17 20 639 https://www.history-okeq-org-red5.dev.unicomm.me/files/original/c90f27d4b6e95f7b79d28bb976552304.jpg 341d1e1a29f683101dceb370494a57c6 https://www.history-okeq-org-red5.dev.unicomm.me/files/original/40285d748a66438438c192880e1dd7b3.pdf b3bae334f6ad53c1e5789b32bcdebb5d Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Sapulpa Teen Flees Bias SAPULPA, Okl~ (AP) -The 17-year-old son ofa local school board member has faced threats and harassment because of his sexual orientation, but the boy’s father said his other children will remain in the suburban district. Will .Allen, a junior at Sapulpa High School, will attendTulsaW~hingtonHigh School whenthefall semester begins Aug. 12. The family requested the transfer in February, his father, Sam Allen, said. Allen said Will has been vexed and tormented by his ~.2assmates for the past two years because of his sexual Orientation. ;The Allen family appeared recently on NBC’s "The Today Show"; and Will encouraged other young Gay men and women to confide in people with whomtheyfeltcomfortable. ’Tvehadmany Gayfriends who have been kicked out of their homes, treated very poorly - physical abuse," he said. "The first thing you should do .is find somebody, maybe,not your parents, who you know and feel positive that ~hey can give you the support that you need." Will was inMichigan atamusic academy andwas not available for comment. Sapulpa school officials issued a news release that ! US House Votes t.o Limit City’s !Partner Benef,ts to Gays : WASHINGTON (AP) -Despite charges of bigotry and interfer- ~ ence in local government, the House in July voted to prohibit the : s.pe.nding .of fed.eral, money o.n programs implementing a civil : rights o_r.dinzncem.S.an Francasco. The measure, offered by Rep. o Frank Ri.g.gs, .R.-Calif., was approved 214-212 as an amendment : to a sPe~.ding bill forhous..rag, veterans programs, environmental ¯ protecaon, space and funding for the arts. : Supporters said they hoped to get the provision removed ¯ during negotiations to reconcile the House bill with a yet-to-be " approved Senate version. The Riggs amendment prohibits any ¯ money in the $94 billion spending bill to be used to implement a San Francisco ordinance that requires employers doing bus|- ¯ ness withthecity toprovidehealthandotherbeuefits to same-sex ¯ partners. "We should not force or coerce (private business) to ¯ adopt policies they t-rod morally objectionable," Riggs argued in ¯ a heated debate. ¯ Rep. Patrick K.,e~n,edy, D-R.I., called it a "mean-spirited, bigoted amendment’ and other opponents said it was an assault ¯ onlocalautonomy."Italtacks homernleinevery city in America," ¯ declared Rep. Dennis KucinidL D-Ohio, a former mayor of : Cleveland. "It’s a move back to the days of witch hunting, back ¯ to the days oftellingpeople what they should and should not do," ¯ complained Rep. Danny Davis, D-Ill. He said the amendment ¯ threatens programs in San Francisco that help the homeless and ¯ thetreatment ofAIDS patients as well as scores ofotherprograms : that rdy in part on federal support. ¯ Rep. Nancy Pelts|, D-Calif., said the city negotiated with ~" Catholic Charities, which had balked at the ordinance, and ¯ reached an accommodation, and compromises were expected to be worked out with other businesses. "I don’t know why Mr. ¯ Riggs wants to create a war," she said in strong opposition to the ¯ measure. Pelts|,whorepresents SanFrancisco, called theamend- " ment an affront to home rule and Said "the city of San Francisco ’~ is not forcing anyone to act against their principles?’ ¯ More than adozen lawmakersspoke emotionally against the .: amendment, . see Attack, p. 3 ¯¯ Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations stated the district"does not condoneor tolerate harass- ~. ment of students foranyreason)’"We have comprehen- Surgeon .G,:e=,. neral Compares sive board policies_’m,,P!ace on sexual harassment and a ~’. I~I~l I~|nI~’~~|1 #11 l~-"m-L a.__. I~-~-- -~ -- ....... ~i~y ~Dt~d, 16b.ai aiad national president~tf~~ ~by-~a~’M~kla¢ " - " ~ Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, arranged for the television appearance. Will’s situation is cotfimon for homosexual teen-agers, Ms. McDonald said. "Some (schools) are doing a great job, and some are sticking their heads in the sand," she said. "We’re just beginning to work with Tulsa-area schools." Allen said he had no complaints about the Sapulpa district and said his two other children will continue to attend Sapulpa schools. He also has no plans to step down from the school board. ’‘The community support has been wonderful," he said. : WASHINGTON (AP) - Recalling his childhood in the segre- ¯ gated South, Surgeon General David Satcher compared the fight : against AIDS, which is hitting the Black community hard, to the -’: struggle for civil rights. Speaking to one of nation’s oldest civil .: rights groups, he called on Black leaders to reject stereotypes ¯ around AIDS, overcome shyness about sex and confront the [ issue. ’‘This is anareawhere weagain need to mobilize," Satcher, ." who is Black and grew up in Alabama, told the Southern Chris- : tian Leadership Conference in a speech Tuesday. ’Tm talking to ¯ you about you." While Blacks make up 13% of the U.S. population, they ¯ account for 57% of the new infectious, according to the federal Family of Faith to Present : CentersforDiseaseControlandPrevention.Amongsomegroups, ¯ the statistics are even more striking: Blacks and Hispanics make Noted Christian Singer TULSA -Marsha Stevens, composer of For Those Tears I Died (Come to the Water), will perform a free concert at Family of Faith Metropolitan Commlmity Church on Saturday, Sept.. 5th at 7:30 at 5451e South Mingo as wall as at Family of Faith’s regular Sunday evemng service on Sept. 6th at 5pm. Stevens’ song, For Those Tears... has become a standard of evangelical Christian hymnals since 1972 even though the songwriter experienced rejection and scorn from part of the church since she came out as a Lesbian. Active in the Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches (UFMCC), Stevens performs over 150 concerts a year and has recorded six solo albums and a concert video on her independent BALM (Born Again Lesbian Music) labd. She now ministers with the SW UFMCC district. Info: 622-1441. P. 2/3 P. 4 p. 6~ P.8 P. 9 P. 10 P. 11 P.:I2 P. 14 " : up 82% of HIV-positive women ages 13 to 24. Andlife-prolong- " ing AIDS drugs are helping whites more than Blacks. In 1996, ¯ deaths among whites with AIDS were down 28%; for Blacks, it ¯ was just 10%. ¯ The Southern Christian Leadership Conference’s new presi- ¯ dent, Martin Luther King III, underscored the difficulty ofAIDS ¯ education, saying he is not comfortable promoting use of con- " doms. "The only way is abstinence," he said in an interview after ¯ Satcher’s speech. "Sex should not be something that we just : casually engage in and take lightly." The solution, King said, is ¯ restoring fundamental values to society. He said AIDS is an ¯ important issue, although it is not among his top priorities. Satcherdid notrecommendany particularprevendon strategy. " But he and other public health experts agree that use of condoms" ¯ is essential to halt the spread of HIV among people who are not : likely to abstain from sex. The surgeon general will hammer the ~ AIDS message in upcoming speeches to Black journalists and ¯ doctors, and he plans to reach out to other groups such as Black ¯ fraternities, sororities and newspapers. ¯ But his speech to church leaders was particularly important. ¯ Churches play a central role in many Black communities, and ¯ ministers are,often among the most prominent community lead- ,: ers. But church leaders have been reluctant to talk about AIDS ¯ because it relates so closely to sex and homosexuality, Satcher ¯ says. The issue is also thorny because of its relationship to drug ¯ use, amajorprobleminside the Blackcommunity withits ownset ¯ of taboos, see Surgeon,p.ll DIRECTORY/LETrERS US & WORLD NEWS HEALTH NEWS ENTERTAINMENT NOTES COMMUNITY CALENDAR BOOK REVIEW DO-IT-YOURSELF DYKE PSYCHE CLASSIFIEDS + WEERWOLF Update AMSTERDAM, Netherlands (AP) - From skimpily clad revelers to Bible-toting evangelists, the Gay Games are drawing an eclecdc crowd for weeklong festivities ce,!ebrating Gay pride and culture. With the,,theme Friendship Through Culture and Sports, the quadrennial Olympics-style sports festival begins Saturday, offering competitors everythingfrom ballroom dancing to wrestling and more cerebral pastimes such as bridge and chess. This is the first time the Gay Games are being held in Europe since they beganin San Francisco in 1982. New York City was the site ¯ of the last Games ¯ in 1994; Sydney, ¯ site of the Summer Olympics in 2000, ¯ will have the first ¯ Tulsan CliffBaileyis compet- southern hem|- ¯ ing in this year’s Gay Games .sphere Gay Games ¯ in Amsterdam, accompanied in 2002. ¯ by his spouse Chris Ritthaler. The opening night’s ceremony ¯ will feature the Israeli transsexual pop star Dana ¯ International, who gained fame- and notoriety-in ¯ May after winning the 25-nation Eurovision song ¯ contest and incensing Orthodox Jewish leaders at ¯ home. ¯ Some 30 competition sports will be available at ¯ these games, which run through Aug. 8. But with- " out top-level athletes, they threatened to be eclipsed ¯ by the many parties outside the stadium. ¯ Amsterdam is renowned for its tolerance and its ¯ lively Gay community, so these games are almost ~:. inconspi~ug~s, ap.ar~ [rg~ so,me posters and a few ~ more same:~e~couples than USUal-:strolling arm-in- ¯ arm a!Orig the canals. With up to 14,000 participants and 200,000 visi- ¯ tors in town, the Dutch capital is about to be ¯ transformed into the ultimate Gay hangout with ¯ enough temptations to satisfy even the most vigor- . ous partygoer. There are transvestite shows and ¯ drag queen contests. For the more athletic, there’s ¯ even oil wrestling. One top attraction officially has nothing to do ¯ with the Gay Games: Saturday’s yearly canal pa- : rade of decorated boats. Games organizers prom- - ised a flotilla of Gays and Lesbians on the city’s ¯ famous medieval waterways. But not everyone ¯ will be party-hopping. For the straight-laced and intellect’ual types-; there are plenty of alternatives, including art exhibits, symposiums on Gay and ¯ Lesbian issues, and cooking shows. ¯ Participants might get a dose of religion. Up to ¯ 100 representatives from the international evange- ¯ lism group Youth With a Mission plan to stage [ C.hristian-themed street dramas and pray with par- ¯ Uopants. "God wants to care for people whether ¯ they are homosexuals or heterosexuals," YWAM ¯ spokeswoman Nelleke Bosshardt said. Sigrid Johannisse of the Netherlands, who will ". be competing in the badminton competition, said ¯ she’s searching for fun and friendship. Even so, she ¯ hopes the Gay Games one day will disappear as Gays become more accepted. ¯ Although heterosexuals are welcome to com- " pete, few do, triggering criticism within the Gay ¯ community that the games createneedless segrega- ¯ don. "! hate all the separation," said Johmmisse, a ¯ 33-year-old art historian. "in sports, there isn’t so ¯ much integration.., it was just easier to play with ¯ Gay people." ¯ Eddy Feenstra has a more carefree attitude as he ¯ prepares to compete in ballroom and Latin Ameri- ¯ can dancing with partner Tonny Aliens. Girding ¯ for victory, Feenstra says "I am doing it for the ¯ fun," he said. "I would also like to show off what I ¯ am good at." 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Keep Up the Good Work Thanks for your paper. It is a welcome relief from the crosstown neo-fascist infotainment weekly, i particularly enjoyed last issue’s cover story about SenatorNickles, presumably the selfsame Senator once knownfor closeting himself with a reputedly Gay [Oklahoma] . fellow politico, but who now wishes to protect the Luxembourgians from the possibility of an "immoral" ambassador. From what I understand, the Luxembourgians aremuch less concerned with the comings and goings .in an ambassador’s, boudoir than is Sen. Nickles. As a politically leftist straight older male, I naturally fmd common cause with the Gay community: when the good Senator and the Right good Rev. Phelps get finished with the queers, they’ll be after me next. I applaud your efforts to establish dialogue with straightminority groups who have themselves been the targets of bigotry an discrimination. Ifwelearnnothing more from History, at least we should know that solidarity is the only hope for the oppressed, and perhaps the best defense from the excessively repressed. This town needs a paper that gives voice to all those outside the power elite, performing the traditional role of the Fourth Estate: to hold our governments accountable for their actions, and to protect the liberties of the individual. Keep up the good work. - Keith Bolton, Tulsa : A Letter from RAIN Oklahoma ," Thank you for providing me with providing me with a way to address some questions and concerns I’m aware of re- "¯ garding a policy for volunteers that RAIN’ s Board of Directors approved and ¯ that RAIN Staff are now charged with, ’ implementing. The policy in question is ". in regard to criminal history reports now ¯ being performed (with the volunteer’s ¯ permission) for all new volunteers effec¯ tive June 1, 1998 and gradually incorporating such reports on all volunteers by : March 1, 1999. ¯ I ask readers to consider the nature of ¯ ¯ RAINvolunteers’ service topeopleliving with HIV/AIDS [PLWA’s] and those in ; theirhouseholds. Volunteers provide non- ¯ medical,non-technical careto [PLWA’s], "- most often in the RAIN client’s home. ¯ The services vary, depending on the ex- ." pressed needs and the volunteerrs avail- - ability, but can include transportation, ¯ meal preparation, housecleaning, child ; care, pet care, and social outings. Emo- ; tional support is often a Valuable compo- ¯ nent of the relationship between RAIN ¯ Client and volunteer. ¯ RAIN’s Board of Directors and staff ¯ realized that we have a tremendous responsibility to do what we can to ensure ¯ thesafety ofchildrenandvulnembleadults ¯ that volunteers contact: The policy was : not-initiated naively or without regard to ¯ potential negative consequences. In a fo- ¯ cus group with volunteers many months ¯ ago, responses ranged from "against it ¯ -under any circumstance" to "yes, absoi lutely, I support this fully." see RAIN, p.3 : Letters Policy ¯ Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on ¯ issues which we’ve covered or on issues ¯ you think need to be considered. Youmay ¯. request that your name be with/add but ¯ letters mustbe signed&have phone num- " bers, or be hand delivered. 200 word let- . ters are preferred. Letters to other publi- ¯ cations will be printed as is appropriate. Rev, Howard vsthe Evil Steve by Tom Neal, editor & publisher ". Severalyears ago whenUS Congressman Steve Largent " firstranforoffice, this newspapermet withLargent, athis ¯ request, andafterwards I argued, despiteLargent’s record ¯ of bigoted,.anti-Gay comments and his association with " radical extremist religio~political groups, for an initial ¯ policy of tolerance for Herr Largent. I’d hoped that ¯ Largent might just really believe in real Christian and " American values of loving and respecting not only your " neighbor but also the US Constitution. He sure tried to sweet-talk us that way. And to be fair, Steve did agree to a town hall meeting " with Tnlsa’s Lesbian and Gay community - something " none of his predecessors had ever done, certainly not the ¯ Idiot Congressman Inhofe (now US Senator and in competition with Ernest " Istookfor mostembar- " rassing Oklahoman in Washington) but not ¯ even the Democrat, " Jim Jones, who’d held " the seat before. ¯ But obviouslyI was " wrong. Nomatterhow " Largent may want to see himself as just a nice guy, he’s chosen " to promote rdigious " extremism and to surround himself with " folks so bigoted that " they make him look a " littlebit~m,oderate. His ." chief of staff, Terry US Rep. Steve Largent making Allen, thepoliticalex- " those endorsement dollars by tremist calling the " showing offhis son in his Hanes plays for our football ." underware. Yep, Steve andsome hall-of-famer, comes ¯ of those Republicans sure know to mind. Actually " about thosefamily values. Steve’s not moderate ¯ but his staff is openly hate~:.t.o~ir Lesbian aod Gay constituents while Steve .... a~’[d.~t~tu§~ly is polite. " Now Steve et al will argue that their radicalism is just repres.enting the views of the First District (which is more or less Tnlsa county). But as a nearly lifelong Tnlsan (my f,am~ly moved here from Oklahoma City in 1960), I just don t ihink So. Yes, wedo have a sufficiency of Baptists, Methodism, and also those no-name, make-it-up-as-yougo- along~they-claim-they-areChriStians, many ofwhom seem to think that their faith demands that they hate their nexgt~bor as tlaey would be loved. Or.who engage in the profoundly insincere rhetoric of claiming "to love the person and to hate the ’sin’:" Often one wonders if these types on meeting Christ would not reject Him as a "longhairedcommie, pinko-fag." But I don’t believe that these types represent the majority of Tulsans, and regardless, given the values of the Declaration of Independence and our Constitution, ¯ minority civil fights are not supposed to be subject to the tyranny of the majority. And I believe that many Tulsa " Baptists, Methodists, Jews, Muslims, Pagans and non, " believers recognize that once the power of the govern- ¯ merit is used to promote a particular religious agenda, ¯ each tradition could be targeted just as Lesbian mad Gay " citizens are the target du jour. ’ So, it is with some relief to learn that a brave soul, the ’ Reverend Howard Plowman, retired Methodist pastor, has announced his willingness to face the football bully.. According to The Yellow Dog Democrat, the newsletter ¯ of the Oklahoma Democratic Party, Rev. Howard will ¯ challenge the ,hard-core Christian Coalition which has ¯ done a disservice to all political parties..." He adds, "1 " resent them taking a Christian name and pretending-to: ] have no other agenda..." Plowman, 73 years old, with .. kids and grandkids, went to Tulsa Public Schools,TU and " SMU’s Perkins School of Theology. This newspaper certainly agrees that the so-called ¯ Christian Coalition has done a disservice to all Ameri- ¯ cans who believe in real religious freedom and have " respect for America’s rich diversity. And I applaud Rev. " Howard and his spouse and family for being willing to ¯ stand up against the Evil Steve. Tulsa deserves better. ¯ Editor’s note: More information is available about ¯ Plowman ’for Congress by writing to 3617 East 48th " Place, Tulsa, Oklahoma 74.135. ¯ by James Christjohn Greetings! Welcome to a new occasional colunm, one that I hope you will fred interesting. The focus is to comment on the world around us with the perspective of being a Gay man in a diverse world. Topics will have a wide range, from frivolity to high drama to serious issues that affect us all. In this exploration, the question will always be: What exactly is a Gay lifestyle? I had an acquaintance once remark to me "I don’t approve of your lifestyle, but I like you." My first thought was "Well, I don’t approve of your lifestyle, but I accept it as part of you without comment: Who the hell are you to judge me?" Before I did so, I thought to myself, ’q’hat is not her rational mind speaking, it’s her brainwashing coming through. She doesn’t know any better. She knows not what she speaks." I had to ponder thatfor awhile. Itwas terribly tempting to ask, "Does your brainknow what your mouth is saying?" I began pondering: what the hell is a Gay lifestyle, anyway? There are perceptions, usually starting witha"mis", that the straight world has of Gay folk, and our so called lifestyles, such as apparently we spend 90% of our time in Gay bars in the pursuit of sex. I know.that there are some folk who like to go clubbing, straight and Gay, I know some folk who do drugs, straight and Gay, I know some folk who are promi.scuous (yes, even x years into the AIDS epidemic), again, both straight and Gay, - and I know many folk who do none of those things. Yet, in the straight world, we are all lumped under a stereotype of eternal drugging, drinking, slutty behaviors. Why is this, and.do we need to hire publicity firms to turn theimage around? Thus I dragged, kicking and sereamina, out of the closet by two very curious Baptist women from Q)dessa-latlon, Texas¯ And despite all " my f~ars~ notlang happened. In fact, when I leh, they were very qulch to tell me I replaced another Gay man . . . ¯ and they still want me. Another time, I was copying some ¯ recipes out of a book in the office, when the same sister ; noticed and said, "Oh, you like to cook? You’ll make ¯¯ some wo - person a wonderful hus - mate." Well, the cat was definitely coming out of the closet ¯ then. Shortly thereafter, I met my future mate, and all of ¯ a sudden, there was much curiosity about my life, which I kept sidestepping, still fearing I could lose ajob. It came to ahead one evening when I was drawing plans ofTom’ s apartment, and trying to figure out how to combine stuff, furniture, etc. Cyndee, the boss, came over and was looking over my shoulder. She noted I had not drawn another bed, and remarked "So, where ya golma put your bed? or are ya gonna sleep with him?" It was so surprisingly I my only response was -- ..u..hhh ~ ana men to oraw in a bed real fast. It was utterly silly, and she was letting me know that she knew and it was no big deal, .she had known, and now I knew she knew. After that, the questions were exhausting. The next year was one big Gay 101 Question and Answer session, as I ,demythified Gayhood (Gaydom?) to them and did no small amount of education. Cyndee even shielded me from a stalker who’d become obsessed with me, and nearly had him arrested for calling the business repeatedly. That was not fun, but it was notable in the way she was ready to defend me. They came from Irish stock, and Cyndee mad was a sight to avoid. And I became the one to turn to when Annie, the other sister, was planning parties. Which she did. A lot. I was the one draftedinto helping herdo artsy-crafty things for her parties, and when she was selecting new furniture, I was always asked for de- ¯ I tend to think that theimagecanbe turned arotmd,though it will mked~ne, ~aad lots ofpatiehee:The ¯ woman I referred to before may have a different image of : Gay people than what she’d been brainwashed into be- ¯ lieving because we knew each other. Maybe not a magic ." transformation, but a little logic, here and there,:can add ¯ For example, I worked for three years in a physical ¯ therapy office, for two small.town Baptistwomenl It was ¯ a nice job, and I liked them, so I didn’t talk about myself ¯ much for fear oflosing thejob:! was rather silly. TI~first ¯ day f worked there, "a client came in and demanded that ¯ one of the "purty wimmin" do his therapy because he didn t want no pansy-assed faggot to touch him. Well, ¯ we were both nonplused. I thought I was pretty low key, ¯¯ having left the bright, hotpinkneon"QueerHere" sign at ¯ home. After h~ left, one of the sisters begged me not t6 quit, saying their clients were not all like that, and he was an exception, not a rule. Wall, I thought, at least they know, ¯ sign opinions. I guess it’s part of the Gay gene, that interior d(sign comes with it. (I really had no talent forit, but it was a misconception that wouldil’t die. No matter how hard I tried to dispel the myth that not all Gay men had impeccable taste, even to the extent of describing my past relationships.) Thus was I drug, kicking and screaming, out of the closet by two VerY curious Baptist women from Odessalation, Texas. And despite all my fears, nothing bad happened. In fact, when I left, they were very quick to tell me I was being replaced with another Gay man, who’d actually made a pass at their very handsome but terribly straight brother. Apparently, the strategy worked. I had a point in all this somewhere. Oh yes, it is by events like these - and not being afraid to be who we are - that this whole mythification of what we are can be ¯changed. It’s not always the loud voices that help create change, sometimes it’s the whisper on the wind. And in that way, everyone can help make long-lasting changes for.the benefit of all. characterizingit as an attack on the rights of Gay citizens and a federal imposition on local rule. Only Riggs-vigorously supported it during the debate, "It’s a message amendment.... It will unquestionably encourage intolerance," said Rep. Henry Waxman, DCalif. The San Francisco ordinance has been criticized by some businesses as well as nonprofit orgamzadons including Catholic Charities and the Salvation Army. "The SalVation Army, which refused to buckle to city policy, forfeited $3.5 million of its $18 million budget," said Riggs, because it didn’t want to comply with the city ordinance on domesdc partner benefits. The Human Rights Campaign, the largest national Lesbian and Gay political organization, called theamendment "the latest salvo in fight-wing attacks .against Gay people." "The amendment is a thinly veiled attempt to attack San Francisco and micromanage the city," said Winnie Stachelberg, the political director for the Human Rights Campaign. In another action ofinterest to the Gay community, the House decided to reduce money it had allocated see Attack, p. 13 There were concerns expressed regarding the cost ($15/ report) and it was decided to handle it similar to the way we handle our $25 volunteer training fee. Scholarships are offered for training to anyone who request one and RAIN will pay the report fee for any volunteer, so that no one is prevented from volunteering due to the cost. All decisions for volunteer eligibility are made at the discretion of the RAIN coordinator and any grievances against the policy or any decision made my the RAIN coordinator may be taken up with me. I hope that current RAIN volunteers will understand RAIN’s mission of providing a compassionateresponse to HIV/AIDS through education and service has not changed. We appreciate the love and concern shown by our volunteers and we are grateful that men, women and children living with HIV/ AIDS are willing to risk letting strangers into their lives by asking for a RAIN team. - Pam S. Cross, MPH, Executive Director No Gays or Singles to Adopt in Arkansas LITTLE ROCK (AP) - A state board that sets standards affecting foster care has approved a requirement that prohibits private agencies from placing children with homosexual.or unmarried heterosexual adults. The new rule must undergo a public comment period before becoming effective. Rules have not been written for public foster care agencies, said Joel Landreneau, alawyerfor the licensing unit ofthe state Human Services Department. The state has some 2,700 to 2,800 children in foster care. In the past, the ruleshave been silent on homosexual or single heterosexual foster parents. Along with passing the new rule, the Child Welfare Agency Review Board discussed the possibility of an exemption for unmarried heterosexuals. Board member James Balcom of Paragould said agencies could use single people by applying for an exemption called alternative compliance. Bob West of Little Rock, also a board meml~er and the only dissenter, said he believes there will be many requests for exemptions. "I don’t think you can exclude anyone just because they’re single," he said. "I really think it should be up to the local agencies who is qualified to be a foster parent. I just think it has to be done on a case-by-case basis.’" Board member Robin Woodruff of Little Rock proposed the prohibition, saying "I would like for our children to have a mom role model and a dad role model." After the meeting, Ms. Woodruff said she had been told that the Centers for Youth and Families had placed at least one child with a Gay family and had other such families waiting. Kay Kimbrough, the centet"s service administrator for adolescent services, said her agency doesn’t inquire rote foster parents’ sexuality. "That is not an issue for us, asfar as gender of parents. We don’ t have a policy or practice that dictates whether we place kids in that type family," Ms. Kimbrough said. "We don’t make a practice to determine whether a family is heterosexual or homosexual." At the board meeting, Chris Pyle, family life issues Aiai.~.On f~o~ Q.o,v..~Mike Huckabee~ said the. govemgr supports-applying the principle of foster parents being heterosexual married couples. Pyle said Arkansas law prohibits marriages between members of the same sex. He said Huckabee believes "it is not in the best interest of children for them to be placed in an environment that.the Legislature has specifically and purposely removed from legal sanction and recognition." "I think there are a lot of foster children out there and not enough foster parents, and we may run into trouble if.we try to limit it to couples only," said West, apediatric medical consultant who works for the state Health Department. AssistantAttorney General Karen Wallace, a lawyer for the board, had recommended the board stick with the standards as written. She said she.had concerns about equal protectionand discrimination. New England Lesbian Wins Bias Lawsuit BOSTON (AP) -Ajudge has awarded $906,000 to a Lesbian who managed a state social services agency, ruling she was the victim of job discrimination. Middlesex Superior Com’tJudge Sandra Hamlinruled that Lowell-based Community Teamwork Inc., the state’s second-largest .anti-poverty agency, had no good reason fire Patrica Weber. Hamlin added that Weber was "eminentlymorequalified" man the CTI’ s director, the man who was picked over her by the agency’s board of directors. Hamlin, who said a "sexist attitude" prevailed at CTI, also ruled that the reasons given for Weber’ s firing were "a pretext." "I feel vindicated," Weber, 49 told the Boston Herald. "What they did tomewas wrong. I’m glad the !aw feels thatway too. Employers can’ t firepeoplefor nothing-because they don’tlike them, or they’re the wrong sex or whatever." Cheryl Cronin, CTI’s lawyer, said the agency is appealing. !~We are c~,,n~,~dent that CTI will ultimately prevail in this matter,’ she said. CTI provides a range of services,including housing, education and daycare to low-income residents of 38 communities from Lowdl to Framingham. Weber, who worked for CTI for 18 years, was fired in March, 1996 during a meeting with Executive Director Jim Canavan. A month later, when she applied for unemployment benefits, she learned the reason for her dismissal was listed as "inability to do her job." Hamlin said inca 38-page ruling that CTI retaliated against Weber for filing a complaint with the Massachusetts Commission Against Discriminationbyrefusing to provide her areference. Weberwas turned down for dozens of jobs, before accepting one that cut her pay nearly in half. "Weber’s past work history while at CTI reveals only a dedicated, bright, hardworking employee,".the judge wrote. "Nothing whatsoever in the evidence supports defendant’ s contention that Weber’ s inability to perform led to her termination.’" Tennessee Lesbian Wins Child Custody NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP)-Gay activists hope the case of a Wilson County Lesbian who was granted custody of one of her children marks a trend in Tennessee. Pat Finn was awarded sole custody of her 9-year-old daughter this month by ajudge in Wilson County. Her second child, a teen-age son, chose to live with his father, who was awarded sole custody of the boy. ’Tm glad this has been brought to light," said Bev Clendenen of Nashville, director of the Lesbianand Gay Community Center. "This reconfirms that Gay mothers are good mothers. Like everything, there are good apples and bad. You should be judged not on your sexuality, but rather what kind of mother you are.;" Pa~ck Sullivan, Finn’s ex~husband, plans to appeal. I thought it was the greatest injustice in the s/ate of Tennessee," he said. ’q-his case is about her being a neglectful mother and very little about the homosexuality." He said he opposes:his ex-wife’ s Lesbian relationship and does not wanthis daughter exposed to it "It is about discrimination of me as a father trying to get custody of his children," he said of the ruling. Finn, a registered nurse, was married to Sullivan for 17 years. She and her female partner have formalized their relationship with a commitment ceremony and exchange offings. Finn believes she won custody of her daughter because she was judged on the facts and not politics, public sentiment or the judge’s personal preferences about family life. "I realized the odds were against me, but I told my " daughter I wasn’t doing anything wrong and I needed to show her I would fight to keep her," Finn said. ’Tm thesame mother. I’m the same woman who has been raising children for 16 years." Can A Lesbian Win A Seat in Congress? MOUNT VERNON, Wash. (AP) - Grethe Cammermeyer, a daughter of the Nazi resistance in Norway and a decorated Vietnam veteranwhobattled her owngovernment, hasjumpedheadlonginto anew challenge: The retired Armycolonel, who wryly calls herself "one of the most famous Lesbians in the country" after her successful fight to stay in the military, is rtmuing for Congress. Cammermeyer, 56, has never held public office. Her Gay civil-rights fight - recounted in "Serving in Silence," a book and made-for-TV movie = made her a celebrity. Glenn Close, who starred in the movie, its producer Barbra Streisand and other show-business notables have contributed to her campaign. She’s favored to win the Democratic nomination Sept. 15. That would pit her against two-term Republican Rep. Jack Metcalf on Nov. 3. Metcalf, who says this is his last campaign, was boosted to victory two years ago by absentee voters in the traditionally Democratic 2nd District. No openly Lesbian candidate has been elected to Congress, but Caramermeyer is one of four Democrats hoping to break the barter this year along with Tammy Baldwin of Wisconsin, Christine Kehoe of California and Susan Tracy of Massachusetts. ’q’his "May your constant love be urith us, Lord as we~t our hope in you.n- Ps. 33:21 In God’s Love God’s love promises hope for tomorrow and peace for today. Free yourself of your burdens. Come sl~are in the bounty of God’s love with us each Sunday at 10:45 am. CbiMren Are Always Welcome! Community.Church ~623 N. iaplewood of Greater Tulsa 918/838-1715 on the R, er A Bed & Breakfast P.O. 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She was f!red, in 1992.after disclosing her sexual orientation aunng a 1989 Interview for a security clearance as chief nurse of the National Guard.Afederaljudge orderedher reinstated in 1994; the government did not appeal. On the campaign trail, she doesn’t talk Gay civil rights. At an ice cream social held by Skagit County Democrats earlier this month, Cammermeyer spoke about education, health care, the environment and countering a Republican Congress she considers radical and heartless. "I am not a politician," she told The Associated Press. "I’m an everyday person who has a healthcare background and an education background. I am a mother, a grandmother and served in Vietnam. I have had thebest and the worst of social experience." Cammermeyer was born in Oslo, Norway, to a doctor and a nurse who sheltered undergroundresistance fighters in World War II. A now familiar tale has her mother shuttling weapons to the Nazi resis,_t~_,ce by hiding them beneath the mattress in Grethe s baby buggy. Cammermeyer was 9 when she came to the United States with her parents and three brothers. She became a eitizen in 1960. Ntlrsingmeshed well with her military ambitions, she has said, because it was a job she could take to the batflefront. She served in the military 31 years, including active duty in Vietnam. She earned the Bronze Star. for treating wounded soldiers in the. Tet Offensive in 1968. She has four grown sons from her marriage to a fellow officer she met while serving in Germany. She’s wall aware why she.has such ready name recognition. :But the personable, 6-foot-tall .Cammermeyer-whosefirstname, shortforMaxgarethe, is pronounced Greta- bdieves most voters are ready to move past her sex,,,u~,, ori,entadon to the issues affecting their own lives. Whats.most difficult is suddenly realizing there are some people who don’t want you to approach them or shake their hand or even say hello," she said of experiences on the campaign trail. -State Democratic Chairman Paul Berendt, neutral in the primary, says Cammermeyer needs to let voters know the range of issues she cares about. "If people see her as one-dimensional,it’s over," agrees Murray. "We don’ tknow how big ofanegative it is" to be openly Gay in a district with no major homosexual enclaves and a sizablenumber ofreligious conservatives, Berendt says. Cammermeyer’s lone primary opponent, businessman and environmentalist Fran Einterz, 44, makes apoint of telling audiences he’s been in the district for 17 years. Einterz plans to raise only $100,000 for the primary election. Cammermeyer has raised $502,801 so far. Neither Einterz nor Metcalf has made an issue of Camm.ermeyer’ s sexual orientation, althoughthe Metcalf campaign sent out a fund-raising letter that said the Cammermeyer campaign is being underwritten by the national Gay movement. Boy Scouts-Feud with Unitarians BOSTON (AP) -A feud between the Boy Scouts of America and the Unitarian Universalist Assocaation over homosexuality has led to cries of outrage by the Boston-based branch of the church. 2~he Unitarian Universalist Association, a long-standing New England liberal denomination that~supports civilrights for Gays, has condenmed in a church manual the Boy Scouts’ rejection of homosexuality. As a result the youth orgamzation has ordered the association to stop honoring Unitari.~an scouts with religious awards. But the president of the Boston-based 250,000-member association called the order "’outrageous" and said the Unitarians do not intend to honor the Boy Scouts’ emand., They simply can t tell us how to teach our children ’ John Buehrens, a former Boy Scout, told The Boston Globe. "Telling us we can’t give out awards to our boys is blatant discrimination against children. That’s not in the Boy Scouts’ tradition," Buehrens said. ¯ The religious emblems awarded by Unitarimas ¯ are also presented by several other religious groups, ¯¯ including the Roman Catholic Church, ant many ¯ Protestant, JewishandMuslim denominations. The emblems differ from the merit badges that are ¯ earned for mastering a specific task, but can still be ¯ worn on scouts’ ufiiforms as badges of honor. In recent years, the Boy Scouts has drawn fire ¯ from human rights groups and a number of reli- ¯ gious organizations for its view of homosex,u~l,ity ¯ and refusal to admit Gay scouts and leaders. We resp.ect other people’ s rights to disagree with us and : we simply ask people to respect our rights as a ¯ private voluntary orgamzation," Gregg Shields. ¯ national spokesman for the Scouts, said. ¯ But in its manual distributed to tecn-agers, the : associadonmakes it clear thatit does not agree with ¯ the Boy Scouts’ view. The manual describes the Unitarians’ "ongoing concern regarding the ¯ homophobic and discriminatory attitudes of the : nationalleadership of the Boy Scouts ofAmerica.’" ¯ Since then, letters have gone back and forth between the two sides, leaving Buehrens wi th the ¯ hope that the dispute can be resolved by a mee.ting ¯ with Boy Scouts officials this fall. ¯ "I’m perfectly willing to sit down with the Boy Scouts, but I also need to be very clear that they are ¯ in grave danger of having much of America’s : mainstream religious community concerned abom : the way in which they are acting," Buehrens said. ¯i Anti-Gay Hawaii TV Ads Criticized ¯ HONOLULU (AP) - Opponents of a proposed : state constitutional amendment that would ban same-sex marriage are criticizing a pro-amend- , ment television ad featuring professional football : player Reggie White. ¯ Jaekie Young, coordinator of the Protect Our ¯ Constitution campaign, said this isn’t about letting ¯ the people decide but about "political extremists" coming to Hawaii to argue anissue aboutbasic civil ¯ rights and dividing the community. ¯ Noelani Foster, spokesman for a group called ¯ Save Traditional Marriage, said White, defensive hneman for the Green Bay Packers, "feels a con- ; nection to theislands" because he has played in the : Pro Bowl in Honolnlu for the past 12 years. ¯ White, an ordained minister, filmed the TV spot ¯ re~enfly as part of a broader advertising campaign ¯ to educate Hawaii voters about the ballot question. : Hawaii voters will decide during the Nov. 3 Gen- ¯ eral Election whether to ratify an amendment that ¯ would restrict marriage to opposite-sex couples. ¯ ¯ Alaska Lawmakers Sue Over Ballot Language ¯ ¯ JUNEAU (AP) - Republican lawmakers are suing Lt. Gov. Fran Ulmer, claiming she distorted the ¯ meaning of a proposed constitutional amendment ." banning same-sex marriage when she summarized it for the November ballot. As part of her duties, ¯ Ulmer, a Democrat, must compose impartial summanes of proposed amendments-and initiatives. Thefirst sentence ofher summary ofSenate Joint ¯ Resolution 42 read: "This measure would amend ¯ the Declaration of Rights section of the Alaska ¯ .Co.nstitution to limit marriage." "The word ’limit’ ¯ is incorrect because as of this date no nation in the .. world and no state in this country recognizes or has ¯ ever recognized homosexual same-sex marriage," ¯ attorney Kevin Clarkson wrote on behalf of the ¯ Legislative Council, a committee of lawmakers ¯ that acts for the Legislature between session, M0ng ¯ with Sen. Loren Leman, R-Anchorage and Rep. ¯ Pete Kelly, R-Fairbanks. ¯ In the lawsuit, the.lawmakers accuse Ulmer of ¯ altering the language at the behest of opponents of the measure, bqmers position was spelled out in a ¯ July 20 letter to the Legislative Council. "’The ¯ proposed constitutional amendment restricts the ¯ cour! .from "interpreting Alaska’s constitution as ¯ reqtunng a broader definition of marriage than that ¯ which is defined by statute," seeBriefs, p.]l HIV Creates Infection Resevoir WASHINGTON (AP) - New research shows th~it the AIDS virus takes as little as little as 10 days to establish a stronghold inimmunecells of thebody that could last for years, waiting to erupt into disease. Researchers at the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Disease say a study of 10 patients show that alatently infected pool of immune cells quickly established following infection by HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Drug treatment apparently does not easily clear out the pool of infected cells, the experts said. A report on the study was published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. Evenif the active HIV disease is held in check by a three-drug combination of antiviral drugs, the researchers say, the virus continues to lurk in resting CD4 Tcells in the blood. These are immune ceils that detect and lead the attack on infections, but the CD4s are also the primary target of the HIV. CD4 T-cells are usually resting. They are activated only when they detect some pathogen invader in the blood. When this happens, the cells attack the invader and prompt otherimmunecells to dothe same. Dr. Anthony S. Fauci, director ofNIAID and co-author of the study, said that studies of the blood from the 10 HIV patients showed that their resting CD4 T-cells became infected as earl,y~ as 10 days after their initial HIV infection symptoms appeared. Earlier studies had shown that the re.sting CD4 T-cells continued to contain v~rus even when the antiviral drugs suppressed the virus elsewhere in the body. " The new study, said Fauci, shows that these reservoirs of virus are established very early in the infection. Such reseryoi~ s.’.’Presentafo~dableobstacle to the Ultimate~ €0ntrbland possible eradication of HIV from an infected person’ s body," saidTae-Wook Chun, aN!AID researcher and co-author of the study. Activists Urge Better Prevention WASHINGTON (AP) - Lulled by lifeprolonging AIDS drugs, the nation has slacked off vital efforts to keep Americans - especially young people - from catching the deadly virus in the first place, say AIDS activists who are demanding major increases in HIV prevention work. .Activists called formillionsmorein spending on HIV education, televised condom ads and outreach to at-risk teen-agers via the Interuet, saying such AIDS prevention programs are a "virtual vaccine.’" "If there were a medical vaccine for AIDS, imagine the forces mobilized to deploy it," said Daniel Zingale of AIDS Action. "The irony is that today we have a virtual vaccine- prevention and education - and those forces are paralyzed." Saving lives isn’t the only issue. At least 40,000 Americans every year catch HIV, adding add $6.2 billion in lifetime treatment costs to the nation’s health care bill, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention announced recently. "AIDS drugs cost $40 a day" and do not cure the disease, added Zingale. "This condom costs .40 cents. Our plan today will not. only save lives, it would save dollars." The CDC hash’ t won.a budget increase to fight new infections in three years, and some people most at risk of HIV have become complacent, activists said. For example, two-thirds of Gay men say ¯ they’ve had unsafe sex at least once in the : last 18 months, concluded a study pre- ¯ sented at last month’s World AIDS Con- " ference. ." Also, Secret Service agents arrested 10 ; other AIDS activists who briefly chained ¯ themselves to desks in the office of Presi- " dent Clinton’s topAIDS adviser to protest ¯ the administration’s refusal to federally : fund needle exchange programs. Experts ¯¯ say 33 people a day catch HIV fromdirty drug needles or sex with addicts. Seien- ¯ tific studies show letting addicts swap ¯ used needles for dean ones lowers the ¯ risk of HIV’s spread. Some 110 U.S. ¯ needle exchanges operate with local or ¯. privatefunding,but communities say they ¯ need federal tax dollars to reach more ¯ addicts. Clinton refusedin April, side- " stepping a political fight. ’’To have the ¯ United States government play politics. ¯ with people’s lives - it’s just not OK ¯ anymore," said Kenneth Vail, who rims a ¯ needle exchange program in Cleveland, ¯ after his arrest. ¯ Separately, AIDS Action gatheredpub~ liehealthofficialsandAIDS workers who ¯ called for a 25 percent increase inCDC’s ¯ $634 million budget for AIDS education ¯ and prevention. Congress has addedmil, lions to government programs thatpay for ¯ drugs for AIDS patients, but increasing AIDS prevention money significantly is ¯ considered a tougher fight, particnlarly in ~ view of a new conservative campaign ¯ against homosexuality. ¯ But HIV ,infects across:the-board, Dr~ : Helene Gayle, CDC’s AIDS chief, said ¯ Monday. Some 26 percent of HIV-infected young people caught the v~rus ¯ through heterosexual intercourse, she : notea.. "If people in leadership positions : care about thefuture of this nation, you’ ve ¯ got to care about H’IV prevention," she ¯ said. ¯ Activists also called for: : - TV networks that air programs rated ¯ "S" for sexual content to also allow ¯ condom ads to air during those programs. - Doctors, clinics and hospitals to begin ." using a new 10-minute HIV test immedi- : ately. An older test takes about a week to ¯ get results, and thousands of Americans ¯ who get tested each year never return to ¯ leamifthey’reinfected. Pcoplewhodon’t ¯ know they are infected can unknowingly spread HIV to others. - AIDS education to reach more teen- " agers by .creating an AIDS prevention ¯ web site that links to popular teen Internet sites. ¯ - CDC to launch a campaign persuad- ¯ ing more people to get tested. An esti- ¯ mated 50,000 people in New York State ¯ have HIV and don’t know it, says a corn- : puter model by Gay Men’s Health Crisis. ! HIV+-Teacher Can : Be Transfered ¯ ATLANTA (AP) - An order prohibiting ¯ ¯ the DeKalb County School District from transferring a teacher infected with HIV, ¯ the .virus that causes AIDS, has been re- ¯. versed by the EleventhU.S. Circuit Court of Appeals. Last year, a district court ¯ granted the teachcr, known as "John Doe" : in court documents, a permanent injunc- ¯ tion disallowing his transfer under the ¯ Americans with Disabilities Act. ¯ Doe worked with children with severe ¯ behavioral disorders at the district’s ¯ Shadow Rock Psychoeducational Center. ¯ The school district says the students are. ¯ violent and teachers often suffer bruises : and scrapes. "Because district officials ¯ feared thatviolence and subsequentblood- Medical Excellence And mpassionate Care Since 1926. ¯ ¯ ST. 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Pride Merchandise http://members.aol.com/ TulsaPride/index.html will the person who is still paying to much! life nsu,rance please call Kent Balch & Associates 918-747-9506 to-blood contact between Doe and one of his psychoeducation students might lead to transmission of HIV, the District transfenced Doe to an ’interrelated’ classroom at a different school in April 1995," the appeals court wrote. After being transfenced, Doe worked with students with mild disorders that are often in mainstream classrooms for most of each day. The school district and Doe are disputing whether or not the Wansfer was voluntary. Although Doe’s salary, benefits and seniority all remained the same after the transfer, the move requires him to take an additional 10 hours of course work to obtain an interrelated certificate. Doehadinformed Shadow Rock’ s principal of his illness in February 1995. He spent the months following his transfer trying to convince school officials to return him to his psychoeducation class or assign him to a group of children who are ’self-contained’ or too ’disordered’ to participate in the ’interrelated’ program, the court wrote. Doe eventually filed a lawsuitclaiming the districtdiscriminated against him. The district court supported Doe’s assertions in August 1997. "The district court, however, failed to make explicit findings of fact regarding any dangers that Doe’ s illness might pose to violent psychoeducation students," the appeals court ruled. "In addition, the district court erred by applying a subjective standard for determining whether Doe’s transfer was adverse." The three-judge panel said the district court should take a . second look at the case and make a decision following the guidelines of its reversal. City Approves Needle Exchange SPRINGFIELD, Mass. (AP)-After years of heated debate and flip-flopping, the city council has approved a needle exchange program. After two hours of publiccommentand debate, the council voted 5-4infavor oftheprogram. Council memberWilliam Foley received applausefrom the crowd of 100 people when he cast the swing vote. MayorMichael Albano, whohas pushed for an exchange program for two years, said there was an AIDS epidemic in Springfield. "This is not a political issue, this is a medical issue," he said. "We are. getting people into treatment and stopping people froin getting a deadly disease." But Hampden District Attorney William Bennett accused the council of "giving out tools to commit a crime with." After the vote, council member Timothy Rooke asked the board to consider an amendment that would require health officials to test all needles to seeif they were used by more than one person or if they contained any viruses. "It is not a stalling tactic," he said. "Now it’ s a matter of fine tuning the #an." Theneedle exchangewouldoperate out of a!-Iigh Street building of the Bay State Medical Center. Drug users can turn in used needles for clean needles in an even exchange. They would all’be referred to drug treatment programs and be asked questions so city officials could track the program. The city council first rejected the plan 5-4 in 1996. It agreed to reconsider after the city’ s Public Health Council declared a health emergency in May and tried to launch the program on its own. Springfield Health Director Helen Caulton said thenumber ofAIDS cases in the city had reached epidemicproportions and most had been caused by addicts sharing needles. However, city lawyers ruled that only the city council could seek state funding for the program. State law provides funding for 10 programs to hand out clean syringes to drug users, but, so far, they have been established only in Boston, Cambridge, Northamptonand Provincetown. The state pitches in about $200,000 for the programs. TheClinton administmtionhas endorsed needle exchanges. Still, Health and Human Services Secretary Donna Shalala said the federal government would not help pay for the programs. The House of Representatives voted in April to ban using federal money for such programs. New Eyesight Saving Drug WASHINGTON (AP)- Scientific advisers are recommending approval of a new ¯¯ The code also outlaws any form of job discrimination against a worker infected ¯ by the HIV virus, and requires that any ¯ employee too ill to performnormal duties ¯ be reassigned, the newspaper said. According to 7fiord Health Organiza- ¯ tion figures released in June, one-fifth of ¯ Namibia’s population of 1.8 million is ¯ infected with HIV. Some densely popu~ ¯ lated areas are estimated to have an infec- _" tion rate of as high as 40%. i Inmates Being i "rested for HIV ¯ GREENVILLE, S.C. (AP) - Now that ¯ South Carolina is testing all state prison inmates for the AIDS virus, some law- " makers and others want to know how the ¯ .information will be used. The federal ¯ Bureau of Prisons and 17 other states : already have mandatory testing for HIV, ¯ the virus that causes AIDS, according to ¯ the American Civil Liberties Union’s : National Prison Project. ¯ State Sen. Kay Patterson, D-Columbia, genetic drug therapy to help save AIDS ¯ likes the idea of testing all prisoners, but patients’ eyesight. Isis, Pharmaceuticals’ : is concemed about how prison officials Vitravene is the first antisense" drug to -" will use the information. "What will the be reviewed by the Food and Drug Ad- ° department do once they find out they’re ministration. This novel class of drugs is created from DNA coding, working at the genetic level to block production of disease- causing proteins. Thebioteclmology industry is stressing development of antisense drugs against myriad diseases. Isis says Vitravene slows the progression of cytomegalovirus retinitis, an infection that destroys AIDS patients’ rednas. Advisers to theFDAvoted 5-2Wednesday to recommend approval of Vitravene, saying that although powerful new .anti- HIV drugs have prevented many AIDS patients from getting the eyeinfection in recent years, some still fail standard therapy. ¯ Chinese HIV ¯ Infections Increase ¯ BEIJING (AP)-Chineseauthorities urged ¯ greater efforts to slow the spread ofAIDS ¯ as the official tallyofpeopleinfectedwith : the virus that causes the disease topped 10,000, an official newspaper said Tues- " day. The newspaper said the actual num- " ber of people infected with HIV may be ¯ as hi.gh as 300,000 - 100,000 more than ¯ previous estimates. That figure could pass 1 million by ¯ 2000 if more is not done to check the ¯ spread of HIV, Xiao Yan, an official with the Department of Disease Control, told ¯ state television. ¯ Loc~ health authorities have been or- ¯ dered to speed up education and preven- ¯ tion campaigns, the newspaper said. The ¯ disparity between official numbers and ¯ estimates is likely due tO undenceporting, the lack of government resources to perform tests and the stigma attached to ac- : knowledging HIV,infection. : Namibia Bars HIV ¯resting for Jobs WINDHOEK, Namibia (AP) - Namibia, : whichhas one of the word’s highest HIV : infection rates, has made it illegal for ¯ employers to require tests for the virus : that causes AIDS. The country’s new ¯ AIDS testing code binds both public and private employers. It says HIV-infected employees are under no obligation to inform their employer of their condition. infected? That’ s the missing piece to me,’" ¯ said Patterson, a member of the Senate ¯ Corrections and Penology Committee. : Jackie Walker, an AIDS expert for the ¯ National Prison Project, is skeptical. I’ve ¯ never seen them say, ’OK, we’ll test you ¯ and you’ll be provided with correct level ¯ of care, medications and access to outside ¯ specialists whenit’ s neededand appropriate.’ It has just not happened across the ¯ board," she said. ¯ The $126,000 mandatory screening of ¯ about 21,000 prisoners should be done by ¯ Aug. 31, Corrections Department spokes- ¯ woman Linda Davis said. Correctional ¯ officers can use minimal force to ensure ¯ all inmates comply, including holding ¯ them down while blood is drawn, Davis ¯ said. So far no one has objected, she said. "It’s a public safety issue. Considering ¯ the nature of our population and the ~ lifestyle, there’s a potential for health- " related problems," she said. "It gives us a ¯ gauge to measure potential problems." ¯ However, Steve Bates, executive direc- ¯ tor of the state ACLU, worries that HIV- ¯ positive inmates will be segregated and denied educational and vocational train- . 1rig opportunities. : Davis said the department does not yet ¯ haveapolicy onhousingforHIV-posltive ¯ inmates. State Sen. David Thomas, R- ¯ Fountain Inn, who heads the corrections ¯ committee, said the department could see : roughly how many inmates are infected ¯ by doing a random sampling of 250 pris- ¯ oners. "They may have some reason to ." believe there is an accelerating number of ¯ cases and they need to segregate thepopu- ¯ lations. Given how AIDS usually spreads, ¯ they may have somereason to believe that : they need to look very, very carefully at ¯ what is happening in that population," ¯ Thomas said. PFLAG Parents, Family & Friends of Lesbians & Gays Tulsa Area Chapter POB 52800, Tulsa 74152 749-4901 the show to Nex+ York. 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Pride Rides from the Pride Center, 3749 S. Peoria. Write for dates. Ifyour organization is not listed, please let ua know. Call orfax S&32i615. reviewed by Adam West Tulsa City-County Library System Lars Eiglmer’s novel Pawn to Queen Four is pretentious, disturbingly campy and fantastically absurd. That’s exactly what makes it so much fun to read. This is a gay novel that does not take itsdf any more seriously than it does the ’moral majority.’ But Eighner keeps his tacky brand of~humor from getting tedious by plying his skill at intricate plot twists, quick-andquirky characterizations and a unique insight into the fears and desires of both the Gay commnnity and ourdetractors. As the story opens, Agnes, the six-foot seven,350lb. drag queen is facing quite the dilemma. As ruler of the Court of the Jade Chimera, she must faithfully oversee the ’Gay agenda’ throughout her territory which covers most of Texas and part of Oklahoma, including the tiny town of Osage. Osage is home to Holy Word of God University and Technical Institute, the headquarters of the charismatic Brother Earl, Agnes’ old enemy. Agnes has been able to keep Brother Earl’s violently anti-gay rhetoric in check for years, but now Earl has the upper hand. Agnes has lost a certain set of photographs of Brbther Earl engaged in his favorite bad habit - namely, seducing his male students. Now Brother Earl has rejuve~ ted his homophobic campaign and it is Agnes’ duty as Empress of the Jade Chimera to stop him. Her mission: retrieve the photographs or, failing that. make new ones. Enter Jim, our reluctant hero. Through various types of bribery, appeals to his duty as a Gay man and assurances of lifelong sexual satisfaction by the finest men in Houston, Agnes convinces Jim to undertake this desperate, dangerous mission. Now the fun’begins as Jim, his new boyfriend Phil and eventually Agnes herself infiltrate HWOGUTI, the Ku Klux Klan and the sleepy town of Osage. Eiglmer has a refreshing talent for creating characters so natural and detailed that you forget they are unbelievably stereotypical. Jim is a typical clone; Phil is a twink; Agnes is the UltimateDrag Queen, but you never doubt that any of them could be real. Even Brother Earl, though hopelessly two-dimensional, seems to be an exact replica of the kind of people we elect to Congress all the time. This kind of stereotyped hyper-neo-virmal-realism almost makes Pawn to Queen Four an EverYman play for the modem Gay individual. The characters are so typical, yet so real, that you could plug yourself into whichever one fits best and pretend that you are a part of this grand adventure. There’s even a Lesbian (yes, only one) who shows up with the Hell’s Fairies, a Gay motorcycle gang. There are more admirable things going onJaere however¯ The three main characters have a point in-their stereotyping. Jim’ s uncertainty about his role in such an exotic world draws you in. You begin to refreshing talent for ereat~g characters so natural and detailed that you forget they are unbelievably stereotypical... Agnes is the Uh~-nate Drag Que n... Even Brother Earl... seems to exact re~|~ea of the klnd~mpeople we elect to Congress all the time. Th~s kind of stereotyped hyper~neo-wirtualrealism almost makes Pawn to ¯ been Four an Everyman play for the modern Gay ~dl,ad~l. wonder how much of our culture is controlled by a marginalized minority of our society. You start to wonder, "how much does that drag queen control what club is ’ in’ or’ out?’ "or"am I on the A-list for all the best partiesT’ Though the true extent of an underground society’s control is questionable, Eighner wants you to question the image we have and who gives it to us. Even more infectious than Jim’s trepidation is his admi= ration of Phil. Phil’s angelic beauty and innocent devotion give the story apeaceful wonder missing from most Gay novds. Oh, there are plenty of beauties, plenty of innocents and plenty of devoted lovers in Gay literature, but how many characters really have all three traits? Phil reminds us thatwe canretain ourchildlike fascination with the world no matterhow adverse the cir= cumstances and still beresponsible, capable, respectable human beings. This is a quality of life that so much of the gay community neglects in favor of that oh-so-chic snide cynicism. Though Jim is the protagonist, Phil is the one youwill involve yourself wi~. You will be proud when he comes into his own destiny; you will admire him as Jim does, because Phil is that beatl- ¯ tiful person that would actually talkto you ¯ in a bar. ¯ Alas, Agnes... with the resourceful- " hess and style of a true pageant-winner, ¯ the Queen of the Jade Chimera inspires ¯ belief in the impossible, faith in the unbe- ¯ lievable . . . and that she does just by ¯ carrying 350 pounds of drag queen in ¯ seven-inchheels! Regency and flare have ¯ never been in better form. She can imper~ ¯ sonate a grtmgy old gardener or a Klan ¯ member and never break a two-inch-long : nail. Truthfully, any respect and dignity ¯¯ wehave neglected to allow drag queens to haveis broughtforth with no apologies by ¯ the glorious Agnes. She is a true heroine in the vein of those queens who started ¯ this most groundbreaking era of our ¯ struggle for equal rights. I wouldn’t be ¯ surprised tolearn thatAgnes or some real¯ life equivalent was actually at Stonewall. Her Highness is controlling, deceptive ¯ and stubborn but you can’t help but love ¯ her .... and you can’thelp but watch her. ¯ Ultimately,whatmakes Pawn toQueen Four a good read is what it teaches (al- ¯ though I think Eighner might hate me for : saying that). For all its outlandish hijinx ¯ and biting wit, this book has a serious, ¯ though probably unintentional, message ¯ - we in the Gay community have become " so obsessed with fighting our enemies ¯ that we forget to have fun, or the exact : opposite. Pawn to Queen Four is ulti- : mately aboutbalance. Agnes doesn’twant Brother Earl out of the picture. She has ¯ plenty of chances to ruin him, but she ¯ knows that he has every right to exist that ¯ she does. Surprisingly, Brother Earl feels : the same, although he gets a little threatening when he leads the Klan in a true " Oklahomabackroads see Queen4,p. 14 Kelly Kirby CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant, a professional corporation Lesbians and Gay men face many special tax situations whether single or as couples. Call us for help with your year round tax needs. 747-5466 4021 S. Harvard, Suite 210, Tulsa 74135 Call 341.6866 Internationa Tours:ormoreinformation. 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No, no, long, smooth strokes.. ¯ and dip your brush NOW! Oureditorcame to mind, and while he would have probably agreed about the Strok- Ing technique, the paint job wouldhavebeenhis least concern. But not you, loyal reader! Over the past few months, you too have come to admire the beauty of paint. As promised, last month, when the cart of exterior painting was put before the workhorse of window reglazing, the DIYD will now enhance your skills even more. Window reglazing is only done on the older wood framed single paned windows, andis amust ff you% doing all your windows, and usually you will, do yourself a favor and buy the Prazi Putty Cha.er... It attaches to any drift chuck.., and with one simple adjustment the carbide cutter is set so that it won’t harm the Turn on the drift and remove the old putty fa~ter than Dorothy can click her heels three times, and it won’t slit or chip the wood frame eitker. before starting that outside paint project. It will also make your winter heating bills more. palatable when you stop the coldair seeping in around.the pane. And aesthetics ! Don’t forget the aesthetics ! Curling, peeling and cracking glazing putty is just ¯ tired and frumpy2 Lose it. ¯ Traditionally, this job has been a lot of uresome work, but the DIYD will pull a few tricks out of her pocket that will have you simply melting with delight..First, the old, dried putty must be removed to the wood. If you’re doing all of your windows, and usually you will, do yourself a "We need your help," Satcher told the organizationformedby ministers in 1957. "We need the church to help us to deal with the prejudice and the bias that-we face as we’re trying to fight this epidemic." Ministers are uneasy talking about AIDS, said the group’s chairman, Dr. Claud Young, a family doctor in Detroit. ’qqaey speak about sex in any form as if it’s a form of cancer," he said, recalling preachers asking him not to use the word "condom" inside the church. "I said, ’Not only is the word condom being usedinthe church; I can assure you condoms are being used in the church.’" Young added thatin Michigan,Blackorganizations have received little of the grant money available for prevention. Today’s fight presents challenges that did not exist during the 1960s, Satcher said. During the civil rights movement, he said, people had hope that they could effect change. Today, too many young people are hopeless about their futures so they do not try as hard to avoid risky sex and other health threats, he said. But that can change, he said. "Leadership is critical," he said. "I don’t think we’ve found any~substitutes for good leadership." favor and buy the Prazi Putty Chaser. 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Not only will it be easier~ the latex material will last longer and it may be the last tame you have to do this. The tube comes with a specialized nozzle that applies the compound at the proper angle and it fits a standard catdk gun, Though it isn’t necessary, your job will look heater if you mask the glass about 1/3" above the wood, with the compound filling in. Leave the tape on for p.ainting, then strip it off 24 hrs. later for a crisp, unsmeared edge. The tube material costs a bit more than, the putty, but is worth every penny of it. Apply the material moving smoothly and slowly along the frame at about a 33 degree angle; the nozzle will do this for you. Smooth with a wet finger, if desired. Wait another day, then paint; with the premasked windows, this isn’t painful. Your house will be gor= geous and snug and, with the two above techniques, done days ahead of those who do not heed the DIYD’s advice. Next month: take up your PHD’s and pickets - it’s time’to build that privacy fence (PHD = Post Hole Digger). Any questions or cqmmentary? The DIYD accepts your praase, chastisement or suggestions care of this paper! Ulmer wrote. "In other words, the proposedamendmentlimits marriage to what it has been and currently is by statute in Alaska. Because that is themeaning of the amendment, I believe the ballot summary should say so." The lawsuit seeks to force Ulmer to use an earlier version that began: "This measure would add an amendment to the- Alaska Constitution on marriage." The Legislature passed the amendment in the final minutes of the session after Judge Peter Michalski ruled against a 1996 law banning same-sex marriage. The Rainbow Connection Has-Never Been AUDIO PERSONALS No 900#s No Charge Per Minute TULSA 455-1833 by Esther Rothblum Dr. Marny Hall is a San Francisco Bay Area psychotherapist with twenty years experienee speeializing in Lesbian relationships. In her book, The Lesbian Love Companion: How to Survive Everything from Heartthrob to Heartbreak, she tackles issues of Lesbian relationships, sex, breakups, rituals, and jeab ousy. "I had had a painful break-up," she told me m a recent interview, "and-decided to find somelongterm couples who had managed to weather the difficulties that had undermined my relationship. I was particularly interested in finding couples who had survived outside affairs." She located a.handfu!:0f long term Lesbian couples and contacted them periodically over anumber of years. She asked, how they met, how their relationshipprogressed, andhow they handled difficult situations:such as jealousy, conflict, desire, homophobia, work, and illness. "I was searching for a formula," said Mamy, "but I didn’t find anything. Then five years into this experiment, two of the model couples I had been tracking broke up. I had come to think of them as perfect couples. I felt a bit shell-shocked but I decided that I wouldcontinue to interview both ex-partners. It was then that I found the answers I was looking for. Now the ex- .partners started talking about their relationships in entirely different ways. One woman, who had said that she was really in lust now told me that they had never had any passionate chemistry! Another womanused to say that her community of friends kept them together; now she said that she never felt a sense ofcommtmity ! A third said she wanted to be with her partner until her breath was no : longer in her body. After the break-up she ¯ told me that even if her partner were available, she wouldn’.t go back. These ¯ 180 degree turns made me realize that so ¯ much of how we process relationships is ¯ through the tales that we tell. The tales do ¯ all sorts of things - they certify legit1- ¯ macy, they heal broken hearts, and they ¯ explain betrayals." : After this revelation, Mamy decided to ¯ go back and reread the transcripts from the interviews she had conducted with the ¯ couples that were still together. Now she ¯ could see shifts in their stories too, over : time. Their stories had kept them going Dr. Marny Hall through hard times. For example, if one partnerhadhadan affair, .theother discovered a motive that explained everything. Perhaps the straying partner had been depressed about her job or angry at her partner. The affair had been a coded way of announcing these dissatisfactions. In other words, the two partners collaborated on a story that turned an unpardonable betrayal into a forgivable misdemeanor. By reconstruing the potentially damaging revelation in more positive ways, they were able to stay together. "So I thought, why not think of more stories?" said Marny. Her book focuses on stories that provide alternatives to the "master stories" ab0utforever-after, about terrible betrayals, about bad times. "If I could tell stories about small break-ups or trivial passions or benign other women then I could contribute to partners’ flexibility and givethemmore staying power," Maruy told me. Originally planned as a book about successful long-term couple relationships, The Lesbian Love Companion took on a life ofits ownl "I love the story of ~happily ever after," Marny said, "but we. can tell other stories, too. Everyday stories about contentment instead of epics about do-ordie love affairs. Stories of downsized disenchantments instead of major dyke dramas. The first time you realize that your .lover snores and you love her anyway is not exactly a swash-buckling bodice-ripper. But it does qualify as a modest tale about a small turning point. Our lives are packed with all kinds of minimalist ro- : mances. We just have to tune in to them. : "The same thing is true about sex," ¯ Mamy continued. "We’re all so familiar ¯ with the story about the earth-moving sex. : But we can tell a lot of different stories : about sex- maintenance sex that depends ¯ on cultivating orgasmic habits, sex for ¯ comfort or fun, psychodrama sex that exorcises old demons. Even the fond sexual memories we share with ex-lovers is anotherform of sex. Wemight call it exsex. These stories aren’t the mainstream favorites so they aren’t heard, they’re inaudible, private." As Marny putsit, her book puts some "amplification" on the stories that many of us are already telling. ’q’he bookis for long-term couples. It is also for the sluts and passionate friends, the celibates andthecommunally minded," Mamy added. "All of us are affected by ¯ the traditional stories. Uncoupled Lesbi- : ans often feel as though they have failed ¯ some crucial test. And long-term couples : may feel such pressure to live up to these ¯ stones that, as aresult, they feel they must ¯ conceal anything thatisn’t congruentwith ¯ ’perfect coupledom.’ Such self censor- " ship makes~thard for partners to be play- " ful .or spontaneous. The perfect couple ¯ ideal exacts a toll on everyone- Ltgbians ¯ who are coupled,unpartnered or who have ¯ multiple partners." "It tends to turn us all into intimacy ¯ overachievers," said Mamy. "The pur- ¯ pose of my book is to counteract that ¯ sense of performance anxiety. Almost : everybody has doubts, and forbidden passions, see Psyche, p. 14 It’s your chance to win a trip to a National College Football Championship Game Pick up your entry form today! Look for the displays at your local retailers¯ WITH OUR NEW NOKIA 6190 YOU GET A PHONEWITH MULTIPLE PERSONALITIES. ¯ Digital & Cellular Roaming ¯ Oklahoma & Kansas Toll-Free ¯ Caller ID . Call W~dng ¯ Built-In Paging ¯ Detailed Billing ¯ First IncOming Minute Free WVVVV.VOICESTREAH.COH VoiceStream Stores The Plaza 8112-F South Lewis Ave. 298-2747 The Promenade H~ll 4107 South Yale Ave. 663-5404 Woodland Hills Mall 7021 South Memorial Rd. 252-5850 Corporate Sales 523-8600 by Lamont Lindstrom I met brown-eyed Burt one summer when I was working in Hawai’i. Burt had grown up near Manila in the philippines. He taught English for some years at a Catholic high school. Then he came to Honolulu to work on a Ph.D. in philosophy at the University of Hawai’i In his thesis, Burt planned to reexamine traditional Asian philosophy in light of the work of post-modernists suchas Foucault and Derrida. When I met Burt, he was in his mid 30.s and solidly built, just runmng to chunk. But you could still look through those added pounds to see that he had been a graceful young man. In Honolulu, Burt found an American boyfriend- an older man retired from the telephone company. Burt movedinand tookovercooking and cleaning for the two of them. His lover’s elderly mother came to stay and he took care of her too. Burt kept purposely missing his thesis deadlines to maintain his relationship. His student visa and US Immigration demanded that, after finishing a degree, he return to the Philippines and not come back to America for three years, even as a tourist. His Ph.D. thesis wa~ already four Throughout muck of the Philippines - especially the Muslim south - there aretraditional roles in which men take on tTemlnlne, eharaeteristles and clothing. In Tagalog, the main Filipino language, these men are cafled ba/da. Traditionally, many bakla ¯were dancers. actors, and entertainers. years overdue. ~-Since that summer, I’ ve met a number of American/Filipino couples - the Filipino half typically keeping house. Throughout much of the Philippines - especially the Muslim south = there are traditional roles in which men take on .feminine characteristics and clothing. In Tagalog, themainFilipino language, these men are called bakla. Traditionally, many bakla were dancers, actors, and entertainers. MarkJohnson’snew bookabout transvestites in Sulu, Beauty andGender (Berg 1997), describes numbers Of feminine, cross-dressing Filipino boys who are .on the prowl for masculine (i.e., ’straight acting’, even married) boyfriends. In recent years, these guys have taken overand developed the hairdressing and beauty business sectorthroughoutthe Philippines. Most reject, however, a traditional bakla identity and embrace instead the label "gay." Our Western term here continues to extend its global’ spread. Burt, too, was horrified when I asked if he was a bakla. This term today resonates too many sour tones of backwardness, effeminacy, and male prostitution. There is a straight parallel to Butt and his boyfriend in Hawai’i. In any romance magazine sold at Quiktrip, one can find advertisements touting the merits of submissive, yet sexy, Asian women. You, too, can easily send away for a mail-order Oriental bride! One ofmy second cousins had a fairly successful marriage with an able woman from Vietnam until his warrelated post traumatic stress syndrome worsened one day and he attacked an old lady gassing her car up at a California service station. Feminists decry the Ameriean stereotype ofsexy Suzy Wongs who serve white ° men in bed, serve them dinner - who ¯ meekly serve all their needs whatever. ," But the international marriage marketl ." place works to bring women out from the Philippines, and other Southeast Asian countries, into the US. Ainerican wealth allows at leastsome ofus to shop overseas and purchase our sexual fantasies, even if we don’t always get what we think we are buying. And Americans .profit, too, from positive images that encourage at least some Asians to hop a plane and fly into the arms of an unknown Occidental spouse. Obviously, just as many Filipinas (and Filipinos) are 1.ooking for Americans as vice versa. The market for gay Asian fianc6s is constrained by the inability of homosexuals to marry legally and thereby obtain green cards for our ~mported boyfriends. Still, I’ve had interesting email correspondence with several guys in Indonesia, Malaysia, and the Philippines. They wonder if I can set them up with American lovers. One gayboy in Jakarta, a civil servant whose nom de email is Koko, asked my advice about accepti.’ng a one-way air ticket from an American Internet correspondent. I counseled him to take care lest he end up a sex slave, bound up in somebody’s basement. The Hollywood ~mage of the United States is very powerful overseas. Even Tulsa can seem urbane and sophisticated to somebody in Zamboaga or Chiangmai or Penang. Mostrecently, I havebeenin touch with a sad, young Filipino in the port city of Dubai, United Arab Emirates. Joe moved to Dubai from Saudi Arabia severa! months ago. He had broken up with his 50-something, bald American lover whom he was with for three years. Joe, understandably, is depressed. He emails me that he misses fixing dinners for the two of them. He misses fussing about his ex-lover’s various medical conditions. Gay life in Dubai is no doubt grim. Joe nowadays appears to live mostly on the Internet. The American boyfriend, perhaps because he was at the end of an employment contract or perhaps becauserelations with Joehadlanguished, returned here to Tulsa by himself. Well, almost by himself. He brought their eat back to Tulsa but he left his Filipino boyfriend behind in the Arabian deserts. for housing programs earmarked for people with AIDS. The $21 million was shifted to help f’mance state extended care programs for veterans. Rep. VanHilleary, R-Tenn., said the reduction was justified because of a 6 percent decline in the annual number of AIDS cases. Opponents of the amendment argued that the decline is attributed to the wider use of ¯ new drugs and the success ofsuch drug tr~tments often depends on patients having decent housing. Almost everybody wo~nders about the paths not taken. By telling our untold tales and making them normal, I hope that our sense of failure will be reduced.’" As a psychotherapist, Marny has been witness to many stories by Lesbians. An example of the man3’ excerpts from The Lesbian Love Companion: "You might ~’ant to develop your other-woman fantasy. Install her as your permanent muse. Pay attention to her. She’ll tell you whether t~ sign up for scuba class or just buy some new lingerie. And after you do what she suggests, check in with her from time to time. Has she changed? Is she suggesting another direction? You are entitled to keep her toyourself: ,She is, after all, purely 3"our playmate, soul mate - combination projection, reflection, guide. And, :Aphrodite forbid, ifanything should ever happen to ),our partner, ’*our fantasy lover ";~q]l be there for you. SlOe will shoe 3"our ’memories and your tears. She will con- ~ble and commiserate. And, one chy, when the time is right, she will lead You back to ~E world.’" As Mamv writes i’n the book: "V~qlen it comes to ou~ lives and loves, we need a generous supply of alternative stoi~ es: Instructive sci-fi fabIes and twilight zone mysteries, endless sequels and whitel~ uckl~ exploits. \Ve ~e both hearth buggers and voyagersl We must make room in our lives for the dream of foreverafter and the determination to never look back." Early reactions to Marny’s book? Rumorhas it that Lily Tomlin loves it ! Alison Bechdel, creator of the comic strip Dykes To Watch Out For, calls it".., a veriiable Karma Sutra of emotional possibility." For further reading: Mamy Hall (1998), The Lesbian Love Companion: How to Survive Everything from Heartthrob ~o Heartbreak. 