office at 596- : 7111. And doit soon, because these shows ¯ usually pack the house! ¯ For an amusing evening, don’t miss ¯ Broken Arrow Community Playhouse’s ¯ production of"the Lion in Winter. This is ¯ the last weekend to catch it; Friday & ¯ Saturday at 8pm and Sunday at 2pm. ¯ Catch the kiss in the second act - it’s quite a show stopper! (Not to mention the numerous pacemakers planted throughout ¯ the audience!) For info, call 258-0077. ¯ Well, I haven’t seen any ghosts lately, ¯ but I’ve been haunted by a Phantom. Yes, he looms large on the horizon... Oh, never ¯ mind, that’s not him, just my shadow! I ¯ really must stick to that diet more stricdy. ¯ Where was I? Oh, yeah, Phantom. THE ¯ Phantom, of Opera fame, is arriving the ¯ 22nd, and will haunt the PAC until March 23 - they’ve added a week. According to my info. 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For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, February 15-March 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 3 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Communities - Our Families of the Heart National News Oregon Murder ¯ ......STSOCuKsTOpNe, Ccaltif..A-Triprpeedsotffebdy an i anonymous caller, authorities in Stockton, about 70 miles east of San Francisco, ~ January 15 - February 14, 1996, Vohlme 3, Issue 2 ,have arrested-Robert. James- Acremant in.’-- connection.with the killingiearlier in De- : .cember oftwoprominent lestiiaii activists " ¯ Run for Your Lives: ¯ OK House is In Session ¯ Legislators S.eekTo "Endorse Bias In i Adopti,on, Foster Gare & Education ¯ ~,In what is becoming a regular legisla- ~n Medford, Oregon. Authorities have : ¯ confirmed that the man also confessed to :, ti~e kick in the pants forOklahoma Lesbith .-~, t.:v. ~ ^r n _ :......~.__._ ¯ This drawing representing a gun target ¯ ans, Gay men and Bisexuals the Okla e earll,,.4 aadlng u,t a m,~, ,. LalllUllfl,H . _ . ¯ - .. , , - ,~-o--_~.t.....:t.:,:,. ,,__, ~_............ was left 3ee story below for details ¯ -homa House of Representatives is ised . ’ see Ore on a e:12 .... - ’ ~ /. . :~ .to address at least two resolutions which " ¯ -. " "~ ~ ~’~ ~’~ ..... Younn Men Admit,. ..u .r-Hara sm,nt- ’.......H.ou.se.Re.so.lut.ion.s 1.04.5&.1046,i.n_tro.- ~ ¯ - -": " ~ OUCgO resp~uvely o\’ Ul~ Kepresema- Murder-of Gay Man ! H.,aLnoscoanl communiDileaaad es.orsn, ,k,’,ellb,-, :"z"v..-. l,on:°" su° ,dB oe, e°na°u"f ,readree""mckeaannd, ,’oneesx o-f " HOUSTON - Authorities say Daniel C. : awoke to find "hate -.~.messages at theii~: ." press the position of the House of Repre- Bean, 19, and Rodney H. Gauthier, 21, : home. Recently, theyf0und an.anti-Gay :- sentadves "regarding certain lifestyles" two half-brothers who say they’re members of a net-Nazi organization, have admitted viciously attacking twogaymen, one ofwhomdied ofmultiple stabwounds. Frank Mangione, ’46, Was pronounced dead on amval at a local hospital, and Kenneth Stern, a friend who had been with see Murder, page 3 Ge,o. rgia: Fed.eral- Rultng on Marr,age ATL’-XNTA - The U.S. Court of Appeals in Adanta has ordered Georgia Attoruey General Michael Bowers to explain in court why his withdrawal of a 1991 job offer to Robin Shahar after she had a religious marriage ceremony with her lover does not violate Shahar’ s free speech rights under the U.S. Constitution. The ruling could force the .state’s, attorney general into a difficult court fight since it would require him to establish a"compelling governmental interest’: in changing his mind about the job offer. Bowers" office had argued that hiring Shahar after the commitment cerelnonv would complicate enforcement of the state’s antisodolny laws and could be construed as an endorsement of same-sex marriages. The attorney general’s office said it was "’disappointed" in die 3-judge panel’s ruling and would ask for a review, either by ftfll appeals court or the US Supreme Court. Calif. GOP Tries-To" Ban Gay Marriages Thursday, Jannary 4, Califorlfia Assemblymelnber Pete Knight unveiled amendments to his bill, AB 1982, to prevent Califonfia from recogmzing samesex marriages.!egally pedbnned in other states. Knight’s bill isiu reaction to the expected legalization of stone-sex marriages in Hawaii in the next two )’ears. Knight’s bill has the backing of the Assembly Republican caucus, and ,’dread)" has 29 Republican co-sponsors. Kafight’s stated reasoning follows: traditional marriages are for procreation. S,’une-gender couples can’ t "produce offspriug together, [so] they must view marriage as just a reservoir of economic perks." galight did see CA-GOP. page 10 ¯ (concentriccircles) with themessage,"tar- ¯ get practice-fags’: and on the reverse, ¯ vulgar drawings and comments. ¯ Kirby, fonner TOHR president, stated ¯ that this harassment is especially trou- ¯ bling since their address is not pul~lished. ¯ He added that the hate crimes unit of the Tuls.a police depart, did send officers to ¯ investigate, even though under ¯ Oklahoma’s hate crimes law, attacks on the basis of sextml orientation are not cov.ered. Kirby noted that these nughtjust See Target, page 10 message marked on a. car window. Two : and regarding "celebration of a LeSbian days later, tbeyfoundacrudedrawingon° .~ and Gay history month in the public their porch. On one side therewas a target ._: schools". Both are simple resolutions and : therefore would not have the force ot’lass" ¯ ACLU Continues to Challenge Sex Law The American Civil Liberties Union : (ACLU) ofOklahoma recently received a ¯ setback to its challenge of Oklahoma’s ¯ "’sodom)"’ law.. Oklahoma City attoruey, ¯ Mark Hendricksen, with Marquette l_’ni- ¯ versitvprofeSsoroflaw Shirley \Vie_,aand ¯ with assistance from ~he Gay & Lesbian Rights Project of the national’office of the ACLU are preparing a petition to the U~fited States S.up.reme Court for a review of the late 1995decision of the Oklal~olna Court of Criminal Appeals. The circumstances ~f the -case follow! a citizeu was approached by a undercover OKCpolice officer. After extended flirtation by the police officer who emphasized see ACLU. page 10 Project-Open Mind ,Parents, Fanfilies and Friends~of Lesbiaus and Gays, (PFL,~G), both the national and local orgamzations ,are contilming their Project Open Miud cmnpaign to reduce hate langtmge and violence directed toward Lesbians, Gay men, Bisexuals mad those perceived to be. PFI.=~G National ,’umomiced that the law finn of Hogan & tlartson LI.P will assist PFLAG at no .charge (pro bond) in First Amendment tssues raised by the threat of lawsuits against PFL&G i’r0mthe Christian Broadcasting Network (CBN). Project Open Mind began with television connnercials that featured anti-Gay see PFLAG. page House resolution 1045 declares that ¯"- "’homosexuality, lesbianism or bisexnal- : ity’" should not be taught as "’natural : lifestyles" in public schools, and that Les- ¯ bians, Gay men or Bisexuals should not ] adopt or’be foster parents and would ~. specify that the stone classes of citizens ] should not have "any special status under ¯ the law". : ~ Resolution 1046 states the position of : the House condemmng the National Edu- ~ cation Association’s (NEA) "call for "’the ¯ acceptance and tolerance of homosexual behavior" and for "’celebrations of a Lesbian and Gay History Month to ac"knmvledge the contributions of lesbians, gays ¯ and bi sexuals, all ofwhich is inconsistent with traditional values of this state...’" Traditionall.v le~slation of this sort have been filed by one or another of the OK House’s Radical-Right members, typi- "cally, Bill Graves ofOKC. \\’hat concerns many longtime politi"cal observers is that these have been filed by Democrats. Laurie Phillips, co-chair of the Tulsa County Democrat Party stated that tlfis "’flies in the face of the principles of the Democrat Party, not only the local, state & national platforms but violates the constitution and bylaws of the state Democrat part3". tale observer suggested that the introduction ofthese resolution might be a way for the Democratic leadership to kee~ these issues under their control. The idea is that a milder, non-binding resolution would let legislators take an anti-Gay lX?.sition for their ultra-conservative consutuents at home but would allow those Representatives to avoid a vote on an actnal anti-Gay bill. However,.attoruev Bill Hiulde rio’ted that even as a resolu’- tion. Lesbians, Gay men mid Bisexnals could be affected if agency heads chose to reflect the views of the House in their policies. Dept. of Hunwaa Senices (DHS) officials said at this time, the agency does not discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation mid DHS staff knew of some adoptions by Lesbian or Gay citizens. DHS stall" stated their duly cdnceru was with the quality of the hol~e for the chilsee R.1045. page 10 ¯ HIV Bias Lawsuit Names Cafe Owner ¯ The Tulsa Federal Court will soou hear .an HIViAIDS discriminatiou lawsuit ¯ which could be the first in the nallon under the A~nericans with Disabi lilies Act " (ADA). Local"society" "cafe owner, Tcrr3 _’~ ~T~urner; who mvns Capistrano inq "ticw " ¯ ’ Square andThe French Hen in sonth’l;ulsfi, ;.’ iS ~li¢ged to have ~’iolated the federal nou- ¯ discrimination law in what former cur ¯ ployee, Paul Saladin, claims was a wrong..... ¯ ful firing, Saladin had beeu emplo.vcd at ." The French Hen for over 8 years. : Background ¯ Saladin’s spouse, FxtGandin, tested i positive for HIV :’anti.bodies in=1987. In-/ ¯ late 1992, Gaudin becanle ill and was ¯ ..diagnosed with AIDSin early 1 ~93. I)ur- ¯ mg this time, Saladin supported the finn- ¯ ilv and was Gaudin’s prilnary carcgivcr. ¯ A’lso during this time, Saladin becmnc a ¯ voluuteer with an HI\" AIDS hospice and became a certified HI\" AII)S educator. ¯ Both Gaudin’s !llV status, illness and ¯ Saladin’s vohmteer work wcrc known to most French Ileu employees and Saladin’..~ manager, Jemlifer \Vallacc. On occasion. ¯ French Hell CtlSlOlners who kllcw of Saladin’s circumstances, would ask hiul ¯ about his spouse. \\.hilt he appears to have been discreet about the subject. Saladin did not hide his vohmtcer work or his relationship with Gaudin. History of this Case In respouse to ,’m inqtury from l)r. & ; .Mrs. Spohr of Tulsa (according to pnblic doculnents on file with the court), Saladin ¯ did uot mention either HIV or AII)S but ¯ did refer to Gandm’s T-cell count. On ¯ Sept. 17, 1993, the manager at that time, ¯ Je~mifer Wallace instructed Saladin not ¯ to discuss Gaudin’s HIV AIDS condition ¯ while waiting on tables, and further m- Ibnned him that she hoped owner Terry ¯ Turuer did uot find out. According t~ ¯ documents sublnitted to the court, Saladin ¯ agreed but objected and sought guidance see ADA. page 3 Tulsa Prime Timers ¯ Raises $1000 For Community Center ¯ Tulsa Area Prilne Tilners (’I’AVI’) : hosted a holiday party and silent auction ¯ in December. With food prepared with ¯ TAPT’s gourmet group and items donated ¯ by TAPT’s members, the event raised ¯ S 1000 for creation of a Tulsa Couununitv ; Ceuter which lnembers of the group prt;- ¯ seuted to TOHR president, Dcbi Statues. ¯ Prime Tizners, which is ,’dread\" one of ¯ the fastest growing social orgam’zations, ¯ has expanded its membership to include Gay mid Bisexual men over the age of 21. ¯ Formerly, membershipwas 40 and alx)vc. EDITORIAL P. 2 DIRECTORY Po 2 ," NEWS BRIEFS P. 4 ¯ HEALTH BRIEFS P. 6 CALENDAR P. 9 ¯ EUREKA PAGE P. 11 918.583. 1248 P()B 414(/ Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-o 14o TulsaNews~ aol.com Publish er/Editor Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of Tom Neal this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa F:amilv Assistant Editor News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part withot[t James Christjohn written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or Writors/contributors photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation. Phvl Boler- Schmidt Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise Barry Hensley noted, must be signed & becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family Pat Morehead News. All correspondence shouid be sent to the address above. Each Staff Photosrapher reader is entitled to one free copy of each edition at distribution JD Jamett points. ,~dditional copies are available by calling 583-1248. It’s that time again When we have to deal with politics whether or not we want to do so. On [:cbruary 6th, there.~e city council.primary races which aren" t particularlyinteresting AND tl~ere are ol v charter changes which may not be that interestiug either but which ARE important. The one that I would urge each of us to vote ~n lavor of is a ch,’mgc to the charter which would allow an employee of a business which holds a franchise with thc city to hold public office. The prohibition dates from early days of statehood and no longer has a usc. I tow~\er~ the impact of it remmning could be to force City Councillor Joe \Villiams off the city council. Joc" s district is mostly north Tulsa mad vo{~ all might ask why. if you don’t live in that district. .you should care’? Fi~rst. Joe V,’illian~s has been a good rcprcsentative for his district and seems to this observer to be one of the few of our councillors who has both brains and integrity. Furthermore, -Joc is sensitive to issues of m,.ti-Gay discrimination and is thc oulv member of city govermnent to say he would support a non-discrimination ordinanc~ "that included sexual orientation. Right now, oulv one friend o~r city council can’t do much but it’~ better than no fri~nds.Let’s help Joe stay in:office. Also. Rob Hill is ntiufing for School Board Dist. ;6. Rob brings intelligence, compassion mad experi- ~cnce to this race m~d deserves our support. If you’re ~in hi( district, please:vote for him on Feb." 13. If !youre. not in Iris district mad c,’m spare some cash :for cmnpm_ou expenses, please help. If yOU can’t ¯sparc the c~ish, c0nsidcr giving some ti,fie.: If yon :wm,t to help.please contact.tiffs paper for-inf’. I ~ch 0f ns cam makc a difference, just by voting. :.Plcasc do. - Tom Neal, publisher Taking Heart b\" Pat .\ lorehead To begin thisyear,my companion and I started in the hot mb with a,botfle .of champagne we’ve .carted around since the mid eighties awaiting a "’special" occasion, Due to his career he is usually unavailable at the holidays, so this was the first time in several years that we’ve actually shared the New Year together. \Ve started with a very good dimmer at the Bistro of Brookside, though it was a little noisy and a little too dear from my v~ewpoint. \Ve dined late and then returned home and settled into the hot tub. \Ve enjoyed the relaxing comfort mad then adjourned inside for some more relaxing activ,ties. All in all it was a nice start to a new year. I got to sit in on a rehearsal for "The Lion in \\’inter" being presented by Broken Arrow Community Playhouse; call 258-0077 for details. I want bYShblT{, ~ob~rtb .................... ( Warn#}g : Not [or thehumor-imp)aired!) It h~ long been my contention that ~ough we may shoe orgmfi~ti~ns, a couple of b~s, and the stone colors of the rNnbow, the rdNity is that, wNle gay men ~dlesbi~s ~e of the stone "ilk", they ~e NOT of the stone planet. For ex~ples: Lesbians usuNly m~y slightly"before" the first date. Gay men marry only after e.rtensive interviewing ~nd denial. " Lesbians have sex inunediately ~ter meeting the other woman’s mumNs, cNl&en, relatives, reviewing ~1 her b~ks, and inte~ogatlng her current and ~1 her exes. G~v men have sex immediately a~er just about attythhtg. Sometimes before. though not as much as they used I.esbians use love to get io sex. With g<v men, the vtce is versa. ~en lesbians buy a house, they rehab. And refi~rbish Gay men. ~n the other han~. redecorate. ~sbi~s~easily fix~~ling refrigerator. Gay men can e~ih’ fill it~om the cheese atzd importe~ mushroont sebtton of the dell Lesbians ~e more likely to be vegetal. Gay men will eat almost anything. It took lesbi~s to rediscover Hush ~ppies. It took gay men w redesign tltem in Easter egg colors. Lesbians process. Endlessly. Gay men rationally debateram~caaons andconsbqueitces. Forslightly longer. Lesbi~ ~e politi~ly co~ect to everyone. Gay men are politically correct to everyone [hey knout. I_esbians don’t eat tNngs that used to ha~:e faces. Gay men categorically reject tofit ~ pointless wa~@aper p~te with calories. ~sbians envv M~tha Stew~t’s Co~ecticut house. GaY men’channel her. ~sbi~ fix si~ le~s ~emselves, Gay men call plumbers. Cute ones. ~sbi~s pay intemN pen~ for haph~d eye contact, btlhe rightpar& circumstances, ga~ men’s heads have been known to r~’olve a fidl 3~0" Polifi~ly co~ect or not, lesbi~s look at Play- ~y Mag~ine. Gay men just read the articles. To a lesbi~, cNntz is your p~tner buying yo~ bir~day present at a y~d s~e. To a g~v man, its a fabulous ~rnishing opportuni&, Two lesbi~s ~ght refer to ~ch o~er ~ "my wife." Two gay men wouldn ’t. ~sbi~s ~ve off-road veNcles ~d~ymaps that refold~emselves. Gay Men eventually stop at service station and ~kfor directions. But only if th~ real~7 have to go. ~sbi~s bring ~e chars, ~e newsletter, NI the :to recormnend llii~~ ibroduCtion. I was ¢ery ira: .’ "flyers, theminut~s~ and’the- Coffee pot. Gay men pressed even though I saw it at an early point in the : bring chkckbo~ks.~ rehearsal schedule. But I was particularly taken ¯ Lesbians have potlucks with dishes made from with.the.the Richard.and Phillip scene. The.Direst .." l.en~ils .or chocolate. Or both. Gay. men have intitorhastakentherelati0nshipbetweenthesecharac- ." mat~ litti~ ~ti~tn~rs)~o~, i~vb fv~th:lio~emadepate. To ters and..:,~d~; i!t:!.~!~.~~ .that it.is ahomosexual~ : start~ ’ . " relations~ij’i~)i! i ~i i:::il" ~..i.~i,.... ..... ’.... - z . "~ LesbianS love camp. ~o.do gay men. . Now, I h~g~;trrlid~ihat:the inclinations of the : Lesbians cook out by tliepond. Gay men cook in, two feilo~’ii~i~" N~iiard and,:Phillip are, but : then sit out bythe pooL " " " bet~een them the mana e a ~erv conv~nono Lesbian Cou le ¯ ’" "~Y~ i g .~ " " ~ ." ’ " p s hyphenate their last names. see Play, page 3 ". Gay men arm wrestle each other to the ground and ¯. use the winner’s name. Lesbians go to the gym to get fit. Gay men go to the gym to get theirjeans to fit. ¯ Lesbians think of New Year’s Eve as an oppor- ¯ tunity to get reacquainted with steps 10, 11, and 12. see Vegan, page 3 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Ground Zero, 311 E. 7th *Lola’s, 2630 E 15th *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Time’n’Time Again, 1515 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd *Wild Nights, 2405 E. Adnfiral Wild Fork, Utica Square, 21st & Utica *Interurban, 717 S. 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Saladin worked several more days until Wallace informed Turner about the situation. Saladin was then suspended for 30 days, although he claims he had complied with Wallace’s directive and The French Hen does not dispute this. During the time of the suspension, he retrieved his liquor license from The French Hen so that he could continue to work at temporary jobs. Also, during this time, Saladin attempted to speak with Turner to address ¯ any misunderstanding. On Oct. 15th, Saladin called to arrange to return to work by the 22rid and was told that Turner had directed her to replace Saladin. Up to this time and afterwards, Turner refused to take his calls. According to Saladin’s documents, when once he succeeded in getting Turner on the phone, Turner stated he had nothing to say and hung up. During this time, several other employees left or were terminated and positions became available, but Saladin was not offered his position back. He filed with the Oklahoma Employment Security Commission (OESC), with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), and sought legal representation. In late Nov, Saladin was informed that he’d been denied uuemployment compensation because Turner claimed that Saladin had quit. To the OESC, Wallace on behalf ofTurner claimed that there trad been repeated customer complaints about Saladin’s conduct ,and that Saladin had been suspended for nffsconduct and insubordination and that Saladin had volun: taril y quit and Saladin had threatened to sue. Wallace and Turner repeated these allegations at a telephone hearing on Dec. 16th with the OESC. On Dec. 17th, Turner called Ed Gaudin at his and Saladin’s home asking questions about Gaudin’ s health and physician and allegedly calling Saladin a liar. Gaudin, who was already seriously ill, appears to have been so upset by the conversation that when Saladin came home, he found Gaudin emotionally devastated and vomiting. In Jan. of 1994, after Saladin had obtained legal representation and the EEOC found sufficient reason to direct Turner to respond to Saladin’s complaint, Turner through his attorneys offered Saladin his job back without conditions. Saladin’s attorneys accuse Turner of making the offer in bad faith in order to limit Turner’s liability for back wages while obviously Turner et al claim good faith. However, Saladin expressed a willingness and desire to return to work from Oct. 15 at least until Turner’s call to Gandin in Dec. Turner did not communicate an offer to restore Saladin’s job until January after Turner had retained legal counsel. Since January of 1994, this case has seen a flurry of legalese documents as attorneys from each side cite cases to bolster their side. A trial date has been set several times but delayed. It is expected to go to trial February. Other Information Late in 1987. after Gaudin tested positive for ttIV antibodies, a fact which Saladin shared with several co-workers at The French Hen, Turner directed that Saladin be suspended without pay until Saladin produced a medical repor~ proving that Saladin was HIV negative. After being tested. Saladiu subnffl ted a report to see ADA. page 8 Photos, JD Jamett, 621-5597 Worship Servide 10:30 am Sheridan Center, Suite H 21st & Sheridan 599-7688 LY.KIRBYCertified Public Accountant Lesbians & Gays face many, special tax situations whether single or as couples. We are proud to serve our communities with sensitive & timely information. 747-5466, POB 14011, Tulsa 74159 Mangione when they met the 2 young men at a local bar, had been beaten. S tern’s condition was not serious however. Police said Bean and Gauthier told them they had attacked Mangione and Stern after one of the men had touched one of the young men while the 4 were taking a drive earlier in the evening. The young men also told officers they belonged to a group called the German Peace Corps, which human rights activists say is a California- based neo-Nazi orgamzation affiliated with the KKK. Several witnesses told authorities that the 2 young men had bragged earlier that they were "going’to get a fag" that night, and later boasted that they had "cut up this fag real bad." Gay men see it as a chance to blow their horns off.. Lesbians truly believe that communes work. Gay men really think they can be RepublicZms. Lesbians turn everyone within hugging range into "family.’" Gay men have a tendency to run around i~i PACs. It is, ~onsidering everything, amazing that we still talk to each other. Fortnnately, we are all smart enongh to have figure out that what is truly unnaturai on tiffs looney-tune plauet is marrying outside your own species. ~ 1996 Shelly Roberts. All rights reserved. Shelly Roberts is a uationally syndicated colun~fist, spe,~er, and author of Roberts’ Rules of Lesbi,’m Living (5 96) Spinsters htk seduction scene xvith a very sensual kiss. The actors deserve credit, and the theater deserves credit for not diluting the homosexual content~ Here is a chance as a co~u~ty forus to snpport a mmustrcana effort w~ch represents us without apology or emb~assment. I was saddened at the passiug of Mike Syn~, former Congressm~ lrom l)i strict Two. I have contributed to and worked on Mike’s beh~f in ~e pasl. tie was a good guy, honest ~d decent, a truc public scrv~ t in ~e very best sense. There is no comping ~e ~u~ities Mike represented with the likes of a Cobum, or I ~gcnt or I~ofe. And I ~z not refemng to political ideolo~es. So for me ’96 is off to an uneven start. But I intend to t~e heart from the bad as well ~ the good. I will t~e heart in tl~ ex~ple of Mike Syn~ ~d not be afrmd to go out ~d fight the good fight. I will t~e he~t in these two unkuown local actors and their associates who ~cn’t ~r~d to tac~e a Bible belt tahoo. Aud I’m going to t~e he~t in the eighteenth ye~ of a loving and sh~ug relationship with my lover compmfion. ~ch gives me a re~ly silly idea. l’d like to he~ from you, the readers, about what gives you he~t, and helps you make your way through the world. Maybe you have so~e key that someone m our commusty ueeds io hear or would m~c them feel less isolated. Send you responses to the editor or E-mail tbcm ~o TulsaNews ~2 aol.com, and hc can l’or~vard them on to me. XXtacn I get a good one 1"11 use it in fl~e cohmm. If yon want thcln to be anonymous, that’s I’iqac. News Briefs News Briefs Recruiting Cops for ’City of Brotherly Love’ PIIILA DELPHIA - The Philadelphia Police Department has begun rccniitmg gay ,and lesbian police officers through public cmpioynieut notices in the city’s t~vo gay newspapers The uew effort is the rcsult of a meeting Police Commissioner Richard Ncal held earlier in December with leaders of the city’s lesbian and gay community. Police Sgt. l:rcd Cottou said the dcpartuaenl made a similar effort m 1989-90 bnt !he department had uo i id’ormarion on how successfill thai recruitment program had been. "l’vc never Imd,’mvonc come up to me and tell m~ their sexual pcrsuas~ou." Cotton said. The dcpm’tmcut doesn’t kccp any data ou the sexual orientation of offleers, hc added Study: The Kids (of Lesbian Moms) Are OK CIlICAGO- A prolonged study of the kids of lesbian morns th,~t tracked the children’s developmcut forsome two decades found that they had no more problems with sexual orientation or other dcvclopmcut~d issues than the kids oflmtcroscxtud parcuts. The study, which was reported in tl~ American ,lournal of Orthopsychiatrv, found one noticeable diffcr0mc between the clfildrcn of Icsbiau morns mad hcteroscxmd parcuts:"th~ offspnng in the lcsbimi f,’unihcs were more uncouflk~rtablc udkiug with other pcoplc about their parents than the kids from the str~fight fanfilic~. Anether signilic~mt di ffcrence bctwccu the two groups was tha! none of the kids from hctcroscxnal fanfilics reported having had any homosexual experience by their mid-20s, wlfilc some 25% of those from lesbian lhmi- News Briefs News .Briefs lies said they had had at least one homosexual relationslfip. Washington State Anti- Gay Measure May Fail SEATTLE - To the relief of rights activists iu the state, Washmgton anti-gay activists concede they probably will not be able to get cuough siguaturcs to put two ballot measures before voters in 1996. Initiative 167 would bar gays and lesbians from adoptiug clfildrcm mid hlitiative 166 would prohibit antibias laws based ou sexual orientation anywhere iu the state. The head of the Citizens ..\.ltimme of \Vaslfiugton conceded shortl\ before Chi’istnms that the group wasn’t going to bc able to get the uceded signatures because the orgmfizatiou had attracted oulv a few huudred members an~J raised only about $5.000 for its siguaturc-gathcring cmnpaign. Cathy Y, lickcls, the head of the state dmpter of the Eagle Forum. ,also told Seattle reporters she didn’t think it was very likely the organization would be abl~ to get thd rcqnircd signatures. Proposed Bill to Aid Partners Measures SAC~\MENTO, C:dif. - C~diforuia Assemblyman \Vallv Kuox (D-West Hc{llywo~xt) wil’l introduce a measure m the stale legislatnre carl\ m 1996 that would attthorizt~ the giant CadifonfiaPublic Emtfloyccs & Rctiremeut System (CAL-PERS) to open its hc~dth iusurancc coverage plans to thc dolncstic partners of muuicipal mid other govcnuncnt agcucy employees the state. Some 80 or so C~dil’orma cities and rcgiomd bomds and commissions carry their employce health ius~rancc thi’ough CAL-PERS. But CAI,- PERS regulations govcmiug the state-operated health mid medi- News Briefs News Briefs News cal insurance plata specifically exclude "conunon law spouses" and "’life partners" as eli~ble employee dependents, preventing the cities, counties and special districts in the CAL-PERS prograna from offering partner benefits to their gay or straight workers even if they want to. Lobbying for Educational Anti-Bias Protections SAN FRANCISCO -The Lavender Youth Recreation & Information Center (LYRIC} started off the New Year with a political bang on Jan. 3 with a caravan of gay, lesbian and bisexual ,voting people tothc state Capitol in Sacrmnento to lobby for proposed anti-discriminatio[~ protections. Tim California Educatiou Code bans discrinfination in the state’s schools mid educational services based ona number of categories, bu! does not include sexual orientation. The lesbigay youth groupspent the first &a.v of the legislature’s new 3ear, Jan. 3, lobbying in support of a measnre introduced by Assemblywoman Sheila Kuehl (DSanta Moifica) that would add sexual orientation to the state education code. So. Dakota Anti- Marriage Battle Again PIERRE, S.D. - South Dakota state Rep. Roger Hunt, whose 1995 le~slation to prohibit samesex marriages in the state failed, has announced plans to introduce the bill again during die current le~slative session. Hunt’s 1995 bill passed overwhehningly in the state’s lower house by a ,’54-13 vote, but became stalled m a cotmnittee in the state Senate where it died. The proposed legislation would make any same-sex marriage’:null and void from the beginning" in the state, and is aimed at making any such marriages that may be legal elsewhere illegal in Soulh Dakota. It would, for example, have the effect of nullifyiug s,’unc-sex nmrriages if Ha,&aii courts v~d idate them as many cxpcci to happeu this year. Political Attacks Against Gays Increasing SAN FRANCISCO A report isstled here by People for the American Way. says attacks alined agaiust the political progress of gays mid lcsbimas in this country increased at ~dl levels. The report, the 3rd of its kiud the organization,has issued, ¯ .counted at least. 180 anti-gay actions m 1995, an increase of 46 such attacks over 1994. The survey counted anti-gay political iuitiatives, legislative measures, executive actions by state governors as well as open at- . tacks by police mid mid public . ~!d. mc..dia figures against gay rights. High. School Gay Group Stirs Controversy SALT LAKE CITY - Utah school mid legal anthoritics, after 2 moaths, have agrced thcre is litflc or nothing that can be -done to preveut a gay- and lcs- ¯biau club being fonncd by a group of studeuts at Salt Lake City’s East High School. A small group of students at the school asked for pennissiou to start the club in October, and their request was passed from the school’s priuciphl to the city’s school superintendent, then up to the state cducatiou office, and finally on to the Utah attorney gcueral’s office. Shortly before Cl~stmas, the attorney geueral’s office notified district officials that both state and federal law prolfibit barring non-curriculum school clubs because of content. But activists with the Gay & 1,csbian Utali 1)cmocrats say the head of the state mali-gay Eagle Forum, GayJe Ruzicka, has already indicated she would immediately begin lobbying the state legislatnrc to keep the club from lbrming. California’s Hate Crimes: 1/5 Are Anti-Gay SACRAMENTO, Calif. - In the firs! of .its kind in California, state Attorney Geueral l)an LI.mgrcl!"s office reix)rts tl!at hate crones m the Golden Stale arc gcucndi y couccutratcd in ci tics - :andnearly one-fifth of them were aimed agaiust gays and lesbians. During the filaal six mouths of 1994, the survey of local law enforcculent agencies found there were 672 bias-based crimes reported in the state. Of these, 487 (72 percent) were based on the race or ethnic origins of the victims, Mille 119 (18 perccut) wcre bccause the victims were lcsbkms or gay men - or were believed to bc by the attackers. Some 6-1- iucidents (orjust m~dcr 10 pcrccut) WCl’C based on the victims" religion. The largest number of reported Irate crimes, 243 of them, were logged in the [x)s Augclcs metropolitan area. The San Frmmisco Bay Area checked in with next largcst couceutratiou, 129 bias-based crimes iu the four-county ,area. Transsexual Identity Bill Proposed in Britain LON1)ON - Among the backbcuch bills being offered in Bri rain’s Ilousc of Connnoiis as private members" legislation is a mcasure that wouldmake it easier for traussexuals in the UK to establish a legal idemity in keeping with their new gender after a sex-change operation. MP Alex Carlilc has proposed a Gcudcr Identity Bill which would allow Miracleglass Neil Ray Owner EXPRESS POOLS & SPAS your pool Ma,, Dr Life (9’18) 743-9994 6310 S. Peoria ~ Tulsa, OK 74136 BROOKSIDE JEWELRY 4649 South Peoria 743-5272 Corner of 48th & Peoria 9:30 - 5, Men. - Fri. Open Saturdays thru holidays! 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Gay Credit Card Can’t Use ’Rainbow’ Name TRENTON, N.J:- A federal court in NewJersey has enjoined promoters of a gay-oriented credit card from using the nanm "Rainbow." U.S District Judge Mary Little Parell barred the Rainbow Card Fom~datiou from using that trade name on the credit card it was pro~noting in the New York-New Jersey area in a suit filed by the Rainbow Foundation Inc., a Middletown, N.J., charity that offers medical assistance and other services to children in the state. The Rainbow Card had contracted with Martina Navratilova to act as spokeswomanfor the Visacredit .card that wouldhave used part of ~ts card charges to benefit gay, AIDS & breast cancer agencies. Gay Teacher Allowed to Stay in Michigan School BYRON CENTER, Mich. - Gerry Crane, a 3 l-year-old high school music teacher who told students he was gay alter they asked about anew wedding band he was wearing, will be ,allowed to keep tfis teaching post. The school board in the town, about 16 miles from Grand Rapids, said however that it wonld keep Crane under scrutiny because of his sexual orientauon. In a forreal statement, the trustees said. "The school board firmly believes that homosexuality violates the doufinant moral stan- ¯ nity. Individuals who espouse ¯ homosexuality do not constitute ¯ proper role models as teachers ¯ for students in this district." ¯ Crane had told his students he ¯ was gay after he and his companion had gotten married dur- ¯ ing acommitmentceremouy and .exchanged wedding bands, causing some of his students to ask about the wedding ring. School Board Condemns .... Homosexuality ¯ NEW HAVEN, Ind.- Homo- - sexual activity is inconsistent ¯ with community values and should be discouragedin the East ¯ Allen County (Iudiana) schools, ¯ according to a resolution adopted by the local school board. Ac- ¯ cording to school, district officials, the resolution only reflects the board’s opinion and isn’~ a ¯ policy statement. But the ¯ resolution’s laaaguag.e, someedu- ¯ caters say, certainly sounds like ¯ an official school policy. The ¯ resolution, wlfich was introduced ¯ in response to a statement earlier [ tiffs year by the National Educa¯ tion Association endorsing teacher training aronnd gay and ¯ l~’sbian student issues and rec- ¯ ognizing a national gay mad les¯ bian lfistory mouth, says in part: "’Homosexuality is contrary to the laws of nat;are, it’s xno~:ally ¯ unacceptable to our conununity mad we should leach our chil- ¯ dren as such." ¯ UK Member of Parliment ¯ Loses ’Gay’ Libel Case ¯ LONDON’ - Tory MP David ¯ Ashby wept as he f~aced the pros- " pect offinanci,-d ruinaftcr losing ¯ a prolongcd libel actiou ag,’uust Londou’s Sunday Times wlfich ." had reported that he is homo- ¯ scxnal. Thc jury deliberated 5 ¯ hours belbrc rc[unfing its ver- ¯ dict in favor of the Tlmes in the Northwest Leicestershire since 1983 in the ruling conservative ~ party, now faces the prospect of ~ : having to pay all legal costs that are estimated at about $800,000. Ashby; 55, had sued the Times : overanarticlein the paperwhich said he had shared a bed with a ¯ man during a holiday in Gee in ." 1993, that he had misled his wife ¯ and constituents abouthis sexual ¯ orientation, and that he had lied :..about. h.awn,g a relat~oaship with a32-year-old Irish physician, Dr. Ciar~i Kilduff. The ~iewspaper admitted during the libel trial that its report had contained at least one factual error, but mainrained the accuracy of its article, wlfich it maintained was justified to lfiglflight what it cousiders Ashby’s hypocrisy in advocating heterosexual f~nilv values while leading what the’papcr called a "double life." Both Ashby’s wife and his sister testified against the Tory MP duriug the 4-week trial. It is likely that Ashby may face bm"akruptc’y and the loss of his seat in the House of Conunons as a result. Gay Marine to Fight Discharge DAVENPORT. Iowa - Corporal Kevin Blaesing says he will fight efforts by the .MarZiue Corps to discharge him because hc is gay. Blaesing, who has bccn umned "’Marine of the Month" mad"M,-mne of the Qtuarter.’" was denied pernfission to reeniist iu 1993 because of remarks he lind made about homosexuality to a USMC psychologist. Bu! earl\ in 1995 hejoined a Marine Corp’s Reserve umt in South Carolina without auy difficulties m~d later spoke at a gay pride even! there. Now thc Mariucs have bcgun discharge proceedings against lmn mad Blaeslug says he will fight the discharge "~1 the way Two Lutheran Churches Expelled. SAN FRANCISCO-St. Francis Lutheran Church and the First United Lutheran Church here officially became ex-members of the 5.3-million member Evangelical Lutheran Church of America at the end of 1995 for ordaining 2 lesbians and a gay man as ministers in defiance of the national church’s prohibi- ’tiofis. The 2 churches were suspended by the ELCA in 1990 and given until the end of 1995 to rescind the ordinations of the Revs. Ruth Frost, Phyllis Zillhart and JeffJohnson, or be officially expelled from the national church group. A spokesperson forSt. Francis Lutheran Church said not one member of the congregation had left since the controversy started more than 5 .,,’ears ago. But ironi- c¯ally one St. Francis Lutheran member who attended his last service at the church (at least officially) on Sunday, Dec. 31, was Bishop Robert Mattheis, the presiding bishop of EIX2A’s Sierra Pacific Synod of some 220 con~egations in Northern Califontia and Nevada. A long-time member of St. Francis, Bishop Mattheis now must officially leave the church’s con~egatio~: Calififornia City OKs Partners Registry PALO ALTO, Calif. - OutNow, the San Jose, Calif., gay newspaper, reports that Pale Alto’s city council has approved by a 6-] vote a domestic partners registration. The re~stranon carries no direct benefits and requires a fee to the city clerk’s office. The only vote agmnst the proposM crone from Dick Rosenbamn. who objected that the partuers" registry ,also allowed oppositesaid he believed the partncrs" registranon should be .just for gays and lesbians. Marriage Commission Issues Final Report IIONOI.UIJ.~- A llawali statc comnfissiou has approved its finN report of rccoum~cudations on a 5-2 vote. calling on the legislature to a~cpt the rcalil v of Sallle-SeX lnarriag courts. Few acnvists believe the legislature will t;~c the advice of the commissiou,appointcd b~ Gov. Bcnjmnin Cayctano, b~t the report’s rccounncndations add flu ther fuel to the legM bat ~ound the case. The legislature l~t ye~ adopted a law prohibitlng stone-sex m~agc, although =t rcm~us unclc~ whether thai law itself~m bc considered coustitut~ omd. Chairman Thomas (;ill, former mcmbcr of Cougrcss and out-tune lieut, govcruor, said the state had f~lcd to prove ~c in courl and had relied the legislature to block tauntsex m~agcs. "q’hc opposluOU ~ft.come up with a compelling state lntcFcsI other th~ul I ~x’i~cus 18," he said, rcfcmug to an Old Tcsumacnt vcrsc that says. ""l’hou shalt not lic with mankind as with womankind "" Sparks Fly in O.S. Senate Race in Or~on SAI+EM, Ore. - Rcspondiug to ch~gcs that hc is an "+extremist"+ for supporting the dUn-go3 agenda of the Oregon Citizen’s Alliancc, Rclmbli~m t.S 5cuate candidate Gordou Snfi th told reporters at a news CollfcjCll~’c that he is opposed to ga3 and lcsbimt ttu~agcs "’bccausc +vc should dcfcud a mamagc license" mid thai hmdlortts who should uot bc rcquircd t(> by law. ttGO Valentine Special Big Hug Mug with Plush Bear Bouque! or Bud Vase wilh Roses & .18" Balloon - $19.95~-deli\,ery "Reserve yours early" 9720-C E. 31si St. Tulsa ....... 663.5934, Daphane Cooper DIS(O 20TH BUY * SELL * CONSIGN 3213E 15thSt. Tulsa, Ok 74104 (918) 749-3620 ( OOL Raven/Redhawk Enterprises Phyl Boler-Schmidt Systems & Software Specialist POB 429 Eureka .Springs 72632 501.253.2776 Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Where God Uplifts All People Sunday ServiEye Drug Implant Method Wins FDA Panel Approval S ILVER SPRING, Md. - A Food & Drug Administration advisory panel has urged approval of an eye implant for some AIDS pauents that it says would be twice as good as current treatments in fighting off possible blindness by delivering medic ation direcdy to the eye. Cytomegalovims (CMV) retinitis hits up to 40% of all people with AIDS and the Chiron Corp. "Vitrasert’" implant would deliver the medicine ganciclovir in time-released doses directly in the eye after being \mplanted, making it much more effective. the FD A advisory panel said. The full FDA must now decide whether to accept the panel’s recommendation or not. USC to House AIDS Archives LOS ANGELES - The University of Southern California will become one of the first sites in the country with an archive documenting the earl) years of the battle against AIDS. Los Angeles city officials are granting the university a total of $50,000 for the project alor~g with thousands of original works com~ected with the earliest veers of the epidemic. The AIDS archi~:e will be housed in~,the university library’s special collections and will include "city documents, materials from local actiViSt groups, and papers from Drs. Michael Gottlieb and Joel Weismal who published the first cases of what later came to be known as AIDS. 30% of India’s Blood Infected NEW DELHI - According to a stud)’ by India’s National AIDS Control Organization, nearly 30% of the blood provided by the country’s blood banks is tainted with infectious diseases, including HIV, malaria, hepatitis and others. The government agency responsible for the national effort to fight the epidemic in India said tinrdiable screening procedures risk exposing patients receiving blood and blood products to one or the other illnesses. The Indian Red Cross Society said that part of the problem stems from chronic shortages of blood in the country with the result that commercial blood banks often rely on poorer professional donors 9iho sui~pl~ement their incomes by giving blood. Such paid donors, the society says, are often in higher-risk groups for various infectious diseases. The National AIDS Control Organization now estimates that in less than 5 years some 5 million Indians will be infected with HI\" with 1 million fullblown cases of AIDS in the country. KS Linked Virus Found in Semen of HIV+ Gay Men LONDON" - According to a report in the British medical journal Lancet, researchers with the U.S. Centers for Disease Control have found a virus strongly associated with Kaposi’s sarcoma in the semen of large numbers of gay men ~vith HI\’, but not in many HIV-positive heterosexual men. The scientists said that 64% of the infected gay men also had the Kaposi’s Sarcoma Associated Herpesvirus (KSHV) in semen samples: of the non-gay men examined, less than 24% were infected with KSHV. The research- " ers said their findings explain why a disproportionate number of gay men may contract the cancer ,and suggests that KSHV may be sexually transmitted~ The CDC scientists say further research is called for to try to detemfine if KSHV is latent and then triggered by an HIV infection. Milder Strain of Virus Inhibits HIV NEWYORK-According to a report in the Journal of Molecular Medicine; researchers at the Mount Sinai Medical Centerhave identified aless vinflent strain of HIV that appears to slow down reproduction of the more connnon and damaging s train of the virus. The researchers speculated that the weaker HIV-2 may interfere with the more virulent HIV-I straila at-the molecular le~el, blocking the virus’ ability to reproducel While the finding could l]old promise in fighting off HIV-1 in infected individuals, scientists warned that there is still little’known about the detailed interaction between the 2 strains. High HIV Levels Infect Newborns WASHINGTON’, D.C. - According to a study published in the Proceedings ofthe NationalAcademy ofSciences,New York State health department researchers report that fairly high levels of HIV in the blood ofwomen who are pregnant is requi red before the virus can be passed along to their newborns. The scientists found that women with levels of HIV in their bloodstreams at about 50,000 viruses per milliliter of blood had a 75% or ~eater likelihood of passing the vii’us onto their infants. At lower leVds, the chances of the womentransmitting the virus to their newborns was significantly lower, the researchers said. The scientists said the finding helps explain why some HIV-positive women~ve birth to infected infants, while other infected mothers do not. AIDS Drug 3TC Also Appears Effective Against Hepatitis B BOSTON - Two preliminary tests of a newly approved AIDS drug, 3TC (also kamwn as lamivudine or Epivir), published in the New England Journal of Medicine indicate the medicine also seems, to suppress HBV, the hepatitis B virus, in chronic eases. One study, led by Dr. Jules Dienstag of Massachusetts General Hospital, found that after a 12-week course of 3TC, about 20% of chronically infected hepatitis B patients showed no traces of the HBV. Interferon is the only currently approved medication to combat chronic h.epatitis B and has been shown to effective in about a third of those given the drug. But interferon must be taken for a fairly long period ot time and has a nmnber of very unpleasan t side effects, which is not apparently the ease with 3TC. Further studies will now be undertaken to determine long-term effects of the drug in combating hepatitis B, possibly in combination with other drugs. Status of AIDS Patient Given Baboon Marrow Transplant SAN FRANCISCO-JeffGetty, the AIDS patient who was given baboon bone marrow in December in an effort to rebuildhis failing immune system, experienced some side effects as a result of the chemotherapy and radiation treatanent he underwent in conjunction with the marrow transplant. But Getty’s physician, Dr. Steven Deeks, said the reactions where fairly minor and not a result of the bone marrow injections. Getty’s physicians had said the bone marrow transplant might either bolster the man’s rapidly failing immune see Health Briefs, page 8 Free & Anonymous Finger Stick Method By & for, but not exclusive to the Lesbian, Gay, & Bisexual Communities. Monday & Thursday evenings: 7-8:30 pm for testing, 7-9 pm for results¯ Daytime testing, Mon-Thurs by appointment. TOHR Tulsa Oklahomans for-Human Rights 742-2927 4158 South Harvard, Suite E-2 2 doors east of the HIV Resource Consortium Look for our banner on testing nights. 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Home Office Dallas, Texas 800-559-4790 Kelly Kirby Oklahoma Representative POB 14011 Tulsa, OK 74159-1011 918-747-3320 continuedfrom page 6 system, or "kill him. A similar procedure with an AIDS patient at the University of Pittsbnrgh in 1993 failed, but doctors flare refined the procedure as a result and are using a specially processed part of the baboon bone marrow to improve Gettv’s : HIV at Chinese Universities ¯" BEIJING - Newspapers in China have ~ reported that during "’spot checks" at urn- ¯ versities, Chinese health officials fotmd ~ 10 HIV infected students at 2 colleges in : the capital city. Health officials in the ¯ country say getting AIDS information and e&~cat~on programs to the cotmtrv’s : schools is "extremely urgent" and esti-- ." mate that morethan 60% of those infected ¯ with HIV in the country are under the age ." of 29 years. AZT Helps Cut Risks in chances. Accidental Needle Jabs "t’~o r~ ph~ ¯ .,,, - ¯ .......C.-based ....."s~o~,s Comrmttee :. \.V¯¢SHIN- GTO-N,-,C...ooperatingwith Britfor Responsible Med]cifie,’lio~ .ever, has tsh and Frenc"h othoa" ls , the l_ -S - C~enters" filed a formal complaint with the federal for Disease Control and Prevention re~. g0venunent over the experimental bone marrow procedure. The public interest group charged that such cross-species marrow injections endanger the public health by risking the spread of dangerous baboon infections. Susan Getty of \Vatcrford, Conn., the mother 61"the ailing man who was with him at the hospital during the procednre, said people with advanced AIDS have little to lose ~n undergoing such medi"cal gambles. %\emttst take greater risks." she said. "It is time to stop tiffs horrible, horrible disease." AIDS Awareness in France I~OSTON-- According to the U.S. journal Nature, a snrvcv of what they think about l llVand ..\ID~ suggests th~ Frei~:h ,are continuing to adjtrst their sexual behaviors because of the ~pidemic. The report says that condoms arc increasiugly used, particuhtrlv anion,, those who are single mid under ihe age ~f’30: more people are having fewer casual sexual parmers: ,’rod the nnmbcr of peat)It who regularly get tested for I IIV fiffccfion continues to ~ow. ports that atimited study of 31 health care workers accidentally jabbed with hypodermic needles at work had much lower risk of HIV infection if given AZT. The CDC reports indicated the health care workers" risk of refection was nearly 80% lower from taking the drag shortly after the needle-stick accident than workers who were not given AZT. U.S. Blood Supply Even Safer BOSTON" - According to a govenunent stud) published in the New EnglandJourhal of)ledicme, only an infinitesimally small mnount of blo~d do~mted tbr transfusions in the U.S. is infected with HIP. The L.S. Centers for Disease Control & Prevention study estimated that no more th,’m 27 pints out of the total 12 nffllion pints donated each year are tainted. Because blood usedin transfusions is pooled from several donors, bowever, health officials said the chances of receiving con- Uumnated blood are between 1 in 83.000 m~d 1 in 122.000. To reduce these odds even further, the Food & Drng Adnmlis- FI_~ELITY.Hq/V~E HE-aLTH C~-RE; INC. Tulsa Office 486-1174 800-999-3442 We provide comprehensive home health services 24 hourslday, seven days/week. 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AIDS Mortality Among Prisoners CHICAGO - Writing in the American Journal of Public Health, Adansi Amankwaa with the Florida prisons department says that a review of mortality data from 1987-92 in the state’s prisons indicates that AIDS was the main cause of imnate deaths during the~ 5’ year period~ accounting for more thau 50% ofall prison deaths in 1992. It indicated that deaths from the disease were increasing compared with other causes in prisons. Turner ,and was permitted to return to work. In a statement given to the EEOC in Aug. 1995, Ttmier testified that he was unsure if he would serve a customerwhom he kiiew to have AIDS. According to court docmnents,"he [Turner] is unaware about the trausnfission possibilities of the HIV virtts through casual contact in a food establishment and states that for all he kiiows it c,’m be mmsnfftted though perspiration falling into food. He testifies that he is very "concerned" about this possibility mid’that he would try to favorably resPond: to customer prejudice regarding AIDS. tte states thai the subject of AIDS mid HIV is disgusting mid objectionable mid indicative of bad hygiene. see ADA. page I1 Kellie J. Watts Attorney at law Protect You & Your Partner Wills, Livin.g Wills, Estate Planning, Powers of attorney 493-1959. Tulsa office. Please (’all for appointlnent. Reasonable Rates ¯ The Tulsa Philharmonic : presents ¯: COREY CEROVSEK ¯¯ The 23-year old violinist : will amaze you with his : technique and musicality. ¯" Featuring ¯ Faganini: Violin Concerto No. 1 in D Major ¯ Hindemit~:"Symphonic Metamorphoses ¯ on Themes by Carl Maria Von Weber" ¯ /3rafims: Symphony No, 4 in E Minor ¯ ¯ Sa~. Jan. 27 ¯¯ 8 p.m. Tulsa PAC-. 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Church of Greater Tulsa Worship Service, 10:45ran 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa 6:30 pm at CanterbmT 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 MONDAYS H]V Testing TOHR Clinic ¯ Free & anonymous testing using fingerstick method. ¯ No appointment required. : Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm Results hours: 7-9 pm Info: 742-2927 TUESDAYS HIV+ Support Group HIV Resource Consortium 1:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-I Info: Wanda @ 749-4194 Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. HIV/AIDS Support Group WEDNESDAYS Authority OfThe Believer Bible Study, 7 pm MCC of Greater Tulsa 1623 N. Maplewood lnfo: 838-1715 Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center THURSDAYS 16-Step Empowerment Group For Women Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 Co-Dependency Support Group 7:30, Family of Faith MCC i_Jambda Bo~vling League Shdridan LaSnes 8:45 pm 3121 S. Sheridan PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 2nd Monday of month, 6:30 pin 4154 S. Harvard Info: 749-4901 OTHER GROUPS Tool Box Technicians, Leather org., hffo cio The Tool Box: 584-1308 T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform: & Leather Seekers Assoc. " Info: 838-1222 " The Banned, OK Gay Band Practice weekly in OKC ¯ Info: 838-2121 ,"HIViAI’DS Support Group : 7 pm, call for location: : 749:7898 ¯ Community of Hope : Grief Group, 6 pm : 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 ¯ :.: ~,, ~ ~ . ~o. .... ¯ ~, Womens Grmef-~roup siaonsored by Community of Hope 6pm, Butler/Stumpff Funeral Home 2103 E. 3rd St. Info: 585-1800 .........& ..... Prayer&Bible Study 5451rES. Mingo, 622-1441 .....,Friends &.Family :: 7~:.30 pm 2627-B East 1 lth " " ~ Call 583-7815 for info. HIV Testing Family Of Faith MCC Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Practice 7:30 pm 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. ¯ ¯ ’Community of Hope (United Methodist) ¯ Service for Peace, 6:30 pm ¯ Bible Stud,,,’, 7 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 TNAAPP ¯ Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project ¯ Support group ¯ for Gay & Bi Native ¯ American Men, 6 pm at Conununitv of Hope ¯ 1703 E. 2nd ¯ 582-7225 or 584-4983 TOHR Clinic Walk in testing: 7 - 8:30 pm Results hours: 7 - 9 pm Info: 742-2927 Prayer Time MCC - Greater Tulsa, 7 pm 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838= 1715 Tulsa Family Chorale Wee"kly practice, 9:30 pm Lola’s 2630 E. 15th PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 1st & 3rd Thursdays 41 54 S. Harvard, 749-’4901 Alternatives Weekly socials, 7 pm See below for schedule. Info: 646-5503 SATURDAYS St. Jerome’s Ecumenical Catholic Church ,Mass, 6 pm Garden (Thapcl 3841 S. Peoria Info: Father Rick at 742-7122 Narcotics Anonymous Meets weekly at 11 pm Confidential ~upport for recovering addicts. Co~unmnity of I lope 1703 E. 2nd. lnfo: 585- I NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt Sewing Bees 3rd Sat of each month hffo: 748-3111 OTHER GROUPS Gay & Lesbian Sttulent Association TJC Southeast Canq)us, Info: 631-7632 SWAN-Single Women’s Activity Network Call 832-2121 TOHR Helpline Daily 8= 10 pm For info. ~r to vohmtcer: 743-GAYS SUNDAY, JANUARY 18 Community ofHope Orientation 2 pro, 1703 E. 2nd Info: 585-1800 SUNDAY, JANUARY 21 Faith & Struggle Dialogue Group Community of Hope United Methodist 4:30 pm, 1703 E. 2nd (ongoing group) Info: 585-1800 THURSDAY, JANUARY 25, Community ofHope Orientation 6:30 pm, 1703 E. 2nd Info: 585-1800 SUNDAY, JANUARY 28 Faith & Struggle Dialogue Grm~ Community of Hope United Methodist 4:30 pm, 1703 E. 2nd (ongoing ~oup) Info: 585-1-800 SUNDAY, JANUARY 28 ,Miss Gay Oklahoma USofA, 9 pm Concess|ons, 33rd& Peoria Pageant .. Info: 744-0896 or 838-3701 TUESDAY, JANUARY ,30. Rainbow Business Gui/d, 7 pm Uno Pizzeria,.61st & Memorial Dinner Meeting Info: 665-5174 WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 31 Tulsa Women’s Supper Club, 6:30 pin Full Moon Care, 1525 East 15th Info: 584-2978 THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 1 Alternatives. Informational meeting for reactivated social orgamzauon for men and women, also, video of comedian Suzmme Westenhoefer, 7pm Holiday Inn Express, 51st & Harvard, Info: 646-5503 TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 6 TMsa Oklahomansfor Human Rights Local Police Officers Speak Out, 7 pm Alan Chapman Activity Center University of Tulsa , 5th St. west of Harvard, Info: 743-4297 THURSDAY, FEBRUARY-8 Alternatives, Bowling at Riverlanes, 7pm 8711S. Lewis .. ~ Info: 646-5503 SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 11 Community ofHope Orientation 2 p!n, 1703 E. 2nd hffo::585~ 1800 THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 15 .Alt~r.natives, Movie Night; 7pm Fox 4 Cinema, 51st & Harvard Info: 646-5503 SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 16 Fandly ofFaith MCC Reclaim & Recovery Workshop: Forgiveness, 9 am - 3 pm 5451-E S. Mingo, hffo: 622-1441 THURSDAY, FEBRUARY22 Alternatives, Dinner, 7pro Golden Corral, 71st & Mingo hlfo: 646-5503 Out & About With JD! More sequins, but that’s not all that this month’s featured establishinent has to offer. Lola’s is "’truly a fanfilv bar" says Bill (Lola) McCall of this wonderful pla~e Brian & tJttt ofLola’s thht ~ves a lot to the community. One example they’ve supported Mr. Oklahoma Leather~ Mr. Tulsa Leather and 1st alternate to Mr, Oil Capital. Also, Lola’s pro: rides ahome forTULSA FAMILY CHOIL~ LE, which is opento any Gay, Lesbian ¯ or Gay-.friendly persons and m~ets Thurs. at 9:30:~ Bill & Brian are the owners of this cozy establishinent that represents a little bit of Valentine’s Day. Bill & Brian have been to,,tethet for 15 (!) vear~ which they plan to celebrate with a ~umiversarv showand party .on FebruaD’ 16th. Tffey ,opened Lola’s 2years ago. "’At Lola’s you can find whatever liking may be: entertain: ment, games (pool & darts), good friends or jnst a good time." Oh by the way, the following are happenin~ s at Lola’s for the coming month: Feb. 16th, Bill & Brians’s Anniversary show & party; Feb. 20th, Birthday celebration for Desdny Ray, Miss Upper Cherry Street, and Feb. 24th, 1st Annual see JD, page 11 0 748-5374 L Spring Art Classes Start February 17 Family Workshops YPoreusncgheoroalrt ~ ~Adult Studios Action Studios Spring Break Studios March 25-29 not, however, mandate procreative possibility as a requirement for heterosexual marriage certificates, a move that would seem consistant with his stated rationale. Knight goes on to forecast economic doom and collapse if California "’were forced" to recognize the relationships of same-gender couples,including taking on the same responsibilities for each other thathetero-couples expect. However, economic forecasts for Hawaii project that same-sex marriages could add $4 billion. to Hawaii’ s revenues over the next 5 years. Some observers think that Knight" s bill, if enacted, will likely cost California taxpayers millions in legal fees as gay and lesbian citizens challenge the. law. Current law recognizes all mamages performed throughout the United States. The bill would prohibit recogmtion of legal marriages of same-sex couples, regardless of where they are performed. sexual activities, the citizen suggested that he mad the officer go to a private location for consensual sex. After the citizen made the offer, he was arrested for solicitation under ma OKC ordinance. The ACLU defense of the citizen rests on two concerns. First is the 1 st Amendment (free speech) issue. The OKC ordinance appears to make it illegal to make any offer of consenstml sex in OKC. ACLU spokesperson, Michael Canffield noted that this would make offers betweeu heterosexuals, say in a drinking establishmeut, illegal al~o but he/also noted that the OKC police do not appear to be assigning undercover cops to heterosexual bars. The other basis for challenging the arrest is a 1986 decision by the Criminal Court that ruled that the Oklahoma "sodomy" law which makes oral or anal sex a felony crime was unconstitutional. The decision held that a constitutional right to privacy prevented the state or cities from forbidding private, consensual sex acts between adults. The law makes no distinction between heterosexual or homosexual oral or anal sex. However, the ’86 case involved heterosexuals and the court specified that it was not addressing whether homosexual citizens enjoyed the same right to privacy as heterosexual ones. If homosexual citizens have the same right to privacy and the solicited activities are not themselves illegal, then the OKC ordinance can hardly be constitutional. This is, if it" s not illegal to have sex, then it can hardly be illegal to talk about it. In a 3-1 decision, the Court of Criminal Appeals chose not to address whether the state can constitutio~mlly prohibit same gender sex but said this case was only about public solicitations mad rtfled that OKC could prohibit such solicitations. The appeal, according to Hendricksen, who is ACLU-OK president, will ask the US Supreme Court to compel the OK Court of Criminal Appeals to decide if the right to privacy that ~t established for heterosexual citizens ~s also available for homosextml citizens. "’The court [appeals] ducked this issue and we are going to see if we can force them to m~swer tiffs question.’" To help the ACI.U-OK fight tiffs case. donations may be made to 600 NW 23rd St. OKC 731(36. be the actions of a neighborhood adolescent but that the theft of their family’s peace of mind is no little thing. The Harrison Kirbys are considering their options to protect themselves and their children from futher harm. Kirby did add that they have been comforted by expression of support from friends around the US with whom they correspond via e-mail. statements by Radical Right leaders, such as CBN’s Pat Robertson and Sen. Jesse Helms. Since the threat of lawsuits by CBN, no television station in any of the target cities of Washington, Tulsa, Houston or Atlanta will air the commercials. Mitzi Henderson, president of PFLa,G’s board of directors, stated that PFLAG is conunitted to "’get our message on the air and compel CBN to stop its harassment and censorship attempts". Locally, the Tulsa chapter of PFLAG is presenting a free film series at All Soul’s U~titarian Church at 7pm, Jan. 23 & 30, mad Feb. 6 & 13. The films, Straight From The Heart. On Being Gay, Queer Son, and Always .\.lb~ Kid, feature Lesbians and Gay men and parents of Lesbians and Gay men dealing with issues from fanfilies to religion to AIDS. PFLAG Tulsa also is continuing a campaign for a siguature advertisement to run in The Tulsa World. The ad "calls for Tulsans to stand against tred, hate speech mad violence" against individtmls based on their sexual orientation mad "’to recoguize the strong link between hate speech, teen suicide and violent physical attacks..." Tulsa Family News reported correctly last month that The Tulsa Worm is on record as having a policy banning the use of the words, Gay or Lesbian in advertising. However, contrary to our report, The World has not changed its policy to allow an exception. According to Bill Hinkle, PFLAG Tulsa co-chair, PFLAG cannot even spell out its name but may be forced to use a circumlocution like, "Parents and Friends of Persons of Differing Sexual Orientation.’" The ad will likely, run later in January. dren they were trying to place. Rep. Benson stated to TFN that he was motivated by the NEA’s resolution to reaffirm what he views as Oklahoma’s "traditional. family values". He said the reason for a resolution instead of a bill was that since a resolution lacks the power of law, the legislators could express their feelings without infringing any constitutional rights which such a law would probably do. Benson claims that he does not want to condeum Lesbians and Gay men for their "choice of lifestyle" & that he expected to get wide support OKC’s Oklahoma Gay & Lesbian Political Caucus has begun a postcard campaign directed at Rep. Benson. In Tulsa, according to one source, PFLAG’s Nancy McDonald is putting together a group of parents mad Tulsa area legislators to meet with Benson. Other activists have begun to ph’m a Family Day at the Capitol, a state-wide lobb3:ing day by Lesbian, Gay and Bi activists, clergy mad business people. For i~ffo, call Green Country Pride at 838-2121 or 583-1248. Timothy W. Daniel Attorney at Law Know Your Rights! Estate Planning, Adoptions, Personal Injury, Criminal :Law, Bankruptcy & Workers Compensation 1-800-742-9468 or.918-352-9504 128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma Weekend and evening appointments are available. Speakers &performers include comedian Suzanne Westenhoefer, Col. Grethe Cammermeyer & her partner, Diane Divelbass, & Candace Gingrich April 7 - 14, Olivia’s Womens’ Cruises Call 341.6866 International Tours for more information. Need a gift idea? Gift certificates are availablefor air travel, cruises & many other travel needs. IGTA member. People don’t plan to fail, they fail to plan. Leanne Gross Retirement planning Life, health & income insurance, & investment placing. 744-0102 Mention this ad to receive free initial consultation. by Phil Boler-Schmidt Winter is a special time in Eureka Springs. With the falling of the Autumn leaves comes a respite from the thundering hoardes, and locals get a chance to renew old acquamtmlces, catch up on family time, and spend time with cherished friends. Each December, we have the Women’s Party. 1995 saw the 25th annual event, and it was quite a sight to behold. My own estimate was about 500 women in attendance. Each brings some type of finger food and a drink to share. There is music and dancing, talk and Sharing. A grand time is had by all. This year was no exception. And, as usual, a few of the guys showed up, respectfully of course, and sang Christmas carols to the assembled masses at the ballroom high atop the Basin Park Hotel. Now that Christmas ~s over, the really big events are potluck dinners. It is the Ozark way of getting to "know people, fo~: the first time, or to renew old friendships. Us queer folk do the potlucks in style. This is mv2nd Winter in Eureka, and I’m looking for~vard with anticipation to the Season of the Potlucks. This is the time to get to lmow those people you have always ~vanted to know but were too bits5 working to spend any time with. As man5 of you already kimw. Eureka Springs is a wedding haven. And, it is also a wonderful spot for holy unions. Everything imaginable is possible, from an extravaganza to a small ceremony just for the two of you. And what better time than this Winter? Resources are available for holy unions at 253-2401. Events upcoming in Eureka this Winter include Jacob Adler, Assistant Professor of Philosophy at the University of Arkansas giving a talk at MCC of the Living Spring oftjanuary, 21 st at 4 PM The trpi~ will be Jewish Influence on Jesus’ Teachings. Joya Pope will be in town on February 3rd, also speaking at MCC of the Living Spring at 7 PM. Joya Pope is author of The WorMAccording to Michael and Upcoming Changes: Prophecy and Pragmatism for the Late Nineties. Admission is S 12.50 at the door, and she also has private channeling sessions available. Winter is the time we sit back and take stock, read all the good books we didn’t have time to get to during the rush of tourists, begin a new study program, and ¯ get read~ for theseason wlfich is -~’" only a c~uple of months away. For those of you who are Eureka locals, you know exactly ~vhat I ,’un talking about. Those of you who ,are from out of to~vn will just riced to visit in order to see why wc call this place Paradise. For more information about Eureka Springs available on the World Wide Web, point your browsers to: http: www.pimps.com~ eureka.html. See you in Eureka! ADA cont’dfromp. 8 He compares AIDS and HIV to leprosy....He states that hi s attitude regarding HIV and AIDS has remained unchanged s~nce 1987 when he suspended the plaintiff [Saladin] because he suspected he was HIV positive. In the same manner that he directed plaintiff not to discuss-the AIDS and HIV status of ¯ plaintiff’s partner in casual conversation with customers he states that he would consider asking a white waitress to not discuss or disclosed (sic) that fact that her spouse was black in casual conversation." Steve Norick, one of Paul Saladin’s attorneys, claims the Americans with 13isabilities Act was violated in at least two major ways. The ADA provide relief from discrimination based on acttmlly being handicapped but also to those who may not be handicapped but who are perceived as being handicapped. And it also provides protection to those ~vho are associated with those wh6 are handicapped. Thus far the court has seen sufficient merit in Saladiu et al’s case not to accept the efforts of Tumer’s attornevs to dismiss the case though the court has not seen fit to render judgment to Saladin yet either. Now it will be up tojudge &jury to findjustice. JD cont’dfromp. 9 Miss Rivercity America Pageant. If you missed Concessions celebration of their first anmversary, you should just hang your headin shame! Kirk &Terry and their staffand patrons had a great time and look forward to a grca~ year two. Also the) say, don’t miss Miss Gay Oklalloma t "Sofa co/fling on Jan. 28th and even more to come in March - mark your calendars. I hope that tiffs month and ucxt you find, or cherish more. that someone who brings you joy! BEAVER DAM STORE Fishing Headquarters for N.W. Arkansas Fly Tying * Fly Fishing * Equipment & Classes Open Year ~Round TROUTS - ~R - US Located 1/2 mile N. of Beaver Dam on Hwy 187 Eureka Springs, AR * 501-253-6154 Grocerles * Gas * Ice * Beer * Licenses * Lodging COTTAGE Your lnnReepe~. Lamont Richie and Steve Roberson A Bed dt Breal~asl Inn Individual Cottages - Jacuzzi for Two Eureka Springs, Arkansas 72632 501/253-8659 O000000000000000000.O. ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ o ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ A Friendly Place to Stay-. KING’S HI-WAY INN 96 Kings Highway, Hwy. 62 W Eureka Springs, AR 72632 (501) 253-7311 1-800-231-1442 Jerry A. Wilson. owner ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ O ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ MCC of the Living Spring ,..a community of friends... Rev. Kermie Wohlenhaus Pastor We welcome you to attend! Services held Sunday evenings at 6 PSI 17 Elk Street (at the Unitarian Church) Eureka Springs, AR 72632 501-253-9337 <MCCltmg Itealty, Inc. O] "The Land SpedaEsts" 501’253-9682 (days) OR 501-253-8969 (evenings) Offerings include: Bed & Breakfast in~; Victorian Homes, Hotels/Motels, Coi~mercial Properties/Businesses, Quiet Country Estates,-& much more. McClung Realty, Inr; has catered to the diverse G/L/B/TG community in Eureka Springsfor over 20 years. Call or write for a listing brochure. Or better yet, stop in, and we’ll show you around. We specialize in creative fin,ancing. EUREKA SPRINGS "Jim & Brent have opened the ultimate intimate local eatery. A special, eclectic dining experience..." Stop by our house for a taste of local flavor. Dine outside on the patio & porch or in our three beautiful dining rooms. Fine food at an affordable price. Green & Yellow Night FAMILY NIGHT Private Dinner Party, lstThurs, of EachJVIonth @m - Midnight, Dine, Drink ~ Relax Among Friends Featuring Jim & Gwendolyn’s Select Dinner Entrees & Brent’s Superb Desserts "With Family’ In Mind" Gay-owned, Operated & Rainbow Proud 20% of all proceeds will go to the support of family causes by Barry Hensley, Tulsa City-County Library For information regarding HIV/AIDS topics, our Library is an excellent resource. There are books, videos, audio cassettes, government documents and periodical articles full of updated information. Many branch libraries have books and other materials, although the Central Library, at 4th and Denver in downtown Tulsa, has more detailed information. Here are some of the items available through Central Library departments: BUSINESS ANDTECHNOLOGY, 4th floor, phone: 596-7988 (Dewey area 616.9792) AIDS and HIV in Perspective (by Barry Schoub) Immune Power: The Comprehensive Healing Pro~am for HIV (b.v Jolm Kaiser) Dictionary of AIDS Related Terminology (by Jeffrey Huber) Rethinking AIDS (by Robert Root-Bernstein) Everything You Need to Know When a Parent Has AIDS (by Barbara Drainlin) AIDS and the Law of Workplace Discrimination (by Jeffrey Mello) (34417301) READERS SERVICES, 2nd floor, phone: 596-7966 (Dewey area 362.1969) People, Sex, HIV and AIDS (by Pierre Andre) Everything You Need to Know About Being HIV Positive (by Amy Shire) I’ll Not Go Quietly (by Mary Fisher) We Are All Living With AIDS (by Earl Pike) Women’s HIV Sourcebook (by Patricia Klosser) Search for an AIDS Vaccine (by Christine Grady) (174.2 G) Recovering From the Loss of a Loved One to AIDS (by K. Dounelly) (155.937) Diary of a Lost Boy (by Harry Kondoleon) (fiction) Labour of Love (by Doug Wilson) (fiction) Such Times (by Christopher Coe) (fiction) Promise of Rest (by Reynolds Price) (fiction) CHILDREN’S, 2nd floor, phone: 596-7971 Magic Johnson (by Martin Schwabacher) AIDS: How it \Vorks in the.~odv (by Lorna Greenberg) Daddy and Me (by Jeanne M6ut~)uss’amy-Ashe) David ttas AIDS (by Doris Sanford) Know About AIDS (by Margaret Hyde) MEDIA CENTER, 1 st floor, phone: 596-7933 Living Proof: HIV and the Pursuit of Happiness (video) Heart of the Matter (video, HIV+ women) HI\" Test: Who Should Take It? What Does it Show? (video) AIDS: \Xqay We Won’t Look (audio cassette) Let’s Talk: C. Everett Koop (audio cassette) AIDS Quilt Songbook (compact disc) There are also various Government Documents available in both the Reference Department and the Business and Technology Department. Please call the Central Library at 596-7977 or any branch library for more information. Sunday Services 11:00 am ¯ Wednesday Services 6:30 pm, 7:30 pm Choir Practice ¯ Thurs. 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group I To do justice, love mercy & to walk hurnbly with "our God... Micah 6:8 5451-E South Mingo Tulsa, OK 74146 . (918) 622-1441 Open Arms Open Minds Open Hearts Saint Aidan’s 4045 No. Cincinnati. 425-7882 Saint John’s 4200 So. Atlanta PI.. 742-7381 Trinity 501 SO. Cincinnali. 582-4128 The Episcopal Church Welcomes You trial here before being returned to Oregon. Acremant, 27, was taken to flae San Joaquin County Jail for extradition to Oregon ou murder charges in die brntal slayings of Rox,’ume Ellis and Michelle Abdill. Stockton police say they were tipped off by an anonymou~ -caller early on the monli]~g ofDec. 13, who gave them the license number of a rented van Acremant was driving. Alter several hours of patrolling area motels, police say they located the van at a Motel 6 and discovered that Acremant had registered the night before tmder his own name. According to a Stockton police spokesperson, Acremant was not armed when he was arrested, and he surrendered to authorities without incident. Ellis mid Abdill, who operated a property management business together and were domestic partners, were-last seen on Dec. 4. Their bodies, bound, gagged and blindfolded, were discovered three days later in the back of their parked pickup truck. According to Medford authorities, die two women had each been shot twice in the head in what some have described as an "executton-style slaying." Police are continuing to refuse to talk abom the details of the case but did say they had no evidence that Acremant knew that the two women were lesbians. Although Acremant’ s father said his son had told him he had killed the two women in a robbery, police say that money, wallets, jewelry and other valuables belonging to them had not been taken. See related story., this page. STOCKTON, Calif. - The Natioual Gay & Lesbian Task Force has asked the U.S. Justice Department to examine the killing of Roxmme Ellis and Michelle Abdill, lesbian activists in Medford, Ore., because of statements made by Robert Acremant, who is facing charges in the case. The Task Force formally asked Attorney General Janet Reno in a letter to investigate whether the killings were hate crimes because of a variety of statements Acremant has made to television, radio and newspaper reporters duringjail interviews. In one interview, Acremant said he had asked the women if they were lesbians and said they had told him they were. "It kind of made me sick to my stomach that she was someone’s grandma," Acremant was quoted as saying in an interview published in the Oregonian shortly after his arrest. He also said in that interview that the fact that they were lesbians "made it easier" to kill them. In a letter to Reno, NGLTF Executive Directory Melinda Paras said, gays and lesbians around the country were "’very much upset and disturb0xl by these murders" and that statements by Acremant "have heightened the alarm and concern" that the killings were, in fact, hate crimes. PICK YOUR CAR... ... PICK YOUR. PAYMENT! "NO MONEY DOWN!" Mitsubishi Eclipse RS s272 -MONTHLY * or .... $15 698 < "CASH. PRICE ¯ All factory eouioment Including Air. ¯ MSRP $16.976 0-down. 41 p~iyment~ of $272 99 Lint pavment $~4~, WAC This is not ~ lease 15 ¢xnts li mile penalty after 12,000 miles i yr~ Mitsubishi- Galant s237 Monthly* Includes: Air conditioning, power door locks and windows, cruise control, Am/Fro cassette, automatic and much more. "MSRP $18.069. Sale Pdce 117.191.41 payments at $237 a month, 12,000 miles a yr. Iree, 15’ a mile penalty thereafter or walk away. Last payment $8588. 1.75%APR. W.A.C. by Jean-Pierre St. Valentine’s Day is soon to be upon us, and everyone is once again faced with the dilemmaof selecting that special place for a romantic dinner. Here are the three best restaurants in Tulsa, as well as the three most overrated. Each of the establishments reviewed this month considers itself to offer "fine dining," or what you might call a"white tablecloth" restaurant. Elegant. Dressy. Be forewarned, though, that all of these places fall into the category of "very expensive." Heading up the list is Montrachet, in the Consortium at 3509 South Peoria. This restaurant was formerly on our list of places to avoid, unless you liked schizophrenic Santa Fe French cuisine courtesy of the previous chef/owner. But, last summer, it was taken over by new ownership, management, and chefs from the resorts in Scottsdale, Arizona, and has successfully regained its place on Jean-Pierre’s social list. With the demise lastyear of both Karmichael’ s and the Fifteenth Street Grill (-gotta pay those taxes!), Montrachet is currently Tnlsa’s best restaurant. The Montrachet style is still basically French In concept, but displays a,.fresh American note to the Continental style: Beef tenderloin, rack of lamb, poussin, fresh salmon, and other gourmet specialties are mainstays ofthe Montrachetmenu, which changes seasonally. But the highlight of the meal with be the lovely montage of flavors from experiencing all of the courses, not just the entree. The onion soup at this place is absolutely the best one can get in Oklahoma. A rich beefy and winey stock bathes tender, caramelized onions, and is a delicious and warming treat. Frizzled onions top the soup as a garnish, which you may want to request be left in the kitchen. For a special appetizer, try the seared foie gras. It’s presented medium rare, stacked between layers of puff pastry, and grilled apples. The salad of mixed greens with Stilton cheese, walnuts, & poached pears is excellent. Desserts change regularly, and all are exquisite. None are the typical ice cream and hea~y., sticky sauce on abrownie; ....all. drowned in icanned ¯ whipped topping, that one ¯ usually finds in Tulsa. ¯ Many are truly works of art, and the tastes ¯ can be heavenly. Montrachet also has a ¯ full bar and an excellent wine list. They ¯ also offer a number of interesting cordials ¯ and liqueurs. - , ; Expect.seryice~ to .be.very well trained ¯ and efficient. All of the waiters are very ¯ knowledgeable about the evening’s menu ¯ and the preparations of the foods, and will ¯ be happy to recommend,.the evening’s ¯ best dishes. Bodean Seafood Restaurant has been ¯ the place to go for fresh-off-the-plane- " daily, seafood in Tulsa for years. Located ¯ in a nondescript strip shopping center at ¯ 3323 East 51st, just east of Harvard, ¯ Bodean is filling the shoes of the late ." Louisianne,Tulsa’slegendary downtown ¯ r.estaurant. You can also buy lovely fresh ¯¯ seafood to prepare at home at Bodean’s adjacent seafood market. If you like New England style clam ¯ chowder, you willlove the soupat Bodean, : probably the best Marc-Pierre has had : outside of the East Coast. Rich and thick, it contains big pieces of fresh dams. Limit ¯ yourself to a cup though; the bowl is big ~ enough for a meal by itself. Check the chalkboards to see whatcame in on the plane that day. Mussels, cockles, : and oysters from Newfoundland and New : Zealand are regularly on the appeuzer ¯ lists, and fishes from across the world will : become scrumptious entrees. The fish entrees are al- St. Valentine’s Day is soon to be upon us...Here are th~ three _. b~st restaurants in Tulsa, as well as the three most overrated. ways creatively prepared and presented, though sometimes the creativity can be a bit excessive. ~re recently experienced a mahi mahi presented with mango chumey and a blackened monkfish served with crawfish jambalaya. Never mind, though, since any fish can be prepared to order, and Jean-Pierre often orders the wonderfully fresh seafood simply grilled with alittle lemon butter on the side. Expect your fish to be cooked to an expert level of doneness, not undercooked and not dried out, but just right. Vvqaile most of the waiters provide the professional service you would expect from a quality restaurant, not all of the staff is properly trained. You may want to request a special waiter, once you find one you like. Our third choice amongst the three best Tulsa restaurants is actually a private club in downtownTulsa. The Summit, atop the Bank IV Center, serves both luncheon and dinner to Tulsa’s business and socialite community. It might be worth your while to get out those gold-digging shoes and wrangle an invitation to share dinner with aclub member. A qnick review of the club roster reveals several ’Tanfily’" members, so this is not an impossible task. Honorable mention has to go to the food at the Southern Hills Golf & Country Club, but finagling an invitation here is much more challenging. The Summit features expertly traineo staff with charming & sexy European accents. And, this being "The Club" of Tulsa’s elite, the staff will do everything possible to cater to the diners" every whim and pleasure. Of course, such service and top quality food does not come without its cost, but the saving grace is that the Summit doesn’t make you pay at the endof the meal your host just signs h check! This is Tulsa, so beef is heavily featured on the menu. Steaks are excellent, always prime beef, and will be prepared exactly to vour specifications. They also do a lovely Dover sole. Wildgame is frequently available. But one of the most memorable entrees here is the fork tender, melt-inyour- mouth, lamb tenderloin. The only thing to avoid is the lasagna, which is bland & insipid, a big disappointment ~ven the management’s Italian origins. Desserts are ~ bit more mundane, but fresh fruit with real whipped crean~ is always available, and the signature dessert of the club is a chocolate crunch cakc. a very rich mousse m a pastry shell. If you are watching your pennies, be careful with your choices of wines ,and liquors. The "Summit stocks all of the ultra-premium liquors and has wines costing 100’s (note the plural) of dollars per botde. And now for the list of Tulsa’s three most overrated "’fine" restaurants, at which see Dining, page 14 1996 Miss Gay Oklahoma USofA Pageant Sunday, January 28, 9 pm, with special guests Maya Douglas Miss Gay USofA 1995 Chelsea Pearl Miss Gay USofA At-Large 1996 Cherry Monroe Miss Gay Oklahoma USofA Jean-Pierre refuses to eat when he is picking up the tab, and which Jean-Pierre will discourage friends from visiting as well. All of these restaurants suffer from overinflated prices, inconsistent food quality, and mediocre servtce (judged by a standard of what one might expect given the expense). Number Three: Bravo Ristorante. Suffeting through the attempts of the wait stuff to sing arias and show tunes does not make up for their inept service or the mediocrity of the food. R.I.P. Montague" s, the fine dining room when the Adam’s Mark used to be the Westin. Number Two: Atlantic Sea Grill. In probably the most expensive restaurant in Tulsa, the expectation that the food will be cooked to a quality level consistent with the prices is unrequited. Perhaps one would be better off to walk a few doors down to the cheaper and infinitely less stuffy T.G.I. Friday’s. NumberOne: Warren DuckClub. Aside from being in the tone)- Doubletree Warren Place, how this establishment manages to be touted as one of the finer establishments in Tulsa is totally bevond this reviewer. On several oceasirns, ~ean- Pierre has been served tough and overcooked duck with dreadfully sweet fruit sauce to mask the (lack of) "flavor of the bird. But most disappointing is thee dessert bar reminiscent of Harvest Buffet. Save your money. Well, dear readers, this is the list of Tulsa’s besl and worst. Now, you can decide where you want to take your special friend on’Febrtmry 14. Any hidden messages there’? Just be sure to call ahead for reservations, Bon appetit! by James Christjohn Hello again! Time for another rousing round of reviews! I have received complaints from some members of the community for using the "snap" system of rating stuff. They claim to have patented it. Go figure; some people are legends in their own minds. At any rate, if anyone out there in readerland feels they have a more amusing rating system, please submit it to Tulsa Family News Rating System contest,POB 4140,TulsaOK, 74159. I’m not sure what the prizewill be yet, but I’ll come up with something. I am also asking for the women in our readership to Submit ideas of what they’d like to see reviewed. I don’t want anyone left out. On with the reviews, comments, and whatever other stuff I feel might be amusing. If you remember your first crush on another member of the same sex, or have forgotten, I can highly recommend "’Tom & Huck". It is an excellent adaptation of "Tom Sawyer", with excellent performances by the entire cast. And the homoerotic subtext clearly evident inTom and Huck’s relationship ~s almost underlined in one of several scenes where Tom and Huck are struggling to communicate their feelings towards one another and you just want to yell "Go ahead! Say it! Tell him’I love you!’"Actually,it’s pretty much true to it’s time - I can see Huck living in town, madTom marries Beckx’ as a cover, and continues his relationship with Tom. This is definitely a good Valentine" s day flick, very romantic in its way, and the action keeps you on the edge of the seat. Fortunately, I restrained myself from the yelling bit, for which mv mece was grateful (I must credit her f~r SALOON Friday, January 19 th Blacklight Party Every Wednesday Night Drag Rodeo Roundup hosted by Courtney Farrell and featuring Keliah LaMonte Coming Sunday, March 17 USofA Preliminary to Miss USofA 834-4234, 1565 S. Sheridan W-Sun. 7-2am this issue’s reviews, during the holiday trip to see fmrtily, she dragged me to all these movies I wouldn’t have ever seen otherwise, and was pleasantly surprised at how good they were. I dedicate this month’s column to her. Otherwise, I’d just be babbling on about anything I could think of and making up reviews of fictional films and stuff.) Another winner is "Jumanji", and it takes you on a doozy of a rollercoaster ride. It’s a fun film, and Robin Williams is always a delight, especially in this flick about ama~cal board game set in a deadly jungle that sucks you in until someone else plays the game to it’s finish and sets you free. The scenes of the jungle and its animals taking over an entire town is amazing. The plot was a bit uneven, but I found it amusing enough overall to make up for that. Inmusical terms, Boy George’s"Cheapness and Beaut)"" deserves more of a listen than it’s been getting. I am not partial to BG or Culture Club, but I was curious enough to give this disc a spin, and found it surprisingly effective. It covers every style from country to heavy metal (mad I HATE heavy metal, but I rather liked it here. Skip the first track, but listen to the rest. He holds no punches, mad does not shy away from telling it like i~ is - no bet love songs here! There is one song on there about AIDS that nearly hadme in tears. The lyrics are well-written if not well-spelled and the music is fairly well done. (For me, the first test of a songs is the lyrics. Are they intelligent? Do they have meaning? If they don’t, forget it.) Another "new" discovery, October Project, has a new CD, "Falling Farther In", and it is beautiful. The lyrics are amazingly intelligent, and the music fuses a bit of rock, pop,jazz and Celtic soul. Try it, you’ll like it. The lead singer has a lovely deep alto voice that is like chocolate to listen to. If you don’t like chocolate, insert the dream food of your choice. (Like I said, I don’t want to leave anyone out.) This is a CD to add to your collection, no matter what. And, if we’re all lucky, I’ll be able to review "’Phantom of the Opera" for the next issue. I know a lot of folks out there are dusting off their opera capes and lnasks for this one! Don’t forget our Jan. 28th 2nd Annual Super Bowl Party Free Draw Beer from kickoff to finish, Chili dogs, baked beans & potato salad, $5 cover Big Screen TV How To Do It First 30 words are S10. Each additional word is 25 cents. You may bring additional attention to your ad with: Bold Headline - S 1 Ad in capital letters -S1 Ad in bold capital letters - $2 Ad in box - $2 Ad reversed - $3 Tear sheet mailed - S2 Blind Post Office Box - $5 Please type or print your ad. Count the number of words. (A word for our purposes is a group ofletters or numbers separated by a space.) 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Call me! ~13859 Tulsa LOADED: 27, 6’, 180 iso men 1~8~30 far some fun, give me a.call- ~9298 OK City DADDY’S HOME: WM, 41,6’ 180 blk brn, iso slim musc 18-41 for fun and friendship- leave a message- =9318 Grove WANNA PUNK WITH ME?: new to area. not into bars, Dave, 20 6’ 185 brn/red/hzt, goatee, eyebrow earring, love volleyball, good music, good food great conversation, meditate, spiritual, give me a ca11- ~9385 Tulsa AMERICAN PRIDE: 5’9, 140, trim physique, hairy chest, sincere and honest person, like this in a person, give me a call- =9464 Oklahoma City GOOD TIMES ARE WAITING: I’m 27 y/o, 5’11, 2151b~, athletic bbild~ I’m Ikg4 someone to share good times with. I like dancing, I’m alight drinker and a non smoker.": ~1663 Oklahoma City PRIME TIME: I’m a 38 y/oWMI"V. I’m a total "PC and I’m Ikg4 men,who would like to spend same time with me. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Our Families ofthe Heart Marriage Wins & Losses¯ REYKJAVIK, Iceland - Iceland’s Parliament has ap- " proved abill that would give same-gender.couples there . the right tolegally marry, following a pattern of extend- ¯ ing a slightly limited form of matrimony and state ¯ recognition established in the Scandinavian’ countries of Denmark, Norway and Sweden. Thenew legislationpermits same-sex couples to have a civil marriage ceremony and the same tax, insurance and inheritance status as married opposite-sex couples. " Like the Scandinavian version of same-sex marriage, " the new law does not, however allow gay and lesbian ¯ couples to adopt or to have children by artificial insemination- although it does allow for joint custody if one " of the 2 spouses already has a child:- " The new law does not require churches in the nation, ¯ which have generally opposed such unions, to perform religious ceremonies for same-sex couples if they do " not wish to. . In the United States, various state legislatures con- ~Fe their, efforts to restrict civil marriage to hetero- : ............~d.~tiM~?D~Ia-w~e-Go~i~tSf~oixaas..~a~-has~signed_~o ~.~ a measure that prevents same-sex marriages, even if " legally performed elsewhere, from being recogniz.ed, in . the state. The new law restricts the state to recogmzang ¯ only marriages between "one man and one woman." In a related development, Michigan Gov. John Engler also signed a similar bill passed by the state legislattire earlier this year prohibiting the state from recognizing same-sex mamages, even if performed legally in other states. The North Carolina__ House voted 98-10 to approve a similar measure, already approved by the state senate, that would bar recognition of any such marriages even if legally performed elsewhere. State law already prevents same-sex marriages in North Carolina. The measure does not require the approval of the state’s governor and automatically becomes law now. Meanwhile, California’s just-released Field Poll indicates that the majority of those in the state - 57% - oppose legally recognizing same-sex marriages. Overall, only 35% ofCalifornians who were surveyed say the state should extend to same-sex couples the same legal status as heterosexual unions. Some 8% had no opinion or didn’t answer the question. Baptists to Boycott Disney NEWORLEANS -The 15.6-millionmember Southern Baptist Convention has formally called for its congregations to boycott Walt Disney Company’s products, services and entertainment industries because of what the religious denomination considers anti-Christian, anti-family values - including allowing Gays and Lesbians to organize events at Disney’s theme parks. The resolutioncalling for theboycott charges thatthe "Disney Co. has given the appearance that the promotion of homosexuality is more important than its historic commitment to traditionalfamily values." Disney officials have declined to comment on the boycott, but Baptists may have a little trouble following the boycott since Disney, one of the largestAmerican corporations, owns not only its wall-known theme parks in California and Florida, but also ABC-TV, Touchstone and Miramax films, and is a major parmer in McDonald’s. CONGRESS ATTACKS GAY MARRIAGE ¯ WASHINGTON - Rolling through Congress with little ¯ opposition, the House overwhelmingly approved the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) by a 342-67 vote and 2 : abstentions while the Senate judiciary committee hear- ." ings turned testy as Sen. Edward Kennedy (D-Mass.) accused Republicans of"a mean-spirited form of legisla- ." tive gay-bashing" as part of its November election strat- : egy aimed at unseating President Clinton. The measure would define mamage as a legal contract ¯¯ between "one man and one woman" and would also exclude any same-sex couples who may be able to legally ¯ marry anywhere in the country from Social Security, veterans’ and other federal benefits. Anti-gay conservatives say DOMA is needed to circumvent an expected Hawaii court ruling that may, for the first time anywhere in the U.S., permit same-sex couples to legally marry there. "It is a frontal assault on the institution of mamage and if successful will demolish the institution," said Rep. Steve Largent, an OklahomaRepublican. Largent charged that if same-sex marriages were allowed, society might next condone bigamy, marriages between children and adults and marriage between humans and animals. Georgia Republican Bob Ban" said the growing influence ofhomosexuals posed a threat to America. "Wehave a basic institution.., under direct assault from homosexual extremists across this country," Barr said. "This is an issue that transcends partisan lines, it goes to the heart of a fundamental institution." Oklahoma’s 2ndDistrictUS RepresentativeTomCoburn ofMuskogee characterized the issue as being one ofmoral disapproval of homosexuality which he claimed was the view ofhis constituents. Cobumcharacterizedhomosexuality as based in lust and perversity - remarks which greatly offended openly Gay Massachusetts Rep. Barney see Attack, page 8 ¯ Tulsa Pride ’96 The Rev. Leslie Penrose of Community of Hope opens Tulsa ’s Pride Picnic at Owen Park. Morephotos, page 3. ; Organizers of Tnlsa’s Pride Picnic have released a post ¯ event statement characterizing the event as a success. A ¯ joint effort of Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, ¯ Friends in Unity Social Organization and a number of ¯ volunteers, the Picnic made a slight profit after all ex- ¯ penses. The Picnic commi ttee particularly praised local ." club owners, entertainers and community groups for their ¯ financial contributions frombenefitperformances.Agroup ¯ spokesperson noted that the City of Tulsa imposed some ¯ obstacles which resultedin higher costs than in past years. : Also, there had been opposiuon from an Owen Park ¯ community group that feared that homosexuals would ¯ "destroy" the payk. Picnic organizers stated that Owen ¯ Park’was dirty when they found it and that they cleaned it ¯ prior to the picnic and afterwards left much cleaner than it ¯ was originally. The committee also noted that they had attracted greater corportate sponsorship than before, list- " ing American Airlines, Coors, Budweiser, Miller and ¯ Pepsi as sponsors, see Pride, page 2 ¯ New Gay Friendly Church ¯ Tulsa’s Lesbian & Gay community is being welcomed ¯ at anew congregation, Community Unitarian Universalist ¯ Congregation (CUUC). In contrast to Tulsa’s image as ~ being dominated by fundamentalist, anti-Gay churches, ¯ Tulsa is home to four Unitarian-Universalist (UU) con- ." gregations. The denomination is noted for its traditional ¯ support for "progressive" issues andforwelcoming Gay & ¯ Lesbian worshipers. ° However, Community Unitarian Universalist Congre- : gation is the only UU congregation in Tulsa to join the ¯ Unitarian-UhiversalistWelcomingCongregationprogram ¯ directed at Lesbians and Gay men. CUUC also partici- ¯ pated in this year’s Interfaith Pride Service. CUUC re- " ceived its charter in November of last year and has about : 55-60 members. The group currently meets at Community ¯ ofHope UnitedMethodist on Sundays at 10:30 for coffee ¯ with the service at 11 am. see CUUC, page 3 Gay Man Runs i for Congress ¯ Paul Barby, a 61 year oldWoodward, Oklahoma oilman ¯ and rancher and a Gay man, has announced his Demo- ¯ cratic candidacy for Oklahoma’s 6th District seat in the US ¯ House of Representatives. The seat is currently held by ¯ first-term Republican Frank Lucas. Barby told TFN that he had not pictured himself as ¯ politician but that in working to defeat State referendum question #669 and in his work as an unpaid, citizen lobbyist at the State Capitol, he came to realize that ¯ a difference. ’He ¯ added that people had ¯ urged him to run for Congress. Barby isn’t running ¯ on "Gay" issues but ¯ as a candidate who ¯ happens to be Gay. ¯ He talks about work- - ing to moderate Con- . gress which he char- ¯ acterizes as "tooruth- ¯ less, toouncaring, too ¯ restrictive". He calls ¯ himself a fiscal con- " servative who never- ¯ theless is. concerned ¯ that cutbacks in farm Paul Barby ¯ supports will devas- ; tate Oklahoma’s small family farms. He says he supports ¯ family values but that these values cannot survive without ¯ education, job opportunities and health care. ¯ However, he did choose to reveal his homosexuality in ¯ aletter to potential supporters because he felt he needed to ¯ be honest with voters. Also, since his Gayness was no ¯ see Barby, page 3 Coming Soon! Shanti’s ¯ Water Garden Tour, see p. 8 ¯ New Volleyball Group, 9 l~/!~ I EUREKA SPRINGS BOOK REVIEW/ENTERTAINMENT RESTAURANT REVIEW CLASSIFIEDS 918.583.1248 POB 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-0140 TulsaNews@~ol.com Publisher/Editor, Tom Neal Assistant Editor, James Christjohn Writers/contributors, Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Leanne Gross Pat Morehead issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence should be sent to the address above. Each reader is entitled to one free copy.of each edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. by John A.Reynolds Long-lasting relationships in the Gay & Lesbian community seem to be very rare and the straightworld doesn’t appear to be in much better shape when it comes to this subject. Some experts attribute this to the brief that many relationships, Gay and straight, are based one lust instead of love. Of course, those who are"in lust" will disagree and swear it is love- for the two or three months they are together. Personally, I believe the problem is that most people don’t become friends before they become lovers. We must know someone before we can love them. Harold Baird, my partier of seventeen years was also my best friend and we would still be together today if cancer hadn’t taken him from me. We became friends first, and out of that friendship grew the love that we enjoyed for those years. Too many relationships are based on sex and physical attraction. These are the ones that seem to fail early on. Sex is only a small part of any long-lasting relationship. Conversation, enjoyment of each others presence and many other things, combined with sex, are needed to make a relationship work. If lust is the basis of a relationship, don’t expect it to last very long. I cherish the time Harold and I had together, but the things I remember most about that time’-are the walks in the woods, holding hands, talking and quietly sitting together knowing the see Friend, page 3 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 832-1269 744-0896 749- 1563 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Med.& Mental Health, 2325 S. 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Peoria, Ste. 633 Puppy Pause II, 1 lth & Mingo *Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S, Boston *Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square Scott Robison’s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations Southwest Viatical 592-5356 749-3620 665-6595 838-8503 743-9994 690-2974 744-0102 745-1111 584-4606 341-6866 621-5597 599-8070 747-5466 742-1992 671-2010 584-3112 663-5934 664-2951 747-7672 838-7626 584-0337 749-6301 743-2351 747-3322 OK, OK, I can already hear you. You’re saying; "I told you so...I told you that Largent’s a neaderthal and there’s no hope for him!" I’m no longer arguing with you. I cannot convey sufficiently the rage I felt in watching OUR representative malign and attack us, his own constituents, as Largent spoke in defense of the "Defense of Marriage Act". Largent’s suggestion that recognizing our relationships would lead to marriages between animal and human, and between children and adults was truly one of the sleaziest and cheap attacks that Congress has seen. I believe from my conversations with him that Largent knows better but like the swollen (but pretty) headed, professional politician he’s becoming, he was willing to lie to make his point. Tom Cobum’s attack on his Lesbian and Gay constituents was even worse albeit morehonest than those ofhis Republicanpeers. His remarks went to the heart of the bias motivating DOMA. It’s not about "protecting marriage" but about condemning Gay & Lesbian citizens because primarily of religious briefs. Unfortunately for Mr. Coburn, our Constitution (you wonder if he’s bothered to read it) frowns on people like him using the power of government to impose his religious views on minorities. Both of these representatives have shamed Oklahoma with these unashamed bigotry. While there’s little hope of unseating them soon, the candidacy of people like Paul Barby encourage me to hold out hope for Oklahoma yet. - Tom Neal ¯ Thomas Chiropractic Clinic ¯ 4138 S. Harvard~ Ste. C-1 742-8868 Kellie J. 