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The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource August 1998 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Adam West James Christjohn Jean-Claude de Flambeauchaud Barry Hensley J.P. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document New AIDS Vaccine To Be Tested In Tulsa TULSA, Okla. (AP) - Tulsa’s participation in the national test of a vaccine that could help prevent infection from the virus that causes AIDS puts that city at the forefront of science, according to one doctor.. Homosexual menat high risk of contracting the HIV virus will be recruited for the study as will womenin relationships with men who are HIV-positive. Candidates could begin enrolling as early as October. "It puts Tulsa on a top levelin terms ofnew science," saidDr. Ralph Richter of St. John Medical Center. "Here is the development of a new science - a potential breakthrough that could protect millions of individuals from de- "It puts Tulsa on a top level in terms o~ new sclence~ - Dr. Ralpla Richter St. Jolm Medical Center ¯ Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends ! Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations ¯ Pride Center VandalizedAgain Calling all Lesbians! TULSA - A new activities-related group, GALAVanting, wants you to come out and play. Recentl y formedby local poetandTFNDo-It- YourselfDyke, Mary Schepers and one ofher friends, Joan, GaLAVanting will host a variety of activities for Tulsa area women throughout the year. "Not to disparage the bars, but there aren’ t many social activities for women outside the clubs," explained Schepers. "If you prefer a different environment or entertmnment, your options are limited. Gal-A-Vanting is going to change that. And we’re planning our activities before the regular bar hours to avoid competition with those longtime community institutions." Gal-A-Vanting emerged from a conversation in which Mary and Joan bemoaned an apparent lack of Lesbian community in the area. They decided to roll up their sleeves and provide those opportumties they themselves would be interested in. "It does sound like ’Hey kids, let’s put on a show,’ " Schepers acknowledged, "but if we sat around waiting for the situation to magically change, it would be a long wait. We are the community, we should do something about it." Two activities are in the works for the balance of this year: an Arts Night and a Dance. The Arts Night is scheduled for Friday, October 23, 7:00: 9:00 p.m. at the Pride Center 1307 E. 38th on Brookside. Featured will be works of art for display and sale, poetry readings, and music. There is room available to showcase more talent; call Mary at 743-6740 if you are interested. Schepers emphasizes that, while this event is by and for women, "our brothers are welcome, too." Most subsequent events will be for women only. Light refreslunents will be served and a two dollar donation, to benefit the Pride Center, is requested. The dance will be in November, before holiday madness sets in. The date, nine and place haven’t been~ s_et y,eL but the eny~ronment will be to~acc~_~ Events will be scheduled frequently throughout 1999, and Gal-A-Vanting wants to know what activities women would like to attend. "We’ re here to help people get together, have fun, meet new friends. Joan and I are doing this as a non-profit - service," Schepers said. "No agenda except a good ¯ time - come join us for a little Ms-adventure!’" Holy Spirit Rev,val to ¯ Feature Rev, AliceJones ¯¯ TULSA -The Rev. Alice Jones, longtime Tulsa commumty leader and former pastor of the Metro- " politan Commmunity Church of Greater Tulsa ¯ (MCCGT) will lead a mini-revival for spiritual ¯ renewal on Sept. 23-25, Wed.-Fri. at 7pm at the ¯ House of the Holy Spirit. Holy Spirit is located at ~ 3210e South Norwood, just south of Mall 31. Rev. ; Jones will also conduct services Sunday, 9/27 at ¯ 10:45am and the church will host a potluck lunch after the service. Holy Spirit will also hold a garage sale at the church on Fri. & Sat. Sept. 11 & 12. For more information, call 224-4754. TULSA, Okla. (AP/TFN)-Vandals targetedacenterhererunby aGay civil rights group again, smashing the facility’s glass door, authorities said. The door at the Pride Center, operated by Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, was broken in with a bat or a stick of some kind after 9:30 p.m. Thursday night, said Greg Gatewood, a volunteer at the center. The glass door was also smashed the night of Aug. 7, and was later replaced. The buiIding in which the center is located also houses several other businesses, none of which were vandalized. The center caters to Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender groups, Gatewood said. State law does not classify crimes motivedby hatred toward sexual orientation as "hate crimes," but vandalism statutes wouldapply to the incidents. The police were called both times and Pride Center organizers said they will implement additional security measures. Gatewood said that in addition to a bomb threat last fall, the center has seen its signs taken down and thrown away and several Pride The door ofthePride Center flags stolen, prior to theglass replacement. However, activities continue at the Center with a number of organizations meeting regularly. The Center also is now showing Lesbian and Gay-interest video every Thurs. evening at 7:30 pm. For more info., call 743-GAYS. ’99 Parade Planning Begins TULSA, Okla. (AP) - Officers of Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR) are calling all interested community members to come to a Lesbian/Gay Pride Parade planning meeting onThnrsday, Sept. 22 at 7pm at the Pride Center, 1307 E 38th, 2nd ft. While Oklahoma City has had a Gay Pride Parade for more veloping HIV infection or AIDS." Tulsa will be among than 10 years, Tulsa had its first Pride March in 1997 with 65 nearly 40 clinical sites nationwide to participatein the people marching from Gilcrease Museum Road to the Tulsa study. Other sites include New York, Chicago, St. ~ Pride Picnic at Owen Park. Lo,ui~s~ ~en~~7~ PhiladelPhia and s~e~ in H-°rid~,.Tcx~ : -..~year t~e .M~ch ~i.~ a_bo..ut double..~~ip~ats~went - Between 125 and 150 people will be recmited for the ] Tulsa trial, Richter said. Local AIDS groups and the ] Tulsa City-County Health Department are working on the project and will help recruiting participants. march can be held on the sidewalk, neither event required street closings nor a permit. However, if there is suffioent commumty interest,TOHR will organize a parade with street closings and the opporttmity for community organizations to have floats. For more information, call 743-GAYS (4297) or attend on 9/22. Methodists: Apartheid - Yes! ¯ DALLAS (AP) -The United Methodist Church early last month ¯ elevated a guideline against same sex marriages into church ¯ canon [church law] and saidministers who perform the ceremonies could be removed, The Judicial Council of the church, the nation’ s second largest Protestant denomination with 9.5 million members, ruled that ministers who violate the ban on Lesbian and Gay Holy Unions are "liable to be" brought to church trial. The decision of the nine-member council, which heard testimony "in Irving, Texas, affects one sentence in the Social Principles. It reads: "Ceremonies that celebrate homosexual unions shall not be conducted by our ministers and shall not be Conducted in our churches." That statement was added by the 1996 General Conference, the denominati0n’ s top policy-making body. The council decided the conference delegates "’were enacting legislation that would be binding as the law of the church." "The specific prohibition is law," said Bishop George W. Bashore, president of the Council of Bishops of United Methodist Church. The gmdeline, which was part of the congregation’ s Social Principles, states: "Ceremonies that celebratehomosexual unions shall not be conducted by our manisters and shall not be conducted in our churches." Social Principles serve as moral standards for the congregation. The ruling has .the effect of transforming the standard into church law, and pastors who violate the law may be.reprimanded or even defrocked. "It has all of the potential for a minister to lose his or her credentials in the Methodist Church," Bashore said. The issue arose with the case of the Rev. Jimmy Creech, former pastor of the 1,900-member First United Methodist Church of Omaha, Neb. He was accused of disobedience after performing a Lesbian wedding ceremony last September in defiance of his bishop. Creech was acquitted six months later by a church jury. The acquittal prompted the regional bishops to appeal to the Judicial Council for a formal ruling on whether the guideline was merely a moral standard or church law. see Apartheid, p. 3 The Food and Drug Administration approved testing of the vaccine by a California company, VaxGen Inc., , in June. The AIDSvax vaccine alre?ady has been tested in preliminary trials that included 1,200 people. Those tests, which began in March 1992, showed that 99 percent of those-vaccinated produced strong levels of antibodies. Final testing of the vaccine will include 5,000 U.S. volunteers at high risk of contracting the AIDS virus and 2,500 high-risk people in Thailand. In the "blinded" trial, two-thirds of the U.S. volunteers will receive the vaccine, while the rest will receive a placebo: Volunteers will participate for three years and will receive HIV counseling about the dangers Of unsafe sex. "We don’ t want to encourage people to go and become more reckless," Richter said. Volunteers will receive three injections of the genetically engineered vaccine over several months. Those will be followed by a series of booster shots. The vaccine uses-engineered copies of the gpl20 protein, which is found on the Outer coating Of the HIV virus. Once injected, the vaccine is supposed to prompt the immune system to make antibodies, which can attack invading viruses before they infect healthy cells. Opponents doubt the vaccine will be successful, arguing that earlier tests showed the vaccine boosted only one 15artoftheimmune system and therefore would not be effective in large numbers of participants. Some also question whether new strains of theAIDS virus might render the vaccine useless. MJ ° DIRECTORYILE’I-I’ERS P. 2/3 US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 ~ HEALTH NEWS P. 6 ENTERTAINMENT NOTES P. 8 ~ COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 BOOK REVIEW P, 10 DO-IT-YOURSELF P. 11 DYKE PSYCHF_JGAY STUDIES P. 12/13 ---, CLASSIFIEDS + WEERWOLF P. 14 Brookside Jewelry & TNT’s To Host Benefit TULSA- Two Tulsa businesses will host a benefit for Oklahoma Indian HIV/AIDS activist, Lisa Tiger, on Saturday, Sept. 19 at TNT’s on the NW corner of 21 st & Memorial, The evening event will feature music and other entertainment as wall as Tiger posters and copies of the book, Voices From the Next Feminist Generation, for $15. Ms. Tiger has adopted 50glala Sioux children from South Dakota’ s Pine Ridge Reservation and greatly needs help to care for them. Anyone unable to attend the benefit may help by sending any donation to Lisa Tiger, c/o Tiger Blair Gallery, 2110 East Shawnee, Muskogee, Oklahoma. For more info. call Mdody at 743-5272. Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. 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Dobson’s group [Focus ontheFam- ¯ ily] may be spendingthe most in Hawaii, but the ChristianCoalition is raisingmoney ~ worldwide as well to use in Hawaii. ; The key team standing up to this on- , slaught is: Protect Our Constitution, ¯ PO Box 235704, Honolulu, HI 96823. Donations to Protect Our Constitution are ¯ not tax deductible. Donations are reported ¯ to the campaign spending commission. ¯ Protect Our Constitution is affiliated with ~ the national Human Rights Campaign. ¯ Other Players: ¯ Supreme Court- silent; no news on the ¯ final appeal of the Baehr case ¯ Legislature -not in session; most of ¯ them runniug for re-election ." Governor - running for a second term; : uphill battle against a charismatic woman ¯ Republican who might even be Lesbian ¯ but vigorously denies it publicly ¯ Constitutional Amendment- ffthe vote ¯ were held today; the "no" would win. A ¯ "no" vote protects the equal civil rights of Gays and Lesbians. However, the amend- " merit is confusing to many voters and ¯ many more have yet to realize that itis on ¯ ¯ the November ballot. Call for a Constitutional Convention - ~ more and more people realize that such a ¯ convention, held under the shadow of ¯ hysteria over same-gender marriage, ¯ would be a disaster for environmental ¯ protection, native Hawaiian gathering ¯ - rights, the right to strike, the freedom tochoose as well as the freedom to marry. The only question is whether this broad o coalition of interests can deliver the votes on November 3rd[ The exact constitutional question [is]: "Shall the constitution of the State of Hawaii be amended to specify that the legislature shall have the power to reserve mamage to opposite-sex couples." Note that it doe-s not directly ban samegendermarriage, butmoves the topicaway from protection of the bill of rights in the constitution. Note also that it is a power grab by the legislature at the expense of theiudependentjudiciary. As mostpeople in Hawaii learn this, they decide to vote "no". Can they be educated fast enough, in 72 days? In the meantime, the opposition is working hard to make this amendment a referendum of whether one supports same-sex marriage (vote "yes" if you oppose same-sex marriage is their campaign focus). The Role ofMarriage Project Hawaii - MPH is operating under a tax-deductible status that limits its lobbying and election activities. It continues to support the Baehr case, to educate the public on issues related to same-gender marriage, and to build a. network of supporters in Hawaii. It’s address is PO Box 11690, Honolulu, HI 96828. - Tom Ramsey Hawaii Marriage Update TheBIG change- Hawaii’s Campaign Letters Policy Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on issues which we’ve covered or on issues you think need to be considered. Youmay request that your name be withheld but letters mustbe signed&have phonenumbers, or be hand delivered. 200 word letters are preferred. Letters to other publications will be printed as is appropriate. Creech, who now lives on Ocracoke Island, N.C., and makes his living cleaning cottages, bitterly criticized the nding. "I am grieving for the United Methodist Church," he said. "I am encouraging pastors to go ahead and celebrate a covenant ceremony in defiance to this nding." Creech toldTheLincolnJournal Starin aphoneinterview that he feels the ruling is "evil." "It’ s still an unjust and, I think, evil decision in the impact on people who are Lesbian or Gay." Nebraska Bishop Joel Martinez, who removed Creech from the Omaha church, praised the Judicial Council’s decision. "All ministers in the covenant of ordained ministry in the United Methodist Church now have Clear direction on this matter," Martinez Said. "I continue to urge all United Methodists in Nebraska to berespectful in dialogue and prayerful in attitude toward all others who may hold opposing views on this matter." Mel Semrad, a spokesman for church members who left the Omaha congregation in protest over the wedding, lauded the decision Tuesday. Semrad and about 450 others are working to start theirown Methodist church in Omaha, saying they believe the Bible and church tradition do not allow Gay weddings. Mike McClellan, an Omaha attorney and member of First United .Methodist, said he does not agree with the Judicial Council’s decision. He called the decision a political one, made under pressure from Methodist bishops. "I think that they’ vejust r~ally made an unfortunate decision," he said. "More than anything itjust sends abad message to Gays and Lesbians. "It’ s difficult to convince (Gays and Lesbians) to be apart of our churches.., when the institution itself sends out such awful messages to them, and hateful messages." The Rev. Charlotte Abram, new ~issociate pastor of First United Methodist in Omaha, said she was disappointed by the nding. "First United Methodist Church will continue to work toward the time when the United Methodist Church will be a place where there is equality for all God’ s children, including Gaymenand. Lesbians," she said. The Rev. John Thomburg, senior pastor for Northhaven United Methodist Church of Dallas, which has a congregation that is one-third Gay, saidhe will obey they ruling but is disappointed. Impact on Northern California Churches The United Methodist Church’ s ban on Gay marriages could have a big impact in Northern California, where seyeral Methodist ministers have pledged support for same-sex unions. The decision puts Northern California Methodist Bishop Melvin Talbert between a theological rock and an ecclesiastical hard place. Ten Methodist ministers are among 150 Christian, Jewish and Buddhist clergy in the regionwhohave signed a declaration stating, "I have officiated or would be willing to officiate at the religious marriage of a same-gender couple." In May, Talbert said he would not discipline any minister who performed Gay rites ",until instructed otherwise by our Judicial Council." But Rev. Alan Jones said he doesn’t expect Talbert to start cracking down on clergy who perform Gay marriage. ’qThose clergy who support holy tmion will continue to do them," said Jones, executive director of San Francisco-based United Methodist Mission. "For me it’ s a pastoral issue. Either I respect the integrity ofmy sisters and brothers, or I don’ t. I don’ tbdieve in ’love the sinner, hate the sin.’ I either love someone, or I don’t." Still, last month’ s ruling by the church’ s equivalent of the Supreme Court gives Talbert’s opponents more ammunition: Local bishops like Talbert "don’t have the authority to overrule this decision," said Thomas McAnally, a spokesman at the United Methodist Church headquarters. "The decision is final." Other Christian Groups Joe Leonard of .the National Council of Churches, which represents 34 Protestant and Orthodox churches in the US, said the United Church of Christ is the only mainline Protestant church that approves of Lesbianand Gay ceremonies. Andon Aug. 5, an international Anglican meeting, the Lambeth Conference, declared homosexuality to be "incompatible with Scripture" and said Gays should not be ordained. However, declarations at Lambeth are not binding on national Episcopal Churches and these statements are in conflict with positions taken by the Episcopal Church, USA. Some US bishops do ordain openly Gay persons and do sanction Holy Unions. by Kerry Lobel Wehear their names again and again, like a litany from a relentless bad dream: GOP Senate Majority Leader Trent Lott, GOP House Majority Leader Dick Armey, Family Research Council President Gary Bauer, Focus on the Family President Dr. James Dobson, California Republican Congressman Frank RIFFS, and Colorado Republican Congressman Joel Hefley. Together, these men and others are controlling the agenda of the Republican Party. Together, they’ve launched an unprecedented attack on the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and transgender community. With the 1998 Congressional elections only months away, the Presidential primaries will be here in a heartbeat. As expected, the extreme right-wing is literally and figuratively using homosexuals as their favorite poster children in an effort to consolidate their voting base and raise funds from them. Several extreme right-wing groups includingChristianCoalition, Family Research Council, and ConcernedWomenforAmerica ran ads last month in the New York Times, Washington Post, andUSAToday proclaiming "We’re standing for the truth that homosexuals can change." The ads offer a beguiling elixir of "hope and healing." We’ re not fooled by this kinder, gentler bigotry. These ads arenot aboutreligionandhealing, they’ re about politics and intolerance. Homosexuality is not the problem. Homophobia and the hatred and the discrimination it fosters is the problem. Last month the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force and Equal Partners in Faith gathered over 30 national religious leaders from many faith traditions. These "We’re standing for the truth that homosexuals can change." The ads offer a beguiling elixir of "hope and healing." We’re not fooled by this kinder, gentler bigotry. These ads are not about religion and healing, they’re about politics and intolerance. Homosexuality is not the problem. Homophobia and the hatred and the dlserimlnation it fosters is the problem. ¯ Twenty-five years ago NGLTF was also involved in ~ effort to remove homosexuality from the American Psy- ¯ chiatricAssociaOon’ s listofmental disorders. This change ~ removed an important obstacle to our freedom, one that the right-wing hopes to roll back. Year after year, a growing number of Americans have supported equality for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgendered people. The extreme right-wing recognizes this and has desperately attempted to solidify their donor and voter base by trying by selling America the lie that Gay people need redemption. Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual people do not need hope, healing or prayers to change our sexual orientation. We need our adversaries to hope for our equality and to pray for our civil rights. Weneed them to understand that the only thing that needs to be changed is the bigotry that continues to divide our country across lines of race, class, gender, religion and sexual orientation. We don’t need to dignify the statements of our adversaries by claiming that sexual orientation is genetic or that we can’ t change. This implies that most of us would change if we could. Whether genetic or chosen, sexual orientation is a deep-seated part of our identity. One day, and I hope it comes soon, we’ll live in a world where people are free to explore their sexuality, and free to live without discrimination and violence. Until then, I’ 11 keep my eye on the real prize, freedom, justice, and equality, and not always focus on defending myself from our adversaries. Founded in 1973, the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force works to eliminate leaders expressed their support for Gay, Lesbian, Bi- " prejudice, violence and injustice against Gay, Lesbian, sexual and Transgendered (GLBT) peoplein the wake of ¯ Bisexual and Transgendered people at the local, state the recent ad campaign. They also vowed .to speak out ¯ and nationallevel. Aspart .9~a i~roader socialjustice,,~ ,.~, ~ ..... together froma f~ith~persp~fiV~’ito challengethe reli=~-:: ~mO~ifo~fr~dr~;j~’~d~’~i~u&ii~),~lqdL~’7~~ gious right’ s manipulation ofreligion to promote a political agenda, and to affirm the spirituality and equality of GLBT persons and supporters all across the nation. by Tom Neal, editor &publisher Kudos to PFLAG Last month, I attended the PFLAG (Parents, Families ¯and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) meeting to hear and meet the remarkable Allen Family who’d spoken recently on The Today Show about the harassment that their son, Will Allen,_had experienced in a local high school. They were smart, brave and articulate. I highly commend thelia for their willingness to witness to our nation about the inherent dignity of Lesbian and Gay lives and what being a family is really, really about. And of course, PFLAGandits boardpresident,TulsanNaneyMeDonald, deserves praise for helping to arrange this appearance. Another Brave Family Also, during this same time, longtime community activists Ric & Kelly Harrison Kirby, also made their lives public (in major stories in USA Today, Hard Copy and I’m told onNationalPublic Radio) to help respond to the "ex-Gays" or "Gay conversion" messages that national ultra-extremist religious/political groups were promoting. Kelly&Ric have served Tulsa for years, as Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR) officers and as HIV/AIDS activists. Kelly has also served on boards related to the Disciples of Christ denomination and is treasurer of the national board of PFLAG. Sometimes in our community, we don’t do a goodjob of recognizing the gifts which community members give us, so if you see Ric or Kelly, thank them. It’s no little thing to give up that much of their privacy and that oftheir four children. Good Cop - Bad Cop While at the PFLAG meeting, Mrs. McDonald, made a remark some work she’ s been doing with the National Conference for Community and Justice (NCCJ, formerly the National Conference of Christians and Jews) to ¯ creating a world that respects and celebrates the diver- ¯ sity ofhuman expression and identity where all people mayfullyparticipate in society. make that organization more sensitive to Lesbian and Gay issues. I may be mistaken but the comment about not ~ pushing people into a comer seemed to have a little barb ¯ to it and it was delivered while she was looking right at ¯ me, ¯ Regular readers may recall that TFN has written several times over a multiple year period about the failure of the Tulsa chapter of the NCCJ, a human rights organization, to include Lesbian and Gay issues, or Lesbians or Gay men on its board of directors. Iamdelighted to share thatnotonly has Mrs. McDonald been in dialogue with the Tulsa chapter of the NCCJ but they have invited her to be on their board of directors. While it’s hardly a secret that Mrs. McDonald and I frequently disagree about methods of creating social change, she & I likely completely agree about our goals for America’s, and Tulsa’s Lesbian/Gay/Bi and Transgendered communities. I havefaith that she will represent our commumty’ s interests well. And I have no doubt that Mrs. McDonald will be as stem in correcting the NCCJ board when she thinks they need it as she is with me ;-) About Town is a new editorial column which will appear occasionally. It, obviously, is an opinion piece. Readers are welcome to call with information about which they think this newspaper needs to know. Readers are also welcome to respond by letter or by e-mail. Kelly Curtis Ford, formerly of Tulsa and longtime companion of Roger Morris, died suddenly on August 15th at the age of 52. Ford grew up in Duncan, attended Cameron University and taught in Oklahoma schools in Waiters and in Oologah for 23 years where he was selected as Teacher of the Year in 1991. Ford is survived by Morris and also by three brothers in Duncan. A memorial service will held at 7pm on Wednesday, Sept. 3 at All Souls Unitarian Church, 29th & Peoria. Hawaii: Wide Opposition " Phi!ly Partners’ to Same-Sex Marriage Benefits Challenged shows more~a 2 l/2-tod m~n ,oppos~ to v~ues advo~tes have fil~ alawsuit ag~nst ~e city, legMi~ng s~e-sexm~age. ~epoll conduct~for timing ~e institution of m~age will be i~ep~a- ~ ~ G~l~zr~~7~fyff~rts~7~n~ ~e Honol~u S~ B~ledn ~d ~NL~TV fo~d 63 bly~edby a new or&n~~fing city workers % o~os~ to legMifing m~ageS between two men wi~ s~e-sex p~ers ~e s~e benefits ~m~ I ~. burdem. ~me sMre ~ ~e~W0f ~’s or twowomen, wi~ 24% in favor ~d 13% ~de- p~ple. ~ a battle~ck~~o~d ~e co~y, ~e cid~. smt states ~at City Co~l&~’t have ~e au~ofi~ ~__ ~~ Cbi~renAreAlwa~sWelco~! ~en ~e s~e question w~ ~ked in Feb~y to extend h~ ~d pension benefits to Gay ~d 1997, 70% of ~e respondents voi~ op~sifion to ~sbi~p~ers~dto~o~bit&s~nafion~e h s~e-gender ~ons, wi~ 20% in favor ~d 10% wor~la~ b~ed on m~ s~ms. "~i~ Co~ ~mm~ ~s~e. Pollsters have ask~ ~e question five times ¯ shoed be uplff~g m~age, not r~efi~ng m~- sin~ J~e 1993. ~e~ghest levd of op~sifion w~ " fiage," sMd ~e Rev. ~c~,a p~tor at Be~el r~rd~ in M~ch 1996, when 74% of ~ose ask~ " Ddiver~Ch~chin~laddpMa.Thed~s-acfion opposed same-sex marriage, 21% for and 6% undecided. The poll did not ask voters how they would vote on a November ballot question about whether to limit legal marriages to those between one man and one woman. Supporters of same-sex marriage say they are not surprised by the poll numbers, with David Smith of the Washington-l~asedHumanRights Campaign saying similar opposition would have been recorded in polls 30 or 40 years ago if people had been asked about interracial marriages. "But the U.S. Supreme Court decided that the Constitution allows peopleto marry who they choose in terms of race," Smith said. Rev. Marc Alexander of Hawaii Catholic Conference called the poll results gratifying, and said efforts to win support for same-sex marriage .are failing. ’°Ittose figures are solid," he said. "Even with the push to get same-sex mamage, it hasn’t made a significant dent." The telephone poll of 417 vote/s was conducted from Aug. 4-7, and has a margin of error of plus of minus 5% points.It was conducted by Mason-Dixon Political/Media Research of Columbia, Md. .Fayetteville Anti-Bias Law Debated was filed in Philadelphia County Court by the Urban Family Council and 10 individuals~ including Lam- Mayor Edward G. Rendell, a supl~orter of the measdres,immediately dismissed thele~al challenge. "It has no chance of being successful," Rendell said. "All wedidis recognizewhatcities all across America are doing - that ~ommitted relationships come in different shapes and sizes." At issue is a package of three bills passed by the council in May that culminated a five-year battle by Gay and Lesbian activists. Under the legislation, any of the city’s 24,000 unionized workers with same-sex . partners would qua~.ify for benefits after meeting certain criteria proving that they are involved in a "life partnership," including shared bank accounts, dual property ownership and beneficiary designation. The ordinance also exempted same-sex partners from the real estate transfer tax. More than 100 mtmicipalities across the country give similar allowances to same-sex partners, according to the Philadelphia-based Center forGay Law and Public Policy. Boston MayorThomas M. Menino last week signed an executive order to extend health benefits to domestic partners and dependents of Gay, Lesbian and unmarried city employees. Last month, New York City Mayor Rudolph Giuliani signed a similar measure that activists called one of the most comprehensive in the nation. Opponents charged that the Philadelphia measure, ¯ especially the life partnership designation, created ¯ a new legal definition of marriage that benefits samesex partners. State law does not allow individual ¯¯ communities to amendthat definition.WilliamDevlin, director of the Urban Family Council, said thelawsuit ¯ is not intended to be anti-Gay or anti-Lesbian. ¯ "We’re saying,’ City Council, you redefined family, you redefined marriage - that’s inherent in the ¯ (law).’ If anything is’ anti-’, it’s City Council, being anti-family, anti-child and anti-marriage," Devlin ¯ said. "We have come to stand for what we believe.is ¯ right today," said Mary Campbell, a Philadelphia ¯ residentwho is a plaintiff in the suit. "We believe that we are representative of many, man?,, people in this , city, and hope that they will join us. Gay and ~Lesbian civil fights activists disagreed. : "The extension of workplace benefits to G.ay_ and : Lesbian couples denied the right of marriage is loga- ¯ cal," said Rita Adessa, executive director of the ¯ Philadelphia Gay and Lesbian Task Force." "We’re dealing with at/issue of fairness," she said. "When : you deny the people the right to marry, and attach ¯ benefits to marriage, it sets up a system where hetero- ¯ sexuality and marriage is privilege." ¯ Rendell said opponents to the measure should concentrate their efforts in another direction. "The (critics) will lose," the mayor said. "They should probably spend their efforts promoting the values they care ai3out rather than trying to stop this. This is. not a big threat to our way of life." SPRINGDALE, Atk.’(AP) - Opponents of an anti~ discrimination item on the fall ballot in Fayetteville say the measure would affect surrounding communities if it passes. The proposal would prohibit businesses in One city from discriminating in hiring on the basis of sexual orientation or family status. It also says the city won’t discriminate on the basis of race, sex, disability and other reasons. "When Fayetteville sneezes, Springdale, Rogers, and Bentonville all get wet," said Kirk Hartness of Rogers, coordinator for the Citizens Aware Group. Fayetteville’s city council approved the resol.ution in April, but Mayor Fred Hanna vetoed it. The city council overrocle the veto May 6, and a group called . theCitizens Aware committee collected enough signatures to put the measure on the Nov. 3 ballot. Hartuess said that there is more to .the resolution than meets the eye. He said businesses would be "’forced to cave-in to hiring and benefit policies catering to homosexuals."-He also said there would be access to the public schools with an agenda t teach children 5, 6, and 7-year-olds their bizarre and . destructive sexualpractices arejustanotherlifestyle." Hartness spoke after Christian Coalition chairman, Brent Watson of Fayetteville, yielded the floor at a candidate’s forum attended by about 20 people: Hartness saidhewas asked by Rev. Gene Fulcher and Rev. Charlie Brown, the co-chairmen of the Citizens Aware steering group to head the campaign. He said the group had struggled for a name of the resolution, but "we have to be careful with these things in the public though because we don’t want to identify this specifically as a piece of homosexual legislation- however you should be aware for the purposes of discussion- that is what this is really all about." He said similar resolutions hadbeen passed in communities onor near college campuses and that the resolutions are not about equal access to jobs or education. Citizens for Fair Government, a local political action group, says ithopes to educatepeople about the issue so they will vote for the resolution. San Francisco Still Leads in Civil Rights SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - Despite a Republican offensive against Gays, San Francisco is poised today to solidify its stance on civil rights by asking private businesses to extend special deals to domestic partners. A year after the city inaugurated its domestic partners ordinance, the Board of Supervisors is ex- MARK T. HAMBY Attorney Bankruptcy Civil Matters Call for More information 1500 Nations Bank, 15 West Sixth Tulsa, Oklahorna 74119 744-7440 Fax 744-9358 Community Unitai’ian Universalist .Congregation at Community ofHope United Methodist 2545 South Yale Sundays at 11am Info: 749-0595 A Voicefor Freedom & Tolerance Family ofFaith Metropolitan Community Church Rev. Sherry Hilliard Interim Pastor Sunday Choir practice, 4pm Worship, 5pro Wednesday Midweek Service,6:30pm Thursday Codependency Support Group, 7:30pro 5451-ES. 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Approved unanimously last week, the proposal gets a second vote tonight and Mayor Willie Brown is expected to sign it. It would make San Francisco the only city in the nation to require private businesses - such as gyms, car rental companies and insurance agencies - to extend discounts they offer to married couples to domestic parmers as well. The vote follows on the heels of a political backlash against Gays that may cost San Francisco millions in federal housing funding and a prominent Gay philanthropist an ambassadorship. Less than two weeks ago, the House voted 214-212 - most of them Republican votes - in favor of blocking San Francisco from federal housing money because of its civil-rights policy. The pioneering EqUalBenefits Ordinance requires businesses with city contracts to extend health benefits to its workers’ partners. Since its introduction a year ago, the city has battled corporations unwilling to recognize Gay partnerships - including major airlines, Catholic Charities and the Salvation Army. "We should not force or coerce (businesses) to adopt policies they find morally objectionable," Rep. Frank Riggs, who represents the rural North Coast in Congress, said in a heated debate. Not long before that, Senate Majority Leader Trent Lott, R-Miss., - who likened homosexuality to a treatable condition like alcoholism or kleptomania - said it was unlikely James Hormel wouldbecome the nation’ s first openly Gay ambassador. Hormel, a San Francisco philanthropist who has supported Gay causes, has been criticized for what opponents call his "Gay agenda." And Republicans -unsuccessfully - sought to overturn President Clinton’ s orderbarring discrimination against Gays and Lesbians at federal agencies. .-Still, supervisors are expected today to send the newest domestic partners proposal to the mayor in.an act that suggests a determination to set a standard for human rights. "Banning discrimination is. no new concept," supervisor Mark Leno, the proposal’s sponsor, told the San Francisco Examiner last month. "We’re talking about inalienable rights here." tian groups paid $35,000 to buy the ad, which will be published in a section of the Sunday paper prepared by the San Francisco Examiner. The Sunday paper also contains sections produced by the San Francisco Chronicle. The full-page ad suggests that Gay men and Lesbians can change their sexual orientation if they pray and get help from "ex-Gay ministries," groups of people who say they once were Gay but became heterosexual. It is one of four such ads that the groups have placed in the New York Times, Washington Post and other papers over the last month. Some members of San Francisco’ s Gay community considered running an opposing ad in the same section, which is what other groups have done in other cities. Some said the ads were distasteful, but said First Amendment rights come first. "It’s frightful, it’s horrific, it’s completely disturbing to see these ads," said Supervisor Mark Leno. "But I think we as a Gay and Lesbian and progressive community would belittle ourselves and lower ourselves to our opponents’ standards if we were to deny them this most American right of freedom of expression, as they are denying us the most American rights - our malienable rights of life, liberty and pursuit of happiness." The Christian groups, led by Janet Folger of the Florida-based Center for Reclaiming America, first approached the San Francisco Chronicle - which rejected the ad. "We reviewed it, and we had several concerns about the ad and made the decision that we were not going to run it," Chronicle Publisher John B. Sias said. The San Francisco Newspaper Agency, which sells advertising for both the Chronicle and Examiner under a joint operating agreement, suggested the ad could run in the Sunday news sections, which are produced by the Examiner. Examiner Publisher Lee J. Guittar accepted the ad. "We do not like to censor ads or suppress the free flow of information," Guittar said. "This is an issue up to debate. The Examiner’ s position is that Commerce and theSmall BusinessNetw0rk, has faced ¯ fion is espousing, we oeneve mey nave me nglat to little opposition from business owners. "It makes good express their opinion." The newspaper will also business sense," said Leno. "It g~ves business an additional marketing tool and could help them compete With other businesses." It’s expected to have more impact as a symbolic gesture than as a business measure. Most car rental agencies in the city do not offer special rates to married couples, and some gyms already include domestic partners in its "family" categories. At 24 Hottr Fitness near City Hall, domestic parmers already fall under the club’s "couple membership" category. But there’ s a hitch: live-in couples - straight or Gay - have to bring in proof that they’re more than just roommates looking for a good deal. "Joint bank accounts are nice, and (City Hall) certificates are nice," said Rick Hernandez, a sales manager. "(IDs) that show both names are nice, too." ¯ 24 Hour Fitness, which has clubs up and down the coast and in other states, is simply adjusting to San Francisco lifeby recognizing Gay couples, he said. "We sponsor the Gay Pride Parade. We’re pretty big in the community," Hemandez said. ’qt just makes sense. Otherwise we’d be shooting ourselves in the foot." Laura Gilleran, 23, says she and her live-in girlfriend, T.C. Myers, are more excited by the import of the ordinance than by the discounts. "It’ s important, since (Gay) marriage is not legal. It’ s.important to do what it takes until it becomes such," Gilleran said outside a bar in the Castro District, the heart of Gay San Francisco. And it was Gay pride - and the chance to live in city that recognizes Lesbian partnerships - that brought Myers, 20, to San Francisco. She, her brother and their mother, who i~ also a Lesbian, were moving from Arizona to Oregon when they stopped in San Francisco. "My morn got into San Francisco and said, ’We’re staying here. This is the Gay city of the world!’ " Anti-Gay Ads in SFCA SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - Christian groups are bringing their national anti-Gay advertising campaign to San Francisco’ s Stmday newspaper, causing concern in the city’ s large Gay and Lesbiancommunity. Fifteen Chrisprint an editorial that will challenge the ad. The Examiner’s decision means that although the Chronicle refused the ad, its readers will see it Sunday. The Chronicle, which splits revenues with The Examiner, also will get half the profit. Examiner Executive Editor Phil Bronstein said running the ad was a business decision and had nothing to do with the newspaper’ s commitment to coverage of Gay and Lesbian issues. "It is also our responsibility to cover the controversy over these ads, which we are doing," Bronstein said, "and to deal with the deeper issues the ads raise, about claims made in the ads, and about the obviously contradictory, views people hold." Candidate for Hawaii : Gov. Says She’s Not Gay : HONOLULU (AP) - The Republican gubernatorial candidate in Hawaii claims the incumbent’s ¯ campaign is spreading false rumors that she is homosexual. Linda Lingle’ s allegation was denied ¯ by Democratic Gov. Ben Cayetano, who has been hurt in the polls because of Hawaii’s slumping ¯ economy. A crowd member asked Lingle during a ¯ recent campaign stop whether she was Gay. "No, I ¯ amnot,"repliedLingle, themayor ofMaul County. ¯ Lingle then told The Honolulu Advertiser that a ¯ Democrat had given her a copy of a report from a Cayetano campaign committee that raised questions about her sexual orientation. Lingle cam- " paign chair Bob Awana declined to release copies. ¯ Cayetano said his campaign does not discuss the ¯ private lives of any candidate:. He demanded that ¯ Lingleproduce evidence t0 substantiateher charge. : "If they are going to make accusations,.they have a : responsibility to back themup,’"he said. ¯ .Republicans believe they have a solid chance of ." w]nmng in Hawaii, where Democrats have held the ¯ governor’s office since 1962.und dominated the ¯ Legislature since 1954. BALTIMORE (AP) - The first time Dr. ¯ Joel Gallant laid eyes on Michael Willis, : he was struck by how truly awful his new : pafientlooked. Askinnylittleemaclated ¯ creature" is what the doctor remembers. " Willis was in the full grip of AIDS, coy- : ered with eczema, partially paralyzed by ¯ aherpes infectionofthe spine, 140 pounds and falling~ Death within a year seemed almost cerlain. Thatwas 21/2 years ago. Now Willis, at 37, exudes energy. He is-toned and trim andhandsomeenough tomodel two or three times a week at the Maryland Institute College ofArt. As stunning as Willis’ turnaround seems, it is hardly unique. He is one of the thousands of Americans rescued from the edge of death by the AIDS cocktail, the combination of pills that changed a uniformlylethal disease into a treatable one. However,Willis’ storyis commoii~lace for another reason as well. Despite his look of health, he clearly has not escaped HIV. In the brutally precise language of medicine, Willis is a treatment failure. Estimates vary, but perhaps 30 percent to 60 percent of all people taking the AIDS cocktails are considered treatment failures, because HIV can still be found on standard tests that are sensitive enough to spot as few as 20 copies of the virus in a milliliter of blood. Either their viral levels never g.o.t thatlow or they rebounded after a prormslng start. When Willis first learned of his disease, 600,000 bits of virus circulated in every milliliter of his blood. At the time, he had been sick for a year, often so exhausted he could not get out of bed. He felt oddly relieved to learn the cause, even though it turned out to be HIV. While he steadily got better on a combination of the protease inhibitor Crixivan and two other drugs, the lowest his virus level ever fell is around 1,000 - far from the zero that defines success. Most of his friends.with HIV have seen - their wrus vanish. The failure of treatment to do the same for him is obviously di,s,a,ppointing. "Sometimes I cry about it, he admits. But mostly he focuses on his good fortune. He enjoys the pleasure of playing and singing withhis rock band, the Radiant Pig, enjoys feeling wall, enjoys being alive. "I just try to ignore it," says Willis. "I wish somebody would tel! me what is going to happen, but I don’t want to ask, either." But even if he asks, there are no clear answers. No one knows for sure what will happen, to those whose virus stays stubbornly visible despite all~out .treatmen~ Fromthe Start ofthe epidemic, me amount of virus has been the surest barometer of the diseaser s course. Thehigher the level, the faster it kills. Experts believe that if there’ s enough HIVto measure, it’ s probably continuin~ to damage the immune system, even ~f more slowly than befor . "Right now, we are seeing people like Michael who are having less than satisfactory virological responses. Yet clinically he is doing wonderfully and is as healthy as he has been in years," says Gallant, anAIDSexpert at Johns .Hopkins University. "We don’t know how long that will last. But our assessment is that without complete viral suppression, it won’ t last forever." The doctors wonder: Will these people start to go downhill in two years? Five? Ten or even. l,o.nge.r? They worry that the dramatic aecnne m AIDS deaths of the past ... without complete viral suppression . ¯ ¯ [we] wonder... will these people start to go. do lall in two years? Five? Ten or even longer? two years is a honeymoon, a lull beforethe epidemic reawakens. "We are winning many more battles than we won before, but we still haven’ t won the war," says Dr. Michael Saag of the University of Alabama at Birmingham. His program averaged 10 to 15 deaths a monthamongits 700AIDS patients in 1995. Then came the cocktail. In 1996 and 1997, there were just one to three deaths amonth. But this year, the figures are creeping up again, averaging five to eight deaths a month. For now, though, many like Willis continue to thrive despite stable or even rising viral. levels. "You still see wonderful, wonderful things happening with this therapy," says Dr. Lori Fantry of the University ofMaryland. "People come into the clinic and they think you’ re God. Their symptoms melt away before y,our eyes. The people aren’.t failing yet. It s the numbers." The Numbers Scientists estimate that for every unit of virus in a milliliter of blood, somewhere in thebody between 100,000 and 150,000 infected cells are making HIV. A viral load of 1,000, like Willis’, suggests between 100 million and 150 million virusmaking cells. Over time, these viruses may elude AIDS drugs.by doing a sloppy job of reproducing themselves. No unit of HIV is exactly like its parent. With each copy it makes, HIV introduces an average of one error into its~genetic code. Chances are, everyone with HIV carries a virus with a random mutation that makes it capable of resisting whatever drug comes along. When patients start treatment, doctors give them three drugs - typically a protease inhibitor and two older medicines - that they have never taken before. The idea is to hit the virus hard, knocking its production so low that lurking resistant versions never have a chance to be made ¯ in quantity. ¯ Whentreatment pushes the virus below ~ detectable levels and keeps it there, doc- ~ tors feel fairly certain that patients will stay healthy for several years. If treatment " fails, it’s because swarms of drug-resis- : tant viruses have been produced. ¯ Doctors listthreemainreasons for treat- " meatfailure: Patients neglect to take their ~ medicines on schedule; they already have : lots of resistant virus because of earlier : exposure to medicines, or their doctors , treated them inadequately. " Failure to take medicines consistently ." is probably No. 1. 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The research, conducted onprostitutes in Cameroon, found no sign that combining the common spermicide nonoxynol 9 with condoms worked any better than condoms alone. The findings were first reported in Washington last year. They are now being published in a recent issue of the New England Journal of Medicine. Thestudywas conductedon 1,292 HIVnegative prostitutes and directed by Dr. Rohald E. Roddy of Family Health International of Durham, North Carolina. The women were given condoms and were randomly assigned to get either a spermicide film or an inactive placebo film. They were told to insert the film into their vaginas before, intercourse and to require their sex partners to use the condoms. The._study~. was conducted between March i994 and December 1996. Just under7 percent ofwomen in both groups became infectedwith theAIDS virus during thecourseofthestudy. Thespermicide also didnot reduce the risk of gonorrhea or chlamydia infection. The research contradicts earlier work suggesting that nonoxynoi 9 is moderat~ y effectiveagainstgohorrheaandsome ~other sexually transmi~edinfections. Tests in animals and test tubes have also shown signs that spermicides can inactivate the AIDS viruS, but studies in people have : track people, eitherby name or by code, it would seek permission to notify past and : present partners of those infected with ¯¯ HIV. Parmersatriskwouldbeurgedtobe tested. "If we continue to focus only on ¯ AIDS and not HIV, more broadly, werisk : failing to do everything possible for prevention and care," added Daniel Zingale, i executive director of AIDS Action, a ha- : tional AIDS advocacy groupin Washing- " ton, D.C. ¯ Ms. Forbes said studies show "people ¯ will avoid getting tested altogether if they ¯ believe theirnameis going tobereported." ¯ Texas Looking at : HIV Reporting : AUSTIN (AP)-A Gay and Lesbian civil ~ rights group is raising concerns about a ¯ proposal that would require health-care ¯ providers to report the names of pep.pie : who test positive for the AIDS vmm. :’ oDfiathnee LHeasrbdiyan-GaanrdeiGa,ayexReciguhtitvseLdoibrbeyctoorf ¯ Texas, saidher organizatio~has not taken. : a formal position against the propos~ ¯ pending before the Texas Department ot : Health. ¯ Butshe saidmanypeopleonthe group’ S ¯ 17-member board of directors are con- " cerned about possible discrimination ¯ agaiusf those who test positive for the : Human lmmunodeficiency Virus. ¯ Health department officials said the : names of people with AIDS and other ¯ sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) al- : ready are reported. But those who test ¯" ies because stringent testing meant the ¯ clinics did not carry the same risks as ¯ private donor insemination, notably the ¯ possibility of AIDS contamination. ¯ However,the state SupremeCourtover- : turned the decision, after the clinic ap- ¯ pealed, saying it had the right to refuse ¯ treatment because the woman was not ¯ infertile: ¯" The Court of Appeal upheld the Su- : preme Court f’mding on Tuesday, saying ¯ thewomanhadnotbeen direcdy discrimi- : nated against on the basis of her Lesbian- " ism. ¯ Justices Bill Pincus, Geoffrey Davies : and James Thomas found the Lrib,nal : president, Roslyn Atldnson, erredin find- " ing that Lesbianism was thereason for the ¯ refusal of treatment. ¯ However, the court sent back to the : tribunal issues of indirect discrimination ¯ and a possible exemption under the Anti- " Discrimination ACt. " ~ : The issue of indirect discrimi_nation re, : lates to whether the clinic: acted reasonably in its imposition of a condition that all women t~eated must :have a consent : form signed by a male partner. i Conn. City-Debates Needle Exchange ." NEW BRITAIN, Conn.. (AP) - Heroin is : the drug ofchoice in thisdepressed,Work- ¯ ing-class city, where addicts sharing dirty : needles have pushed the HIV infection _" rate to four orfive times the state average. : The mayor acknowledges that drugs are positive for HIV are reported to the de- - far and away the city’s the biggest law p.ro.au.c.ea.c.om.u.c.un.g.re.su.tt~...A.~.tuu.,y.. u_f .; paa:r,,tm, .e.n.t.via 12-digit numbers. The 12- : enforcement heada$he,. ~.o h.... ~,,’,’- ,,sed for four ’ Yetsevenvearsatter~ew navenesta0- the contracepUve sponge,, conducted on .,~. D....1.~,4,~.~..t,~,~..t~.irlth~vstem .... lish_e~dComke~ef!cuf slurs pmsttmt.esAn Kenya, :was s:tpp~ e._arl~ : .hfi~5if~;h-t~bfllv.26 tier~entof the~gtat~’ s " ..program, ~ew B~n tias bi~museiisefS-actuallyhadahigberrateoI : Hi---V-ca--se~’-~- " - ." r-esisted following suit. The reason can be AIDS infection. "Weneed a more accurate and reliable " summed up m a word: Politics. "’This is Family Health International is a non~ profit research group that focuses on improving reproductive health, primarily through contraception and the prevention of sexually transmitted diseases. Penn. Looks at HIV Tracking HARRISBURG, PA (AP) - The state Health Department already tracks AIDS cases and now is considering monitoring HIV cases in hopes of treating people earlierandmoreeffectively, officials said. Monitoring HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, has been overlooked in the past, saidDeputyHealth Secretary Gary Gurian. Pennsylvania is one of 19 states that doesn’ t trackHIV cases. Thirty-two states already track the number of people with HIV, two of which use codes instead of names to record HIV-infeeted people. Thenew state.plans arebeing applauded by AIDS advocates and officials with the Centers for Disease Control in Atlanta. "Tracking HIV cases is important because it helps us to understand how the epidemic is moving and where resources need to be allocated," Anna Forbes, an AIDS activist and policy consultant in Philadelphia said. In Pennsylvania, more than 8~200 people haveAIDS, statehealth officials said. Within the next few months, the CDC will establish guidelines forPennsylvania and other states on HIV surveillance and reporting, said Dr. Helene Gayle, director for the CDC’s National Center for HIV STD and TB Prevention. But it is not known when the system will be in place, Gurian said. The Health Department said once it decides how to ¯ way to link populations affected by HIV,, ¯ with preventive and medical services,’ said Dr. Sharilyn Stanley, head HIV and ¯ STD-Prevention for the department. "If ¯ ¯ wehavenamereporling ofHIV,wewould be able to help a lot more people earlier." : Ms. Hardy-Garcia said her group feels : caught in a tough position. While they ¯ wantmore accurate counts ofpeople with ¯ HIVfor medical treatment and funding ¯ purposes, they don’ t want those people to ¯ be exposed to discriminati6n, she said. "I think one thing that we have talked about ¯ is maybe there should be civil penalties ¯ for disclosure," she said. ¯ Ms. Stanley said the names of people ¯ with AIDS and other STDs are confiden- : tial. Those with HIV wouldbe treated the ¯ same way, she said. "More than 45,000 ¯ casesofAIDS havebeenreportedinTexas : with no breaches of confidentiality," Ms. ~ Stanley added. ¯ The Texas Board of Health will for- ~ really consider the proposal in Novem- ¯ beg. : Aussie Lesbian : Loses Sperm Case ¯ BRISBANE, (AP) -Queensland, ¯ Australia’s highest state court ruled re- . cendy that a donor sperm clinic did not ¯ discriminate against a Lesbian when .it ; refused to inseminate her. : LastJanuary, the QucenslandAnti-Dis- ¯ crimination Tribunal found the 24-year- ¯ oldwomanhadbeendiscriminated against : by the clinic on the basis of her sexuality. ¯ The woman, who is now a mother of ¯ two, has gone on record as saying she led the crusade for Lesbian access to the din¯ still a very conservative, very blue-collar kindof town," MayorLucian Pawlak says. ¯ "People are very divided on this issue." ¯ Pawlak says the prevailing sentiment is ¯ that drugs are mostly a Latino problem. ¯ Other issues, such as revitalizing the city : andlowering the tax rate, are seen as more ¯ pressing. ¯ Hudson Birden, the city’ s health direc- ¯ tor, is more interested in stopping the ¯ spreadofAIDS than political demograph- : its. He’ s pushing for a needle exchange ¯ program and says his seven-member board, appointed by the mayor, is behind ¯ him. At present New Britain’s AIDS ¯ awareness program is funded strictly by ¯ state and federal money. Birden and Gail ¯ Ide, who runs the program, note that fed- : eral funds may not be used for needle ¯ exchange programs. They hope to fund ¯ ¯ their proposed program with a combination of state and private money. Birden ¯ sa.vs he may ask for as little as $25,000, or ¯ evenhalf that. It depends on the program. ¯" "It’ s a local decision as to whether or ¯ not a city has a needle exchange proi gram," said Kenneth Carley, an epidemi- ¯¯ ologist in the state Health Department. "The research indicates that the program ¯ is effective in reducingtherisk ofHIV by ¯ 33 percent a year. It also gets people into ¯ drug treatment." : Birden expects thathe will face opposi- ¯ tion in theNew BritainCommonCouncil, ~ buthe says itis very important toholdthe ¯ line against HIV. Mayor Pawlak, mean- : while, says he’ s not sure that the program : doesn’ t make it easier for drug addicts to ¯ shootup."I needmore informationbefore ¯ I decide... It could be that I 11 decide not ¯ to spend my political capital on such an ¯ emotionally charged issue." =1 T TULSA PERA Carol I. CrawfoM General Director TULSA PHILHARMOIIIIC Marcello Angelini Artistic Director Kenneth Jean Music Director CINDERELLA Sept. 18-20, 1998 h sweeping tale of prince gets gift. Where between "once upon a time" and "happily ever afteh" we discover love and romance, greed and envy, beauty and ugliness. hnd the realization that timing is everything. DEATH AND THE MALDEN Light Fandango ¯ Mare Nostram Oct. 30-Nov. 1, 1998 Matters of death and life, From t~o cho~ogr@hers. ha established American, Robert North, takes on mortality. The upstart Italian, Luciano C~mnito, explores irranortality. Contempora~] ballet in classical terms. The real spice of life. Season Special THE NUTCRACKER Dec. 18-27, I998 ~ Relive the holiday magic. It’s the stuff memories am mute from. For you. For your~or your chil&,m’s children. The Nutcracker is not a p~of the season package, but subscribers get fimt choice on d_~ and sere. Surely you have room for sugar plums this holiday season, som~ere bet~en the egg nog and ~€ fruit cake! THE GREEN TABLE Equinoxe * lardi Tancat Feb. -5-7, 1999 From combat, bloodshed, sWaggles, disputes to movement redefined, stretching the limits of the dances and taking motion to untouched depths of expression to the most beautiful shapes the human body can make in dance. SWAN LAKE Apr. 9-11, 1999 Ali’s fair in love. The only emotion over wtiich countries are won and losL Hearts are broken and mended again. For the fLrst time eve~; TuLsa Ballet presents the four-act Swan Lake in its entirety. With Artistic Director Marcello Angelini re-staging the sto~ line in 6.cts I and Ill to be more accessible to.contemporary audiences. FOR Emotion and Melody. Donizetti’s LUCIA DI LAMMERMOOR Oct. 17, 22 & 24, 1998 Emotionally heartbreaking. Musically sensual and noble. Vocally breathtaking, Olga Kondina and Eduardo Villa follow in the legacies of Suthefland and Pavarotti. Conviction and Drama. Poulene’s DIALOGUES OF THE CARMELITES Mar. 6, 11 & 13, 1999 Faith, courage and grace in the settings of "Ave M~a," "Ave ~mm," and "Salve Regina_" One of the most powerful theatrical opera productiom ever conceived. Love and Magic. Mozart’s THE MAGIC FLUTE May 1, 6 & 8, 1999 and beauty dtree love. A fairy tale stor~ for all ages. Season Specials CAROL & FRIENDS Sept. 12 & 19, 1998 Indulge ~ot~elf in a night of oi~ra’s HiNSEL & GRETEL Nov. 27-29, 1998 Exploro the powr of imagination. h special treat awaits. Subscribers get first priority on seating availability! Three grand operas for one low price. Subscriptions start at $35. Subscribe now! 1998-1999 NATIONSBANK POPS SERIES Peter Nero Jules Styne’s Broadway Doc Severinson Great Loves of the Silver Screen Roberta Fl"ack Ray Charles Sept. 25 & 26 1998 Nov. 6 & 7, I998 Jan. 22 & 23, 1999 Feb. 12 & 13, 1999 Mar. 19 & 20, 1999 Apr. I6& 17, 1999 TULSA WORLD MASTERWORKS SERIES Kenneth Jean, Music Director Music of Tchaikovsky, Prokofiev, Berlioz and Bemstein Bernard RubensteJn with Colin Carr, cello Oct. 3, 1998 Alison Gaines, Principal Bass Nov. 14, 1998 Ion Kimura Parker, piano Jan. 16, 1999 Ida Kavafian, violin Feb. 20, 1999 Kenneth Jean with Tulsa Oratorio Chorus Mar 26. & 27,1999. Verdi, Messa da Requiem .Peter Serkin, piano May 22; 1999 SEASON Pops and Masterworks concerts hem at the Tulsa PAC. Subscribe today for as little as $50. BROCHURES CALL Sponsored by: KCFlV~94.1 Tulsa’s CiVic/m the Great’s Chalice, Czarina Alexandra’s Wedding Crown and more... THE PHILBROOKMUSEUM OF ART 27th & Rockford ~ 7 4 9.7 9 41 W6athlAknnFuoalrALIDiSfeW’a9lk8 Saturday,Sept. 26 Veteran’s Park, 18th & Boulder 8:30 Registration, 9.’30 Kick-off All funds raised will be matched 50% by Tulsa Community AIDS Partnership (TCAP) & will benefit most Tulsa-area HIT/AIDS care providers. This advertisement donated to Walk for Life by ~ulsa Family.News. Licensed Realtor~ Just csll 918-742-1971. www.NewNest.com ¯ Toll Free 1-800-559-1558 Associated with Riverside Realty ¯ 918-224-2700 ¯ SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 Community of Hope (United Methodist), Service - 6pm, 2545 S. Yale, 585-1800 Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation Service - 11am, 2545 S. Yale, 749-0595 Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist Service - 11am, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314 Family of Faith Metropolitan Community Church Service - 5pm, Childrens Ministry - 5pro, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 10:45am, 3210e So. Norwood. Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Service, 10:45am, 1623 North Maplew0od, Info: 838-1715 Parish Church of St. Jerome (Evangelical Anglican Church in America) Mass - 11am, 205 W. King (east of No. Denver), lnfo: 582-3088 University of Tulsa BisexuaFLesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance 6:30 pro, Meets at the Canterbury Ctr., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 Council Oak Men’s Chorale, rehearsals at 5pm, Info: 743-4297 ~ MONDAYS HIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required. Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm, 834-TEST (8378) 3501 E. Admiral (east of Harvard) HIV Rap Sessions at Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center 7:30pro, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays 2nd Mon/each too. 6:30pro, Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard Mixed Volleyball, Hdmerich Park, 71st & Riverside, 7pro, call Shawn 491-2036. Women/Children & AIDS Committee, 9/28, noon, United Way, 1430 S Boulder ~" TUESDAYS 3507 E. Admiral (east of Harvard), Info: Wanda @ 834-4194 Multicultural AIDS Coalition, 9/1, 12:30pro, Urban League, 240 East Apache Rainbow Business Guild, Business & prof. networking group, Info: 743-4297 PrimeTimers, mens group, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th Coming Out Support Group (TOHR/HOPE) Tuesdays, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, info: 743-4297 ~WEDNESDAYS Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 Fanfily OfFaith MCC Praise/Prayer - 6:30pro, .5451-E S. Mingo. 622-1441 House of the Holy spirit Ministries, Inc. Service - 7pro, 3210e So. Norwood Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group, more information, call 582-7225 TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632. Lambda A-A, 7 pro, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft. ~THURSDAYS HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 E. Admiral Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN) Support/social group for 18-24’ s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325 Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS, Info: 834-4194 l~" FRIDAYS SafeHaven, Young Adults Social Group, I st Fri/cachmo. 8pm, Pride Ctr., 1307E. 38th ~ SATURDAYS Narcotics Anonymous, 11 pm, Community of HopeA703 E 2nd, Info: 585-1800 Lambda A-A, 6 pro, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft. ~" OTHER GROUPS T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222 Womens Supper Club, Call for info: 584-2978 OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Info: POB 9165, Tulsa 74157, Short tides, 6:30pro, Long rides, 7am. Meet at Zeigler Park, 3903 West 4th.-Pride Rides from the Pride Center, 3749 S. Peoria. Write for dates. Ifyour organization is not listed, please let us know. Call orfax 583-4615. Read All About It Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library This book includes "hundreds of ways to get hooked up, communicate effeetivdy, discover unusual web sites, understand privacy is- There are many sues, learn about health concerns and resources, and f’md out everything you want to know about sex on the Net." If you’re unsure about what the Internet can do for you, then this is the book for you! AuthorLaermer,whois well known for his Gay travel in New York books, starts out .simply explaining what the Internet is and how to get ¯ .online. Unfortunately, as with any book on computers, -this one (copyright 1997) has some parts-that are already out of date, however, there is enough Valuable information to make it worthwhile. There are chapters on E- - Mail, chat lines, Lesbian sites. andcommercial services, such as CompuServe. There is a scathing chapter on America of you, youn~ an(] old, w]lo are not eo.Jo~t~l,le with the f.t move. ~o,ld of computers and t~e Internet. T~ an a~wer [or you] A~t Ll~ra~ ]~o~ oiler~lnternet e~ [or .Online (AOL). and some of their past problems with the Gay commu~ nity. For youth, there is ~o~mation on some young adult sites, such as Youth Action Online and OutProud! The Advo- : cate and Outmagazines, along with some ¯ other print publications, have websites as : well. The Advocate site has some neat : n.ewsgroup selections, including Small ¯ ~own Queers andGetting RidofthePeople in Congress. There is also .a good chapter on health, not "only for HIV, but for mental health, subsiance abuse and other general topics. For newcomers to the Net, there is a handy glossary in the back. GetOnwith/twill be ahelpful tool for anyoneusing the net. There. are many of you, young and old, who are not comfortablewith thefastmoving world of computers andtheinternet. Thelibrary has an answer for you! Almost all Tnlsa~ City-County Library locations offer free interaea -classes for bbe"gimaers. Also, ff~- . y01i"re miabl~io have aece. - ~ ..to the interact at home or at work, Visit the library, where you can sign up for one hour per day on the free public access interact computers. The library does have afilterwhich will block the sex sites, but you can still access Gay and Lesbian sites for news, travel, politics .and several sites oncomingout. Checkfor Get On with It, and be sure to ask about the free intemet access at local libraries. ¯ thatHGChasbeen acceptedinto theTulsa- Oklahoma City singer Julia Robinson : area UnitedWay family of organizations. by James Christjohn and comedian Jeri James have teamed up to offer a unique style of Lesbian and Gay entertainment. The comedy and singing duowill be taking Julia and Jerl their Show on the road and will appear in Tulsa on September 4 at Renegades, 1649 S. Main, at 11 p.m. "Julia and Jeri are fantastic performers and crowd pleasers. Having thembothin the line-up is like the proverbial ’cherry on top.’ It just couldn’t get any better," says Sandy Eades, owner of Oklahoma City’s Sandman’s Coffee Grounds. Robinson has been singing professionally for more .than three, years. She has a voice oftencomparedto AnitaBaker with the ability to touch the very soul of her audience. James is an Oklahoma City are fantastic performers and e owd pb. ers. Havln~ them both h the lineup is like the proverbial ’cherry on top.’ It ~ust couldn’t ~et any better," says Sandy Eade~, San,l~an’s Coffee Grounds. favorite witha style ofcomedy that brings tears-of laughter while delighting both Lesbians and Gay men. Her rantings on "How to Tell if You,re a Lesbian,’" are whatlegends are madeof. Formoreinformation, contact Jeff James Productions, 405~755-4916. Ken Johnston supervis~xl the production ofa series of notecards to be sold to benefit Tulsa’s only nonprofit hospice organization, Hospice of Green Country (HGC). His artwork is featured on one of the cards. These cards are premiering this September, to coincide with HGC’ s 1 lth anniversary. Hospice is also announcing ¯ Philbrook has "A Taste for Splendor: " Treasures from Hillwood Museum", a display of the treasures of Marjorie Merriweather Post, the heiress to the Post Cereal fortunes, who liked to collect objets d’art, particularly those of Russian decorative art. She Sl~Cifically purchased Hillwood, a neo-Georgian man- "sion on 25acres adjoining Washington D.C.’s Rock Creek Park as a showcase for her collection. The exhibit, never before seen outside of Hillwood museum in D.C., runs September 6 - November 1. Sunday September 13 at 2pro, the Archduke Geza von HabSburg will lectureonPeter Carl FabergeandtheHillwood Collection. OnSaturday, September 26 at 6:30pm, Janet and Jack Zinc will host the ¯ Philbrook Gala, and evening in the spirit ¯ ofMM Post. : On Sunday, October 4 at 2pm, a lecture ¯ entitled "Marjorie Merriweather post: ; Collector with a Passion for Beauty" will : be given by Frederick J. Fisher, director ¯ of Hillbrook Museum. Thursday, Octo- ~ bet 29 at 6pm, Anne Odom will present ~ "A Taste for Splendor: Luxury Art in ~ Imperial Russia". Info: 748-5330. ¯ Thefirst show ofthe Tulsa Ballet’ s new ; season is Cinderella intoning September : 18 - 20, for tix call 749-6006. The next ¯ production willbe"Death&TheMaiden", ¯ October 30 - Nov 1. IGTA member Call 341.6866 international Tours:ormoreinformation. AUTHENTIC FRESH ITALIAN RAINBOW CUS1NE TROUT ofEureka Springs Voted Number One in Arkansas! 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" Pager: 918-889-5255 Voice Mail: 918-697-9282 Lic. #(34133 Country Club Barbering Custom Styling . _ fOr Men & Women David Kauskey 3310 E. 51st, 747-0236 Tues.-Fri., 8-5:30, Sat. 8-5pm Better Than Ever, Pride Merchandise, Magazines & More 610-8510 by Mary Scheppers, Do-It-YourselfDyke 8120 East 21 st (21 st+Memorial, next to Boot City) We buy back good used adult magazines. Does the overt heterosexuality of your neighbors get you down? Tired of the bucolic voyeurism that occurs whenever you host the Annual Miss Gay Croquet Tournament? Do you long for privacy in yoOx own yard? Does thatold chainlinkfence clash with your fabulous landscaping? Then, gentle reader, it is time to install that privacy fence. The DIYD whimsically envisions a barebreasted dtaimming circle.., but we digress. Privacy fencing is a majorinvestment, even when you do it yourself, although taking on the labor, as always, results in a substantial savings. If you can persuade yourneighbors to help defray the cost (after all, you are enhancing their privacy and property too), the projectwillbe evenless painful; however, a caveat is in order. If the guy nextdoorhelps pay, he will be tempted- Does the overt heterosexuality of your neighbors get you down? Tired of the bucolic voyeurism that occurs whenever you host the Annual Miss Gay Croquet Tournament? Do you lon~ for privacy in your own yard? ... Then, ~ent]e reader, it is time to install that privacy fenee. The DIYD whlmsleally envlslons a ]~arehreasted drummln~ elrele ... hut we all€tess. fence. Now, for your picket choices, in order of expense: white wood pickets have no protection, can be easily stained any color you want, and will not last more thanfiveyears or so, dependingonweather conditions. If money is tight, go with that optionnow,use screws to attach them, then replace them out later when you can afford to, but this is wasteful of time, money and resources. There arenow pre-treated pickets, same as above except that you didn’ t have to stain them. They cost slighdy more. Next option is pressure treated pickets, which have been soaked in pickling compounds topreserve the wood long-term. TheDIYDdoesn’ tcare forthese chemicals and strongly urges you to use gloves when handling them, and a dust mask when sawing the wood. Thepickets were trees only a couple of weeks ago, so they will be heavy and damp no, obliged-tostickhisnoseinandoffer " when you first get them and may warp advice ad nauseum. Usually, this doesn’t ¯ when they dry. Cedar is the creme de la extend to his actually digging a post hole : creme of pickets - beautiful, fragrant, or hel in in an other hysical way. : enduring, lightweight, tough and expen- P g Y" ’ " P " the ¯ ivel It is the DIYD’s oicket of choice, Your next decision is where to put . s u ly side ot me......, ~.................... . . ¯ <~.g;. ~.~a~ ~ho ," ¢ This may seem been ongoing - the htfle lottery fairy h.as ~ike ~no-brainer, but consider your secu- : not blessed her yet, the neighbor.s aren t rity need~. With the stringers on the out- ¯ helping to pay, but what is up is most side, anin,truder has an easy leg up. If your " beautiful. neighbor s yard is secure enough, then by : Once you’ ve chosen your picket type, you can determine your spacing betwee..n" posts. Assuming a six foot fence, you wall need to have eight feet between them for pressure treated pickets and ten feet for the cedar and white wood pickets. Depending on the length of the fence, reducing the number of holes you have to dig may influence your picket choice! Measure the length tbbe fenced, calculatehow many posts you’ll need (don’t forget that lumber length isas nominal as the width mentioned above), andthen calculatehow many stringers you’ll need. Stringers will be 2x4’ s, and there will be three per section. Calculate how many pickets you’ll need. and add a few for a fudge factor. For fasteners, you will use either nails (frown, frown) or screws, and you will use about five per picket. If you choose cedar, be warned that only stainless steel fasteners will work. Cedar has volatile oils and acids that corrode metal and will bleed’black goo down your lovely fence otherwise. We 11 discuss thi alittle more next month and a source will provided for buying a superior fastener. Ifyouhave donethe mathonthis project already, theDIYD will fetch her smelling salts post haste. Wood security fencing is one of the more expensive fencing options, after masonry-and cast iron, but it will increase the value of your home. and ¯ the quality of your life if privacy is an : issue, so do consider the investment until ¯ next month, when we get down and dirty ¯ with our PHDs. And learn that posthole ¯ diggers aren’t your only 0pti,o,n,, either. ¯ Stick with the DIYD, doll; she 11 see you ¯ through the rough times. all means, let them have the homely side of the fence - even if they help pay. After all, you are the poor schlepp out there ¯ doing the donkey work, so reap your ben- ~ efits where you may. ¯ How much privacy do you need? No, ¯ this isn’t your mother questioning you -- through the bathroom door. If you have a ¯ pool orare surroundedby twostory houses, an eightfoot fencemay be more appropri- ¯ ate than the standard six-footer, but keep ¯ in mind that you will be adding substantially to your materials costs, ff you decide to space artistically between your fence pickets, that too is a privacy issue. Decisions, decisions -wait, there are more! You have choices to make about the width of your pickets and the type of wood. Standard widths are4 and 6inches, nominally. Sawmills are allowed to be scandalously generous withwhatis lostin the milling, so a 6 inch board may only be 5-5/8 inches wide. The DIYD personally prefers the wider picket; it is aesthetically more pleasing, it covers more area, and you use fewer fasteners. Woods range from untreated white wood to pressure treated lumber to cedar. Posts and stringers (theboards runningbetween thepost.s) can and shouldbe pressure treated, but the externals are up to you. There is now a metal po.st option, butbe warned that the posts will cost more than double, so think long and hard about whether it is worthwhile. Also, part of the workmustbe done on the other side of the fence, so if you and the Fundies next door detest each other, stick to the wood posts - and stick them with the ugly side Of the by Esther Rothblum There has been a lot of recent media focus on crimes that take place based on victims’ membershipin oppressedgroups. To find out more about anti-Lesbian and Gay hate crimes, I phoned Dr. Jeanine Cogan, apsychologist whohas conducted research and influenced federal policy on this issue. ¯¯Hate crimes are defined legally by specific !egislations," saidJeanine Cogan, "howeverthecommonality across the different pieces of legislation is that hate crimes are crimes that are based on real or perceivedgroupmembership. Usuallythat includes race, ethnicity, national origin, and religion. Sometimes it also includes sexual orientation, disability and gender. Thatmeans you were specifically chosen, sometimes out ofa crowd, because you belonged to or were-thought to belong to, one of the above groups." Along with Drs. Gregory Herek, Roy Gillis and Eric Ginnt at theUniversity of California at Davis, Jeanine worked on a long-term grant funded by the National Institute ofMental Health (in fact, the first grant ever funded by that organization about Gay and Lesbian issues that did not focus on AIDS). The purpose ogthe re= search study was to look at the psychological consequences of having survived an anti-Gay or anti-Lesbian hate crime. The researchteam also predicted that experiencing a hate crime would have more serious consequences than experiencing a crime that was not based on the group membership of the victim. They surveyed more than 2,500 people in the greater Sacramento, California area, including people who lived up to 100 miles away in rural areas. "When we were recruiting participants we never said ¯ please takepartin astudy ofhate crimes,’ because we didn’t want to bias the kind of, personwho wouldparticipatein the study," said Jeanine. Instead, they referred to the study as one examining a range of experiences important to Lesbians, Gay men, and Bisexuals with a focus on health and well-being All members of the research team were familiar members of the Gay and Lesbian communities that-they studied. The research team found that one in four Gay and Bisexual men and one in five Lesbians and Bisexual women had experienced a hate-motivated crime since the age of 16. Jeanine said: "We found that individuals who experienced a hate crime against their person - a physical or sexual assault, an attempted assault, a robbery - had more psychological distress after such a hate crime-than people who experienced a crime of Similar severity that was not aimed at them because of their sexual orientation. We also found a time factor. We know that people who experience a crime tend to be psychologically distressed. And; over time, people recover. In our study, we found that those who had experienced a crime that was not abate crime tended to feel better after two years. But people who experienced a hate crime took much longer - five years on average- for their symptoms to dissipate. So if you’re around someone who experienced a hate-crime years ago, you may still see some symptoms ofdistress."These symptoms of distress could include depression,- post-traumatic stress, anxiety ~ and anger. ¯ Thentheresearch teaminterviewed450 ¯ of the 2,500 respondents. They compared " those who had experienced a hate crime, ¯ those who had experienced a crime un~e- ¯ lated to their sexual orientation, and those ¯ who had experien,c,ed no crime. "We got a ¯ lot of information about hate crimes," ¯ Jeaninesaid, "and those people who had ¯ experienced a bate’crime often defined it ¯ as such based on tangible evidence. For , example, the language that was used - ¯ being called adyke while being assaulted. ¯ Or, the vandalism indicated a hate-moti- ¯¯ vated crime, such as having the word ’Lesbian’ smearedontheirdoorwithpaint. ¯ Or theirs was the only car with a rainbow flag, and the only car damaged in a park- . ing lot." ." Jeanine found that listening to the re- " spondents’ stories was quite frightening ¯ to her. She counseled the other interview- ¯ ers about this fear, a phenomenon that has ¯ been termed "indirect trauma" (for ex- ¯ ample, Lesbians feeling victimized just ¯ by hearing of hate crimes happening to ¯ ¯ other Lesbians). She also found a difference in the way ¯ Lesbians and Gay men were victimized. ¯ "SomeLesbianswerephysically assaulted ¯ by a formermale partner, suchas aformer ; husband, when the Lesbians came out to ~ these men," Jeanine recalled, "We ended ¯ upcallingit’heterosexualrevenge.’ Some ~ -Gay men, on the other hand, were lured to ¯ have sex by other, presumed ’straight’ ] men and then assaulted by these men. "And this. was a pattern we found only ; amongib’~ff.’,..... ¯ Jeanine is now working at the Ameri- ; can Psychological Association in Washington, D.C., where she is involved in ~ changing hate crime policy at thenational ¯ level. "I’ve been working with Sharon ¯ Shaw Johnson, who is the director of ¯ GLOVE-Gay Menand Lesbians Oppos- : ing Violence- and they collecthatecrimes : dataand do interventions. Both ofus have ¯ noticed that it is the butch woman and the ; ’effeminate’ man who are at particular ¯ risk for hate crimes because they defy our ; ideas of gender." ¯ Jeanine’ s policy Workfocuses onbroad- ; ening the definition of hate crimes. As ¯ part of a hate "crimes coalition, she is ¯ ; attempting toamend a current civil rights ¯ statute that canbe used against aperpetra- -" tor who bashes a person based on that ¯ person’s group membership. Sheis trying ; to include sexual orientation~ disability ¯ andgenderinthedefmition ofhatecrimes. ¯ ’q’he real hot pOtato is gender," she says. ~ ’qqae FBI is concerned that if every rape ¯ against a woman is a hate crime, they ¯ don’t have the personnel to cope with the ¯ huge numbers." With a broad-based hate ¯ crimes coalition, Jeanine had many con- ¯. versations with.the Department of Justice abotit the inclusion of gender as a hate ¯ crime. In the end, they supported adding ¯ gender, and President Clinton has en- ¯ dorsed the:Hate Crime Prevention Act ¯ and has put fundsinto the budget formore : FBIagents t6 work on hate crimes. ¯ Jeanine is also thrilled to have been ¯ successful in combining research with : policy. The Bureau of Justice Statistics : conducts an annual survey on criminal i victimization. TheySample 50,000 households in the Lr;S. about crime experiences ] in the past year. see Psyche, p. 14 Timothy W. Daniel Attorney at Law An Attorney who will fight for justice &equality for Gays & Lesbians Domestic Partnership Planning, Personal Injury, Criminal Law & Bankruptcy 1-800-742-9468 or 918-352-9504 128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma Weekend and evening appointments are available. 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These categories occupy our minds and have wormed their way deep enough into our bodies so that, like my friend, we often feel emotionally queasy when they are challenged: When, for example, we overhear a person who looks boy but talks girl. Male and female, black and white, on or off, dot/ dash, 1/0, straight versus Gay. Even though the world presents us with continuums of difference, we often tidy up these endless chains of variation by squeezing everything into two opposed states or categories. ",in America, despite our Crayola mix of skin colors not to mention our promiscuo. usancestries, many ofus are forced to identify ourselves in terms of a simple For many Americans, trapped wit]fin a cultural order that permits only pink girls and blue-boys, Homosexuals are not kosher. Like ancient Israelites, they define Gays who mix up their categories to be unholy, polluted, unclean, or just downright icky abominations¯ opposition black or wlaite,..., _: _ .. i(-;.~~-. ’-.~. ~m~larly, despite the ~a~ ~om~ s~me geneticists propose the existence of.five or more "real" genders (as defined by. the mix of an individual’ s sex chromosomes, e.g., XY, XX, XXY, XYY, and soforth)~ all of us find ourselves slotted eithermale or female. Just one or the other. You can’ t be neither, and you can’ t be both at once. Binary oppositions of this sort are ubiquitous in human culture. Dualistic structures, certainly, are easy and efficient ways of breaking down the world’ s.complexity, even if nuance and variability get lost beneath gross simplification. The French anthropologistClaude IMvi- Strauss made a career of investigating the basic binary structures he saw as inhabit: ing human culture-and as shaping individual thinking. Dualism almost always demands the existence of a third category; of something in the middle to "mediate" relations between the two opposed sides. Gray stands between black and whitethough with ethnicity, the pertinent color hereis "red," or "high-yellow," or"bright." And many cultural orders admit a variety of "third sexes" or hermaphrodites, real and symbolic, positionedbetween thetwo male/female gender poles. The mediating position is rarely a comfortable one. Individuals who fall through the cracks of dual structures of understanding inhabit a realm of anomaly and abnormality. On the one hand, they are neitherfully malenorfemale; ontheother, they are both male and female. This has positive and negative consequence. Positively~ people who are neither man nor women can serve to bridge the two categories that they fall between. Homosexuals, for example, mediate a series of oppositions in Western society that build on a fundamental masculine/ ; feminine opposition. Thesebinaries range ¯ ~rom agent/patient to culture/nature and ¯ sacred/profane. ¯ -, Cultural theorists find important sym- ¯ bolic functions for intermediateindividuals as’well. Their existence shores up ruling understandings ofmasoflinityandfemininity - to remind people of how tO be "normal" by presenting them with examples of the abnormal. The boy learns how to be a real man by fearing the sissy. But those who fall between cultural crackshave to struggle against cognitive structures that positively value the normal (the real man and true woman) by devaluing the categorically deviant (the sissy boy, the rough girl). Anthropologist Mary Douglas offers an apposite analysis of food taboos demanded by the Old Testament, the so-called"Abominations of .Leviticus." She asks, "Why should the camel, the hare and the rock badger be unclean (or unholy)? Why should some locusts, but not all, be unclean?" Her answer is that, in old Hebrew culture, "holiness was exemplified by com- .pleteness. Holiness requlred::!~i, : ° the class to which they belonged. And ¯ holiness required that different classes of ¯ things not be confused." : The model of good eating, for ancient Israelites, was the cud-chewing ungulate: - herd animals such as cattle, sheep, and ", goats. Other creatures, like the hare and ¯ rock badger, appeared to be ruminant but ¯ were anomalous in that they had paws instead of cloven hooves. And other am- " mals - notably the pig- walked on cloven feet but did not chew cud. Therefore, because pigs and hares violated categorical definitions of the"normal" cud-chew- " ing cloven-hoofed animal, they were un- ¯ clean. Jewish food taboos reflected a cosmo- ¯ logical system that defined as unholy and ¯ inedible any animal who appeared abet- ¯ rant or "mixed" in terms of ruling cat- ¯ egorical structures. ¯ Insofar as wecontinue to slice the world ¯, up into male versus female, we too may ¯ feel queasy when we come across bits of ¯ reddity that escape our structures ofunder- ¯ standing. For many Americans, trapped : within a cultural order that permits only ¯ pinkgirls and blue boys, homosexuals are ¯" not kosher. Like ancient Israelites, they ¯ define Gays who mix up their categories ¯ to be unholy, polluted, unclean, or just ¯ downright icky abominations. ¯ This comes fromliving inside theprison ¯ house ofculture-ofmindlessly accepting ¯ dualistic constraints on thought and emo- ~ tion. But cultural systems do change over ¯ time, and they may be challenged and ¯ restructured. Shake up those cultural cat- : egones a little and pigs become good to ¯ eat. And so do delicious boys who can ¯ sound like girls. ¯ Larnont Lindstrom is a professor of ¯ anthropology at the University of.Tulsa. since the virus.may be immune to them, too. However, staying on treatment isn’t easy. It often means taking 15 or 20 pills a day on a precise schedule. Some must go downonanempty stomach, some onafull one. They must be taken at just the right time around the dock. Many trigger nasty side effects, such as diarrhea, h~daches, insomnia, stomach pains, numbness in the fingers and toes and an odd-looking rearrangement of body fat that leaves people with potbellies and wasted arms. As the medicines do their job, HIV symptoms disappear. In time, people feel perfectly well except for the side effects of their pills. This makes sticking with them evenharder. "It was never so easy to be adherent as when I yeas on the brink of serious illness," says Scan Strub, 40, of New York City. "I couldn’t wait for my next dose. As I felt better longer, the treatment became more of an intrusion, and the side effects were more bothersome." Strub, who is publisher of Poz, a magazine for HIV-infected people, went on a trip andforgothis pills. So he decided to stop taking them for a couple of weeks, just to see what would happen. Within 10 days, he felt sick again. A blood test showed his virus level, which had been undetectable, spiked to over a million. Backon therapy,it’ s now downto 30,000. "I definitely made a mistake," he admits. Some people are resistant to individual components of the AIDS cocktail, often because they took them as single drugs before the cocktail was created. Many are 1ong-infected treatmentpioneers, eager to try each new drug that comes along. For instance, Nick Houpis, 43, of Boston, has taken 10 ofthe 11 approved AIDS medicines. The lowest his viral load ever dropped was 37,000. Now it’s 440,000, and this summer he had his first bout with an AIDS-related illness. ’q’hcre arc an awful lot of us who are just a little bit too late," he says. "I don’t think they will come up with something that will make miracle stories out of us." ¯ S.om.e appear to suffer because of phyr Slclan incompetence, too. For instance, doctors may err by adding a protease inhibitor to two other medicines their pa- ¯ tients are already taking, instead of starting themon three fresh drugs. This greatly increases the risk of rampant resistance. AIDS-care has become so complicated, many believe, that it now should be done ¯ only by specialists who know how to : avoid such potentially fatal mistakes. ¯ Once someone fails AIDS treatment, : the next step is what doctors call salvage therapy - the art of crafting a second ¯ attempt to knock down the virus. They ¯ may prescribe five or six drugs at once. : "You end up with a kitchen sink ap- ¯ proach," says Dr.. Kenneth Mayer of ¯ Brown University. "You try to pull to- " gether every possible combination to keep ¯ the virus in check." Willis is an extreme example, of this. Gallanthas himonsevenanti-AIDS drugs, plus an assortment of others to ward off AIDS-related infections. Once aweek, Willis hauls out an orange. crate of big white pill bottles and counts outhis week’s dosage. Hetakes afistful of pills with breakfast, another handful with dinner; anda couple.more at bedtime, 35 in all. "I’ve just made it part of my life," Willis says. "I don’t really have any options. If I’m dead, I know that my options are limited." Along withmany other advocates, Jeanine was successful¯in getting this survey to includequestions about hate crimes. This will allow for. national statistics about hate crimes over the next years. Documenting the prevalence of an issue is an essential step for receiving an appropriate government response. So this will be all important contribution. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Fayetteville Civil Rights Measure Gains Support FAYEI II~VILLF~ Ark. (AP) - A "hmn~ dignity" ordinance that Ires d~vided city residents hexe has won Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulesns, Our Families + Friends Tules’s Largest Circulation CommunityPaperAvallable In More Than 75 City Locations PublicAwareness Campaign Begins: Gay or Straight, Everyone Deserves a Job ¯ by Tom Neal, TFN reporter .’ TULSA - In eleven l~.atiom aro~md Tulsa, Tulsa Transx bus : stop benches are carrying the message: "Gay or Straight, Every- : public awareness campaign by Oklahoma’ s Clmarron Alliance : Group. Cmmrro~fis ¯ cfiminafion based sMp in Tulsa and which now has two Tulsa board members. : 4959 So. Memorial. 4400 So. Mcmorinl. 4506 E, I l, 3607 N. Supportexs quoted the pre~tdmt of the county league -¯ Peoria ~md 60"27 So" Mem.orial.... ¯ t , . ¯ T~x dedueJabl¢ ¢onmbut~ons to suppog. Cimatton s public Colorado Gov,’s Report: Gays Due Equal Rights M~ DIRECTORY/LE~FERS P, 2~ US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 ~1~ HEALTH NEWS P. 6 ENTERTAINMENT NOTES P. 8 Z~ COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 8 BOOK REVIEW P. 10 DO-IT-YOURSELF P. 11 DYKE PSYCHE/GAY STUDIES P, 12/13 m CLASDIFIEDS + WEERWOLF P, 14 Circuit Court Reverses "Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell" Decision NEW YORK (AP) - Six members of the nfilltarv are in line for Lesbians: At Higher Risk of Breast Cancer? SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - A limited study of afients at a women’s health clime found Lesbians 1~ a higher risk of breast cancer than beterosextml patients, according to a report in the Journal oft/w Gay and Lesbian Medical .4ssociation. An analysis of 1,019 women seeking services at Lyon-Martha Women’s Health Services in San Francisco bet~veen 1995 arid 1997 showed thai Lesbians bad a higher body mass index and fewer pregnancies, both previously idenli fled as risk fac tars for breast cancer. Eageula Calle. director of epidemiology for the American Cancer Society. said the study was onl) a prelimiq,~ look at risk factors and was not wide enoughin scope to draw general conclusions aboul Lesbians. "The real question is, ’Is the population large enough and is it similar enough to the entire population of L~sbia~ women and the entire popuhifion of heterosexual women?’ " seeBreost, p. 3 Walk for Life 1998 ’,VEST COAST & TIJLSA (AP & TFN) Thousands of l~ophi turned out in the Puget Sound itrca to raise money to help fight AIDS. Ten3’ M. Stone. )’ear, he said. Als0, an estimated 1 A00 people participated in y~ffs old Colin Cadarette received the Crystul Apple award, the highest honor the AIDS Project Eureka Springs Diversity Weekend EUREKA SPRINGS Organizers of Eureka Springs" secoed Dl~ersit) Celebration \Vcekcnd Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston *Concessions; 3340 S. Peoria *,Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria *Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston *Jason’s Ddi, 15th & Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 832-1269 592-2143 744-0896 599-9512 583-6666 749-4511 585-3134 599-7777 749-1563 744-4280 745-9998 834,4234 585-3405 660-0856 584:1308 *Umbertos Pizzeria, 21st west of Harvard 599-9999 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Advanced Wireless & PCS,.Digital Cellular 747-1508 ¯ *Affinity News, 8120 E. 21 610-8510 " Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 ~ *Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 ¯ Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 " *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 " Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15 712-1122 : *Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955 *Borders Books & Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665 " Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272 " *CD Warehouse, 3807c S. Peoria 746-0313." Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117 Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700 " Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504. 800-742-9468 " *Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620 *Devena’ s Gallery, 13 Brady .... 587-2611 " Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556 " *Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503 " *Ross Edward Salon, 2447 E. 15th 584-0337, 712-9379 ¯ *Horal Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595 " Cathy Furlong, Ph.D., 1980 Utica Sq. Med. Ctr. 628-3709 " *Gloria Jean’ s Gourmet Coffee, 1758 E. 21 st 742-1460 Leanne M. Gross, Insurance & financial planning 459-9349 ¯ Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440 *Sandra J. Hill, MS, PsyChotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111 *International Tours 341-6866 Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750 *Jared’ s .Antiques, 1602 E. 15th 582-3018 David Kauskey, Country Club Barbering 747-0236 *Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070 Kelly Kirby, CPA, 4021 S. Harvard, #210 747-5466 Langley Agency & Salon, 1316 E. 36th P1. 749-5533 Laredo Crossing, 1519 E. 15th 585-1555 *Living ArtSpace, 19 E. Brady 585-1234 *Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3rd 584-3112 Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 663-5934 *Mohawk ~v~usic, 6157 E 51 Place 664-2951 *Novel Idea Bookstore, 51st & Harvard 747-6711 David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672 *Peace of Mind Bookstore, 1 40 1 E.~ 15 583-1090 The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor 743-4297 Puppy Pause II, 1 lth & Mingo 838-7626 Rainbowz on the River B+B, POB 696, 74101 747-5932 Richard’ s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617 Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921, 747-4746 Christopher Spradling, attorney, 616 S. Main, #308 582-7748 *Scribner’ s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301 *Sedona Health Foods, 8220 S. Harvard 481-0201 *Tickled Pink, 3340 S. Peoria 697-0017 *Trizza’s Pots, 1448 S. Delaware 743-7687 *Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria 742-2007 *Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis 481-0558 Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733 *Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767 Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & Universities AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 4337, 74101 579-9593 743-2363 587~7314 583-7815 583-9780 585-1201 &Florence 587-1314 747-6300 749-0595 743-4297 712-151 742-2457 *All Sonls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 Bless The Lord at All Time~ Christian Center, 2207 E. 6 *B!L!G/T Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. *Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston *Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th PI. *Church ofthe RestorationUU, 1314N.Greenwood *Cornmunity of Hope United Methodist, 2545 S. Yale *CommunityUnitm’ian-Universalist Congregation *Council Oak Men’s Chorale *Delaware Playhouse, 1511 S. Delaware *Democratic Headquarters, 3930 E. 31 918.583.1248, fax: 583.4615, POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 e-mail: Tulsanews@earthlink. net website: http:t/users.aol.comITul ~aNews/ Publisher + £ditor: Tom Neal, Writers + contributom: Adam West, James Christjohn. Jean-Claude de Flambeauchaud, Barry Hensley, J.-P. Legrandbouche. Lamont Lindstrom, Esther Rothblum MaD’ Schepers, Member oI The Associated Press [ssued on or before the 1st of each month, the entire contents ofthis ~u~blication are protected by US copyright 1998 byT~ ~ and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate a person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted,_rgust .be signed & becomes the sole property of T~ Each reader is entitled to 4 copies of each edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. *R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 ¯ New President ¯ Takes PFLAG Helm Dignity/Integrity of Tulsa - Lesbian & Gay Catholics & Episcopalians, POB 701475, 74170-1475~ 355-3140 *Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 ¯ *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 " *Free Spirit Women’ s Center, callforlocafion&info: 587-4669 ¯ Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827 ¯ Friends in Unity, Social Org., POB 8542, 74101 582-0438 . *HIV ER Center, 4138 Chas. Page Blvd. 583-661 ! " *HIV Resource Consortium, 3507 E. Admiral 834-4194 ¯ *Holland Hall School, 5666 E. 81st 481-1111 ¯ HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education 834-8378 HIV Testing, Mort/Thurs. 7r9pm, daytime by appt. only " *House of the Holy Spirit Minstries, 3210e So. Norwood : Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 ¯ *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 " NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral PI. 748-3111 ." NO\~, Nat 10rg. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 365-5658 OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157 *Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960 PFLAG, POB 52800, 74152 749-4901 *Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674 *The Pride Center, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor, 74105 743-4297 Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 749-4195 665-5174 584-2325 501-253-7734 501-253-7457 501-253-6807 501-253-5445 506253-9337 501-253-2776 501-253-5332 501-624-6646 501-253-6001 501-253-4074 ¯ *Red Rock Mental Center, 1724 E. 8 O’ RYAN, support group for 18-24 I[GBT young adults ¯ O’RYAN, Jr. support gronp for 14-17 LGBT youth St. Aidan’ s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati 425-7882 ¯ *St. Dunstan’s Episcopal, 5635 E. 71st 492-7140 ¯ *St. Jerome’s Parish Church, 205 W. King 582-3088 ¯ *TulsaArea UnitedWay, 1430 S. Boulder 583-7171 ¯ TNAAPP(Native American men), Indian Health Care 582-7225 ¯ Tulsa County Health Department, 46 16 E. 15 595-4105 ¯ Confidential HIV Testing - by appt. on Thursdays only ¯ Tulsa Okla. for Human Rights. c/o The Pride Center 743-4297 ¯ T.U.LS.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222 ¯ *Trisa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule °. *Tulsa Community College Campuses *Rogers University (formerly UCT) ¯ BARTLESVILLE ¯ *Bartlesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone 918-337-5353 ¯ OKLAHOMA CITY/NORMAN *Borders Books &Music, 3209NWExpressway 405-848-2667 ¯ *Borders Books & Music, 300 Norman Center 405-573-4907 TAHLEQUAH *Stonewall League, call for information: 918-456-7900 ¯ *Tahlequah Unitarian-Universalist Church 918-456-7900 ¯ *Green Country AIDS Coalition, POB 1570 918-453-9360 ¯ . NSU School of Optometry, 1001 N. Grand ¯ HIVtesting every other Tues. 5:30-8:30, call for dates ¯ EUREKA SPRINGS, ARKANSAS ¯ *Autunm Breeze Restaurant, Hwy. 23 *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main ¯ DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. ¯ *Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. ¯ MCC of the Living Spring ¯ Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 ¯ Old Jailhouse Lodging, 15 Montgomery Positive Idea Marketing Plans ¯ Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East *White Light, 1 Center St. ¯ FAYETTEVILLE, ARKANSAS5 : *Edna’s, 9 S. School Ave. 501-442-2845 * is Where you can find TFN. Notall are Gay-owned butall are Gay-friendly. W~SHINGTON, D.C. - Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays this month named as its new president National PFLAG Board Member Paul Beeman. An ordained minister who lives in Olympia, WA, Beeman is the father of four, aGay son and Lesbian daughter, and two non-Gay children. In addition to serving as a United Methodist pastor for many years, Beeman also has a strong backgroundinfundraising, marketing andjournalism. He has served on PFLAG’ s board since 1994. Beeman, who was elected Sept. 12 by PFLAG’s National Board of Directors, says he is eagerly looking forward to lead the group as it presses ahead nationally and locally in its fight for equal civil rights. "What a dynamic time this is for PFLAG," Beeman said. "With two years to prepare, will the year 2000 be a turning point for welcoming Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals and transgendered persons into full equality in our society? I believeit can be!" "PFLAG is all about being able to give kids back to their parents," Beeman emphasized. "As with slavery and women’s rights, barriers to equality will eventually fall in our communities of faith and in our whole society. It will happen as we family members tell the stories of our children and families and explain their commitment to stable family relationships," he said. Beeman also hailed PFLAG’s tremendous growth in membership over the last few years. "Our influence in more than 420 communities across all 50 states is the result of so many members in countless rural towns and big cities across the country- working on the frontlines of change." Among .his. goals are to assure safe space foi: all children in school and at worship and to enhance the education of ¯ the majority of middle Americans who ¯ don’ t yet understand how natural homo- " sexuality truly is. Beeman will be work- " ing closely withPFLAG ExecutiveDirec- ] tor Kirsten Kingdrn, who is based in the ¯ group’s national office in Washington, DC. Beeman strongly praised his predeces- ¯ sor, Tulsan Nancy McDonald, who dur- : ing her two-year termrepresentedPFLAG ¯ in Washington, DC, in giving testimony before the U.S. Congress and meeting ¯ with federal officials, as well as criss- ¯" crossing the country to speak out for Les- ¯ bian and Gay loved ones and their fami- ¯ lies. ¯ Members of Parents, Families and ] Friends of Lesbians and Gays voted over- . whelmingly earlier this month in favor of ¯ a proposal to include Transg.endered ¯ peopleintheorganization’ s mission state- ¯. merit. The near unanimous vote, which came ¯ during PFLAG’ s Sept. 12 annual meeting ¯ in San Francisco, followed a recommen- ~ dation by the group’s national Board of : Directors last May to amend the group’ s ¯ bylaws to include Transgendered people ¯ in its mission statement, which covered ~ Lesbians, Gays and Bisexual people. ¯ Letters Policy ¯ Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on ¯ issues which we’ ve covered or on issues ~ you thinkneed to be considered. Youmay ¯ request that your name be withheld but ¯ letters must be signed &have phonenum- " bers, or be hand delivered. 200 word let- ." ters are preferred. Letters to other publi- ¯ cations_will be printed as is appropriate. At a 45-minute news conference, Colorado for Family Values, Concerned Women for America, the Christian Coalition of Colorado, Where Grace Abounds~ Family First and the American Jewish Assembly all roundly condemned the commission’ s report and suggested there were other motives involved. Chuck Gosnell of the Christian Coalition said "overwhdming evidence" proves "a loving, committed marriage between one man and one woman is the most beneficial toward raising children and encouraging a healthy society." "Romer," he said, ,’has used a taxpayerfunded commission in an attempt to force affirmation of his personally skewed vision of marriage and the family. The governor’s already tarnished legacy will only be damagedfurther ifhe continues to imposehis anti-family values on mainstream Coloradans." A statement by Nancy Sutton of Family First said there is no basis for the claim "committed relationships" are beneficial to society. ’q~here is no basis for much of what the commission found." Colorado for Family Values spokesman Dr. Paul A. Jessen said "without evidence or support, the claim is made same-sex couples have been unfairly denied the samerights as normal married couples, and this denial calls for a redress of inequity, but will not diminish the rights and benefits enjoyed by married persons." "Parallel fights and responsibilities," he said, "is a disguise for homosexual marriage." ButSueAnderson, executivedirector ofEquality Colorado, and a member of Romer’ s commi ssion, listened to the complaints of the groups and said she wasn’t surprised at their attack. "We’re here," she said ofherself and other Lesbians, "We’re living our li~,.e.s. We’re trying to protect our relationships. We’re trying to protect our families." "We’re looking for basic economic rights. SO what happens to me if my partner dies? Do I have access to her pension? No. Do I have access to her health insurance, likemy colleagues and their wives have? No." "What we are looking for is something to protect ourselves when something bad happens," She said she was not surprised at their remarks.because she had heard their position againsthomosexuality often. "I didn’ t wake up in the morning, put on a lavender shirt and say: ’I’mgoing to be a Lesbian today.’ That’ s just not how it works." While the groups said flatly they had not been asked to participate in the commission’s studies, Anderson said she understood a variety ofpeoplefromColorado Springs were invited, "and everybody said no." But the commission did go to Colorado Springs and met with conservative groups, and the commission did do public forums, whichtheGay community attended, she said. "They were included as much as anybody else," she said. "I don’t agree with them and their basic premise. Am I angry? No." The report by Romer’s commission recommended granting same-sex couples the same legal rights and benefits as married heterosexual couples, but stops short of endorsing same-sex marriages. Romer made it clear in response to two bills banning same-sex marriage, he had established his own position: that marriage in Colorado should be reserved for the union of a man and a woman. "That is current law, and it should remain a law," he said. He wants communities to address the legal and ethical issues posed by same-sex relationships, he said. "But there should be no conclusion as to what the end result is." The 16-member comrmssion was charged with comparing the legal and economic rights, responsibilities and benefits of same-sex couples and married couples: The commission was at that time criticized by people on both sides of the issue. Some critics say there were no conservative members who are unalterably opposed to samesex marriages. Several were invited to serve on the panel, Romer said, but they declined to serve. In his 4 years of participating, Colin has raised nearly $47000. The boy stole the show from luminaries like Madonna, actor Nathan Lane and a gaggle of politicians. During the ceremony, Madonna criticized spending millions of dollars to investigate President Clinton, saying the money could be better spent on research. whenColin took the podium, hejust said~"Hi." "It was so cute. He was very shy," see Walk, p. 10 by Tom Neal, editor & publisher A week or so ago, I received a call from a reader, telling me about how she’ d had a very negative experience with a Hillcrest associated physician. As a part of the discussion about her treatment, she shared with the physician and staff that she is Lesbian. Indeed for a number of medical conditions, not just the issue of HIV, sexual orientation can be relevant (see The Associated Press story about Lesbians and breast cancer on page 1). The physician.and staff’ s response was to ask her if she wanted to be prayed for. And as a person of faith, she said yes - assuming that the prayers would be for good health. Instead she found the doctor and staff praying for her "release from homosexuality" where all she wanted was release from a minor infection. Last year, two acquaintances wound up at St. John Emergency Room after one took a duding claims that the highest level ofmanagement have Perhaps, Lesbians and Gay men will have to create our own institutions to meet our needs. Thls is what we did all over thls country in response to the HIV/AIDS erlsls. fairly serious fall with a blow to his head. Although this couple has been together for a number of years, even raising children, St. John staff refused to recognize the relationship, denying the very worded partner any informarion about his spouse’s condition and also denying access that would have been routinely provided to a heterosexual couple. This went on until emergency room staff had a shift change and a nurse, a Gay man, whom they knew, came on duty and corrected the situation. Back during the GulfWar and the debate about Gays in the military, my father, now a retired physician, heard a few of his St. Francis colleagues say that they,i e we Gay and Lesbian folk, should all .just be killed. This from professionals allegedly devoted to the health and well being of humankind. ¯ Granted these are anecdotes, possibly only isolated incidents. But they suggest a fai_lure ofTulsa’ s health care ¯ delivery system to deal seriously with providing Lesbian ¯ and Gay citizens with fair, adequate and sensitive medi- ¯" cal care. Not one ofTulsa’s majormedical institutions haS : adop/ed a non-discrimination policy which would indi- ¯ cate both to patients and to providers that discrimination ¯ based on sexual orientation will not be tolerated. Now in their defense, St. John officials responded with ¯ speed and concern when they became aware of the ¯ discriminatory treatment which the two men mentioned : above experienced. Those officials have stated that they ¯ will not tolerate this behavior and also, have reached ot[t ¯ to Tulsa’ s Lesbian, Gay and Bi communities by advertis- ¯ ing in this newspaper. ¯ In contrast, St. Francis, Hillcrest, and Tulsa Regional/ : Doctors (the various ColumbiaJHCA ownedinstitutions) ¯ have done nothing to addregs possible bias in their insti- ~ tutions or to manifest any commitment to serving the ¯ needs of Gay and Lesbian Tulsans ¯ Hillcrest in particular continues to have allegations of anti-Gay employment practices brought against it, in- The Polo Grill ¯ by Tom Neal, publisher ¯ Local publicity guru, Tracey Norvell, of Arts Society, ¯ along with The Polo Grill owners, Ouida and Robert ¯ Merrifield, definitely have the right notion about getting ¯ the attention of members of the press wine them and ¯ dine them - quite literally. The already award winning ~ restaurant has two new distinctions, awards from The ¯ Wine Spectator and the Unipro Cully Award. ¯ At a recent lunch, Tulsa media types sampled five ¯ courses of exquisitely fresh and well prepared food and ~ three California white wines, and a lovely Merlot. The ¯ stars of the lunch were fresh North American rainforest ¯ salmon and a very low fat cut of Piedmontese beef filet ¯ grown near Tulsa (though the point of alow-fat cut when ¯" it’s served with a fat-rich bernaise sauce eludes me, or ¯ maybe that is the point, so that you can have the bemaise). ." Service was gracious and attentive, from several of : Tulsa’s best-looking and delightfully everrso-gay staff. ¯ The Polo Grill is, of course, not cheap but unlike many ¯ wanna-be restaurants in this town, is worth it when the ¯ restaurant lives up to this high standard it’ s set. : Check it out whenever your budget permits. ¯ openly expressed bias against Lesbians and Gay men. If ¯ these allegations are true, then certainly I, as a health care ¯ consumer, would have questions about the safety and quality of my health care at Hillcrest. And a related issue is that of finding a Lesbian or Gay, or Gay-friendly physician. You can call the physician referral lines and find, if you want, a Black physician or a "Christian" physician but if you ask for a Gay or Gay-friendly physician, you’ re just out of luck. Now if you have lived here for a while and start to network in the community a bit, eventually you’ll find that there’ s a Lesbian gynecologist, a Lesbian general practioner. a number of Gay physicians from Owasso to south Tulsa as well as the better known doctors who’ve specialized in HIV/AIDS care like Drs. Beal and Peake. But most of these physicians are closeted, fearing repercussions to their practices. Indeed I’ ve only, just found out aboutmore two dentists, one Lesbian, the other Gay and it’ s my job as newspaper publisher to know who’ s who in the community even if I don’t write about them. Contrast this with Dallas, certainly a conservative place in many respects but whose community newspaper is filled with choices for health care providers. Perhaps, Lesbians and Gay men will have to create our own institutions to meet our needs. This is what we did all over this country in response to the HIV/AIDS crisi s. The Los Angeles Community Center has begun its own clinic in recogmt~on of the community’s needs. Last spring Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights" (TOHR) HIV anti-body testing clinic (HOPE) split off under the direction of clinic director, Kristi Frisbie. However, a few members of thatTOHRboard suggested that the clinic should broaden its health care services for Lesbians.and G0y-men, remaining true to its origins as a Gay & Lesbian organization, instead of trying to become a broader based HIV prevention orgmfization..After all, while Tulsa has a number of other prevention groups addressing non-Oay aspects ot ~]\’~IA]~)~, there is no one looking at non-HIV related Gay & Lesbian health care, other than perhaps Drs. Peake & Beal. Even now that HOPEis independent, there is no reason that TOHRand The Pride Center could not be the site of a free clinic, perhaps monthly, where Tulsa’ s Lesbian and Gay physicians could volunteer to do basic examinations and consultations. Obviously anything requiring specialized equipment or testing would have to be referred to the physicians regular office, and some kind of legal waivers would be needed as well to protect the physicians and the Center. Maybe one or another ofourGay lawyers rtmning around could help there? What do you tlfink? Do any of you care? Let us know via e-mail, post, tdephone or tax. Ms. Calle asked. "All women should be concerned about breast cancer and getting age-appropriate breast cancer screening," she added. Still, researchers said the study shows a need for more research that compares Lesbian women to heterosexuals of various ages, economic and geographic groups. The study was conducted by the clinic’s medical director, Stephanie Roberts, and Suzanne Dibble, an associate professor at the University of Califomia at San Francisco. "It’s still too early for us to develop specific mammography guidelines for Lesbians, but our study shows the importance of encouraging Lesbians to seek medical care on a regular basis," Roberts said. Roberts and Di’bble found no significant differrnces between the two groups on risk factors such as family history of breast cancer or alcohol use. Nearly all of.the women surveyed for the study were low-income and lacked health insurance. Of the 1,019 women studied, 57.6 percent identified themselves as heterosexual and 42.4 percent as homosexual. "For far too long Lesbians have had more questions about than answers about their health," said Kathy Oriel, president of the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association, whose group funded the study. California Politician to- Try to Ban Gay Marriages " NORWALK, Calif. (AP) - A group that wants to . keep Cnlifornia from recognizing Gay marriages " collected 675,000 signatures to place the measure on ¯ the state ballot - more than enough signatures to qualify the Defense of Marriage Act for a future " election, Sen. Peter Knight announced. " The measure is designed "to protect our definition of marriage from being undermined by liberal judges ¯ from other states," Knight said. "Given the push for " "same-sex’ marriage across the nation, Califorma must prepare by making it clear we only recognize iraditional marriage." Courts in Hawaii,Vermont and " Alaska are considering rulings that "could legalize same-sex marriage. Knight was on hand as volunteers hauled boxes ¯ containing 144,000 Signatures collectedinLos Ange- " les County into the office of the county registrar of voters here. Signatures gathered elsewhere w,,ere submitted to registrar offices in other counties all over the state," said Matthew Cnnningham, a member of the Orange County-based Californians for the Defense of Marriage. The initiative states: "Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California." Twenty-six states have passed similar laws and five are considering such laws. Alaska voters will consider an initiative on the November ballot that wouldamend the state constitution to define marriage as being "between one man and one woman." Knight, R-Palmdale, introduced bills in 1996 and 1997 in the Legislature to bar recOgnition of Gay marriages. Both times the legislation was defeated. He will face a fierce fight this time, critics vowed. "If that measure is qualified, we’ll beat it back as we have every time," Assemblywoman Carole Migden, DSan Francisco, said last week. "It is gratuitous and polarizing and unnecessary," she said. "The community will beat it back at the polls." The measure cannot make the upcoming November election. It will take several weeks for the secretary of state’ s office to determine whether supporters gathered the necessary 433,269 valid signatures of registered voters. The .measure could qualify" in time for the March 2000 state primary or for any earlier statewide special election next year, said AndS" Pugno, a Knight spokesman. Assembly Speaker Pro Tern Sheila Kuehl, D-Santa Monica, who helped lead legislative efforts to defeat Knight’s anti-Gay mamage bills, said sh’e thinks the initiative can be defeated again in California. "They better be prepared for a fight," she said. But she added: "I think that it is a very difficult thing for a community tO be forced to prove its own humanity over and over and over." only states to do so. Adoption decisions in Indiana are based on what is best for the child, and the sexual orientation of prospective parents isn’ t considered, said Andrew Stoner, spokesman for the state Family and Social Services Administration, which regulates adoption and.f.oster care. The Madison County case is not necessarily the first in Indiana in which Gays or Lesbians have been considered as adoptive parents, Stoner said. "It’s likely it has occurred, although it’ s not something that people always disclose and there’s no requirement that they do so.’" The case has sparked sharp reactions from those on both sides of the issue. The child’s foster parents, Butch and Sandy Kimmerling of Anderson, have said they will seek to adopt the child because they say it would be destructive to have her raised in a homosexual environment. U.S. Rep. David Mclntosh, RInd., called the adoption proposal "egregious and ¯ morally unacceptable" and urged Gov. Frank ¯ O’B~on to support any propos.ed.legislation bar- ¯ fing homosexuals from adopting children. Opponents say Burton and Lutz’ proposed bill is an ¯ unconstitutional and unnecessary infringement on ¯ the privacy of the adoption process that will deprive : children of needed homes. "It’ s a completely unnec- ¯ essarv law. More than 25 years of research has dem- ¯ onstr~ted that a person’s Sexual orientation makes ¯ absolutely n,o, difference in his or her ability to be a good parent, said John Knfll, executive director of ¯ the Indiana Civil Liberties Union. "A lot of children ¯ who need homes are going to be left in foster care." " ,nti-Gay Attacks Up 81% NEW YORK (AP) - Anti-Gay attacks citywide are up 81% this year, and a spate of 27 such attacks since late August has a civil rights for Gay people group demanding increased police presence in areas where the assaults have been prevalent. As of Sept. 13 - the latest figures provided by the pol.ice department - there have been 76 anti-Gay attacks citywide, com- . ,ared with 42 attacks last year during the same time period. However, overall bias attacks citywide are down3.4%. There were368bias attacks as of Sept 13, compared with 38 t last year. Bias crimes are slurs or attacks that include an element of race, religion, stxual preference or gender. Christine Quinn; executive director of the New York City Gay and Lesbian Anti-Violence Project, said the Police Department’s bias unit was doing an dmirable job responding to the crimes, but more ¯ ~olice presence still was needed, especially in the Greenwich Village area, where most of the attacks have occurred. Since Aug. 25, there have been 27 such attacks citywide, she added. "The attacks, harassment and threats against our community have continued in full force since Labor Day weekend," Ms. Quirm Said. "Almost every day a New Yorker is the victim of violence because he or she is perceived to be Gay.’" Police Commissioner Howard Safir said the department is aware of the increase in anti-Gay attacks and has dispatched additional officers to the Village. Buthe saidhe does not think the attacks are prevalent. "We don’t see an epidemic throughout the city," he said. The Gay and Lesbian anti-violence group is planning a community demonstration Oct. 3 to condemn the attacks and teach people how to better protect themselves; Indiana May Ban Adoption by Gays INDIANAPOLIS (AP) - The proposed adoption of an 8-year-old gift by a Gay couple has sparked a campaign to bar Gays and Lesbians from becoming adoptive or foster parents in Indiana. Word that the Madison County Office ofChildren and Family Services was considering letting an Indianapolis couple adopt the girl prompted two lawmakersto announce Friday they wonld sponsor a bill making Indiana the third state toban such adoptions. Opponents called the proposed ban unconstitutional and unnecessary. "Their lifestyle is their business, but when they start using government to promote their lifestyle, It ta.me.to s.tep I.n, Rep. Woody Burton, R-Greenwood, said Monday. Burton said he and Rep. Jack Lutz, RAnderson, proposed the ban to protect children from the abuse and discriminationmany homosexuals suf: ~er "’What’ s ~oin~ to happen to those kids when they o ~o school a~nd tl~e othe]: kids at school find out about ~t?" Burton asked. "It actually invites discrimination against those kids.’" Burton and Lutz say they plan to introduce legislation in next year’s General Assembly session. If it passes, Indiana would become the third state to bar homosexuals from adopting Children or being foster parents. FloridaandNew Hampshireare currently the Controversial Play Draws Protesters NEW" YORK (AP) - Theatergoers flocked to the ¯ debut performance of an off-Broadway play, ignor- ¯ ing angry protesters who believe it depicts a Gay : Christlike figure who has sex with his apostles. 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"It may not be for everybody, but I thought it really brought out the transcendental nature of Jesus," he said after the preview performance. "It emphasized that he was an outcast." While theater officials and patrons were tightlipped about the content of"Corpus Christi," published reports have said the play depicts a Gay Christlike character who has sex with his apostles. A brochure released earlier this year described the play this way: "From modem day Corpus Christi, Texas, to ancient Jerusalem, we follow a young Gay man named Joshua on his spiritual journey, and get to know the 12 disciples who choose to follow him.’" In May, the Manhattan Theater Club canceled plans to produce the off-Broadway play after receiving anonymous death threats against its actors, audience and McNally, a multiple Tony Award-winner. Days later, theater executives reversed their decision, saying police promised to ensure safety if the play was staged. The official opening is scheduled for Oct. 13; Tuesday was the first night of previews, in which a play is generally fine-tuned before its official opening. No tickets were provided to reviewers, The New York Times reported. A statement from the theater Tuesday’ reaffirmed its support of"McNally’ s right to express his artistic vision freely" as well as the right of protesters to object "in a peaceful and law-abiding manner." Most theatergoers were not dissuaded by the commotion. "It’s all about free speech," said Candace Simon of Newark, N.J. "They have the right to protest. The theater has aright to stage it. I have the right to see it.’" Churches Re|ect Pro-Gay Pastors OMAttA, Neb. (AP) - Two rural United Methodist churches are telling denomination leaders that they will not accept appointments ofpastors who snpported former Omaha Rev. Jimmy Creech in his decision to perform a Lesbian marriage. The Nehawka and \Veeping Water United Methodist churches told Omaha District Superintendent Ronald Croom that they will not accept the Rev. Doyle Burbank-Williatns as their new pastor. Burbank-Williams was an early supporter of Creech. who created a furor when he performed a same-sex marriage at his Omaha church last September. Burbank-Williams was pastor of Dietz .\Iemorial United Methodist Church and of homeless people in downtown Omaha. He also was one of about 200 pastors nationally who pledged to. defy the United Methodists" prohibition against same-sex mamages. Weeping Water church officer Farley Amick said the rural churches want a conservative pastor. Burbank-Williams said he would keep Iris name on the pledge list but would not perform a covenaut ceremony in churches that are on record as opposed to such ceremomes. Amick said that was not good enough. He said the churches do not want a pastor who believes that same-sex mamages are OK. He said it is a bad influence for young people. Meanwhile, a second pastor in Omaha has presided over a satne-sex mm-riage The Rev. Nancy Brink said it was the first she had performed at the North Side Christian Church in Chnaha. The church is affiliated with Disciples of Christ. which does not have prohibitions against covenant ceremomes. Brink noted the ceremony was given near unmnmous approval last spring bf the church’s board of elders. But the event has caused dissensmn within the 300-member congregation. Brink declined to say how man~ members had left the church over the issue~ Brink said covenant ceremonies are in line ~vith Christ’s admonition to love one’s neighbor as oneself. Utah Group is Anti-Gay But Suppo.rts Polygamy SALT LAKE CITY (AP) - \~qfile Gov. Mike Leavitt has changed his tune regarding polygamy, Eagle Forum President Gayle Ruzicka still sings the original notes. The conservative Utah Eagle Forum has campaigned against civil rights for Gay people, which Ruzicka says is a question of morality, but she says men who live with several women in polygamy "may find support in the Bible. "For polygamous folks - it is a religious belief and at least through their religious ceremomes they think they are married before God," Ruzicka said. "Homosexuality is not part of somebody’s religion." Ruzicka said she would urge Utah polygamists to lobby to change the state’s constitutional provision outlawing polygamy. "Polygamy has been blown totally out of proportion," she said. "These people out there living polygamous lives are not bothering anybody." In July, Leavitt acknowledged his polygmnist ancestors and said he knew many polygamists and "for themost part, they were hardworking and good people." While the pracace is baamed by the state constitution, Leavitt first said there were religious freedom questions that could prevent prosecuuon of the tens of thousands of practicing polygmnists believed living in Utah. Within four weeks, his position had changed to: "I believe polygamy is against the law, and it should be." Polygamy has come under renewed scrutiny due to reports of child abuse, incest and welfare fraud within some polygamist groups. Some legislators may address the issue in the 1999 legislative session. "The next legislative session will bring a healthy discussion about polygamy that Utah needs," says Rep. Sheryl L. Allen, R-Bountiful. "This has been postponed for too long. It is past due." Gay Family Struggles for Acceptance WATERTOkVN, Minn. (.-\P) - In this insular \ll lage of 2,400. where bird feeders and American flags h~g on front ~rches and cl~ldreu ride their .bikes to,tl~e O~fl) grocery store ~ound, XV atcrto~ n is grappling with the most di~ isive question encountered in ve~s: How to) deM wi t!~ opeul p~ents? Aboui 100 residents attended a two-ho~ town meeting Sept. 10 at Waterto~ Nement~ School to discnss the issne. Or~mn zer~ stud they ~’anted to create awareness of violence and hate crones and to invite di~dogne about and ~sbi~s. ~ae meeting ~ne mnidst ~dlc~ations that for the p~t two ye~s Robert Protomastcr. 35; Ns p~tner, Brian C~Isou, 35: and their three teen-age sous have been the t~gets of verb~d and physicM h~assment because Protomaster and C~lson ~e Gay. ~e clmms ~e disturbing: Epithets hurled at the fanfil~, as they drove tl~ough to~vn. Statues m their front v~d smashed at mght. Homophobic notes stuck haside their front door. And, most troubling, stud the fanfilv, repeated h~sment of the boys wNle they attended Watertown Middle School in 1996 and 1~7. ~ev stud that they repeatedl3 were cMled "’queei" and "’faggot" and that other students refused to sit b~ them be~ansc they lc~ged that "’they .. would become Gay,’" said "lqmoth~. 13. "’So f~r a long time no one ~votdd come ne;g us.’" Michael. 14, stud he was held down b~ studcnts ~vNle one wrote "’faggot" ou lfis :ran. S~hool offitins did little to stop the harassment, the fiunil~ says. ~e school district issued a statement on the da~ of the town zneeting saying that the district "has a record of responding appropriately to comphunts of h~sment." The Watertown mayor’s office and C~ver County officiMs issned statements the day before the meeting saying that Watertown stands agmnst Violent, hate crones and harassment of ~v kind. The bow - Jo~, ~vho"s 16. Michael and "l’imo~ thv - spent most of their [iveg in and out of foster hdmes before Protom~ter mad C~Mson adopted them about 3 years ago. Although the boys no longer attend s~hool in Watertown School Distnct. their p~ents filed a discfinfinatiou complmnt last ye~ agmnst ~e dis~ct w~th the state lluman ~ghts Dep~tlnent. The case is no~v on appeM. More HIV Drugs,- More Errors ..\I.BAN’f. N.Y (AP) - Two ’,ears ago, o~fl\ a few drugs were availatJle to treat tti’{’. Now. 14 types of ~nedicatton ,°re used to treat the disease. And while the chmaces for survi,,al have increased, so have the chances for error in the prescribing of these drugs, hi fact, mistakes in prescriptions wntten for people with HIV arc much more counnon than for other hospital patients, according to a recent two ‘.ear study. Fortunately, most of the time the wrongly prescribed medicines aren’t actuMly given to the patients. They usu-all,. oaflv make it tothe pharmacist’s desk. said l)r. Bonnie Purdy, the stud\"s author ,’rod AI ban’~ *ledical Center cli~lical phmanacist. "Without may doubt, there ,are physicians who don’t’understm]d therapies ~orrectlv.’" said Paul Volberding, director of S~m i:rancisco Geueral’s AIDS program. And because HIV patients can become resxst,’mt if not treated correctly the first time. he added. "There’s not very much margin for error.’" Johi] Bartlett. ~:hief of itffectious disease and AIDS ser‘.tce at Jolms ttopkins .Medical Center. said the stud} findings show a needfor more HIV specialists. Other studies have suggested that 3% of Ml prescriptlous written b’, physicim]s coutai n an error, Purd’, said. f~ors m ItIV prescnptions rose from about 2c} iu 1~)6 to 14% this ",ear. Rapid chmtges in treatments are conhtsi,ng doctors.. Some doctors have even written potentiall y deadl y formulas for medical care at the .-\Ibm]} hospital over the last two vein’s, the report said ()he lily specMist, whose practice was not studied for the report, admits that the increase in treatmcuts has been tough to follo\~. "’it .~ccm> cvcrx three or four months a ne~ drag is rel~.ased. The drugs have unforeseen side effects." said Dr. l)avid l !ermm]. of the \Vhitne‘. .X i. Young !tcalth (’cater. The :\lb,’m,. c’linic ser,.-es 1 it} lilY patients. Additiouallv. "’patients mc living longer, mM as the‘. live longer the} require more ,’rod ntore complicated drug rcgmmns said I)r. Douglas Fish. acting director of the lilY medicine divistun at .-\tbmav Medic,’d College. Purdx said :730 of the prescription errors were "’serious" or "’se,.ere. meamng they could bc fatal or increase resistance IO dlllgs.-The most connTlon error was either prescribing doses that were either too high or too lmv. Most of the mistakes were made by people who weren’t HI\- svccialists, the report said. Herman warned that the nuntber of errors may be higher in hospit~fls where interus and students can ~vnte prescriptions. The rates of error have decreased at :\lbany Medical since Purd,. revealed the results of the stud,, With the hospital staff., she said. "’We ~]ow pauents li,.e longer with these regimens," third,. stud. "’But if we don’t prescribe thcm’correctlv, we ha,an the patient." FDA Approves New Treatment W.\SHINGTON (AP) - AIDS patients got an easier-to-swallow drug as the Food and l)rug Administration approved a new once-a-day medicine that offers the first good alternative foF patients who cannot take today’s best AIDS treatment. l)uPout Pharmaceuticals" Sustiva appears to be about as effective as protease nfllibitors, the landmark medicines that have helped thousands of HIV patients rebound from their disease, tile FDA said. Ahd because it’s taken only. once daily, Susti,.’a conld significantl‘.’ cut the number of pills AIDS patients’now swallow. :’It really gives soane flexibilit,. ~md some new options for patients," said Dr. Heidi Jolson. FDA’s antiviral chief. But the FDA warned that patients shouldn’t race to switch to Snsti,.a if they’re doing well on other AIDS medic,ations. The HIV virus relentlessl,. mutates to overcoane drug treaunent, metaling patients must take a drug until it qmts working- not switching on the spur of the ~noment - so file’, don’t exhaust their options too quickl}:, stressed AIDS expert Dr. Anthony Fauci of the National Iustitutes of ttealth. But for newly diagnosed patients, or those whose current cocktail of AIDS medicines is failing or causmg too many side effects. Susti,.’a offers a good option, he said. In a sixqnonth stud’, of 450 patients taking the standard drugs AZT mid 3TC plus either Susti,.a or the most popular protease inllibitor, Crixivan, both theraptes were equally effecti,.e. The FDA approved Susti,.-a. kalown chemically as efa,.irenz, for both adults and children]. It is to be taken with a protease inhibitor and or older AIDS medicines. The Sustiva portion of that cocktail will cost almost $4,000 a ‘.ear. DuPont says the price is.midrange f6r AIDS drugs, ai~d that Sustiva therapy could sa,.’e up to S500 avear over Crixivan cocktails. DuPont al~o promised a treatment assistm]ce program for poor patients, but would not reveal details. But some AIDS activists attacked the price; the group Act Up wrote DuPout this week threatening protests to "’reveal your greed." Sustiva "addresses some imporumtissues in the lives of people with HIV. including the complexity of taking a large number of drugs," said D,’ufiel Zingale of AIDS° Action. "But I .don’t think the company went far enough m fair pacing... The‘. could pfi.ce this lower mid still make a ~rofit.’" T,.pical HI\ pauents s~,. allow some 20 pih~ throughout the day to combat the virus, timed carefully to take some with meals and some without. The,, may also take additional medicines to pre,.ent HIVcansed refections. Missing e,.eu a few ,’mtiviral pills, however, allows the HIV to mutate and become more difficult to treat Sustiva is taken just once a day, in three capsules, whenever it’s convenient. DuPonl also is de,.eloping a formulation that will require only a single tablet a day. Easing patients" "pill burden" ma,. be Sustiva’s main" ad,.’ance. With it, some patients may get by onjust five pills a day. "I have some patients who absolutely will only take medicine twice a day," said Dr. Do~aald P0retz of Virginia’ s Inova Fairfax Hospital. ’This is a race addition." Half of Susti,.’a pattents suffer dizziness, insomnia, impaired concentrauon, abnormal dreams and drowsiness. Therefore, patients should consider taking Sustiva at bedtime, the FDA said, and definitely avoid driving or operating machinery if they suffer the side effects. TheSe are milder side effects than many AIDS drugs cause, and unlike other drugs they usually disappear over time, theFDA said. But FDA’s Jolson cautioned that Sustiva can also cause some severe side effects, and that it has been studied for only six months. Longer use of AIDS drugs typically turns up more problems. Sustiva’s cautions include: - Some patients - usually those with a histoU of substance abuse or mental illness - suffer severe depression or delu- Free & Anonymous Finger Stick Method By &for, but not exclusive to the Lesbian, Gay, & Bisexual CommuniHes. Mon. & Thurs., 6-8 pm, Daytime testing: Mon-Thurs. by appt. 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But taking Cfixivan twice a day instead of the government-approved three daily doses proved far less effective. Insurance for Working PLWA’s? LOS ANGELES (AP) - Unemployed people living with HIV want to work but fear they’ll lose .their health insurance if they become employed, according to a new study. "Discrimination is still very much an issue for those Seeking employment," said Dr. Ronald Brooks, a researcherfrom Los Angeles County Harbor- UCLA Medical Center. Brooks and Dr. ,David Martin of AIDS Project Los -Angeles conducted the study, which they said was the first one to analyze employ: ment issues for LOs Angeles residents living with HIV and AIDS. In July and August, the doctors surveyed 5,685 people with HIV or AIDS who were case-managed by LOs Angelesarea AIDS service organizations. An estimated 13,000 people in LOs Angeles County are infected with HIV, Brooks said. The survey released in September found about 37% of respondents were working. More than half of them had fulltime .jobs. Some of the 67% of those unemployed said they were disabled. The majority said they were thimkmg about retumilig to work ~o increase their tncoxne and feel useful to society. , Mayor Richard Riorcl~m vowed to encourage health insurers to cover all employees, including those with AIDS. Their medications alone can cost S12.000 to S16,000 a )’ear. The law states no HIVinfected person may be deified employment because of the disease. But m,’my sufferers are afraid they will lose their current health insurance~including Medi- Cal, and will not obtain adequate insurance from a new employer, said Los Angeles City AIDS Coordinator Ferd Eggan. ",’AIDS remains a highly stigmatized disease," Eggan said. Jusfina Thompson, an HI\’-infected Venice resident, blames her honesty for her inability to find work. "’If you’re infected and ):ou tetl people you’r~ infected, they won’t ~ve you a job," said Thompson, who now works with Women Alive, a drop-in center in Los Angeles for women with HIV or AIDS. Craig Thompson, executive director of AIDS Project Los Angeles, said retunfing HIV-i~ffected people to the workplace actually would have a positive effect on society. If employed, they would pay into social security and pay taxes which are lost when th@ are uot working, he said. "It’s actually revenue-positive for the taxpayers in the long rim,’" Thompson said. Monkeys and the Origin of HIV COVINGTON, La. (AP) - Preston Marx is still gettiug settled, and it shows. Books are heaped in stacks, and boxes of all sizes - some unpacked, manynot - crowd the floors of his office at Tulane University’s primate center. Despite the helter-skel ter appearance of his office, the center’s new headofAIDS researchknew exactly where to look for what he wanted. From a pile of plaques and framed photographs, Marx, 54, pulled out a picture that, perhaps more than anything else, sums up the nature of his work. The photograph, which he shot nearly a decade ago in Liberia, shows a brightly clad girl 9-year-old girl and her pet monkey, a sooty mangabey, clutching each other as tightly as possible. The monkey’s forepaws and prehensile toes are wrapped tightly around the girls’ left arm. Sunny at first blush, the picture has a sinister side: It symbolizes the easy passage between monkeys and humans of a .simple vires that has developed into the microorganism that causes AIDS, said Marx, a New Orleans native who was at the Aaron Diamond AIDS Research Center in New York before coming this summer to the primate center in rural St. Tammany Parish. ":My work has shown that the viruses carried by these monkeys are closely related to the viruses earned by people in the local villages," he said. Marx, whosucceeded Michael Murphy- Corb at Tulane, also has studied the way AIDS infection develops, and he has con’- ducted vaccine research. He will continue in both fields at the primate center and at the Diamond center, which shares him with Tulane. In return for letting Marx move south, Diamond gained access to what is, with 4,500 monkeys, the country’s biggest primate center. The two institutions plan to co_ltaborate on .-kIDS research. "I’m not onlyOK with that; I think it’s a tremendous opportunity,’" said Peter Gerone, director of the Tulane Regional Primate Research Center. "’Talk about sometlfing being mutually beneficial." As part of the agreement, Marx received a professorship of tropical mediciue - and the enthusiastic welcome from Dr. Paul \Vhelton, dem~ ofTulane’s S cbooi of Public Health and Tropical Medicine "’He has provided fltndamental underpinmng of the sinuan innnunodeficiencv virus and the origin of AIDS.’" said \\~elton. For Marx, named the primate center’s senior scientist, flats is his first priority: to trace the history of the iucurabte illness by detennimng the origin of the virus that causes ~t "%’obodv else is doing that," Ronald Desrosier,~. imcrobiologist and molecular geneticist at Harvard Medical School and Harvard’s New Fmgland Primate Center. "’I tlm~k he ki~ows mo~tkevs and monkey natural history very we~l. This is a niche where he can contribute and he tries to make the most of it "" The work, wlfich Marx conducts in the United States and Africa, may lead to a vaccine and better ways to fight.AIDS, said Dr. Andrew Lach~er, a pathologist at Harvard Medical Center and ~ts pinnate center, "-[’he tnore you le,’~t about these viruses. . will provide very significant clues to what’s different in sooty mangabeys, where the virus can be haudled, and humans, and humans, where it’s not," Lackner said. Which leads back to Marx’s photograph of the ~fl and her pet, and the potential for monkey viruses to leap the species barrier. In villages like the ~fl’s, monkeys bite people and people hm~t and eat monkeys. And angry farmers have clubbed to d~th sooty mangabeys that devoured their crops, said Dr. Beatrice Hahn of the University of Alabama at Birminghana. Through such incidents, the simian nmnunodefiency virus, "known as SIV, regularly invades human bloodstreams, said Marx, who has worked in :\frica since 1987. Under normal circumsumccs, he has found a huntan can elinmmtc il wi~n 12 weeks. The mo~ev vm~s. Much has been in Africa more than 100,000 ye~s, c~~nutate in ml attenlpt to survi vc, but he s~d, the body’s defenses gencrall3 work f~ter. HIV, an offshoot of thc IN vires, is relatively nee in human~ M~x stud, dating b£ck to about 1950 "~at t~t me~s, in a sense, is thal there’s a mo~ey out ~ere that donated vires to people," Marx stud. ’The question becomes, "X~at’s the mechmfism ’ .. Some~ng ~p~ned in 1950 that caused tNs vires to st~t crossing over. I kmm what it is, but I ~n’t prove it.’" ttis hunch: widespread use of hypodenmc ucedlcs. wNch beg~ about the s~e ti~nc injectable ~gs ~c~e available to fight dise~ es such as tonga. In countries that ~’t ~forda new needle for each pattern. ne~les ~e often reused, picNng up Inicr~ rg~sms ~ong the way. A ~ad~te of 1 ~uisi~a ~tatc Iuivcrsitv in New ~leans (now the Univcrsit~ of ~’ew Ofl~s) and~1" Mcdic~fl Center , M~x beg~ ~s quesl for the ofigiu of AIDS in 1987. ~e quest h~ U~en him ~ound ~e world, including a remote Affi~ b~ where he and a colleague stopl~,d for a beer ~ter a frustrating day of collecting blo~ smnples from redcap m~gabeys in a hunt for a r~e SIV strain. H~ picked up the stor~, w~ch has bccome p~t of the Marx lebend: "Thcv a redcap monkex tied to the b~, ~ating pe~uts. ~esto~ stud, "We could blccd that one as well." "" After a pause. !l~dm delivered the puuch line. ’Thin happcncd to be the monkey that was i~fl~ctcd with that vm~s.’" she stud "’Preston told mc later. "As you can see. I do my best work m b~."" HIV+ Prisoners To Be Separated GREENVII.I.1L S.(’. {.-\P) - With ntorc than 600 S. Carolina prison inmates about to be segregated because they tested postfive for &e AIDS-casuing virus, one AII)S expert says the state has far underesu mated the cost. The state esdmalcs it will cost St,Q00 wr ~mnate l~r ~eatment. Tha~ is more likely.to k S15,000. Dr. Rick Altice. ~ AIDS expert m Yale-New ttayen HospitN in New Haven. Conn.. u)ld The Greenville News. In a prison system of 21.0~) lmnmcs. ~ of them t~IV-positive, a system of providing condoms, sex eduction and drug rehabilitation wouldbe more effective. sav some of those who speciNize in tracing ~edise~e. [nprotccted consensu~ sex~drapes remmn prev~ent mnong prisoners, m~v of whom don’t know HIV ~ be transmitted bv unsafe ratercourse, sMd Steve Nesselr~th of the AIDS m Prison Project. 17 states have m~datory testing, lto~vever, one-time testing ~ give pnson officiM s a fMse sense of secuntv, sMd Dr. Jo~ Miles, of the Centers f~r Disease Con~ol & ~evenfion. Without lbllowup testing, i~ates who~~ey ~c sine~fur~er spread H1V, Miles sMd. It ~es ~ long ~ six months tbr ~e vires to be det~mble. ~ficiMs pl~ follow-up tests ~d say i~ates will ~tested ~fore ¯ey l~ve prison st~ngnext ye~. "AVith the follow-up ~gsfing, we feel like we’ll ~tch~yone~o~’ttest ~sifive whea we test~ or when they c~e into the system," B~Mey sMd. 1998 Water Garden Tour to benefit IAM Interfaith AIDS Ministries Sat. 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I2 & 13, 1999 Mar 19 & 20, 1999 Apr. 16 & 17,.1999 TULSA WORLD MASTERWORKS SERIES Kenneth Jean, Music Director Sept. 12, 1998 Music of Tchaikovsky, erokofiev, Berlioz and Bemstein Bernard Rubenstein with Colin Carr, cello Oct. 3, 1998 Alison Gaines, Principal Bass Nov. 14, I998 Jon Kimura Parker, piano Ida Kavafian, violin Feb. 20, 1999 Kenneth Jean with Tulsa Oratorio Chorus Mar. 26 & 27, 1999 Verdi, Messa da Requiem Peter Serkin, piano May 22, 1999 1-998- 1999 SEASON Pops and Masterworks concerts held at the Tulsa PAC. Subscribe today for as little as $50. BROCHURES CALL Sponsored by: KCFM~94.1 Tuba’s CVahic hn" Read All About It by Adam West, Helmerich Library We all love Auntie Marne. It’s pracfiv~ V a orere~uisite; it’s possibly genetic. ~t’-s’not t~ love in a s-tory @’out a bo.y growing up with a bohemian’, eccenmc and rich aunt for a guardian? But if you ever wondered where all of Marne’s gay friends were (oh, of course she had them!), you will definitely adore Say Uncle by Eric Shaw Quinn. Although the whole plot rests on a gruesome tragedy, this comedy has enough absurdity and sardonic humor to keep you smiling for weeks. The characters are so engaging that they become a part of your family -even when you hate them; and Quirm’s evocative style will rivet you with your own emo~ tional reactions. InSav Uncle, Michael Reily finds l~s life turned inside out when his sister and her husband are killed tragically ,leaving Michael the guardian of their baby, Scott. Urged on by his mother and challenged by the baby’s patemal grandfather, a conservative former Senator, Michael’s fights anaidst a media blitz as his homosexnality and Suitability as a parent are "called into question. The most noticeable aspect of this brilliant first novel is certainly its brand of humor. Part Congreve, part Dickens, part Fierstein, Quinnmanages a seamless blend of Restoration comedy, bitter irony and modem disillusioned idealism. The resul_t is a classic style in today’s language. Qmma clearly wanted to go for the literary throat with his debut. The scope and scheme of Say Uncle is of Shakespearean proportions. ~a,s an actor lfimself, the author was possibly hoping for a movie deal with a cast on the level of Steel Magnolias (of wlficli this is also reminiscent). Say said Nicole Russo, spokeswoman for AIDS Project Los Angeles, which organizes the event every year. Colin’ s mother got him started when he was four to learn about helping others, Ms. Russo said. The event raised an estimated $3 million that will provide care for the nearly 7,400 people with AIDS in l_~,s .Angeles County. Participants asl~ people to sponsor them for every mile they walk. The course, about 6.2 miles long, started at Paramount Studios in Hollywood, looped onto Melrose Avenue and then back to the studio through Hancock Park. Craig Thompson, executive director of AIDS Project Los Angeles, said he was encouraged to see so many.young people taking part in the fund-raiser this year. ’q’hat’s good because half of all .new infections of HIV occur among 18- to 25- year-olds," he said. Here in Tulsa, however, local HIV/ AIDS andcivil rightactivist,Jimmy Flowers, bemoaned what he called the shamefully low turnout at Tulsa’ s 6th nnn~al AIDS walk, Walk For Life held Sat. sept. 26th. Flowers claims therewere only about 80 persons participating in the 2 mile walk along the Riverparks and that some The most notleeable aspect of this brilliant first novel is eertalnly its brand of humor. Part Congreve, part Dickens, part Fiersteln, uhn manages a~seamless blend of Restorat;on comedy, hitter irony and modern dlsillusloned ideallsm. The result is a elassle style in today’s Uncle’s beauty shines through, covering ~ a span of over twenty years and doing so ¯ without neglecting continuity or cohe- ¯ siveness. ¯ Even thOugh half of the book is told ¯ mostly from Scott’s perspective, the clear star of the novel is Uncle Michael. Michael’s straight-forward and amusing take on life fuels the story and you adore him more with each page¯ He’ s not a perfect man, but he"s close enough, and his flaws just endear you to him more¯ His blunt’and occasionally odd rapport with his meddling mother is so similar to somany of us that you’ll surdy find new realizations m your own maternal rdationship. Best of all, .kfichael fights for respect the way we all would like to: withh~nor, ~ace and tremendous gumpuon. The circumstances of Say Uncle wouldn’t happen to mare of us. \~2tile overall you mav~ehappy about that, there will also be a part of you that longs for it. Michael Reily is a tree hero in so many ways - Iris di~mfity, his selfish selflessness, his passion for life¯ \Xqao ,’unong us doesn’t want to star ~n a life of feature film quality. Say Uncle has its realism, and even its absuiditv is plausible, but in the end what gets us ior at least gets me) is thejourney of the characters from letters on a p0ge to human beings we would like to kaaow..Say Uncle is the story we would have if we got the option - and the strength - to enjoy it. You can request Say Uncle from your nearest’l"ulsa City-County library br~ch or by calling th~ Reader’s Services department of the Central Library. Adam West is an associate with lulscl City-County Library S3wtem and an OSU ah~mus. Hets m)t now and,ever has bee, Batman. agencies whi,c,h serve People Living with AIDS~(PLWA s) werenot represented by their staff. However, Community Service Council AIDS f~mdraiser and organizer, Janice Nicklas claimed about 100 attended and that, for Tulsa, that’ s a good turnout. According to Nicklas, about $5,000 was raised which will be matched by an addi- ¯ ttonal $2500 from the Nat’1. AIDS Fund. LongtimeHIV/AIDS activist/volunteer, ¯ Claudette Peterson, noted that she was ¯ unable to attend the event because The ¯ Food Pantry of Tulsa CARES (formerly ¯ ¯ theHIV ResourceConsortium)whichshe directs was scheduled to getalargeamount ¯ of donated food that morning. ¯ Walker, Nancy Smith, and walk team, i Soles for Souls brought in the highest donations. Street School student Kat ¯ Morgan won a prize for her HIV/AIDS ¯. poem,, and the poster design used on tiffs ¯ year s t-shirts was createdby amember of ¯ Red Rock Mental Health Group’s Gay ¯ youth support group. Chairpersons were ¯ ~Vlichael Bmmgardt of Youth Services ~ andTerry Russell of Planned Parenthood ". of America, NE OK/NW AR. Business ¯ sponsors were US Cdlular, NYBagds, ¯ Kinko’son 1 lth, McDonaldsRestaurants, : KRMG, TFN, & Urban Tulsa Weekly. 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They hold better, won’t pull out, and make any future repairs oh so much eas~er - and we love easier, don’t we? The DIYD has certain other preferences when it comes to screws, and the primary one is for square drives (as opposed to standard or - shame-on you for smirking - Phillip’s head). -Ihex do not "’cam out" easily, which means they don’t get all cheered’up and ratty mad unusable, and yoffl,azow by now what aesthetics does for the DI’YD~ Order the catalogue from McFeelv’s (800 443- 7937) and you will be ifi square driv~ heaven; of course, youcan order the square drives from them as well. The quality is lfigh, the service good and the delia:err prompt - mad most of us can’t say that about our exes. can we? You will be using a #8 scre~v. 2 1 2" long, to attach stringers t.o posts. ,and \ou will need to order the"No-Co-Rode’" ty"pe. The’* will We you good rust resistance along with strength. For attaclfing 3our pickets to the stringers, you wi!l need #8 scre~vs. 1 1 4." long; the wood ’*ouve chosen for the pickets will deterrrdue the type of screw. For wKite wood or treated pickets, use the No-Co-Rode screws, but for cedar, vou must_use stainless steel because thd acids and volatile oils in the cedar will seriously corrode an\ other fastener you use. Tt~e DIYD realizes that some of this informaUon is a rehash, but speaking for herself, the old memory isn’ t quite what it used to be. Remember also that you will need4 screw s for each stringer and 5 screws for each picket. Now that you’ve assembled all ’,our raw material s, it is time to gather up ’,’our tools. The DIYD is delighted to inform you that this is the perfect project for that stunning leather tool belt, so if you haven’t indulged yourself yet, do so now. You’re paying so much for the fence, at this point you canjustify the few extra dollars for an accessory that will give years and years of good use and satisfaction. In adcfition to the .tool belt, you will need the following: a good level (bigger really is better here; don’t settle for an.vthin~ under 12"); a drill and drill bits (2 drills are better); a #2 square driver for the screws; a wheelbarrow or very large tub to mix concrete in (there is an nnapproved method to cheat this, which will be passed along forthwith); a hoe and shovel for mixing and scooping concrete; and a device for dig- Trust me darll-nCs, you do not want to d;~ a post hole wlth a shovel. too much work, and requires more mater~al to fill it. Oh., dear, there ~oes the ex factor a~aln... The standard method is to use a post hole di~¢er. but thls too is much too painful, and you will use an entire 80 lb. ba~ of quiekrete to fill the hole. It is not laziness that will drive you at thls point to the E-Z equipment rental, but efficiency! ging the holeS. Trust me darlings, you do not want to dig a post hole with a shovel. Ugly, too much work. and reqmres more material to fill it. Oh, dear, there goes the ex factor again.. : The standard method is to use a post hole digger, but this too is much too painful, and yon will use an entire 80 lb. bag of quic"krete to fill the hole. It is not laziness that will drive you at this point to the E-Z Equipment rent,d, but efficiencv! Go rent an auger and forget the Ph.D. altogether. You have two options: a hand operated auger, which is just fine in soils that arc not rocky, or a gas powered auger. Hm Bet we’ve made a choice already. Get a bit instruction ~n how to rev the little darlin" up and you’ll be sinking more holcs that an Oklahoman wildcatter in July. Besides, power to~ls arc fl~n, and you’ll get yonr job dgne quicldy. And you "ll use less Quickrete, too. In order to buy your materials, you have already measured your fence li~]e. ()nce again, you will space 3"our posts 8 feet on 6enter for treated pickets and 10 feet on center for cedar pickets. You will rarely come out perfectly, so plan on splitting the difference ou either end of the fence unless the distance left over ~s over a few ~’eet. In other words, you may have ten posts 10" apart and have 3" at the end, so put nine posts 10" apart, and at the ends have the posts 61 2’ apart. More than that. put the short section of fence on the cud you won’t see as often. If this confuses you. draw ~t out on paper first. It never hurts to have a visual. Drill your holes Zccording to your spacing plan. Go ahead and give yourself an inch or so less between the posts for a bit of a fudge factor (you can cut a board, but stretching it is ~mpossible). Drill the holes 2".deep. Center 3our posts in the holes, using the level to get the post as level as possible in the horizontal as well as the vertical plane. If you" ve never used a level before, ask someone who has for a few pointers. It’s reall,v quite easy. Do not skip this step or the fence will be a disaster and you’ve paid too much for that. After centenng the post in the hole, add your mixed concrete until the hole is filled level with the ~ound. Use a stick to work the concrete mix down and the air bubble out. Always put the post in the hole and fill around it. The moisture needs to be able to drain away from the bottom of the post. If you drill your holes with an auger, you shonld only need about 3/4 of an 86 lh bag of quickrete per hole. Let the concrete sit for at least 12 hours before proceeding. Cheater’s method: Pour a bag of quikrete into the hole, add water to fill. Let sit for 24 hrs. Results not guaranteed. Once again, your beloved DIYD has waxed eloquent to the point of being verbose, so join us next month when we will finish this project. Promise. Until theu, enjoy the tool belt. by Esther Rothblum I recently met with three members of the Crones, a group for old Lesbians in Vermont. "We were at a dance one night," said.Alverta, "and I asked the woman l was with, where are all the Lesbians our age?" They put an ad in the local Lesbian newspaper, and had to drop the minimum age to 40 because there were so few Lesbians older than that who were out in the community at that time. They started as ~ political group, butit quickly became a social group because so many women wanted just to meet someone their age. "’And even now," added Mary Wallmyn, "here we all sit together in your living room and wonder where are the Lesbians in their 60s and 70s like us.’" The women agrecd that some of the~e older Lesbians are extremely closeted or out to only one "It’s even hard for older Lesbians to meet someone to be a friend or just someoue to han~ out wlth." sald Alverta. ’%Vhere do older Lesbians disappear to?" other person. They lived through times that were very hostile to Lesbians and aren’t willing io be too out, eve!.13o other old l~esbians..klan3 don’t even hse the word "Lesbian"- they refer to themselves as "that wax" or use other euphemisms. I asked ~’hat Alverta, Mary, and Joy thought the major issues were facing Les’- bians over 60. Getting a job mad facing ageism, said Alverta. Leaving a husband, coming out as a Lesbian, andbeing thought too old for full-time work yet not old enough for social security, said Mary. Beiug closeted on the job and needing 1o move in order to live near a lover, said Joy. Working for a non-profit organization that has no retirement benefits. Getung sick in old age. In fact, thewomen agreed that discrimination due to age was more severe than discmninauon due to being a Lesbian. And many have found this hideaway in the Ozarks to be an ideal spot for a holy union or commitment ceremony. Early reservations for the weekend are advised. For more information on the schedule of activities or Diversity Cooperative listing, please check out the website at www.shimaka.com;eurek;t"diversity or call the event sponsors,The Emerald Rainbow, at 501-253--cOA-5. Schedule of Activities Friday, November 6, 8:30pm-12:30am Kick off the weekend with a dance in the Basin Park Hotel Ballroom to benefit ¯the Metropolitan Comnmnity Church of the Living Springs & the Eureka Springs R.A.I.N. Team. Music by Sisters II. $3 single; $5 couple. 