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Owen Park was an excellent location and the whole layout flowed really well. The booth and display area was terrific, vendors and organizations alike. The music was great, along with food and beverage availability. My kids enjoyed themselves as wall making it a perfect "family" outing. And mounted police in uniform was a nice added touch. ;-) Hats off to the committee who organized a wall planned and thought out day to show Tulsa our Pride! - Kelly Harrison Kirby, via the Internet Disney vs. So. Baptists In view of the Southern Baptists’ resolutions to boycott the Walt Disney Company for being "anti-family" and to convert Jews, perhaps Disney could create a new theme park attraction just for the Baptists. They could call it"It’s A Small, Small Mind." - Alan L. Light, Iowa City, Iowa June - July 1996, Issue #7 ¯ In our last issue, we inadvertantly made at leas ttwo mistakes. Firstwelisted Ginny ¯ Butler as one of the professionals associated with Dr. JeffBeal andTed Campbell’s practice, Associates in Medical and Men- " tal Health. We were not aware that Ms. ¯ Butler is not part of that practice now and ¯ we apologize to all parties involved for ; .that misleading impression., .... ¯ Secondly, we greatly regret that when ¯ we reported on community dubs that ¯ helped the Pride Picnic by doing benefit ¯ shows, we did not know to credit all those : who were involved. The benefit at the : Silver Star was organized by the Green ¯ Country Cloggers who certainly deserve ¯ credit for this show, and for all the other ¯ hard work they do. Wehonor them, and of course, John & Steve of-the Star, their gracaous hosts. If we inadvertantly failed to mention anyone else who helped with those shows, please accept our apology andlet us know so thatwecan give proper credit to all. - Tom Neal, editor/publisher The group’s spokesperson added that while they’d heard afew complaints about ¯ the changeof thepicnic site fromMohawk ¯ Park to Owen Park before the event, after- " wards, they heard a great deal of satisfac- ~ "tion from attendees. The greater amount ¯ of shade and generally better facilities ¯ were mentioued. ." Other Pride events like the Interfaith : Pride Worship Service, and the PFLAG/ ¯ TOHR/RBG dinner for the president of ¯ the Dallas Gay & Lesbian Alliance were : deemed a success by their organizers. The ¯" only event that was not well supported ¯ was TOHR’s Pride Dance .which drew few attendees. State SenatorBernest Cain readsproclamation honoring Pride Rally & Parade in OKC’s Memorial Park. PFLAG, Tulsa Chapter was Tulsa’s largest group & received a very enthusiastic response. Tulsa’s new volleyball organization began at the Pride Picnic, For more information, see the Calendar, p. 9 Oklahoma Gay Rodeo folks lead the Oklahoma City Parade from Memorial Park to NW 39th St. Men ofNative American descentfrom TNAAPP, Indian Health Care, were visible and proud of their heritage. The Banned opened this year’s Pride with the Star- Spangled Banner, Oklahoma & several other selections. Donna Redwing, Advocate Magazine’s 1992 Woman of the Year & GLAAD spokesperson at the OKC Parade. Family of Faith MCC helped to represent Tulsa as did others who walked with statewide groups. others thoughts. The simple things in a relationship are just as important as the sextml side. When asked by friends, "what is your secret?" - we would reply by saying, "be your partner’ s best friend and say, ’I love you’ every day." There wasn’t a time in those 17 years wo- didn’t say "I love you" to each other several times a day. I’m not saying live is a bed of rose and ~ev. Nancy J. Horvath M. Div., Pastor Sunday 9:15 am Christian Education 11:00 am Worship Service Wednesday 6:30 pm Midweek Service 7:30 pm Choir Practice Thursday 7:30 pm C0dependency Support Group ;451-E S. Mingo ¯ Tulsa, OK ¯ 74146 (918) 622-1441 ¯ youwon’t ha~e problems. There will be ¯ times when disagreements and problems ¯¯ arise, but you can work through them. True love and friendship can conquer the ¯ trials of any relationship. When problems ¯ arise, and they will, if your love an friend- " ship are strong you can weather the storm ¯ and get through it together. When one ¯ p~er dies, as in my case, you can go on ¯ alone. It’s not easy butit canbe done. ¯ When Harold was diagnosed with can- : cer of the right lung andliver, we decided ¯ he would not be placed in a hospital or : nursing home. He wanted to die at home, : withdignity, surroundedby those heloved. ¯ for fifty short day, I provided his care, not ¯ out of a sense of duty or obligation but : because of the love and friendship we ¯ shared. Because of that love I was by his ¯ bed as he took his last breath- he did not ¯ die alone or among strangers. ¯ On June 6, 1995 at 9:15 pro, I lost my ¯ best friend, my parmer, my lover butI ." have seventeen years ofwonderfulmemo- ¯ ties of our friendship and our time to- " gether. ¯ Harold & I had a good relationship ¯ because love grew from our friendship. If : a relationship is going to last you must ¯. first start as friends. Basing a relationship ¯ on sexual desires is a recipe for disaster. ¯ Although I miss Harold and think of ¯ him daily, the memories of what we had ¯ will remain with me always. ¯ John A. Reynolds is afreelance writer currently residing in Tulsa. secret fiom his family and friends, he did not want to be subject to a "whispering" campaign from Lucas supporters. Henoted his membership in the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) and declared his support for civil rights. Specifically he ¯ mentioned his opposition to laws banning ¯ same-gender marriage, saying courts and ¯ churches should be free to make their ] decisions based on the Constitution or ¯ their theology. ¯ .Barby is contributing $25,000 person- " ally as seed money to the estimated ¯¯ $350~000 required to run a campaign in the large rural and urban district (41% of ¯ the district is urban taking in the north- " west corner of OKC). He is working with ¯" longtime OKC political activist, Keith ¯ Smith on thecampaign. Barby also said ¯ he’d talked with the Human Rights Cam- - paign (which funds national offices) and the Gay & Lesbian Victory Fund (which ¯ only funds local and state races). He also ¯ was meeting with the Cimarron Mliance, ¯ OKC’s Lesbian & Gay political acdon : committee. Dead in Nat’l Park LURAY, Va. -’ Two women - Julianne Williams of St. Cloud, Minn., and L0llie Winans of Unity, Maine - who were considered experienced outdoor guides and believed to have been lovers, were found dead in the Shenandoah National Park in Virginia earlier in June, authorities said. Williams, 24, and Winans, 26, were apparently murdered. Both the National Park Service and the FBI are investigating the deaths, although neither agency would give details of the apparent slayings. Both women worked as outdoor intern guides in 1995 for the Minneapolis-based women’s vacation group, Woodswomen, andwere consideredexperiencedand skillful at camping in the wilderness. Park officials said the women were found after the father of one of them reported that she had not shown up at home as scheduled. Authorities declined to say how the 2 women were killed, but said they may have been dead for a few days before their bodies were discovered. Tennessee Sodomy Statute Overturned NASHVILLE- The Tennessee state Supreme Court has let stand a lower court ruling overturning the state’s anti-sodomy statute. Earlier this year a state appeals court ruled that Tennessee’s Homosexual Practices Act violates state .cgnstitutional privacy guarantees. Several Tennessee residents originally challenged the state law, arguing that prosecution under the anti-sodomy statute could cost them their jobs, homes and families and that private sexual behavior was not the state’s business. Presbyterians & Homosexuality ALBUQUERQUE, N.M. - In a vote by delegates from the denomination’s 171 presbyteries, 57% voted for an amendment against ordaining active homosexuals. Activists said they were disappointed but that the vote represented an improvement over the last assembly in 1991. Delegates attending the general conclave of the Presbyterian Church (USA) have had a full plate of issues on their agenda during the confab, but overriding many items is the question of ordaining homosexuals in the ministry. Not only was the question of ordaining gays a direct issue with competing proposals to effectively bar ordaining gays or leaving the issue in the hands of local churches, but larger issues such as joining associations with other denominations also focused the delegates’ attention on the role of gay clergy. In considering whether or not to join with the United Church of Christ, the African Methodist Episcopal Church, the ¯ AfricanMethodistEpiscopal ZionChurch, the Christian Church (Disciples ofChrist), the Christian Methodist Episcopal Church, ¯ the Episcopal Church, the International Council of Community Churches and the ¯¯ UnitedMethodist Church in the unifying Church of Christ Uniting organization, ¯ one overriding concern for many conser- ¯ vative Presbyterians has been whether ¯ gay clergy in the other churches that or- " dain homosexuals could minister to Pres- ¯ byterian congregations. ¯ The organization’s human sexuality & ¯ ordination committee recommended that ¯ ordination should be limited to individu- : als who observe "fidelity within the cov- ¯ chant of marriage between one man and ¯ one woman - or chastity in singleness." ¯ Although the Presbyterian Church has ¯ officially welcomed gays and lesbians to ¯ its congregations for decades, it has also ¯ long barred"self-affirming, practicing homosexuals" as ministers. Aug. Conference: Get Out the.Vote "- WASHINGTON - The Human Rights -." Campaign is sponsoring a conference of ." gay andlesbian rights activists in Chicago ¯ a week before the Democratic National : Convention begins there in late August : and early September. Political heavy- ¯. weights thatHRC expects to appear at the ¯ Aug. 16-28 confab include Sen. Carol -" Moseley-Braun (D-Ill.), openly gay Rep. "_ Steve Gunderson (R-Wise.), and Housing ¯ Secretary Henry Cisneros. The con- . ference’s chief agenda will be getting out : the gay and lesbian vote this November, ." an issue that’s increasingly concerning ¯ aftivists who fear many gay voters have become wary of President Clinton and ¯ would be unlikely to support retired U.S. Sen. Bob Dole’s presidential bid. ¯ TV Gold: Louganis’ Story to be Biopic HOLLYWOOD - The entertainment in- " dustry newspaper Variety reports that the ¯ USA Network is producing a made-for- " television movie based on Olympic gold ¯ medalist Greg Louganis’ autobiography, ¯ Breaking the Surface. The TV bio is ex- ¯ pected to air sometimenext year, although : the cable network says none of the roles ¯ have yet been cast. ¯ Largest.Ever Pride Parade in Utah ¯ SALT LAKE CITY - Recent anti-gay : actions by Utah lawmakers, including a : ban on gay iliad lesbian clubs at public ¯ schools,mayhavehelpedmakethis year’s -" annual Gay Pride Day event the largest in the state’s history, organizers said. Thousands of people - both gays and straights - turned out for this year’s parade and festival. One parade organizer said the state legislature had done "more for us than we could ever do for ourselves" in drawing such a large crowd. Keynote speaker at the event was Chastity Bono, daughter of actress Cher and U.S. Rep. Sonny Bono (R-Calif.), who told the audience that Utah activists fighting anti-gay legislative efforts in the state had "advanced the entire community’s fight for human rights." Canadian Gov’t to Extend Benefits OTTAWA -TheCanadianHumanRights Commission has ordered the government to offer health care benefits to the gay and lesbian partners of national workers the same as it does to the spouses of married employees. The ruling was prompted by complaints by two gay federal government workers and applies only to the country’s civil service employees. The commission ruled that it was "discriminatory to deny benefits to those in a samesex relationship while extending the same benefits to heterosexual couples." Fire documenting anti-gay policies and actions in the U.S. armed forces, has been granted one of 21 prestigious "Genius Awards’r by the MacArthur Foundation. Berube’s award carries a no-strings $300,000 cash grant that recipients are free to spend in any way they wish. The California-based foundation has. granted more than $150 million since it began making the "Genius Awards" in 1981. Bernbe said the money will make it possible forhim to finish work on his current project, which is a study of the role of gay shipboard workers inthe 1930s and 1940s whohelp form one of the nation’ s earliest multiracial labor unions. Utility to Help Gay Youth Programs Ohio Anti-Gay Vote To Be Reviewed WASHINGTON - In an action that won cautious praise from rights activists, the U.S. Supreme Court has ordered a federal appeals court m Ohio to reconsider an earlier decision that an anti-gay measure, known as Issue 3, approved by Cincinnati voters in 1993 is constitutional. A federal court had initially struck down the Cinciunati measure, but the appeals courthad reversed that ruling, declaring the antigay measure was constitutional. Issue 3 ,would have repealed anti-bias measures based on sexual orientation and would have also barred any future legislation of the kind, The Supreme Court, however, by a 6-3 vote, ordered the appeals court to reconsider its ruling in light of the high court’s overturning in May of a similar anti-gay ballot measure approved by Colorado voters. In apress statement, Melinda Paras of the National Gay&LesbianTask Force said "While we will not know the full implications of the Supreme Court decision until the lower court’ s revised ruling, clearly the high court’s decision on Amendment 2 has taken the wind out of Issue 3’s sails. We are making progress toward ending intolerance and educating Americans about who we are.’" Gay Author Wins ’Genius Award’ SAN FRANCISCO - Allan Berube, the author of the book Comin~ Out Under ." SAN FRANCISCO-California’s Pacific : Gas & Electric, the utility’ s Lesbian, Gay &Bisexual Employees Assn., and the San "- Francisco-based Horizons Foundation : have joined in an effort to offer greater _" support for younger gays and lesbians in ¯ theregion throughapublicity andfunding ." effort. PG&E is setting up a matching ." grant fund up to $20,000 to help under- -¯ write education and social programs operated for gay youth through Horizons. The giant utility will also help publicize _" Horizons’ youth programs throughpublic ¯ service annonncements andbus-stop shel- ¯ ter advertising. Denise Wells, president ¯ ofHorizous’boardofdirectorssaidPG&E ¯ was demonstrating "a valuable leadership ¯ that canmotivateus all to contribute to the -" community."PG&Eofficials saidtheutilityhadmadethemovebecause it is "espe- ¯ cially committed to a safe and healthy environment for youth." Mayor Extends Partner Benefits PHILADELPHIA - Philadelphia Mayor Ed Rendell has announced that the city will now offer health-care and familyleave benefits to the same-sex partners of non-civil service workers. The package will extend the same benefits to domestic partners that the married spouses of city employees currently receive. But only about 500 municipal workers would be covered by the mayor’s executive order. Activists in the city have been working for more than 5 years trying to get a city council ordinance that would extend a similarbenefits package to Philadelphia’s full 25,000 municipal employees. CardinalAnthony Bevilicqua, theArchbishop of Philadelphia, urged Catholics in thecity’s 121 RomanCatholicchurches to swamp Mayor Ed Rendell with Fathers’ Day cards protesting his recent executive order extending benefits to the same-sex domesticpartners ofjust a small portion of the city’s Workforce under the PI AlrERSON REALTORS" LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: 671-2010 2642 E. 21st Street * Suite 170 *Tulsa, Oklahoma 74114 Off: 918-749-8374 * Res: 918-582-7672 * Fax: 918-747-1795 Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Where God Uplifts All People Sunday Service, 10:45 am Wednesday Service, 6:30 pm Home Cell Groups, 2nd & 4th Sun. 1623 No. Maplewood, 838-1715 Mayor’ s administration. Bevilicquacalled the order "a tragic mistake" and "a direct attack on the natural arrangement of family life."A spokesperson for Rendell told reporters at apress conference that Rendell has "no intention of rescinding the order" despite Bevilicqua’s opposition. Harvey Milk School SAN FRANCISCO - The San Francisco school board trustees have voted, after several years of controversy and one earlier failed attempt, torenamethe Douglass Elementary School in honor of assassinated gay supervisor Harvey Milk. The school will now officially beknown as the Harvey Milk Civil Rights Academy and will emphasize classwork in civil rights areas. Milk was shot along with Mayor George Moscone in 1978 by Dan White, who hadjust resigned from his seat on the board of supervisors and who was an outspoken opponent of gay rights. Several parents at the school¯ board meeting raised objections both tonaming the school after Milk and to the vote itself, which they said came without adequate time for public discussion. Official Threatened ’Support of Gays’ SAN FRANCISCO - Amos Brown, a Baptist minister recently appointed to fill a seat on the city’s board of supervisors over the misgivings of many gay rights activists, has been given special.,police protection after a man outside his church handed him a letter condemning him for supporting "sodomites of the city" and promising "swift and terrible" retribution against Brown. Similar threatening notes were found on cars in a nearby church parking lot. Brown’s appointment to the vacant seat on the board had been criti- : in a scene implying a homosexual relationshipbetween the twomeninsults Willy ¯ Wyler and, I have to say, irritates the hell ¯ out of me." Vidal has said ininterviews that Heston ¯ wasn’t Wyler’s first choice for the lead ¯ role, but that "Paul Newman and Rock ." Hudson were not available." Vidal says a ¯ scene in which Ben-Hur and the villain- ." ous Roman Marsallaembrace was written ¯ in to the film to establish a sexual relation- ¯ ship between the men because such a failed relationship was the only way to ¯ justify theintense hatred between the two ¯" men that develops later. "Then, when re¯ united at the picture’s start, the Roman wants to pick up where they left off mad ¯ the Jew [Ben-Hur] spurns him," Vidal ¯ wrote in the Times. ¯ Sheriff Sued Over : ’Anti-Gay Assault’ REDWOOD CITY, Calif. - A 63-yearoldmarriedgrandfather andretired teacher ." has filed alawsuit against the San Mateo : (Calif.) County sheriff’s department, charging that an officer brutalized him after he had stopped at a vista point along an interstate highway to see if there was an easier route to his destination at Half ¯" Moon Bay. The suit claims the officer : believed the suspect was gay and seeking ¯ sex at the spot. E. Lon Chancy Jr. charges ¯ in the suit that Deputy Timothy Reid : tripped and assaulted him as he was re- : turning to his car after asking another ¯ parked driver for directions. The suit charges that Chaney was so severely bat- : tered that he suffered a stroke during the ¯ incident and that an ambulance had to be ¯ called to take him to ahospital. Chaney’s : suit - which names Reid, the sheriff’s ¯ department and San Mateo County as ¯ defendants - claims the deputy shouted ¯ into his police radio, "I’ve got one" after but apparently decided they didn’t really want to actually endorse banning discrimination in marriage rights. S.F. Moves to End Colorado Boycott ¯ SAN FRANCISCO - Openly gay Super- : visor Tom Ammiano has introduced a : measure that would repeal a 1992 ordi- ¯ nance that effectively barred San Francisco from doing business with firms in Colorado after voters there narrowly approved an anti-gay ballot measure, Amendment 2. Ammiano said the U.S. Supreme Court’s recent ruling declaring Amendment2 unconstitutional eliminates the reason for the original boycott, which barred San Francisco from purchasing goods or services made or offered in the state of Colorado and prohibited use of government funds for the state on official business, including conventions and conferences. sex with other men and exposed him to HIV as a result. Attorneys for Cliburn, 61, said he has not been tested for HIV and that Zaremba’s suit was little more than a form of extortion. i No Nudity in Parade ¯ BOSTON - Proper - and not so proper - : Bostonians clashed following this year’s : annual Gay Pride Parade, where reports ¯ say a nude man walked on stilts and 2 ¯ bare-breasted women fondled each other. : Mayor Thomas Menino was joined by : parade organizers in condemning what ¯ they termed "inappropriate and unlaw- : ful" behavior during the parade. Organiz- -" ers of the parade said the nude man and : topless women were not registered to par- : ticipate in the parade itself and joined the ¯ event, attended by an estimated 100,000 : people, along the route. Officials offered ¯ to help police locate the people for pos- ¯ sible prosecution. The city council has : vowed to hold hearings on why police ¯ didn’t arrest the people during the parade. Texas Court Lets GOP Exclude Gays " AUSTIN, Texas - The Texas state Su- -" preme Court blocked a temporary order ¯ handed down by a lower court just days ~ before and ruled unanimously that the ~ state Republican Party does not have to grant the gay Log Cabin Republicans a booth and ad space during its annual state convention. A lower state court had ordered the state GOP to give the Log Cabin group the booth, for which ithad cashed a $400 check from the gay Republicmas, British PM Critical of Grants to Gays LONDON - Prime Minister John Major told Parliament that grants from proceeds of the country’s popular National Lottery ~ to London and Leicester gay and lesbian ¯ organizations - one a community center, ¯ the other a gay andlesbian police officers’ group - were "ill-founded and ill-judged." ¯ The two grants, totaling slightly more than $140,000, do not "reflect the way ¯" Parliament’and the public expected lotmad to sell the organization space in the " tery money to be spent," Major said durconvention brochure, for which it had ¯ ing a speech in the House of Commons. o received another check for $750. ¯ : The state party made an emergency : Dontt These - .appeal tothe TeXa~ higll courtfollOwing - ~ ~ .... ..... ......... ] the lower court ruling on Friday, June l4, ¯ Have Work To cized by several rights activists who view his opposition to domestic partners and other gay rights issues in the past as homophobic. Because of the suspected arson attacks against several black churches recently, police said they would "take precautions" not only to assure the safety of the newly appointed supervisor but also for the minister’s predominately black church. Heston vs. Vidal: Clash Over Ben-Hur HOLLYWOOD-Actor Charlton Heston and playwright Gore Vidal have been trading barbs in the pages of the Los Angeles Times recendy over work Vidal did on the film"Ben-Hur"nearly 40 years ago that he says implied a homosexual relationship between 2 lea.ding characters in the film, including Heston’s lead character. Heston called Vidal "a tart, embittered man" whose "claim that he slipped ¯ the arrest, and that when paramedics ar- ¯ rived he told them to use rubber gloves ¯ because "This one’s probably got HIV." Chaney’s attorney says the incident re- " fleets a pattern of arrest and abuse by ; police in the area of anyone they believe ¯ may be gay and that his client just had the ¯ badfortune to be in the wrong place at the : wrong time. ¯ Minnesota Dems: ¯ No Discrimination - i Except in Marriage : MINNEAPOLIS-MinnesotaDemocrats ~ adopted a full 100 resolutions at their ¯ annual state convention, rejecting just 1 ¯ proposed platform statement - a resolu- : fion supporting same-sex marriage rights. : The Democratic Farm Labor Party (as the ¯ Democrats areknowninMinnesota),over- : Whelmingly adopted a resolution con- : demning "all forms of discrimination," -" and the justices took only a few hours to ¯ issue the order blocking the lower court decision. StateGOPofficials said the con- : ventionis apfivateeventandnota"public : forum," and that the party wanted to ex- ¯ dude the LOg Cabin booth and adverfis- ¯ ing because the party platform officially ¯ opposes gay fights. Palimony Lawsuit Dismissed ~f. WORTH,Texas-ATexas state court ¯ judge has thrown out a palimony lawsuit filed by Thomas Zaremba of Michigan : against internationally famed classical pimfist Van Clibum, saying there was no : written agreement about financial sup- - port between the two menduring their 17- ¯ yearrelationship,andthat the statedoesn’t ." recognize such same-sex relationships. ¯ Zaremba, 48, had filed the suit claiming, : among other things, that during his relai tionship with Cliburn, the pianist had had ¯ ANCHORAGE, Alaska - Alaska state ¯ officials say they have no plans to file ¯ criminal charges against Bethel Police ¯..Sgt. Scott Gagne, who had been under ¯ investigation for possible sexual harass- . ment, including masturbating with 2 other police officers at the station, ¯ Investigators say that Gagne and other ¯ officers had talked bluntly about their ¯ sexual relationships with women, and that ¯ they had masturbated together at the sta- ¯ tion. 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Yale Tulsa, OK 74135 World HIV Projections BALTIMORE-Writing in Internal Medicine News, William Blattuer of the Uni- .versity of Maryland’ s Institute of Human Virology has projected that some 20 million people around the world are now infected with HIV and that some 100 million people will be infected by the year 2000. Blattner also says the spread of HIV has changed rapidly in recent years and that by the turn of the century more than 90% of all those infected will be residents of developing cotmtries, with a higher incidence in Asia, followed by African nations. In related news, Zimbabwe’s National AIDS Coordination Program reports that the epidemic continues to spiral there, with at least 40,000 new AIDS cases reported in the country last year, while the actual number of new cases may be as high as 150,000. The agency says that more than a million of Zimbabwe’s 10.5 million people are infected with HIV, and that an estimated 300 die 0fAIDS-related illnesses weekly. AIDS Shapes World Demographics NEW YORK - The annual UN Human Development Report, slated tobe released later in July, says the impact of the AIDS epidemic has become so vast that it has affected thelivability levels ofsomecountries for the first time since the international agency began issuing its "~mnual assessment of global development. The report’s index of livability indicates that some developing nations have fallen as much as a decade behind in their expected progress because of the epidemic. In a related develrpment,, the independent PopulationReference Bureauhas reported that although the global population con~ tinues to grow d~amati€~lly, the AIDS epidemic is causing measurable shifts in world population patterns. The bureau reports thatalthough sub-Saharan Africa’ s total population by 2025 will be 1.25 billion people, that number will be 100 million lower than projections madejust a decade ago - almost entirely because of the epidemic. Countries such as Botswana, Kenya, Malawi, Uganda,ZambiaandZimbabwe will be the hardest-hit, the bureau says. HIV in Kenya NAIROBI, Kenya- A fourth of all the Kenyan women visiting pediatric and infant- care clinics in the capital city of Nairobi are H-IV-p0sitive according to a survey completed by the U.S. Agency for International Development. Just one year ago, a similar study found that 3.5% of all Kenyans were infected with the virus Gray Newton of the USAID office in Nairobi told the Xinhua News Agency. By the beginning of this year, Newton says, that figure had more than doubled to 7.5% Of the nation’ s population. Eliminating HIV in Some Is Possible AMSTERDAMnAtaconference ofAIDS researchers held by the University of Amsterdam and the dinical journal Antiviral Therapy, scientists reviewed unpublished data suggesting that"eradicating" HIV in some infected patients may be possible. The datais being collected from ongoing trials underway in Australia : Europe, Canada and the U.S. involving ¯ the use of a variety of HIV drug combina- ¯ tions. According to the information col- " lected so far, some patients involved in ¯ the clinical trials have had the level of ¯¯ HIV in their blood stream lowered to undetectable levels for up to 2 years. The ¯ scientists involved in the trials cautioned, ¯ however, that none of the patients have ¯ been taking the combinations of medi- ¯ cines long enough yet to determine long- " term effectiveness. ¯ ¯ Blood Transfusion Risk is 2 in a Million : BOSTON - According to a report in the ¯ New England Journal of Medicine, the ¯ chances of receiving HIV-tainted blood from the nation’s blood bank system is : just 2 in every million transfusions. Re- . searchers at the Rockville, Md.-based : Westat Inc. calculated the odds of receiv- ¯ ing a contaminated transfusion after ex- ¯ amining the records of more than a half- . millionrepeat donors. The estimates were ¯ based on calculating how many recently ¯ infected donors might give blood during ° the 22-day period when the virus cannot ¯ be detected. Some 586,507 regular donor ¯ records were examined. ~ Herbal HIV-Fighting Substance SINGAPORE- Singapore scientists re- ." porting in two research journals say a ¯ chemical compound derived from some ¯ 75 traditional herbs may usefulin fighting HIV. Dr. Sim Keng Yeow of the National : Uni-versity of Singapore said that the researchers had found that the chemical : they isolated from the herbs could inhibit ¯ HIV- 1 protease, an enzyme essential for ¯ HIV to develop. Yeow cautioned, however, that the discovery was not a bure for AIDS and only a preliminary finding. In a related development, researchers at the : China Academy of Preventive Medicine ¯ in Beijing announced that an experimental herbal medicine, known as Saidefu, .., may have helped eliminate HIV in 1 pa- ¯ tient and helped others become well " enough that they could stop hospital care ¯ and go home. The researchers said, how- . ever, that Saidefu had only been tested on ¯ 5 patients so far and that the tests hadbeen ¯ limited to only a 3-month period. They ¯ said that much more testing would be ¯ required because herbal remedies that of- " ten appear effective initially may have ." only a temporary or transient effect. ¯ International AIDS ¯ Conference VANCOUVER, Canada- Organizers of the 1 lth International AIDS Conference : say the event’ s scope and size underscore ¯ the growing global commitment to fight- . ing the epidemic. Between 9,000 and : 10,000 delegates are expected, along with : another 1,500 registered commercial ex- ¯ hibitors. Some 1,500 mediapersonnel are : expected to cover the conference as well. ¯" Peter Hamara, spokesperson for the ¯ event, said the Vancouver conference has ¯ received a record 5,,6_26 research studies to be presented, the.~asis and core of the ¯ clinical program of the conference. The ¯ studies, Hamaranoted, werereceivedfrom ¯ 125 separate countries around the world. ¯ The World Health Organization esti- ¯ mates that globally there are at least 17 ¯ million adults infected with HIV, and that : more than 11 million- or65% - are in sub- Jeffrey A. Beal, MD Ted Campbell,LCSW Specialized in HIV Care Providing Comprehensive Primary Care Medicine and Psychotherapeutic Services We have many insurance provider affiliations - ifyou belong to an insurance program that does not list us as providers, call us and we will apply. 2325 South Harvard, Suite 600, Tulsa 74114 Monday - Friday, 9:30-4:30 pm, 743-1000 HIV Positive? 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The next worst-hit region is South and Southeast Asia, where at least 3 million people - or 18% of the global total - are infected with the virus. "Many ofour participants this year will be from HIV support organizations, from communitygroups,fromnon-governmental organizations," Hamara said at a news conference before the event officiallybegan. "So while the conference at its core is still a medical-scientific conference, the participants and the diversity of research studies have broadened as the epidemic itself has broadened." Organizers say that there is some encouraging newsboth onthe educationand the medical fronts that is leading many of those fighting AIDS to begin expressing a subdued - but real - optimism. The conference, carrying a theme of "One World, One Hope," will be the first since the new class of highly promising drugs knownas protease inhibitors gained approval in the U.S. Some AIDS experts now believe these new drugs, while far from a "cure" for the disease, may actually for thefirst time in 15 years make it a manageable one. But others remain cautious, pointing out that thenew treatments are not effective for everyone, they have undesirable side effects, and no one yet knows if they will be effective medicines in the long term or if they will lose their ability to fight offHIV as other drugs have in the past. Equally disturbing, there have been unconfirmed reports that the new protease inhibitors may be extremely dangerous in combination with antihistamines, even the type sold over the counter. AIDS activists in the U.S. say there have been 2 deaths resulting from heart attacks because of patients using the protease inhibitors in ¯ plans for their 3rd annual "Until-There’ s ¯ A Cure" day. AIDS activist and artist " Mary Fisher and U.S. figure skating cham- ¯ pion Rudy Galindo will appear at this ¯¯ season’ s benefit game on July 28 against the Atlanta Braves. The Giants. will do- " hate $1 from each ticket sold to the Until ¯ There’s A Cure Foundation, which will ¯ distribute the money to AIDS-related ¯ ¯ projects and organizations. Other funds will be raised through merchandise sold ¯ during the game. The Giants have raised more than $250,000 for AIDS education : and treatment since starting the event in : 1993. Navy Announces : New AIDS Therapy : BETHESDA, Md.- Researchers with the ¯ U.S. Navy say they may have discovered ¯ a new therapy to help prevent or limit the ¯ spread ofHIV ininfected patients. Scientists at the Naval Medical Research Insti- ¯ tute say the treatment involves dramati- ¯ cally increasing the number of uninfected ¯ CD4T-cells-or whiteblood cells thatare ¯" the target ofthe virus- in patients infected ¯" with the disease. The Navy researchers cultured the T-cells of 10 intermediate- ¯ stage AIDS patients, whose immune sys- ¯ terns were still fairly intact. Even more ¯" significant, when the researchers stimu- . lated uuinfectedT-cells and exposed them ¯ in test tubes to HIV, the cells were highly ¯" resistant to the virus. The scientists say ¯ that if the technique works in humans, it ¯ might prevent the deterioration of the ¯ body’s immune system and counteract ¯ some symptoms of HIV infection. The Navy will begin a small-scale clinical trial ¯ to test the safety of the new treatment this conjunction with~antihistamines.;ff~.e°n~--: :~ dents whose blood cells: vier¢::us firmed, the reports could prove a serious . making the cultures. stumbling block to thenew drugs because antihistamines are so widely used in the : U.S. There is also optimism about education " efforts, especially in developing nations : like Thailand and Uganda, where programs to fight the spread ofHIV appear to have been especially effective. An aggressive government-backed AIDS education program in Thailand, for example, has led to HIV infection rates dropping in nearly all the groups that the government monitors - military recruits, commercial sex workers, and IV drug users. Rare Form of HIV! Virus Now in U,S, LOS ANGELES -Officials with the Centers for Disease Control & Prevention say anunnamedLos Angeles womanhas been confirmed as the first person in this country to be diagnosed with Group O HIV, a strain of the virus that is largely restricted to West Africa. According to-the CDC report, thewomanapparently was infected inherWestAfricanhomelandbefo.re coming to the U.S.U.S. health officials said standard HIV tests should be modified to detect the Group O strain to prevent accidental contamination ofthenation’ s blood supply. Current HIV tests usually do not detect the Group O strain of the virus. SF Giants AIDS Day Fundraiser SAN FRANCISCO - The San Francisco Giants, the first professional sports team to host a fundraising benefit for AIDS ou $100K NEA Grant for Quilt Project SAN FRANCISCO - The National Endowment for the Arts has given the NAMES Project a $100,000 grant to help photograph and create digital images of the nearly 34,000 panels that currently make up the huge AIDS Quilt The photo project includes plans to create CD-ROM versions of theimage~ thatwouldbe viewable via a home computer and via computer services storing the digital images. Actress Jane Alexander, chair ofthe NEA, said works of art like theAIDS Memorial Quilt "embody compassion and the creative spirit" that have been spurred on in the face of the "crisis that has devastated the lives of so many Americans." Suit Filed Over HIV ’Rumors’ SAN ANGELO, Texas - Attomeys for Gilbert De La Paz have filed a federal lawsuit against Henry Hogeda, the owner of Henry’s Diner, charging their client was fired as a waiter solely because of rumors De La Paz has AIDS. The lawsuit claims that Hogeda before firing the 27- year-old De La Paz, Hogeda said that he had heard the man had AIDS and that the rumors would "destroy" the restaurant’s business. The suit also says De La Paz, who says he is notinfected, offered to take anHIV test to provehe was uninfectedbut he was fired anyway. News sources have reported that Hogeda’ s lawyers claim De ; to customFrank. Frank stopped short of asking that Cobum’s remarks be stricken from the Congressional record. Rep. Frank demanded, that supporters of DOMA tall him how his longstanding rdationship with his partner Herb Moses threatened their marriages. "How does the fact that I love another man and live in acommitted relationship withhim threaten your marriage?" he asked. "Are your relations with your spouses of such fragility that the fact that I have a committed, loving relationship with anothermanjeopardizes them? My God, what do you do when the lights go out?" Tulsa 1st District Rep. Steve .Largent replied, "Mr. Frank’s relationship with another man does not threaten my marriage whatsoever." "Whosemarriage does it threaten?" Frank demanded. "It threatens the institution of marriage," Largent said. "That argument ought to be made by someone in and institution because it has no logical basis whatsoever," Frank said. In the Senate, an identical bill has been introduced in the Senate by Oklahoma Sen. Don Nickies. However, Sen. Edward Kennedy, D-Mass. is trying to attach the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA) barringbias inemploymentbased on sexual orientation to DOMA as a strategy to force anti-gay lawmakers to vote against the anti-marriagemeasurebecause of the pro-gay provision. Sen. Nickles said he opposes ENDA, saying he didn’t want to force an employer like the-Boy Scouts ofAmerica to hire homosexuals or to require a landlord to rent apartments to Gays. It remains uncertain if the Kennedy amendment will even get enough support to attach it to DOMA. "There are some values that deserve protection," said Sen. On-in Hatch, RUtah, chairman of the Senate Judiciary Committee, ofDOMA. "It isn’t a political issu.e....It’,,s a very important family values Issue. Critics of DOMA called it thinly disguised bigotry during a public hearing before the Senate Judiciary Committee. "I regret that the committee is spending time on this offensive, unnecessary and divi- " sive legislation," Sen. Kennedy said. ’‘The bill before us is called the Defense of Marriage Act, but a more accurate title would be the Defense of Intolerance Act - or evenmore accurately, the Defense of Endangered Republican Candidates Act." Gary Bauer, president of the conservative Family Research Council, denied being bigoted. ’~It is not hatred to support normalcy," he said. At the White House, Mike McCurry, Clinton’s press spokesperson, agreed with Kennedy’s assessment of the measure~ McCurry stated, "I think~ in fact, it [DOMA] is. gay baiti,ng pure and simple. They’re rinsing an issue that, in fact, doesn’t arise anywhere. The Hawaii stat= ute-- the Hawaii issue is alegal issue that .. had been remanded back to a lower court, ° so this is not a pending matter. And it’s a ¯ classic use of wedge politics that are de- : signed to provoke anxieties and fears.." That being thecase, though, the President , has very strong views, personal views, ¯ [against same-gender marriage] and he ." has to act consistent with those views." ," McCurry then repeated the President’s stated promise to sign the bill when Congress passes. -" Several national organizations released [ statements onthe Housevote. "The House .......t0..day turned its back on a fundamental human right for political expediency," said Laura W. Murphy, Director of the ACLU’s National Washington Office. ’qNis goes beyond legislators saying they are not ready to accept same-sex marriages," she said. "This is an unnecessary and mean-spirited attempt by some m Congress to select out lesbians and gay men for discriminatory treatment." She added that the vote on the same-sex marriage legislation will be included in the ACLU’s biennial civil liberties ratings for members of Congress. National Gay & Lesbian Task Force Executive Director, Melinda Paras released this statement. "DOMA is bogus legislation. It nether strengthens Americanfamilies nor marriages between men and women. Instead, it draws a circle around gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgendered individuals and proclaims that our families do not deserve recognition...Unfortunatdy the majority of the House of Representatives was not willing to stand up for the principles for which this country stands: tolerance, compassion and fairness. Instead, they fell into the trap set by the political extremists and their supporters in Congress...We will not stand by silently and be used.as scape-. goats in this dection year." Tulsa Oklahomans for Haman Rights (TOHR), northeastern Oklahoma’s oldest secular Gay & Lesbian community organization, issued a statement calling for the resignation ofUS Representatives, Tom Coburn of Muskogee and Steve Largent of Tulsa"for disgracing the state of Oklahoma by their vicious attacks on their own citizens while promoting HB 3396, the so-called ’Defense of Marriage Act’ "’. "Cobumand Largentact as though there were no Lesbian and Gay citizens in Muskogee, Tahlequah, Claremore, BrokenArrow, Okmulgee, Tulsa, or any place in their districts. With this vote, they’ve proven that they don’t represent - don’t even care about representing -any of their constituents except the ones who share their extremist ideology. They appear to believe that their Constitutional obligations only extend to those who think just like them," noted a TOHR representative. Roll call vote on DOMA: 342-67 Voting yes were 224 Republicans and 118 Democrats. Voting no were 1 Republican, 65 Democrats and 1 independent. Voting "’present" 2 Democrats. An~X denotes members who did not vote. There is 1 vacancy in the 435-member House. OKLAHOMA Rep. - Cobum, Y; Istook, Y; Largent, Y; Lucas, Y; Watts, Y. Dem. - Brewster, X. ARKANSAS Rep. - Dickey/X; Hutchinson, Y. Dem.- Lambert-Lincoln,X; Thornton, X. CUUC member, Jonathan Stanley, and CUUC president, Betty Anne Davidson noted that this UU congregation incorporates values from all the major religious traditions as wall as humanist and earthbased traditions (Native American and pagan). While Christian values are part of that mix, they are not a "Christian" oriented group. Currently the group is seeking apart,time pastor and the services are lead by lay people. Info: 749-0595 ]QUILT, A Musical A new musical c~ The NAMES PROJECT sprinkled with witty individual stories of life partne~ who have lost loved August 15-18 (S John H. Williams Theatre Tickets: $10 Benefits The Ca]]: 596-7111 Presented by Friends oJ junction with SummerStage Fest in part bya grantfrom the Tulsa Performing Arts Center Trust. 4TH ANNUAL SHANTI-TULSA, INC. WATER GARDEN TOUR Saturday, July 20, 10 am- 5 pm Sunday, July 21, noon- 5 pm New Selection of Gardens with a Variety of Settings Tickets $7 Call 749-7898 Proceeds will benefit Shanti-Tulsa, Inc., a United Way Agency for persons affected by HIV/AIDS TULSA FAMILY NEWS COMMUNITY CALEND R SUNDAYS Agape’ Christian Fellowship Service, 10:30 am & 7 pm Sheridan Center, Suite H 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School, 9:45 am Worship Service, 11" am 2627b East llth 583-7815 Community of Hope (United Methodis0 Worship Service, 6 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Family of F~iith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 : Worship Service, 11 am ¯ 5451-E South Mingo. Info: 622-1441 Metro. Comm. Church of Greater Tulsa Worship Service, 10:45am 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 MONDAYS ¯ HIV Testing ¯ TOHR Clinic ¯ Free & anonymous testing ¯¯ using fingerstick method. No appointment required. ¯ Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm ¯ Results hours: 7-9 pm ¯ Info: 742-2927 Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa 6:30 pm at Canterbury 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 : Mixed Volleyball for ¯ Fun & Competition ¯ Helmerich Park, 6:30 pm ¯ 71st & Riverside ¯ Info: 587-6557 ¯ PFLAG Family AIDS : Support Group ¯ 2nd Mon. of month 6:30 pro, 4154 S. Harvard Info: 749-4901 OTHER GROUPS TOHR Helpline ¯ Daily 8-10 pm ¯ For info. or to volunteer: ¯ 743-GAYS ¯ The Technicians, Leather ¯ org., Info c/o 621-5597 . T.U.L,S~4. Tulsa Uniform ¯ & Leather-Seekers Assoc. ¯ Info: 838-1222 TUESDAYS : HIV+ Support Group ¯¯ HIV Resource Consortium 1:30 pm ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 Info: Wanda @ 749-4194 ¯ Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. ¯ HIV/AIDS Support Group ¯ & Friends & Family ¯¯ HIV/AIDS Support Group 7 pm, call for location: ¯ 749-7898 Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pm, 241-2282 $4, Sand Springs Skate Grief Group Butler/Stumpff Funeral Home 2103 E. 3rd St. Call for time: 587-7000 WEDNESDAYS Agape’ Christian Fellowship Service, 7 pm Sheridan Center, Suite H ¯ 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 ¯ Bless The Lord At All ¯ Times Christian Center THURSDAYS ¯ 16-Step Empowerment ¯ ¯ Group For Women : Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 Co-Dependency . Support Group ¯ : 7:30, Family of Faith MCC " : Prayer & Bible Study ." 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 7:30 pm 2627-B East 1 lth ¯ Call 583-7815 for info. Family Of Faith MCC Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Practice 7:30 pm 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. : Community of Hope ¯ (United Methodist) : Service for Peace, 6:30 pm ¯ Bible Study, 7 pm ¯ 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 ¯ TNAAPP ¯ Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project ¯ Support group ¯ for Gay &Bi Native ¯ American Men, 6 pm at Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E. 2nd ¯ 582-7225 or 584-4983 ¯ HIVTestingTOHRClinic ¯ Walkin testing: 7 - 8:30 pm ¯ Results hours: 7 - 9 pm ¯ Info: 742-2927 Tulsa Family Chorale ¯ Weekly practice, 9:30 pm ¯ LoWs 2630 E. 15th ¯ PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group ¯ 1 st & 3rd Thursdays 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 ¯ Alternatives Weekly social events for ¯ LGBT men & women, 7 pm ¯ Info: 646-5503 ¯ Substance Abuse ¯ Support Group : for persons with HIV/A1DS ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G ¯ 3-4:30 pm, Info: 749-4194 SATURDAYS st. Jerome’s Church Mass, 6 pm Garden Chapel 3841 S. Peoria Info: bather Rick at 742-7122 Narcotics Anonymous ¯ Meets weekly at 11 pm : Confidential support for ¯ recovering addicts. ¯ Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E.2nd, Info: 585-1800 NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt Sewing Bees 3rd Sat. of each month Info: 748-3111 OTHER GROUPS Gay & Lesbian Student ¯ Association ¯ TJC Southeast Campus, Info: 631-7632 SWAN-Single Women’s Activity Network Call 832-2121 JULY 19 - 21 AIDS’Mastery Workshop in oKc Info: Betsy Jo Murphy, 584-2325 In Sept., an AIDS Mastery in Tulsa. SATURDAY, JULY 20, 10-5 SUNDAY, JULY 21, NOON-5 4th Annual Shanti-.Tulsa Water Garden Tour The garden at Our House, Quaker near 13th St., is on the tour. You can begin there and get the addresses for other sites. Info: 749-7898 SUNDAY, JULY 21 What the Bible Does (and Doesn’t) Say About Homosexuality FamilyofFaith MCC 9 week class at 9:15 am, 5451-E S. Mingo Call to verify date: 622-1441 Christmas in July Family! ofFaith MCC 1-3:30 pro, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 SUNDAY, JULY 21 Community ofHope Service & Dialogue on Capital Punishment 6 pm, Community of Hope 1703 E. 2rid, Info: 585-1800 JULY-26-27 LocalMotion Foundation, 6th Annual Contemporary Dance Festival ~ John H;Williams Theater Tulsa Performing Arts Center $10, Info: 596-7111 TUESDAY, JULY 30 Rainbow Business Guild Dinnner Meeting 7 pm, Pizzeria Uno Eaton Square, 61st & Memorial Dinner!~10,Info: 665-5174 " " ,.. FRIDAY, AUGUST 2 ¯ Safe Haven Young Adults Meeting Contact Family of Faith MCC : 5451-ES. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 SUNDAY, AUGUST 4 Family ofFaith MCCPotluck Dinner Service, 11 am 5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 AUGUST 5, 6 & 8 Regional AIDS Interfaith Network Volunteer Training 5:30-9pm, Trinity Episcopal Church 501 So. Cincinnati, Info: 749-4195 SATURDAY, AUGUST 10 TOHR Pool Party Call for details. Info: 743-4297 MONDAY, AUGUST 12 PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group, 6:30 pm Social andRefreshments, 7 pm General Meeii~g; 7:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard~ Info: 749-4901 THROUGH AUGUST 18 Durer toMarius’:Muster Drawings fronvthe Nelsod:Atkins Museum ofArt Philbrook Museum of Art 2727 So. Rockford Road, Info: 749-7941 ¯ AUGUST 15-17, 8 pm : AUGUST 18, 2 pm : QUILT, A Musical Celebration to benefit THE NAMES PROJECT ¯ John H. Williams:Theater ¯ Tulsa Performing Arts Center ¯ $10, Info: 596-7111 : SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 14 : Feast with Friends Benefit ¯ Start planning noW! Info: 748-3111 THE NAMES PROJECT AIDS Memorial Quilt : Since its last showing in Washington, : DC, THE NAMES PROJECT AIDS Me- : morial Quilt will have doubled in size, ¯ and the need for volunteers has grown ¯ accordingly. Petrie Dolph of Houston, is ." seeking 1500 volunteers from the Central ¯ Region (which includes Oklahoma) to ¯ help as Quilt monitors, site guides, merchandise/ sales, set-up, first aid, education ¯ and more. ." The Quilt willbe on display on Oct. 11- .. 13 on the National Mall before the Capi- ¯ tol. It’s estimated that more than 750,000 : visitors,including50,000schoolchildren, ¯ will march on over 26 miles of walkway : fabric to see 45,000 memorial panels and : to hear70,000names read-more than are ¯ carved into the nearby Vietnam Memo- . rial. ¯" Contact Pen’ieDolph, Central Region : Volunteer Chairperson at 713-729-9662, : or write to4309 Sfillbrooke Dr., Houston, ¯ "IX 77035. ¯ Regional AIDS ." Interfaith Network : Regional AIDS Interfaith Network : (RAIN) is seeking applicants for its vol- ¯ unteer co-ordinator position. This job in- ’ eludes staff support to 250+ volunteers. ¯ The ideal candidate will have demon- . strated ability and experience in working ¯ with volunteer care andprogram develop- : ment in the context fo a compassionate, ~ non-judgemental, faith-based response to ¯ HIV/AIDS. Hours include some daytime ¯ for staff meetings and coordination, but : primarily evening.and weekends. For in- . formation or to submit aletter of interest and resume, contact Kathy Bird, RAIN, 4154 So. Harvard, Suite H- 1, Tulsa 74135, voice: 749-4195, fax: 749-4213. Interfaith AIDS Ministries Interfaith AIDS Miuistries is forming a "Spirituality&HIV/AIDS" supportgroup. This will be a place whereparticipants can explore and share their personal spirituality as well as the relationship between their spirituality and living with HIV/ AIDS. The focus will be on individual spirituality, not any parti.cular organized religion. No attempts to influence, convert, or proselytize participants will be allowed. IAM is also seeking volunteers to help with the 2nd Street Carnival Benefit to be held on Sept. 21st at Southminster Presbyterian Church. For information, cal! Richard Reeder at 663-5372 or Diane Zike at 438-2437. Living Well! - An Exploration of Healthy Living Options The HIV Resource Consortium has started a new group called "Living Well! - An Exploration of Healthy Living Options". This educational group to promote wellness and healthy living is for persons affected by HIV/AIDS,including anyone living with HIV or AIDS, partners/ caregivers/friends/family of those living with HIV/AIDS and HIV/AIDS providers, The group meets on Wednesdays from 6:30 - 8:30 pm at The Gathering Place, 4154 So. Harvard, Suite G. Topics will rangefrom "Eating for Health", "Anxiety Reduction" to "Strategies for Staying Calm & Healthy". There is no cost. For more information, call 749-4194. COCONUT BEER BATTERED SHRIMP RACK OF LAMB FRESH CLAMS PRIME RIB COQUILE ST. JACQUES VEGIE STIR FRY CHOCOLATE SOUFFLE 5 Summit Eureka Springs AR 72632 Bed & Breakfast Area l~eservation &Information Service "Like going to Grandma’s" ¯ Gay-owned in the Historic District. We offer traditional B&B a Romantic Jacuzzi Suite & a private cottage on the grounds. ¯ Booking for Eureka’s Finest Gay, friendly establishments ¯ Walk or ride trolley to town. Reservations - Brochures -Information 800-- 253 - 1468, x882 Local: 501 - 253 - 7468 Your Host: Fred A. Janney Geek to Go! The PC Specialist, 501.253.2776 Phyl Boler-Schmidt Systems & S~oftware Specialist POB 429, Eureka Springs 72632 Books, Incense, Candles and Rainbows] Plus lots more! (501) 253,5445 45&1/2 Spring Street Eureka Springs, Arkansas 72632 emrain@rog.ar.ispnet.com AUTHENTIC ITALIAN RAINBOW CUSINE TROUT ofEureka Springs Recommended by The New York Times (501) 253-6807, Closed Wednesday 5 Center Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 Gay-owned, Operated & Rainbow Proud by Phyl Boler-Schmidt Eureka Springs has been a happening place this Summer, and there appears to be no abatement in sight! The end ofMay saw the annual Blues Festival, and though this is not specifically a we turned out in droves. Music continues, as it the Ozarks, through July 20th with Opera in the Ozarks at the Inspiration Point Fine Arts Colony. Commonly referred to as Opera Boot Camp, the annual opera season is a gruelling one for the performers. All practices and performances are staged outdoors, and it’s a sight (and sound) to behold for - folks of all orientations. This year’s season features La Bohome by Puccini, Don Giovanni by Mozart, and Die Fledermaus by Straus. All are fullystaged orchestra productions and. wall worth a trip to Eureka Springs - for an evening of opera, and a few days to enjoy the rest of what Eureka has to offer. For reservations and information about Opera in the Ozarks, call the Inspiration Point Fine Arts Colony at 501-253-8595. If Jazz is more to your liking, you will be happy to hear the 12th Annual Eureka Springs Jazz Festival is approaching with due speed. This year’s Jazz Festival will be held from September 19-22, and there will be music all over town. Featured performers will be Stanley Turrentineand Abroad Aladeen & the Deans of Swing with.concerts heldon Friday and Saturday evemngs at the Historic Eureka Springs City Auditorium. This year’s JazzFest will also feature nightly parties sponsored by the Eureka Springs Jazz Society in the Basin Park Ballroom. JezzFest performers will also entertain at the Jazz parties. The Jazz Festival hotline is 501-253- 6258. Call early to reserve tickets for the concerts as they are one of the hottest tickets of the season, & they sell out q ck y. Queer Eureka has had several shots in the arm this Summer, and the community has been very active in event organizing. On June 23rd, there was a Tea Dance and AGLTF (Arkansas Gay & Lesbian Task Force) membership drive held at Center Street South. It was a celebration of pride lesbigay event, always does in Music continues tl,e O~ar~s...commonly ret~erred to as Ope.a Boot Camp, the .annual o~.era season IS a ~ruell~n~ one ¯ and a chance to take a break from a hectic ¯¯ Summer, an opportunity to kick back and relax with friends. ¯ Coming up at the end of July - the : weekend of the 26th - there will be a ¯ camping weekend held at Lake Leather- " .wood Park sponsored by AGLTF. All are ¯ invited to attend. Comeprepared to spend a weekend in the fun and sun of the Ozarks with friends. You’ll be glad you did. Also coming up is the annual Eureka Springs .Gay Family Reunion, held m September at Beaver Dam Site Park. This event offers an opportunity to share in the community spiritofEureka’s lesbigay population. Food, fun, games, and a chance to ¯ meet new friends are a hallmark of this event. Stay tuned for date ¯ and time. : And, anytime is a good time to visit and ¯ enjoy the beauty Eureka Springs has to offer. There aremany t’melesbigay-owned ¯ shops and lodging facilities to visit, and ¯ lots of area attractions worthy of note. ¯ One absolute must-do when in our little ¯ utopia is a visit to the Emerald Rainbow. ¯ Linda and MC always have some kind of ¯ reader scheduled on the weekends, and : there is a weekend of aura photography planned for the same weekend as the ¯ AGLTF camping extravaganza. For in- " formation on the schedule of events at the : Emerald Rainbow, call 501-253-5445 or ¯ email: emrain@rog.ar.ispnet.com. ¯ Jim and Brent’s Bistro holds Famil~ ¯ Night the first Thursday of every month. ¯ The restaurant is closed to the public, and ¯ it’ s amuch-anticipatedmonthlyeventwith ¯ good food and good friends. A portion of " : the proceeds from each Bistro Family : Night goes toward some worthy lesbigay ¯ cause, usually a different one each month. ¯ When you plan your trip to Eureka ¯ Springs, be sure to check out all the finest ¯" lodgingavailable. You canview thefinest in Eureka Springs lodging, and all kinds ¯ ofrelatedbusinesses andevents on-lineat ¯ http://www.eureka-usa.com/ ¯ And, Positive Idea Marketing Plans al- ¯ ways has the inside line on where to stay, ¯ what to do, who to see. Send E-mail to ¯ emerald@intellinet.com or Call PIMP at ¯ ¯ 501-253-2401. Join us in Eureka Springs. You may never want to leave! A World of Thanks! r(Mcl lun0 alty, Inc. to Joe McClung & R.J. Jenkins on the sale of our lakefront home and the purchase_of our dream home¯ We appreciate you! Billie Hadley & Connie Swadick READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library Of all the topics surrounding the gay fights movement, one of the most contentious is the role of religion, not only in public law, but in the lives of individuals. Most people are exposed to some sort of religion,howeverminimal, during their upbringing. Balancing those early teachings with the realities that arisein adolescence and adulthood is the focus of Wrestling with the Angel. Twenty-one well known gay men from various religious backgrounds have contributed very blunt and entertaining short essays about how religion has impacted their lives. Contributors include National Public Radio reporter Frank Browning, authors Andrew H~lleran and Brad Gooch and former bishop Antonio Feliz, They span the religious spectrum from Baptist, Lutheran, Catholic, Mormon and Jewish to Hindu mad Muslim. Poet Kevin Killian presents an interesting history of growing up in ahigh school staffed,by Franciscans. He, and some of ¯ the staff, realized his orientation only af-. : tez it became clear that, while other boys ¯ were listening to and comparing scandal- : ous rock songs, Kevin found musical poetry in the original cast album of My Fair Lady~ resource ~or ~ay men want:~n~ to come to terms wlth tladr past, present, religious identi ieatlon. by James Christjohn ". When,] first heard that.Disney was,, adapting q’heHunchbackofNotreDame " and saw the previews shown last year, I : thought they were nuts. How,I wondered, ¯ could they adapt this particularly tragic : story into a cartoon, and a musical one to " boot? Big mistake, I thought. Well, I was : able to see it the other night, and it was wonderful. It had an especially relevant " message: that it is a mistake to judge " others on the basis of looks or on the basis ¯ of stereotypes. Itmadeaninteresting statement about power and religion, religious ’ fanatics, and those who, instead of deal- " ing with their own issues, project those ¯ issues onto others and persecute them. ¯ Theplotrevolves aroundFrollo. a"min- " ister of (in)justice", who is out to rid Paris of all sin and evildoers. Chief among those who are the cause of evil are the gypsies. In the process of persecuting these unfortunate folk, he accidentally kills a gypsy woman and is about to kill her misshapen child. Akindly priest stops him, and Frollo raises the child in hopes Quasimodo (hterally, half-formed) will be "of use" to him. One condition: Quasi is to be kept hidden - in the ball tower of Notre Dame. On a festival day, the"Feast of Fools", he sneaks out to see what it’s like to be free. He is crowned the king of fools, and when the crowd realizes he’s not wearing a mask, is ridiculed. The gypsy, Esmerelda helps him, despite Frollo s insistence that the ridicule go on, to "teach a lesson" to Quasi. Esmerelda defies and makes a fool of Frollo, who then decides to bum down Paris until he finds her. Also thrown into all this is his In Lev Raphael’ s entry, To be a Jew, he remembers reading a "notorious homobashing essay" in the Jewishmagazine Commentary, whichhadthe opposite effect onhim. Instead of steering him away from the Fire Island lifestyle, it drew him in and he found it captivating. Wrestling with the Angel is a beneficial resource for gay men wanting to come to terms with their past, and present, religious identification. Reading these experiences makes it clear that, : whatever your religious dilemma, you are ¯ following in the footsteps of others whose ~ stories may be able to bring comfort and : consolation. Check for this rifle, and others on simi- : lar topics, at your local branch library, or : call the Readers Services department of ~ the Central Library at 596-7966. desire that Esmerelda be his - or die. He justifies his actions by blaming her for his desires and sin. Sound familiar? Well, needless to say, it is a film with a timely message. There are many characters (Falwell, Robertson, Swaggart, Dobson, Roberts, Jan and Paul Crouch) in real life that are interchangeable with Frollo and his attitudes. And how timely a film, seeing as the Baptists are boycotting Disney because of the fact that Disney provides benefits to same sex partners. Who do these folks think wrote and made Beauty & the Beast, Aladdin, Little Mermaid, to name a few? And probably every Disney endeavor that needed creativity and art to be realized? Anyway, I digress. Write letters of support to Disney, for their gayfriendly policies, and for this film. Everyone should see it. As a gaymanwho was persecuted from 2rid to 10th grade for being different, I could easily rdate to Quasimodo. I was called ahomobefore I everknew what the word meant, and I was a rather fat, un- ¯¯ sightly child during adolescence. Every day at school was like Quasimodo’s day ¯ on the square for me. I think some, if not ¯ most gay folk can relate to that feeling. ¯ While the relationships portrayed in the ¯ film are heterosexual, I think enough ¯ "asides" get through to be relevant to our Thecastperforms excellently, wxthTom : HulcemakingQuasimodoapoignant char- ¯ acter,handledwithmuch sensitivity- Judge Frollo is easily the most evil Disney vii- " lain ever to grace the screen. 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Name: Age: Address: City, St. &Zip: Telephone: by Jean-Pierre, TFN Food Critic Longtime residents will recall times enjoyed in one of Tulsa’s old movie palaces, The Brook, at 34th and Peoria, right next door to the old Lewis Meyer Bookstore, and across the street from the infamous Concessions. This location sat empty and unused for years until recently, when the late Mr. Meyer was unceremoniously evicted, and a complete rehab of the premises.took place. From the remains emerged a bank owned by the Wal-Martpeople and anew bar and restaurant which took the name of the old movie house. From the day itfirst opened this establishment has packed in the crowds, and on a busy night, expect a long wait for a table. The main door on 34th Streetis situated in such a way that the diner gets the impression he is being ushered in through back door of the bar and past the service area by the kitcher~, be- ,fore enteringthe din- ~ng areas. Along the w.ay, one passes a big p~ece of machinery that seems to be either clutter or just in theway, butoncloser Atmosphere: Casual inspection, it turns out to the old film projector from the Prices: Inexpensive theatre. The restanrant space has been completely redone, l’~ on-smol~lng section and now the decor is averycleanandmod- All major credit cards ern nod to art deco themes, with the walls lined with Reeommendatlon: cheap reproductions of oldmovie posters. Diners are seated C llst in large booths, and find small menus on the tables. First time diners almost always ¯ make the same error. Mistaking the table ¯ menus for a bar menu or selection of late " night offerings, they ask for "the" menu. ¯ Well, folks, there is only one. ¯ The menu centers around sandwiches, " mostly burgers. There are also several ¯ entree salads ($4.50-6.95),nachos ($6.75), quesadillas ($5.95), fried mushrooms ." ($3.75), &a couple of simple pastaprepa- ¯ rations ($4.95-6.95). A Mexican shrimp cocktail (peel and eat served with pico di " gallo, $6.25) and a shrimp en brochette " (six skewered and broiled shrimp, $6.95) ¯ round out the menu. That’s it. ¯ Of course, the main attraction of the " Brookis the bar, which takes up abouthalf " of the total space. Drink prices are moder- ¯ ate, and size and pour are average. Many people take advantage of the large side- " The Brook 3401 South Peoria ... Well, the food wasn’t ~reat, but at least if was cl~eap. eompIMnt was the service (or relatlre On every Gsit to the Broob, th;s has been a s m;lar re/rain... Hours: llam to 2 am Mon. through Sat. & until 11 p.m. Sundays Category: Bar with restaurant ¯ walk cafe, When more than a few people ¯ are in the bar, it gets very loud and noisy. ¯ On a recent visit to the Brook, we tried ." the parmesan chicken salad ($6.25), a ¯ seattering ofdeep fried, parmesan cheeseencrusted chicken chunks on a nondescript bed of lettuce, which was surprisingly tasteless. Our companion tried a basicburger andfries ($4.35). Even though ordered medium well, the burger was quite dry and lacking in flavor. The fries, made with ..... the skins on, were slightly undercooked, and we later amused ourselves by watching the grease drip and pool on the plate. Well, the food wasn’t great, but at least 1I was cheap. Our biggest complaint was the service (or relative lack thereof). On every visit to the Brook, this has been a similar refrain. The waitresses are less than attentive, and can often be seen congregated in the service area chatting with one another. -...= Management seems to have adopted a policy of the nearest available waitress handling any of the diners’ needs, whether that be seating, ordering, bringing food to the table, or refilling water glasses, but it has taken the unfortunate turn of none of the staff feeling responsibility for any ofthe tables. On our last visit, we heard the short order cook ring the bell and shout, "Order up!" when a couple of plates were put in the service window. A few rmnutes later, we heard him repeathis announcement with a stronger sense of urgency. Still, the waitresses chatted in the bar. Finally, a few minutes later, he stuck his head out and shouted, "Hel-lo! There’s hot food in the window!" Finally, a waitress reluctantly ambled over to deliver the meal. It is difficult to understand why this restaurant continues to pack in the people, night after night. It isn’t the food, and it certainly isn’t the service. Perhaps its the late night hours and the fact the kitchen ~. stays open. But, when you are bored with the dancers at Concessions, this is the place to go for that midnight refueling stop. Just don’t expect much, and you won’t be disappointed. How To Do It First 30 words are $10. Each additional word is 25 cents. 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Heidi Mollenhauer provides Esmerelda’s singing voice, and turns "God Help The Outcasts" into a showstopper. Her contribution is outstanding and I predict we’ll hear much more from this Broadway star. Seinfeld’s Jason Alexander is pleasantly obnoxious as the Gargoyle Hugo, Mary Wickes, a familiar voice and face to TV and Films lends a more common sense touch to Laveme, the more pragmatic ofthe three gargoyles who have befriended Quasi in his prison. This fill marks her last performance, as she died shortly hefore its release. Rounding out the trio, Murphy Brown’s staid Charles Kimbrough lends his voice and physique to Victor, the gargoyle least likely to take any chances. Look out for a tribute to the Wizard Of Oz, and tell me, just try to tell me, that a gay man was not involved in that sequence. The music is well written, and if you buy the soundtrack, you get a song called "God Hdp The Outcasts" sung by Bette Midler. It is worth having for that song alone, whichis a showstopper in the fill. The score is more along the lines of a traditional musical than recent cartoons, which is refreshing - the songs further the plot nicely and reveal info about the characters, rather than give you the feeling that "Ok, this is the requisite ’hit’ pop song." Seven stars on a scale of five. On the local scene, BACPis gearing up for theupcoming production of’‘Taffeta", a ’50’s musical’.revue. It is scheduled to run from September 13-22. It will be followed by "Greetings", a comedy about thenature of earthly reality. Quitefrankly, earthly reality is something I have always found to be extremely comical. Take the existence of Steve Largent- please! (with him, you have to laugh. It’s better than crying. Besides, most jokes don’t last forever. Neither can he.) "Greetings" runs ROOM FOR RENT! Close to downtown with full bath and use of kitchen. Phone: 918-587 References required. 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Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, July 15-August 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 8 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource July 15-August 14, 1996 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource James Christjohn Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Leanne Gross Pat Morehead Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Tome Neal/Tulsa Family News Relation A related resource Tulsa Family News, June 15-July 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 7 Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Image PDF Online text Language A language of the resource English Type The nature or genre of the resource newspaper periodical Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Tulsa---Oklahoma Oklahoma---Tulsa Unites States Oklahoma Tulsa United States of America (50 states) Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context https://history.okeq.org/items/show/512 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 1996 AIDS/HIV AIDS/HIV discrimination AIDS/HIV drugs AIDS/HIV testing Amendment 2 arts and entertainment attorneys Barry Hensley Bars Bill Clinton businesses churches Dave Fleischer Defense of Marriage Act Don't Ask Don't Tell Entertainment Notes estate planning Eureka Springs Family Finances funera homes gay clergy harassment HIV/AIDS research homophobia J.D. 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Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Our Families of the Heart CoUrt Kills Amendment 2 Tulsa Leaders Respond WASHINGTON - In a ruling that brought a collective sigh of relief from U.S. rights activists, the Supreme Court has ruled that Colorado’s anti-gay Amendment 2 is unconstitutional. Justice Anthony Kennedy said in the court’s 6-3 majority ruling that theColorado ballot measure was "inexplicable by anything except ill will toward homosexuals." The ruling found that Amendment 2 identifies people by the singletrait of their sexual orientation and denies them protection across the board "in a law unprecedented in American jurisprudence." The Court’s ruling invalidates the 1992 Colorado referendum that was narrowlyapproved by 53 percent of the voters and would have blocked anti-bia~dneasures in Denver, Boulder, Aspen and anywhere else in the state that adopted suchmeasures. The high court’s majority opinion found that Amendment 2 violates the Constitution’s guarantees of equal protection under the law, ruling that it illegally bars homosexuals from see CO, page 10 Federal Anti-Marriage Bill Moves Thru Congress WASHINGTON - The far-right’s proposed congressional measure,known as the "Defense of Marriage Act" (DOMA), easily won approval of a House sub, committee by a largely party-line 8-4 vote, and is expected to reach thefloor of the House of Representafives for a vote by early July. The Senate companion measure should be reaching the floor of the upper chamber at about the same time, Senate leaders said. qqae measure, which would define marriage as the union of a man and a woman, effectively excluding same-sex marriages at the federal levd, has left rights activists at loose ends since it was introduced in Congress earlier in May, quickly, winning endorsements from the Republican leadership and the promise of President Clinton’s signature if it passed Congress. Clinton supporter David Mixner fumed on CBSsee Federal, page 10 More States Pass Anti- Marriage Laws SPRINGFJELD, Ill. -~ Illinois .Gov.:Jim Edgar signed a measure barring the state from recognizing same,sex marriages, whether legally performed in other states or not, making the state that first repealed its sodomy statu_tes: over. 3 ~ decades ago ~- the 1.0th, U.S, state to prohibitrecognition ofsame-sex marriages. Meanwhile, in Michigan and Pennsylvania, similar anti-marriage measures won approval in their respective legislatures. The bills in each of the 2 states need only to have differences in the language of their upper and lower chambers worked out before being sent to their governors for approval. North Carolina’s lawmakers, intheir effort to prohibit recognition of same-sex marriages that might be legally performed in other states, have been trying to quickly work around legal limits on the types of measures they can consider in a shortened special see States; page 10 PFLAG activists, Bill & Cathy Hinlde, and Nancy & Joe McDonald flank Dallas Gay & Lesbian AllianCe Pres. Cece Cox, her spouse, Lisa Means, & Tom Neal at ajoint meetingof PFLAG, TOHR & Rainbow Business Guild. : Tulsa PFLAG Mom Testifies ’Against Anti-Marriage Bill ¯ Nancy McDonald, founder of Tulsa Parents, Familes ¯ and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) with husband ¯ Joe, and first vice president of the national board of .. PFLAG, testified against the so-called "Defense of Mar- ¯ nage Act" before the Constitution Subcommittee of the ¯ Judicial Committee of the US House of Representatives ¯ on May 15. TFN is honored to summarize or to reprint ~ portions of that testimony. ¯ McDonald identified herself as a mother and longtime ¯ educator and volunteer speaking in defense of marriage. ¯ In particular, McDonald identified the benefits of civil ¯ marriage and noted how those benefits are denied to same : sex couples. McDonald said she wished she were testify- " ing in favor of a bill that would grant equal marriage rights : "see Congress, page 8 ¯ HIV Bias Lawsuit Won Paul Saladin has won his wrongful termination lawsuit ¯¯ against his former employeer, Terry Turner, owner ofThe French Hen. Saladin had filed his case under the federal ~ Americans with Disabilities Act which prohibit discrimi- : nation on the basis of HIV!AIDS as well as other disabili- ¯ ties. ¯ The case is noteworthy because it is one of the first to : address discriminationbased on an association with some- : one who is disabled. Saladin was fired from his job as a : waiter when one customer allegedly complained to man- . agement after he heard another customer ask Saladin : about his late partner who was seriously ill with AIDS ¯ related infections. Saladin received modest damages of partial back pay see Case, page 8 "Promise Keepers" Boot ¯ Radical Extremist Enyart ¯ "Christian" syndicated television talk show host, Bob ¯ Enyart, appears to have been disinvited from the Promise . ¯ Keepers "Christian men’s" rally planned for June 15th at ¯ ¯ TU’s Skelly Stadium. Lesbian/Gay activists, pro-choice ¯ ¯ activists and moderate ~d progressive religious leaders -.: had objected to Enyart s participation because of his : ¯ documented remarks calling for the execution of "homo: ¯ ¯ sexua¯ ls" and "abortlonlo~,,o~’.,~.we.u as.m.e do.sin.g.and./the.¯ ¯¯ , phys~cal~ destruction of homosexual churches, clubs and : other establishments, as well as abortion diuics. Enyart " ¯ has acknowledged those remarks as accurately reflecting ." : his values in an interview with the Denver Post. ¯ The Rev. Russell Bennett of Fellowship Congrega- ¯ tional Church said that the Task Force for Rdigious " ¯ Freedom and Tulsa Metropolitan Ministry were involved ¯ in persuading key Promise Keeper supporters to call for " ¯ Enyart’s removal. Allegedly, Rev. Pearson called the ~ national office of Promise Keepers to ask them to: ; organizers to remove Enyart. According to The ¯ World, local organizers would not comment on the pro- ¯ ¯ gram change, see Enyart; page 10 American Airlines, Pepsi, ¯i AMnilhleeruSspeornBsuosrcPhr,idCeoPoircsn, i&c Organizers of this year’s Pride Picnic have annoUnced the confirmation of American Airlines as lead sponsor of Tulsa: United in Pride, the 1996 Pride Picnic which is at Owen Park, 560 No. Maybelle at Edison Road on Saturday, June 15 .from noon. to 5pm. American Airlines, Tulsa’s largest employer, is donating two air travd tickets which picnic attendees can be eligible to win. Other major sponsors include Anheuser-Busch, Coors, Miller Brewmg Co. and Pepsi-Cola. Picnic orgamzers emphasized their thanks for the support of dub owners and entertainers who hosted and performed in benefit shows, in chronological order: Bill and Brian and their friends at Lola’s, Sensuous and John at the Tool Box, John & Steve at the Silver Star and Kirk & Terry at Concessions with apologies to anyone whose name’s been left out¯ This event just see Picnic. page 8 Tulsa Library Nixes Gay Exhibits for Two Years While the Tulsa City County Library commission and Library administrators deny that complaints about an April Lesbian and Gay themed exhibit by Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays motivated them ,the commissioners changed the Library’s exhibit rides at a May 21st meeting so that a similar topic cannot be displayed for two years. Formerly library rules prevented the same organization from exhibiting more than once in 18 months. Under the new regulations, the same topic cannot be addressed more than once in 2-krnonths. Because of this change, Tulsa OklahomanS for Human Rights (TOHR)is now being denied penmssion to mounl an exhibit that-was scheduled for August. Library administrators say that the TOHR exhibit plans were never definite but were tentative. However, TOHR representatives claim that:they understood the date to be firufly settled with any question of ch_anging the date not arising until after controversy about the PFLAG exhibit started. TOHR’s spokesperson expressed sympathy for the harassment the Library had experienced and understood the LibraD¯’s desire to change its rules but regretted that Library administrators had not chosen to honor their prior commitment to TOHR. TOHR is currently seeking an alternate site for the exhibit, Love Makes A Family, a photo-documentary of Lesbian and Gay families with accompanying interviews of the couples and their children. COMING SOON -ffiahoma Parade ; ¯ Follies Review’96 + MCC’s ?That’s Entertainment?. + State.HIV/AIDS Confere.nce + IAM Ice Cream Soc,al + Shanti’s Water.Garden Tour see page 9 P. 2 P. 4 P. 6 P. 9 P. 9 P. 11 P. 12 P. 13 918.583.1248 POB 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-0140 TulsaNews@ aol.com Publisher/Editor, Tom Neal Assistant Editor, James Christjohn Writers/contributors, Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Leanne Gross & Pat Morehead Staff Phot(x3rapher, JD Jamett Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and ~aay not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Publicationnodfenacnea~ms easosurmpheodtotodboeesfonroptuibnldicicaatitoenthuantlepsesrostohne’srwsiesxeunaol toerdi,enmtautsitobne. Correspo " - . " ........ =o~il,, News All correspondence ¯ d & becomes tlae sole property o~ ~u,~a -,~,- : ¯ s!gne~........~o oddress above Each reader is entitled to one fre.e co,p,,y~of~ia~coh snOUl(1 De Sent to ut~ a ¯ edition at d*-is-tn.ou.u.on.p.oln-t-~-. *~’u~u’~,;tional conr"ies are available by calhng bY Phyl Bole’r-Sdhmidt " " i. ¯ i i.° "Th~Godit~s ovhr! The~AmendmentTwO battlemC°l°riad° that fight. And, though it began in one state, the effects rippled acrFoosrsmoeu,rtghreebaattntlaetiboeng.an oneMay evem.ngm. 1991. Iwas living on the western slope of Colorado, minding my own business, enjoyin my life and my vcork. Tha.t .evening: ,,the voters of Denvergre’ected an ordinance proposexl by a soc)auy-co,n,se,rvative erou~ called Citizens for Sensible Rights that wou!a nave " remgved sexual orientation from the wording of the city s equal protectionlaw. After their defeat, CSRandits statewidesupporters vowed to take the issue to the state level where, they thought, babydom in the gay rights movement before the Amendment Two vote. I’i,’e gone from an often timid addressee of lesbigay cinosnicdeernansdtooustoTmwehoonisenwoht oinctahne lbeeasctoaufnrateidd toonsttoankdntoowe ttohteoiesswuieths see Weary, page 3 has been a long gaul of Often drudgery for those of us involved in I~9 Tgdd Adams "The religious right would like you to believe that despite their hatemongering and anti-gay propaganda, they truly have com.- passion and geiiuine Christian concern for the homosexual. It ~s not a personal bias, they claim, but only because of divine Biblical proclamation that they are compelled to preach this socalled threat to family values. Consider then, the disproportionate lack of attention given to ¯ the far more pervasive trend toward unmarried heterosexual ~ couples cohabitating. Isn’t this what the Bibli~ calls fornication, and isn’t this a sexual sin of equal magnitude as homosexuality? ¯ Just by the sheer numbers of people engaged in fornication ¯ compared to those of homosexuality, one would think the former ¯ to be a far greater threat to those sacred fata!!y, value.s.A,ft,er ~1, their Dresumably heterosexual children woum seenungiy De ~ar ¯ more’susceptible to being recruited into this lifestyle rather than into homosexuality. Yet we don’t see nearly the kind of passion exerted on this proportionately mammoth threat to,fancily v,alue.s as we see directed towards gay and lesbian peopte. ~o why ~s ¯ there such a wide disparity of attention? The answer is twofold, ¯ and both are very basic to human nature: greed and ignorance. The first reason is greed. The fact is homosexuality is very ¯ controversial and thus stirs emotions. Marketing 101 will tell you the easiest way to pry money out of a pocket is to exploit see Values, page 3 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Concessions, 3340 ~. Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades:Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box. 1338 E. 3rd 832-1269 744-0896 749-1563 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Meal.& Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272 Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 . 592-1521 Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1515 S. 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Boston 584-0337 .Scribner~s B,ookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301 Scott Rob~son s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations 743-2351 Southwest Viatical 747-3322 Thomas Chiropracfc.Clinic 4138 S. Harvard, Ste. C-I 742-8868 493-1959 Kellie J. Watts, attorney 743-1733 Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities *Agape’ Christian Fellowship, 21st& Sheridan 599-7688 *Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Ctr. 628-0594 2627B E. 11 *B/UG Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780 *Chapman Student Center, University of Tulsa *CommumtyofHope UnitedMethodist, 1703 E. 2nd 585-1800 Dignity/Integrity ¯ (Lesbian/Gay Catholics & Episcopalians) 298-4648 *Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 ,Free SpiritWomens Center, call f°r l°cad°n &inf°: 587-4669 FFrriieennddsFionrUAnFitryieSnodc,iPalOOBrg5a2n3i4z4a,ti7o4n1(5A2frican-Amer. 7m4e7n-6) 827 POB 8542, 74101 425-4905 Indian Health Care, Save the Nation 584-4983 Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 *HIV Resource Consortium 749-4194 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 PFLAG , POB 52800 74152 Prime-Timers, P:O. Box 52118 R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 St. Jerome’s Catholic Church, 3841 S. Peoria, *Shanti Hotline Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, (rOHR) POB 52729 74152 TOHR Gay HdpLine (info.) Technicians, 1338 E. 3rd T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. *Tulsa City Hall, Cafeteria Vestibule, Ground Floor *University Center at Tulsa ~ Beaver Dam Store, 1/2 mi. N. of Dam Hwy. 187 ¯ *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main ¯ DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. ¯ *Emerald Rainbow, 45&112 Spring St. ¯ King’ s Hi-Way,96Kings Highway,Hwy. 62W *MCC of the Living Spring 748-3111 749-4901 74104 749-4195 665-5174 646-7116 749-7898 7434297 584-1308 838-1222 501-253-7457 501-253-6807 501-253-5445 800-231 - 1442 501-253-9337 I never canremember those old sayings very well but there is this one that goes like this: may youlive in interesting times - and I never could remember if that was supposed tO be a blessing or a curse. Wall, here we are at Pride 1996. We certainly are living in interesting times. Lesbian, Gay, Bi and Triinsgendered issues are being discussed more than they l~ave been at’any other time in the last two thousand or so years. And though our losses (to AIDS, to breast cancer, to the institutionalized violence and self hatred our society fosters) have been beyond imagination, and it is easy to feel that we are under attack each ~ime we turn, we are winning some. Colorado 2- do I need to say more?The highest court in the nation, and the source of both despair and hope for American minorities, finally has recognized us as citizens. Even here in Tulsa, we are making some progress. Although we are still marginalized by many of Tul.sa leaders, a few are recognizing our existence, our contributions to this city and our emerging political impact. And though we are poisoned by too many of the pathologies that growing up minrrity in America engenders, and although we are often unneces sarily cruel to each other, Tulsa is rich in remarkable individuals who dedicate hours of their time to building community ~mdresources. These folks are too many to name them all. The3’ vary from those whom you recognize quickly, the McDonalds and Kirbys, to those who work a little more behind the scenes, the Newmans, S tames, Petersons and Gilleans to those who are rarely recognized but whose contributions are also critical. These people, their work and our progress, although slow, all are things for whichwe can be thankful. So take aminute to celebrate, to honor those who’ve gone before, to recognizehow things are better. I have and will. Tulsa’ s sure a better place for us thanit was 20 or even 10 years ago. - Tom Neal Rev. Nancy J. Horvath M. Div., Pastor Sunday 9:15 am Christian Education ll:00am Worship Service ....Wednesday 6:30 pm Midweek Service 7:30 pm Choir Practice Thursday 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group 5451-E S. Mingo ¯ Tulsa, OK ¯ 7414~ (918) 622-1441 JUNE 15 Noon - 5:00 pm Opening Ceremony, lpm ¯ Blessing by the Rev. Leslie Penrose ¯ Welcome by TOHR president Debbie Starnes ¯ Performances by local entertainers, including Miss Gay Tulsa & Miss Tulsa USofA, Tulsa Family Chorale & The Banned from OKC! Throughout the afternoon, ¯ DJ will provide music throughout the day ¯ Booths with vendors, community organization info., crafts, etc. ¯ Food for modest cost ¯ Free beverages provided by Anheuser-Busch, Coors, Miller & Pepsi ¯ Volleyball & tennis court available ¯ Kids’ playground ¯ Security provided all day by Tulsa Park officers ¯ Closing ceremony, with benediction by RF Renfro & Freedom Balloon Extravaganza! Be a, part of the Pride~Picnic! - To volunteer, just show up Saturday Edison St. -’ ,~ "~ To Sand Springs, 1-412 Directions: From Tulsa, take Keystone Expressway West towards Sand Springs. Exit Gilcrease Rd. turn right (North) on Gilcrease Road to Edison St, and turn right (East} on Edison, go about 1/2 mile. Owen Park Is on the right. Parking is on the Southeast corner of the park. near Roosevelt School. 1-244 the most ardent anti-gay zealots. Wars will do that for you. Survival skills are something we either gain in a hurry, or we die at the hands of the enemy, sometimes literally, often figuratively. Of course, there are always battle scars too, and I watch myself, as well as others who have fought this one in the trenches, acting most times like we suffer from the more modem adaptation of World War II’s shell shock. Post-traumatic stress disorder runs rampant among civil rights activists of any persuasion. On May 20th, nearly five years exactly to the day after the Denver vote, I was catching up on some paperwork at my computer when the news came in via the Interact about the U.S. Supreme Court’s 6-3 decision declaring Amendment Two unconstitutional. There was no jubilant fist thrust into the air. There was no inyour- face queer political nose-rubbing of the opposition. I just sat th6re, staring at the two-hne news alert for over 30 minutes, occasional quiet tears of mostly relief surfacing. I believe it is important to remember that although the Supreme Court decision reflects a changed attitude on the part of the federal judiciary as it regards the humamty of lesbigay people, nothing has really changed legally. No tights have been gained. It remains okay to discriminate against us as a people in most of the country, & the fight for equality remains one we will need to address one person at a time. \Vhat has happened is imperceptible to people on the outside of our movement. We are a more confident people, more sure than ever before of our beliefs and our worth. We are more aware politically; we -know how to build coalitions, to raise funds, to seek out and solidify our bases of support, and we -know how to get the job done. We also have learned the tree value found in each other because we had to learn with whom we could be safe and on whom we could count when or if we needed someone. A~nendment Two was a right of passage for lesbigay people in Colorado. mad the tipple effects have forged growth in the movemeut throughout the land. Let us not waste that ~owth and the opportunity it presents to truly change our ~vorld. Our time has come, and our movement is coming of age, but let us not forget that we gain nothing in the wav of respect if we are not respectful of others. If we are going to ever have that kinder, gentler nation George Bush at least talked about. I believe it must start with us. emotions: lust,:enwy.., fear, hate! Therefore, dt is pr0fi~ble for the religious right to keep homosexuality controversial. Itis their greatest fund-raising tool. Even the most cursory glance at their fund-raising literature wil! reveal classic propaganda techniques; dehumanize the subject to remove any compassion people might feel, and present only the most extreme behavior as examples of that"lifestyle", behavior which, incidentally, many homosexuals themselves would find distasteful. These techniques are nothing new. They are the same methods used by the Nazis to persecute the Jews. The second reason is pure and simple ignorance. They fall to understand that we have exactly the same range of human emotions and feel exactly the same feelings they do; love, lust, guilt, jealousy, anger, compassion; just in a slightly different context, homosexuality is a normal, natural and healthy way of life for a certain percentage of the population. But because those feelings are foreign to them, the religious right assumes our lives to be wicked, perverted and disgusting. They fall to see that falling in love is truly a universal emotion with many varieties. So don’t be misled. The attention giveu to homosexuality has nothing to do with family values, if it did, more preachers would be concerned about the results of their hate speech: abandoned and abused children, gay teen suicide, substmace abuse. All of these are far more serious fmnily issues which deserve far lnore attention. bo,eft.th,g Tul.~a Area AIDSAgenctes Warren Place Doubletree Hotel Dh~ner, Cash Bar and Performance Remaining seats are limited. Call today! TICKETS ON SALE AT ALL CARSON ATTRACTIONS OUTLETS OR BY PHONE: ~84-2000 Canada Rights Bill OTI’AWA - Largdy considered a formality, Canada’s Senate has followed the May 9 lead of Parliament’s House of Commons and approved federal legislation outlawing bias based on sexual orientation. The bill now only requires the assent of the governor general, representing Queen Elizabeth II as Canada’s titular head of state, to become part of theCanadian Human Rights Act. Michigan School Harassment DETROIT-In a d~iay that angered:many, the Allen Park School Board decided not to decide yet on whether gay and lesbian students - or even students who are just believed to be homosexual - should be protected under the district’s anti-harassment policies. The mother of a 14-yearold student at Allen Park High School asked the trustees in May to include antiharassment policies that prohibit gay and lesbian students from being attacked or harassed on school grounds by other students. But the school board decided it wanted to take "more time to study the issue" beforemaking a decision. Raymond Salliotte, an attorney representing the student and his family, told the board members they should be ashamed of themgelves for even having to take this long to decide on such a basic issue. School Gay CI.ui Compromise GLENDALE, Calif. - The Glendale school board averted the potentially explosive issue of gay and lesbian dubs at schools by rejecting a plan that would have required permission of parents for their high-school age,students to join any such campus clubs. Instead, the board opted for a compromise proposal that would inform parents of all the dubs authorized to meet at schools in the district so they could be aware of what groups there are at various schools. But parents would not have to give permission for their children in school to join any of the groups. Clinton ’Advocate’ Interview LOS ANGELES - In an interview in the Los Angeles gay news magazine The Advocate, President Clinton reiterated his view that marriage is an institution between a man and a woman, as a far-right bill in Congress declares, and says he is proud of his record of working to end discrimination agmnst homosexuals in theU.S, and of the large number of gay men and lesbians hehas named to posts in his administration.But in the interview, Clinton says ofthe controversy that erupted early in his term over ending the military ban, "There are some things I think I should have done differently." He says he now believes he should have first worked with congressional and Pentagon leaders to build a broader consensus on the issue, saying that possibly moving in "incremental steps" might have been a better way to approach ending the ban. The President, however, sidesteps questions in the interview about whether he would, if re-elected, renew any efforts to end the current restrictions against homosexuals in the armed forces. Oregon Initiative Called Off PORTLAND, Ore. - Lon Mabon, head of the anti-gay OregonCitizens Alliance, announced at a press conference that the organization will discontinue gathering signatures to put a new ballot measure before state voters this year in an effort to block civil rights protections for homosexuals. Oregon rights activists said the OCA move wasn’t surprising in the wake of the U.S. Supreme Court ruling in May declaring that Colorado’s Amendment 2, which the OCA had used as-a model, was unconstitutional. School Board Victory in N.H. MERRIMACK, NH - Two years of contentious tumult over an anti-gay policy may have come to at least a temporary end with the stunning 2-1 victory ofRosemarie Rung for a seat on the school board. The race registered the largest voter turnout in the town’s history and Rung’s election now means, that religious-right candidates whohad forced the anti-gay policy through the board no longer hold a majority. Rung vowed dunng the race to work to repeal the anti-gay Policy 6540, which prohibits school employees from "’encouraging or supporung homosexuality as a positive lifestyle alternative." Ginny Cadarette, who also ran for the vacant seat won by Rung, had said she supported the anti-gay school policy. "This election proves that the citizens of Merrimack have the moral courage to reject the politics of fear and divisiveness," Rung said after the election win. "What the Radical Religious Right failed to realize when it moved into Merrimack advocating its agenda, from creationism to Pol,icy 6540, is that we truly believe in freedom of speech, and equal protection of the laws." S. Africa Gay Rights Protections CAPE TOWN, South Africa - With the new, first-ever constitutional protections barfing bias based on sexual orientation, : the South African Parliament wasted no ¯ ti~ne putting theory into practice. On May 14 the lawmakers approved military poli- ¯ cies prohibiting discrimination against ¯ women, gays and lesbians in the nation’s ¯ armed forces. The next day a memo from : the leaders of both houses of Parliament ¯ outlined the travd~related benefits the ¯ partners of Members of Parliament are : entitled to.identical to those of the spouses ¯ of married MPs. Anti-Gay, Anti-HIV Defense Bill Again WASHINGTON - The House has approved a $267-billion Defense Department spending measure that President Clinton has already said he would veto if it’s not changed by the Senate because of the many social issues that conservative Republicans have tacked on to it. The measure includes amendments that would discard the current "don’t ask,don’t tell" maned forces provision and institute an outright ban on homosexuals in the military. It also iududes the on-again, offagain amendment forcing the Pentagon to discharge any military personnel who test positive for HIV. The Senate version of the defense measure calls for the same spending level,but doesn’t contain the coutroversial amendments House Republicans added to the bill. The measure also iucludes a ban on the sale of sextmlly explici! magazines,such as Playboy and Penthouse, at military bases as well as a prohibition against U.S. military hospitals outside the country performing abortions,except in eases ofrape, incest or if the mother’s life is at risk. Carolina Anti-Gay Measure Repealed SPARTANBURG, S.C. - Faced with the prospect of having the Olympic torch relay re-routed around the county and finding the men’s U.S.A.Gymnastic team pulling their training site, the Spartanburg county council has decided not to keep an mati-gay resolution it approved on Monday, Mav 13. The resolution, similar to ones passed by two Georgia county comnussions inn, has no actual legal effect but states that homosexuality is "incompatible withcommunity standards."The comnussioners decided earlier in May to pass the resolution as a show of their support [’or Cobb County, Ga., which has been excluded as a site for Olympic Game events because of the resolution. Butwhen the Spartanburg council was confronted by the American men’s gymnasts team ~;ith moving their training site elsewhere over the anti-gay measure and statements by the Atlanta Committee for the Olympic Games that it might re-route the torch run around Spartanburg County, the county council voted 4-1 to repeal the resolution. While Spartanburg was busy repealing its anti-gay resolution, the Greenville County council approved by a 9-3 vote an identical measure. The Olympic torch is slated to pass through Greenville on June 26, but a spokesperson for the Atlanta Committee for the Olympic Games said the group is unsure what - if anything - it may do about the approved resolution, which calls homosexuality contrary to "community standards" in the county. At least one ACOG member, however, was quoted in news reports as saying that the organizing committee "couldn’t function as a civil rights watchdog for the nation." Commitment Fair Called Off DETROIT, Mich. -A planned Gay Commitment Fair that had been slated forMay 19 in the Detroit suburb of Holly where gay couples could peruse exhibits by riofists, photographers, jewelers and other marriage-rdated goods and services was cancded after the organizer of the event received hundreds ofoffensive and threatening telephones calls, the Detroit Free Press reports. According to the paper, Jeffrey Maxwell, the pastor at the C.alvary United Methodist Church in Holly read a news article about the planned private event to his parishioners, including the phone number to contact the promoter of the fair. The organizer of the event, who asked the paper not to identify him, called off the event at the last minute after being .swamped with menacing calls threatenmg to disrupt and picket the fair as well as at least 2 death threats. Maxwell said he didn’t believe anyone from his church made any of the calls. Proposal to Extend Partner Benefits SANFRANCISCO-Gay SupervisorTom Ammiano has proposed legislation that would require most contractors working on city financed projects to extend the samedomestic partnerbenefits to its workers that it offers to the spouses of its married employees. Many of the city’s large corporations already offer partners benefits, but mo~t smaller firms do not, and the city controller’s office estimates that there are between 8,000 and 10,000 companies doing business with the city that could be affected by the proposed measure. The proposed ordinance would exemptfirms located wheredomestic partner programs aren’t in place, unless the company has a division office in the city as well. In those cases, only workers in the San Francisco offices would be covered. Business leaders here have not so far expressed any strong objections to the Ammiano measure, although the city’s Chamber of Commerce says it wasn’t consulted about.it beforehand. 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Details ofthe program were not released, but the company said the benefits would apply to both same- and opposite-sex unmarried employees, and would extend to the couples’ children as well. The firm employs some 108,300 workers. Challenge to UK Age of Consent Law LONDON - Euan Sutherland, a 19-yearold gay student, has been given the goahead by the European Commission on Human Rights to challenge the British age of consent laws before the Court of Human Rights in Strasbourg if Parliament doesn’t change the law.4n 1994, Parliament lowered the age of.consent for homosexual sex from 21 to 18, but the age of consent for heterosexual sex in Britain 1S only 16. And Suthedand petitioned government courts without luck to equalize the ages for all sexual activity, arguing that it was discriminatory. "It’s normal for a 19-year-old bloke to be going out with a 17-year-old girl," Sutherland said. "’If I was doing that [with another male] it would be illegal. Both of us would be breaking the law. There are jail penalties." Sutherland’s legal challenge is expected to bejoined by another gay youth, Chi’is Morris, 16, shortly. Lipstick Lesbians NEW YORK - The women? s beauty and fashion magazine, Allure,includes excerpts from the soon-to-be-publishedbook by Lindsy Van Gelder and Pamda Robin Brandt, The Girls Next Door: Into the Heart of Lesbian America.. The excerpt, entitled in the magazine "Some Lesbians Are Glamour Babes; Others Aren’t," lot-ks at similarities and differences between lesbians and straight women in makeup, body consciousness and similar beauty issues in alighthearted manner. Only problem is, although excerpts from forthcoming books are generally a sdling point for ~nainstreamraagakiii~’s,’Allui-d s~in~ ~6’ have neglected mentioning the excerpt on its cover. Ah, well. Probablyjust a"typo.’" A PERMANENT SOLUTION Permanent Hair Removal Carol Anwar, RE, CPE Lic. By Okla. St. Med. Bd. 488-0786 Near71st & Lewis Call for info, or an appt. with free consultation, Survey: World’s Full of Surprises LONDON-Itwas "goodnews-badnews" for the citizens of the new Russia as LondonInternational Group, one ofthe world’s largest condom manufacturers, released the results of its 3rd annual international survey of sexual behavior. According to the LIG survey, Russians are the 2nd most sexually active people in the world, led only by Americans. "Our survey will explode a lot of myths about sex," said Pauli Jakobsson of LIG. The study reports that based on surveys of 10,000 people in 15 nations,Americans have sex 135 times a year, trailed dosdy by the homy ex-comrades who succumb to Western bourgeois thrills 133 times annually. The former Soviets also trailed the Americans in their self-centered view of sex, with 61.% of U.S. citizens interviewed saying theirown satisfaction was most important in sex. Some 42% of Russians said their own gratification was paramount, placing them next behind Americans. Thailand came in at the bottom of the list in terms of frequency of sex,averagingjust 64 times per year. Of a list of notable personalities those interviewed thought were sexiest,Australian actor Mel Gibson topped the lisL while U.S. President Bill Clinton fell about midway and Russian Prime Minister Boris Yeltsin camein next to last, the unsexy honor of which fell to Poland’s Lech Walesa. Poles (presumably none of them eying Mr. Walesa) turned up as the most safe-sex conscious in the survey, with a full 13% of Polish respondents claiming they routinely carry condoms in their underwear, leading the Italians in their claims of having condoms on hand. Canadians, somewhat surprisingly, came in as the most hostile to the idea of safer sex, while the Russians did little better, ranking 12 out of the 15 countries. Canadians, however, also ranked 1st as the world’s most sensitive bed partners, with 51% saying satisfying their sexual partner was their top priority in bed. Another surprise the survey reports is that women respondents turned out to be more sexually selfish than men, with 31% .saying their own sati fraction was most ~mportant in the sack, while 25% of men said their own gratification was primo in bed. Hawaii Dems Make Pro-Gay Moves HONOLULU-While many of the state’s la~vmakers grappled muchof the past year with the issue of same-sex marriage resuiting from what isexpected to be a state court victory for gays and lesbians, the stale Democratic.party made its position dear during its May 24-26 convention. The party’s central committee adopted a resolution opposing any future interfer- P AlrERSON REALIORS" ence by the state legislature or efforts to change Hawaii’s liberalstate Constitution in the court battle. The Dems then went on to oust Linda Rosehill from the key post as its national committeewoman in favor to Amy Agbayani. Rosehill has been very active in efforts to block the possible legalization of same-sex marriages in thestate; Agbayani represented theACLU m testimony opposing legislative efforts. to block same-sex marriag~in the sta~e. Martin Rice, an openly gay Democratic Party activist, was also elected to a position as one of the committee’s 3 vicechairs as an executive board member. Episcopal Church: Gay Clergy OK WILMINGTON, Del. - A court of the Episcopal Church has ruled that it is not against church doctrine for a bishop to ordain sexually active homosexuals to the priesthood, thereby ending the possibility of a heresy trial against Bishop Walter Righter, 72, the retired Bishop of Iowa, for ordaining Barry Stopfel, who is gay, as a church deacon in 1990. The 9 presiding bishops had been considering the issue of whether Bishop Righter should face heresy charges for the ordination for 10 weeks. Their decision was announced from the steps of the net-gothic Cathedral of St. John by Delaware Bishop Cabell Tennis and included little in the way of comment or clarification except that there ~vas "no such written constraint" in church law agaanst such ordinations.The formal armouncement noted that the ruling was not "’an opinion on the morality of samegender relationships." And while Bishop Righter’s trial may be over, the issue itself may be far from settled, some church observers say. The Rt. Rev Andrew Fairfield, the l~ishop of North Dakota mad the onl y dissenting member of the court, said the nmnerous biblical condemnations of homosexuality, as well as Christian tradition and church teachings, hold that"the bottom line is. homosexuality of any kind is prohibited." Some conservatives predicted there would be a schism if the church’s general convention, which will meet in Philadelphia next year, doesn’t prohibit the ordination of sexually active homosexuals. Dr. George Carey, the Archbishop of Canterbury, urged Episcopalians not to over-react or act impatiently as the church struggles with its position on ordaining gay priests ~n a sermon commemoraung the 100th anniversary of the Los Angeles Episcopal Diocese. Carey warned Episcopalians against "walking away from one another" over the issue and said we ¯ must learn to get along with each other despite differences. "We need to learn a uew langnage .- alangu.age of.ac.ceptance and love of one another," Carey said in his sermon at the Cathedral Center of St. Paul in Los Angeles. "’I don’t mean by this we LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: 671-2010 2642 E. 21st Street ¯ Suite 170 . 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The LOg Cabin lawsuit,filed in Travis County state court, charges the Texas Republicans with violating the organization’s First Amendment rights, bias based on sexual orientation, and breach of contract. Lester van Pelt III, a spokesperson for the state Republican Party, toldreporters that Barbara Jackson, the state GOP’s executive director, had ma~.ethe decision to exclude the Log Cabin Republicans because of the party platform’s positions against homosexuality. "Sodomy is still a crime in Texas," van Pelt’~aid. Nonsense, say the gay Republicans€ noting that the booth and ad space hadhothing to do with sodomy. "...Obviously, no one is going to commit an illegal act in the booth." Your P,artners Program or Mine? WEST HOLLYWOOD, Calif. - In what is believed to be the first of its kind in the U.S., the West Hollywood city council has unanimousl y approved a measure that would extend full recognition ofdomestic partners registered in other cities with such programs while in the city. Domestic partnership registration offers few actual benefits anywhere in the U. S., but it could be important in cases for example where a visiting couple was involved in an acci, dent. One registered partner would have hospital visitation and treatment decision rights in such a situation if they were registered in another ci ty. On a more basic level, public businesses or events offering "’spousal"discounts in West Hollywood already technically are required to extend similar discounts to registered partners. And the new recognition measure should have the same benefit for visiting couples, the council hopes. 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It will also be available through a toll-free telephone number based in Florida. The FDA said it approved the home-testing kit for people who would prefer the anonymity of home testing instead of using clinics or medical facilities. There’s no word yet on exactly how much the kit will cost, but it is expected to be priced at about $40. The ~e~." testing system will comprise 3 integrdted components: a home blood collection kit HIV antibody testing ata certified laboratory, and a center that, provides test results, counseling and referrals as needed. The FDA noted that the U.S. Centers for Disease Control & Prevention esumates that 60% of Americans at risk for HIV have never been tested for the virus. The test xs manufactured b.v Direct Access Diagnostics of Bridgewater, N.J., a subsidiarv of Jolmson & Jotmson. Critics of home’testing, however, say the "kit is [oo expensive and that counseling services via phone in such a situation seemed hitor- miss. Gel May Help Block HIV in Women WASHINGTON-Researchers report that a vaginal gel containing a drug known as PMPA has been shown to protect female monkeys from the simian version of HIV and may offer humans the same kind of protection from the virus. Dr. Roberta Black of the National Institute of Allergy & Infectious Diseases,which sponsored the study, said, "For women to have woman-controlled method is very important so they canprotect themselves." Black said much more research is needed - ineluding studies involving humans- to determine whether the PMPA anti-viral gel. could prove safe and effective protection for women. Clinton Signs Ryan White CARE Act WASHINGTON - Saying he hoped to be the last president to have to sign a 5-year extension of the funding program, President Clinton signed federal legislation reauthorizing the Ryan White CARE Act for 5 more years of federal spending. The measure was first passed by Congress 6 years ago and allocates federal funds to local communities hardest hit by AIDS forhome care, transportation.hospice car,e and other support services for people with AIDS/HIV. The spending measure will authorize $738 million for AIDS-related services in cities and towns around the cotmtry during the 1996 fiscal year, an increase over the 1995 level of $632 million. The measure also includes some $52 million in funding for states to provide new HIV/AIDS drugs for residents who can’t afford them, and $10 million for anew program aimed at getting pregnant women to voluntarily seek testing and counseling for HIV. In signing the measure, Clinton said he hoped no furore president would have to s~gn a similar spending measure. "By then, let us pray that we will have found acure for ,AIDS and a vaccine to protect every American," the President said. HIV Particle Counts Aid Treatment PrvI’SBURGH, Pa. - According to anew study, doctors now have a more accurate way of predicting how long people inected with HIV will survive,thereby giving physicians better guidance in how aggressivdy to treat their patients. Dr. John Mellors and a team of researchers at the University" of Pittsburgh Medical Cen- :er have confirmed the relative accuracy of an extremely sensitive new blood test that counts the number of HIV viral partides instead of the current method which relies on counting the immune system’s CD4 T-cells. "We found very stri-kingly that the amount of virus in the bloodstream predicted how individuals did," Mdlors said. "The more virus, the worse the individuals did, by which I mean the shorter time to developing full-blown AIDS and dying." The researchers analyzed blood samples from 180 gay men enrolled in a U.S.government study between 1983 mad 1991. They found that 49% of the men with more than 36,000 HIV particles per milliliter of blood died within 5 years. But only 5% withjust oneninth tha{amount of virus die.d that quickly. "The likelihood of progression ~ncreases directly with the level ofAIDS virus in the blood-,:’ Mellors said. "So we have a pretty good idea based on our study what the expected survival of an individual would be at a certain level of virus." Dr. Anthony Fauci, director of the National Institutes of Allergy &Infectious Disease says the researchers’ findings will let doctors make better decisions aboutwhen to begin treatments and when "to change to possibly more aggressive therapies. "If some individuals have very high set points [HIV particle counts], even though their CD4 cells are reasonably OK, you might want to more aggressively treat those people because you know that you can predict they are going to do more poorly," Fauci said. "Whereas someone who has a low [HIV particle count], even though their CD4 count might not be all that high, you might want to hold off on aggressive therapy. So really, it’s a step towards using the steady state level of the virus much more as a tool both in prediction and in therapeutic decisions." FDA OK’s HIV Tests wASHINGTON-The U.S Food&Drug Administration has given theOKto 2 new HIV tests in this country. The Orasure test appears to be as accurate as current standard blood tests,research indicates, but has the advantage of using saliva instead of blood,thereby potentially reducing the number of accidental needle-stick injuries to heal th care workers. The FDA also gave. approval to Hoffmann-l.aRoche’s SCOTT ROBISON’S PRESCRIPTIONS Serving Tulsan’s " Since 1947 Major credit cards In-store charges or Direct .insurance billing for your convenience! 3 locations to serve you: ~- Hillcrest Physician’s Building 1145 So. 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HIV Cell Infection Agent Isolated WASHINGTON-Government scientists report they have discovered a chemical clue to.why HIV is infectious. Reporting ganciclovirreduce the stricken by the blinding eye disease, cytomegalovirus (CMV) that often attacks PWAs in the advanced stages of the illness. Researchers at the University of California at San Diego studied 725 men during a 12-month program testing the Hoffman-LaRocheversion ofgancidovir, known as Cytovene and found that a daily dose of the drug reduced the risk of contracting CMV by nearly half. risks of being’ " ’in the journal Science,researchers at the NatiOnal Institute of Allergy and Infec- AIDS Drugs for HIVExposed Workers ATLANTA - The U.S..Centers for Disease Control &Prevention has for the first time recommended that health care workers who are exposed to HIVthrough accidental needle-sticks or other medical procedures should be givenantiviral drugs, including AZT and 3TC, immediately following such accidents. The agency says studies now show without doubt the effectiveness of theantiviral drugs in counteracting the virus. HIV Infection Risk From Oral Sex? CHICAGO - A research study published in the journal Sciencereports that the risk of transmission of the simian version of HIV (known as SIV, and closely related to HtV) through the mouth may be higher than had been believed. The Harvard University researcher found that 6 of the 7 rhesus monkeys thevswabbed with SIV in the back of the thr~at became infected with the virus,according to the report. The researchers also found, surprisingly, that far less of the virus - 6,000 times less - was needed to trigger an infection than is required to infect the monkeys rectally with the virus. The study’s startling results are so unlike other research and data about oral transmission risks that many AIDS and health workers immediately questioned the findings. Among other things, federal studies have only documented 15 cases of -known oral transmission and infection of HIV-since the epidemic began. Also, AIDS experts point out, unprote!~ ted oral sex has continued to be popular among gaymen in the U.S. while the infection rate among homosexuals has steadily declined since the routes of trans= missio~a were discovered. Drug Combo Effective WASHINGTON - A 73-week study by drug manufacturer Hoffman-LaRoche of some 978 AIDS patients has shown that Invirase, the brand name for the firm’s version of the protease inhibitor saqui.navir, in combination with the drug ddC, reduced the rate of deaths by more than two-thirds compared to patients taking ddC alone. Saquinavir has been considered the least impressive of the new tions Diseases saythey have found a protein, which they call "fusin," that must be present for HIV to infect white blood cells, the primary target of the virus. Edward A. Berger, who headed the team that made the discovery, said the discovery gives scientists a "new handle on understanding" how HIV invades cells. "Obviouslythis is a potential target for developing new drugs to treat HIV infection," Berger said. "Potentially by coming up with a drug that blocks the receptor, you might block the ability of HIV to replicate." The researchers cautioned, however~ that there were sdll many mysteries about the virus that need to be answered. Among other things, they noted that HIV attaches itself to some types of immune cells in the early stages of the infection without using fusin. This means HIV comes in variations that connect to CELl. cells and some other molecular cofactor or cofactors on these cells. Berger said that potential drugs that block the fusin receptor on cells could only do part of the job in combating HIV. Heat Treatment OK for Expanded Trials LOS ANGELES - The Indiana-based HemoCleanse Inc. has been given approval by the Food & Drug Administration to expand testing of itsblood-heating treatment of people infected with HIV. The 2nd phase of the trials will include 2- hour treatments at St. Elizabeth Hospital in Lafayette, Ind., and the Harbor-UCLA Research & Education Institute in Los Angeles. HemoCleanse’ s treatment, similar to kidney dialysis, involves slowly drawing all a patient’s blood from his body in small quantities and heating it to 108 degrees Fahrenheit before infusing it back into his body. The ideabehind the treatment is that HIV is sensitive to even small increases in temperature and would be destroyed in massive quantities by the treatment. Sixty patients will be divided into 2 groups during the trials. One group will receive 2 treatments each - the first for I hour, and the 2nd for 2 hours.The other group will serve as a control group and will not receive the heat treatment, but will remain on standard HIV drug therapy. Global AIDS Briefs GENEVA - The World Bank has warued in a new report that up to 2 million of Malawi’s 11 million population will be infected with HIV by the year 2000 and the average life span in that so. African nation will drop from 57 to just 33 years. It adds that unless culturally conservative and devoutly Christian people in 22 So. Pacific island nations and territories alter their views about sex education and condom use, the AIDS epidemic yvill devastate that region as well. Sohoma Lane & Diana Nicolejoin Brian & Bill. with Victoria Towers &Veronica DeVorefor a successful Pride Picnic Benefit at Lola’s. Photos: JD Jamett Kathryn Conover at Gayfest, Renegades Brian & Bill ofLola’s Package includes: two nights’ Club Level accommodations at the Sheraton New York or Manhattan with daily continental breakfast and afternoon hors d’oeuvres, a first row center orchestra ticket to Victor. Victoria, cast recording on compact disc or cassette, souvenir brochure, ticket delivery to the hotel, cancellation insurance on the theatre tickets, New York Visitors’ Information Kit and all taxes. $424.00 per person, double occupancy only Extra night available at $132.00 per person ~lt. Offer Validfrom June I to August 31, 1996. Call 341.6866 International Tours for more information. IGTA member. couldn’t happen without the support and hard work of these folks. The Picnic is organized this year by Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR). TOHR was asked by the former organizers, an informal association of business owners (mosdy dub owners), to resume organizing the event. The Picnic continues their traditions with minor changes. After complaints from many individuals about conflicts with Father’s Day, the orgamzers responded by moving the event to Saturday. Also due to ongoing problems with the Mohawk Park site, the organizers unanimously approved Owen Park as this year’s site. The Picnic is an informal affair with free beverages. Attendees are welcome to bring their own food or to purchase food at a modest cost. Any funds raised by the Picnic (after expenses) will "aenefit the Gax &LesbianCommunity Center Project and the City of Tulsa Park & Recreation Dept. A number of community organizations will have tables with information about their programs. Brief opening and closing ceremonies will feature local entertainers, including Tulsa Family Chorale, and Oklahoma City’s The Banned, a marching band (who’ll be sitting down). The Rev. Leslie Penrose of Community of Hope and RF Renfro of Bless The Lord At All Times will give opening and dosing blessings. Info: 743-2497. and $2,500 for pain and suffering as well as attomey,’s fees. Saladin said to TFN that his goal in pursuing legal action was not financial but rather trying to do what was right. He’was represented by Steve Novick, Greg Bledsoe, and Katrina Bodenhamer on behalf of the AIDS Legal Resource Project. The Project is ajoint effort of the Singer Abigail at Concessions Oklahoma Bar Association Young Lawyers Division, Legal AidofWestern Oklahomaand Legal Services of Eastern Oklahoma. ¯ to Lesbian and Gay cltazens instead of ¯ testifying about a bill that would deny ¯ equal rights. "I find instead of defending ¯ marriage, I need to defend the people - ¯ gay & lesbian people - who are being :- denied the right to marry. I do not believe ¯ we would be here today if our society did ¯ not have a deep bias against gay &lesbian ¯ people. I say that not to lay blame, but to ¯ recognize the fact that we are’really in a civil rights discussion about gay & les- : bian persons.’" McDongld further gave examples of " discrimination experienced by Gay per- " sons or persons perceived tobe Gay using ¯ the story of one of her sons who was ¯ ¯ beaten because he was perceived as Gay even though he happens not to be. ¯ McDonald adds that she perceives the ¯ country to bein a"cultural meltdown" not because Gay people may marry but because "we have yet to overcome our intol- ¯ erance and bigotry. Wehave yet to recog- ¯ nize the richness in the diversity of all of ¯ our citizens:" ¯ McDonald closed by questioning the ¯ need for this legislation since the Hawaii ¯ case that has prompted this response is ¯ tmlikely to be resolved for several years, ¯ and maybe not favorably to Gay citizens. ¯ She called on Representatives not to tar- " get Lesbians and,,G,aymenfor discrimina- ." don butrather to ’foCus on the challenges of the economy, of education, and health ¯ care that face all of us." LI L.’T! I~ E:DI#~ GROUP Making W~ld Wide WavesTM ¯ Full Service Web Site TULSA FAMILY NEWS COMMUNI CALEND SUNDAYS MONDAYS Agape’ Christian HIV Testing Fellowship : TOHR Clinic Service, 10:30 am & 7 pm : Free & anonymous testing " TUESDAYS ; H]V+ Support Group ¯ HIV Resource Consortium 1:30 pm ¯ Service, 7 pm : Community of Hope Sheridan Center, Suite H..... 1703 E. 2rid, Info: 585-1800 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 : ¯ ~: !- Co.Dependency ~ Bless The Lord At All ! : °~ iSup~6~t Groul~ Times Christian Center ¯ 7:30, Fa~ly of Faith MCC ¯ Prayer & Bible Study : 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 7:30pm 2627-B East llth : Call 583-7815 for info. : HIVTesting TOHRClinic : ¯ Walkintesting: 7-8:30pm : Family Of Faith.!~[CC " : Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Practice 7:30 pm 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. 2627b ’East 1 lth 583-7815 " Community of Hope : (United Methodist) ¯ Worship Service, 6 pm ," 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 " Family of Faith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Worship Service, 11 am 5451-E South Mingo. Info: 622-1441 . Metro. Comm. Church -" of Greater Tulsa ¯ Worship Service, 10:45am " 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 ¯ Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay Alliance. Univ. of Tulsa 6:30 pm at Canterbury 5th & Evanston, 583~9780 Sheridan Center, Suite H ¯ using fingerstick method. ¯ 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 No appointment required.." Info: Wanda @ 749-419, ..... ~" ~~ Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm" Bless the~Lord At All Results hours: 7-9 pm : Shanti-Tuisa, Inc. Times Christian Center Info: 742-2927 : HIV/AIDS Support Group Sunday School, 9:45 am . _ ¯ & Worship Service, 11 am ¯ Lambda Bowling League " Friends & Family Sheridan Lanes 8:45 pm 3121 S. Sheridan : HIV/AIDS Support Group 7 pro, call for location: 749-7898 Grief Group Butler/Stumpff Funeral Home 2103 E. 3rd St. Call for time: 587-7000 Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pm, 241~2282 $4, Sand Springs Skate WEDNESDAYS THURSDAYS ¯ SATURDAYS ¯ Agape’ Christian ¯ 16.Step Empowerment : St. Jerome’s Ecumenical Fellowship : Group For Women Catholic Church Mass, 6 pm Garden Chapel 3841 S. Peoria Inl~o: Father l~iek at 742-7122- ¯ Community of Hope (United Methodist) i Service for Peace; 6:30 pm : Bible Study, 7 pm ¯ 1"703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 ¯ Tulsa Family Chornle ¯ Weekly practice, 9:30 pm ¯ . Lola’s 2630 E. 15th ¯ PFLAG Family AIDS : Support Group : 1st & 3rd Thursdays : 4154S. Harvard,749-4901 Alternatives : Weekly social events for : : LGBT men & women, 7 pm " ¯ Info: 646-5503 ¯ Substance Abuse : Support Group : ¯ for persons with HIV/AIDS ¯ Narcotics Anonymous Meets weekly at I 1 pm Confidential support for recovering addicts. Results hours: 7--. 9-pm- ,’. - Community of Hope Info~ 742-292-7 1703 E. 2rid, _I0fo: 5~_5_- 1800 NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt Sewing Bees 3rd Sat. :bf each month Info~ 748-3111 OTHER GROUPS Gay~i& Lesbian Student _~:. Association " TJ~-outheast Campus, L!nfo: 631-7632 SW~4N-Single Woments Activity Network Call 832-2121 SATURDAY, JUNE 15 Tulsa Pride Picnic Noon - 5pm. Owen Park 560 No. Maybelle at Edison Info: 583-1248 PFLAG Family AIDS " : Support Group ¯ 2nd Monday of month, : ¯" 6:30 pm ¯ 4154 S. Harvard " ; Info: 749-4901 : ¯ OTHER GROUPS . TOHR Helpline " : Daily 8-10 pm .. For info. or to volunteer: 743-GAYS " The Technicians, Leather try., Info c/o 621-5597 " : T.U.L.S~4. Tulsa Uniform " : & Leather Seekers Assoc. " ¯ Info: 838-1222 : SUNDAY, JUNE 16 Family ofFaithMCC Father’s Day Service with Father Rick Hollingsworth 11 am, 5451-ES. Mingo, 622-1441 WEDNESDAY, JUNE 19 TCAP Advisory Council Meeting Noon, 1430 S. Boulder FRIDAY, JUNE 21 Tulsa Regional HIV Prevention Community Planning Group Meeting 2:30 pm, 1430 S Boulder JUNE 21 & 22 Follies Revue, Inc. Follies ’96 Salutes the Movies! 6 pm, Doubletree Hotel, Warren Place $125 & $40, Info: 437-0201 SATURDAY, JUNE22 Herland Sister Resources Concert: Freefall 7 pm, 2312 NW39th, OKC 73112 TUESDAY, JUNE 25 AIDS Walk ’96 Planning Committee 6 pm, 1608 S. EIwood JUN E 28-30 7th Annual Oklahoma HIV/AIDS Conference "Sharing Our Strength" Oklahoma Center for Continuing Education, 1704Asp, Norman Info: Andy Southam, 800-942-1914 SATURDAY, JUNE 29 That’s Entertainment? BadDrag Show Family ofFaith MCC 8 pm, 5451-E S !~ingo, 622-1441 SUNDAY, JUNE 30 Community ofHope 3rdAnniversary Meeting &Worship Service 5 &6 pm, 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 TUESDAY, JULY 2 Tulsa Oklahomansfor Human Rights Meeting, 7 pm; Chouteau Rm, Chapman Ctr, TU, Info: 743-4297 " i SUNDAY, JULY7 ¯ Native American Worship Service ¯ 6 pro, Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E. 2rid, Info: 585-1800 : FRIDAY, JULY 12 : Interfaith AIDSMinitries : Ice Cream SocialBenefit : 7-10 pro, St. !vlatthew’s Episcopal ¯ 601 No. Lake Drive ¯" Sand Springs,/afro: 438-2437 JULY 20-21 4th Annual Shanti-Tulsa Water Garden Tour 10-5 pm, Info: 749-7898 TNAAPP Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project ¯Support group for Gay & Bi Native American Men, 6 pm at Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd OUT + ABOUTYes, the rumors are true. H1 be uve m our nat~on s capital... ...I would to take this chance to thank a few people for the .$r.eat op: portumt es an l Senulne care they have Siren me. ¯ h~tions make you who you are and what 3’our life is all about. It took working for : Tulsa Family News and Tom to get my ¯ foot out the door and have me doing all ¯ stuff that ldonow. I don’t know if any of : you realized this, but I’ve always tried to promote uni ty in this column as best I can. I have seen this community from drag queens, cowboys, leather folk, .Lesbians and all the rest not having not a thing to do with the others; nut I have also had the chance to see this change. Please folks, don’t stop working together to make our community better! Well I’m getting a little choked up, so let me say my goodbye, and remember: next time you’re out and you see thatperson orgroup ofpeople you think you can’t stand, stop, smile and say something nice. It will make Tulsa a better place for all of us. tops, I almost forgot to name my last Queen of the Month! This person has picked herself up, brushed herself off, and continues to try to make herself a better person. That’s right, guys, Bobbie Sue Summers. SUNDAY, JUNE 23 Statewide Pride Rally & Parade Ecumenical Worship Service, The Banned, Metro Men’s Chorus, Sen. Bernest Cain, Keynote Speaker: Donna Red Wing- ’92 Advocate Woman ofthe Year 1 pm, program begins. 3 pm, speaker Red Wing, 4 pm, parade begins. Memorial Park, NW35th & Classen Blvd. Oklahoma City Info: 743-4297 or 405-791-0202 by J.D. Jamett Yes, the rumors are true. I’ll be leaving Tulsa to go live in our nation’s capital !boy, talk about out of the frying pan and into the fire). I would like to take this chance to thank a few people for the great opportunitaes and genuine care they have given me. Tom Neal, for being that OLDERfoster- big brother (or sister) that has always looked out for me, and who has been pu.shy,er.., pushing me ~n the right direction. Geoff & Earl, and the rest ofthatcrazy group that I call my chosen family - I will be ever indebted to you mentally and physically. Steve & John, please send the Burger Sisters for a visit. Bill & Brain, Lola needs a star on the walk of fame. Dennis, Larry, & Veronica - thanks for the ear bending and all the craziness. Larry and Leroy, thanks for all the support, and many others from doctors and medical staff to all my great friends. If you had asked me years ago to go out into the commu- ~,~ty and do something, any:- Bobbi Sue Summers ," thing to make it better, I ¯ would’vetolAtyou,"YOU’RECRAZY! ~ ¯ No one cares about what I think." It just ¯ ," took therealization that youropinions and " Editor’s note: JD will be greatly missed. While hls unique skills cannot be imitated. Out+About will continue with a new club reporter in our July issue. session. Complicated legislative ntles have slowed down movement on the bill, but there remains very little active opposition to the measure in the legislature itself. While gay rights activists around the country were celebrating the May 20 ruling by the U.S. Supreme Court overturning Colorado’s Amendment2, SouthCarolinaGov. David Beasley signed in.to law. a measure barring same-sex mamages in the state. To find any good news in the same-sex marriage arena, activists had to look to Holland where the Dutchjustice ministry announced it will be putting together a panel of experts to evaluate the possible impact of legalizing gay and lesbian marriages in the country. The Dutch Parliament has already voted in principle to support full equality in marriage rights for same-sex couples, but the government has continued to resist full marriage status for gays and lesbians, arguing that the international consequences for the tiny European nation could be enormous. The committee the justice ministry appoints will examine nfitional and international laws and treaties that might be affectedby such a move. It will have a year to prepare its report, including recommendations for legislation. TV’s "Face the Nation" that the President’s quick announcement that he would sign the measure was "’an unconscionable position for him to take." Mixner said Clinton’s decision was doubtless political in his efforts to keep his popularity lead over anticipated Republican challenger Sen. Bob Doleof Kansas in the November election. "But this goes to the heart of everybody’s civil liberties," Mixner said. "It deals with property rights, insurance rights, xmmigration rights,bereavement rights, and to deny us equal opportur~,~ty really makes us second class citizens. In Seattle, councilwoman Tina Podlodowski, who is a lesbian, resigned as co-chair of Clinton’s Washington state re-election campaign, but said she still supports Clinton in the upcoming election, an echo of the dilemma many gays and lesbians feel over an issue that most paid little attention to until it exploded on the national political landscape this year. Podlodowski told the Seattle Times, "I’m still very supportive of the President but I believe it’s important to show leadership on this. This issue speaks to a broader issue of civil rights." In an interview with the New York Times, openly gay White House advisor BobHattoy said the President had been out-maneuvered by conser= vatives on the issue and said Clinton and his campaign advisers were more "’homostupid" than homopho.bic, ~ayin.g that supporting same-sex mamage now Is "’aloser" politically. "Ijust wish the straight white boys at the White House would educate themselves a little more," he said. "It’ s not that they’rehomophobic - they’re homostupid, and they don’t know that the buzzwords they’re using are the buzzwords the right wing uses as terrorist dividing tactics and that the gay &lesbian community has a visceral reaction to." Both the Human Rights Campaign and the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force have issued a number of press releases in the past few weeks attacking DOMA and criticizing President Clinton’s statements that he would sign the measure, but the Washington, D.C.-based civil rights groups have been unable to find many political allies willing to publicly fight against the proposed legislation as it continues its rapid movement through both houses of Congress. The Human Rights Campaign said that a Clinton endorsement of the bill would be "’an unconscionable capitulation-to religious political extremists" and"demanded" thatthe President oppose the measure. Elizabeth Birch, head of HRC said, "The statement by White House press secretary Mike McCurry earlier this week that same-sex marriagewouldweaken the family was silly and completely, inconsistent with the president’s prewous positions regarding equal rights for gay men and lesbians." Openly gay Congressman Barney Frank (D-Mass.) called the antimarriage bill"a tranSparent political issue in ttie presidential campaign." Stephen Moakarsh, a Los Angeles board member of Lawyers for Human Rights,said, "I think he (Clinton) has been the first president to really include gays and lesbians at the table. For that, I admire him greatly. But I think in terms of the marriage issue, it’s unfortunate that he feds compelled to join with the GOP. My feeling is that Clinton is trying to avoid a political fire storm that the gays in the military issue caused him in 1993." seeking legal protections against discrimination in housing, employment, health and welfare services, education, and real estate sales. Justice Kennedy called "implausible" Colorado’s central argument thatAmendment 2 simply made gay and lesbian citizens equal with other state reside,n,ts by denying them any "special rights.’ The majority decision wasjoined by Justices Kennedy, John Paul Stevens, SandraDay O’Connor, David Sourer, Ruth Bader Ginsburg and Stephen Breyer. Dissenting were Justices Scalia, William Rehnquist and Clarence Thomas. Representatives from serveral Tulsa organizations held a press conference at Community of Hope United Methodist to recognize the importance of the Court’s decision. Bill Hinlde representing the ACLU of OK, Kelly Kirby, the Gay & Lesbian Affirming Disciples ofthe Church of Christ, Nancy MacDonald, PFLAG, and .Tom Neal, Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights spoke about the positive impact this decision would have on the efforts of Oklahomans to seek fair and equal treatment from the State of Oklahoma and the City of Tulsa. Enyart, whose program regularly feain the program along with First Methodist tures anti-Gay tirades, was to participate and First Baptist pastors, Dr. Buskirk and Dr. Shaw, as well as evangelicals like Carlton Pearson of Higher Dimensions andTV personalities, Jerry Webber,Travis Meyer and Paul Serrell. Promise Keepers claims to be a Christian men’s organization that seeks to help them live more responsible lives, to help men strengthen theirfriendships with other men and to bridge societal, particularly racial, divisions. Critics charge thatPromise Keepers has close ties to radical religious extremists, noting that one founder former Univ. of Colorado football coach, Bill McCartney was a key supporter of the anti-Gay Colorado Amendment 2. ¯ Waiting To Invest Could JeopardizeYour Dreams! These are just some of the multitude of reasons people use to explain why they haven’t started an investment plan. Investing for the future is frequently seen as a luxury, rather than a necessity. Something you do after you’ve taken care of essential livingexpenses. Unfortunately, there is rarely anymoneyleftover alter doing that, so it’s easy to procrastinate. But do you know how much waiting, even a few years, can cost you? The chart below shows the monthly investment required at different ages to accumulate $1 million by age 65, assuming hypothetical 10 percent compounded rate of return. What this chart shows is the dynamic power of compound returns. Compounding is the process where each year you not only earn money on you invested principal, you also earn additional money on the money you earned. The amount you earn grows or "compounds" at an increasing rate as the years go by. By starting an investmentprogramat an earlier age, you spread the accumulation task over a longer period of time and enable your money to benefit from the ~owerful force of compounding. Incidentally, $1 million might seem like a lot of money to you today, but in order to generate an income of $70,000 a year forjust 22 years of retirement, that’s how much you’ll need to sock away (assuming a hypothetical annual return of 7.5% and inflation rate of 3.14%). If you’ve been putting off investing, as yourself if it is going to be any easier putting away almost three times as much at age 35, than at age 25? Or, eight times as much at age 45? Your financial priorities will change over the years and your income .will increase. However, whether you’re saving for a house at age 25 or trying to juggle nances to pay for your children’s education age 45, chances are it will be just as difficult. In addition, can you afford not to benefit from the power of compounding? How Can I Start Investing Now? First, accept the fact that there is never aconvenient time to invest. The answer to this dilemma lies in paying yourself first. Before you can do this you need to do a cash-flow analysis to find muela wai_tln , even a l’ew years, can cost you? out where your money is -going. Warning! This might be a frightening process. Once the numbers are laid out in front of you, you’re probably going to see several ways to reducing your expenses. Establishing a spending plan is often helpful. As part of this process, review your accumulation goals and determine a minimum percentage of your income that you’ll need to invest to meet these goals. By breaking the taskdownintomanageable parts, you’ll introduce discipline into your investment program and increase your chances of success ! It’ll take a while, but the long-term payoff for your discipline may be sweet. And remember, your financial consultant will be happy to assist you with any of the steps along the way including informlng you about investment vehicles that can help you meet your accumulation goals. - Leanne Gross Investments Required To.Become A Millionaire Age When 25 35 45 55 Investments Begin Monthly $158 $442 $1,316 $4,882 "People don’t plah ffMl , th yfail to’plan. Leanne M. Gross Retirement programs, Business Protec-tiori Planning Life, Health & Disability Insurance, Investment Placing & Advisement 744-0102 Mention this ad and receive a no cost initial consultation. ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ A Friendly Place to Stay KING’S HI-WAY INN 96 Kings Highway, Hwy. 62 W Eureka Springs, AR 72632 (501) 253-7311 1-800-231-1442 Jerry A. Wilson, owner ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ MCC of the Living Spring ...a community of friends... Rev. Kermie Wohlenhaus Pastor We welcome you to attend! Services held Sunday evenings at 7 o’clock 17 Elk Street (at the Unitarian Church) Eureka Springs, AR 72632 501-253-9337 Geek to Go! The PC Specialist. 501.253.2776 Phyl Boler-Schmidt Systems & Software Specialist POB 429, Eureka Springs 72632 Books, Incense, Candles and Rainbows! Plus lots more! (501) 253-5445 45&1/2 Spring Street Eureka Springs, Arkansas 72632 emrain@rog.ar.ispnet.com AUTHENTIC FRESH ITALIAN RAINBOW CUSINE TROUT ofEureka Springs Recommended by The New York Times (501) 253-6807, Closed Wednesday 5 Center Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 by Phyl Boler-Schmidt Hod boy! What a weekend we had in Blues Festival. The annual event is one of the most popular in the Ozarks, and the 1996 variety was no exception. Thursday through Sunday (May 30- June 2) brought blues lovers of all kinds to Eureka Springs, and the talent displayed was nothing short of magnificient. A preview show took place at Victoria Inn on Thursday to kick off the weekend. Featured performers were Deborah Coleman, Baby Jason & The Spankers, and Martin Simpson. ff you have not been fortunate enough to participate in a BluesFest weekend in Eureka Springs, youhave no idea what you are missing. From Thursday evening through Sunday afternoon, every club in town hosts both big name and local talent. And, the larger venues host nearly non-stop big name performers. You can pay one price to get into any of the clubs, and most folks spend the weekend going back and forth from the various small clubs, occasionally taking time out to attend a big concert. City Auditorium, Victoria Inn, and the Basin" Park and Crescent Hotels hosted some of the best blues talent on the planet this vear. but the most-anucipated event took"place Friday evening. Bo Diddlv performed two concerts along with local favorite The Cate Brothers Band ¯¯ Othernameperformers includedKenny Neal, Raful Neal, Tab Benoit, Chubby ¯ Carrier, Jimmy Thackery, Canned Heat, ¯ Keb Mo’, Robert Lucas, mad Kelly Jo ¯ Phelps. If you find yourself wishing you had ¯ been there, you still have time to get tickets for the 12th Annual Eureka Springs If.you_have not been fortunate enough to partlelpate in a Blue-sFest weekend in E r ka you have no idea what you are missing. From. Thursday evemng through Sunday afternoon, every dub in town hosts both big name and local talent. Jazz Festival connng up in September (19th- 22nd). Events surrounding JazzFest take on the samefeel as for BluesFest. The music is just different. To reserve tickets for the Jazz Festival, call the JazzFest Hotline at 501- 253 -6258. And, there’s always next year for BluesFest. Both of these festivals are major attractions in Eureka Springs so the earlier you reserve tickets, and make your lodging reservations, the more likely you are to getexacfly what you want. Next year’s BluesFest dates are May 29th - June 1, and the BluesFest BrX Office can be reached ~ar-round at 501-253-53ff6. For those ~3fyou whose taste runs mdie toward the fine arts er~d:of the spectrum, the ~nspiration Point Fine Arts Colony will be hosting Operain the Ozarks from June 21st - July 20. Fully-staged orchestra performances will be held at 8 PM at the Fine Arts Colony for the entire month. Reservations and information are available by calling 501-253-8595. Come enjoy the music and the ambience of Victorian Eureka Springs! Gay owned Romantic Suite with Jacuzzi Private bath with each unit 3 blocks to Historic District 5 Summit, Eureka Springs Arkansas 72632 Reservation & In~rmation Se~ice~rallEurekaSprings 800-253-7468 501-253-7468 Adult Accommodation~ In Eureka Springs, Arkfinsas Craftsman-style cottages with beautiful views of the woods and wildlife -.Tucked on top of the Ozark Mountains, just a few minutes walk to the Historic Village of Eureka Springs. 501/253-8281 Frank Green Jr., Ho~ - 50 Wall Street - Eureka Springs. Arkansas 72632 Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library Coming of age novels, as common as they are, can benefit greatly from interesting settings. Theloeale whichhelps Dream Boy, by Jim Grimsley, is rural North Carolina where, yet again, two high school age guys slowly fall in love. Nathan and Roy live next door to each other on the outskirts of a small town. Roy, a little older and wiser, is a popular kid and hangs around with a couple of guys, Randy and Burke, who follow his every move, not realizing that they.actually idolizehim. Randy and Burke, strictly heterosexual, become abit jealous whenRoy starts inviting the shy, withdrawn Nathan to pal around with-them: Nathan’s hom~ life is an uncomfdriable mix of a mentally ill, abusive fff~her and a meek, helpless mother, so fi~ is anxious to spend as much time as poss~i’ble away from home, preferably with Roy, the only person who pays attention t0~m. Through several rocky adventures,Roy and Nathan begin to come to terms with their muttml attraction. Violence interrupts their budding romance, but they are unable to be kept apart. ~ Except for a couple of extremely vio- ¯ lent scenes, this could be a young adult ¯ novel, although adults should enjoy it also. The writing is sim-~ihe theme ...Except for a couple of extremely violent scenes, tl~s could be a young adult novel, although adults should enjoy it also ...Dream Boy is a pleasant, fun read, but it takes a back seat when compared to some other gay eomlng of age novels... of sexual attraction is very carefully and tactfully written. The two maincharacters are well written, but we don’t fully understand the secondary characters, particularly Randy and Burke. Nathan’s father is a pathetic stereotype of a disillusioned, surly and cruel man, and the mother’s character is paper thin, spending her time timidly between her abusive husband and introverted son. Dream Bov is a pleasant, funread, but it takes a back seat when compared to some other gay coming of age novels, particularly Common Sons, by Ronald Donaghe, reviewed in this column last year. The Tulsa City-Count" Library also owns the first novel by Dream Boy author Jim Grimsley, Winter birds. Please check with your local branch library or the Readers Services department, Central Library, at 596-7966, for Dream Boy and other books of interest. by James Christjohn Have I got CDs for you to listen to all summer long! First off,I’ve found some incredible gay-themed CDs. "Stage 1: How I LoveYou"is a true find. A goldmine of love songs from Broadway’s greatest shows, sung as originally written - by men, to men. Like an intimate cabaret show, the songs are set to a s~mple piano accompaniment, and are sung beautifully by some really talented singers. It is a treat to hear some of these songs sung the way we in the gay male community have always dreamed of i.hem - with same-gender pronouns. Tracks include selections from Gershwin to Webber, classic standards to lesser.known~ gems. Highly recommended. Available at selected records stores, or by mail at 800-707- 8683. Wonderful for setting a romantic mood, or daydreaming of Mr. Right. Up next is a great MCC Cathedral of Hope has produced a musleal.... r.egardlng Gayissues f~orn a Christlanstandpolnt.... it was pretty good.... the son~_s are rather beautiful.... [they] range from hilarious " (An Old Fashioned Lesbian Christmas) to moving to romantle. original cast album of "Get Used To It!" byTomWilson Weinberg, who also wrote the "Ten Percent Revue". This album wittily captures all aspects of life as a gay man, from religion to falling in love, gaybashing to what to call your spouse.. partner.., lover. The songs are sung by a top notch cast of very beautiful voices. (My, but we’re a highly talented bunch... and creative, too! What would the straight folk do without us?) The songs range from hilarious ("Breaking the Penal Code With You", about... well, use your imagination. It’s alove song, for those needing further hints. On second thoughts, those needing further hints probably aren’t reading this.) to heart-wrenching ("How We Get The News", about the way some of us find out about our loved one’s death from HIV). This would be show I’d love to see done (or do) here, were the interest to match the actual probability of having an audience.- Available from Aboveground Records, POB 2233, Philadelphia PA, 19103. A little closer to home, theMCCCathedral of Hope, Dallas, has produced a musi- : cal dealing with education and outreach ¯¯ regarding gay issues from a Christian standpoint. "Coming Out, Coming Home: A Lesbian/Gay-Positive Musical ofLove, : Truth, & God’s Grace" (Christians are see Notes, page 14 Bring your pet I/¥ our""~Oot~ 3311 S. 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Now I have to prepare dinner for someone who doesn’t know the difference between fingers, a dinner fork, a salad fork, or a wild fork. But, what is worse in being wrong, ~s that the poor citizens of Tulsa will continue to be deluded about what constitutes truly fine cuisine and what is merely flash and a waste of money. One year ago, we went to a highly touted, brand-new restaurant in Utica Square. Everyone had great expectations, since one of Tulsa’s best known chefs, Kim Michee, and her partner, Julie Woolman, were the drivingforces behind the venture. As we lingered over postdessert coffee, I quipped that unless Helmerich and Payne (owner-operator of Utic~ Square) was looking at the Wild Fork as a tax write- .off, the restaurant would be closed within the year. And, thus, I was goaded into making the illfated bet. They’re still open. The Wild Fork is situatedin~emiddle ofUticaSquare at the site of the former landmark instituuon and tea room, The Garden. Ourfirst visit to the Wild Fork was on a rainy Saturday night, and we were obliged to wait for our table. But, a crowded, bustling restaurant is usually a good sign. We had a bit of an uneasy feeling in dealing with the rather abrupt and disinterested hostesses, magnified by our limited dealings with our waiter, so we wrote it off to the strains of being a new restaurant on a busy night. However, on our several subsequent visits to the Wild Fork, including the most recent when our party was one of only three tables in the entire restaurant, it= is apparent that the Wild Fork is trying for some kind of unique merger between the rude waiters in New York & the snooty waiters in Paris. The Wild Fork is open all day, and there are different menus for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Regardless of the mealtime you’ve chosen, one look at the menu and you instantly know that this is a culinary experience that will not come cheap. It seems as though every review about the Wild Fork written in a Tulsa paper over the last year has raved about the crab cakes. Far be it for us to break with tradition. The crab cakes are a combination of crab meat, corn, and the usual fillers to hold it all together, that is deep-fried and then presented atop a homemade mayonnaise aioh sauce and buried underamound of terrifyingly hot jalapefio cole slaw. Scrape off the cole slaw and enjoy the wonderful calories and high fat and cholesterol content of the crab cakes. After all, what’s a little grease and mayo (mayo is just egg yolks and olive oil whisked The W;ld Forl 1820 Utlea Square HOliI’~: 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. Monday - Saturday, do ed Sunday Cu;s;ne: Amerlean contemporary Dressg Casual (but remember this is Utica Square) Prices: Very expensive Alcohol: Full bar & wine llst Non-smo]dn~ seeHon: Rat;n~: B li~t ¯ together with a dab of spice)? ¯¯ But the famous crab cakes illustrate quite well what is wrong with the cuisine ¯ at this restaurant. First of all, Chef Michee ¯ tnes to be too creative and too innovative. ¯ She takes top quality food, prepares it ¯ well, and then ruins it with a bizarre or ¯ weird sauce or accompaniment. She had ¯ the same problem when she was at ¯ Kannichael’s and at the Fifteenth Street Grill, two of Tulsa’s be~ter restaurants ¯ which are now both out of business. Sec- ¯ ondly, the restaurant touts itself as featuring "new American cuisine," but you’d think the chef had been on another planet the last couple of decades when it comes to presenting healthy, lower fat foods and lots more vegetables and salads. The soups continue the saga. While most of today’s celebrated modern American chefs in Dallas, Santa Fe, Scottsdale, or Los Angeles have gone kb healthier thicke~ng methods for crealn soups such as vegetable purees, beurre mani~, white rice puree, or a simple roux, with only a splash of cream or dairy product, Miss Michee continues to insist upon making cream soups the old fashioned way, based on traditional b~chamel ¯ and velout~ sauces. These can be very tasty, but they are far ¯ too rich to eat more than a few gravy-like ¯ spoonfuls. Same old story with the entr~es. With ¯ the one major exception of the pork ten- " derloin roulade, which is dry and taste¯ less, the meats and .fish are good quality foods expertly prepared--until they are ¯ sauced. Do we really need Moroccan lem- ¯ ons (aren’t American lemons good ¯ enough?) on the free range chicken’? Hot ¯ mango salsas on the meats’? A "creative ¯ reinvenfion" of the chicken-fried steak? ¯ Excellent, huge sea scallops ruined by flavoring them with Pernod (a nasty lico- ¯ rice flavored liqueur)? Strongly flavored ¯ olive and vinegar sauces ondelicate sweet- ¯ breads? It is possible to get a decent meal in this ¯ place, but you must be pro-active to do it. ¯ Find out what is on the menu and ask for ¯ substitutions or deletions. Anything that ¯ sounds unusual or strange should be ig- ¯ nored. If Chef Michee is inthe kitchen, ¯ rely uponher excellent training and expe- ¯ rience to cook ameal to your exact speci- ¯ fieafions; just don’t let her play around ¯ and get creative. The problem with this ¯ technique is that Miss Michee is not al¯ ways in the kitchen, and many a lesser cook will panic when the set recipe is ¯ changed. Also, there seems to be a com- . munications breakdown between diner, ¯ waiter, and kitchen, because many times, ¯ special requests end up being ignored. Vegetables are bland, boring, overlooked side dishes here, almost relegated to the status of a garnish. Salads aren’t emphasized, either. This is the one major area of improvement needed at this restaurant. As is the case in many fine restaurants, the baking is delegated to a baker and not handled by the chef herself. This i~ unfortunate, because we have had breads held too long in the warmer and disappointing desserts on almost every visit. On one visit, our cr~me brfil~e tasted almost curdledand thdpr0pan~ torch used in lieu of the broiler to caramelizethe ~t’op’was unevenly applied. Another time, we had to ask for our coffee before the end of the dessert course just to wash down the dry cake. No excitement or originality here. There is a surprising little wine list with tolerable but limited choices in the moderate and lessexpensive categories, defi-~ nitely preferring U,S. domestic vintages. Despite its shortcomings, theWild Fork continues tobe a popular restaurant . amongst the wealthier masses of Tulsa. Either Miss Michee has a loyal following from her previous kitchen experiments or Tulsans arejust too parochial to know the difference between fine, wonderful food and overly-flashy, overly-expensive messes. Go to the Wild Fork if you like (and you can afford it), but don’t be sur~ prised if you find it to be just another rehash of a couple of dead Tulsa restau-i, rants. wordy folk, aren’t they?) Being of Pagan/’ Wiccan religious orientation myself, I ¯ don’t normally go for Christian music (or " anything else). But I found that I knew and " had performed in shows with a writer/ ¯ performer listed on the album, so I bought ¯ it. I didn’t really think I’d like it, but " thought Tom might. Upon listening to it, " I discovered that it was pretty good. It is ¯ professionally, recorded, and the songs are rather beautiful. Not all have to do " with Christianity, although there are some " .songs of that ilk - and I even liked those. ¯ And I hate gospel music. Go figur!! And, unlike the others listed in this issue’s column, this one includes Lesbians, which is good. I hate doing unbalanced columns. As with"Get Used to It!’"~ the songs range from hilarious (,Me Old Fashioned Lesbian Christmas) to moving to romantic. Maybe one of our MCC’s could produce it? Just an idea... This disc can be ordered by calling 800-501-HOPE.. Dallas cabaret performer Perry Wood has a new disc out. "Let Me Sing" is a lovely album to get romantic with someone while it plays. 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Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Communities - Our Families of the Heart March 15 - April 14, 1996, Volume 3, Issue .1 Anti-Marriage ¯ Run for gourLives, Part2 Efforts Explode Around States I| GOP Presidential Primary and Anti-Gay Marriage Pledge DES MOINES - A number of anti-gay organizations - Colorado for Family Values, the Christian Coalition, the Eagle Forum, the Traditional Values Coalition, and others - drew several thousand fundamentalists together under an umbrella groupknownas the National Campaign to Protect the Sanctity of Marriage, asking all the Republican presidential primary hopefuls to sign their pledge against samesex marriages. Not surprisingly, three of the most outspokenly anti-gay candidates talk show host Alan Keyes, Patrick Buchanan, and Texas Sen. Phil Gramm - were on hand to sign the anti-gay pledge that declares that "the State should not legitimize homosexual relationships by legalizing same-sex ’marriage’ but should continue to reserve the special sanction of civil marriagefor onemanand onewoman as husband and wife." The other leading GOP hopefuls - Senate majority lea’fl~r Bob Dole of Kansas, former Tennessee Gov. Lamar Alexander and multi-millionaire publisher Steve Forbes - all said they would sign the anti-mama,g.e pledge as well, even though they didn t actually show up at the event. Hawaii Anti-Marriage Efforts HONOLULU-In their ongoing efforts to try to extricatethemselves from the politically and. socially charged issue of sanlesex mamages, the Hawaii state Senate’s judiciary committee has rejected 2 bills and accepted one. The committee nixed by a 1-6 vote a proposal that would have simply legalized same-sex marriages in the state. By a 3-4 vote, the senators also rejeetedaprol~s,al thatwonldhavebanned same-sex marriage in Hawaii. The lawmakers finally agreed by a 5-2 vote to accept a proposed measure that would institute a statewide domestic partnership, a compromise proposal that a state see Marriage, page 3 ’Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ Doesn’t Work WASHINGTON-Ajust-issued reported says the compromise policy reached by the Clinton Administration with Congress that was aimed at lessening bias against gays and lesbiansin the U.S. armed forces is being widely violated by the military. Pentagon officialS, however, insist that .the so-called"don’task, don’t tell" policy, m effect now for two years, is working properly. The report by the Washington, D.C.-based group, Service Members Legal Defense Network, charges there is a continuing pattern of abuse by the armed service that has rendered the Administration’s policy toward gays and lesbians in the military as bad, if not worse, than its predecessor. The organization says that despite the seemingly more lenient approach, the nation’s military has recently been expelling more see Don’t ask, page 3 : Legislative Update ¯ OKC Gay Man Helps On Anti- Gay Measure, More on Way : Several OKC sources have accused an : OKC Gay man of misrepresenting him- , .self as a spokesperson of the entire state’s ¯ Gay communities in a behind-the-scenes ¯ deal with OK House Majority Leader :i Loyd Benson. Benson, aDemocrat who’d introduced an anti-Gay resolution, #1045, ¯ condemning teaching homosexuality as ¯ "natural" lifestyle, and adoption or foster ¯ care by Lesbians, Gays or Bisexuals sub- " stituted a bill allegedly at the urging of : Keith Smith who’s recently returned to ¯ Oklahoma after a several year absence "- andwho’s newly hired" as an ad. represen- ¯ tative for OKC’s The Perspective. ¯ The "new" language remains anti-Gay, ¯ condemning more specifically the Nat’l ¯ Education Assoc. for its Gay-positive ~ stands & stating that "those who engage ¯ in same-sex marriages should not be per- , mitted to adopt or provide foster care." ~ Several legislators, specifically Norman ¯ rep., Laura Boyd, who had promised to ¯" vote against #1045, stated that they only ¯ voted for this revised language because : they thought these changes were autho- : rized by "your representative". Both in ," OKC and particularly, in Tulsa, commu- ¯ nity leaders have raised concerns that ¯ individuals lobbying the Legislature ¯ should be clear that they represent only themselves unless they h~ve actually spo’- : ken with community~oups first. No of- , ricer of Tiiis~iOklahomans for Human ¯ -Rights, Rainbow Business Guild or ¯ PFLAG appears to have been contacted. ¯ House resolution #1045 passed 97-1. ¯ Tulsarep. Don Ross cast the only no vote. ¯ Members of several Tulsa groups orga- ¯ nized a calling campaign to thank Ross. : East Tulsa rep. Betty Boyd (Demo.) said : that the only call she received opposing #1045 was TFN’s and strongly suggested ¯" that Lesbians & Gays need to speak up. ¯ Worse yet, religious political extrem- ," ists, Rep. Tim Pope and Bill Graves at- ; tachedanti-Gayamendments tootherbills. ¯ One (to HB 2554 concermng divorce law changes) would ban the recognition of : same-gender marriage by Oklahom~ if ¯ theHawaii courts allow theminthefuture ~¯ abnildl,thHeBoth2e0r5(3a)ttabcahnesdatodothpeti"oRnyaonr Lfoukstee’"r ¯ care by a"known homosexual, lesbian or : see Sold Out. page 3 ¯ II !Native American i Gay Men Gathering ¯ TheTulsaNativeAmericanMenAIDS Project (TNAAPP) will hold a weekend : retreat on May 24-26. The event is open to ¯" all Gay or Bisexual Indian menregardless of tribe, blood quantum or HIV status. ~ Non-Indian parmers of attendees are wel- ¯ come. ¯ Those wlio attended a retreat in Feb. pral~&I the event’s traditional dancer and story-tellers and participants continue to ¯ meet weekly onWednesdays from 6-8pm. ," Future plans include a pow wow for Gay & Lesbian Native Americans. Call 582- ¯ 7225, ext. 218. :¯ TTrUusHteireessFiPrereTse.nWureitdhGAanytPi-rGofaeyssRoerAcomridd Charges of Blackmail Against Univ. by Tom Neal " terhead stationary, of the Paris-Jackson In February, trustees of the University . of Tulsa hired new president Robert Lawless, currently president of Texas Technical University (Tech), to re~ place Robert Donaldson. After the public announcement of Lawless’ hiring on Feb. 19th, major daily newspapers across the Southwest (Dallas Morning News, Houston Chronicle, Daily Oklahoman) and The Associated Press carried reports of anti-Gay comments made by Lawless in a 1993 letter. Lubbock news reports indicate that Lawless responded on Feb. 9 to a complaint by a local resident, Wayson Gerwig, about the appearance on Tech’s campus by Rod & " Bob Paris-Jackson. Bob Paris-Jackson won notoriety as a top competition body " builder. With his partner, fitness instruc’- : tor Rod Paris-Jackson, the pair toured the US (includingan appearance atTU) speak- " ing on Gay & Lesbian marriages. : .According to The Universttv Daily ¯ (UD), Lawless wrote, on Texas "~ech let- " event as "’one of the. greatest disappointments ~n my role as President at Texas Tech.’" He added "the deviant lifestyles portrayed by these individuals is something I can never condone, and hold in great contempt." Students from Tech’s Gay, Lesbian & Bisexual Students group (GLBS) attempted to meet with Lawless in Oct. of ’94, after thc letter was mailed anonymously to the GLBS. According to the UD, the student requestipg.the ~eeting was told by ~’iess" assistant that Lawless would not meet with the student, his opinions had~ noL changed, and that he would not comment further. That same October,The Lubbock Avalanche- Journalreported that whenGLBS officer Roy Mendoza took a complaint about Lawless" remarks to the Texas Tech Board of Regents, neither the board or Lawless responded toGLBS concerns but after the meeting, Tech released a written see Lawless. page 2 :HIV. Education & Recreation Center ¯ Bruce Begley, a Tulsa man living with ¯ AIDS, with several others, has begnn cre- ¯ ating a new sen’ice organization for per- ¯, sons living with HIV AIDS, The HI\" Education&Recreation Center. Begley’s : vision is for a place where persons living ¯, withAIDs(PLWA’s)couldgoforfitness, ¯ recreation and for services that supple- " ment the existing HIV.AIDS agencies. ; Many in the Tulsa community have ¯ responded to his vision by joining the -" board ofthenewly incorporated non-profit : and by donating goods, services and ¯ money toward the HIV-ERC’s fund to ¯ apply for IRS ta~x -exempt status. Newly ¯ rettedboardmembers include local thera- ¯ pist, Sandra Hill, vice president, Steve ," Wilson, treasurer and local businessman, : Scott Perry among others. Begley has spoken to local organizations such as i DignityiIn.tegrity and the Rainbow Business Guild (RBG) about his vi, ¯ sion. The membership of RBG voted in February to donate the balance needed to ¯ pay the IRS application fee. ¯ ,although Begley stresses that the HIV¯ ERC is intended to supplement existing HIV services, he confesses he’s been ¯ shocked by some of the hostility that he’s ¯ experienced from other HIV services pro- " viders. He says he repeatedly heard con- " cerns about"duplicating services". Begley says others have been more supportive, ¯ such as Janice Nicklas of the Community Service Council and Hilary Kitz (ofMayor ¯ Susan Savage’s office) who’s active in ¯ HIV/AIDS volunteer work. ¯ see H1V-ERC, page 3 :INSIDE EDITORIAL P..2 DIRECTORY P., 2 NEWS BRIEFS P. 4 ¯ HEALTH BRIEF~ P. 6 CALENDAR p. ~ : Unity Gardens i First in Country : While Lesbian and Gay activists ¯ struggle for the fight to have our relation- " ships recognized in life, two Tulsa men, ~ Russell Langley-Stumpff and David ¯" Stumpff, are providing a place where Les- ¯ bians and Gay men can have their rela- : tionships and identifies recognized in per- : petuity. The men, who are partners in life ¯ as well as business, have created Unity ¯ Gardens, which may be the first project of : its t~lae in the US. Unity Gardens is a ~ special part of Washington Memorial ¯ Cemetarvwhere LesbianandGay couples, : family, find friends can either have burial : plots; niches in the crematorium, or be : remembered on a memorial wall that ¯ stands beside a scattering ground. ¯ ¯ Unity Gardens will fly a rainbow Pride flag at its center 24hours a day,and on the ¯ day of services, each of the 10 flag poles ¯ that mark the road to Unity Gardens will ¯ also fly a Pride flag under the regular ¯ American flags. And while Unity Gardens are non-sectarian, religious o’r other organizations can reserve a section for their members which could have a reli- ¯ gious symbol marking their area. 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The University of Tulsa has long sought to be compared to the best private universities in the US: Rice, Stanford, Yale, etc. However, somehow its trustees and administrators haven’t figured out that there is a connection between their actions and TU’s continued failure to rank with these schools. By hiring a documented, and at least publicly unrepentant anti-Gay bigot, Robert Lawless, for its new president, TU’s trustees again prove that they just don’t understand that TU cannot embrace prejudice and be a"world-dass"institution. Former Texas Tech president Lawless certainly has aconstitutional right to his bias,just as does a Klansman or a white-supremacist, but usually those opinions disqtmlify a candidate as a leader of university, There is little doubt that if Lawless had been speak)ng about Jews or Catholics, instead of Gays and Lesbians,:when he said in 1993, "the deviant lifestyles portrayed by these individuals is something that I can never condone, and hold in great contemPt,~’ :that Lawless’ hiring would not have occurredl It certainly would not have without some apology or repudiation, which he has refused to make publicly forover three years. Lawles~S; only regrets appear to have been made only just a few weeks ago to the TU Search Committee. This seems awfully late and mighty, convenient. Some members of the Search Committee claim thaLLawless while at Texas Tech didn’t permit his .prejudice to affect his treatment of openly Gay professors. However, other Tech sources indicate that Lawless, in fact, attempted to censor the speaking engagement of Rod & Bob Paris-Jackson, about which his remarks were made. It also is amply clear, from both the Tech newspaper and the LubbockAvalanche-Journal. that Lawless" alleged "’fairness" to professors did not extend to Gay Tech students with whom he refused to meet. Even worse than Lawless’ "’regretted" remarks. however, is the decision ofTU’ s Board ofTrustees’ Search Committee to recommend hiring Lawless with full "knowledge of his remarks. This endorsement Of 14i?~prejudice combines with the refusal several Years ago of TU’s Board of Trustees to add sexual ~nentation protections to TU’s non-discrimination policy*, and with its recent firing of openl~G~i3’ professor Jim Reid (see related editoria!),~ to?di~monstrate the comnutment of the Univcrs~ ty of Tulsa to "World-Class Bigotry" rather than "World-Class Excellence." - Tom Neal *prof. of law M. Chapman notes TU’s policy may. or may not. provide bias protection stnce it mc:ludes legally vague language rather than the standard term. sexual orientation. bisexual". Each bill was passed, as amended by the House, 98-2. Longume political observers hope that HB 2554 will not get.out of the Senate Judiciary committee, headed by Sen. Bernice Shedrick (D-Stillwater) and that the amendment language attached to the popular "Ryan Luke" bill can be removed in committee or in conference with the House. These observers strongly recommend polite calls to Sen. Shedrick’s office asking her to.help eliminate the tmconstitutional anti-Gay provisions. A Senator on the Judiciary committtee declined to comment but added that he felt it likely that HB 2554 would not make it if enough calls were made. (Senate switchboard: 405-524-0126) Dr. James Reid vs. TU Some will find Dr. James Reid’s choices in activities & friends to be worse than the actions of the University of Tulsa. His judgement was clearly poor in getting involved in a friendship of some intimacy (though no sex) with someone who was initially his student. Videotaping their horseplay (which is likely milder than some of TU’s former fraternity hazing) also was foolish. But the actions of the University’s officials, legal counsel, & professors with their wanton disregard for their own rules is more shameful than Reid’s video-taped flogging. The surrender to the worst bias, disregard for academic standards, the destruction of career of a highly regarded scholar, and abandonment of fair p!-.,,y suggest that the TU officials responsible are the ones who deserve to be shamed publicly - if not flogged themselves. - Tom Neal TU : osed to continuedfrom page 1, less is morally opp "homosexual lifestyles does not mean that he is a bigot". Roselle Graskey, a member of Tech’s GLBS, notes that Lawless" statements were a direct violation of Tech:s "’student dignity handbook" which calls on the university to help "’students learn to recognize, understand and celebrate human differences.... [including] lifestyle". Graskey also charges that Lawless did not merely speak out against Lesbians and Gay men, but actually attempted to block the event by pressuring the independent student board that made the decision to invite the Paris-Jacksons. This claim is supported by Lawless’ letter in which he says, "there is a group ~)f individuals on this campus that serve as an Advisory Board to the students who plan the progranunihg in the UC [University Center]. These advisers could have, and should have, acted responsibly in their roles to identify this program as being u/tfit for a university campus and vetoed it from the slate of program offerings that were proposed." (editor’s note: emphasis added) Members ofTU’s Search Committee were aware of Lawless’ remarks prior to recommending his luting according to Business prof. PC Smith. Members. of the Search Committee spoke with individuals. on the Tech campus, who claim that Lawless did not discriminate against openly Gay professors arid even experienced some harassment from anti- Gay forces when he did not block an openly Gay prof. from an endowed chair. Several TU sources claim that these remarks no longer represent his views, teasingly implying that Lawless had some personal reasons for either his hostility or for his alleged change of heaxt. However, all the members of the Search Committee who are TU trustees and who we were able to contacted refused to discuss the matterm any substantive way. One referred all "calls to trustee Fulton Collins who refused to return phone calls, although Collins spoke readily to The Tulsa Worm(The Wormowners, RobertandRoxana Lorton are both TU trustees). Lawless also refused to return repeated calls. TU press representative, Michele Cruncleton, specifically stated "I’m not going to let you speak with him [Lawless]." Also in February, the TU board of trustees voted unanimously to fire Jim Reid, a tenured Gay professor of physics. Dr. Reid was accused of sexual harassment by a 26 year old, one-time student, Marlin Pohlman. Copies ofTU documents indicate that trustees fired Reid despite the findings of the majority of a University Appeals Board that Dr. Rcid’s procedural rights were violated and that TU see TU, page 10 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Barraccuda’s, 2405 E. Admiral *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Ground Zero, 311 E. 7th *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 832-1269 582-4340 744-0896 585-5622 749-1563 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Dermis C. 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The case, brought on behalf of former Navy Petty Office Mark Philips, is being argued before the U.S. 9th Circuit Court of Appeals. Attorneys from theACLU,representing Philips, contend the "don’t ask, don’t tell" policy adopted by Congress and the Clinton Administration violated the equal protection & free speech provisions of the Constitution. Philips was serving on the aircraft carrier USS Nimitz in 1992 when an officer asked him about his sexual orientation. Philips answered honestly & was discharged. Now 25 years old, Philips served nearly 6 years before being kicked out of the Navy and received a number of commendations for his performance, inc. dudinga Bronze Starfor service in Desert Storm. U.S. District Court in Seattle last year rejected Philips’ lawsuit, agreeing with government attorneys that his none of his constitutional rights had been violated by the policy. Red Rock Mental Health of Oklahoma City has opened a Tulsa office providing individual and group therapy, HIV education & prevention. Therapy is available to PLWA’s, their loved ones and individuals at risk of HIV infection. Betsy Murphy, MSW, CTRS is co-ordinator. Contact: 584-2325, fax, 582- 2384, 302 S. Cheyenne, #108, 74103. and AIDS First Regional Begley’s sense of what is needed is " based in part in his own experiences with local HIV/AIDS service organizations - both as a client and as an advocate for " other clients who are more ill. His vision " ultimately would include weight and fitness equipment, swimming, tennis, in essence, a health club for the community. " He’d als0 like to have on site counselors " tO. help with, mental, ~health issues, and ¯ drug and alcohol problems. One service ¯ he’d like to see offered wouldbe prescrip- " tion medicine assistance that would"kick- ¯ in" after PLWA’s have reache.d the limits ¯ of assistance that other agencies provide. " Musing over the personal attacks that he’s experienced thus far, Begley notes that in Tulsa some other social service agencies that provide assistance for lower " income persons, Project Get Together, ¯ Neighbor for Neighbor and Catholic Charities, all duplicate some of the same ¯ services but all seem to co-exist. He just . shakes his head in wonder that trying to ¯ help folks in need brings out a fist instead ¯ of a welcoming hand. : For more information about or to do- ." hate to the HIV-ERC, write Bruce Begley, ¯ president, 1210 S. Cheyenne, Ste. 208, Tulsa 74119 or call 587-1059. ." commission impaneled to study the ques- "_ tion had put forward after the state su- ¯ preme court made it clear that there was a . good chance Hawaii may be legally re- " quired to recognized gay andlesbian mar- ." riages. A just-released Honolulu Adver- ¯ tiser-Channel 2 News poll indicates that, ¯ despite the state’s strong liberal reputa- : tion. 71% of the voters polled said they ." oppose same-sex marriage, while only : 18% said they favored extending mar- . riagerights to same-gender couples. Some o 9% of those polled indicated they were ¯ undecided or didn’tknow. As anindicator ¯ of how worried some state lawmakers are . A comprehensive one-day conference to raise awareness and protnote discussion about the special issues affecting women in the second deco~de ofAIDS. Keynote speaker: Mary Fisher, Family AIDS Network Tuesday, April 2, 8am-5pm University of Tulsa, Chapman Activity Center 440 So. Gary Ave. Registration: $35, includes lunch, breaks and materials. Sunday Services 11:00 am ¯ Wednesday Services 6:30 pm, 7:30 pm Choir Practice ¯ Thurs. 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group Todo justice, love mercy & to walk humbly with OlD" God... Micah 6:8 5451-E South Mingo Tulsa, OK 74146 . (918) 622-1441 becoming, 8 state representatives, backed by Pat Robertson’s American Center for Law and Justice, have filed a court motion to be allowed to intervene in the suit that initially raised the same-sex marriage issue in the state. The brief in the case is strongly critical of the Hawaii attorney general’s office for not adequately defending the state against the lawsuit. Anti-Marriage Legislative Update State legislatures around the country are continuing in their efforts to ban samesex mamages, although with very little actual effect it seems. In New Mexico, Senate majority leader Tom Rutherford sent an anti-marriage resolution on the issue back to the rules.committee because no hearings had been hdd.The proposed measure would ask voters there to amend the state constitution. The resolution is thus dead for this session. Washington state Republican legislators have all but conceded that a proposed ban on same-sex marriage in the state will probably never make ~t out of a state senate committee controlled by the Democrats. Washington state Senate leader Sid Snyder said the anti-gay measure was not slated for committee hearings and will be allowed to die there. The Washington House of Representatives had approved the measure on a 60-36 vote to prohibit same-sex marriages in the state. Gov. Bill-Janklow has signed a bill approved recently by the South Dakota legislature that would refuse recognition in the state to same-sex couples that might be legally married elsewhere and that restricts marriage to opposite-sex couples only. The measure, which died last year in the legislature and looked as if it would suffer the same fate again this year when a committee voted not to report the measure to the legislature for a vote, is the 2nd to become law. One immediate - and surprising - side-effect of the bill being signed into law is that Jacques Soukup and KirkThomas. notable balloonists who are also longtime partners, have withdrawn their support for the Governor’s Cup hot-air ballooning event in the state. The 2 men, founders of the Soukup & Thomas International Balloon and Airship Museum in !vfitchell, S.D., told the Governor’s Cup committee that they Share the Joy Through Flowers Sunday, April 7, 1996 AFS "Spring Basket" Bouquet T. MINGO VALLEY 9720-C E. 31st St. 663-5934 Daphane Cooper AFS 96-EAB1 BROOKSIDE JEWELRY 4649 South Peoria 743-5272 Corner of 48th & Peoria 9:30 - 5, Mon. - Fri. couldn’t be "associated with a government that has just passed a mean-spirited and hateful piece of legislation that hurts US.’" In Illinois, a bill preventing thc state ¯ from recognizing same-gender mamagc ¯ passed a state senate committee ou : Wednesday, March 6, with little opposition. Same-sex marriages "’would destroy ¯ thedefinitionofmarriageas wcknow it," : said state Sen. Peter Fitzgerald (R- : Inverness), the measure’s sponsor. The ¯ bill. which passed 8-2, now goes to the ¯ Senate floor. It puts same-sex Weddings ~ on a listofmarriages barred in Illinois. "’If : we let homosexuals marry, what’s next’?" ¯. said David Curtin, executive director of the Illinois Christian Coalition. And according to a report in the gay paper, Wisconsin Light, state Rep. Dean Kaufert has announced plans to intr~xiucc a measure barring same-sex mamagcs in the state as well. The paper reports the measure has not yet been drafted. Lawmakers have voted 86-11 in the Iowa House of Representatives for a bill that would prohibit the state from recognizing same-sex marriages. Some political observers in the state have suggested the legislation, which was introduced by state Rep. Steve Grnbbs (R-Davenport), was mainly a partisan issue because Grubbs is running for the Republican nomination to unseat U.S. Sen. Tom Harkin, a Democrat. In Alabama, State Sen. Bill Armistead, who recently led a battleto keep a gay and lesbian conference from being held on the campus at the University of Alabama, is proposing a"marriage protection act" that he says would strengthen traditional heterosexual marriages by barring the statc from recognizing same-sex marriages, even if legally recognized elsewhere. Michigan state Rep. Deborah Whyman has drawn fire for introducing a bill in the legislature that would forbid reco~fizing same-sex marriages in the state, even if see Slates, page 11 News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News ¯ lowed to join the nation’s mili- sexuals andpeople withdisabili- " policy is reviewed by the Euro- " Columbia; and Winnipeg police Tutu & Anglican Leaders ." Call for Change LONDON-Hundreds ofprominent Episcopal clerics from around the world signed an ad- ~ vertisement commending the ] Lesbian and Gay Christian ¯ Movement on the ~roup’s 20th : anniversary ofworking to change the Anglican Church’s views on ¯ homosexuals. Bestki~ownofthe -" signatories of the ads, which ] appeared in Anglican, Methodist and Catholic religious publications in Britain, was Desmond Tutu, Archbishop ofCapeTown, South Africa. Tutu was joined in signing the ads by three other Anglican primates from around the world, as well as several bishops from theChurch of England, as thedenomination was about to begin its annual synod. The three other church primates included: Archbishops Richard ltolloway of Scotland, Michael Peers of .,Canada, and Bishop Fxtmrnd Browmng of the United States. Although not attending the cfiurch synod, Tutu spoke on the BBC ~’Radio Sunday" show via telephone. "’If we say that relationships where there is fidelity between one couple a~e acceptable, whv.,should we not extend, the san~e, conditions to stone-sex relationships?" Tutu told the BBC, say~ing it was simply a "matter ofjustice, compassion and consistency’" for the church to accept that there are homc/sexual Clergy, who technically are barred from being ordai~ edin the Anglican Church. So. Africa A nti-Bias Laws CAPE TO\V..~.. South Africa - Politicians,nfilitary leaders and defense indnstry representatives have begun discussions on the role mid nature of South Africa" s maned’forces, includingwhether gays and lesbians should be altary force. The meeting is expected to produce a report later this year that would be used by the defense mimstry to guide it in formulating specific policies concerning the armed forces. Defense ministry, officials noted that the national armed services in the country have never actu. ally had any policy excluding individuals based on their sexual orientation, but African National Congress officials have pushed for including the topic of sexual orientation in the defense review discussions South Africa’s interim Constitution includes prohibitions against discrimination based on sexual orientation, but the complex process of getting from the interim document to a final Constitution faces a number of difficulties andANC leaders are making a determined effort to try to keep it headed in the most progressive direction. Also according to Mpho Makwana, director of the equal opportumties office in South Africa’s Labor Dept., the government ~s wor’king on a comprehensive program for affirmative action that would "’include mainly blacks, but also women, homosexuals and handicapped people." Makwana made the statement during a roundtable discussion earlier this year broadcast on South Africa’s TV1. He did not give d.etails of the affirmative acnon plans, but Makwana said it would"not be a stand-alone lmv, with a quota for compames to implement affirmative action and punishing the company which does not comply." Instead. he said the plan as being developed would aim at getting firms to include personnel training andhuman resources development programs to encourage blacks, women, homoties already wor’king in a company to move into middle- mad upper-management in that finn. CompuServe Reinstates Internet Groups COLUMBUS, Ohio - Compu- Serve Inc., the computer on-line g~ant ownedby H&RBlock, says it has given its 4.3 million subcribers access again to somc 200 Intemet newsgroups that it had banned in Deceniber alter a German state prosecutor questioned whether the groups included illegal sexually .related materials. The compnter sen’ice said at the time that it could not selectively restrict Interact materials bv comatry mad had therefore blocked access to the groups to all its subscribers. Included among some of the balmed groups were several that contain explicidy adult material. But a number of the banned newsgroups were gay and lesbian discussion and support groups, including one for younger gays that specifically barred pornographic ulaterials. CompuServe says it will now give its subscribers software that will let them pick which - if any - material they don’t want to be able to access. The finn believes parents will use the bloc’king utilities to keep children from seeing or reading nmtefial they don’t deem appropriate. : UK to Keep Military Ban : LONDON - The Daily Tele- : graph reports that based on a vet-to-be-released report by the ~ ]3ritish MinistryofDefense, gays and lesbians constitute an "affront to service people" and will ] not be allowed to serve in the ] British military. But the defense ¯ ministry report also predicts that ¯ when a legal challenge to the United Kingdom’s anti-gay ~_ pean Court of Human Rights, ¯ arrested Robert E. Welsh, 24. the govennnent is "’likely to lose" The fourth suspect in the killing, ¯ thecase, which may not come to " Gary A. Kuffner, 27, also of ¯ afinaldecisionbytheEUcourts " Winnipeg, is currently being ¯ before the year 2000. The paper sought. Last year in a high-pro- ¯ said the 450-page nmfistry re" " file investigation of Canadian ¯ port, which it had obtained, is ¯ armed forces, McKay acknowl- ¯ expected to be released soon and " edged - and publicly renounced ¯ concludes that while changing ~ - his ties to several nee-Nazi & : attitudes about lesbians and gay ~ ¯ mcn may justify further reviews ¯ ¯ of the and-gay ban in the future, ~ ¯ "it may equally be that the per- ¯ :~ manent features of the military ¯¯ enviroument are such that it will ¯ never be possible to integrate homosexuals" in the nadon’s : maned forces. 3 Charged in Killing Of ¯ Canadian Man : WINNIPEG, Calmda-Canadian : authorities have arrested 3 men ¯ and are seeking a 4th - who are ¯ believed linked to white su- :. premacist and nee-Nazi organi- : z,ations - in comaection the brutal 1991 mad-gay murder ofGordon Kuhtev. Kuhtey was killed on ’ the mo’nfing ofWinnipeg’s 1991 ~ gay pride celebration, June 30, ¯ as he walked along a riverbank ¯ footpath. AccordingtoWimfipeg ¯ police, Kuhtey was suddenly confronted by at least four young men who savagely beat him in the head, then tossed him into the nearby river and proceeded to hurl stones at his floating body. He died of massive head injuries. Althongh Wilmipeg authorities had little luck in tracking down Kuhtey’s killers, the police homicide and hate crimes refit kept the case open and dog- " gedly continued their investigation. In late February their persistence paid off and the 29th Calgary police arrested Matthew A. McKay, 25, in that city; Penticton Royal Canadian Mounted Police also arrested Jmnes R. Lisik, 22, in British white supremacist groups. Anti-Gay Crimes in SF SAN FRANCISCO -The S.F. ~olice department’s hate crimes unit says that bias-based crimes rose 23% to 350 incidents in 1995 over the previous year, the anti-gay and -lesbian incidents constituting both the largest single category and the largest increase. The hate crimes unit reported that 144- or41% - of all such crimes reported in .1995 were based on sexual orientation and that anti-gay incidents increased nearly a third last year over 1994. Police said it was not dear whether the number of reported incidents reflected an actual surge in anti-gay attacks or was a result of greater willingness on the part of gays and lesbians to report such incidents because of increased publicity of attacks. Anti-Gay Attacks Ignored in Kentucky , MOREHEAD, Ky. - Morehead State Ulfiversity officials disagreed with an instructor’s claim that.an attack on a female student was part of a patteru of campuswide gay-bashing at the school. 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We are proud to serve our communities with sensitive & timely information. 747-5466 POB 14011 Tulsa 74159 News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News believed the attack was related " another high school that trig- " arrested them at an adult book- cious of his motives, which place at a state-funded facility. to "the friends or acquaintances ¯ she keeps." But MSU English instructor Patti Swartz said sh_ej is outraged at the university ¯ administration’ s lack ofresponse ¯ following theincident, which she ¯ labeled a gay bashing. Swartz has written letters expressing her concern to MSU President " Ronald Eaglin and the vice presi- ¯ dents of student affairs and aca- ¯ demic affairs saying the attack ¯ _was just the latest in a series Of ¯ anti-gay and -les~bian attacks. Utah: NotO Eq ual Access " SALT LAKE CITY - The Utah ¯ Boardof Education is writing to " the state’s congressional delega- " tion asking them to back federal ¯ legislation that would make it ¯ legal for local school districts to -" decide what nonacademic clubs " can be allowed on their cam- ¯ puses. The Salt Lake City school ¯ board has also writing a similar " letter condemning the federal ¯ governmentforforcing theboard ¯ to ban all non-academic clubs " just so schools there wouldn’t " have to recognize a gay and les- ¯ bian club that students had asked ¯ to form. The Salt Lake City let- " ter says the school board was ¯ forced into the ban "’under du- ¯ ress" because of a federal law " guaranteeing equal access to " school actavitles for all groups . and clubs. Although the letters both blame federal laws for the dilemma they’rein, both of them ." carefully sidestep mentiomng . that the law - the Equal Access Act - was sponsored by Sen. ¯ Orrin Hatch (R-Utah) so that " Bible clubs and religious ori- ¯ ented groups could meet in public schools. Meanwhile, a group of stu-¯" dents at Cottonwood High . School have am~ounced plans to launch a gay-straight student alliance similar to one proposed at ¯ gered a national furor. Students Cara Varallo and Brin Bon say they met with Cottonwood Principal Michael Bennett to discuss creatinga gay-straight club next fall at the school. On Feb. 20, the Salt I~ake City School Board voted4-3 to end all nonacademic clubs rather than allow ~the gay school club. The Cottonwood students, say .they ,already have 10 students to join the club. Gay Studies at Berkeley BERKELEY, Calif. - The University of California at Berkeley this semester has begun its Lesbian, .Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) Studies minor, the first gay studies minor in the University of California system. The new minor, part of the College of Letters and Science’s Undergraduate Interdisciplinary Studies (UGIS) department, offers four basic core courses and a list of electives dealing with homosexuality, past and present. Initial plans for the minor got started when students at the school in- 1990 protested about the lack of a gay studies program at the university. Some 2.0, active UC staff, faculty and students have been involved in formulating the curriculum. CA Court Rules Against Undercover Stings SAN FRANCISCO - The California supreme court has unanimously ruled in favor of 2 Santa Clara (Calif.) County men- Dennis Baluyut and Job Lopez - saying a pattern of anti-gay discrimination in police arrests was sufficient to demonstrate they were being singled out by authorities in a pohce sting operation by Mountain View police. Attorneys for the city’s police had argued that the 2 men had to legally prove the officers who ¯ store for soliciting sex with an ¯ undercover officer had intended ¯ to single out gays for arrests. ¯ Baluyut and Lopez filed a law- . suit, arguing that arrest records ¯ alone showed a pattern of dis- " cnmination by police in arrest- . lng gays in such sting opera- " t.ions, mid the state’s high court ¯ Sided with the 2 men on appeal. Kentucky Privacy Bill ¯¯ FRANKFORT, Ky. - Ithadmore to do with the kinds ofenormous ¯ computer data files maintained ¯ On pe0pid by bank~, credit agdn- ¯ cies, and other public and pri- ¯ vale organizations, but the stun- " ningly simple idea of adding an ¯ explicit right to privacy to the Kentucky constitution has law- " makers and politicians through- " out the state worried about a ¯ "hidden agenda" covering ev- ¯ erything from abortion rights to ¯ sodomy. But the proposed ¯ amendment to the state’s "Bill ; of Rights" was introduced by ¯ one of the legislature’s most re- " spected lawmakers, state Rep. ¯ Joe Clarke, a member of the ¯ House since 1970 and its one- " time speaker. What’s more, ¯ Clarke, a Danville, Ky., Demo- ¯ crat, says he’s not overly con- . cerned that his proposed consti- " tutional amendment might le- ¯ galize sodomyormake anti-abor- ¯ tion restrictions void. Among ¯ other things, Clarke noted that ¯ the state supreme court has al- ¯ ready ruled that there is an im- ¯ plied right toprivacy in the Ken- " tucky constitution and that it ¯ means laws against sodom) are ¯ themselves unconstitutional. So ¯ Clarke says he’s not especially ¯ concerned that enshrining the ¯ right to privacy in the constitu- ¯ tion would have much impact one way or the other on social legislation. Even so, Clarke says fellow lawmakers remain suspimakes him pessimistic about its chances. "I think it’s an important issue....I don’t think it has much of a chance this tilne.’" New Hampshire Policies CONCORD. N.H. - A group of , parents aud other concerned citizens have filed suit against the Merrimack school board in U.S. District Court, char~ng that the ¯ ¯ board’s recently adopted policy of prohibiting any materials that have "the effect of encouraging or supporting homosexuality as a positive lifestyle alternative" violatedFirst Amendment rights of free speech. The suit claims that the policy has led to books being removed from schools, classroom discussions being cut off, and curriculum topics being restricted. At a press conference, Debra Herget, one of the plaintiffs in the suit and the mother of 3 children attending schools in the district, said, "’This policy ¯ .hurts and distorts the education ¯ of students every day. Now is ¯ the right time to put au end to it ¯- and return to the sound policies which have always guided our children’s education in the past.’" Recently, the New Hampshire’s legislature voted 293-35 to send a proposed measure adding sexual orientation to the state’s civil rights statutes for "’extended stud)’.’" The move effectively puts the proposal on hold for this year while a legislative committee studies the measure and reports back to the full legislature next fall. Alabama Gay Conf. TUSCALOOSA, Ala. - The Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual College Conference of the Southeastern United States went ahead at the University of .Alabama, more or less without incident, despite attempts by state officials to block the confab taking Just days before the conference was slated to start, a federal distrier courtjudge rejected the statc attorney general’s argument that the confereuce was illeg~d and ruled that the conference would go ahead as plmmed. As the conference itself got started, the managerofWMCF-TV, a Christian Broadcasting Co. television affiliate~ charged the statiou’s First Amendmentrights had been violatedwhen organizers refused to let his TV crew videotape the conference’,s, w~rkshops. Organizers of the meeting; however, said videotaping the event wotfld have been disruptive and would have violated the privacy rights of those attending. Mont. Sodomy Law Out HELENA, Mont. - Moutana District Court Judge Jeffrey Sherlock has ruled that the state" s sodomy law is ,an unconstitutional infringement of privacy protections guaranteed under state law. State officials are expected to appeal the ruliug to the state supreme court, although the attorney general’s office gave no indication of its intentions about the ruliug, which orders the state not to enforce the law. The 1973 felony statute "called for up to 10 year~ in prison and a fine of up to $50,000. No one had ever been prosecuted under the law. Judge Denies Custody RICHMOND, Va. - A Virginia judge has again rejected an appeal by lesbian mom Sharon Bottoms in her 3-year efforts to gain custody of l~er son Tyler. Ironically Judge \Villimn B’oice questioned Bottoms" financial ability to care for her son, while he criticized herfor si~nng a $75,000 contract to allow ABCTV to make a television movie about her struggle for custody. 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KS Virus Identified SAN FRANCISCO - Researchers at the University of California at San Francisco report in the journal Nature Medicine that they have finallyidentified thc,_organism that causes Kaposi "s sarcoma, a once-rare skin cancer that now strikes thousands of people with AIDS. Kaposi’s Sarcoma was, in fact, the first indication noted by doctors in 1981 that some unusual h~alth problem was affecting gay meu. The researchers, headed by Dr. Don Ganem at UC-SF, isolated the microbe, -known as KS-associated herpes virus or human herpes virus 8 (HHVS). It ~s one of a growing number of retro-viruses that scientists ha~,’e only just begun discovering and identifying in the past few decades. HIV Strain Raises Fears of Heterosexual Epidemic+,~- BOSTON" - Writing in the journal Science. 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Public-Private Vaccine Venture WASHINGTON - Government AIDS officials have unveiled plans for a cooperative private-public venture aimed a developing an AIDS vaccine by the year 2002, largely by removing government and bureaucratic obstacles that havemade some companies shy away from work on vaccines. Dr. Anthony Fauci of the National Institute of Allergy & Infectious Diseases said it will be years before any vaccine ~s likely available, but the joint project may help smooth out and speed up the process. The cooperative project involves basic medical research being done by federal agencies that private pharmaceutical and biomedical firms involved in the project could use in developing possible vaccines. The project also would establish specific clinical criteria for safety, testing and evaluation of effectiveness trials of such vaccine candidates. 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Call 622-1441 for info, Community of Hope (United Methodist) Service for Peace, 6:30 pm Bible Study, 7 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 TNAAPP Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project Support group for Gay & Bi Native American Men, 6 pm at Community of Hope 1703 E. 2rid 582-7225 or 584-4983 THURSDAYS 16-Step Empowerment Group For Women : Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 ¯ Co-Dependency Support Group 7:30, Family of Faith MCC 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 HIVTestingTOHRClinic Walk in testing: 7 - 8:30 pm Results hours: 7 - 9 pm Info: 742-2927 Tulsa Family Chorale Weekly practice~ 9:30 pm Lola’s 2630 E. 15th PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 1st & 3rd Thursdays 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 Alternatives Weekly social events for LGBT men & women, 7 pm Info: 646-5503 Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV AIDS 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G 3-4:30 pro, Info: 749-4194 SATURDAYS St. Jerome’s Ecumenical Catholic Church Mass, 6 pm Garden Chapel 3841 S. Peoria Info: Father Rick at 742-7122 Narcotics Anonymous Meets weekly at I 1 pm Confidential support for recovering addicts. Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585= 1800 .NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt Sewing Bees 3rd Sat. of each month Info: 748=37t 1 ~... ~q.t " OTHER GROUPS Gay & Lesbian St~utent Association TJC Southeast Campus, Info: 631-7632 SWAN-Single Women’s Activity Network Call 832-2121 TOHR Helpline Daily 8-10 pm For info. ~r to vohmteer: 743-GAYS SATURDAY, MARCH 16 Gaylapalooza, 8 pm Tulsa Performing Arts Center 110 E. Second, Info: 596-7111 SUNDAY, MARCH 17 Miss Gay South USofA Silver Star Saloon 9 pm, 1565 S. Sheridan, Info: 834-4234 FRIDAY, MARCH 22 Lola’s 2nd Anniversary Party 11 pro, 2630 E. 15th, Info:-749-1563 TUESDAY, MARCH 26 Rainbow Business Guild: City Councilor Gary Watts 7 pro, Chinese Buffet, 6219 E. 61 Dinner Meeting, Info: 665-5174 FRIDAY, MARCH 29 Community ofHope Movie Night & Discussion: Priest 7:30pro, 1703 E. 2rid, Info: 585-1800 SUNDAY, MARCH 31 St. Jerome’s Catholic Church The Passion ofOur Lord 6 pro, The Garden Chapel, 3841 S. Peoria Info: page Father Rick at 646-7116 and Family ofFaith MCC Palm Sunday 11 am, 5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 TUESDAY, APRIL 2 Women &AIDS Conference. 8am- 5 pm Chapman Activity Ctr., Univ. of Tulsa 5th St. west of Harvard, Info: 743-4297 and Tulsa Oklahomansfor Human Rights Community Meeting, 7 pm Chapman Activity Ctr., Univ. of Tulsa WEDNESDAY, APRIL 3 FamilyofFaith MCC Spy Wednesday 6:30 pm, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 THURSDAY, APRIL 4 Maundy Thursday at Family ofFaith MCC 7 pro, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441, and St. Jerome’s Catholic Church 6 pro, The Garden Chapel, 3841 S. Peoria and The First Day ofPassover FRIDAY, APRIL 5 Good Friday at Family ofFaith MCC 7 pm, 5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 and St. Jerome’s Catholic Church 6 pm, The Garden Chapel~3841 S. Peoria SATURDAY, APRIL 6 The Great Vigil ofEaster St. Jerome’s Catholic Church 6 pm, The Garden Chapel, 3841 S. Peoria SUNDAY, APRIL 7 Easter at St. Jerome’s Catholic Church 8:30 am, The Garden Chape, and Family ofFaith MCC 11 am, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441, and Agape Christian Fellowship 21st & Sheridan, Info: 599-7688, and MCC ofGreater Tulsa 1623 N. Maplewood, Info: 838-1715 TUESDAY, APRIL 9 AIDS Coalition ofTulsa Mental Health Needs of HIVIAIDS Providers. Noon - 1:30 pm, Mental Health As’soc. 1870 S. Boulder WEDNESDAY, APRIL 10 The Technicians ( [2ather org.) 7:30 pm, Rum Runner’s Hideaway, formerlv Jesse’s 822 ~o. Sheridan, 835-6535 FRIDAY, APRIL 12 Safe, Haven, a free, non-political, nonreligious, non-recovery-oriented social gathering for LGBT young adults. 18-30 Family of Faith MCC. 8 - midnight 5451-E S. Mingo, Info:-622:1441 SATURDAY, APRIL 13 Dignityllntegrity Meeting Lesbian/Gay Cathohcs & Episcopalians 5 pm, St. Dunstan’s Episcopal Church 5635 E. 71st, Into: POB 701044, 74170 Out & About by JD Jamett " I was truly out & about this past several weeks. Did vou that Kansas City has river boat casino~? Well this poor l~oy fo_..und out andlost afew dollars whileroymo!her became the Queer/of the SLots. Then it was out of K.C.and down to New Orleans for the Pantheon Leather Awards. This was truly an experience unto itself. Just ask Larry Everett (International Mr. Leather) how goodhe looks in a feathered mask and .boa, and how he and 2 other international title holders ~practically brought down the house. Also ~e former Oklahomam (oops - Oklaho-woman?) received one of the Reader’s Choice of the Year awards from the Leather Journal (Pantheon Leather Awards is the Leather Journal’s and the leather community’s Academy Awards). see JD, page 13 mm mm mmmmm mmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm The-University of Tulsa presents ¯¯¯ ¯ ¯: A Weekend of One Act Plays ¯¯ April 12, 13, & 14, Fri. &.Sat. at~7pm, Sun. at 2pm & 7:30prn ¯ Theatre 2, Kendall Hall, Free to the public. ¯¯ including ¯¯ On Tidy Endings by Harvey Fierstein ¯ HlVariations: Cater Waiter, ¯¯ Andre’s Mother, and Mr Rosen’s Son ¯ ¯ (both on Sunday at 2pm) ¯ Also, Diaries ¯ An original one-act musical of politics, religion and Gay life. ¯¯ by Jennifer Hoyer, Gabriel Washam,& James Gregory ¯ Mon, April 29 at 7pm in Chapman Hall ¯¯ For more info, call 631-2566 mmnmmm mmmmmmm mm mm mmmm mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Saint Jerome Ecumenicaf Cathdic Church Tile Key. 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During that meet- - ing, Dr. Reid claims, he was pressured and ¯ intimidated by TU s counsel, Fred Corengaged in selective enforcement of its " nish. Reid, who holds dual citizenship sexual harassmentpolicy,specifically be- from Canada and the United Kingdom, cause the complaint involved same-gen- . adds that as a resident alien, he did not derparticipants,andsadomasochisticcon- " know exacdy what his rights were and duct.. This board concluded that TU did ¯ that he was fearfd of being deported, : not prove as required that Dr. Reid had " even though he’d committed no crime. ¯ engaged in sexual harassment. . d ~ ~ Furthermore, the Appeals Board f.oun_d ~- ~fthesevenmembersoftheUABoar ,.. ~i that~iri the:heating Reid f’mally received, four found the sanction of firinglo be too,.:, the i:eview ,e,ommittee improperly resevere and of those, three stai~dthat the:~ ¯ stridted)Reid s attoraey from adequate sanct|on was disproporfouate to the mis-: " access to Pohlman f0r cross-exzmiuation conduct provenandrecommendeda’sanc- ~." and that TUcounsel improperly asserted tionotherthandisnussal,addingth~it . ~ . attorney-client;privilege on the part of procedural violations so colored the~ ~ Provost Lewis.-Dune,an, Vice-Provost decision,..that the sanction is fundamen-~ ~ Allen Soltow,. Physics chair Kenneth rally unfair". > : : - , . :~ KuenlaoldandTU Gen. Counsel,Barbara .~ccordingft0 .Reid,. he and Marlin : Geffem ’. :. ~ " ~:, : ..’ . i: Pohlman beb,ame invol.ved in a consen-:. Despite,the numerous finding of sensual, non4exual, Social friendship that began when Pohlman was a student in Reid’s class. Reid notes that Pohlmanmmntained the friendship long after the class ended, accepting invitations to visit Reid in Iris home and complaint, nolonger even was aTU student but never-the-less, TU officials provided him with housing ,’rod,also legal counsel, Fred Cornish. Cor- ~fish also happened to be representing the umversitv at the same time. This alleganon is jdst one of the many procedural v~olauons of TU’s own regulauons. Other procedural violations found against TU by its own Appeals Board include no notice of the meeting at which Reid was charged, though he was not .~iven written notice of the charges as is ~equired,immediately suspended, was escorted by armed guard from campus, and not being given adequate time to retmn counsel - all of which were violations of : ous improprieties on ihe part of the Uni: ¯ versity of Tulsa and its agents, and the recommendation by the majority of the : University Appeals Board that a milder : sanction is appropriate, Pres. Robert ¯ Donaldson sent a letter to iheTU trustees : claiming theAppeals Boardrecommended : termination. All the trustees of the Uni- ¯ versity ofTulsapresent votedunanimously : on Feb. 7 to fire Dr. James Reid, thus : destroying his career. Keith Bailey, chair- : man of the board of trustees of the University of Tulsa only would say that it would : no[ be appropriate to discuss Dr. Reid’s ¯ case. : Reid, who’s since moved to the Northwest, has been reduced to menial labor : and the kindness of old friends. While he : admits to poor judgement in his friend- : ship with Pohlman, he says that TU’s rife with rumors of heterosexual misconduct see TU. page 13 RIBBON ’ MAY 25 7:50P."vl TULSA ICE ARENA 6910 S. 1015T E. A’v~E 7IST AND Mg’,IGO BEHDCD THE F2 PRICE ST( YRE .AA.,L T.,ICKET PROCEEDS TO BENEFtT READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library Joining the growing list oftitles .about coming ofage in the.1990s is this eye-0pening example by Linnea Due. With seven lengthy essays, Due takes us on a tour across the United States, highlighted by interviews with Gay and Lesbian youth. From Portland, Oregon to New Orleans to Hai’vey MilkHJgliSdhoolinNew York City, we meet many witty, defiant and frustrated youth who arecoming to terms with their sexual orientation and surroundings. An interesting entry centers around a young man, John, who grew up in Colorado Springs, during the Amendment 2 battle, and is now attending a Santa Fe high school He tries very hard to not believe the terrible things he has heard about homosexuals, but he doesn’t get the support or information from farnily, friends or soc,ety to make informed decisions. He is constantly told that being gay is a choice, and the depths of his despair are revealed as he sarcastically responds, "Sure, I choose to have a horrible life. How about you?" Other youth we meet include a young, black woman dealing with the twin pressures of racism and homophobia, kids at the Harvey Milk "’Queer High School" inNew Yorkand a group of French Q~ter teens banding together for supporL:.There ~is. an overwhelming sense of frustration and lack of confidence in these kids countrywide. As a group, they are discouraged at the lack of guidance and support from older Gays and Lesbians, while at the same time acknowledging the difficulties, from a legal and social perspective, that the older generation has being mentors. The bottom line, if this book’s entries are representative of QSueer youth in general, is that despite the advances that have been made for Gay equality through the years, growing up Gayis still a very traumatic and confusing time. 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Reid feels that only anti- Gay and anti-s/m bias can explain why other professors who clearly appear to have had sex with their students remain at TU while he had a friendship that involved no more intimacy or actions than between twomen boxing is gone. "Rugby players engage in more vi,olence and contact than we did but rugby s socially sanctioned and s/m is not," he adds. When told of how Lesbian and Gay faculty on campus whom he once thought were friendly now malign him, citing his poor grooming or too casual dress, Reid justcomments onhow sad it is that they’re so scared now. He says they know if it happened to him, it could happen to them too. He thinks that TU trustees, counsel, administrators, all know that their actions are indefensible, but they thought they couldjustcover it all up, or thathe couldn’t get any help, .oi: that he’d be too intimidated. For the future, Reid’s working with national legal aid orgamzations to pursue a lawsuit. Meanwhile, one faculty member with a penchant for gossip says what really got TU scared was Pohlmar] threatening to take his video to TV’s Hard Copy. Reid says maybe he’ll do it instead. JD cont’dfromp. 9 Well, this month’s feature is as downhome and friendly as a bar can be. That’s rightput on any ofyour favorite drag from leather to lace to good old denim for this establishment and get ready for a good old time at the Silver Star Saloon. This club has been home to such events as Mr.Tulsa Leather, Mr. Oklahoma Leather, Miss Central State, and on March 17th, the first Miss South USofA pageant. The owners, John & Steve, are some of the nicest guys .I know. They have been active in supportzng HIV/AIDS fundraisers and community events like the Pride Picnic over the past 4 years: they will celebrate the Silver Star’ anniversary on April 15th. 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Well, we’ve grown up and discovered that Mexican food can be more than a hedonistic glut-fest or a midnight trip through theTaco Mayo drive-up window. Quite by accident, we came across the Santa Fe. Mexican Restaurant-at 1515 South Sheridan inTulsa;.just north Of the Silver Star Saloon. It’ s been there for four years, owned and operated by the Contreras family, some real Mexico Mexicans, with traditional family recipes and a talent for good food in a comfortable and relaxed atmosphere. And, as a smaller, family restaurant, the waiters and waitresses don’t run frenetically from table to table and none of the faux-Mexican decoration or.m~sic rears its ugly head as we see so:-oft~nfi~iithe chain establishments. Theb~i~appears unpretentious and the inside decor is quite modest. Butprices are extremely reasonable for a large plate of excellent-,[~. On weekdays, there is a luncheon biiffei’for $5:50 per person, and most of the a la carte entrees are $4.50. There are smo-kigg and non=smOking sections anda:ifull~!~i[~,~,ensed bar. Several ~=tast~:~!:~ups are available as starters. The ~o~.~e is a spicy pork and hominy mix .~*:i~:lots of coriander and peppers: Th~rfi ig"~m unusual chicken and ve~aicelfi sbup;;;vhich we expected to resemble something along the line of : Campbell’s chicken noodle, but which : was a full flavored red stock, full of bro- ¯ ken pieces of angel hair pasta noodles. A chicken tortilla soup is also available. : Guacamole salad is one of the tdling : signs of freshness with Mexican food. As ¯ youmay know frommaking guacamole at : home, once cut, the avocado very quickly ~ turns brown on exposure to air, so lemon ¯ or lime juice is squeezed on to the cut surfaces to retard discoloration. The ~ guacamole at SantaFe was freshly made, : chunky, and bright green, with no trace of ¯ browning and no taste of citrus juice-- : this is amazing and most enjoyable. ." This place has some of the best tamales : we’ve ever eaten in Tulsa, made b.y hand :¯ and Steamed the traditional way m corn husks. These tamales taste like what you ¯ might be served by a friend’s mother at ¯ the family dinner table, not like what ¯ we’ve come to expect from restaurants. ¯ Vvqaile all of the traditional Mexican _" entrees are on the menu, you may espe- ¯ cially want to try the chicken enchiladas, ¯ which are juicy and mouth-watering. ¯ Watch out, though, because we did find a ¯ bone chip in the chicken on a recent visit. The enchiladas and other entrees are ¯ available with several sauces,and we com- " mend to you the mole sauce. Mole (pro- " nounced, "MOH-Iay") is a traditional ¯ Mexican sauce made from unsweetened chocolate and hot peppers. The Spanish ~ conqmstadors were introduced to choco- ¯ late by the Aztecs and took the cocoa : beans back to Europe, where the sugar ¯ started to be added. This Mexican sauce is ¯ not sxveet, tastes like nothing .you can ~ imagine, and is delicious. ¯ The dessert list inclUdes a tasty little- " tan, an individual egg custard baked with caramelized sugar that forms a brown bittersweet sauce. Our only complaint is the complementary salsa served is a bit too thin and watery, but it i s tasty and does appear to be freshly made onions and cilantro have a distinctive tastewhenfresh andnot canned or bottled. In themoodfor good, home-style Mexican food in a casual setting? We heartily recommend Santa Fe for great food at a surprisingly cheap price. And, don’t forget to mention you read about them in Tulsa Family News. Santa Fe Mexican Restaurant, 15i5 S. Sheridan. Prices: inexpensive. Service: casual. Hours: 11 am - 9 pm; till 10 p.m. on Fri-Sat; closed Sun. Payment: Visa, Mastercard, AmericanExpress, Diner’s Club, Carte Blanche; no checks. Non-smoking area: Yes. Alcohol: Full bar. Opinion: A List. THE PERFECT WAY TO SHOW APPRECIATIOH MINGOVALLEY ~ ~ 7Z ts,. 663-5934 " Daphane Cooper by James Christjohn Well, it’s not often that a critic gets to ¯ put his money where his Mac is, but now ¯ is the time. I’m pleased to announce that ¯ I amdirecting"HIVariations" - three short ¯ plays - during the weekend of one-acts at ~ TU on April 14 in Theatre 2 in Kendall ¯ Hall, 2pm. Ya’ll get to see if I really do ¯ know what I’m talking about. ¯ "HIVariations" are three plays centered ¯ aroundthereactions of family and spouses ¯ to the loss of a loved one due to HIV - ¯ "Cater Waiter", now in production as a ¯ fflmstarfingDavidDrake, Andre’s Mother ¯ by T,,errence McNally; and "Mr. Rosen’s Son . While the subject itself is rather ¯ - dark, there is humor in these shows. The ¯ cast includes Brad Luna, Karin Sandmel, ¯ ¯ VivicaWalkenbach, and JohnWeller. On the samebill, Harvey Fierstein’s"OnTidy ¯ Endings" is being produced, and some ¯ early Tennessee Williams works are included in the weekend’s festivities. The ¯ plays on Friday and Saturday start at 7pm, ~ Sunday’s plays are at 2 and 7:30pm. The ¯ weekend of one-acts ~s free to the public. By the way, I’m still casting the part of ¯ Mr. Rosen - 50-60 year old NYJewish ¯ man. If you or someone you know fits the ¯ bill, please call me at 583-1248. In addi- ¯ tion, the performance of an original one- : act musical dealing with politics, religion ¯ and gay life, "Diaries" by Jennifer Hoyer, with lyrics and music by Gabriel Washam ¯ and James Gregory, all TU theatre stu- ¯ dents, will be held Mon, April 29 at 7pro ¯ in Chapman Hall. ¯ Phantom was Phabulous! I was irasee next page THEOFFICIAL 25TH MISS GAY PERFORMINGARTSCENTER APRIL 96, 7:30 pM UPLES An Official Preliminary to Miss Gay Oklahoma America Head Co-Judges: Miss Gertrude Garnet Miss Gay Oklahoma America and Miss Rachael Erikks Miss Oklahoma USofA Advance tickets NOW available through Carson Attractions, 584-2000, or the Tulsa Performing Arts Center Ticket Office, 596-7111 Phone ordered accepted, Visa/MC accepted. Call today, seating is limited! For more information, write to: C.P., Inc. P.O. Box 580372, Tulsa, OK 74115 918.428.5330 Portions of proceeds to benefit Shanti, Inc. and Our House pressed with the quality of the cast, and the amazing voices. ls it just me, or did anyone else think that the Phantom was really after Raoul, who was really Phamily, and only using Chri stine as a method of getting closer to him? Then, in the end when the Phantom realizes that, unfortunately, Raoul really does seem to be straight (NOT!), that he should let them go live together? 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For.more information, please call Russell Langley-Stumpff at 918-587-7000. ***Owned and operated by Butler-Stumpff Funeral Home*** Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, March 15-April 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 4 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource March 15-April 14, 1996 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource James Christjohn Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Pat Morehead JD Jamett Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Tom Neal/Tulsa Family News Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Image PDF Online text Language A language of the resource English Type The nature or genre of the resource newspaper periodical Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Tulsa---Oklahoma Oklahoma---Tulsa United States Oklahoma Tulsa United States of America (50 states) Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context https://history.okeq.org/items/show/508 Relation A related resource Tulsa Family News, February 15-March 14, 1996 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 AIDIS/HIV AIDS/HIV AIDS/HIV drugs AIDS/HIV education AIDS/HIV research American Theatre Company arts and entertainment attorneys Barry Hensley Bars businesses churches custody Dave Fleischer Don't Ask Don't Tell estate planning gay bashing Health Briefs homophobia James Christjohn Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche legislation Linnea Due marriage Murder Native Americans performing arts PFLAG Read All About It Red Ribbon Revue restaurants schools That's Entertainment! 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Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Our Families of the Heart UPCOMING EVENTS HIV-ERC + Red Ribb,.o.n Revue + Pride- Bene.flts Pride Worship Service Dallas Leader Cece Cox Hope Candlelight Tour Pride Prom + Pride Picnic O.KC Parade +. ,.Follies TULSA - The next several weeks offer an unprecedented number of community events which either benefit HIV/AIDS charities or celebrate Lesbian/Gay Pride Month. On May 23rd, the Red Ribbon Ice Revue promises a great show at the Tulsa Ice Arena to support Our House, a day drop-in center for persons living with HIV/AIDS. Later that evening, the Silver Star will host a benefit &raffle for the HIV Education and Recreation Center, a new organization headed by Bruce Begley, Sandy Hill, Steve Wilson and others. OnSaturday and Sunday,June 8-9th,the Hope Candlelight Tour will feature the homes of Tina & Steven David, Judy & Bill Fisher, P.S. Gordon & Duane Men Ne, Mary McMahon, and Ouida & Robert Merrifield to benefit St. Joseph’s Residence/Catholic Charities and RAIN, the Regional Interfaith AIDS Network. Tickets are $10 and are available at Charles Faudree, 1345 E. 15th, and at MA Doran Gallery, 3509 S. Peoria. The very distinguished organizing committee also has planned a number of patron events - for more information, call 747-9706. Near the end of. the month, June 21 & 22, Follies Revue, Inc. will present Follies ’96 Salutes the Movies at the Doubletree Hotel, Warren Place. It’s a dinner and a show you won’t want to miss. The beneficiaries are TOHR, HIV Resource Consortium, Interfaith AIDS Ministries, Shanti, Visiting Nurses Assoc. RAIN and St. Joseph’s Residence/Catholic Charities. For tickets, call the PAC box office, Carson Attractions, and Tickets by Phone. For June, the traditional Lesbian/Gay Pride month worldwide, Tulsa volunteers have planned a number of events. The month will begin by the first ecumenical Pride Worship Service. Hosted by St. Jerome at the Garden Chapel, 3841 S. Peoria at 6 pm on Saturday, June 1, the service will include Family of’Faith MCC, Agape Christian Fdlowship and other congregations: On Tuesday, June 4, PFLAG, TOHR and the Rainbow Business Guild (with assistance from the Bisexual, Lesbian, Gay Trans Alliance, BLGTA) will present Cece Cox, president of the Dallas Gay & Lesbian Alliance (DGLA), one of the most dynamic activists in the Southwest and a native of Bartlesville. She will be talking about the Marriage Project of the DGLA as well as her work as co-chair of GLAAD/Dallas. The dinner will be held in the Chouteau Room of the Chapman Student Center of the University of Tulsa at 6:30. The dinner is $10 but the speech is free at about 7:45. June 8th, TOHR and TU’s BLGTA will host a Pride see Pride, page 3 MARRIAGE The attack begins at the national level led by Oklahoma Rep. Steve Largent & Sen. Don Nickles. WASHINGTON - Confronted with a flagging presidential campaign and convinced they’ve found a one-sided wedge issue that could embarrass President Clinton’s campaign efforts, Republican lawmakers have introduced. ameasure, titled the"Defense ofMamageAct" (DOMA), that would define marriage as"only a legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife." The proposed law Was introduced by Republican Reps. Bob Barr of Georgia and by Steve Largent & by Sen. Don Nickles of Oklahoma. Senate Majority Leader Bob Dole of Kansas, who all but has the GOP’s presidential nomination sewn up, became the first Senate co-sponsor of the measure. During the Iowa primary caucuses, when Republican hopefuls were asked to sign a pledge to fight any effort in Congress to legalize same-sex marriages, Dole said the pledge doesn’t go far enough" and added; "Government at all levels must work to support and promote the institution of marriage that unites husband and wife." Just days before the proposed legislation was introduced in Congress, Dole campaign officials told reporters that the Republican presidential hopeful would be taking action to make same-sex marriages a campaign wedge issue, using Clinton’s outreach to gay and lesbian Americans in an effort to make voters wary of the President’s re-election bid. Clinton campaign officials have acknowledged that the issue is potentially a political landmine during the campaign and said the President "didn’t want to touch it." Even so, when anti-gay activists asked Clinton to sign the anti-marriage pledge, he refused and called it "outrageous." The dicey political question is complicated even further by reports in the current issue of the Advocate, the Los Angeles- based magazine, that claims the Justice Department is considering changing both the IRS tax code and federal immigration regulations to give gay and lesbian couples~the same benefits in these two areas as legally married couples. However, \~qaite House spokeswoman Mary Ellen Glynn told reporters that Clinton doesn’t personally support equal marriage rights for gays and lesbians and that the Administration had no plans to implement the changes reported in the Advocate. Elizabeth Birch, executive director of the Human Rights Campaign, called the proposed congressional bill the work of "religiotts political extremists...using this issue as an election year baseball bat to bash gay Americans and score 3"teve Largent Don Nickles Gov. Keating Signs Anti- Marriage Amendment/Bill OKLAHOMA CITY - In a move that surprised Okla. Capitol watchers and a number of state Senators, Senate bill #73, the "Oklahoma Child Visitation Registry Act," passed with an amendment banning the recognition of valid same-gender marriages performed in other states. Only Senators Bernest Cain (D-OKC) and Penny Williams (D-Tulsa) voted against the final bill (42-2). According to Sen. Williams, Sen. Cain spbke with such eloquence against the anti-Gay amendment, that she was moved to vote no as well. Tulsa Sen. Maxine Horuer told TFN that she was not in the Senate at the time of the vote and that the amendment did not represent her position. Earlier, Senator Keith Leftwich, and staffers in Cain’s and Sen. Bernice Shedrick’s offices had stated that they did not think the anti-marriage amendment would remain after the bill returned from conference committee. Senate bill #73 had a correspondingbill that had passed the OK House of Representatives. Gov. Frank Keating promptly signed the bill. When asked about what efforts he or his staff had made to contact Oklahoma’s Lesbian and Gay. community about this bill, the Governor’s press spokesperson, Dan Mahoney stated that no effort was necessary since "it would not have made any difference [to the Governor]." Mnhoney released the following statement: "~,Vhat people do in their private lives ~s none of my business, that is a personal decision. But I don’t feel the state of Oklahoma should bein the business of sanctionpolitical points." Rep. Pat Schroeder (D-Colo.) was one of the few lawmakers to criticize the measure, saying it was meaningless political maneuvering because it would take an amendment limiting the "full faith and credit clause" of the U.S. Constitution to actually bar same-sex marriages at the federal level. "This is nothing but just to stir the political ¯" waters and see how much hate you can unleash," she added. Interfaith / -iDS Ministrie ¯ Seeks Missing Benefit $ ~ Last October, a local bar, Barraccuda’s, contacted Inter- ,¯ faith AIDS Ministries (L~M) with an offer to do a benefit honoring World AIDS Day in December and benefiting ¯ IAM. Months later, IAM has not seen a dime of the dollars ¯ raised at the event, despite efforts by director, Diane Zike. ¯ Several board members attended the fundraiser noting ¯ that the bar charged a $3 cover & had tip jars for donations. At the end of the evemn~,, IAM s treasurer was told they’d ¯ raised $250. Director Zike says that she’d called repeatedly for bar ing same sex marriages. I supported SB 73, as did every member of the t!ouse of Representatives and all but two members of the State Senate." TFN asked about remarks attributed to the Governor that he had said the State Republican Party platform (see below) represented "mainstream Oklahoma." see Gov., page 3 Excerpts from the OK Republican state Platform Page 3, ADOPTION Plank 4: We demand that children not be adopted by homosexuals. Page 6, HIV/AIDS Plank 1: Since HIV is a virus that results in AIDS and certain death, we call upon local, state, and federal governments to deal with thedeadly disease of AIDS in the same manner as other dangerous communicable diseases, i.e. (a) expand universal testing and truth in reporting, which includes full disclosure about the ori- ¯ owner, Sue, "known as Barraccuda. No calls had been ¯ returned by March 26 when IAM drafted a letter requesting ¯ a response. To date, IAM still has not received a response ¯¯ .from the bar. WhenTFN called, bar staffer, Sheila, referred all questions back to Sue. ¯ Zike adds, "IAM actedingoodfaith, advertising the event ¯ and participating [in it]. How can we follow through with : our commitments if those who offer to assist us...do not ¯ follow through themselves...it is not just Interfaith AIDS ¯ Ministries that is being hurt, but more importantly those ¯ living with HIV/AIDS that IAM serves." see Platform, page 7 EDITORIAL/LETTERS/DIRECTORY P. 2 NEWS BRIEFS P. 4 HEALTH BRIEFS P. 6 CALENDAR P. 9 OUT + ABOUT WITH JD P. 9 EUREKA SPRINGS + P. 11 BOOK REVIEW/ENTERTAINMENT P. 12 RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 13 918.583.1248 POB 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-0140 TulsaNews@ aol.com Publisher/Editor, Tom Neal Assistant Editor, James Christjohn Writers/contributors, Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Leanne Gross & Pat Morehead Staff Photographer, JD Jamett Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence should be sent to the address above. Each reader is entitled to one free copy of each edition at distribution points Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. by Patricia Nell Warren ¯ A few days American with ahgeor, oownne aDrgiaunmeePntartkheart whoromteosetoxutahleityJoiug rnnaolt ~ feovoelnamloant aogfepteoopfoleo,l ionudru.ocwtinngmtohtehewrsi~shfFuolrtahitniikneer,s.wSeoemveenoffouosl now ourselves. But it is still conformity. It is not change. genetic. She believes that the "reformed homosexuals" visible in certain videos, programs and organizations is compelling proof that homosexuals can really change. I am always amazed at the power of wishful thinking m people like Parker. Their whole position is based on a fierce belief in this alleged capacity of homosexuals to "change." The videos, nroorams, etc. represent a 2000- vear effort by Chrislaamty to wish away the ~xistential fact of homosexuality, whatever its root cause. The fact is: in repressive umes, homosexuals do not change. They conform. Gay people disagree about many things, but this is one area where we agree -- because so Aetlng strM~ht when you know you re gay ¯ ¯ as not chang . It as not a rnor~al act. It {s not re[orm. It {s not heal{n . It ~s a ll~n~ death. many of. us have lived face-to-face with our own "is-ness’" through long decades of pretense. I, for one, did a terrific job of conforming to the heterosexual canon, as a wife for 16 years. I even tried both Protestantism and.,,_Catholicism in a desperate effort to transmogrify my conformity into change. But it didn’t work. The conformity goes so deep that it can masquerade brilliantly as change. Unlike leopards, homosexu~is can make their spots look like tiger stripes. The penalties for being fingered as gay -- loss of family and job, assault and battery, long prison sentences, incarceration in mental hospitals, to n~u,ne a few - Acting straight when you know you’re gay is not change. It is not a moral act. It is not reform. It is not healing. It is a living death. In the Sixties, a whole generation of youth rose up against all kinds of forced conformity in American society, and their protest embraced this deadly conformity demanded of gay people. Yet today the wishful thinkers among us are trying to engineer the re-imposition of their wishes. They demand it in the name of "saving marriage." What they want, in many marriages, adds up to shapestfifting Of the spookiest kind. It adds up to acting performances that will never get an Os- : car. Those who settle for our conformity get it at an appalling cost to themselves. The wishful thinkers lose their power to see what : is real. They canlook into the eyes of a homosexual who is living ~ in deep cover, and utterly fail to See that person’s true spirit. Even ¯ in the eyes of their own children, parents, closest friends, the " wishful thinkers see only what they choose to see. Heaven help ¯ the American marriage if it is"saved" by people who can’ t tell the ¯ difference between conformity and change. ,, Patricia Nell Warren is the author of"The Front Runner and ¯ other bestsellers about gay life. Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine ,Concessions,.33"40 s. Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan .Renegades, Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 832-1269 744-0896 749-1563 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, &. Professionals Dennis C. 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Ourelected r p- ¯ resentatives" Steve Largent, Don Nickles ¯ and Jim Inhofe again shame our s~te with ¯ their attacks on their own constttuents, specifically with the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). The motives for ¯ thesemen surely rangefrom genuineideo- ¯ logical positions to the basest political .... maneuvering...There is little- doubt that ¯ each holds "Christian" beliefs which they ¯ feel justify discrimination. ~ We can only respond that it is .a betrayal ¯ of the most fundamental American con- . stitutional values to abuse their position to ’" enforce private prejudices. That is, it is ¯ wrong to use the power of the government ¯ to promote or allow to continde system- " atic bias against minority citizens, no ¯ matter if the majority despises that minor- ¯ ity mad no matter if the group is minority ¯ by birth (race or ethnicity) or by choice, ¯ (religion or political view) or by a combi- ¯ nation (as seems to be the case with sexual ¯ orientation). Many Americans havebeen, ¯ and are, racist and anti-Semitic, and yet ¯ politicians realize it is no longer accept- " able to pander overtl.y to these views. ¯ However, election-year politics are strongly implicated in this effort. DC insiders suggest that DOMA is a much a vehicle to divide and inflame the American electorate, to weaken Bill Clinton and to insure that Dole can nominate the next 20 years of Supreme Court judges. So what are our alternatives inTulsa when our elected "representatives" don’t even bother to go through the motions of ¯ consulting the communities that are ¯ harmed by their actions? ¯ The answer’s not glamorous or easy. ¯ Despite all odds, we must continue to °. organize ourselves politically. We must ¯ put the same sorts of energies that we’ve see Attack, page 3 Tulsa, Oklahoma sure feels like ground What a great honor itis to be chosen as the first Queen of the Month in the Out & About column of your newspaper. What a wonderful way to spotlight Tulsa’s diverse and talented group of entertainers. As a general rule, our society has a poor ] opinion of Drag Queens and it is my hope that your column will help dispense these thoughts. For your readers that are not aware, each of the entertainers that I regularly do shows with are also involved in the many benefits that occur around town. The beneficiaries include such great causes as Our ~ House, A .Friend for a Friend, Shanti ¯ Coftdom Fund and public service posters that are placed through out our community. ¯ In addition to being tons of fun (no pun ¯ intended to my size), Tulsa has a diverse : group of entertainers that not only make "- you smile, but further love and kindness ¯ within Our community. Thank you again. ¯ Much love, Kathryn Conover PS, in my entire life, I can’t once remember that I begged for anything. Could JD have been thinking of someone else and intended the very first Queen of the Month to go to another Entertainer? Oh dear, I certainly hope not. In particular, TFN asked if the Governor RIBBON ALL TICKET PR.O,CEED5 TO BES£,FIT TICKETS: HOUSE" $8.0,0B"~EA..[.H..E.R~<, $12.50 ON ICE SEATISL:3 TIC’KET8 A% AL.IABLE TULSA ICE ARENA RE1Nq GADE8 { 17rf’H really felt calling,fora quarantine ofpeople living with AIDS, or preventing Lesbian and Gay men from being teachers represented the values of most Oklahomans. Mahoney responded that he could not speak for the Governor in the particulars but that the Governor supported the platformin general. WhenaskedifTFN could ask the Governor aboUt specific platform items, Mahoney said Keating would not be available for any questions. Prom (alcohol-free) also at the Chapman Ctr. at 8 pm. The Picnic, themed Tulsa United in Pride, will be held in Owen Park on Sat. June 15, from 12 - 5 pm. Anumber of community organizations, businesses and individuals are working on this event. As usual, refreshments are free and a range of food will be available for a modest donation. Owen Park has tennis courts and a sand volleyball court, as well as better parking and more shade than the old Mohawk site. On Sunday, June 23, Oklahomans from all over the state will gather at Memorial Park, NW 35th & Classen in Oklahoma City about 1:30 for the statewide Pride Rally. The Rally will feature Advocate 1992 Woman of the Year, Donna Red Wing. The statewide Pride Parade kicks off from the park and ends up at the NW 39th St. community business district. put into fighting the scourge ofAIDS into fighting political prejudice. Locally, TOHR is doing a voter inform and registration project, call 743-4297 and leave a message for Tony. Oklahoma City folks have created a political action committee, Cimarron Alliance which has funneled significant funds into OKC city council races and to Democratic state senators. Some in Tulsa are discussing similar efforts, here. Also, just call Nickles (581- 7651, the local office can transfer you to DC, fax 202-9~24-6008), Inhofe (748-5111, 202-224-4721, fax 202-228-0380) and I_argent (749-0014, 202-225-2211, fax 202-225-9187). Even if you don’t want to get married anytime soon, tell them you support equal marriage rights, that you oppose DOMA, and that you don’t appremate the scapegoating of Oklahoma’s Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual citizens. Dan DuVall / Owner Anti-Marriage ¯ Efforts Around US ¯ AUGUSTA, Maine - With state legisla- ¯ tures around the country heading into ¯ recesses for the summer, the anti-mar- : riage bandwagon did little more than ¯ bumble along. While Hawaii lawmakers couldn’t muster enough votes to pass an ¯ anti-gay mamage ban there before the ¯ legislature recessed for the current ses- ¯ sion, an Alabama state Senate committee : approved by an 8-1 vote a bill that would ¯ bar recognizing same-sex marriages in ¯ the state, dropping a $1,000 fine for clergy ¯. performing such unions that had been ¯ included in the original measure. The Alaska legislature took a double : swing at same-sex relationships, passing ¯ one measure that would limit domestic ¯" partnership benefits in the state educa- ¯ tional system and sending it to Gov. Tony ¯ Knowles. At the same time thelawmakers ¯ began debate on a ban on same-sex mar- . riages in the state, a proposal that is ex- ¯ pected to easily pass. Kansas lawmakers, ¯ meanwhile, approved an anti-mamage bill and sent it to the governor for his signa- ¯ ture. ¯ In Maine, the anti-gay group Concerned Maine Families has filed papers with the "¯ secretary of state’s office to get approval ¯ to collect signatures for a ballot measure - ¯ that would restrict marriages in the state ¯ to those between male-female couples ¯ only. If the signature~gathering is ap- ¯ proved, the group would have to collect ¯ some 51,000 valid signatures to put the ¯ measure before ~oters- either in 1997 or ¯ 1998. ¯ Georgia Gov. Zell Miller has si~ned a ¯ bill that bars same-sex mamages ~n the ¯¯ state, joining South Dakota, Utah and Idaho as the 4th state to prohibit gay and ¯ lesbian marriages in anticipation that such ¯ weddings will become legal soon in Ha- . waii. The South Carolinalegislature gave ~ its final.OK to a measure outlawing same- ." sex marriages in the state and sent the ¯ legislation to Gov. David Beaseley, who has already indicated he supports the pro- : hibition. The measure would prevent the ¯ state from recognizing any marriage be- . tween people of the same sex that was performed in another state. In Arizona, Gov. Fife Symington signed the state legislature’s 3rd attempt to enact aban on same-sex marriages, making it the 6th state so far to legally refuse recognition for such unions, even if performed legally elsewhere. At the same time, however, by a 34-23 vote, the state House of Representatives passed legislation authorizing tougher sentences for criminals who victimize people based on race, religion, gender or sexual orientation. A similar proposal last year died when Republican legislative leaders objected to including sexual orientation. Meanwhile, a case strikingly similar to the Hawaii lawsuit has gotten under way in New Zealand, with 3 lesbian couples suing for the right to get marriage licenses that were denied them, according to a report in the Queer News Aotearoa. The women’s attorney is arguing that the country’s civil rights laws protects all citizens from being denied equal treatment. The attorney general’s office, however, has argued that marriage is mainly for procreation and that therefore samesex couples are not eligible to marry. South Africa Protects Gays CAPE TOWN, South Africa -South Africa’s Parliament has overwhdmingly approved by a 421-2 vote the country’s new 150-page Constitution after nearly 2- years of complex negotiations and sometimes acrimonious debate. The nation’s new governing document includes, for the first ti~ne in the world, equal rights protections that include sexual orientation. "United in diversity," begins the preamble to the country’s newly approved Constitution, although at least 2 of the country’s right wing political parties said they would challenge some of the provisions of that diversity in court. In fact, .nearly every major party in South Africa expressed reservations about parts of the new document. Even President Nelson Mandela noted that there are still concems among many ofthe country’s minorities about the guarantees enshrined in the Constitution’s Bill of Rights. "The fact that we have adopted this Constitution does not mean that we are not going to address those concerns," Mandela said. "’We will continue searching for solutions because we want everybody to feel that he or she is part and parcel of our efforts to resolve the problems of South Africa." After a long history of white minority rule and rigidly enforced apartheid, the new Constitutions will bring majority rule to the nation when the next g~neral election in 1999 marks anend to the present transitional government. The Bill of Rights outlaws all discrimination in the country, whether based on sexual orientation, race, religion, gender,-political views, disability and other categories. In a cable to President Mandela about the newly adopted Constitution, the Washington, D.C.,based National Gay & Lesbian Task Force, stated, "The South African people have paved a new road of equality and fairness by outlawing all forms of discmnination in the constitution, including for the first time anywhere in the world, the discrimination against people based on their sexual orientation.’" Fewer than a dozen countries worldwide have national laws outlawing bias based on sexual orientation, and South Africa is the first nation to enshrine such protections in its Constitution. Dutch Get Serious About Marriage TIlE HAGUE, Holland -The Dutch Parliament has approved a measure by 81-60 that calls on the government to appoint a commission to evaluate the legal implications, both nationally and internationally, of extending full mamage rights to gay and lesbian couples in the country. The move is several steps from a radical change, of course, but Dutch gays and lesbians, along with progressive politicians in the country, are increasingly insisting on full, equal rights in What is probably Europe’s most liberal nation. What is perhaps most significant about the measure is that the commission is to consider issues such as adoption, parenting, inheritance, taxes, and spousal citizenship of foreigners - an array of questions that other European nations with same-sex .couples registrations have so far ducked or specifically added restrictions to. But as a measure at least of how serious Dutch politicians are about samesex marriages now, public discussions have even reached the level of Members of Parliament debating .whether Queen Beatrix will give her assent to full marital rights for gays and lesbians in Holland. Canada OKs Anti-Bias Law OTTAWA - Canada’s House of Commons has approved by a 153-76 vote a govenm~ent-backed measure that would add sexual orientation to the country’s Charter of Human Rights and legally outlaw discrimination based on sexual orientation in Canada’s regulated public sector workforce, which makes up 10% to 15% of the nation’s labor force. All of the nation’s provinces except Newfoundland, Prince Edward Island and Alberta already have similar anti-bias laws, and the Canadian government has been promising to introduce federal legislation for 2 decades, so passage of the measure wasn’t much in doubt.. Even so, the bill created enormous political turmoil in the country. When 2 MPs in the conservative Reform Party spoke out against the measure by saying it was acceptable for businesses to discriminate against homosexuals and other minorities, the party’s Parliament leader, Preston Manning, expelled them from the party caucus, saying "It is not all right for employers to fire any employee simply because an intolerant customer complaints about their color or lifestyle." Even the ruling Liberal Party showed signs of the tension the measure had brought to Canadian politics. And outside the Parlimnent building, Justice Minister Allan Rock, who formally introduced the legislation in behalf of the government, was greeted by p,rotesters who called him "Alice Rock" and mocked Prime Minister Jearl Chritien as "’Jeanne :. Chritien." The legislation now goes to the ~ upper house of Parliament, the Senate, ¯ where it is also expected to pass by a : comfortable margin. The measure also requires the royal assent of Canada’ s governor- general, which is litde more than a political, formality. Only 6 nations- Norway, Sweden, Holland, Slovenia, Israel and South Africa -have enacted federal legislation prohibiting discrimination based on sexual orientation. Bosnian War Crimes Nightmare TIlEHAGUE2 Almost ignored by mainstream news media, the War Crimes Tribunal at The Hague has received detailed evidence of atrocities conunitted during the 4-year-long Bosnian civil war cente.ring on reports of male rape as a war tactic and as a method of intilnidating and controlling prisoners. According to doc~unents supplied to the Tribunal by Dr. Mladen Loncar of the Medical Center for Human Rights in Zagreb, at least 4,000 Croatian men were victims of these rapes and sexual assaults - and Loncar says his figures are conservative estimates of Croats alone. At the height of the complex fighting in the Balkans, there were an estimated 80,000 men in intenmmnt camps - Serbs, Croats, Mnslims. Loncar’s medical facility currently sees more than 200 such men who coutinue to live in the general region. Most, Loncar says, have fled to nearby COUlltries as political’refugees - if they survived the attacks at all. Of the patieuts seen at Loncar~ s ~nedical center for severe post-trannmtic distress disorders, most (70 percent) suffered repeated injuries to their genitals. Many of the inert (25 percent) were tortured I~y having objects forced up their rectums. Man)’ prisoners (22 percent) reported they had been forced, under threats of death, to perform fellatio mad other sexual acts with other male prisoners, and about 11 percent had suffered at least partial castration. Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Upheld by Court WASHINGTON - In the continuing war over the constitutionality of the U.S. nfilitary’s "’don’t ask, don’t tell" policy, Lt. Paul Thomasson, a former naval ofricer discharged for revealing that he is gay, has lost an important battle in a federal appeals court decision. The U.S. 4th Circuit Court of Appeals in Virginia upheld the policy bamting openly homosexual women and men from serving in the nation’s maned forces. The case has national significance because it is the first ruling involving the"don’ t ask, don’ t tell" policy to reach the federal appeals level. Alan Moore, Thomasson’s attorney, argued that the military policy of excluding gays and lesbians from the armed services was both unconstitutiolml and unreasonable, considering the young officer’s outstanding record. Moore also took the unusual step of adding First Amendment free-speech claims on top of Fifth and FourteenthAmendment"due process" and "equal protection" arguments that have been more widely used in batding the Pentagon ban in the past. But the appeals court would have none of it and ruled that the president and Congress retain the right to set military policies, and that thejudicial branch should defer to .them. "It was appropriate for Congress to bdieve that a military force should be as free as possible of sexual attachments and pressures as it is prepared to do battle," wrote Judge J. Harvie Wilkonson III in the 9-to-4 majority opinion. The court’s ruling is now applicable throughout the 4th circuit, which includes Vir_,2inia, Maryland West ¥irginia, North CarOlina and South~arolina. Tllomasson and his attorney are now deciding whether to appeal the ruling to the U.S. Supreme Court. MO St. GOP’s Antii Marriage Campaign : ST. LOUIS - In a highly controversial ¯¯ election cmnpalgn tactic that Republican leaders around the country are watching ¯ closely; the head of the Missouri Repub- ¯ lican Party, John Cozad, has launched attacks against Democrats running for state office, accusing them of having financial backing from supporters of samesex marriages. But Republica!~s rumling for office in the state, inclnding many who are seeking election to the state legislature, are grumbling because the attack campaigns are being operated in their races whether they want them or not. And so far in two special election races, the Republicans have lost both campaigns. Not all Republicans running for office in Missouri, however, agree with Cozad on the campaign. Republican Bill Patrick, who lost in the just-finished special decdon in the state’s 6th legisIative district, publicly apologized to his Democratic opponent for thesame-sex marriage campaign launched by the Republicans on his behalf. He called the attack "pretty negative, pretty bad." State GOP strategists in Ohio,, Wisconsin, Oregon and elsewhere, however, say they’re interested in seeing how the same-sex marriage link works as a campaign strategy in Missouri. Helms Ads Attack ¯ Opponents & Gays ¯ RALEIGH, N.C. - Apparently impatient ¯ to get on with the election, Sen. Jesse ¯ Helms (R-NC) has launched a series of ¯ TV ads attacking both the Delnocratic ¯ primary candidates, Harvey Gantt and ¯ Charlie Sanders in a bit of gay-baiting, ; saying both supportdomesticpartner ben- ¯ efits. "Liberal Charlie Sanders supports : racial preferences in hiring, like Harvey ¯ Gantt does, the Hdms ads say. Extend- " ing health insurance to homosexual part- " ners? 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In a press statement, Gantt blasted the Helms TV campaign as "lies and distortions" and said he has never even addressed the issue of health care benefits for the partners of gays and lesbians. British Transsexual Wins Court Case LUXEMBOURG - A Comwall College tutor, identified only as "P" in court records, whowas sackedafterasex-change operation, has won a European Court of Justice battle over the discharge. Thecourt campus ROTC program. The faculty-ap- ¯ proved program would also reimburse ¯ students in ROTC if they shouldlose their ." military scholarships because of their ¯ sexual orientation. ¯ Station Drops Show : That Attacked Gays ¯ AUSTIN, Texas - The Texas Triangle ¯ has reported that officials at KIXL-AM, a ¯ Christian-oriented radio station in Austin, have decided to pull the plug on Wyatt ¯ Roberts’ weekly talk show. Roberts, who is affiliated with the American Family Assn., had called for listeners to boycott ¯ any business that advertised in the gay : newspaper, charging that the Triangle’s ruled that the European Equal Treatment ¯ editorial cartoonist promoted pedophilia, agreement of 1976 prohibits any discrimi- -" incest and bestiality. KIXLofficials would nation based on sex and is not limitedjust to bias based onan individual being ofone gender or the other. The court ruled that the anti-bias provision, which concerns all members of the European Union, should apply "to discrimination arising, as in this case, from the gender reassignment of the person concerned." The ground-breaking decision incensed Euroskeptic Tory MPs in Great Britain and Tory MP Ann Winterton accused the European Court of "meddling" in British legal issues. Anothd~ Tory MP, Elizabeth Peacock, also attacked the court decision. "Ourrules aremadeby Parliament and are sovereign," she said. "They should not be overturned by a European court. Tli~ey should mind their own business." British government officials, said it was unclear if UK law would have to be changed to conform to the court ruling. Some political leaders say the rnling is so sweeping that it in fact may force the government to drop its ban against homosexuals in the nation’s armed forces. MIT Moves on ROTC Bias CAMBRIDGE, Mass. - Faculty members at the Massachusetts Institute ofTechnology voted ovenvhdmingly by a voice vote for the school to negotiate withROTC officials for a "modified program" that would allow students to enroll in the campus military program regardless of their sexual orientation. The move is an effort to keep the ROTC program, which also serves students from Harvard, Tufts and Wellesley, at MIT - along with some $56 million in Pentagon funds - without violating the school’s own anti-bias policies that bar discrimination against gays and lesbians. The proposal endorsed by the faculty concedes that openly gay or lesbian students in ROTC would not be eligible for commissions as long as the Pentagon maintains the ban on homosexuals in the armed forces, but would allow gay and lesbian students to participate in the ." only say that Roberts’ program was being ¯ cancded because of "scheduling conflicts," but Kay Longcope, the Triangle’s ¯ publisher said she believes the ; fundamentalist’s boycott campaign : backfired on him and brought pressure on ¯ the station to yank the program. "I think it -" [the decision to cancel the program] speaks "_ very well for the people of Austin who really do not believe that Christianity is "- based on hate," Longcope said ¯¯ Dole Campaign Ad in DC Gay Paper ¯ WASHINGTON - Senate Majority Leader Bob Dole’s capital campaign or- : ganization has put an ad in the May3 issue : of the WashingtonBladeurgingreaders to ¯ vote for a slate of committed Dole del- ¯ egates. An uncommitted slate, including : seven openly gay Republicans is chal- ¯ lenging the Dole slate, and has already ¯ been endorsed by the District’s local Log ¯ Cabin Club. Many political observers ¯ believe the challenge from the uncommit- ." tedslate prompted theKansas Republican ¯ andpresurned presidentialnominee’s cam- " paagn to put the ad in the paper. The Dole ¯ campaign ad came just days after news ," that Abner Mason, a gay Boston Republi- ." can activist and Log Cabin Club officer, ¯ would be one of Massachusetts’ GOP ¯" delegates to the Republican National Con- ." vention in San Diego later this year. Ma- ¯ son Is a committed Dole delegate. Dole ¯ has had an on-off record with gays during ¯ ¯ his currentpresidential campaign. Earlier this year a $1,000 campaign contribution ¯ from Log Cabin was returned to the groups ¯ PAC organization. Dbleinitially defended ; the returned check, saying he didn’t want ." voters to think he was "buying into some : special rights for any group." But later he ¯ said returning the check had been"a mis- ; take" and blamed his campaign staff for ; the blunder. Even so, Dole agreed during the caucus campaign in Iowa to sign a ¯ Chi’istian.Coalitionpledge opposing samesex mamages. Is Drag Constitutional? FERNDALE, Mich. - The good folks of Ferndale, just outside. Detroit, have become embroiled in a debate over whether some guys putting on dresses to perform in a variety show is constitutionally protected freedom of speech and expression, or if it violates community standards and can therefore be prohibited. The flap has erupted almost a year after the fact, but that liasn’t lowered the heat of the debate over the LavenderMoonCafe’s drag show after Gay Pride celebrations there last year. City Councilman RobertPaczkowski has been leading the opposition, and he said recently that "’a lot of people don’t want that kind of a display right in the middle of our central business district." Paczkowski says Lavender Moon’s entertainment license includes restrictions barfing topless dancing, lingerie shows, and any entertainment that"violates community standards," which he says includes guys dressing up as gals. Town OKs Partner Registration BOULDER, Colo. - About the only positive news recently in the growing battle over same-sex relationships came in the purely symbolic form of a domestic partnership re~stration program approved by the Boulder city council. The registry cames no legal benefits, but allows samesex & opposite-sex couples to legally register their relationship with the city clerk’s office. Proponents said the program could make it easier for registered couples to provide proofof their relationships in seeking work-related benefits. Olympic Games: Utah & Cobb Cty. ATLANTA - The 1996 Summer Olympic Games preliminaries are getting underway with the Saturday, April 27, televised start of the torch that starts in Los Angeles and will be relayed across the counto’ to Atlanta where it will light the official Olympicflame for the games there on July 19 - although not quite the way US Olympic officials expected. Tobegin with, officials at the Los Angeles Coliseum, where the torch relay begins, have been complai~ting that they’re had trouble find fig [eaves big enough to cover up the genitals on 2 statues of nude athletes outside the stadium. The cover-up order came from the Atlanta Committeefor the Olympic Ganges, which said they were concerned that some viewers of the nationally televised ceremony might be offended by the nudity. ButACOGalso has announced that the torch relay would not go through Cobb County outside Atlanta because county commissioners have refused to repeal a 1993 measure that condemns"the homosexual lifestyle." That resolution was also responsible for ACOG’s decision, under pressure from acuvists and rights advocates, to pull scheduled Olympicpreliminaries from facilities in the county. Olympic officials, however, said the passage of a measure ~n Utah barring gay dubs at public schools would not make them reroute the torch around the state. Utah Lawmakers Ban Gay Clubs SALT LAKE CITY - Called into special session, the Utah state legislature spent a nasty day enacting a measure that would bar gay and lesbian student groups from public schools in the state, a measure that Gov. Mike Leavitt has already indicated ’he would sign into law and for which he called the special session. The state’s ACLU has already vowed that if the measure is signed into law, as it’s sure to be, it will sue to overturn it. "Not only does it violate the rights of lesbian, gay and straight students," said Carol Gnade of the American Civil Liberties Union in Utah, "but also everyone associated with a Utah high school, including teachers, administrators and volunteers." Under the lawjust approved by the legislature, school boards will have the authority to restrict or bar any campus club, but in addition, the measure also forces public school officials to ban any that are centered around bigotry, criminal activity or human sexuality. Gov. Mike Leavitt and the measure’s sponsor, Sen. Craig Taylor, insisted that the new law takes back control of campus clubs by allowing school boards to prohibit specific dubs. The Utah attorney general has already indicated that barfing campus clubs that are "controversial" is illegal under the 1984 federal Equal Access Act. Forget Nature-vs- Nurture; It’s Bingo! MILWAUKEE - A judge has tossed out a civil lawsuit filed by 73-year-old Mary Verdev against a local church, claiming she began having spontaneous orgasms and became sexually attracted to other women after an electronic bingo board fell on her 6 years ago. Verdev’s suit was dismissed "’with prejudice" (meaning she can’t refile the claim) because she refused to be examine by psychologists. Verdev said in her suit that she suffered nearly $90,000 in injuries when the 300-pound bingo board fell from a stage at the church during a bingo night she was attending in 1990. Her suit claimed the accident led to her unusual sexual responses. APERMANENT SOLUTION Permanent Hair Removal Carol Anwar, RE, CPE Lic. By Okla, St, Med, Bd. 488-0786 Near 71st & Lewis, Call for info. or an-appt, with free consultation. P IAlrERSON REALTORS" LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: ~71-2010 2642 E. 21st Street ¯ Suite 170 . Tulsa, Oklahoma 74114 Off: 918-749-8374 ° Res: 918-582-7672 ¯ Fax: 918-747-1795 Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Where God Uplifts All People Sunday Service, 10:45 am Wednesday Service, 6:30 pm Home Cell Groups, 2nd & 4th Sun. 1623 No. Maplewood, 838-.1715 Congress Passes Ryan White CARE $ WASHINGTON - The Senate has approved and sent to the White House a measure thatincreases federal RyanWhite CARE Act funds for local care and treatment of people with HIViAIDS to $738 million. The measure passed unanimously by a voice vote in the Senate after being approved on a 402-4 vote in the House the day before. The measure includes a controversial provision, however, that calls for mandatory HIV testing of all newborn infants by the year 2000 if state voluntary testing efforts do not reduce the motherinfant infection rate by then. The issue of mandatory testing of infants has been problematic for many because it necessarily amounts to a virtual inandatory testing of the mother as well. Critics of the provision say ~t may discourage pregnant women from seeking prenatal care altogether. President Clinton has indicated he supports the bill and will sign it into law quickly. Early-Stage Hiding PlaceOf HIV ? NEW YORK - Reporting in tli’e’medical journal Science, researchers say they be~ lieve the mucous’membranes in the throat may be the locatirn where HIV replicates in hiding after individuals are infected with the virus but still show no out,yard signs of the infection. The researchers, led by Ralph Steirmaan of Rockefeller University, said they made the discovery after examining enlarged adenoids removed from 13 patients and found large mnounts of the virus replicating in the glands’ dendritic cells, the inm~une cells found in the membranes. Eleven of the 13 i;ffected people were una~vare at the time tb.at they were l=IIV-positive. New PCR Test for HIV Is Less Reliable CHICAGO - Stanford University researchers report in the Annals oflnternal Medicine that the new polymerase chain reaction (PCR) AIDS test, which is based on the presence of elements ofDNA from HIV in the body, is less reliable than older tests that rely on the presence of antibodies to the virus. The researchers found that even with the daborate precautions requiredin PCR testing, the results return 5 umes as many false results as the more widely used antibody testing methods. PCR testing is also significantly more expensive and costs between $150 and $200, compared to standard antibody tests, which range in price from $5 to $50. The advantage of the PCR test is that it can be administered earlier: to newborns because other tests rely on the formation of antibodies to the"virus, which often don’t show up for 6 months following infection. KS Virus May Be Common in All Men BOSTON - A report in the New England Journal ofMedicine says the virus that is believed responsible for Kaposi’s sarcoma, a rare cancer that strikes many AIDS patients, is found in the sexual ¯ organs ofmostmen. Researchers with the ¯¯ Institute of Microbiology at the University of Ferrara in Italy report they found ¯ the KS-related virus, known as KSHV, in 30 of 33 semen samples of health Italian ¯" men - a 91% infection rate. The scientists ¯ also say they found the virusin the urinary ¯ tracts, in the prostates, and other areas of ¯ the genital organs of other health men as ¯ well. The scientists say they believe indi- ¯ viduals with healthy immune systems can ." live with the virus present in their bodies ¯ without any.apparent problems, but that ¯ when the immune system is weakened, as ¯ it is when infected with HIV, the KS virus ¯ appears to become active. Drug Combo Looks Effective \VASHINGTON - A 73-week study by drug manufacturer Hoffman-La Roche of some 978 AIDS patients has shown that Invirase, the brand name for the firm’s version of the protease inhibitor saquinavir, in combination with the drug ddC, reduced the rate of deaths by more than two-thirds compared to patients taking ddC alone. Saqtunavir has been considered the least impressive of the new protease inhibitors, but the new findings, which have not yet been published, have prompted the drug manufacturer to ask the Food & Drug Administration to allow the new information to be added to the drug’s label. "HIV Cell Infection i Agent- Isolated WASHINGTON-Governmentscientists report they ha~[.e discovered a chemical ¯ clue to why HIV is infectious. Reporting ¯ in the journal Science, researchers at the Nadonal Institute of Allergy and Infections Diseases say they have found a pro- . tein, which they call "fusin," that must be ¯ present for HIV to infect white blood cells,.the primary target of the virus. Edward A. Berger, who headed the team that made the discovery, said the discovery gives scientists a "new handle on under- ; standing" how HIV invades cells. "Obvi- ] onsly this is a potential target for develop- . mg new drugs to treat HIV infection," Berger said. "Potentially by coming up ¯ with a drug that blocks the receptor, you : might block the .ability of HIV to repli- ¯ cate." The researchers cautioned, how- " ever, that there were still~ many mysteries ¯ about the virfis that need to be answered. ¯ Among other things, they noted that HIV ¯ attaches itself to some types Of immune ¯ cells in the early stages of the infection ~ without using fusin. This means HIV ¯ comes in variations that connect to CD4 cells and some other molecular cofactor ¯ or cofactors on these cells. Berger said ¯ that potential, drugs that block, the fusin receptor on cells could only do part of the job in combating HIV. Increase in HIV After Tetanus Shots ¯ BOSTON - Researchers with the Na- ¯ tional Institute of Allergy & Infectious ¯ Diseases have reported in the New En- ~ gland Journal of Medicine that tetanus ¯ shots can cause a dramadc ~ncrease in the reproduction of HIV in the body. After ¯ g~ving tetanus shots to people infected ; with HIV, the researchers found they had a 2- to 36-fold increase in HIV levels. The scientists also found that ~ blood samples from uninfected individu- SCOTT ROBISON’S PRESCRIPTIONS Serving Tulsan’s Since 1947 Major credit cards In-store charges or Direct insurance billing for your convenience! 3 locationsto serve you: Hillcrest Physician’s Building 1145 So. 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(insurance policies are available with no health questions asked) 2103 East Third Tulsa, Oklahoma 74104 918-587-7000 Supporting Tulsa’s Gay & Lesbian Community Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1515 South Lewis Are you looking for a relaxed, amicable, private atmosphere for therapy? Our office provides a level o! confidentiality and comfort that enhances teh therapeutic process. ~For further Information, c~ll ~43:4i 17 Leah Hunt, MSW Judy Seymour,Taylor, CADC Della Blackburn, CADC ¯ RichardReeder, MS Serving a Diverse Community KELLY KIRBY Certified Public Accountant Lesbians & Gays face many special tax situations whether single or as couples. We are proud to serve our communities with sensitive & timely information. 747-5466 POB 14011, Tulsa 74159 Free & Anonymous Finger Stick Method By &for, but not exclusive to the Lesbian, Gay, & Bisexual Communities.. Monday & Thursday evenings: 7-8:30 pm for testing, .7-9 pm for results. Daytime testing, Mon-Thurs by appointment. TOHR Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights 742-2927 4158 South Harvard, Suite-E-2 2 doors east of the HIV Resource Consortium Look for our banner on testing nights¯ als who had been given the same tetanus shots more readily became infected with HIV after the injections. Researchers said the dramatic increase in HIV production appears to only last about 6 weeks, so the benefits of tetanus shots generally outweighs the temporary surge in HIV levels for most patients. Blood Heat Treatment Gets OK LOS ANGELES - The Indiana-based HemoCleanse Inc. has been given approval by the Food & Drug Administration to expand testing of its blood-heating treatment of people infected with HIV. The 2nd phase of the trials will include 2- hour treatments at St. Elizabeth Hospital in Lafayette, Ind., and the Harbor-UCLA Research & Education Institute in Los Angeles. HemoCleanse’s treatment, similar to kidney dialysis, involves slowly drawing all a patient’s blood from his body in small quantifies and heating it to 108 degrees Fahrenheit before infusing it back into his body. The idea behind the treatment is that HIV is sensitive to even small increases in temperature and would be destroyed in massive quantities by the treatment. Sixty patients will be divided into 2 groups during the trials. One group will receive 2 treatments each - the first for 1 hour, and the 2nd fo~ 2 hours. The other group will serve as a control group and will not receive the heat treatment, but will remain on standard HIV drug therapy. HIV & Gene Therapy " Research BOSTON" - Researchers report in the journal Science that use of a genetically benign version of HIV may be the key to an importantbreakthrough in gene therapy treatment, serving as the carrier system or "vector" to deliver therapeutic genes to target cells in the human body. Researchers with the Salk Institute in San Diego and the Whitehead Institute in Cambridge, Mass., have reported that they successfully used the HIV vector to inject therapeutic genes in the cells of live rats in laboratory experiments, ff the use of the HIV vector proves as successful inhuman gene therapy, the researchers say it could be a potentially important treatment for such genetic disorders as cystic fibrosis, muscular dystrophy and Alzheimer’s dis- Genetically Altered AIDS Vaccine Fails BE!’HESDA, Md. - Government officials say a 5-year study of the genetically engineered AIDS vaccine, gpl60, has shown the prevention effort is not effective in halting the progress of the disease in people. The study, one of the first of its kind, used the Microgenesys experimental vaccine and was a joint venture between the Walter Reed Army Institute of Research and the National Institute of Allergy & Infectious Disease in conjunction with private medical facilities. With some 600 military and civilian volunteers, the study showed no improvement in their ability to fend off the infection. gin, transmission and statistics of infection for each community, and (b) quarantine those known to be infected and practicing high-risk behavior. Page 7-8, SEXUAL PERVERSION Plank 1-3~ Homosexuality is not an alternate lifestyle, a genetic abnormality or a civil rights matter, but is instead a consciou~ individual choice of an abominal sin practice. Such behavior has been a major factor in the demise of societies from Sodom and Gomorra to the Empires of Ottoman, Greece and Rome. Homosexlaal behavior is the principle cause of the spread of AIDS in America. We, therefore, condemn not the person but the practice of homosexual behavior, and oppose the ominous political powers being given homosexuals in the United States. We believe that the practice of homosexuality is an abomination before God and a perversion of the natural law and is indicative of severe diseases. We believe that legislation condoning homosexuality would confer public acceptability of this activity and would lead inexorably to the destruction of our nation. Plank 4-6: We believe that homosexuals, sodomites, and other sexually perverse people shonl~i not be entitled to special or extraordinarY rights. We affirm that homosexual behavior is not a constitutionally protected right and that homosexuals area behavi~al group not deserving of special protection under the law. Because homosexuals are not deserving of minority status, we oppose all "’Gay Rights" legislation. We urge that federal and state funding we withheld from all states and or municipalities that enact homosexual "fights" legislation. Plank 8+9: We support the retention and enforcement ofsodomy laws in Oklahoma. We urge vigorous arrest and pros- .ecufion of all those violating laws regardxng the promotion of homosexual behavior. Plank 17+18: Toprotect family values, we urge that those promotiug an alternative lifestyle by restricted from positions of influence of minor children. \Ve do not recognize homosexuality as a normal lifestyle, therefore we oppose any mandated education curriculum or special rights based on affirmative action for ho~ mosexuals. Plank 20+21: We strongly oppose permitring homosexuals to teach in the public school systems. We oppose the hiring of homosexual teachers, administrators, or counselors. Hank 22-24: We oppose the establishment of homosexual dubs in schools. We hold that portraying the homosexual lifestyle in any positive manner in our schools is heresy. Weoppose the National Education Association’s efforts to promote the homosexual agenda in our nation’s schools. Plank 27-29: We submit that legally recognized marriages to be limited to a traditional monogamous heterosexual relationship, with only these mamages allowed current tax and legal benefits. We oppose same-sex marriages. We support federal and state legislation prohibiting legal recognition ofsame sex "marriages" in the event such unions are made legal by another state. Hank- 30: We believe that the federal government should alterappointments and employment practices that would place homosexuals in sensitive and responsible positions. benefiting Tulsa Area AIDSAgencies June 21&221996 Warren Place Doubletree Hotel Dinner, Cash Bar and Performance TICKETS ON SALE AT ALL CARSON ATTRACTIONS OUTLETS OR BY PHONE: 584-2000 550 N. Memorial Kacie Gordon pager: 672-8905 Joni Ledbetter pager 670-5664 Any Sale - 2% over invoice with ad. Sunday Services 11:00 am ¯ Wednesday Services 6:30 pm, 7:30 pm Choir Practice ¯ Thurs. 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group I To do justice, love mercy & to walk humbly zoith our God... Micah 6:8 5451-E South Mingo Tulsa, OK 74146 . (918) 622-1441 ’96 Pride Picnic JUNE 15 Noon - 5:00 prn Opening Ceremony, lpm ¯¯ Blessing by the Rev. Leslie Penrose ¯ Welcome by TOHR president Debbie Starnes ¯ Performances by local entertainers, including Miss Gay Tulsa & Miss Tulsa USofA, and Tulsa Family Chorale! Throughout the afternoon, ¯ DJ will provide music throughout the day ¯ Booths with vendors, community organization info., crafts, etc. ¯ Food for modest cost ¯ Free beverage.s ¯ Volleyball & tennis court available ¯ Kids’ playground ¯ Security provided all day ¯ Closing ceremony, with benediction by RF Renfro & Freedom Balloon Extravaganza! If you want to have a "booth," call Tom at 583-1248 before June 1st. Be a part of the Pride Picnic! - To volunteer, call 743-4297. Edison St. ~ To Sand Springs, 1-412 Directions: From Tulsa, take Keystone Expressway West towards Sand Springs. Exit Gilcrease Rd. turn right (North) on Gilcrease Road to Edison St. and turn right (East) on Edison, go about 1/2 mile. Owen Park is on the right. Parking is on the Southeast corner of the park, near Roosevelt School. 1-244 (DowTunlstoawn) 7 LSA FAMI.LY NEWS COMMUNITY CALE R SUNDAYS Agape’ Christian Fellowship Service, 10:30 am & 7 pm Sheridan Center, Suite H 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 Bless the Lord At All .Times Christian Center Sunday School, 9:45 am Worship Service, 11 am 262To East 1 lth 583-7815 Community of Hope (United Methodist) Worship Service, 6 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Family of Faith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Worship Service, 11 am 545 I-E South Mingo. Info: 622-1441 Metro. Comm. Church of Greater Tulsa Worship Service, 10:45am 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa 6:30 pm at Canterbury 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 MONDAYS TUESDAYS HIV Testing HIV+ Support Group TOHR Clinic ¯ HIV Resource Consortium Free & anonymous testing " 1:30 pm using fingerstick method. ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 No appointment required. " Info~ Wanda @ 749-4194 Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm : Results hours: 7-9 pm ¯ Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. Info: 742-2927 Lambda Bowling League Sheridan Lanes 8:45 pm 3121 S. Sheridan PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 2nd Monday of month, 6:30 pm 4154 S, Harvard Info: 749-4901 OTHER GROUPS TOHR Helpline Daily 8-10 pm For info. or to volunteer: 743:GAYS The Technicians, Leather org., Info c/o 621-5597 T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Assoc. Info: 838-1222 ¯ HIV/AIDS:Support Group & ¯ Friends & Family ¯¯ HIV/AIDS Support Group 7 pro, call for location: 749-7898 Grief Group Butler/Stumpff ¯ Funeral Home 2103 E. 3rd St. Call for time: 587-7000 Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pm, 241-2282 $4, Sand Springs Skate ¯ WEDNESDAYS ¯ Agape’ Christian : Fellowship ¯ Service, 7 pm ¯ Sheridan Center, Suite H ¯ 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center Prayer & Bible Study 7:30 pm 2627-B East 1 lth Call 583-7815 for info. Family Of Faith MCC Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Practice 7:30 pm 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. Community of Hope (United Methodist) Service for Peace, 6:30 pm Bible Study, 7 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 TNAAPP Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention ProJect Support group for Gay & Bi Native Ameri&m Men, 6 pm at Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd 582-7225 or 584-4983 ¯ THURSDAYS 16-Step Empowerment Group For Women : Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E.2nd, Info: 585-1800 " Co-Dependency ¯ Support Group : 7;30; Family of Faith MCC : 5451-ES. Mingo, 622-1441 HIVTestingTOHRClinic i Walk in testing: 7 - 8:30 pm. Results hours: 7 - 9 pm Info: 742-2927 Tulsa Family Chorale Weekly practice, 9:30 pm Lola’s 2630 E. 15th PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group Ist & 3rd Thursdays 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 Alternatives Weekly social events for LGBT men & women, 7 pm Info: 646-5503 ¯ Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIViAIDS 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G 3-4:30 pm, hffo: 749-4194 ¯ SATURDAYS ¯¯ St. Jerome’s Ecumenical Catholic Church ¯" Mass, 6 pm Garden Chapel ¯ 3841 S. Peoria ¯ Info: Father Rick ¯ at 742-7122 Narcotics Anonymous Meets weekly at 11 pm Confidential support for recovering addicts. Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt Sewing Bees 3rd Sat. of each month Info: 748-3111 OTHER GROUPS Gay & Lesbian Student Association TJC Southeast Campus, Info:-631-7632 SWAN-Sip~gle Women’s Activ@ Network Call 832-2121 MAY 17-19 Herland Sister Resources Retreat Roman Nose State Park Registration deadline: 5/15 Info: 2312 NW 39th, OKC 73112 HIVIAIDS & SpiritualitylWholeness Retreatfor Women, Info: 488-9215 SATURDAY, MAY 18 Pride Picnic Benefit, Lola’s 2630 E. 15th, 749-1563 SUNDAY, MAY 19 Interfaith AIDS Minitries 13th InternationalAIDS Candlelight Memorial & Mobilization 3 pro, St. Peter’s Episcopal, 9100 E. 21St Info: 438-2437 SATURDAY, JUNE 1 Ecumenical Pride Worship Service 6 pm, St. Jerome’s hosting at The Garden Chapel, 3841 S. Peoria Info: Father Rick, page 646-7116 SUNDAY, JUNE 2 Pride Picnic Benefit - The Tool Box 1338 E. 3rd, 584-1308 TUESDAY, JUNE 4 TOHR, PFLAG & Rainbow Business Guild present Cece Cox, pres. ofthe Dallas Gay & Lesbian Alliance 7 pm, Chouteau Ran, Chapman Ctr, TU, Dinner: $10, Speech: free,Info: 743-4297 FRIDAY, JUNE 7 Safe Haven Lake Cookout. Social gatheringfor young adults, 18-30 8 pm, Family of Faith MCC 5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 Pride Picnic Benefit - The Silver Star 1565 S. Sheridan, 834-4234 SATURDAY, JUNE 8 TOHR Citywide Pride Prom All ages, alcohol-free dance 8 pm, Alan Chapman Activity Cti. TU, Dignity/Integrity Meeting Lesbian/Gay Catholics & Episcopalians 5 pm, St. Dunstan’s Episcopal Church 5635 E. 71st, Info: POB 701044, 74170 SUNDAY, JUNE 9 Pride Picnic Benefit, Concession~ 3340 S. Peoria, 744-0896 MONDAY, JUNE 10 PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group, 6:30 pm Social and Refreshments. 7 pm General Meeting, 7:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard, Info: 749-4901 SATURDAY, JUNE 15 Tulsa Pride Picnic Noon - 5pm. Owen Park 560 No. Maybelle, Info: 583-1248 SUNDAY, JUNE 16 Family ofFaithMCCFather’s Day Service With Father Rick Hollingsworth 11 am, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 JUNE 21 a 22 Follies Revue, Inc. Follies ’96 Salutes the Movies! 6 pm, Doubletree Hotel, Warren PlaCe $125 & $40, Info: 437-0201 SUNDAY, JUNE 23 Statewide Pride Rally & Parade Speaker: Donna Red Wing ’92 Advocate Woman ofthe Year 1:30 pro, Memorial Park, NW 35th & Classen Blvd. Oklahoma City Info: 743-4297 or 405-791-0202 OUT + ABOUT by J.D. Jamett What can I say, this last month truly did have its showers and flowers. The turnabout show at the Silver Star was a rose. that never smelled more sweeter, & the staff truly did surprise themselves when they let their less masculine sides show. On the other hand, the Miss Gay Tulsa America at the Performing Arts Center got rained on- no fault of the orgamzers or performers. The technical staff at the P.A.C. constantly missed lighting and sound cues - whathappened? Our sympathies to the entertainers and organizers. This next month holds alot offun things todo starting with Renegades" annual GayFest (May 17- 19) which features Dark Shadows (drag in broad daylight!) and other fun things tO do all outside. That same weekend, you may venture back inside on May 17 for a live performance by Abigail at Concessions that should very entertaining then May 23, the Red Ribbon Ice Revue call 254-7272 for more details. In June, don’t forget Miss Northeastern Oklahoma USofA at The Silver Star (June 23). Pride Picnic Update Show your pride in the community and help make this year’s Pride Picnic the best Kelly Green, Miss Gay Tulsa America runners-up, JJ Gentry & Sugarbaker ever by seeing any or all of the following benefit shows: Lola’s on May 18th, the Toolbox hosted by Sensuous on May26th and the Silver Star on June 7th. This month I’m proud to feature, not an establishment, but a community within our .community, Community of Hope. It’s not just a church, but a place where you feel like a person, notjust a number.Leslie Penrose is the pastor.She’is one of these rare people you are truly proud to call a friend. This church has a lot tO offer, for ex, ample, chances to work in the commu- .nity through programs like their RAIN team training, feeding the homeless, meals on .wheels, small symposiums on a variety of different subjects, and social events such as small dinner groups and movie nights. I’ll say it a again- it’s not justachurch butacommunity! Services are very convenient on Sunday evening at 6pm at 1703 East 2nd Street. Giveit achance, Monique Foster, the new Miss Silver Star you may just like it. & Bobbi Sue Summers OK, OK, boy, did I ¯ open up a big make-up ¯ case with the Queen of the Month (see ¯ letter to the editor). Sorry Katherine, but : licking may face does constitute begging. ¯ Well, this month’s Queen of the Month is ¯ constandyhelpingpeople- doingbenefits ¯ &helping as aresearchnurse on HIV drug : studies.That’s right, Danny (TeraTaneal), ¯ youareMay’sQueenoftheMonth.Thanks : for all your hard work! Till then, see ya out + about. Fina y....Unity Gardens A final resting place in peace, unity and pride... located in Washington Memorial Gardens Cemetery 4300 E. 91st Street South On 91st Street between Yale & Harvard. Unity Gardens has been designed for the Gay and Lesbian Community, and those who support our unity. Did you know that there is no cemetery in Tulsa that will allow companions to be buried together recognizing them as a couple, or~’recognizing your sexual orientation as an individual? Actually there is no place in the United-States who will, UNTIL NOW~ We are the first celnetery in the United States to offer a special section of our cemetery just for Gays & Lesbians, and their family and friends. We offer burial spaces, columbarium for cremated remains, and scattering gardens with a memorial wall, in this new-ly expanded and renovated-section of Washington Memorial Gardens Cemetery. The Pride flag will proudly fly in the center of Unity Gardens to always remind us of our struggle in life for unity and pride. If you have purchased a plot elsewhere, you may be able to transfer or trade your burial plots. For more information, please call Russell Langley-Stumpff at 918-587-7000. ***Owned and operated by Butler-Stumpff Funeral Home*** A Friendly Place to Stay KING’S HI-WAY INN "96 Kings Highway, Hwy. 62 W Eureka Springs, AR 72632 (501) 253-7311 1-800-231-1442 Jerry A. Wilson, owner ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ 0 ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ MCC of the Living Spring ....a community of friends... Rev. Kermie Wohlenhaus Pastor We welcome you to attend! Services held Sunday evenings at 7 o’clock 17 Elk Street (at the Unitarian Church) Eureka Springs, AR 72632 501-253-9337 Raven/Redhawk Enterprises Phyl Boler-Schmidt Systems & Software Specialist POB 429, Eureka Springs 72632 501,253.2776 Books, Incense, Candles and Rainbows/ Plus lots morel (501) 25315445 45&1/2 Spring Street Eureka Springs, Arkansas 72632 emrain@rog.ar.ispnet.com AUTHENTIC FRESH ITALIAN RAINBOW CUSINE TROUT ofEureka Springs Recommended by - The New York Times (501) 253-6807, Closed Wednesday 5Center Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 Jim & .Brent’s Bistro Calendar ofEvents Friday, May 24 &-Thursday, May 25 -- Richard Johnson, acoustic guitar Thurs. May 30th & Fri. May 31st Music on the deck, Lunch, 11:30-2:30, Dinner 5-11 pm. Bistro Beat Etc. May 30th through June 2nd Eureka Springs.Blues Festival Stop by our house for a taste of local flavor. Dine outside on the patio & porch or in our three beautiful dining rooms. Fine food at an affordable price. Gay.owned, Operated & Rainbow Proud By Allan Beard, Baltimore GayPaper Like most other gay resort areas, Provincetown shares the three traits all held in common - sun, sand and surf. And like its southern sister city Key West, it is a remote village located on a narrow strip of landjutting out into the Adantic Ocean, accessible only to those who seek it out. One does not pass through Key West or Provincetown; one goes there to be there. Andwhile Provincetown’ s waters are significandy cooler than those of Florida’s southern most city, it is not the water that attracts tens of thousands of lesbians and gay men to this Massachusetts Cape Cod village each year - it’s the lesbians and gay men that is the attraction. Just who first walked the sandy beaches that surround Provincetown is in little doubt. And while Native Americans can lay claim to the cape, it was the white European immigrants who built the fishmg village that was to become Provincetown. Pilgrims from the May flower first walked ashore in 1620; a monument commemorating that event stands’ atop High Pole Hill overlooking the town an harbor. For the most part, Provincetown grew up over three centuries as a fishing village. Filled with the homes and shops of a 18thcentury fishing village, Provincetown is rich in period architecture with an impressive harbor and quaint atmosphere one comes to expect from a New England port town. It is surrounded by beaches, dunes and the Atlantic. Isolated at the end of Cape Cod, Provincetown has long attracted artists,individualists and free spirits. Very much like Key West, the 3,700 year-round residents have a live-and-let- ¯ live attitude, which clearly appeals to the ¯ many thOUsands of lesbians and gay men that flock there every, summer. ¯ The village has two main streets, Com- " mercial Street and Bradford Street, which ¯ run parallel for nearly three miles. They are intersected bynumerous smaller streets ¯ beginning at the harbor and continuing ¯ back to the dunes. It is a town filled with guest houses, restaurants, galleries, bou- : tiques and shops. It also has its share of ¯ typical beach community tourist busi- ¯ .nesses, but in Provincetown they don’t ¯ seem to intrude on the town’s quiet character. ¯ The Provincetown Business Guild rep- ¯ resents more than 200 businesses that welcomelesbian and gay tourists. Founded ¯ in 1978 the guild is dedicated to enhanc- ¯ ing the vacation experience of gay people ¯ , visiting the cape. Lesbian and gay life is readily visible to anyone visiting the town. Couples stroll the shop lined streets ann ~n arm with barely notice given them. On the beach thousands of hard bodied men and buffed lesbians swim, play and sun themselves in the confidence of a shared appreciation of their diversity. At night a not-so subtle sexual energy takes over the town’s main streets as hundreds head to nightclubs and restaurants to party with old acquaintances and new-found friends. It is an atmosphere suited perfectly to the friendly, open lifestyle of this .country’s many lesbian and gay communities. To increase gay visibility and promote gay pride, the ProvincetOwn Business Guild plans special events year-round. For information on these events and to make travel arrangement~,call Vanessa at International Tours at - 341-6866. OK, so maybe you don’t have the time or money to go as far as Provincetown but you still need a get-away and it’s got to be a Gay-friendly place, and affordable! For all that, you can’t beat Eureka Springs. This Victorian jewel has got to have one of the highest per capita Lesbian/ Gay/Bi populatious in the country. And therefore, you can count on finding a friendlyfamily welcome. In fact, it’s possible to spend most of your resting and dining time in Gay or very Gay friendly establishments. This writer canpersonallyrecommendthe food at DeVito’s and dined withJim &Brent at the restaurant the guys had before they opened the well-regarded Bistro. While we haven"t tried Autumn Breeze, we hear it’s excellent also. Lod~ng can vary from the very convenient Kings Hi-Way Inn overlooking a ¯ lovely valley to the unique bed & break- ¯ fast experience of the Woods or Rock ¯ Cottage Gardens or the views of Pond MountainLodge. For very reasonable and ¯ historic rooms, check out the Park Basin Hotel. , In between earing and sleeping, there ¯ are many shops to checkout. They range from tourist tacky to worksof art. One of the most interesting selections is at Crazy ¯ Bone. And be sure to stop in ’to see MC ¯ andLinda, the new ownersoftheEmerald ¯ Rainbow, providing locals, and visitors with Pride stuff and mo~e..: ¯ NoW if you need more.detailed infor- ¯ marion about all your Options in Eureka ¯ Springs, track down Jan & Kim with ¯ P.I.M.P.S. who kiaow what’s available. ¯ And if like many others, you decide to ¯ check out local properties, stop by McClung Realty - they can help. Adult Accommodations In Eureka Springs, Arl~nsas Craftsman-style cottages with beautiful views of the woods and wildlife -.Tucked on top of the Ozark Mountains. just a few rmnutes walk to the Historic Village of Eureka Springs. 501/253-8281 Frank Gr~.en Jr., Host - 50 Wall Street - Eureka Springs, Arkansas 72632 READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library OK, all of you budding Laurence Oliviers, take notice! ff acting is your profession 9rjust a fun hobby, and you’re having trouble finding quality plays that speak to gays and lesbians, here is the book for you. "The Actor’s Book of Gay and Lesbian Plays" pulls together seventeen plays, chosen by editors (and playwrights), EricLane and Nina Shengold. The criteria for a play’s inclusion in this anthologyis thatitmust have gay or lesbian characters, queer themes or be ofinterest to the gayand lesbian community,regardless of the playwright’s ownsexual orientation. The plays vary widely, from one-acts to full length, comic and dramatic, some interesting while others less so, and a range o_f styles and cast sizes. One of the most interesting aspects of these plays is that not all of them premieredin New York or Los Angeles. One had its .first performance in Shepherdstown, West Virginia~ and another was first heard over the air as a radio play. AIDS, of course, is a topic of a few of these plays. Victor .Bumbalo’s "What Are Tuesdays LaKe. takes place in a hospital waiting room. "The Baltimore Waltz," by Paula Vogel and "Lonely Planet," by Steven Dietz deal with AIDS in more intangible ways. Another interesting entry, "It’s Our Town, Too," by Susan Miller, is just what you might think: a bare stage, queer ver- ...One d the-most interesting aspects of these plays is that not all of them premiered in New York or Los A~ngeles. One hasd.lts first performance m Shepherdstown, West Virginia... sion . of Thornton Wilder’s "Our Town." "Cater,Waiter,"by Eric Lane, is a funny, ironic, ten-minute piece about "eighty-seven gay men and three lesbians serving dinner tO a buncha Reagan cronies" at a. Republican fundraiser. With the current boom of successful queer-themed films, like "Jeffrey" and "The Bird~ge," it shouldn’t, be long until more gay and lesbian friendly " plays start showing.up onstage in mid- : America. When they do, "The Actor’s ¯ Book of Gay and Lesbian Plays" will be ; an excellent resource. ¯ Check for this book, and others on ¯ similar subjects, at your local branch li- ¯ brary or call the Readers Services depart- ’ ment at the CentrallLibrary, 596-7966. byJames Christjohn, EntertainmentNotes While it might seem so at times, this column is not just about me being peevish. It is about a much wider concern of mine. To those in the gay & lesbian community whom I have heard complaining that thereisn’t enough gay theatre, that there is an audience for these shows, that no theatre in town is brave enou,,h to do these kinds of shows; I have only one thing to say. Where were you? Several shows during the TU weekend of One-acts touched on gay issues, mine and Gabriel Washam’s "’Diaries" blatandy so. I had incredible support from Professor Cook ( Thank you!), who feels these plays are important to have done, an incredible cast, & itwas free, for heaven’ s sake! You missed a great set of shows. You had the chance to say, with your pres- To those... corn lainln that t" P" ’ ~ here lsn t enough Gay theatre, that there is an audlenee ~or these shows... I have only one thln¢ to say. Where were you? ence, that there is an audience for these shows, that these shows will draw folks in, that there is a reason to see these shows produced. As Gerald Miller said, "Ain’t gonna happen". He and I spoke of Gay theatre in Tulsa when he was managing Theatre Tulsa. His take was that there wasn’t an audience. Tom and I argued the point, and I now feel his comments were, sadly, justified. ¯ To all of you who expressed interest, & ¯ didn’t put your body where your mouth is ¯ in terms of your presence in the theatre " seat, you’ve helped to kill gay theatre. ¯ If there is no gay theatre in Tulsa, it’s ¯ not that the shows aren’t produced or ¯ people aren’t interested in doing them; it’s because you weren’t there when the ¯ shows were produced. Even when, as in .. this case, the productions are free to the ¯ public! You have no one to blame but yourselves. So don’tlet me hear anyone in the community bemoaning "the lack of gay plays here, because it’s your own fault they aren’t being done. BACP produced an excellent production of Harvey Fierstein’s"On Tidy Endings" some months back_. Thenight Tom &I attended, only 1/4 of the house was filled. And I know there’s enough queens in this town to have filled the theatre. " Sad thing is, many students & faculty. ¯ were talking about doing a production of ¯ "Falsettoland" at TU. Thehigher ups were ." concerned that people wouldn’t come. ¯ One ofmy goals with HIVariations, I’d ¯ hoped, was to prove that there was an ¯ audience. With the lack of community ¯ support of HIVariations, indeed all the ¯ shows that weekend, it seems unlikely ¯ ¯ that this Falsetto, or other shows like it, will be produced. How sad. 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Peoria Tulsa (918) 744-5556 Pet Food Toys & Supplies Grooming & Boarding I Pickup & Delivery I Service Available .I 3213 E. 15th St. 20TH CENTURY FURNISHINGS Wed-Sat 10-5 Sun 12-4 749-3620 H~rry Bel-toi~, Knoll 1952 Worship Service,~.~.3.~) am Sheridan Center, ~’~ite H, 21st & Sheridan, 599-7688 ’96 ECLIPSE SPYDER CONVERTIBLE GS $22,835 by Jean-Pierre, TFNfood critic TFNreaders attending the Great Plains Regional Gay Rodeo in Oklahoma City Memorial Day weekend will be pleased to know that lots of decent restaurants exist in our Capital Cowtown at which they can cozy up to the chuckwagon. Just like Tulsa, most of the national franchises and chain restaurants have stores in Oklahoma City which are concentrated in the Quail Springs Mall area ¯ on Memorial between May and Pennsyl~ vania; near Baptist Hospital at Northwest Expressway and Lake Hefner Parkway; in"oiltown" at Interstate 40 and Meridian; and down on the south side along Interstate 240 between Western and May Avenues. But why eat at some place you can visit at home? After all, half of the tim of traveling to exotic locations is discovering the local cuisine.And, surprisingly, Oklahoma City probably has a lot more decent nonchain restaurants than Tulsa. First, a few words of warning: Many rodeoers will be staying at the Northwest Hilton or at the ever popular Habana Inn both of which have in house dining facilities. Let’s just say that you’ll want to eat off the premises. And don’t even think about room service. \¥qaen you are in downtown OKC, be advised that. there is no place wonderful, and the Myriad Convention Center food is deadly. Nearby though are LaRoea Mexican Restaurant a couple.of blocks west of the Myriad on Rent and there are always the various trendy (translate: long lines, small servings, big prices) establishments and the onmipresent Spaghetti Warehouse in Bricktown several blocks east o.f the Myriad. The Bricktown Brewery is, in our opinion, the Oklahoma microbrewery serving up the best beer made in Oklahoma (but don’t get your hopes up about the food)¯ Wejust wish the Oklahoma legislature didn’t make the microbreweries water the beer to 3.2. Several formerly popular northwest spots are now closed, such as Doc’s at 63rd and Western, Rita’s del Rio on May across from the Northwest Hilton,Pump’s at Grand and \Vestem, Interurban in Fifty Penn Place, and Magnolia Cafe at 66th and Western: We’re also sad to report that due to the new conservative Christian ownership of United Founder’s Tower, the Eagle’s Nest, with its 360 degree revolVing view of Lake Hefner and northwest Oklahoma City, has closed its doors. Never fear, though, there are still lots of fun places to dine and frolic. While on Oklahoma City’s infamous 39th Street Strip, many readers may remember the gastronomically challenging Family Diner, a classic greasy spoon. But better days have come to that location, and completely new proprietors have established the gay owned and operated Pifion Care (moderate cost), which features lots of Southwestern style entrees, heavy on thepasta and chicken, and, while notan all-night establishment, does stay open until 2 a.m., and 3 a.m. on weekends. : The beautiful people and yuppies of ¯¯ OklahomaCity spendmost of their dining ¯ dollars on the strip alongWestern Avenue north of Interstate 44. There is quite a ¯ variety of interesting and worthwhile ¯ places in this area. Anchoring the comer ¯ spot on i-44 is Portobello (expensive), ¯ featuring Tuscan style Italian food and : Italian language tapes in the restrooms. ¯ Another long time Italian spot is Flip’s ¯ -Wine Bar and Trattoria (moderately ¯ expensi.ve), at Grand Boulevard, with a ¯ great selection of by-the-glass wines and ¯ decent food--be sure to check out the After all, half of the fun of traveling_is discovering the local euMne. And, surprisingly, Oklahoma City probably has a lot more decent non-chain restaurants than Tulsa. daily specials. At 64th Street, you will . find the excellent Metro Wine Bar and Bistro (expensive, reservations advised), serving re- ,trial French cuisine, nightly meat and fish specials, and creamy, chilled vichyssoise to die for. Across the street in: Nichols Hills Plhza is the single best restaurant in the st~ite of Oklahoma, ¯ the.Coach House (veryexpensive, reser- ¯ vataons required, dres~ code), featuring ¯ e}quisitely prepared Atnerican haute cui- ¯ sine and impeccable ~ervice. Everyone ¯ should experience the artistry of Chef ~ Kurt Fleishfresser and the elegance of the : Coach House at least once in their life- ¯. time. Crawling back toWestern, at 67th’is the Iguana Lounge (moderate) which is ¯ billed as Acapulco cuisine but we have to ¯ call it avant garde Mexican, and their new .: patio should be open by rodeo time. An ¯ excellent sushi bar is Tokyo Japanese ¯ Restaurant (expensive), just south of ¯ Wilshire, which serves Sapporo beer and ¯ ¯ sushi as good as any Japanese restaurant we’ve visited in the United States. Way : up north at 80th is Let’s Barbecue (inex- ¯ pensive), with basic down home smoked ¯ meats and occasionally fried catfish (if ¯ you remember Let’s at 66th Street, that ¯ location, now closed, went to Let’s ex- ¯ wife in the divorce, andLeomoved north). ¯ Acouple ofother spots popular with the ¯ capital city gay crowdinclude the Painted : Desert (inexpensive) at 36th and Shartel, ¯ whichis your basicburger bar, Pepperoni ¯ G~ill (moderately expensive) in Penn ¯ Square Mall by Dillard’s with eclectic ¯" Italian food, and Bellini’s (expensive) at 63rd and Pennsylvania, which serves up ¯ northern Italian themed food and dell- : cious bellini’s (a peach and champagne ¯ cocktail) with a view of the swan pond ¯ and outdoor seating-- enterfrom the park- " ing garage_ under the Waterford office ¯ building. ¯ Those looking for Oriental foods will ¯ ¯ be excited to spend time in Oklahoma City s Little Saigonareacentered at North- ," west 23rd and Classen. We particularly recommend Lido (moderate) at 24th and : Military (just off Classen near the milk ¯ bottlebuilding), whichhas excellent Viet- : namese food in an elegant setting, and is ¯ popular with many of the state’s power- " ful--we’ve run into Governor Waiters ¯ and several Supreme Court justices here. ¯ Check out the dim sum at Grand House : (moderate),just across the street from the see Food, page 14 n Communicolions does not milk bottle. One of our favorite Chinese restaurants is Dumpling House (moderate) on 23rd just east of Classen, which is patronized by many Chinese and Vietnamese youth (be sure to ask for the English menu). Another excellent Vietnamese and Chinese place is Mirawa (moderate), a bit farther east on 23rd. For Korean food, try Sharon Gardens (inexpensive) on 23rd west of Classen, and for Thai, go to Sala Thai (inexpensive) just a couple of blocks farther west. If seeing all those cowboys wrangle beef on the hoof has you hankering for a big juicy steak, you can’t go wrong with Cattleman’s Care (moderately expensive) in Stockyards City, Exchange Street south of 1-40 (ask for directions). In the Remington Park area at Northeast 50th and Kelly is one of our favorites, Sleepy Hollow (expensive), whichhas nomenus, but serves up big delicious bowls of mashed potatoes, ~avy, and peas family style and huge, wonderful steaks to its horseman and jockey clientele. You can get decent barbecued ribs and an all you can eat special at Oklahoma County Line (moderately expensive) on Northeast 63rd between Kelly and Eastern. And, when the budget gets a little thin, you can find an excellent chicken fried steak sandwich at Chuck House (inexpensive) at Northwest Tenth and Meridian. This should be a big enough list of the better places in Oklahoma City to keep rodeo-goers well fed for one weekend. Just remember, we have McDonald’s in Tulsa. Bon appetit, cowboy. 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Southwest Home Office Dallas, Texas 800-559-4790 Kelly Kirby Oklahoma Representative POB 14011 Tulsa, OK 74159-1011 918-747-3320 Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, May 15-June 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 6 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). 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Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Murderer of Gay Man Gets Second Degree Sentence PONTIAC, Michigan (AP)- A TV talks show guest. avoided a mandatory life prison.term for murdering a gay admirer by convincing jurors that ’.’ambush televii"’ SayNoto Hate’ !iYes to Jobs Protections The members of Tulsa’ s Say No .,~ I-Fate Coalition have approved ¯ a statement on workplace discrimination ,that explicitly endorses ¯ fairness for all, including Gay & Lesbian citizens. The statement : reads: "... Say.No to Hate Coalition condemns workplace discrimi- :" nationin allits forms. Fundamental fairness dictates that all individu, i als,irrespectiveofrace, color,nationalorigin, religion, gender, sexual orientation, [emphasis added] age or disability, be afforded equal : opportunity in allof ,An~_,e,dca’s workpl,a~es. : Itisnotaboutso-called specialrights forcertaingroups.Itisabout evaluating each individual on his/her merit rather than making, group ¯ judgements based on ignorance and fear. -" " Disedminationin the workplace diminishes us all. It should never : happen, but it does. Laws are necessary to protectall ofus from such ¯ hateful and hurtful behavior, and to provide recourse in the event i discrimination does infact occur." ¯ The Coalition is made up of the following organizations: the : American Red Cross, Tulsa Area chapter, the Coalition of Hispanic Organizations (COHO), theHumanRights Dept. ofthe City ofTulsa, Intercultural Service Center, Islamic Society, Jewish Federation, Metropolitan Urban League, NAACP, The National Conference, Tulsa Region, Tulsa Metropolitan Ministry, Tulsa Oklahornans for HumanRights (TOHR),Tulsa Police Dept. andTulsa PublieSchoolS, The Coalition was established in 1988 and works to protect theright, safety and fundamental freedoms see Hate, page 10 sion" was partly to blame. . -. - ~: HIVRCThreatens Lawsuit Jonathan Schmitz of second-degree murderin the 1995 ~ Attorney Kenneth Crnmp, representing the HIV Resource Consorshotgun slaying of Scott Amedure, whoh,a~ revealed a ¯ crush on Schmitz during a taping of _the Jenny Jones -" Show?’ Defense lawyers argued that Schrnitz, who had -" ahistory of emotional problems, was ambush,e,~, on the : show and pushed over the edge., JurOrs agreed. Weall -. felt he hada def’mite mental problem ... and the show ¯ i exacerbated that," juror Dale Carlington Said..r . Schmitz admitted shooting Am&ttire three days after : the two attended a taping of the show in Chicago on ¯ March 6, 1995. Defense attorneys say Schmitz,ahet,, ." erosexual; was humiliated to. learn ids secret admirer was a man.The humiliation, combine~[ wfthSchmitz’. history of menta! illness, alcoholism .and a thyroid condition rend~r~tilln incapable offorming the intent to kill, they contended. Dr. Michael Abramsky testified that Schmitz probably did not intend to hurt anyonebuthimselfon the day he shotAmedure. Abramsky, whohad examinedSchmitz about a month after the shooting, said Schmitz’s mind was "bombarded" by thoughts that included killing himself and feelings of anger seeMurder, page11 : Election News Analysis Political analysis & commentary by Tom Neal, editor : Based on Associated Press reports and TFN coverage. : Therecent elections appear to maintain thestatus quo : for Lesbian and Gay citizens. In Tulsa, State Sen. Penny : Williams (D) won over openly anti-Gay candidate . Brian Lehman (R) despite overfly anti-Gay campaign : ploys. Williams’ campaign also enjoyed supportfrom a ¯ number of Lesbian and Gay activists because of her ¯ history offairness. Hercampaign did, however, tell The . Tulsa Worm that she had never supported same-gender marriage despite avote against an anti-marriage bill last legislative session. Pat Woodrum, former director of Tulsa City/County Library System and another candidate with ahistory of " fairness to Gay citizens, lost her race for State Senate. ¯ Her opponent, James Williamson, also attempted to stir ! up anti-G,ay sentiment but some observers think :. Woodrum s loss more likely a reflection of running as : a Democrat in a traditionally Republican district. ¯ In the OK House, incumbent Republican Flint " Breckemidge who represented a midtown district with " a significant number of Lesbian and Gay voters was ." defeated by Mary Easley, Democrat. This might bode ¯ well for Gay citizens since Breckenddge ran a Gaybaiting campaign against former Rep. Bruce Niemi~ " However, Breckemidge toldTFN ofdosefamily ties to ¯ members of the Gay commtmity. Easley, when ques- : doned about her positions on- fairness for Lesbian and Gay citizens, claimed she just hadn’t thought about ° these things: However, her campaign literature touted ¯ her as upholding/the "conservative, family-centered, : see Politics, page 14 " tium, has informedTFN that the HIVRC is ’q~esitant to communicate directly" with TFN despite earlier demands byboard pres. Nancy McDonald for a meeting. Crump forwarded a letter from McDonald, asking that the letter be print,e~!,.,. adding, "ifthis is done, no further [legal] action will be taken ~..’ TFN publisher Tom Neal noted that TFN repeatedly agreed to McDonald’ s meedng demand (and agreed to a date which McDonald later canceled) and that TFN was happy to publish the letter (p.2). ¯ In a separate letter, Crump noted that aTFNreporter was questioning the United Way (which helps fund the HIVRC) about possible ramifications of client complaints and possible open records violations. Crump demanded thatTFNcease suchactivity. Neal responded that "it iS~an.unfortunate-attempt to intimidate TFN from making legitimate press inquiries?’ Dr. Jerry Nida, Commissioner of-the Oklahoma State Dept. of Health stated the HIVRC should comply : with the open records statutes- withholding only strictly ,,c,o,nfidential ¯" information. Andpres.,MeDonaldacknowledged to TFN s attorney .’- that theHIVRCWas obliged to provide the re~ords. To date, however, ~ no records_have been provided. ¯ ACLU-OK To Present Dr. Joycelyn ~ Elders & Honor Nancy & Joe McDonald The American Civil Liberties Union of Oklahoma has chosen Nancy and Dr. Joe McDonald as their Human Rights Project award winners alongwith longtime OKC Gay civil rights activist Bill Rogers. This awardwill bepresentedin theGoldCrownRoomofthe Clarion Hotel, 4345No. Lincoln, at 7pm. TheACLUwill also honorPare Fleisehaker of OKC~s Oklahoma Gazette for her work writing in defense of First Amendment rights, choice issues and Gay &Lesbian Citizens, as well as Michael Salem andJoel Carter, the attorneys who lead the effort to get the City of Edmond to drop seeACLU, page 10 ¯ MCC-GT Passes Financial Review : MCC-Gxeater Tulsa has provided TFN with a copy of a letter from ¯ South Central District treasurer of the Metropolitan Community Church (MCC). Thomas Merrill has given MCC-Greater Tulsa a positive review of its finanCial situation with only light admonishments about betteL.r..~eco~d~ing. Financial discrepancies that had -concerned membe~’~hd:~kediwithTFN (v2, #12, 11-12/95) have been resolved and ~6church has beendeared of any serious charges. Merrill noted thati:there was no evidence ofany misappropi’iation of funds, and bailk deposits were in order as were disbursements. He suggested that the appearance ofmissing funds resultedfromafailure to balance the bookkeeping records with the financial reports. He praised e.mrent treasurer, Norman Henley. for discovering that a loan paymen~ of $1,500 and tithe payments of $2,500 simply had not been reported in finanCial statements. This accounted for most of the "missing" fnn,ds. Merrill particularly remarked on deposit records for as little as $1 which had been dropped from an offering, saying this, was "a testament to the honesty and integrity of your leadership... Merrill added that the church has done an excellentjob of heeding the recommendations of aworkshop that the district provided to the church last March. MCC-GT continues its pastoral search to replace the Rev. Alice Jones who ledthechurch successfully for many years. C’ENTER !EVENTS Dana Tiger Benef,t for ¯ HOPE, RBG Meeting, ¯ Colm mu .n.ity-wide !Potluck, V deo. Night, i BLGTA Formal Dance, : Primetimers & Morel Award winning artist, Dana Tiger, will hold an exhibit of her work at the Pride Center on Sunday, Dec. 8 from 1-7 pm. Tiger who. hails from a family of artists will donate a percentage from sales to benefit HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention & Education whose offices are in the Pride Center. Tiger is a member of the Muscogee Nation and is of Creek]Seminole and Cherokee descent. Her best known work honors the strength and determination Of Native Americanw,~ men. InTulsa, BrooksideJewelryshows Dana S Work and helped to bring this noted artist to the Center. Tiger was to have been joined by her sister, Lisa Tiger, who is known for her work as-an HIV educator. Lisa Tiger will not be able to attend but will have a video as well as a book of essays to which she’.s contributed available. RainbowBusiness Guild (RBG) will have a pizza party at theCenter for its Nov. meeting. It will be a week earlier than usual due to Thanksgiving - on-Nov. I9th at 7pro. All are welcome. Dinner dues will be $S/person. Dec. 7th, TOHR/The Pride Center will host with HOPE, RBG, TU’s BLTGA and other see Center, page 10 ¯ World AIDS Day March : Red Ribbon Treefest + ¯" Walk + DayWithoutArt ¯ This year’s World AIDS Day Memorial : March and Service will be on Sunday, Dec. ¯ 1st. The marchers, organized by Interfaith ¯ AIDS Ministries,will gatheratBartlettSquare ¯ in downtown Tulsa (Sth & Main) at 5pro. The ¯ March will begin at 5:30 andwill end atTrinity ¯ Episcopal, 501 So. Cincinnati for Evensong ¯ service at 6pro. Marchers are urged to bring ¯" bells to ring during the March and will be ¯ provided candles and matches..Organizations ¯¯ are invited to bring their banners. A reception will follow after the service. For info: 438- ¯ 2437 or 800-284-2437. ¯ see World, page 11 ¯ COMING SOON! :Our House Auction ¯ seepage 5 INSIDE EDITORIAL/LETTERS/DIRECTORY P. 2-3 ¯ NEWS P. 4 HEALTH P. 7 ¯" HIV/AIDS & THE LAW P. 7 ¯ CALENDAR P. 9 BOOK REVIEW P, 12 ¯ RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 1:3 CLASSIFIEDS P. 14 918.583.1248 fax: 583.4615 POB 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-0140 tulnews@ionetnet Publisher +,Editor: Tom Neal Entertainment Writer + Mac Guru: James Chri~tjohn Writers + contributors: Phyl Boler-Schmidt, Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Steven Scott, Gerald Miller, Lance Brittain, Kerry Lewis Issued on or before the 15th of each month,~the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1~ by T~!lsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or inp~rt,i~]’fhout ~,ritten permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicatethat person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomesthe so!e property_of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence should be sent to the address above, ldaeh reader is entitled to one free copy of each’ edition at distribution points. Additionalcopies are available by calling 583-1248." Just a note of encouragementbn your articleon the HIVRC. The concerns that have been brought up form the PLWA’s are true and correct. Please use my name as a former landlord that received funds from the HOPWA grant, as validation of these clients’ concerns. Many people know that I used my properties to house several clients from the RC, so I do hold a lot of Credibility there. The allegations ofmismanagement, poor perf0rmance and claims of bias retaliation against clients are facts, These reasons played a very large role in the decision David and I made to sell our properties. TheRC burned a very important bridge in that arena. We had 12 properties, 6 of which at the time Of the sdl were housed by PLWA’s on the HOPWA program, and we would probably most definitely still be in that arena had the RC been more cooperative to us and more compassionate towards the clients they represent.... You are to be commended for your article, and I support you 100%!!!! - Russell Langley-Stumpff, Tulsa ¯ October 28 1996 ¯¯ In respouse to the article appearmg in theTulsa Family News, Oct. 15, v. 3, no. 11, tiffed "PLWA’s Indict HIVRC, Care : Organization May Bein Violation ofOK Statutes", the Board of ¯" Directors ofthe I-I!V Resource C0nsorfittm are deeplyconcerned ¯ and.distressed at the accusation. : We are a Not for Profit Organization chartered by the-Olda- : homaCorporationCommission. Weadhere to the articulation of ¯ the mission of our organization. We receive funding from the ¯ United :Way, the Federal Government which dispenses funds : through the Oklahoma State Department of Health, the State : Housing Authorityand private donations. Because we are. a ¯ recipient of federal monies through the competitive grant pro- : cess, weare bound by the guidelines as articulated by each grant. ¯ Wemustreport to the granting sources on a regular basis. Weare ." subject to scheduled and non-scheduled on site inspection and ¯ audit ofour records to determine our adherence to all federal and ¯ state guidelines, see McDonald, page 8 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine 832-1269 *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria 744-0896 *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th 749-1563 *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria 749-4511 *Ground Floor Cafe, 51st & Harvard 749-5678 *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st 745-9998 *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan 834-4234 *Samson & Ddilah, 10 E. Fifth 585-2221 *Renegades/Rainbow Room¯ 1649 S. Main 585,3405 *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial 660=0856 *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308 *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Med.& Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272 *Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 592-1521 Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117 Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700 Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468 *Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 13th 749-3620 Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556 Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 46th & Memorial 665-6595 Don Carlton Honda, 4141 S. Memorial -622-3636 ¯ Kellie J. Watts, attorney 493-1959 ¯ Fred Welch, Lcsw, Counsding 743-1733 ¯ Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities ¯ AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 1071, 74101-1071 579-9593 ¯ ¯ Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 583-7314 *Bless The Lord... Christian Center, 2627b E. 11 628-0594 ¯ *B/L/G Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780 ¯ *Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th PI. & Florence "- *CommunityofHopeUnitedMethodist, 1703 E. 2rid 585-1800 : Commmlity Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595 : Dignity/Integrity-LesbianlGayCatholics/Episcopal. 298-4648 ¯ *Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 : *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 ." *Free SpiritWomens Center, call for location&info: 587-4669 : Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827 ¯ Friends in Unity Social Org. (African-American mens group) ¯" POB 8542, 74101, call c/o TOHR @ 742-2927 ¯ Indian Health Care, Save the Nati6n 584-4983 : Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 ¯ *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N..Maplewood 838-1715 ~ *H!V Resource Ctr., 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H- 1 749-4194 ¯ NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H- 1 748-3111 ¯ *Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960 ¯ PFLAG ,POB 52800, 74152 749-4901 : *Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 58%7674 ¯ Prime=Timers, P.O_. Box 52118, 74152 583=1410 ¯ *R.A I N, Regional AIDS Interfaith Network ¯ Raihbow ~3usiness’Guiid, POB 4106;74159 : I have been reading your paper since it : first started. You have done a very good : job presenting the news and expanding ¯ coverage. ITm glad to see your progress. : After reading your last editorial per- : taining to the HIV Resource Consortium : (HIVRC), I wanted to letyonknow that ¯ you are doing a big service for PWA’s : who have no where else to turn. ¯ Since Ihavehadalittle experience with : both PWA’s and a Consortiumin’Kan.~as :-City, MO, I feel’ this is important. For : .theHIVRCtofunctionitneeds twothings: :: clients andmoney. If they .don’t’have ¯ enough ofeither; they are out ofbusiness. : Maybe the HIVRC needs to be dissolved : and another organization set up that will ¯ not be "afraid" to let the public read the : minutes. Also, maybe too much money is being spent l~mning the HIVRC. If the ConSortium has nothing to hide they should be glad there is someone like you who is interested enough to help the PWA’s. Keep up the good work. This organization should be held accountable. - Cheryl Lenhart, Tulsa 749-4195 .: 665-5174 : *lqite Books & Videos, 821 S: Sheridan . 838-8503 " St. Jerome’s Catholic Church, 38~1 S. Peoria, 646-7116 , Express Pools & Spas; 6310 S. Peoria - 743-9994 : Shhnti H0tlin~ & HIV/AIDS Siei’vices " Foxlinx, Computer Consultation = - . _ 690-297J¢ " " TulsaOkl~ for Hmnan Rights., POB.2687, 74101 ¯ EearmeM. Gross; Financial Pl,nningi, : ,~i ,::, ,-,,~44~0)02 i ~.T.,-~--h~i,’~i.~s’.,l}3~ ~:-~,., Mark T. 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C-1 742-8868 Thanks for Printing the Truth Thank you for printing the truth as you heard it or observed it. I am speaking about the HIVRC an the various complaints leveled against them. I. am also sorry to say that I will not reveal my name and it is not because I am irresponsible in what I say, but I recognize very clearly who is in control of the AIDS Service an thus, funding in Tulsa. I am concerned¯ about repercussions. I would encourage you not to stop your investigation. I think that the clients that have the more need are often the ones at the Resource Center that no one wants to handle. As you know, clients are not always physically attractive with good hygiene and wonderful personalities, some are drug abusers, some are dirty, some do not have any social skills, and some live on the street and some have serious mental health problems. However, they are still deserving ofhelp. Ifthe mental health centers stopped seeing the mentally ill because hey did notmake sense then what would be the purpose of heir existence? Therefore, the Resource Center needs to be sensitive toe people who are really downandoutandnot always easy to help. The must stop intimidating their clients. I was extremely bothered by the secretive nature Of their finances. Anyone knows who works in non-profit agencies ’that all Of those records should be readily available to people.-There should be no -reason to hide that information - unless, they are hiding it because their_ costs are extremely high and the hours of service, units of ~ervice, or numbers Of clients are solow that most people would question Why.they have-arOund halfa million dollar budget- and still are saying they d0n’t :. have .enough money. They ha*e much : more than most otherAIDS service orga- : nizations and they control, pretty much, ¯ all oftheUnitedWayfunds,TCAPfunds, ¯ and state funds. Perhaps Saint McDonald : lias something to do with that since she ¯ " als0 serves on the board of the Commu- : nity Service Council, which is an arm of the United Way. see HIVRC, page 13 5 by Tom Neal, publisher/editor : A handful of people arerather upset :right now. Last - month this newspaper published an-article relating the complaints of some people living with AIDS (PLWA? s) " against the I-IIV Resource Consortium (I-IIVRC) and ¯ added complaints of this newspaper about the agency’ s ¯ lack of cooperation, The article highlighted the concerns ¯ of some HIVRC clients,, the response the HIVRC’d]rec- H I V i: R: C . : torand also noted that the Board of " " :: agency appeared to bein viola-. ~o. ¯ don of a~ Oklahoma state law. l.)~reetors " . .: : The latter is the requirement President: that an agency supportedsub- Nane stantially with public monies abide by open meetingsand .~.teL)onam,~ open records statutes. Accord- Viee-presl"dents: ing to TFN, attor.ney and. also t~_~"re-~ ~~aunaIer"s " mylayman sreadingofthelaw, o. r~ ¯ . theagencyshouldprovidemin- 0~, L,,an - utes of its meetings when re- Phnhet, MD quested. To date, the HIVRC has been asked for meeting minutes repeatedly since the latter part of July and has yet to provide them now more than three months later. Wehave reproduced several letters from the president ofthe organization, her close friends and associates, and the HIVRC’ s attorney. Readers can seefor themselves several strategies for both excusing the agency~ s failure to comply with the law and for attempting to shift "blame from the agency, its staff and its boardof directors, to this newspaper. Most of it is just pure silliness and irresponsibility. The law appears to compel the HIVRC to provide its minutes SecretarT: .Tommy Chesbro Rib Helmerleb Caroline Abbott Geo r e Bdlke Michael Esliek Jeffry Johnson Erie Ramlrez Gene Reid Steve Reynolds Charles Se~.er Suzy Stard~eld MaybelleWallaee Jack Welsh Ned Zink when requested. The law does not specify that the entity requesting the minutes must speak to any specific person in the agency’ s hierarchy: Internal communications are usually the responsibility of the agency. The following is what this newspaper did in requesting minutes: Sharon Thoele is the primary legal representative of the agency in conducting it~ day to day business. Thoele signs checks, and TFN understands, hires and fires staff, etc. For the purposes of state open records requests, Thoele is clearly an appropriate legal representative for the organization. Thoele received several requests from TFN for copies of the minutes. These requests weremade first directly to Sharon’s administrative assistance, Susie Stanford, beginning in late July/early August. The first request was ignored for several weeks. The second request was answered with a message (given by Stanford) that Thoele said that TFN could not have the minutes, and that we. should talk with Charles Seeger who was described as their attorney. During that conversation, TFN requested a list of the board of directors from Stanford which was taxed to TFN. This is so far the only document delivered as requested. ¯ Editors note: this letter was.sent to the H1VRC With copies specifically designated to Sharon Thoele & TFN. This is the first ofmany letters thatwehope will let you know how we the clients are feeling; In hopes that things get better at the Consortium for all involved... There are anumberofus that see but donot say, and yet there are those of us who do and get SH1T. We don’tneed the stress ofhaviffg to run all over town to try and find the help you are responsible for giving...You put yourself in the position of wanting to help, so stop the fighting and start the helping... I was broughtup that "ifyou do it right thefirsttimeyoudon’ thaye to doit over... Oncein a while we can understand but each and every month...If you don’t want to help the[n] don’t hinder us!!! , Youallneedto gettheacttogether see PWA, page !2 TFN talked witti attomey(andi~ehi~iSlSens, board mem- : McDonald-of an important request. It also seems less bet) Charle~ Seege,r and requested copies Of the mi.’nutes. ¯ likely that attorney a~d board member Seeger would fail Seeger saidhe di.dn.t think that there was anything to hide " to do so. And another board member said hedid raise the in the minutes but thatsince they were a private non- " issue at a board meeting that took place prior to the profit~ he di-d not feel that they wer9 compelled toprovid~ ¯ publication of our last issue. them and thereforg, the ,HIVRC would not ,make the ¯ Regardless; the point is that now the agency has the minutes available.- - : opportunitytoprovethatitdoesindeedhaveonlythebest TFN informed Seeg~.that we_understood fr,om our : interests .of its .clients at. hea~.,It .el.aims ~at it.has had attorney that the ag¢ne-y ~as subject fo Oklah0mii s o~en~ " g0odandltS and~eviews. That being thecase~theHWRC recordsstatutesandevengavehim’the~s~.~tute~citati~ns,: .:. shouldha~;e.’nd pr0bidm:~ng’t~0g~’andits flnancial Seeger failed to return at least two sub~equen! callsTr0m :" statements a.vailablefor public_ review along with all TFN andfailed to respond to aletterfromTFN sattomey. ; other records that donotinvolve Strict client or employee -: " Board president Nancy McDonald claims that.she Was ¯ confidentiality issues. ¯ completely unaware of these ~eq~u..e,sts. She also is at- ¯ Itcanprovethatitisreallythemodelvogramitdaims temptingt0 excuse the agency Lg failure to comply with " to be by actively responding to the complaints of those ¯. the law by contending that 0nly a request made to her " clients bra~e enough to confront the agency..It Can begin ~ directly is valid, This is pa~t of.the attempt Of the agency ¯ to address its internal communications Issues which to shift blame for its failures to this newspaper. ¯ .include allegations of breaches of client confidentiality. ¯ However, Seegernever saidtoTFNthatarequestmfst " ~ For example, I am aware ofone suCh]ncidentbecause " be made tOboard president McDonald. TFN also called I br6tight it to Thoele’ sattention’ directly. I could have ¯ board member Tommy Chesbro and asked if he could written abom it but I chose to let them try to fix the : help get the’ minutes: Chesbro was sympathetic, but "- problem instead. Hopefully, it is fixed, but the employee ¯ referred questions back to executive dir.ector Tlioele. " who was accused still works for the agency. Others Our contention is that a request made to the executive " involvedin HIV care in Tulsa say that there are ongoing ; director, the primary day-to-day legal representative for problems of this sort. ¯ the HIVRC is more than adequate notice to.the agency. Other issues include allegations by other HIV service ¯ This newspaper went above and beyond duty to speak : providers that instead of working as a model of organizaalso with board members Seeger and board secretary " donal cooperation, the HIVRC has become the bully in ¯ Chesbro. the service provider arena- better at sucking up HIV care ~ Again, it is not the responsibility of this newspaper to dollars and better at adding staff than at actually provid- : fix the internal communications failures of the HIVRC- " ing care. Other agencies tell tales that imply that person- " ifindeedthatistheproblem.Itwouldseemthatexecutive alities and political connections play more of a role in ¯ director, Sharon Thode, who’ s paid slightly more than how agencies interact and how dollars are awarded than " $30,000 annually, should be capable of getting amessage " do the real needs of the clients. ¯ toherboardandpresidentaboutafaidyimportantmatter. And isn’t that who we all should really care about? . Interestingly, several former HIVRC board members " Why is it that so little of the discussion seems to be ¯ told TFN since the HIVRC story was published that ¯ concerned with the clients? That’s where Tulsa Family ¯ during their tenure, the HIVRC had the following proce- " News beganmore than eightmonths ago- by listening to ¯ dures’. earlier boards had been told by.an attorney that " those to who claim the HIVRC mistreated them. Most of ¯ they werenot subject to the Oklahoma Open meedngs and " them say they tried to work with the agency and were not : records acts, but nevertheless those boards had set a : only rebuffed, but some were treated’in ways that added ¯ policy of operating as though they were. For example, the " to their stress and may have worsened their health. ¯ organization posts its meeting times publicly in advance ¯ in accordance with the law. The question then becomes ¯ this: if the HIVRC’s standard, operating p01icy was to ¯ honor the law (even if they contend they weren’t subject ¯ to it), why did they not honor the open records act when ¯ .TFN asked for minutes? ¯" What we have argued is that if the agency has nothing ¯ to hide, then sharing the minutes shOuld never have been ~ a problem. For comparison, TFN talked with several ¯ executive directors Of other non-profits, some HIV re- : lated and others not. Each of these Said that if .they were ¯ asked for minutes, they would provide.them promptly. ¯ One person in another city, who formerly ran an agency ¯ that is dosdy comparable to the HIVRC in mission and : structure, said he would simply have photocopied the ¯ minutes and turned them over. ¯ Some observers of this situation have suggested that ¯ they find it tmlikely that McDonald was unaware of the request but likely directed Tiioele and Seeger to "stonewall" the request. This newspaper has no proof of such contentious. However, given the seemingly dose working relationship betweenMeDonald and ~noele, whom McDonaldrecently helped to honorwith aSWANaward~ it seems rather surprising thatThoele wouldfail to inform How can I convey my. disappointment in your article questioning the HIV Resource Center [sic]? Professional journalism covers both sides ofcontroversialissues. Why were HIVRC client & staff responses not reported?Why did not younot share with your readers any results ofyour 3.5 hour interview with director Sharon Thoele? [editor’s note: the PLWA’s who spoke with us are HIVRC clients, and last we checked, Sharon Thoele was still on the HIVRC staff. TFN reported that part of Thoele’s comments that were relevant to the original complaints by PLWA’s.] Was your article questioning one program, three programs or the agency overall? The issues and considerations behind all AIDS and non-AIDS social services are ind.,e~l complex.. , . One sources related what I hope isjust a rumor with no merit. After TFN’ s interview with Thoele, she’ s alleged to have expressed anger that I did not reveal who my sources were. Let’ s hope that herintentwas good and that that information would have been used to fix the problems. However, the fear by some clients of retaliation surely doesn’ t stem iust from paranoia. The point of all this is not to besmirch the reputations of the staff or the board of the HIVRC. I hope all involved have only the best intentions and have done the best they can with limited resources. And there is no doubt that there are not adequate funds for the need..However, point of public oversight is that the best possible management and ~tre should be prox;ided within the res.trictions of those limited resources. The questions are: is management up to the task; is it possible that the agency has .grown beyond the skills of those leading it; is itmaximizmg the benefit to its clients; is the board willing to follow both the spirit and~the letter of the law? The answer to all these may well be yes. But those of us whose tax dollars or United Way contributions substantially fund this agency have the right to. expect the HIVRC’ s full cooperation and disclostire. It hash’ t happened Yetbut hopefully it will soon. Concerning your lead story tiffed"PLWA’s Indict HIV RC... once again I find an outright assault in print against an organization that has served as a model nationwide in the administration of HIV/AIDS care and resources. While it is easy to understand that every agency cannot please each client 100% of the time.I am concerned that each client is treated with dignity and respect. In my professional dealings with theHIV Resource Consortium I have found a group of compassionate and caring individuals, staff and volunteers dedicated to delivering service efficiently and effectivdy for very little or no pay. [editor’s note: director Thoele ispaidover $30k which is more than many ordinary people make.] While you stated in your artidethat you conducted a 3 see Phillips, page 8 " 1/2 hour interview see Gillean,page 11 St. Rights Group Forms- BURLEY, Idaho (AP) - If gay rights come under fire in the 1997 Idaho Legislature, Schuyler Enochs will be there to stop it. Enochs, of!Caldwell, was jolted into working for gay and lesbian rights after watching his gay son Karl die of AIDS in 1994. Now he is cochairman of Idaho for Basic Rights, which is forming to block possible anti-gay rights legislatiofi from the Heyburn-based Idaho Citizens Alliance. The Idaho Citizens Alliance plans to file two bills by the end of. November~ executive director Kelly Johatmsen said. One would prohibit public schOols from promoting the ers couldnot counsd gay students, offer Some kinds of diversity training or take classes on dealing with. sexual Orientation. The other measure would prohibff the use of tax dollars to promote the homosexuallifestyle.- That means .students at¯ publicly funded colleges ~ould not prod.uce plays favorable to gays and lesbians, and libraries could not p~urehase mat.e.-- rials about gays and lesbians "In our school we don’ t promote dr~gsJwe don~;.t promote alcohoLase-..~?~It~s detrime~a.t~l~ .~o-th~ir health;"qohannsen said?!Statistieally~ iT:theyengage ~ in the homosexual lifestyl~ they~ 11 die lOto. 15 years younger than they would if they.were a smoker." Enochs scoffed at the ideathat schools canpromote. sexuality. "You can’. t teach it: You’re born thatway~’!. he said.:"What’ s wrong with counseling people.that are homosexual?. Their suicide rote is very high. They need help. They need counseling. They need to understand it isn’t.unnatural. It’~s natural, for them.’r Enochs saidignorance is his group’ s biggest obstacle. - "People just don’t understand that a certain percentage ofyour population is gay or lesbian and they have : turned custody of two young boys to their homo- . sexual father on Tuesday, ruling there was no evi- ¯" deuce he exposed them to "improper influences" by ." living with a male lover. The NC Cohrt of Appeals ’ overturned a lower court _,..~.’~gthat had transferred : the boys from Frederick S’~th to his former wife. ¯ Smith woncustody of the boys, ages 8 and 11, after : heandhis wife divorced in Califomia in 1991. Under ¯ the lower court decision, however, they.have been " living with their mother, Carol Ptiiliam, in Kansas._ : Pulliam’s attorney, Phillip Jackson~ said .the ruling : wouldbe appealed to the state Supr.eme Court. Hedid : noLknow if.the.children would, be retiimed from ¯ ~sas i~nme~liatelyl Smi~ alidhis sbns lived with : his grandmother in H~nderson Cty. from i991-94. ¯ But in 1994, the grandmother moved Out and his ¯ Iover, Ti~Tipton, moved, i,n. Pulliam said the change : in Smith s living, arrangements justified giving her : exclusi,~e ,custody bflthe children,~ : A’ Henderson Cty, ~ .c6,Ui-t agT-eed,, finding ihat’,the. :_ chil~en,were ~Xposed to ~’~t and imprbper ififlu- ¯ ences~’ that could’.xlamAge: them dmotionally and- :. social!y~ ,.~a,t finding-was.’b~.d~0n nothi!zg more. ¯ ~ titan 0~ifii’0ii,.A~s~c~ Jfi~gd. Edward Greend :" wrote for a~’-ji~dke~p~i’i~i : this c~s~e, thee is no evidehee that-the’c.onduct huh or : likdy WlUha~;e a ddeteri0us effec(0fi ~echild~n," ¯ i Greene ~vrote2 Smith~.who coachedhis sons’ tee-ball "~ andbaseball teams,,said h,~ hadhopedhis ease Would i not get mUch attehtion.- Mo~t.p~op.!e’drn’ ~ r~lize I’mgay,"hd sai~l.. "Emworried.. ~61 die,,reperdussiohs for ~e kids.at school and me a.t work.. - i CO school DebatesGay ¯ NewspapersStories no choice, no choice at all," he~ said. Johannsen said : her group already has lawmakers ready to support the : COLORADO SPRINGS, Colo. (AP) - Nearly three: 1997 legislation. . : dozen gay rightsadvocates spoke out at a school boardmeeting Wednesday night in support of a high L,. i € " i.date : school newspaper story about teen-age homosexual- euls,a.lv....-.n.. : ity: The:~article~ tided "Finding True Love," was Calls for-Killing Gays: writtenby Mary Margaret NusSbaum, editor-in-’chief of Palmer High Sel~ool’ S monthly newspaper The PUYALLUP, Wash, (AP) =,A legislative candidate Le~;er. The O~t. 24 article describes the problems who outraged many PuyallupHigh School students. with his inflammatory remarks about gays and integration may end up being a good lesson in the basics of democracy and free speech. Mark.Downey, a, PgpuliSt. Party candidate for.the 25th District ofstate House, Position 1:-, was invitedto speak at the school-sponsored, forum but startled students with his intolerant message. He used quotes from the Bible to say homosexuals Shouldbe killed, and he called multi-cul.tural integration a cancer. "He Said something to the effect that Communists, homosexualsand nonwhites should not be allowed to hold public office," said Matthew Oren,,18. "It was a shoeking thing." Downey contends he ~as contributing to. the marketplace of ideas, Ben.Allison, 17; sM,d that- as a blackp+rson he was offended by Downey s remarks, but he wash’, t sure that Downey should ha~e been banned fromthe forum, "I think he hadaright to come because if he hadn’.t come, no one wouldknow his views;" Allison said./’I was close to hitting him, though." Downey’.s fellow¯ candidates~ Democrat Luanne Green and Republican JoyceMcDon~d, also were surprised.by hi~ comments. Gre~n’sai;d ~he"thofight" MeDonald might,grab,the microphone~away, from Downey."’I said; ’Let it go. The-kids needto under~ stand that these people are out there,’ " Green said. Vice Principal Barbara Pope agreed. "I really believe that he should have been~there," Pope said. "To me, the issue is what are we exposingour kids to. I think we expose and then we talk before and afterwards with them." Oren, who was a student panelist for the debate, described a sttmned silence in the auditorium for the first 10 seconds ofDowney’ s closing statement. That silence quickly turned to screaming and booing that nearly drowned out the-candidate’s remarks. Students and teachers talked about the free speech issues in classes following the forum. Gay Dad Can Keep Kids RAT.F.TGH, N.C. (AP) - A state appeals court re- : teens face in coming to terms with their homosexual- ¯ ity. An accompanying commentary by another stu- : dent supported same=sex marriages. ¯ The articles brought a protest from ¯Will Perkins, chairman of ColrradO’frr Family Values, the ~roup ¯ thatatith0redCol0rhflo’s~anti-gayfightsAmeiidmcnt ~ 2/Which was struck d0wnin May bythe’U.S. ,Supreme Court. Perkins did not attend the meeting. The ¯ controversy over.the a~ti~les led.District 11 school board t6 add a discussion of its student publication policy tO its tegular meeting Wednesday. : About 35 people ~p0ke about the articles, with all ~ but one praising thenewspaper. Gerda Fletcher, .the ¯ mother of a gay son; snide"Freedom of speech must never, ever "be suppressed." Sixteen-year-old Brad : Balof saidhehopes the articles ~vill make otlierS.more ¯ accepting .of gay-teens. "I’might n6t’have as hard ~ time growmg up as I thoughtI wotlld," he said. ¯ Superintendent Kenneth Buruley i said the- district ¯ needs a deare~r,.publicafions policy that does not : violate:the state S smdelit-.free-.pressd’aW~ one_of the ¯ most liberal in. the nadon. He said the district is "~ cons’ulfing an att_0me~y. :tb:mak~ ~,~ure’ any at,tqmptg to ;. defixie,:,~ ~611ey d~n’i g0.t06, ~:st~iel,aW S_a.YS ~it . a student-Wtitteii firtidemugt-nb~t beobs~ie:~ libelous, likely to caus~ a dis.t.drbatice]ffthe s6hool dayoi : lack educationalmerit. ¯ Newspaperadviser Vince Puzick saidNussbaum’ ,S, : article met those Criteria."’I encouraged her to do it,’ : he said ofNussbaum. ’T d do the same article again?’ Nussbaum also defended the article before the board. ¯ She SaidThe Lever tries to avoid filling a stereotypi: : cal niche" by publishing stories on controversial ¯ topics such as gtmcontrol. School officials didnot set : a date for deciding the student publications policy : issue. i CA Bar Urges Benefits ¯ SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - The State Baris urging ¯ Califomialaw firms to offer health benefits to same- : sex couples and take other steps against discrimina- ¯ tionbasedonsexualorientation. ’Thisisthefirststate St. Jerome An Affirming Liturgical CSurc5 Kelly Kirby CPA,PC Certified Public ACcountant . a pro~eas~onal corporation . .....Talk _tO us now about your year end tax planning needs. " ’!747-5466 4021 South Harvard, Suite 2!0, Tulsa 74135 JE,WELRY 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272 Comer of 48th & Peoria 9:30 - 5 pm Monday- Friday & , Open Saturdays Now till Christmas ";- MCC Greater Tulsa "Where God Uplifts All People" 1623 N. Maplewood ¯.Tulsa, .Oklahoma 8384715 Auction. 