12:30-2: 00am, after the dance, head over to Center Street So. for more "family’" fun ! Saturday, November 7, 8:00-10:30am Meet Charlotte for a trout fishing adventure on die beautiful, crystal clear White River. Arkansas fishing license is required. Meet at the Beaver Dam Store by 7:45am. Fxtuipment rentals & licenses available: Reservations: 501-253-6154. 1 l:00am-l:00pm, Take a leisurely float trip down the White River. Enjoy the fall colors mad peacefulness of the Ozarks. Mary had noticed that even the personal ¯ ads in thelocal newspapers had "seniors" ¯ under a special section. They mentioned a ; Lesbian friend who had stated her age in ; apersonaladandgotalmostnoresponses. ¯ "’It’ s even hard for older Lesbians to meet someone to be a friend or just someone to hang out with,’" said,Mverta: "Where do older Lesbians disappear to’?" the women wondered. Perhaps some leave to take care of families of origin, the)’ thought. The Crones talked about interacting with younger Lesbians. When older and younger Lesbians become lovers, people may assume that one is the other:s mother. It’s hard to go to the health care center mad have a 20- year old woman do the in- . take extort. Old women are "called wise, said Alverta. vet they are ignored iu meetings that include yOtmger women. Joy found that the younger women go off to socialize together mid don’t iuclude old Lesbians. But the women did feel that the) have become more outspoken as they have become older. The women remiaisced about living through extremely homophobic times. They talked about bein_o in the ntilitary and Working as school teachers. But now. as older women, they were living in times that were more affirming of Lesbians, but hostile to old women. Yet ever.vone agreed that ageism was worse in the Gay male mid in the Heterosexual co~mnunitv. For more information about the C~’ones. write to 143 RoIlin Irish Road, .\lilton. VT 05468. Esther Rothblum is Professor of Psychology at the Umversitv of Vermont affd Editor ofthe Journal ofLesbian Studies. She can be reached at John Dewey Hall, Univ. of Vermont, Burlington. VT. Bringa ~nack or pick up something at the Dam Store. $25 canoe rental fee. Singles wdcome. Call 501-253-6154 for details. Reservations apprecmted 1 l:30am- 1:00pm,Take an historic walking tour throu~.da downtown. Meet at Sweet Springs (next to Rogues Manor on upper Spring St.) Find out more about this special town. 2:00-4:00pm, Be a part of nature on this easy hike on the Dogwood Trail. Take in the beautifid fall scenery, the wildlife, and the splendid views of Beaver Lake. Meet at the Dam Store by 1:45 p.m.Info: 501~ 253-6154. Reservatibns appreciated. 2:00-5:00pm, Shop "ti1 you drop, with some of the stores listed in the Diversity Co-op booklet offering a 10% discount to these weanng a "Eureka Springs -Celebrating Diversity"button. (Some restrictions apply). Pick up your button at The Fmaerald Rainbow for 50 cents. 9:00pm-i:30am, Dance to the beat of DJ Jon Caswell at Center Stage. Cover: $5. From 1 tpm- 1:30am, the dance floor opens up downstairs for a "Singles Mingler". Sunday, November 8, 2:00-6:00pm Everyone’s encouraged to "Come iri Drag, Whatever that Means to You’, to the tea dance and drag show at Center Stage. Jon will mix it up again with his music as we welcome the girls from Tulsa and a few Eureka surprises! Cover: $5. ~rine the Great’s Chalice, Czarina Alexandra’s Wedding Crown and more... 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Personal Injury, Criminal Law & Bankruptcy 128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma Weekend and evening appointments areav~ by Lamont Lindstrom Last summer, I visited Carl, an old high school friend who lives near Princeton, New Jersey. Carl and I grew up together in the same small California town but I did not learn he was Gay until years after we had both moved away. The previous time I ran into Carl, back in California for the holidays, I thought he was straight. Eccentric, but straight. I looked forward to seeing him again in this different light, and in his own place- a condo that he and his lover had purchased a few years before AIDS cuthim down, leaving Carl single once more. We sat digesting our dinner around the kitchen table joined by Richard, a recent acquaintance from New York City. Contemplating the dr~gs of my wine, I was startled when Carl and Richard began comparing the relative merits of the sadomasochist clubs inNYC that tfiey both frequent. Not just merely Gay, I also hadn’t a clue that my boyhood buddy was into ¯ whips and chains and fit-clamps. Carl ¯ enthused that his peak sexual experience ." had come when once he was "sewn up." ¯ Don’t ask - I didn’t. I preferred to let a heated imagination race through the pos- ¯ sibilities of exactly WH_AT was sewn up . HOW, and WHERE. (If anyone cares to ¯ enlightenme, my email address is below.) ¯ Richard advised ttmt the best place to acquire such paraphernalia cheaply is your local hardware store. Waltdn~ those TrueValue aisles, the SIM eye sparhles at exeltln~ possibilities brought to mind by hoohs, clamps, struts, braehets, and power tools. ~ added leather and clamps to his interests ¯ in music and math. A previous artist boy- " friend had even recruited him to model for ¯¯ a drawing; and Carl stands there in full leather and chains illustrating the SADOMASOCHISM sectxon of Silverstein and Picano’ s New Joy of Gay Sex -a volume that Ihad often meticulously studied without recognizing my old high school friend! As an old-fashioned anthropologist, I’ ve sometimes made fun of contemporary identity politics that begets aperfusionofculture claims. Nowadays, everyone has to have his or her own culture: Gay-culture, Lesbian-culture, deaf-culture, black-cultin’e, Polish-American culture, skater-culture, it goes on. However, because all of us continue to speak English and to eat the same Burger Kings, the stodgy anthropological term for these various yet connected spheres is "subculture." But whatever you want to call it, listening to Carl and Richard chat merrily together, it was clear to me that S/ Minvolves a closecommunity with shared understandings of its sexual world. These shared S/M understandings in- " clude well-defined statuses (all those vanetaesof tops and bottoms ),andrule governed practices for combining sexual pleasureandpain. Americans like to regularize and institutionalize the world as Carl and Richard attend several well- ¯ much as ~auyone, and at s no s~nse tha ~eir doo~ abour9 p.m. ~€~oWo ms~a¢ . corona: i~¢opnytCs ~ ~€~ ~/~v~-~mthen wiles away~~ght ho~s by orga- ¯ ~€ on ~€ Intem¢t, or even by ~ng m~ng what I t~¢ to be a series of im- ¯ semin~s: P~n 101. promptu demonstrations and skits. Up on stage a leather daddy whips his boy. A rough dyke strings up the bottom she has just met. Guys dripping hemp rope enthusiastically demonstrate, likemyBoy Scout troop master of long ago, a plethora of complicated knots. Someone whohas visited the supermarket unpacks boxes of plastic wrap and wraps his partner in yards and yards of plastic, poking holes here and there in the bulging saran cocoon for purposes of breathing and so forth. From all corners chains rattle and hand- "cuffs clank. Richard advised that the best place to acquire suchparaphernalia cheaply is your local hardware store. Walking those TrueValue aisles, the S/M eye sparkles at exciting possibilities brought to mind by hooks, clamps, struts, brackets, andpower tools. This all was a revelation to me. My image of Carl, dating back to high school, was of a shy, quiet, reservedboy whom, of all of us, I would have bet on to die a virgin. He had outstanding talents in both music and mathematics-that odd, not uncommon mixture of aptitude that lends support toAmericanpop theories ofrightbrained versus left-brainedpeople. Iknew that Carl was wall into a second decade of work on a Princeton University PhD thesis in musicology-one that was tracing, in tortuous-detail, a chronicle of 17th century German organ music. Twenty years academic slavery in the music archives - this all made sense to me, knowing Carl. But years of sexual slavery inNew York S/M clubs-that came as a shock.Carl had : A message on an Internet list-serve, in : fact, recentlycomplainedbitterlythatpro- ¯ liferating confusion in the "hanky code" was undermining S/M cultural unlfor- : mity. And one can think up amusingly [ horrible scenarios where someone sport- . ing a mustard yellow hankie (seeking the : well-endowed) ends up witha2am"golden ." shower" instead. (editor’s note: or as our ¯ First District US Congressman Steve ". Largent likes to refer to them. "yellow ". showers.") : Carl talked enthusiastically about his ¯ vocationasagingleather-boy.Itooknotes. ." Gay-culture mightbe rich and elaborated, : but the number of roles it allows us 40- ." somethings is limited. What comes next ¯ after "sweet young twink"? Bear, queen, : leather-daddy - there really isn’t much ¯ ~hoice. I’m heading down to my neigh- "borhood TrueValue soon. Lamont Lindstrom is a professor of anthropology at the University of Tulsa. 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(Tulsa) ¯~14485 To respond, browse or check your messages, call 1-900-786-d865 $1.99/Min’. 18+ Discreet ¯ Confidential o Easy PUB Megaphone does not prescreen callers and assumes no liability for personal meetings. 18+ 998 PC Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1998] Tulsa Family News, October 1998; Volume 5, Issue 10 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. 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Baldwin, 36, made healtheare a cornerstone of her campaign, saying the United States should adopt a ~national, publicly funded system like that in Canada. ’°Tammy Baldwin is a solid representative who happens to be a Lesbian," said Elizabeth Birch, executive director of the Washington-based Human Rights Campaign, a Gay civil rights group that helped bankroll the Baldwin campaign. "She has broken down a very large door," Birch added. see Baldwin, p. 10 Hawaii.+Alaska Voters Reject Gay. Marriage ’Th~As;oc;’atedPress ~Stri~ggiingt; satisf~y~l~ot~.~0ei-al conservatives and the law of the land, Hawaii on Tuesday took another step toward banning same-gender marriage, giving its Legislature the go-ahead to write a new law. Elsewhere, Alaskans voted a Gay-marriage ban into their constitution, and voters in Fort Collins, Colo., defeated a measure to protect Gays and Lesbians from discrimination. News was more hopeful for Gay civil rights advocates in Maine, whereindividual communities are fielding anti-discrimination bills to circumvent this year’s statewide vote that overturned protections on the basis of sexual orientation. South Portland approved a Gay rights initiative; Ogunqult’s vote on a similar proposal was too close to call early Wednesday. The Hawaii initiative was lawmakers" latest try to sidestep the state Supreme Court’s 1993 ruling that the state had no constitutional right to ban same-gender marriages because that would deny some citizens the rights provided to others. Because the U.S. Constitution’ s Full Faith and Credit .Clause requires states to honor each other’ s statutes and legal bonds, the 1993 ruling set off some furious preemptive legislating around the country. At least 30 states have now banned Gay marnage, and Congress passtd the Defense of Marriage Act, which denied federal recognition ofGay marriage and allowed states to ignore same-sex tmions licensed elsewhere. The two sides in Hawaii spent millions of dollars in a relendess media campaign. "It’s really sending aclear message, a strong message, that the people of this community will not allow homosexual marriages;" said Mike Gabbard, a leader of the Save Traditional Marriage group, seeVote, p. 10 UJ DIRECTORY/LETTERS P, 2/3 US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 ~ HEALTH NEWS P. 6 ENTERTAINMENT NOTES P. 8 ~ COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 8 BOOK REVIEW P. I 0 DO-IT-YOURSELF P. 11 DYKE PSYCHE/GAY STUDIES P. 12/13 ~ CLASSIFIEDS + WEERWOLF P. 14 ¯ 200 Attend Tulsa Vigil For Hate Crime Victim Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends Tulsa’s Largest Circulation CommunityPaper Available In More Than 75 City Locations ¯ The Associated Press & TFN- Matthew Shepard, a 21 year old ¯ Gay University of Wyoming freshman, was found severely ¯ beaten Oct. 7. He died Oct. 12 in a Fort Collins, Colo., hospital. ¯ His deathsparkedanintemational "[your vi$11 represents] a eommhment to an end of vlolenee and [to] appropriate proteetlon under the law... Matthew Shepard’s death was horrible and senseless; it would be more so if it. was in vain." - Drew Edmondson OkLaltom Attorney General . .," outpouring of sympathy for vic- ¯ ¯ tims of hate crimes and calls for ~: a-federal hate crime law from Clinton. All across the US, communities heldvigils andrallies tohonor and mourn the slain student. In ¯ Tulsa, a group of about 150-200 ¯ persons gathered at the Civic Center Plaza. Anumberofclergy ¯ spoke, including the Rev. Father : Rick Hollingsworth of the Parish ¯ Church of SaintJerome, the Rev. ¯ Leslie Penrose of Community of : HopeUnited Methodist, the Rev. ¯ Helen Calloway of the Unity : Church and the Rev. Russell Bennett of Fellowship Congrega- ¯ tional Church. : Oklahoma’ s Attorney General, Drew Edmondson, sent a state- : ment which was read by Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights vice president, Greg Gatewood: "[your vigil represents] a commitment to an end of violence and [to] appropriate protection ¯ under the law.. see Hate, p. 11 : - Fayetteville Civil Rights ¯ Measure Overturned FAYEFFEVILLE, Ark. (AP) -.Voters here rejected a resolution : that backers said would have protected Gay people against job ¯ discrimination in city government. Final but unofficial results ¯ from Tuesday’. s .balloting 8howed7~811" v_otes against the measure, 6r58pe~-cent~ whil~ 5,731,or_42 percenL.we~_e cast in favor. Known as the human-dignity resolution, the measure was passed ¯ by the Fayetteville City Council earlier this year, vetoed by the ¯ mayor, then passed by the council again in overriding the veto. : It wouldhave required that all applicants for city staffpositions ¯ have equal access to employment, regardless of race, sex, reli- : gion, color, national origin, age, ancestry, familial statUS, disabil- ¯ ity or sexual orientation, A group opposed to including "sexual ¯ orientation" on the list successfully petitioned to get the resolu- ¯ tion.on the ballot. ¯ Claudette’s Leaving! Longtime AIDS Activist Moving to Aggieland ¯ TULSA - For half a decade, anyone seriously involved with ¯ HIV/AIDS, knew Claudette Peterson. For a nu~nber of years, a ¯ Tulsan being tested for HIV anti-bodies likely had their blood ¯ sample taken taken and results given by her when she ran Tulsa ¯ Oklahomans for Human Rights HIV Testing Clinic. ¯ More recently, Persons Living with AIDS (PLWA’s) have ¯ benefited fromher tireless (and initially unpaid) efforts to establish Food Chain, a food pantry and more. However, since her ¯ spouse, Tim Peterson has recently been taken a teaching job at ¯ TexasA&Mwherehe received his ph.D, Tulsa is losing Peterson ¯ to College Station. Another prominent figure amongTulsaHIV/AIDS fundraisers ¯ and caregivers, Janice Nicklas, bemoaned Peterson’ s departure. ¯ "It’ s a major loss for our community.., she has tireless energy for ¯ developing resources for HIV prevention and care and we owe ¯ her a lot . . . anyone’s fortunate to have her living in their community." ¯ Peterson noted that her work has been a labor of love, and is ¯ proud of the fact that she and Foo~t Chain have never had to turn ; away a client and they are now. serving over 100 PLWA’s a ¯ month. She notes that donating food has brought very diverse : people together- drag queens working right next to conservative church people. Peterson also recognizbA Audra Sommers for her ¯ very generous support ofFood Chain and other care programs as ¯ wall as support from the National AIDS fund, Tulsa Comm ¯ AIDS Partnership, the Rath Foundation, &Philip Morris Co. Inc. : Tulsa Library Rever,s,es Anti-Gay Paper Poltcy ¯ TULSA- Fornearlyfiveyears,Tulsa’sCity/County ¯ Library System (TCCLS) had refused to allow the ¯ distributionofGaynewspapers,TulsaFamilyNews ¯ in particular, in its lobbies. Early in October, TFN ¯ received a letter inviting the newspaper to provide ¯ copies to be distributed at the Central and each of ¯ the four regional libraries. Tulsa Family News is ¯ now found in those locations. ¯ The dispute over distribution privileges began ¯ when TFN publisher, Tom Neal, was representing _" a now defunct out-of-town Gay paper and re- " quested equal distribution access as magazines like ¯ TulsaKids, TulsaPeople and Urban Tulsa enjoyed ¯ a number of library lobbies. The response of the ." then TCCLS director, Pat Woodrum and the ¯ library’.s board of trustees was to change the rules ; to ban "out of town" publications. Shortly after that decision, Neal began Tulsa ¯ Family News and reapplied as a local publication. ¯ Once again, TCCLS changed the rules to continue to grant access to non-Gay publications and not to ." aGay one. Thesenew rules required that50% ofthe ¯ content of the publication be "local." ¯ TFN challenged TCCLS to clarify how it was ¯ defining and connting local content. Neal notes, ¯ "we had issues where it appeared that we met the ~ 50% standard as we understood it and yet we were ¯ told we didn’ t have enough local content. Further- ." more, we documented multiple violations of that : rule by other publications but the library administration refused to respond to our requests to clarify the policies and to explain their seeming tolerance ¯ for rule-breaking by other publications." see Library, p. 12 World AIDS ¯ IAM Director Decides to Step Down ¯ TULSA~interfaithAIDS Ministries is sponsoring ¯ its annual World AIDS Day Candlelight March.& ¯ Memorial Service. As is customary, the event is on ¯ December 1 st,Tuesday andwill beginat 6:30 at the parkinglot of Centenary United Methodist Church ¯ (631 North Denver) just north of downtown. The ¯" march begins to the Parish Church of Saint Jerome (205 West King) at about 7pro and the memorial service will start about 7:30. There is a reception ¯ following the service. Marchers are asked to bring : banners & bells, but candles & matches will be ¯ provided. St. Jerome will be accessible to the disabled at the east entrance. ¯ Also, this will be the last World AIDS Day for which ]AM’ s executive director ofmany years will ¯ serve. Diane Zike, who helped found the organiza- ¯ fion when it was part of the Episcopal Diocese of ¯ Oklahoma’s AIDS care, will be stepping down at ¯ the end of the yearforpersonal reasons. Zike stated, "my work in AIDS ministry has been a very impor- ¯ taut and meaningful part ofmy life fore the past 12 years. I regret the need to step down now from my role as director but I will continue to be active and supportive in any way I can." TFN publisher, Tom Neal, noted, "Diane is one of the unsungheroes of the TulsaAIDS community - she has worked long and hard at great personal cost." Info: 438-2437 or 800-284-2437. : Blues Concert for AIDS ¯ TULSA-Walkfor Life will presentits 2ndannual ." blues concert later this year (the date will be an- ¯ nounced). Last year’s event was held at at ¯" Streamroller Blues and featured a surprise visit from Hanson. The tickets to the event will be $5 at ~ the door and will benefit local AIDS care organizations. For info., call 918-579-9593. see Editorial, p. 3 Tul;a C~ubs & Restaurants *Bmnboo Lom~ge, 7204 E. Pine *Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria *Full Moon Care, 1525 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston *Jason’s Deli, 15th & Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 832-1269 592-2143 744-0896 599-9512 583-6666 749-4511 585-3134 599-7777 749-1563 744-4280 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Cellular 747-1508 *Affinity News~ 8120 E. 21 610-8510 Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15 712-1122 Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955 *Borders Books & Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272 *CD Warehouse, 3807c S.-Peoria 746-0313 Cherry Sf. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. 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Brady 585-1234 *Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3rd 584-3112 Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 663-5934 *Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Place 664-2951 Novel Idea Bookstore, 51 st & Harvard 747-6711 David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672 *Peace of Mind Bookstore, 1401 E. 15 583-1090 The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2rid floor 743-4297 Rainbowz on the River B+B, POB 696, 74t01 747-5932 Richard’ s Carpet Cleaning 834-Q617 Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921. 747-4746 Christopher Spradling, attorney, 616 S. Main, #308 582-7748 *Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301 *Tickled Pink, 3340 S. Peoria 697-0017 *Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria 742-2007 *Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis 481-0558 Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733 *Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767 Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & U niversities AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 4337, 74101 579-9593 *All Souls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria 743-2363 Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 587-7314 Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center, 2207 E. 6 583-7815 *B/L/G/T Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780 *Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston 585-1201 *Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th P1. & Florence *Church of the RestorationUU, 1314N.Greenw°°d 587-1314 *Commlmity ofHope United Methodist, 2545 S. Yale 747:6300 *Commumty Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595 *Council Oak Men’ s Chorale 743-4297 *Delaware Playhouse, 1511 S Delaware 712-1511 *Democratic Headqtmrters, 3930 E. 31 742-2457 Dignity/Integrity of Tulsa - Lesbian & Gay Catholics & Episcopalians, POB 701475, 74170-1475 355-3140 *Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 *Free Svirit Women’ s Center, call for l°cati°n &inf°: 587-4669 747-6827 918.583.1248, fax: 583.46 15, POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 e-mai!: TNsaNews@earthlinl~net website: http:Husers.aol.com/TulsaNewst Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal Writers + contributors: James Chfistjohn, Jean-Claude de Flambeauchaud Balry Hensley, J.-P. Legrandbouche, Lamont Lindstrom Esther Rothblum, Mary Schepers, Adam West Member of The Associated Press Issued on or before the 1st of each month, the entire contents of this oublication are protected by US copyright 1998 byT~ J::.~. ¢L~ ~€and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Publication of a r~ame or photo does not indicate a person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted,_oaust be signed & becomes the sole prope,rty of, T,~.~. /:.~Lg,’...ff.*~.*" Each reader is entitled to 4 copies o~ each eoition at msmouuon points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. Friends in Unity Social Org., POB 8542, 74101 582-0438 *HIV ER Center, 4138 Chas. Page Blvd. 583-6611 *HIV Resource Consortium, 3507 E. Admiral 834-4194 *Holland Hall SchOol, 5666 E. 81st 481-1111 HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education 834-8378 HIV Testing, Mon/Thurs. 7-9pm, daytime by appt. only *House of the Holy Spirit Minstries, 3210e So. Norwood Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral Pi. 748-3111 NOW, Nat’l Org. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 365-5658 OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157 . *Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960 ¯ PFLAG, POB 52800, 74152 749-4901 . *Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674 *The Pride Center, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor, 74105. 743-4297 " prime-Timers, P.O. 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School Ave. 501-442-2845 ¯ JOPLIN, MISSOURI : *Spirit of Christ MCC, 2639 E. 32, Ste. U134 417-623-4696 * is where you can findTFN¯ NotallareGaY"ownedbutallareGay"friendly" Coors Donation Condemned Imagine a Lesbian or Gay activist who left the country a few years ago and just recently returned back to our community. Talk about culture shock! She or he would witness a brave new’queer world, one in which GLAAD has accepted $110,000 from Coors, theHumanRights Campaign (a Lesbian and Gay PAC) has endorsed D’Amato for Senator in New York, and a young Gay man was tortured and murdered in Wyoming. Importantly for us, these three things are not unrdated - appeasement comes at a price - and that price is not acceptable to us. Weare writing (respectively) as aformer taffer and former board member of GLAAD/SFBA. Therefore we will focus rathe GLAAD-Coors connection. GLAAD (the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation) has accepted $110,000 from the Coors Brewing company to support its new "sexual orientation in the workplace" training effort. GLAAD was founded by activists such as Vito Russo (author of The Celluloid Closet) with a single, very spedfic rmssion: to watchdog and critique the media’ s coverage of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgendered issues. It has strayed from that mission often to deal with the substance of issues rather than how they are covered. We believe that conducting sexual orientation in the workplace trainings is outside GLAAD’ s niche. No other organization in our community focuses on anti-defamation. There is plenty of defamation (some have lately taken to calling it hate speech) runmng around loose these days. GLAAD has plenty enoughmediaanalysis andresponse to do and litde enough money to do th.at vital work, without implementing a new : project with dirty money. Much has already been said about the politics of Coors and the politics of accepting money from Coors. We would like to emphasize our dismay thatGLAAD would accept money from such a source. When we were with GLAAD, RJR Reynolds (Big Tobacco, a key backer of powerful, homophobic North Carolina Senator Jesse Helms) was also offering the community money and some were considering taking it! So, we in GLAAD/SFBA back then "did the math" and realized that taking money from people trying to kill youjust doesn’t add up to anything that makes sense. Same for Coors once removed - that is the Coors Foundations. - Tom di Maria, Exec. Director, 1993-95 - Jessea Greenman, Co-Chair, 1990-94 GLAAD/San Francisco Bay Area [Editor’s note: the Coors family wealth has been closely associated with a number of the most ultra rtght wing and anti- Gaypolitical causes. Coors Brewing Company was once the target ofa boycott due to anti-Gay company policies. Coors Brewing now boasts a non-discrimination policy that includes sexual orientation and. supports Gay organizations. Coors Brewing has supported the Tulsa Pride Picnic for a number ofyears.] Letters Policy Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on issues which we’ ve covered or on issues you think need to be considered. Youmay request that your name be withheld but letters mustbe signed &have phonenumbers, or be hand delivered. 200 word letters are preferred. Letters to other publi- -- cations will be printed as is appropriate. At the present time. there are only 25 states that have laws against homoffexuals, most nbted are; Alabama 20 years, Georgia 20 years, l~hode Is and ant ess than 7 years nor more than 20 years, Oklahoma 10 years. The homosexuals are working hard to get these laws changed to permit their perversion ofour country, and it appears they are successfuq at it. " A great many laws have been changed. Until 1990 our country. In 1986the U.S. SupremeCourtuph, (in a 5 to 4 vote), noting that "prohibitions again jurisprudence since the colonization of the countr the laws of’he original thirteen states when they r~ outlawed sodomy. Noah Carolina’s original sodl the abonimable and detestable crime against natur adjudged guilty of a felony and SHALL SOl: CLERGY". the U.S. barred admission ofsexual deviants into d the constitutionality of Georgia’s sodomy law homosexuality have been a part of Ainerlcan " Sodomy was a criminal offense forbidden by fiodtheBillofRights. Until 1961, allb0states ay statute nut: "Any person who shall commit not fit tb be named among Christians... Shall be ER DEATH WITHOUT THE BENEFIT OF Without proper punishment of these, perveRs, u( great comitxy has become like Sodom & Gomorrah. It’s gotten pretty sad when we allo’~ mmosexuals to teach our children that there is nothing wrong with being *gay".- ttawthome I ementary public school, Madison, Wisconsin, where lesbian TummY" Boldwln is Distriet Cotmty ~upcwisor, bes just one ofmany pilot programs to teach against homophobia, At the direction of~[hoir teachers, Ist and 2nd graders made a book titled "Everybody is Equal, A Book About Gay &. Lesbian." The book teaches our very young chiltlrcn respect for homos, a.s well as the Ga~ Pride chant’Hay-Hay-Ho-Ho-Homophobia’s got to go’and"Wewant rigbl,~tao*: 1ST&2..NDGRADERS!!! OneolderstudenL whenaskedwhatshe had learned, statedshe’loaksatitlnadifferentlight. Toknowwhatbeinggay isallabout, it’snot actually diffcrent from anybody else". Cambridge Mass. schools hold functions like a Gay Family Photo Exhibit on school grounds, and another celebrates Gay Pride Day as a holiday. Third graders n New York earn tolerance for borons, tlomosexuals argue that wbat consenting adults do in the privacy oftbeir home is protectod under lhe tight to privacy. Vsctlmless crimes, sucKas the possession and distribution ofillegal drugs do not escape the law where they are committed at home; right to privacy in no way allows one to break the law. Not State law and not God’s !aw...sodomy is a crime and must be prosecuted. By dolng nothing and allowing sodomites to run amuck, just look around and see where our morals are today. Prison terms for sodomy are designed to punish persons who undertake by unatural and indecent methods to gratify a perverted and depraved sexual appetite which is an offence against public dccancy and morality. To i mprison a conlinnod homosexual is like throwing Brer Rabbit i nto the briar patch To ~ve our nation we need the DEATII PENALTY to put an end to the sodomites ~erverslon ofour country. Can honmsexuals repent and be saved I I Corinthians 6:1 I)? A few are, but this still does not mean society eannol INSTITUTETHE DEATI I PENALTY for this crime, just as it has for the crime of murder. No one says a murderer cannot repent and come to Christ, nor does society allow such a conv~’sion to stop the death penalty from being carried out. Lev. 20:13: "Ira man lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman both of .them have committed an abominatiott. They shall surely be put to death". Asa did that which was right in the eyes ofthe I.ord, and hc tookaway the sodimites out of the hind (IKings 15:12). ]-lad Asa execu~.d these sexual deviants, Jehnsaphat wouldn’t have had to remove the remaining sodomites out ofthe land (I Kings22: 46). The Death Penalty is our only answer to ensure these pe~’erts are out ofour contr~’ and stay out for good. ] But God is love, oh yes, God is love ~nd if you love God, you will keep his commandment {Matt 22:37 and Jol~ 14:15). So for our people to keep the commandment of l.ev. 20:13 is tO love Grd. Romans 1:2~-32: :,re have changed.the . troth ofGod into a lie. worshippingand se~ing the creature more than the Creatbr. God has given us up to qle afflictions, even our woman go against nature, ~nd likewise also the men burned in their lust one toward another, They \vhich commit such things arc worthyofdeath, SodomandGomorrahwcredestro.vedforsuchthings. Ourendcould be #n uch worse ifwe don’t follow God’s law’.and uphold the Death Panahy forsodom): Pastor Pete Peters points out in his book,"Death Panalty for Homosexuals" that the top 6 leading scrialki||ers in the U.S- are: Donald | larvt:y - 37 killed. John \Vay’ne Gaq." - 23 killed. Patrick Keamev - 32 killed, Bruce Davis - 28 killed. Core Henley Brooks - 27 killed. Juan Corona -’25 killed, al! of which were homosexuals; add to that Jeffrey Dahalcr. In closing. I would like to poinrout that God has the answer to all our problems. God has Ills law and the law is good tfa man use it lawfully( I Timothy 1 :g-I 0). Help spread ti~is message, support the ministr) of Reverend Jon’ny Lee Clear,.. To reorder copies scud a $12.50 donation fi~r 100 copies to P.O. BOX 702631; Tulsa, OK 74170. T s tact sponsored by the American Patriot !lotline {918) 494-0004. Call for a free recorded message. by Tom Neal, publisher & editor "To save our nation, we need the DEATH PENALTY t~ put an end to the sodomites perversion of our country." No doubt, your reaction is much like mine was - this is ludicrous, almostlaughable! Andthatreactionis increasedwhen we note the source: the extremely disreputable, publicityhungry ex-Klansman, the "Reverend" Jonny Lee.Cleary. But just as the extremist rhetoric of anti-abortiomsts has created a climate in which extremists murder in order to "save lives," this adds to a climate in which Lesbian and Gay lives .(and those of our non-Gay friends who shand by us) are already devalued and at risk. Though ultra conservative political groups, like the Family Research Council, Focus on the Family and the Republican Party now distance themsdves from recent violence against Lesbians and Gay men, their systematic attacks onus and their exploitation of anti-Gay fear for political gain also have helped create a climate ripe for violence. Murdered University of Wyoming student Matthew Shepard’ s death was horrible but it was not the only one of its type, nationally or even locally. According to Kelly Kirby, 1ongtimeTulsacivilrights activist, therewas one Gay man murdered each .year from 1991 to 1996. And yet when Tulsans held a public vigil for Shepard, not one elected official came or sent a representative. Mayor Savage was out of town but surely some one member of her staff could have shown up? What about the district attorney? Only former DA Bill LaFortune came and that reflects not only on his decency and compassion see Penalty, p.14 Ray of Light Campaign Invites Gay People To Tellof Experiences With Ex-Gay Ministries by Wayne Besen . Of course, you would never see a cover story about a HRC Associate Director of Communications ". It is morning once again, and as you rub your tired eyes and peer into the unforgiving bathroom mirror, the " shiny reflection of your head is a painful reminder that you look just as much like Kojac as the day before. Although your friends say you should learn to accept your baldness, you desperately want to change and have spent years pursu- : ing the latest hair growth remedies to no : avail. But today is your lucky day. While : sipping the morning coffee, you pick-up a ¯¯ copy of a respected news magazine and a bold, splashy headline proclaims: BALD : FOR LIFE? Underneath the headline, two ¯ smiling, bushy haired people, who look en- ~ thralledby their new hair-dos, claim to have : been "cured" by a miracle hair tome, corn- : blued with bible study. Ecstatic, you excitedly turn the pages un- : til youf’md the story about this new "miracle ." cure." But as you read on, your enthusiasm ¯ quickly begins to diminish. First, you find that the smiling mop-tops on the cover-page : are full-time, paid employees for acompany : marketing this product. Next, even the most : fervent supporters claim that the success ¯ rate of this so-called panacea is a paltry : Currently, ~alse notions about Gay Amerleans are beln~ perpetuated hy a media whleh erroneously believes it is honorable journalism to simply regurgitate sound bltes rom both sides in the name of bahnee. 30%. What about the other70%? According to the company, the hair tonic is not working for these folks because they are "not praying hard enough." As you skim down the page, you perkup because you read there is still hope! A competing company claims that their hair tonic has a miraculous success rate of 71.6%. But when asked by the magazine reporter for hard data to corroborate the claim, the company spokes- person gli"bly repli¯es,. "I don’t have time to conduct follow-up studies." How then, you wonder, does the ¯ company come up with a specific number like 71.6% without ~’011ow-ti~ studies to document whether or not : the patients sprouted hair? ~ The article then points out that the two scientists who ¯ founded the hair tonic formula have feverishly traveled " to science conventions around the world to declare that ~ their invention.does not work as they once said it did. ~ They say that many people would he harmed psycho- . logically if they pinned all ,of,their ho.p~,s a~,d dream~,on~ what they now Call a"fraud. The article atso states mat "- all respected medical and mental health organizations agreed with the inventors that the hair tonic was no more i likely to help one grow hair than dipping ones head in ~ a vat of Ben and Jerry’ s ice cream. ¯ If that isn’ tbad enough, the companies promoting the ¯ hair tonic have taken out full page ads in major newspa- : pers which have distorted a baldness study by one of the ¯ premier hair loss specialists in the nation. The ac- "_ claimed expert retorted acrimoniously to the lies by ¯ saying, "It was a complete misrepresentation of what ~ the research actually said. It was taken completely out ~ of context. I am horrified and angry and they are ¯ spreading an awful and destructive message." ¯ Your dreams of looking like Fabio are dashed for ¯ good when you read that of the people lumped in the ¯ 30% success rate category, the majority believed that if ~ thehairtonicdidnot work, biologicalbaldness couidbe ¯ overcome bywearing atoupee. The article ends with the ¯ testimony of angry ex-ex bald people who claim that ] they were misled and cheated by the hair tonic compa- ¯ rues. One company’s spokesperson dismisses the in- ] convenient complaints of the ex-ex-bald people by ~ saying: "Some p~.ople fall of the wagon." ~ You now sit m your living room, enraged by the ¯ misleading story, wondering how a respected news ~ outlet would g~ve this "snake oil" that has been so ~ thoroughly discredited, the slightest bit of legitimacy, ~ no less a cover story. Shouldn’t the ex-ex-bald people ~ have been on the cover, or at least been the focus of the ¯ story instead because their experiences are a more ~ representative of the vast majority who took the tomc? ~ Dojournalistic ethics and standards exist anymore, you ¯ wonder? Whoops, you almost forgot, it is 1998, ’‘The : Year of the Journalist." discredited, unsubstantiated, cure for baldness, or anything rise for that matter.., except homosexuality. When it comes to a so-called cure for Gay people, (as if one were wanted or needed) veracity does not seem to be of much importance to the media. In the following passa~, all of the shenanigans attributed to the ex-bald movement actually occurred in the so-called ex-Gay ministries, from the bogus statistics to the distortion of scientific research, to the founders of the ex-Gay ministries marrying each other and repudiating these "cures." Yet, despite these gross irregularities, the media still unwittingly legitimizes "ex-Gay" ministries by not holding them to the same standard of scientific proof that they would demand from any other group. Advocates for Gay equality believe these ministries should have an opportunity to voice their opinions. However, the media has a duty to research the accuracy of statements made or statistics reported. Currently, false notions about Gay Americans are being perpetuated by a media which erroneously believes it is honorable journalism to simply regurgitate sound bites from both sides in the name of balance. While balance is important, it is not an excuse to eschew accuracy and tough, fact checking. All statements are not equally valid and it is the media’ s responsibility, to distinguish factfrom fiction. Inmost of the news stones about the "ex-Gay" mimstries or the Right wing ad campaign in which these mimstries are highlighted, fiction has been the norm and the truth has been a For example, ex-Gay leader Anthony Falzarano recently said dn television that nearly 80% of Gay people were:molested as children. This is factually incorrec~by any objective standards, withGaypeoplenomorelikely to be molested as children than heterosexuals. Unfortunately; because he is talking about Gay people, the lethargicmediafelt there was noneed to hold Falzarano ¯ iecountableforhis lie. IfFalzaranowouldhave mad.e .a9 outrageous claim about any other minority group, ~t ~s guaranteed the media would have followed-up and excoriated him for his hysterical statement. At the Human rights Campaign, our biggest challengeis not countering political religious activist ~oups whoexistmdeny us equal rights. The toughest battle we face is getting the media to accurately follow-up on outrageous statements made by these groups. As it stands, our opponents can say anything they want about Gay people, no matter how despicable, and they never . havemanswer for it~Through lazy reporting, the media has becomean accomphcemthe Right s discnnnnalao campaign against Gay Americans by giving bald faced lies equal stature to documentedfacts. It is our hope that as the news media begins to evaluate some of their glaring ethical lapses in 1998, they will consider stopping the harmful practice of printing false information about Gay people perpetuated by the Right without first verifying the outrageous claims. This perpetuation of myths by the media has forced the Human Rights Campaign to start the Ray Of Light (ROL) project. TheROLseeks to shine the spotlight on these ministries so people can see beyond the rhetoric andhearfromthe vast majority ofpeoplewhohave been through these ministries and now call their techniques psychological terrorism. This project will invite former ¯ ex-Gays from around the nation to share their stories ¯ with the Human Rights Campaign and lift the veil of ¯ secrecy surrounding these mimstries. The Ray of Light ¯ will: ¯ *Seek and chronicle the stories of former ex-Gays; ¯ *Share these smiles with the public and the media; ¯ *Compile information by leading mental health and ¯ medical experts on the most recent studies; and ¯ *Examine the literature of the ex-Gay ministries to ¯ look for flagrant abuses and fraudulent claims. If you have been through these ministries, please ¯ submit your story so we can share it and help others. ~ Stories can be submitted, to: www.hrc.org/ncop/rol Churches Create Hate MINNEAPOLIS (AP) - Mainstream Christian denominations are to blame for a climate of hate and bigotry that fostered the fatal beating of a Gay University of Wyoming student, a United Methodist Church pastor says. "It’s not just the fight-wing conservatives" who are teaching that homosexuality is a sin and that Christian churches should shun Gays and Lesbians, the Rev. Jimmy Creech said while in Minneapolis recently. "I hold the church accountable for helping to create a culture that allows violence against Gays and Lesbians," he said. "Churches don’ t intend for the violence to happen, but they lay the groundwork for it." Creech gained national notoriety" for officiating at a same-sex covenant ceremony in his Omaha, Neb., congregation. In August, he was narrowly acquitted of violating church law. He subsequently resigned from his Nebraska congregation. Creech argues that when the church denies clergy members the right to perform same-sex ceremonies, it is preventing them from "being a pastor to all members of the congregation.r’ For him, "’This is the denial ofmy freedom to be a pastor to everyone, and that’s very offensive." Crecch was in Minneapolis to preach at two services at All God’s Children Metropolitan Church. Theday before, hemetwith several Minnesota United Methodistclergy andlaity. Recently,22United Methodist members from Minnesota joined 344 other Methodists around the country in asking the national bishops to address the issues of treatment ofGays and Lesbians in the church. Non-Biological L sbian Mom Shares Custody NEWARK, N.J. (AP) - A woman who stayed home [o raise a 2-year-old boy while her Lesbian partner earned a living can share custody of the child, even though she isn’ t the biological mother, a judge has ruled. The partner, identified only as R.E.M., stayed home to take care of the boy while herpartngr, S.L..y., worked at a hospital. The Lakewood couple decided . to have the child together, chose a sperm donor to inseminate S.L.V. and sent out birth announcements " with both women’ s fingerprints on them. Experts who follow Lesbian custody battles say the ¯ decision goes further than any other in granting bro,a,d ," custodial rights to a woman who is not the child s birth mother. "- "The court is satisfied that R.E.M. has been able to ¯ show that she stands in the shoes of a parent to the child and should be accorded the status of parent in " parity with S.L.V.,’7 Superior Court Judge Vincent ¯ Grasso wrote inhis decision issued Monday in Ocean County. Kate Kendell, who heads the National Center for Gay and Lesbian Rights in San Francisco, called the decision "an enormous victory ." "Our children have as much right to a continuing relationship with both parents as any other child of two parents," she said Tuesday, Thejudge’ s declsxon, however, lsn t binding stat - wide and is inconsistent with an opinion issued in Essex County in September. Two other similar cases have yet to be decided in Mercer and Union counties. "Right now, you have a situation that really cries out for an appeal," said Paul Urbania, S:L.V:’s attorney. ’q’he law in New Jersey shouldn’t depend on where geographically you’ re located." One woman in Essex County, who said she helped raise 4-year-old twins with her ex-partner, lost custody of the children and vowed to appeal. Attorney Robin Wernik said the woman will use the Ocean County opinion to bolster her case. Lawyers are stillformalizing thedetails, butR.E.M. will likely be able to care for the boy for three or four 12-hour days each week while S.L.V. isat work, as well as on alternate weekends, said her attorney, Bettina Munson. R.E.M., a former bartender, does notworkbecause ofapermanentdisability toher arm. Both women must share the cost of supporting the boy, identified only as A.J.M.V., thejudge said. The boy, who was born on March 2, 1996, goes by the surname of both women. The couple, who met in 1989 and moved in to- ¯ gether in 1991, chose a sperm donor together with a ¯ geneticprofilethatwas compatible to theirs once they decided to have a child. S.L.V. was inseminated ¯ because R.E.M. had had a hysterectomy, the opinion ¯ satd. The women went by mommy and mamere, ¯¯ and drew up respective, detailed family trees for the baby. The relationship ended in November 1996, ¯ although S.LV. remained in the home until Septem- ¯ ber 1997, the opinion said. R.E.M. sued for castody a ¯ month later. "BBC Apologizes For ¯ Calling Politician Gay LONDON (AP)-TheBritish Broadcasting Corp. has apologized to a Cabinet minister who was described as Gay during a news program. Aides to Trade Secretary Peter Mandelson said Monday he had received ~ a letter of apology from BBC chairman Sir Christo- ¯ pher Bland. Mandelson, who prefers not to make an ¯ issue of his sexual orientation, planned no comment : on the letter, the aides said. The controversy beganwhen newspaper columnist Matthew Pards saidonalate-nightBBCprogram that ¯ Mandelson was "certainly, Gay. The remark came ¯ during speculation about the sexuality of another ¯ Cabinetminister, RonDavies, whoresigned as Welsh ¯ Secretary last weekbecause ofwhathe called a"lapse ¯ of judgment" with a stranger who robbed him after the two met at London’ s Clapham Common, a popu- : lar Gay hangout, and left together. Davies has given : no clear explanation of what happened. But he has ¯ denied he was seeking Gay sex or drugs, even after days of banner headlines and tabloid stories. : Meanwhile, the BBC added to the controversy by ¯ ordering staffmembers never to repeat the remark by ¯ Parris, who is openly Gay, on any of its programs. ¯ That move provoked charges of clumsy censorship ¯ and of giving special treatment to Mandelson, a close ¯ adviser to Prime Minister Tony Blair and among the ¯" country’ s most influential politicians. ¯ Protesters included the opposition Conservative ~arty., severa! 9f whose.politicians were pursu.,e,d.by the media over extramarital affairs when the party was ~n power. Also opposed to the BBCrs move was Northern Ireland Secretary Mo Mowlam, also a leading member of the Blair Cabinet. Ms. Mowlam said she and other panelists on a Friday nightBBCradio talk show were told not to mention Mandelson and the Gay remark. "I’m not about to be unfair or unjust to colleagues, but we’ve all state~,,very clearly that to be given guidelines is insulfing~ she said during the show. The BBC altered.anews quiz program last week to remove a running joke about Mandelson, but the TV ¯ satare program .Ha. e I Got Ne~ws For You.’?" was ¯ allowed to broadcast a Clip of the Parris comment. i Schools LawSuits Help "Prevent Gay-Bashings ¯ OAKLAND, Calif. (AP) - In the wake of the recent ~ death ofaGay collegestudeut, administrators, teach- ¯ ers and students methere this weekend to diSCUSS Gay ~ bashingin schools. They say lawsuits are a powerful ¯ weapon in the ending name:calling, harassment and : violence agMnst young Gay people. S.chool districts ¯ that have ignored the problem are being held liable. ¯ No federal anti-discrimination laws cover sexual : orientation, and Massachusetts is the only state to ¯ mandate such protection. 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Learning how to better run her own such group ¯ brought Veronica Lopez, 22, from Stockton to the ¯ conference. Lopez, a college student who works full time in a day care center, said homophobia starts early. She said a 4-year-old boy recently came to her in tears . because a 5-year-old had just called him an anti-Gay " epithet. "It shows the parents are talking about it, ." because kids don’t even know what (Gay) is," Lopez ¯ said. "I thinkit’ s important that people realize we’re not " sick people... I consider myself pretty normal." Gay Man in NY SenateI ALBANY, N.Y. (AP) - Thomas Duane, openly Gay ¯ and HIV-positive, describes himself as "distinctly " progressive." TheDemocraticNew YorkCity Council- " man is running for a seat m the state Senate that has ¯ rarely, if ever, been described in those terms. If Duane ¯ is elected - and the heavy Democratic makeup of his " Manhattan district makes that very likely - he will ¯ become the state Senate’s first openly Gay member and only the second openly Gay member of the state Legis- ¯ lature.-"I’m hoping to add something that has been " missing from the debate in Albany," Duane said. He runs as the recent beating death of Gay University ¯ of Wyoming student Matthew Shepherd focuses national attentiononhatecrimes legislation, one of Duane’ s " key issugs. Known for his outspoken support of issues ¯ relating to Gays, women and the disabled in.the rough ¯ and tumble city council, Duanehas said that the absence ¯ of hate crime statutes permits and, ina sense, encour- " ages violence against homosexuals. This-year, he called for can-cellation-of the annual GreenwiEii Village Halloween Parade, clting rising anti-Gay violence in the " traditionally tolerant New York City enclave. " Such abate crimes law has been blockedinNew York ¯ by the very Republican-controlled state Senate Duane ¯ hopes to take a seat in. Senate Majority Leader Joseph ¯ Bruno opposes the law, saying it creates a special class " of victim. " ’‘The state Senate has been absolutely backward," Matt Foreman, executive director ofEmpire State Pride ¯ Agenda, New York’s largest Gay advocacy group. ¯ "Someone like Tom is desperately needed there." It is highly unlikely that Duane he will have any luck " pushing legislation through the highly-regimented Senate from the Democratic side of the aisle. Still, support- ¯ ers say his status is likely to hold sway in debates. "To ¯ have someone who lives with HIV talking about HIV- : related bills will be quite powerful and I think his " opinion willcarry real weight," said state Sen. Catherine ¯ Abate. Duane is running for Abate’ s seat after she vacated it " to nm unsuccessfully for the Democratic nomination ¯ for state attorney general. The district winds from the ¯ Upper West Side through Times Square downtown to Greenwich Village and the Financial District. Voter registration is 67 percent Democrat and only about 11 " percent GOP. His opponent, Republican Karol Murov, ¯ has failed to mount mu’ch of a challenge, observers said. Bruno spokesman John McArdle refused to discuss Duane’ s candidacy. But in response.to criticisms about " the chamber’s attention to Gay issues he said "the .. Senate has responded to concerns of New Yorkers as a whole." ." Duane’s election would bring New York even with ¯ Arizona and California, which both have two Gay ¯ members in their state Legislature. Only Oregon and " Maine have more. ." AssemblywomanDe_borah Glick, the-New York’s first openly Gay legislator, points to legislation r~quiring AIDs testing for newborns and this year’ s mandate : that people who test positive for HIV notify their " : partners as si.gns that New York’ s Legislature is ill- " informed on issues important to Gay groups. Yet she sounds a cautionary note for Duane, saying to expect at least some hostility. "I’m sure he will encounter homophobia. I did and still do," Glick said. Gay MayorforWinnipeg WINNIPEG, Manitoba (AP) - A city councilman once featured in a documentary about Gay foster fathers has won the mayoral race in Winnipeg, becoming the first openly Gay mayor of a major Canadian city. "It was a history-making night," said Glen Murray after returns showed him winning easily over six other candidates. Winnipeg is Manitoba’s capital and, with 667,000 residents, is the largest Canadian city between Toronto and Calgary, Alberta. Murray, 41, became one of Canada’s betterknown Gay politicians six years ago when, with his troubled foster son Michael Curtis, he was featured in a film documentary called "A Kind of Family." Murray did not make his sexual orientation a focus of the campaign, concentrating instead on economic issues and moderating some of the left-ofcenter positions he espoused during three terms on the city council. His main opponent, grocery-store executive Philip Kaufman, did not raise the homosexuality issue explicidy, thoughhe made references early in the campaign to family values. Late in the campaign, a local minister organized a prayer vigil and urged voters to oppose Murray. "This is not a matter ofhating anyone," said Bruce Martin, pastor of Calvary Temple Pentecostal Church. "It’s a matter of biblical interpretation." Murray’s victory was celebrated by Gays in Winnipeg. "It’ s apotent symbol that an openly Gay person should be elected to a high post like this," said Chris Vogel, a Gay rights activist. "It contributes to the growing sense that there’s nothing wrong with being homosexual." Murray, seeking to portray himself as mainstream, said he would follow the practice of previous Winnipeg mayors and refuse .to officially proclaim a Gay Pride week in the city. In fact, he said he _will try to avoid issuing such proclamations on behalf of any group or cause. "We’re a city of such diversity, of so many cultures," he said. "We’re a city of great tolerance, ofhope and Ijust think all of those values were reaffirmed tonight." There are only a couple of dozen openly Gay politicians in Canada, including two members of the federal Parliament. Bishop in Bind COLUMBUS, Ohio (AP) - A bishop who performed two same-sex ceremonies when he was a Columbus pastor said it was an agonizing decision for him to file a complaint against a minister for performing a Gay ceremony. Bishop Joseph Sprague, head of the Chicago United Methodist Church, said he performed services for two men and two women. Sprague charged Rev. Gregory Dell, pastor of Broadway United Methodist Church in Chicago, with "failure to uphold the order and discipline of the United Methodist Church." Sprague said he :’ chose to write the complaint to avoid inflammatory language he expected others might use. Dell will be tried before a 13-person jury of his peers. Dell said he didn’ t talk with Sprague before conducting the recent service, but knew the bishop would be required to file charges. Sprague said before he performed the Gay ceremonies he first discussed it with Bishop Judith Craig of the West Ohio Conference, which has jurisdiction over Columbus. "I told him he could not use the marriage ceremony in that setting... I toldhim that in terms of any ceremony he designed, I wouldleave it to his pastoral discretion to do what was necessary to providepastoral care," Craig said. Sprague has refused to remove Dell from his duties pending the trial, and said he isn’ t sure what he will do if the jury votes to oust Dell. Jocelyn Elders: No Regrets COLUMBIA, S.C. (AP) - Jocelyn Elders, who lost her job as U.S. surgeon general four years ago, says she does not regret taking such controversial stands as advocating se~x education for kindergartners and conitoms in teen-agers’ pockets. "You look back on things like that more than once, and I have tried to think how I would have said things differently or should I have said those things, and I have to say I have no regrets," she said at an annual state conference on sexually transfnitted diseases and HIV, the AIDS virus. Even the invitation for her to speak stirred controversy. The state Department of Health and Environmental Control last month withdrew its sponsorship and $40,000 in funding, saying Elders’ presence would distract from the issues. That left AIDS service organizations as the primary sponsors, with funding frompharmaceutical companies. Eiders, who drew bursts of applause and cheers from the audience of nearly 650, said she advocates explaining sex to youngsters so they can protect themselves from abuse. "We want tO teach our children early that there are places that people should not touch," she said in an interview. What about leaving sex education to parents? "We don’t let the parents teach physics," Eiders said. "Your health is far more important than physics." And if site had a teen-age daughter? "I would never want my teen-ager to go out on a date without a condom in her purse," Elders said, saying vows ofabstinence"are easier to break than a latex condom.’" Elders, the first black woman to be surgeon general, held the job 15 months until she was forced to resign in December ;t-994: ~Her downfall came. when she said Gays and Lesbians must help save children from the un-Christian religious right. Needle Exchange Program Prevails WASHINGTON (AP) -Even before a congressonal bahon funds for needleexchange programs became law, anAIDS clinic in the nation’ s capital had set up a private group to supply drug addicts with clean needles. "This law is intrusive," said Jim Graham, executive director of the Whitman-Walker Clinic. "It not only tells D.C. how we can spend ourownlocal tax dollars, but it tells charities like Whitman-Walker how we can spend pri: rate funds." Congress, as part of the $520 billion spendingpackage signedintolaw Wednesday, banned use of local and federal funding for any needle-exchange program in the District of Columbia. That was on top of a permanent ban on federal funding of needle exchanges anywhere in the country. The Whitman-Walker Clinic, one of the nation’ s largest, has created a private, nonprofit group to run theprogram, transferring equipment, supplies and $50,000 in private funds to the new operation. The Washington-based Drug Policy Fotmdation gave the new group, Prevention Works, an additional $25,000. "Sounds like they’ ve. got some pretty sharp lawyers," said Rep. Todd Tiahrt, R-Kan., who sponsored the ban. The clinic gets $7 million a year in federal and local government dollars and has operated a clean-needle exchange for three years. It got $210,000 from the dis- - trict last year for the effort and raised $50,000 from private donors. Last month, its van disU-ibuted 17,000 needles. Prevention Works should have. enough resources to keep the needle-exchange van rnnning for four or fivemoremonths, said Graham, who is running for City Council. Needle exchanges are operatingin about 100 U.S. cities. Supporters say such programs help prevent the spread ofAIDS by allowing addicts to exchange contamimated needles for dean ones. Opponents contend the programs encourage drug abuse. Eleanor Holmes Norton, the distriCt’ s delegate to Congress, called the provision "callous... (and) ignorant, because the entire scientific establishmenthas reached the same conclusion: Needle exchange markedly reduces AIDS infection and deaths without spreading drug abuse." Its racial implications are inescapable, she said, because AIDS is hitting black and Hispanic populations the hardest. Last year, she said, the District’s AIDS rate was nine times the national average. Tiahrt and Sen. Jolm Ashcroft, R-Mo., the Senate sponsor of the ban, cite Canadian studies they say demonstrate that . clean needle programs have failed to reduce the spread of HIV. "’Wherever the needle exchange programs took place, theybecame hubs for drug activity," Tiahrt said. Addicts~ need "help ~o get off drugs, not help to get new needles." A possible White House contender, Ashcrofl likens needle exchange programs to the idea "that providing bulletproof vests to bark robbers would make it safer for them to rob banks." The authors of the Canadian studies have said congressional leaders misinterpreted their report. Because the programs served inner-tory neighborhoods, they served users.already at the.greatest risk of infection, they said, and the programs did not provide enough syringes to be effecfive. Investors Suing ¯ PLWA’s Not Dying : wEsT PALM BEACH, Fla. 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The deals now amount to deception on the ,part of the two companies in the lawsuits, he said P6rlstein said there’ s no longer areasonable certainty as to the projeqti~n Of life expectancy. The lawsuits seek a~jury trial and unspecified damages. A Judge must certify them if they are to become class actaon. Officials at Accelerated Benefits in Orlando and Dedicated Resources Inc. of Delray Beach said they had not seen the lawsuits and could not comment on the Specific charges. "It’ll be interesting to see what they have to say," said Michael Zadoff, presidentofDedicated Resources. HIV & Elder, Sex TAMPA, Fla. (AP) - Sue Saunders is 65 and has AIDS. As far as she’ s concerned, the more people who know it the better. Saunders pioneered aproject in herhometown of Fort Lauderdale to educate Flori~ ans over age 50 about therisk ofde¯eloplng acquired immune deficiency syndrome. Her first challenge was getting the attention of an age group largely ignored when it comes to AIDS education. "Yes, there is sex after 50. After 60. After 70. People think after 50 we die from the neck down," Ms. Saunders said. "People look at you like you’re crazy. What?You mean, Grandma and Grandpa are still having sex?" Ten% of all AIDS cases in the country are people over age 50, according to the Florida Department of Elder Affairs. In Florida, the figure is higher - ranging between 12% and 14%. One in eight Floridians living with AIDS is 50 or older, state health officials said. Yetwhengroups are addressed that are considered.at risk of contracting the virus that causes AIDs, older Americans are often left out. Eighteen months ago, Ms. Saunders began inviting herself to small South Florida groups to discuss prevention, promote education and warn seniors to abstain from sex or use condoms. "You’ re telling people 50 to 90 years old: ’You are at risk for a fatal disease. Youjust went to bed with aguy and y,oudon’ tknow where’ s he’ s been.’" Ms. Saunders was healthy and active. She was divorced, in love and in a longlime relationship. HerBahamianboyfriend was the spark of her life. They spent lazy days on the water, fishing. Life was good. That was in 1990: Suddenly, her boyfriend was diagnosed HIV positive. Nine months later, he was dead. She feared the same thing would happen to her and began saying goodbye to her four grown children. A son took herto an HIV-infected doctor in Laguna Beach, Calif. That visit helped change her life. She dropped the self-pity and went to the Broward County Health Department but found little informarion. After six months doing research, she went to Bentley Lipscomb, elder affairs secretary, who found $170,000 to fund SHIP, the Senior. HIV Intervention Project. Ms. Saunders worked long and hard getting into the crowded retirement condominiums along Florida’ s Gold Coast to give her message. In these building complexes, women outnumber men seven-toone, she said. "The women are starved for affection. The men are having a ball. They" can have all the women they want. "Ev~ erybody says ’it can’t happen to me. I’m uot aprostitute. I don’ t fool around,’" she said. "You’ie never too old. And all it takes xs one partner - if he or she is infected.’" Older people are rarely targeted for prevention. The health care system, including doctors, often is reluctant or uneasy about discussing AIDS and sex with them, said Dave Bruns, elder affairs spokesman. "Not only is it an insult, it’ s rampant ageism," Bruns said. "Just who do they think is buying all this Viagra?" There are 67,282 cases of AIDS cases statewide and 8,400 of those infected are age 50 or older, according to the Florida Department of Health. When Ms. Saunders left the SHIP program recently, the demand for lectures was enormous. "Everybody wanted us to come talk to them," she said. They were scheduling 20to30 presentations amonth. The project was so successful, a second program was launched in the Tampa Bay area under Edith Ellerson in June. She encountered similar apprehension as she started talking at senior centers, assistedliving residences, senior nutritional programs. Gradually, the audiences became more receptive and willing to listen. She brings condoms, urges listeners to be tested and find out firstabout themselves, then question their partners. "You’ re not only sleeping with your partner, but with whomever your partner slept with for the past five years, and whoever they slept with - like a pyramid or domino effect," she said. Hemophiliacs to Get Compensation WASHINGTON (AP) - Last-minute lobbying led to deceptively easy approval of a plan to allow the government to compensate hemophiliacs infected with HIV during the early days of the AIDS epidemic. The bill, passed by the Senate on a voice vote, authorizes payments of $100,000 apiece to compensate hemophiliacs or their survivors for the government’s failure to aggressively screen tainted blood products. The measure, which President Clinton is expected to sign, does not put the checks in the mail, though, because it does not allocate any money. However, with the authorization in hand, the bill’s backers can lobby Congress to appropriate the estimated $750 million it would cost. The bill, named after Ricky Ray, a 15- year-old hemophiliac from Florida who died from AIDS in 1992, became controversial late in the legislativeprocess, when others who contracted the .disease from tainted bloodtransfusions argued thatthey deserved to be included. Sen. James Jeffords, R-Vt., took up the cause of the transfusion victims, and at one point blocked consideration of the Ricky Ray bill in an effort to force action on a more encompassing authorization. Sen. Mike DeWine, R-Ohio, said he spent the weekend on the phone pressing Senate leaders to move the bill to the floor and dealing with the last-minute objections of other senators. Jeffords’ spokesmanJoe Karpinski said he never planned to hold up the legislation altogether, and dropped his objections to the House bill after it became clear thathe could not develop consensus to include the.transfusion victims, potentially dou- \ ¯ b.ling the cost. Hemophiliac,~ m~d tra:>/;usxon recipients were infected wifl~.~~,--,.,.,~.,..~. ¯ donated by people who carried th6 AIDS ¯ virus. The Institute of Medicine, a scientific ¯ organizationthatadvises the government, ¯ later concluded that government caution. ¯ fear of criticism and inadequate leadership delayed effective screening of donors and proper blood testing. ¯ Hemophiliacs already have won : $100,000 each from the blood industry ¯ through the settlement of a class action lawsuit. Transfusion court victories have ¯ been more sporadic. ¯ Karpinski said Jeffords will try again ¯ next year toinclude transfusion victims, a ¯ move DeWine backs. "We should work to ¯ see that justice is done for this group of ¯ victims as well," said DeWine. "Wemade ¯ the decision that it was better to deal with part of the problem than none of the prob- " lem." "I think the precedent of this bill ¯ willmakeit easier to address the concerns ¯ ofthosewhohaveAIDS because oftrans- ¯ fusions." School NamedAfter Boy with AIDS WESTMINSTER,Colo. (AP)-Ten years ¯¯ ago, a little boy from Broomfield began first grade while 30 children stayed home ¯ in protest. Threatening statements and ¯ letters from parents demanded a separate : bathroom and eating area for Ryan ¯ Sheridan, who was infected with HIV. He ¯ died ofcomplications fromAIDS in 1993. Public perception of the disease has ¯ changed since 1988, but misunderstand- , ings still exist. Reminding students, teach- ¯ - ers and admimstrators ol~the hard lessons ¯ learned about Ryan is a school named ¯ after him: Ryan Elementary School in ¯ Westminster. His picture, a plaque and a ¯ red ribbon hangin thelobby of the school. "It’s tough to remember. People were ¯ backed in a corner and forced to deal with ¯ something they didn’ t want to deal with," ¯ said Tim Sheridan, recalling the events ¯ leading up to his son’s first day in first ¯ grade. When the Shefidans, now divorced ¯ and bothlivingin ~Ihornton, told adminis- : trators Ryan was infected, the Jefferson ¯ County school boarddecided to inform all parents by letter that a student with HIV ¯ would attendJuchem Elementary School. ¯. Juchem closed in 1994 after being replaced by a new school named Ryan Elementary. ¯ The letter caused a firestorm of controversy that forced the school board to have ¯ a number of secret meetings with Ryan’ s ¯ teacher and publicmeetings to discuss the ¯ issue. Throughout, Ryanremained anony- ¯ mous to everyone but his teacher, the principal and the school board. ¯ Ryan contracted HIV when he was 2 ¯ years old from a blood transfusion during ¯ 9Pen-heart surgery. Teachers and admin- ¯ lstrators say Ryan taught everyone at the ¯ school difficult lessons about tolerance ; and courage, but AIDS educators say the public still has a long way to go in understanding the disease. "in my opinion, we ¯ haven’t gone all that far in 10 years. Our ¯ homophobia is what gets in the way of ¯ hearing about HIV," said Katy Fleming, education director at the Boulder County ; AIDS Project. "Studies have shown that ¯ manytimes peoples’ attitudes towardchildren (with AIDS) have been negative ¯ because of issues of sexual orientation " ¯ Although HIV and AIDS education is ¯ better today, moral issues still need to be ¯ separated from medical issues, Fleming ¯ said. by James Christjohn : they would get the in-jokes peppered ff there is a movie that I would heartily ¯ throughout the film. recommend to all folks this Halloween,,it ; And speaking of magic, The Divine is Practical Magic. It has something for ¯ Miss M’ s new release, "Bathhouse Betty" everyone: laughter, tears, sus- is a must-have for any gifting pense, horror, magic, and Stevie Nicks (betcha were wondering how I’d work her in, huh?). A comedy about a family of hereditary witches - that actually gets the gist of Wicca correct for a change, even if adding a few "eyes of newt and a liberal dose of frogs" - and romance, the favorite line will be the one where one of the townsfolk says of one of the witches "Goodnews - she’ s come out!" And, tomy delight, Stevie~ s reworked "Crystal" is a major theme in the film in the score as well as sung. The advice given in the film to those considering or afraid of relationships is well worth the price of admission. Stockard Channing and Diane Weist are absolute magic as the Annties who pass on the family traditions with liberal doses of love and laughter. One of the lovely things about the film is .that it deals with being perceived as different, inhuman, "other" in the ’~mainstream" world, and being a magical film, how the wOmen of this family transcend that difficulty. It very much has a Gay sensibility to it and thus would be enjoyed by those in our community especially, for "I’m Beautiful, Dammlt" [Bette Midler’s new recording] is a standout track that should he a hit in the dance clubs, being an anthem to being-different and eelebratln~ that dlfferenee in .spite of the flak it brin~s. this season. It is Bette at her best, full of everything from tearful ballads ("One True Friend") to bawdy blues (my personal favorite, and new theme song, "One Monkey Don’t Stop No Show"), to comedic with a message (another theme song, a hiphoppin’ ’Tm Beautiful, Dammit!"). It marks a return to the eclecticism that was one of Bette’ s most delightful qualities, whereyoumightdiscover songs you’ d never find otherwiseifyouhadn’ t been liste~ning to her albums. ’Tm Beautiful, Dammit" is a standout track that shouldbe a hit in the dance clubs, being an anthem to being differentand celebrat- ¯ ing that difference in spite of the flak it ¯ brings. ¯ Know someone that Loves Bette ¯ Midler? Perfect gift. Know someone that has never heard of Bette? Perfect intro- ¯¯ duction. James Christjohn, actor, writer, poet ¯ and Mac-guru extraordinaire provides ¯ TFN with entertainment news, commen- ~ tary and can be counted on for regular ¯ Stevie Nicks updates. Gal-A-Vanting, Tulsa’ s new tivities network specializing in Ms-adventures for women, kicked off its program with a WomenIn the Arts nightat the Pride Center on October 23. While attendance was somewhat thin, with approximately 20 women in the audience, Gal-A-Vanting founders Joan and Mary were still quite happy with the event. "Wedidn’ t takeinto account Oktoberfest," Mary explains, "And we are still developing our mailing list and contacts. The artists were really outstanding, each with a style and media that was quite unique~ We’re hoping to do a week long show in the spring so that the art exhibits can be stationary and serve as an anchor for performing arts such as readings, music and so forth. And this will give people a better chance to see the works of these fine women artists, and support them by purchasing their worl~ You don’ t have to go to Eureka Springs or to Ptown to find exceptional artwork for your home." social ac- The long-awalted dance will be held at the Pride Center on Saturday November 14 from eight p.m. tll ??? and will be D.J.’d by Sue Knause, who promises to play a wide array of tunes for the danelng pleasure of Tulsa’s " play a wide array of tunes for the dancing pleasure of Tulsa’s women. With the smaller lounges in the Pride center, opportunities for a quiet conversation are also available. Light refreshments will be available and the entry fee is $3 for singles and $5 for couples. "We’ ve had a lot of interest in this dance, because somany women like to dance but for whatever reason don’ t care to be arbund smoking or drinking. It will also provide a nice venue for women to meet new friends and make new contacts." says Mary. The December Gal-AVanting event will be a movie night on December 16 at the Pride Center, beginning at6:30 p.m. A feature film and a couple of documentaries will be shown. We’re getting ready to prepare our schedule of events for the first of the year and we’ d really like some ideas from the women in the Tulsa area of what they’d like to do," explains Mary. "Please feel free to call me with your The long-awaited dance will be held at : wish list of activities at 743-6740. And if the pride center on Saturday November . you’re not on our mailing/call list, please 14 from eight p.m. til ??? and will be : let us know, This information is strictly D.J.’ d by Sue Knause, who promises to ¯ confidential and will not be shared." Humperdinck’s nse rete Parade of Lights. Come celebrate the spirit of the holiday season at the PSO Christmas Parade of Lights. Saturday, December 12. Downtown Tulsa at 6 p.m. View parade floats up close, Friday, December 11, at the HolidayFest.(Brady Arts DistriCt) from 6-9 p.m. Public Service Company of Oklahoma A Central and South West Company World AIDS Day 1998 Candlelight March & Memorial Service sponsored by Interfaith AIDS Ministries Tuesday, December 1st 6:30, Gather at Centenary United Methodist Church Parking Lot 631 North Denver 7:00", March Begins to Saint Jerome 7:30*, Memorial Service at the Parish Church of Saint Jerome. 205 West King Reception following seine.ice. *time approximate Bring banners & bells~ candles & matches provided st. Jerome will be accessible to the disabled at the east entrance. Into: 438-2437 or 800-284-2437 THE NOON NEWS NEVER LOOKED SO TASTY. The big news is Warren Duck Club’s new lunch menu. And the Horseradish Orange Crusted Halibut with Apricot Basil Sauce is just one of the tastiest stories. From familiar favorites, to late-breaking dishes hot from Chef Dan Broyles’ creative kitchen, this is news to truly savor. Call 495-1000 for the whole story and for reservations. Wari’enOu~kCh-d) In the Doubletree Hotel At Warren Place 6110 S. Yale / Tulsa OK / 918-495-1000 ~ SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 Community of Hope (United Methodist), Service - 6pro, 2545 S. Yale, 585-1800 Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation Service - 1 lam, 2545 S. Yale, 749-0595 Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist Service - 1 lam, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314 Family of Faith Metropolitan Community Church Service - 1 lam, Childrens Ministry also, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 10:45am, 3210e So. Norwood Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Service, 10:45am. 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715 Parish Church of St. Jerome (Evangelical Anglican Church in America) Mass - 1 lam, 205 W. King (east of No. Denver), Info: 582-3088 University of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance 6:30 pm, Meets at the Canterbury Ctr., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 Council Oak Men’s Chorale, rehearsals at 5pm, Info: 743-4297 ~" MONDAYS nIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required. Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm, 834-TEST (8378) 3501 E. Admiral (east of Harvard) HIV Rap Sessions at Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center 7:30pm, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians.& Gays 2nd Monicach too. 6:30pro, Fellovcship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard Mixed Volleyball, Helmerich Park, 71st & Riverside, 7pro, call Shawn 491-2036. Women/Children & AIDS Committee, call for meeting date, noon, 585-5551 ~ TUESDAYS AIDS Coalition of Tulsa, 11 i 10, noon, United Way Bldg. 1430 S. Boulder H!V+ Support Group, HIV Resource Consortium l:30pm 3507 E. Admiral (east of Harvard), lnf6: Wanda @ 834-4194 Multicultural AIDS Coalition, 11/3, 12:30pm, Urban League, 240 East Apache Rainbow Business Guild, Business & prof. networking group, Info: 743-4297 PrimeTimers, mens group, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th Coming Out Support Group (TOHR/HOPE) Tuesdays, 6 pro, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, info: 743-4297 !~ WEDNESDAYS Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 Family Of Faith MCC Praise/Prayer - 6:30pm, 5451-E S. Mingo. 