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A state law that took 9~f,~..in 1993 prohibited employmentdiscriminatioi] agaiJ~sthomosexuals. The bar adopted a rule in March 1994 that subjected lawyers and firms to potential disciplinary action for discriminating on the base of mce,-sex, sexual orientation or several other categories in hiring employees or selecting clients. On another front, the state Judicial Council has begun a study of treatment of gays and lesbians in the court system, as lawyers, diehts, witnesses, employees and jurors. Previous studies have focused on women and racial minorities. But the bar’ s Board of Governors decided in August that further step,s were needed after getting a reportfromBmveman s committee on the climate for homosexuals in the legal l community. The report relied heavily on a 1994 study by the LosAngeles County Bar Association that found’inStanceS of dis-- erimination in hiring, workplace ea~ironment, as: siguments, evaluation, pay and prom6ti0n. ¯ The Los Angeles study said 58percent ofgay male lawyers and 68 percent oflesbians "surveyed reported that they had experienced or seen dis~-rimination against homosexual attorneys: Despite the 1993 ban on’ emplo~mentdis~imination, one unnamed legal employer was quoted in the LoS Angeles survey as saying, "We are not interested in lawyers with this type of disability." About 15 percent of all lawyers questioned in therandom survey said their employers discriminated in hiring, 15 percent said their clients did notwantto workwith gay lawyers, and 66 percent reported anti-gay comments or jokes .at work, the report said. In 1991, before passage of the state law and attorney disciplinary rule, a State .Bar study of 14.300 randomly chosen Californialawyers found economic disparities between homosexuals and heterosexuals. For example, gays and lesbians with 10 years of law practice were only two-thirds as likely to be partners in their In’ms, or to make over $100,000 a year, as heterosexuals. The resolution passed this August by the bar’s governing board calls on law firms to adopt, implement and publicize anti-discrimination policies in recruitment, hiring, assignments, pay and promotious. Firms should also maintain a supportive atmosphere rather than onein which gays felt compelled to remain in the closet, the board said. In addition, the board called on law firms to adopt "benefit packages with the same sets of benefits for all employees." Those would include insurance for same-sex partners on the same basis as married couples, in addition to parenting leave, sick leave caretaking and bereavement leave and relocation benefits. Firms were encouraged to invite same-sex partners to social events when spouses were als0 invited. Earlier this year, the bar included domesticpartner benefits in its health package available to California attorneys. Gay Unionsto be Blessed PHILADELPHIA (AP) = A month after Pennsylv.ania passed a law banning same sex mhrriages ,’ ~ state’ s Episcopal Diocese has voted to create ablessing for gay and lesbian relationships. At the diocesan convention Saturday, clergy delegates voted 101-43 and lay delegates voted 75-53 to develop "a rite or rites for the blessing of committed relationships between persons of the same sex." The PennsylvaniaDioceseplans tourge thenational churcl~ to do the same. The combined 176-96 vote "was a surprise to me," said Bishop Allen Bartlett, who had expected a closer margin. The 65,000-member diocese, which has 163 parishes and missions in Philadelphia and four surrounding Counties, will submit the approved resolution to the national governing convention in Philadelphia next year. If the General~ Convention approves, the church’s Standing Liturgical Commission will be asked to devise an appropriaterite. Such a blessing would have no legal standing unless a state legislature chose to recognize it. That ¯ appears unlikely in Pennsylvania. In October, Gov. ¯¯ TomRidge signedlegislationbanning gaymarriages. The Rev. Ruth L. Kirk, who co-submitted the : resolution, said Christian moral codes cannot be ¯ devdoped purdy on the moral codes of the first century. "As I said at the convention: Can God do a : new thing? And can God use the church to do a new ¯ thing? For centtLdes we have condemned gays and ¯ lesbians. It is time to support committed, loving : relationships." ¯ DenverWorkers.Benefits i DENVER (AP) - City officials say only 48 city : workers signed up their gay partners for health ben- . efits by this week’s deadline, far fewer than oppo- ¯ nents ofthenew programpredicted. The City Council : voted overwhelmingly in September to offer the ¯ benefits to partners of gay employees. Open enroll- : ment for the program ended at 5 p.m. Thursday.. ’Tm : a little surprised,"said Fred :rjmmerman, director of : the city’s Career Service Authority. "I.thought it ¯ wonld be higher." " -, ¯ ¯ ¯ Opponents of the benefits’extension had predicted i themove wouldlead toa huge increase in health care ¯ costs’. With48 signing up, the city"s insurance premiums for eligible workers, which total about $12 ¯ million ayear, willincrease by $80,000. Timmerman : said the actual number of .enrollees shows those ¯ predictions were overestimated. "We never had any ¯ fear about it,"he said. Timmerman said he expected ¯ at.least I percent of the 8,500 eligible employees to : signupfor theprogram..The48 whodidrepresentless ¯ than 0.6 percent. i Presbyterian Church : Leader Urges Cease-Fire : GREENVILLE, S.C. (AP) -The top elected official ¯ of the Presbyterian.Church (USA) says church lead- ! ers shonld declare a cease-fire in disputes overhomo- : sexuality that he says threaten to divide the denomi- ¯ nation. "We do not agree at all about what the Bible ¯ means onthisissue," saidJolmBuchananofChicago, ¯ elected moderator of the 3 million-member denomi- : nation this year. "The question becomes for me: ’Can ¯ we find some way to live with that diversity or must ¯ we resolve the issue in a way.., that divides us?’ "he ¯ said. Buchanan spoke Tuesday to members of the ¯ ¯ Foothills Presbytery, which represents 21,000 merebers in 65 Upstate churches. ¯" In the coming months, presbyteries nationwide ¯ will vote on whether to amend the church’ s constitu¯ tion to require thatministers be faithful in amarriage between a man and a woman or live in chastity if single: The church already has a policy statement that bars practicing gays from ordination, but its Book of : Order does not include such a restriction. Buchanan : said Presbyterians tradifonally interpret passages in ¯ context with the whole Bible and through debate within the church. "Everybody knows that ff you are : - willing to simply pick-things out of the text you can ." pretty much f’md justification for whatever position ¯ you want to take on any given issue," he said. : ¯ RI .Police Welcome Gays : PROVIDENCEi R.L (AP).- The Rhode Island State : Police have been trumpeting a recruitment drive that ¯ seeks to diversify the 193-member force, which in- : eludes 14 women, 12 blacks and one Hispanic. For ¯ thefirsttime, arecruitmentad appearedin this month’ s ¯ edition of Options, a newsletter for gays andlesbians ¯ published in Providence. It’ s bdieved to be a novel ¯ step for a state police force. ~ ’‘This is a first that I know of," said Boston Police ¯ Sgt. Norman Hill, president of the New England ¯ chapter of the. Gay Officers Action League. ’‘They ¯ deserve a pat on the back. They should definitely be : acknowledged for their progressiveness." "Really?" ¯ replied San Francisco Police Officer Phil Fleck when ¯ told of the ad. "That’ s proactive for Rhode Island," ¯ ¯ said Fleck, liaison to the department for the Golden State Peace Officers Association, an organization of ¯ gay and lesbian officers. ’’That’s very positive for them to do this thing." Southwest - ca+l WHAT IS VIATICATION? Viatication is the process through which a person living with an terminal illness canreceive a cashpayment from the face value of their insurance policy. WHO IS ELIGIBLE FORA VIATICAL SETTLEMENT? Generally, to be eligible for a viatical settlement you must have a documentable terminal illness, and life insurance coverage in either an individual term, ’./hole life, or a group policy. HOW MUCH IS MY POLICY WORTH? The value of your life insurance policy in a viatical settlement is determined by the specifics of your policy and your unique medical situation. Not every policy is suitable for viatication, but settlement offers typically range from 60% to 90% of a policy’s face value, depending on the specifics of your policy and medical history. HOW DOES A SETTLEMENT WORK? With your written permission, we gather medical and insurance records with which to determine your policy’s value. Then, a settlenmt offer is presented to you. You may always decline the offer with no obligation whatsoever. Should you accept the offer, payment is made directly to you. Youpay nothing else on your policy, andyou owe us nothing. IS VIATICATING MY POLICY THE RIGHT CHOICE FOR ME? Many factors influence whether viaticating your life insurance is the best financial alternative available for you. Southwest Viatical can discuss all ofthefactors with you and your family in person, in detail and can recommend an experienced Certified Financial Planner to assist you in planning the best outcome from your unique financial situation. HOW IS SOUTHWEST VIATICAL DIFFERENT? Today, many companies offer viatical settlements, doing business only by bulk advertising and 1-800 numbers. They transfer your insurance and medical records by mail, and do business from another state. At Southwest Viatical, we believe you should be assured of complete confidentiality and the best possible service by working with us in person, face-to-face. We are involved on a community level, and are responsible directly to our local commtmity. By working with you in person, but at the same time having access to nationwide financial resources, we are able to deliver the best value on your policy available today. And because of our established resources, we. can deliver a settlement in less than a third the time other companies take by mail, typically in fewer than 30 days, We’ll do what it takes to find the best solution for you. Kelly Kirby Oklahoma Representative 4021 South Harvard, Suite 210 Tulsa, OK 74135 800-305-6384 918-747-3320 Free & Anonymous Finger Stick Method By &for, but not exclusive to the Lesbian, Gay~ &Bisexual Communities. Monday & Thursday evenings, 7-9 pm Daytime testing, Mon-Thurs by appointment. H P E" HIV Outreach, Prevention & Education formerly TOHR HIV Prevention Programs 742-2927 4158 South Harvard, Suite E-2 . 2 doors east of theHIV Resource Consortium Look for our banner on testing nights. SCOTT ROBISON’S PRESCRIPTIONS Serving Tulsan’s Since 194 7 Major credit cards In-store charges or Direct insurance billing for your convenience! 3 locations to serve you: Hillcrest PhysiciaWs Building 1145 So. Utica 582-7144 Utica Square Area 1560 East 21st, Ste. 104 743-2351 The Plaza 8146-D South Lewis 299,1790 New Blood Safety Product Developed OKLAHOMA CITY (AP) - Scientists at the Ol~lfil~tma MedicalResearch Foundation have developed a patented new use for a drug that should eliminate the threat of AIDS in blood transfusions and might be effective in treating HIV-infected patients. The foundation received a U.S. patent Tuesday for a process to introduce Methylene Blue into bags used to collect and store blood donations, Dr. William G. Thurman, president of the private, nonprofit foundation, said Wednesday. "It is our hope that the drug will be as useful in clinical disease as it is in preventing the disease by putting it in the bags used to collect blood," Thurman said. The Daily Oklahoman reported Thursday in a copyright story that the insti~te deyeloped the use that canrender die AIDS virus i]iaet~ve in human blood, making it safe for use in transfusions. Biochemist Dr. Robert A. Fioyd saidhe also believes low doses of Methylene Bluemightbe effectiVein destroyingHIV or reducing the amount of virus in people withAIDS orwhoareHIV~positive. Floyd said OMRFhopes to conduct clinical tri= als with Methylene Blue in the near future. The medication-Methylene Blue also has been used to treat bipolar:disorder, or manic depression, and as an antidote to carbon monoxide poisoning. Floyd said various dosages of Methylene Blue have been studied extensively in humans with no side eff~ts or toxicity levels have been found. Thurman said putting Methylene Btueinbloodtrausfusions andbloodproducts should not significantly add to their cost. NY Doctors Can’t Discriminate ALBANY, N.Y. (AP) - Doctors-in private practice ca~ be charged under state humanrights laws withdiscfiminationfor allegedly denying medical coverage to people they suspect ofhavingAIDS, New Estate Planning: Revocable Trusts Everyone, regardless of their HIV stares, should take the time to plan their estates to ensure that their wishes are fulfilledregarding thedispositionofproperty, financial management, and health care decisions. Because of the possible physical and mental incapacity, persons with HIV are encouraged to take steps as soon as possible to maintain as much control as possible over their futures. One of the options is a Revocable Trust. ARevocableTrustis an estate planning document created by a person (usually called the "settlor") to transfer property into a trust. The trustmay make the settlor the sole beneficiary of the trust during until the settlor dies. Atrustee is named to manage the property while the setflor is alive and who distributes the property when the settlor dies. The setflor may amend the trust at any time. When the settlor dies, the property is distributed according to the terms of the trust, and any property in the trust will avoid probate when the settlor dies. Be aware, however, arevocable trust will not save aay taxes since th~.trus~t l~’,qL~e..~..~ will York’s highest court ruled today. The ¯ Court of Appeals decided 4-3 that denlists’ offices are"places ofpublic accom- -" modation" and it reinstated discriminalionjudgments against two dentists made ¯’ by the state Division of Human Rights. : The three dissenting judges said their -" four colleagues weremakingnew law and ¯ that the decision would saddle the Divi- ¯ sion of Human Rights with claims the : Legislature did not intend it to have. : The court ruling came in two similar ¯ cases stemmiug from what patients said ¯¯ was denial of treatment by Dr. Dennis Cahill ofBay Shore and Dr. LloydLasser " of Newburgh. In ruling in the patients’ favor, the Human Rights Division had : said private dentist offices are "places of : publicaccommodation" within themean- " ing ofthelaw whichprohibits dlscrimina- : lion on the basis of gender, race, religion, medical condition or o.ther factors. ThalidOmide for AIDS Care ¯ WASHINGTON (AP) - Thalidomide, ¯ whichbecametheworld’smost infamous ¯" drug after causing thousands of horrific ¯ birth defects more than30 years ago,may ¯ soon be sold in the United States - per- ~ haps as early as next year. ¯ While the drug shows promise in fight- ¯" ing someAIDS-related disorders, leprosy ¯ and other devastating diseases, the Food : and Drug Administralion already is taking steps to protect women who could bear children with no limbs or tiny flip- " per-like arms and legs after taking just ¯ one pill in early pregnancy. : .Thalidomide, once sold in 48 countries ¯ as a sleeping pill and morning sickness ¯ cure, was banned worldwidein 1962 after ¯ some 12,000 babies were born with miss- ¯. ing or malformed limbs, serious facial deformities and defective o~gaus. ¯ It was never sold in the United States, ¯ because FDA scientist Frances Kelsey ¯ uncovered signs of toxicity that its manu- : facturerhaddenied. Butlast week, Kelsey, : now in her 80s and still at the FDA, heard ¯ see.Health, page 10 : beincludedinthe setflor’ s estatefor estate ¯ tax purposes. ¯ Arevocable trust is anespecially useful ¯ ¯ document for a person who is presently capable ofmanaging his.or her affairs but ¯ who anticipates becoming incapacitated : in the future. A revocable trust can aid in ¯ planningforincapacitybyhelping toavoid ." the expense, embarrassment and diffi- ¯ culty in seeking a court appointment of a ¯ guardian or conservator in the event of ." incapacity. If all of the setflor’s assets are ¯ placed in the revocable trust, then upon ¯" the setflor’s incapacity, the trustee can ¯ take over management of the trust assets ¯ for the settlor’ s benefit. ¯ There are both advantages and disad- : vantages to the revocable trust. A revocable trust is more expensive and difficult ¯ to ere,ate and administer than a Last Will : and Testament. However, its advantages ". include flexibility, avoidance of probate, ¯ continuity of management of assets. Be- . cause it is unnecessary to publicly file the : trust document in court, the trust arrange- " mentremaius private. The property distri- : bution may be more protected from chal- ¯ lenge than if by Will. recoguizableboardmembers? Itis hardto find good board members for any organization and assaults like this make this task even harder. Devalued the work of employees, volunteers and supporters of the Resource Center. The HIV Resource Center is a national model because of broad based community support. Your incomplete articlemay havejeopardized volunteer support, f’mancial support and the level of client services. (I hope this will not be true.) Is an example of behaviors you have ’written and spoken about working ag~nst -- infighting in the commuility and using. the press to present one ’side of.an zssue_-, and to capriciously defame Others. Showed divisiveness within the gay community at a most inopportune time -- the opening of the pride center [sic], the elections, the fall funding cycle during a time of social service cutbacks; and the appointment of Tulsan Nancy McDonald as national president of PFLAG. I have spent time, money and energy building community within the gay community and building bridges within our larger community. I am joined in this by manypeoplelocally andnationwide. Your behavior ofprinting this incomplete, vituperative article undermined the work we do. You owe an apology to your readers and to the straight and gay community in which you live. I suggest that TFN has a responsibility to cover issues objectively, thoroughly and to work with an editorial board [editor’s note: emphasis added] before going to press. Withyour visibility comjes [sic] a high levd of accountability. TFN has the ability to become a community- building tool. Without an apology and a logic~dly written contusion to this article how will anyone in good conscience trustTFN as this city’s gay paper of record? - Rick Phillips Editor’s response: First, a thank you to Mr. Phillipsfor editing his letter to amore conciseform. Secondly, Mr.Phillipsseems to confuse ourwriting aboutallegedproblems with the HIVResource Consortium for being responsible for creating them. He should know that the HIVRC’S staff, and ultimately, its board members are responsiblefor any actions thatmay dam-. issue, our story on Nancy_. McDonald’s selection asPFLAGnational boardpresident: Howevbr, we dsahave;an obligait ~hen :we local restaurant owner, but he doesn’t seem to like it when we run a story he deems "embarrassing’" to his other friends. Finally, we are amused at Mr. Phillips suggestion that this newspaper work with an editorial board. Thisdesirefor a board of censors appears to originate several yearsago withMcDonaldandTim Gillean when Gillean was TOHR president. It appears that they don ’t welcome an inde= pendentpress which cannotbecompletely controlled by those whofeel that theirs is the "right vision and methods" for the well-being ofTulsa’sLGBTcommunities. As we’ve written before, consensus, and the resulting unity, is built through open and honest dialogue , not imposed. Kelly Kirby rightly pointed out to the would be censors that they had no plac~ telling TFNwhatto write. Ifthis newspaper needs to have a board ~elling us what not to write, then certainly there are those in this city who see the need to closely supervise Mr. Phillips, Mr. Gillean and Mrs. McDonald as well. We have had favorable inspections and audits as to the compliance with each grant reviewed. We also have a yearly audit that is contracted to and conducted with an outside audit firm: this firm is accountable to the Board of Directors. Our meeting notices are posted and advertisedin theAIDS Coalitionnewsletterwhichis distributedby theCommtmity Service Council; this newsletter reaches the communities most affected by the services of the HIV Resource Consortium. Notices are also posted at.the Resource Center [sic]. The meetings of the Board of Directors have been open and will continue to be open to any persons wanting to attend. The only occasions we have closed theBoardmeetings havebeen to act on personnel matters; this would include annual evaluation of the Exec. Director’s performance, and any grievance by staff or by clients which require Board investigation and action. [emphasis added] In reviewing, the meeting attendance records which~nclude the M~mbers of the Board as well as visitors, Ida not find your name listed:as having ever attended age the agency. ¯ ameeting of the Board of Directors. Thirdly, since some board members : Aslunderstandit, yourequestedcopies mayfeel that they were unfairly singled i of the minutes of the Board of Directors out, "weare hap~y to clarify ofu!.~lO~ :: and weretoid!torequest them _fr,om the,~ gize. Those who were listdd doho~ hav~ ’ .:~ .Presiden~ of the Board. [editor.s note:l. hny greater responsibility for any prob- : exec. director Thoele and administrative lems that may exist at tl~e ’HIVR~. Ulti- . assistant Stanford directed TFN to speak mately, responsibility falls on al..1 these ". withboardmember andattorney, Charles people equally. We have published the ¯ Seger, which we did.] At no time have I complete board list on page 3, so that " received arequest from you.for copies of readers can know who’s responsible. . : the minutes either verbally or in written Regarding community building, etc. no ¯ correspondence. [editor’s note: this is not doubt, Mr. Phillips has done many good : true. Beside multiple requests via Thoele, works as he proclaims, but he ishardly ". Seger, etc., on Sunday, Oct. 20 (well bedone in these efforts This newsfiaper, ~ : fore this letter of 10/28) at a Tulsansfor and many others, have done equal cam- . Equality event tn ~.ont of-two others, munity building work - much’of it not ... McDonald directecl an acrimonious tipubliclyproclaimed. .~. i radetowardthiseditorinwhichshemade Mr.Phillips recently has been reported . it qu{t_e clear that she was well aware of to savthatifherananbwstgal~er, hdwould ¯ TFN s request .for minutes. TFN made it orin~ "oni~ositive" arti’cl~s: ~would ". clear that we still expected the HIVRC to ~ke for ~mat propaganda, but hardly ". make available the minutes. Also. this reperforms the role ofnews reporang, We : quest has been ,m_ade to the H.IVI~.C’s inour community~for example; in:or~rlast., ¯ not been r~ceivedd.see MeDonala~p, li HITSUBISH! , ~OTORS GOODBUY 1996’s HELLO to 19-9 DEAL N0- Money, ’ t Lltle 001~15 lfalle r~ile ’AmSn 81m0 l/~ ~111~ , ~hl0Air~0ninl 0~0lWlm&R.rSpaW OR CHECK OUT A BRAND NEW ] ’97 ECLIPSE GS No Money Down! -Timothy W. Daniel Attorney at Law An Attorney who will fight for justice & Equality for Gays &Lesbians Domestic Partnership Planning, Personal Injury, Criminal Law & Bankruptcy 1-800-742-9468 or 918-352-9504 128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma Weekend and evening appointments are available. SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School, 9:45 am Worship Service, 11 am 2627b East 1 lth 583-7815 Community ofHope (United Methodist) Worship Service, 6 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Family of Faith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Worship Service, 11 am 5451-ES. Mingo, 622-1441 Metro. Comm. Church of Greater Tulsa Worship Service, 10:45am 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa 6:30 pm at Canterbury 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 ¯ MONDAYS ¯ ¯ HIV Testing Clinic - ¯ Fre~ & anonymous testing " ¯ using fingerstick method. " ¯ No appointment required. - ¯ Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm : Results hours: 7-9 pm . Info: 742-2927 PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 2nd Mon. of month 6:30 pm, 4154 S. Harvard Info: 7494901 OTHER GROUPS The Technicians, Leather org., Info c/o 621-5597 ¯ T.U.L.S,4. Tulsa Uniform ¯ & Leather Seekers Assoc. Info: 838-1222 Gay & Lesbian Sttutent Association TCC Southeast Campus, Info: 631-7632 SWAN-Single Women’s Activity Network Call 832-2121 TUESDAYS " WEDNESDAYS HIV+ Support Group ¯ Bless The Lord At All HIV Resource Consortium " Times Christian Center 1:30 pm " Prayer & Bible Study 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 : 7:30 pm 2627-B East llth Info: Wanda @ 7494194 Shanti-2~ulsa, Inc. . HIV/AIDS Support Group & also, Friends & Family ¯¯ HIV/AIDS Support Group 7 pro, call for location: ¯ 749-7898 Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pm, 241-2282 $4, Sand Springs Skate Grief Group : Butler/Stumpff Funeral : Home ¯ 2103 E. 3rd St. " Call for time: 587-7~ Call 583-7815 for info, Family Of Faith MCC Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Practice 7:30 pm 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. TNAAPP Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project Support group for Gay & Bi Native American Men, 6 pm at Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd 582-7225 or 584 4983 : THURSDAYS Co-Dependency Support Group : 7:30, Family of Faith MCC : 5451-ES. Mingo, 622-1441 : HOPE : HIV Outreach, ¯ Prevention, Education : Anonymous HIV Testing ¯ Walkin testing: 7 ~ 8:30 pm : Results hours: 7 - 9 pm ¯ Info: 742-2927 ¯ Tulsa Family Chorale ¯ Weekly practi~e, 9~30 pm ¯ Lola’s 2630E. 15~ : PFLAG Family AIDS ¯ Support Group 1st & 3rd Thursdays ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 Alternatives Weekly social events for LGBT men & women, 7 pm Info: 646-5503 Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G 3-4:30 pm Info: 7494194 ¯ FRIDAYS Safe Haven ¯ Young Adults Social Group ¯ 8pm, 1st Fri. of each mo. ¯ Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th : SATURDAYS ." Mixed Yolleyball for : Fun & Competition ¯ Helmerich Park, 2 pm ¯ 71st & Riverside : Info: 587-6557 St. Jerome’s Church : Mass, 6 pm, Garden Chapel ¯ 3841 S. Peoria : Info: Father Rick, 742-6227 : Narcotics Anonymous ¯ Meets weeny at 11 pm ¯ Confidential support for recovering addicts. ." Community of Hope : 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 ¯ NAMES Project : AIDS Memorial Quilt ¯ Sewing Bees, 3rd Sat. of ¯ each month: 748-3111 ¯ low:income people who have the virus that causes AiDS that it,will sdect 75 of ¯ them to receive drngs to fight the disease. doctors explainthalidomide’ suniqueabil2 i The health department will pick the 75 in .FUNERALS JUST ity to inl~bit a substance that can spur . alottery onNov.27,andawardcachupto NEVER SEEMED jmrmme-related diseases like lupus, lep- " $10,000 for the costly medications. RIGHT FOR MY FAMILY=. rosy and certain AIDS ailments. Thalido- ¯ Those eligible for-the lottery do not midealso stops bloodvessel growth-o.ne : receive Medicaid assistance, do not have THE CREMATION reason for the birth defects ~ making ~t a 1 privateimuranceoreamlessthan$14319 SOCIETY WAS CREATED possible future treatment for cancer and ¯ ayear. Sdectious willbemade from each FOR PEOPLE LIKE ME. the incurable macular-deg~eneration ..that’ : part of Missouri reader a formula.that blinds the elderly. " takesinto account themorbidity ratefrom Early next year, Andrulis Inc. of : AIDS in each area of the state. ~ ~ Beltsville, Maryland, will seek approval ¯ The drngswhenUsed separately arenot for thalidomide to treat the excruciating " effective because the virus quickly builds ulcers that afflict AIDS patients. Then, : up a resistance. Mixing the drugs may We enjoy being ourselves. A funeral seems .ostentatious Cdgene also will seek I~rmission to sdl " change AIDS from a fatal illness to a and Can cost a lot of money. A simple, dignified . " thalidomideto the 150,000 AIDS patients ¯ chronic illness like diabetes, some doesuffering from wasting, orsevere Weight " tors say. But the medicine is expensive - cremation just seems to fit our lifestyle. .. (;rematm"n" tety® B~rthdefects aren t the 0iil~’nsk..Tha- " js there are individuals ~ that. do not now. ~ lidomide a~so ,can severely’damage pa- ¯ ha4e,aecessto.thesemedications andthese ~. tients’ nerve cells, causing a p~ul, in~ i medications need to be accessible,, sat Of Oklahoma . curable condition called p~ripheral . John Hubbs, chief Of- the health neuropathy. - ~ ¯ department’sHIV/AIDScare.ButHubbs .... 2103 East Third, Tulsa, Oklahoma 74104-1842 Still, AIDS patients are clamoring.f~r : said the state cannot afford tobuy the 918-599-7337 or toll-free, 800-994-7337 thalidomide. Take the AIDS-related ul- : medicine for everybody who needs it~ or visit us on the Internet at eers, so painful that some patients starve : DarrenWethers,aphysicianinSt, Louis, rather than swallow over the raw tissue. ¯ said the plan is unfair. Wethers, who rehttp:// www.eremation.org/oklahoma/oklahoma-html_______ Studies indicate thalidomide healed the " cently spoke at an AIDS co_nf~en~,’.m For Free Literature, Without Cost or Obligation, sores injust 10 days, said James Learned : "Columbia, said the lottery is a puouc " ~ of the PWA Health Group in New York, " health insult" because it puts "patients in Mail this coupon today[ whichlast year provided thalidomide un- ¯ competition for medi,,cines that they all derground until the FDA allowed more : rightfully qualify for. "As much as we Please contact me. I would like to learn more about patients to use it in research programs: : wouldlike to provide access t,o, al~l~of~_.em, your special final expense program. ¯ ,..,: we just realistically can t do that, Name: - Age: Rural AIDS Care : .ubbssaid. ¯ Address: GREENVILLE, N:C. (AP) ~- Doctorssay i people affected withHIV in easternNorth ¯ City; St. &Zip:. Carolina0ften haVe little choice bm to" ’~ Telephone: live from medical emergency to emer- " community organizations, a comm.unit.~- gency. That’s because thereare few doe- wide holiday potluck. Chose your hol~- tors and dentists in rural areas who are day,beitChrisilnas,Hanukkah,KwaanTa _~......~ ....... willing to care for patients, who often " or Yule, but bring a side dish to this __ mwursetcderiviveeclaoren.g- distances tio urban arleas "" pboeltlpurcokvibduefdfe.ttP" lSea°sftedRrioSnVksPatnodDmeebabtie at Butler-Storm East Carolina, the University 6f North ~ 712-.!600.. Later that evening, BI~.TA Carolina and Duke medical schools an- " will have its end of year Formal (actually n°uncedM°ndaythattheywillw0rkt°::m°sdysemi~f°rmalbutfeelfreet°g°all gethertostre~mlinecareforHIV-infected out if you want to) from 9-2am. $2/per- Funera Home Medicaid patients who live in rural east- : son. All wdcome. Alcohol &smoke-free. ern North Carolina- The three schools " Prime Timers will start meeting at the received a five-year, $2 million federal ¯ CenterbeginninginDecember.Thismeetgrant to track patients in53 eastern coun- : ing will be Sunday, Dec. 8th from 4-6pro Cemetery - Funeral Home - Crematory ties. The goal is provide one organization " (in Jan. the group will go back to firstSun. that will follow all Medicaid-eligible, " of the mo.)~ Also Tulsa’s young adult ¯ HIV-infected adult patients to make sure ¯ see Center, page 12 At Butler-Stumpff Funeral Home, you and your family their needs are met. The researchers will " will be treated withdignity, compassion, andpride- Whether begin enrolling about 600 Medicaid pa- ; tients next fall. Eventually, researchers " it is your given or chosen family who needs our services, expect to enroll about 1500 people in 53 . eastern counties. " s.ectarian symbols from its city seal. you can be who and what you are, and you will not be "ButyouthrowHIVontopofit, andthe " Some Tulsa board members of the remoteness of ... where people live in : ACLU include Barbara Santee, and Bill discriminated against. rural eastern North Carolina, it does not ¯ Hinkle, , - We offer our exclusive $2820, complete funeral plan, no lend for seeldng treatment or main~tai.n!n.g i Dr. Joycelyn Elders~ former Surgeon treatment because of the obstacles that . General of the United States under Presiadded costs. If you have a policy some-where else, you can yo,’ll encounter," the patient says inona ¯ dent Clinton, will give the evening’s ad- transfer your policy to us, andmay be due a cash refund if videotape. The Centers for Disease C - dress. The event is $50/person. For more trol and Prevention has identifi.ed the ~ info. leave a message at 405-524-8511. you paid more for what you have now. southeastern United States as an tmpor- . tant epicenter for the spread,of~0i0nf.0% ¯ Our journey through life should be done with pride; tion, with about 126 peopte in xuu, infected,includingthosewithactiveAIDS- : shouldn’t our journey through death be.done with pride as In 1995, the national rate of HIV infec- : well? For more information, please call 918-587-7000 for tion, including active AIDS, was 27.2 in. of all our citi.zeus. Kelly Kirby serves as 100,000. In other areas of the country, TOHRrepresentadvetotheCoalifonand HIV is concentrated in urban areas. 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I personally contacted the president of the HIVRC board only to learn that.the editor ofTFN nev~ requested the minutes._Why continue to attack someone on unfounded reasons’ ~ ¯ , [ ditor s note: as aperson with experience with non-profit boards, as a chairperson, a member and-an employee, this notion that a request is only valid ifmade . to McDonaldhas no basis in law or common practice. Gillean ought to be condemning Thoele, Stanford, orSeegerfor failing to forward the request, ifindeed they didfail to do so.] As a grand finale to your tabloid piece you suggested that perhaps board members could be freed and evenjailed. Men- . tioning only five of the total board members sound like.some sort of personal attack on your chosen five. What about the other members of the board? What kind ofjournalismis this? I cannot understand what benefit it is to our community to attack the very people who are giving their precious time an [sic] energy as volunteers to create a better community for all ofus. Why should anongay person ". be willing to give their time and money to our community when they are attacked i personally and threatened by your publi- ¯ cation? Why indeed should a gayperson ¯ volunteer and be subjected to this kind of " attack? ¯ [Editor’s note: board members shouM i understand When they acCeptpublicposi- ¯ tions that they will have to be accountable ". for the agency which they supervise, i Gillean might also read the OKstatutes.] . I would like to say to the people who were attacked by this article that I appre- i eiate all you do. Please don’t stop now. To " the individuals who feel they have been : mistreated by the organization, there are ¯ much better ways than through the tab- " loids. ¯ [Editor’s note: several oJ those who ¯ spoke to TFN did so only after repeated " efforts to work with the HIVRC.] ". The editor at TFN must issue an apol- : ogy to the five board members attacked and to the readers for not completing i proper research before publishing your : article. -Timothy E. Gillean ¯ Editor’s note: just after receiving this ". letter byfax on Oct. 28th, IcalledGillean to givehim theopportunity to clarify in his i own words, his close ties to HIVRCboard president McDonald. I left a message with his assistant, Brian, asking Gillean to call TFN. To date, he has not done so. Readem may want to consider thefol- : lowing~ Several years ago, Gillean proposed a board ofcensor-sfor TFN. Later i when TFN ran an editorial he and ¯ McDonald did not like, "Gillean used his ¯ position as TOHR president to retaliate ". against TFN, to the detriment of TOHR. " After his bid for a 2nd term as TOHR ". presidentfaildd, hejoined thePFLAG & : Community Service Council boards, or- ¯ ganizations with which McDonald is " closely associated and allegedly at : McDonald’s behest. The minutes are available for review to ¯ anyone, attending-theBoard Meeting;and : to anyone requesting copies through .the : appropriate channels. If copies are re- . quested-the individual must pay for the i co.p.ies as we attempt to be good stewards ot the monies available tous. : We .are deeply distressed by the article : .aP.peanng in the Tulsa Family News and mvzte you to attend our next Board meeti ing, scheduled for Thurs. Nov. 21 atnoon ¯ at the HIV Resource Center [sic]. If you : wishtorequestinformationfromtheBoard : of Directors regarding minutes or other : appropriate public information, I forward _- to receiving your request. Thank you ¯ We are asking you as Editor of Tulsa : Family News to print this letter in its : -entirety next edition of your newspaper. .,~ Nancy McDonald, President toward Amedure. However, ifJonathan Schmitz was able to-form the intent to commit suicide, he also would have been able to form the intent to commit murder, a psychologist testified Tuesday. Dr. Carol Holden was called as a rebuttal witness by the prosecution. Oakland County assistant prosecutor Roman Kalytiak pointed out that Schmltz never referred to suieide during hiss911, call or during police questioning. x ne jury fotmd that Schmitz, 26, acted without premeditation and did notcommitfirst- degreemurder. Hecouldgetanywhere from eight years to life in prison with the possibility of parole when he is sentenced Dec. 4. First-degree murder carries no hope of parole. The segmentofthe "JennyJones Show" was never aired but was played for the jury. In it, Am~_ur_e,,outlined fantasies of Sehraitz involving whipped cream and ~champagne~" Schmitz reacted withanembarrassed smile butno apparent anger. He turned away when Amedure put an arm around him and tried to kiss him. "I’m definitelyaheterosexual, Iguess youcould say," Schmitz said. The 1996 RedRibbonHoliday: Treefest and Gallery Walk will showcase holiday trees and other holiday items. These will be sold at auction to raise funds for Interfaith AIDS Ministries which provides spiritual~ emotional, andpractical support for those whose lives are touched by HIV andAIDS.This year’s format will include an "official opening," in the Brady Arts Gallery District, Thursday, Nov. 21 from 6-9 pro. More viewing hours will be on Nov. 22-23, and pick-up of trees will take place on Nov. 24th. PhilbrookMuseumwill shroudits Rodin sculpture ofAdam on Dec. 1 in honor of Ds..ema3ya" Wpriothfeosustz.Aonrat.ls"aCnoduanrttlseuspspaorrtitsetrss,hmavuedied.., from AIDS. Wecan.only guess at how many works of art will be denied to us by this disease that respects neither people nor creativity," noted Richard Townsend, Hardman Curator of European and American Art. 3 READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley : The id~ that the gay rights movement is foreverjoined to "leftist" politics gets a : thorough trashing in Brace Ba,w,er’s n.e.w ¯ compilation, "Beyond Queer.’ At this point in history, some centrist, and fight of center, authors are proposing a new ¯ approach to winning the battle for gay ¯ rights. Their perception is that, histori- " cally, the movement has tried to claim "victim" status, and that this will not be a successful strategyfor winningfull equality for gay and lesbian Americans. Editor Bawer is well known, having written eight books, including the provocative" A Place at th~ Table." Here: he has compiled forty essays by a variety of authors, including former New Republic editor Andrew Sullivan, San Francisco Chronicle correspondent Carolyn Lochhcad and heterosexual Chicago Tribune columnist Stephen Chapman. Describing the authors,Bawer states "though many of us have been tagged in the gay press as ’gay conservatives,’ few of us wouldbe consideredconservativeby anyone- who objectively examined our politics; we variously call ourselves liberals, moderates, libertarians and communitarians- or we eschew such labels Stogether as increasingly irrelevant iff a post-ideological era." Bawer’ s intent is to present an alternative to what he sees as a radical, in-yourface activism. Bawer initially cites "an episode of ’The Charlie Rose Show’ devoted to the twenty-fifth anniversary of the Stonewall riots, (when) the radical lesbian activist Donna Minkowitz told me: ’We don’t want a place at the tablewe want to turn the table over.’ That line pretty well sums up the attitude of many leftist gay activists toward both ’the system’ and gays who seek to work within it." In essay after essay, the authors explain their positions with rifles like "Why Outsupport group will be at the Center earlier that afternoon. Last but not least is video night at the Center. The inaugural video will be Wigstockto be shown on Sat. Dec. 14th at 9pro in the Renfro Room. Popcorn and pop will be available. It’s free (though donations are acceptedforthe Center) and three of Tulsa’ s most fabulous drag divas may appear: Christina, Dolly Love and grand diva, Sensuous. January’s video night should be the 2rid Sat. also. Call to RSVP with Debbie at 712-1600: On Nov. 2rid, the Pride Center held a grand opening with about 70 people attending. TOHR/Pride Center president Deb Statues held a brief presentation of certificates to recognize thosewhohelped with the Center. More than 50 individuals were honored, in particular, Kelly Kirby and Tim Gillean, former TOHR presidents, and now-closed Agape Christian Fellowship for its donation of chairs and tables. Statues also announced the decision to name the rooms in the Center. The lounge/library was named the Pfimetimers Loungeinrecognilionoftheir generous support of the Pride Center. The largest single gift came from this group. ing Doesn’t Work," "Sleeping with the Enemy" and ’!Here Comes the Groom: A (Conservative) Case for Gay Marriage." In,"A Gay Right Agenda," author John Berresford’ s conservative response to his liberals friends’ stance is %..I amas much in favor or basic civil rights for gays as they are. Where we differ is in the need for group-based remedies and in perceiving ourselves as victims whose main recourse shouldbe coercion by the government." Berresford’s answer is to "come out whenever it is reasonably safe. The best way to explode the myths about us is for.each of us to become known as .just anotherhumanbeing with~esameneeds, goals and drives as other human beings - : except is a single respect that poses no : threat to anyone else." He also believes ¯ that ’-’we should lobby for the right to : marry. Domestic-partnershipslegislation ¯ makes us an officially sanctioned class of ¯ oddities and freaks." : Thethreatof_be,,,ing seen simply as "oddi- ¯ des and freaks is the thought behind : Bawer’ s rifle. Insteadofbeing"acclaimed ¯ by a minority of gay ,,p~.~ple as ,a,,suppos,~ edlyaffirmativelabel, theworo queer, ". to Bawer, is "not so much to be homo- : sexual as it is to be a socially marginal ¯ rebel, defined primarily by his or her : sexuality, who is perpetually andintdnsi- : cally at odds with the political and cul- : rural establishment." ¯ Can these ideas bring the gay right hnd : left together toward acommon goal? Can : Bawer’s "we’re just like you" approach ¯ alone actually win the hearts of straight : Americans? What about the wide variety : ofpeoplein the gay/lesbian/transgendered : community whomaynotmeetthe squeaky ¯ clean image Bawer promotes, but who : still s_eek equality under the law? COuld : the answer, perhaps, lie somewhere be- : tween Bruce Bawer and Queer Nation? ¯ Check with your local branch library : for "Beyond Queer," or call the Readers :- Services, Central Library at 596-7966. The small conference room was named the Stariott Conference Roomin honor of Midge Elliott and Deb Statues. The me- : dium size room was named the Renfro ¯ Room in honor of the late RF Renfro, a : leader of FUSO, the Friends in Unity : Social Organizationand anHIV educator ¯ who worked with TOHR/HOPE. : The largest room was to be named in ¯ honor of two individuals who provided :- signifi.cant "sweat equity’, in tearing out : tffo plaster&lath walls .to make the room ¯ and in honor of one of those two who’s ¯ donatedmuch of the furniture that s in the : Center. Thelatter manpreferred not to be ¯¯ recognized but asked that the room be named in honor of Pat Padgett, a PFLAG ¯ activist. Therefore, that room is now the ¯ Neal-Padgett Hall in recognition of gifts ¯ that made the Pride Center possible. ¯ or let someone else run the show...You : can care with out being cold, get things : done right and.get on with it please!!! ¯ It seems to us that everyone is just out : for themselves, but after seeing and hear- " ing firsthandweknow why...It is the only ," way we have of getting your attention... ¯ Thank you for Your Time - PWA Tulsa/N. E. Oklahoma Jeffrey A. Beal, MD Ted Campbell, LCSW Specialized in HIV Care Providing Comprehensive Primary Care Medicine and Psychotherapeutic Services We have many insurance provider affiliations - ifyou belong to an insurance program that does not list us as providers, call us and we will apply. 2325 South Harvard, Suite 600, Tulsa 74114 Monday - Friday, 9:30-4:30 pm, 743-1000 Are-You Bored? Are You Gay or Bisexual? Are You Native American? ] TNAAPP is Here to Help! f Evening Meetings. Are Held Every Wednesday in Tulsa Call 582-7225 Ext. 208 For information on meeting time & place Meet others and be part of a supportive social group! * Bakery Treats * Bed & Breakfast (boarding) * Salon * Pet Supplies: Science Diet, IAMS, Nutro Dog Food THE DOG HOUSE BROOKSIDE 3311 S. Peoria, 744-5556 Saint Aidan’s 4045 No. Cincinnati. 425-7882 The Episcopal Church Welcomes You Winter Gayla ’97 Ft. Lauderdale, Florida February 14 ~- 17 Beach Party with DJ Winter Pride Parade Festival Boat Party on the Jungle Queen and SWAirlines nowflies there! Aspen Gay Ski Week Fine Skiing & Festive Parties January 25 - February ! IGTA member Call 341. 6866 International Tours:ormoreinformation. by Jean-Pierre, TFNFo~d Critic : will order a full combo for each two We all have that "special" friend visit- ¯ people at our table, and then an extra ing from out-of-town -- you know, the : pound of shrimp. The combo itself can prissy queen who is the finicky Miss ¯ also be ordered in any ratio of crab to Manners sort-whoneeds anintroduction ¯ shrimp to crawfish. Sometimes wewill to thereal lifein Tulsa. And, we’vefound " also order sides of coleslaw or cornbread just the perfect place, to’ Boilln~ .P.o~ sticks. A word of warntake that friend. Caju~ ing. The combo is avail= Ther6 is a special res- 19-01 So. Me~orlal able either mild or hot. tanrantinTulsawhereone Hour.: The mild is quite warm. can suck head and pinch The hot is fiery. And the tail with abandon, where 11 - 10 Sun. -Thurs. crab boil permeates evone can eat with one’s tll 11, Frl. and Sat. erything, even the potafingers, and where one Cuisine: ’toes and comon the cob. can bejust as downhome So, keepplenty of iced and comfortableas pos= Cajun se~ood tea on hand, or maybea sible(~l wh~l,e f~iing .... .Dress:,"Very casual : - pitche~:ofbeer($4.75)~to isasmaliplacefitihecor- _ . l-’aym~e..nt: ;. This is not an elegant her ofi2th and Memorial. Major credit cards, white table cloth restauin a rather run-down and no e]aeel~s rant, and the staff makes ~derilict Strip mall. This is ~,SmoklI no pretense in that dire,ca very laid back, genuine ~.: tion. Sometimes one has white trash-cookin’ kind x’~on-smokin~ of place; full of atmo- seetlon, l~ut smoky a warm and friendly waiter or waitress, and sphere mid bayou boys Alcohol: II.9-Z i~eer Sometimes one has the and giftsfrom all walks of feeling that itis that waitlife. Decoratedwithtaste- & wine cooler" only tess’ time of the month: ful tape-patched, red vi: Ratln~: A llst But, the staff is usually nyl seating in each of the quite congenial and enformica: topped booths, and with black " tertaining. vei~et art alid posters adorning the classic ¯ The one main area needing improve- 1960’s panelling on the walls, the noise " ment here is the housekeeping. While the and aroma of the kitchen greet patrons as ¯ grungey feel ofthe diningroommaybe an they enter, and there is no doial~t in’one’s ¯ attempt to recreate the authentic dirt of a minduponenteringtheestablishmentthat " backwater Cajun swamp dive, theycould this is a seafood restaurant. ~ at least clean the restrooms and make sure Menus are presented printed on paper ¯ that supplies are stocked and fixtures placemats. Lots of fun things appear on . working. On ourlast visit, themechanical the menu, like ’q’asty Fried Shark Bites" " towel was broken and filthy, and the toilet for$1.50,CajunDogfor$3.95,jambalaya : was running constantly. The finger bowls " for.S2.75, red beans and rice for $2.75, ¯ aren’tquiteenoughforthefastidiousdiner blaCken~dchi~k’strlp,’a for $6.50, ablack- " to cle~tip~ so the trip tothe tinyrestrooms ened fib-ey~ :s~ak ~0r $9.95, arid even " alligator for $8.95 But, nobody ever gets ¯ For those so inclined, the Boiling Pot those things. : features their house band on Saturday People come to the Boiling Pot for the " nights, whichplays aloudmix of country, Combo. The combo ($1~95) is a big pot ¯ bluegrass, andcountry rock, and packsin of shrimp, crawfish, crab, sausage, new ¯ the crowds. potatoes, quartered onions, and half ears : ~ The Cajun Boiling Potis where a group of corn on the cob which is boiled in a " of:frie~ids caugo for a casual good time. spicy crab boil and served~ Well, sort of served. It’ sdumped onthe table.CMtop of ing roffd~. No, this isn t aft elegant place~’ a big sheet of butcher paper. As soon as: btit it’s n~t supposed to be. And, while it’ the ~ood co0!s~enough :to handle, one " doesn’tappearas cleanas we’dprefer, in di~es in to shell the shl~mp, pinch the tails ¯ the dozens Of times we’ve eaten there,. offthecrawfish, su~kthejuices Out of the : we’ve never gotten food poisoning cerheads, d_nd squirt i~etchffp containers of " tain~noted Tulsa four diamond hotel rescocktail sauce all 0~er ~e place: When " taurants): The important thing is that if one’s hands get suffibienfly messy; a!arge one likes boiled shrimp, the foodis great. ’r611 of ii~pdr.’~tbw~l~:.6~ th~ thblesefV~ ~S : And; Wli~it’ ~ore can on~ ask from a nhp.ki~ ~O;~ffe ~n&ifibn .thai ~e’y: don’i: dt~vilh:bm~~urant than t6 liitve great use silverware. Until one has had the : food atinexpe~nsive i~rices?. Boiling Pot experience, it is difficult to ¯ Go suck somehead and pinch some tail. imagine how fun and how good the peel ." and eat can be. Theproprietors bringregular shipments of seafoodup from the GulfofMexico, so i the shrimp and crawfish are fresh and ." firm. The crab, though, seems to have " McDonald get by with falsifying her rebeen shipped on ice or frozen, since the ." sume when she worked for the Tulsa shells lack the crispness of never-frozen ¯ Public Schools because she did so many crab. The crawfish, of. course, is 0nly ; nice things and worked so hard. I guess it available in season, which is December _" meansitisallri.’ghttobedishonestaslong through June, but those little underwater as your cause is good. Is it really? carrioneatershaveneverbeenhighonour ." People get hurt when they get in her list of gourmet delicacies. We prefer the : way. That seems very unfair. Can the shrimp, which is some of the best and : media [mainstream media] help you with most economical shrimpin Tulsa, at only., these efforts? Thank you for being there $8.95 a pound. ¯ for these clients! 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I~1 Yes! ! am interested in coming to the TIVAAPP retreat Address: City: State: Zip: Telephone: Cut on Dotted Line #z Hail to: TI~P, 915 South Cincinnati, Tulsa, OK 74119.2000 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, November 15-December 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 12 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. 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The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource October 15-September 14, 1996 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Mac Guru James Christjohn Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Steven Scott Gerald Miller Lance Brittain Kerry Lewis Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Tom Neal/Tulsa Family News Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Image PDF Online text Language A language of the resource English Type The nature or genre of the resource newspaper periodical Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Tulsa(Oklahoma)---newspaper Tulsa---Oklahoma Oklahoma---Tulsa United States Oklahoma Tulsa United States of America (50 states) Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context https://history.okeq.org/items/show/528 Relation A related resource Tulsa Family News, September 15-October, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 10 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 1996 AIDS Quilt arts and entertainment attorneys Barry Hensley Bars bigotry Bill Clinton businesses churches Dave Fleischer David Mixner Defense of Marriage Act Don't Ask Don't Tell Entertainment Notes estate planning Eureka Happenings gay parents gay politicians HIV Resource Consortium (HIVRC) HIV/AIDS and the Law homophobia HOPE Testing insurance James Christjohn Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Kerry Lewis lance brittain Leather Meant to be Fit Mind Space NAMES Project Nancy McDonald Partner Benefits People Living With AIDS performing arts PFLAG Phyl Boler-Schmidt Pride Center RAIN Read All About It representation restaurants S&M schools sexual assault Stephen W. 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Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Sept, 15 - Oct. 14, 1996, vol. 3, no. 10 Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities ENDA DOMA WASHINGTON- The U.S. Senate voted on the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA), two key pieces of legislation affecting gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Americans. The Senate passed the anit- Gay DOMA bill, 85-14, as was expected. The Senate then voted 49 to 50 to defeat ENDA. Oklahoma’s senators, Don Nickles and Jim Inhofe, both noted for their hostility to their Lesbian & Gay constituents, voted against ENDA and for DOMA. Nickles was the Senate sponsor of DOMA and Inhofe an original co-sponsor. TulsaOklahomans for H~_~man Rights (TOHR) issued a statement strongly condemning their votes, particularly criticizing Inhofe for his refusal to meet with Lesbian and Gay constituents, community leaders or Gay press. Sen. Nieldes sent a letter to colleagues calling for a vote against ENDA because it would "promote sexual promiscuity". He also equated homosexuality and bisexuality with bestiality, pedophiliaand adultery, and suggested that local school boards should be able to fire or not hire staff who express opinions advocating homosexual or bisexual relationships. The measures had became hopelessly entangled in a series of political moves, counter-moves, and countercounter- moves. DOMA, which has already cleared a House vote, would define marriage as a legal commitment between one man and one woman. The effect would be to deny any federal benefits to married samesex couples. No state currently recognizes such marriages, but a lion of the work of several TOHR boards and longtime community supporters. Tim Gillean, former president of the organization, was recognizedinparticularforhis leadership. ’‘This project has been the dream of many but without Tim Gillean, we would not be where we are today," noted pres. Debbie Starnes. The Pride Center will be open to all community organi zations andindividtmls who share its goals which include ending discrimination and oppression based on sexual orimany but without oR.]DE CENTER N ON BROOKSIDE OCT. 4TH ¯ Officer ’ - ..... _" Many community organizations have enabout to i dorsed this project. Prime Timers has donated Bisexual i $1,000 for The Pride Center and Rainbow Brookside Business Guild, The Black &White Charities, Rights (TOHR) and Inc., PFLAGleaders, Bill &Kathy Hinkle and foot center open in October. pastors of the churches that reach out to the A spokesperson for the or- community support The Pride Center. ganization noted that The " Part of the 3,500 s. f. of The Pride Center Pride Centeris theculmina- been the dream o~" " will provide offices for HOPE, HIV Outreach, ¯ Prevention, Education which are the preven- ¯ tion programs of TOHR. HOPE’s director, T;m G;llean, [former pres.], we would not be where we are today," - Deb Starnes Pride Ctr. Pres. entation. Officials stated that The Pride Center opens with a modest budget and will be supported by individual and organizational mem- .berships, as well as byindividual pledges. Membership is $20/yearfor individuals and $35/year for couples. Pledges range from $3-5/month up to $100/month with most at about $15 to $25 Statues added, ’"dais is a way for each and every member of the community to make a difference. We appreciate those individuals who can pledge hundreds but the support of those who can just help with a few dollars a month are equally important. This is a center for all." Fellowship Congregational i Welcomes Lesbians & Gays ¯ Another Tulsa "mainline" Protestant church has become an offi- ¯ cially welcoming congregation to Lesbians and Gay men. Fellowship ¯ Congregational Church joins a number of "open and affirming" ¯ churches that are part of the United Church of Christ (UCC) denomi- ¯ nation. ¯ The leaders of this church of about 200 near 31st and Harvard ¯ characterized the year and 1/2 process of becoming a welcoming ¯ congregation as both stressful and as exciting. The issue first seemed ¯ to rise about 3 or 4 years ago. The church which as a tradition ofbeing ¯ involvedin socialjusticeissues realized that they had a certainamount ¯ of ignorance about homosexuality. Over the year and 1/2, at a series ¯ of events, the congregation had the opporttmity to personalize the : issues. A divinity student who had ties to the congregation came back ¯ to preac.h and also came out as Gay. see Fellowship, page 3 ¯ Claudette Peterson, was estatic at finally hay- ¯ ing adequate space for her staff. The highly " successful programs now have seven staff ¯ members and additional volunteers who can : not fit.into the current spaces near the HIV ¯ Resource Consortium (HIVRC). Peterson ¯ notes, however, that HOPE will continue its : HIV antibody testing program at ’the HIVRC ¯ with which it works closely. ¯ A workroom and a conference room of The ". Pride Center will be available for community ¯ organizations that do not have their own of- . rices. The site has adequate parking at the ¯ building which is unusual for Brookside with : even more overflow parking nearby. The Cen- ¯ ter will be accessible to those with mobility ¯ disabilities. ¯ Additionally, ThePride Center will behome ¯ to The Pride Store. The Pride Store will serve ¯ community needs rangingfromgreeting cards, ¯ rainbow stickers, flags and other Pride items, ¯ news magazines, t-shirts, etc. Gay business : owner Tom Neal is volunteering as a consult- : ant and is donating merchandise from his store ¯ tomfoolery] see Pride Center, page 3 ¯ Community Leader Lost : see Community Notes, page 9 National Coming Out Day Workshop, Leatherstuff, Bible + Homosexu,a,lity Study Group, Two Splrlted Mens’ Group + TU/BLGTA Safe Haven, RBG Dinner Gay Comedy Jam, IAM Street Carnival, Lesbian Comedian, AIDS Mastery ComingSoon : OKLAHOMA CITY- Oklahoma’s Gay community is in shock from ¯ repo~tsofabrutalkillingofagaymaninthesmalltownofWoodward, ¯ near the Oklahoma Panl~mdle, by two men whom witnesses say later : bragged they had ’~ust killed that queer." It is the second vicious anti- : gay murder in the state this year. Police say Albert J. Bixler was ¯ apparently beaten to death with a car fire jack and his body dumped ." inatrashbinby Shannon LeeJones, 23, and MarkJones,30. Bothmen ¯ live in Woodward but are not related to each other. One witness at an i apartment building where the two suspects were staying told police ¯ she overheard Shannon Lee Jones say, "The queer son of a bitch got ¯ what he deserved." Shannon Jones is being sought by police on murder charges. Mark Jones, 30, is being held on murdei charges. ¯ Authorities have also issued amaterial witness warrant for a thirdman whom they identified as Clifford Green, who sometimes goes by the name of Clifford Beard. Only a week earlier, two Guthrie, Okla., teenagers, identified by police as skinheads, appeared in court in Oklahoma City to face ¯ charges of murdering Charles Meers earlier this year. Alexis N. Perryman, 18, and Nicholas J. Karlin, 15, have been charged with ¯ brutally beating Meers, stabbing him, shooting him, and then dousing his body and home with gasoline and setting them on fire in an effort : to cover up the killing. case pending in Hawaii see ENDA/DOMA, p. 3 " Oklahoma’s ’96 Anti-Gay Murders INSIDE EDITORIAIJLETrERS/DIRECTORY P. 2 NEWS BRIEFS P. 4 HEALTH BRIEFS P, 6 CALENDAR P. 9 EUREKA HAPPENINGS P. 11 BOOK REVIEW/ENTERTAINMENT P. 12 RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 13 CLASSIFIEDS P. 15 ¯ " Robert Fitzgerald Renfro, known as RF or ¯ just as Renfro, one of Tnlsa’s most respected ¯ community leaders and HIV/AIDS educators ¯ died at St. Francis Hospital on August 23 after ¯ a brief, though severe, illness. ¯ A Celebration of Eternal Life was held at Shiloh Baptist Church with the Rev. Eddie ¯ Cook preaching and the Rev. Melvin Bailey, : host pastor, see Renfro, page 3 918.583.1248 fax: 583.4615 POB 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-0140 TuisaNews@aol.com Publisher + Editor, Tom Neal Asst. Editor + Mac Guru, James Christjohn, Writers + contributors: Phyl Boler-Schmidt, Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Leanne Gross Steven Scott Gerald Miller, Lance Brittain Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the punisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence should be sent to the address above. Each reader is entitled to one free copy of each edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. by Phyl Boler-Schmidt A number of months ago, I reported on a rather suspicious death that occurred here in Eureka Springs. It was a death that struck terror in the hearts and minds of many lesbigay cidzens because the victim was known to be aGay man, andhe was killed by a teenager who suggested tO police that he did the deed in selfdefense againstacts the description of whichI Would probably incite major homophobic responses from the police. It.appeared at that time that investigation of the.death was being permanently swept under the rug. However, Iamhappy to reportthat the death ofChris Klein will not go unpunished, or at least untried. Anthony Fleetwood was arrested in August .and charged with 2rid degree homicide, some seven months after the slaying. Bond was set at $30,000, and if the bond is raised, Fleetwood risks losing the services of the Public Defender appointed by the court. DNA and serum test results were finally completed and failed to back up Fleetwood’ s story, a story that said, in part, that after polishing off a 12 pack see Justice, page .3 by G. Miller, M,A. Last month I gave some simple advice on dealing with the outside forces in your life. The aim of that little treatise was to get you thinking positively about ways to improve you daily existence byhandling the external forces you confront This month I want to spend a little time on how to get your personal force into the positive mode. This will sound way too simple but the truth usually is simple¯ Youcan either choose to see your life as positive or negative. You . make that choice every morning of every day, When you head to work, understand what it is you are doing. If you’ re lucky you go to ajob that challenges and fulfills you, or you are going to ajob which permits you to earn a living. The income from that job provides the where with all.which allows you to do the things you want to get enjoyment out of life. So while thejob itselfmay not be the most enjoyable thing in the world, it is the springboard to enjoying the other areas of your life. 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Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222 ¯ *Tulsa City Hall, Cafeteria Vestibule, Ground Floor ¯ *Tulsa Community College, Metro & NE Campuses : *University Center at Tulsa : EUREKA SPRINGS ¯ Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy 23 South 501-253-7734 ¯ Beaver Dam Store, 1/2 mi.N, of Dam Hwy. 187 501-253-6154 : *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457 ¯ DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807 ¯ *Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445 ¯ Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 501-253-2776 : King’sHi-Way,96KingsHighway,Hwy.62W 800-231-1442 ¯ MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337 ¯ McClung Realtors 501-253-9682 ¯ Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-253-2401 ¯ Rock Cottage Gardens 501-253-8659 800-624-6646 ¯ Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001 The Woods, 50 Wall St. 501-253-8281 Opposes School Tax Increase Tulsans who pay property taxes just felt a significant bump this spring, and if the October 8 bond issue passes, we’ 11 get ajolt. Renters, you won’ t escape either- .your landlord will have to pass on the cost increase to tenants. But isn’t the bond issue for a worthy cause - Tulsa schools? The school district’ s demanding $94.5 million for a district with about half as -" many students as ithad 20 years ago. Last ¯ year they said they needed $89 million : from us, but they have "upped the ante" ¯ because they claim buildings have dete- -" riorated that much since last year. Yet ¯ they have sold two of their 18 unused ¯ properties in the meantime- where are ¯ the millions from those? They also claim ¯ that they need chairs and textbooks, but ." many parents tell me the P.T.A.’s have ¯ provided those since last year in various .. school~. They made dire predictions, that our property taxes would fall if we didn’ t "support our schools"- but values are up. And does each classroom really need tele- ¯ communications and a telephone as re- , quested? I’ think not, We all want our ¯ schools to be fine ones. But each person has to ask, "What benefit will I see from ," yet another tax hike?" Vote NO Oct. 8. - Leah Farish Editor’s note: TFN neither endorses nor ¯ Opposes this vote. We encourage readers tb consider carefully and to vote. ¯ We applaud those represented by the ¯ letter above [or reaching out to Lesbian ¯ and Gay voters. This community is usu- ¯ ally simply ignored though we are af- ¯ fected- as parents, as teachers, as ¯ homeowners and tenants. In a tight race, ¯ minority communities can make a differ- "~ ence. The writersees that. Thesupporters :. of the bond vote have made no effort to ¯ reach out to this community. ¯ Carbon Copy - Full Text ¯ Editors, The Tulsa World ~ Why are we afraid of same-sex mar- " riage? Is it change? Without change, we ¯ can not grow. Why are we afraid of any¯ one or anything that is different fromus or our views? What would the world be like ¯ if we were all the same? ~ Marriageis acommitmentbetweentwo ¯ people who love one another. Single-par- " ent homes, illegitimate children, abusive : spouses, alcoholism, joblessness and : multiple marriages are aspects that are ¯ tearing the family and marriage apart. Please tell me where same-sex marriage ." will destroy the institutions of marriage _. and family. And is it wrong for a married ¯ couple not to have children and go against the marriage is for.pro-creation theory? : Heterosexual couples enjoy the right to ¯ tax breaks, spousal benefits, and hospital ¯ visitations. Same-sexcouples donot. Isn’ t ." this discrimination? Have we forgotten ~ about the Constitution? Doesn’t it give ¯ every American the same basic rights? ." When will the politicians realize they ." arenotsupporting every American?When ¯ will they realize they are teaching hate ~ and discrimination? Where is the love ¯ they supposedlyhavefor Americaandit’ s ¯ people?Whyhas the government decided ¯ it should dictate what our morals will be ¯ and how we will define marriage and ¯ family? ." We are all human beings. The hatred ¯ and discriminationhas to stop. I urge each ¯ of you to please look deep into your soles ¯ and bring out the love God intended us to ¯ share with one another and bury the hate. ¯ America will be a much better place. " - Lance Brittain. Collinsville something in terms of what else it is you want to ¯ accomplish. " The same thing is true of your personal rdationship. If you spend all your time finding fault with ", your companion, then each day will be a trial. If on ¯ the other hand you recognize what good things come from the relationship, and understand how " important that contributionis,thenyour daily inter- " action will become more positive and enjoyable. Don’t forget the reverse of that statement is also ¯ true. If you are doing some trivial thing which ¯ obviously makes your co.mpanion nuts, quit doing it! Making a concession m a triviality is nothing ¯ compared.to slowly poisoning a rdationship over ¯ sbmething which is probably of little meaning to " you anyway. Sit down in a quiet moment and start looking at your reactions to the things you experience each day. If you are spending most of your time being angry or upset or unhappy, figure out why. Is it that someone is purposefully trying to make your life miserable, or are you doing it to yourself? There was a time when the slightest suggestion that I was not competent enough, or smarL or clever or handsome or whateverwould sendmeinto ablack funk. Finally I ~at down and took stock ofwhat was rea~_ly going on. No I am not the smartest person in the world, but I’m smart enough: Yes there are some things at which I am totally incompetent. No, I am not the most handsome person, but then neither am I Frankenstein. What I lack in smarts, I make up for in common sense. What I am incompetent at, I make up for by being very competent in other areas. While I may not be Porno Star material, I have an excellent dry wit! Make your own inveiitory of all the positive things about yourself and recognize that everyone is deficient in some area. You don’t have to become a Saint, but if you will start to be reasonable about who and what you really are and quit trying to be something else, then life gets much less complicated and much more fun. Better than that, you will begin to feel better about yourself and life in general. Then you can start doing the things in your everyday world which actually make things better for yourself and others around you. Now here is the biggest secret abouthow to make your life more fulfilling and enjoyable. Learn to say, ’I was wrong!, sorry. My mistake, sorry!" Whenyou screw up,just admityou screwedUP and get down to work correcting the screw up. Fixin.g a mistake is much less time and energy consmmng than trying to cover up that you made a mistake. Admit that everyone screws up from time to time. Quit trying to cover up your mistake, or bludgeon someone rise for their mistake. If you fall into the trap of the one-upmanship game, you will regret it in the end. There is nothing hard about finding the enjoymeat in Life. It is only when.we set unreasonable expectations of ourselves and others that we make life hard. I had some very wise people try to get this across to me years ago, but I couldn’t grasp the concept then~ Perhaps it is only with lime that we come to these realizations. Or maybe it’s because we are so ego-centered that we can’t see the simple truths in front of us. I don’t know, maybe I’m not smart enough to figure that one out. But I have figured out how to be more positive about myself, about my place in the word and about how to get the most out of enjoying the word as it exists around me. I remember a short quote from a 19th Century Americanpoet, possibly Stephen Crane or Stephen Foster, I could be wrong about the name. I may have the exact quote a little wrong, but don’t miss the point. A man said to the Universe, "Sir I exist." and the Universe replied, "Sir, that fact does not createmmea sense of Obllgatton . Your exlsten is up to you to make ofit something. Youcanmake it negative, combative and endlessly hard, or you can make it something else. What you make it is up to you. Copyright © 1996 Gerald Miller Organizers and featured speaker at the recent fundraisin~g dinner are: Martin Newman, MarkGoldman, and[3ill Stoskopf of Black & White Charities, Nancy McDonald, of PFLAG, speaker Elizabeth Birch, executive director of the Human Rights Campaign, Kristie Suttee, Steve Wright, and Mark Wright, also ofBlack & White Charities. This yearPFLAGbeganitsSWANawards to recognize those in Tulsa who have stood up for fairness and for justice. The recipients are the Rev. Russell Bennett, pastor of Fellowship Congregational Church. His congregation has recently become an officially wdcoming one for Lesbians and Gay men. Eddie Faye Gates, a wall respected educator &writer is honored for herleadership ontheHumanRights Commission. Dennis Neill, an attorney, also served on the Human Rights Commission and with the ACLU and was founding president of TOHR. Lisa Pottorf of Youth Services was recognized for her heroic work with and for Lesbian and Gay young adults. Sharon Thoele, director of the HIV Resource Consortium, is known for her commitment to HIV/AIDS issues &THE NAMES PROJECT. That business successfully served the community for two years from a space leased from The Silver Star. The Pride Store will-benefit The Pride Center and HOPE prevention programs~ Director Peterson anticipates that the Store will be staffed by volunteers but that The Pride Store possibly also may be able to provide appropriate work opportunties for persons living with HIV/AIDS. Other office space will be available for seminars, video showings and exhibits. While not all details have been : resolved, it’s hoped that part of the space can be used for "_ Lesbian and Gay young adults who have few other safe : places to go. Pride Center organizers note that volunteers are needed for clean-up, painting, minor repairs to get the Center ready to open. Later, those with strong backs and a few vans and pick-up trucks will be asked to help move the prevention program offices. To volunteer or for more infolmation, call 743-GAYS (743-4297). is expected to lead to the legalization of gay marriages in that state in the next year or two. Civil libertarians have argued that " DOMA is highly questionable because marriage has always : been a state issue that Congress has never before touched. The ¯ Constitution’s "full faith and credit" clause makes it question- ¯ able whether federal legislation can impose such restrictions. ¯ Activists and several members of Congress were quick to ¯ criticize DOMA as election-year political maneuveringaimed ¯ at embarrassing President Clinton, noting that one of the origi- ¯ hal Senate co-sponsors of the measure was Bob Dole, the : Republican presidential candidate. Clinton drew fire from : rights activists when he quickly said he would sign DOMA - at ¯ leastas itwas introducedin theHouseearlier this year. But since : then, the measure has gone through several changes in the form : of a bewildering set of amendments. The capper in all this, of ¯ course, was ENDA, the anti-discrimination amendment that ¯ was supposed to be tacked on to DOMA by Seas. Edward M. : Kennedy (D-Mass.), James Jeffords (R-Vt.), and Joseph : Lieberman (D-Conn.). ¯ Inan 1 lth-hourmmof events, Senate Majority Leader Trent ¯ Lott of Mississippi announced that ENDA would be voted on : separately from DOMA. The eomplex political mish-mash the : Republicans and Democrats had made of DOMA and ENDA ¯ had created so many objections from both sides of the aisle that : Lott moved to extricate the two measures from each other. ¯ Richard Tafel, executive director of Log Cabin Republicans ¯ noted of the close vote onENDA, "I’his sends the message that : the 105th Congress will be ready to pass some form of non- : discriminationlaw to protectgays andlesbians." said. ’q’he real ¯ surprise is we now have 8 Republicans who support ending : discnnnnalaonagamstgays mthe workplace. We rebegium g ¯ to see what happens when the gay community works with both : parties. I’m sure we can bring on more Republicans in the next ¯ Congress, we had a couple on the fence on this vote. This vote ¯ proves working with Republicans instead of writing them off ¯ benefits the entire gay and lesbian community." ¯ MelindaParas, executive director, National Gay and Lesbian ¯ Task Force commented, ’~foday is a historic moment for ¯ lesbian and gay people, despite the outcome of the Senate votes. : In spite of the intolerance of many Republican and Democrat _" lawmakers, weknow wehavefinally broken the legislative log- ; jam that has blocked Congress from even discussing our civil ¯ rights in aserious manner. Weknow we will have tolose a few i votes.before we win the battle. We lost ENDA by only two votes. We know that gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender ¯ equal rights have taken center stage in American politics, and ¯ we can never go back to the days of silence." Renfro was a founder and leader of FUSO, Friends in Unity Social Organization, Inc. a non-profit that seeks to educate African-American men of diverse sexual orientation aboutHIV/AIDS. Healso served withmany groups, including TulsaAIDS Walk, AIDS Coalition,TOHR, the Community Planning Group, Tulsa Pride Picnic and more. He was an ordained minister, active in his congregation, Bless the Lord at All Times Christian Center. Friends and family expressed shock and sorrow at his sudden death. Most did not know RFhad been living with HIV/AIDS for 10 years. Donations inhonor ofhis memory may be made to FUSO, c/o TOHR, POB 2687, 74101. At other events, they had the chance to meet parents of Lesbians and Gays. The task force for this issue lauded the leadership of their pastor, Russell Bennett. They praised, in particular, his balancing the need to push the church forward but without getting too far ahead of it as wall. The group noted also that Pastor Bennett had performed, with their knowledge, a couple of holy unions, or blessings of same gender couples. The United Church of Christ is the only mainline Protestant denomination that ordains openly Lesbian and Gay persons as amatter ofpolicy, and therefore shouldbe expected to be friendly to Lesbians and Gay men. However, in the Congregationalist tradition, it is up to the individual congregations to implement these policies and to call individuals to ministry. Fellowship is the only UCC church in Tulsa though there are some others in the staie_. Some members of Fellowship Congregational asked why it was necessary to adopt an official policy of being open and affirming since they felt that that was what they’d practiced all along. Other noted that in these days when politics and religion are so mixed togeth,, r, that their congregation needed to stand up and be counted. That is since so many ugly thingswere being presented in the name of religion, they hope to counter that ugliness. They hope that their actions will inspire others to have the courage to do something similar. Services are at 10:30 am. Info: 747-7777 of beer with Klein and falling asleep on the couch, Fleetwood awoke to find Klein ejaculating on his face and tee shirt. This was his motivation, he said, for pointing a .410 shotgun at Klein’s face and pulling the trigger. Tests showed that sperm found on Fleetwood’s tee shirt, confiscated the night of Klein’s violent death, "...could not have been that of the victim but instead was consistent with the blood" of Fleetwood. Newly appointed Eureka Springs Police Chief Earl Hyattwas aninvestigator withthe Carroll County Sheriff’ s Office at the time of the slaying and worked with Eureka Springs Investigator Morris Pate at the crime scene. If convicted, Fleetwood faces a five- to 20-year prison term for the Class B felony. Lesbians’ Killer: It" Was ’Hate Crime’¯ MEDFORD, Ore, (Aug. 20)- Rol~rt J. Acrement, the California man who is charged with the December 1995 execu: tion-style killings of lesbian activists ¯ Roxanne Ellis and Michelle Ab’dill, told " the San Francisco Chronicle in a prison interview that he killed the two women because they were lesbians, not in a botched robbery attempt as he had first claimed. Acrement also sent aletter to the Stockton (Calif.) Record telling the paper in the city where he was arrested that he had earlier in the year killed Scott George because themanhadmadea sexual pass at him. In his letter, Aerement, 27, said he Lesbian Loses Child to Killer Dad TALLAHASSEE, Fla. (Aug. 30) - The Florida Court of Appeals has upheld a lower court ruling that ordered Cassey Ward, age 12, removed from the home of Mary Ward,~her lesbian morn, andhanded ¯¯ over to the custody of her father, John Ward. . The father called the court .ruling a "victory for my daughter and every other child in this nation ffho may be faced with ~ being raised in a household in whichho- ¯ mosexual role modeling distorts.and per- " verts, or is like to distort or pervert,.soci- ¯ etal norms thathave been established and ¯ recognized from the beginning of eivili- ¯ zation." had invented the robbery .motive in the ~ : Mr: Ward was convicted of killing his slayings Of Ellis arid Abdilli who were ¯ fir~twffein 1974;firing.12bullets,during ,f,_0und shot througla tile head, b~.cau~e he : aright over their daughter. He-pleaded ¯ was nervtus about inmate reacti0n~ to. : guiity to.sec0nd degree~urd~ran~] ~erved my reason fbrkilling~’ whiehhe said was - ¯ .eightlyears.in.prison. - ~ . .. ~ . a "hate crime." - i ~ , = ~ ~ " The~thr~e-judge appeals_ panel ins~stexl Acrem~nt wen’t ori in th~ letter to say, " that its =decigionwasn"t based on mother however, that now he doesn tcare wha .anyone thinks - :inclbdingthe’ji~ that Will decid,,e his-fate~ "They cankilt me forall !care,. the letter:s~y~i ":/i" :) Neo-Nazi" -Judged Guilty of Murder HOUSTON (Aug: 29) = After deliberating fortess than 3 hours; a jury has found Daniel C. Bean, 19, guilty.of the January 4 kilting of Frederick Mangi0n~ merry because he was gay.~Bean, who pblice said belongs to a neo-Nazi group known as the German Peace Corps in Washington state, was found guiltt of stabbing Mangione 35 times with a large knife outside a suburban bar where they met. Evidence given during the trial indicated that Bean and his stepbrother, Ronald H. Gauthier, 21, both bragged to patrons in the bar that they were going to assault someone who was gay. Police also told the court that the two menlater boasted of brutally stabbing Mangione. Beanfaces a maximum life sentence for the killing. Gauthier is still awaiting trail. ¯ Mary Ward’s- sexual, orientation, but on ¯ the"best interes~ts of thelchild ’: Activists : -were quick ’.to point ,out,-howe~er, that ] Judge Joseph Tarbuck, whosetowercourt ¯ ruli~gwas beittg revie~ved by the appeals :. cour~,.clearly istated in hivcustody decision. thathe wanted the gift takenfromher . " .morn and handed over to heri convicted- ¯ kiil~r dad to give bet a chance to live in."a ¯ non-lesbian world.’" John~ .Ward ctiallenged the mother’s ¯ custody after.she applied for anii~crease ¯ in child support. Attorneys representing MrS. Ward have Said slle Will pr~obably ¯ appeal the ruling to the state supreme ¯ court. ¯ D.P.’ Benefits Come ¯ From Court Ruling PORTLAND, Ore. (Aug. 9) - AnOregon ". statejudge has given the gay rights movement a surprising victory in partnership ¯ benefits. Thejudge has ruled that Oregon ¯ must offer insurance benefits to gay domestic partners of state employees. In ¯ issuing the ruling, the judge said it was ~ "beyond debate" that gays and lesbians hav~ been discriminated against. Law- ¯ yers for the state and attorneys for the " three lesbian couples who filed a lawsuit ] on the issue say they believe the ruling ~s ¯ the first of its kind in the nation. ¯ State Rep. George Eighmey, who is " ¯ gay, praised the decision, saying "it’s a ¯ big step in the fight direction." But Lon " ¯ Mabon, the leader of the anti-gay-fights " : group the Oregon Citizens Alliance ira- ¯ ¯ mediately said the judge is "flat Out prohomosexual" and was trying to destroy ¯ the notion of family. The statehas 30 days to decide whether to appeal. ¯ SchOol Censorship i=. EffortsContinue : : -WASHINGTON.(Sept. 4).-According to ¯ ¯ the 14tk annual report on school, censor- " ship; People for the American Way says ¯ there were a record 475 attempts last year ¯ ¯ to restrict books, classes or educational " proced_ures that opponents claimed were .. too sexually explicit, too violent,too raciM,. anti-religious,, an,ti-family, ¯¯ .unAmerican. ~ or all these things. . A~cording to.the report, the things~bjected, to last year ranged from accep.ted ¯ classics inliterature to Halloween partles. " _In-.41% .of the,cases, .th6 rep0rt~ .says, : -school officials bowed to Objections and ¯ rembved matelials or restricted activities. ¯ The" report, "Attacks on the Freedom to, ¯¯ _ Learn~" cites-conservative Christians mid especially members of the Christian Coa- ¯ lition as chief objectors in mostof the ¯ . cases it reported on. California, which has the largest num- " ber of public school students of any state ¯ in the country, also led in the number of ¯ ¯ attempts to restrict materials or classes, with 56 incidents reported by the group. ¯ Carole Shields, president of People for ¯ . theAmericanWay, noted thatmany ofthe ¯ school.materials objected to mirrored ha- ¯. tional debates on issues, such as racism poverty, homosexuality, crime, drug and alcohol abuse, and AIDS. : "We must analyze this report and de- " cide as a nation: Will we bequeath to our ¯ children the tools and information they ¯ need to address these complex issues as ¯ they growinto adulthood?" Shields asked. "Or will our gift to them be ever-narrowing horizons of thought and speech?" California to Ban Gay Adoptions? SANTA ANA,~ Calif. (Sept. 5) - At a public hearing, the state department of social services listened to testimony on Tire 22, aproposed regulationthat would recommend adoptions in California only for married coul~les. Despite the ob_vio.us ¯ restrictions ongay andlesbiancouples the ¯ proposed regulation would impose, state Officials denied it was anti-gay. "We’re not talking about sexual orientation," said Janice Ploeger of the state health and welfare departme.n,t. "This has to do with marriage andwhat s in the best interest of the child." Butrights advocates strongly disagreed. Tara Rose,31, testified at the hearings on the regulations that she was raised by two ¯ mothers’, but adoption was impossible while shewasgrowingupand she sees the regulation as abig step backward in Call- - fornia. "ff we’re talking about-marriages -. only.that’s one issue/’ said Rose. "But this is’ discriminating agaiast gay and les- ¯ bian parents." ¯ The new rule could go into effect next -- October around the time partners Lisa "" Pratt and Julie Thompson .will be adopt- " ing a second child, six-month-old Katy. ¯ They told the hearing that they’re con- - cerned the child won’t get the same ben- " efits as. their daughter Elizabeth. Even if ¯ the regulation goes into effect, the final ¯ decision will bemadeby thejudgein each ¯ adoption case, state officials say. There were some6,000 adoptions in the state in ¯ 1995 according to state officials,andabout a fourtli of them were by single parents, ¯ straight and gay. :City OK’s $1.2 m for Gay Center : SAN FRANCISCO (Aug. 12) - The San ¯ Francisco board of supervisors voted : unanimously to lay out $1.2 million in ~ city funds to buy property for a 5-story ¯ proposed Lesbian & Gay Center. The P AlrERSON REALTORS~ LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: 671-2010 2642 E. 21st Street ¯ Suite 170 . Tulsa. 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Earlier ¯ this year, the Southern Baptist Conven- ¯ tion called for a boycott of Disney be- ¯ cause the firm has recently extended do- Calif. County OKs ". mestiClesbian workers.Partnerbenefits to its gay and Intel Offers Benefits : SANTA CLARA, Calif. (Aug. 16)- Intel ¯ Corporation, the computer chipmanufac- : turer whose Pentium processors run rail- ¯¯ lions of computers throughout the world, has announced that starting in 1997 the : same-sex parmers of its workers in this : country will be eligibleforthesamemedi- ¯ cal, dental and other employees benefits : thatthe spouses ofits workers have access : to through the giant computer firm. ¯ The company said it had jbined with ¯ ¯ scores of other U.S. high-tech firms in extending thebenefits package to thepart- : hers ofits gay andlesbian workers to help ¯ "attract top talent and retainkey perform- " ers" in the very competitive industry. i HRC Fights Helms : DURHAM, N.C. (Aug. 24) - The Wash- " ington, D.C.-based lobbying group Hu- ¯ man Rights Campaign has launched a : campaign in North Carolina to persuade ¯ undecided voters in the state’ s U.S. Senate race this November to dump Jesse Helms. HRC says it will be operating phonebanks and direct mail campaigns to convince swing voters in the state to vote lently anti-gay memberofCongress. HRC xs expecting to spend some $220,000 on the anti-Helms campaign in North Carolina. Town Reconsiders Rights Measure SAUGATUCK,Mich. (Aug. 26)-Months after the city council tabled a proposed ordinance that would add sexual orienta- Dom. Partnerships SAN JOSE, Calif. (Aug. 14) - Following a tense, prolonged and sharply divided late-night debate, the Santa Clara County board of supervisors refused to bow to organized conservative religious opposi- ’tion andunanimously approved settingup a county-wide domestic partners registry. Religious opponents lined up to speak out against the proposed registry during the nearly 6 hours of public testimony, charging that it would undermine the traditional family, and said immediately after the board vote that they would launch a petition drive to put the issue before the voters this November. Nearly 2,000 people attended the packed board chambers, an adjoining auditorium, and spilled onto the sidewalks outside the county government building. SantaClara County, with some 1.4 million residents, is the home of many highteclmology firms that already extendbenefits to the same-sex partners of their employees. Approval of the measure makes Santa Clara County the largest government entity in the state to OK a ." parmership registry. "" : 2nd Church Calls ! for Disnev BOVe_ott though it’ s best known for its wholesome " family films likeAladdin, theWaltDisney ¯ Company is facing another threatened : boycott by a conservative religious orga- . nization. : The Assemblies ofGodis urgingits 2.5 : million members to stop going to Disney ¯ films, buying Disney products and going " to the company’s popular theme parks. ¯ ’tion to its anti-bias protections, the council has now voted by 6-1 to undertake the issue once again. The council voted to create a committee of 3 council members and 10 city residents to discuss including sexual orientation in its anti-bias protections and to report back to the council. Anti-Gay CO Org. Opposes Partners’ Health Benefits DENVER (Aug. 28) - Will Perkins, the used-car dealer and head of Colorado for Family Values which backed the state’s unconstitutional Amendment 2, told Denver’s city council that they shouldn’t extend health benefits to the partners of gay and lesbian city workers, calling the move an "economic jihad." Perkins broughtwithhim Paul Cameron, the discredited psychologist who was removed from the American Psychological Assn. forfudging statistical data. Even so, Cameron insisted studies he did using obituaries indicates gay~ and lesbians are high health and violence risks. A spokesperson for Equality Colorado, a gay rights organization, said Perkins’ group is a "fringe anti-gay organization" and said Cameron offers nothing but ’*oogus anti-gay statistics." The council will take up the question in a vote in September. Lawsuit. Follows " PBS/NPR Extend "Partner Benefits ¯ City Distributing Inc. : River City Distributing was targeted ¯ for the boycott, bar owners and activists ¯ said, because of Mrs. Shedd’s involve- " ment in Kentucky’s Eagle Forum, the ¯ anti-gay groupheadedby Phyllis Schlafly. : They also noted that Mrs. Shedd served ¯ on the state Republican Party’s executive ¯ committee the year before when it unanii mously passed a resolution in favor of reeriminalizinghomosexuality inthe state. In addition to the popular bars and res- ¯ taurants involved in the protest, the boy- : cott was also being supported by Kentucky’s Fairness Campaign, the Pro- . Choice Coalition, the Metropolitan Community Church and the Louisville Chapter : of Parents-Friends of Lesbians and Gays. ¯ Organizers said at the time that the , boycott could cost the distribution company as much as $15,000 per week in lost ¯ sales. Just months after the River City ¯ boycott was announced, Miller Brewing : severed its relationship with Shedd, who ¯ has also sued Miller. The boycott itself ¯ was ended earlier this year after the orga- : nizers declared it had been a success. : Now the Shedd family has filed a wide- ¯ ranging suit, charging the bars, restaurants, and organizations with conspiracy, interference with contractual relations, criminal harassment, defamation of character, and other aetious that the family is seeking unspecified damages for. ¯ Sucessful Boycott : WASHINGTON(Aug.20)-Without.any : ....... ¯ LOUISVILLE, Ky. ~Aug. ~u)-Aecord- ": f~a,nof~aar,e~,ath~e.,,C,¢li;ntototnoAthdemsianmisetr-asteixonoalarats : ing to a report in The Letter, a Kentucky ¯ ~_.~?,,~;.~’~ o,,.~,,,,,~ ...........~-,-~--~:----~..... : :y~,~_,,_.,,n~ v,~v~.,.m~- ,~yu,,~,,, : casting Svstem(PBS) and National Pub- " the state s most prominent conservauves . licRa~io~NPR),thefirstfedemllyfunded ¯ has filed a massive and complex lawsuit : againstnearly every gay andlesbianbusihess and organization in the Louisville ¯ areaover a 1995 boycott launched against ¯ a firm co-owned by the family with the Miller Brewing Company of Milwaukee. Nine local gay bars and restaurants launched the boycott in August 1995 because of what activists called the "right wing activities"of Donna Shedd, whose husband David was president of River ¯ agencies to offer such benefits. ¯ Donald Wildmon, president of the farright anti-gay American Family Assn., : immediately denounced the move by the : two public broadcasters as a "misuse of ¯ tax money". "Bill Clintonis willing to use ." tax dollars to support the radical homo- . sexual agenda and promote homosexual ¯ marriage," Wildmon said in a press state- . ment condemning the PBS-NPR move. St. Jerome An Affirming Liturgical Church meeting at 7fie Garden Chapel 384J S. Teoria if" "flu[so., Oklaf/unna ~fass Saturday eveni~s at 6pro 7he ~,v. :Talfier Rick Ho~ngsworth, Pastor Ehe :Xev. Deacon Debbie Starnes (918) 742-6227 ¯ OUICK SERVE ¯ PATIO BAR Traci.Huntsman Owner "QUALITY WORK UNBELIEVABLE PRICE" FOR APPOINTMENT 743-7141 3225 S. Yale Tulsa, OK 74135 Kelly Kirby, CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation 4021 South Harvard, Suite 210, Tulsa 74135 747-5466 Sun. 9:15 am Christian Education ¯ Sun. Service 11:00 am Wed. Service 6:30 pm ¯ Wed. 7:30 pm Choir Practice Thurs. 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group Rev. Nancy J. Horvath M. Div., Pastor To do justice, love mercy & to walk humbly zoith our God... Micah 6:8 5451-E South~74146 " (918) 622-144~ HIV May Be Eliminated CHICAGO (Aug. 10) - A report in the Journal of Infectious Diseases suggests that HIV could eventually be "flushed out" of its hiding places in the body’s lymph nodes] Researchers at the Chalucet Hospital in France reported that after intensive treatment with antiviral drugs, the amount of HIV identified in blood and lymph nodes of patients had decreased significantly. The French scientists said that ff HIV replication in the body can be halted entirely through medical therapies, they believe infected lymph .node and other body cells will eventually be replaced by new, uninfected cells. The finding, if substantiated by other research, could be important because one concern AIDS experts have expressed recently is that even with powerful new anti-HIV drugs that appear to dramatically reduce infection, continual drug treatment might be needed if the virus cannot be entirdy eliminated from the body.. HIV Infects More Blood Cells LONDON (Sept. 6) -According to a report in the medical journal Lancet, researchers at the University of Edinburgh in Scotland have confirmed that a second set of blood cells - CD8 cells - is also vulnerable to infection by HIV and may play a crucial role in how the virus develops. It has for some time been know that HIV progressivdy destroys CD4 T-lymphocytes, the cells that the body produces to fight off infections. But scientists had previously believed that CD8 cells were immune from HIV infection,,,possibly because of structural differences in the cell itself. The Scottish researchers re- ¯-,~r+ however, that 5 of 16 people with AIDS that they studied had CD8 cells infected with HIV at high levels. The researchers said the next step is to discover whether the virus destroys thebody’ s CD8 cells or simply invades them until they become active later. British Rights Group Wants Aversion Therapy Ended in UK LONDON (Aug. 9) -The British say rights organization OutRagehas formally asked the Royal College of Psychiatrists and theHome Ministry’s health secretary to issue guidelines barfing the use of aversion therapy, to set up a board of inquiry into how extensive the treatment has been and continues to be as an attempt to "cure" homosexuals, and to offer a public apologyandcompensationforindividuals who have been harmed by such treatment, either physically or psychologically. The continuing use ofaversion therapy, often involving electro-shock treatment and psychrtropic drugs, was the recent subjectofaBBC-TVprogram and shocked many in the country who were unaware that such attempts to "cure" homosexuals were still being used, at least occasionally. In a letter to the health secretary, OutRage called the government sanctioned use of aversion therapy "scandalous" and"barbaricpseudo-medicine" that had "caused untold suffering and harm to ual~own numbers of gay and bisexual people." Twins Studies Suggests Genetic Factors in Sexual Orientation TORONTO (Aug. 12) - Researchers reported at the annual convention of the AmericanPsychological Assn. thata new, large-scale study of twins in Australia adds further suggestive indications that sexual orientation among gay men is in fact a hereditary factor, although it failed to find a similar pattern among lesbians. The findings were based on a study of some 4,500 sets of twins, fraternal and identical, in Australia. Lead researcher Dr. J. Michael Bailey of Northwestern University reported that about 20% of the twins studied identified their sexual orientation as other than "strictly heterosexual." Of the 312 sets of men who were identical twins, who are formed from a single egg, nearly half had the same sextml orientations. Among fraternal twins, who are from 2 separate fertilized eggs, having the same sexual orientation was significantly less likely, Bailey reported, saying that the f’mdings were "consistent with the idea that there is a male gene for sexual orientation." Although the study was one of the few that have included women, the researchers reported that they could not find enough identical twin lesbian sisters to indicate a statistical relationship between possible genetic factors and lesbianism. Oral Sex Riskier Than Previously Believed PHILADELPHIA (Aug. 14) - According to a study published in the Annals of Internal Medicine, University of Washington researcher Timothy Schacker reports that even people who are engaging in lower-risk sexual behavior are continuing to become infected with HIV. The 3- year study of 46 people found that while nearly halfhad had sex withjust 1 partner during the month prior to infection, oral sex, which has been generally considered lower risk for transmission, was the most common form of sexual contact among the patients in the research. Schacker and his ~olleagues in fact were abi~ ~6 ;~3,~’~[~.- cally pinpoint 4 cases in which oral sex was the only possible route of transmission. The report is the 2nd recently to indicate that oral sex appears to be a higher-risk behavior than has been previous believed. NJ Offers 3 Protease Inhibitors Free TRENTON, N.J. (Sept. 4) - New Jersey state health officials have announced that the state will make3 importantnew AIDS drugs available withoutcharge to patients who earn lessthan $30,000 a year and are either tmiusured or do not have policies that will cover the costs of the new drugs. The drugs include 3 of the new protease inhibitors: saquinavir (Invirase by Hoffmann-LaRoche),indinavir (Crixivan by Merck & "Co.), and 3TC (Epivir by Glaxo Wellcome). The drugs have been shown to be able to reduce detectable levels ofHIV dramatically inmanypeople infected with the virus. State health officials warned, however, that ifdemand for the new drugs outstrips the state’s ability tounderwrite the giveawayprogram, some restrictions - such as co-payments or deductibles - may be added later. The free ~rug plan is being paid forfrom the state’ s 9 million AIDS Drug Distribution Program. About 1,700 state residents currently getAIDS drugs withoutcostthrough the program. More Women Being Tested ATLANTA (Aug. 3 i)-The federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that the number of women in the U.S. who are being tested for HIV has been rising dramatically for the past few years. Between 1991 and 1993, the CDC reports, the percentage ofwomen 18 to 44 Free & Anonymous Finger Stick Method By &for, but not exclusive to the Lesbian, Gay, & Bisexual Communities. Monday & Thursday evenings, 7-9 pm Daytime testing, Mon-Thurs by appointment. HOPE HIV Outreach, Prevention & Education formerly TOHR HIV Prevention Programs 742-2927 4158 South Harvard, Suite E-2 2 doors east of the HIV Resource Consortium Look for our banner on testing nights. SCOTT ROBISON’S PRESCRIPTIONS Serving Tulsan’s Since 1947 Major credit cards In-store charges or Direct .insurance billing for your convenience! 3 locations to serve you: Hillcrest Physician’s Building 1145 So. Utica 582-7144 Utica Sq uare Area 1560 East 21st, Ste. 104 743-2351 The Plaza 8146-D South Lewis 299-1790 Jeffrey A. Beal, MD Ted Campbell, LCSW Specialized in HIV Care Providing Comprehensive Primary Care Medicine and Psychotherapeutic Services We have many insurance provider affiliations - ifyou belong to an insurance program that does not list us as providers, call us and we will apply. 2325 South Harvard, Suite 600, TulsaF/4114 Monday - Friday, 9:30-4:30 pm, 743-1000 Art Show & Sale 10 am- 7 pm, Sept¯ 28 & 29 0UR HOUSE 1114 South Quaker Everyone is welcome to come and enjoy beautiful works donated by local and nationally recognized artists to help friends living with HIV/AIDS. All proceeds from the sale go to helping our friends living with HIV/AIDS. Forfurther information, call 665"-1339 / herry Street Psychotherapy Associates N 1515 S. Lewis (918)-743-4117 ~,ears of age who had been tested for the virus increased some 60% overall. The agency reported that a 1993 survey of more than 6,000 women indicated that 31.8% said they had been tested. A similar surveyin 1991 of 13,000womenfound .that just 18.8% said they had been tested at the time. HIV Programs Widespread in Schools, but Often Don’t Teach About Condoms ATLANTA (Sept. 5) - According to a survey by the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, some 85% of the nation’s public middle and high schools teach required HIV prevention classes in 39 states plus the District of Columbia. That’s the goodnews fromtheCDCstudy. The less-than-good news was that only about61%ofthe school districts provided in-service training for teachers; about54% said they taught students the "basic facts about HIV/AIDS"; only about a third of all the teachers involved in school AIDS education programs said they had any training about HIV prevention during the 2-year period before the survey; and only 37.1% of the instructors said they taught their students the "correct use of condoms." In issuing the report, the CDC said one obvious and important area that needs improving in the country’s HIV/AIDS school education programs is increasing the percentage of teachers who both teach preventioninhealth education classes and who regularly receive in-service training on the subject. Younger Inner-City Women at High Risk for HIV Infection CHICAGO (Aug. 15) - Two just-published studies in the American Journal of Public Health report that younger urban women are at very high risk ofHIV infection. A Medical College of Wisconsin study estimated that about a third of all younger inner-city womenare at high risk ofHIV infection, mainly because of risky behavior like IV drug use by their sexual partners. The researchers also reported that while most of the women had a fairly good knowledge of HIV transmission risks, they were poorly informed about the correct use of condoms and lubricants during sex. Another study of younger urban women in the same issue said that high rates of syphilis among thesewomen who are drug users is an indication of the high-risk sexual behavior they are also engaging in. Both groups of researchers said HIV prevention programs aimed at theseinner-city womenare needed tohelp reduce growing infection rates. : ’Playboy’ Surveys College ¯ Students Attitudes on AIDS ¯ CHICAGO (Aug. 25)-A Haybo.y maga- : zine survey reports that 9 out of 10 college ¯ students are sexually active, that sligh.tly : more than half say their sexual behavior : wouldn’t change if the AIDS epidemic : disappeared, and thatjust over a third say ¯ they’ve been tested for HIV. : The survey, published in the October : issue of the magazine, reports that 66% of ¯ women and 49% of men in the more than ¯. 1,000 students surveyed say they wouldn’t : change their sex lives much if the epi- : demic wasn’t a factor. The magazine also ¯ reports that 39% of the males and 35% of : the females in the survey said they had ¯ been tested for HIV, and that 27% of the : men and 19% of the women said they ¯ knew someone with the disease. Some : 63% of the males and 79% of the females : surveyed also said they believe their ¯ chances of contracting HIV/AIDS was ". either unlikely or barely likely. The sur- : vey also reported that 57% of men and ¯ 71% of women said they had only one ¯¯ sexual partner during the previous year. ¯ The magazine also found that condom use appears very highly corrdated with a ¯ steady relationship. While 41% of the ¯ males and 54% of the females reported : being in a steady, monogamous rdation- ¯ ship,40% of these students also said they : do not use condoms. Only 6% of the ¯ students surveyed who are not in a too- ¯ nogamous relationship said they don’t : use condoms. : Psychologists Delve Further ¯" into Sex & Biology TORONTO (Aug. 13)-Dr. James Dabbs, ¯ a psychology professor at Georgia State ¯ ~Uuiversity, reported at the annual Ameri- : can Psychological Assn. convention that ¯ in studying testosterone levels of 28. les- ; bian couples,it was the sdf-definedbutch ¯ partner in the relationship who consis- ¯ tently had the higher levels of testoster- ¯ one, the "male" hormone that all women ¯ also have in smaller amounts. Dabbs re- : ported, however, that despite the higher : levels when compared to their partners, : none of the women in the study had sig- ¯ uificandy higher testosterone levels than : women in general. ¯ In another study presented at the APA ; conventionby RayBlanchardofthe Clarke ¯ Institute ofPsychiatry inToronto, aniden- ~ tifiable group of men are predominately ¯ or exclusively attracted to genital males ¯ who dress and act like women- transves- : rites or pre-operative transsexuals. A1- ¯ though Blanchard said that these ¯ "gynadromorphile" men he studied were ." sexually attracted to cross-dressers, they ¯ were not attracted to post-operative trans- ¯ sexuals - men who have been surgically ] and hormonally changed into genital fe- ¯ males - and considered themselves "bet- : erosexuals of some stripe." Ex-Boxing Champ Says HIV Not ’That Big a Deal’ : KANSAS C1TY, Mo. (Aug. 26) - In an ¯ interview with the Kansas City Star, "¯ former heavyweight boxer Tommy ¯ Morrison said being infected with HIV "doesn’ t seem like that big a deal" and : that he is not taking drugs his doctor has ¯ prescribed to combat the virus. Morrison, ¯ who has also appeared in a few films ; including "Rocky V" where he played a ~ featured role as a boxer, announced that Serving a Diverse Community ; he is HIV-positive earlier this year. AIDS FederalHousing Grants. WASHINGTON (Aug. 24) - The U.S. Dept. of Housing & Urban Devdopment (HUD) has announced some $7.8 million inhousing grants to non-profitagencies in communities in9 states that offer housing assistance for low-income people with AIDS. Community-based non-profits in Baltimore, West Hollywood, Calif., San Francisco, Savannah, Ga~, SantaFe,N.M., Tucson, Ariz., New York, Philaddphia, Burlington, Vt., and Seattle are expected to receive HUD grants of various sizes The federal funding was established in 1992 as part ofHUD’ s Housing Opportunities for Persons with AIDS (HOPWA) program to help agencies that provide housing assistance and related support service to people with HIV/AIDS. The AIDS Legal Resource Project by Darlene Shadid Being HIV positive means facing new challenges and new issues. In addition to the personal, medical, and other quality of life issues, youmay face extraordinary (or evenmundane) legal demands for the first time. The AIDS Legal Resource Project may offer a solution. The AIDS Legal Resource Project was created more than three years ago to empower people with HIV/AIDS with the knowledgeand assistance needed to maintain control over their lives. The Project offers free and effective legal assistance to those who qualify by connecting them to one of the more than 150 attorneys statewiad wh6 have agreed to serve on a Pro Bona Panel. Attorneys on the Project’s Panel offer help in several critical areas. Perhaps one of the most important (yet one of the easiest) is estate planning. For example, a Power ofAttorney can be drawn up which allows you to choose exactly who can make decisions about almost any matter related to your care. Other documents include an Advance Directive For Health Care (Living Will), a Final Will and Testament, and Disposition of Bodily Remains. ffyou have been de~ed Social’Security benefits, an attorney can l~elp collect the necessary documentation for the Administrative Hearing. In fact, havin an attarhey present at the Hearing increases the chances of being awarded benefits by more than 50%. We also give advice regarding other state and federal entitle- In the past three years, the AIDS ¯ Legal Resource : Project has provided : legal assistance to ¯ more than 584 ellents i with attorneys from ¯ around the state. i One of the recent i successes is a preee- : dent-setting ldwsuit ¯i in .which a FtIV n.ega- txve man sued : former employer after i being fired because ¯ his partner was HIV+. ment programs. We also assist clients who have been unfairly denied health, life or disability insurance. Informationis available onhow to keep and extend insurance coverage ¯ after work is no longer possible. ¯ If you are fired from a job, denied ." housing or equal access to health care ¯ because of your HIV status, an attorney ¯ can file a Complaint with the appropriate ," authorities. If necessary, the representa- ¯ don-will continue through the various ¯ stages of the process, including litigation ¯ and settlement negotiations. ¯ Family law matters such as adoptions and child custody can be handled by an ¯ attorney in that area when HIV/AIDS is ¯ directly involved. Finally, we can help ¯ end harassment by creditors. ¯ In the past three years, the AIDS Legal : Resource Project has provided legal as- ¯ sistance to more than 584 clients with ¯ attorneys from around the state. One of ." the recent successes isaprecedent-setting ." lawsnitinwhich aHIVnegativeman sued ¯ his former employer after being fired be- " cause his partner was HIV positive. ." If you are HIV positive or have AIDS ~ and you have a legal problem you may ¯ qualify for free legal assistance from an ¯ attorney on the pro bona panel of the ¯ AIDS Legal Resource Project. Call the ¯ project collect at 405-524-4611 for more ¯ information. ", This is thefirst column in a series writ- : ten to help Oklahomans with HIV/AIDS ¯ know and understand their legal rights. ¯ Starting next month, each column will ¯ deal with a legal issue related to HIW ¯ AIDS and will be written by a local attar- ¯ ney who is on the Pro Bona Panel of the " AIDS Legal Resource Project. Clinton Wows ’Em CHICAGO - This year’s politicking got underway in Chicago with theAug. 