622-1441 ¯House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Service - 7pm, 3210e So. Norwood Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group, more information, call 582-7225 TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632. Lambda A-A, 7 pm, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft. ~ THURSDAYS HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 E. Admiral Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN) Support/social group for 18-24’ s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325 Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS, Info: 834-4194 I~" FRIDAYS SafeHaven, Young Adults Social Group, 1st Fri/each mo. 8pm, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th ~" SATURDAYS Narcotics Anonymous, 11 pro, Community of Hope,1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 Lambda A-A, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, 2rid ft. ~OTHER GROUPS T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222 Womens Supper Club, Call for info: 584-2978 OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Info: POB 9165, Tulsa 74157, Short rides, 6:30pro, Long rides, 7am: Meet at Z~igler Park,.3903 West 4th. Pride Rides from the Pride Center, 3749 S. Peorial Write for dates. Ifyour organization is not listed~ please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615. Barry Hensley ~sa City-CountyLibrary ~lany Gay and Lesbian families have rallies finding materials for children h depict their family sire- ... In the past few years, ., has been a slow change te publishing world and re beginning to see a few ~ for children, early school and .under, which depict and Lesbian families. ae trailblazer ~as Heather Two Mommies, by Leslea €man, which stimulated di "~ 8t~’~ the in we tifl ag~ Ne dis~ usslons across the country and ’opened a new line of attad ~.on theGay community by the Religious Right. A simple, short book, it depicts a young girl and her family: two pets and two mommies. Heather suddenly realizes that she doesn’t have a daddy and becomes upset. She is gently shown other children who, for a variety ofreasons, don’thave fathers. Heather realizes that there are many different family situations and that she is lucky to have two mothers., A companion book "i§ Daddy’s Roomate,by Michael Wi!lhoite, depicting a boy Willholte has a third, hilarious book, Uncle What-ls-h Is Comln~ To V;s;t. It concerns a youn~ brother and sister who .have just learned that their Gay uncle, whom they have never met, is eomln~ to visit. They ask older kids what it means to be Gay and are horrified as the stereotypes of leather queens and Carmen Miranda look~alikes spew forth. Uncle What-Is-It Is Coming To Visit. It ¯ concerns a young brother and sister who ¯ have just learned that their Gay uncle, ¯ whom they have never met, ts coming to visit. They ask older kids what it means to be Gay and are horrified as the stereotypes of leather queens and Carmen Miranda look-a-likes spew forth. Their fears are shattered when Uncle Brett shows up and tunas out to be a normal, everyday kind of guy. Other appropriate books for young children include The Duke Who Outlawed Jelly Beans, a satire on today’s polirical scene. In it, the Duke issues a proclamation: "I had exactly one mother and one father, and I turned out so well, I thinkall children shouldhave exactly one mother and one father. Any that don’t- why, we’ll throw ’em in the dungeon." Fortunately, the Duke learns the error of his ways. For slightly older children, ages 6-12, tryHow Would You Feel If Your Dad Was Gay? by A~n Heron and Meredith Maran. Written by two Lesbian mothers with help from their sons,it depicts three chilwho’s divorced father is in a long term, canng Gaymlationship. AnotherWillhoite rifle, not owned by the public library, is Daddy’s Wedding, which continues the saga of Daddy’s Roomate. Ask your librarian to interlibrary loan Daddy’s Wedding for you from another library system. Willhoite .has a third, hilarious book, "She has created an arch of hope that future Gay and Lesbian candidates will be-- able to walk through." Baldwinis also the firstwomanever elected to Congress from Wisconsin. Another openly Lesbian Democrat, former Army colonel Grethe Cammeremeyer, was defeated by incumbent Republican Rep. Jack Metcalf in Washington state. A third, Democrat Chrisline Kehoe, was trailing in her bid to upset California Republican Rep. Brian Bilbray. Gay Republican Rep. Jim Kolbe of Arizona, bidding for an eighth term, held a solid l(ad with more than three-quarters of the votes counted in his race against Democrat Tom Volgy. In an Oklahoma rematch, Republican Rep. Frank Lucas easily won. a fourth term against Democrat Patti Barby, an openly Gay OklahomaCity businessman. Another openly Gay member of Congress, Democratic Rep. Barney Frank of Massachusetts, was unopposed for a 10th term. Frank is an outspoken member of the House Judiciary Committee, which will consider impeachment charges against President Bill Clinton. In most cases, the Gay candidates and their opponents kept sexual orientation out of the campaigns. But 6ational Gay civil rights organizations poured money into the races, notably $1 million spent t~y the Human Rights Camp~gn. : drenwithGayparents.Ithasmulticultural ¯ characters andcompassionately shows the ¯ reality of different types of families. ¯¯ Don’t forget to check your local library for information regarding Gay and Les- ¯ bianfamilies. Also youmay call the Read- . ers Services department of the Central ¯ Library at 596-7966. "People are taking a stand for traditional mamage." Not surprisingly, Joseph Mdillo, who with his partner and two Lesbian couples sued the state when they were denied marriage licenses in 1990, felt differently. "It’ s putting into our state constitutaon a discriminatory clause that will distinguish us from other people," he said. Alaska’s constxtutional amendment defines marriage as the union of one man and one woman. The Legislature put the question on the ballot after a Superior Courtjudge ruled infavor oftwo Gay men who challenged the state ban on same-sex marriage. The judge said choosing a life partner was a fundamental right and the state had to prove a compelling reason to regulate it. In Fort Collins, a civil rights proposed had become especially emotional since the beating death of Matthew Shepard, a Gay student from the University of Wyoming who died in a Fort Collins hospital. Ordinance 22 would have prohibited discrimination in housing, employment and public accommodations on the basis of sexual orientation. "National Gay civil rights advocacy groups built this up as an important watershed and I think it was," said Fort Collins lawyer Jon-Mark Patterson, an opponent of the ordinance. "I ~hink tonightitshowed most people here don’t want the government to take a side in a controversial Kelly Kirby CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant, a professional corporation Lesbians and Gay men face many special tax situations whether single.or as couples. Call us for help with your year round tax needs. 747-5466 4021 S. Harvard, Suite 210, Tulsa 7d135 IGTA member Call 341.6866 International TourS /ormorein!o mation. AUTHENTIC FRESH 1TALIAN RAINBOW CUSINE TR0UT ofEureka Springs Voted Number One in Arkansas! (501) 253-6807, Closed Wednesday 5 Center Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 RestaUrant Dining Pleasure COCONUT BEER BATTERED SHRIMP PRIME RIB FRESH CLAMS VEGIE STIR FRY COQUILE ST. 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Your beverages have been cooling and you’ve got a pile of pickets stacked in the yard, and the neighbors, the Nosey Parkers, are still muchtoo interested in your private life. So put on that toolbelt you’ve been breaking in, and let’s work it. The fence stringers are the backbone of your fence. If they are on the inside of the fence, you’ll want to channel" your anal retentive side and take Your DIYD is tired and cranky, so let’s snap to it, get this fence ~p and get it over with. After all, you’ve been waitin~ three months to finish this project and it is getting sooo tiresome... So put on that toolbelt y.ou’ve been breaking m, and let’s work it! particular pains to get everything level and true. If your neighbors are getting that side of the fence, one can be somewhat more cavalier, though not messy, about stringer placement. For the perfect stringer array, you will need enough string to stretch from one end of the fence to the other, a spare body for help, and a level. A chalk line won’t hurt, either. There are small levels that attach to your string and they are not expensive; but if you’re tired of waiting, we’ll make do with a regular level. Measurefrom the groundup abouteightinches and make a mark on the fence post on either end. This will be where the bottom edge of your bottom stringer will go. Don’t worry, the tops (and the middies) will get their chance momentarily. You can no either stretch and attach a string line from end to end, using a level to ensure eveness, and mark the other posts, or you can use a chalk line and snap the mark across the posts. This saves time, if you know how to use one. Attach your bottom stringers withNo-Co-Rode screws. drilling a pilot hole slightly smaller than the diameter of the screw. You will need help with this if you are going for the perfect look. ff not, then you can attach a 1x4 so that the top is even with your bottom line. Do this on both posts and use them to support your board while you drive the two screws into each end of the stringers. You can remove and reuse the lx4’s as you go down the fence. The stringers will meet in the middie of each post, so if you’re over the length a bit, measure carefully (twice!) and remove whatever is necessary; if it isn’t long enough, have you got trouble! The only solution-is to b.uy a board two feet longer and saw off the extra, and darling, that is going to hurt. Once your swingers are all attached, you are ready to start putting up your pickets, ff you are using Cedar pickets, the wood is soft enough that drilling pilot holes are not necessary, but they will be for any other type of wood; otherwise, it will split your pickets, and the possibility of screw head cam-out is very much enhanced. News Flash: your pickets will not be even, square, or straight. Sorry, but this would actually be desirablein wood. Keep that level handy and use it when setting each picket unless you want your fence to develop a curious slant in a hurry. Set up your first picket so that it is about 1/4 to 1/2" off the ground; put the square in the middie of one side and move it gently until the bubble is between the two middie lines. Attach picket with the first screw, in the middie. This frees up your hands,for attaching the top and bottom screws. Put two screws into the picket at the top and bottom stringer, about 3/4" from each outer edge. Do the same for the remaining pickets, leveling each as best you can. As you approach the end of your fence, you will, unless most fortunate, discover that the last picket will not fit perfectly, being either too wide or too narrow. Start paying attention to this about a half dozen pickets from the end. If you will not be off by much, you can adjust the spacing between the last few pickets so they come out fine, otherwise, you’ll have to find a way to np cnt an end picket, or to get sneaky. You know what the DIYD prefers: sneaky ways are deliciously evil and always appeal, especially if they equate with less work. On the DIYD’s last fence project ( which is also the current fence project...), a lx4" picket was used in the last space, and the other pickets were spaced ever so slightly wider apart without being the least bit obvious. You’ll have to play around with it, but if vou haven’ t got access to a table saw to rip’cut a picket, it is well worth it, and safer as well. Rip cuts have a nasty reputation. Now youare asking yourself what there was about this project that took so long, and the answer is the same as so many others - prep work makes the difference in any home project. It is well worth the investment of your ume to measure, level mad true up any part of your fence before it becomes regrettably permanent. And it looks so much more beautiful - mad darlings, you are worth it! There. Your DIYD is less cranky now that you’ve built your privacy fence so well. Rest up. We’ll have more fun next month when we freShen up those fired old kitchen cabinets with a bit of sanding, some paint, and some more stylish pulls. Matthew Shepard’s death was horrible and senseless; it would be more so if it was in vain." Kelly Kirby, longtime civil rights activist and Gay community leader spoke of his family’s direct experiences with hate crimes, including an assaultonhis spouse, Ric, which resulted in over 100 stitches being required. Kirby also claimed that each year from 1991 to 1996, a Gay man was murdered in Tulsa. In New York City, participants of the recent Fifth Avenue rally to remember Shepard alleged that police beat them with batons and ran into them with mopeds and that police horses kicked them because they had no permit for the event. Police were dispatched to themarch when about 4,000 people flocked to the event. see Hate, p. 14 by Esther Rothblum At a time when sexual orientation and gender are being viewed as more continuous categories, there is renewed interest in the fluidity of who is a "woman" and whois a"Lesbian." InmanyNativeAmerican cultures, gender and sexuality have not been as fixed as in western cultures. Recently, a number of books have appeared on "two-spirit¯ people," a term coinedby Native Americans for individuals in their cultttres who are Gay or Lesbian, or who are transgendered, or who have multiple gender identities. The term "two-spirit" is an attempt by Native American commttnities to re-define their past from the way in which it has been depicted by white male anthropologists,and also to distinguishNativeAmerican concepts ofgenderandsexuality from those of the.western Gay and Lesbian communities. I recendy spoke with Sue- Ellen Jacobs, one of the coeditors of the book, Two- SpiritPeople: NativeAmerican GendertIdentity, Sexuality and Spirituality. She -said: ’¢Fhere are a number of instances where there are Native women, living on reservations, who don’t stand out, who. don’t come forward. The Gay white men who are out there studying Native American men don’t see the women because these.researchers don’ t recognize, these Women as Who they are with~n their cul~ ture. Not many Native women use the words ’Lesbian’ or ’dyke’ to describe themselves. The researchers didn’t realize that there was a movement going on within the Native American communities, the two-spirit movement." Sue-Ellen Jacobs described instances of"male-bodiedwomen"or "female-bodied men" who took on the roles and became known as being of the "other" genderin NativeAmericancultures. AsJacobs and the other editors state in the introduction to their book: "Using the word ’two- Spirit’ emphasizes the spiritual aspect of one’ s life and downplays the homosexual persona." After experiencing several years of "discriminatory treatment," and many efforts to work out the differences with TCCLS, Neal contacted Tulsa County Commissioner John Selph to discuss what Neal called"theseblatant violations ofthe First Amendment" and his intention to file a lawsuit to resolve the matter. While Neal neverreceived any response fromhis letter to Selph, shordy afterward, TCCLS banned all free publications from its lobbies- withthe exceptionofaLatino publication, Imagen in the 3rd Street Library which serves an increasingly Spanish- spealdng neighborhood. According to Neal; lmagen blatenfly violated the 50% local content nile but said he was told that TCCLS director, Linda Saferite, approved that violation because having the publication helped to traditions acknowledge that the he-shes and she-hes . . . were amon~ the ~reatest eontrlhutors to the well-heln, and advancement of their eommunltles. They were (and we are) the Sreatest probers into the ways of the future, and they qulekly assimilated the lessons of ehan~in~ times .... and people..." ." In the chapter "I am a Lakota womyn," ¯ Beverly Little Thunder writes: "Most ¯ tribes that I have had the honor of know- " ing have specificnames formenwholove ¯ men and women who love women... I ¯" can understand that theremay be a need ¯ by some to findapan-Native term that can be used as a marker for the general population of Native Lesbians and Gays. We are all so different in somany ways, however. Culturally and physically, we are all different. Each tribe has its own name, its own structure. How canwe all even be called ’Natives’?... The words I would like to see written about me and read fifty years from now should be words that reflect who I am as an individual.’" Came House, of Navajo! Oneida descent, writes: "Our oral traditions acknowledge that the he-shes and she-hes (those who hold in balance the male and female, female and male aspects of themselves and theuniverse) were among the greatest contributors to the well-being and advancement of their communities. They were (andwe are) the greatest probers into ¯ the ways of the future, and they quickly ¯ assimilated the lessons of changing times and people. Recent studies into the lives ¯ of she-hes and she-hes have recovered ¯ models or near models of this rich, inven- ¯ tive, reverential, and highly productive ¯ approach t.o k.eg,ping balance within a s~- ¯ ciet~ viewed as an extension of nature." Further reading, see: Sue-Ellen Jacobs, ¯ Wesley Thomas & Sabine l_xtng (’97). ¯ Two-SpiritPeople: NativeAmerican Gen- : der Identity, Sexuality and Spirituality. ¯ Urbana, IL: Univ. of Blinois Press. Will : Roscoe (’98). Changing Ones: Third and ¯ FourthGendersinNativeNorthArnerica. ¯- NY: St. Martin’s Press. Lester Brown " (’98). Two-Spirit People. NY: Haworth : Press. : Esther Rothblum teaches Psychology ¯ at the Univ. of Vermont and edits the : Journal of Lesbian Studies. She can be ¯ reached at John Dewey. Hall,Univ. of : Vermont," Burlington, VT, email:- ¯ esther.rothblum@uvm.edu. ¯" serve a special needs population. Neal ¯ said his arguments about the Lesbian and : Gay communities’ special needs were ig- ¯ nored. ¯ Neal adds, "I have no illusion that ¯ TCCLS made this change to accomodate ¯ Tulsa Family News. It’ s likely that given" ¯ the’society’ make-upoftheTCCLSboard, ¯ that the rifles were changed to keep Tulsa ¯ People happy rather than to be fair - ¯ however, I’m pleased with the result. I : guess it means if you wait long enough ¯ andarepersistentenough, youwillacheive ¯ fairness." ¯ PFLAG - Parents, Family & ." Friends of Lesbians & Gays ¯ Tulsa Area Chapter : POB 52800, Tulsa 74152 ¯ 749-4901 Timothy W. Daniel Attorney at Law An Attorney who will fight for justice & equality for Gays & Lesbians Domestic Partnership Planning, Personal Injury, Criminal Law & Bankruptcy 1-800-742-9468 or 918-352-9504 128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma ~Neekend and evening appoinlmenls are available. Are.You Gay or Bisexual? 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That same day, an- any important event, such as other friend griped about A Lesblan a dance performance or socpacks of Lesbians invading 17rlend recently cergame, menleavewomen his favorite bar, poisoning its atmosphere. Pleas for eomplalned about behind in the village to sleep by themselves. TheTaunese Gay/Lesbian unity ("why the orffanlzatlonal practice the samesex taboos can’t we all just get along") shorteomln~s ot7 demanded by many Ameriare perhaps as common as can football coaches: No sex jokes that poke fun at this "Gay boys - before the big game! Every continental divide in our They’re . hopeless!" evening, men also go off by commumty, themselves to prepare and Public constemation about she ~ttumed. That drink kava (Piper relations between women same day, another methysticum) - the traditional South Pacific drug differemntaennd -_good,evokedbad,memoi_nO-r t~rlend gaped substance that is becoming ries ofmy years in Vanuatu. about pael~s o17 increasing popular in the ThiSlocatedtropictahline archipelagOsouthwespta-iS Lesbians invadln~ U.S. as a natural relaxant. Men assert that women can cific-aculturalregioncalled h~.s 17avor~.te bar, strip away the potency of Mdanesiathat also includes polsonln~ its kavamerely by touching the the islands of New atmosphere, plant before it is prepared; Caledonia, the Solomons, and drinkers bitterly blame and New Guinea. RitualiZed hostility be- ¯ women, talking too loud back in the viltween men and women is a cultural curi- " lage, for spoiling their kava high. osity of much of Melanesia. Anthropolo- " Women endanger men notjust because gists who first analyzed the phenomenon ¯ of their polluting vaginal fluids. Men are labeled it "sexual antagonism," though " also threatened by naturally female crenowadays we’d more likely call it"cross- " ative powers. Women are mothers. The gender opposition" or the like. ¯ children they bear sustain the cycle of Full-fledged sexual antagonism exists " human life and death. Women’s vaginas notably in the highland valleys of New " are powerfully dangerous openings back Guinea. My village neighbors on an is- " into the spiritual world inhabited both by land called Tanna, on the eastern edge of ¯ the ancestors and the unborn. Men per- ~ Mdanesia, practice only an attenuated " haps fear the vagina as muelx for its lifeversionofgenderopposition. Still,likeall ". giving as for its deadly powers. It’s a Melanesians, they have’great ~ear and ¯ psychological commonplace that men are suspicion of the body fluids of the oppo- ¯ jealous of natural female creativity. This site sex. Men believe that contact with drives us, so the story goes, to various menstrual blood and other vaginal fluids " sorts of "cultural creativity" - art, literacan make them seriously ill. An anthro- ¯ ture, politics, business - as a sort of corn- " pologistlonceknew, who worked among pensation for our inability to bear chil- - the Enga of Papua New Guinea, attracted dren. . much attention with his magnificent and ¯ Throughout much of Melanesia, along luxuriant red beard, much admired by all. ¯ theselines,meniusistthatalthoughwomen When people asked for hair-growing ad- ¯ give birth, only men can make boys into vice, he liked to disgust and appall them men. On Tanna, fathers arrange male iniby claiming that the secret was to rub ° tiation ceremonies for their sons. They menstrual blood on his face. : circumcise these boys who then spend six In many Melanesian cultures, women ¯ Weeks in the bush, isolated from all conretii’etomenstrualhutslocatedinthebush " tactwithwomen.ElsewhereinMelanesia~ (outside the Village) during their periods. ¯ people believe that precious semen itself One can imagine that many women look ¯ transforms boys into men. Male initiaforward eagerly to these monthly vaca- ¯ dons include practices of ritual fellatio - dons from thedailydrudgeryofcooking, ." young .boys masculinize themselves by childcare, and farming. Nomenstrual huts : consnm|ug the semen of older, already exist on Tanna, though men and women ¯ initiated youths. (Gil Herdt describes one here rarely share the same sleeping mat. " such societyin his book The Sambia: And a menstruating woman stops prepar- ° Ritual and Gender in New Guinea.) ing her husband’s dinners. Men, particu- : So, next time those Lesbians (or, alterlarlythosewithrockymarriages, aresome- ¯ natively, those Gay boys) invade your times suspicious that angry wives may be " favoriteclub, whatis that sudden chill you poisoning themby dripping bloodinto the ¯ feel -- is this the "death threat of sexual cooking pots. : pollution," or a contentiousjealousy over And if vaginal fluids don’t kill you, sex ¯ human creativity? itselfmay. Melanesians also shareabelief " Lament Lindstrom teaches anthropol- - one that reaches back into Asia - that ¯ ogy at the University of Tulsa. men are born with a finite amount of ¯ semen. Worse, the faster one uses up his " NOW NOV, Meeting lifetime supply of semen, the faster he ages and dies. Have too many girlfdends : at Pride Center or too .much masturbatory fun, and you die young! Fathers warn their sons about " The Tulsa Chapter of the National Orthe deadly dangers of sex. Dry, flaky skin " ganization for Women will feature Lucy Tamayo of DVIS, Domestic Violence ~s an early sign of semen depletion, and . Intervention Services, speaking about those teenagers withunforttmate skinprob- ¯ methods of empowering women at its lems get teased mercilessly for messing ¯ Nov. meeting, 12:30 pm at The Pride around. ¯ Center, 1307 E. 38th St. 2rid floor. NOW Men (and women, too) believe that ¯¯ will .also hold elections for its executive . female substances may pollute, or other- : board at the meeting. Info: 365-5658. MY KITTY but also his leadership on Tulsa’ s Say No to Hate Coalition. Nor have any other officials ofOklahoma’ s establishment spoken out. Our governor says our "hate crimes" law doesn’t need to address violence agai.’nst Gay people, though note that he hasn’t suggested removing it for Oklahoma Jews or Blacks 7,,.or Catholics like him. None of our congressional delegation has exemplified the compassion which if they were the Christians they claim to be, they might show. For example, a few months ago, I askedPam Pryor, JC Watts, Jr.’ s press secretaryhow many Gaypeople needed to die before JC would speak out against, anti-Gay violence? Obviously, Shepardi~not enough. Maybeifone ofus were crucified on the South Oval of the OU campus, Watts (and that other disappointing Oklahoma politician, David Boren) might take the issue seriously. Butat least withWatts, I still believehis spokesperson’s claims of some decency in the man to bother to ask. With The Evil Steve and his good buddy and roommate, Tom Cobum, there’s no point in wasting my breath. However, given the desire of Matthew Shepard’s family and friends that some bit of good come out of the horror of his tormentand death,let us resolveto change our state to reduce the chance that this will happen here. Passing an amendment to our hate crimes (Oklahoma statutes, 21:850, Malicious intimidation...) has got to be the top priority for Lesbian and Gay Oklahoroans, our families and friends. Find out who your representatives are and talk to them now. Furthermore, we must demand that all those groups that claim to be working for justice andfairness, must end their convenient silences. For example, if the Methodist Bishop of Oklahoma can work so hard to ban same-gender marriage ceremonies, surely he can finally open his mouth to say something against anti-Gay violence. But he must be joined by OklahomaPresbyterians, theOklahomaCouncil of Churches, Tulsa Metropolitan Ministries, our Catholic bishops and all others who claim to value human life. Imagine, maybe even human rights groups like the National Conference for Community and Justice, and others, like the Jewish Fed: eration and African-American organizations will standup to say that Gay Oklahomans have a right to live too. Imagine. 8LAH BLAH : police arrived, organizers said scores of ¯ arrestsbegan.Mostoftheorganizers were taken away first, leaving the marchers : adrift, participants said. ¯ And at the University of Wyoming, a ¯¯ visiting professorwhois teaching acourse on hate crime received a first hand view. ¯ "I reacted with shock-and disbelief," said ¯ Graham Baxendale, a Ph.D. student at ¯ England’ s Reading University. "I certMnly ¯ was not prepared for such an event here. ¯ One can read many textbooks and the : academic literature, but until you are ac- ¯ tually confronted by something like this ¯ within your own community, you recog- ¯ nize that you really don~t understand this ¯ Baxendale said hate Crimes rarely end Only 500 people were expected. Once ¯ in murder and usuallyinvolve low-level ¯ violence or intimidation. The victims of ¯ such crimes typically are selected at ran- " dom because they represent a particular ¯ group. "Gay males are one of the largest ¯ victim catego.rie,s. for thrill hate crimes, but ethnic rmnonty groups such as His- " panics, Blacks, and Jews also are tar- " geted," he said. The perpetrators of such ¯ crimes againstGays,Baxendale said, typi- ¯ cally are young male adults or youths who ¯ are experiencing the emotions that come ¯ with emerging sexuality. To demonstrate : to theirpe~rs that they are wholly hetero- ¯ sexual, these people may express vie- ¯ lance and hatred toward Gays. .. Hate crime victims,’he said, usually are ¯ chosen because they are available, not ¯ because of any individual characteristics ¯ or actions, and because of what they rep- ¯ resent to the perpetrators. Hatred towards ¯ the victim’s group is often manifested in ¯ exceptignal violence. "The perpetrators : often despise and de-humanize their vic- ¯ rims, so such crimes typically are more ¯ violent than corresponding crimes that ¯ are not hate-inspired," he said. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Shepard Murder Update LARAMIE,Wyo. (AP)-A suspect in the deathofaGay University of Wyoming student admitted to an investigator that he drove off with the victim and then told him: ’~3uess what. We’renot Gay. You’regonnagetjacked." After hearing testimony at a preliminary hearing, a judge ordered Aaron McKiuney to stand trial in the death of Matthew Shepard, an attack thatbrought widespread outrage, a condenmation from President Clinton and calls for tougher hate-crime laws. The other suspect, Russell Arthur Henderson, had waived his fight to a preliminary heating and is scheduled to be arraigned Dec. 2. Both men are charged with first-degree murder, kidnapping and robbery. The21-year-old Shepard, who had been found tied to a fence outside of town, died five days after the Oct. 7 beating. The lead investigator, Sheriff s Detecfi~÷’e Sgt. Rob DeBree, testified that McKiuney, 21, admitted to the beating and implicated his friend Henderson, also 21. According to DeBree, McKinney said that robbery was ." the main motive but that Shepard was chosen,,as a targe~ because he was Gay. DeBreesaidMcKinney admitted ° Matthew did not hit on them or make advances" in the .,~FiresideBar,.batthat they luredhimoutintending:to rob : him and 6urgiari~e hi~ house. ....... :~ . 2 ~ According to DeBree, McKimaey told investigators that the attack began after Shepard placedhis fight hand ". on McKinney’ s leg as the trio drove on Laramie’ s east side." ’Guess what. We’re not Gay,’ "DeBree quoted " McKinney as saying. ’"You’re gonna get jacked. It’s Gay Awareness Week.’" DeBree said McKiuney admitted he hit Shepard two ¯ to three times with his fist, then pistol-whipped and robbed him. see Shepard, p. 10 Tulsa MCC’s Merge! TULSA - After years of strife,Tulsa’ s two Mb~~poli’- tan Community Church congregations have voted to merge beginning at the end of November and at the beginning of the Advent season. The Metropolitan Church of Greater Tulsa (MCC-GT) is likely the oldest Lesbian and Gay organization in the state at more than 20 years old. It was one of the first MCC’ s in the US to purchase its own building in an innovative bond based fundraising program. Family ofFaith’MCCwas younger congregation that grew out of MCC-GT starting out in Jenks, then later moving to a storefront in southeast Tulsa. Both congregations are currently without permanent pastors and members of each congregation approved the merger with "overwhelming majorities." The move also enjoys denominational support. The new congregation will meet at the building near Pine and Sheridan which has been the home for MCC-GTbut the vision that thenew congregationhas is tomove to anew shared home and see MCC, p. 2 ATLANTA (AP) - Twelve years after the U.S. Supreme Court upheld Georgia’s controversial anti-sodomy law, the state Supreme Court threw out the statute late last month in a ruling that Gay civil rights activists hope will lead to the downfall of similar laws around the country. The state court voted 6-1 to overturn the conviction of Anthony Powell, now of Shreveport, La. Hehad been foundguilty of sod.omizing his 17-year-old niece m 1996. He had beencharged with rape, but his lawyers argued that the sex was consensual and thejury acquitted on that charge. The court’s majority opinion, by ChiefJustice RobertBenham, said the law violates the state "We cannot think dany other aetlvlty that reasonable persons would rank as more private and more deserving of proteetlon from governmental interference than eonsensual, private, adult sexual aetlv~ty," - Georgia Chld Justiee Robert Benham constitution’ s provision that citizens are entitled to privacy. "We cannot think of any other activity that reasonable persons would rank as more private and more deserving of protection from governmental interference than consensual, private, adult sexual activity," he wrote. In 1986, the U.S. Supreme Court upheld the 165-year-old Georgia law banning oral and anal sex, ruling that ~e U.S. Constitution provides no right to private homosexual conduct. see Georgia, p. 8 ::WORLD AIDS DAY DIRECTORY/t.ETFERS P. 2/3 US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P. 6 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 BOOK REVIEW P. 10 RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 11 DYKE PSYCHE/GAY STUDIES P. 12/13 CLASSIFIEDS + WEERWOLF P. 14 ¯ MarriageLawsuit Heard : MONTPEIJI~.R, Vt. (AP)- Vermont’s Supreme ¯ Courtjustices dearly wereready for thepotenfially ¯ historic case before them. Before 10 minutes had ¯ gone by in their hour-long heating on the question ¯ of same-gender marriage, Justice Denise Johnson : cut off a lawyerandtoldher to get to the point. "We ¯ have toknow what yourtheories are that entitle you ¯ to relief,"Johnson toldlawyer Beth Robinson, who ¯ was arguing the case for three couples seeking the ¯ right to marry. : Throughout the hearing, justices peppered law- , yers from both sides withquestions about theories : of law, Gay politics and common sense. Each : jnstiee, from the chief to themost seniormember of : the court to its most recent appointee, asked at least ¯ one question. They listened intently, cajoled, prod- ¯ ded, occasionally chuckled and scribbled notes. : "tit’ s good to know the court is thinking about these ¯ issues, and if you think hard about this, we win," ¯ Robinson said following the arguments. ¯ Oral arguments before the Supreme Court can be : curious affairs. Lawyers go prepared to fill their ¯ allotted time with an oral recitation expanding on ¯ the written arguments they have previously filed. ¯ They rarely get a chance to deliver their remarks : tminterrupted because at least one of the justices ¯ generally wants to probe a point more deeply or ¯ perhaps go off in another direction. But seldom ¯ does the court become so immersed in the case ¯ before it. Seldom does the court have as much time ¯ as it allotted Docket No. 98-32, Baker v. State of : Vermont. Lawyers had an hour to make their case. ¯ Normally they get half that, sometimes less. : In the hearings in November, they had to share it ¯ pretty much.eq.ually with the three men and two : women in black robes.-It was almost l~ke a law : school class where thefivejustices were theprofes- ¯ sots and the individual lawyers were the students : getting uncomfortably close seruuny. : - When Robinson rejected a notion that Local AIDS activist, Bruce. Begley before World AIDS Day memorial service and march. For more, see page 3. Tulsa Is Site to Test HIV Vaccine : TULSA, Okla. (AP) - Researchers in Tulsa are participating in : a nationwide trial of a vaccine that may help prevent infection : from the virus that causes AIDS. Tulsa is one ofahandful of cities _. chosen to participate in final testing of the AIDSvax vaccine, ¯ developed by California-based VaxGen Inc. ¯ "I think it is an opportunity to make history as the first major ¯ trial to prevent HIV infection," said Dr. Ralph Richter of St. John .. Medical Center, who is leading the local branch of the trial. "It’ s ¯ aumque opportunity, and the challenge is to prove that this works : by doing a very highly scientific study." ¯ Researchers are recruiting HIV-negative Gay men who are ¯ considered at high risk Of contracting the disease. That includes : those who are not in monogamous relationships. They also seek : women who currently are in sexual relationships with HIV- : positivemen or who have had more than one male sexual partner ¯ and have been diagnosed with sexually transmitted diseases : within the past year. : In preliminary trials of AIDSvax, nearly 99 percent of those : vaccinated produced strong levels of antibodies. Final testing of ¯ the vaccine is targeting 5,000 U.S: volunteers at high risk of ~ contracting the AIDS virus and 2,500 high-risk people in Thai- " land. ¯ John Lysight, 31, recently got his first shot of the vaccine and : will get a second injection soon. ’ofhis is a beginning vaccine of ." the future. This is what is going to start what I refer to as the super : vaccines," Lysight said. "I think we are reaching a totally ¯ different realm of meditfine, and it needs to be taken advantage : of." Lysightlearned ofthe vaccinefrom Richter almost ayear ago ~ and plans to help the doctor recruit study subjects. He does not : know if he is receiving the vaccine or a placebo. ¯ see Vaccine, p. 11 : : : : : everyone’ s goals~ Justice James Morse responded: "So the label is everything?" Johnson was the most animated justice. AssistantAttorney GeneralEveJac~bs-Camahan pointed out that no other state in the nation had legalized Gay marriage. Johnson observed: "Somebody had to be the first in an interracial state," referring to states that once banned interracial marriages. Trying to recover, Jacobs-Camahan said that common law had always made a distinction between men and women in marriage statutes, but not between the races, which was what made interracial marriage bans unconstitutional. "What does that show other than how long-standing the discrimination was?" Justice John Dooley asked. Reflecting that new legal ground was potentially being plowed with the case, Chief Justice Jeffrey Amestoy asked Robinson to explain why the state would want to discriminate against its citizens. Figuring that one out is a frustration, Robinson replied. The State of Vermont’s representatives have contended that limiting mamage only to heterosexual couples is good for procreation and childrearing - a point characterized as discriminatory and unconstitutional by Robinson, the lawyer for three Gay couples who brought the case. Robinson argued that Vermont’s 28-year-old ban doesn’t serve to protect children. "If the state’ s concern is about protecting Children, then that would be protected by allowing these couples to marry," she said, noting that two of the three couples have adopted children. State lawyers urged the court to turn down the see Marriage, p. 11 see Editorial, p. 3 Tulsa Clubs &, Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria *Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. 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U134 501-253-7734 501-253-7457 501-253-6807 50!~253,5445 501-253~9337 5012~53.2776 50t -253-5332 50-1-62~6646 501-253-6001 501-253-4074 501-442-2845 417-623-4696 :~ is where you can f’md TFN. Not allare Gay-owned but all are Gay-friendly. Carbon Copy: Don’t Abridge Freedom To Marry Recently, basketball star Dennis RodmanandBaywatch starletCarmenElectra were able to marry on a whim at 7 a.m. in Las Vegas after anight ofpartying that his agent says left Mr. Rodman too drtmk to speak or stand up. So much for the sanctity of marriage in this, the second year of the Defense of Marriage Act, which was passed by Congress and signed by President Clinton. It only forbids gay peoplefrom getting married. Richard Ramirez, the night stalker currently on death row for committing 13 sadistic, torturous murders can marry a woman ~n prison, but a gay person who never even gotaparking ticket can’ t marry the person he loves. Ministers who have merely blessed same-sex unious have found themselves in trouble with church leadership. One was quoted as saying "I can bless a battleship. I can bless a nuclear weapon. I can bless dogs or animals, but I can’ t bless two people who want to make a commitment to each other." The freedom to marry the person you love is a basic civil right, a basic human right, and an important, individual personal choice that bdongs to the couple in love, not to politicians or the government: Some day, probably not un61 the next century, that won’ t be an unpopular idea. - William C. Stosine. Iowa City With Credit to The Village Voice The 1998 Wacko Awards: Losers, Liars, and Other Political Lowlifes The Human Rights Campaign Well, the folks- at the. Human~ Rights Campaign sure do know how to pick ’em] After a protracted internal battle, the country’s largest gay fights group voted to endorse Al D’ Amato. Actually, it was the HRC’s board- in a 15-7 vote - that chose to support the Fonz. Mostmembers backed Schumer, who romped in the Gay community. For mstanee, in Manhattan’ s 66th Assembly Dislrict, Schumerrouted D’ Amato by about an 8-to-1 margin. This Greenwich Village district was the first to send an openly gay woman, Deborah Glick, to the state assembly and provided Schumer with his biggest vote total ofany city A.D. In recognition of HRC"s misguided endorsement, we present the group’ s board with the Out ofTouch Plaque and a global positioning system, so they are better informed when they next get the urge to veer right. ¯ Letters Policy : Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on ¯ issues which we’ ve covered or on issues ¯ you thinkneed to be considered. Youmay ¯ request that your name be withheld but ¯ letters must be signed&have phone hum- ¯ bers, or be hand delivered. 200 word let- " ters are preferred. Letters to other publi=m ¯ cations will be printed as is appropriate. by joining forces to be able to secure a permanent full-time pastor as well. Tins also will allow them to increase their outreach to the community. Both congregations were predominenfly women and leaders stated the hope of encouraging men to feel welcome as well. World AIDS Day 1998i WASHINGTON, DC - A new studyjust released resoundingly debunks widely held beliefs about the economic status of. Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual (GLB) people. Contrary to what has become the conventional wisdom on the subject, Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual people do not earn more than "We lmve long known that the myth of Gay wealth is ju,t that - a myth . . . lneome I~at~on s~nes t~e o~ truth on yet another o[ The Ri~ht~ ~stortlon of the ~a~s," - Urv~hl Va~d Heterosexual people. In fact, they may even earn less. lncome Inflation: The Myth of AffluenceAmong Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Americans was released by the Policy Institute of the Na- . tional Gay and Lesbian Task Force and the Institute for Gay and Lesbian Strategic Studies (I~LSS). The report was authored by M.V. Lee Badgett, Ph.D., professor of economics at the University of Massa- .chusetts at Amherst and executive director of IGLSS. Income Inflation is a startling study of the economic status of a frequently stereotyped population ofAmericans. Badgett explores the pervasive andinaccuratenotion that GLBpeopleform aneconomic elite, insulated from discrimination by their wealth and disconnected frbm society at large by a special, privileged status. After examining data from seven different surveys, she finds that none support this stereotype. "The evidence from many different scientifically sound data sources points to the same dear conclusiom Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual people do not earn more than Heterosexual people, either as individuals or as couples," reported Badgett. "Some GLB people are poor, some are rich, and most are in the middle,jnst as heterosexual people are. Now that we have credible data, we can stop relying on flawed stu~di.’e3, that were designed to find high income Gay people." right-wing organizations and individuals perpetuate and regularly exploit the myth of Gay wealth to bolster their attacks against the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender eommtmity. The mythis so pervasive and accepted that even Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia injected it into the dissenting opinion in the Colorado Amendment Two ease. "We have long known that the myth of Gay wealth is just that - a myth," said Urvashi Vaid, director of the Policy Institute of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. "’Income lnflation shines the light of truth on yet another of The Right’ s distortion of the facts," added Vaid. by Tom Neal, editor andpublisher One of the consolations ofgrowing older is that every once in a while, something "right" happens you thought you might never see. Justice sometimes prevails. Forexample, in thelate 80’ s,my youngest brother spent some time in the then German "Democratic" Republic (the DDR in a program organized by the University of Oklahoma); and we wondered when, if ever, all of Germany would be one again. More recently, we’ ve seen Chilean murderer and former dictator, Gen. Pinochet, at least called tojustice-even ifhis age and the legal wrangling may prevent any real payment for his part in the systematic disaFpearance and murder of his own, and foreign, citizens. So too, the decision of the Georgia Supreme Court to say that the apparatus of the State, here Georgia, has no compelling, legitimate interest in regulating the private, consensual sexual conduct of adults. Since Georgia’s law was the impetus for the wretched, horribly reasoned US Supreme Court case, Bowers v. Hardwick, to have the law undermined by its home state constitution is sweet. But it is a bittersweet victory because Bowers still stands rendering Lesbian and Gay Americans lesser citizens under our own federal constitution. Like the 19th century Dred Scott Supreme Court decision that legitimized slavery, Bowers will someday fall. But its decision, (based on primarily on the logic that this behavior, oral and anal sex, has always been despisedandtherefore, based on popular revulsion, should be un- titan constitutional, tliough note that though de~ - - Spised, a lotof "them" are doing it too) continues to butlress anti-Lesbian and Gay decisions, like child custody battles where the Gay parent lives in a state where "sodomy" is illegal. What I like about this column is its flexibility to write ¯ . . it’s been both ~unny and l~tter to learn that former Georgia Attorney General Michael Bowers during the very time in whleh he was defending the Georgia "sodomy" statute was himself breaking a different Georgia law by haGn~ an adulterous affair. Obdously, all animals are equal but some are more e~ual otherS. ¯ ABC’ s 20/20programhas never run a story critical of ¯ nuclear power. Come to find out, the show’ s producer ¯ Victor Neufeld’ s wife works for the nuclear industry. ¯ Rupert Murdoeh, an ultra right wing activist, (he initially offered Newt Gingrich a mulfmi!lion dollar about any number of things without necessarily having to pun them together into a completely coherent argument. So be forewarned that this may wander. Sent via the Internet: "Morality is what you do when nobody is looking." - Oklahoma’ s own Congressman, The Reverend J.C. Watts (R-OK) - who has fathered two children out of wedlock. Indeed. Also from our e-mail regarding the so-called "liberal media": a 1996 Nexis search of sources used by major newspapers and broadcasters, show that 7,776 medi~ citations were used from conservative think tanks (with Heritage Foundation topping the list); 4,665 from centrist think tanks; and 1,837fromliberal think tanks. That means the news media used sources from conservatives 54% of the time, centrists 33% .and liberals 13%. KABC, anABCaffiliate in Los Angeles refused to air any anti-war protest stories during the Gulf war. This from staffers inside the station. : book deal thru his H,ar)pe_r Collins publishing firm), owns the entire Fox media conglomerate, the Fox telei visionnetwork andFox news channel. He also owns the New York Post,and TV Guide magazine. ¯ ABC’s David Brinldey had to apologize for making ¯¯* insulting remarks about President Clinton on the air during the 1996 election. He now is a spokesman for a ; multimillion dollar corporation. John Stossel, known : for his ultra-rightwing pro-corporate views is a regular reporter for ABC news. ¯ CBS canned a 60 minutes story on tobacco company : lies because ofpressure from upper management. NBC has squdched stories about boycotts of General Electric, its parent company. CNN has no one as far to the ¯ It is even more bitter now that we’ ve learned that : former Supreme Court Justice, the late Lewis Powell, ~ decided .that his vote, the"swing" votein Bowers (5-4), ¯ was a mistake. Powell never really seemed to understand the impact of his act since he also stated that his mistake never caused anyone any harm. Indeed. Also, it’ s been both funny and bitter to learn that former Georgia Attorney General Michael Bowers during the very time in which he was defending the Georgia "sodomy" statute was himself breaking a different Georgia law by having an adulterous affair. Obviously, all animals are equal but some are more equal than others - if I may paraphrase that line poorly. Here in Oklahoma, our Supreme Court had less courage or less commitment to fundamental constitutional rights. Oklahoma’s "crimes against nature" or "sodomy" statute was declared unconstitutional in 1986. And like the Georgia decision it involved heterosexual citizens rather than Gay ones. But our court chose to state explicitly that itwas only addressing the unconstitutionality of the law as it affectedheterosexual behavior. As Steve Scarborough, staff attorney, Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund, Southern Regional Office explained to TFN, it’s arbitrary, it’ s unfair but it’ s what we’ ve got until the statute’ s overturned in another statelevel case or until Bowers v. Hardwick is overturned at the federal level. The great thing is that’s going to happen. I don’ t know when, or exacdy how, but to quote that song of solace for both Black and Gay folk (and Black, Gay folk), "deep in my heart, I do believe, we shall overcome some day" Because the fssue here is not really whatfolks are doingin theirbedrooms but whether America’s promise, that all are created equal, is truly, truly what we believe. Left as Pat Buchanan is to the right on its nightly political show Crossfire. NBC’s reporter Pete Williams is a former Bush administration official. CBS’ s and ABC’ s Diane Sawyer was a Nixon administration insider before landing a job covering the news. Britt Hume of Fox News is a known conservative ideologue who used to play tennis with George Bush. _ PBS has many shows dedicated to covering corporate America - Nightly Business Report, Adam Smith’s Money World, Tony Brown’s Journal, Wall Street Week:etc., b~ut~noo’ s,hows dedicated to coveringconsum- .ers or laoor, r’t~ s tongest running show is Firing Line l~osted by ultra conservative William F. Buekley, the editor of the conservative National Review Magazine. Other shows hosted by conservatives regularly are:.One on One, The MeLaughlin Group and American Interests. Additionally, a show has been added to the PBS lineupthat is based on holier-than-thou conservative William Bennett’s book The Book of Virtues. ti Talk"ra’di° is.hosted almost exclusively by conservave talk snow hosts, headed by Rush Limbaugh, Ollie North, Larry Elder, Michael Reagan and G. Gordon Li’_d.dy. Former Republican presidential candidate and religious rightleader, PatRobertson, owns theChristian Broadcasting Network which airs nationwide. He also owns the Family Channel and a radio news service called Standard News. And those are just a few things to consider about our "liberal media" ~ except, of course, Tulsa FamilyNews which is proudly pro-Gay, moderate to progressive in our politics. Hats off to Tulsa Oklahonmns for Human Rights, the organization that provides our Gay CommRnity Center, formounting alarge and very visible sign onthe south face of The Pride Center. The sign can be seen well down Brookside as you travel north. TOHR president Steve Horn credits board member and volunteer, Ric Martin, for getting the sign done. Kudos to Ric and to Steve and see About, p. 14 Texas Sodomy Challenge HOUSTON (AP) - Two men found having sex in a private home pleaded no contest Friday to sodomy charges, initiating a legal challenge to the 119-yearold Texas law that bars Gay intercolarse. John Geddes Lawrence, 55, and Tyrone Garner, 31, were arrested for engaging in homosexual conduct on Sept. 17 when deputies- responding to a false report of an _ armed intruder - found them having consensual sex in Lawrence’ s apartment. Justice of the Peace Mike Parrott fined them $125 each. The men, who want to keep the case alive to fight the law, appealed the fine and posted appeal bonds of $332.50 each, which moves the case to state district court. "I hope that the law changes," Garner said. "I feel like my civil rights were violated and ! wash’ t doing anything wrong." The sodomy law makes homosexual oral and anal sex a misdemeanor, punishable by a fine of up to $500. Although on the books for more than a century, the law is rarely enforced. Gay activists have worked unsuccessfully for years to overturn the statute. Of the 19 states that have a sodomy statute barfing consensual anal or oral sex, Texas is one of five that specifically targets same-sex partners. The other four are Arkansas, Kansas, Missouri and Oklahoma, according to Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund Inc. of New York. United Church of Christ Leader Support Gays CLEVELAND (AP) -The head of the United Church of Christ has asked that a document he wrote supporting the acceptance of Gay ~md Bisexual people into the church and its clergy be read alou.d at services. The Rev. Paul H. Sherry, president of the 1.4-million member church, headquartered in Cleveland, mailed a pastoral document to his denomination’ s more than 6,000 churches. Sherry said he wrote the document in response to the Slaying of Matthew Shepard in Wyoming and other recent examples of anti-Gay sentiments that have been in the news. "The hatred exposed in the shocking murder of Matthew Shepard in Wyormng last month underscores the critical importance of this reflection and of the need for our voice to be heard," , " Sherry stated recently. The pastoral letter is titled "Now, No Condemnations," and supports the full participation of Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual persons in the membership and clergy of the church. "Knowing how challenging this issue can be for some in our churches, I hope it can be helpful to you in the exercise of your leadership, providing a way to initiate needed reflection, study and action," Sherry wrote in a letter accompanying the document. Kentucky Lesbian Fired LOUISVILLE, Ky. (AP) - The Kentucky Baptist Homes for Children fired a supervisor for being a Lesbian after co-workers saw her pictured with her partner in a photo contest at the Kentucky State Fair. The fired worker, Alicia Pedreira, said she acknowledged she was Gay when she applied for the job last May. Pedreira¯was dismissed Oct. 23 on the grounds that her"admitted Homosexual lifestyleis contrary to the Kentucky Baptist Homes for Children core valties." In the wake of Pedreira’ s firing, five other employees resigned in protest, and two universities decided to withdraw their studentsfromthe BaptistHomes for Children’ s programs. The picture of Pedreira that appeared in a contest at the state fair was takenby an amateurphotographer at alocalAIDS walk. Thepicture, whichshows Pedreira standing in front of partner Nance Goodman wearing an "Isle of Lesbos" t-shirt, was entered without Pedreira’ s consent. In an interview, Brenda Gray, a KBHC spokeswoman, said: "We strive to be fair in our dealings with all people, including, certainly, our employees. At the same time, it is important that we stay true to our Christian values. Homosexuality is alifestyle that would prohibit employment." Jack Cox, the home’ s manager until he quit over Pedreira’s firing, said Pedreira acknowledged she was Gay when she interviewed for the job as art therapist and supervisor at the Spring Meadows home for emotionally disturbed boys m eastern Jefferson County. Cox said he told her that wouldn’t be a problem, as long as she didn’ t talk about her private life at work. In a letter to Pedreira after her termination, Cox said that no one can be hired or fired at KBHC without approval of its president, William Smithwick. Citing privacy concerns, Gray, theKBHC spokeswoman, declined to elaborate on what promises, if any, where made to Pedreira when she was hired or whether Smithwick knew about her sexual orientation then. Pedrcira said when she returned to work from a vacation in August, she learned that several employees at the children’ s home had seen a picture of her and Goodman at the state fair and were discussing it at work. Cox said that his superiors contacted him and told him that they wanted Pedreira to resign. She refused. Pedreira said that KBHC. after initially saying she’d be fired, offered what she considered a demotion. She said she turned that down and was fired. She said she’ s still out of work. After Pedreira was terminated, Cox said he resigned, as did another supervisor; an employee who worked for Pedreira; and two clinical social workers. Cox said Pedreira’ s termination is contrary to the code of ethics of the National Association of Social Workers. "For me to continue to work for an agency that embraces that is against my ethics and personal belief," Cox said. Spalding University and the University of Louisville’s Kent School of Social Work said their students were leaving because discrimination against Gays is inconsistent with the ethics and ideals of social work. TheKBHC,a part of the Kentucky Baptist Convention, operates eight homes across the state for more than 3,000 emotionally disturbed children. Most of the children are placed th(re by the state. The KBHC received about $12 milhon ofits $15.6 million budget last year from state agencies, Gray said. The state can withhold money from private child-care contractors that discriminate against women, African-Americans and others who are protected by state and federal law. But, said Cary Willis, a spokesman for the Cabinetfor Families and Children, "We can’ t base any funding decisions on whether somebody discriminates based on sexual orientation." : California Marriage Ban Advances ¯ SACRAMENTO, Calif. (AP)-A proposal to declare ¯ that only marriages between a man and a woman ~ would be recognized as legal in California won a ¯ place on the state’ s prima~u¢ election ballot in 2000. ", The initiative was written by state Sen. Pete Knight, ¯ R-Palmdale. ¯ Knight’ s petition drive collected 677,000 signatures, of Which more than 482,000 were projected to : be valid voter signatures based on a random sam- ¯" piing. At least 433,269 voter signatures were needed to qualify the measure for the March 7, 2000 primary. ¯ Iowa Town Looks at ¯ Anti-Bias Measure ¯ CEDAR RAPIDS, Iowa (AP) - The Cedar Rapids ¯ Civil Rights Commission has agreed to recommend ¯ that the words "sexual orientation" be added to the : city’ s civil rights ordinance. 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Kate Brown, D-Portland, the newly elected Senate minority leader. She noted that the breakdown in the Senate is still 17- 13 in favor of the Republicans, so despite any influence she may have for civil rights issues, her caucus will still be outgunned. Brown said civil rights backers might have to settle for small steps, such as the last session’ s funding of a state coordinator to help prevent teen suicides, of which Gays make up a significant share. "We’re treading lightly," said Jean Harris of Basic Rights Oregon, thebiggest Gay civil rights organization in the state. She sees the group’s posture as a mainly defensive one. If the Legislature pushes an extreme right-wing bill on Gays "we’ll be there to prevent them from passing bad things... It’s a fight against the religious right-wing agenda." "We’ re sort of waiting to see how many anti-Gay things are going to come up and whether they’ 11 pass theemploymentbil! after23 years," Harris said. "The employment bill is the only thing on the front burner." The measure to outlaw discrimination against homosexuals in employment, first introduced in 1975, has been a key part of the civil rights lobbying efforts for years. The measure passed in the House in the 1997 Legislature but fell short of getting a Senate vote in the waning days of the session. ’.’I certainly feel that’s an unsolved issue out there," Brown said. "Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual people still are discriminated against in employment." But House Speaker-elect Lynn Snodgrass, R-Boring, who describes herself as a social conservative, said she doesn’t particularly want to spend time dealing with thorny social issues. "We need to focus on issues the people sent us here to do," she said. But added she’ll bow to the will of her caucus if the members want an issue advanced. Harriet Merck of Eugene, a Gay woman who works at the University of Oregon, said it’ s discouraging that "we still don’ t have an anti-employment discrimination bill." But she said she doesn’ t have too much hope of pro-Gay civil rights gains in the coming session. "You have to work what you have to work with in any given session," she said. " 1,000 in Chicago Counter Phelps Protest CHICAGO (AP) - More than 1,000 Gay-fights supporters surrounded a church where an anti-homosexual minister protested a marriage ceremony for two men conducted earlier this year. The Rev. Fred Phelps of the WestboroBaptistChurchofTopeka, Kan., and about 10 of his supporters gathered recently to protest a September marriage presided over by the Rev. Gregory Dell, pastor of the Broadway United Methodist Church. Gay civil rights supporters surrounded the church, gathered on rooftops, and held signs that read "Stop the Hate," in anticipation of Phelps and his followers. Phelps and his followers have engaged in anti-homosexual picketing around the country, including a demonstration at the funeral of Matthew Shepard, a Gay University of Wyoming student who was beaten to death in October. Chicago police surrounded the anti-Gay group with barricades as they gathered on a street comer facing the church. Phelps waved different anti-Gay signs throughout the demonstration. One signread "God Hates Fags." "This is tack3,, minimal, cheap, tawdry stuff," Phelps said in referring to those protesting against him and his followers. Midway through the demonstration, some Gay supporters approached Phelps and his group and were forced back by police. The anti-Gay demonstration ended whenPhelps andhis followers were escorted away by police. Phelps said he plans to return to Chicago in the next few weeks to continue the protests. "It’s unfortunate that individuals and groups carry the kind of hate and fear that these folks do," Dell said of the Kansas protesters. "But however offensive their message might be, the strength of community, justice and love is stronger." Dell performed the Gay marriage service despite a ban on such ceremonies that was inserted in his denomination’s "Book of I>iscipline" in August. The United Methodist Church will put Dell on trial next year for violating the ban. He could be defrocked. Is West Virginia Gov. Gay-Friendly? CHARLESTON, W.Va. (AP) - Gov. Cecil Underwood is exasmniDg several Gay civil rights initiatives and has not ruled out proposing legislation to enact them, his spokesman said recently. "Does it fit in his legislative agenda? That is being decided right now," Dan Page said. Underwood sent a letter to a Gay member of the state Republican Executive Committee saying he does not support a "quick fix" on discrimination issues. But he said "we shall examine very carefully the positions" Larry Tighe Of Wheeling had asked him to support. Tighe asked Underwood in September whether he stands by his 1996 campaign pledge to seek changes in state fair housing and human rights acts to make it illegal to discriminate against Lesbians and Gays. Underwood said then, "I am opposed to using sexual preference to discriminate. I feel they are entitled to the same-protection we offer everyone." Tighe asked Underwood specifically if he supports amending the state I-Iumun Rights Act to include aban against diseriminating againsthomosexuals in empl0yment,housing andpublic accommodation. The act now prohibits discrimination because of race, religion, color, nationality, sex and age. Opponents have said the additional language would give homosexuals special privileges. Supporters say it is necessary to protect homosexuals from growing violence. Tighe also asked whether Underwood would sign an executive order banning discrimination based on sexual orientation in state government employment and if he would support changing West Virginia hate crimes laws to protect homosexuals as a class. And he asked Underwood to include the proposals in his State of the State address in January. Underwood’s Nov. 20. reply, which Tighe received Monday, said, "My position on human rights issues is straightforward and unwavering: No West Virginia citizen should suffer discrimination for any reason. "We can realize the vision of Americaembodied within ourconstitutionby maintaining vigilance and fighting prejudice where we find it. We cannot and should not opt for a’ quick fix’ that touches only the surface of a problem," the governor’ s letter said. Page said Underwood’ s opposition to a "quick fix" does not necessarily mean he has rejected the legislation Tighe supports. "The governor believes the long-term solution is changing people’ s attitudes," he said, noting Underwood has established a commission to teach West Virginians about the Holocaust and has an initiative to promote better race relations. Underwood’s letter said, "We should work together to promote tolerance and understanding among all Americans, especially those citizens who would deny freedoms and opportunities to others... That is a long-term process that deserves our full attention." Underwood opposes same-sex marriage and has voted against ordaining Lesbians and Gays as ministers in the United Methodist Church. Rural Americans: Some HIV Ignorant i! ATLANTA (AP)-They had_unprotec~d.. sex withpartners ofthesameandoppostte sex, somclinlcs in exchange f~ .d~gs - yetmany neverlmew they were~il~ of gettiilg AIDS..I~,tervi.ews wire ~a~ infected pati__egts snow .tpat .s~e ¯ Americans still aren’ tgett~.gtttemessage about how AIDS is uansmitted, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported recently. _ . Despite theirrisky behavior, about~ never thought they were at risk of contracting the AIDS virus, theCDCsaid. Of those, roughly a third admitted they had notdeahow thevtrus was spread. ~learly it’ s the people who are engaging in the higher risk behaviors who appear not to be getting the basic information about transmission,"CDCepidemiologistAmy Lausky said Thursday-. "I guess we’d all like to think that, 10 to 15 years into the epidemic, people would know.how HIV is spread." Researchers interviewed608adults with HIV living in rural areas of Georgia, Florida, South Carol",ma. and Delaware. Asked why they didn t consider themselves at risk, 33% of men and 29% of women said they didn’t know how HIV was spread. Other reasons given included not tl~nking their sex partners were infected and the belief that only homosexuals and intravenous drug users contracted HIV. LTnprotected sex and cracl~’use were common among those interviewed. The CDC said it doesn, t know of any studies in which it asked urban HIV patients the same questions. Researchers noted that the vast majority of AIDS cases are concentrated in urban areas. AIDS cases in rural areas made up fewer than 10% ofthe 641~086 cases reported through 1997, the CDC said. ter. ’The disease also progresses faster" in females~ she sai& She also saidwomen and minorities are underrepresented in clinical tri~,s, ofnew AIDS and HIV treati ments, and There may be some biologi- : cal and genetic differences in how some people respond to the drugs." ! ~ Stone said everyonein her study had i -some health insur~ce, so she eliminated cost as a reason some were ~eated with protease inhibitors and others were not. i She said it appeared that patients were more likely to get the treatment if they knew about the drugs and asked for them. ’"Some said they had never heard of the therapy. Whites weremuchmorelikely to have heard of the new drugs," she said. Heterosexuals were less likely to get ~ the therapy because they often face the ~ ailment alone, she suggested. ",Many people get help through networks¯ Gays i have their networks and so do IV drug ¯. users,"she said. Heterosexuals withAIDS : usually are women who got the disease ¯ from having sex with men, who were or : had been drug-users or Bisexual. The : women often did not know anyone else ." with the diseas&, she said. ’~nis was sur- ¯¯ prising, but even IV drug users knew more about AIDS than these women/’ she : said. Of women with AIDS, 58% are ¯ black, she said. Nationally,43% ofAIDS ¯ patients are black; 36% are white, and . 20% are Hispanic, according to data pre- ¯ sented at the conference. i¯ HIVTreatments blot Available to All ALBANY, N.Y. (AP) - Physicians sometimes steer HIV-infected New Yorkers away from the best drug treatment regi: mens because they do not believe the patients are motivated or stable enough, a state-sponsoredpanel ofexperts has found. Health providers often saw. those with HIV as members of suspectpatient groups - immigrants, homeless people, inmates, ¯ the mentally and physically disabled - : and prescribed treatment accordingly, in- " stead of treating cases on an individual : basis, the group said. ¯ An HIV treatment plan "should not be ¯ based on presumptive judgments about ¯ people in any racial, ethnic, gender, age, ¯ riskor other category," thepanel declared. ¯ "The state of New York should ensure : that every person with HIV has access to ¯ basic health services as well as to provid- ¯ ers with HI¥ expertise," the group con- " cluded. ¯ The 44-member panel included physi- ¯ clans, medical ethicists, public health ex- ¯ perts and advocates for groups at highrisk of contracting the virus that causes AIDS, ¯ including Gay Men’s Health Crisis and ¯ Housing Works. It was formed in mid- " 1997 after reports surfaced that someHIV ¯ patients werereceivingless-than-op~dmum ¯ care because of who they are or because ¯ some doctors and other health care work- " ers were not up to speed on thelatest drug ¯ treatment methods. ¯ Dr. Guthrie Birkhead, director of the : state Health Department’s AIDS Institute : andco-chair of the panel, said the report : was thefirst ofits kindin theUnited States ¯ to examine the ethical issues involved ¯ with the complicated drug treatments : which have evolved for HIV and AIDS ¯ patients. Those treatments have become ". especially prevalent in the last three or ¯ four years. Problems with matching pa- : tients with optimum treatment regimens ¯ "are still not solved at this point" in New : York, Birkhead said. "It’s very important : not to make assumptions about people’s For Some, Less Access to Care BOSTON (AP) -Women, minorities and heterosexuals with AIDS are less likely than others to get a new and effective treatment, andignorance of the procedure may be one of the reasons, according to a new study, The situation maybe particularly bad for women, who, according to another report, may be more susceptible than men to HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. The reports were given at the "AIDS at the Millennium" conference sponsored by the Massachusetts Medical Society and Lemuel Shattuck Hospital. A study by Dr. Valerie Stone of the Brown University School of Medicine found that nearly three-quarters ofMassachusetts and Rhode Island men with AIDS got the three-drug, protease inhibitors treatment, but only half the afflictedwomendid. The study also found that 75% of whites with AIDS got the multi-drug, or "cocktail" treatment, but only 58% of blacks and 50%ofHlspanics did. Half ofheterosexuals withAIDS were being treated with the drugs, compared with 81% of Gays and 61% of those who contracted the disease through drug injections. The study was made at five sites, including community health centers and teaching hospitals. Protease inhibitors given in combinations have improved and prolonged the lives of many AIDS victims. New biological evidence suggests women may be more susceptible to HIV than men, said Dr. Deborah Cotton, director of AIDS clinical research at Boston Medical Cem John Serrot, MSW Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates Sandra Hill, M.s. National Certified Counselor Certified Hypnotherapist Psychotherapy & Clinical Consultation Sensitive to the Challenges of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgendered Individuals, Couples & Families. 2865 E. 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Often, the drugs can extend the lives of HIV-infected people for many years. Typically, HIV patients take three different drugs two to three times a day, Birkhead said. "For the average person, withoutany problems,keepingona(medication) scheduleis very difficult,"he said. With HIV and AIDS patients, doctors must recognize a whole series of related problems that can prevent medications frombeing taken, including havingproper refrigeration for the drugs and language barriers involving non-English speaking - HIV victims, the panel found. And,recent studies have shown that taking HIV drugs in proper doses and sequences is crucial because if some drugs are stopped, the body could develop immunities to them that will hasten the onset of AIDS. Thepanel ofexperts saiditis the duty of doctors and other health care providers to stay current about the latest drug treatments for HIV, to make them as widely available to patients as possible and to help get patients into situations where they will stick to a medicinal schedule. Patients, the panel said, have an obligation- to religiously take the drugs, to eat properly, to take other steps to maximize the effect of the medications and to otherwise aid in their own treatmentS. In cases where a patient "demonstrates an inability to initiate or maintain a treatment regimen" it may be "appropriate" for a health care provider to discontinue drug treatment, the panel concluded. Amemberofthepanel, Deunis DeLeon of the Latino Commission on AIDS, said he would like to see its recommendation that all NewYorkers have access to anonymous HIV testing become reality. ’There was not equal access to appropriate preand post-test counsding," DeLeon said. ’~3nce a person got tested, thefollow-up in terms of the medical referral was lacking, even in some major urban centers throughout the state." State health officials estimate that between 150,000 and 200,000 New Yorkers are HIV positive, believed to be the highest snch population in the nation. Quilt to Move to DC SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - The AIDS Memorial Quilt, a 52-ton symbol born in San Francisco as the deadly epidemic ravaged the city’s Gay community, appears to be headed permanently to Washmgton D.C. The board of the Names Project voted to begin searching for new executive offices and a place to store and display the quilt, which has grown to more. than 100,000 pounds of cloth and imagery. The vote has not been formally announced, but Names Project Executive Director Andy lives told the San Francisco Examiner the move won’t happen for several years. ’XDbviously there is a strong emotional tie to San Francisco, birthplace of the quilt,"he said. "But what began 10 years ago as an ad hoc response to this tragedy has become an icon and the No. 1 AIDS prevention .and education tool in the country. "My position is that logistically, we belong in the nation’s capital... None of us has any interest in having the quilt be this musty, dusty relic stored on shelves:. 2’ The Names Project intends to keepits original storefront space at Castro and Market streets, where the local chapter displays a segment of the quilt. There are 52 US chapters. ~The quilt was the concept of AIDS activist Cleve Jones during a candlelight march on Nov. 27, 1985 honoring slain Supervisor Harvey Milk and Mayor GeorgeMoscone. Heaskedfellow marchers to write on pieces of cardboard ~the names of lovers and friends claimed by AIDS. When the marchers covered the Federal Building with their placards, "it looked like a patchwork quilt of lives cruelly cut short," Jones said. ’~ understand what they’re trying to do," said Mike Salinas, news editor of the Bay Area Reporter, a Gay newspaper. "Relocating to Washington will let them reach a broader audience of visitors from around the globe, many of whom are in desperate need of better AIDS education." World AIDS Watch: Indian Youth MANESAR, India (AP) --Hard as it is to talk about sex with young people, involving them in AIDS education is crucial to preventing the spread ofthe sexually transmitteddisease, communityworkers, health experts andyoungpeople themselves said. ’Young people have an enormous curiosity about sex. So let’s build an information systemaroundthem," saidLN. Balaji, chiefofplanning ofUNICEF, India, which is organizing a four-day workshop on the role of youth in fighting AIDS epidemic and HIV, the virus that causes the fatal disease: People in their teens and 20s who act as. health activists in their own communities in 17 countries are attending the workshop. They’ll return home with new ideas about education and counteracting discrimination against thosewho have the disease. About 1.7 million people in Africa. and 700,000 others in Asia and the Pacific are infected with HIV every year, according to United Nations statistics. Indiaaccounts for the most cases in the world, at 4 million. One half million of the victims in India are young people. Their number will rise if young people do not have access to information, skills and services to fight the problem, Balaji told a news conference in Manesar, a town near New Delhi. Many participants in the UNICEF conference said youth in their countries are unable to discuss sex with their elders because of societal taboos. They usually endup gettingbadinformationfrompeers or reading pornographic literature or experimenting with unsafe sex. In India, school principals balked at the idea of health experts talking to studentsabout drugs, sex or even problems of youth. ’Talking about sex was considered outrageous," said Gunjan Shah, one of the 4,000 students and teachers trained by Sevadham Trust, a voluntary orgamzation in Pune that is helping spread the message of AIDS. Sevadham volunteers slowly persuaded authorities to talk to teachers. "Soon, they were saying’ This is exactly what we want.’ From then, there was no problem." Today, nearly all public and private schools in Ptme and many others in Bombay have asked Sevadham to conduct training for their staff. That ruling came in a federal lawsuit filed by a homosexual who had been arrested under the Georgia law, Which carried a maximum sentence of 20 ysars. ’This is a symbolic victory," said David Smith, a spokesman for the Gay civil rights group, The Human Rights Alliance. "It sends a message - the demise of the Georgia sodomy law that was upheld by the U.S. Supreme Court will hopefully be a precursor to the U.S. Supreme Court invalidating all thenation’ s sodomy laws." Three other states - Kentucky, Tennessee, and Pennsylvania - have recently overturned such laws. ’This would help the continuation of this trend," Emory constitutional law professor Robert Schapiro said. Even though the law applied to both heterosexual and homosexual activity, it was seen as an example of discrimination against homosexuals. The law "has made Gays and Lesbians a target for unjust police action in the past and unjust prosecution. Wehope with this, that will come to an end," said Harry Knox, interim director of the Georgia Equality Project Foundation. Powell, formerly of Norcross, spent 14 months injail beforemakingbail last year pending his appeal. "I don’t really espouse’ the Gay lifestyle,’ but’I:understand their point of view," said Powell, whose defense was helped by Lambda Defense and Education Fund, aGay andHIV rights advocacy group. Powell is now living in Shreveport, La. Theruling cannotbe appealed, because the GeorgiaSupreme Courtis theultimate authority on the state’ s constitution. Legislators wouldhave to amend the constitution to pass a similar law. FormerAttorney General Michael Bowers, who defended the law before the U.S. Supreme Court in the 1986 case, said he was surprised by the ruling. "I can’ t imagine how. they can make such a ruling... I would be very surprised if you don’ t see a legislative move to alter that." The 1986 case involved a challenge by Michael Hardwick, a Gay Atlanta bartender who was arrested for committing sodomy in his home. Prosecutors later dropped the charge..Hardwick, who died of AIDS in 1991, sued state officials to have the law declared unconstitutional. The Georgia Supreme Court never ruled on Hardwick’s case because his suit was filed in federal court. In the lone dissent to the ruling, Justice George H, Carley wrote that the majority misconstrued the state constitution and "’usurped the legislative authority of the General Assembly to establish the public policy of this state." Carley said the Georgia Constitution contains "no express recognition of a right to privacy." The antisodomy law was upheld by the state Supreme Court in 1996, but that case turned on the solicitation of sodomy, not the act itself. Eighteen states still have laws against sodomy. Louisiana has such a law. It is under state court challenge and a judge’s ruling is pending. Thosechallenging these laws in various states now have ’Tuel and ammunition see Georgia, p. 14 to fight the battle," said Powell’ s attorney Steven H. Sadow. The following are excerpts from the majority and dissenting opinions: The majority opinion was written by Chief Justice Robert Benham: ’q~he right of privacy has a long and NationsBank Presents Tulsa Ballet’s The Nutcracker The Holiday Magic Retums in 14 Performances Tickets Now on Sale! T u L S A ~*’0 P E RA Carol L. Crawford General Director MINI-SEASON PACKAGE Two Great Operas- One Low Price! Subscribe Now! TULSA PHILHARMONIC Handel’s Messiah TULSA ORATORIO CHORUS Conducted by EDWARD BYROM Branch Theatre, Holland Hall December 3 & 4,1998 at 8PM Sponsored by Omni Medical Group. A Gospel Christmas Tulsa’s All Star Gospel Choir Proudly Sponsored by Parade of Lights. Come celebrate the spirit of tile holiday season at the PSO Christmas Parade of Lights. 