16-18 OutVote ’96. The Human Rights Campaign, sponsor of the gathering, called it the "first lesbian and gay national political convention." Just a week before the Democrats held their convention in Chicago, the President addressed the some 500 OutVote in a pre-taped video speech. "l’mproud ofthe accomplishments we’ve made," Clinton said. Tacidy acknowledging the sometimes strained relationship between Clinton and the gay and lesbian community, he said: "All Americans face a critical choice this Nov. I believe we must put aside our differences and focus on what unites us, on our common ground....in 1992, I told you about my vision forAmerica - a vision you were and are verymuchapart of. I’m especially proud to be the first president ever to endorse a civil rights bill that specifically includes gay and lesbian Americans." Community Events BAPC Quilt Performance If you missed this highly acclaimed performance as part of the Summer Stage Festival, you can see it on Sunday, Sept. 29 at 2pm at the Tulsa Community College, Southeast Campus Performing Arts Center on 81st St. near Hi. 169. Tickets are $S/adults, $5/students. Info: 595-7182. Wro~tling Enthusiasts Sought A wrestling enthusiast seeks similar individuals interested in forming a wresfling club for recreational matches. He is also seeking an experienced coach. Call Keith at 918-438-8340. Direct From Her HBO Special ,On Tour Fro,u Her Sold-Out P-Town Su,u,reer Shows! ALL blEW SHOW! IN CONCERT ONE NIGHT ONLY! SATURDAY OCT. S 8 PM 110 East second St. TULSA 5howAnd ticket Information: (91 8) $96-71 1 1 Advance Ticket Purchase Is Strongly Recommended Tickets Available At: The Tulsa Performing Arts Center Box Office Location And Al! Carson Attractions Locations A Portion Of The Proceeds Benefit Black & White Charities, Inc. TULS FAMILY NEWS COMMUNITY CALENDAr, SUNDAYS Agape Christian Fellowship Services, 10:30 am 6540H East 21th pager: 594-9692 Bless the Lord At All ¯ Times Christian Center ." Sunday School, 9:45 am " Worship Service, 11 am ¯ 262T0 East 1 lth 583-7815 " Community of Hope ." (United Methodist) Worship Service, 6 pm .. ¯ 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 ." Family of Faith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Worship Service, 11 am 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 Metro. Comm. Church of Greater Tulsa Worship Service, 10:45am 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 HIVMTOeNstDinAgYCSlinic TUESDAYS WEDNESDAYS I-HV+ Support Group ¯ Agape’ Christian : Free & anonymous testing " HIV Resource Consortium " ¯ using fingerstick method. Fellowship 1:30 pm . Service, 7 pm ’" WalkNa°prpeoteiqnsttiumngei:nrt7e-8d:3.0inrm :: 41 54 S. Harvard, Ste. H_I Sheridan Center, Suite H ¯ Results hours: 7-9 pm Info: 742-2927 Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay . Alliance. Univ. of Tulsa " 6:30 pm at Canterbury . 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 Mixed Volleyball for Fun & Competition Helmerich Park, 6:30 pm 71st & Riverside Info: 587-6557 PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 2nd Mon. of month : 6:30 pm, 4154 S. Harvard ¯ Info: 749-4901 -" OTHER GROUPS ¯ The Technicians, Leather ¯ org., Info c/o 621-5597 ¯ T.U.L.S~4. Tulsa Uniform ¯ & Leather Seekers Assoc. ¯ Info: 838-1222 ¯ Gay & Lesbian Student Association TJC Southeast Campus, SWANI~2.."oS:in6g3l1e-7W6o3m2 en,s Activity Network Call 832-2121 THURSDAYS Co-Dependency ¯ Support Group 7:30, Family of Faith MC( Info: Wanda @ 749-4194 ¯ ¯ 5451-ES.Mingo,622-1441 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 " ¯ HOPE ¯ Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. ¯ Bless The Lord At All ¯ HtV/AIDS Support Group " Times Christian Center " PrevHeInVtioOnu, tErdeauccha,tion ¯ & .¯ Prayer & Bible Study " Anonymous HIV Testing ¯ Friends &Family " 7:30pm 2627-B East llth ¯ Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm " " HITV/AIDScpaml,lSupp°lrotfcoatrion:Gr°up Call 583-7815 for info. ¯ Results hours: 7 - 9 pm 749-7898 ¯ Info: 742-2927 Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pm, 241-2282 $4, Sand Springs Skate Grief Group Buder/Stumpff Funeral Home 2103 E 3rd St. Call for time: 587-7000 Family Of Faith MCC : Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm " Choir Practice 7:30 pm : 5451-E South Mingo. . Call 622-1441 forinfo. : TNAAPP Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project Support group for Gay & Bi Native American Men, 6 pm at Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd 582-7225 or 584-4983 Tulsa Family Chorale Weekly practice, 9:30 pm Lola’s 2630 E. 15th PFLAG Family AIDS : Support Gl:oup ¯ 1st & 3rd Thursdays ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 ¯ Alternatives ¯ Weekly social events for ¯ LGBT men & women, 7pm Info: 646-5503 Substance Abuse Support Group : for persons wi th HIV/AIDS 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G ¯ 3-4:30 pm : Info: 749-4194 : SATURDAYS : St. Jerome’s Church ¯ Mass, 6 pm Garden Chapel : 3841 S. Peoria ¯ Info: Father Rick : at 742-7122 ¯ Narcotics Anonymous ¯ Meets weekly at 11 pm ¯ Confidential support for ¯ recovering addicts. ¯ Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 ¯ NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt : Sewing Bees : 3rd Sat. of each month ¯ Info: 748-3111 Community Events Interfaith AIDS Ministries Old Fashioned Street Carnival I_AM will hold the 2nd of these fun events on .Sat. Sept. 21 from 10 am to 6pro .at SouthminsterPresbyterian Churchparkmg lot (near Concessions) at 3500 So. Peoria. JoinIAMfor this day offun for all ages. Info: 438-2437. Rural Men’s Group H.OPE,H1V Outreach, Preven’tion, Edu_ cation, is sponsoring social/discnssion group formen whohave sex withmenand who live-outside Tulsa. The group will meet the2nd&4th Saturdays each month, 7-gpm at the Gathering Place, 4154 So. Harvard, Suite E-3. Upcoming dates are 9/28, 10/12, 10/26, 11/9, 11/23, 12/14 & 12/28. Call Brian or Jeremy at 918-742- 2927 or 1-800-282-8165.. Tulsa AIDS Mastery Project This group will present Tulsa’s 1st Mastery workshop on Friday, Sept. 20 - Sunday, Sept. 22. This is anintense week- " end experience designed to assist those ¯ individiduals who have been affected’by " HW/AIDS tocome to terns withtheimapct " faaflc~c~!.l.flltaaetvoirrsuswhaeslcroamdoenitnhdeiivrliidvueasi.sTrlaivininegd ¯" with ,HIV/AIDS, family, loved ones, ¯ friends, earegivers, and HIV/AIDS professionals. The weekend is free because ¯ this event is sponsoredby a grantfrom the ¯ Tulsa Community AIDS Partnership (TCAP) but donations offood, beverages are needed. Info: Melissa @ 584-2325. Two Spirited Mens Group : The Tulsa Native American AIDS Pre- " vention Project is sponsoring a group of Gay, Bisexual or Two Spirited men f-or a weekly group to explore their roles in traditional Native American culture and i I~v~i~.g-heal.~y lives. Tommy Chesbro, " ¯ ~xx~ coordmatoreforindianHealthCare ¯ Resources Center of Tulsa, notes that the , : group helps provide peer suport forliving : a life in balance physically, mentally, " ." emotionally and spiritually. The group is ¯ open to men living with HIV/AIDS as ¯ well as those not infected. It is specific to men but Indian Health Care would like to , work with women also if there’s interest¯ ¯ The Two Spirit Mens Group meets on " ¯ ~W~ednesdays at 6:30 pmat Commtmity of r~ope Church at 2rid & Utica¯ Info: " ¯ Tommy, 918-582-7225, or write, ¯ ¯ TNAAPP,915 S. Cincinnati,Tulsa74119. ¯ ¯ Bible & Homosexuality Study ¯ Community of Hope will pilot a new interdenominational Bible seminar, on . Wednesdays from 6:30 to 8:30for4weeks beginning on Sept. 18. The study has been developed by the United Methodists Rec- ¯ onciling Congregation Program with " .Welcoming & Affirming Baptists, Dig- " nity/Integrity (Catholic & Episcopali~t~), " GLAD (Disciples of Christ), Reconciled in Christ (Lutheran), Supportive Congregation Network (Mennonite), and More Light (Presbytwerian). Leather and Healing Workshops The weekend of October 19 and 20 will be a busy one in Tulsa as lance brittain, Mr. Alameda County Leather 1994; H.O.P.E., formerly TOHR, and the Silver ~aaCh" le~,,der, w_ith special guest Duncan " rows, tools for application, the power of 19a9c6L. aAcms aGnu, yMBr.aldLweainth,earmutahnorToofroTnietos ¯ positive thinking, how to avoid the pitThat Bin.d, states ’~f you try to find your falls (New Age and otherwise), andmore. way in the SM/leather scene by yourself, The workshop will include meditation, you are doing it the wrong way--there is ritual, storytelling, group exercises, and opportunities for sharing. no need". ¯ ¯ The suggested offering is $5.00 for ~ikTehisw.whoorkasrehoipntiesrefostrewd timneonrancudrmioeuns ¯ reiaaclsh, winoforkrmshaotpiotno, caonvdefruwtuorerkwshoorkpsmhoaptes-, anout leather/SM. "It’s an educational but no one will be turned away for lack of oppormmty you will not want to miss. ¯ funds. It is suggested that the participants Whether it’s your cup of tea or not, the _bring a cushion for comfortable seating. information will be valuable for under- ¯ Juice, coffee, and water will be provided. standingthediversityofourcommunity,,, . Please free to bring a snack, pencil, or heralds Larry Everett, International Mr 7pa~p,er.t~F_or more information please call Leather 1995¯ "So co.~.~.,u.o.ut.an.d ex-" " plore with us", sa s lan ’+~-zv2/, 371-0496, or e-mail S " Y ce" " mrac194@aol.com. unday, .O,c,t. 20, Duncan Ma~c,,La,chlan will present ’Healing The Spirit ,. It will Dignity/Integrity of Tulsa be held 1-5pro. Duncan states, ’Native D/I, agroupforLesbianandGayCatho_ American teachings and other spiritual lies and Episcopalians will meet on Oct. 12, and then on Nov. 9th at 5 pm at St. learnreS°urceStolivehaVebettermUChwitht° offerHiV. USspirituawlaeS ¯ Dunstan’s Episcopal Church, 5633 E. 71 st traditions teach us that the source of all " TO National Coming Out Week ¯ h.ealin.g.is spiritual." He also asks, "What ¯ Oct. 8: A Roundtable discussion of does t!us mean? How can this knowledge "Sexuality: Nature vs. Nuture" 7:00 pmin ¯ be applied in practical ways?" ¯ the Chouteau Room of Allen Chapmafi ¯ Duncan is a workshop leader, group ¯ Activity Center facilitator, counselor, and educatorliving ¯ ,Oct. _9: Panel discussion concerning in Toronto. He describes his living with aoout Gay Marriage, 7:00 pm in the ~IV. since 1983.,asahealingandamiracle. " President’s Loun e, Cha man ,-, g P r~e is very enthusiastic about passing on uct. 10 (National Coming Out Day): ¯ what he as learned and likes to make the Unity Party on Sharp Chapel Plaza, TU Star, .Sal~oon combine community spun- " ~work,s,hop a safe andnurturing experience " Campus. All campus groups are invited to ,s°rsmp Ior two,, very,,different, workshops,. Ior ml participants with his warm and .a,tt.end and will receiv.e letters concerning ’~’Le.ather 101 and Heahng The Spirit" inclusive style. He does ask that all par- /~oth workshops will be held at 4f58 SI .ticipants wear loose, comfortable cloth- ~m~ event. 3:00 pm w~th speakers at 5:00 .Harvard, suite E-3 in ’The Gath~,q,, " mg and to please bring a small obj~t of " During Naffonal Coming Out Week, Place" at the H.O.P.E. and R-e~o~r’~C~’~a~_ pers,o.hal significance. Duncanadds, ’This " BLGTA will be taking donations in supsortium building. " womshop will be useful for people who ¯ port of Breast ~2ancer Awareness Month, ~ ’Teather 101" will .be held Saturday, " are affected by HIV includi,n~ caregivers in October. 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Gay Mecca. ofthe Ozarks by Phyl Boler-Schmidt " able, or you can bring your own. The Gay It’s Jazz Festival timein Eureka Springs, ¯ Family Reunion is always a fun event, a and the excitement is building as the 12th great way to meet and greet new folks and annual event approaches. This year’ s dates ¯ to spend lime with family toward the end are September 19th - 22nd, and both big ¯ ofthehectictouristseason. Plan toattend. name and local talent will be performing , For those of you looking for complete all over town. hair styling and other sa- Featured artists for JazzFest include Stanley Turrentine & Band, Allmad Aladeen & The Deans of Swing, Emie Durawa & Los Jazz Vatos, andGrady Nichols & Moment’s Notice. All will be performing at the Historic Eureka Springs City Auditorium Small clubs will host a number of local and big name performers as well, and nightly there will be a post-performanceparty at the top of the Basin Park Hotel in the ballroom. These events are hosted by the Eureka Springs Jazz Society and will feature performers from the JazzFest ticket. There is still time to get tickets for the scheduled events though JazzFest is always one of the hottest tickets tobehadduring the Eureka Springs season. For reservations and information, call the Jazz Festival Hotline at 501-253- 6258.-TheJazz Festival canalso bereached via e-mail atjazz@nwark.com. Complete information about the 12th Annual Eu- .--_~bo q.,qn.~ t.~’~’7 Festival is available online at: http://www.eureka-usa.com/ events/creative/index.html Also coming up fast is the annual Eureka Springs Gay Family Retmion, to be held this year on Sunday, October 6th starting at 2 pm at Beaver Dam Site Park. A canoeing event will be held that morning beginning at 11. Rentals will be avail- It’s Jazz Festival time in Eureka t.... year s dates are September 19th - 9.2nd....AnOther musical hot ticket hits town the weekend followina JazzFe t. The ~gth Annual Ozark Folk Festival comes to Eureka SprlnCs from September 96th- 99th. Ion services, we have a new family cutterin town. Tymythy Aieran is affiliated with the Holiday Island Hair Salon at 92 Woodsdale Drive and performs the full range of salon services - haircuts & styles, perms, color, manicures, pedicures, w.axin.g, facials, and ear piercing. To contact Tymythy, call 501-253- 9712. Another musical hot ticket hits townthe weekend following JazzFest. The 49th Annual Ozark Folk Festival comes to EurekaSpringsfrom September 26th - 29th. A full board of performers is scheduled, including: Peter Rowan, Townes Van Zandt, Joe Cart & Alan Munde, Crow Jolmson, Still on the Hill, the Jones : Brothers, Charles C. Hammer, Doe Broth- . ers, Jim & Kim Lansford, and Richard ¯ Johnson & Doug Reid. For more information on the 49th An- : nual Ozark Folk Festival, call the Eureka ¯ Springs Chamber of Commerce at 501- ¯ 253-8737. ]ae season IX wlaum~ u,,,,u, ..... ¯ biggest Ozark attraction of them all is yet ¯¯ to come. Plan to visit ourVictorian utopia in October to watch Mother Nature show ¯ off in all her spendor. There’ s nothing to " compare with the autumn colors in the ¯ Ozarks. : See you in Eureka! Exciting Reaching OUT to all People Rev. Clay Cody Sunday Services, 10:30 am 6540-H East 21st . pager: 594-9692 The fime nas come to ~ or ~onduct such cer- I " [ marriage._D~.et . .: ]~e ~ree to take posl- itspositiononotherre- | | tivities of me rtawan ¯ ¯ "1.1 li ons or on cmzens Supreme Court, same- tlon$ on issues l~ke "gi " " | " ¯ soon . . - followingnoorganized | / sex mam:a_ge may same-sex marrxa e~ religion." / be legal m that state. " ~ ~ :,, "tally there is a " The backlash against_ and the state cannot trom this, the Defense of portion of the Lesbian MarriageAct, willsoon require religions to and Gay community approve of or eo~duet such become law and will prevent other states from having to recognize same-sex marriages fromHawaii.The debate, however, will not end there. Author William Eskridge, a Washington DC professor and lawyer, has addressed the issue as aproponent of same-sex marriage. Hisbookexamines constitufional issues, court eeremonles. Butnelther can one religion force its pos~.tlo.n on other relldions or on clt e following no organized ren~on. decisions, the history of Lesbian and Oay commumty~ .-.reranstream" objections to same-sexmamages. Eskridge discredits many of the standard arguments agains__t. same-s.ex fiages, including one ot- me most popmar viewpoints which concerns the ihability of same-sex couples to conceive children. It is hard,to, dispute the author’s logic in this area: A state could and, to be consisthat also is against the idea of same-sex marriage, though not for the above reasons. They feel thattheimtitution of marriage is a flawed,patriarchal system that Gay and Lesbian couples should avoid. Eskridge gives a good overview of thesepositions, exploring not only the ,marriage- is-rotten" argument, but also the "alternatives tomarriage" view (domestiepartnerships) andthe antiassimilation perspective which suggests that formal marriage would "dedaw the ~radieafism of the gay liberation moveand has an appendix tiffed "Letters from the Faithful on the Legal Recognition of Same-Sex Marriage." It includes selected tent, should prohibit mamages in which__..,"..le.t.te.r..~..£.r..~..~...m....l.,.~.~ r~X-.V-~,~-d-o-~,~m~,u~, ~Or:bo~p~~r~~-t~rii~ qr-impo~ " inducting those representing Catholics, tent. If procreation is the essential goat ot Methodists, Presbyterians and the Jew.ish marriage, why should postmenopausal ; faith.Theselettersdefendsame-sexumons women be allowed to marry? Surely, discrimination against sterile, impotent or aged couples would be lmaeceptable to citizens of many different perspectives." The often used religious argument i.s also addressed. Eskfidge’s reasomng is that "state espousal of one religion’s beliefs risks state supression of another : by citing avariety ofreligious doc.u~ent.s. ¯ The battle over same-sex mamage ~ : sure to continue for years to come an : Eskridge’s book is an informative and ¯ interesting addition to the debate. Check : for ’q’he Case for Same-Sex Marriage" at ~ the Readers Services dept. of the Central : Library (596-7966) or at thelocallibrary. by James Christjohn " SUZANNE WESTENHOEFFER brings her umque brand of queer comedy to Tulsa 10/5 at 8pm in the Williams Theatre, PAC. An outspoken (no pun intended) Lesbian, her humor has a broad appeal (sorry, that one really w.as un~conscions). Her resume is ~mpress~ve, irqm her own ground breaking HBO show (nominatedfor anACEaward, thel~,mmies of cable), ’Out there on Comedy Central", ’mainstream’ shows such as "evening at ~,e Improv" & ’X~aroline’s Comedy hour , and more. She is hilarious, so this is the must-see for October! Info. call the PAC at 596-7111. CAROL CHANNING will be appearing in Hello Dolly! at the PAC 9/27-29, and trust me, this is a show that must not ben~,’_ssed! Forgetall the disp..~g~ng things, you. ve ever heard about tins snow, ana completely disregard any other version. Ms. Channing is the real thing, and this show is magic! I was surprised at how effective it was when Ms. Channing took the stage. Only one lady has the charm and charism~a to pull it off, and this is a chance that shouldn’tbe missed. Tickets: 596-7111. And Ms. Channing is as gracious & charming offstage as she is on! CAROL BURNEIff comes to town October 13 for a question and answer session at thePAC. I’m sure I’mnot alone in claiming that her show was a bright spot in an otherwise dark childhood/adolescenee. It was the Carol Burnett Show that fueled in me a fire to perform, and to take people out of their troubles, even if only for an hour or two, and make them laugh and think. Thank you, Carol, for the inspiration, the dream, and the laughter. GUYS & DOLLS will be presented by the University of Tulsa’s theatre department October 17 -27 at the Chapman Theatre. For ticket info, call’. 631-2567. BACP presents ’ffhe Taffetas" a 50’s girl-group musical revue, 9/13 - 22. Info: 258-0077 Andthey have a web site: http/. / WWW.Geocities.com]Broadway/1646 TheatreTulsapresents ’q’heTorchBearers" starting 9/20. Info: 596~7111. (Got that number memorized by now? I do.) 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Call 341. 686,6 International Tours for more information. IGTA member. Enjoy POPS LIVE! with the Tulsa Philharmonic on October 4-5, beginning at 8 p.m. at the Tulsa Performing Arts Center. The concert features Maureen MeGovern. Hear this legendary singer with the five-octave range! Call 747-PI-IIL for tickets and information! by Jean-Pierre, TFNFood Critic ¯ pet peeves is a kitchen staff too lazy to Nested ataprimecomer ofUticaSquare ¯ remove the entire shell from the shrimp. next door to the Polo Shop is a long time ¯ How is one expected to gracefully eat a popular restaurant site, in this declension " dish with a thick sauce and an incomknown as Capistrano. Previous on-site ¯ eateries have included Santa Fe, French, plet,ely shelled shellfish? Does one dip one s fingers into the hot sauce to grasp and Italian cuisines, and those ghosts continue to the shrimp by the tail and haunt the current menu. It’s hard to categorize Capistrano, though, since it bills itselfas arotisserie .(a restaurant specializing in roasted or .broiled meats), but only has one rotisserie item on the menu. It bears-a passing allegian.ce to F~en~hfoods due to its close a~sociations with its Owner’s other Tulsa restaurant, The.FTe.nch Hen, but the preparattons are certainly not, French (of course, we’ ve also made that observation about the French ’HEn, but that is the subject of another review).. We can 6nly call Capistrano eclectiC. Ecldcfic might also describe the service here, too, though esoteric also fits. Certain customers and tables seem to get a lot ofattention, while others are left to flounder unattended. The al fresco tables are particularly a service wilderness. Some of the staff is definitely friendlier than others,and all of them seem to be lacking in training in the finer points of service. Our waitress was also totally ignorant as to the .preparation technique and Ingredients of the menu items. Nevertheless, Capistrano remains a busy restaurant filled with upseale Utica Square shoppets. Where to start? Try to think of every cuisine and every culinary fad item, and then expect it to appear on the Capistrano menu. Soups include a limed chicken tortilla, a clam chowder, and a soup du jour, which on the evening of our visit was a spicy tomato, which we found rather thin and tart. Appetizers include baked brie with sun-dried tomatoes, snails, and a brick oven pizza. Salads include the Caesar, a broiledmozzarella, nicoise, oriental duck, andalderwoodsmokedsalmon, plus a vegetarian medley presented on a bed of greens. The nicoise, duck, and salmon salads come in two sizes, small for $8.95, and large for $14.95. Pastas are important menu items, including fettucine ticino, a pesto, and an angel hair with salmon. We chose to split the fettucine Riviera ($12.95) as an appetizer course, and were generally pleased with the result. The fettucine was cooked to the proper degree of al dente doneness and was sauced in a rich and delicious lobster cream, redolent with parmesan cheese, and sprinkled with bits of lobster meat, scallops, and three whole shrimps. The dish was marred only by the presence of the tail shell on the shrimps. One of our Capistrano Rotisserie 171~8Utlca Square ¯ Hours: Lunel,, 11 to 2:30 Dinner 5 to 9:30 closed S.nd~ys .Cuisine: Eclectic Dress: ’C~uM Prices: Expensive Pa~ent: A~ ~o~ No~-Smo~ Section: Alcohol: Ratln~: convey it dripping to the mouth? Or does-one use one’ s fork, riskingmouth lacerations from sharp bits of tail shell, and then later gracefully and elegantly spit out the offending bits? This .wasn’t the first time we’d been to Capistrano, so we passed up the signature Santa Fe Blue Corn Plato ($9.95), the rotisserie chicken ($10.95), the pan grilled brooktrout ($12.95), and theloin oflamb daily special ($21.95). We wish we hadn’t. Instead, we tried theGuthriepanfried steak ($15.95), which is the Capistrano answer to traditional Oklahoma chicken fried steak. This "dish" was a piece of round steak served with new potatoes and sliced mushrooms, absolutely drowned in the most offensive brown gravy we’ve ever tasted. Flavored with Worcestershire sauce, the gravywas overpowering with the anchovy-vinegar Worcestershire flavor, and the taste would not leave the mouth, even afternumerous washings with the $6.50 a glass wine. Our companion tried the toumedos au ¯ poivre ($17.95), ordered medium rare and received medium and ¯ almost cold. It was a small piece of dead ¯ cow with pepper on it. Our dessert was a bread pudding in a : Jack Daniels sauce, which our waitress .- announced was a Jack Daniels "bourbon" ¯ sauce, even though our table all knew that ." only Bourbon County, Kentucky, pro- . duces bourbon - Jack Daniels is Tennes- ¯ see whiskey. But, good whiskey notwith- ¯ standing, thebreadpuddingwas dry, bland, ¯ and rubbery. We also tried the creme ¯ brulee. Creme brulee is a milky custard with a sugar crust that is caramelized and ¯ toasted under the broiler immediately be- ¯- fore serving. Our sugar crust was burned ¯ black. But, the underlying custard was smooth and very tasty. ¯ Ah, the sacrifices we make for our ¯ readers! This simple little dinner for two ¯ endedupcosting us $76. Wewere shocked and appalled. Shocked and appalled not ¯" only because of the price, but because of ¯ the quality of food we received on the night of the review. We’ ve never been so ¯ disappointed with their food before. ¯ If one is shol~ping and hunga3, while on ¯ the west side o[ Utica Square, stop in at ¯ Capistrano for a bite to eat. The outside ¯ eafe seating can be pleasant. Just hope ¯ that those legendary birds drop by laden : with cash. Black boots,jeans, black belt, tank top ." and armband, i am ready to go and the,¯ nerves are setting in. Will i be accepted? What will it be like walking into a leather " ¯ ¯ bar?Will ~bemovermy head.9"These are ° a few of the thoughts that raced through ¯ myhead as i embarkedonmy first venture ¯ to a leather bar. i knew i had to fulfill this " yearning that was growing deep in my " soul. Little did i know that i was about to ", begin the journey of my life with no , turning back. Upon arriving at The SF Eagle, i saw a : line ofhuge,beautifnl motorcycles, i never ; knew a sight, such as this[could get my heart to racing so. i made iny way to the : patio and all i could see was a sea of ] leatherdad.men. The day was hot and the ¯ air smdled of sweat, leather and cigars, i " was in heaven. But then reality set in. : What was i supposed to do? Look? Ap- : proach someone?i waslost. Thisis where ¯ my training began, i had foundmy home. ~ My family. ¯ Basic training taughtmethat not every- : oneinleatherwas intoSMand vice-versa. ¯ Leather relationships ran’the gamut from " monogamous with leathersex only, to " Daddy/boy or Mistress, Master/slav.e and : that these relationships did not always involve pain..Leather involves scenes " which Race Bannon, author of1~earning " the Ropes, says, a scene is a comblnatton ¯ of mental, physical and/or environmental ~ components, with an exchange of power . as a key element, thatmix in such away as to produce a satisfying experience for all participants. Scenes canhappen anywhere as the focus inSMis the mind. Sexmay or may not be part of a Scene. SM has been : defmed as theater, where you create your own fantasy and as music, where you ~ ..... create your own score". ¯ i learned about networking, negotiat- ". ing and feedback. Networking is about ¯ finding out who is safe and who is not, : building a circle of friends and acquain- : tances to help you and attending parties, : workshops and club events. Educating oneself is important and no question is ~ ridiculous. Negotiating a scene helps " both parties get what they want, feel each other out and not get in over their head. Feedback, such as safe words, helps everyone involved to know how thin.gs are going. Safe words such as red, yellow, or green can be used for checking out the scene, halting the momentum for a while, or stopping the scene all together. "Safe, Sane and Consensual" is the leather creed. Safety is of utmost importance inleather and includes not exchanging body fluids, getting to know your partner and not trying anything you are not ready for. Sane means trusting your gut instinct and not involving alcohol or ..... drugs as they can impair your.j.ud,gment, causeharmandincrease yourriskoI sexually transmitted disease. Consensual stems from all parties involved should consent to everything that is transpiring. Communication is the key. But most of all, have fun. Through my experien~s, i came to realize leather is lovemaking. It is safe and non-demeaning as it is a carefully ....negotiated, safe, and caring exchange between partners. Leather is not about pain, but sensation. Leather has helped me become a stronger person and to understand the true meanings of trust, honor and love. Lastly, leather h,a,s taken me to a heigh,t,. see lance, Mina ~pace, no. one, page 1~ World War II seems to be when leathermen emerged. The men, coming back from war, were used to strict orders of rank and respect; the camaraderie, and theman-to-manbonding in the absence of women. Some were able to adjust while others yearned for the unspeakable. Themenbeganhanging out at the shipping yards, loading docks, and the bars of the larger port cities. Soon, groups of men begancoming together and "hanging their colors" in their "home bar". Motorcycles came onto the scene largely due to the appreciation the American soldier~ devdoped while serving’in Europe. rBike clubs emerged and the followers came from far and wide. Uniforms had their beginning when themenwore them out to display their rank for those who understood their insignia and would give them the respect they called for. Between the 1960’ s and 1980’ s organization, less secrecy, and the leather network helped increase the growing numbers of leatherpeople. From the 1980’ s to the present the Old Guard, which is well defined, and the New Guard have been combining the two philosophies resulting in a stronger leather community. Fetishes and the educating of others have grown and brought about a more diverse and stronger tribe. SM stands for sadomasochism or the deriving of enjoyment from the infliction and/orreceiving ofpain. SMencompasses ¯ many forms. Pain is not the key clement ¯ here, but the exchange of power is. This. ¯ exchange is totally voluntary. It defines ¯ the roles and the relationship. The bottom relies on trust then expresses his desires and finally gives up his power to the Top. This exchange continues throughout the scene as the Top watches the reactions of the bottom. The bottomis controlling with his/her actions. Areyounow asking yourselfhow I take action with my curiosity? Joseph Bean, author ofLeathersex, describes it as: Taking action is like lowering yourself into a tub of hot water, one timid body part at a time, only to discover it Wash’ t all that hot after all. Sojustgoforit. Leatherlifestyles celebrate and affirm sexuality. Be honest andlisten until youunderstand the image! reality, fantasy/foreplay give-take flows. Also realize that you are play~ng a ro!e and wearing a costume. Leatlaerpeopie are playing their roles for themselves, for something powerful within and are looking for aproper counterpart. Please donot wear cologne, loud colors, use a loud voice, or disturb a scene. It is not proper etiquette. Dressing for Action is not all that involved. A tight fitting t-shirt, jeans, black belt, and black boots will suffice. Leather and accessories are expensive so play by the motto "Performnow, reward yourself later". Do not be afraid to ask questions about what is appropriate for you and your role. Collars are worn to imply that you are owned or taken. If you are not ¯ owned, but would like to be, thread the ¯ collar under the right epaulet of your ¯ jacket. ¯ Communicating with clothing can be ¯ misinterpreted. Please take the time to ¯ learn thehankie colors and their meaning. ¯ Do not mistake interests for requirements " and don’ tassume that yourmessages have : notbeen misread. Take all these things as ¯ points to be considered and discussed see lance, Mind Space, no. two, page 15 Do you live in a small town or rural area? Are you attracted to other men? 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If notjust for our health, looking our best can make an incredible difference in our own selfesteem and how we view others around us...in short, Gay or not, it’ s a must. Maybe you have never wanted to be a competitive body builder, but you may still want to feel better about yourself. There are a variety of ways to do that but this month, I am discussing one I truly have passionfor- weight training. Maybe _y.ou already life weights but you can’t figure out why you don t looklike that hot guy (or girl) dancing next to you on a Sat. night. Many times the difference can be narrowed down to a few basic points. 1. Lackofintensity. Too often, many of us just go through the motions of exercise without fully understanding the importance of intensity. I’m sorry to break it to you but weight lifting hurts. You must work out hard and consistently, pushing .yourself to add more weight while keepmg a perfect a form as possible. Intensity is simply trying hard enough. 2. Too much intensity & not enough rest. The number that fall into this category is significantly smaller than the previous one. Unless you’rejuiced to the gills (steroids) or on supplements, you’re not going to be able to work out every day of the week. Normal guys and gals need to Mind Space, no. one ¯ recuperate. The trick is finding out the right amount that suits you. For some, ¯ working out 2-3 per week is best. For the : more advanced, 5 per week is optimum. ¯ 3. Inconsistency. You must commit ¯ ¯ YOurself toworkingout on aregularbasis. If you make working out a priority, put- ¯, ling it ahead of social engagements, you ¯ will make progress. And if you’re only working out three times a week (5 max.) ¯ that lives plenty of time for other things. ¯. 4. Too much time on "shaping" exercises. Unless you’re a professi-on~l body- " builder, there’s little need to concentrate ¯ on various parts of the body. Stick with ¯ the powermovements like bench presses, ¯ squats, leg presses, etc. These are exer- ¯ cises that build size andstrength overall. ¯ 5. Inadequate rest and/or nutrition. If ¯ you follow all these tips yet fail to get ¯ ¯ enough sleep or you eat poorly, what you’re doing is equivalent to swimming ¯ in a cement overcoat. You must sleep an ¯ amount that’s right for you. Eat lots of ¯ whole-grainfoods, vegetables, fruits, and ¯ low-fat protein sources. ¯ 6. Rottenform and time in between sets. ¯ There are various ways to make an exer- ¯ cise easier. Almost all of them constitute ¯ cheating and waiting too long in between ¯ sets. Swinging a barbell up, using your ¯ body weight, momentum and maybe a ¯ ¯ eatapnltmaymakecurling aweight easier, but it will do absolutely nothing to make ¯ your muscles grow. Wait more than 30 ¯ seconds (45 max.) in between sets and ¯ you lose your fatigue/tension and your : muscles can cool down to where you’re at : the starting point all over again. ¯ There are plenty-of other pitfalls to ¯ achieving your best physical shape, but ¯ ~we’vecoveredthemostimportantofthem..~. : Despite the image that weight-lifters ofened awareness of my inner self and has allowed me to stand tall and be proud of whoi am. i would like to here your comments, .any questions you may have, or any subjects you wouldlikeme to talk about. You can e-mail me at mrac194@aol.com or write tomein care of Tulsa Family News. Mark your calendars for September 20. RonGreenwoodproduces ’q"he Mr. Tnlsa l_xather Contest" at The Silver Star Saloon. Until next time...... Author’s note: in the leather community Tops are recognized in upper case and bottoms as lower case. Mind Space, no. two with a possible partner. Here is a tip to remember: A Top flags left and a bottom flags right. You do not have to be all dressed and ." have no place to go. There are the bars, ." dubs, events, dub runs and more. There ¯ are many national events that happen annually and local events you can find out about through the local papers, the community, leather magazines, and the intemet. Always ask. The information is there for your disposal. The world is for your ialdng. Don’ t be afraid. Take one step at a time until you feel comfortableandremember, theleather community is there for you with open arms. This .tribe will help you with your journey. After all, we are all on this journey together. i aminterestedin yourcomments, questions, or topics you would like to see discussed. Please e-mail me at mrac194@aol.com or write to me in care of Tulsa Family News. In October i will be discussing leather relationships. Until then...Play Safe, Play Sane, Play Consensually, but most of all Have Fun! tenhave, they’re involved in a science, and if you treat it as such, you’ re likely to get the results you want. Stephen W. Scott, PME is a native of Tulsa. He is president and founder of Face Beautiful and FBfor Men, a Euroclinicaldayspaspecializing in treatments ¯¯ for the skin, body, hair and nails, located in OKC. He is also certified in Fitness, ¯ Nutrition, and Massage. Info: 405-840- ¯ 3223. How To Do It First 30 words are $10. Each additional word is 25 cents. You may bdng additional attention to your ad: Bold Headline - $1 Ad in capital letters - $1 Ad in bold capital letters - $2 Ad in box - $2 Ad reversed - $3 Tear sheet mailed - $2 Blind Post Office Box - $5 Please type or print your ad. Count the ao. of words. (A word is a group of letters or numbers separated by a space.) Send your ad & payment to POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 with your name, address, tel. numbers (for us only). Ads will run in the next issue after received. TFN reserves the right to edit or, refuse any ad. No refunds. Seeks Similar GWM, I am Christian, 39, like movies, family, friends, ’quiet evenings, warm, considerate, friendly,always happy. Seeking lifemate for monogamous relationship with similar interests. Let’ s meet to talk. Rt. 8 Box 796, Tulsa, OK 74126 , Lifestyl Fgo S24,900 S400 8400 Health & Fitness Center ¯ Jogging Track . Lush ~dscaping ¯ Valet ParNng M~ble ~bby The Hying Begins Now. 4-10 West 7th (7th and Denver) 584-8400 1-800-327-0555 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, September 15-October 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 10 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document April 15 - May 14, 1997, v. 4, no. 5 Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Lesbians’ Kids: Just Fine WASHINGTON (AP) - Lesbians who become parents through artificial insemination are rinsing emotionally healthy and well-adjusted children, according to three new studies presented at a recent meeting of social scientists. Researchers said standardpsychological tests found no significant differences between children of lesbian parents and those of heterosexual parents. "When you look at kids with standard psychological assessments, you can’t tell who has alesbian parent and who has a heterosexual parent," said Charlotte J. Patterson, a University of Virginia researcher. ’°That’s really the main finding from these studies." The studies were conducted in the United States, Britain and the Netherlands. They were presented at a meeting of the Society for Research on Child Development. "Most of the children in the lesbian families were conceived at fertility clinics. Some of the children of heterosexual parents also were conceived at fertility clinics, see Kids, page 3 Marriage Update Oregan Ban on Marriage? SALEM, Ore. (AP) - A bill that would define marriage as a union between a man and a woman drew emotional testimony at a legislative hearing. Suzanne Cook testified Thursday that being raised by a gay father denied her a proper role model and led her to a life of pronnscuity, drug abuse and depression. "I believe homosexual marriage is detrimental to our society," Cook said. But Donna Saffir told the committee, "I am here .today as a very upset and angry mother." The legislation Is mean-spirited and a veiled attack on her gay son and her family, she said. About 60 people packed a hearing room to listen to the first debate on the bill, -known as the Defense of Marriage Act. Opponents argued thatunder current law, gay men and lesbians cannot marry in Oregon anyway. They accused supporters of pushing the bill tO promote intolerance of homosexuals. Supporters claim to have enough votes to pass it through the Republican:controlled Houseand Senate. Gov. John Kitzhaber, aDemocrat, opposes the bill, but it is uncertain whether he might veto it. "The institution ofmarriag,,e is not under attack by the gay and lesbian community, Said R~p. ChuC,k C~n:’ ter, one of three openly gay House members. "To me, this piece oflegislation is amean and vindictive ai~ck.." But Sen.~ob Kintigh, said his marriage of 53 years Was .... s~dcial. ’The relatiOnship we have.i~ad ic~tdd:not::l~ duplicatedby twopeople ofthe samesex," Kintigh Said. Hawaii House & Senate Wrangle Over Marri ige HONOLULU (AP) - The state House won’t budge from its position that a proposed constitutional amendment state clearly that marriage in Hawaii t0be limited to couples of the opposite sex,H0use Speaker Joseph Sould said. That position stands, even if it pushes the same-sex marriage dispute into next year, he said. Sould and House Judiciary ConLmittee see Vows, page 12 "Christians’, Harassing Gays in Riverside Park? TULSA - Jimmy Flowers, a Gay civil rights and HIV activist, livesnear Riverside Park and frequently goes to feed the ducks and geese near the 21st Street Pavilion. On April 14th around 1 pm, he went as usual, and after feeding the birds, sat to enjoy the sun near the cage. Flowers says he noticed-a group of couples going up to individuals in the park but that he didn’t pay much attention until they came up to him. He says that this group of male/female couples asked him if he was Gay. Not being particularly shy, Flowers answered tothe effect of’:yes and do you have a problem with that?" Heclaims that theirresponse was that"this is afamily, Christian park," that Gays are "child molesters" and are not welcome, and that he should leave. Flowers notes that he, as a longume activist, was not the person to whom they should have said that. The couples told Flowers that they would’all the police if he did not leave. Flowers said he’d love for them to call the police, and that he was proud to be Gay and see Park. page 3 Ellen Coming Out! Pride Center to Hold Watch Party NEW YORK (AP) - Ellen DeGeneres is coming out in real life, too. After a season of controversy-stirring rumors, her character on "Ellen" will acknowledge her homosexuality on the ABC sitcom April 30. Now, DeGeneres says she’s a lesbian, too. "When I decided to have my character on the show come out, I knew I was going to have to come out too," DeGeneres says in the latest Time magazine. "But I didn’t want to talk about it until the show was done. I never wanted to be the lesbian actress. I never wanted to be the spokesperson for the gay community. Ever. I did it for my own truth." DeGeneres admits being confused sexually as a young woman. "I dated guys," she says. "I liked guys. But I knew that I liked girls too. I just didn’t know what to do with that." The 39-year-old comedian says she quit dating men at about age 20 and recently met a woman she hopes to forge see Ellen, page 3 3rd TU Film Festiv lll=i TULSA - The Bisexual/.Lesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance of the University of Tulsa (BLGTA) is presenting the 3rd Tulsa Gay & Lesbian Film Festival on April 18-20 in’ Lorton Hall The Festival was originally ojoint effort of the then BLGA and Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR) and Tulsa Family News. The films and videos for the first Festival in 1994 were selected by a student and community committee lead by Jason ~S,_n~_’_th of the BLGA and by Tom Neal for TOHR. Tulsa Family News was and continues to be the media sponsorfor the Festival. The original festival included 15 works that ranged from 1975 to 1992, and varied from highly inaccessible and experimental to very conventional styles. Two works by the late and acclaimed filmmaker, Marion Riggs, were featured. Most of the w6rks were from theUS buttwo were Canadian.Amodest donation benefitted the BLGA and TOHR. The 2nd Film Festival at TU was produced in 1996 as part of TU’s 2nd Annual World Cinema Festival presented by the TU Student Association and the BLGA. This event was free and featured film and video organized around three themes. The first n~ght was Gay & Lesbian History, see Film, page 3 HIVIAlDS Conference Facing the HIV/AIDS Crisis, a Callfor Unity andAction will be held ~n April 18 at the Rogers University Tulsa Campus Confer- :~ ence tseat~t at700 No. Greenwood. The Conference 6~ganizedby ¯¯ members ofTulsa’sAfrican-Americancommunity to address the particular ways that HIV/AIDS is impacting people of color, ," .w.Qmen ,and yOUth wi.ll feature anoon address by Dr. M. J0ycelyn : Elders,:form~rUS~urgeonGeneral~. :~ , ; i .= " ’. ~ : The conference i.~ divided int0 three tracks beginning after:the ¯ welcome at 9 am: youth, general and clergy issues. A particular : goal of the conference according to organizer Beverly Benton is to get North Tulsa churches more involved in HIV/AIDS issues. ¯ And the conference is sponsored by. several churches: Higher ¯ ¯ Dimensions Family Church, Revelations-Revealed Truth Evan- gelistic Center, United Methodist Oklahoma ConferenceAIDS ¯ Taskforc¢ and Co.mm~unity of Hope, TU’s Canterbury ~,entef, ¯ Al! Tribes ~o.ring_mfi_’t3; ~hurch, as well as rndtiy brg~z,~tion~ from PFLAG to the NAACP. ¯ " R~’gls’~afi6iiincludes lunch andis $25 ($10/students). At 6 pm, the Gospel Fest AIDS Memorial Service will be held at the Greenwood Cultural Center. This event is free. Info: 622-6059 New AIDS Czar Praised WASHINGTON - The Human Rights Campaign (HRC), the AIDS Action Council and other DC based organizations praised the selection of Sandra L. Thurman as the new White House "AIDS czar." "’Sandra Thurman is a solid choice to take the Office of National AIDS Policy to the next level said Elizabeth Birch, HRC’s executive director. "She brings the right mix of leadership, political skills and commitment to the fight against HIV and AIDS.’" The HRC legislative director, Winnie Stachelberg, added Thurman has the experience to design and execute the administration’s programs in the changing struggle to end the HIV/AIDS epidemic. "Thurman was intricately involved in the creation and enactment of the Ryan White CAREAct in 1990 and its reauthorizadonin 1995," said Stachelberg, who is a member of the executive committee of the tunbrella group National Organizations Responding to AIDS. "She knows AIDS policy and politics from the inside -a critical combination of skills for this job.’" Thurman becomes the third person to hold the position known informally as the national AIDS czar. Thurman, a native of Atlanta, is past executive director of AID Atlanta, the Southeast’s first and largest AIDS service provider. Under her stewardship, AID Atlanta tripled in size, becoming a multimillion-dollar direct service agency with 90 staffers’and more than 1,000 volunteers, serving thousands of individuals and families with HIV and AIDS. Oklahoma Gay Rodeo Oklahoma City will host the 12th Great Plains Regional Rodeo organized by the Oklahoma Gay Rodeo Association (OGRA) on Memorial Day weekend, May 23-25. It features 2 days of rodeo at the OKC State Fair~rounds and 3 nights of parties and exhibits at the Hilton Inn NW. A ticket package is available for $36 which includes the competitions, a barbecue dinner, Friday night party and Sunday’s award ceremony. OGRA began in 1984. The Great" Plains Regional Rodeo was formed through the efforts of Kansas, Missouri and Oklahoma and held its first rodeo in 1986. In 1993, Arkansas formed the Diamond Stare RodeoAssociation andjoined the Great Plains organization. OGRA gave over $10,000 to HIViAIDS organizations in the state. ¯ Membership is not limited to rodeo competitors. ¯ Members of OGRA participate in events ranging ¯ from campouts, trailrides, shows and fun ¯" fundraisers. For more information, call 405-842- 0849. Hotel reservations can be made by calling 1- ¯" 800-848-4811. The next regional rodeo will be in "- Kansas City in August. i Tahlequah’s Stonewall : League Aims to Serve. : Tahlequah’s Stonewall League may be small but is : definitely ambitious. They aim to provide support, ¯ advocacy, outreach and education to Lesbian, Bi- : sexual, Gay, Transgendered and Intersexual per- . sons. For now, the fledgling group has conceni trated.0n ~Upport;and.q0mmunity building but they. ¯ also hope to provide a safe space for you~ iidul~ ...... ¯ whoarejustdiscoveringtheiridentities.TheI_~ague ¯ meets at a friendly religious organization on the ," 2nd &4th Thursdays each month, andis open to all : wh0silPi~4 ~he.g~lslofthe .League For informa- ¯ tion, leave a message at 918-456-7900. INSIDE- EDITORIAL/DIRECTORY P. 2 US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P. 6 HEALTH & WELLNESS COLUMN P.7 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 ENTERTAINMENT NOTES P. 10 BOOK REVIEW .... P. 10 RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 11 CLASSIFIEDS P. 14 Y publicationare Protecte¯dby~Sc~pyrig¯ kt1997¯ byT~F " N~¯¢a¯nd may not be reproduced e~th~t tn whole or ~n part w~thoutwntten permission 918,583.1248 from the publisher..Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that fax: 583.4615 Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal p~,rson’s sexual orientation. POB 4140 Tulsa, OK 74159 Entertainment Writer: James Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, e-mail: Christjohn, Writers ÷ contributors: must be signed & becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family News. All TulsaNews@aol.com Barry Hensley, Dr. Mike German correspondence should be sent to the address to the left. Each reader is website: Jean-Pierre Legrandboucfie entitled to one free copy of each edition at distribution points. Additional http://users.aol.com/TulsaNews/ Member of The Associated Press copies are available by calling 583-1248. by Tom Neal, editor &publisher It’ s interesting to watch the machinations of the latest Oklahoma City_ export that’s come to Tulsa.with grand ambitions - and grand pretensions, but also with he-humjournalism and questionable business practices. Once again, some OKC residents have decided that they know what’s best for the rest of the state. Pity that we were just too witless to realize that we needed them to save us. Oh well. What we’re talking about is the warma-be Dallas Voice weekly rag. Unfortunately while they’ve mostly got the weekly part down, they haven’t gotten the quality local journalism part that The Dallas Voice has provided for years. Despite claims of local coverage, their content remains consistently almost all wire stories. The slight local content is inaccuratemoreoften than not. AndTulsa observers are regularly amused by the consistently fictional aspects of parts of their Tulsa calendar. In contrast, The Gayly Oklahoman and Tulsa Family News have provided consistent, serious and nationally praised coverage ofOKC and Tulsa news, respectively. And while we cannot speak for The Gayly, Tulsa Family News has always been run on sound financial principles. While we never, ever will get rich, TFN was in the black from its first issue, see Spit, page 3 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bmnboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria *Ground Floor Cafe, 51st & Harvard *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E, 31st *Samson & Delilah Restaurant, 10 E. Fifth *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial "*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 832-1269 744-0896 749-1563 749-4511 749-5678 745-9998 585-2221 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Cellular 747-1508 *Affimty News, 8120 E. 21 610-8510 Deuni s C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722E. 15 712-1122 *Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272 *Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 592-1521 Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis -581-0902, 743-4117 Counnunity Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700 Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468 *Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620 *Devena’s Gallex3’, 13 Brady 587-2611 Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556 Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 46th & Memorial 665-6595 Don Carlton Honda, 4141 S. Memorial 622-3636 *Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503 Tulsa Organizations, L;hurches, & Universities AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 1071,74101-1071 579-9593 Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 587-7314 *Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center. 2207 E. 6 583-7815 *B/L/G Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780 *Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th PI & Florence *Community ofHope United Methodist, 1703 E. 2nd 585-1800 *Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595 *Church of the Restoration, 1314 N.Greenwood 587-1314 Dignity/Integrity-Lesbian/Gay Catholics/EpiscopaL 298-4648 *Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 *Free SpiritWomens Center, call for location &info: 587-4669 Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827 Friends in Unity Social Org. (African-American mens group) POB 8542, 74101, call c/o HOPE @ 712-1600 HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education, 1307 E. 38, 2ndft. 712-1600, HOPE Anonymous HIV Testing Site, 742-2927 TNAAPP (Native American men), Indian Health Care 582-7225 Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 838-1715 749-4194 748-3111 365-5658 584-7960 749-4901 587-7674 743-4297 749-4195 665-5174 584-2325 ¯ attn: Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche ¯ re: March ’97 restaurant review ¯ When writing, your articles, I should ¯ think thatyou should add that your critic’s ¯ are based on a personal opinion. By not ¯ doing so you have not only insulted your ¯ hostess, in more ways than one but about 50,000 people thathave eat (sic) atMolly’s Landing on an average each year for the : last 12 years. Before stating how overly expensive you feel that Molly’s is, have you ever tired some of the other restaurants in the Tulsa area, because.you not-ouly.pay a equal amount for the entree, but you pay extra for the baked potato and/or salads. No hints will be given, because we feel you need the experience. If you did some investigation, I think you will find that your beloved Montrachet’s is closed because people didu’t like the food. I realize that not everyone has the same pallet (sic), bnt there are enough people to keep a restaurant open that has decent food. Most people feel it a compliment to Molly’s that people from all walks of life and every dress preference, feel comfortable and enjoy the same food in the stone buildiug, at the stone time. Molly’s was approached not long ago to adve’rtise in you paper, I wonder how the critic would have read (sic) had we doue so. - Molly’s Landing, Linda Powell Editor’s note: Several ofMs. l~owell’s claims deserve correction. TFN’s restaurant critic works independently. A professional who has traveled attddined widely, attd who has visited nearly all ofTulsa"s better restaurants, he is well qualified to comtnent on the ones he chooses to review. Furthermore. neither I nor any other member of TFN staff have ever solicited Molly’s Ixznding for advertising: We suspect that "" Ms. Powell may have confused us with ¯ l)dsa Kids or Oklahoma Family. And as ¯ publisher and editor, l neither assign nor ¯ prohibit the coverage of any establish- ’. ment by this independent. 1 limit my edit- " ing to issues oflength and the excision of ¯~ the rare, over-the-top c.omment. There- . jbre, the suggestion that somehow there ¯ could be a connection between your deci- ¯ sionsaboutadvertisingandTFN’sreview has less than no merit. Infact. there has been only one restau- *Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston Leaune M. Gross, Financial Planning Mark T. Hamby, Attorney .. *Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotlaerapy, 2865 E. 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Lewis 481-0558 Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733 *Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767 *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood *HIV Resource Ctr., 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 NOW, Nat’l Org. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165,74157 *Our House, 1114 S. Queer PFLAG , POB 52800, 74152 *Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria *The Pride Center, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 *R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 ¯ *Red Rock Mental Center, 302 S. Cheyenne #108 St. Aidan’s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati ¯ St Jerome’s Catholic Church, 3841 S. Peoria, ¯ *Shanti Hotline & HIV/AIDS Services ¯ Trinity Episcopal Church, 501 S. Cincinnati ¯ Tulsa Okla. for Human Rights, POB 2687, 74101 T.U.LS.A. 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Jerry Falwell, who resorted to name-calling in blasting DeGeneres’ morals after news of the upcoming on-air announcement was released, the New Orleans native said she’d heard it all before. "’Really, he called me that? Ellen DeGenerate?" she said. "I’ve been getting that since the fourth grade." In a related event, Birmingham television station WBMA,known as "ABC33/40," decided that the lesbian theme of the show was not suitable for prime-time family viewing and won’t show it. ABC hasn’t heard whether any other of its 223 affiliates has rejected the hour-long special planned for April 30, spokeswoman Arme Marie Riccatelli. said.Thursday...... Jerry Heilman, president and general manager ofABC 33/40, said the station tried to get permission from ABC to air the episode at 11:30 p.m., rather than the scheduled 8 p.m., but the network would not approve the switch. "Our stance rightnow is that we will not be showing the first episode. There’s a possibility we won’t carry any of the episodes in May if it deals with the same thing. We’ll take it an episode at a time," said Heilman. In its place, the station plans a special on an Alabama football coach. Other ABC affiliates that serve the major Alabama markets - WAAY in Huntsville, WHOA in Montgolnery, and WEAR in Mobile - plan to carry Ellen’s outing episode. "As far as we’re concerned, there’s no real decision. It’s just another episode," said Joe Smith, operations managerforWEAR, which is based in Pensacola. Asked about the Rev. Jerry Falwell, who resorted to name-e.allin ...., [Eflen] said she’d heard aftbefore. "Reafly, he eafled me that? Ellen DeGenerate? ... I’ve been getting that slnee the grade." The network has received criticism from both sides on the issue. Lana Metcalf, a policy analyst for the Alabama Family Alliance, commended ABC 33/40 for deciding uot to carry it. "I thimk it’s certainl y a harmful episode and not conducive to families," she said. But the pastor of a Woodlawn church that serves a largely homosexual congregation said the show could offer insight into what a gay person experiences in coming out. "We’re very sad that ABC 33/40 will not show this process to the world at large," said Covenant Metropolitan Cormnunity Church paslor Margc Ragona. Also ABC rejected a TV ad promoting the lesbian cruisc line, Oakland-based Olivia Cruises and Resorts. ABC broadcasl editor Bob Reynolds said in a fax to the public relations firm that represents Olivia that their proposed ad had been rejected for use during the "’Ellen" coming-out episode, even though the spot would have helped make up for ads pulled by Chrysler and J.C. Pcaney. "It is our position that discussion about same-sex lifcstyles is more appropriate in programming,- Olivia’s presideut, Judy Dlugacz, called the April 30 "’Ellen" episode "lfistoric," since it will be the first time a show’s lead character has revealed that she or he is homosexual. But - knowing that a large number of lcsbians will watch the show - Dlugacz also sees a prime marketing moment slipping away. "Here was this incredible opportuuity forme to reach a group that often doesn’t want to be identified," said Dlugacz, who has run her travel and ~nusic co~npany fbr more than 20 years-: ..... "FED Inc., the New York public relations finn that handles advertising for Olivia, is now pursuing air time on ABC affiliates in New York, !~os Angeles, Chicago, s-hn ’Fraiici~co, Houston, Eiallas, Mimni and Seattle. "’Needless to say, it will cost ~nuch more to air the ad in these individual ~narkets than it would have cost to air uationally," said Bob Fitzgerald of TED Inc. It is the second time in less than a month that sponsors ofa gay-related ad have had to shop it to local ABC affiliates after rejection from the national network. The Washington-based Human Rights Campaign wanted to place.an ad about discrirmnation against lesbians and gay men m the workplace. HRC’s ad is aimed at raising awareness thatjob discrimination based on sexual oftenration is legal in 41 states.But Vice President Harvey Dzodin said that script violated network’s policy against . .i’~controversialissue advertising," such as abortion, union ~ssues and Gay civil rights. HRC says ABC’s stance on the Olivia ad, which would have brought the broadcaster ~;000, iridicates a specific bias against businesses trying to reach the gay and lesbian market. "This discriminates against gay comparues trying to reach amarket," said David Smith, a Human Rights Campaign spokesman. Smith said he askedABC’ s Dzodin for clarification on the policy, but was refused. Currently, HRC is planning to air the ad in the following markets: Albany, Albuquerque, Anchorage, Alaska, Atlanta; Austin, Bismarck, N.D., Boston, Cleveland, Columbia, S.C.; Dallas, Denver, Erie, Pa., Fargo, N.D., Fort Smith, Grand Rapids, Mich., Honolulu, Jackson, Miss., Los Angeles, Madison, Wis., Manchester, N.H., Minneapolis, New Orleans, Oklahoma City, Phoenix, Portland, Maine, Portland, Ore., Raleigh, N.C:, St. Louis, San Antonio, San Francisco, Seattle, Traverse City, Mich., and Washington. The spot was declined by the network’s affiliates in Chicago, Colorado Springs, Eugene, Ore., Grand Junction, Colo., Houston, Knoxville, Memphis, Nashville, New York, Philadelphia, and Wichita. Meanwhile, ABC is attempting to fill slots that could have been filled by such skittish advertisers as Genera] Motors and Johnson &Johnson, which have- in addition to regular advertisers Chrysler andJ.C. Penney - decided not to advertise on the April 30 episode. Johnson & Johnson’s competitor, Home Access Health Corp., has announced it would advertise its HIV-testing kits during the show. Microsoft Corp. plans to buya spot. In Tulsa, The Pride Center will host an Ellen Watch Party in the Pfimetimers Lounge beginning at 6:30 for the 7-8 pm broadcast. Popcorn and soft drinks will be served. All are welcome. but the studies also compared these groups with children born from natural conception. Though the studies found no differences between the groups, Patterson noted that "the existing body of research is relatively sparse and open to criticism." ~he said many of the studies are based on small samples and the lesbian couples studied often have volunteered for the research, which can affect the results. The studies involved children up to age 9. Interest in the development of children bona to lesbian couples has increased in recent years because more and morelesbians are choosing to raise afamily, said Patterson. "There is a lesbian baby boom," she said. "’It hasn’t been quantified, but there is a general community sense that more and more lesbian couples are having children." Part of the reason may be that more fertility clinics now are providing services to lesbian couples, she said. These clinics hdp lesbians become pregnant with the sperm of anonymous donors. Fiona Tasker of Birkbeck College in the Netherlands said her study found that non-biological lesbian parents were usually more involved with the children than are the fathersof heterosexual couples. "The woman who is the co-parent in alesbian family is more likely to take a major role in raising the children," said Tasker. In a study of 15 lesbian couples and 41 .parents of clfildren born throughnatural conception, Tasker said she found that 90 percent of the lesbian co-parents assumed the common child-raising tasks. Only about 37 percent of the fathers in heterosexual Couples, however,, took an active role, she said. In disciplining the children, Tasker found, 60 percent of the lesbian co-parents took an active role, while it was only 20 percent of the fathers in heterosexual families. Raymond W. Chan of the University ofVirginia said his study of lesbian and heterosexual couples with children included reports from the children’s teachers. Chan ¯ children in Chan’s study were conceived at fertility ¯ clinics andsome were being raised by single heterosexu,~l ¯ parents and some by single lesbian parents. The researcher said his tests found no differences between the : groups. "The children of insemination are developing normally whether in lesbian or heterosexual families when compared to the available norm for the community at large," Chan said. Contrast that with a vanity press, held iogether with spit, volunteers, prayers, and some OKC sources claim, ¯ the subsidy of a wealthy businessman who was gunning for The Gayly. Should readers care whether a newspaper has sound financial practices? Only if they expect it to ¯ last. In contrast to the newly amved, The Gayly has ¯ operated for more than a decade and Tulsa Family News ¯ is well into its fourth year of giving Tulsa serious, ¯ sometimes-controversial, but thorough news coverage ." for Lesbians, Gay men, Bisexuals and Transgendered ¯¯ folk and our families and friends. And while we are happy to distribute TFNto other parts ¯ of the region (we’vejust added Oklahcma City, Norman, ..... Tahtexluah andBartlesville sites); we recognize, a~ Serious newspapers have for years, that it is nearly impossible to cover competently a city in which one does not live. That’s why TFN has chosen to cover Tulsa well rather than cover a region poorly. By the way, the dirty little secret of Lesbian/Gay newspapers is that the reason for "’regional coverage" is so that there’S more towns_ from which to suck out advertising - not because covering more towns can be done well. Just look at the consistently marginal quality of news coverage in our "regional" newspapers if you need any further proof. Anyway, our advice to the wanna-be’s is: don’t give up ygur day jobs yet or at least, make sure you keep the spouses who are supporting you happy. next was American Gay & Lesbian Experience, and the final day was International Film with works from France, Spain, Canada and India. This year’s event will show 10 works of varying lengths and origin beginning at 7 pm on Friday, 2 pm & 6:30 on saturday, and 2 pm & 7 pm on Sunday. (see page 11 for ad with schedule). BLGTA spo,kesperson, Tedd Adams, noted that the organizers had hoped to screen "’Beautiful Thing," a highly acclaimed~xvork about two teennage boys first love, made for the l~K’s commercial Channel 4. Adams noted that if they were able to get the film (which showed in Tulsa at Movies8 for a week), it would be added to the Sunday night program. Organizers note that Lorton Hall can be difficult to find the first time. From 8th Street and Evanston, attendees may go north on Evanston between Shaw Alumni Center and Twin Soutl~ Hall. Where Evanston dead ends sits McClure Hall ~or TUalums - where youpaidthose bills). Lorton is just to the left, or west. There is a very small parking lot and the screening room (#207) is just to the left inside the door that opens onto the parking lot. For more info., call Tedd at 832-7838. that Gay people had as much right to be in the park as anv others. At this point a bystander came forward and identified lmnself as Bisexual and asked if they had a problem with that? At this point, Flowers claims that the couples backed down and said that they didn’t mean to do anything wrong but were just doing what their minister told them to do. A local HIV educator who does some park prevention outreach adds that in the last few weeks, that he may have seen similar things going on at 21st and Riverside. While he hasn’t overheard-any conversations, he has seen groups of couples approaching single men who then have left immediately. A source with the City of Tulsa, speaking anonysaid the teacher reports, ~using standard osveholo~ical "" ’ ~nously, noted that intimidating Gay people out of ~the evaluations, found.’!no significant difference" in ah~t-. " ~park is reprehensible but is probably well within the area ment or behavior between the groups of children. All the ~ of protected First Amendment speech, noting that there : likely is no crime involved. However, an area Gay attor- ,. hey when asked if the situation were reversed and Gay people were harassing straights out of the park, com- ." mented that he had no doubt that the Tulsa police would find a way to arrest Gays. : Representatives of the Pride Center/TOHR have taken ¯ complaints from Flowers and encourage others with ¯ similar experiences to report thereto the Helpline at 743- 4297 to help in tracking these problems. The Pride Center ¯ representatives also note that those willing t,o do so may also file written complaints with the Mayor s office. 7 Firing of Anti-Gay Civil Rights Official Upheld SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - A pul~lic official who "preaches homophobia" as a member of San Francisco’ s anti-discrimination agency is not assured job security, says a federal appeals court. The 9thU.S. Circuit Court of Appeals upheld the city’ s firing of the Rev. Eugene Lumpkin, who said he thought homosexuality was an abomination and appeared to endorse anti-gay violence. Neither freedom ofspeech nor freedom of religion gives an appointed public official the right to undermine the tolerance his office is supposed to promote, the court said Thursday. Lumpkin had the right to speak as a private citizen, "but the First Amendment does not assure him job security when he preaches homophobia" while serving on the city’ s anti-discrimination agency, the court said. Lumpkin’s lawyer, James Struck, said he would probably appeal further. "This opinion shows complete intolerance for religious beliefs that are widely held," said Struck, of the Rutherford Institute, a conservative religious-liberties organization. He said Lumpkin did not support anti-gay violence and held views no different from those of orthodox Catholics, Muslims and Jews. "Now the 9th Circuit has painted all those people as homophobes," Struck said. Lumpkin, a pastor appointed to the commission by then-Mayor Frank Jordan, was fired by Jordan in 1993 after a furor over his public comments about homosexuals. "The homosexual lifestyle is an abomination against God," Lumpkin said. "So I have to preach that homosexuality is a sin." He also said he believed "everything the Bible sayeth." Asked by a television interviewer.about a statement in Leviticus that a man who-slept with a man should be put to death, Lumpkin said, "That’s what God sayeth." Jordan, in announcing the firing, said Lumpkin had the right to his religious beliefs but had "crossed the .line from belief-to behavior to advocacy" and "implied that he condoned physical harm." San Francisco supervisors backed the firing. Lumpkin’s lawsuit, claiming violatidns of his constitutional rights, was dismissed by U~S. District Judge Fern Smith. The appeals court upheld her decision in a 3-0 ruling. The court cited the Human Rights Commission’s official responsibilities, "to eliminate prejudice and discrimination" based on race, religion, sex, sexual orientation and other grounds, and to promote "equal opportunity for and good will toward all people." Lumpkin’s statements "are not simply hostile to the commission’ s charge, they are at war with it," said the opinion by Judge William Norris. "Neither the First Amendment nor the Religious Freedom Restoration Act (a 1993 federal law) requires government at any level to put up with policylevel officials who work at cross-purposes with the policies they are responsible for carrying out." Deputy City Attorney Burk Delventhal said the court endorsed the city’s argument that "when a person accepts public office, his ability to engage in whatmight otherwise be protected speech is limited to the extent necessary to enable the person to discharge his public duties." CA School Protections BillWins CommitteeVote SACRAMENTO (AP) - Public schools and colleges couldn’t discriminate against students and employees because of;their, sexual orientation, under-a bill that passed an Assembly test without a vote to spare. The measure by Assemblywoman Shelia Kuehl, DSanta Monica, cleared the 21-member Education Committee On Wednes-di~y with a bare. maj ority of 1 votes after stalling for several hours, one vote short. The bill now moves to the Appropriations Committee, the last stop before the Assembly floor. Current law bars public schools and colleges from discriminating on the basis of race or gender in their programs, admissions, hiring or financial aid. In some instances, the anti-discrimination ban also covers religion, disabilities, age, and national origin. Schools can’t use instructional materials that reflect adversely on people because of their race, creed, national origin,.ancestry, gender, disability or occupation. In.addition, school personnel commissions ¯ NH Students Denounce University Violence ~ PLYMOUTH, N.H. (AP) - Several years ago, Ply- . mouth State Collegejunior Judy Pich was attacked by ¯ a man who punched, kicked and spit on her while ¯ calling her names like "queer" and "dyke." When she ¯ tried to talk about the incident with her peers, she"-felt ¯ more like an offender than a victim," Pich said. ¯ "There are good people and there are bad people, but ¯ everyone is at fault because the good people don’t do ¯ anything about it. Peoplehave to breakthe silence and ¯ ignorance." ¯ Pich told her story to the 2,000 students, faculty, [ staff and alumni who turned out Wednesday for an ¯ emergency "Forumon Hate" organizedbythe school’ s ¯ Task Force on Homophobia. The forum was held in ¯ ~eaction to an incident involving another fema!e ¯ student, who said she was attacked by two men in ¯ March.. The woman, whose identity has not been revealed, told campus police the two men punched ¯ her and urinated on her face after calling hera lesbian ¯ and telling her she "had no right tobe allowed to be ¯ walking around the world." Plymouth police Chief Tony Raymond said even ¯ though the girl has decided she does not want to ¯ pursue the case, the investigation will continue; The ¯ student government is offering $500 for.information ¯ about the attackers. While some students who turned ¯ out at the forum said they were shocked that a hate ¯ crime occurred on the campus, many said milder ¯ incidents of intolerance, suqh ~s .name-.calling and ¯ telling derogatory jokes, happen all the time. Many ¯ said they were ready to tackle the problem and try to ¯ solve it. "We need to look out for each other and not ¯ stand idly by while these things happen around us," ¯ juniorMikeHeber said. "We needto take responsibil- ¯ ity for the safety of each other." ¯ Several people pointed out that alcohol is often a ¯ factor of violent crime. College President Donald ¯ Wharton railed against bar owners he said encourage ¯ drunkenness and even sexual assault with such promotions as ladies’ nights, where women drink for ¯ free, and tan-line contests. But many students said cannot ask job. applicants questions about their race, ¯ sex, marital status, political opinions or affiliations or ¯ religious beliefs. ¯ Kuehl’s bill would expand tlgose,..prohibitions to cover sexual orientation. An ~lmost identical bill, "¯ also by Kuehl, one of two openly gay members of the Legislature, died in the Education Committee last ¯ year, when the Assembly was controlled by Republi- ¯ cans. Supporters suggested the bill would lead to ¯ changes in school policies and attitudes that would ¯ help curb the harassment of students that are, or are perceived to be, gay. Stephanie Reed of Petaluma said her son Robin ¯ committed suicide after being taunted by other stu- ¯ dents while a teacher looked on without intervening. ¯ "Robin did not commit suicide because he was gay; ¯ he-committed suicide because he was in pain;’: she ¯ said. Another bill supporter, Michael Malcolm, a ~ high school vice principal from"Union City, said ¯ schools must provide a safe learning environment. ¯ "Our district adopted a non-discrimination policy," ¯ he said. "I believe our campus is a different place ¯ because of the change in policy." ¯ Opponents claimed the bill could be used to silence ¯ criticism of homosexuality. "(The bill) is not about ¯ discrimination; it’s about letting one group of people ~ bring their personal agenda into the classroom and ¯ tell students that the homosexuallifestyle is all right," said Herbert Hall of Garden Grove, who said he was ¯ a former homosexual. "This is a cunning political attack that uses children as pawns," added a witness. ¯ who identified himself only as Mark and who also said he used to be gay. Other opponents said the : measure could prevent private schools that discrimi- ¯ nated against homosexuals from playing public schools in athletics, and Assemblyman George House ¯ contended the bill would lead to a "massive boycott ¯ of public schools." Kuehl suggested the opponents’ ¯ fears were unfounded. "This bill does not do anything ¯ but bar discrimination by public educational institu- ¯ tions against their own students on bases that do not ¯ relate to their merit," she said. St. Jerome An Affirming Liturgical Church meeting at The Garden Chapel 3841 S.~Peoria ¯ Tu~a, Ok~unna Mass Saturday eves at:6pm Fath~" R~k Hoa~ng~wm~ Pastor B~,v. Deacon Deb~e Starms (918) 742-6227 Ted Schutt Realtor 834-7921 Specializing in Family Homes REX, REALTORS, 747-4746 MCC of Greater Tulsa "Where God Uplifts All People" 1623 N. 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Service 6:30 pm °,.Wed. 7:30 pm Choir Practice Thurs. 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group To do justice, love mercy & to walk humbly with our God... Micah 6:8 5451-E South Min~o ¯ Tulsa, OK ° 74146 . (918) 622-1441 while alcohol often accompanies violence, it isn’t the problem - people are. "I don’t drink a six-pack and say ’I hate that guy bee-~s’~6’tae’s ghy,"’ sophomore ¯John McKittrick said. "A drunken man’s words are sober man’s thoughts. I think we need to go after the people who did this." Maine Civil Rights Bill AUGUSTA, Maine (AP) - Jbel Abromson and Michael Quint come from different backgrounds and even represent opposite parties in the Legislature, but they.say they share one thing in common: discrimination. Abromson, who recalls the prejudice he endured growing upJewishdnMaine,ds sponsoring a~bill..that could help Quint and others like him who say their homosexuality makes them second-class citizens when it comes to housing and other rights; "Discrimination happens every single day," said Quint, a Democratic representative from Portland. "I know because I have seen it, I have experienced it and still carry around with me the expectation, even the fear of it because I know it could happen anytime." About 500 people attended a public hearing on the bill held by the Legislature’ s Judiciary Committee. A similar bill passed both the House and Senate four years ago, but was vetoed by then-Gov. John McKernan. But Gov. Angus King supports the legislation, which would extend to all citizens, no matter their sexual orientation, the same civil rights guaranteed regardless of race, color, religion, sex, age, national origin and physical or mental handicap. Discrimination in the areas of employment, housing, public accommodations and credit would be prohibited. Abromson, a Republican senator from Portland, recalled his own personal experiences as a Jewish man growing up in Maine, and how he was called a "dirty Jew" and a "Christ killer." As a student at Bowdoin College in the late 1950s, the Portland Republican said he saw fraternities deny invitations to Jews and blacks. Later, during a tour of the infamous Auschwitz concentration camp in Poland, Abromson said he learned theNazis tried tb exterminate not only Jews, but gays, Gypsies and Slavs, as well. Abromson said his bill "ends forever any similarity between the Nuremberg laws (legitimizing anti-semitism) of 1930s Germany and state laws of 1990s Maine. This bill is that important." The bill’s most vocal foe is Concerned Maine Families, an anti-gay rights group which calls the proposal a "jobs bill for gays." The organization’s leaders have warned the bill would give special job advantages to anyone claiming to be gay or perceived as gay. Many at the hearing held signs that said, "Stop the Special Jobs Bill for Gays" and "Equality for ME. The way life should be." "The effects of this mandate on small business will be burdensome, unjust, unenforceable and will heighten the unfriendly business climate that we must already tolerate in the state of Maine," said Randall Clark ofCape Elizabeth, president of Small BusinesS Benefits Inc. and leader of the CMF!s 1,200-member Business Advisory Board. Rod Smith of Buxton told the committee he was fired from his job as a nursing assistant in Lewiston last January because he was gay. Another gay man, Guy Riddick of South Portland, said several landlords in Gorham, Westb.rook and Scarborough toldhim and his male partner last year they did not rent to homosexuals. Alandlord in POrtland also refused, but because that city has an ordinance protecting homosexuals from housing discrimination, the couple was able to sue, Riddick said. In 1995, Maine voters rejected a ballot question by Concerned Maine Families to restrict gay civil rights, 53 percent to 47 percent. Civil rights advocates are cormng off a recent loss over same-sex marriages. The Legislature last month approved a ban on gay marriages, making Maine the 18th state [o do so. King let the measure become law without his signature. Several legislators said they voted for the ban only to avoid sending the issue to a statewide referendum, where they feared a negative campaign could hurt the drive for gay rights. So far this year, about 17 bills favoring civil rights for Lesbians and Gay men have been introduced in at least 14 states, according to the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. ¯ First Montana Gay Pride Parade In Bozeman BOZEMAN (AP) - Despite protests from about 200 ¯ people, Bozeman city commissioners unanimously ¯ approved apermit for a gay pride parade this summer, ¯ saying they had no choice. "Ifwe didn’t, it’s discrimi- ¯ nation," Mayor Don Stueck said after the 5-0 vote. ~ Stueck said the city’s attorney, PaulLuwe, had warned ¯ that if the commission banned this parade, it would ¯ have to cancel all parades, including the Sweet Pea ¯ and Montana State University homecoming parades. ¯ Stacey Haugland, a Pride member who attended ¯ Monday’s meeting, said she was pleased by the vote. ’- Pride’has-been a:’~r~al’respectfUl ~bn~m~n~ity gtot~p," ¯ Haugland.said. "I donrt think the people have any- ~ thing to fear from the parade." The Pride Weekend is ¯ planned June 6-8 at the Emerson Cultural Center to ¯ celebrate gays, lesbians and bisexuals living in Mon- ¯ tana. Three annual weekends have been held before in other Montana cities. Raven Kargel of Belgrade, who organized an anti- . gay march in Bozeman two years ago, said the city ¯ really didn’t have a choice because it would have ¯ been sued by Pride if commissioners rejected the ¯ "sodomites"’ parade. People who oppose homosexuality, she said, may raise money to sue the city themselves. "I think it would be better to boycott the ¯ city," specifically downtown, Kargel said. "People ¯ who don’t want to see people bragging about bi:eak- ¯ ing the law need to boycott." KGVW, a Christian ¯ radio station based in Belgrade, had urged listeners to ~ call Bozeman City Hall to protest the parade, and that ¯ prompted about 200 phone calls from around the ¯ Gallatin Valley. "It is like inviting leprosy into the ¯ community," one caller said. : Transexual Parent Seeks ¯ Custody Rights Back ST. LOUIS (AP) - A father who lo~t custody of two ¯ song after undergoing a sex change operation says she ¯ plans toask an appeals court to reconsider its ruling. ¯ "There are things only a parent can provide," the ¯ father, now known as Sharon, told the St. Louis Post- " Dispatch. "That is unconditional love, guidance and ~ wisdom. There is no reason I can’t give that to my kids." ¯ Sharon, 38, is a graduate of the Air Force Academy ¯ and a former officer in the Air Force and Army. She has had no direct contact with the boys since late ¯ 1992. Sharon said that the children - now 7 and 10 - ¯ needed both their parents. She plans to ask the Mis- ¯ souri Court of Appeals in St. Louis to reconsider its ¯ March 11 decision giving the boys’ mother sole legal ¯ custody. ¯ Hundreds of battles similar to Sharon’s are waged ~ nationwide each year, but nearly all are fought out- . side public view, a national advocate for transsexuals ¯ said."Mostcasesdon.t&"splaythecourageofSharon,’ ~ who was willing to go public;" said Riki Anne ¯ Wilchins, executive director ofGender Public Advo. ¯ cacy Coalition, or Gender PAC, in New York. Such ¯ custody battles are seldom conducted "on a level ¯ playing field," she said. "Usually, the mode of attack ¯ ~s to portray the transgender parent as, bydefinition, ¯ deviant and anendangerment to their own kids, even ¯ in the absence bf any evidence to support the claim." ~ In Sharon’s ’case; -the appeals ’courtin St:Louis ¯ ruled that a St. Charles County Circuit Court judge ¯ must decide whether visits with Sharon would be in ¯ the boys’ best interest. The appeals rulingo overturned ¯ ajoint-custody decision by anotherjudgein St. Charles ¯ County where the boys’ mother lives. ¯ "Ifyou asked them, I know they would want to talk ¯ with me," Sharon said. "I have never, ever presented ~ myself to my children.as anything other than their ¯ dad. I do not need my chi" ldren’ s vali"dati"on ofm¯ yself ¯ as a.woman." ~ Sharon acknowledged that both boys would need ¯ counseling before they could resume a relationship ¯ with their father. Sharon said her original plan for ¯ reconciliation with her sons called forphone calls and ~ counseling leading up to visits. "I know they would ¯ recognize me as their dad," she said. "I would never ¯ do anything that would harm them." Y Teens Feel No Risk BLOOMINGTON, Ind. (AP) - Th,~re is a perception amongrural Indiana teen-agers that AIDS won’t happen to them, according to a recent study by two Indiana University professors. "They think they know everyone, what they are doing and who they should avoid," said William L. Yarber, one of the researchers. "That is really significant relative to the fact that we are finding, in our center, that AIDS is growing faster in the rural areas." Yarber, senior director of the Rural Center for AIDS/Sexually Transmitted ,Disease Prevention, and Stephanie Sanders, associate director of the Kinsey Institute, condUcted the study of 38 adolescents, ages 11- to 17-years-old. Both males and females said they would not practice sexual abstinence just to avoid HIV, and females expressed a greater fear of pregnancy than of HIV infection. "There is a real perception in the rural communities that they don’t believe their ownrural town has been touched by AIDS and that they are invulnerable," Yarber said. But state statistics show that both counties involved in the study have AIDS cases and several HIV diagnoses as well, Yarber said. "They may not know people as well as they think," he said. "But they don’t feel they have to worry about it." 1st Nat’lCurriculum About; HIV/AIDS NEW ORLEANS (AP) - A new tool to slow down the~spread of HIV where it is increasing fastest - among teens - has been u0y~iled,~gcently. "The Science of HIV,?~.a. l;84-page teachers’ guide and 30- minute Video, is:the first gcience program designed to ~each students about the human immunodeficiency virus, how it causes,AIDS, and how to avoid it. The guide wasunveiled at a National Science Teachers Association (NSTA) meeting. "The research community has made encouraging progress in treating AIDS, but the only 100 percent effective treatment we have is prevention," said James Gallarda, with Abbott Laboratories. "By teaching the science of HIV and AIDS, we hope to give students a better understanding of how this disease is prevented and treated." Gallarda, who helped put together the Chicago Museum of Science and Industry’s AIDS exhibit, said that work prompted Abbott to ask the NSTA about developing the program. A new report from the Centers for Disease Prevention and Control found that new AIDS cases among 13- to 25-yearolds infected thrdugh sex and drug needles rose 20 percent between 1990 and 1995, he said. One quarter of all new HIV infections are among people younger than’22. Even science teachers in the audience murmured in surprise Friday at the results of one demonstration designed to show how quickly a virus can spread. Author Michael DiSpezio passed out clear plastic cups of clear liquid to the two dozen teachers and reporters who attended the breakfast meeting. Four of the cups were "infected" with an alkali and would turn bright pink when the right chemical was added. He had each person turn to a neighbor, mix the contents of their cups together, then divide the mixed liquid back between the two cups. Then each person turned to a different neighbor and did the same thing. DiSpezio went down the aisles with a vial and eyedropper, adding the telltale chemical to each cup. Every single one turned bright pink. ¯ Sharon Nelson, a biology teacher at Waunakee High in Wisconsin and an ad- ¯ visory board member for the project, told ~ the group that when she used the demon-’-~’ ¯ stration in her class of 22 students, two ¯ cups remained clear- and one was held by ¯ a student she had asked to abstain from ¯ mingling fluids. ¯ "I wasjust- ’Wow! The kids will really ¯ go for that! That is very emphatic,’ "said ~ WillaRamsay, a high-schoolteacher from ¯ San Diego. "I am going to my district ¯ science-math manager with it. I think it ¯ needs to be promoted throughout our en- ¯ tire district" she said. ¯ DiSpezio said he thinks that teaching ¯ H1V as science, rather than morality, will ¯ help thecurriculum avoid the fate of safe- ] sex education programs. A committee ¯ namedbytheNationalInstitutes ofHealth ¯ reported in February that moral and gov- ¯ ernment objections are blocking safe sex ¯¯ education programs. She asked if it could also be used in ¯ middle school, and the developers said ¯ yes. "By the time they get to us at ninth ¯ grade, they’re pretty well educated the ¯ wrong way," Ramsay said. "I think we ¯ need to get to the students in sixth grade." ¯ Condoms for Kids ~ SEATILE (AP) - Adults can buy con- . doms at clubs, bars or gas stations, but ¯ access isn’t as easy for youths. A publicprivate partnership campaign aimed at ¯ lowering HIV infection hopes to change ¯ that. The campaign, dubbed Project AC- ¯ TION, is placing condom machines in ¯ Seattle businesses where young people ¯ gather. It’s an attempt to reduce the risk of ¯ sexually transmitted disease and preg- ¯ nancy rates among youths ages 14 to 20. ¯ Kae Lee Dozier, 14, says about a third ¯ of her friends are.having sex. Many of ¯ them think they are immune to sexually ¯ transmitted diseases, HIV, or pregnancy. ¯ "They think ’it can’t happen to ~me,’ but ¯ they’re wrong," Miss Dozier says. ¯ Miss Dozier, other youths and numer- ¯ ous business, religious and political lead- " ers on Thursday announced their support ¯ for Project ACTION. Organizers de- . scribed it as the first broad effort to make ¯ low-cost (25 cents) condoms available to ¯ youths with no strings attached. The two- " year, $450,000 campaign is modeled after ¯ a project started in Portland, Ore., which ¯ includes public education and peer coun- ¯ seling. Seattle and San Jose, Calif., are the ~ next cities to go "online" with the project. ¯ Five condom machines have been in- - stalled in two Seattle businesses so far and ~ the Project hopes to place dispensers in ¯ 130 otherbusinesses with significantyouth ¯ patronage. In King County, health sur- ¯ veys among youths show that 60 percent ~ ofhigh school students are sexually active ¯ by graduation, yet only half of them use , condoms. Lisa Bond, president of the Seattle ¯ Council of Parent Teacher Student Asso- ~ ciation, said even though the PTA has ¯ taken no official position on condom avail- " ability, she personally views the project ¯ .as a step forward. ’Td rather have them do ¯ an end run and save my child’s life than ¯ have a child die from ignorance," Ms. ¯ Bond said. "The more kids know about ¯ the dangers they’re facing, the better deci- ¯ sions they can make." Gwen Williams, director of Holiness Missions, acknowledged that the avail- . ability of condoms is disturbing to many, ¯ particularly churchgoers who emphasize ¯ abstinence. But, Ms. Williams, said, ~ "We’re talking about saving lives. 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The "Plan" will provide certain services for each insured at a cost of $100.00 per person (employee) per month. This plan has a $300.00 annual deductible and pays 80% of your medical bills after that deductible is met. Sounds pretty easy so far. Here’s where it gets complicated... A third party approaches your insurance company and tells them they can cut their expenses by 40%. This third party is the Managed Care group. It functions as an intermediary (negotiator) between you and your doctor, hospital, pharmacy, etc., and your original insurance company. Its function is to make .money (profits) for themselves and for the Insurance company. It is not in the busi- ¯ gist, "Sorry, no money is left in the Heart ¯ Transplant Fund. Procedure demed. That’s it! After all, money talks. This is ¯ how our civilized, capitalistic society func- ¯ tions. Now, I wouldn’t have such a prob- ¯ lem with all this, if the Managed Care ~ groups were going broke orifthese groups ¯ functioned as not-for-profit institutions. ¯ But when insurance and Managed Care ¯ companies are showing record profits, it ¯ becomes extremely difficult to rationalize how someone could be turned down ¯ for a life-saving procedure. Have yourpremiums gonedown lately ? Have your deductibles or co-payments been reduced this year? Physicians’. pay has dropped by nearly 40% in the past few ¯ years, so they are not benefiting..Ask ¯ yourself, "If premiums are up and benefits are down, who is making out? It ¯ doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure ¯ that the Managed Care groups and your insurance company are laughing all the ¯ way to the bank. If you think (or don’t ¯ think) managed health care is bad now, ¯ here is a look into the crystal ball... ~ Primary care physicians will be called ¯ uponto make decisions (final decisions in ¯ some cases) about health care procedures ¯ based on age and need. For example, say ~ I am your primary care physician, you are 60 years of age, and you need kidney ¯ dialysis. But, I can have only five people ¯ a year on dialysis treatment. Four slots are ¯ already filled and, just before your apness to serve you.or-your doctor!s, ¯ pointment, a 25 year old patient of mine hospital’s, and pharmacist’s (etc.) best ¯ also needs dialysis. Who gets dialysis slot interests:~ Which is your health! Period. ¯ #5? In the future, the care will go to those The sooner.you understand the princi.-. ~ : who can pay out ofpocket: In other words, pal motives of the Managed Care gr0up’s~- . just likeih~judici’ai system, the rich will interest (which is money-making), the- ¯ prevail in health care. better equipped you will be to deal with. ~ Obvi~usly this is avery simplistic overthe pr0blei~s you may encounterl Tile ,~’ vi~c.0f thetotal managed health Care decisions made in health care today .are ¯ picture. "What can I do?" you ask. Get bas~d0nfinancialnumbers.ForeXai:nplei" " inv6I~edi’Wfit~you~elected~fficialsand say you need a heart transplant. Your ~. the State Insurance Commissioners. And primary care physician must refer you out o take care of your health by becoming fit, to a specialist (cardiologist)~ and he/she must ask the Managed Care group if you can be approved for the heart transplant. Mind you, there are funds allocated for these procedures for each group or plan. Well, guess what?! It’s toward the end of the fiscal year and the Heart Transplant Fund is depleted. An accountant from the Managed Care group tells your cardiolo- ¯ ea.ting right, and supplementing with vita- ¯ mlns daily in order to avoid feeding the ~ (Mis)Managed Care Monster!! Dr. Gorman’s practice is located at ¯ 4775 S. Harvard, Suite C, 712-5514. His ¯ is a Board Certified Chiropractor &Acu- ~ .puncturist, has a B:S. degree in Nutrition, ¯ is an active bodybuilder, anddoesfitness, ¯ nutrition, & supplement counseling. want to deal with these issues- not AIDS, not sex before marriage," she said. "But we must face the reality or we’re going to lose our youth." Miss Dozier said condom availability reduces, rather than encourages, sexual activity among youths. "Knowing more about this gives you the power; you don’t think of having sex because you’re drunk or rebelling or because you feel pressured," Miss Dozier said. "After getting all this information aboutAIDS, I’m holding back from .sex. It made me want to wait, and I think more youths will wait and hold off more, the more they know about the risks." Gore Seeks More $ For AIDS Drugs WASHINGTON (AP) Hoping to improve access to AIDS-fighting drugs, the Clinton administration is exploring the possibility of expanding Medicaid coverage for people afflicted with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Vice President A1 ¯ Gore has asked the Health Care Financing ¯ Administration "to look into the possibil- ¯ ity" of making Medicaid available earlier ¯ to people with HIV to get them the cut- . ting-edge drugs needed to help them. - ¯ "If it works out, as I hope and expect it ¯ will, it can ease suffering, renew hope and ¯ help ensure that goodpeopte are notpriced ¯ out of lifesaving medicine," Gore said ¯ Wednesday. He said the move was neces- ¯ sary because people diagnosedwith HIV ¯ can develop full-blown AIDS before be- . coming eligible for Medicaid, "and that ¯ makes some of these new drugs prohibitively expensive for people who need ¯ them." ¯ Gore made the announcement after re- " ceiving the 1997 National Leadership Award for Public Service from AIDS ¯ Action, an AIDS advocacy group. He said ¯ he has asked the HCFA to report back to ¯ him in 30 days after exploring the possi- ~ bility. "Our view is that getting these ¯ drugs to people earlier will not cost more ¯ in the long run," he said. "Itmay even save ¯ money, and it will certainly save lives." OGRA Presents~The 12th Annual Great Plains Regional Rodeo Sponsored by Miller Lite Oklahoma City ¯ OK State Fairgrounds Memorial Day Weekend May 23, 24, 25, 1997 Ticket Package $36.00 FOR MORE INFORMATION CALL THE RODEO HOTLINE 1-405-842-0849 HOST HOTEL - HILTON INN NORTHWEST 2945 N.W. 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All rides start at Ziegler Park Recreation Center, 3903 W. 4th St., Into: PUB 9165, 74157 .Y READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library An apparent oxymoron, Steve Gunderson was a multi-term, gay Republican congressman from a rural Wisconsin district. Amoderate, traditional Lutheran, Gunderson had quietly represented his district since 1981 before deciding not to seek reelection in 1996. The story ofGunderson and his long term partner, coauthor Rob Morris, is inspiring, but somewhat disappointing. Told in alternating narratives by each author, House and Home is a refreshingly candid view of a major, gay publiC figure. Many moderates and progressives were deeply disappointed when Gunderson declined to run for a ninth term. He had risen to a position of seniority and influence when he decided that he could no longer trust his own party for support. He realized this one day in 1994, while attending a Wisconsin Republican caucus: "it was composed mostly of right- ¯ Gunderson to become more vocal about his life with Rob Morris. They had met in ¯ 1983 and Gunderson had occasionally ¯ mentioned Morris during political ¯ speeches. After being outed, Morris con- Gundel n lashes outat whathe considersthe liberal, left-w_’mgof theGa-y ci rigrit movement... . t_iayacfivists taavetoaccept thatGays are not automatically that vinced Gunderson to respond forcefully to critics by pointing out that the Republican Party had "an historic role in fighting prejudice." Gunderson insists that "anyone who was familiar with the history ofthe Republican Party would understand that, like Barry Goldwater, I could legitimately say, ’I didn’t leave the party, the party left me.’ " Morris, comments are mostly short contributions of apersonal nature. Being a Congressional spouse, he had to maintain a careful balance between G/anderson’s public and private life. Morris dutifully details his perspective, but without much of the wit and humor that he apparently possesses. Gunderson lashes out at what he considers the liberal, leftwingofthe Gay civil rights movement. He has often, been accused of "sleeping with the wing ’true believers’ who had "[~t=r~ ]]’~ll¢~,~ne come .to the caucus straight . xx~~oa~a from services at their funda- .aren t _ mentalist churches. Mostwere people I had never met before au~oxx.~u.~,c.ttt,y in politics. They were part of enemies.... the ’family values’ army, loyal in every way to the Religious RighVs high command. Not schooled or motivated in partisan politics, not educated about government or history, and not informed in any deep, objective way about many of the major issues, they were there because they had been told that the only way to save the lives of fetuses from abortion, to save their children from the influence of predatory homosexuals, and to save America from degradation was to show up at these caucuses and compel the Republican Party to do their will." His 1994 outing on the floor of the House of Representatives, by controversial congressman Bob Dornan, forced .enemy,’/. : Gunderson~ s response:." Gay activists have to ~aecept ~that gays are not auto- .matically DemOcrats, that Republicans aren’t automatically enemies, and that it is vital to have friends in the majority ¯ party. More specifically, it is crucial to ~ have openly gay Republicans who are ¯ willing to do the sometimes tough and ¯ thankless work of sensitizing the party to ¯¯ gay issues, gay rights, and gay humanity." Gunderson, ofcourse, decided in less than ¯ two years after his outing, that this was the ¯ responsibility of someone else, someone who has yet to show up. The abdication of ¯ his essential role diminishes the impact of his otherwise impressive story. ¯ Checkfor House and Home, and books ¯ on other related topics, at your local ¯ branch library, or call the R~aders Ser- ¯ vices department at the Central Library at 596-7966. Email is a wondrous thing. At the moment, I am in Fort Worth, and having to write a colmnn for deadline. Fortunately, computers allow tiffs to happen. Or unfortunately,. depending on your perspective. You will notice this column is a bit differcnt from others. I have a story to tell. It may be meamngful, it may be entertmning. I hope it is both. Story one: In 1986, my Father was diagnosed with cancer. He was admitted into the hospital for a biopsy. I, as well as the rest ofmy fanfily, were strained mad in denial He had never shown his age frotu the time I was born up to that point in his lifc. 1! sccmcd he would always be there lor us. I was in a play at the time, a drcadflfl nmsical review. I had a solo part in a song (my lirst ever). I was in school full timc and working, so I didn’t have much time for hospital visits. According to fanfily that did spend time at the hospital, his wish was that I continue in the rehearsals and not miss any on his account. Since we all thought he’d be home at any time, I suffered through the rehearsai, trying to conquermy fear of singing in front of people. His biopsy kept being delayed, and a two day visit stretched into three weeks. I did visit him a couple of times, and each time he seemed older, as though the years were catching up to him all at once. It scared me, but still I kept thinking he’d be home soon. I remember him looking out the window once, a sad, resigned look on his face. He said something - I cannot to this day remember what, but I know it had to do with what was coming. I continued struggling to smile while singing and remembering choreography and lyrics at the same time. Dad continued to go downhill, each time they’d think he was ready for biopsy, see Jim, page 13 COOL UNIQUE & EXCLUSIVE EYEWEAR Discover eyewear styles found nowhere else in Tulsa. OLIVER PEOPLES, GAULTIER, MIKLI, MATSUDA, ETC... ~ VISIONS 6.837 S. MEMORIAL ¯ 254:1611 Renew Your Subscription to Life. NITSUBISHI HOTORS Built For Living,TM $ 2 1, 9 8 8 sale price 7 Kelly Kirby CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation ¯ Lesbians and Gay menfitce many special tax situations whether singlo or as couples. ¯ Thank youfor giv.tng us our most successful tax season. ¯ Call us for help with your year round tax needs. 7 4 7:2 5~4 6,6 4021 S. 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The stunning photography of Lee Steenhuis. by Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche " the sandwiches are accompanied by a dill TFN Food Critic " pickle and Pringles potato chips, though If one ever has out of town guests who ¯ the lemon Caesar salad will be substituted think no culinary excitement exists in . upon request. Tulsa, one need go no farther than Cherry ¯ The lunch time crowd has welcomed Street to wakeup their tastebuds. Tucci’s, the addition of daily pasta specials to the located at the site ofthe former long-beloved Cherry Street Bakery, serves up food in the New Italian mold with strong California influences. While not exclusively a pizza parlor, it’ s pizza that has made Tucci’s a Cherry Street destination, even with such old standbys as The Hideawayjust across the street. Nothing promotes a restaurant more than the Shock value and talk factor of previous customers telling their friends about their dining experience, and diners here will certainly have something to talk about. The kitchen at Tucci’s makes up a fine, handtossed pizza crust, and then covers ~t with some unbelievable toppings. Two ofthe most talked about combinations are the Stone Temple Pie, which features marinated cactus, smoked fajita chicken, and black beans, and the Thai Pie, an interesting mix of spicy peanutpesto, teriyaki chicken, bamboo shoots, and chow mein noodles. Intrigued? Shocked and appalled? Read on. The Upstream Dream, a fairly new addition to the menu, is topped with smoked salmon. The Aglio Arrosto (roasted garlic for the non-Italianophones out there) has roasted garlic, pinenuts, and Italian sausage. The California Pie is loaded down with artichoke hearts, sun dried tomatoes, olives, fresh basil, and feta cheese. And, the list goes on. The true artistry at Tu_cci’ s is that, while certainly bizzarre sounding, these unusual topping combinations work. Oftentimes, we see restaurants trying to be too creative, and they can’t quite pull it off, but that is not the case here. The pies inspire strong emotions from the diners--they either love it or they hate it. We’ve never heard anything in between. All of the pizzas are accompanied by a wonderful lemon Caesar salad, crispy romaine with a zesty and bright lemon juice dressing, instead of the more traditional egg yolk-based Caesar. And, when the pie amves, it immediately takes center stage, since it is presented on a metal footed cake plate. But, after the shock of the toppings, be prepared for another shock. The bill. A large pizza is $19.50. Pizzas are not the only menu item available, especially since the recent menu redo, which added additional entree choices, mostly in the sandwich department. An Italian "rich boy" is offerred for $5.75, as is a chicken parmesan. Grilled Italian sausages and peppers goes for $5.25, while smoked turkey breast and chicken salad tarragon sandwiches come in a $4.95. A very interesting Roasted Italian vegetables in pita bread sells for $4.95, and we’ve found this sandwich interesting, though a bit heavy on the lettuce and short on the vegetables .All of Tucci’s 1344 East 15th 11 am- 10pm Mon - Thurs Fri/Sat til 11 closed Sun Cuisine: Nuovo Italiano Dress: Casual Payment: Cash, checks MC, Visa, and AmEx Alcohol: Domestic and imported beer Smoking: Smoking on outdoor deck, non-smoking inside (sort of) Cost: Moderate ~kat{.1nsgt: menu, selling for $5.50, which includes the lemon Caesar and Italian bread. On the day we reviewed Tucci’s, the special was a spinach fettuccine with basil cream. Assuming one likes spinach (which we don’t), the pasta was freshly made and had a distinct spinachy taste. The basil cream sauce had pieces of fresh basil leaf in it and was light and pleasant. The only surprise was that the dish was served with a large soup spoon on the plate. Why? There wasn’t any soup on the menu? Surely, they didn’t expect us to. eat our fettuccine with a spoon ! (for those who haven’t memorized the writings of Miss Manners, Jean-Pierre insists that it is incorrect to eat spaghettior fettuccine using a spoon to~,~help twirl the pasta around th~ fork.) Several.~alads are also available, from a large lemon Caesar at $4~50, to the chicken salad an~t~he.Mediterraneo at $6.50. Could s~m.eone please tell us why the: Mediterranean salad proudly proclaims that it contains shrimp from the Gulf ofMexico? There is also antipasto for $6:50.~ Beverages are fun here. Certainly, the mostpopular is iced cappuccino. They also make Italian sodas, soda water with a shot or two of various flavoring syrups, and have an ¯ extensive selection of bottled waters, in- ~ cluding the Welch "Ty Nant," the pricey ¯ stuff in the pretty cobalt bottle. Biscotti and cheesecake are always avail- " able for dessert, and, when the kitchen ~ makes it and there is some left, a nice ¯ spumoni ice cream ($3.00) can be had. ¯ Even better is the tiramisu, sponge cake ¯ soaked with espresso and layered with ¯ Italian cream for $3.75. The food at Tucci’s is good, and a ¯ relatively goodvalue for the money. The ¯ major area needing improvement is the service. Chronically understaffed, the ¯ friendly and earnest wait staff will get to ¯ one’s table as soon as they can, but still, ¯ the wait can be annoying. On ourlast visit, ~ the iced cappuccinos and Italian sodas ¯ arrived at the table with no spoons or ¯ straws. And, the music being broadcast ¯ over the speakers was so loud, we could ~ hardly hear one another talk, making us ¯ feel like we were at the Full Moon Cafe ¯ across the street. ¯ But, the future is looking bright. The ¯ ownership triumvirate of husband, wife, ¯ and mother has recently extensively re- - modeled the kitchen, and the menu under- " goes regularrevision and freshening. The ¯ outside deck remains a popular spot for ¯ watching the Cherry Street traffic. We ¯ like Tucci’s. ~ Not feeling up to cactus or pineapple or ¯ peanuts on your pizza? There’s a-Pizza ¯ Hut just down the street for the timid. Y Chairman Terrance Tom called a nmvs conference mad insisted that without referring the opposite-sex couples in the amendment, it will continue to invite la~vstfits challenging the marriage law. House and Senate conferees were fac; ing an internal deadline of resolving their differences over the stone-sex marriage bills, although Sott~ acknowledged that deadline could be waived upon an agreement with Senate President Norman Mizuguchi. Both Souki and Tom expressed confidence that an amendment to ban same-sex manJages and a package of benefits for gay mad lesbian couples will be approved before the Legislatm’e adjourns April 29. Tom defended his decision at die latest House-Senate meeting Wednesday night not to take up the rights package for samesex couples. He said as far as he’s concerned, the Senate has failed to provide a comlter proposal to the House’s latest proposal. Senate conference co-chairnlan Avery Chumbley said the Senate will meet with the House when the Itouse agrees to take up both the anlendment mid tile Lesbian/Gay benefits package and not separate them. "They are both are part of the stone problem mad we’re not going to separate them," he said. Rhode s and Kills Anti-Marriage Bill PROVIDENCE, RA. (AP) _ A bill to ban gw marriages was voted down by a powerful House couun{ttee on Thursday. "Life in Rhode I~l,’md is not going to change tomorrow if we don’t pass tiffs bill," said Rep. Timoth3 Willianlson, DWest Warwick, a member of the House Judiciary Connnittee. A1 though Rhode I slmad doesn’ t recognize gay marriages uow, the bill’s supporters worried the state would be forced to recognize them if legalized in another state. Debate over the issue led Congress to pass and President Cliuton to sign last year the Defense of Marriage Act. The law says the federal government will not recognize gay nlamages andit allows states to refuse to recognize them as well. No states allow homosexuals to marry, although the Hawaiian Supreme Court is considering the issue. Rep. Michael Pisaturo, D-Cranston, opposed the bill so much he introduced one of his own to legalize same-sex marriages, although henow plans to let his bill die. City Grants Partners Health Insurance SPRINGFIELD, Mass. (AP) - Saying he hopes to lay down a model for the rest of the state, MayorMichael Albano on Thursday began offering health insurance to gay and lesbian partners of city workers. He acknowledged talat the move is bomld to breed some dissent, saying, "There are .those who do not yet understand that tails IS a new world we live in." But he added, "It is the right thing to do. My adininistration will not discrilninate based on ... alternative lifestyle. And no other city in Massachusetts or in America should elfiler." Springfield, file third largest city in tale state with 160,000 residents, became the second Bay State connnunity with such a nleasure in effect, according to Gay mid Lesbian Advocates and Defenders, a Boston- based group that monitors gay rights. Mary Bonauto, tlae group’s civil rights direc.tor, said Cambridgeis tale other commumty. "It’s a basic stand by the mayor and city of Springfield for fairness to all fmnilies and also for equal pay’ for eqtml work," she said. Albano signed the executive order in a brief late-afternoon ceremony before city and .state officials, gay-rights advocates, jottrnalists mad others. State Attorney General Scott Harshbarger, a supporter of the policy, was also there. Albano said he expects perhaps 20 or 30 of the city’s 6,500 employees to sign up for such coverage. But he predicted it won’t create the need for any larger appropriation. The progranl now costs about $32 ~nillion a year. The mayor ordered bereavement and sick time rights for gay mid lesbian partners of city workers in January 1996. The city is defining a gay or lesbian "domestic pm:tner" as someone sharing expenses and living with the city employee for at least a year "in a relationslfip of mutual support, caning and counnitment in wlfich they intend to remain for file indefinite In western Massachusetts, the town of Palmer briefly adopted such a policy, but oppouents m,’maged to dismantle it within months. In Northmnpton, city leaders approved apolicy ofletting stone-sex couples register as such tbr certain rights, but not health insurance. Voters later blocked the move in a public referendum. In Springfield, not everyone was embracing the idea. "As a resic]ent, I find it reprehensible that file3’ can do something fl~at so many citizens are morMly opposed to," said Ronald Crochetiere, a resident who said he has been active on some political issues. Maine Gov. Lets Anti-Marriage Bill Pass AUGUSTA, Maine (AP) - Sayiug his decision was not an easy one, Gov. Angus King will let the gay marriage ball enacted by’ the Legislature last week become law without his signature rather than force a referendum by vetoing tale bill. King said he has "a deep respect for the institntion of marriage and its religious roots," but he does uot bdieve the bill remedies a problem because there’s no movement in Maine to make same-sex marriages legal. The governor also said he does not believe traditional marriage is under assault in Maine. "I believe that this bill has very little to do with marriage and nothhlg to do withlove," said King. Concerned Maine Families, which led the initiative that forced tam legislative vote, said the law protects traditional marriage from threats by inilitant gay activists. The governor had three options after the bill was enacted by overwhelming margins last week by the House and Senate: sign file bill, veto it, wlfich would force a referendum, or let it become law without his signature. King said a referendum would trigger a bitter and divisive statewide campaign that would not benefit the public. The governor also said he expects the law to be successfully challenged in court. He believes it violates both tile equal protection and full faith and credit clauses of the Constitution. "This bill will briefly become law in Maine, but it will nothavemynameonit," said King. Timo{hy W. 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My brother and I were ushered out by the nurse, for fear our presence would disturb him further, causing him to damage the numerous tubes and devices connected to him. Keeping him alive. Sort of. That is the last time I saw my father alive. A couple of weeks later he lapsed into coma. Momgave the orders to remove the life support. My father left this plane alone. No one who h~ew him was there. I vowed then that if anyone I was close to was in the hospital, my first priority was being there. No show, nojob, no other event would be more important than being there - for fmnily, friend, or lover. The show went on. I remember the day Dad died. The director berated me venomoush’ in front of the cast for not smiling and"selling" the numbers I was in. I had left a message on the answering machine that morning, he didn’t get the message until after the rehearsal. I for a change, ~vas the first one out the door, so he ufi ssed me. I was ready, for the first time, to walk out on a show. I just about told him he could take the bloody solos and give them to someone else. gcrew "’professionalism". It had cost me too much Nready. There ,are times that "The show must go on" is absolute poppycock. There will be other shows. I held my tongue, but barely. I was in too much shock to say anything at that Moment. He did apologize later. Story two: I am in Fort Worth because nay Mother has breast cancer, and had both of her breasts removed on Monday the 7th. According to several doctors, she will need help for 2 -3 weeks, as she won’t be able to lift her purse, so I am here to help. Mom’s health is not so great. She’s 74, a heavy smoker, and is handicapped, and thus cm~’t get around solo under the best of Circumstmaces. I have too many scars and unanswered questions leftover from Dad (as do all the members ofmy f,’unil y) to ever let anyone I know go into a hospital without me being there. People can slip away too damn fast. And all the political ballyhoo and bickering in the world doesn’t change that. Yes, it’s important to fight for what’s right, and to use your time wisely. But don’t forget the other things that are import~ mt, too - the smell of a flower, the voice of a loved one, and the time you spend with them. In the end, that.., is .... ALL... that.., matters. Nomatterhow mnch they am~oy you. You will miss them when they’re gone. Jobs are replaceable, things are replaceable, people ~e not. And too many filings can go wrong. My father died of cancer, my morn is dealing with cancer, and we have tbund out that three male cousins on her side are dealing with/have died from cancer. Her sister had breast cancer. I can’t shake the feeling that I ana seeing how I will die, barring bus crashes, plane explosions, and bank robberies. It is ~t too likety, given [hmily history and genetics Not to mention that there is no more severe issue thm~ losino a pare~t I~sing one is bad enom,h’ it t~rces you to den with mortNity m a way that no other loss can do. When a parent Nes, you lose not oNy apart of your Nstory, and present, but Nso your clfildh~d. No one will be there to dean up yot~ nfist&es or save you frown yourself, if you were so fortunate to have had fmNly like that. Some axen’t. I’ve been lucky thus t’~. I ~ow Mom will not l~t forever. Quite fray, the f~ly has been expecting a Nagnosis of lung ~acer to pop up for ye~s, yet she has remNned in fNr heNth. She never expected to outhve Dad. And when he died, she stepped up the ~ount of algareties consumed in order to ~tch up with Nm. Didn’t woN. Bre~t ~cer was a sunrise to us ~1. I and my fanfily have certNNy had, and continue to have, our differen~s. But they have always been there for me, t~ough my back surgery, tl~ough nasty splits with exMovers, and whatever other crises I had. Now, it’s my turn to be there for them. I tN~ this is what should Ne meant by the term "fmnily values." And with that rather drmnatic ending, I do have a Mnd of review. Anyone catch toNght’ s "Dr. Qnim~, Medicine Woman"? It’s not a show I usual3 watch (I am not at ~I parti~ to westerns - sacrilege coming from an OM~oma resident and nativeborn Texan, but there you ~e,), but b3 complete accident (except I, like Obi- Wan Kenobi, don’t believe in accidents. So~y, had to get that St~ Wars reference in there, ya M~ow.), I happened upon it tolfight. I was about to change the chanuel, when the gist of the plot line lilt me. Dr. Quinn was brining Walt Wlfitm~ into her dusty little Colorado county town for a p~try reading. I though t~s a rather novel idea. I wondered if they were going to de~ With Iris being homosexual or just gloss it over. So, I stayed tuned. I was pleasantly suwfised. Dr. Quiim, noticed that WdtW~ w~ depressed (Hmnun. Sounds fm~li~. Have I wfitmn about ~s before?) and asked lfim what wm up. He w~ saddened that Iris so.mate could not be wi~ ~m. She sfid, tot~ly t~owing of what gender ~s so.mate ~ght ~ (heterosexist assumptions, don’tcha ~ow), "Well, bring lfim on out from the ~st Co~tF’ Well, Waltw~ happier than a Gay m~in a gym, and perked nfighfily. Me.time, Her young son, a writer for the school paper, interviewed Wilt for the school paper...flone with ~m...during a solit~y wflk in the woods. Back to subplot number two,in w~ch the mwns~ople, thrilled at the prospect of a man of W~t’s stature bestowing a bit ofculture upon ~eir dusty town, become rather discfinfinatory upon being ~e gossip that W~t (GASP[) is a "Nmmy-boy", "one of them fellers who don’t like women ~e way most men normflly do". Dr. Qui~m is hogtied that her boy has been ~one with trim. She t~ks to Sully, plwedby the everhm~yJoe ~do, who tells her that she’s ove~eacting, that in lfis Nbe, gay folk are ac~pted~dhave eqtu~ status. His is the voice of reason, and he’s given excellent diNoN~e in tlfis episode. Well, She questions the boy, and tells lfim not go into the woods None with X~qfitman. She does do some research, and finds ~at some German literature of the day ch~flks it up to a defective gene. She is upset, because she emwnined Whitman and didn’t "see" anytlfing like this wrong with lfim. see Jim, page 14 ~JJr~ continued from page 13 Stdly tells her she should just accept him for who he is, that he is still the same mm~ whose writing tlmlled her. W~t’s souhnate arrives, he cheers up. The townsfolk display their homophobia with maliciotks gossip zu~d ontright discrimination, denying the couple a hotel room. Dr. QuimL despite her misgivings, invites them to stay in her home, m~d gradmflly comes to ~low them as simply two folk in love. She asks if the townspeople’s reaction bofliers him. lie replies no, that life is too sliort to #re iu to oflmr people’s ucgativity ~md empower it. Dr. Quiun is ok widi M1 ~is, undl Walt t~es her boy fishing. Alone. In tim woods. Fe~ng dm worst, she m~es a mad dash for the fislfing hole, wifll Sully telling her not to jump to conclusions. She m~d Snlly sne~ np on W~dt m~d the boy, fislfing. ~m bo) spe~s to WMt, ~ng ~m what "’Nmmy-boy" memas. In a ~vonderfully written respo~me, he tells the boy, that it is a word somc folks ~une up ~vith to hurt others, tte wreaks the boy that words cm~ be ~vcapons, us~ to hurt. But they cml ~dso be used to lined, to reflect tim positive, wondrous ddngs in liiE, mid that he mid thc boy had a gift to use words in t~mt way. And thus, thc3 could countcract the hate- 4"ul, negative words. Aud of course, l)r. Quinu, fears assuagcd, smiles beatifically, ~d she m~d Joe embrace, t~lll ofhope for the world. Fade out, dissolve to thc poe~’y rca~ng, with a hm~dful 0f imoplc attending. But cvcn a hmldfid ~m effect a lot of chm~gc. I liked WMt’s perspectivc. I will try tom&e it my own. Classifieds: How To Do It First 30 words are $10~ liach additional word is 25 cents. Y ou may bring additional attention to your ad: Bold Headline - $1 Ad in capital letters - $1 Ad in bold capital letters - $2 Ad in box- $2 Ad reversed - $3 Tear sheel mailed - $2 Bliud Post Office 13ox - $5 Please type or print your ad. Count the no. of words. (A word is a group of letters or numbers separated by a space.) Send your ad & payment to lOB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 with your uame, address, tel. numbers (for us only). Ads will run in the next issue after received. TFN reserves the right to edit or refuse any ad. NO refunds. ..... .... Roommate Needed (;WM scekiug same to share 2 bdnn., 1 bath home in Brookside/Riverside area: $200/mo. plus 1/2 utilities. Non-smoker preferred. 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(Tulsa) =28662 MAD FOR MASCULINE MEN I’m looking to get to know, and have good times with, other masculine Gay, or Bi, White males, between 18 and 34, in the area. i’m a good looking, Gay, White male, 33, 6’1. 1651bs. with short Brown hair, Blue eyes, , We Can’t talk before you call so hurry. Ilulsa) =28669 CLEAN CUT CONSERVATISM I’m a White male in my late forties. I’m looking for a very discreet male to get together with. You should be clean cut, conservative, no older than me. I en oy collecting books and traveling. Let’s share our values and goals and see where that leads. Discretion is vital. (Tulsa) =28803 END MY WAIT This old fashioned, ~omanfic is looking for companionship and’lovefrom you. P)~se call soon~ (Tulsa) =14264 SERVICE IS MY BUSINESS This young looking, 42 year old, White male, s~eks masculine. I~have a good build from frequent workouts and daily jogs. (Tulsa) =28323 MY WIFE’S IN THE DARK I want to have some fun with another man. i’m 27 and good looking. Call if you’re fun and can be discreet. (Tulsa) =28503 SATISFACTION .ASSURED Let me do my number on you. I’m a cute 24 year old guy looking for other cute young guys that want to have f~n! (Tulsa) =24514 TRUE IN TULSA I’m a masculine, muscular, 21 year old, B~ack male, 5’7, 1951bs, with Black hair, and Brown ~yes, looking far new friends to hang out with. I dOn’t do drugs or smoke, but . ¯ occasionally go Out far ~]rinks. I have lots of other interests such as working out. Let’s meet and see what happens. (Tulsa) =13047 TAKE IT SlOW I like soft music, romantic evenings, and spending time with my family and friends. This Gay, White male, 38, 5’9,14~lbs, is HIV positive, but healthy, and is seeking a non s.~ng friend to share with. I’m most interested in other ~l),, White males, betwean 21 and 45 who are willing to go slowly. (Tulsa) ’~23748 IF WE TRY This aflracti~, Gay, White mab, seeks companionship, and a relationship with a sincere, ..Gay, Block male, between 18 and 30. I’m 5’9~ 1651bs, with Brown hair, and Blue eyes. You should be hbeast, loving, caring, and drag frea, as I am. We con make it ffappen iT we fly. {Tulsa) ~27068 HUNTING NEW GAME I want to make some new plans and include you in them. rm a 28 year okl, Gay., White mab, 6’1 with Brown hair and eyes. I like te cook and enjoy all outdoor spa~, espec!ally hunting and fishing. Let me kna~v when I can plan ta seeyou. (Tulsa) =23916 GOODBYE, CITY UFE I wanna meet some of ~ivi’anllg. TinhisIh2e8coyeuanrtyo.ldI ,liGkeaayl,l Bolualcdkomoraalec,tievietieosy,slike hunling, and fishing. Call me and get aw~ from it all. (Tulsa) =26S22 FLEX FRIEND You’ve .clot a friend riflht here. I’m a 42 yea~s 01d, G~ male, 5’8~’, 170E;~. I’m into sports: music, and am very flexibb. Let’s have same ton. (Tulsa) =26409 SHOW ME THE WAY I’m a masculine, Lisexual curious guy;’and I’m a:li~e ~rvous about is. I’m 21,5’7" 1951bs, with a worked out bedy~ Black hair, a~d Brown eyes. I need you to show me theway. (Tulsa) ’~26412 TULSA TIME I’ve got time on my hands. Would you like to spend it with me? This Gay male, enjoys reading sports, and music. Ad ust the vo ume, and let s taFk. (Tulsa) =25617 WANNA BE MY MENTOR? Maybe you can hell? nudge me out of the closet. I’m a 19 year old Gay male, 6ft, 1501bs, with Brown hair, and Blue eyes. I like tno’~ies, sports, and anything athletic. I’m not yet "out" to the world, but I want to try a relationship with a guy between 18 and 25. (Tulsa) =25579 JUST FRIENDS It’s a good time for some good times in Tulsa. I want to meat some new I’m 5’9, 1701bs. Give me a call and let’s out. (Tulsa) =25403 TRANSYLVANIA BEAUTY I’m a white, Transgender, Bi Male, 26, 5’9, with Brown hair, and Blue eyes. I’m very beautiful. I’d like to meat another Bi, or Gay, Transgender male, 26 to 30, who is good looking, clean, kind, and nice. (Tulsa) =25080 TAKE OFF MY SASH I’m Mr. Tulsa ¯ and I want to have some fun. I’m a leather man. I"ve been a runner up in Mr. Oklahoma Leather contest the last two years. Find out what’s so hot about me. Call now. (Tulsa) =25161 THE SECRET SHARER Can you help me find a dominant Bi or Straight guy who wants to have a discreet relationship? I’m an attractive, Bi, White male in my 30% 5’2, 1281bs. (Tulsa) =24820 I’M NO FATAL ATTRACTION It would be nice to make some friends but I’m hoping for a at more. I’m a financially and emotionally ~, White male, 33 years old, 5’11 e bars. I hope to meet another White male between 25 and 40 who’s in shape and still has most of his hair¯ [Tulsa) =24870 AT THE QUARRY I’ll bet there’s a big, stocky, Married man out there that would like to give it to me hard. I’m a cute guy in my 30’s, 5’2 and 1281bs. I hope you’re dominant and want to have a gay old time. (Tulsa) =24840 UNSUNG YOUNG Let’s keep this simple. I’m a young guy, 18, looking for other young guys, 18 to 28, fc;r fun and friendship. Call soon. (Tulsa) =19577 LONG HARD NIGHTS If you like sleapless nights, and sleepless days, give me a call i’m a 24 year old, Gay, White male, 6’3, 1601bs, in search of another Gay, White male, between 18 and 24. Let’s have a long, hard night, h:)llowed by a long, hard day. I’m versatile. (Tulsa) =24504 THE COWBOY WAY I’m a cowboy, plain and simple. I love to do things outdoors. Hunting and fishing are just two of the possibilities. If you’re between 18 and 25 and want to explore~ne cowboy way, leave me a message. (Tulsa) =1004 CONSERVATIVE OUTCOME I’m a 19 year old student, From Tulsa. I lave movies, sports, and going out. I’m seeking someone clean-cut, conservative, and discrete. I have yet to come out, so discretion is most important. Come share my values, and discover together what happens nexL (Tu sa) =23850 BLUE COWBOY This 55 year old Gay White ma e, cowboy, and Businessman, would like to meet a younger man betwean 35 and 55, to live with me in rural southeast Oklahoma. J’m 5’6, 1401bs, with short; thick Silver hairi strikin.Cl Blue eyes, and a mustache. You shbuld be well put together and des re th s type of lifeslyle. =9612 ~:; To record your FREE Pe onal ad: all: 1-800-546-MENN (We’ll print it here) The Friends .i n Unity Social Org.anization, Inc. FUSO is a community based organization not for profit 501 (c)3 agency prowding services to African American males-and.females who are infected with HIV/AIDS in the Tulsa community. FUSO also .helps individuals find other agencies that provide other HIV/AIDS services. FUSO began in August 1991 out Of a need to bring African. American men of diverse sexual orientation together, to promote unity, education, cultural awareness and sensitivity to the needs of the African American community at large. The goal of FUSO is to. build bridges wher.e.gaps exist and to tear do.wn.the walls that have d~wded us w~th~n the community. FUSO ,has taken on the responsibility to.minister:to the needs of individuals impacted by HIV/AIDS,.to be.... a voice African American commun~ity, and especially~to be a voice for those.who have not been heard. FUSO is a ministry of compassion and. care. POB 8542, Tulsa, OK 74101 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1997] Tulsa Family News, April 15-May 14, 1997; Volume 4, Issue 5 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource April 15-May 14, 1997 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Jams Christjohn Barry Hensley Dr. Mike Gorman Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche The Associated Press Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Tom Neal/Tulsa Family News Relation A related resource Tulsa Family News, March 15-April 14, 1997 Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Image PDF Online text Language A language of the resource English Type The nature or genre of the resource newspaper periodical Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Tulsa(Oklahoma)---newspaper Tulsa---Oklahoma United States Oklahoma Tulsa United States of America (50 states) Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context https://history.okeq.org/items/show/533 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 1997 African Americans AIDS Action Council AIDS/HIV AIDS/HIV education AIDS/HIV research Al Gore arts and entertainment attorneys Barry Hensley Bars businesses children churches civil rights condoms custody Dave Fleischer Dr. Michael Gorman Ellen Degeneres FUSO gay parents harassment Health and Wellness healthcare homophobia HOPE Testing Human Rights Campaign Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Jimmy Flowers marriage Oklahoma Gay Rodeo Association parade Partner Benefits performing arts Pride Read All About It restaurants Rob Morris Steve Gunderson Stonewall League students Tom Neal Transgender Tucci's Tulsa Family News University of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance https://www.history-okeq-org-red5.dev.unicomm.me/files/original/ab79edd993b9f9dd24b0dc801d43c950.jpg 3bd0cd5e06ee456ead4d738d80c90c30 https://www.history-okeq-org-red5.dev.unicomm.me/files/original/abcd4fe9b3c83908e206d8cfc5e9c519.pdf eae5a8849a396995b7a717a867c94881 Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document .Vermont Couples Bring Marriage Ban Challenge by Ross Sneyd COLCHESTER,Vt. (AP)-For25 years, Lois Famham and Holly Puterbaugh have built a life together, commired in every way except one: legally. On Tuesday, they and two other couples sought to fix that. They sued the state and their hometown, of Milton, asking a Chittenden Superior Courtjudge to declare legal marriages between couples of the same gender. Start Baker and PeterHarriganofShelbumeand Nina Beck and Stacy Jolles of South Burlington joined the lawsuit, which thrusts Vermont into the center of a national debate over whether society should recognize unions between Gays and Lesbians. ’q?.wenty-five years ago when wemet and fell in love mamage was not something any of us that were samegender couples thought about," see Vermont,page 13 Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends ,Tul~s~a!~’~rge~tC~oulationCommunityPa-perA vailable In More Than 60 City Local.ions i PFLAG Pres,.Joins Gay Activists at White House -" WASHINGTON (AP) - President. Clinton met Tuesday with a : dozen Gay and lesbian activists at a meeting .organized by ¯ Richard Socarides,White House liaison to the Gay, Lesbian, : Bisexual and Transgender community. Nancy McDonald, na~ : tional president of the board of directors of Parents, Families and : Friends of Lesbians and Gays (P-FLAG) and cofounder of the ¯ Tulsa Chapter of PFLAG attended at meeting where the Presi- : dent pledged support for two employment concerns: anti-Gay : bias in the workplace and high-ranking appointments in his : administration. Thepresident spentmore than anhour discussing : a range of issues from adoptions to homeless Gay youth and ¯ problems confronting Gays and Lesbians in rural areas, such as : access to AIDS medicine. : Clinton pledged his support for the Fmployment Non-Dis- ~ crimination Act, which bars firing or discriminating against an ¯ employee on the basis of sexual orientation. Andhe assured the ¯ group thathe has putforthfivenominations ofopeulyGay people : for administration jobs that require Senate confirmation. ¯ "Each one of them will take work," said Elizabeth Birch, " executive director of the Gay political advocacy group the ~ Human Rights Campaign. "We have a tough challenge ahead." ¯ Maria Echaveste, White Honsedirector ofpublicliaison, said the ¯ president wants Gay appointees so that his administration can ~ provide an example of how to reduce anti-Gay attitudes in the : workplace. "Fhe more people work with them, the less preju- ¯ diced they are," Echaveste said. ’q’hat’ s why appointments are so : pivotal." : According to Kerry Lobel, executive director of the National ¯ Gay & Lesbian Task Force, "we found the President to be open ¯ and knowledgeable on issues affecting the LGBT community. : This is a President who at heart seems to have a deep commitment ¯ O’RYAN’s New Home Private Conduct or Sex Crimes? By Laurie Asseo WASHINGTON (AP) - What lovers do in private still : ~~1 ¯ I/-’,~1,.~ ~.,~& 1/I ..~ ...~ ~=~....-Jcanland ~em!njail.- butin asteadily s,,h~nking n,~;,:~:!~ act.y ; IV!O|11$.~U~[,~.U of states ¯ Earher this month’ Montana s ban on homo- ¯ TULSA - After two months of.cam.pin.g o.ut in loaned office sexual sex was thrown out by the state Supreme Court ¯ space, Betsy MurphyJones and Melissa Champlin of the Tulsa as a violation of the state’z constitutional right to privacy. Sodomy laws in Kentucky and Tennessee also were struck down by state courts in recent years. Many other states have repealed laws that banned oral and anal. sex for Gay people and heterosexuals as well. "We’ ve made incredible headway," says Ruth Harlow of the civil-fights Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund. But about 20 states, operating under a green light from the Supreme Court, still have laws making sodomy a criminal offense. Consenting adults have no federal constitutional right to private homosexual conduct, the court said when it upheld Georgia’ s sodomy law in 1986. Arkansas, Kansas, Maryland, and Missouri ban homosexual sex acts. Sodomy is banned for Gays and heterosexuals alikeinAlabama,Arizona, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Louisiana, Minnesota, Mississippi, North Carolina, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Utah and Virginia. Penalties vary widely, with maximumjail terms ranging from 30 days in Arizona to 20 years in Virginia and Rhode Island, or even life in Idaho. Laws banning sodomy also are on the books in Oklahoma, Texas, Massachusetts and Michigan, but they have been cast into doubt by court rulings. Oklahoma’ s sodomy law was ruled unconstitutional in 1986 but the particular case involved heterosexuals and legal experts disagree as to whether the law should be seen as in force just for homosexuals or whether it’ s been completely ov.ertumed. Sodomy laws in all other states have been repealed see Sodomy, page 3 i US Statewide Groups ¯ Create. New Federation ¯ OK Represented by Oldest StateGroup ¯ Knoxville,TN-Animportant chapter in the move- ; meatforlesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender (LGBT) ¯ equality was marked on July 11-13 b~ activists ¯ from statewide political groups from 32 states. At ¯ the mdeting, activists officially launched the Fed- " eration of Statewide Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and ¯¯ Transgender Political Organizations. The Federation’ s purpose is to bolster the efforts ¯ of these statewide groups through a network that ¯ will foster strategizing across state lines, building ¯ stronger state organizations and developing good ¯ working relationships between state and national ¯ groups. The meeting was the result of an eight ¯ month collaboration between the National Gay and ¯ Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF) and the Federation. ¯ Itwas thelargestgathering ever ofstatewide groups. ¯ States represented were: AR, CA, CO, CT, DE, ¯ GA, IL, IN, IA, KY, LA, ME, MD, MI, MS, MO, MT, NE, NH, NJ, NM, NY, NC, OK, PA, RI, TN, ¯ TX, UT, VA, WA,~WV. : The three day Federationmeeting was held at the : renowned Highlander Center outside Knoxville, ¯ Tennessee. For over fifty years, the Highlander : Center has been a training center for labor, civil. : rights and other s~ocial justice movements. There, ¯ activists focused bn adopting the organizational ¯ structure for the Federation and debating strategies ’. on legislative issues. These issues included "sod- " omy" law repeal, passage of civil rights bills and ¯ family recognition strafegies, as well-as building ¯ strategies see ,States, page 13 "New Coming Out .and ¯ Men’s Group Offered TULSA - HOPE: : HIV Outreach, Pre- ¯ vention & Education, INSIDE DIRECTORYA.ETTERS P. 2 EDITORIALS P. 3 US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P. 6 ENTERTAINMENT NOTES P. 8 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 BOOK REVIEW P. 10 RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 11 CLASSIFIEDS P. 14 office of Red Rock Mental Health Association finally have adequate room for their work. But they really gained much more thanjustdecent offices for themselves, the program now has several rooms in which O’ RYAN and O’RYAN, Jr. can meet. O’ RYAN stands for Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adults Networkwhichserves Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Transgendered and O’RYAN’s George, Champlin & Marry questioning young adults from 18 to 24 years old. O’RYAN, Jr. is a new program that will serve 14 to 17 year old young people. O’RYAN, Jr. will kick off in early September. Red Rock Mental Health Association is primarily an Oklahoma City based organization. Several years ago Betsy MurphyJones returned to Tulsa and began the program that later was named O’RYAN. At the beginning, theprogram was housed in offices in the Youth Services of Tulsa building in downtown Tulsa. Youth Services already had a program, TYDD,Tulsa Youth Discovering Diversity which served Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Transgendered and questioning youth. However, over the year in which .the two organization were working together, tension developed between Red Rock and Youth Services over how public to be with these programs. Diplomatically, Champlinindicates that Youth Services’ Board of Directors was not willing to be public in suppori of these programs,for fear of losing funding. l’~ow O RYANis funded independently through an Oklahoma State DepartmentofHealth (OSDH)grantwhichtargets "MSM’s" - men who have sex with men under the age of 25 and a TCAP (TulsaCommunity AIDS Parmership) grant targeting womenfor HIV/AIDS prevention and education. O’RYAN meets weekly as a support and social group. While earlier the group was predominately young men, it’ s now about half young women a~dhalfmen,..Two men, Marty, who’ s 23 and G~orgeCcho’ s"2:l~joinedChamp!in~ ~. see O’RYAN, page 10 ¯ a special program of ¯ TOHR,TulsaOklaho- ¯ mans for Human ¯ Rights, the oldest ex- ¯ isting civil rights and : Gay health orgauiza- ¯ tion is beginning sev- ¯ eral new programs ¯ under the direction of ¯ new outreach educa- ¯ tor Johnnie Eilarts. ¯ Eilarts, who came to Tulsa after working with the -" Triangle Foundation in Oklahoma City, has begun ." amen’s issues group called Men on Men that meets ¯ at Gold Coast Coffee House. And in response to ; calls’to the Pride Center, see Group, page 12 : Cunanan Finale : MIAMI .BEACH, Fla. (AP) - When Andrew ¯ Cunanan’ s 1ong,murderous flightended, itbrought ¯" relieffromanxiety-butnotfrom sorrow. Omanan’ s : suicidein a Miami Beach houseboat ended the fear ." that a killer was free. Five killings, including the ¯¯ shooting ofdesignerGiannl Versace, were blamed on the 27-year-old man. ; "There’ s a sense of relief that they finally caught ¯ him and ’that people don’t have to be looking behind their backs," Eric Velasco said in front of : the South Beach gay bar Twist. In Minnesota, Cunanan was charged in the death ; of a former lover, David Madson, and was sus- ¯ pected of killing a friend, Jeffrey Trail. Trail’s ¯ father, Stanley Trail of DeKalb, Ill., watched the ." televisionreports as the situationunfolded. ’q~hat’ s ¯ one of the bad things about him dying like this: ¯ Nobody will be able to ask him," Trail said. "No- : body will be able to tell me why this happened. : "I’m very glad that he’s been stopped and that ¯ nobody else gothurtwhen hegot stopped,"he said. ¯ ¯ "But I take nojoy inhis death. That doesn’ t helpme at all." see Killer, page 12 TOHR/HOPE’ s Eilerts Tulsa’Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7200 E. Pine I *Blue Room, 606 S. b-agin ¯ *City Bites, 3348 S. Peoria *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Gold Coast Coffee House,3509 S. Peoria *JJ’s Country &Western Dance Club, 6328 S. Peoria *Lola’S, 2630 E. 15th *The Palate Cafe & Catering, 3324G E. 31st *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Samson & Delilah Restaurant, 10 E Fifth *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114S. Memorial *:Tool Box, 1338 13. ,3rd’ " , ": . ~ ..... ’. ~ " ~"’ "" *Tucei’s Restaurant,. 134~ E 15 " ~ *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Cellular 74%1508 *Affinity News, 8120 E. 21 610-8510 Dennis ~C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747=9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 Body Piercing by Nieole, 2722 E. 15 712-1122 *Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272 *CD Warehouse, 3807c S. Pec~ria 746-0313 Don Carlton Honda, 4141 S. Memorial 622-3636 Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 46th & Memorial 665-6595 Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515.8. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117 Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700 Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468 *Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620 *Devena’s Gallery, 13 Brady 587-2611 Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556 *Elite Books &’Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503 *Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston 584-0337 "Floral Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-8040 Lealme M. Gro~s, Southwest Financial Planning 459-9349 Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440 *Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111 *International Tours 341-6866 Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750 David Kanskey, Country Club Barbering 747-0236 *Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070 Kelly Kirby, CPA, POB 14011, 74159 747=5466 Langley Agency, 1104.S. Victor 592-1800 Laredo Crossing, 1519 E. 15 585-1555 Susan McBay, MSW: Earth-Centered Counsdiug 592-1260 *Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3 584-3112 Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 663-5934 *Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Place 664-2951 *Novel Idea Bookstore, 51st & Harvard 747-6711 David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672 ZiRita Parish, Indoor/Outdoor Co. HomeRemodel"g 587-6717 *Peace Of Mind Bookstore, 1401 E. 15 583-1090 Pet Pride, Dog & Cat Grooming 584-7554 The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2rid floor 743-4297 Puppy Pause II, llth & Mingo 838-7626 Richard’s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617 Scott Robison’s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations, 743-2351 Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921,747-4746 Christopher Spradling, attorney, 616 S. Main, #308 582-7748 *Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749=6301 *Sedona Health Foods; 8220 S. Harvard *Sophronia’sAntiques, 1515 E. 15 *Tickled Pink, 3340 S. Peoria *Trizza’s Pots, 1448 S. Delaware *Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria *Tulsa Comedy Club., 6906 S. Lewis Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling *Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 832-1269 592-2583 748-9600 744-0896 749-4511 712-2119 749-1563 745-9899 745-9998 585-2221 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 " 584-I308’ 582=3456- 585-3134 481-0201 592-2887 697-0017 743-7687 742-2007 481-0558 743-1733 592-0767 Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 1071, 74101-1071 579-9593 Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 58%7314 Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center. 2207 E. 6 583-7815 *B/IAG Alliance, Univ of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780 ¯ *Chamber of Commerce, 616 S. Boston 585-1201 *Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th P1. & Florence *CommunityofHopeUnitedMethodist, 1703 E. 2nd 585-1800 *Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595 *Church of the Restoration, 1314 N.Greenwood 587-1314 *Democratic Headquarters, 3930 E. 31 742-2457 Dignity/Integrity-Lesbian/Gay Catholics/Episcopal. 298-4648 :¯ 918.583.1248, f~:’583.4615, POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 ~-mail: TulsaNews@ earthlink net ¯ website: http://users, aol.com/TulsaNews/ ¯ Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal Entertainment Writer: James Christjohn Writers + contributors: Dr. Mike Gorman, Leanne Gross. Barry Hensley & Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche " Membor of The Associated Press I~sued on or before the 1st of each month, the entire Contentsof’ ~his, pub,licati,on a,rp protected by US copyright 1997 by /d,m--~/’.~.’.. Nt,u¢ and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Publieation,of0a name ~r photo does not indicat¢ a nerson~s...... :~ ~-: sexual orientation.. Correspondenc~ i~ assuhied to b~ fo~: publication unless otherwise noted; must be~igned & the s01e property of TJ,¢~ ~:~ Ntau¢, Each reader ls entitled to four free copies of each edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. 622~1zi41 74%7777 *Family of Faith MCC, 54511E So. Mingo *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard *Free Spirit Women’s Center, call for location &info: 587-4669 Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827 Friends in Unity Social Org., POB 8542, 74101 582-0038 HOPE (TOHR), HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education 1307 E. 38, 2nd ft. 712-1600, HOPE/TOHR Anonymous HIV Testing Site; Mon/Thurs. eve. 7-9pm, call 742-2927 TNAAPP(Native American men), Indian Health Care 582-7225 Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 *HIV Resource Ctr., 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 749-4194 NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H- 1 748-3111 NOW, Nat’l Org. for Women, POB 14068,74159 365-5658 OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157 *Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960 PFLAG , POB 52800, 74152 749-4901 *Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674 *The Pride Center, 1307 E. 38, 2rid floor, 74105 743-4297 Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 *R.A~I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195 Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 665-5174 *Red Rock Mental Center, 1724 E. 8 584-2325 OrRYAN, support group for 18-24 LGBT young adults O’RYAN, Jr. support group for 14-17 LGBT youth St. Aidan’ s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati 425-7882 St. Jerome’s PariSh Church, 3841 S. Peoria 742-6227 *Shanti Hotline & HIV/AIDS Services 749-7898 Trinity Episcopal Church, 501 S. Cincinnati 582.4128 Tulsa County Health Department, 4616 E. 15 595-4105 Confidential HIV Testing - by appt. on Thursdays only Tulsa Okla. for HumanRights, c/o The Pride Center 743-4297 T.U.L,S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222 *Tulsa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule *Tulsa Comrntmity College Campuses *Rogers University (formerly UCT) BARTLESVILLE *Barflesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone 918-337-5353 NORMAN *Borders Books & Music, 300 Norman Center 405-573-4907 OKLAHOMA CITY *Borders Books&Music, 3209NWExpressway 405-848-2667 TAHLEQUAH *Stonewall League, call for information: 918-456-7900 *Tahlequah Unitarian-Universalist Church 918-456-7900 *Green Country AIDS Coalition, POB 1570 918-458-0467 NSU School of Optometry, 1001 N. Grand HIVevery other Tues. 5:30-8:30, call for date EUREKA SPRINGS, ARKANSAS *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457 DeVito’ s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807 *Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445 MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337 Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 501-253-2776 Kings Hi-Way Inn, 62 Kings Hi-way 800-231-1442 Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-624-6646 Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001 ’FAYETTEV!LLE, ARKANSAS *Edna’s, 9 S. School Ave. 501-442-2845 ~ indicates a distribution point. Listed businesses are not all Gay-owned but welcome Lesbian/Gay/Bi &’ Trans communities. ~ ~. Several years ago, Youth Services of ¯ Tulsa began a support group for Lesbian, ¯ Gay, Bi and questioning kids. The group ¯ -was desperately needed and ,was led by ¯ the Saintly Lisa Pottoff whose good work : fionisbeginnifi~asimi]aigroupt~e~mple- ¯ ment their young adults group. This too is ¯ a good move - having more than one ¯ group will serve the population better. ¯ But what’s interesting is that Red Rock has concluded that Youth Services’ lead- : ership is still unwilling to acknowledge : this programbecause offears about fund- , ing, andperhaps, becanse ofhomophobia. : Youth Services’ "closeted" approach has : handicapped the outreach, for their pro- , gram. : RedRock’ s conclusion echoes thepoint : TFN made editorially several years ago. ¯ Unfortunately, whatever small gratifica- ¯ tion thereis in being proven right is damp- " ened by the fear that during these inter- " vening years, some Gay kids who needed ¯ our help were lost just because Youth ¯ Services valued money more than lives. ¯ the local and national press, we’ve de- " duced that murdered fashion designer ¯ Gianni Versace had a life partner named ¯ Antonio D’Amieo - that in fact, a horri~ ¯ fled D’Amico rushed tothe spot wherehis ~ partner lay dying, then chased the killer ¯ down an alley, only to be turned back by the gun that had just murdered his long- " time companion. : Seeing one’s life partner gunned down ¯ by a maniac is surely among the worst : tragedies imaginable, which is why the : sorrowfulimages ofJacqueline Kennedy, : Betty Shabazz, Yoko Ouo, and Coretta : Scott .King are seared intothe. American ¯ consctonsness. ; ’ But we observed no such respect in the ¯ mesa for D’Amieo. The facts outlined ¯ above were scattered over several news ¯ stories, often buried or omitted entirely. : Photographs of the family in mourning often identified the sister of the deceased, ¯ but failed tO identify the man with whom ¯ he’d ’shared his life for more than a de- " cade. Is it any wonder that gay andlesbian ¯" citizens are increasingly indignant when ¯ our most precious relationships are rou- ¯ finely trivialized not only by the media, ." but also by a lack of legal recognition? ¯ - Martha Barnette & Debra Clem ¯ Louisville, Kentucky via e-mail Regarding ver,sace’s Murder Reading between many, many lines in : @ Black& White, Charities Dancers to suitmany tastes sweatedfor several hundred guests, including some of TUlgar~ finest. No problems were reported, the officers werejus’t enjoying the views. when all states had some type of ban on sodomy. Sodomy, considered by some to be a crime against nature, was outlawed for centuries in England. States in this country followed Britain’s example, banning such sex acts in 19th century criminal codes. There is some supportforanti-sodomy laws today.:The Rev. Lou Sheldon of the Traditional Values Coalition said, "The sodomy law tells us that heterosexuality is a preferred status in society." These days, hardly anyone is prosecuted for private, consensual acts of sodomy, saysWilliam Eskridge Jr., a Georgetown University law professor who is writing a book on how laws affect Gay people. Instead, prosecutions tend to be for public solicitation of sodomy or for situations involving rape or coercion. But sodomy laws are used indirectly in other cases involving Gay people, such as custody or employment disputes. A Gay person might bejudgedabad candidatetohave custody ofachild because he or she is assumed to be breakin~ a state’s Sodomy law. In. Georgia, then-Attorney General Michael Bowers withdrew a job offer to a Lesbian in 1990 after learmng she planned to marry another woman in a religious ceremony. The woman sued, but a federal appeal,s ~,oui~ ruled this spring thatBowers - who successfully defended Georgia’s sodomy law before tli~’Supreme Court- was entitled-to, think the public would I~’confused if he hired someone m a same-sex marriage. The Georgia Supreme Court upheld that state’s sodomy law last year, saying it was a valid exercise of the state’sauthority to promote moral well’are. Courts that threw out sodomy laws in Montana, Kentucky and Tennessee said they violated the right to privacy under their state constitutions. The Kentucky ruling also said the law violated a state ~uarantee ofeqtial protection under the law. Gay civil=riglits advocates hope an equal protection argument may eventually be used to throw out sodomy laws in the states that target only same-sex conduct. Last year, the Supreme Court cited equal protection grounds whenit invalidated a Colorado constitutional amendment that forbade laws protecting homosexuals from discriminataon. The Kansas law now is being challenged on equal protection grounds in a case being handled by the American Civil Liberties Union’s Lesbian and Gay rights project. ,, "It’s a tremendous, priority of ours," Harlow said. Sodomy laws cast a dark cloud over Gay people getting equal rights. Wewill keep making them apri0rity Until all .of them are gone." ditq~,~ note: Laurie Asseo covers the Supreme Court ~:.~u~~N~_,la~l~=o~.v..rasTchoentAriso.suotceidatbeydTPUrelssas.FIanmfoilrymNateiwons staffwriters. R IA Yes, We HavO No Bananas : by Kevin Isom We should have seen it coming. Everything was going so well. First, there was Lesbian chic. Then there was : "Ellen - The Episode." Then Mickey Mouse and Goofy stood up to the caltoonish Southern Baptist boycott. But then along came an alleged Gay spree killer- yes, the authorities are calling him a spree killer - who swept : into South Beach and casnally murdered Gianui Versaee, : the talented,rich, and influential Gay fashion designer. ¯ A gasp of horror went up from fashionable Gay and ; r straight folk. all. around the, world,, and celebrities as : dlverse a~ PrincesS Di, Naomi Campbell, Elton John, and : Sylvester Stallone were grief stricken. And with good ¯ reason. Versaee wasan openly gay rolemodel of success- : ful and caring living, whose senseless death narrows the ¯ world a little for Gays and straights alike. ¯ Besides, without Versaee, who would create trends ¯ like those" ubiquitous white ieans9 Who would ~ive Ehzabeth Hurley clothes that would make her stand out ." from the shadow of her actor/boyfriend/befriender of ¯ prostitutes., Hugh Grant? ." More importantly, where would we find homoerotic ¯ images of male beauty in straight magazines? Even for ¯ people who don’t buy into the whole d~signer cacheL ¯ Versace made a difference - and an improvement - in body-conscious style, not to mention the buffed-up types :. of bodies he promoted. I, for one, am all for eye candy. : Will we now be left with only Calvin Klein? : The mainstream news media was, of course, all over : the case like Bruno Magli shoes on O.J. Simpson. Here was an alleged spree killer who, in his mother’s words, : was a "high class’Gay prostitute." What copy this made ¯ for the nightly news! ¯ Forget Ellen, forget Disney. Lesbian chic? What was ¯ that? Here’s an alleged queer Heidi Fleiss with murder on : the mind! Hard Copy even came out of summer hiatus to jump right on the case. And if Hard Copy ~s on the beat, ¯ you know it’s gotta be big. ¯ For days, there were alerts on nighfl.y news in every podunk. town with even a smidgen of openly Gay culture. : (’:B.ucksnort, Tennessee: Is the Killer Here?") In oart, ¯ because the F.B.I. neglected to get out information to’Gay ¯ comm6nifies across the country when they first knew of the very real threat. " - ¯ Cmiously; though, instead of just ’accepting a spree killer for what he was - bananas- the mainstream media : seemed obsessed with finding areason, an explanation, for his killings. They suggested, without any evidence t~ ¯ back up the assertion, that the alleged killer l~ad disc09- ". ered he had AIDS and just snapped. Sort ~0f like Mike : Tyson, but without the ear goop. ¯ ¯ But isn’t it seem the least bit Strange thiit thousands ¯ upon thousands of Gay men have died ofAIDS, and none : have gone on across country killing spree? Isn’t it worth ¯ noting that most Gay men instead have thrown their "- efforts into a brave, and largely successful, community ¯ response,to AIDS? . Doesn tit also seem strange that the mainstreammedia ¯ has tended to lump Versace and his alleged killer into the ¯ same "lifestyle" - youknow, the Gay one?While both the ¯ victim and his alleged killer might both have been Gay~ : their lifestyles were hardlyidentical. But themediahasn’t seemed to think so. They must also think that Princess Di ¯ and Queen Latifah, both being royals, must live the same ¯ lifestyle, too. ." The saddest part of all this hoopla is that Versace’s ¯ !ongtime compamon, Antonio D’Amici, was rarely men- . tioned, if at all. Instead, the focus was on"Poughkeepsie, New York: Is the Killer Here?" On the twisted road to equality, we seem to have taken an ui},expected step. A step which, with the alleged ¯ kill,er s apparent suicide, will soon be forgotten. I m looking forward to getting back to Disney, those ¯ zany Southern Baptists, and Lesbian chic. ¯ Kevinlsom is a syndicated travel writer and humor " columnist. His short story The Brothers Mangrum ap- . p.e..q~,s..!.n th~.~pr.ing!997 issue of~s Transcontihental. At last count there were six or seven publications serving the Lesbian/Gay/Bi and Trans communities of Oklahoma. Of those actually based in state, the oldest is The Gayly Oklahoman,now more than 12 years old. Next is this newspaper at nearly 4 years. Then comes the baby of the group, OMahoma City CommunityNews, an ambitious "vanity" publication. In our media watch, we have .been mos.t .amused for several montlm By the self-promotional, allX~lt somewhat despetat~ sliemani~ans 5f Oklahoma City Community News. ~ Primary among these has. been running "filler" ads which tout some aspect of their publication which they deem. superior to other newspapers. These ads have mostly beenjust rather tasteless. But recently in response to a format changeby The Gayly Oklahoman, Community News ran an ad crowing about how The Gayly was now imitating Community News! Tulsa Family News wonders, how Community News would feel if we ran a self-promotional ad saying how Community News wasjust imitating Tulsa FamilyNews? After all, most of whatdistinguishes their publication are things we’ve been doing successfully for almost 4 years In fact, shortly after Community ~lewsbegan, editor Bruce Devault called us for "how-to" advice. And for all their noise about being found in ,mainstream7 locations because of their "dean content," that approach was done first by Tulsa Family News to such ~uccess that when Community News came over fromi~OKC to Tulsa, they just used~0ur distribution list. ".. More seriously though, we reall~ have .to -wonder if ~ashing other Gay businesses in self,promotional advertasements really helps to build our communities? This is not to say that there isn’t a roll for debate anddiscussion about issues and [eadership. TFN~does precisely that regularly. Community News has alluded in iis ads to some issues that deserve serious public debate - such.as therole of sexually-oriented advertising incommumtypublications. However, in reputable newspapers, this sort of debate occurs in editorial pages, accompaniedhy,reasoned arguments, not by snipes in advertisements. ¯ " But ire should have ~een it coming. After all, we’ll : sexIundaelleyd-o, wrieenatlewdaaydsshliakveetchhooseseonfnTohtetGo rauynlyi,nb-uyotaulrs-ofawcee : never be truly equal to Straight folks until We re equal in i: havenever attacked The Gayly-for their deeibions-..Maybe :- every way. Andthat means bad aswell as good. Strange : because we remember how,things on~ewere in Okia- : as well as stylish. Straight folks have produced years and ¯ homa, we want to state our admiration for The Gayly’s : y~s of serialkillers.-Remember Ted Bundy? ¯ pioneering work. For those who are tooyoung to remem: ¯ ber, there was a time not too long ago that theouly sources ¯ of advertising for Gay newspapers were either bars or ¯ sexually oriented services. ~ ,, TFN has b~,roken new ground in this. state4n getting ,mamstre.am or non-Gay advertising, but we,recognize mat once that was not possible, and that.TheGayly served our commumtaes under much more difficult circumstances in the past. We would also caution the apparently happily coupled ¯ staff of OKC’s C&nmunity News not to be sex-phobic, ¯ and insensitive to the needs of those who are single. ¯ While we agree that there are discussions of specific ¯ sexual preferences and of particularities of anatomy that ¯ are preferably not conducted in print, we hope that Community News will recognize the legitimate n~eds for ¯ members of our community .to.date, and ev.en .to have ¯ casual sex (though, of course, individuals should be : sexually resp.onsible). They might also note that many in ¯ our commumty like the candor of The Gayly. ¯ Finally, e d ask the Community News to stop its silly. ¯ criticizing of 900 numbers. After all, even The Tulsa ¯ WorldandUrbanTulsahave9OOnumberdatingservices, : but Community News isn’t attacking them yet! ¯ Our point is to respect those who’ve come before us, ¯ and the work they did that lielped us all to get where we ¯ are now. The ads attackingTheGayly, andus too, arejust ¯ nasty. Anyway, if your work is good enough, that should ¯ speak for itself. : -Tom Neal~ editor & publisher ¯ PS, we welcome letters ’ ofsexually,oriented ¯ advertising or ’. Letters by *~ White. Ho...u.se Chan,ges Gays M,l,tary P0s,tion WASHINGTON (AP) - Trying to shaooth over a wrinkle in its relations with the gay commtmity, the White House on Monday clarified its statement on a federal judge’s ruling on the "don’t ask, don’t tell, don’t pursue" policy for Gays in the military. Presidential spokesman Mike McCurry said that, after hearing "legitimate concerns" raised by activists, his reaction to the ruling should have included that a review under way at the Pentagon analyzing how the " law is being implemented. "In retrospect,. I would " have pointed that out if I had looked into the issue ¯ more," McCurry told reporters. "I had a typically : McCurry off-the-cuff reaction.’? ...... r ~ " Earlier this month in New York, U.S! DiStrict " Judge Eugene Nickerson ruled that the policy violates ¯ free-speech fights of gay service members and sub- " jects them to separate, discriminatory regulations. " Activists told the White House thatmorehomosexual ¯ service members have been discharged since the ¯ policy was adopted by the Clinton ad~ainistration in 1993. Last year, 850 Gays were discharged from all " branches of the armed forces except the Coast Guard, ¯ according to Pentagon data compiled by the Service ¯ Members Legal Defense Network, an independent " legal advocacy group. In 1994, there were 597 dis- ¯ charges. The Justice Department is appealing Nickerson’s decision, and the issue is expected to ultimately be " decided by the Supreme Court. There are several . cases nationwide challengin~ the 1993 policy, adopted ¯ by the administration as a compromise. The policy bars commanders from asking service members what ¯ theirsexual orientations are. It allows Gay troops to." serve as long as they refrain from homosexual acts and don’t reveal their orientation. " When Nickerson _issued his ruling, McCurry said : "wg continue to believe the policy is a good one" and . was being implemented satisfactorily. McCurry said ¯ Monday he had neglected to mention that Defense : Secretary William Cohen "has expressed some con- ¯ cern about the implementation of the law" and had ordered a review group to study it. "The bottom line ¯ is, the law is still the law," McCurry said. "We must ." continue the work of effectively administering the law and making sure we do so with the kind of ¯ sensitivity that gecretary Cohen has said should ap- " ply." "The good news here is that Mike McCurry, in ¯ thinking alitflebit longer about his comments, recog- ¯ nized that ... there are some problems with enforce- ¯ ment Of this poficy," said Winnie Stachelberg, legis, " lative director of the Human Rights Campaign, the country’s largest Gay political organization. ¯ School Fails to Stop Anti-Gay Harassment PACIFICA, Calif. (AP) - A woman plans to sue her son’ s school district for not protecting her son from classmate’s gay slurs. The 12-year-old boy said fellow students have insulted him ever since he was in kindergarten, calling him"gay-gay," "girl" and "faggot" dozens of times a week. The boy, unidentified to protect his .privacy, lost 30 pounds after the taunting escalatedlastyear. Hedevelopedmigraines, his grades sank and he thought of suicide. The seventh-grader, who said he is not Gay but knows he is more feminine than other boys his age, asked the Laguna Salada Union School Board this ~aastet fsuprlitnogmtoe,’.~P,,Uht ea sStoaipdlto,tIht-eauffneecntdshinogwepIitfheeetls.ab"Iotu’st myself, my schoolwork, everytl~ing. I have been called those names in all my schools for as long as I can remember.., about my perceived sexual orientation, and ithas to stop. I Wouldlike to go to school and not have to worry about h~ethings that somebody’s going to call me." Since then, the district amended its sexual harassment policy. It says no student shall be subject to any kind of sexual harassment, "including harassment because of sexual orientation." The most serious penalties include expulsion. But months of working with administrators at Ortega Middle School appar- ;ently have not stopped the slurs, so the boy’s mother said she intends to sue the Laguna Salada district for not protecting her son. She alsbpians t~ue a han’c[f01 of administrators and school c~unsel0rs. Oakland attorney Sandra Sprin~¢who represents the boy, said in the notice of intent to sue that the district violated both its own and state-mandated harassment policies. The boy’s mother said the little taught in class about sexual liarassment pertains to treatment of gifts, not boys.And no positive images of homosexuality are taught, she said. The school offered an in-class training session on sexual harassment, but the boy said his Classmates thought it was ajoke. The students were given 20 minutes to read a booklet that contained one passing reference to boys who harass other Ix)vs. "We went through all the channels and hit bricl~ walls," the woman said. "For my son it’ s morehate harassment, sexual-harassment, homophobic.harassment. ~I came to Ortega-to say, ’Please help me, please help my son.’ The policy needs to be clarified." Increasingly, lawsuits have been filed to force schools to stop sexual harassment, especially of girls. But cases involving boys are rare. The boy has since left Ortegafor an alternative school in Pacifica, where the principal and teachers keep close tabs on him. He has gained back all the weight he lost and his migraines and asthma have vanished. "It’s been the best year ofmylife- and it was only two months," he said. Chrysler Now More Gay-Friendly? DETROIT (AP) - Ellen DeGeneres lost the Chrysler Corp.’s approval when she announced she was a lesbian, but the company’s gay and lesbian workers are hoping for a better reception. The company drew protests from gay support groups when it pulled advertising from the episode of ABC-TV’s FJlen in which the lead character, played by Ms. DeGeneres, came out of the closet. But since then, Chrysler has formally acknowl= edged, for the first time, "People of Diversity," an employee group formed early this year "to p~ovide support fofqesbians, gays,, bisexuals and transgendered people through business and social activities." It’s part of a trend among the Big Three automakers by employees who are pushing for, and receiving, some recognition ofgay and lesbian workers’ rights. Ford Motor Co. recognizes a Similar employee grgup, and in November expanded its anti-discrimination bylaws to include sexual orientation. General Motors Corp. does not formally recognize gay employee organizations but GM PLUS, a gay group, is pushing the automaker for acceptance. "The momentum is definitely picking up and moving in the right direction," Alan Gilmour, a former vice-chairman of Ford who retired in 1994 and last year disclosed he is gay, told The Detroit News. ¯ While they hail the moves, critics say the Big Three ¯ are responding too slow to shifts to protect gay and ¯ ¯ lesbian employees particularly blue-collarworkersfromharassment." Anyforwardmovementisprogress, ¯ but the reality is that they aren’t showing a true ¯ commitment to what they say they are doing in ¯ creating a hospitable workplace," said Jeff Mont- " gomery, president of the Triangle Foundation, a De- " troit gay and lesbian civil rights group. ¯ Alice McKeage, an openly gay computer pro-. ¯ gramer at Ford and co-founder of the automaker’s ¯ gay emp!oyee.group - GLOBE - still receives calls ¯ from Ford employees, mostly in factories, who are ¯ harassed on the job and looking for help. ¯ "Our biggest challenge is to promote a safe work ¯ environmentbecause themanufacturingbnv~6niii~nt ¯ is stillhostile to gays,’~McKeage said. "We’vemade ¯ progress because Ford Chairffian Alex Trotman is ¯ committed todiVerSity, butit’s coming along slow ’" Chrysler has quiedy resumed ad,~ettising onEli~n, ¯ but the spotlight-.on gay and lesbian issues won’t g6 ¯ away. The company saidit’*changingwitha strihg of moves designed to foste£ ~i: Workplace marked by ¯ tolerance for gays and lefibians. Bef0~e recogn~!~g .- People for Diversity, ill January it revised forma!,. ¯ standards of conduct- that eautions employees against : harassing any person based on that’person’ s sex’, race, .’. religion, age or sexual orientation. It will soon rercise ¯ its code of ethical behavior to ~c,!~e.,.se&ua!...p~._e~ta-_. (ANTIQUES & GIFTS) 1"515 EAST 15TH STREET ¯ TULSA OKLAHOMA 74120 LYLE THURMAN (918) 592-2887 HOWARD DDOWS BUFOGLE ~k)VAUGHN PROFESSIONAL CO R PO R A f IO F/ MARK T. HAMBY Attorney Domestic & Estate Planning Real Estate & Civil Litigation Call for Moyq Information 1500 Nations Bank, 15 West Sixth Tulsa, O klahoma 74119 744-7440 Fax 744-9358 People don’t plan to fail, they fail to plan!~ Leanne M. 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"We recomaize that diversity in ¯ the workplace is a journey.’-Michelle Wahers, a : Chrysler worker and co-founder of People of Diver- -" sity, says the "positive spirit of change at Chrysler" : came about because of several recent developments . that put pressure on the automaker. "We’ve now ¯ opened a formal dialogue to discuss other issues and " goals,"Walters said. "Fheautoindustryhasno choice " but to change. We are genuine assets to the corpora- " ti°n and indus,.try and they recognize, flaat." " Bias Results in Job Loss : TUPELO, Miss. (AP) - The couple’s relationship was on shaky ground. So they sought counseling through an employee assistance program maintained by North Mississippi Medical Center. But counselor Sandra M. Bmff refused to see the couple. The reason? They are both yeomen; Mrs~ Bmff was fired Oct. 23, 1996. She is now suing North Mississippi Health Services Inc., the parent company of North Mississippi Medical Center, for unspecified damages. Mrs. Bmff, of Marietta, contends she was fired from her job as medical services counselor because she cited her religious beliefs "as the reason for refusing to see the homosexual couple. She is asking in the lawsuit to be reinstated with full benefits and seniority. Herlawyer, GrantFox ofTupelo, said at issue in the suit is whether she can be fired because of her religious views. Fox said Mrs. Bmff worked in the employee assistance program, in which outside em- ~olroyth.eersirpawyotrhkeerms.e,~Mcarsl.cBenmtefrfthoapdrobveiedne ccoouunnsseelliinngg this woman, this patient for some time, when the asked for help in working out problems with her lesbian lover. When Mrs. Bruff said she could not, the individual was not happy with that... "Fox said. Fox said Mrs. Bmff told the patient that she could continue counsding her on other issues "not contrary to Mrs~ Bmff’s Christian faith." Fox said Mrs. Bmff also explained her position to the hospital in writing, adding that her beliefs also would prevent.her from counseling someone about adultery. He said the hospital responded that "that was not acceptable ... (she) shouldbe terminated." LenGrice, director ofmarketing services forNMHS, said hospital officials had not seen the lawsuit. "Of course, we have no comment. This is a personnel matter," Grice said Tuesday. However, the hospital had been through at least two proceedings involving Mrs. Bruff. Mrs. Bmff filed a complaint with the federal Equal F~nployment Opportunity Commission, which ruled in May that it could not find any violation of law, and the Mississippi Employment Security Commission, where a hearing officer ruled she was eligible for unemployment benefits. the law, thejudge wrote. ’This court.., has failed to find objective reasons to usurp the discretion, power and authority of the legislative branch to enact this law." Adoption Battle Loses MIAMI (AP) - An effort by a lesbian Dade County jail guard to overturn a state law banning child adoptions by homosexuals was rejected Monday by a Broward County judge. June Amer, who sought to have the law declared uncon.stitutional, must wait for the state Legislature to change the law, Circuit Judge John A. Frusciante said in his ruling. Florida andNew Hampshire are the only two states that ban adoptions by homosexuals. ~ Ms. Amer, who has a son by artificial insemination and wants to adopt another child; lives with a retired prison gtmrd, Gail DeShon. Amer testified during the week-long trial in early May that the 6-year-old boy calls the women Mommy June and Mommy Gail ."We’re very disappointed," said Ms. Ame’r’ satt~rhey, Karen Coolman Amlong, of the American Civil Liberties Union. The attorney said her client is undecided about appealing. Ms. Amlong said during the trial that the law was unconstitutional because the Legislature was trying to exclude an entire group of Florida’s population from adoptions. "There is no evidence.., that the law was passed for the purpose of disadvantaging the group burdened by Episcopal Church Apologizes to Gays PHILADELPHIA (AP)-As they closed their 10-day national convention, leaders of the Episcopal Church apologized to Gays and Lesbians for years of rejection and mistreatment by the church. The House of Bishops and House of Deputies, composed of clergy and lay leaders, approved the measure Friday on behalf of the 2.5 millionb~lieveks. ’ ...... A feared Episcopal Church split never happened, ¯ but leaders remained divided on sexuality issues. In ¯ efforts to reduce division, several leaders of the 2.5 ¯ million-member church vowed to keep open the debates over ordaining homosexuals and forming a ¯ rite to bless same-sex unions. Conservative leaders ¯ said they will spend the next few years fighting these ¯ proposed changes. However, the 72rid General Con: : vention, dosed without any significant changes to ¯ current church policy, But the 1,100 church leaders ¯ came close. A proposal to bless same-sex unions lost ¯ in a nearly even vote, and resolutions rdated to the ¯ ordination of homosexuals also narrowly failed. ¯ Gay and Lesbian advocates considered the votes ¯ signs that the church one day. may fully endorse " ordination and blessings _for same-sex unions. And ¯ they enjoyed Some victories as well The convention ¯ narrowlyapproved a resolution to allow dioceses to ¯ extend health benefits to domestic partners of church ¯ employees, though a similar resolution that would : have qualified domestic partner~ for the church pen- " sion fund failed. ~ Church leaders also endorse0~:a plan to continue ¯ study on the theological implications of same-sex : umons. A report on the topic will be presented at the :" next general convention in 2000in Denver. However, .. House of Deputies member Byron Rushing, a la~, ¯ person from Boston, Mass., said he believes the ¯ division ~vill be smaller by then and the church will ¯ become even more welcoming to gays and lesbians. ¯ One mission of the church is helping Gays and ¯ Lesbians become more included, Bishop Suffragan ¯ Catherine Roskam said. Bishop Joe Doss from the ¯ Diocese of New Jersey said he believes another part ¯ of the church’s mission will be teaching the kind of : acceptance itlearnedfrom the sexuality debates to the ¯ worldwide Anglican community. But before that ¯ happens, Doss said, the church needs to consider how its theology applies to Gays and Lesbians. Old inter- :-~ pretations of scripture encouraged exclusion, he said. ." "We need to rethink how we’ve pushed baptized people aside," Doss said of Gay Episcopalians. ¯ Presiding Bishop Elect Frank T: Griswold III of ¯ Chicago, chosen during the convention, saidhehopes ¯ the discussion on sexuality will continue. But he said ¯ he would like to see the factions also focus on. their common beliefs. Murderer of Gay Man ¯ Goes to Prison Finally : HOUSTON(AP) -Aman convicted in the 1991 Gay : bashing murder of a Houston banker has had his 10- ¯ year probation sentence revoked and is going to prison for 10 years. State District Judge Brian Rains : onThursdayrevoked the probation ofDefi’ikJ. Attard, ¯ one of 10 men convicted in the slaying of Paul ¯" Broussard, because he failed’to perform community : service. : On July 4, 1991, Attard and nine friends went to ¯ Houston looking for Gays to harass.. They .brought ; nail-spiked boards and rocks as weapons. The 10 ; youths attacked Broussard and two of his friends as .. the three were leaving a gay bar..Jon Christopher .. Buice stabbed Broussard to death. Buiceis serving45 ¯ years. Four others were sentenced to prison terms. ; Five, including Attard, were assessed probationary .- sentences and sent to bootcamp. Broussard’s mother, : Nancy Rodriguez said she was glad Attardis going to ¯ prison. "I’m glad Judge Rains gavehim the 10 years," : she said. "I wish it could be more." AZT Just Doesn’t Work Right NEWYORK (AP) -Ten years afterAZT hit the market, scientists say they’ve figured out why it doesn’t work better: Chemically, it’s a bad dance partner. The discovery might lead to better weapons against the AIDS virus, the researchers said. But the company that makes AZT, Glaxo Wellcome Inc., which has its U.S. headquarters in Research Triangle Park, N.C., was skeptical. AZT, the first drug approved for attacking HIV, sabotages the virus’s attempts to reproduce itself. But it doesn’t work perfecfly, and HIV eventually .spawns, mutant strains thatresistthemedication. Many more anti-HIV drugs have come along since AZT, but the drug is still widely used. Thenew research studied whathappens to AZT once it gets into a person’ s body. An AZT molecule goes through an intricate dance in a user’s calls. It has to be modified three times to become effective against HIV, and to get that done, it has to dance with three different molecular partners. These partners are enzyme molecules that latch onto AZT one at a time, makea modification, and then let go. The dance goes fine with the first partner. The problem comes with the second. When this enzyme and the AZT molecule pair up, the enzyme is far less efficient at making the crucial modification than it should be. This creates a bottleneck in the process, reducing the amount of activated AZT that can.be built up to work on the AIDS virus. What;s the problem? The AZT molecuie is basically-stepping on the second partner’ s toes, German scientists report ~n the August issues of Nature Medicine and Nature StmctumlBiology. Moreprecisely, theenzymemolecule has aloop-like structure that’s important in making the modification, and the AZT molecule has a protruding finger that bends this loop out of kilter. That makes it harder for the enzyme to act, the researchers concluded. So scientists might do well to design drugs that,avoi:d bending this loop, they said. or/hey .could provide AZT with a new danc..e., .partner that’s more coopera- " five. That would involve giving patients a gene tb"m~l~ their cells pump out an altered fortii of the enzyme, one that isn’t binderieS,byAZT’ s protruding fmger, they said. Ram~r~"’J~i~es, a spokeswoman for Glaxo W~i~03h~ inc., said the new work offers abetter explanation for the processing glitch than scientists had before. "We don’t think this one piece.of information is going to really change drug development that much," she said. "But certmnly ~y.,!nformation added to the mix is help~ - Surge,ry Debated for Positives SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - As Joe Young saw it, he had two options:iisk majtr experimental surgery~rdie of congestive heart failure, Nevermind that the surgery, which includes slicing a wedge from a -pailent’ s enlarged,weakenedhearttomake it smaller~and more efficient, is far from routine- or that he is HIV-positive. "I was afraid my heart was going to give out before they find a cure for AIDS," Young says. Last month, a cardiac surgeon performing the procedure for the first time "remodeled" Young’s heart. He repaired its valves and removed a section to make it more compact, to beat faster and pump more efficiently. Dr. Alex Zapolanski says he had nS" qualms about accepting Young as a surgery patient, but the case has stirred debate among colleagues. Some warn the procedure is far from ready for widespread use, especially on patients whose defenses are weakened by other illnesses. "Most of us in the field are .very skeptical," says Dr. Sharon Hunt, a transplant cardiologist at Stanford Medical Center. Stanford, a major heart facility that does 40 heart transplants and 1,000 other heart surgeries each year,, has yet to perform heart remodeling, even on patients without complications. Elsewhere, American doctors are only beginning to try the procedure, an alternative to transplantation. Since May 1996, fewer than 100 remodeling surgeries have been done in the United States, compared with an average 2,300 heart transplants a year. Doctors say the surgery fails in30 percent ofcases, makingimmediate transplants necessary. To even themostexperienced surgeons, the idea of cutting into the heart muscle is foreign. But for Dr. Randas Batista, the Brazilian heart surgeon who pioneered the procedure, it was a last-ditch effort to save dying patients in the Amazonjungle, where donor organs are all but nonexi stent. "Most of my patients would be dead in a short time anyway," Batista said in a telephone interview from Brazil "So I have survivors." Batista contends that the situation in the United States - with hundreds of thousands of congestive heart failure cases each .year and fewer than 2,500 donor hearts available - is.not so different. And those odds don’t include .thousands of patients likeYoung, forwhom transplants are not an option because of serious systemic ailments such as HIV, cancer, advanced diabetes or active hepatitis. Young, 46, now recuperating at a San Francisco hospital, has known since he was diagnosed with both HIV and congestive heart failure in 1989 that his HIV status made him ineligible for a transplant. When his condition worsened early this year, he felt "remodeling" was. his only option. .When Zapolanski first saw Young this spnng, the former.cab drivcr, andhotel clerk was constantly,short of breath and bloated with fluid. Carryingaiaything substantiai from one end-of the. room, to..the other was outof the question.."He was going downhill. Anyone .could see. that," says Zapolanski, who.believes ¥oung’s heart disease may have been causedby his ~weakened immune system. However, Young’s health was otherwise reasonably sound and he showed no symptoms ofAIDS, whichhe attributes to the new drug combinations that. are pro- . longing some lives. "When the patient is ¯ willing to take the chance, then it doesn’t ¯¯ take a doctor to see what is the right thing ¯ to do,", says Zapolanski¯, who operated on ¯" Young, with -Batista assisting, at Seton ¯ Medical Center in Daly City,just south of ¯ San Francisco. .. That attitude alarms some but is good ¯ news for others, including a heart patient ’ who’sbeentumeddowntwiceforremod_ ¯ eling because, like Young, he is HIV, ¯ positive. "I really felt that people weretelling me, "What you’ve got is not worth ¯ our time because HIV is going to kill you ." dead,"’ says John, a 35-year-old Oakland ¯ man. John hopes Zapolanski can operate Jeffrey A. Beal, MD Stephen Peake, MD Ted Campbell, LCSW Specialized in HIV .Care Providing Comprehensive Primary Care Medicine and Psychotherapeutic Services We are currently enrolling participants in HIV/AIDS investigational drug trials. Call us and ask for Drug Study to see if you qualify. 2325 South Harvard, Suite 600, Tulsa 74114 Monday - Friday 9:30-4:30 pm, 743-1000 SCOTT ROBISON’S PRESCRIPTIONS Serving Tulsan ’s Since 1947 Major credit cards accepted for your convenience! 3 locations to serve you: Hillcrest Physician’s Building 1145 So. 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McCarthy credits careful screening of. surgery candidates. He rules out heart remodeling even for patients with other heart problems, such as dogged arteries. A month after surgery, Young suffered a stroke - a liability for some post-surgical heart patients - that paralyzed part of his left side~ A spokeswoman at Davies Medical Center, thehospital whereYoung is recuperating, says heis improving daily. Andhe remains hopeful and ever ready to go home. "I still have faith," Young says r : serious concerns and high risks, a synipa- : thetic physician has to do what’s right," he said. "If you would take it, you have to : recommend it,,he added. ¯ But Saah was among those who in- ¯¯ sisted the timingisn’tright for the government to rule on an issue that has so little ¯ proof of success. "A lot of us just don’t ¯ believe this works," he said. Some criticized a CDC study that said health care ¯ workers in the United States. the United ¯ Kingdom and France who took the AIDS drug AZT after being stuck with a needle ¯ cut.their risk of contracting HIV by 79 ¯ percent. That study is the best evidence ¯ the CDC has that the post-exposure treat- . ment works. : Dr. Alastair McLeod, who has treated ¯ AIDS patients in Vancouver, British Co- " lumbia, since 1984, added: "I don’t be- " !ieve that 79 percent stuff either. The data ¯ is indeed a bit soft. This is potentially a ¯ quagmire for the agency." Another concern was that some people ¯ might comeinfor treatment a second time ¯ after engaging again in risky behavior. ¯ "Do we give it to them the first time and ¯ then withhold it the second as punish- " ment?" asked Kahn. : Also, emergency rooms, which serve ¯ about 100millionpatientsayear, couldbe between deep breaths. ’t..To me, this is : inundated because they are often the first like half of a miracle. The other half will " place people go for medical care, said be a cure of AIDS." Morning-After Treatment Debated ATLANTA (AP) - In a debate over who might benefit from a moruing-after treatment for HIV, Michigan AIDS director Randy Pope said he’s more concerned about what to call it first. "Is it prevention or is it treatment?" Pope asked a group of experts who gathered in Atlanta to mull the idea of a blast of AIDS drugs for patients who fear they may have contracted HIV from a night of risky sex or a needle. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention is i~ing to figure out whether to endorse the controversial practice or not. But first, they must dispense with the name game. The government shuns the "morning-after" title because it wrongly implies one pill will do it. Then, there’s "post-exposure prophylaxis." That didn"t seem to work. Now, its wrestling over "post-exposure treatment." It may sound trivial, but it’s the root of disagreement among doctors over whenit should be used, who would receive it and whether it will take money away from prevention programs that already work. The treatment, which would likely take about a month, would give AIDS drugs to people as quickly as possible after a potential exposure to HIV. The idea is to start fighting right away the development of AIDS, even before people are certain they have HIV. An HIV-infected man has sex with his wifeand the condombreaks. Aprisoner is taped by a gang of men. A child is molested. These are all cases experts debated during a two-day conference in Atlanta that ended Friday. There is little proof that such a treatment works, although some preliminary studies suggest it might. But some doctors are already doing it. Dr. James Kahn, an associate professor of medicine at the University of California in San Francisco, said he would offer the treatment to anyone who needs it. "When you’re ... sitting across an exam tablefromsomebody whohas plainneeds, ¯ Richard Rothman of Johns Hopkins Uni- ¯ versity. : The CDC initially said it was consider- " ing the morning-after treatment for one- ¯, time use. But doctors at-the meeting said ¯ that should be reconsidered, since chil- dren can be abused repeatedly andprison- : ers can be raped more than once. ¯ Saah called for more animal studies. Twounpublished studies presentedThurs- : day showed that giving monkeys the blast of drugs within hours after they were ¯ infected with HIV kept some of them virus-free after almost a year. Those stud- : ies are still in progress~ however. i¯ OSwtundRy:epHrIoVdSupc.tu=.orsn : WASHINGTON (AP) - Scientists have ¯ proved a long-expected trait of the AIDS : virus:.It produces aprotein that stimulates ¯ cells to enhance its deadly reproducd0n. ¯ The protein is called Tat, and researchers ¯ from the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute ¯ willreportTuesday thatit essentially pro- : .vides a wake-upcall that renders slumber- , mg immune cells susceptible to HIV in- " fection. -" HIV works best in active immune cells, ¯ not quiescent ones. So for HIV to sustain : its killer viral levels, it must continually : replenish the active cells it kills, Dana- " Farber research Chiang Li writes in a : recent Proceedings ofthe NationalAcad- ¯ emy of Sciences. Tat secreted-from in- : fected cells enters resting neighbor cells _" and "activates" them, Li discovered in a ¯ series of test-tube studies. : Li proved an HIV pathway that scien- ¯ tists were so confident existed that they : already had hunted drags to attack Tat, ¯ said Dr. Anthony Fauci, an AIDS expert " with the National Institutes of Health. So : far, that research "didn’t work, to the ¯ point that at least one company has aban- ¯ donedtheirendeavorsfora Tatinhibitor," : Fauci said. But "that doesn’t mean that ¯: somebody won’tnow, withthis more con- : firmatory evidence, try another approach : to blocking Tat." by James Christjohn : rock festival, became a m~mmoth under- Onthe local front, RIVERDANCEissure : taking and received the attention of the tobeaneventnextsnmmer.Ifyouhaven’t : most prominent female artists, the tour seen the video, let me tell you it is a ¯ itself being billed as "a celebration of magical show blending tap, traditional ." women in music." and modem Celtic music anddanceand gorgeous men and women dancing their feet off. The music is fabulous, and the show is quite beautiful. WhileIamtaking the term "Advance Notice" to an extreme, I would plan to reserve seats as so~n as the tickets go on sale for the PAC August 18-23, 1998 pei~ogmances. Until then, the Broken Arrow Community playhouse will keep us tapping with their season-opening gala, "MUSIC TO REMEMBER", on August 23 at the Main Place, 1800 S: Main in BA. A reception and silent auction will be held at 6:30pro, and the show’ s curtain rises at 8pro. Featuredentertainers are the Bits & Pieces Theatre Chorus, and The. happy Hoofers. Please make reservations by August 15 at 258- 0077. Special guests Teri Bowers and Frank Mitchell from Channel8 will be emceeing the event. Shades Of the triple Goddess! My three favorite divas are certainly getting a lot of attention these days. The most successful lineup ofFleetwoodMac’s long and winding career-featuring Lindsey Buckingham, With a rotadng llne-up, LILITH FAIR ........ ~slst~ 6f Traey Chapman, Sheryl Crow, Jewel, Joan O~l,orne, Fiona Apple, Mary Chapin- Carpenter, Emmylou Harris, Indigo Girls, Shawn Colvln, Panla Cole, Meredith Brooks and more... LILITH FAIR has been selling out across the eountry~ [It] occurs in Dallas August 4th. STEVIE NICKS, Christine McVie, Mick Fleetwood, andJohn McViehave reunited and have recorded alive albumfor release on Reprise September 23. The album ineludes four new songs-two from Buckingham and one each from Nicks and McVie-plus live performances of many classics, such as "Dreams" & "Rhiannon. "Thealbum was recorded over two nights in May. Those two concerts marked the first time this version of Fleetwood Mac had performed an entire concert together in 15 years. Viewers will be able to witness the event when MTV airs its Fleetwood Mac concert special on August 12. Well, loyal readers, FLEETWOOD MAC concert dates are flying around the rumor mills. As of press time, rumor has it that they will be playing .the following nearby cities: October 25th and 26th - Oklahoma City, October 29th and 30th - Dallas. (Confirmation yet to come) If any other MAC/NICKS fans out there would like to get together for a road trip, I can be reached via the newspaper and would be glad to help organize. I’d love the company of any other MAC/STEVIE NICKS fan-arics. We could scream along with Stevie on the way, and terrify thousands of other travelers... LOREENAMcKENN1TT’s new album is due out end of September. Entitled ’~3OOK OF SECRETS", it isreported to have an Italian influence, although I hear that the Celtic influence she is known for will also be evident. Put ~ogether by SARAH McLACHLAN, her two managers, andher agent, LILITH FAIR, thewomen’s With a rotating line~up, LIL1TH FAIR consists of Tracy Chapman, Sheryl Crow,Jewel,JoanOsborne, FionaApple,Mary Chap~- Carpenter, F.mmylou Har- ~.ris,-Indigo .Girls, Shawn Colvin, Paula Cole, Meredith Brooks andmore. Having recently been .featured on the covers of both Time and Entertainment Weekly and with SARAH featured in magazines na-, tionwide, 1 .l1.1THFAiRhas been selling out across the country. -I .H- ~.ITH°FAIR occurs in Dallas August 4th. SARAH?s new album, ’~URFACING", is doing extremely well, having debuted at number 2 on the Billboard charts andhitting #1in her native Canada. It is an excellent album, full of moody atmosphere and interesting rhythms. Ellen DeGeneres, who made TV history by coming out as a lesbian in her series "Ellen," was nominated for an F~nrny as best actress in a comedy series. Now that they’ve brought her out of the closet, will ABC let the star of its TV sitcom "Ellen" actually have a sex life this season? Maybenot.ABCEntertainmeritPresidentJamieTames ¯ has told TV writers the network plans to : moveslowlyindeveloping the Ellen char- ¯ acter as an open lesbian. I guess we’ll see ¯ just how slow a lesbian can move... With ¯¯ the heat the way it’s been, I don’t think I’ve seen anyone moving too fast. ¯ Magician DAVID COPPERFIELD ¯ (Whom I had quite the crush on once) has ¯ launched what could be his greatest trick i - prying $30 million damages from Pari~ Match magazine for alleging his romance ¯ with model Claudia Schiffer is bogus. ~ (Oh, I dunno if HE would say that’s his ¯ greatest trick Sorry, I had to. Even if it : was too easy.) Copperfield filed a defa- ¯ marion suit in Lo~ Angeles against the ¯ French magazine’s pubfishers and a rival ¯ magician. According to the suit, Paris ¯ MatchspreadafalsestorythatCopperfield ¯ and Schifferperpetuated afraud, pretend- " ing to be romantically involved, but that ¯ Copperfield pays Schiffer to accompany ¯ him and pretend to be his fiancee. ¯ Hmm Shades of Liberace. (Who, for ¯ those too young or not interested in trivia : enough to know, popular pianist Liberace ¯ successfully sued a British tabloid in the ¯ ’50’ s for claiming he was Gay. Andwe all ¯ know the end of that story.) Now why : wouldDavid wanta"beard"? Can’t imag- ¯ ine. And if the job, goes up for grabs, ¯ what’s the salary? I could stand there and ¯ look beautiful. Stop laughing; it used to ¯ happen.., occasionally. Probably the best : I could manage right now is vapid, but so ¯ often these days the two are interchange- " able. Excuse me, I have to make a phone ¯ call. "Operator, can you get me David Copperfidd’s manager on me nne .... R A’ I N Volunteer Training .~Aug. 8, 6-10pm Aug. 9, 9,Spm Family of Faith MCC 5451 S. Mingo Info:749-4195 Stor Michael’sl Alley Restaurant &. Club Featuring, Steaks, Seafood, Chicken, Pasta, Soups, Espresso, ¯ and Chalkboard Speciaties Monday- Thursday llam- 10pm Friday - Saturday lla,m- llpm Sunday Brunch 11am- 2pm 3324-L East 31st Northeast side of Ranch Acres 745-9998 Established 1960 Celebrate Tulsa Opera’s 50th Annivcrsarv Season on Tuesday..qcptcmbcr 9th at 8pro. [:ca~"ring MARILYN HORNE GREGG BAKER, PABLO ELVIRA, EUO~mE G.UNEWALO, Oto~ C’ARMEN BALTHRO~ and mort" a~ists singing great moments m (;rand Opcra~ MARILYN HORNE Tulsa HIV/AIDS Community-wide Picnic for Service Providers & Clients Aug, 8, 5:30-8pm Fellowship Congregational Church 2900 S. 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Public Service Company of Oklahoma A Central and South West Company ,-~" "l~" SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 Community of Hope (United Methodist), Service - 6pm, 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Community Unitarian Universahst Congregation Service- llam, 1703 E. 2nd, 749-0595 Family- of Faith Metropolitan Community Church Adult Sunday School,. 9:15 Service, 11 am, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 Metropolitan Community Church ofGranter Tulsa ..... Service,, ,10:45am, 1623 North M.ap.,le~.qod, Info: 838~ 17 PrimeTimers- : ,~ Social groupfor men~qst Sun/eachmo. ~-6pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th University of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gayfrransgendered Alliance Not active this summer. Meets at the Canterbury Ctr., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 ~ MONDAYS HIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required. Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm Results: 7-gpm, Info: 742-2927 PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays 2nd Mon/each too. 6:30pm, Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard Gay & Lesbian Book Discussibn Group, Borders Bookstore 1st Mon/ea.mo., 7:30pm, 2740 E. 21st, 712-9955 Aug: Obejas’ Memory Mambo, September: Gary Reed’s Pryor Rendering Womeus Literature Discussion Group, Borders, 3rd Mon/ea: too., 7:30pro Mixed Volleyball, 6:30pm, Helmedch Park, 71st & Riverside, 587-65,57 Unity Lambda Al-anon, 7:30pro, 1307 E. 38th, 2rid ft. ~TUESDAYS Lesbian.Mothers Support Group, 2nd+4th Tues/ea. mo. 7pm; 1307 E. 38th HIV+ Support Group, HIV ResourceConsortium 1:30 pm - 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-l, Info: Wanda @ 749.4194 Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. HIV/AIDS Support Group, and Friends & ~amily HIV/AIDS Support Group - 7 pro, Locations, call: 749-7898 ~" WEDNESDAYS BlessThe Lord At All Times Christian Center Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 Family OfFaithMCC PraisetPrayer-6:30pm, Choir-7:30,545 I-E S. Mingo. 622-1441 Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group For more information, call 582-7225, John at ext. 218, or Tommy at ext. 208 TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for scheduled events. Info: 631-7632 or Jeremy at 712-1600 l~- THURSDAYS Co-Dependency Support Group - 7:30 Family ofFaith~ 5451E S. Mingo, 622-1441 HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pro, Results: 7 - 9pro, Info: 742-2927 Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN) Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at-~63~7272 Tulsa Family Chorale, Weekly practice - 9:30pm~ Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th From Our Hearts to Our House, 11pm, 3rd Thurs/each ran. Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G, 3-4:30pm, Info: 749.4194 ~ FRIDAYS SafeHaven~ Young Adults Social Group, 1st Fti/eachmo. 8pm, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th Arts Coffeehouse, Poetry readings & art display, Pride Center Call Mary for more information: 743-6740 I~" SATURDAYS St. Jerome’s Church, Mass - 6 pm Garden Chapel, 3841 S. Peoria, Info: 742-6227 Narcotics Anonymous, 11 pro, Community of Hope,1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 Fun Night at the Center, July 12th & 26th, 6-10pm, Pride Ctr. Info: 743-4297 SENSES, Society for Exploring New Sensations, Educating & Socializing. July 19, 6-apm, Info, call Kathy at 743-4297 I~P OTHER GROUPS T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222 Womens Supper Club, Call for info: 584-2978 OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Long and short rides. Info: PUB 9165, Tulsa 74157, 8/20, 6:30pm, short tide; 8/23, 7am, long fide; 8/30, 7am, long ride. Alt rides start at Ziegler Park Recreation Center, 3903 W. 4th St. Ifyour event or organization is not listed, please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615. -r2 7 READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa Ci&-County Library Thepublic library has many wonderful, older books of interest to the gay/lesbian/ bi/transgendered community. By searching on the library computer catalog under the subject ofhomosexuality, hundreds of entries come up with subtopics (history, fiction, humor, etc). While searching the older fiction titles, I recently came across a wonderful,little novel, The Drowning of Stephan Jones. In the ficticious town of Parson Springs, (a thinly disguised Eureka Springs), antique dealer FrankMontgomely andhis longtimelover and business partner Stephan Jones have recently opened a shop and are enjoying the simple, small townlife. Away from the crowded and oppressive big cities, Frank and Stephan can settle down and enjoy the finer things in life. Or so they think. When choosing Parson Springs as their new home, the guys thought they had found an artistic oasis where peoplereally cared abouteach other. They didn’t factor in the overwhelming presence of simplistic and absolute religious beliefs that often blanket small communities. Stephan, a former seminary student, convinces Frank to attend a service at the dominant church in town. The service turns out to be a "family ." thetownlibrarian, befriends them.Trouble .. begins when dashing, young Andy, high ¯ school jock and the object of Carla’s af- ¯ fection, prodded by his intolerant family ¯¯ and teammates, begins intimidating the gay couple. The unprovoked harassing ¯ slowly escalates into violence and tour- ¯ der, as the horrified Carla tries, unsuc¯ cessfully, to avert tragedy. There is a moderately successful surprise ending to satisfy Stephan’ s grief stricken survivors. Technically a young adult novel, it is rather simply written for maximum effect, and does contain some violence and mild profanity, although no sex. While the story is strong, the characters are sometimes simplistically written and occasionally fall into stereotypes. Sensitive, confused Carla realizes that her neff boyfriend, (her first), is blinded to trothbyhis unquestioning faith in religious extremism, but is too anxious to be "part of the group" to recognize the danger in his behavior until it is too late. Car.!,a’ s mother i"s the black sheep of the community, fighting to keep challenged books on the library shelves after attacks by the town’s influential Baptist preacher. For a straightforward but dismrbinglook athomophobic extremism° check out The .Drowning ofStep.hanJones. It is an eye opemng read for young adults and a timely re- " minder to adults of what happens when ¯ goodpeople ignore intolerant and danger- ¯ ous behavior. ¯ Check for The Drowning of Stephan ¯ Jones at your local branch library or call ¯ the Readers Services Department at the ¯ Central Library at 596-7966. : Dees. Champlin also anticipates speaking :. more openly about the program and the ¯ need for the program tO high school coun- ¯ selors, teachers and principals as well as ." to mainstream media. : O’RYAN memb~s ara not just con- . cemedwiththemselves. Martyis theleader ¯ of the group’s Condom Crusaders who ¯ are .trying to educate their peers about : HIVrisk. The group also wants to start its ." Own RAIN Care Team. Other goals indude possibly fostering Gay/Straight : Clubs in local high schools to provide : support andinformation. : And O’RYAN is actively seeking support from the older Leshian and Gay corn- : munity and friends,family and allies. The " group has a "wish list" of things that : they’_d like to have to make their meeting ¯ spacemore of a home-like drop-in space. ¯ Ultimately they’d like it to function al- ¯ most like a coffee house, like Java Dave’ s : even. However, they’re just not waiting ¯ around for the larger commtmity. They ¯ tentatively arranged to make 5,000 rain- : bow bead keychains for PFLAG, Parents, ¯ Families and Friends of Lesbians and ¯ Gays to raise funds. ~. Champlinl Marty and George empha- : size that the group is very careful to pro- : tect the see O’RYAN, page 12 For a straight forward but disturblngloo.k at homophoble extremism, cheek out The DrownJnO d Step ,an Jo.es. It.ls,an e~t opemn$ reaa ~or young .a.dults and a timely reminder to adults of what happens when good people ignore intolerant and values" lecture where homosexuals are .uniformly denounced as lower than pornographers or child molesters. Unfortunately, the guys don’t get the hint. A local girl, Carla, has become acquainted with themen and, being raised in a welcoming household by her mother, to talk about &RYAN. Both who are regulars in local clubs said that they really ,v’,paleuoeptlheehgarvoeupt:oM: baertryeSal~tuthnalitkien ginrotuhpe, clubs wherehe characterizes relationships as morejust acquaintances. In the group, they’ re friendships. Champlin, who’s been with the group about a year, brings counselingand psychology experience to the job. The 1994 TU graduate, along with MurphyJones also provide free individual counseling along with the group meetings. Sheestimates that of the 15 to 20 meeting regulars, about 10 also get individual counseling. Champlin, along with Marty and George, note that the group is not for all Lesbian, Gay, Bi,Tramgenderedand questioning young adults. Some are just too closeted or find the groups too structured if they are in a more rebellious stage. But likely many in the city just don’t know that the group exists. Marty, George and.Melissa, however, are working on changing that. O’RYAN now has a web page, courtesy of Concessions and noted Concessions dj, David -,,. -,,, .. utumn :eeze A Dining Pleasure " MAHI-MAHI ~ACKOF LAMB CHOCOLA~ SOUFFLE HWY 23 SOUTH 501-253-7734 Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist Services: Sun. at 11 am 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314 The Reverend William Chester McCall III, pastor Saint Aidan’s I 4045 No. Cincinnali, 425-78821 The Episcopal Church I Welcomes You I Puppy Pause II Allanna Davenport Professional All Breed Grooming 1060-N South Mingo Tulsa 74128 838-7626 Turn heads as well as hair pins. $ 2 3, 5 9 8 sale price Don Carlton Mitsubishi . 46th & S. Memorial 665-6595 HITSUBISHI MOTORS Built For LivingY See the Eyewear "Stars Celebrities" WeQr Oliver Peoples, Gaultier, Mikli, Matsuda, etc. Cool, Unique & Exclusive Eyewear Found Nowhere Else in Eastern Oklahoma VISIONS 6837 S. 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A Utica salad features chopped Nestled on a plot of land on 21st Street " egg and bacon, the CaeSar comes with a between Columbia and theBroken Arrow ¯: chom" e o¢f chi"cken; salmon, or shrimp, and Expressway is the site of the popular old ¯ the Pacific Rim salad has cold sliced Charlie Mitchell’s Midtown, which fi- .. chicken breast, chow mein noodles, thin naily succumbed to bankruptcy last year. " strips of deep fried tortilla, and a "Thai" While the food was always less than stel- ." peanut dressing, though when we tasted lar, we enjoyed that place, if only to be it, we weren’t sure what made the dressable to drink Watney’s Ale on " tap and play in the red British telephone booths. The entire Midtown neighborhood has been awaiting anxiously developments at the location. This past spring, the wait was over and a new restaurant un-- veiled. Local diners can eat and drink at the Milestone Grill, now under completely different ownership and management. And, those who frequented Charlie Mitchell’s will not recognize the place after themajor remodeling and redecorating. The dining areas have been Opened up into one large, two level room, divided by a working fireplace. The bar now sits against the west wall, andis stylishly conceived with broad panels of tortoise shell covered lighting. Seating in the bar i s multilevel, and includes a comfortable sofa area. The decor is starklymodern throughout the restaurant, and oil pastel art work is framed and hanging onthe painted grey wails. Contemporary light fixtures are crafted from bareflame bulbs andmetallic coppermesh shades, contributing to a dean, fresh look. As one sits down to dinner, one quickly discovers that this place Js no longer Charlie Mitchell’s. Where once one ordered a round of beers, now, one orders ultrapremium cocktails. Milestone features. a menu devoted stric.tly to cocktails, includingnine different martinis. And they ¯are all delicious, We’ve tried them all ~’(th,ough not0n.the same visi t;mindyou! ), and you can s~p andsample the various gins and vodk~s,Anclud~ng Tangueray, Sapphire, Skvy, i~inl~india~ ~dvedere, and Stoli~hnaya.°(~e Of ou} favorites was the :.-TUlSa Skyyline martini, with Skyy vodka, Chambord (a raspberry Jiqueur),. and a ~.twist of lime. The bar als0 Ca~es an ’Impressive s..election ofsinglemait Scotcl~ whiske,cs. ’ ApiS~tizer selecfi’bns, are varied, and display the almost schizophrenic menu plaJming 0f the kitchen. Tl~e best are the -Milestone Grill 2705 East 91st llam-lOpm Nlon.-Thurs. 11am-llpm, Frl. 5pm-llpm, Sat. 5pm-10pm, Sun. ¯ Payment: All major plastle. Ahohoh F II with premium stock & wine llst. Smokln~ in the bar area. A~mospkere: - Dressy casual. Prhes: Expensive. Ratln~: A llst ing ’q’hai." Though only open a few~ months, a new menu was introduced in July. The kitchen is still experimenting, and trying to find itself, so we hope that they will soon be able to establish their niche. A few slight problems exist, such as having both teriyaki ribeye and teriyaki salmon, and having both a filet mignon and a tuna steak wrapped in bacon and prepared like a filet mignon. Nevertheless, the.entrees we have tasted hagebeen flavorful and wall done. Weparticularlylike therotisserie chicken ($12.95), which .is tender and juicy, served ona ~edof garlic- laced "smaShed ’ potatoes; and adorned like a party hat with a big ~prig.of rtsemary. The variou~past~of~the day dishes are .also tasty~ full o~ additional 2vegetables and mush~.oomg; and--delicately sauced. All.bf the entrees are served with:~a choice of soup or salad. Those not interested in a full entree can also get a very ¯ nice, good sized Milestone burger ($6.75) . or a great dub sandwich ($6:95) with ¯ roasted turkey and Arkansas bacon. At. ." lunch, a chicken salad sandwich ($6.25) ." and a meat loaf sandwich ($7:75) areaiso ¯ available. All of the sandwiches come with matchstick fries. ¯ Dessert, always one of our favorite courses, is $4.50, and varies: daily. Re- : .cenfly, they have included: a~tasty indi- ~, vidual cobbleralamode made ononehalf ." of blackberries and on the 0ther ?half of ¯ raspberries~ which was ~gd~~as, ¯" had been microwaved to~*~~r ~o :- serving. The ubiquitous flOuriess’ehoco._ ~ late.gateaux is there, plus- the .stereotypi_ ¯ cal cheesecake- this one with~chocolate, ¯~ pecans, and caramel. All of these are quite ¯: tasty. Yet, the presentation and combina- ." :tions,not onlyin the dessert courses but in ¯ the entire menu, still lack that subtle flair which is the hallmark of a great restau- ~ rant. A good example is the roasted ha- "- nana cream pie. We were offered the !potato crustedlobster ,c,3kcs ($9.95). Ther¢ :is also a shrimp cockudl ($6.95), andfrom there, the menu gets. odd. Spring rolls ($5.7~), an Oriental standard, are juxta- :posed againstthe traditi0nai Fr~nch.~rilled bile cheese ($7’.95): Artich0ke dip.(~5:95) ~emindS:us of.th~ spo~ts bar oi:igiils 6f the ’site. And~ like everyone else in town, they are doing wraps -.this time, chicken wrapped with a’ lettuce leaf ($4..95) instead of a tortilla. Thesoup selection varies daily, and is $3.95 per bowl. On the night we visited, it was corn and red pepper, which we expected to be a spicy cream soup, but which was a surprisingly thin vegetable soup with kernels of corn and strips of roaste~i red bell pepper. Basic salads are also $3.95, and jump $4 with the addition of dessert, and anticipated.,a large wedge of tasty pie. What arrived was a small indi- ¯ vidual tartlet shell filled, with roasted ha- : nanapudding, topped withwhippedcream, and garnished withalargewedge bf white ~ and dark chocolate protruding from the : tarflet like a shard ofbroken glass.:Next to. the tarflet was a bail of ice cream that had a strong and delicious espressoflavor and ¯ included little chunks 61’ fudge brownie. ; The whole large serving plate was deco- ¯ rated with a swoosh of creme Anglaise, ¯ ¯ drizzles of chocolate, and a few scattered fresh berries. Individually, each compo- ¯ nentwas delicious,but together, they were ¯ too much and not a pleasant match. The ¯ espresso-chocolate ice cream comp!etely ¯ overpowered the delicate sweetness of the roasted banana, see Jean, page 12 ration techniques are all down, we look forward to the kitchen staff developing the culinary maturity in matching foods that will makethis restaurant an outstanding dining experience. Similar problems arise in the service. When we’ ve been seated in the dining room, service has been attentive and adequate (though not outstanding) for arestaurant of this calibre. However, when we’ ve been seated in the smoking section in the bar area, the service has been woeful. In fact; on our last visit, the handsome pony~led bartender (worth a trip just to gazeuponhim,by theway) tookpityupon our table and volunteered to take over for ourabsent waitress. Nevertheless, wehave great expectations that management will soon work out these minor flaws, espedally since themenus advise that a seventeen percent gratuity will be added to tickets for groups. On the whole, we enjoy going to the Milestone Grill. As they grow- and become more comfortable with their identity, we think the staff will make a fine team. And, we hope they’ll stir be in business come winter time, so we can lounge around that wonderful fireplace in the dining room. to moving every American forward. At those places where we disagree with the President, and there are many, we know for certain now that he acts, not out of ignorance, but out of his political analysis for advancing his agenda." Lobel added that the President spoke at length about how the cultural map of America must shift ifLGBT people are to gain civil rights. "We look to the President to speak out loudly and often on issues affecting Gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Americans. But we must be realistic. The President will not move unless activists at the local and state level move him and the administration forward." There also was discussion of Clinton’ s upcoming White House conference on hate crimes later-this year. The activists said they want the conference to address "widespread" violence against Gays and would like to include Gay youths who often are prone to violence on the streets because of family rejection and homelessness. "There is agreement that violence against any group is something that must be combated," Echaveste said. The group expressed concern about the implementation of the Clinton administration’ s "don’ t ask, don’ t tell, don’ t pursue" policy on Gays in the military. A study by the Service Members Legal DefenseNetwork showedthatGays are being discharged from all branches of the armed forces in greater numbers since the policy was instituted in 1993. "We made it dear there are a number of instances in which the administration has come down on the wrong side of issues that are important to us, not the least of which is the Gays-in4he-military issue," said Lorri Jean, executive director of the Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Center. The policy bars commanders from asking service members to reveal their sexual orientations, and allows Gay troops to serve as long as they refrain from homosexual acts and don’ t reveal their orienta- Besides McDonald, LobeL Jean and Birch, other participants at the meeting were Kevin Jennings, executive directoe of the Gay, Lesbian and StraightTeachers Network; Tim Gill, founder of the Gill Foundation; Gloria Nieto, executive director of the People of Color AIDS foundation of New Mexico; Brian Bond, executive director of the Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund; Martin Omelas-Qnintero, executive director of the National Lation/ a Lesbian and Gay Organization; Jeff Sorer, Co-Chair of the Empire State Pride Agenda; Dale McCormick, Treasurer of th~ State of Maine; Kevin Catheart, executive director of Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund; and Vema Eggleston, executive director of the Hetrick-Marfin Institute. confidentiality of those who attend, especially outside the safety of the meeting space. O’RYAN has also scheduled several special events in August and Septem, ber. On August 16, the groups is holding its "Snmmer Fling" dance party. Later in the month, by popular demand, the group will have a slumber party-properly chaperoned and alcohol, smoke and drug free, of course. In early September, the group will go on afloat trip on the Illinois river. To donateor to volunteer for O’ RYAN, call 584-2325. Madson’s father, Howard Madson of Barron, Wis., watched the developments Wednesday night as well, but declined to discuss them. "There will come a time when we have something to say. I can’t tell you now when that will be," he said. Cunanan was suspected in the death of Chicago developer Lee Miglin and charged in thekilling ofNew Jersey graveyard caretaker William Reese. Reese’s widow, Rebecca, had no comment on Cunanan’s death when reached by telephone at her home in Upper Deerfield Township, N.J.. Sorrow was unabated for Cunanan’s family as well. In the Philippines, where his father lives, his aunt Barbara Carlos was resigned to her nephew’s death, but still baffled by his life. "He is a good boy. He can’ t do all those things. I thinkhe is innocent," Mrs. Carlos said, but added that his family "should accept the truth. They should accept what happened to them." She had not seen Cunanan since he was a child. ’‘we are saddened," she said. ~’Even if we have not been together for a long time,we are saddenedby whathappened." Eilarts will begin an all ages coming out group in cooperation with Melissa Champlin of Red Rock Mental Health Association. This group will meet at the Pride Center and will be for all ages. Eilarts, who has considerable experiencein counseling around substance abuse issues, will focus on communication and negotiating skills as,well as ,triggermechanisms" for high risk behavior to help men to develop betterrelationships and to help prevent HIV/AIDS. 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Lincoln Plaza 1310 E. 15th 583-1500 Puterbaugh said. ’It just, was not in the conversation, it was not ~the thinking." She and Famham, who describe them- ¯ Selves as beingin their "early 50s,"thought ¯ about but never ended-up having a corn- " mi.tment~ceremony in honor of their 20th anmversary. Then two years ago, they attended a conference devoted to the notion of a civil marriage between couples . of the same gender., "We walked out of ." that conference, looked at ourselves and ¯ said,’ That’ 8 what we.~ant,’’. Puterbaugh said. . But the Milton town clerk, relying on a ¯ 22-year-old opinion from the attorney ¯ general’s office, refused to issue them a marriage license when they applied on April 25. Baker and Harrigan applied in Shelburne on June 13 and Jolles and Beck applied in South Burlington six days after that. All Were denied and lawyers decided they had a case. "Finding a partner, finding a mate and getting married is a basic human right," said Middlebury lawyer Susan Murray. ’The state of Vermont should not be al- ¯ lowed to step in and tell two consenting adults that they cannot marry one an- " other." Attorney General William Sorrell,who ~v9a3~_aospkiendiobnu,t sdaeidclitnheedistosuoevsehrtouurlnd-tbhee decided in the Legislature, not the courts: Lawmakers already have extended civil rights protections to Gays and Lesbians " and included them among the classes protected in a hate crimes statute, he said. If : the Legislature. had intended to .include ¯ marriage among those ,rights, it would have said so, he ~rguedi ’rhe Legislature has done nothing that. we can find’ that affirmatively extends the ri,g,ht to same- ,g,endermarriagein~Vermont; "S orrell said. ~’he Legislat-~re for 2:2~3;~s has had the opportuni,,~ to change thatlaw. It has not done that. ’ Gov. Howard Dean said he believed the Legislature should avoid theissue for the time being. "I Would prefer this not be addressed in the Legislature until it’ s resolved in the courts," he said. "I think it’ s " a very personal matter. This is a very ¯ difficultissue and I think the courts are the ¯ place to.resolve it." : Murray and the other lawyers said no change in theIaw was necessary. Denying " Gays and Lesbians marriagelicenses rio- : lares not only state marriage statutes but also Chapter 1, Articles 1 and 7, of the " Vermont Constitution, the couples claim ¯ in their lawsuit. The first article states ¯ people are born equally free and indepen- ¯ dent; the seventh says the government exists for the common benefit, and not for ¯ any particular set of people. . "We are challenging the notion that a couple in love can’t marry each other " .simply because they made the ~mi_’,stake of ¯ falling in love withsomeone ofthe wrong’ gender," said Mary Bonanto of Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, .a:New England=wide Gay civil rights group. Vermont statut~,s describe m~a~e as aunion betweena ~bride and t,ro~m. "but say not.m.n.g.:a.n.y.,:°.’;mO" re exp~l’-ic" it a’bout gender~: ~orrdl s’~id~,~e ~l~dictibnary: meaning of ~e phrase proved lawmaker~7 intended marriages to be between men and women. ~.: ~ .... The lawsuit asks only for:~ legalization of civil marriages and does not ask churches opposed to same-sex unions to recognize them or perform ceremonies. ¯" "It’s not g~ng to affect any religious : 9~anizationatall,"Murraysaid.Itwould, however, offer them a wide range of civil ¯ benefits. "Married couples receive over 150 supports and protections under Vermont law, which are not available to Gay and Lesbian couples, no matter how long they have been together, no matter how committed their relationship is, and no " matter how much they need those legal, ." protections," Bonauto said. ¯ Among the benefits she listed were " family leave; bereavement leave; retirement and pension benefits; health insurance; inheritance; and the right to ,make medical decisions onbehalfofasame-sex partner. The issue of Gay and Lesbian marriage : has been hotly contested around the coun- ¯ try, especially a groundbr_._e._a_,kii’,ng case in Hawaii in which that state s Supreme ¯ Court rnled in 1993 thatitwas unconstitu- ¯ tional to deny marriage licenses to same- " sex couples without a compelling public ¯ interest. ¯" Before a lower court could rule on whether such an interest had been demonstrated, the Hawaii Legislature passed a bill granting such benefits as the rights to share medical insurance, joint property ¯ ownership and inheritances to couples " : who could not legally marry. Lawmakers " : also proposed a referendum on whether ¯ the Hawaii Constitution should be ¯ amended to outlaw Gay marriage. That ! .’ referendum is scheduled for next year. With the Hawaii case awaiting court ruling,Gay civil rights activists have been ¯ lookiiag for another test case. Vermont already has an active organization on the ¯ issue, known as the Freedom to Marry ¯ .Task Force, andit has worked with Lesbian & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, ¯ a group that has been active on same-sex ¯ mamages. A lawyer with,GLAD was scheduled to be at Tuesday s news con- : ference. The issue also is pending in the Ver¯ mont Legislature, where a bill that would ¯ ban gay marriage remains alive in the House Judiciary Committee. No action ¯ was taken on the bill when it was mtro- ¯ duced in January, but it remains alive for the second year of the Legislature’ s sesfor effective multicultural and coalition organizing. The need for the Federation grew out of meetings of statewide acti,vists during the past two years at NGLT s annual Creating Change Conference. The Task Force coordinated the logistics of the. Tennesseemeeting, providing scholarships and staffing and assisting in the planning. "We have known for many years that the real battles facing our communities wouldbe foughtinthe State Houses across the country," stud Paula Ettelbn¯ck of the Empire. State Pride Agenda, who is a fouhder and a co-chair ~f the Federation. "It is essential that we create an orgainz- ¯ ing structure that helps us to Strategize as ¯ a hational network of lesbians and gay i men in order to support each other, sh~re resources, andf,i,ght our common enemy of h0m0phobia. Oklahoma wasrepresented by TOHR, : Tulsa Oklah0mans for Human Rights : which at 17 years old is the oldest non- " religious organization in the state. TOHR : .presidentTomNealnoted,"TOHRclearly ¯ ~s not a state-wide organization. Okla- : homa, unfortunately,qaas no organization ¯ that is genuinely statewide. However, ¯ TOHR has been for several years the only ¯ iOaarrkl,caohnotmacatowrgiathnizNaGtioLnTtFh.atT,shbeereenfoinrer,egwu_e went to the meeting in order to come back and to try to foster state level organizing." ¯. Neal added that he hoped that Tulsa and ¯ Oklahoma City groups and individuals will set aside their historical friction to work for the benefit of the whole state. The Federation will consist of 13 Executive Committee members, selected ¯ from each region of the country, who will set forth the mission of the Federation. ¯ The National Gay and LesbianTaskForce ¯ will ser~e as coordinatorof.theFederation for the next three years: NGLTF will ¯ coordinate and. support the Federation’s ¯ work through the dedication.of staff and ¯ resources including the creation and dis- : semination of information and materials, regular conference calls, cyber resources ¯ and more. ¯ "States are ground zero in the struggle for equality andjustice, and it is essential that these state groups become better ¯" resourced., and supported if we are to en¯ sureourultimate success as amovement," said NGLTF executive director Kerry ¯ Lobel. ,’I ¯ amthrilled that the stateLGBTgroups have united to. form this Federation. The Federation will focus on strengthening state organizations so that we aJ’e better equipped for the upcoming civil ,ri,’ghts battles we are facing stat~l~y state, said Dianne Hardy-Garcia of’~e Lesbian/Gay Rights Lobby ofTexas an~t co:chair:bfthe Federation. ’Theformation ofthe Federation wouldnothave beenpossible without ~ the assistance of NGLTF. NGLTF has ¯ provided the resources needed to pull ¯ togetherthe Federation. The Task Force .continues to illustrate a real understand- " mg mat our movement must be a local, ¯ state an,d, national movement if we are to ¯ su~eed, ’ added Hardy-Garcia." The Federation is p,lanning its next meeting for November s NGLTF Creating Change conference in San Diego, ¯ California. In addition to the. meeting, there will be a series or workshops geared : towards activists doing statewide work, especially onlegislation. These workshops , ~ill be open to all. ! SpiritWoman Contor : Longtime Lesbian activist Tay Clare is ¯ the volunteer coordinator ofthe Frec Spirit Woman Center, based in a private mid- . town Tulsa.home. The Center provides the following ongoing weekly programming from 7-9 pm. ¯ On Tuesdays, the Center sponsors a ¯ poetry writing workshop. Women with ¯ much or no experience are encouraged to participate or just to observe. ¯ Wednesdays, Charlotte Kasl’s famous ¯ 1~6 step,e,mpowermentprogram is the topic. ¯ according to Tay, Charlotte Kasl claims women should never say they have no ¯ power; by doing the steps, they can find their own powerful wom~n within. , ¯ EveryThursday,Clareleads awomen s spirituality workshop. Ihdividuals are en- ¯ couraged to bring their own materials as part of their journey. ~ ..... ¯ A support and discussion group i~ held i .on Fridays. The current topi~ iS a studyof ¯ the journals of radical Gay women..~ " ¯ The Free Spirit Woman Center oper- : ates by consensus without domination by "anyone person. Facilitation is minimal ." and is used primarily to insure that all get ¯ a chance to speak. The Center has no ¯ funding but small donations are always : welcome to pay for coffee and other sup- " plies. Info: 587-4669. Out of State Newspapers Magazines for All Interests Mens & Womens Lingerie Games Movie Sales & Rentals Novelties & Gifts Now featuring 10% Cards Homeof the 21st Social Board Open 24 hours a day Gay owned & operated 8,120 East-21st (21 st+Memorial acrossfromAlbertsons) 610-8510 How To Do It: First 30Words are $10. Each additi0nabword is 25 cents. You may bring additional attention to your ad: Bold Headline - $1 Ad incapital letters - $1 Adiii bdid Capital letters - $2 Ad in box -:$2 Ad reversed::.$3 Tear sheet mailed - $2 Blind Post Office Box - $5 Please ty-p~’,lSf print your ad. 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The Pride Center has provided a meeting place for the Prime Timers, Friends in Unity Social Organization (FUSO) , Safe Haven, Rainbow Business Guild, the Parish Church of Saint Jerome, Mothers Support Group, Poetry/Arts Coffee House, SENSES, Lesbian and Gay-oriented substance abuse support groups, Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation, TOHR, HOPE, Americorp, HIV training seminars and others. Your mem bership and/or pledge helps to keep the doors open. [] I want to join/rejoin. ~ Individual @ $20/year Household!org @ $35/year ~ Sustaining @ $100/year ~ Ltd. income/student @ $10/year [] I want to pledge. Please send me/us a pledge book for $.~per month. Suggested pledge: $5 - 20/month. Address: City, state, zipcode: Day phone: Eve. phone: E-mail: The Pride Center is open 6 days a week. HOPE offices are open Monday - Friday, 9 - 5pro. Volunteers staff The Pride Center on Tuesday - Friday nights from 6-10, and Sat. 12-10pm. Volunteers are always welcome. The Pride Store is open Wed. - Friday, 2 - 6pm and Sat. 12 - 6pro Please return this-form to: 1307 East 38th, 2rid ft. Tulsa 74105, 918-7434297 O’RYAN Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network A support. & educational group for 14.24 year old Lesbian, Gay, Bi, .Questioning and Transgendered Tulsans Needs. Your Help; Donation Wish List- TV/VCR Plants Microwave Steroe Gay Video Library Bean Bags Wall Art Silverware Lamps Refrigerator Pop Machine Computer Throw Pillows Clocks Curtains Glassware 1724 East Eighth Street, 584.2325 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1997] Tulsa Family News, August 1997; Volume 4, Issue 9 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. 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Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource August 1997 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource James Christjohn Dr. Mike Gorman Leanne Gross Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche The Associated Press Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Tom Neal/Tulsa Family News Relation A related resource Tulsa Family News, July 1997; Volume 4, Issue 8 Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Image PDF Online text Language A language of the resource English Type The nature or genre of the resource newspaper periodical Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Tulsa(Oklahoma)---newspaper Tulsa---Oklahoma Oklahoma---Tulsa United States Oklahoma Tulsa United States of America (50 states) Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context https://history.okeq.org/items/show/538 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 1997 adoption African Americans AIDS Quilt AIDS/HIV AIDS/HIV drugs AIDS/HIV research arts and entertainment attorneys AZT Barry Hensley Bars Bette Greene Bill Clinton bullying businesses churches coming out Dave Fleischer Do-It-Yourself Dyke Don't Ask Don't Tell Dyke Psyche Ellen Degeneres employment discrimination Entertainment Notes Episcopal Church Esther Rothblum Federation of Statewide Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgender Political Organizations FUSO Gianni Versace harassment HIV/AIDs testing homophobia HOPE Testing James Christjohn Jean-Pierre La Grandbouche marriage Mary Schepers Milestone Grill Murder NAMES Project National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Native Americans O'RYAN performing arts PFLAG Pride Center Read All About It Red Rock representation restaurants schools social workers sodomy laws Sophronia's students Tom Neal Tulsa Family News Tulsa Two-Spirited Indian Men's Support Group Youth Services of Tulsa https://www.history-okeq-org-red5.dev.unicomm.me/files/original/2df969e8b6648782166d7e4fa5339b05.jpg 2d231ccc5eb9764cda71a2e03d4e6a20 https://www.history-okeq-org-red5.dev.unicomm.me/files/original/9a66a5a69fa15c63cc927198160937ee.pdf feb59bf72cc06315005c9e6bc83fed9f Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Given Electric Shocks LONIX~N (AP) - Gay prisoners were given electric shocks in government-sponsored tests in the 1950s to see ifhomosexuality could be controlled, The Guardian newspaper reported recently. Documents released by the government showed that inmates were given shocks if they stared at pictures of men for more than eight seconds, the newspaper said. Other inmates were given the female hormone estrogen. TheHomeOffice, which funded the study by London University, concluded at the dme that up to half themen who participated in the trial "have benefited from it- in the. sense that they are less likely to indulge in homosexual behavior." The newspaper did not report when during the 1950s the trial was carried out, or on how many people. It said that experiments were carried out at four prisons in England. The Guardian also said that the documents showed the government was concerned that legalizing homosexuality wouldencourage greater numbers ofpeople-to try it. "Would homosexual conduct spread, or, losing the glmnor of rebellion, decline?" the paper quoted a government report as saying. In 1957, the government ordered a review of Bfttain S homosexuality laws, which resulted in their liberalization 10 years later. Gay Holocaust Survivor CAMBRIDGE (AP) - Stefan Kossinsky is wanned by the memory of an old love, and chilled by a haunting uncertainty. What happened to Kossinsky’s lover - a German soldier- all those years ago? Kossinsky was a teen-ager when he fell in love with a Nazi soldier in 1941, after Germans seized his Polish town of Torun, Kossinsky told a group of Harvard students on Friday. The 72-year-old Kossinsky, on campus to attend the sold-out play, "Angels in America," which was dedieated to him, said the young men met in an abandoned shed for nearly six months. But then the soldier was sent to the Russian front. Kossinsky was caught trying to send a letter, was tortured by the Gestapo and sent to a prison camp for five years. "It was my greatest love, my first one," The Boston Globe quoted Kossinsky as saying. Fearing that he had sealed his lover’s fate with his hastily-launched letter, Kossinsky began a frantic search for the soldier. He examined archives in Germany, Poland, and Austria, but found no trace of the man. One of the most difficult things for Kossinsky, aside from having to live without his lover, has been having to live with the gnawing uncertainty of what happened to him and the torturous guilt of possibly having contributed to his demise. The Holocaust devoured millions for their ethnicity, politics, and religion. But it is estimated that as many as .15,000 were put to death-for homosexuality. Kossinsky is one of only seven gay Holocaust survivors to be located by the Shoah Visual History Foundation in Los Angeles, see Shoah, page14 MJ DIRECTORWLE’[TERS/EDITORIAL P. 2/3 ~m~ US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P. 6 m ENTERTAINMENT NOTES P. 8 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 BOOK REVIEW & GARDEN COLUMN P. 10 Z RE~AU~NT REVIEW P. 11 1 GAY STUDIE~ANTHROPOLOGY P. 12 ¯ Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends : Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 7’0 City Locations : Anti-Bias Policy,Add.ed .At Rogers University : First Ever ComprehensivePolicy atOKCollege : TULSA.- In a move made with no attendant publicity, the board : of regents for Rogers University added the words "sexual often- " tation" to the university’s comprehensive non-discftmination ¯ statement last summer. The statement is printed on nearly all of " Rogers’ newer publications, from Student Handbook & Rei sources Guide to its 1997-99 catalog. ¯ The specific language reads: Rogers University, in compliafice ¯ with Tides VI and VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, Executive ¯ Order 11246 as amended,Title IX of the EducationAmendments : of 1972, Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990, and other : federal laws and regulations, does not discriminate on the basis ¯ of.race, color national origin, sex, age religion, disability, sexual i orientation or status as a veteran in any of its policies, practices, ¯ or procedures. This includes, but is not limited to admissions, ¯ employment, financial aid, and educational services. Formerly ¯ Rogers documents used the same language minus the words, " sexual orientation. : While the addition of this language was done as much as 20 : years ago by the "flagship" public and private universities in the nation (University of California System, University ofMichigan, ¯ University of Texas System, Harvard, Yale, Princeton, Stanford ." and Rice University), no other Oklahoma institution of higher learning, public or private is known to have a similar policy. The : regents of the University of Oklahoma did adopt after years of ¯ efforts by campus activists a very limited non-discftmination ¯ policy a few years ago which applied only to student organiza- ¯ t~ons. ¯ The change which protects all i~adividuals, Heterosexual, Gay, ’ Bi or Lesbian, from discriminauoz~ was introduced by regent ¯ Nancy Feldman, attorney, former TU professor and longtime ¯ community social jusdce activist in response to a request from a ¯ Gay commumty civil fights activist (A.) who prefers to remain ¯ unnamed. The activist had requested for severa] years that Rogers !TOHR Protests Bias in :Tulsa Centennial Book : by Kelly Kurt, Associated Press : TULSA (AP) -A Gay civil rights group is protest- ¯ ing the official Tulsa Centennial history, saying the ¯ book excludes contributions and events involving ¯ Gays and Lesbians. Tulsa Oklahomans for Human ¯ Rights (TOHR) charges that.’’Tulsa! A Biography ¯ of the American City" is a biased and incomplete : account of the city’s first 1.00 years. ." "’An entire minority community is treated as : though it doesn’t exist,"-Tom Neal, president ofthe ¯ approximately 150-member Gay and Lesbian or- " ganization, stated. The group has contacted local ." retailers asking that they post its views adjacent to ¯ displays of the book, which Centennial organizers ¯ officially unveiled on November 18th.. : Author Danney Goble said the book’s intent was : "to cover as fairly as possible the mainstream ¯ history of Tulsa as a whole.""The book never had : the purpose or the intention of being a politically- " correct encyclopedia of the contributions of or : issues centra] to any one social group orminority," ¯ he said. : He based the book on 10,000 pages of research : notes deftved mostly from publicrecords andmain- : stream, publications. Most historical public ac- ¯ counts have not addressed homosexual issues, he ¯ said. "This should not be surprising because, as a ¯ professional historian, I know that until very recent ." times such highly persona] issues were considered ¯ taboo for public discussion and aiftng," Goble said. ¯ Nea] likened the exclusion to previous histories ¯ that failed to mention the 1921 race riot, which : destroyed the city’s black business district. For ¯ example, he said, a-Tulsa commission produced a ¯ report in the mid- 1970s on anti-Gay discrimination ¯ at a time when few citie~ nationwide even consid- University president, Roger Randle and other administrators ¯ ered the issue. "Fairness would only have required : adopt the change. However, according to "A", thesereouests fell " - o " " ¯ on deaf ears tmtal Ms. Feldman became ~nvolved. "A’~oted tha~t , .¯,.~,~Gpaorbalger~aapihdohretw~,o0,uldhneosmt idn:cludeall groups in the Ms. Feldman understood see Rogers, page 3 , nearly 3_00-page book. see Centennial~ page 14 No More Church in a Box! St. Jerome Finds A Home TULSA - After two years of sharing others’s space, the Parish Church of Saint Jerome celebrated its first Mass in its own building at 205WestKing StreetonSunday, Nov. 30th. According to the Reverend. Father Rick Hollingsworth the congregation has under gone many changes -not the least of which is no longer having to pack up the altar and all the items needed for the service: i.e. church in a box! St. Jerome began its services as a group committed to a traditional liturgical style of worship; in fact, many at St. Jerome had gone to Trinity Episcopal Church. But because of ongoing debates in the Episcopal. Church USA’ about inclusivity, specifically allowing Lesbians and Gay men to serve the Church openly, those who founded St. Jerome originally affiliated with an independent Catholic denomination. The congregation first met at the United Methodist Commuuity of Hope where they literally had to move the altar in and out of the room for services. Later St. Jerome moved to the Garden Chapel of the Ninde Funeral Homenear 41st&Peoria where they remained until recently. For much of the last year, the parish council and the members of St. Jerome have searched Tulsa for a home. In the meantime, some church events were held at the Pride Center and others in homes. The search was made more difficult since Tulsa has few church buildings on the market and a number of congregations looking (of congregations fftendly to Lesbians and Gay men, Commtmity of Hope a~d Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation have been looking at space). However, about September in a series of events which Father Rick and Deacon Debbie characterized as the work of God, the congregations ofSt~ JeromeandWestmiusterPresbyterianChurch came together, see Jerome. page 10 ¯ TOHR Board Changes "Staff of HIV Program ¯ TULSA- The board of directors of Tulsa Oklaho- ¯ mans forHumanRights, Inc. (TOHR), Oklahoma’s ¯ oldest. Le.sbian and Gay non-religious community orgamzauon, have announced changes in their ¯ HIV education, prevention and testing programs, -" which do business under the name: HOPE: HIV ¯ Outreach, Prevention & Education. The board will. ¯" be hiring a new program director to take the place which Mallory Degen Brown held. Also the board ¯ willbe replacing theHWclinic co-ordinator. Former ¯ clinic co-ordinator Leslie Johnson resigned due to ." a move out of the state. Other staff members are ¯ temporarily undertaking the duties of program di- ¯ rector and clinic co-ordinator. The 1997 board of directors of TOHR include ¯ Dennis Arnold, Tim Daniel, Robert.Hill, Steve ¯ Horn, Sue Knause, The Rev. William Chester ¯ McCall, III, Jonathan Stanley and Tom Neal. ¯ TOHR/HOPE provides Tulsa with its principal ¯ anonymous HIV testing site at the HIV Resource ¯ Consortium. TOHR/HOPE staff members also do ’ targeted outreach for HIV prevention in several : programs. These include "MSM’s" - men who : have sex with men, younger Gay men; MSM’s in ¯ rural Oklahoma and women in Tulsa who are at ¯ high risk because of drug use or because they are ¯ sex workers. : TOHR, a 501(c)3 tax-exempt, non-political or-- , ganization, also provides the Pride Center, Tulsa’s ¯ community center for Lesbian, Gay, Bi, and Trans- " gendered persons, our families and friends. The ¯ Pride Center is located at 1307 E. 38th Street, 2nd ¯ floor. Individuals who support the mission of the : organization may become members and support : the community and HIV work of the organization. ¯ Formoreinformation, call 712-1600, 9-Spin, M-F, ¯ or 743-4297, 6-10pro, M-Sat. Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Boston Willy’ s Diner, 1742 S. Boston *Blue Room, 606 S. Elgin *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. 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Listed businesses are not all Gay-owned but welcome Lesbian/Gay/Bi & Traus communities. EUREKA SPRINGS, ARKANSAS ¯ *Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy. 23 : *Jim & Brent’ s Bistro, 173 S. Main -" DeVito’ s Restaurant, 5 Center St. ~ *Fmerald Rainbow, 45 &1/2Spring St. ¯ MCC of the Living Spring : Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 ¯ Positive Idea Marketing Plans ¯ Sparky’ s, Hwy. 62 East : FAYETTEVILLE, ARKANSAS : *Edna’ s, 9 S. School Ave. TOHR on Centennial Book Bias Dear Mr. Goble, Rogers University - ¯ We are disappointed that you appar- ¯ enfly lack both the professionalism and the courtesy to respond to our several : requests to speak with you about ’q’ulsa! ." ABiographyoftheAmericanCity". How- . ever, thanks to the Associated Press, for whom you seem to have more respect, we have some insight into the erroneous assumptions that appear to have motivated your purposeful exclusion of any mention of Gay and Lesbian Tulsans in this official centennial Tulsa history. "Author Danney Goble said the book’s intent was ’to cover as fairly as possible the maimtrewn history ofTulsa as awhole. .. The book never had thepurpose or the intention of being a politically-correct encyclopedia of the contributions of or issues central to any one social group or minori~., ’ he said." This use ofhighly prejudicial language, "politically correct" to dismiss and .~ marginalize criticism is a cheap shot not worthy of a serious scholar. Likewise is the specious suggestion that the only alternative to what you wrote would have to be an encyclopedia. For example, if you had chosen to wax less lengthy about Dan Alien, you might have found room for a paragraph or two about the issues we discussed. And are Tulsa Metropolitan Ministries (TMM) or DomesticViolence Intervention ServiceS really more than Tulsa Oklahomans forHuman Rights and the work this organization has done in responding to HIV/AIDS?Ori s itjust that you were an admirer of Dan Allen, or felt the need to suck up to TMM or DVIS? "He based the book on l O,O00pages of research notes derived mostlyfrom pub-- lic records and mainstream publications, Most historical public accounts hitve not addressed homosexual issues, he said." Perhaps youdepended entirdy toomuch ~ on other peoples’ research? Was it too much to ask you to do a little original work? You certainly had ample opportu- ~ nity from the names and phone numberw ¯ we provided you before you began the ¯ book but chose not to take it. For that ¯ matter, once most historical accounts did ¯ not address the experiences of Blacks or " women in this country well either. Most ~ scholars have learned that these biases in ¯ earlierworkisno excuse for shoddy schol- : arship now. ". " ’This should not be surprising be- " cause, asaprofessionalhistorian, lknow ¯ that until very recent times such highly ¯ personal issues were considered taboo ¯ for public discussion and airing,’ Goble ¯ said." : This comment proves just exacdy what ¯ was wrong with your assumptions about -" Gay & Lesbian Tulsans. To be Gay or ¯ Lesbian is not merely a function of one’ s ; private sexual behavior as you imply ¯ above. Just like other minority communi- ." ties, Gay &LesbianTulsanshaveadistin- ¯ guishable sub-culmrewhoseexistence can ¯ be documented at least back to the middle : 60’sbypeoplewhoarestillaliveinTulsa. ¯ see Book. page 16 Letters Policy : .Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on ¯ ~ssues which we’ve covered or on issues : youthinkneedtobeconsidered.Youmay ¯ request .that your name be withheld but ¯ letters mustbe signed&have phonehum- : bets, or be hand delivered. 200 word let- " ters are preferred. Letters to other publications will be printed as is appropriate. Our Fifth Year Begins by Tom Neal, publisher & editor . This issue marks the beginningof our 5th year. We take ¯ some space each year to comment on this event which we believe is of importance, obviously to us, but also to the " Tulsa and Oklahoma LGBT communities. ¯ Some may forget the pioneering contributions of this " newspapers since much of what we .started, others have " since imitated. Tulsa Family News was the first Gay ¯ newspaper in Oklahoma to establish extensive "main- ¯ stream"distribution across an Oldahoma town. Where " once you could only get acommunity newspaper in a club ¯ or a"specialty" bookstore~ TFN is found at more than 70 . locations across Tulsa as well as in Oklahoma City, " Bartlesville, Tahlequah, Muskogee, Eureka Springs and Fayetteville, Arkansas. Our Tulsa locations range from ¯ near North Tulsa, TulsaCity Hall, theTulsa Metropolitan Chamber of Commerce, and local colleges and universities to large Southside retail establishments, and our acceptance in those venues is, we believe, not just a positive reflection on this newspaper but a sign of ;growing tolerance of Tulsa’s Lesbian and Gay communities. Tulsa Family News was the first Gay newspaper in Oklahoma to become a member-of the Associated Press and serious news coverage has been a feature of the newspaper since the beginning. In fact, much of the early coverage in the mainstream press about the paperfocused ." on that then unusual aspect. However, TFN has always . balanced our national and international news with local ¯ coverage and commentary., and unlike some of our competitors, our columnists are almost all locals and "wire"¯" stories do not make up 80-90% of our content. Fnrthermore, Tulsa Family News has consistently do- " hated substantially greater amounts of advertising space " to Tulsa.Lesbian and Gay, and HIV/AIDS charities. One." of our competitors has a standing policy of not donating but only giving discounts and another gives just tiny ads " and tho,~e sdectivdy tojust a few charities. Nearly every . HIV/AIDS charity in Tulsa has received or been offered " free ad space in the last two years. It may be bad form to brag about this but this record of donations is just one way " that Tulsa Family News gives back to our community, " unlike others who~takefrom it, and worse, send what they ¯ take out of town. ¯ Another contribution of Tulsa Family News is more : controversial and that is our commitment to investigative journalism and serious commentary. In that area, we have done, we believe, much good work and have easily lived up to themotto attributed to the early 20th century radical, " Mother Jones, "to comfort the afflicted and to afflict the " comfortable.’" ¯ In the process, we’ve angered some influential and prominent Tulsans, both in and out of the community, ." Which is probably good. Power gone unchecked often " leads t° arrogance if not abuse. And it is the role of a real ¯ newspaper sometimes to question thejudgments of those " who put themselves forward as leaders, to askif they have " acted always with due diligence, to ask if their action." benefit the community as whole ormorebenefitindividu~ , als’ quests for greater personal influence and position. ¯ It is our very real regret that raising these questions sometimes hurts the feelings of thoseinvolved especially ¯ when those individuals seem well-intentioned. However, ¯ the goal of creating a tradition of debate and dialogue, of " a shared democratic and-non-elifigt decision making process are so critical to the long term growth and well being ofTulsa’s LGBT community, that those who chose to be in leadership positions must accept that criticism : from TFN is as much a part of a healthy community as is ¯ their well-documented criticism of us for our positions. We commit to our readers to continue to do the good work we.have been doing; to improve where we need to and to continue, edi~t0rially~ to be .advocates for Lesbian, Gay, Bi and.Transgendered persons, for our friends and families. We don’t promise perfection; in fact, we?likely miracles, be they Yule, Christmas, HanukkJ~h~-KwaanTa or merely thejoy of celebrating our,~r~,e..n,ds and families, honoring thosewhom we ve lost mi~lofWelcoming anew year, we wish each of you, the blessings of wisdom, joy Please note these TFN & community updates: our new phone number and preferred e-mail address: 918-231-7372, fax: 918-583-4615 and TulsaNews@earthlink.net Also, Concessions wants its patrons to know they will be closed on Christmas Eve but will be open on Christmas Day. Marlene, Chris, Bruce and Tony are volunteers with the HIVEducation and Recreation Center in West Tulsa. ¯ Tulsa Family News Endorses The Cimarron Alliance "- by Tom Neal, editor & publisher ." Tulsa’s Gay rumor mills have been working overtime ¯ again. Those of you who don’t have the opporttmity to ¯ hear some of the concoctions that circulate are missing : some of the most interesting fiction created today. .. The latest fable of the rumor circuit is that a new Oklahoma City Organization, The Cimarron Alliance, is ¯ coming to Tulsa to take over everything and everyone. One friend was told that Cimarron aspires not only put TOHR Oklahoma’s oldest Lesbian and Gay non-religious organization) and the Pride Center out ofbusiness but they are going to take over ALL the HIV service organizations as well. My goodness! When I hear these things, I can’t help but think that if perhaps just a fraction of-the energy our community expends on gossip went into good works and substantive efforts towards change, we would see progress for our community and for our city as we’ve never seen before. Well, here’s what we know about The.Cimarron Alliance. The Oklahoma City based organization is coming toTulsa- that’s true. But they’re aPAC, apolitical action committee, registered with the State of Oklahoma and authorized to do fundraising for political races. They do not have the tax or legal status to take over TOHR, the HIV Resource Consortium or any other Tulsa charitable organization: Nor do they want to do so. Oklahoma City attorney and board member, Jim Roth, expressed amazemerit, and dismay, at the suggestion. What they do want to do is to raise the kinds of dollars to give to candidates that will result in Lesbian and Gay issues andpeople being on Oklahoma’s political agenda. Right now, We’re not even on most politicians’ radar, except’perhaps as an issue to avoid, or in Jim lnhofe’s case, to demonize for cheap political points. Cimarron has raised substantial dollars in Oklahoma City andmade significant donations in the last OK.C city council races. That’s what they want to do in Tulsa as well. Seems reasonabledoesn’t it? Seems damn well overdue, even. But hey, in the fashion of many minority communities, it seems we’re not happy just with the obstacles that others put in fro]it of us, we need to add some of our own. Already, we’re hearing some Tulsans say we shouldn’t trust people from "The City" (sorry, Marty - I know you hate that phrase). And Tulsa does have ample evidence of Oklahoma City taking dollars from us with little benefit returning. Others have characterized Cimarron, rather uncharitably, as just another (Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights " Dennis Neill, Rick Phillips, Marty Newman, Peter Ath- ¯¯ the need for thepolicy practically without any explanation. "A" added that months more might have passed before ¯ :he and others kn~w abOUt the chaageexceptfor aconver- "- : sation that Ms. Feldman had:With oriecotnmunity leader, can promise that our occasional mistakes will be pre~ ¯ ." Marty Newman. Newman mentioned this to "A" who sented in print for al!.to, see - !ik¢ having dectronically lost the second half 0f Josh Whetsell’s story last month. We will promise to do our best to present the news fairly and accurately. We promise to work for social justice, and specifically that if forced to chose, we will stand withthe poor and oppressed before we stand with those with privilege, and that we will work for a world in which the many human differences, like race, gender or gender identity, class, religion or sexual orientation, are of only minor biographical significance. Finally, in this holiday season of celebrating various : self-appointed "A-list" group whose values may or may ¯ not really reflect those of our community as a whole. So ." there are some legitimate issues to discuss. ¯ But we at Tulsa Family News would like to endorse ¯ The Cimarron Alliance and to welcome them to Tulsa. : Some Tulsans tried to get ourown version of thi_s type of ¯ group together, and frankly, failed. It wasn’t that the ¯ "right" people weren’t involved; most of the usual sus- ¯ pects were there: Nancy & Joe McDonald, Kelly Kirby, confirmed the policy withRogers University vice.presidenh Carolyn Thompson Taylor, a former Norman state legislator and spouse ofOklahomaSenateleader, Stratton Taylor. Students in the University of Oklahoma Gay, Lesbian .Bisexual Alliance (GLBA) wdcomed the news, expressmghope that this mighthave a"domino effect" to shiftthe OUboard of regents off dead center. They also noted that former Oklahoma Sen. David Boren had not been particular! y supportive of their efforts get anti-bias policies passed. ¯ ens,meand others. Likely, the Tulsa effort failed because ¯ most everyone listed is already overcommitted to other ¯ worthy civic work. So we’re saying let’snmwith what OklahomaCity has ¯ already done. It’s likely better that we have a statewide ¯ organization. Tulsans will need to be careful that the Oklahoma City dominated board not just take dollars ¯ from our city without giving back. at least proportion- : ately. And we’d suggest that if Cimarron really wants to ¯ overcome Tulsans’ long established and legitimate dis- " trust of Oklahoma City motives, the organization should ¯ make having a board that equally balances Tulsans_ with Oklahoma City residents a priority.. Not only will that diffuse some of the traditional distrust, it’s a great way to sell the organization. After all, folks here will much more likely join a group where they know someone. As forus, we’re putting ourmoney where ourwords are - wejoined. And we made a commitment to support and - promote the organization as much as wecan. Weencourage you to do so as well. Note: as many ofyou know, I am a candidatefor Tulsa City Council and obviously, have been talking with Cimarron about that race in hopes of having their support. Indeed, t’t seems likely that a new organization to Tulsa, a Lesbian and Gay PAC that wants to be credible in Tulsa’s community, would support Oklahoma’s first openly Gay candidate to runfor municipal office. However, to clarify any question ofconflict ofinterest in my endorsement ofFhe Cimarr0n Alliance, I made my commitments to support the organizatt’on more than a month prior to any announcement of incumbent city ounctlor Gary Watts dectston not to runfor re-electron. ¯ Mr. Watts waswidely expected to continue in office by ¯ Democratic Party leaders and most city hall observers, ¯ including thi-s writer. If Mr. Watts had chosen to run ¯ again, I would not be runningfor city council butI would ¯ still be supporting Cimarron. ¯ A spokesperson for Tulsa Oklahomans for Human ". Rights expressed pleasure at the Rogerpolicy, noting that- ¯ Oklahoma’s largest employer, AmericanAirlines as well : as a number of other corporations had adopted similar ¯ policies: He added, "promu" s"ing to j"ua"ge people j~t on ¯ their performance, not on their beliefs or statusis aot,Only ¯ good for business, it’s the only morally and cally justifiable position for a public institut~t)n,to take~: ¯ .TOHR would like to see the City of Tulsa~ T~Sa:Cr~y, and Tulsa City County Library make an equal:c0mmitment to fairness." Vermont Gay Marriage License Case Filed BURLINGTON, Vt. (AP)- L~,wyers for three samesex couples who want.the state ~o give them marriage licenses have filed arguments in court. The arguments, filed Tuesday in Chittenden Superior Courtby attorneys for the law firm Langrock, Sperry & Wool in Middlebury, Say Vermont marriage law supports all committed couples, including those of the same gender. The papers say interpreting the law to deny the couples access to marital benefits goes against the Vermont Constitution. Two lesbian couples and a gay couple who were denied marriage licenses in their towns filed suit against the state in July. The suit challenges a 1975 ruling by the state Attorney General concerning a same-sex marriage request in Plainfield. That ruling advised town clerks that Vermont law defined marriage as a union between a "bride and a groom," prohibiting same-sex couples from marrying. The Attorney General’s office responded to the three couples’ lawsuit on Nov. 10, requesting that it be dismissed. It said the Vermont Constitution does not guarantee same-sex partners the right to marry. In the papers filed Tuesday, the couples’ lawyers said the state has not shown a "valid pubfic purpose" to deny the couples the benefits of civil marriage. Those benefits include sick leave, inheritance rights, and being appointed guardian if a spouse becomes incapacitated. Thefiling Tuesday also referred to studies showing that children raised by same-sex parents are welladjusted and don’t suffer from psychological or social development problems. The filing said the state relied on outdated roles and .stereotypes of men and women in its arguments. "Marriage is about much more than procreation," said Susan Murray, an attorney representing the couples. "It’s about sharing. It’s about sacrifice. It’s about companionship. It’s about loyalty. Cammermeyer Running! LANGLEY, Wash. (AP) - Retired Army Col. Margarethe Cammermeyer has mailed her filing papers to the secretary of s tateand opened a campaign office to take on Rep. Jack Metcalf in Washington’s 2nd congressional district. Cammermeyer, 55,- drew national attentionby successfully fighting to stay in theWashington National Guard despite the military’ s policy of discharging homosexuals. Cammermeyer, a Democrat, said Monday she had opened her campaign headquarters in Langley, the Whidbey Island town where she lives. The 2nd Dis= trict includes Western Washington from Everett to the Canadian border. Her early campaign entry against Republican Metcalf gives her time to rinse cash and drum up support in a race bound to receive national attention, party activists said. "We’ve got the ’L’ word in this race, and we’re not talking about liberal," Paul Foumier, an Island County Democratic activist, told The Seattle Times. Cammermeyer recently retired as chief nurse of the Washington Army National Guard. She had been fired in 1992, three years after telling an investigator she was a lesbian. But a federal judge ordered her reinstated in 1994, and the government dropped its appeal of thin ruling. Her battle resulted in a bestselling book and amade-for-TV movie starring Glenn Close. Metcalf, 69, has won twice in the nominally Democratic district. Before that, he spent years in the state Legislature. Heis a retired history teacher, and he and his wife operate a bed-and-breakfast inn on Whidbey Island. Metcalf has said he considers Cammermeyer "a substantive candidate" and will take her seriously if she wins the nomination next year. Benefits for Detroit DETROIT (AP) - The City Council is considering legislation that would allow benefits for domestic partners, ’q’his does indicate movement forward on this issue," Jeffrey Montgomery, president of the Gay civil rights advocacy groupTriangle Foundation, told the Detroit Free Press. "We look forward to going through the process. It’s very encouraging." The legislation, submitted by Councilman Clyde Cleveland, would allow any committed adult couple to register with the city a~a-.f-amily.It also would enable nonunion city employees to declare their partners as dependents so they could collect life and health insurance benefits, the paper said in a recent story, ff adopted, Detroit’s ordinances would be in line with those found in at least 20 other cities - including Ann Arbor- which already recognize domestic partnerships. None of the council members would comment on the legislation. Mayor Dennis Archer would not say whether he will support it. "He’s not going to deal with that measure until it’s presented to him by the City Council," Anthony Neely, Archer’s press secretary, told the Free Press. The council likely will vote on the ordinances in January. Wash. St. Rights Initiative SEATTLE (AP) - His voice still, thickens when he recalls the day he got fired, 12 years ago. David Biviano, then a probation supervisor for a Spokane County court project for youth offenders, says his bosses told his work was terrific, but that he’d have to go. There was just one little problem, they said: Biviano is gay. "I was wiped out. It was devastating," he says. "They said they regretted having to do that because it was a tremendous loss to the county, to the clients and to the courts, but that.they.., could not employ a gay man in this position. "I lost my job, my ability to support my six children, my ability to maintain a home," says Biviano, now 56. "I became extremely depressed: I became dysfunctional in many ways. My children ended up on welfare. It was quite a struggle making my way back, maintaining some kind of mental health, some kind of self-esteem." Biviano now has his own diversity-trmnmg consuiting firm in Centralia. But he says he was out of work or underemployed for the better part of six years before he got work in Seattle, and later with state government, that reflected his abilities. Today he is stumping for Initiative 677, which would make Washington the 12th state to ban employment discrimination based on sexual orientation. If it passes, Washington would be the first state to adopt such a law through the iuitiative process State law currently bans discrimination based on race, creed, national origin or disability. Employers also cannot ask about marital status, children or religion. The initiative would add sexual orientation to the list of characteristics the employer can’t take into account It would apply to government and the private sector, exempting religious organizations and employers with fewer than eight workers. The measure expressly says it would not require preferential treatment or quotas and that employers could regulate dress and conduct in the workplace. If the initiative becomes law, those who believe they have suffered discrimination could sue in Superior Court. The citizen initiative was mounted after advocates tried for two decades to get a "gay civil rights" measure through the state Legislature - it repeatedly passed the House only to stall in the more conservative Senate. The measure began as a response to the Republican-controlled Legislature’s vote earlier this year to ban same-sex marriage. When Democratic Gov. Gary Locke vetoed the ban, backers began trying to place the bill on the ballot as a referendum. .That prompted the gay community to begin collectmg signatures for this counter-measure. The Gay-marriage referendum died in-the Senate but the initiative backers went ahead, though some activists consider it unwise to make civil rights a ballot-box popularity contest. The campaign can’t quantify the scope of the problem, since no one keeps records. Proponents have offered a handful of examples, but say their documented eases of discrimination arejust the tip of the iceberg. "Nearly everyone in the gay and lesbian community would say they’ve been affected at some point," says Jan Bianchi, a Seattle attorney who heads Hands Off Washington, a gay-rights organization that has beaten back anti-gay rights initiatives. Flowers 1635 E. 15TH ST. TULSA, OK 74120 599-8070 Proudly Serving OurCommunity! Christopher Spradling Attorney at Law General practice, including wills, estate planning & domestic partnerships 616 S. Main St. Suite 308 Tulsa, OK 74119 Office (918) 582-7748 Pager (918) 690-0644 Fax (918) 582-2444 "bfayyour constant love be with us, ford as weput our hope inyou. "- Ps. 33:21 In Ood’s Love God’s love promises hope for tomorrow and peace for today. Free yourself of your burdens. Come share in the bounty of God’s love with us each Sunday at 10:45 am. Children Are Always Welcome! Community Church 1623 N. 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Frill service florist Contemporary & custom design Worldwide delivery, Distlnetlvely d~fferent Sup,erlor quality, PrJession fl staff Tulsa s largest seleetlon of cut flowers Potpourri &Wreaths Flowering Plants, Greeting Cards Custom printed napkins & invitations Floral Design Studio 3404 So. Peorla~ Tulsa 74105 : :~ .... Volee: 918.744.9595 or 800.933.9595, fax: 744.8040 In addition to direct discrimination in hiring, firing and promotion decisions;~"m’fiiiy homosexuals face hostile work environments that the initiative might help to slowly eliminate, Bianchi says. "in this culture, we define ourselves through work, and if we are having to be afraid weql lose our jobs .. or we can’t be open about our lives, it has a major impact on how we look at ourselves," she says. Unincorporated King County, Seattle, Olympia and Tumwater have anti-discrimination laws covering mostemployers, and statutes in Clark and Clallam counties and the cities of Bellingham, Pullman and Vancouver cover local government employees. That covers about 18 percent of the state population, but legal action must be taken by a government agency on behalf of the person. Under the initiative, the individual would gain the right to filea civil lawsuit in Superior Court. Backers note that Microsoft, Nordstrom, Safeco, Group Health, Weyerhaeuser and some other employers have non-discrimination clauses. Opponents say the initiative is part of a broader effort to gain public acceptance ofhomosexuality and w.onld lead to "an epidemic of costly lawsuits against private employers." The initiative would make outlaws out of those who consider homosexuality wrong and harmful, says Bob Larimer of Vancouver,leader ofNoOfficial Preferential Employment (NOPE). While advocates portray the measure as "a harmless gesture of tolerance," he contends itwouldcreate special rights in the workplace. Latimer and other foes say the initiative could lead to quotas despite wording to the contrary. The only effective way for a company to prove it does not discriminate would be to hire homosexuals and adopt workplace rules that "honor diversity, which actually means honoring and legitimizing homosexuality," Larimer said at a legislative hearing this month. The.state Christian Coalition calls it"a quota requirement in disguise." Opponents also insist that homosexuality is a lifestyle choice, not an in-born characteristic, and has no place in a anti-discri~mnation law based on. "immutable characteristics" such as race and disabilities. In a fundraising letter, NOPE uses the bogeyman tactic: "Your children are the target.... They have not g~ven up. They still want your kids, and 1-677 is another move toward that goal." The group says the initiative would allow cross-dressers in the classroom and glorify sodomy._ A fundraising letter from initiative supporterscalls such allegations "stereotypical misinformation and verbal gay-bashing" Bianchi says the initiativewould create no special rights or quotas and would simply require that employment decisions be based on merit, not on sexual orientation. "There are not quotas about how many Jews or Buddhists or Christians someone has to hire," though religious discrimination is barred, says Hands Off Washington leader Laurie Jinkins. "Likewise, there won’t be any quotas about how many gays or lesbians someone has to hire." There have been no media or independent polls on the initiative. A campaign poll taken months ago showed 9 out of 10 voters agreeing that "It is wrong to fire someone from their job just because of their sexual orientation.Y Asked if they’d support a law to keep that from happening, 62 percent said yes. The poll was conducted by Lake Research, with 500 respo.ndents contacted by telephone in February. The margin of error was 4.4 percent. Sydney Wins Gay Games SYDNEY, Australia (AP) - Sydney will host the 2002 Gay Games after beating four North American cities in a vote in Denver on Thursday. Sydney beat Dallas, Long Beach, Montreal and Toronto and will hold the Games in September 2002. The games will have more participants than the 10,000 expected at the Sydney Olympics in 2000. Sailing, netball and touch rugby will be Sydney’s addition to the list of official sports which includes ballroom dancing, tenpin bowling and golf. Events will take place in ,Olympic venues and mother land- ,.marks;including the Sydney OperaHouse. The openlug ceremony will held at the Olympic baseball stadium at Homebush. Chairman of the Sydney 2002 Gay Games bid, Tom Seddon, said the 2002 g~ames have a budget of US $7.35 million. "The economic impact of the event, most of it in Sydney, is expected to come in at over $100 million (US $70 million)," Seddon said. The Gay Games started in 1982 with just 1,200 participants but 12,000 competed at the New York edition in 1994. Sydney’s bid was criticized earlier this month by Ian Armstrong, a conservative ptlitician and member of the board of SOCOG, the 2000 Olympics organizing body. Armstrong said he was staggered by a request for US .$700,000 in government funding. "I predicted that this business was just a stunt to allow Sydney’s homosexuals to give their overseas colleagues acheap holiday in the harborcity,"Armstrong said. "And it appears I was right.’" Organizers received about US $50,000 government funding to help win the bid and were promised use of some of the venues to be used at the 2000 Olympics. "The Olympics are for all people, and will be paid for by the community. But why should the New South V~ales commumty have to pay for the Gay Games which by its very name is intended to cater for.only a minority?" Armstrong said. Gillian Minervini, a member of the successful bid team m Denver, said Armstrong’s comments had "empowered" the team. "I think the gay and lesbian commumty in Sydney has a history of enormous strength and those kind of detractors are just not worth listening to anymore," Minervini said. It was the third time Sydney has bid for the Gay Games and the first time the games will be held in the southern hemisphere. Senator Supports .ENDA LAS VEGAS (AP) - Sen. Harry Reid says he is cosponsoring a federal bill on Gay civil rights because it’s fundamentally fair. The bill outlaws hiring, firing or promoting employees based on sexual orientation. Reid told about 180 gay and lesbian business leaders Monday night that sexual orientation should not be a factor in hiring or firing someone. Reid, D-Nev., told the LAMBDA Business and Professional Association that thebill does not promote special ghts. It is not a quota bill or a special treatment bill," Reid said. "It’s just a fundamental call for fairness." Rep. John Ensign, R-Nev., opposes the bill. Retired businessman Bruce James has not taken a position on the bill, known as the Employment Non-Discrimination Act. Ensign and James are seeking the Republican nomination for the 1998 Senate race, while Reid is seeking a third term in the office. Thenon-discrimination act was introduced in Congress m 1994 and has been introduced in every session since. It failed to pass in 1996 by one vote. The bill is the leading piece of legislation sought by the Human Rights Campaign, the largest national political organization for Gays and Lesbians. The campaign is supporting Reid’s re-election effort. Reid told the association he supports the bill because no laws exist to prohibit putting up a sign in a business that says, "Wehire everybody but lesbians." He recalled the days when storefront signs stated"no blacks, Jews or Mexicans." To discriminate in the workplace based on gender, race or religion has since become illegal. Sen. Richard Bryan, D-Nev., is also one of at least 30 co-sponsors. Ensign said he is not convinced Gays are being discriminated against economically. And he said he sees other problems with the bill. "Somebody could say they are gay, and who can say they are not?" he said. Ensign said he thinks people would lie ~to Win lawsuits by claiming they are Gay, just as people lie about being injured k0 win setfle~entsi~ ¯ ¯ " Ensign said as a veterinarian and gaming executive he hired and promoted Gays and Lesbians. "I’ve never discriminated against Gay people," he added. U. of Cal. Gives Benefits LOS ANGELES (AP) - By a one-vote margin, the University of California Board of Regents approved a plan Friday to offer health benefits to domestic partners of its Gay employees, see News, page 14 ,I Young Men Not Being Safe . t BOSTON (AP) - A sex survey criticized for its frank language has fouffd that 59% of the young gay men whoresponded had unprotected sexual intercourse within the last year. T,he sex survey enraged lawmakers such as House Speaker Thomas Finneran who said the questions were filled with profanity. But it confirmed the need for HIV prevention programs for young gay men, said- John Auerbach of the Department of Public Health. "We found it to be very helpful," Auerbach told the Boston Herald. The survey results convinced DPH to divert $300,000 from otherAIDS prevention programs to target young gay men. The survey questioned 250 gay and bisexual men aged 13 to 24. It found that 85 percent of men who have sex with both men and women had unprotected intercourse. Bisexual menwere twice as likely to have unprotected sex than those Who only have sex with men. Those who reported having sex with unfamiliar partners were much more likely to have unprotected intercourse than those who knew their partners before having sex with them, the survey reported. AIDS Action designed and conducted the survey, butitwas analyzed and printedby the DPH for $20,000. Court to Clarify HIV Bias Protections¯ WASHINGTON (AP) - The Supreme ¯ Court said Wednesday it will use a dis- ¯ pute over a dentist who refused to treat an : HIV-infectedwomanat his office to clarify " protections against bias for people with ¯ the AIDS virus. The court said it will hear an appeal by Maine dentist Randon ." Bragdon, who a lower court said violated ¯ the federal Americans With Disabilities ’ Act when he told Sidney Abbott he would ¯ only fill her cavity at a hospital. The 140,000-member American Dental Association supported Bragdon’s appeal in a friend-of-the-court brief that urged thejustices to clarify dentists’ legal obligations in such circumstances. The Gay and Lesbian Advocates and Defenders, which is representing Abbott, said in a statement, "Without strong legal protections against discrimination, the nearly 1 millionAmericans inthis countrywhoare living withHIV will become second-d_ass citizens." Lower courts have split on whether people who are infected with the HIV virus, but do not yet suffer from symptoms of AIDS, are considered disabled under the 1992 anti-bias law. Under the law, someone is disabled if they have a physical or mental impairment that substantially limits "one or more major life activities." Bragdon’ s appeal also argues thatcourts should defer to his professionaljudgment on whether to provide treatment such as filling a cavity in his dental office or at a hospital. Ms. Abbott visited Bragdon’s office in Bangor, Maine, for. an appointment on Sept. 16, 1994. On her patient information form, she indicatedthat she was HIV-positive buthadnoAIDS symptoms. Bragdon examined Ms. Abbott and discovered that she had a cavity near the gum line on a back lower tooth. He told her that, under his infectious-disease policy, he would not fill her cavity in his office. Bragdon told Ms..Abbott he would treat, her in a hospital setting, and she would have to bear the additional costs ~ imposed by the hospital. Two months ¯ later, Ms. Abbott sued. She sought, among ¯ other things, monetary damages..A f_edi eraljudge ruled thatBragdonhad vioIfffed : federal law, and the 1st U.S. Circuit Court : of Appeals agreed. "Ms. Abbott’s HIV- : positive status is a physical impairment ¯ which substantially interferes with her ." major life activity of reproduction, and ¯ sheis therefore disabled within the mean- " ing of the ADA," the appeals court said. It ¯ added that Bragdon did not offer enough ¯¯ evidence to show that it would have been ¯ unsafe to fill Ms. Abbott’s cavity in his office. "Cases of this kind are necessarily : fact-sensitive," the 1st Circuit court said. ¯ "Had the patient required more invasive ¯ treatmentorhad the dentistproffered stron- ¯ ger evidence of a direct threat, the result ¯" may well have differed.’" ¯ Beforemonetary damages couldbe cal- ¯ culated, Bragdon appealed to the nation’s ¯ highest court. His lawyers argued, among ¯ other things, that reproduction should not ¯ be considered amajor life activity compatable to walking, seeing, hearing, speak- " ing, working or caring for one’s self. ¯ AIDS Spread Worse i Than Thought : PARIS (AP) - AIDS has struck the world much harder than previously thought, a U.N. agency said Wednesday in a report showing more than 30 million people are infected - one-third more than earlier estimated. About 16,000 people are infected daily, one in every 100 sexually active adults under age 49 worldwide has HIV and among those infected, only one in 10 knows it, UNAIDS said in the report released in Paris. "The main message of our report is the AIDS epidemic is far from over. In fact, it’s far worse," Peter Piot, director general of UNAIDS, told a news conference. Released ahead of World AIDS Day on-Dec. ¯ 1, the report said that if current rates hold steady, those infected with the immune- " .stripping virus "will soar to 40 million" ¯ by the year 2000. The impact of AIDS deaths, which rose an estimated 50 per- " cent this year, "is only just beginning." ¯. Despite advances in AIDS treatment and falling infection rotes in the West, the : virus is hitting Africa much harder than ; earlier believed, said the "Report on the ¯ Global HIV/AIDS Epidemic." Instead of ¯ relying on regional estimates, "for the : first time, we went country-to-country to ¯ see what was happening," Piot said. "The ¯ : rate oftransmissionwas grossly underes- ¯ fimated, especially mNigeria and South ¯ Africa, he said. Rates are also rising in ¯ Eastern Europe, primarily due tointrave- : nous drug users and lack of AIDS educa- ¯ tion, said the report by Geneva-based ¯ UNAIDS. : The report also called for better educa- ¯ tion, which it said does not encourage ¯ ¯ young people to have sex, as some believe. On the contrary, it said sex educa- ¯" don "helps delay first intercourse" and ¯ reduces teenpregnancy. EvenintheWest, Plot said; "prevention efforts are far in- ; sufficient for youth. I have a daughter at a : lycee here, and what she’s gettingin terms ¯ of sex education is inadequate." ¯ Thereport said some 5.8 million people : have been infected in 1997, and an esti- ¯ mated 5.3 million were infected in 1996, "- up from the count of 3.1 million people ¯ that doctors originally estimated. 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Sifu, Reiki Master ~-832.8105 -- Compo.ssimmte ’3tottsti ,:,PHYSICAL INTEGRATION THERAPY ~,CRYSTAL PATH REIKI ~,REIKI THERAPY ,:,HYPNOTHERAPY *REFLEXOLOGY ~,POLARITY THERAPY ,:,TAI CHI QUAN LESSONS Pride Center Tai Chi Quan Classes Forming! Call if interested in joining this: class¯ Gift Certificates available for all. Services by Request. hhran Af~ca, it said. The epidemic has ,-~st~ck yoUth the hardest, Piot said. "Most of them are under 25 years old." The report estimated that 2.3 million people died of AIDS in 1997 - a 50 percent increase over 1996. Nearly half of those deaths were among women, and 460,000 were among children under 15. AIDS is wiping out gains in life expectancy made in the developing world in recent decades and has orphaned 8.4 million children, the report said. The report paints a devastating picture ofAIDS-ravaged sub-SaharanAfrica, with 7.4 percent of people aged 15 to 49 there thought to be infected: - the number of HIV-infected in Botswana has doubled over the last five years, now reaching 25 percent to 30 percent of the total population. - one in five adults in ~Zimbabwe was HIV-positive in 1996. In one town with a largepopulation ofmigrantworkerS~ seven pregnant women in 10 were HIV-positive in 1995. - 25 percent more infants are dying in Zambia and Zimbabwe because ofAIDS. The disease is expected to push . Zimbabwe’s infant mortality rate up 138 percentby 2010. Ugandais Africars bright .spot, reporting falling infection rates that were credited to education and wider condom use. The report said Asia’s AIDS epidemic is morerecentthanAfrica’s, though India’s 3 million to5million HIV-infectedpeople make it the country with the most HIVinfected in the world, Indicating Asia’s fi.g~res couldjump later, it cautioned that estimates there are made on "less informarion than in other regions." In the world’s most populous nation, China reported up to 200,000 cases and the figure was expected to double this year, it said. Speedier Drug Approval Process WASHINGTON (AP)-President Clinton signed a law Friday giving the Food and ¯ DrugAdministrationnew powers to speed : the approval of drugs to combat a host of : killerdiseases including cancerandAIDS. : Some critics have argued that thelaw will ¯ expose patients to risky medicine for the ~ . benefit Of the makers of experimental : drugs and new devices. But Clinton said,"TheFDA has always ! set the gold standard for protecting the. : public safety," "Today, it wins the gold " medal forleading theway into thefuture," ¯ he said at the bill-signing ceremony in the ¯ Old Executive Office Building next to the " White House. ¯ A hard-fought compromise, the FDA ¯ Modernization Act of 1997 took three ." .years to hammer out. Many of its provi- " sions.have been put into effect adminJs- ¯ ,~,atively throughVicePresidentA1 Gore’s ¯ reinventinggovernment"programs."We . know that for many patients, experimen- " tal treatments represent their best - per- ¯ haps their only - chance for recovery," ¯ Clinton said. "That’s why this bill writes . intolaw current FDA policies that allow " doctors and patients to use new drugs : before they are formally approved." "A1- ¯ ready thousands of AIDS, cancer, and : Alzheimer’ s patients havefoundnewhope : - even new life- with these experimental ¯ therapies," he said. " Clinton said he first became interested : in the issue during his 1992 campaign ¯ when he heard complaints that the FDA ¯ drug approval system was "too slow and : somewhat arbitrary and not giving the " : American people the drug approvals and : the medical-device approval~ in a timely ¯¯ fashion." Clinton allies applauded the new law. ¯ "The challenge now is to implement this ¯ far-reachinglegislationrapidly andeffec- : tively, so that the full benefits of these ¯ changes will be available to patients and ¯ industry as soon as possible," said Sen. : Edward M. Kennedy, D-Mass. ¯ But Dr. Sydney M. Wolfe, director of ¯ Public Citizen’s Health Research Group, : called the new law "the worst attack on _" the Food and Drug Administration’s abil- ¯ ity to protect consumers and patients in 91 ¯ years." "Americans will be exposed to ¯ defective drugs and medical devices that ¯ Europeans with their weaker laws have ¯ been exposed to for a long time," Wolfe ¯ said. He contended thatpolitical contribu- ¯ tions greased the bill’s progress through Congress and added. This bill,s good for : corporate profits and.bad for public health ¯ - period." i Cell Fights HIV ¯ WASHINGTON (AP) - How do some ." patients infected with theAIDS virus sur- ¯ vive for years without treatment and with- : out getting sick? A Boston team of re- : searchers says it may have the answer to a ¯ question that has puz~.led scientists for : years. In a study published in the journal ~ Science, researchers say an analysis of ¯ blood from a robust Boston man infected ." witthHIV for 18 years shows he is pro- ¯. tected by a large number of immune sys- tern cells, called helper T-ceils, that spe- ¯ cifically attack the AIDS virus. ¯ Using:this clue, researchers at the Massachusetts General Hospital went on to ." find that these special helper T-cells may : be the essential difference between being ¯ well while infected with HIV and being ¯ sick with the disease. "Our work provides ." an explanation of why a very small group ¯ of people have been able to avoid getting ¯ sick from this virus even though they _are infected," said Dr. Bruce Walker, the seuior author of the study. Helper T-cells direct the body’s immune system. There is a variety of the ceils, and each type is primed to attack a specific virus .or other invader. As these ceils detect the presence of a target virus, they reproduce by the billions, flooding thebloodstream with defenders. ButHIV, the AIDS virus, has broken down this defense. For reasons not understood, helperT-ceils specificforHIV oftenareat t0w levels in or absent from patients infected with the virus. Experiments at Massachusetts General confirmed that high levels of HIV-specific T-cells may be essential for the body to hold the AIDS virus in cheek. Walker said laboratory tests of blood from HIV patients found that those with the strongest T-cell response to the HIV antigen had the lowest amount of virus in their bloodstream, but those with weak T-cell responses had high virus loads. Thediscovery suggested thebodymight be able to control HIV if helper T-cells that target the virus could somehow be protected. To test this idea, researchers used powerful anti-viral drugs to treat patients recently infected with HIV. Walker said the drugs caused the vires load to drop quickly, and the patients’ immune systems then started producing T-cells that specifically attacked HIV. Walker said the HIV-specific T-cells were not produced in the bodies of patients whohad been infected withHIV for more than six months, see Health, p. 14 by-James Christjohn Bernadette Peters was the Hello, playmates in the amusement park ¯ artistatthelast TulsaPhilharmonicPops of life. Well, since I missed it last month, : concert, and put on a great show. To see Happy Thanksgiving in re~,ospect, and " her perform live is to understand why she Merry Yule. Good, now that s out of the ¯ is a star. You know the moment she sets way. I’vebeenrunningamonthbehindall " foot on the stage that a star is present, her year. ’Bout time I caught up. : charisma is so powerful. Every move- Well, the one person ¯ ment was perfect, every note a gem, and who actually reads this the performance one of colunm-oops, there’stwo . . . ~ceord~l~ to polishandclass.Sheperthat I know of now (Hi Robert Reed, formed many of the se- -Robert!) - anyway, the lections from her new one who lets me know whathe really thinks,pro- Plaillmrmonlc release"LiveatCamegie Hall" and included- the claimed me insane after executive director, patter developed for that reading last month’s ode mue]z dlseusslon at show. Starting off with to all things Uhi~y Uhitty "We’re in the Money" Bang Bang. And Peter’s t]ze prior day’~ and "Pennies from the one who remembers re]zearsal centered on Heaven", during which exactly where he bought _ she walked into the audihis Corgi diecast model w]tet]ter or not to ence and scattered cop- (Marge McNeamey’s at form per confetti all over Utica Square, the "Baby ][mr people, then thanked the Gap" of its day), and how "M~xl~ Love crowd for coming and much it cost at the time Alon~" a ltilt~t-~ou~ told us that shehadheard ($12 in 1968). He also , that Tulsa was famous admits to still having the ode to t~te joys of... for its oil. She then said car somewhere in his at- that she loved the city tic, and to have retained well, mal~in~ love and was only upset that his childhood copy of the alone. A taste[ul and herhotelwasnexttorail- LP soundtrack. Sounds roadtracks.~okingiyMs. like the pot calling the humorous little ditty, Peters said well! guess kettle tome. . . butnomore. Ms. Peters ]~ad no the only .,fixing that mat- I have outgrown last ters is if I m on the fight month’s column, and am small trepidation as side of them!" now into more mature to laow well it would Therestofthefirstsectoys. don of the concert was So we move on to the l~e reeelved, as Tulsa much like the review section, inwhichI lass a reputation for "Sondheim, Etc." get to play "good re- Carnegie Hall concert viewer" and "bad re- not l~eln~ very ae- CD, proceeds of which didn’tViewer’" Waltita minute,theI " ’ o[ anyt]un~, benefit the Gay Men’s mean quite . ceJ~tm~ Health Crisis organizaway it came out. I’m al- i-i-mz_eenter. Imagine. tion. Those of us who ways a good reviewer, recognized an introduc- I’ve seen 2 shows with tiontoacertaininfamous major headliners in the last month, ~ song that began ’¢Hais song has become Fleetwood Mac and Bernadette Peters. : legendary in certain circles" began clap- Those who are even slightly acquainted ¯ ping and hollering and she said "well I with me, or have heard Tom complain in : guess those circles are all here tonight!" his inimitable fashion about my obses- : (See, it’s notjustme that engages insuch sions, know that I am fans of both. Espe- : rowdybehavior!Therewasawbolebunch cially Stevie Nicks. (I’m so jealous that ¯ of us! The bluehairs didn’t know what to she gets.away with capes and I can,t.) : think!) And according to Robert Reed, Anyway, one performance was GREAT : Philharmonic executive director, much and one was woefully disappointing. " discussion at the prior day’s rehearsal Which was which? Stay tuned for de- ¯ centered on whether or not to perform tails... ." "Making Love Alone", a hilarious ode to Don’t miss the University ofTulsa’s : the joys of... well, making love alone. A production of"FALSETTOS". The kids ¯ tasteful and humorous litde ditty, Ms. fought long and hard to get this show : Peters had no small trepidation as to how mounted (don’tgo there)andfinally gotit ." well it would be received, as Tulsa has a going! The show, which won Tonys ga- : reputation for not being very accepting of lore duringits Broadway run, was penned ¯ anything off-center Imagine. Wall, she by James Lapine, author of the book for" : need not have worried, there was a large Into The Woods". The musical is corn- : contingent of fans who knew the song, prised of what were originally 2 one-act " and let out a cheer at the intro. The rest of plays, detailing the changes in a Jewish ¯ the audience wouldn’t have understood it family brought about by the father’s ac- : anyway. I was able to personally thank knowledging he is gay. The first act cen- : her for singing it. ters on the reactions of the family - his : Also included were "Not a Day Goes wife, son, and lover - to the announce- o By , FmthlessLove ,and GlowWorm. ment. The second act follows the family : Almost all the students of the theatre as they deal with the Son’s Bar Mitzvah, : departmentoftheUniversityofTulsawas the ex-spouses dealings with each other, ° at the show, and waited in the cold for the AIDs and the lover who had left but now ¯ chance at an autograph. Ms. Peters didnot is back. TU presents the musical at 8pm ° disappoint, stopping her limo so that she December 4-6 and two matinees at 2pro ~ could give a wave and a greeting to the Dec..6 & 7 in Chapman Theatre on cam- ¯ kids, and even signed autographs. I’m pus m Kendall Hall. A special perfor- : sure her writer’s cramp will fade in time. mance benefiting RAIN will be held at " Pure "class" all the way. 7proon Dec. 3. BETHERE! 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Y READ ALL ABOUT IT reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library Even the most enlightened parent who learns that their childis Gay/Lesbian/Transgendered goes through anemotional andstressful period. Christian or particularly religious parents often have an even more difficult time. Coming Out As Parents is arevised edition of afabulous book written by David Switzer, Professor Emeritus of Pastoral Theology at Perkins School of Theology at Southern Methodist University in Dallas. Switzer examines the standardreactions from mostparents, including denial, guilt and anger. This book will guide disbelieving parents through the maze of emotions, and help themcontinue to have a constructive and posi- "five relationship with their child. Chapters on"WhatWill PeopleThinkT’ and"Where Does the Fault Belong?" confrontthe c0unterproducfive andultimately ummportant feelings that parents may have. Parents who are ashamed or embarrassed by their child may decide to keep seemingly inanswerto eachothers’ prayer. The congregation of Westminster Presbyterian Church had aged and they no longer needed nor could maintain their 1920’s building in Tulsa’s historic Brady Heights district. They were seeking a younger, and as it were, "needy" congregation to take over their building. So on a Saturday in September, the Parish Church of St. Jerome held its annual meeting and decided on a budget to acquire its own space, citing the need for their own "sacred space". The next day, St. Jerome officers connected with Westminster Presbyterian and found that the price for Westminster was exactly the amount to which St. Jerome’s members had committed the day before! Father Rick, waxing both serious and lighter-hearted, noted how important it was for those "who have been turned away [from the Church] or disenfranchised, to have a space to call our own, where we can be completely free." Humorously, he added that it would also be nice to be able to plan HolyWeek services without having to worry about whether there would be a body in the Garden Chapel and be able to carry in the cross without hitting the low ceiling as happened at CommlLnity of Hope. For now, St. Jerome will have all its parishioners’ hands busy just doing repairs and renovations to the 10,000 s.f. main building. But St. Jerome’s also has a 5,000 s.f. auxiliary building which they hope to make available to community ¯ the information about their Gay child to : themselves . Switzer’s observation: ¯ "People feel they must keep shame to : themselves, and yet the sense of isolation of particular interest is the chapter titled "But Doesn’t the Bible Condemn It?". In astoundingly logleal prose, Switzer examines the biblical implications of homosexuality in a completely different light than we commonly get from-television preachers... that is intensified by keeping the secret also further feeds the feelings of Shame. It is a destructive trap." Parents and Friends ofLesbians and Gays (PFLAG) is mentioned as a good resource for confused parents. Of particular interest is the chapter tided "But Doesn’t the Bible Condemn It?". In astoundingly logical prose, Switzer examines the biblical implications of homosexuality in a completely different light than we commonly get from television preachers. If a parent is able to go beyond their emotional reaction to their Gay child, this chapter will bring much comfort and understanding. Any parent of a Gay child, regardless of their religious beliefs, will benefit from this slim volume. It packs invaluable information into just 100 pages. Check it out at your local Tulsa City- County branch library, or call the Readers Services at 596-7966. : non-profits. Also they plan to create a ¯ garden with a columbarium. The latter ¯ would provide a place not only for the ¯ ashes ofmembers Of St. Jeromebut also a : place for beloved pets. Father Rick holds ¯ an annual blessing of the animals on the ¯ Feast Day of St. Francisl At this year’s : blessing, St. Jerome was host not only to ¯ a number of dogs and cats but ~also tO a chicken, aNile lizard (rather "bitey" said : Father Rick). : St. Jerome in addition to having found ¯ a physical home has also found a denomi- : national home in the Evangelical Angli- ¯ can Church in America (EACA). St. ¯¯ Jerome’sVisitor’sGuidenotes thatEvangelical Anglican Church in America dif- ¯ fers little from the Anglican Communion : in matters of church polity, worship or ¯ doctrine. The brochure adds that Chris- : tians from "every Christian tradition are ¯ welcome" and states that all who are bap- _" fized are welcome at the Communion ¯ table. St. Jerome’s welcomes all mere- ¯ bers, regardless of "heritage, culture, fi- ¯ nancial status, sexual orientation, age, ¯ gender, ormarital status" toreceive"ALL ¯ sacraments of the church." This includes ¯ the sacrament ofmarriage and Father Rick ¯ presided over the marriage of Deacon- ." Deb Statues and her spouse. ¯ OnSaturday, December6th, the Church ¯ of St. Jerome will welcome the Right ." Reverend Craig Bettendorf, Bishop ofthe : Evangelical Anglican Churchin America ¯ who will hold a consecration service for ¯ St. Jerome at 7 pm. Also, St. Jerome will ." hold a Christmas Eve Midnight Mass at ¯ 11:30 on Dec. 24. For more information about the services, call 582-3088. Have a Rough Day! 1998 Montero $ 3 1, 8 7 9 cash price, loaded Don Carlton Mitsubishi 46th & S. Memorial 665-6595 MITSUBISHI MOTORS Built For Living." 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Need a Coming Out Support Group? Need to get tested for HIV? Want to get involved and help? Call 743-GAYS (743-4297) Your Community Center the Pride Center 1307 E. 38th at Peoria 2rid floor Lookfor the Rainbow Flag on the roof!~ q~y Jean-Pierre La Grandbouche After a hard day of braving the shopping throngs and cold Oklahoma winter winds, there is nothingmorerelaxing than sitting down by the fireplace at one of Brookside’s older and long-popular cafes, The Grapevine, for a quiet glass of wine andanicemeal."Conveniently nestled at the comer of35th and Peoria, this place is popular not only with the young professional crowd, but those withmoreeclectic tastes, as wall. Some people come just to sit at the crowded, narrow, upstairs bar in this see and-beseenestablishment, while others come for quiet cocktails and hors d’oeuvres. Many come for the full dining experience, and we’ve even been there when wedding receptions have movedin for a lesschaste after-party. Much of the menu has been selected to complement the bar’.s large selection of wines by the bottle and by the glass. Cheese beards ($1.85 to $9.50) are very popular, and nibblers can sample up to a dozen different cheese varieties, served withfreshfruit and crusty sourdough breads. Abaked brie en croute ($8.75) is also available with an original touch of being wmppedin phyllo leaves instead of the traditional puff pastry. Those who can afford the fat grams and calories will love to indulge in the homemade hot artichoke spread ($5.25), and they have a very tasty country-style chicken liver pate ($6.50) served with small American gherkins instead of the usual French comichons. : Zealand orange roughy ($12.50), a sturdy : white fish which is prepared meuniere, ¯ and then sauced with the white wine that : was used to deglaze the pan. Roughy is .’. getting to be cliche in Tulsa, but this is a ¯¯ satisfactorypresentation.Theseafooddish du jour was a Caribbean grilled salmon ¯ ($12.50), which was tantalizingly scented ¯ with the fiery hot Jamaican jerk season- : ings, and finished with a bell pepper and Mack olive butter and garlic in olive oil - The Grapevine 3509 Soutl~ Peoria Olmn: llm - lOpm on Tues. &Wed. 11 am until 11pro Thurs. through Sat. Clmed Sun.& Mon. The imr stays open -as long as ther~ is business, sometimes until 2am Moderately expensive Pavement: All major plastic Smoking: " N0n-smoking and smoking rooms Alcohol: Full Ambiance: Dressy casual Rating: A llst abizarre combination thathad a surprisingly fabulous flavor for those brave enough to em dure the jerk seasonings. Part of the charm of The Grapevine is that, not only do they have finerfoods, they also havegoodold,O~klahoma-style home cookin, ~oo, with a decent chicken fried steak (.$6.75), Dutch oven pot roast ($9.50), and a ham hock and butter bean special ($7.50). The deep-fried catfish fillet is okay, but it’s farm-raised fish, and at $12.25, wecati find less expensive and just as goodfried fish elsewhere. If one likes meatloaves, don’t pass up the Mom’s Dangerously Good Meat Loaf ($7.50), which is a welVflavored individual loaf filled with bits of onion, garlic, carrot, and celery, sliced in rounds, drizzled with a thin brown gravy, and presented on a bed of lumpy, .homemade mashed potatoes. Diners with smaller appetites or smaller pocketbooks will be well fed by The Grapevine’s big selection of hearty sandwiches, ranging in price from $4.25 for a gour-. met greaseburger to $9.75 for a prime rib sandwich. We par- In addition to their usual chicken enchilada soup, there is always a substantial soup dujour, which, on the evening ofour visit, was country ham and broccoli. Cups are $2.50 and bowls, $3.50. They also had two appetizer specials, a grilled chicken pizzaonafoccacia crust ($7.50) and some fascinating Chinese-style "pot stickers" ($6.50), which are little packets or dumplings of pork and-chicken braised and poached, and served in a roasted garlic sesame sauce, accompanied by a little shrimp egg roll. The dinner menu shows a .refreshing creativity and willingness to accommodate both foods-of-the-season and the tastes ofregular customers. One of the old standby favorites is the Grapevine’ S Beef Wellington ($18.50). Now, the traditional boeuf Wellington recipes involve an entire beef tenderloin partially roasted, then encased in arich, truffled, liver pate, all of which is then rolled up in decadent puff pastry dough and baked until golden - certainly an elegant dish for an entire gourmet army! The Grapevine chef has improved upon the theme, also making sure that his kitchen prOductis more suited to the whims ofthe evening’ s patrons, ahd created a mouth-watering individual beef Wellington out of a bacon-wrapped filet mignon, surrounded by a sauteed mushroom duxelles, seasoned with Dijon mustard, and encased in puffpastry. It’s adish with which we’ve never been disappointed. Another popular item is the New ticularly like the ham on German black bread sandwich ($5.00); with cu(umbers and sour cream on excellent black rye bread. Sandwiches usually comejust with banal potato chips, but th~ $2.00 Order of beer-battered French fries is well worth the cost. One of our favorite things about the food here is the attention paid to humble vegetables. During our review meal, we were served a delicious bowl of sliced parsnips which had been sauteed in butter until golden brown, a choice recommended by our surly waiter. Our dinner companion’ s meal had excellently prepared, lightly battered, and sauteed eggplant circles. The vegetable dujour was a bowl of huge, Oklahoma-grown Brussels sprouts. There are always a dozen ormore fresh vegetables available, and worth every penny of the $1.50 extra charge. We also recommend highly the garlicky and rich cheese grits and thecom souffle, both $1.75. If there’ s room for dessert, they have a large selection of typical Tulsa cakes and cheesecakes which are popular, but commercially obtained and, rather boring, since everyone else in townhas them, too. However, there are a couple of items made in-house which are always worthwhile, inclhding various flavors of creme bmlee($3.00), anexcellentcoconutcream pie withfresh, real whippedcream ($2.00), a simple bread pudding ($2.00), and the ever-popular baked fudg~ ($3.00), see Food, page 12 by Lamont Lindstrom TheJapanese like their gaijin (’ foreigners’) to have big noses. I worked for a number ofmonths at auniversity in the far southern Japanese city Kagoshimawhose foreignpopulationmostly consists ofsnubnosed Chinese and Korean immigrants. Only ahandful ofAmericans and Europeans live in that city. Most of these are employed teaching English in local secondary schools. Because of this, unlike Tokyo or Osaka, gaijin are infrequent patrons ofthe city’ s several gay bars. When I dropped in one of these establishments, the bartenders and patrons were invariably polite and curious about how I had come to live in Kagoshima. MyJapanese improved enough to answer the stock set of questions always asked: Whywas I there? What did I do? Was I married? Didn’t I find Kagoshimapeoplefriendlier than other Japanese? Did I like Japanese men (or food, or drink, or housing, or the weather, etc. etc. etc.)? But I always sensed my new barfriends checking out my nose. GayJapanese share our folk belief that big nose equals big penis and I was frequently apologetic that.my nose is of modest dimension. I did very soon learn the phrase anata no chinpo wa okii desuka? (’is your dick big?’). I wasn’ t~telling. Amerika-jin were still scarce enoughin Kagoshima that people wanted to check out rumors ofWestern endowment. I once met a young American wandering the entertainment district. He was handing out flyers for a strip show later that night. He claimed to been enslavedby a crooked Japanese entrepreneur who had brought .him to town to strip at a local dub for Japanese woman hungry to see white naked flesh. This boy looked gay to me. He invited me to a performance but I didn’ t want to get in the way of those eager women. I made friends with Eichiro who was one ofthehandful ofpeopleinKagoshima who spoke English well. Eichirohad taken English courses in New York City and had worked at his uncle’ s Japanese restaurantin Glendale, California. He metan American boyfriend in Hawai’i, and the, two ofthemhad retamaed to Kagoshima to be near Eichiro’ s mother. Back home, he had taken a job as a bartenderin a small place thatcatered to Japan’ s growingnumbers of professional working women. (Young Japanese ~women are fascinated by gays.) I hung out there, too, hungry to talk English. Eichiro was 30 but was obviously going to remain perpetually, terminally cute. I would walk downtown to the bar, drink acouple of glasses of hot shoju (Kagoshima’s infamous sweet potato brandy), and thenleave before 11:00 pm so I could catch abus home. (Kagoshima’ s city council is in cahoots with the taxi companies - public transport stops about 11:00 and drinkers have to fall into taxis when the bars close.) Eichiro and Isoon developed a routine. Each time I was making to leave, he would beg to follow along and check out my chinpoin the darkened stairwdl. "No, : Eichiro, you are married." He was, too.A ¯ lesbian minister had married him and the : American boyfriend on the beach in ¯ Waikiki. ButEichirowouldclaimtobeso : franticfor gaijin chinpo thathe could even : forego the shower he normally had to ¯ have after sex. How soJapanese, Ithought. ¯" Good bartenders always Know how to : make one feel special. ¯ I was lonely for Ameri- My first two weeks in town, nearly every night I. went bar-h~pp. m ¯Herewa. smy ebb?lenSe: could I find a Gay bar? In a eitK of 500,000, so I tlaured, there had t~ be one or two. I hardly spoke any.Japanese ... Worse, my knowledge of the three orthographies that Japanese use was nll so I cans so I called up the boy: friend one day and asked him to lunch. He insisted on eating only at McDonalds, Pizza Hut, Mr: Donut, or Subway- thefourUS chains that have found their way to distant Kagoshima. We met at Subway. I didn’ t like boyfriend much. He whined about Kagoshima and the Japanese. He-did have a mother-of-a-nose, though.- He and Eichiro were planning a return to Los Angeles where they would live by "selling theJapanese antiques that they had accumulated over two years in Kagoshima. Boyfriend left first and Eichiro followed a month behind. I said my goodbyes. But a few weeks later, Eichiro called me at my office. "Eichiro! What on earth are you doing here?" I asked. He had arrived at LAX where US Immigration immediatdy arrested him and threw him back on the next plane for ¯ Japan. He was on the blacklist, having overstayed his previous visaby 18 months. I helped Eichiro fill out the immigration : lottery form that the American Embassy ¯ in Tokyo had sent him as his only chance for a US Visa. It didn’t seem very prom- : ising to me. I left Japan soon afterwards. Six months later, when I returned to the US, l sent a postcard to Kagoshima ad- : dressed to Linda--Eichiro’ s bar name. It : came back marked "unknown." I started calling the 28Japaneserestaurants in Glen- : dale one after the other but gave up, feel- . ing foolish;.after a dozen or so. Eichiro - ¯ where are you? I sure hope you’ ve found your way to the land of the free, the home of the big nose. ¯ although their versionis abitmore on the ¯ half-baked brownie side. ¯ The full bar stocks a lot of domestic wines andafewimports,thoughnotnearly ¯ as many as we would expect from a bar ¯ that holds itself out to be a wine bar. The ¯ prices are reasonable, though, both by the bottle andby the glass, and they occasion- " ally do get in some rare and unusual : vintages. We were quite shocked, how- ¯. ever, when we went in for dinner on the third Thursday of November (the tradi- ¯ tional release date for the new crop of ¯ beaujolais nouveau) and discovered that thebarhadn teven ordered any nouveaus. ¯ We trust that their bar manager will be ¯ severely pelted with used wine corks for : thatfauxpas. ¯ Nonetheless, The Grapevine remains : one of our favorite eateries for a cozy : meal. Best of all, we find it to be a com- ¯. fortable place. And, one needn’t wait for a Brookside shopping day to try it out - ¯ it’ s worth a special trip of its own. 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Saint Aidan’s 4045 No. Cincinnati. 425-7882 The Episcopal Church welcomes You R inhow Business G ild wishes aft the happiest of.holldays and-best w~shes for the New,Year¯ Look for u,peoming events m January. Info./RSVP: 665-5174 POB 4106, Tulsa 7,~159 How To Do It: First 30 words are $10. Each additional word is 25 cents. You may bring additional attention to your ad: Bold Headline - $1 Ad in capital letters -.$1 Ad in bold capital letters - $2 Ad in box - $2 Ad reversed - $3 Tear sheet mailed - $2 Blind Post Office Box - $5 Please type or print your ad. Count the no. of words. (A word is a group of letters or numbers separated by a space.) Send your ad & payment to POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 with your name. address, tel. numbers (for us only). Ads will run in the next issue after received. TFN reserves the right to edit or refuse any ad. No refunds. Tulsa Based, Nationwide Company Needs: Associate Programmer Programmer Programmer!Analyst - Five years experience preferred All positions require Bachelor’s degree in Computer Science Send resumes to: Post Office BOX 1531 Broken Arrow, OK 74013-1531 Looking for Life Mate Tulsa OWMChristian, 40, BriHzl, 5’-3", 2001bs., Stocky. Fun Loving, Outgoing, Sensitive, Passionate, Versitile, Like Country Living, Seeking GWM 30-50 for Life Mate, Write to: Rt.8, Box 796, Tulsa, OK 74126 Sister Pairs Needed for Study of Adult Sisters University professor is looking for volunteers to complete a survey about how thive lives of adult sisters are similar or different. Contact: E. Rothblum, Box 252, John Dewey Hall, University of Vermont, Burlington, VT 05405, 802-656-4156. Director of HIV Programs Tulsa HIV prevention programs,seeks Program Director. Non-profit management and grant-writing experience preferred. Send resumes to TOHR/ HOPE, 1307 E. 38th, 2rid ft. Tulsa, 74105 or fax to 918-712-2440. FUSO - Friends in Unity Social Organization, Inc. FUSO is a community based organization not-for-profit 501(c)3 agency providing services to African- American males + females who are infected with HIV/AIDS inthe Tulsa community. FUSO also helps individuals find other agencies that provide HIV/AIDS services. 582-0438 POB 8542, Tulsa, OK 74101 production "Into the Woods" which she was acastmemberof;"Unexpected Song" from Loyd-Webber’s "Song and Dance" for which she won the Tony in 1985 (and a highlight of the performance for me); several gems like "Faithless Love", given an almost ethereally Celtic rendering; "Glow Worm", which only she could pull off well, and did; and finally, ’Tll Be Seeing You". Mist notes: Her drummer is Cubby O’Brien - yes, the original Mouseketeer, for those that recall the Mickey Mouse Club of the ’50’s. Her conductor is Marvin Laird, who wrote the musical "Rut[fiess" and is collaborating with Speilberg on a new animated film. She was poured, and I do meanpoured, into areddress withredhigh heelsl Thedress was simple, not glitzy, but did maintain a glamourous effect, while being .easy to travel with - no ironing, no muss, no fuss. When she left, she was in a black pantsuit and coat. And boy, is she pale! And tiny. I have been consistently amazed that most of the female. stars I have seen perform are incredibly tiny. Yet while on stage, they seem larger than life. So I would have been a star had I been born an incredibly small, very pale woman. Well, it seems logical to me. L;vlng Arts of Tulsa presents the Gay & Lesbian Issues Series, a month of ereatlve events. The "Love Makes A Family" exhibit runs through Dee. 14, sponsored in part by PFLAG... Dee. 19 brings us the alternative video evenlng, featuring "Tongues Untied", "Jddy: An hon" about la dlva Foster, and "Glennda &, Camille do Downtown", a moe~umentary about Camille Paglia and a cross-dresser... The orchestra was in excellent fornl, ] and the classical selections were-all tied -: together by a "water" theme by the new conductor Kenneth Jean. Introduced as a guess what the tie of the music to the theme is, some pieces were obvious, such as "Blue Danube Waltz". Others less so; "’Pomp and Circumstance" - Watergate; one piece from an opera .set in Venice, Italy, performed by the characters in a gondola, which floats on the.., you get the idea. Jean is fun to watch, looking at times like a mad scientist who’s just gotten the monster to move, or a sidekickto Disney’s Quasimodo in "Hunchback of Notre Dame". During Ms. Peter’s concert, the orchestra members even got to show off their singing voices. It’s not too late to catch Philbrook Museum’s "Festival of Trees: A Century of Holiday Traditions", which runs through Dec. 7. All kinds ofYule goodies are on display. And, through January 11, you can take someone special there to "look at etchings" during the "British Etching Revival" exhibition. On to Fleetwood Mac. Basically, for those that couldn’t afford lawn seats at $50.00 and who have the Dance video - you’re not missing a thing. The FM that playedin Dallas was abunch oftired folks who did reasonable justice to the songs, but were dearly there to get the money and go home. Every word of the betweensong patter was from "The Dance", all by rote, word for word. Fortunately, l got ’ press tickets, so I didn’t feel ripped off. But I would have hated to.have paid the $80 bucks for seats that were worth $20 at the most. Lindsey Buckingham was terribly off key throughout the show, and : making obnoxious gestures behind Stevie ¯ Nicks’ back while she was speaking some ¯¯ of her by-the-book patter between songs. She tried to play off the alleged ¯ "Buckingham-Nicks" tension by singing ," to him at many points during her lover’s- , revenge ballads, but he mostly ignored [ her. Christine looked bored throughout ¯ the evening, watching the audience & singing along off-talc during main verses when the others were singing their songs. John was, wall, John, and Mick was the only one who seemed to be enjoying himself. I made a 5 hour trip to get to the show, and I am still wondering if it was.worth it. -And I’m adiehard Stevie fan! Withke.ychains the cheapest souvemr at $10, the reason for the tour was made quite clear. Stevie’s tax bill, Mick’s constant bankruptcies, and Christine’s restoration of an English manor house - and John’s yachts - are the reason behind the reunion. Stevie did sound bet: ter than ever, so that was what made the trip worthwhileforme. Hersongs were the best Of the bunch. Too bad Nicks wasn’t on a solo tour. Maybe next year. Plans are in the works for a new solo album and a box set. The box set is rumored to be out early next year. Living Arts of Tulsa presents the Gay & Lesbian Issues Series, a month of creative events The "Love Makes A Family" exhibit runs through Dec. 14, sponsored in part by P-FLAG, with Rainbow Business Guild and the Pride Center, withaperformanceworkshop Dec. 6 &7 for Gays and Lesbians who’dlike to perform but don’t know where to start. Dec. 12 is Performance Night, giving honor to those artists who are Gay and Lesbian. Dec. 19 brings us the~ alternative video evening, featuring ’’Tongues Untied", "Jody: An Icon" about la diva Foster, and "Glennda & Camille do Downtown", a mockumentary about Camille Paghaandacross-dresser walking through downtown New York and the adventure they encounter. $5, $3 students and members. No, not that kind. Of the organization, silly! All of these events take place at Living Artspace (hmmm - an offshoot of "Living Island", where H.R. Pufnstuf is mayor? Gives me an idea for my next column. Oh, Peter...), at 19 E. Brady. For more info, call 585-1234. Heller Theatre is holding Improvisation classes on Thursday evenings from 6pro. Participants perform in their "Laughing Matter Improv" shows. An advance workshop is scheduled Jan 10, 1-4pro. Free to Laughing Matter participants, $10 otherwise. Laughing Matter Improv per- .formances are $4, and the next evening of ~mprov will be Jan 9. Heller presents "Lonely Planet" : Dec. 4-6 & 11-13, a drama dealing with two men and their lives and loneliness. For ticket info, call 746-5065. AndBroken Arrow Community Theatre is presenting the musical comedy "Once Upon A Mattress", another of my childhood favorites. I remember seeing Carol Burnett in the televised version. The show runs Dec. 5 - 14. For reservations, call 258-0077. which documents Holocaust survivor stories. Kossiusky went back to Poland after thewar, workedas an economist andlived a secret life as a gay man. Kossinsky wrote an award-winning book about his affair with the soldier in 1991. A group in Vermont that teaches high school students about the Holocaust is making a moviebased on the book., which is tiffed "Damned Strong Love." "It’s an extremely compelling love story thathappens to be about gay men," filmmaker William Stetson, president of the Vermont Film Commission, told the Globe. In Nazi Germany, homosexuality was punishablebyup to 10yearsinprison,and love letters could be considered evidence. Homosexuality among German police officers was punishable by death. Kossinksy read theletter to the Harvard students, part ofwhichread: "I pray every day that you will come back Safe. I’mjust true to you and will remain so for my whole life." As far as comparing the issue with omissions of the race riot: ’qqaat is unfortunate anditis absurd," Goble said. "I can assure members of this group that if 35 square blocks of Gay-owned housing had been burned and as many as 1,000 Gay and lesbian people had been murdered, that that event would have been very much a part of the public record and very much a part ofthis history." ACentennial committee commissioned Goble to write thebook. Paula Hale, coordinator of the City’s yearlong Centennial celebration, said the boo.k was funded through private funds and pre-release sales. Editor note: while the Centennial boak was privately funded, the Centennial office and co-ordinator, Paula Hale, who helped to coordinate the book are paid throughpublicfunds, directly subsidized by the Mayor’s office. The statement TOHR sent to the Centennial committee as well as to local news media is reproduced below. Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights : (TOHR),at 17years o!d Oklahoma’s old- ¯ est n0n-religious Lesbian and Gay orga- -" uization, is formally protesting the new Tulsa Centennial book, ’q~ulsa! Biography oftheAmerican City"for its failure to. ¯ acknowledge any contribution, or. even the existence of Lesbians and Gay men in Tulsa’s 100 year history. Author, and Rogers University profes- ¯ sot, Danny Goble was asked by TOHR " prior to beginning the book to be both fair " and accurate by having at least a brief mention of the eMstence of Lesbian and ¯ Gay contributions, organizations, or is- " sues¯ Goble was told of the nationally " groundbreaking report doneby the City of ¯ Tulsa i~ ~.ei~m~_’dt:!le:. 70’s on anti-Gay..~ ," discrimi~ff0~. Jk~ thai time, ouly a hand-i’~ : ful of Am",ericau,Citie~were even consid- : efing thi~.:sort’~i~g~,T,OHRgaye Goble ¯ the nam~S~~b6~.~..~s of TulSanS : who were p~~bf:~ffiS~’i t~ er~te~ atrendsetting non-discrimination policy. Despite Goble’s published intention to write a history that would be inclusive of " Tulsans whosehistory oncehad been sup- " pressed, his deliberate exclusion of Les- ¯ bian and Gay issues.makes his sections on Civil rights and diversity incomplete and " inaccurate. . : Since this is the offiCial commemora- ¯ tive book for this city, and because the -" Centennial office and Centennial Co- " ordinator Paula Hale are paid with public ¯ dollars throughthe Mayor’s office, Tulsa’s -" Lesbian and Gay taxpayers have the right ~ to be outraged by our exclusion. And ." Centennial Committee members and the ¯ bookCommitteemembers are to be chided ¯" for their efforts to defend Goble’s biased ¯ product with claims that the only other ¯ alternative would have been an encyclo- ¯¯ pedia thousands of pages long. Fairness would only have required a paragraph or ¯ two. ¯ ’cliffs suggests that there is a window of : time during the acute phase of infection ¯ when anti-viral treatment can rescue the ¯ helper T-cell response to HIV;" Walker : said. If treatment is delayed, he said, that ¯ natural protection may be lost forever. ¯ Dr. DavidH. Schwartz, aJohas Hopkins ¯ University AIDS researcher, said the Massachusetts General finding confirms ." work performed earlier at Hopkins. He ¯ said there may be immune system ele- ¯ merits other than the helper T-cells, how’- : ever, that are responsible for suppressing ¯" HIV infection in the rare patients who ¯ never get sick from the virus. In any case, ¯ Schwartz said, the new research empha- ¯ sizes the importance of early and aggressive anti-viral treatment against HIV. : Virus to Fight Virus ¯ WASHINGTON (AP) - It may take a ¯ virus to kill a virus, say researchers who ¯. have made a biological weapon that seeks ¯ out cells infected with HIV. In laboratory experiments at the University of Pennsyl- ¯ vania Medical Center, scientists ha~,e ¯ shown that a harmless virus coated with s.pecial.proteins will search out cells in- " fectedwith HIV and then lock onto the : cell surfaces. ¯ Dr. James A. Hoxie, senior author of ¯ he study in the journal Science, said t ¯ at the hunter virus could be loaded with a : iological weapon that would attack HIV ¯ nside infected cells and, thus, contr ¯ 1 the AIDs virus. HoMe said the technique : takes advantage of the fact that HIV carries molecules that it uses to link up with receptors, or receiving molecules, on the surface of cells that it invadesS When the HIV molecule connects with the receptor, it acts like a key in alock, opening the cell surface to allow the virus to enter. A prime receptor used by HIV is called CD4. This receptor is present on immune system blood cells that are the primary targets of HIV. HIV also requires the use of at least one of two other receptors. A receptor called CCR5 is used by HIV early in the disease to infect macrophages, a type ofimmune system blood cell. : This means,that the hunter virus is rather : like a biological "smart bomb" that seeks ¯ oat÷specific targets, ignoring the rest. ¯ The technique is still in an early stage of : study and will require extensive develop- . ment before it can be tested on patients. ¯ But Hoxie said that it may be possible to ." use the hunting virus to deliver toxins or ¯ attacking genes to the cells where there is ¯ HIV. Once it is locked onto the target, ¯ then the hunting virus would release its ¯ - w.eapon into the infected cell, killing the .- v~rns or preventing it from reproducing. More HIV Drugs ¯ NEW YORK (AP) - Drug makers are ¯ working on an unprecedented array of ¯ new mediCines to combat theAIDS virus, : enough to triple the number of drugs and ¯ vaccines on the market today, according ¯ to a recent survey. Drug companies are testing 124 new treatments on patients, : according to the survey by the Pharma- ¯ ceutieal Research Manufacturers of ¯" America. The Food and Drug Adminis: trationhas approved 50 AIDS-related .’. drugs, including eight this year. ~ With the first-ever drop in the number ¯ ofnew cases last yearin the United States, ~ drug makers have come a long way since ¯ the first drug, Glaxo Wellcome’s AZT, ." was approved in 1987, said Dr. John ¯ Siegfried, the industry group’s head of ¯ medical affairs. "Here we are ten years ¯ later, just a decade, andnow there are 50 : drugs either for the disease or for associ- ¯ ated conditions," he said. ¯ The treatments under development in- " elude: ¯" - 40 anti-viral mediCines and protease ¯ inhibitors, whichhave proven effective in reduCing.the amount of the virus in some ¯ patients.. - 23 drugs to fight AIDS-related cancers, such as Kaposi’s sarcoma. - 11 anti-invective medicines to fight ¯ opporttmisdc diseases, including a type ¯ o~’-.pneumouia that afflicts 8 out of 10 ¯ pataents. ¯ - 5 gene therapies designed to genetically : alter patients’ cells to make them more ¯ resistant. : - 12 vaccines, including the first DNA- ¯ based preventive vacCines. ¯ The National Centers for Disease Con- ¯ trol and Prevention said the drop in AIDS ¯ deaths and new diagnoses last year shows : that powerful new drugs seem to be slow- " ing down the virus. In 1996, an estimated 56,730 people ¯ were diagnosed with AIDS in the United ¯ States, down 6 percent from the 60,620 ¯ new cases in 1995, according to the CDC. ¯ ¯ AIDS deaths also dropped 23 percent, from an estimated 50,140 in 1995 to about ¯ 38,780 in 1996. About 235,470 people ¯ wereliving withAIDS in 1996¯ The CDC ¯ said powerful drugs such as protease in- " hibitors are apparently preventing ~HIV tackle oppommistic infections and other related problems. Doctors who treat AIDS patients have eagerly called for more drugs since mutations in the virus can reduce the effectiveness of drugs. New drugs are being approved more quickly, in part due to an FDA.programthatuses contributions from drug makers to hire more offiCials to review drugs. The plan was approved 13-12, with one abstention, after Republican Gov. Pete Wilson made two llth-hour regent appointments, provoking charges he was trying to "stack" the board. Both appointees voted against the plan. "I was very relieved, ecstatic," said Jonathan Winters, a UC Berkeley employee and member of the UC Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Association. The vote came 16 years after a gay UC employee first asked the university to provide health coverage for his partner. He was turned down. Under the plan, domestic partners must be at least 18, the couple has to have lived together for at least a year, be in a "long-term relationship of infinite duration," and provide documents showing mutual home ownership or leasel common bank accounts or investments, among other requirements. The plan applies to 130,000 employees on the UC system’s nine campuses. UC has estimated it could cost an .extra $1.5 million to $5 million a year- a very small percentage of the health care costs for the UC system. Opponents, including Wilson, said extending the benefits would be "devaluing mamage." Supporters counteredit was an issue of equality and that without the plan, UC~s ability to recruit and retain quality professors would suffer because .comparable institutions already offer such benefits. ¯ Partners Housing at U. of Washington ¯ SEATTLE(AP) -Beginuing next month, ¯ same-sex couples who register as domes- ; tic parmers can apply for subsidized mar- . ried and family housing at the University of Washington. The UW Board of Regents voted unanimously and with little commentto allow gay andlesbian couples ¯ to live in married student housing. "We had really mad~ clear our intentions early ¯ on,"regentCindyZehndersaid.Themove ¯ comes after the board in May extended undergraduate health insurance to same¯ sex partners. Five couples have signed up for that benefit so far. Bothmoves havebeen opposed by some ¯ state lawmakers. "They shouldn’t be setinfection from progressing to full-blown ¯ ting policy in the face of the values of the Another receptor, called CXCR4, is used ." 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The altered virns was then exposed in tile.lab0ratory tO HIV-infe~ted ~lls:, HoMe said that the hunter virus coated with CD4 and CCR5 locked onto macrophages that were infected with HIV. When coated with CD4 and CXCR4, the hunter virus sought out and locked onto T-cells infected with HIV. In both cases, he said, the hunter virus ignored normaJ cells that were not infected with HIV. ¯ ¯ an ’A’ for advan’ceS~in the sCience and an : . - . . ’F..................................~""~" .........the regents exceeded their authonty :: - ¯ ~. ~ ¯ - ,.- ;-,-- :- ~_,~,-~,~....~ ,,.: , UW: offic~alshave~smdth~¢state attor-: ¯ Langam, execuuve a~rector ot At~ Ac: ¯ ne eneral’s office .... -; -, : tion in Washington. "We do owe them a ." y ~ , .,: ..na.,s.,a.~ete~ruunco me ¯ errant debt of crr.fit~,tl~ fat th,~ arlv~.,-,~ : regents can (lecloe ellgiOlnty IOr campus ¯ they’ve made in the fight against HIV and ¯ housing. 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I’m a 25 year old, Whi~e female, 5’6,1701bs, with sho~ ~~) am.a~!~o ~o back to school to get a~a~ner. ~ou should be belween 25 and 35, and fun Io,,ing. fl’ulso) ~i~i~k,se~_. an~ing,~., m!n~, Single, ~ female, ",’I to 38, for a possi~e live in relaliomhip. I’m especiaIIi; inI~’esled in a .,:,iOn.Red ~ir and Igue eye., who’s a casual move, m~s, arid~II’ulsol To record your FREE Personal ad Call: 1-800-546-MENN (We’ll print it here) This sub-culture has had its own meeting places, churches, traditions, language and yes, history. Your unfamiliarity or prejudices should not have limited your inquiries. It is true that ithas been part hidden because of severe and systematic legal persecution. In fact, there isa Tulsan you could have interviewed who was imprisoned in the 60’s in a mental institution for the "sickness" of being a Gay teenager. While imprisoned, hewas tortured withelectro, shock"therapy". Healso witnesseda young Lesbi,~,. being raped so that she would be turned heterosexual." In Tulsa, in the 60’s, 70’s andinto the 80rs & 90’s, people have been fired jnstforbeingidentifiedas Gay. Tulsa police made, and continue to make, harassment and entrapment of Gay mena regularpart of their work, even perjuring themselves whennecessary. "Goble said he could not include all groups in the nearly 300-page book. Asfar as comparing the issue with omissions ofthe race riot: "That is unfortunateandit is absurd, ’ Goble said. ’I can assure members of this group that if35square blocks ofgayowned housing hadbeen burned and as many as 1,000 gay and lesbian people had been murdered, that that event would have been very much a part of the public record and very much apart of this histo~.. ’ " This comment is particularly idiotic but to try to give you the benefit of the doubt, perhaps the AP reporter failed to aecurateiy convey the point we were making. Or perhaps you deliberately.responded in such a way to make us look as though we were making the comparison which you accurately characterized as absurd. We never suggested that Tulsa’s Gay history was comparable to the "Race.Riot." The pointwe were making is that that event was suppressed .thoroughly for many, many years because it was considered "embarrassing" to "mainstreamTulsa"- that was, of course, when "mainstream Tulsa" did not treat Blacks as equal human beings. Our pointis since Lesbian and Gay Tulsans now occupy a position slightly similar to that which Black Tulsans once held, we find that our experience andcontributions arerendered invisible or marginalized just like theirs were. It is the process that is similar, not the specific, eventg. The "mainstream" culture censors that which it finds objectionable or embarrassing or uncomfortable. In the final assessment, Mr. Goble, with the inaccuracy and omissions of the Centennial book, you not ouly rob Lesbian and Gay Tulsans of the dignity and respectwhich we deserve as members of this community,-you also rob all Tulsans of part of our history. No doubt, 10 or 20 years later, more progressive scholars will look back and see you much like .the racist scholars of some decades back, and in both cases will say how could you ignore what really happened? If you are interested in educating yourself, we are at your disposal~ Pleasegive these matters serious consideration. Thank you. - the board ofdirectors TulsaOklahomansforHumanRights www.movo.corn Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1997] Tulsa Family News, December 1997; Volume 4, Issue 12b Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. 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