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Meet at Zeigler Park, 3903 West 4th. Pride Rides from the Pride Center, 3749 S. Peoria. Write for winter schedule. lfyour organization is not listed, please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615. by Adam west " " " Tulsa City-County Library With the millenium close to an end, the rate of novels dealing with the subject are sure to skyrocket. Some wise individuals got onto the trend early, though, and one of these is British science fiction author Elizabeth Hand. Due to my intense love of sci-fi, I was recently asked to review this bookfor theTulsaCity-County Library system in response to a customer’s request to have the book withdrawn from our shelves. Customer objections to material are always taken seriously, and so I found myselfreading this The Glimmering looking for evidence of obscenity in its rather graphic sexual scenes. Before you run out and snatch this one off the shelves, let me warn you - the sex scenes aren’t that graphic, and what’s worse, they’re written with little, attention to the beauty of the written word and an inordinate amount of pornlevel vulgarity. Hand is inept at writing worthwhile erotica, but there are other reasons to devote some time to this dismrbing and elegant novel. For those ofyouwho dislike sci-fi, you should know that this book is more speculative fiction (along the lines of Marge Pierey) than science fiction. There are no aliens here, only some premature advances in technology and some lessthan- scientific consequences. This novel should not be enjoyed for its sci-fi aspects anyway. The real beauty of The Glimmering shines through its characters, thanother note to the style, The Glimmering is in split-focus, with every other chapter altemating between two protagonists, Jack and Trip. It is only near the end that everything comes together, but keep reading- the coalescent result is smooth and logical (albeit extremdy coincidental). Jack is a forty-something gay man dying of AIDS; who finds an unlikely cure called Fusax. Trip Marlowe is a teenage Christian Rock idol who loses his faith ¯when he discovers sex and the female body. The two characters could hardly be reached a sagebrush-strewn area at the foot of the Laramie Range where the dying Shepard was found 18 hours later. DeBree said that McKinney was asked if Shepard begged for his life and the defendant replied: "Well, yeah- he was getting the (expletive) beat out of him." The autopsy showed that the 5-foot-2- inch Shepard was struck in the head about 18 times, prosecutor Cal Rerucha said. Officers testified that Shepard’s face was caked with blood - except where it had been partially washeddeanby tears. They said his wrists were bound so tightly, it was difficult to cut the rope. Explaining the violence, McKinney told his girlfriend, Kristin Price, "’Well, you know how I feel about Gays,"’ Police Detective Ben Fritzen testified. And DeBree said McKinney repeatedly re- : in more polar opposition. While Jack is : noble, dignified and worldly, Trip brings : self-absorption, infantile behavior and ig- ¯ norance to new lows. The chapters focus- : ing on-Trip will probably be tedious for For those d you who dislike sei-fi, you should know that this book iS more speeulative fietlon... There are no aliens here... This novel should not be enjoyed for its sei-fi azpeets anyway. The real beauty of The Gl;mmer~ng shines through its characters. anyone with depth, although he does have his looks and a misguidedinnocentloyalty (to the girl he impregnates) to save him from complete inanity. It is nldmately the character of Jack that makes this book so important. Jack constanfly berates himself for being selfish, but he is horribly mistaken. Jack comes from wealth, and in the political destabilization of 1999,his home is one of the few havens availablein thenovel. Thoughmost of his family’s money is gone, he maintains the upstate New Yorkestatein order to give his aging grandmother comfort and provide his friends with a secure getaway in times of need. Jack undertakes a sort of spiritual journey that we all sometimes feel a need for: the process of remembering what is important in our lives. Jack longs for health and sex and stability, but what he really needs is’the "knowledge thathe has had a positive impact in the lives ofthe people he loves: It’s not a complicated lesson, but for some reason it escapes most of us, most of the time. I’m aware that I haven’t given you a great amount 6f detail about this particu- ¯ lar story, and my descriptions of the characters are rather vague, but that really can’t be helped. Although ElizabethHand has a complete lack of skill with erotica, her ability to create elegant, complex stones and characters and weave them together so intricately with her plot is superb. To tell you much more about the characters would reveal too much of the progression of the plot. Read this one before the millenium ends. It’s not going to be accurate, but you’ll have plenty of ideas to consider on December31 st, 1999. Adam West is an associate with Tulsa City-County Library System and an OSU alumnus. He is not now and never has been Batman. ferred to Shepard as "queer" and "faggot." McKinney sat expressionless for most of the five-hour hearing, smiling once or twice when he spoke with l’us attorneys. Shepard’s parents, Dennis and Judy Shepard, sat in the front row, his mother crying when a deputy identified photo- ., graphs of her son in the hospital. ¯ Public defender Dion Custis said the ¯ state failed to meet its burden ofproof that " the murder was planned and said Shepard ¯ was not kidnapped, but went willingly. A ¯ watch, money and other property left at ¯ the crime scene showed that robbery was ¯¯ not a factoreither, he said. Ms. Price, 18, and Henderson’s girl- : friend, Chasity Vera Pasley, 20, will be ¯ arraigned Dec. 9 on accessory after the ¯ fact to first-degree murder. Henderson ¯ and McKinney are being held without ¯ bond. Rerucha has not yet indicated if he ¯ will seek the death penalty. -Kelly Kirby CPA,. PC Certified Public Accountant, a professional corporation Lesbians and Gay men face many speciaJ tax situations whether single or as coupleS. Call us for help with your year round tax needs. 7’4 7 - 5 4 6 6 4021 S. 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We have the waitresses well trained by now, and they know that any time we come in after l0 a.m., they’d better put aside a slice of the coconut creme pie for us, because we always eat a piece whenever we’ re in for luncheon. This coconut pie is wonderful. Made from scratch - none of that coconut-flavored vanilla pudding stuff - with a classic creme patisserie-style recipe,it’ s lovingly poured into adreamy, flakey, flavorful, lardpastry shell, and topped with clouds of real whipped cream. It’ s not a snooty coconut tart from a New York City bistro cooked by a cook with a bad French accent. It’ s just a plain old piece of good old Oklahoma pie. Phill’s Diner, located just east of Harvard on 32rid Street, serves up a lot of plain ,old .good Oklahoma cooking. In fact, it s such a classic, that when we’re ¯ .entertaining out-of-town performing artists in for a gig with the Phil or the Ballet or the Opera, and they want some "Oklahoma fOod," this is where weend up. Only open for breakfast and lunch, phill’ s is a classic diner. Blue plate specials. Biscuits andgravy. Basichamburgers and fries. Chicken fried steak. Homemade cinnamon rolls that sell out almost every morning. Sirloin steak and egg breakfasts. And, unlike other popular diners in Tulsa, Phill’ s hash’ t succumbed to being trendy. It’ s still a neighborhood place,marketing mostlyby wordofmouth. But, you have to remember that this is a low key kind of place. Vinyl banquettes havethe occasional tapepatch. Sodafountain bar stools face a functioning service area. Glasses are plastic. Dinnerware is mismatched - and includes the sundry remnants of an IHOP going out of bnsi~ heSS sale. There is nothing pretentious about this place. On a recent visit, we decided to have the grilled liver and onions, which, with a simple Iceberg salad, two,~egetables (cho- Two-thirds of U.S. volunteers will re- ¯ sen from the chalkboard), and a basketful : of-freshly baked dinner rolls, only cost : $4.99. Theliver, an easy meat to over- . e~ok, was nicely done, and our only corn- : plaint was that we got a few onions from ¯ the outside stem-end of the bulb which were a bit papery. Our companion opted for the chicken fried steak, which cost just a little moreat $5.69. His steak filled the plate, and the aroma was wonderful. Phill’s recipe includes abitmore than a hint of garlic, and the steak was very satisfying. : The green beans with bacon were heavily ¯ seasoned with black pepper, and that is ¯ almostatrademarkcharacteristicofPhill’s : food. He likes things to have seasoning. ¯¯ Somemay not like things so "spicy," but, with his tendency to use exotic ingredi- ." ents like salt, pepper, butter, onions, gar- ¯ lic, and bacon, we find the spicing charm- : ing - kind of like visiting a friend’s : mother’s house for supper. Another great time to visit Phill’ s is for ¯" a late breakfast on a Saturday or Sunday ’. morning. The chalkboard specials almost : alwayshaveanmterestmg *orunch food, ¯ ~uch asMalibu French toast (French toast ¯ with orange marmalade), an avocado, ¯ bacon, and cheddar cheese omelette, and, ¯ for those who like corned beef, a hefty , serving of eggs and hash. Prices vary, generally in the $4-5 range. Huge, fluffy ¯ hotcakes are also apopularmorningitem, : with one ample cake going for $1.29, and ¯ two for $2.29. If you really think you can ¯ eat it all, they also have a triple stack for ." $3.29 (but eating like that is not going to ¯ help youfitinthosenew bicycling shorts). ¯ And, in the best Southerntradition, one ¯ can also order a brealffast side order of ¯ sliced tomatoes forjust99 cents. After all, ¯ it isn’ t breakfast without tonaatoes. ¯ Whenthe autunm weatherbegins to get ¯ more of a nip in the air, we’ 11 be looking ¯ forward to several other Phill’s staples. ¯ especially his homemade Irish stew and his pinto beans with ham. A big bowl of ¯ one of these ($1.99 cup, $2.99 bowl) and ¯ a basketful of his cornbread is more than ¯ enough to refuel on a chilly afternoon. ." Phill’ s slogan is, "home of good food." : Go to Phill’ s. You’ II feel at home. Andthe ¯ food certainly is good. : I Editor’s note: Mary Schepers. our Do- "I It-Yourself-Dyke is taking this month : off, and so we bring you this review by Jean-Pierre Legrandbouchewhichfirst ". ran tn our November 1997 issue. ceive the vaccine. Richter said the Tulsa trial has enrolled about 12 volunteers but can enroll as many as 150. No women have enrolled yet. Volunteers receive free shots and about $40 to help with transportation, Richter said. Lysight said Tulsa has a large Gay community, making it an ideal.site for the study. He said he has known at least 15 people who died of AIDS complications within the past seven years. Study volunteers commit to participatefor three years. They receive three injections of the genetically engineeredvaccine over several months. Those are followed up with a Phill’ slogan is, "home of goocq food." Go to Phill’ . You’ll feel at home¯ And the food certainly is good. series of booster shots. The vaccine uses : engineered copies of a protein found on ." the outer coating of the HIV virus. It is ¯ designed toprompt theimmune system to : make antibodies, which can attack invad- ¯ ing viruses before they infecthealthy cells. ¯ Lysight said he hopes to help pave the ¯ way for avaccinethat blocks HIV the way ~ today’s vaccines target small pox or ¯ chicken pox. "Until there is a vaccine or : anything to help it. nobody will want to : accept what the problem is," he said. : Local AIDSgroups and the Tulsa City- County Health Department are collabo- : rating on the project and will assist’in : recruiting trial volunteers. Other cities in ¯ the study include New York, Chicago, St. Louis, Denver, Philadelphia and sites in "- Florida, Texas and California. by Esther Rothblum I recently talked with a group of five young women in a Vermont high school about what it means to be Lesbian, Bi, or questionning. These women students - and a teacher- have been meeting weekly in their school after hours. Hard as it may be for us older Lesbians to believe, but such groups are a part of all high schools in the Burlington, Vermont area. The women were proud that their classmates hadjust voted in (500 in favor, 100 against) a club to be called the "Gay and Straight Alliance." As one woman said "what was so good about the process was that it was so out there, and an explanation went along with it, so .... ~bool life is not wlthout harassment, ¯ . . Another woman, who is Bisexual, has been called a "dyke"by another student. Als0, students in their high school will refer to something they don’t llke as "gay," as in "thatdress is so people knew it wasn’t just a Gay thing." In fact, one of the club’s organizers received a school medal for her efforts. BUt school life is not without harassment. One student said: "Yesterday, a kid came up to me and said ’I would really, appreciate it if you didn’t make out with" other girls in the hallways.’ I’ve never done anything like that in school." Another woman, who is Bisexual, has been called a "dyke" by another student: Also, students in their high school will refer to something they don’t like as "gay," as in "that dress, is so gay.’" The women I interviewed were aware of internalized homophobia as well. One woman said: "In eighth grade there was this kid that everyone said he was Gay. He couples’ request to overturn the prohibition. In legal briefsand arguments to the court, they said mamage historically has been defined as a union between a man and a woman because same-sex couples can’t biologically bear children. ’‘To say (otherwise) would be to say there’ s absolutely no connection between marriage and procreation," said Assistant Attorney General Eve Jacobs-Camahan. "It’s a unique social institution based on the sexual communion of a man and a woman." Vermont is now the only state with a Supreme Court considering the question of Gay marriages. In last month’s elections, voters in Hawaii and Alaska essentially overturned court rulings that were moving toward legalizing such unions. Robinson said refusing to allow samegender couples to marry was as discriminatory as bans on interracial marriage, firstoverturnedby the CaliforniaSupreme Court in 1948. "The parallels between that case and this case are striking," she said. In 1948, proponents of California’ s interracial ban used many of the same arguments as Gay marriage opponents today, such .as the promotion of procreation, she said. But Assistant Attorney General Timothy Tomasi said bothmen and women are given the right to marry, and a court redefining it would cut into the rights of the Legislature. ’‘There’ s no benefit given to ¯¯ had a very hard time with harassment. Then when I came out my freshman year, ¯ hestartedmaking fun ofm!! I said to him: : ’Don’t yon remember how-bad it felt ¯ when everyone made fun of you?’ He said: ’But I wasn’t and you are." In s,o,me ways, I was his revenge. Another woman was concerned about how her heterosexual friend would be viewed. She said: "I think mybeing fairly out in school affected her. We used to sit together in class and spend a lot of time together. We’ve been friends since kindergarten. I think the fact that we were so close actually negalively affectedher, with people assuming that she was Gay as well. I found myself pulling away from her so that she wouldn’t be stereotyped. I wanted her to be able to find a boyfriend and be happy; I didn’t want her harasssed." In some ways, being Gay is viewed as trendy in their school, but only when it refers to female students, mostly those who are Bisexual. But the women I interviewed felt that trends are viewed as a phase, and their classmates wonder When this particular trend will finalh, be over. "My friends thought I was a "~oser’ because I told them that I was Bi," said one woman. Esther Rothblum teaches Psychology at the University ofVermont andEditor of the Journal ofLesbian Studies. Ske can be reached at Dewey Hall, Univ. of Vt., Burlington or: esther.rothblum@uvm.edu males that isn’ t given to females," he said. The lawsuit challenges a 1975 rulingby the state’ s attorney general advising town clerks that Vermont law defined civil marriage as a union between a "bride and a groom," in effect prohibiting same-sex couples from marrying. Ten groups, ~ncluding a coalition of other states, wrote briefs supporting Attorney General William Sorrell’s definition. Seven other groups have filed arguments that contend Vermont" s Constitution guarantees Gays the same rights to marriage as heterosexuals. Hordes of people showed to watch the arguments. Folding chairs were setup and the court, for the first time ever, required tickets to get in the building. They were snatched up the moment doors opened, hours b.efore the scheduled arguments. From the point of view of the couples, who found themselves at the center of a national debate and sat in a front row, the arguments couldn’t come soon enough. 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He shyly informed me that his name was now Tio. "But what happened to Tio?" I asked, confused. Tio, I thought, was the helpful son of my neighbors Vani and Kaisaia. Joshua, or rather now Tio, drawing in the dirt with his big toe, told me that Tio was now called Kamuti. But this was equally confusing. Kamuti - or so I had memorized - was an older, childless man who lived in a. rattletrap hut at the end of the village. I pestered people in my rudimentary Pidgin English until they" helped me understand that old Kamuti, sensing death, had just adopted 20-someflfing Tio who took his name. This left open the Ameriean Gay culture includes several drag naming traditions. Much of the attraetlon of drag comes from its eonstruetlon of hyper-femlnlnlty - an image of perfected womanhood that no real female could, in reality, obtain. This is why RuPaul and Barble are twins - they both are way beyond female reality. name-"Tio" that the former Joshua assumed. Men’s names on this island are really titles. They emplace individuals within a structure of kinship groups. Each nmne. moreover, comes with rights to certain land plots. Joshua’s father had more sons than nmnes to give out, so the bob was making do with the European "’Joshua" until a landed personal title (like Tio) freed up. Persona! names in Iankab,ar thus link individuals into land-holding kinship ~oups which are the basic building blocks of island society. AnthropoloNsts study personal naming systems in order to learn more about people’ s understandings of selfhood, and of the ways in which they conceive of individuality and society. In many cultures, people may have several names at once, or may take on additional names as they go throughlife. ,americans are familiar with first names, middle names, nicknames, family or surnames, pen names, stage names, and aliases; and the majority of ~american women still change their familynames at marriage (as Hillary went from Rodham, to Clinton, to Rodham Clinton). Still, people in other societies may have far more opportunities than we do to collect various names or to swap one name for another In some cultures, each time an individual enters a new phase of life (childhood, adulthood, old.age), he takes a different name. In classic Chinese society, important men acquired "death names"; because, dead, you ate a changed person and you need a different name. The Japanese borrowed this custom which is why theformerEmperor!tirohito is now called Showa. Elsewhere, people takenew names after important events in their lives, such as surviving a major illness. In Samoaand other Polynesian cultures, people commonly have several names, one of which may be a tide. Names are context dependent- people call one another by whichever of their names best fits the occasion. Most American names are gendered; some are male, others female. It is not surprising, therefore, that transgendered individuals, and drag queens, almost always acquire new names as part of their transformed personality. Something similar to Samoa’s context-governed names occurs here with American cross-dressers and drag artists. When you meet up with your friend, do you use his boy name or his gift name? This mostly depends on where you are at the moment and also, of course, what s/he’s wearing. Personal nmnes in Iankahar give men rights to family and land; here in America they give us rights to be, and to act, male or female. American Gay cnlture includes Several drag naming traditions. Much of the attraction of drag comes from its construction of hyper-femininity - an image ofperfected womanhood that no real female could, in reality, obtain. This is why RuPaul and Barbie are twins - they both are way beyond female reality. One drag naming tradition is the hyper-feminine. Here, the queens take on Barbie-ish names. I surfed through a number of drag queen websites on the Internet (yes, those gifts are online) and turned up hyper-ladylike names such as Zhanna, Monique, Vaunessa, Cookky, Felicity, Chynna, Windy, Misty De Mute, and so on. Sometimes these names pair with the drag equivalent of a surname. There are named drag houses in many cities, and a daughter takes the family name of her drag-mother (and sometimes also drag-father). This creates a structure of ficdve kinship that anthropologists call matrilineal descent. There is a second, comic naming tradition in American drag. Her~ the queens celebrate the carnival foundations of their art. There are ancient and widespread associations of masking and naughtiness in Western culture, as all of us learn very young ("Trick-or-Treat, smell my feet!"). Those sly queens adore bad puns. My quick tour of the web discovered Miss Pencil Vania, Charity Kaesse, Paige Turner, Evian Water, Sister Dana van Iquity, and of course Hedda Lettuce. And I’m sure you can bring many coarser examples to mind. But,just like people in Vanuatu, China, and Samoa, the more names you have, .the more you are. Lamont Lindstrom teaches anthropology at the University of Tulsa. e-mail: lindstroml@centum.utulsa.edu PFLAG Parents, Family & Friends of Lesbians & Gays Tulsa Area Chapter POB 52800, Tulsa 74152 749-4901 distingnished history in Georgia. In 1905, this court expressly recognized that Geor~ gia citizens have a ’liberty of privacy’ guaranteed by the Georgia constitutional provision which declares that no person shall be deprived of liberty except by due process of law... This court has determined that a citizen’ s right to privacy is strong enough to withstand a variety of attempts by the State to intrude in the citizen’s life." "v~re cannot think of any other activity ¯ .that reasonable persons would rank as more private and more deserving of proteetion from governmental interference ~consensual, private, adult sexual ac- :~tivity. :. We’conclude that such activityis at the heart of the Georgia Constitution’ s protection of the right of privacy." ’q’he State fulfills its role in preventing sexual assaults and shielding and protecting the public from sexual acts by the enactment of criminal statutes prohibiting such conduct... The only possible purpose for the statute is to regulate the private conduct of consenting adults, the public gains nobenefit, and the individual is unduly oppressedby the invasion of the right to privacy. Consequently, we must conclude that the legislation exceeds the permissible bounds of police power." "In undertaking, the judiciary’ s constitutional duty, it is not the prerogative of members of the judiciary to base decisions on their personal notions of morality. Indeed, if wewere called upon to pass upon the propriety of the conduct herein, we would not condone it... While many believe that acts of sodomy, even those involving consenting adults, are morally reprehensible, this repugnance alone does not create a compelling justification for state regulation of the activity." "We agree with our fellow jurists that legislative enactments setting ’social majority’ are not exempt from judicial review testing their constitutional mettle." The minori~ opinion was written by Justice George H. Carley: "Clearly, Powell has no right under the federal constitution to engage in the act. .. since there is no fundamental right ¯ . under theConstitution ofthe United States ~ to engage in consensual sodomy." 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Earlier testimony indicated Shepard was singled out party because he was Gay. Ms. Pasley’s boyfriend, Russell Arthur Henderson, 21, and another man, Aaron James.iMcKinney, 21, are accused of first-degree murder, kidnapping and aggravated robbery. Both pleaded innocent and will be tried separately next year. McKiuney’s girlfriend, Kristen LeAnn Price, 19, was ¯ Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Location-~ i Tulsa Plans 1st Ever Pride Parade, 18th Pride Picnic ¯ TULSA - For a number of years, Oklahoma’s only Gay Pride ¯" Paradehas beenin Oklahoma City. But this year that will change. 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Major sponsors will receive high visibility in all event materials (program, t-shirts, and other promotional materials). Withmore corporate support, organizers hope to provide a tent otherwise, have been quite successful in bringing also charged with accessory after the fact to first-degree for better shelter from the heat ¢and murder. !~Is. Pricepleaded innocent and will go on ~rial .. e ’ " " ...... ~:~:- ’ " ’~ - potentially, any rain).Also ¯ theCentertothe~attent~onofmor,epeople,localan& Ma,, 24¯ Afithorities said "~’e w"<’~ ~’o~2~ a;~rZ’ ~x ~.~ "-’ xpa~ea-:..ente~tamment,~s-p~annea with lon~fim~ TUfsa dive, ~" ou~50f-towners. Oat~V~0~ ~dso S~id ~hat financial : fundraiser and community activist. Miss Kris Kohl helping to support for the Center is up though many more bloody clothing worn by Henderson. ¯ orgamze those efforts. For more information, call Ric Martin. members need to join in order to reach their goal of Tulsa! At the hearing, posecutor Cal Rerncha told District Judge Jeffrey A. Donnell that if Pasley’s case had gone to trial, the state would have produced evidence to indicateHenderson and McKinneyhad attacked Shepard with "premeditated malice," and "inflicted pain and torture On this individual." "Pleadings for his life fell on deaf ears," Rerucha said. see Shepard, p. 10 Oregon Bans Workplace Bias SALEM, Ore. (AP) - A December Oregon Court of Appeals ruling has effectively outlawedjob discrimination based on sexual orientation across the state, state officials said. The ruling involved a lawsuit by three lesbian employees at Oregon Health Sciences University who claimed their domestic partners were entitled to benefits. Though the school began offering such benefits last June, the court nailed down the university’s obligations. State government also began offering gay partner benefits to its 45,000 employees in June. The "denial of insurance benefits to the unmarried partners of its homosexual employees" violated the equal protection provisions of the Oregon Constitution, said a unanimous three-judge panel. The state attorney general’s office said the ruling puts sexual orientation on the same level as gendeT discriminat~ ion. ’q’his tells Oregonians that discrimination based on sexual orientation in employment, public and private, is illegal," said Deputy Attorney General David Schuman. Basic Rights Oregon, see Oregon, p. 10 DIRECTORY/LETrERS P. 2 EDITORIAL P. 3 US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P. 6 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 BOOK REVIEW P. 10 DO-IT-YOURSELF-DYKE P. 11 DYKE PSYCHE ~ P. 12 GAY STUDIES: ANTHROPOLOGY P. 13 CLASSIFIEDS + WEERWOLF P. 14 ¯ parade chair, or 2vfitchell Savage, picnic chair, at 743-4297. ¯ Law Group .To Offer Gay Issues Sem,nar ,n OKC ¯ OKLAHOMA CITY-OLGLA, the Oklahoma Lesbian and Gay Law Associauon will present a Continuing Legal Educatioh seminar this next March (date and location to be announced), "WhereAreWe &Vvqaere DoWeGo From Here- How to Handle ; Lesbian and Gay Law Issues", in Oklahoma City. Featured speakers will be longtime Lesbian political and legal activist, Paula Ettelbrick. Ettelbrick was formerly the Legal Director for Lambda Legal Defense and Education" Fund, a national civil ¯ fights litigation organizauon. She now selwes as Legislative Comisel for the Empire State Pride Agenda, a statewide Lesbian ." andGaypolitical organization in the State ofNew York. Ettelbrick also teaches "Sexuality and the La~ at the Umversxty of Michigan Law School and New York University Law School. She will speak on "Legislatively Lawyering?" : Also speaking will be Suzanne Goldberg, a staff attorney for ¯ Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund who has been involved in numerous cases involving the legal rights of Lesbian and Gay citizens. Currently she is representing several Arkansas ¯ citizens in a challenge to the Arkansas "’sodomy" law. She is also ¯" counsel in the case of Equality Foundation of Greater Cincinnati ¯ v. City ofCincinnati, to contest an anti-gayballotmeasure similar to Colorado,s Amendment 2, which was struck down by the U.S. Supreme Court in Romer v. Evans. Ms. Goldberg’s CLE topic is ¯ "’Update on Legal Issues Affecting Lesbians and Gays". ¯ Other topics will include, "’EmploymentDiscriminationAgainst Lesbians and Gays," "Jury Nullification of Legal Protections for ¯ Lesbians and Gays," and "Best Interest of the Child: Custody ¯ Issues for Lesbian and Gay Parents.’" Jimmy Goodman of Crowe & Dunlevv’s Oklahoma City ¯ office and Kerry Lewis from Rhodes, Hieron’ymus, Jones, Tucker & Gable in Tulsa will moderate the sessions¯ The OLGLA is a statewide organization for attorneys who are ¯ supportive ofthelegal issues facing Lesbians and Gays.-Formore ¯ inlbmaation, call Kerry Lewis at 918-582-1173. PrideCenter Served With Eviction Notice TULSA - The Pride Center, Tulsa’s Gay & Lesbian Community Center, has been served with an eviction notice by its landlord. TheCenter, which is a program of Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, Inc. (TOHR) a tax-exempt, educational not-for-profit corporation, was charged by the new building owners with violating its lease by hanging new vinyl signs on the south and west faces of the upper floor, stated Center spokesperson, Greg Gatewood. The signs read,"Gay Commumty Center and Pride Store, Benefiting The Gay Communit)-". Gatewood, who is a member of the TOHR board of directors, indicated that the lease did require getting .prior permission for any building signs from the building owner, and that the owner alleges that permission was not requested. Gatewood also noted that the owner objected to the vinyl banner or "temporary" quality of the signs. He says the owner claims he has no objection to the content of the signs, i.e. their "Gayness." Gatewood did say that the organization has had a similar vinyl sign up without objection from the prior landlord until it was stolen and that other tenants have had a variety of similar signs up. However, on advice of their legal counsel, board members have removed the signs until they can hold a board meeting and determine a suitable response to the building owner. Some real estate observers have speculated that the move on the part of the new landlord may be motivated by the desire to move out a lower paying tenan! and lease the space at a higher rate. Gatewood said that the TOHR board will meet within the next two weeks. He added that the signs, 1,000 supporters by the end of the year. Red Rock Efforts for Gay Youth Expand TULSA - She has a familiar face but it’s in a new location. Lisa Pottorf, seen by many in Tulsa’s Lesbian and Gay co~mnunities as a guardian angel for Gay and Lesbian youngsters, is now with Red Rock Behavioral Health Services’ Tulsa office. Her position was formerly held by Betsy Murphy who came from Red Rock’s Oklahoma City programs to open their Tulsa office. The Tulsa office began a program for young adults that became known as O’RYAN, Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network, an outreach organization for Lesbian, Gay, Bi and questioning 18- 24 year olds. The organization later created a program called O’RYAN Jr. to provide support for youths from 14-18 years old. As part of the O’RYAN efforts, the group IS now holding a drop-in time at the Pride Center every Tuesday from 2:30 - 5pm. Pottoff acts much like a surrogate morn to most of those who attend the group, though she, as she ¯ ° puts it, is ably assisted by Ken Draper, who began ¯ working with the program as a volunteer. ¯ Red Rock also does free, confidential HIV test- . ing at the Pride Center on Tuesdays from 5-8 pm ¯ and at their offices at 1724 Fast Sth on Wednesdays ¯ from 5-8pm. Their office which is adjacent to the ¯ Center for the Physically Limited also provided ¯ mental health support for that organization. Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria *Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston *Jason’s Ddi, 15th & Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main ¯ *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd~ " 832-1269 592-2143 744-0896 599-9512 583-6666 749-4511 585-3134 599-7777 749-1563 744-4280 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 .6.60.-0856 584-1308 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Cellular 747-1508 *Affinity News, 8120 E. 21 610-8510 Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. 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Skelly 745-1111 *International .Tours 341-6866 Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. [5th 712-2750 *Jared’s Antiques, 1602 E. 15th 582~3018 David Kauskey, Country Club Barbering 747-0236. *Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070 Kelly Kirby, CPA, 4021 S. Harvard, #210 747-5466 *Living ArtSpace, 19 E. Brady 585-1234 *Midtown Theater, 319 E 3rd 584-3112 Miugo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 663-5934 *Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Place 664-2951 Novel Idea Bookstore, 51st & Harvard 747-6711 David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672 *Peace of Mind Bookstore, 1401 E. 15 583-1090 The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor 743-4297 Rainb0wz on the River B+B, POB 696, 74101 747-5932 Richard’s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617 Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921,747-4746 Christopher Spradling, attorney, 616 S. Main, #308 582-7748 *Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301 Paul Tay, Car Salesman 260-7829 *Tickled Pink, 3340 S. Peoria 697-0017 *Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria 742-2007 *Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis 481-0558 Fred Welch, LCSW, Counsding 743-1733 *Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767 Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & U niversities AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 4337, 74101 579-9593 *All Souls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Pe0iia 743-2363 Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 587-7314 Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center, 2207 E. 6 583-7815 *B/L/G/T Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Cir. 583-9780. *Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston 585-1201 *Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th P1. & Florence *Church ofthe Restoration UU, 1314 N.Greenwood 587-1314 *Community ofHope United Methodist, 2545 S. Yale 747-6300 *Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595 *Council Oak Men’s Chorale 585-COMC (2662) *Ddaware Playhouse, 1511 S. Delaware 712-1511 *Democratic Headquarters, 3930 E. 31 742-2457 Dignity/integrity of Tulsa - Lesbian & Gay Catholics & " Episcopalians, POB 701475,74170-1475 355-3140 *Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 *Free SpiritWomen’s Center, call for location&info: 587-4669 918.583.1248, fax: 583.4615, POB 4140, Tulsa. OK 74159 e-mall: TulsaNews@ earthlink.net website; http://users.aol.com/TulsaNews/ Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal Writers + e0ntributors: James Christjohn, Jean-Claude de Flambeauchaud Barry. Hensley, J.-P. Legrandbouche, Lamont Lindstrom Esther Rothblum, Mary Schepers, Adam West Member of The Associated Press Issued on or before the 1st of each month, the entire contents of this ~4uc,~blication are protected by US copyright 1998 by.TJ arid may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written pemaission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate a person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted,_rpust be signed & becomes the sole property of TJ.~ Each .reader is entitled to 4 copies of each edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827 Friends in Unit3’ Social Org., POB 8542, 74101 582-0438 *HIV ER Center, 4138 Chas. Page Blvd. 583-6611 *HIV Resource Consortium, 3507 E. Admiral 834-4194 ¯ *Holland Hall School, 5666 E. 81st 481-1111 ¯ HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education 834-8378 ¯¯ HIV Testing, Mon/Thurs. 7-9pm, daytime by appt. only *House of the Holy Spirit Minstries, 3210e So. Norwood ¯ Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 ¯ *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 ¯ NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral P1. 748-3111 ¯ NOW, Nat’l Org. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 365-5658 ¯ OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157 ." *Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960 ¯ PFLAG, POB 52800, 74152 749-4901 ¯ *Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674 ¯ *The Pride Center, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor, 74105 743-4297 Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 ¯ *R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195 Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 " 665-5174 ¯ *Red Rock Mental Center, 1724E. 8" ".~ .... 584-2325 ¯ O’RYAN, support group for 18-24 LGBT young adults ¯ O’RYAN, Jr. support group for 14z17 LGBT youth St. Aidan’s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati 425-7882 ¯ *St. Dunstan’s Episcopal, 5635 E. 71st 492-7140 ¯ *St. Jerome’s Parish Church, 205 W. King 582-3088 *Tulsa Area United Way, 1430 S. Boulder 583-7171 ¯ TNAAPP (Native American men), Indian Health Care 582-7225 ." Tulsa County Health Department, 4616 E. 15 595-4105 ¯ Confidential HIV Testing - by appt. on Thursdays only ¯ Tulsa Okla. for Human Rights, c/o The Pride Center 743-4297 ¯ T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222 : *Tulsa City Hall, GroundFloor Vestibule ¯ *Tulsa Community College Campuses ¯ *Rogers University (formerly UCT) ¯ BARTLESVILLE : *Bartlesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone 918-337-5353 ": OKLAHOMA CITY/NORMAN ¯ *Borders Books &Music, 3209NWExpressway 405848-2667 ¯ *Borders Books & Music, 300 Norman Center 405-573-4907 ¯ TAHLEQUAH ¯ *Stonewall League, call for information: 918-456-7900 ¯ *Tahlequah Unitarian-Universalist Church 918-456-7900 ¯ *Green Country AIDS Coalition, POB 1570 918-453-9360 : NSU School of Optometry, 1001 N. Grand : HIVtesting every other Tues. 5:30-8:30, call for dates ¯ EUREKA SPRINGS, ARKANSAS ¯ *Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy. 23 501-253-7734 *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457 DeVito’s Restaurimt, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807 ¯ *Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445 ¯ MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337 ¯ Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 501-253-2776 ¯ Old Jailhouse Lodging, 15 Montgomery 501-253-5332 ¯ Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-624-6646 ¯ Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001 : *White Light, 1 Center St. 501-253-4074 ¯ FAYETTEVILLE, ARKANSAS5 ¯ *Edna’s, 9 S. School Ave. 501-442-2845 ¯ JOPLIN, MISSOURI ¯ *Spirit of Christ MCC, 2639E. 32, Ste. U134 417-623-4696 ¯ * is where you can find TFN. Notall are Gay-owned butall are Gay-friendly. Remember Matthew Shepard by Donating Books to the University of Wyoming A Different Light bookstore is offering a unique way to honor Matthew Shepard. Customers can purchase any new hardcover book and donate it "In Memory of Matthew." The collection of books will then be sent to the Universtiy ofWyoming, where Shepard was a student. Each donated book will have a bookplate stating, ’q’his .book was donated inmemory ofMatthew Shepard: 1976-1998." A list of suggested titles is available at the store, including books specifically requested by the University of Wyoming library. A Different Light is at 8853 Santa Monica Boulevard in West Hollywood. For more details, call 310.854.6601. - via e-mail Editor’s note: A Different Light is one of the US’s oldest Gay & Lesbian independent bookstores with locations in Los Angeles and New York City. Scouting for All Dear Scouting For All Supporters, So far over this last year Scouting For All has collected dose to 28,000 signatures. My goal is one million. I am asking youall to standwithmeinmyeffort to end discrimination by the Boy Scouts of : America against Gay kids and adults. ¯ My dad and I, with the help of friends, : collecteddoseto3,000 signatures inNew ¯" York and over 5,000 signatures in San ¯ Francisco in just 3 days. Alex, a tender- : foot scout in the midwest who is support- ~ ing me, collectb,d 400 signatures himsdf. : Alex is 12 years old! ¯ Every signature helps and represents’a ¯ voice of protest. If we really want to see : this policy of discrimination change I am ] asking all of you to step up our efforts of : getting signatures. I am asking each of ¯ you to collect at least 100 signatures. ~ By collecting signatures you also edu- : cate thepublic thatagreat youthorganiza- ¯ tion in America, the Boy Scouts of : America, has one thing wrong about it. -" It teaches us scouts to discriminate against people who they say are different - who they say don’t have family values. How can the Boy Scouts of America say that?They mustnotknow any Gay people like I do. If they did they’d change their policy against Gays tomorrow. I am asking your help to make the Boy Scouts a better program that’s for all kids. To getblank copies ofthepetition, go to out website at: http://www.scouting~forall.org/ petition.htm and print out as many copies as you need. There’s an address at the bottom where you can mail completed petitions back to US. I’m proud to be a scout. I’m just doing whattheBoy Scouts ofAmericahas taught me to do, to help make the earth a better place for all people-notjustsomepeople. Thanks. - Steven Cozza 13 year-old Life Rank Scout Letters Policy Tulsa Family News wdcomes letters on issues which we’ve covered or on issues ~ you think need to be considered. Youmay ¯ request that your name be withhdd but ¯ letters mustbe signed&have phonenum- "- bers, or be hand delivered. 200 word letters are preferred. Letters to other publi- ¯ cations will be printed as is appropriate. by Tom Neal, publisher & editor To those who’ve been watching Brookside’ s increasingly upscale redevelopment, it should come as little surprise that The Pride Center would be threatened with eviction. Since it opened, one local developerandhis partners havemade the old John Zink industrial site (about a mile south of the Center) into moderately expensive homesites, office and retail spaces. Across the street from the Center, an old warehouse was renovated into a trendy bakery and fancy medical offices. The success of Brookside’s north end dearly is spurring developers to move south along Peoria. Therefore, when the building in which the Pride Center is located was sold recently to owners associated with the Brook Restaurant, it struck some as ’~andwriting on the wall". The current tenants, most of whom are on limited budgets, were likely to get priced out as the new owner sought to renovate the spaces and lease them for more money. Few thought that this wguldhappenrightaway since the Center has a three year lease that began in late 1997. However, as the articleon page one indicates, the landlord claims that the Center organizers hung signs (Gay Community Center and Pride Store) in violation of their lease and thereforeheis seeking to break the lease. Center spokesman, Greg Gatewood says that the owner claims he is not troubled by the content of the signs (i.e. Gay) but rather the quality of the signs (vinyl versus some othe~material) and lack of prior permission. Center organizers note that these signs were not new but merely were replacements for earlier authorized signs whichhad been Stolen. Center organizers also note that other tenant businesses have similar vinyl signs. Obviously, as a non-profit organization, the Pride Center, and its parent organization, Tulsa Okl~i~omans for Human Rights, Inc. has limited funds for rent. The notion of a community center has been a challenge for Tulsa’s Gay and Lesbian community which often seems very, very fragmented. Support for the Center has, frankly, not been what it should be. Fortunately, that has been changing. Slowly, people have been realizing that .the Center is thtre. In fa~t; the Signs~:liavebeen successful,in attracting new locals and out-of-towners to the Center. No doubt, Center organizers and their capable legal comasel will do their best to resolve this matter in a manner that is fair to all parties. Andhopefully, anti=Gay bias is not really part of the issue. But the lesson we need to draw from this is that weneed to startnow onabuilding fundendowment with which we can own our space. Then any decisions to move will be ours. Some will say that is unrealistic- that we don’t have the resources. They said much the same about the Pride Center once. Frankly, there are individuals in our community who could substantially underwrite such an endowment. I won’t name names, though many of you know them wall enough. In the larger community, there are also resources such as the newly formed. Tulsa Community Foundation spearheaded by banker George Kaiser. This new organization is drawing on the resources and generosity of some of Tulsa’s mostprominentfamilies andbusinesses, Schusterman, Bank of Oklahoma, Williams, Zarrow, Bartmann, Bama Cos., Helmerich & Payne, etc. just to mention specifically the families and businesses that have ties to Gay Tulsans. Kaiser has said that he supports treating Lesbian and Gay Tulsans fairly and implied that this foundation would likely do.the same. Let us contrast this with Tulsa Area United Way’s funding of organizations, like the homophobic Boy Scouts ofAmerica, whichpromotes religiously-basedpreju- At a national level, there are foundations that will specifically assist Lesbian and Gay groups or projects, such as the Kellogg Foundation, the Ford Foundation and the Gill Foundation. The latter should be high priority for Tulsans since it specifically targets "rural" projects and Foundation guidelines classify anything under 1.5 million as rural ! And it can’t hurt that several prominent Tulsans now claim close ties to Tim Gill, creator ofQuark software and founder of the Gill Foundation. However, to get from here to there, we are going to have to start seeing a future. Too often we’ve just reacted to one assault or another, whether it was a directly physical one, the ongoing emotional battering that just being Gay in America entails, or the bullying and/or cowardice of our elected officials. Now is the time to build for our future. If you want to help the Community Center, call 743- GAYS (4297). It’sasadcommentary on our fine state that the annual : gathering of "our elected representatives" should be ¯ fraught with dread by Oklahoma’s Lesbian and Gay ." citizens, our families and our friends. We know we can count on at least one or two virulently anti-Gay bills. These usually are patently unconsfitutonal but they’ll get the votes of all but one or two ofmembers of the Oklahoma House because those members are too cowardly to vote for anything that resembles treating Gay Oklahomans like equal human being. Fortunately, usually the Oklahoma Senate behaves more wisely. And Cimarron Alliance, despite having entirely too many pretentious queens formy taste (note that I’m not referring toits Tulsa representatives), is beginning to do some good at least with Democratic Party leaders. Some of this is just the result of money - no matter what the politicians say, political donations do buy the ears of most politicians. Don’t believe me? Look at the source ofpolitical dollars, then look at who benefits from majority of those votes. progress. Now here’s what you can do to make a difference: Cimarron reports that Oklahoma House leadership has Cimarron . . . is beginning to do some good at lca~t w~tk Democratlc Party leader~. Some of tlds is just the result ot~ money - no matter what tke dPoonlalttm.icnlasndsosabyu,y the cars o~ most pollt-ldans. Don’t believe me~ Look at tke source o~ political dollars, then look at who benefits., . made several committee chair assignments to fair minded individuals. In particular, one committee which is often the gate through which anti-Gay legislation passes, has been assigned to Tulsan Betty Boyd. Mrs. Boyd, known to many in Tulsa for her work as a television journalist, needs to hear from us. A few years ago, interviewing her after she (and every other member of the House save one) voted for an anti-Gay bill, she said that the.call fromTFN was literally the first she’d received about Lesbianand Gay issues. This, despite the fact that I personally know a" number ofher Lesbian and Gay constituents~ Bottom line: you won’t be represented unless you call!!! The other thing you can do is to send Cimarron some money. Many of us have little to spare and many of us wonder if becoming a member of the Cimarron PAC (political action committee) at.$20 a month is "do-able." However, the Cimarron Foun- But just as much a part of what’s helping dation, the tax-exempt group associated with at the Capitolis the ongoing work of a Cimarron officer, the PAC sets no minimum on donations. It is the entity Keith Smith who lobbies for several progressive orga- ¯ that sponsored the bus stop advertisements, "Gay or nizations. Smith and I have disagreed on issues before, ~ Straight, Everyone Deserves a Job" both here and in and may again, but it is his steady presence, quietly : Oklahoma City. Every bit helps. So when you’re thinkvoicing the concerns of Lesbian and Gay Oklahomans ¯ ing about buying that new sweater, CD, or going out to as he does his other work, that has won us some. ¯ eat again, consider w.hat price our freedom is worth. by James Christjohn . " much later. I suddenly wasn’t able tO breathe, and the ThisChrislmas Eve, somethinghappenedthatehanged~ ". cal~ .tiaras.t. had .gotten~me .tO ~that pointvevaporate& 1 my life~ Iwascelebrating the holiday with friends, and ." started hyperventilating. About this time, my phone suddenly felt compelled to return to my rang - it was Tom, readytocomegetme, and apartment. I didn’t have to; I could have I called 911. askingaslewofquestious.Inbetweengasps stayed the night, but it was important to Looking back, of air, I told him "I’m fine, you don’t need return to that place. I got home, noticed a I can laugh -"I’m (gasp) to come (gasp) get me. (gasp) I’ll be strange smellin theentry hall. Acrid, almost in a smoRe ~illed over (gasp) after (gasp) while." So he said, oily. I entered my abode, and thought "Boy, apartment, at doubtfully, "OK... Grab what you need and do I need to dean my glasses!" Then I come on over." looked over the frames, and saw that the xxyy street." 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Tulsa. to ignite. and~ou reinasmokefilledroomg."’".Ye.st.tl;"" and you’re in a I went into the apartment after the "Well, sir, if the room is smoke filled, oyou fire folk sucked out some of the smoke (yes, might want to vacate the premises." "I am smoke obvious place of one of my trademark reready to do just that, as soon as I get off the room.~’’ "Yes!!!" marks isn’t it?) and looked around. What to phone with you!" She got the hint. "~v’ell, sir, ff tke take?How does one decide? I wanted to take I left takingmycordless phone, andknock- room is smoke it all. Allthe gifts that are symbols of the ing on all the doors. No one came out, or ~iled, you mi~kt love and people that gave them to us; the even opened the door. I heard the sirens of prized possessions that we .surround ourthe fire trucks approaching. I calmly called want to vacate my landlord, and informed his answering tke premises." "I selves with, all symbols really, but symbols that remind us of who we are, and the ones machine of the events. I then called my ex, am ready to do we love. I settled on a picture morn sent me Tom, andleftamessageonhismachine.The just tlmt, as soon for Christmas - a photo ofme taken in 1970, fire folk arrived. (One of whom was very holding my prize possession at the time - a attractive funny wha! you notice under as I ~et off tke - diecastmodel ofChitty Chitty Bang Bang. It suchcircumstances.)They went throughmy pkone w~tk you.p’ was all I could think of to take at the time, apartment, and couldn’t find a fire-just lots Ske got tke ldnt. because I knew it was irreplaceable. And a of smoke. They looked in the attic, noting memento of a rare time in my childhood that the smoke was throughout the building. At that : when I was happy. So off I went. point, I thought, "What am I doing in here’?" I decided ¯ I never knew how devastating something like this to leave the building again, and then as I was going ¯ could be. Panic attacks are no small thing - I never down, both I and the hunky firefighter heard smoke : understood them until now. A smell reminiscent of that alarm, finally going off in the apartment below mine. ¯ smoke can tighten my chest to the point of not being They busted in the door, and smoke billowed out. " able to breathe. Tears come unbidden, for no reason. My worst fear is dying by fire - due to probably : Fear of being alone leads you to surround yourself with haviug been hiu-nt at the stake in a previous life. (Those :- people, to reassure yourself in some way that you are of you who know me will probably agree.) I had never ¯ alive, that you didn’t end up dying after all. It’s irratiohad a panic attack, so I didn’t know what hit me until " nal, you know it, see Viewpoint, p. 14 Utah to Look at m~}., ~hat no one is doing ~:m’~ < o~.v pcopb~ :}~~ouid i[ differenOy.’" Most hare crime taws. Suazo sad. es*ablish protected classes o~ people, saying m-~ o~- fender faces e~ced penalties if the victim is targeted due to ra~, et~q 06 gin, color, religious *’filia~ on or sexuN ofientanon. But 6e SNt ~e Democrat stud prosecutors have told ~m Ut~fs hate mine law - wNch went into eff~t in 1992 - is too vague ~d lacks tee6 because it does not define ~tegofies of prot~ted people. Ut~’s law Nlows fore~dpenNfies on ~sdeme, or offenses if ~e m~n~ intehds to imi~&te or tegofize someone~ddeprive them of 6eir constimfion~ rights. Su~o sNd ~at r~mres prosecutors to guess what is m 6e offender’s ~nd. "I don’t~you shoMd have to prove intent," he SNd. "It is ~fficMt m work wi~ 6e wW it r~ds." S~o stud leNslafive ~dysts have been reviewing 6e law to &leone what adjus~ ents coMd be made. He sNd he does ~fidpate a fight on Capitol Hill. StiR, ~nofity leaders like Willi~s sw a more defiN~ ve law is n~. She poifi)~ to sever~ lo~ ex~ples of hae tomes, including a cross bu~ng in Sdt~eCity ~at prompt~ federN ch~ges ~d filing of ch~ges agNnst a West Jor~ m~ for h~l~g raci~ slurs at a black womb. S~oa~d, saying people~nolonger ~ford to i~ore hate tomes. "We have to fa~ reNities. There ~e hate ~oups out 6ere ~genng people for e~cbackgro~d, cdor or lfestyle. Wen~d to face ~at fact." He sNd ~e reality is 6a U~~tomes bring pe~e~a~ ag~nst ~oups of people. "We ~’t duck Gay Mens’ Killer Gets 168 Year Sentence ALBUQUERQUE (AP) - A 20-year-old killer smirked after being told through an interpreter that he probably would spend the rest of his life in prison in the deaths of three Gay men. Ricardo Rodriguez was the first of four defendants to go on trial in the 1997 slayings. He was sentenced to the maximum term - 168 years - after he was convicted in November on 13 counts, including firstdegree murder and kidnapping. With three consecutive life sentences, each 30 years without parole, and three consecutive 18-year terms for tirst-degree kidnapping, "in ~1 likelihood Mr. Rodriguez will die in prison," stag prosecutor Jody Curran. The bodies of Victor Monzon, 41, and Jesus Contreras, 30, were foundbound, beaten and strangled in an Albuquerque motel in February 1997. The decomposed body of Osvaldo Travieso, 37, was found dumped along Interstate 25 near Santa Fe two weeks later. The four defendants were arrested m Salinas, Kan., driving Monzon’s car. Indian Police Harass Gays LUCKNOW, India (AP) - Police are preventing Gays from going to a park in the north Indian city of, LuCknow following protests from thepublic that they were having sex there, an official said Thursdw. Policemen have been posted at the GPO Park, a popular rendezvous for the city’s Gays, said police. spokesman R. S. Tomar. "Police will not allow male couples into the park if they kmow they are GWs... Pol icemen will ask them if they are Gay. If they hold hmxds or are demonstrative about their affection: we,ll suspect them of being Gay," he said in m~ interview State prosecutor S of parks violates :ivi; ri~i~vs, m~,> :.[i police ;krc pzoles[ the Dohcc Publicdisplay of a~ Iection cvcn b::~wecn a mm~ m~d a wom~m is rare in h:dia, where man} believe homosexuMs exists ouly in Westen~ nations Hawaii Marriage Update HONOLULU (AP) No further legislation is needed on same-sex marriage, according to the state attorney general" s office. Attoniey General Margery Bronster" s office submitted a brief to the state Supre~ne Court swing the consntutional amendinent approved bv voters last month validates the current state ban on same-sex mamage and that no further action is required. After the amendment was approved, the Supreme Court, Which is considering an appeal in the case, asked the state and attorneys for three Gay couples to submit briefs on how the amendment affects the case. Civil liberties attorney Dan Foley, who represents the couples, said he will submit a brief with a different op~mon. Senate Judiciary co-chairman Matt Matsunaga said le~slators will have to determine if approval of additional legislation.would help or hurt the attorney general’s case or make no difference. The Supreme Co.urt earlier ruled that the state’s ban on same-sex mamage ~s unconstatutional unless the state can show a compelling interest in Continuing the ban. During a subsequent trial, Circuit Judge Kevin Chang ruled that the state had failed to show a compelling reason for continuing the ban. The Supreme Court was considering the state’s appeal of that ruling, but put the case on hold pending outcome ofthe vote on the constitutional amendment. Two Banned Gay Books Restored BARRON, V¢is. (AP) - Two of four books banned because of vulgar language have been temporarily returned to school library shelves while educators search for a less explicit book on the same subject, homosexuality. The school board reached a compromise to restore thebooks,’q’woTeen-agers inTwenty" and "When Someone You Know Is Gay" for 90 days at the Barton High School library. School mediadirector Irene Cooley was directed tofind areplacement book dealing with homosexuality, but without profanity and vulgarity. The books and two others were banned because school board members said they contained profane language. At its meeting, the board voted to continue the ban on the other books, "Baby Be-bop" and "The Drowning of Stephan Jones." The books were removed permanently because of "’pervasively vulgar language, educational unsuitability and failure of the book to reflect the community’s values," said Superintendent Vita Sherry. About 60 people turned out for the board’s meeting, with the crowd about evenly divided on whether to maintain the bookban. "If we allow books with this language, should we allow our children to speak like this?" said one supporter of the ban, Bill Balz. Opponent Mike Urseth said the ban infringed on intellectual freedom. "In tiffs case, the freedom to learn," Urseth said. "Please put the books back on the shelf." Board members said their action on the books was based on complaints of profane language, not be: cause they deal with homosexuality. The American Civil Liberties [;mon of \Vi~c(msi~ ~onndation said ~n a statement ~t amic,,pates fili:..-t~ a ~’edera! lawsuit OKLAHOMA CO~LIN[CAT~ONS Want to ge~ involved? Need to get tested for HIV? Need a Coming Out Support Group? Call 743-GAYS the Pride Center 1307 E. 38th at Peoria, 2nd floor Your Gay Communi~ Center THE ANIMAL HOUSE Reptiles ¯ Birds ¯ Small Mammals Fish * Dog & Cat Supplies Grooming ° Pond Supplies 4414 S. 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A decision by that court could effect anti-sodomy laws on the books in 18 states, including Oklahoma, Kansas and Missouri. In the Texas case, John Lawrence, 55, and Tyrone Garner, 31, were arrested Sept. 17 in Lawrence’s apartment and charged with engaging in homosexual conduct, a misdemeanor. Both pleaded no contest last month, but appealed with a motion to quash the charges. Judge Sherman A. Ross dismissed the motions. Under an agreement reached with prosecutors, Lawrence and Garner again pleaded no contest. The judge fined them $200 each and allowed the immediate filing oftheir new appeals. The case may end up before the Supreme Court because Garner and Lawrence’s challenges are based on state and federal constitutional questions involving privacy rights. "I believe in the Constitution of the United States and I believe in the rights of all citizens," Lawrence said. "Would you like someone busting into your house?" Harris County deputies entered Lawrence’s apartment and found the men engaged in consensual sex. The deputies were res.ponding to a false report that someone was going crazy ~n the apartment and was armed with a gun, according to court documents. Although on the books for more than a century, the Texas sodomy law is rarely enforced. Gay activists hav( worked unsuccessfully for years to overturn the statute there and in 17 other states that have sodomy statutes barring consensual anal or oral sex. Five of those states, includingOklahoma, Kansas and Missouri, specifically ban sodomy between same-sex partners, according to Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund Inc., a Gay-rights group based in New York. The Georgia Supreme Court in November struck down that state’s sodomy law, following similar decisions by courts in Kentucky, Montana and Tennessee, and sodomy laws in Arkansas and Louisiana are under currently attack in state courts. Kansas" law was upheld as constitutional earlier this year after a three-judge panel of the state Court of Appeals refused to overturn a municipal court misdemeanor convicuon involving a Topeka man. Montana May Add Gays to Hate Crimes Law HELENA (AP) - Attorney General Joe Mazurek says he will proceed with plans to ask the 1999 Legislature to extend the state hate-crimes law to cover Gays and Lesbians. But the proposal faces opposition from conservatives, who say it would advance what they call "the homosexual agenda". Mazurek, a Democrat, is asking for two changes to the current hate-crimes law. First, sexual orientation would join the protected ranks of race, creed, religion, color, national origin and involvement in civil rights. And second, a harsher sentence would be allowed for those who commit a crime and choose their victim for those same reasons. "We hope this would prevent people from commitung what are already criminals acts against another person, solely because that person is Gay or Lesbian," said Mazurek. %~rhat we’re trying to do is ensure that people don’t become victims simply for something they believe in or a lifestyle they lead.’" The question of v~olence against Gays and Lesbians was stirred up this year after the murder in Laramie, Wyo., of Matthew Shepard, a University of Wyoming student who was openly Gay. Several human rights groups in Montana have said" the crime committed in Laramie could easily have happened here and anti-hate crime legislation is necessary to quash any notion that such crimes are acceptable. Similar attempts have failed in past legislative sessions. But this group of lawmakers may be more willing to make the change, one Republican leader said. "I want to keep an openmind about that 1 egislation," said Senate Majority Leader John Harp, R-K*dispel!. Harp said nobody could condone what happened to Shepard. Republican Gov. Marc Racicot has said he wonld sign anti-hate crime legislation that protects homosexuals. But the proposed changes will not come without opposition. Arlette Randash, a Helena resident who works as a lobbyist for the socially conservative Eagle Forum, said her group will fight against the measures. She said the changes are not needed because such acts already are illegal, and she sees the proposed change as a furtherance of a homosexual agenda. "I believe that hate crime legislation, in large part, is being used as a front to move the homosexual agenda forward so It is accepted by people as an accepted standard in our community," she added. Also, Randash said, "We don’t give people special status based on behavior alone." On the other hand, Mazurek said, it’s essential to let people know hate-driven actions aren’t acceptable. "We as a society are saying we are tolerant of people’s views and lifestyles," said Mazurek. Gay Man Assaulted in Rhode Island PROVIDENCE,R.I. (AP)-Twomenwere charged with a hate crime in the assault of a man leaving a Gay and Lesbian bar in Providence. On Nov. 26, 19-year-old David E. Sheldon of East Providence and 18-year-old Taylor Grenier of Warren allegedly initiated the attack by yelling anti-Gay slurs at Diana Obidowski, The Providence Journal reported. Police report that the two teens had gotten bored at a party in East Providence and had driven downtown. When they saw Obidowski, they got out of their car, ran to him, knocked him down and kicked him in the head and ribs, police said. When Obidowski tried to run, the teens allegedly knocked him down agmn, kicked him and punched him in the. face. The incident ended when two Providence police cruisers arrived. ¯ Obidowski, a 44-year-old Air Force veteran, was treated at the Veterans Administration Medical Center in Providence. He had cuts that he said required 12 stitches. He was released the same day. Obidowski is a tall transvestite who wears ladies" size 13 shoes, but was not dressed as a woman on the night of the attack, television station WJAR in Cranston reported. The teens accused in the beating face simple assault charges in District Court under the state Hate Crimes Sentencing Act. The law, passed by the state legislature in July, requires offenders to receive sentences of at least 30 days in jail. Obidowski said he "’very, very impressed" with how police handled their investigation. ’qhey made me very comfortable," he told WJAR. There were 44 hate crimes last year, including 25 in Providence. According to Bay Windows, a Gay newspaper, there were at least six anti-Gay attacks in Providence last summer. Internet Bank to Target Gays and Lesbians PENSACOLA, Florida (AP) - When banks refused to finance his planned Gay and Lesbian resort, Steven Dunlap scrapped that idea and decided to start a financial institution that would welcome homosexuals instead of spurn them. The result is G and L Bank - the initials stand for Gay and Lesbian - expected to open here in the spring. Not only would it be the only bank in the United S tates catering specifically to homosexuals, itwould be one o,f the first operating primarily via the Internet. q’he whole deal is to take banking away from you having to go to the bank and let us bring the bank to you," Dunlap said. He envisions Gays and Lesbians as an entry market but not the bank’s sole customer base. "Just like Federal Express is doing to overnight delivery, I expect to be the No. 1 brandnamein the Interact banking arena," Dunlap said. Bold talk, but Dunlap, 42, has some unique business credentials to back it up. He went from selling watermelons see Bank, p. 11 Reporting May expenditures on patients. "Compared to what we spend on all Discourage Tests? ~nds of other things, it’s just not that ATLANTA(AP) - Some Gay men are muchmoney"for the governmentto spend, avoiding testing for theAIDS virus in part " said project co-director Dr. Samuel A. because they don’t want their names re- Bozzette, a health care researcher at ported to the federal government, accord- RAND, the Santa Monica, California, ing to a new study from the Centers for think tank overseeing the government- Disease Control and Prevention. sponsored research. The CDC said the survey, released re- The $20,000 tab is roughly one-third of cenfly, underscores the need to continue the estimates from the early 1990s, when government funding for anonymous HIV firm figures were hard to come by, and testing, even as the agency asks states to before the advent of AIDS drug cocktails start keeping names of people who get that have proven powerfnlly effective in treated for the virus that causes AIDS. fending off the disease and keeping pa- Earlier, theCDCpublishednew recom- tients out of the hospital. The stud)’ was mendafions in which it asked all states to ¯ conducted in 1996, just as the combinabegin reporting HIV cases either with the tion therapy was coming into widespread person’ s name or anidentifying code. The use. It found 55% of people being treated CDCsaystheinformationwillhdphealth for HIV were taking one of the newer officials track HIV cases before they be- AIDS drugs by December 1996. Doctors come full-blown AIDS. But some activ- ¯ >elieve use of the new drugs has since ists believe privacy concerns will steer risen sharply. some away from being tested at all. The study estimated that only half of all The CDC surveyed 556 people in nine American adults infected with the AIDS states in late 1995 and 1996 who were " virus saw their doctor at least once every considered at high risk forHIV but said six months. Many of those not getting they had not been tested, They included " are were unaware they were infected. homosexuals, intravenoUsdrug users and However, an encoura~ng 85% of those heterosexuals recruited from clinics for with full-blown AIDS were getting regusexually transmitted diseases. 19% said lar care, with most of them seeing AIDS not wanting their names reported was one specialists. reason they had not been tested. Only 2% Early treatment can slow the disease, said it was their main reason. Gay men extend’lifespan and save money by reducliving in states that already report~names ing hospitalizations. The study was pubwere more concerned about privacy. 35% lished in The New England Journal of of that group said name reporting was one Medicine. It was based on interviews of reasonthey avoidedtesting..Still, the.most 3,072 people treated in hospitals or doccommon reason for not getung te.stext ~.vas tots’ offices in dozens of urban and rural that people were afraid of learmng they -areas around the country. were .IV-positive. Arkansas Accused Ukraine to Provide of Poor HIV Care Free HIV Medicines LrrrLEROCKC’ P -Ifyouhav AIDS ment has ordered the free distribution of treatment for the deadly disease, Arkanmedicine to those infected with the HIV sas is a less than ideal place to be. The virus and AIDS, a news report noted. In a state is one of only ahandful that contrib~ recently released resolution, the Cabinet utes no money to help people with the also introduced free medical examina- AIDS virus buy thenew drugs for treating tions for .people suspected of carrying the disease, either through joint federal HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, the ¯ ~rograms or special state programs. It is one of 13 states that contributes no Interfaxnews agency reported. The report didnotspecifywhichmedicineswouldbe money to the joint federal-state AIDS distributed. Drug Assistance Program, according to The number of people infected with GaryRose, directorofpublicpolicyforan HIV in Ukraine, a nation of 50 million AIDS national network. Rose says Atpeople, has soared to 23,000 people, up kansas has the "worst ADAP program." from 18,500 in mid-1997, according to It is one of seven states - Arkansas, govemment statistics. 80%oftheinfeeted Alaska, Montana, North and South Dawere intravenous drug users, kota, Oregon and Wyoming - that con- ~l~ae official figure is larger than in any tributes no money specifically for the otherformer Soviet republic. Russia, with treatment ofAIDS and those with the HI¥ three times as many people, has reported virus that causes AIDS. Of those seven 10,283 eases, though the actual figure is states, all but Oregon have significantly thought to be higher, fewer AIDS patients than Arkansas, and In its resolution, the Cabinet also or- Oregon offers a special high-risk insurdered the Foreign Ministry.to-make sure ance program for AIDS patients, Rose that foreign .citizens staying in Ukraine says. Boiled down, Arkansas’ situation is for more than three months have docugrim, he adds. ments certifying they are not infected The Ryan White Center in Little Rock with HIV. Some 642 Ukrainians have helps patients buy drugs, but the center is contractedAIDS over thelast decade, and so strapped for money it has stopped takhalf of them have died, according to goving new cases. ’%Vhat can we do?" says emment data. Susan Goggans, the center’s director of client services. "We can’t afford to pay AIDS CaroCosts ¯ foreverybody-we’vereachedastopping ¯ point." Less Titan Tlaouglat " Theagen~y gets amonthly $30,270in AIDS Drug Assistance Program money Care for AIDS padents in the United " from the federal government. Usually, States is less expensive than generally : it’s gone on the first day of each month. In believed - about $20,000 per person per : addition, the center offers counseling, year, according to a new studY. 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Appointments made 8 a.m. to 7 p.m. M-F. Call us today at 58€-1233. Medical Excellence And Compass.ionate Care Since 1926. ST. JOHN MEDICAL CENTER Medical Excellence ¯ Compassionate Care tation assistance. Through the drug assistance program, each of the center’s 272 clients take drugs costingfrom $1,000-$2,000 every month. But federal help doesn’t go far enough to pay for the most expensive drugs, the protease inhibitors, and the center often relies on pharmaceutical companies’ patient assistance programs to provide the drugs for free. Goggans says that because Arkansas does not cover purchases of protease inhibitors, the Ryan White Center is in a "drug crisis." Patients taking the life-giving but expensive protease inhibitors often spend a large percentage of their time chasing the drugs - trying to eke out money from government agencies or get drugs donated from pharmaceutical companies. "It’s just not enough money," Goggans says. "We’re not doing what other states are doing. We’re not giving the best care we can." Since April 1997, the Center’s caseload has nearly doubled from 156 to 272 because more AIDS-HIV patients are seeking treatment and living longer. But the $30,270 in federal funds the local center receives through the Ryan White Care Act has remained the same since early 1997. SomeAIDS and HIV patientsotry to get their medical treatment covered by Medicaid’s medically needy program. But many have incomes considered too high. Patients must.reapply every three months and often are left without coverage during the weeks their applications are reviewed Also, patients can’t reapply before the ¯ three-month coverage period is over. and have to wait two week~ to-~a moffth - sometimeslonger until theircoverageis renewed. Dr. Henry Masters, fonner medical director for the health department’s AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases division. now treats more than 250 AIDS and HIV patients. Masters says the criteria to qualify for Medicaid were designed for people with one-time medical bills, not those with chronicillnesses. "I believe the Medicaid system that we are using to deal with HIV is the worst that could have ever been dremned up," Masters says. "It’s a very cumbersome program that results in people starting and stopping their HIV medicines. This is a recipe for disaster." If a patient on protease inhibitors takes a break from the drugs, HIV can mutate and re-establish itself in drug-resistant strains, making protease inlfibitors ineffective. Even if patients manage to get the drugs the)’ need between coverage periods. the not -knowing whether they’ll be covered in the future can be an all-consuming worry, Masters says¯ "It’s stressfnl and I think it actually worsens their immune function," Masters says. Officials with the state Human Services Department-acknowledge the pro~am isn’t perfect. Roy Jeffus, assistant director of the department’s Medical Services Division, says Arkansas may seek a Medicaid waiver that would all-ow patients with chronic diseases, such as AIDS, to qualify for Medicaid even if their income level or assets are too high. Also, Gary Horton, directorof the Health Department’s AIDS-STD Division, says the state next year expects to see a30% to 40% reduction in the price of drugs from .pharmaceutical companies. The state plans to reinvest the saved money in more drugs, including protease imhibitors, for an AIDS Dru/ Assistance Program, he says. In a&~i~iop.. ,’.he state will receive abou~ q~";:"o"tV,,’.!..’.)(0,: ) :uore ,ro~4 ~he icdc3:a! gcwemmerit for AIDS drugs next year, he says. The1998 federal budget for Arkansas’ AIDS Drug Assistance Program was $2.5 million. Colombians Stress Condom Use ¯ BOGOTA, Colombia (AP) - Size does ." matter- at least as far as ColombianAIDS : activists are concerned. The activists pa- ¯ raded an enormous inflated condom ~ through the streets of the country’s third largest city hoping to draw attention to the ¯ threat of AIDS. ’The idea is for people to ¯ realize that the disease exists, that it’s ¯ here, and that it represents a far greater ." threat than the condom we’re display- . ing,"Dr. John Jairo Palacio told reporters. ¯ Themockprophylactic, which weighed : roughly 3,000 pounds, stretched over a : half-mile down a holiday street fair in ¯ Call acity of two million inhabitants. ¯ The huge plastic condom was the idea ¯ of doctors specializing in sexually-trans- ¯ mitted diseases at the Santiago de Cali ¯ ¯ University and workers from drug rehabilitation programs. Palacio said the ¯ condom took two months to build at a cost ¯ $13,000, and was paid for by the univer- ¯ sity and a condom manufacturer. ¯ Homeless PLWA Changes Policy PORTLAND, Maine (AP) - It’s been a tough 3ear for Patrick Biggers since he was evicted from a homeless shelter in Ellsworth two days before Clmstmas beca~ ise he has the virus that causes AIDS. ,4 chef who worked at some of the uation’s finest restaurants, Biggers remains home- " les s and has been unable to return to work. He underwent triple bypass surgery three months ago. But unlike last year, Biggers, 36, was not alone on Christmas. And he takes comfort in knowing that somettfing good has emerged from his ordeal in Ellsworth: a policy to promote AIDS awareness and education that he hopes might become a model for shelters in Maine and across the country. The night of Dec. 23, 1997, when the manager of the Emmaus Center ordered Biggers to leave, remains etched in his memory. He was told that his HIV status posed a needless risk to residents and staff. Biggers said his "dangerous behavior" included talking about hi s condition, handling a coffee cup, setting the table, asking to pick up a baby and having sores on the back of his hands, even though there was no fresh blood in sight. The 22- bed shelter arranged to put him up temporarily in a hotel. AIDS activists directed him to the Mnerican Civil Liberties Union, which concluded that the Ea-nmaus Center violated the Americans with Disabilities Act by discriminating against him because he is HIV-posifive and has hepatitis C. The ACLU filed a complaint on Biggers’ behalf to the Maine Human Rights Commission, asking H.O.M.E. Inc.~ the non-profit operator of the Emmaus Center, to estab2 lish a non-discriminatory policy and be required to pay Biggers $10,000 in damages. The case was quickly settled. H.O.M.E., which had replaced the shelter manager even before the complaint was filed, did not dispute Biggers’ assertions and agreed to write a letter of apology, adopt the new policy and begin education and training. The agreemen~ set the s~a,,e.., for devdopmer_,t of a_. five-session I started to say that since it’s winter, Tulsa’s arts scene is happening big time but then if you think about it, pretty much ye.ar-round Tulsa is blessed with arts events of generally very good quality. Already early information is coming "out about spring and summerperformances, like Bartlesville’s annual OK Mozart Festival, now known for its world class perf0rmances. AndinTulsa,LOOK, Light OperaOklahoma is seeking 100 singers for its June 9-July 4th season presented in TU’s Kendall Hall. LOOKis holding auditions on Sat. Jan. 16 & Sun. Jan. 17 from 2-5pro in TU’s Tyrrell Hall, room 302. For more. information or to schedule an audition, call 583-4267. At the end of January, Philbrook will open two new exhibits, "Pure Vision: American Bead Artists" and "Beads: A Cross-Cultural Medium". The first show .will present 60 works by 28 artists. Theworks vary from moe traditional necklaces and bracelet forms to large-scale sculptures, constructions, and shrines. The exhibit was co-ordinated by Chris Knop Kallenberger and was curated by Sherry I~edy of the Leedy Gallery in Kansas City and B.J. Shegaki, director of the Rochester Arts Center in Minnesota. Local support is from Philbrook’s Contemporary Cousortium. The companion show will explore the use of beads in cultures from 15,000 BC Egyptian to ones from 100- 200ADSyrian to SpiroMound of 1,200 AD and 19th century North American Native works. Early in February, Tulsa Ballet will present three dances, The Green Table, Equinoxe, Jardi Taneat (Feb. 5 &6 at 8pro and Feb. 7 at3pm in the Chapman Music Hall of Tulsa’s Performing Arts Center). The Green Table, a critically acclaimed dance drama set in Germany during the rise of Adolph Hitler, is the center-. piece of the February program. Kurt Jooss’ ballet is as he intended it -- to show the world that the only w~nner of war is death. It opens With masked politicians sitting around a table in heated di scussion. Thereafter, war breaks out and in the end, the same politicians, wearing the same masks, are seated at the same table forgetting all the cruelties and casualties the war has caused. Paired with The Green Table will be twomoreOklahomapremieres thatpromise to provide an exceptional evemng of entertainment. James Canfield’ s Equinoxe recalls underwater images of sea creatures which gracefully move with the ocean’s ebb and flow and is set to a synthesizer score byJan-Michael Jarre. Canfield, ¯ a former dancer with Joffrey, is the Artistic Director at Oregon Ballet Theatre. Rounding out the program is Naco Duato’s Jardi Tancatwhichwas Duato’s first ballet,. choreographed for Nederlands Dans Theater in 1983. "Duato, the Artistic Director for the National Ballet of Spain, is one of the brightest stars in Europe and, in my opinion, one of the best choreographers in the world today," Tulsa Ballet’s .Artistic Director, Marcello Angelini related to TFN. "’He brings a new intensity to dance, a fluidity of movement never seen : before, and a new way to express emo- ¯ tions that is so deep, so powerful, it will : change your vision of dance." The ballet is a collection of Maye who was dubed by Ella Fitzgerald. "the greatest white female singer in the world," will present "A Tribute to Frank Sinatra" folk songs, based on ancient Spanish folk tales in which three couples are occupied with the sowing, planting and threshing of their barren land while asking God for water to make their crops grow. Jardi Tancat won Duato first prize at the International Choreographic"~ rorkshop inCologne. He has received recognition throughout Europe for his talents as a dancer and choreographer. ¯ Also early in February, extraordinary jazz vocalist, MarilynMaye, will perform at the PAC’ s JohnWilliams Theatre. Maye who was called by Ella Fitzgerald, "th,e, greatest white female singer in the world, will present "A Tribute to Frank Sinatra" in several shows Feb. 4-6 at Les Ballets Troekadero de Monte Carlo has delighted audlenees around the world. Parodying elassleal works from "Swan Lake" to "Giselle" and the choreography of Isadora Dunean, George Balanehine and Martha Graham, Les Troekaderos offer irresistible entertainment for dance afieionados - and complete novices. 8pm and Feb. 7 at 3pm. Maye began her careerin small clubs and cabarets but since has performed with orchestras from Tulsa to Phoenix to Philadelphia. She first appeared on television on the Steve Alien Show hnd appeared onJohnny Carson’s Tonight Show a record 76 times. Tulsa has a tradition of bringing the great female vocalists of our time and Maye’s appearance continues that. Last but not least the famed "drag" ballet, Les Ballets Trockadero de Monte Carlo will grace thePAC’s Chapman Music Hall on March 16, 1999. Dancing the fine line between high art and high camp, Les Ballets Trockadero de Monte Carlo has delighted audiences around the world. Parodying classical works from "Swan Lake" to "Giselle" and the choreography of Isadora Duncan, George Balanchine and Martha Graham, Les Trockaderos offer irresistible entertainment for dance aficionados - and complete novices. The troupe combines a knowledge of dance with a wicked comedic sensibility -- a buoyant and hilarious show. Girls (and you real girls too), you don’t want to miss this one at any cost! - TFN entertainment editor o in Oklahoma. 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Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library A few years ago, author Liza Ketchum wrote an award winning book for young adults titled Twelve Days in August. One character, Alex, touchedmany readers, and the author was swamped with requests to continue his_ story. Her new book, Blue Coyote, follows the teenage Alex and his family to yet another new home, this time in Vermont. Being a child of southern California, Alex isn’t too pleased with being stuck in Vdrmont. He’s had a difficult time making friends and doesn’t just miss the beach, but also his only tree, close friend, Tito. He and Tito had kept in touch with each other for awhile, but, suddenly, Tito’s letters stopped coming. Alex attempts to track him down, but Tito seems to have simply disappeared. Luckily, Alex’s father, a writer, has been offered work back in California, not far from Where they had once liyed. Amid some dissension Within the family, Alex and his father move back to California. ¯ This gives Alex a chance to try to locate Beln~ a child d southern Cal~ornla, Alex isn’t too pleased qth beln~ stueh in Vermont. He’s a difficult time mal~in~ friends and doesn’t just mlss the beach, but alsohls only true, dose friend, Tito. his long, lost best friend. This sets the stage for Alex to not only getinto avariety ofsituations inhis search for Tito, but also to realize that the trust and affection he has for his friend is actually infatuation. Eventually, Alex comes to the understanding that he is Gay, and there is quite a bit ofattention paid to the reaction of his family. It is interesting to see the different reactions of two families whenconfronted with Gay children, siblings and friends. Alex’s sister is an important character and positively handles the realization that both she and her brother had, at one time, had a crush on Tito. This is agoodbookfor adults and young adults alike. You need not have read Twelve Days in August before reading Blue Coyote. Although it does continue Alex’~ story, Blue Coyote stands alone well. There isn’t any graphic sex and only a few words that anyone could find offensive. This is a tame but provocative read. Check for Blue Coyote at your local, branch library, or call i_he Readers Services department at 596-7966. Better Than Ever, Pride Merchandise, Magazines & More 610-8510 8120 East 21 st (2lst+Memodal, next to Boot City) We buy back good used adult magazines. the largest gay ri,g,,hts group in the state, hailed the ruling. The state court gave us a ban on discrinfination in employment stronger than anything we could introduce in the Legislature in 23 years," said Jean Harris, executive director of the orgamzation. "We love it. We’ll take it." The court turned aside the university’s argument that it made benefits available on equal terms to all married employees. Thejudges said that reasomng misses the point because homosexuals cannot marry. "Accordingly, the benefits are not made available on equal terms. The~y are made available on terms that, for gay and lesbian couples, are a legal impossibility," the court said. The court concluded that homosexualg are a distinct class and that it’s beyond dispute that they "have been and continue to be the subject of adverse social and political stereotyping and prejudice." Rerucha said HendersonandMcKinney asked their girlfriends if they would provide an alibi for their whereabouts and "initially they did that." The alibi was "broken down by investigators" and testimony would have shown that the two women drove to Cheyenne 50 miles east - to dispose of clothing in a trash container and that Henderson’s bloody shoes were later placed in a relative’s storage shed in Laramie, Rerncha said. Ms. Pasldy had pleaded innocent two weeks earlier. At the end of the 17-minute heating, she was led from the court, head down, long hair hiding her face. No sentencing date was set, but Donnell indicated it would take about 45 days for a presentence report to be completed. Ms. Pa~e,’ faces up to three years in pr:~sou for the shelter’s staff that seeks to dispel myths about AIDS and clarify legal issues and disclosure reqmrements. "A lot of the discrimJnatiofi is based on fear and misinformation surrotmding these issues," said Mary Harney of the Down East AIDS Network. who helped develop the program. "There are still some people who think (HIV) can be passed by mosquitoes and that you can get it from a teacup if someone who has it has been drinking from that cup." Sister Lucille MacDonald, director of the Emmaus Center, acknowledged that the episode was stressful for everyone involved but said she was pleased .at how it was resolved. "We think a lot of important things will happen, education-wise, for residents and staff. That benefits all of us," she said. Biggers, who has struggled to get by on Social Security benefits, decided to forgo any financial recovery. ’’The goal was to change the policy," he said. "That was my goal from the very beginning.’" The ACLU said the impact of the settlement could spread beyond Hancock County and Maine, and perhaps be adopted by many shelters nationwide. "My guess is that the response will be good," said Matthew Coles, director of its AID!HIV Project in New York. "People who run homeless shelters are almostby definition good people who are trying to do something positive in the world and make it a better place. The problem is usually ignorance, not malice." Biggers, whose resttme includes some of Manhattan’s most acclaimed restaurants, was informed of the settlement as he prepared to spend Christmas Day alone for the second year in a row However after learning of his plight, the manager of a local restaurant invited hJlTl to join employees to help prepare the company’s am~ual Christmas dimaer for the needy. ’q’hafl!l be eA ce." Biggs sz&~. a~ter receiving the s~.~rpr~ s¢ ~,’eq-ue..;,:. ’q’d ike thaC We knowyou’re going to love this[ Restaurant & Cabaret 3 i0 East First Street 918-599-9949 Massage Therapy Services ~garO. Cruz, L.M.T. get: 918-889-5255 Voice Mail: 918-697-9282 Lic. #(34133 Country Club Barbering Custom Styling for Men & Women David Kauskey 33 i0 !. 51,,~t. 747-0236 Timothy W. 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Then, after comparing your dream against your checkbook balance, do you weep copious tears of disappointment? Weep not, child; you are not alone. YourDIYD shares your frustration and offers comfort. Not a miracle, but comfort. Remember that as we go along. Yes, your fairy Do- It-YoursdfDyke-y has a trick or two in her magic wand (minds out of the toybox, children!) that canhelp you muddlealong with your current kitchen until you can save up and move up to something more delicious. It involves our pesky old friend, Elbow Grease, and dreams deferred, but the results of a kitchen face lift can Are you depressed, d~rllngs, because your kltehen is as drab. as that dishwater you’ve got your opera-!ength latex Platex gloves submerged Do you long for~ fantasy kltehen that makes Martha’s look llke something from suburban New Jersey? Then, after eomparlng your dream against your checkbook balance, do you ~eep eoplous tears of d~sappolntment? ~Veep not, child; you are not alone... Yes, your fairy Do-h- Yourseff Dyke-y has a trlek or two in her magle actually satisfy your .kitchenlust- rfioderately.: Not a rip and tear project, but a nip and rock. An eye wash, if you will. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again (quite possibly every month) a little paint can do wonders. That will be the coruerstone of our project, which your DIYD proposes to drag out shamelessly for the next few months. But first, put away your rose,tinted glasses and prepare for some coldhearted evaluations of what you have to work with. Obviously, ff)’our cupboards are cheap, flimsy and dilapidated, our success ~s going t~ be pretty limited, so keep it all in perspective. Also, match your budget with what can be accomplished, and learn how to scour the areaforbargains-outlets, resale stores, architectural salvage, etc. Then, if a rehab is in your relatively near future, you can buy a few nice things and carry them over on the redo. We are a creative lot, so let’s use it to our advantage. Don’ t be afraid to do the workin stages. Actually, it prolongs the enjoyment, and outside his father;s appliance store in Jonesboro, Arkansas, at age 8 to retirement in his early 30s after developing a series of novelty products. He made his real fortune, however, by sdling millions of Moonies. The chubby doll-size figures attach to car windows with suction cups like the ubiquitous Garfidd-the-cat stickons, but with a risque difference. "You squeezed the b,~b and the little guy mooned people, Dunlap said. "I got rich off of it and I quit." He movedin 1990fromMemphi s,Tennessee, to Navarre Beach, about 20 miles east of Pensacola, platming nothing more than to siton the sugar-white beach. How- Look at tak:t~g the opportunity to h~prove some essentials that don’timmediately leap to mind when y~u think about fluffing up the kitchen - it might be a good time to learn a little bit about wiring and dectrical, to the extent that you put in a new light fixture or replace the old outlets with GFCI (ground fault circuit interrupters), which are truly a safety must anywhere you have water. There are some good do it yourself books, complete with very necessary illustrations, to walk you through it, and ifyouhave a friend that is familiar with the process, flatter, pitch wand (minds out of the wooorwhateverelseit toybox, children!) rakes to enlisttheir help ¯ ¯ ¯ on the project. ¯ astainless steel sink 0r~iga~bage disposal. ~ Be wary about letting your fancy stray as ¯ far as a dishwasher - you’re heading into " more complicated territory there. Think about flooring options. ,and if your kitchen is in the darker coruer of your house, as is the DIYD’g, definitely thinklight. Notjust visual light, which is where the fixtures come in, but ¯¯- light surfaces -walls, cabinets, appliances. It might not be the right time to go withthe ¯ retro phase and install that avocado har- ¯ vest-tone range (but if you decide you must, the DIYD has a deal for you! Take my old range, please.) ~ Think about using a low-luster semi- " gloss paint - it makes clean ups easier and ¯ resists water and mildew and other dis- " tasteful things. And new finishing tech- ¯ niques open up a plethora of possibilities. ¯ Sleight of hand is very necessary in Eye Wash jobs. Ask any drag queen. ¯ So dream easy dreams until next month, ¯ when your DIYD helps you spiffy up ¯ those horrid, depressingly dark kitchen ¯ cupboards. ~ ever, after noticing thatthousands ofGays ¯ congregate on area beaches every Memo- " rial Day, he decided the panhandle could ¯ support a small Gayresort. Dtmlap and a motel developer took aplan to local bank- " ers about six years ago. "You could just ¯ see the color runoutoftheir faces,"Dunlap ¯ ¯ recalled. "My personal impression and observation was that they did not want [ anythiag to do with the financing solely ~ because it was a... ’Gay and Lesbian’ ¯ business." Dunlap, himself Gay, figured if that ¯ was happening hereit also washap~g to others elsewhere. Creating a b~ak~Jr ¯ such a geographicallywidespreadmarket ¯ niche would have been difficult at b~t ¯ before the Interuet. ’The Interuet~ allows us to deliver see Bank,p~ by Esther Rothblum I recently watched Janice Perry perform during National Coming Out Week at the University of Vermont. By the time I asked her to describe her life and her work, she was off performing in Switzerland. So we communicated over email. Here are her responses to my questions: ER: tell me the story of how you became a Lesbian comedian? JP: Is this a trick question? Because of course, there is the story of how I became a Lesbian, and then the story ofhow Ibeganperforming. I never intended to become a "Lesbian comedian". I began performing and because my sexuality is part of my life, itcomes outin the show, undisguised¯ Audiences don’t often see Lesbianism presented in this way, it’s either ’%rOW, LOOK AT ME, I’MA BIG DYKE!!" or very covert. Mymissionis topresentchallenging work in a way that is accessible. Most, but not all, of my work is highly exaggerated autobiography. I am always trying to find common denominators, trying to weave many different aspects into each piece. The major theme of a piece about an IRS audit was power and abuse of power (this was pre-IRS refo.rm), and the fact that the auditor was conung on to me was the vehicle to exaggerate the taxpayer’s fear and the auditor’s power. I wanted to unequivocally show the equation between sex and power and fear. That the auditor i~-awoman adds another layer. This piece also unequivocally describes both the dedication required and the extremely dire financial situation of artists in general. So there are many levds that are available to the audience. They can take whatever they want from the performance, While this is a theatrical exag- ¯ Satire"¯ When I first started working in : Europe, Ifoundoutthatthereis awordfor : it-"kabarett". I use my .whole body to deliver the : monologues, as wall as costumes, singing; lighting and very strong I never intended facialgestures. Iamperforming pieces with what I see to to ]~eeome a be the big themes - Greed, "Lesl~ian Fear, Abuse of Power, Sex, comedian". War, Death and Taxes. I’m not so interested in just telll l:le.~an ing jokes. I am presenting performin$ and strong content from a Lesbian- feminist perspective in ]~eeause my a highly comedic way. The sexuality is part comedic aspect makes my of my llfe, it work much more accessible to many more people. comes out ER: is there a particuin tlae slaow, lar performance that stands out as memorable? undls~ulsed, jp: Last year (199~/) the Swiss queers organized a demonstrationinBem (the capitol) against thenew constitution, and the refusal of the government to include equal rights for homosexuals as partofbasichumanrights. The organizers of the demo invited me to come and perform. There were Swiss, French, German, Italian speakers and me. I came out on stage wearing a Statue of Liberty crown and carrying a big penis and said, "I want to.thank the Swiss Government for making me feel right at home here. It’s so reassuring to "know that I will be discriminated against wherever I go." Then I did a piece from the early 80’s about the constitution which says that the preamble really should readlike this:’ "vVe, the MEN of the United States, in order to : form a more perfect union. . No, that should be, ’We, the WHITE MEN of the United States.. ’ No, that should be ’We : theCONSERVATIVEWHITEMEN...’ ~ No, that should be ’We the RICH, CON- . SERVATIVE, WHITE, MEN . .’ No, 2 that should be ’We the OLD, RICH ,CONSERVATWE,XVHITE,MEN geration of the truth, it is a true story. I .... " "" They really got it. WAS audited by a woman, who D!D ER: is Janice Perry the performer difabuse her power. ER: What are the messages you are bringing to Lesbians? JP: I want Lesbians and gays to see that it really is okay to be out. That we can present ourselves in public and not be ki¯ lled for i" t. I ’m not hi"ding anything, I’m not preaching anything, I’m just going about my’business of performing in a perfectly natural way (orimperfecfly natural). When I play in some sin_all t.ow,.n, .an,d the audience is mixed, as it often i s, I trunk that it is empowering for all of us. Internalized homophobia is the real killer. I am also showing my total commitment to my work. My pe,rformance, is more theatrical than stana-up comeay. This is "kabarett" with a small "k" in the European tradition of powerful political statements launched from the platform of comedy, rather than"Kabarett" with a big "K" or "Cabaret" with a "C" which is usually women in glittery evening gowns singing "Se~d in the Clowns". This is why I am able to work so often in Europe. In 1982, when I first started, there was either theater or stand-up in the USA, and nothing in-between. I had no language to describe my work. I called it "Comedy - Rock - Music - Theater - ferentfrom Janice Perrry the individual? Do youfindyourselfperforming tofriends and lovers? JP: I am really h~cky in that I get to let out a lot of my desire for attention in my Work. Before I startedperformingon stage, I was performing all day long, because I had no outlet for this creativity. It must have been hell to be around. I thank my friends for putting up with me. Now I am much more relaxed in my personal life. Sometimes when I arrive at a theater where they don’t know my work, they look a bit worried, like - "Uh-oh, this is just a normal 48 year old woman, and she isn’t even wearing make-up and what kind of show will this be?" When I go on stage, they are amazed by my energy, which is very intense. They can’t believe it’s the same person. There is a definite difference between my work and my private life. I lead a quiet life and I have many and vailed interests. I love nature, hiking, gardening, cross-country skiing, bird-watching. I’m an avid reader, I love the classics, English social comedies from the 20’s and 30’s, fiction, history. I love music - rock and roll, classical, heavy metal, opera. see Psyche. p. 13 Red Rock Tulsa O’RYAN Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network Outreach Program Thurs. 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Are You Native American?/ r~.~/~:~ Tulsa’s Two-S pirited Indian Men’s Support Group is here for you! ~___J~J~.~2/ ~f’~ ~,--., Jl ¯ Evening support group meetings ¯ Relationship workshops ¯ Short trips, outings and retreats ¯ Free HIV testing For information call Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project at 582-7225 Ext. 208 or 218 a mec~,~ism t~at we can employ er~t~vely to whh and eMllen~e our ~ender roles. Many Gay men regularly apply female pronouns ehher to themselves or to thelr (or enemies...). When talkln~ about my f~ends who do dra~, I no longer hedtate to or the ;ack d ~ereof (~ t). MaIU Austronesian languages (spoke~ from Hawm’i to Madagascar), conversely, possess 15 different subject pronoun. When I liv~ on T~a, V~tu, before I could Mk about ~ybody, I had to count~emfirst. ~ere is a prono~ for "you", a different one for you-two , ~other one for "you-t~" ~d still ~other for "you- Moreover, two sorts of "we" must be distinguished on~msl~d.Our we blur together two logically different groups. Sometimes, when we say "we," we in- use "she" and "her." dude who we’ve speaking to; but sometimes "we" excludes the speaker. For example, if I tell you that "we’re going to kiss" this mightmean that I about to plant one on you, or ~t could mean that I’m going neck with someone else. On Tarma, separate pronouns exist dicuonanes before fadi~, away. Other dc-.gende~ed substitmes d~at have been proposed include s~ m~ and air. Gender in our pronoun system may sustmn inanities between men and womenbutitis Nso am~ha- Nsm ~at we ~ employ creatively to play wi~ ~d chNlenge o~ gender roles. M~y Gay men regM~lj apply female pronouns ther to ~emselves or to ~eir friends (or ene~es -"She’s not N1 ~at~"). ~entNNng about my friends who do drag, I no longer hesitate to use "she" ~d "her." TNs is ~e in o~er c~tures whose pronoun systems Nso encode gender. ~Nysis of ~e sp~h of a Gay ~uple por~y~ in ~e first document~y film about Gay life in Jap~ R~en no Sobyo ("Rough S~eteh of a SpirN") shows that do not allow this ambigui.t},,; ,w.e’.’ includes vou;.the, other "we dales ~ more ~ermmne partner’re~ers to mmsm~ not. . with female or gender-neutral terms set, peopte use tnese woros to tam aoout the world and about themselves. If we listen to how people do this, we can learn something of their underlying concepts about human identity. There is always also a politics of pronouns. People use pronouns creatively in order to demonstrate or to assert certain claims about themselves, and about others. My old friend Rapi, who was the "big-man" or leader of the village in which I lived, surprised me one day with apronotm. He was tdling the story of one of his great- ~andfathers, who was also named Rapi, and he used the ’T" pronoun - "When I smote the enemy back before Captain Cook arrived..." (and this was in 1774!). It became clear tome thatTannesepeople, more so than we, incorporate into their sense of self their ancestors, particularly if these were ancestral namesakes. Part of their personhoodincludes these forebears. Whenrecounting history whichhappened generations before they were born,, they talk about "what I did"in that these events are part of who they are today. The pronoun system on Tanna, despite its complexity, does not recognize gender. He, or she, and it are all called "in." Inequality between men and women on the island runs fairly deep, but this social ineqtmlity is not reflected in the pronominal system. The relationship between linguist’ic form and social structure has been long and fiercely debated. Whatever the facts about this might be, here in the US there has been a fairly successful campaign to de-genderize our first person pronouns. In this politics of pronouns, college students may get marked down ifthey use "he" as the default in their essays. ~1~ polifical!y correct choice nowadays is "Ec or she" or even the grammatically uses mate-marKeo pronouns (ore, jtoun, washi). Justlike Rapi and his ’T’ onTanna, our self-construction depends on creative use of the pronouns that our language provides. This appropriation of the other sex’s pronoun may be a male thing. I have not seen many studies of Lesbian use of "he." (If anyone has come across he-women, please email me.) Some feminists might fault men for, once again, abridging women’~s rights and experience by stealing their "she." It seems to me, though, that if one might attack gender hierarchy by spaying language - replacing he/she with thou-one can also undermine the systemby messing with its rules. I can call you he; or maybe this time I’ll call you she. Remember, everyone must use her condoms. Lamont Lindstrom teaches anthropology at the University of Tulsa and my be reached at lamont-lindstrom@utulsa.edu I love to go to the theater. Dance. Visual Arts. Architecture. Archeology. Yoga. Fashion. I’m very, interested in both prehistory and pop culture. I like to see what is gomg on in "society," both regionally and globally, to try to identify the trends,, see what is universal and then use this information inmy work. In some way I’m always working, always noticing, observing. But I can do it from the sidelines. I don’t need to be the center. I get enough of that onstage. For further informauon and to schedule a perfornlance, contact: Janice Perry RD 1 Femsburgh~ Vermont 05456 jpakagal @aol.com but it doesn’t stop it from happening, and it’s frustrating to you, and the people around you. Some of it has passed, some ofithasn’t and will take time, and some of it will never go away or be forgotten. Right after, if I was alone, the chest would tighten, I couldn’t breathe and I would feel overwhelmed. Evenin agrocery store, whenTom and I went together, but separated, as we usually did, I found’mysdf alone on an aisle, and feltmy chest tighten - it scared the 1x;jeezus out of me. We passed a car emitting fumes with a similar odor to the smoke in the apartment, and I Was right back there. And in a panic attack. I thought, .’ffhis is silly. Stop it". Well, you can’t. I decided to stay at the apartment two days later. Tom was doubtful, again, but supportive. I did try to go back and face down my fear. Then, as I gotintomy smokybed (I’d left windows wide open for the two days, and it helped - a little. The smoke issomething that doesn’t go away easily.) Then the ’~vhat- ifs" started. What if I had gone home earlier (whichI had thought of doing) and gone to sleep? What if I hadn’t gone home till later? No one else called 911. In fact, the neighbor that finally did come out, said "Well, I smdled a funny smell, but didn’tpay any attention to it..." With neighbors like that, who needs enemies? What if... Then the big one hit: If I was in a smoky smelling apartment, and another fire started, how would I know another one had started? I mightjust chalk it up to the already smoky apartment I was in, and then what? An~twhatelsemightbeplUgged in...? So, I tookTom up on his very kind offer that if I became uncomfortable, I could come back to his place and stay. So, on this new years, take stock. Look at whoyourreal friends are. Tomhas been Wonderful., going far above and beyond the call of duty. Look at your extension cords. Are they the right kind for tbejob? Are they over loaded? Funny what you notice after an event like this - I was inRedLobsternot too long ago, and noticed that their xmas lights were connected by 3 extensions cords wound around a wooden beam. I watched them throughout dinner. And no matter how much one may grumble, I am aware of just how lucky I am to be here to grumble. I am lucky to still have my symbols, collected throughout my life, of the people who love me, and the people I love. I am lucky to have a friend like Tom. I am lucky to be alive. I’m not too thrilled at having so much stuff to dean, but I realize that I amlucky it’s there to be cleaned. It was time to move anyway, the neighbors were too noisy. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Gays in the Military Update More "Gays" Leaving US Armed Forces WASHINGTON (AP) -TheAir Force andArmyreport sharp increases in the number of troops discharged for homosexuality, and officials believe many are discontented non-Gay recruits looking for a way out. In releasing the figures, the Defense Department said it was satisfied with its "don’t ask, don’t tell" policy on homosexuality in the services. It asserted that the 1998 dischargenumbers "align" with those ofprevious years, even though they reached an 11-year high. A watchdog group, the Servicemembers Legal Defense Fund, said the’figures were fresh evidence that Gays still are being mistreated in the 1.4-million-member active-duty military. "Commanders are still asking, pursuing and harassing people," said Dixon Osbum, the group’s co-executive director. ,,,~ The "don’t ask, don’t tell" policy, adopted in 1994, is supposed to allow Gays to serve if they keep their sexual orientation private. It punishes those who engage in homosexual acts or take actions that call attention to their orientation. But critics accuse the services of hunting down Gays and driving them out of the service. If a service member voluntarily states his or her homosexuality, discharge is automatic.. In the.case oLa recruit still in basic (raining, av0iuniary declaration of homosexuality means an admjuistrative discharge that does not carry a bad-conduct stigma. Under the Pentagon policy there are three grounds for discharge: if a service member voluntarily states that he or she is Gay; if someone is determined to have engaged in a homosee Military, p. 3 Maryland Judge Throws Out Sodomy Law BALTIMORE (AP) - A judge who rtded Baltimore’s 80-year-old anti-sodomy law does not apply to consensual acts has expanded the ruling to include anal as well as oral sex. The ruling by Circuit Judge Richard T. Rombto settles a 1997 clas s-action suit by theAmerican Civil Liberties Union. "This is saying the government will not intrude in the bedroom," said Dwight Sullivan, a staff counsel for the ACLU’s Maryland chapter, which sued on behalf of several Gay men and Lesbians. State officials, who did not object to tLe ACLU’s efforts, said the ruling was largely symbolic because few if any state residents have been prosecuted for sodomy. ACLU officials, however, said the existence of the law posed a threat to privacy rights and left homosexuals vidnerable to job discrimination and unfair attacks in child custody cases. Thirty-one states have rep.ealed anti-sodomy laws, while 17 still have them on the books, including Virgiuia. The U.S. Supreme Court ruled in a Georgia case in 1986 that anti-sodomy laws are constitutional. In 1990, the Maryland Court Of Appeals ruied the law could not be used to prosecute consentual, nonpublic acts of oral sex, see Maryland, p. 14 DIRECTORY/LETTERS P. 2 EDITORIAL P. 3 US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P; 6 COMMUNITY CAL ENDAR P. 9 BOOK REVIEW P. 10 DO-IT-YOURSELF-DYK E P, 11 DYKE PSYCHE P. 12 CLASSIFIEDS + WEERWOLF P. 14 ST~ervin~g Lesb[ian~, Gay,~Bisex_ual +nT~ranPsa_gl~eenrdAevraeidlabTluelIsnaMnso,reOTuhraFna7m5iClieis +LoFcraietinodnss Hate Crimes Amendment Has A Chance in OK Legislature TMM - Metropolitan Ministry Endorses Amendment TULSA/OKLAHOMA CITY - Those who knew Matthew Shepard say that he would have wished that some good come out of evil. And it appears that, in Oklahoma at least, some good might come out of the horror of his murder. That at least is the conclusion drawn by some commumty activists who see the new willingness of Oklahoma political leaders to address hate crimes based on actual or perceived sexual orientation. Speaking anonymously, one clergy participantinTulsa Metropolitan Ministry, an influential local interfaith organization, indicated that Shepard’s murder is what helped shake the organization out of its unwillingness to address the concerns of Lesbians and Gay men. As she put it, they could no longer remain silent. And moving amazingly fast for such a diverse group, TMM adopted as one of its legislative goals for this 1999 session, the amendment of Oklahoma’s Malicious Intimidation Statute, otherwiseknown as the Hate Crimes law. In fact, abill (HB 1211) for this amendment has been introduced by Tulsa legislator, Don Ross. HB 1211 has a companion bill introduced in the Oklahoma Senate by Sen. Ben Brown, and Democratic party rumors have it that Speaker of the House, Loyd Benson has committed to support the bill. Oklahoma Attorney G~neral Drew Edmondson already has committed publicly to supporting this amendment as has former Tulsa County District Attorney see Hate.p. 13 Activists kick off Eq~mlity Begins at Home at fall conference. Thousands to Go to Capitols First Ever National Week ofAction for Equality WASHINGTON, DC - January 25, 1999 - In the 30th aunivers. ary year of the S tonewall rebellion- the birth of the modern Gay rights movement - thousands of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender people will launch an unprecedented national week of action for equality. Equality Begins at Home, slated for the week of March 21 - 27, is a major initiative to push state lawmakers to support a platform of equality. Planning for these by local activists is well under way. In Oklahoma, Paul Thompson, of the Oklahoma Gay & Lesbian Political Caucus is co-ordinating the Oklahoma event at the State Capitol on Saturday, March 27. Paid can be reached at email: Gayoglpc@flash.net, or 405-791-0202. Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR) is working to help organize Tidsans to go. From Montana to Maine, Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender people will come out and speak up in simultaneous events nationwide, most ofwhich will take place at state capitols. These actions will, mnong other things, build support for laws that counter hate violence, ban employment discrimination, provide for safe schools for all students, ensure.the right to adopt and become foster parents, and address health issues including HIV/AIDS. Equality Begins at Home is coordinated by the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force .and organized by the Federation of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Statewide Political Organizations. As part of its coordinating efforts, the Task Force provided Federation member groups $5,000 each to support their Equality Begins at Home organizing efforts and hired a national coordinator for the event. Dozens of national organizations have signed on in support of this week of action. "Equality Begins at Home is not an end point but a beginning point. We are going to make our statewide organizations stronger, mobilize more people, register more voters, and demand greater accountability from our state legislators and policy makers," stated Kerry Lobel, National Gay and Lesbian Task Force executive director, see EBAH, p..13 Pride CenterAnnounces OneRecruitShortofa ToasterMembers Drive and Gay Legal Rights Program TULSA - How do you feel about winning a very stylish toaster or toaster oven? That’s what Pride Center organizers want to know. They’re hoping that these possibilities will motivate you to join Tulsa’s Gay & Lesbian community center, the Pride Center and to persuade as many of your friends, family and acquaintances to do the same. Pride Center volunteers have organized a membership drive from Feb. 1 to March 31 that was inspired by Lesbian comedian, Ellen Degeneres, and they’re offering prizes for "recruiting" new community center members. Center spokesman, Greg Gatewood stated that any current or new member will receive "a toaster accessory" (what is that???) for bringing in five new members. Ten new members will win you a sleek new bagelcapable toaster. And if you get 25 new memberships, you’ll get, not just a toaster, but a toasteroven! However, the grand prize is airfare to an exotic seaside location so you can toast yourself in the tropical sun. Sound good? To win this you need to get at least 50 new memberships though the winner will be the person who gets the most memberships of 50 ormo~e by March 31 st. Tojoin or to get more information, call the Center at 743-GAYS (4297). Beginning in Feb. specifically Feb. 18 at 7:30, the Oklahoma Lesbian and Gay Law Association will begin a series of free legal seminars for Lesbians and Gay men. These seminars are set up as informal discussions drawing on the skills of attorneys who specialize in areas of interest to the community. Tulsa attorney Camille Quiun will lead the first discussion on estate planning. The discussion will be geared toward both couples and individuals. Again for more information, call the Center at 743-GAYS (4297).. Other evenfs a( the ~enter include a Mardi Gras costume party on Feb. 13 with dancing to music by "Grandmaster DJ Tim." see Center, p. 14 GaI-A-Vanting TULSA - More than fourteen women met recently to plan monthly events for "Gal-A-Vanting, Ms. Adventures for Women." Gal-A-Vanting is a social and cultural organization for Lesbian women. The group seeks to provide social, cultural and selfexploration opportunities for women as wall as a venue for meeting and for developing a sense of The organization was the brainchild of two friends, Mary (also known as the Do-It-Yourself Dyke) and Joan, who decided that there was not enough for women to do in the Tulsa area and who, also, were tired ofdriving to Arkansas for women’s activities. They believed there would be enough interest in the Tulsa community to create an organization to provide activities here. Approximately 20 women have attended each of the activities hosted by Gal-A-Vanting in the past four months. There are now more than 65 women’s names on the mailing list. The organization has hosted a number of events, a "women and the arts evening" which featured poetry and various artist’s work, a dance, a drumming circle and a movie night. Monthly activities are planned for the second Samr.day ev.e.mng of each month. 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School Ave. 501-442-2845 ¯ JOPLIN, MISSOURI *Spirit of Christ MCC, 2639 E. 32, Ste. U134 41%623-4696 * is where you can find TFN. Notall are Gay-owned but all are Gay-friendly. Carbon Copy KMOD Gay Bashing? ¯ Dear Phil and Brent, ¯ As a regular listener of your show, I am ¯ concerned about the words of intolerance ¯ directed toward theGay community. Your ¯ Thursday shows seem especially filled ¯ with the promotion of hate as an acceptable behavior. Being reasonable people, ; and I assume residents of the Tulsa com- -¯ mumty, I cannot understand your continued promotion of hate towards a large ¯ segment of-the Tulsa community. Hate ¯ speech equals hate crimes- aproven fact. : Your success as morning show hosts ¯ can only mean that there are a great num- " ber ofpeople listening. The words youuse ¯ can drastically change the world of those ¯ who listen. Your words could be respon- - sible for the next bashing or killing of a Gay person. Is this a responsibility you _" are ready to accept and bear for the re- , mainder of your life? ¯ I, as you by now expect, will no longer ¯ be tuning into your show, and will encour- ¯ age my friends and acquaintances to turn ¯ the dial as well. After all, you are "the ¯ rainbow station." The rainbow has been : mmedinto aflag. That flag represents the ¯ pride of the Gay community. ¯ I wouldhope thatKMODwouldchoose ¯ not to continue the verbal assault on our ¯ Gay citizens. I would offer that two orga- ¯ nizations I belong to, teach tolerance ; classes, and perhapsKMOD would liketo have some of this information. Your re- " quest may be directed to me, or to the ¯ organizations directly. - Ned T. Bruha, Tulsa ¯ ce: TOHR PFLAG Great Issue Thelatest edition [January] ofTFN was really a great issue. Thanks for the important work that you do. Keep it up. Our communityneeds it. This recentissue was a great example of the kind of quality our community is capable of. Anyone can be proud with that kind ofleadership. Bravo. And thanks. - M.S. Tulsa In Memorium WASHINGTON - The Human Rights Campaign mourned the death of activist John Thomas, 51, who died on January 20. Mr. Thomas served on the HRC Board from 1982 to 1985 andplayedamajorpart in HRC’s expansion in the Dallas area. His contributions withHRCincludedhelping start the Dallas Black-Tie Dinner Committee. He helped found numerous organizations including the Gay & Lesbian Victory Fund. Additionally, Mr. Thomas was former executive director.of the Foundation for HumanUnderstandingandthe Dallas Gay & Lesbian Community Center, now known as the John Thomas Gay & Lesbian Community Center. Letters Policy Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on issues which we’ve covered or on issues you think need tobe considered. Youmay request that your name be withheld but letters mustbe signed&have phone numbers, or be hand delivered. 200 word letters are preferred. Letters to other publications will be printed as is appropriate. sexual act; and in the case of same-sex marriage. "In virtually every self-initiated disclosure, the second statement made is, ’I’d also like to be discharged,"’ said David Smith, a spokesman at Randolph Air Force Base, Texas. He said this led officials to conclude that a growing number of recruits are using a Gay declaration to get out. Smith said commanders are legally prohibited from ques- .tioning Air Forcemembers about such voluntary statements. "You kind of have to take them at their word,".he said. T’jae Gibson, anAir Force spokeswoman at the Pentagon, said an official review of discharges and personnel policies at Lacklandlast year found that most instructors and trainees there believed the acknowledgments ofhomosexuality were made to cut short an enlistment. Armyofficials said they "also suspect many Gay discharges in their service involve soldiers looking for a quick way out, but they do not consider the trend to be a major source of worry. Supreme Court Lets Military Policy Stand WASHINGTON (AP) - The Supreme Court once again left intact the military’s "don’t ask, don’t tell" policy today, rejecting a challenge by two former servicemen discharged after declaring their, homosexuality. The court, without comment, turned away arguments by the men that the policy is based on prejudice agaiust homosexuals and violates their free-speech rights. This action, while not a definitive ruling, marked the fifth time in recent years that the highest court has rejected efforts to invalidate the policy. Every federal appeals court that has considered the issue has upheld the policy. This appeal was filed by National Guard 1st Lt. Andrew Holmes ofSacramento, Calif.,andNavy Lt. Richard Watson. Holmes declared his homosexuality to. his commanding officer in 1993. Watson was serving in Bremerton, Wash.,in October 1994 when he submitted a written statement to his commanding officer that said, "’I have a homosexual orientation." Both men were discharged and sued in federal courts. A judge in San Francisco ruled for Holmes and declared the military policy unconstitutional. But ajudge in Seattle ruled against Watson. The 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals combined the cases andupheldthe "don"t ask, don’t tell" policy. US Law Professors Fight .Military Policy NEW ORLEANS (AP) - Hundreds of law professors are joining the fight to get Gays and Lesbians an equal place in the U.S. armed forces. The battlefield is a 1996 law thatlets the government take all federal student aid from schools which refuse to let military recruiters on campus. Scores of universities had barred recruiters to protest the "don’t ask, don’t tell" policy, but let them back after President Clinton signed the law by former U.S. Rep. Gerald Solomon. "If we had a recruiter who said, ’We won’t hire anyone who’s black,’ there’s no doubt about us kicking them off campus," said David V. Chavkin, director and associate professor at American University’s Washington College of Law. "The notion that we should treat discrimination against our Gay and Lesbian and bisexual and trans~gender students as different is an outrage. The law school agreed in 1997 to let military recruiters return after attorneys decided that not only its 1,200 students, but all of the university’s undergraduates could lose their federal aid, including lowinterest loans and work-study money. At the meeting, Chavkin was working a~ a table set up outside the Association of American Law Schools’ biggest meeting rooms to sign up people willing to work for repeal of the law. When theAALS meeting ends, organizers hoped to have 100 law schools represented. U.S. Rep. Barney Frank, D-Mass., who plans to lead the repeal fight, thinks the law is very vulnerable, said Alan Minuskin, a Boston College Law School professor. At one point, 138 campusesbarred military recnfiters. By late 1997;. the list had dwindled to 18. 17 were in Connecticut, where the policy against discrimination was part of state law. The federal law applies to all colleges and universities. The repeal push is starting in law schools because most either have longstanding rules of their own against discrimination or belong to the AALS, which had a rule since 1990 against dealing with any organization that discriminates. It changed that rule last year, under protest, because of the Solomon Amendment. EdwinJ. Butterfoss, deah andprofessor oflaw at Hamline University in St. Paul, Minn., said, "...we have a lot more work to do. It [the Solomon law] undermines a law school!s ability to enforce its own policies - not by attacking the schools, but they’re attacking the students." ¯ The Associated Press AtMartin LutherKing Day parades and prayer break- , fasts, in their offices and in homes, many Blacks said ¯ they have a particular stake in the impeachment trial of s~dent Clinton- the best thing thathas happened for ¯¯ Blacks in a long time." "If Clinton is removed from "Dr. Kin~ ¯ office, that’s a slap in the face would be ¯ forBlack America," said Mikel ¯ Holt, editor of the Milwaukee suspect Of the ¯ ¯ CommunityJournal, a Black impeael~ment newspaper. ’.’That’s inessence, derailing the civil fights free- process l~eeause ¯¯ domtrain." he would be Clinton has long enjoyed ¯ Black support, both from the suspect of tl~e ¯ public and in Congress, be¯ cause he socializes and prays impeaclters," ¯ with Black people, appoints the Rev. Jesse ¯ them to high positions and un- Jackson said ¯ derstands the struggle of rac- ¯ ism, Black leaders said. a~ter a : " As the trial entered its secondweek, some summonedthe breal~ast : name and message of the slain l~onorin~ ¯ civil rights leader in Clinton’s ¯ defense - saying the two men in C]~iea~o. ¯ shared a common dream of Jackson ¯ equality, specffleally ¯ "Dr. King would be suspect ¯ of the impeachment process mentioned ~ because he would be suspect ¯ of the impeachers," the Rev. Senate ¯ JesseJacksonsaidafterabreak- 1MIajorlty leader ¯ fasthonoringKinginChicago. Trent Loft... ¯ Jackson specifically men- , tioned Senate Majority leader reee_ntly linked. ¯ Trent Lott,who was recently : linked by his uncle to an ultra- . . . to an ultra- : conservatl/ve group accused of conservative ¯ promoting white supremacy. ~roup accused i Lwoastt adfefniliieadteldaswt iwtheethkethgartouhpe of promo~in~ ¯ and said he is opposed to rac: ismand white supremacy. white : Richard Bailey a historian supremacy¯ ¯ and author from Montgomery, Alabama, said he too was suspect of some of Clinton’s : critics. "I think (Blacks) are most uncomfortable with : the way matters are being handled and with the key ¯ players," he said. ¯ ¯ "If the conservativepeoplewho are trying to impeach the president come into power, it will be a tumbaek of ¯ the dock for Afro-Americans," said Edward Lewis Jr., i president of the NAACP for Idaho, Nevada and Uiah. ¯ Any current alternative to Clinton could be worse ," said Vicki Washington, director of Equal Opportunity ¯ and Diversity at theUniversity of Wisconsin-Extension ¯ in Madison, Wis. "Of all of our presidents in the recent ¯ past, Clinton seems to be more in tune with the impact ¯ of historic discrimination and how it continues to have ¯ bothapolitical and economic impact onAfriean Ameri_ .. cans and other people of color today," Washington said. ¯ To some, the impeachment itself is being driven by - :~ fear of-minority power. "My question is, are they real[ hounding him for his personal transgressions, or (to punish) him for making his administration the most i diverse that the country’s ever known? That, to me, seems the undeit0ne," said Victoria Mares Hershey, ¯ first vice president of the NAACP in Portland, Maine. Nan Stovall, another NAACP member from Port- " land, said Clinton is "the best thing that has happened : for Blacks in a long time," she said. ¯ Via the Internet ¯ Q - What do Howdy Doodie, the Muppets and Steve Largent have in common? : A - They all have cute faces with painted-on grins, ¯ empty heads and someone else’s hand up their ass ¯ making their mouths move. Too vulgar, but too, too funny not to print. What’s "- dangerous about Largent is that he’s .not stupid at all.We don’t dispute the hand business though. - TN by Tom Neal. editor &publisher As a child, I learned much to my amazement that some families actually tried to avoid discussing controversial topics, especially at dimmer. Not mine. When friends wonder about my interest in discussing ethics and politics, all I need to do is to invite them to dinner and.turn my father loose on them. They’ll never wonder agmn. Note that I regard this familial inheritance of debate and discussion as a wonderful, wonderful legacy but it is, perhaps, an acquired taste. I share this bit of personal history in order to put the following in context. Since May, I’ve been.arguing at my family’s Sunday night dinners that Bill Clinton, based merely on the appearance of inappropriate conduct (that old lawyerly standard), shouldresign. That is, ifhe were a gentleman. Of course, we all know that if he had ever been a gentleman, or even were vaguely acqtminted with the notion, he wouldn’t be in this nasty PaulaJMonica/ Gennifer/whatever mess in the first place. But regardless of Bill’s spectacular lapses in judgment, many Gays and Lesbians, both of color and those with less color, are going to understand the sentiments of the adjacent editorial. If the ultra conservatives, "wing-nuts" as Tul sa Republican mayoral wanna-be, Terry Simonson, characterized them, get completely back into power, it will be a turning back the clock for Gay and Lesbian Americans as well as for African Americans. Senate Majority Leader Trent Lott not only is dosdy tied to ultra racist organizations like the Concerned Citizens Council but has had his anti-Gay views well documented. And I suspect that the ccc is just about as anti-Gay as it is racist. And while Lott is now denying that he shares the CCC’s racist and white supremacy views, he’s not bothering to deny his heterosexist supremacy stances. Clearly, we Gay folks really haven’t gotten as far along in the fight for equality as non-Gay Blacks. I think it is safe to sa$ that the folks who hate Clinton because he treats Blacks more fairly than any previous president, also hate him because he’s treated Gay folks more fairly than any other too. Granted his record’s not perfect. He reneged on his promise to end our military’s ban on Gay soldiers. And his talk about AIDS is better than his walk has been much of the time. But he’s appointed more openly Gay individuals to significant governmental positions than ever before and he’s used his executive power to ban discrimination in civilian parts of our government. And look who’s out to get him: the slimiest of the slime: Bob Barr, Newt Gingrich, Helen Chenowith, Bob Livingston (something of a gentleman at least for resigning), and Henry Hyde, adulterers, fornicators and hypocrites all. Note also that all of these folks were big, big supporters of the Defense of Marriage Act that banned samegender marriages, if and when they should happen. Let me see, when did cheating on your spouse become part of supporting "traditional" marriage? Bill, of course, also signed this patently unconstitutional law. Andone hears from time to time a runaor or two about our saintly First District representative, Steve Largent. One wonders what he’d say about his sex life under oath. After all, even if he’s been utterly faithful to his spouse, he was a great college athletic star and who hasn’t heard of a fomieating football player? Maybe at Brigham Young, and then only maybe. Last I checked, fornication was still illegal in Oklahoma though it is hardly one of our frequently enforced laws. However, I do have to give Henry Hyde some credit for redefining the notion of"youthful indiscretion." Mr. Hyde cheated onhis wife at the age of 41. This 41 yearold editor is delighted to learn that anything I do at this point in my life still has some hope of being declared a "youthful indiscretion." I do digress. The bottom line: I don’t like Bill,’s dishonesty, but I don’t like the behavior of most of the Congress. I don’t like Congress’ "witch hunt." The $50 million Stair spent could have bought a whole lot of drugs or food or housing to keep people living with AIDS alive, or done any number of genuinely worthy things for our country. Maybe we could just impeach them all. Hormel Renominated WASHINGTON (AP) - President Clinton has renominated James Hormel as ambassador to Luxembourg, and a White House official said Tuesday the administration hopes "fairness will prevail" in the new Congress so he can be approved for thejob. The Senate last year refused to vote on the nomination of Hormel after several conservative Republicans accused him of promoting homosexual views: The White House accused lawmakers of prejudice. Hormel, who is Gay, was appro,ced by the Senate Foreign Relations Committee, but Senate Majority Leader Trent Lott, R-Miss., didn’ t allow his nomination to come to the floor in the face of scattered GOP objections. White House spokesperson, Barry Toiv said Hormel was among a number of.renominations Clinton submitted to the new Congress, which began its work this month. If approved, Hormel wonld be the first openly Gay U.S. envoy. Chiistian right groups had’attacked Hormel, a vocal supporter of Gay rights and AIDS causes, over his sponsorship ofaGay and Lesbian center at the San Francisco Public Library that bears his name. Republican critics called some of the material obscene and feared Hormel might promote a "Gay agenda" as ambassador to the tiny European nation. Hormel must go through the entire nomination process again, including approval at the committee level before a Senate vote. Florida County May Add Partner Benefits FORTLAUDERDALE, Fla. (AP)-Broward County may be on its way to extending to domestic parmers of county employees the same ,benefits that married couples now receive. A proposed ordinance would provide medical coverage to Gay, Lesbian and unmarried partners of county employees to the same extentas other employees and allow unmarriedcouples to legally register as domestic partners. The measure also would require contractors that handle at least S50,000 in business with the county to offer health benefits to partners of their own workers. If adopted later this year, Broward would join one other Florida county, more than 100 other state and local governments across the country and some corpora. tions that have given similar allowances to domestic partners. Some business owners in Broward, Florida’s secon& largest county, object to being told how to run their companies. However, the commission, which has already 6utlawed discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation, appears receptive to the proposal. CornmissionCha~rwoman Ilene Lieberman said she supports most sections of the ordinance but had doubts about imposing the mandate on private comparties that do business with the county, County attorneys said the proposal may conflict with the state’s broad Defense of Marriage Act, the 1997 law that says same-sex marriages are not recognized in Florida. Supporters said domestic partnerships are not identical to marriages and the county’ s proposal says nothing about child custody, divorce, inheritance or other rights held by spouses. Robin Bodiford and Dean Trantalis, two lawyers and Gay civil rights activists, prepared the proposal with the Lambda Legal Defense Fund, a national Gay and Lesbian group. In Florida, the Monroe County Commission agreed in February 1998 to allow county workers to share Lheir employee benefits with their domestic partners. In Miami-Dade County, the state’ s largest county, the commission approved an ordinance last month barfing discrimination of homosextmls in the workplace and housing. Holocaust Coverup Uncovered ATLANTA (AP) - Material about Nazi persecution of homosexuals, edited out of a teachers’ guide about the Holocaust, will be sent to Georgia schools in a separate letter. The Georgia Commission on the Holocaust, which had previously deemed the material too sexually graphic for fifth- and sixth-grade students, agreed to the change after a meeting with civil rights activists. It was too late to reprint the guides, which were to be mailed out to schools across the state by this week. lut the commission decided to send the deleted material to schools in a separate letter. Harry Knox, director of the Georgia Equality Project, a civil rights group said the new mailing also will include four extra teachers’ guides from the U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington. The 15-member Holocaust comrmssion, fornted in 1986, is a state agency. It objected to passages in the 92-page guide "Triangles, Badges, & Stars: Remembering the Mosaic of Victims of the Holocaust." Gay civil rights groups were upset when the commission asked a law firm sponsonng the gnides to delete the material. The law firm reluctandy agreed and removed the passages from the Georgia version of the guide. Versions of the guide were’also produced for teachers in California and Florida. HOmosexuals are mentioned in at least four places in the 6,000 copies printed for Georgia middle school and high school teachers, said SylviaWygoda, director and chairwoman of the Holocaust commission. Vice chairman Alex Gross said commission members wanted only a few objectionable words removed, not entire paragraphs. Here are the para~aphs on Nazi treatment of homosexual Holocanst victims which the GeorgiaCom: unssion on the Holocaust asked to be deleted: "German male homosexuals were targeted and arrested because they would not breed the master race: they were an affront to the Nazi macho image." "’The doors of the third (cattle) car open and the homosexuals spill forth, males only, because as Hirnmler concluded, ’Lesbians can give birth.’ The taunting jeers, and blows of the guards stun the men. They will stay a night and then be rerouted to Sachsenhausen mad Buchenwald to be with their kind. The pink triangle they will soon wear is a result of ajudgment that they have broken Article 175A, by sexual act, by kissing, by embracing, by fantasy and thought. Some will be given an opp_ortunity to recant by successfully completing sexual activity with a woman in the camp brothel. Most others will find themselves tormented from all sides as they struggle to avoid being assaulted, raped, worked and beaten to death." Right-Winger Seeks to Ban Gay Student Clubs PHOENIX (AP) - A group of conservative Republican lawmakers is backing a bill that would ban support groups for homosexual students from public school grounds. The measm’e would require school districts to ban any student orgamzation that promotes a specific sexual orientation, sexual activity or any kind of criminal activity, t’We don’ t allow Playboy clubs on ,c,~tmpus to promote heterosexuality," said Rep. Linda Gray, R-Glendale, one of the bill’s backers. "Why should we have Gay clubs to promote homosexuality." A 3-year-old Gay student group at Desert View High School in the Suunyside Unified School District has not caused any problems, said Alan Storm, the district’s director of student services. The group’s five members have helped educate students, teachers and others about discrimination, Storm said. "There arCh’ t even discussions about sex," Storm said. Storm added the bill was a bad idea because it jeopardizes federal funding for schools. Thefederal Equal Access Actrequires school s to allow all extracurricular groups to use their facilities. Backers of the federal law said it was meant to keep schools from banning meetings of Bible-study and other Christian groups. Gay Teen Sues Hospital Over ’Outing’ PHILADELPHIA (AP) - A Gay Bradford County teen-ager who attempted suicide last February is suing the hospital that treated him, claiming news of his sexual orientation was leaked by an employee, Cindy Smith, and eventually spread to his high school. Smith could not be reached by press time, but Troy OKLAHOMA COMMUNICATIONS Local- Long Distance Cellular- Paging 747-1508 Free Car Adaptor & Leather Case with New Cell Phone Want to get involved? Need to get tested for HIV? 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He told no one, terrified of the consequences of coming out to his parents and to a rural, conservative community. Severely depressed, Congdon ingested 33 Tylenols in the early morning hours of Feb. 1, 1998, went to school, and took 10 more. Congdon told the treating physician at Troy Community Hospital that he tried to kill himself because he was Gay. Thelawsuit alleges that Smith- the mother of one of Congdon’s football teammates -examined Congdon’s medical records and then told "third persons" that he was Gay. Returning to school later, "Everybody just stared at me,". he said. "I’d get approached by several students and they would say, ’We heard you’re a faggot, is that true?’ I would just say, ’Believe whatever you want,’ because I was afraid I’d get beat up." Congdon left school less than a month after returning. Troy High School Principal Bob Grantier said he did not know Congdon was being harassed. "If that was reported, which it was not, it would have been dealt with. Bottom line," he said. Congdon expects to take his high-school equivalency exam in the summer and attend college next fall as a criminal justice major. Congdon’s story was featured last month in an ESPN documentary on Gay athletes. He also wrote about his experience for a San Francisco- based magazine for Gay teen-agers. "I’m being very public with it to raise awareness. We do have a problem in today’s society and there is hate out there toward us and other ethnic and religious backgrounds," he said. "Something has to be done." Maryland Governor Offers Anti-Bias Bill ANNAPOLIS, Md. (AP) - Gov. Parris Glendening, prompted by memories of a brother who died of AIDS after hiding his homosexuality throughout a long military career, will sponsor legislation this y~ar to ban discrimination against Gays and Lesbians. Glendening has endorsed similar legislation in the past, but this year it will be part of his official administration legislative package. His bill would add sexual orientation to a law that already bans discrimination in housing and em- .ployment because of sex, age, race and religion. Kathleen Nieberding-Ryan, who has lobbied for the bill the past few years, said the governor’ s decision to make it part of his program "will help break down some of our barriers." "I’ve worked on this bill for a long time," said Ms. Nieberding-Ryan, lobbyist for MarylandNOWand former lobbyist for the Free State Justice Campaign, an organization representing Gays and Lesbians. "Each year we’ ve inched closer and closer, but could not secure the one or two votes needed for passage," she said. Richard Dowling, head of the Maryland Catholic Conference, said the church has opposed the bill in the past and probabl y will do so again. "In our tradition, discrimination against any person in regard to basic human fights is a sin," Dowling said. He said that includes people whose sexual orientation is homosexual, "but orientation and practice are not the same.’" "Whether intended or not, this legislation would have .the eff~t oflegitimating homosexual practice, and that, m our view, is something government Should not do," Dowling said. Glendening said it was difficult for his brother to live with the knowledge that his’ career in the Air Force would be ruined if his homosexuality had been discovered. "No one should be in fear of their job, no matter what their occupation, because of their sexual orientation," he said. But ~fracy Conaty, communications director for the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force in Washing- , ton, said discrimination "is a fact of life for many Gay and Lesbian people." "This law is needed ¯ because it is still legal in the state of Maryland to ; fire somebody simply because they are Gay, Lesbian, bi-sexual or trans-gendered," she said. "Gov. Glendening is showing real leadership, in not only recognizing that fact but addressing it," Ms. Conaty : said. :¯¯ Anti-Bias Vote May.Lead to Voter Retaliation ¯ CEDAR RAPIDS, Iowa (AP) - City Commis- : sioner Nancy Evans knows there mightbefallout at ¯ the voting booth after the City Council decided to ¯ offer protection to homosexuals under the Cedar ¯ Rapids civil rights ordinance. The City Council ¯ ,~oted 3-2 early to make the addition, protecting ¯ homosexuals from discrimination in education, : honsing, credit, employment and public accommo- ¯ dation. ¯ "This could very well cost an election. I under- . stand that,’" Evans said. "But cost is not what’s ¯ important. If I believe this stands for intolerance, if I believe this is injustice, then I have an affirmative ¯ duty toact,nomatterwhatitcosts." Evans and Dale Toddboth mentioned the Novemberelections when ¯ they discussed their votes in favor of the ordinance. Mayor Lee Clancey joined them in the majority. ¯ Commissioners Don Thomas and Ole Munson ¯ voted against the change. The Rev. Larry Johnson, ¯ a spokesman for conservative Christiar~s in Cedar : Rapids, saidhewill try to rally political support for ¯ a new set of candidates. Johnson said, "This thing is very offensive to a lot of people. We want to ¯ investigate to see what we can come up with as far ¯ as overturning this." Anti-Gay Adoption Law Reconsidered ¯ CONCORD, N.H. (AP) - Elizabeth Janeway and ¯ her husband wanted to become foster parents, but : said they couldn’ t stomach the state’ s ban on Gay ¯ adoptive and foster parents. When they applied in 1991, the state asked them if they had any homo- " sexuals in their family, Mrs. Janeway told a House ¯ committee. "I felt sick answering the question," i She said. "Not sick because we have a Gay son and ¯ a Lesbian daughter, but because of what the ques- ¯ tion implied about our children." ¯ Rep. Raymond Buckley, D-Manchester, wants ¯ that to end. Hehas sponsored a bill to repeal a 1987 ¯ law that bans Gays and Lesbians from adopting and ¯ serving as foster parents. "This law was enacted ¯ during a time of great fear," Buckley said. "Thank- " fully, we know much more today than we did a ¯ decade ago." The ban was passed at "the height of ." the season of hate," he said. New Hampshire is one ¯ of only two states with such restrictions; Floridais : the other. ¯ A crowd of more than 80 doctors, ministers, foster parents, Gay civil fights activists and others ¯ gathered to urge the committee to send the bill to the House for a vote. : Buckley blames the passage of the ban on fears ¯ fed by the surge of AIDS during the 1980s and mistaken belief that homosexual parents would molest their adopted or foster children. During the legislative debate in 1987, one supporter of the ban argued that Gay people wanted to "raise their own meat" to sexually molest. "This law was enacted despite the lack of a single complaint, not one shred ¯ of evidence, without a single incident of concern," ¯ Buckley said. ¯ Thelaw also requires heterosexual couples wish- . ing to adopt or be foster parents to sign a form stating no adult in the household is homosexual. ~ "This law does more thanmerely prohibit Gays and ¯ Lesbians from adopting or serving as foster parents," Buckley said. "It intrudes into the homes of ¯ heterosexual couples as well." ¯ Buckley would not say whether he thought the ¯ bill was likely to pass, only that he hopes the : Legislature has progressed since the original mea- ¯ sure passed. Dr. ML King Would Have Fought AIDS LAS VEGAS (AP) - Martin Luther King Jr. did not live to see the scourge ofAIDS, but ifhe had, he would have been a leader in the battle against the disease, health care experts and religious leaders believe. "Of course he would have been out there talking about AIDS and advocating programs to help stop the spread Of HIV ," said the Rev Lionel Starkes, an HIVi AIDS counselor for the Clark County Health District. Starkes was a member of a panel that discussed the subject "AIDS: WhatWouldBe Dr. King’ s Involvement?" The panel was part of activities in observance of the national holiday honoring King’s birthday. Ulysess Palrose, HIV/AIDS care coordinator for Sierra Health Services, said that nationwide, the number of people dying from AIDS has declined, as have the number of people infected with HIV. But the number of blacks contracting the vires has increased. ’Tmnot an expert on Dr. Martin Luther King, and I don’ tknow all thereis to know aboutAIDS, but all I doknow tellsme that he would be a drum major" in the fight against HIV, particularly in regard to the African American commumty, Palrose said. According to national statistics, 43 percent ofnew HIV/AIDSpatients are black. Blacks constitute about 13 perccgt of the population. More than 50 percent of all babies and women infected with HIV are ’black. Scientist Develops New HIV Treatment LEXINGTON, Ky. (AP) -A University of Kentucky (UK) scientist holds patents on two new methods for treating AIDS and cancer with drugs that have been around for years. Trials of the cancer therapy are at least two years away, but the AIDS therapy could be tested on human patients later this year in South Af- Dr. Vincent Gallicchio, a cell biologist and associate dean of research in UK’s College of Allied Health Professions, developed and patented the AIDS treatment independently. Gallicchio came up with the cancer therapy in partnership with Milton Yatvin, professor of radiation oncology at the Oregon Health Science Center. They jointly hold the patent on this treatment. In combatting AIDS, Gallicchio proposes a combination ofAZT or DDI- two anti-viral drugs now prescribed for the disease - and lithium, a drug used for decades to treat manic depression. Research has shown that lithium, in addition to its beneficial effects on mental illness, stimulates the human immune system. AIDS kills people by destroying their immunity. Therefore, Gallicchio thinks that an AZT-lithium "cocktail" might stabilize AIDS patients by charging up their immune systems. Gallicchio and Yatvin plan to attack cancer with a new kind of drug-delivery system, putting standard chemotherapy agents inside naturally occurring human immune cells called "macrophages." Theoretically, the macrophages would carry thehighly toxic chemotherapy drugs directly to the site of the cancer, leaving healthy tissue unharmed. Lithiumwas first suggestedformedical use 50 years ago, and approved by the FDA for use in manic depressive patients about 1970. "We’ re sort of the first to put two and two together," said Gallicchio who, in addition to his UKpost, heads the International Society for Lithium Research, a.scientific group devoted to learning more about the drug. One reason lithium’ s potential in AIDS hash’ t been researched before, Gallicchio said, is economics. Lithium is cheap. So, there’ s been little economic incentive for pharmaceutical finns to explore its potential in AIDS because profits wouldn’t be great. Lithium’s toxicity also has been problem, but Gallieehio says that’s been solved. Gallicchio plans to test his idea in South Africa, where selected AIDS patients will be given his lithium cocktail. South Africa was chosen as the test site, he said, because its AIDS incidence rate is one of the world’s highest. In battling cancer, Gallicchio and his pamier,Yatvin, envision a system in which .powerful drugs would zip straight to the site of the disease, like homing pigeons, ignoring healthy tissue. To achieve that, they would use macrophages. Macrophages are large immune cells, which are manufactured in the bone marrow and then migrate to the body’ s orgaus. Each organ has its own macrophage, and each macrophage somehow knows which organ it is assigned to. A liver macrophage knows it’ s supposed to go to the liver; a brain macrophage knows it’ s supposed to travel to the brain, and so on. Gallicchio and Yatvin propose to use this macrophage "homing instinct."To treat, say, liver cancer, you could pm chemotherapy drugs inside liver macrophages, whichthen would carry them straight to the cancer. The plan would be to grow macrophages in an artificial environment, combine them with cancer drugs, then deliver the mixture into cancer patients intravenously. But Gallicchio says it will be about two years before trials in humans. First, researchers mustprove the approach works in animals, and that it poses no hazards to patients. Charity to Help Children with AIDS tCAMPALA, Uganda (AP)-Funds raised by Rotary International will pay for projects devoted to children affected by polio and AIDS-related diseases, the organization’s president said recently. Speaking to reporters before the opening of Rotary’ s International Summit on Africa, James Lacy of Cookeville, Tenn., said the organization would also fund facilities that offer corrective plastic surgery and finance micro-credit facilities, job training and educational programs. More than 400 Rotary members from 23 nations have gathered for the three-day conference opened by Prime Minister KintuMusoke, whoread a statement from President Yoweri Museveni. "I’m glad ¯ that President Lacy has chosen poverty as ¯ the main theme of the conference," ¯ Museveni said in his statement. "Poverty : is a great problem in Africa, andwehope ; you will offer practical solutions to it." ¯ Lacy, 68, said Rotary’s efforts would : focus this yearonchildren and their health. : "I came here to see the problems faced by : children and to see exactly where we can ¯ help," he said. : Rotary has committed more than $313 : million since 1985 to the goal of eradicat- INTRODUCING OUR NEW ASSOCIATE! John Serrot, MSW HUNT MSW Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1515 S. Lewis (918) 743-4117 JUDY SEYMOUR CADC JOHN SERROT, MSW a Diverse Community Are You Gay or Bisexual? Are You Native American? 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(AP) - An HIV-posifive Army private from New York City was sentenced to three years in military prison after pleading guilty to aggravated assault for having unprotected sex. Gerland Squires, 21, also will receive a bad-conduct discharge from the Army and forfeit all pay and benefits. Her rank was immediately reduced from private first class to private. After a 1997 blood test revealed Ms. Squires had HIV, her commander at Aberdeen Proving Ground ordered her to use condoms and tell her sexual partners that she carried the AIDS virus. But Ms. Squires did not tell eight men she was HIV-positive and had unprotected sex with four of them, prosecutors said. She told a ninth man she had the virus but did not insist he use a condom. None of the ninemen- six enlisted and three civilians - has tested positive for the virus. Ms. Squires,cryingonthe witness stand, told jurors she had sex to escape her fear and confusion about having HIV and passing it on to-her daughter, who is now 9 months old. She said she feared rejeclion if she told her sex partners she has HIV. Aberdeen Proving Ground, about 40 miles north of Baltimore, was the site of the biggest sex scandal in U.S. mililary history in 1997. Twelve drill instructors were accused of forcing female subordinates to have sex. One instructor was cleared, and the remaining 11 either were convicted or re’signed. India’s Challenge: AIDS Treatment NEW DELHI, India (AP) - On paper at least, India is ready to cope with the consequences of increasing AIDS cases. It hopes to avoid being overwhelmed by not just the disease, but byfear and ignorance. P.L. Joshi, deputy director of the government’s National AIDS Control Organization, confidently fingers a thick, plastic-bound sheaf of tables and prose that detail how nearly 1 million medical workers, from hospital janitors to surgeons, will be trained to care for AIDS patients. But Joshi acknowledges the training has barely begun, and those patients today face being alined away by hospitals or, when they are admitted, find that doctors and nurses refuse even to touch them. "’There is an element of fear," Joshi said. "People think that if they handle these patients, they will get the disease. Discrimination can only be taken care of by a strong training program." Experts say India’s nearly 1 billion people are in only the early stages of an AIDS epidemic that already has swept over Europe and America and decimated Africa, where in some places a quarter of the population is infected with the AIDS virus. .Joshi and his colleagues in India’ s campmgn against AIDS have focused on education and prevention, hoping to keep the infection rate down. Now they acknowledg. e they also must face the challenge of canng for people with full-blown AIDS and those infected with the virus. The World Bank predicts that already snuggling medical systems in developing countries like India will be so swamped by AIDS it will be impossible for people with other diseases to get care. India’ s government estimates 5 million people, less than 1% of Indians, are infected with the AIDS virus. That is considered low by many experts because it is based on very limited testing, but even that figuremeans one of the world’ s poorest countries has more infected people than any other nation. The estimate of infected Indians has increased steadily from 2.5 million in 1996, spreading mainly through heterosexual sex into the general public from high-risk groups like prostitutes and intravenous drug users. Joshi’s agency says the number of full-blown AIDS cases has soared from six in 1986 to 3,167 in 1996 to around 5,000 in 1998. Knowledge about the disease is lacking amongmostIndians,including health professionals. Four years ago, India’ s largest and most prestigious hospital, the All- India Institute of Medical Sciences, surveyedits morethan7,000 employees about AIDS. Dr. Bir Singh, head ofAIDS training at the institute, said he found many staffmembers did not follow even simple procedures like using needles properly to ensure they did not prick themselves with tips contaminated with a patient’s blood. Worse, Singh found doctors and nurses infected with the prejudices about AIDS that are common in the rest of India. A disease linked to sex and drugs in this conservative society is deeply shameful, and those infected with the virus are often treated as if they deserve to die. "The moment it becomes known that a person on a ward is HIV-positive, fear engulfs the ward. That fear is still rampant. That shows theignorance among the medical community," he said. "If the time comes, God forbid, when one in four patients is HIV+, what will we do?" Sahara, a private residential drug treatment program supported by international aid groups, already faces that problem. Director Neville Selhore estimates a third. of the 120-130 recovering drug addicts living at Sahara’s house in south New Delhi are infected. "In 1990, a lot of the people here started to fall ill," said Selhore’ s wife and co-director, Elizabeth. They soon learned the increasing cases of tuberculosis and shingles pointed to the spread of the AIDS virus and took on the task of treating that as well as addiction. Over the years, the Selhores have developed a matter-of-factness about AIDS that would be striking anywhere. The couple and their young sons live at Sahara along with the recovering addicts. The boys "know about the disease, and they’ re cool," Selhore said. "They see how we deal with it. They know there are onlv so many ways it can be transmitted." At the 16-bed clinic that Sahara opened earlier this year, attendants pat patients’ hair or help them walk with casual affection. They counsel the patients not to share medications like ointment, to use condoms, to stay healthy. Pop music plays in the background. With books and board games on a shelf in a room that doubles as parlor and nurse’ s office, the atmosphere is that of an unusually calm and orderly college dorm. The message is simple: People with the AIDS v~rus can live a normal life if they are armedwithinformation. "Weteachpeople to take care of themselves. Because how many people can the government and orgamzations like this take care of?" Tulsa is blessed with quite afew excel- " eration just hasn’t seemed to work. lent arts organizations good fortune of this newspaper to-be able to work with most of them. Tulsa Family News was honored especially to have been a media sponsor for Philbrook’s Year of Europe in 1998. We’ve also had the pleasure of working with Gilcrease, the Philharmonic, Tulsa Ballet, Tulsa Opera and again the Tulsa Performing Arts Center Trust (TPACT). All of these orgamzations recognize that, stereotypes not withstanding, Tulsa’s Lesbian and Gay commuand it’s been the " Philbrook’s new Beads exhibit promises to be interesting Villain no. 1: American Theatre Company. Repeated calls to Kitty Roberts have resulted in no response. Ms. Roberts apparently thinksTheTulsaWorld reaches everyone with whom she needs to bother. I mean if someone calls repeatedly to say they’ll give you some free press if you only will send a press release, ’why not? Surely this is not a case of bias since a prominent member of this company is aGay man. Perhaps once they couldnothave afforded the extra stamps but in these days of faxes and e-mail, what gives? nities do support the arts, perhaps even beyond our numbers. As the lovely Camille Sartain, formerly ofTPACT and now working at Gilcrease has stated, it just doesn’t make sense for arts organizations not to reach out to the Gaycommu- So itmakes you wonder about the folks who just don’t seem to get it! Ani]’they mostly seem to be theater types, amazingly enough. Tulsa Family News continues to have difficulty with several organizations whom,we will name in hope that we .might shame them into treating Gay people fairly. It doesn’t seem that it could hurt since politely asking for their coop- ¯ Villain no. 2: Theatre Tulsa! run by a ¯¯ wall-known Gay man whom you can see at Renegades’ pool tables regularly. Re- " peated visits in person have not persuaded these folks to share info. about their per- " formances. Now some with more wicked ¯ tongues than I might say that no self- " respecting Gay would want to see some of the ponderous theatrical warhorses this ¯ company produces- still tastes do vary in ¯ ourcommtmity. Notealso, thateveaacall ." toTFboard president Dan Call stillhasn’t ¯¯ moved the mountain. Villain no. 3: Celebrity Attractions. We ¯ save the worst for last. ¯ see Celebrity, p. 13 Les Ballets Trockadero de Monte Carlo March 16 at 8 p.m, Chapman Music Hall TULSA PERFORMING ARTS CENTER Tickets $1 O-$30 Dancing the fine line between hiqh art and high camp, Les Ballets Trockadero de Monte Carlo delights audiences around the world. ~ Les Ballets Trockadero is the world’s foremost all,male comic ballet company. Sponsored in part by: OKLAHOMA ,Join us. For a of 2Oth century classics. CELEBRATE THE 20TH CENTURY WITH THREE CONTEMPORARY BALLETS, ALL CHOREOGI~&PHED BY MODERN [3AY DANCE MAVENS. FROM KURT JOOSS’ BRI LLIANT CLASSIC TO NACHO DUATO’S CURRENT HIT. MOV[MENT ON THE CUTTING EDGE. BODIES IN ACTION. BOTH ARTISTICALLY AND ATHLETICALLY. DANCE IN PURSUIT OF WHAT’S NEXT. MUCH TO THE DELIGHT OF OUR AUDIENCE MEMBERS. THE GREEN TABLE. THE MORE THINGS CHANGE. THE MORE WAR STAYS THE SAME. 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Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615. by Adam West Toby Sligh is one of those characters, heroes really, who comes along only once a generation or so. Like Ishmael or Pip or Hamlet, he brings out all of 0urfears anddreams andhopes and desires. Don’t get me wrong, Daniel Vilmure, the author of Toby’s Lie is not yet a Melville or Dickens. He’s nowhere near Shakespeare. But when this promising young author decided to make a worthwhile character, he really overshot his mark. Toby is in love with Ia~., the one-eyed rich kid that has the "most popular" spot at their Jesuit-run Catholic school. Toby wants to take Ian to the prom. This causes quite a stir, which gets Toby even more confusedthanhis mothermoving out of the house for mysterious reasons. It confuses him morethan the beautiful Latin priest who may or may not be the child molester ofyoungToby’s dreams. It confuses him more than his theoretically drug-dealing best friend. It confuses him almost as much as his relationship with the AIDS-stricken priest that’]ae visits at lan’s behest in the local hospital. Toby’s life gets thrown around in a whirlwindofstrangefriends, strangerfamily and familiar strangers. It is how Toby ¯grows tofignreeverything out, andaceept the strangeness, that makes him a hero. And make no mistake - to the young people growing up Gay in this world l’oby Sligh should be a hero. What struck me most about Toby’s Lie was the fact that it’s a cleverly disguised AIDS novel. Don~t be put off. We’ve all had enough of our emotions beingjerked around by badly written, overly soap opera- ish, ’woe-is-me’ plays, movies, books, articles, poems, and television specials. But we should not become disinterested by a work that truly captures what AIDS has done to our community (by ’community’ I mean Earth, not the local ’ghetto’). This problem is not over, and Toby’s Lie reminds us of that. Finally, an author reminds us, touches us, in a way that provokes thought instead of stifling it. ]’oby’s problems are many. He’s bombarded onall sides by the schemes and lies of everyone he knows. He’s not innocent. But he is honest.., in a way that few of us are ever tndy so: Toby is willing to say what he fears. And in the end when the fear ofAIDS piles on top of all the others, l’oby greets it with true courage. What Toby’s Lie tinally brings us is a unique novel in Gay literature. Vilmure has not succumbed to the need to whine that our supposed classics (like E.M. Forster, Edmund White or Andrew Ric Poston, OklahomaMr. Leather will host a multi-family garage sale to help with his titleholder travel fund. This event will be held in Jenks at 420 West Eighth .on Saturday and Sunday, Feb. 20-21, from 7am to dark. Donations of furniture, clothes, magazines, etc. will be accepted and can be picked up by calling 299-6442. Tol~ Sli~h is one of those ~lmracters, heroes really, ~ho come alon~ only once a ~eneratlon or so. Like Ishmael or Pip or Hamlet, he brin~s out. all of our fea~s and dreams and hopes and desires. Holleran) have. Vilmure is aware of the dangers Of being Gay and being young. He’s aware of everything that scares us. However, unlikemostofus who are afraid, this author faces the fear with introspection and grace and dignity. Toby does not run away fromhis fears in the end, and that is what saves his life. This is a coming of age novel, but Toby grows up like most of us do not - Toby learns to stand up for himself. This is a quality that is sadly lacking in the Gay community, no matter how many snappy queens you know. I’d like to digress a little here, soforgivemeinadvance. This is after all my last review for you (I’m moving to New York!). Do you remember Blaxploitation?Thosehorren- ¯ dous movies, books and television shows ¯¯ (Yes, Shaftwasjustas awful as Blacula!) that poured onto the market when enter- ." tainment moguls realized that Black ¯ people liked TVtoo? ¯ I’d like to send you a warning. Beware ¯¯ of Queer-ploitation. The signs of its arrival arehere (was In andOutor To Wong ¯ Foo really for us, even if they were much ¯ loftier than Blacula?). I came across it ¯ most recently when I started a book for ¯ this very review. The book is called Eye ¯ Contact and it is a mystery with a Gay ¯ protagonist. After my years of schooling ¯ and intelligent discourse about literature, ¯ Icouldonly thinkofonewordthatsummed ¯ up this book: stupid. ¯" Don’t be fooled by the attractive half- ¯. nakedman on the cover- his picure is not worth the price. Or the support a purchase ¯ shows to the publisher who would put out : a badly-written, ill-conceived novel, just ¯ because they discovered Gay people read ¯ tOO. ¯ Be careful what you buy. Just because a : book has a Gay protagonist, does not ¯ mean it is good to buy. Don’t let them ¯ think they can sell us Good Times when ¯ we could be purchasing Will and Grace. ¯ Buy Toby’s Lie or Blue Coyote (reviewed ¯ last month), rather than something that ¯ has a pretty chest on the cover and no muscle inside. ¯ Thank you for reading my reviews and take care of us. ¯ Adam West is no longer a resident of ¯ Tulsa or Oklahoma, having relocated the ¯ Batcave to the state of New York. He ¯ practically has no credentials, and he ¯ certainly no longer has ajob. ¯ Editor’s note: Tulsa Family News would ¯ like to thank Adamfor his work as a book ¯ reviewer and to wish him good luck and ¯ much warmth as he moves to the frozen northland.s. ¯ Poston, as Oklahoma Mr. Leather, has ¯ traveled to 14 community events in the ¯ last H weeks. He’sbeentotheDistrictof ¯ ¯ Columbia twice, San Francisco and the Mid:Atlantic redon. Poston wants corn- ¯ munity members to know that he is avail- : abletoassistinbenefitsandalsohasgiven ¯ seminars on Gay family structurerecently ¯ to Red Rock and to PFLAG. He will be ¯ going to IML, Intemational Mr. Leather ¯ inMay, hoping to continue theOklahoma ¯ tradition of Leather leadership. 748.5304 THE PHILBROOK MUSEUM OF ART We knowyou’re going to love this[ Restaurant & Cabaret 310 East First Street 918-599-9949 Massage Therapy Services V Edgar O. Cruz, L.M.T. 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Boyd Street, Norman, OK 405/325-3272, Free Admission, Museum Store Organized by the Frederick R.Weisman Art Museum at the University of Minnesota, Minneapolis, and made possible with the assistance of OAC, the NAHC HoteLrMotel Tax and the NEA. Editor’s note: our DIYD expert is in an " try a few out, as there is some slight alternative universe this month, at least . variation even within a similarlot ofhamaccording to her answering machine. She ~ mers. promises to return to earlh orbit with a o A tape measure is handy to have as new column next month. In the meantime, well, since accurate measurements help we repeat this useful column from last ensure successful projects. My advice is March. to buynothing less than by Mary Schepers Everyone al6 ft and preferably a Everyone needs a needs a t0oll~it. 25 ft. There is a meatoolkit. Our editor suring tape called the laughs lasciviously and Our editor laughs "’E-Z Rule" that not offers his own sugges- laselvlously and only has the cry.ptic dons, which I won’t hashmarksbetweenthe dignify by repeating, o~ers ]~is own inches but also the ac- Whether your ambisuggestions, whleh I tual measurement in tions extend no further number (i.e. 1/8, 1/2, than installing mini- won’t dignify 5/8,etc.)foraquickand blinds, or whether it easy fix on just where involves "project fan- by repeating, you are. I confess that, tasies" on a regular ba- Wl~etber your prior to owning an E-Z sis, some basic tools Rule, I sometimes had should bc standard in ambitions extend no to count out the hash any home. ~urtl~er than marks to verify my To begin with; a few measurement, ttome of the DIYD’s basic installing mlni-bllnds, repairs don’t have to rules: first, buy the best - or wl~etl~er it involves be that painful - oh, tools you can afford, memories of Sister Trust me on this one; it "project fantasies" Mary Agnes’ s math does make adifference, class!Always try to use and it’s a worthwhile on a regular basis, the measuring tool maxim to follow, even some basic tools each time; this is really if you must occasion- critical ff you are meaally resort to layaway should, be standard suring things that need ordelayedgratffieation, i~i any borne, to fit together, as I Second, honor your found out to my distools and save yoursdfalot offrustration: may inmy early handy-dyke days. Seems keep your tools together and organized, there there’s always some variation even They deserve b~tter than to be chucked with something as standard as measureunceremoniously into your standardjunk ment. Of course, size queens have known drawer, or under the seat of your car, or - this for years. horrors! - propping up a potted plant. A few wrenches are also he~udy to have Third, think about the tasks you do most about. My recommendations: one pair of often and- buy the necessary tools first, normal pliers; one pair of slip joint phers A screwdriver set is almost a given. If (channel locks); and one pair of adjustyoudon’t thinkitis essential tohavemore able locking pliers (vise grips). This is a than just one, used indiscriminately for bare minimum. If you are going to get everything, please bear with me. Bare serious about home repairs, I’d also sugminimum, four screwdrivers: large and gest a small set of combination box end/ small each of a fiat blade and a Phillips open end wrenches in the standard (not head (cross shaped) screwdriver. Myself, metric) size, a pair of needle nose pliers, I like four.of each type as a minimum, some wire cutters (aka, "Dykes" -Inn), frommonstroustominute;mosttaskswill and at least one pipe wrench. However, fall somewhere in the middle, but its great the bare minimum will take care of most to have the extremes (no, not the Supremes) basic jobs. on hand when you need them. Referring back to Rule no. 2, do your- Using the proper type .and size screw- self and your tools a favor and keep them driver helps prevent the frustration of together.I’mnotjustbeingabitanalhere; cam-out (or"wallerin’ out", as I was raised I’m still looking for tools I used to rehab to say) when you are halfway finished my house. Suggestions: a tool drawer in driving a screw and can neither go further the house; a peg board with hooks in the nor back it out. When selecting screw- garage; a plastic bucket or trays with drivers, it is easy to ignore Rule no. 1: handles or a gatemouth bag. The there’s Darlings, don’t do it! Cheap drivers bend, my favorite, the tool brit. I always keep a break and lose head integrity, which also ¯ hammer, a couple of screwdrivers, ameacontributes to cam-out. You didn’t save : suring tape and a small pair of vise grips much money if you blow through a set of : in mine, along with a carpenter’ s pencil. I screwdriverseveryyear.Finally,useyour ¯ can just grab that little darling and get drivers to drive screws only. They are ° started on any basic tasks right away. It neither cold chisels noricepicks norham- ¯ also holds the nails, screw, drill bits, etc. mers. that I’ll be using specific to that task. A proper hammer should also be in ° Tins brings me to a cautionary tale. My your basic tool box anyway. There are all " friend C. was on a ladder nailing some sortsofhammers-finishing,framiug,ball ¯ sidingrecenfly;shecarfiedhernailsinthe peen, etc. If you only have one hammer, ¯ time-honored yet dangerous method - make it acarpenter’s hammer. It candrive " between her lips. She and the ladder took or pull nails, nudge a stubborn board into " a tumble, a nail went down her throat, place, even demolish that tacky Pepto ¯ resulting in a $3500 trip to the ER. In that pinktile tub surround. Once again, review ¯ Light, a tool belt is also very economical. Rule no. 1. A cheap hammer will beat you If this st0ry doesn’ t convince of the merits like a stepchild if you useit for any length ¯ of a tool belt, please consider its aesthetof time. A hammer should feel well-bal- ¯ ics: a tool belt has a certain butchly charm anced in your hand and comfortable to : that almost defies description. Just ask the grip. Stanley makes a good hamm,er, but " men and women who know. by Esther Rothblum ¯ publishers. One publisher said they had Irecentlyhadaconversation~vithElana : too many Jews on their list already!" Dykewomon about her latest book Be- " When Elana was doing a reading of a yond the Pale, a novd about the lives of ¯ section of the book, an editor who hap- RussianJewishLesbianswhoimmigrated " pened to be in the audience knew of antoNorthAmericanattheturn "~rhen I was 12 or other woman who was of the century. Elana searching for Lesbian mate- Dykewomontmsalwaysbro- 18,I tried tol~ll rial to adapt for her ken new ground. Her book myself. I was one of storytelling performances. Riverfinger Womanwas one "My of the first Lesbian novels, those statistics of section was then dramatized," Elana told me. "I Beyond the Pale won the adolescent Les[rians saw this woman, Helen 1998 Lambda Literary who attempt su~elde. Mintz, performing it once Award for Lesbian fiction, and I was floored. It’ s amaz- I asked her how she be- "~hen I was . ing to see someone act your came a writer. "I was always institutionali~d, work. She performed it in writing. I was a writing Vancouver where the edichild," she said."When I was I realked tlmt tors of Press Gang Publish- 12 or 13, I tried to kill my- writers didn’t kave ers heard it and wrote to me self. I was one of those statistics of adolescent Lesbi- to be 0endered in the askingmeif they could consider publishing the book." ans who at[empt suicide, same way that 01rls As Elana continued WhenI was institutionalized, -. and boys did. work on the book, shehad to I realized that writers didn’ t researchmany aspects oflife have to be gendered in the same way that at the turn of the century. "I had toread the . girls and boys did. That is, I could choose really dry stuff," she said, "like the history to be neither a traditional girl nor boy; I of the grain trade in Odessa. I couldn’t go could be a writer." Elana.found that she to Russia, so I was looking for descripcould be eccentric and free in that m.le as tions of streets and figuring outwhat daily a writer, life was like. My girlfriend Susan In college at the California Institute of Levenkind is a librarian and she was very Arts, Elanamet anumber of experimental good at finding tbings out for me. I would poets and became active in Gay libera- read a book and then use their bibliogration. One of her teachers knew someone phy as a starting point. I learnedhow to be in publishing. ’¢Fhis was 1971, and they an historian." A friend gave her a book were starting a slightly pornographic se- about the Women’ s Trade Union League, ties for housewives to cash in on the new which turned out be quite a Lesbian orgafeminist sexuality," Elana remembered, nization. She went to labor libraries, and laughing, "and told me to write up my even looked up the transportation system experiences. I wrote the first third of the in New York City at the turn of the cenbook in !8 straight hours. I wanted to tury. write a Lesbian novel with a happy end- At book readings, Elana prefers seeing." But the publisher said it was not tlons of her book that describe the powhat they were looking for. groins in Russia. "I also like to read the By this time Elana had moved to the sectionsthathavealittlesexinthem,"she women’ s community in Northampton, said. For example, when Chava and Rose Massachusetts. The feminist publisher fall in love: Daughters Inc. had sent flyers around "Rose leaned towards me, put her hand townand afriendrecommended thatElana on my cheek to turn my face so we could send her book to thatnew company. They see each other... ’So if you want to and I accepted Riverfinger Woman whichcame want to, who starts?’ out in print in 1974, one year after they I pulled the tenement air down to the published Rubyfruit Jungle. The Naiad bottom of my lungs. This was harder than Press reprint of Riverfinger Woman con- goingout on strike. I moved my lips onto eludes with an essay detailing Elana’s Rose’ s. Together. We had been lying in process in getting this book published, bed together for more than two years. Elana went on to publish three more ¯ Careful.Cousins. Leftside, rightside, I’m books before her current novel. They Will worn out, me too, goodnight. KnowMeByMy Teeth was a colleclion of No, I changed my mind as the kissshort stories which she self-published in engulfed our faces and my hands found 1976. She also published abook ofpoems the soft flesh of her shoulders and pressed entitled Fragments From Lesbos. In 1995 her close. This was easier than going on Onlywomen Press published her book of strike. This was easier than anything." poems Nothing Will BE As Sweet As The The response from readers has been Taste. Elana also had a long stint as an wonderful. ’T ve gotten lots ofletters sayeditor of the feminist periodical Sihister ing ’This is my grandmother’s Story’ or Wisdom. ’now I understand my history’ or hetero- Beyond the Pale began over ten years sexualwomenintheir70s or80s wholove ago as a poem. After she had written that this story," said Elana. poem, Elana felt that there was a longer . The "Lammies" (Lambda Literary story there. "So I started to think who ¯ Awards) are to Lesbian writing what the these two women would be and who their ¯ Oscars are to Hollywood. Elana’ s award familieswouldbe, whatwouldmakethem " for Lesbian fiction is the eqnivalent of the migrate. I started to read old books about " best actress award in the Oscars. She was travellors in Russia at the turn of the : awarded the most recent Lammy for Lescentury. The depths of the anti-Semitism ¯ bian fiction. in these books was stnnning to me." For further information, contact Elana "I wrote what became the midwife’s " Dykewomon at dyke@sfsu.edu. Beyond story, and decided this could be a novel. ¯ the Pale was published in 1997 by Press When the first half of the book was done, " Gang Publishers, 225 East 17th Ave., I got someunencouraging responses from " Vancouver, B.C. VSV IA6, Canada. IGTA member Call 341.6866 International Toursformoreinformation. AUTHENTIC FRESH ITALIAN RAINBOW CUS1NE TROUT ofEureka Springs Voted Number One in Arkansas] (501) 253-680Z Closed Wednesday 5 Center Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 COCONUT BEER BATTERED SHRIMP PRIME RIB FRESH CLAMS VE(;IE STIR FRY COG;tUILE ST. JAGIUES MAHI-MAHI RACKOF LAMB CHOCOLATE SOUFFLE Red Rock Tulsa O’RYAN Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Netxvork Outreach Program Thurs. 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Cincinnati. 582-4128 The Episcopal Church Welcomes You "It is this organizing at the state level that will ultimately counter the hostility and gridlock we have come to know from our nation’s capital," she added. Never before in the history of the Gay rights movement has there been a coordinated political campaxgn of actions in all 50 states as well as the District of Columbia and Puerto Rico. Equality Begins at Homerepresents anew phase of the movement - a focus on state orgamzing and legislatures. The vast majority of debates and decisions about Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender equality occur in state legislatures. Equality Begins atHome will bolster the infrastructure of the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, andTransgendermovement within the states - where the heart of the struggle for equality lies - and lead to greater success in the overall struggle for equality. Each state organization will develop events to highlight priority issues: * In California, activists will focus on defeating an anti-Gay ballot measure to be put before voters next year. Events will include a rally and youth lobby day. * In New Hampshire, activists will hold a rally at the state capitol to focus attention on the need to repeal a state law banning Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender people from adopting children. * In Nebraska, organizers will target workplace discrimination. They will hold a lobby day and circulate a "Workplace Fairness Petition" to business owners Early on, Tulsa Family News was’told not to expect fair treatment from this operation due to the religious prejudices of the owner, Larry Payton. And true to that warning, Payton never has taken Tulsa’s Gay community seriously as part of his market. They do send out press releases sometimes but at least on one occasion only after the deadlines for every monthly pul~- lication had passed. There’s not much point in writing about this sort of event two weeks after it’s over. It would be one thing if their decisions were made on serious business rationale such as reach of a publication or the cost for a particular market segment. But Payton openly admits that he is motivated by religion; that is, as a Southern Baptist he feels it’s his religious duty to discriminate against Gay readers. Now what was it that Jesus said? Love your neighbor as yourself, wasn’t it? Is that how he would want to be treated? Note, however, that he doesn’t hesitate to use Gays when it is to his advantage, say, like many of the people with whom he does business: the actors, the theatrical companies, even a member of his own staff. The one time he advertised with this newspaper for The Phantom ofthe Opera was because we contacted The Phantom company who -~magine, were mostly Gay men. It seems they thought reaching out to us was a good idea. Oh well, don’t look to see info. about these companies anytime soonif wejudge from past performance. But we always hold out hope for redemption, that these hard hearts might be softened. Meanwhile don’t miss the new shows at Philbrook. Drop by Gilcrease too when throughout the state. "The battleground for equality has moved to the states, and so have we," said Paula Ettelbrick, Equality Begins atHome national coordinator. "We are throwing down the gauntlet and demanding that state officials resist the right wing’s efforts to deny us our basic fights as citizens," Ettelbrick added. Equality Begins at Home is part of a campaign to counter the growing muscle of the right wing and its anti-Gay attacks. In the last few years, the right has passed dozens of anti-Gay laws in dozens of states. In addition, 1998 was one of the most vicious years in recent memory. Senate Majority Leader Trent Lott likened homosexuality to kleptomania and sex addiction. Congress introduced a number of mean-spirited anti-Gay measures. Rightwing groups launched a major advertising campaign attacking Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender people. In addition, voters approved anti-Gay ballot measures in Alaska; Hawaii; Fayetteville, Arkansas; Fort Collins, Colorado; and Ognnquit, Maine "Our demands are simple and in line with basic American values: the right to be safe, to have a family, to hold ajob, and to participate fully as citizens. It’ s exactly what every American wants anddeserves," said Gina Reiss, co-chair of the Federation of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Statewide Political Orgamzations and executive director of New Jersey Lesbian and Gay Coalition. For a calendar of events for Equality Beg ins atHome, please view our web site at http://www.equalitybeginsathome.org Note also that February will be quite the month for dance with the Tulsa Ballet seemingly getter better with ev cry performance (2/5-7 The Green Table. Equinoxe and Jardi Tancat) and Les Ballets Trockadero de Monte Carlo in for just one, mind you, just one fabulous "men in tights" performanceon March 16th. Don’t miss it! - TFN entertainment editor Bill Laforttme. In Republican circles, it’s said that Gov. Frank Keating has suggested that he would not oppose the amendment. Also the following bills were introduced in the Oklahoma House: HB1224- An Act relating to children; amending 10 O.S. Supp. 1998, Section 7503-1.1, which relates to eligibility to adopt a child; making persons in certain cohabitation relationship ineligible to adopt a child. Author - Pope, Tim. HB 1707 - An Act relating to children: amending 10 O.S. Supp. 1998, Section 7503-1.1, which relates to eligibility to adopt; prohibiting certain persons from adopting children. Author - Graves, Bill HB 1314 - An Act relating to the Oklahoma Department of Libraries; mandating certain policies related to identification and separation of sexually explicit materials. Author - Graves, Bill HB 1703 - An Act relating to state government; prohibiting certain discrimanation;. Authors - Graves, Bill HB 1703 - An Act relating to state government; prohibiting certain discrimination; to any individual ol group on the basis of race, sex, color, ethnicity, or national operation in public employment, education, or contracting. Author - Graves, Bill Plans for 1999 include a creative arts night in .February both for the artistically inclined and the not so artistically indined, a bingo night in March, dance lessons in February, a Sadie Hawkins dance in May, a camping and float trip in June, a spirituality and healing arts night in July, a Casino night in August, a,.weekend in Eureka Springs in October, movie night in November, and a hiatus in December (since so much else is going on anyway) and then in January 2000, a progressive potluck dinner. Additionally the group has planned a Memorial Day alternative picnic and softball game for May. "We tried to create a wide diversity of ideas and activities knowingthat not every one enjoys the same kind of things," said Joan. "It was also suggested to have mid-month bike rides, walking groups, bowling nights and other sports related activities ." Joan added, "we hope to attract singles, couples and break down some of the barriers womenhave for attending. All of our activities have a small fee to help offset printing and postage and site rental costs. We are also planning fund raisers for different organizations." To learn more about Gal-A-Vanting or to get the mailing list, call Mary at 743- 6740, Kathy at 322-6322, or Barb at 459- 6825. but specifically shielded only heterosexual, and nothomosexual, activity. The decision prompted protests by Gay civil rights activists, who said the ruling denied them eq]aal rights. The Court of Appeals also was silent on anal sex, which remained illegal for everyone in the state. The ACLU asked Rombro to declare the law unconstitutional, but the judge instead ruled the Court of Appeals’ decision on oral sex should extend to homosexual activity as well. In the final ruling, Rombro agreed that private, consensual anal sex also cannot be prosecuted under the law. AlthoughACLU leaders had originally planned to lobby the Maryland General Assembly to rescind or amend the old law, Sullivan said the organization is now satisfied with the judge’s ruling. Andrew H. Baida, an assistant attorney general, said state officials want to keep the old law to help prosecute cases of sexual .assault,prostitution or sex inpublicplaces. Center spokesman, Greg, adds that the Center also is hosting regular Pride Dances every other Saturday at 8pro. The Center ¯¯ now has a pool table to supplement the ping-pong and foosball tables it had be- " fore. Also, Centerlegal counsel, Kerry Lewis, ¯ shared that the board of directors of Tulsa : Oklahomans for Human Rights, the par- ¯ ent organization of the Pride Center, had : responded to the eviction notice of the : Center’s landlord. ¯ - Without delving into the legal partieu- ¯ larities, the board responded to the notice : saying that the Centerwas withinits rights ¯ under thelaw to post its signs and that the ¯ landlordhadWrongfully terminated their ¯ lease. The gist of the matter, according to ¯ Lewis is that all rights go to the tenant : unless specifically restricted by the landlord. ¯ Lewis stated too that the landlord and ¯ his attorney had failed to show up at a : meeting that was scheduled to try to re- . solve the conflict. : Lewis added that the landlord had been : asked to respond in a timely fashion, or : else, the board would seek legal redress ¯ for the damages already suffered by the : Center. ¯ Editor’s note: TFN will provide our ¯ readers an update to this conflict in our ¯ March issue. Classifieds - how to work them: First 30 words are $10. Each additional word is 25 cents. Options for your ad: Bold headline - $1, all capital letters - $1, all bold & capital letters - $2, ad in box - $2, Ad reversed - $3, tear sheet mailed - $2 Blind P.O. Box - $5 Please type or print your ad. Count the words - word is a group of letters or numbers separated by a space. TFNreserves the right to edit or refuse any ad. No refunds. 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Just $2.49 for certain optional features. 18+. Movo Media Inc. does not pre-screen callers and takes no responsibility for personal meetings. 800-825-1598 ©1998 Movo Media, Ind. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1999] Tulsa Family News, February 1999; Volume 6, Issue 2 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Call To Action! Tues., M.arch 2, 8-5 HB 1211 Lobby D.ay at OK State Capitol TULSA - State and local community organizers led in Tulsa by former national Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) president, Nancy McDonald, have called for an emergency lobby day at the State Capitol on Tues., March 2 in support of HB 1211 amending Oklahoma’s "hate crime" statute. At the Capitol, Keith Smith, a lobbyist with the OklahomaACLU and Sierra Club is help~g to coordinate lobbying. Keith can be reached through Peggy Leininger in State Senator Bemest Cain’s office. Keith may also be reached at 405-840-2219 and by e-mail at OKSmith@aol.com. Mrs. McDonald has noted that parents are particularly effective in reaching state legislators. M.C. Smothermon, who recently ran for US Congress is herself the mother of a hate crime victim and is encouraging any parents who’may wish to come to the Capitol to contact her at 405-340-7015. see Lobby, p. 3 Despite Murder, Wyoming Rejects Hate Crime Bill CHEYENNE, Wyo. (AP) - Four months after Gay college student Matthew Shepard was beaten to death, amove to pass hate crimes legislation in Wyoming was killed in committee. Wyoming is one nine states without bias crimes laws, and lawmakers have rejected similar measures four times since 1995. After Shepard’s death, calls for a bias crimes law increased - Republican Gov. Jim Geringer for the first time supported it. Geringer said that he was disappointed the legislation did not reach the Senate floor for debate, but he added that no law can change how people think about each other. Twomeasures died in the Senate Judiciary Committee. Both would have increased the maximum fine for a felony by up to $5,000 and raised themaximumprison term by up to five years if prosecutors could prove the crime was motivated by bias. State Sen. John Schiffer, the Judiciary chairman, said he hoped supporters of bias crime legislation would come back in future sessions with legislation that would have broader support. Opponents said they objected to listing motivating factors, such as race, religion and sexual orientation, saying the bills offered special protection to certain groups. Others said no new laws are needed, just strict enforcement of existing measures. Wende Barker, state coordinator for theWyoming Bias Crimes Coalition, said she was disappointed but not surprised and planned to try to push for such laws again next year. MJ DIRECTORY/LETTERS P, 2 EDITORIAL p, $ ~ US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P. 6 Z~ COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 BOOK REVIEW P. 10 DO-IT-YOURSELF-DYKE P. 11 DYKE PSYCHE/GAY STUDIES P. 12 mm CLASSIFIEDS + WEERWOLF P. 13 -- Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tuisans, Our Families + Friends Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations Oklahoma HouseCommittee Approves Hate Crime Bill by Tim Talley & Tom Neal OKLAHOMA CITY (AP/TFN) - A proposal to add sexual orientation to the list of hate crimes in Oklahoma is being criticized by opponents who question whether it will deter anti- Gay assaults.House Bill 1211 would add sexual orientationto the list of groups in the state’s hate ~wimes law, which already includes race, color, religion, ancestry, national origin and disability. "I think we’re going in the wrong direction," Ken Wood, executive director of the Oklahoma Christian Coalition, said Wednesday after the House Judicial Committee voted 5-3 for HB 1211 y Rep. Don Ross, D-Tulsa. I think xt creates an inequality of justice. This elevates particular groups to a higher status," Wood said. Keith Smith, a spokesman for the American Civil Liberties Union, said the measure is supported by many Oklahoma religious organizations. The bill’s passage by the House committee says "violence and hatred against certain groups is unacceptable," Smith said. But passage by the full Legislature "will be an uphill battle," he said. Opponents attacked the measure for "endorsing Gay lifestyles." ’¢l~ais is more about having a homosexual lifestyle as a normal lifestyle in contravention of 6,000 years of history," Rep. Bill Graves, R-OKC, said. "It goes against the Christian religion." Ross saidthe bill is a response to the beating death of Matthew Shepard, a gay college student in Wyoming who was pistolwhipped, robbed and lashed to a fence in October. Police said Shepard was attacked, in part, because he was homosexual. ’q’hey thought you were dangerous because you were different," Ross said as he read from a letter that Ross said he wrote to Shepard’s spirit. "You didn’t parade your lifestyle," Ross said. "Matthew, you were still in the closet.""I’m sorry for the misfits in our society," said Ross, who closed debate by recmng the Lord’s Prayer. .Critics, including Rep. Ray Vaughn, R-Edmond, said the hate crimes law has not stopped race- and religion-based attacks. "How would it be effective in stopping hate crimes against ; . homosexuals?’"Vaughn said. "r(seems to me we’~e creating "a : special class of Oklahoma citizens. We’re all entitled to the same ¯ respect." see HB 1211, p. 3 Methodist Anti-Gay Marriage Witchhunt Reaches Oklahoma TULSA - Tulsa United Methodist pastor, the Reverend Leslie Peurose of Community of Hope, has had formal charges brought ¯ against her for signing a statement of support for the Holy Union " ceremony between two California women, Ellie Charlton and ¯ Jeanne Barnett in Sacramento on January 16, 1999. ¯ Penrose, along with the Rev. Susan Ross ofPerkins, Oklahoma ¯ signeddocumentsofsupportfortheceremonylistingtheirnames ¯ : asas"officiantsinabsentia."Nearly80Methodistelergypartici_ ¯ .. pated in the widely publicized service to support the couple and " ¯ toprotestreeentdecisionsoftheUnitedMethodistChurchtoban ¯ -" its clergy from officiating or performing such services or from ¯ ¯ such services from being held in Methodist owned facilities. ¯ ¯ Boyce Bowden, spokesperson for the Oklahoma Conference, " United Methodist Church, acknowledged that charges had been " ," brought against Penrose but refused to provide any further ¯" information characterizing the issue as a "personnel issue" and ¯ therefore subject to employment confidentiality rules. Bowden did notmention charges brought against Ross. The Rev. Peurose ." was unable to comment officially. ¯ However, the charges were brought against Peurose and Ross ¯ ¯ by Jake P. Barker of First United MethOdist Church of Eufaula Barker is apparently tied to anti-Gay elements in the Methodist ." Church and copies of his complaint, as well as official responses ¯ have appeared verbatim on the website of "The Confessing ¯ Movement" (http://shell.surfsouth.com/~jwarrene/news/ ok_disobey2.html) "_ So while the Oklahoma Conference office and Oklahoma ¯ Bishop Blake has no comment, the full text of the Conferenee’s ¯ response to Barker is available on the intemet. ¯ The heart of the response of Conference’s response is that ¯ participation in a banned same-gender union or relationship ¯ blessing requires the clergy to be physically present. Therefore ¯ the signatures of Penrose and Ross constitute only a permissible ¯ expression of their opinion rather than a violation of Methodist ophne. Theletterwas signedby Paul Bowles, Tulsa District Superintendent, and Grayson Lucky, Stillwater District Superintendent, see Methodists, p. 3 Chastity Bono to Speak atApril Red Ribbon Gala TULSA- Tulsa C.A.R.E.S. (Center for AIDS Resources, Education and Support), formerly known as the HIV Resource Consortium, will hold its second annual fundraising dinner; the Red Ribbon Gala on Saturday, April 17th at 7:30 at the Downtown Doubletree Hotel. The event will feature a keynote address by Chastity Bono, author and Lesbian and Gay media activist. Bono’s address will emphasize the need for compassion and broad community support in the fight against AIDS. Proceeds from the event will support Tulsa C.A.R.E.S. which is the principal care-giving consortium for people living with HIV and AIDS in northeastern Oklahoma. More than 500 clients receive food, counseling, housing, medical prescription assistance from the agency. Bono’s participation in the Gala is co-sponsored by the Tulsa Chapter of PFLAG. Bono will also attend a booksigning in the early afternoon (time tba) on April 17 at the Tulsa Gay Community Services Center to benefit the Center. Also on April 17, local divaAudra Sommers will present Benefit 99, A Connection ofLove from 6- 8pm at the Parish Church of St. Jerome, 205 West King. Featured artists include Ernestine Dillard, Gregory Hyde, Link Filion, Rebecca Ungerman, Jonathan Brown and the Council Oak Men’s Chorale. Tickets are $25. Info: 836-5447. Vandal Invades Center Verbally Abuses Volunteer + Trashes Hail TULSA - Late last month, aman entered the Tulsa Gay Community Services Center, formerly known as The Pride Center, shouting obsenities at the volunteer, Shawn, who was staffing The Pride Store that evening: The man, a white male was described as being just over 6 foot tall and about 230 pounds with military style short red hair and a full beard and mustache. Shawn stated that the intruder stormed in the store, waving a Pride flag that he’d grabbed from a display near the stairs. She Said his message was essentially, "how dare you f--king faggots come to my town, you need to get the f--k out"and "I know what you look like; I’ll be back to finish what I started." Shawn then coolly asked him whether he felt better now and then the intruder stormed down the hall breaking a framed print and a floor lamp. Shawn called 911 while the intruder was breaking things in the hall. Tulsa Police responded promptly and Shawn said the officers were very professional and supportive but are not classifying the incident as a hate crime: Normally, Center volunteers workin teams; however, the other volunteer had stepped out to bring back fast food for dinner. Center board members have begun fundraising to purchase a surveillance system for the Center in response to the assault. ¯ Prime Timers to H.old Gay Center Fundra,ser ¯ TULSA -The Tulsa Area Prime Timers, a local : mens group, will hold its annual silent auction on ¯ Saturday, March 13 from 5-9pmin the Neal-Padgett : Hall of the newly renamed Tulsa Gay Community : Services Center, formerly known as The Pride ¯ Center. The event is held to raise funds for the ¯ Community Center and features a variety of ob- ¯ jeets from art, to collectables and even to services. ¯ Tulsa Area Prime Timers is the local chapter of an international mens organization. Originally the ¯ group restricted membership to men 40 and above and their partners. Now the organization is open to ¯ men 21 and above. For more information about the ¯ silent auction or Prime Timers or to donate an item for the auction, call 627-2359. Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. 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U134 501-253-7734 501-253-7457 501-253-6807 - 501-253-5445 501-253-9337 5131-253-2776 501-253-5332 501-624-6646 501-253-6001 501-253-4074 501-442-2845 417-623-4696 * is where you canfind TFN. Notall areGay-owned but all are Gay.friendly. Carbon Copy Mary Easely, Member Oklahoma House of Representatives Dear Mrs. Easely, As a man who happens to have been a victim of hate crimes based on sexual orientation, I would urge you to support house Bill 1211, simply because it’s the right thing to do. You may or may not agree with certain issues surrounding the subject, but surely you can realize that to be killed or maimed simply because of what others perceive you to be is wrong. We need a means to combat that sort of behavior in this city, and this bill is an ~mportant step in addressing that. Since moving to this state in 1993, I have been verbally attacked withepithets ranging from "faggot" to "f***ing queer" while simply-walking down the street with a friend. We were doing nothing untoward, simply walking and talking. ~nat has happened several times - unprovoked attacks. In another instance, I was nearly forced off a highway by a carfnl of kids yelling anti-Gay slurs. It is not hard to imagine that, considering the Mathew Shepard case, I was lucky. In school, I was the victim of several assaults due to the fact I was perceived as being Gay - long before I knew I was. I have never been one to carry flags and .proclaim my sexual orientation with a bullhorn in a parade, so these attacks, especially here in Tulsa, were a surprise - and an unpleasant reminder of a very difficult childhood. I know several men who were physically attacked, even as recently as this year, in settings - urban neighborhoods, daylight - that were surprisxng and upsetting - and undeserved. If the bill passes, then we can begin to effectively works towards eradicating, or limiting this sort of unacceptable violence. Please help this bill make it through. Be a part of the history that promoted a positive, better; peaceful world, not a part of history that ignored the hatred in this world and allowed it free reign. - name witheld by request, Tulsa cc: Don Ross Talking points for HB1211 It’ s not about "special rights ;"it’ s about ¯ stopping violence - Oklahoma’s current laws arenotprotecting citizens adequately. Many crimes, such as murder,vary the penalties depending on the motive of the perpetrator. A stronger hate crimes law is no different. No Oklahomans should fear violence because of who they are. Hate crimes are a form of terrorism: Hate crimes are intended to frighten and silence not only the actual victims, but all members of the targeted group. Perpetrators ofhatecrimes seek to "make examples" of their victims. Oklahomans recognize the importance ¯ ofstanding strongagainstthosewhowonld spread fear through violence. Points provided by Gay Community Services Center Advocacy Committee. -: ¯" Letters. Policy ". Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on : issues which we’ve covered or on issues ¯. youthinkneedtobeeonsidered.Youmay ¯ request that your name be withheld but ¯ letters mustbe signed&have phonenum- : bers, or be hand delivered. 200 word leti ters are preferred. Letters to other publications will be printed as is appropriate. However, as of press time, Barker had already posted on the internet a further letter of complaint to the Oklahoma Conference pursuing charges and a church trial against " Penrose and Ross. In fact, a lay observer of these proceedings alleged that Barker’ s complaints were being seen on the internet for wide public viewing prior to even being received " at the Oklahoma Conference and before Ross and Penrose " even knew they were being accused. ¯ The text of the letter follows with only the deletion of the charges against Ross. Those allegations are identical to th0ge made against Peurose. Reverend Paul Bowles and Reverend Grayson Lucky Re: Reverend Susan Ross and Rev. Leslie Penrose It is obvious we disagree in your comment "we can only interpret their signatures as expressions ofpersonal opinion". I believe thatyou err in this conclusion. In this case the aforementioned clergy (Ross & Penrose) did infact violate the statedposition ofthe Social Principles regarding same sex unions as defined by the Social Principles, which as you know, have been declared, in this instance, as having the force of law, by the Judicial Council. By engaging in a defiant challenge to the statedposition ofThe United Methodist Church they have more than indicated their willingness and ability to violate the covenant entered into at the time of their ordination. This breaking ofcovenant was evidenced by thefollowing method: 1. Attaching or causing to be attached their names and professional titles to a document containing a list of indii viduals engaged in a behaviorprohibited by a ruling ofthe Judicial Council. In addition to myprevious complaints, which still stand, I am nowfiling these additional complaints againstRev. Ross and Rev. Penrose: Reverend Penrose: Allegation: 1. BOD Parag. 2624f: "dissenination [dissemination] of doctrines contrary to the established standard.ofdoctrine of the Church" Rev. Penrose did, on or about January 16th, 1999 attach or caused to be attached, her name andprofessional title to a documentin supportofsame sex unions, this is in violation of Paragraph 3043, quoted in part, "since the practice of " homosexuality isgncompatible with Christian teaching..." ° and Paragraph 65g "... Although we do not condone the ¯ practice ofhomosexuality andconsider thispractice incom- ° patible with Christian teaching.., ". this action expressed, diseminated [disseminated] and otherwise revealed to the ¯ church that her doctrines were contrary to the currently ¯ stated doctrine as Contained in the Book OfDiscipline and " Social Principles. ¯ 2. BOD Parag. 2624g: "Relationships or behavior that ¯ undermines the ministry ofanother pastor" ¯ Rev. Penrose did, on or about January 16th, 1999 attach " or cause to be attached her name andprofessional title to a " document that encourages breaking the ordination covenant as defined by Paragraph 2624b. By her behavior she undermined and renderedfor naught the teaching offellow " United Methodistpastors seeking to befaithful to the disCi- ¯ pline ofThe United Methodist Church and their ordination ¯ covenant. : These two clergy have defiantly and unrepentantly vio- "- lated their vows of ordina~on. 1 am insisting that they be ¯ disciplined appropriately. Ifyou as the district superinten- ¯ dents are unable or unwilling to discipline these two clergy : persons then I have no other recourse than to demand a ¯ church trial before ajury as defined by the BOD. ¯ Sincerely, Jake Barker Rt. 4 Box 951A Eufaula, OK 74432 co: Bishop Bruce Blake " Although the Rev. Peurose declined to comment, lay individuals associated with Commtmity of Hope noted that these charges were not unexpected, especially after the Oklahoma Conference forced the Rev: Kathy McCally of Oklahoma City to leave the denomination. Ms. McCally ~: transferred her ordination to the United Church of Christ --" (UCC), the only "mainline" Christian denomination that~ ordains openly Lesbian and Gay persons. ¯ Furthermore, Oklahoma Bishop Bruce Blake was one of the leaders in the effort to "criminalize" Methodist clergy who perform same-gender unions. Prior to his efforts, the restriction on such ceremonieswas a part of the Methodist Social Discipline, seen as guidance to the thinking of the Churchbut notchurch law. Now those who dissentfrom this view can be charged and prosecutedfor alleged violations as is happening with the Revs. Peurose and Ross. ¯ See associated editorial, this page. ¯ A few weeks ago, a local woman wrote The Tulsa World to protest a recent article about Lesbian and Gay issues featuring PFLAG. She challenged a statement claiming that her part of the Church, the Methodists, was one of several Christian groups that have official positions in support of civil rights for Gay people. She is, ofcourse, wrong. Twenty-seven years ago, in 1972, the United Meth¯ odist General Conference adopted a statement saying, "homosexuals no less than heterosexuals are persons of : sacred worth... [and] we insist that all persons are ¯ entitledto have their human and civil rights ensured." ¯ Her ignorance is not entirely the lady’s fault. The Church, Methodist and other parts, in Oklahoma and ¯ many other places, have done little to honor this civil ¯ rights commitment, or to affirm the sacred worth ofGay ¯ and Lesbian persons. For example, every year, the OklahomaHouse passes ¯ bills clearly attacking the fundamental civil rights of ¯ Lesbian and Gay Oklahomans. Yet not once since this ¯ newspaperbegan publishinghas theOklahomaConfer- ¯ ence of the United Methodist Church ever raised its ¯ voice against these state-sponsored assaults. ¯ . That is not only our recollectionbut also thebegrudg- ¯ lng recollection of Bryce Bowden, communications ¯ directorand spokesmanfor theOklahomaUuited Meth- ~ odistConference. Notoncehas the Conference (OUMC) ¯ ever taken any proactive step towards supporting civil ¯ rights protections. Rumor is, however, that the OC may ¯ be supporting HB 1211, the "hate crimes" amendment. : Twenty-sevenyearslater, that, atleast, wouldbeastart. ¯ However; while the OUMC has failed to honor this longstanding civil rights commitment, no less than the ." Bishop of the Oklahoma Conference, Bruce Blake, led ." the efforts to turn the "guidance" of the Methodist ¯ Social Principles which opposed same-gender union ¯ ceremonies into prosecutable church law. It is this new ¯ law under which Tulsa pastor, the Reverend Leslie ¯ Peurose, is accused of wrongdoing. ¯ The actions of United Methodists indicate leadership that seeks to punish those few brave Methodists who would treat Lesbians and Gay men as equal human beings. It is leadership that has not even tried to "ensure human and civil fights" but worse hash’ t even bothered to tell its general membfrship that they indeed have an obligation to work for such civil rights. " To judge fi:om their actions, their hollow rhetoric of "loving the ’sinner’ and hating the ’sin,’ " should be replaced with "we hate you people," and "we hate that you make us confront the hypocrisy of our words and actions." No, it’ s not in keeping with "Christian values" and it makes them very uncomfortable but it sure looks like the truth. But to doso would require that these good Methodists view themselves as less than righteous people - which ain’t gging to happen. For me, I sometimes think I’d rather deal with an honest Klansman than some of these ,,ood people. You might despise what the Klansman values but at least you know his words and actions are going to be consistent. With "good Christian folk," you just never know. - Tom Neal, editor/publisher If you cannot go to Oklahoma City, you can write your legislator at the following address: The Honorable (then name of Representative) ¯ Eureka Springs Plans April Diversity Celebration ¯ Featuring aQuiltdisplay, Dancing + Kite-Flying EUREKA SPRINGS, AR - They’re doing it again in Eureka Springs, Arkansas, and you’re invited! The ¯ - fourth Diversity Celebration Weekend is scheduled for ¯ April 9-11, and several new events will make this the biggest and best yet. ¯ Withgreat pride and respect, the Celebration organizers are bringing three sections (24 panels) of the AIDS : Quilt to Eureka Springs. After an opening ceremony on Thursday evening, April 8, the quilt will be on display at the Unitarian Clmrch Friday and Saturday, with the closing ceremony and folding of the quilt taking place at the .Sunday morning Unitarian service. Friday night, the Celebration will kick off with a " dance from 8:30 p.m. to 12:30 a.m. in the Ozark Room of the Basin Park Hotel hosted by MCC of the Living Spring. On Saturday, you can walk the streets of this ¯ quaint village on a guided historic tour or hike on your own in the spring air at Lake Leatherwood. If you have a great kite that needs a workout, "Go Fly a Kite" at, Pond Mountain Lodge from 4:30-7:30 p.m. And in the afternoon, when you’re ready to slow down a bit for a light bite to eat and some great coffee, head down to Mud St. Espresso Cafe for continuous music by local and visiting Gay/Lesbian/friendly artists. Now remember when you really wanted to take your boyfriend or girlfriend to your prom, but you had to settle for an opposite sex date or stay home? Well, on Saturday night from 9 p.m. to 1 a.m. in the Ballroom atop the Basin Park Hotel, you can bring whomever you like to the "Pro~n of Your Dreams." Break out the corsages and boutonnieres and dance to the music of DJ Jon Caswcll. And be sure to capture this special moment on film with the prom photographer. (Formal attire is encouraged, but not required.) Or if you’re looking for more of a club atmosphere, Center Street South will be jumping with live entertainment frown 10pro- 2an~. Sunday, you’ll have time to sleep in and catch some brunch before the weekend wraps up with the Tea Dance and Drag Show at Center S tage from 2-6 p.m. Jon will spin tunes, and the Girls from Tnlsa will delight all with their terrific performances. That’s it in a nutshell. For a schedule of activities and events, or to find a list of Gay-owned or friendly businesses, check out the Eureka Springs Diversity Cooperative and Celebration website at www.shimaka.com/eureka/diversity, call The Emerald Rainbow at (501) 253-5445 or e-mail emrain@ipa.net. Make your reservations now! Attorney General Drew Edmondson said the legislation provides harsher punishment for individuals whose attacks are based on who or what their victim is. Edmondson also cited studies by medical and psychological groups while stating that homosexuals "are made to have the orientation they have." Graves said sodomy is illegal in the state and questioned whether Edmondson was trying .to legitimize "Gay lifestyles." "I’m not talking about lifestyle. I’m not talking about activity," Graves said. "We don’t expect them to be arrested for what they are." Graves, a frequent critic of Gays and Lesbians who has authored many bills targeting homosexuals, revealed during debate that windows in cars drivenby himand hi s son have been shattered and his dog poisoned. He said he also has Room (insert Representatives office number) 2300 N. Lincoln Boulevard Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 73105-4808. To find the name of your legislator, you may call the Tulsa County Election Board (or your county election board) at 596-5780. If you give them the address at which you are registered to vote, they will give you the ¯ names of your representatives. Also if you are not registered to vote or have moved, they can assist yon in ¯ getting registered to vote. : To speak with your representative or their assistants, ¯ call 800-522-8502 for the Oklahoma House of Repre- ¯ sentatives and ask for your representative’s office. ¯ Editor’s note: a special thanks to Ned Bruha of ¯ TOHR/Tulsa Gay Community Services Center’s Advo- ¯ cacy committeeforsomeofthe information listedabove. : received obscene phone calls,.,"I can’t prove who did it, _. whether homosexuals did it, Graves said. ¯ The bill now goes to the full House for debate. ¯" Lobby i depends like your life on it- it does. Say No to Hate Violence Call, write, fax, or e-mail your support for Oklahoma House Bill 1211 Call the House for your representative: 800-522-850: Anti-Marriage Bill Moves Forward in Colorado DENVER (AP) -Thelatest effort to ensure Colorado does not have to recognize gay and lesbian marriages legalized elsewhere was approved by the Senate and sent to the House of Representatives. Other states havepassed similar laws as pre-emptive strikes against efforts to legalize same-sex marriages. Challenges to laws restricting marriage between a man and a woman are pending in Hawaii, Alaska and Vermont. Senate Bill 159 would reaffirm the law defining marriage as a licensed union between one man and one woman. Even more important to proponents is the section saying gay and lesbian marriages legalized by other states would not be valid in Colorado. This is the third try by Sen. Marilyn Musgrave, RFort Morgan, to get a bill passed. Past measures were vetoed by former Gov. Roy Romer. But Gov. Bill Owens, who took office in January, has said he would support the legislation. Musgrave and others fear that if other states allow same-sex marriages, Colorado would have to honor the umons unless the state is specifically barred from doing so. States have traditionally recognized marriages performed in other states. The so-called full faith and credit clause of the U.S. Constitution directs states to respect each others’ laws. Congress also adopted a law allowing states to ignore same-sex marriages legalized elsewhere. Opponents predict the state and federal laws eventually will be overruled by the U.S. Supreme Court. Lesbian-Film Controversial in India BOMBAY, India (AP)-Theater owners who want to screen a controversial film about lesbian love can have police protection if they think they need it, Bombay’s right-wing government said last month. "I don’t think security will be necessary, but if they ask for police protection it will be provided," Maharashtra Chief Minister Narayan Rane told reporters a week after censors cleared the film "Fire" without any cuts. Rane’s 81~v 8ena had sent small groups of violent protestersinto theaters into the Maharashtracapital of Bombay and the national capital of New Ddhi to disrupt screenings of "Fire" last year. Frightened theater owners pulled the film, though it continued showing to packed houses elsewhere in India. Shiv Sena protesters had said the film, which explores the sexual relationship of two women caught in unhappy marriages, was an affront to India’s centuries-old Hindu culture. In an attempt to defuse the controversy after the violence in Bombay and New Delhi, the government sent "Fire" back to censors who must vet every film shown in India and who had already passed "Fire." Last week, the Bombay-based censor reiterated no cuts were necessary. With renewed approval from the censor, the film will be screened in 17 theaters all over Bombay, distributor Balkrishna Shroff stated. Liberal California City Supports Tinky Winky BERKELEY, Calif. (AP) - A city famous for radical politics is drumming up power to the purple with a resolution backing Tinky Winky, the children’s TV character attacked by the Rev. Jerry Falwell as a purse-toting symbol of Gay pride. "We take umbrage at the threat to personal style and choices implicit in Mr. Falwell’s designation of Tinky Winky as an inappropriate role model," dedares the resolution, expected to be passed by the City Council tonight. "Long live Tinky Winky and long live freedom from self-righteousness!" Councilwoman Polly Armstrong, who is sponsoring the resolution, said she wanted tO make a point and have some fun in a city known for taking stands on everything from nuclear proliferation (against) to human rights in Burma (for). "We jump on every good cause in Berkeley and I thought what fun to do one we could laugh at. Of course there is a very serious subtext to the humor and that is that when you see bigotry and self-righteonsness out there you really need to stand up to it even when it’s absurd," she said. A spokeswoman for Falwell did not rettm~ a telephone call from The Associated Press Monday. But the president of Itsy Bitsy Entertainment Co., which licenses the Teletubbies in the United States, did have a response: Leave Tinky Winky alone. Kenn Viselman said lie appreciates the show of support, but he doesn’t think political statements of any stripe have a place in the gentle world of Teletubbies. "He’s not Gay. He’s not straight. He’s ust a character in a children’ s series," Visdman said. Tinky Winky turbulence began earlier this month with an article in the National Liberty Journal, edited and published by Falwell, calling Tinky Winky a homosexual role model. "He is purple - the Gaypride color; and his antenna is shaped like a triangle - the Gay-pride symbol," the story said, also noting that Tinky Winky carries a purse (actually his magic bag, show spokesmen point out). Tinky Winky is one of the four stars ofTeletubbies, a British show aimed at toddlers. The Teletubbies, a bit like brightly colored oversized teddy bears with benign baby faces, have antennas of sorts sprouting from their fuzzy heads and television screens in their tummies. They spend their days mainly dancing, playing (falling down is a favorite pastime) and watching short videos showing real children engaged in various pursuits. Lousiana Anti-Sex Law Struck Down NEW ORLEANS (AP) - A state appeals court has struck down a 194-year-old Louisiana law that made oral and anal sex a felony, saying the law violated the privacy rights ofconsenting adults. The decision adds to the growing listof U.S. states thathave struckdown sodomy laws based on rights to privacy granted in state constitutions. The Louisiana court on reversed the 1996conviction of Mitchell E. Smith. He had been accused of raping a woman but found guilty under the state’s "crimes against nature" statute only of having her perform oral sex. "There canbenodoubt that the right of consenting adults to engage in private non-commercial sexual activity, free from governmental interference, is protected by the privacy clause of the Louisiana Constitution," the court held. Courts in Georgia, Kentucky, Montana and Tennessee previously had reached the same conclusion in interpreting their respective state constitutions and striking down sodomy laws. Since the U.S. Supreme Court held in 1986 in a Georgia case that consenting adults have no federal ¯ constitutional right to private homosexual conduct, activists have turned to individual state constitutions to find protection from the sodomy laws. The U.S. ¯ Constitution does not mention the word "privacy," but the Supreme Court since 1965 has recognized that such a right predates the 1787 document itself. However, many state constitutions expressly grant a right to privacy. ¯ Suzanne Goldberg, senior staff attorney with the l_ambda Legal Defense Fund in New York City, was ¯ jubilant about the decision. "These-laws have no : legitimate purpose and that’s what courts are starting ¯ to recognize," she said. ’°The government should not ¯ be in the business of policing private sexual behav- ~ ior." The decision will be appealed, said prosecutor ¯ Tim McElroy. : New Mexico May Ban ¯ Same Gender Marriages : SANTA FE (AP)-A New Mexico Senate committee : recently approved legislation that outlaws Gay mar- " riages and penalizes anyone who performs them. The ¯ bill passed the Senate PublicAffairs Committee on a ¯ vote of 5-3. It goes to the Judiciary Committee. It ¯ defines marriage as a contract between"one man and ¯ one woman"and says a same-sex marriage wouldnot OKLAHOMA COMMUNICATIONS Local- Long Distance Cellular- Paging 747-1508 Free Car Adaptor & Leather Case with New Cell Phone Want to get involved? Need to get tested for HIV? Need a Coming Out Support Group? Call 743-GAYS the Pride Center 1307 E. 38th at Peoria, 2nd floor Your Gay Community Center Capitol Lobby Day Tuesday, March 2 2300 N. 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Anyone who performed a same-sex marriage ceremony could be fined $50, under the legislatiorL Supporters said New Mexico should join 29 other states that have passed similar bills: Its opponents said itwas unnecessary, unconstitutional andpunitive. "This bill was notbom out of fear and ignorance... Tbis bill simply defines what a marriage is," replied its sponsor, Sen. Leonard Lee Rawson, R-Las Cruces. Mass. Religious Leaders Support Gay Marriage BOSTON (AP) - Carmen DeBenedictis is safe sleeping in the arms of either of her two daddies. But the parents of the newly adopted 6-week-old feel less secure about the family situation. That’s because, as a Gay couple, Don Picard and Robert DeBenedictis aren’t legally married. And there are lawmakers on Beacon Hill who want to keep it that way. "It’s strange. Carmen is our next of kin, but we’re not next of kin to each other," Picard said. The unconventional Medford family attended a rally at the Statehouse where dozens of religious leaders called for the state to recognize same-sex marriages. About 150 religious leaders have signed a declaration of support for the right of Gays to marry. The group includes Jews, Quakers, Baptists, Episcopalians, Unitarians, Catholics and others. "The most fundamental human right, after the necessities of food clOthing and shelter, is the right to affection and the supportive love of another person," the declaration begins. But the movement faces opposition on Beacon Hill. "I am not for Gay marriages," Gov. Paul Cellucci bluntly declared recently. Rep. John Rogers, D: Norwood, .is drafting a bill that would more clearly define marriage in Massachusetts. The language in the bill wouldrequire that a marriagebe between amanand a woman, thereby prohibiting same-sex couples to malty. So far, Hawaii is the only state where Gay marriages havebeenupheld in the courts. ButCongress responded withthe Defense of Marriage Actin 1996, which denied federal recognition of Gay marriage and allowed states to ignore the unions of Gay couples married in other states. So far, 29 states have banned homosexual marriage. Tile Massachusetts religious leaders said they would fight to make sure Gay marriages performed legally in other states are recognized here. The declaration presented by clergy compares the ban on Gay marriages to previous bans on interracial marriages and laws prohibiting blacks to marry. Many of the ministers said they perform Gay marriage ceremonies. "I am deeply troubled that...I as a clergyman see the marriages that I officiate at are not being legally recognized by this commonwealth," said Rabbi Howard Berman. Picard and DeBenedictis said they were united in a spiritual ceremony. But a legal ceremony would give them peace of mind. They said they face the same obstacles as other Gay couples who want to be legally married: spousal insurance benefits and being considered next of kin if the other is injured or dies. "It’s strange that the state is excited we are adopting a baby but they are resisting letting us get married," Picard said. Gays Protest Anti-Gay Immigration Policies NEW YORK (AP) - A Gay and Lesbian group protested U.S. immigration policies, saying the govemment discriminates against same-sex couples when granting visas to foreigners. "Love knows no borders," dozens of protesters chanted behind police barricades outside the Immigration and Naturalization Service in lower Manhattan. The demonstration was organized by the Lesbian and Gay Immigration Rights Task Force, a New Yorkbased advocacy group. The group claims green cards are routinely granted to heterosexual foreigners who marry U.S. citizens, while same-sex applicants are rejected. "We often face an excruciating choice - our parmers can either live an ocean apart or stay surreptitiously in the U.S. without proper papers and under threat of deportation," said Carl Goodman, an American whose partner is Peruvian. "I love an alien," said a sign hoisted by one protester, and another man with an Australian partner held up a red placard asking, "Can my husband come over and stay?" The INS called the protest misguided. "This is not an immigration issue," said spokesman Russ Bergeron. He said it’s a question of"the invalidity of same-sex marriage under existing U.S. law. Any person who is legally married has the right to file a petition for their spouse to immigrate." At least 10,000 Gay couples are affected, said task force attorney SuTanne Goldberg. The task force wants Congress to establish a special category - such as a legally registered partnership - that would qualify a foreigner with a longtime partner to live in the United States, Goldberg said. Ten countries recognize same-sex relationships for the purposes of immigration, including Canada, Britain and Austr~ia. Ariz. Gov. to Legislature Issues, Not Bedrooms PHOENIX (AP) - Gov. Jane Hull wants lawmakers to give more attention to matters of import and less to bedroom issues such as medical benefits for Gays. "I may morallyfeel one way, but I do not believe that I need to pass laws to putmy beliefs on the record," Mrs. Hull, a former House speaker, said during her radio talk show. Mrs..Hull had been asked about a bill (HB2524) that would bar the state and universities from extending medical benefits to "domestic partners" of homosexuals. Cities and towns could extend those benefits only if doing so were approved by voters. Tucson and Pima County are the only two government employers that offer domestic partners benefits in Arizona. The bill sponsored by Rep. Karen Johnson, R-Mesa, led to a heated and personal exchange in the House last week as the bill passed the Government Reform Committee narrowly. Such efforts are an inappropriate expenditure of lawmakers’ time and energy, and they should not be limiting what benefits cities and towns may provide, Mrs. Hull said. "I wish that we could get down to talking about what’s really important,"she said. "We ought to be looking at state responsibilities, not worrying about what goes on in cities and counties and towns and bedrooms. The legislators are there to worry about the future of the state of Arizona and I would prefer that that’s what they did." Johnson said she was disappointed with the governor’s remarks and will continue to push her bib despite seeing little likelihood it will pass. Lawmakers do have a role in laws dealing with morality, especially when public tax dollars and activities barred by Arizona law are involved, she said. "I feel we’re here to support the nuclear family,"Johnson said. "I don’ t think our tax money should be used to subvert the nuclear family." New Zealand Lesbian to Pay Child Support HAMILTON, New Zealand (AP) - A Lesbian recently gaveup her legal fight against paying child support after a High Court ruling. The former Hamilton woman, who lives in Wellington, will have to make child support payments to her former partner after the High Court upheld an earlier Hamilton Family Court ruling. The High Court judges did not comment on whether same-sex marriages should be recognized in law. The Family Court had stated she must pay child support for the children she helped bring up. The landmark decision has wide-ranging implications for other same-sex relationships and those where the adults in parental roles have no biological link to their children. The women’s names and details have been suppressed, as are those of the children. Common Chemical. May Help Block HIV i HERSHEY, Pa. (AP)-A substance found ¯ in many shampoos and toothpastes might : hold the key to stopping the spread of : sexually-transmitted viruses that cause ¯ AIDS, genital herpes and genital warts, : researchers from the Pennsylvania State ." University and two other institutions said . ¯ on Thursday. The discovery that sodium dodecyl sulfate, or SDS, can kill such viruses, could have major worldwide public_health implications, said lead researcher Mary K. Howett, professor of microbiology and immunology at Penn State’s Milton S. Hershey Medical Center. Shewasjoinedin the studybyresearchers from the University of Pennsylvania and BiosynInc., aPhiladelphia-basedbiotechnology research and development company. The group published its findings in the February issue of the journal Antimicrobial Agents andChemotherapy. "This is potentially very exciting," Daniel Malamud, professor of biochemistry at Penn, told The Patriot~News in Harrisburg. "We have to remember that these are studies in the test tube and in animal models. There.have been many promising drugs in the laboratory thatjust don’t make it to the marketplace because humans are different." Humantrials ofSDS couldbegin within a year, Ms. Howett said, and within two to five years could lead to the dc.velopment of inexpensive over-the-counter products that women could apply intravaginally prior to intercourse to protect themselves or their sexual partners from infection. The research, conducted the past two years, was funded through the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases and the Jake Gittlen Cancer Research Institute. Researchers have applied for a patent on the discovery, Ms. Howett said. Such a product, if approved, easily could be used in creams, gels; foams and ointments or applied to condoms, sponges or other types of contraceptives. In addition to potentially curbing the spread of AIDS, use of the substance could stop the spread of the-human papillomaviruses, orHPV, thatcause genital warts. Such warts can turn to cervical and uterine cancer, which cause 5,000 deaths among women in the United States each year and 250,000 deaths annually around the globe. Cervical cancer is the No. 1 cause of cancer-related deaths in women in developing nations. HPVs afflict one out of four women. In addition to being a potential source of cancer, they can cause physical lesions and emotional stress. Alkyl sulfates, the family of chemicals to which SDS belongs, are found in high concentrations inmosttoothpastes, shampoos and skin product. That could bode well for the product as it moves toward possible approval by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration. Genetic Testing For AIDS Treatment CHICAGO (AP) - Deciphering the genetic code of each patient’s AIDS virus appears to help doctors tailor treatments to improve the chance of thwarting HIV’s dogged ability to develop resistance. One of the elements that makes HIV such a difficult foe is the sloppy way it makes copies of itself. Each new version is slightly different from its predecessor. Mutant forms quickly arise through randomgenetic changes that are able to resist the most powerful drugs. In recent months, doctors have increasingly turned to individual resistance testing. A study released recently shows this pays off: Analyzing patients’ viruses for genetic signs of resistance seems to improve treatment outcomes. Estimates vary, but perhaps 30% to 60% of all people taking the AIDS drug cocktails are considered treatment failures, because HIV can still be found in their blood. Either their virus never disappeared completely or it rebounded. Without the tests, doctors often must rely on trial and error to put together fresh combinations of medicines. Coming up with these strategies, sometimes called salvagetherapy, is an increasingly important part of long-term AIDS care. "It’s clear the test helps you choose more active drugs for patients who are failing therapy," said the study’s director, Dr. John Baxter of Cooper Hospital in Camden, N.J. He presented the latest data Thursday at the 6th Conference on Retroviruses and Opportunistic Infections. - Dr. Douglas Richman of the University of California, San Diego, estamated that as many as two dozen of these tests are now on the market, although they have received little testing to make sure they do any good. "Personally, I think it’s premature," he said. In Baxter’s study, financed by the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, doctors performed genetic analysis on the viruses of 78 patients who had failed treatment, while a comparison group of 75 received their usual care. The test analyzed viral genes that produce two essential proteins- protease and reverse transcriptase. Both of these proteins are targets Of standard AIDS drugs. When the genes become mutated, they produce forms of these proteins that elude the effects of the medicines. After analyzing the tests and determining the specificmutations in eachpatient’ s virus, Baxter and two other virologists then made treatment suggestions to the patients’ doctors. The doctors precisely followed the virologists" advice only about half the time, although 83% said the information influenced their treatment decisions. At the study’s start, median viral levels were 28,000 copies per milhliter ofblood. All were switched to new drug regimens, but those whose viruses were tested did much better. Their viral levels dropped to 815, compared to 7,950in the comparison group. After eight weeks, half of those in the test group had no measurable virus in their blood, compared with one-quarter of the other patients. Baxter said the testing may be useful to ¯ tailor first-time treatment for those who ¯¯ are newly infected with HIV. This could become especially important if viruses ¯ thatareimmunetomultiple drugs become ¯ more widespread, as many fear. AFrench study, conductedby Dr. Pierre Dellamoniea of University Hospital Cen- ¯ tet in Nice, was released at an AIDS ¯ conference in Glasgow, Scotland in No- - vember. It produced similar results using ." agenetictestdevelopedby VisibleGenet- ¯ ics Inc. Stopping Treatment to Stop AIDS? CHICAGO (AP)-The tentativeresults of a small human experiment offer a glimmer of possibility that the body’s own Tulsa C.A.R.E.S. in association with PFLAG presents Chastity Bono at the 2nd Annual Red Ribbon Ball Saturday, April 17th 7:30pro, dinner + entertainment, tickets begin at $75/person/all proceeds benefit Tulsa C.A.R.E.S., Information 834-4194 INTRODUCING OUR NEW ASSOCIATE! John Serrot, MSW /EAH HUNT, MSW Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1515 S. Lewis (918) 743-4117 JUDY SEYMOUR, CADC JOHN SERROT, MSW Serving a Diverse Community Are You Gay or Bisexual? Are You Native America. n?/ rulsa’s Two:Spirited Indian Men’s Support Group ~s here for you! ¯ Evening support group meetings ¯ Relationship workshops ¯ Short trips, outings and retreats ¯ Free HIV testing For information call Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project at 582-7225 Ext. 208 or 218 r Providing Physical, Occupational & Speech Therapy in the Tulsa Community since -199/4. Orthopedic and Work InJuries are our specialty. Most ins ,r.ance accepted. Appointments made 8 a.m..to 7 p.m. M-F. Call us today at 58g-1233. Medkal Excellence And Compass..ionate Care .Since 1926. ST. JOHN MEDICAL CENTER defense system can be trained to hold down the AIDS virus. The clearly risky approach attempts to mimic the success of the much-talkedabout "Berlin patient," a newly infected German man who stopped and started AIDS therapy and eventually quit it entirely, only to discover that his virus had inexplicably disappeared. Hehas remained free ofHIV for two years, "I don’t see why others cannot become ¯ the Berlin patient," said Dr. Franco Loft, head of the Research Institute for Genetic and Human Therapy at Georgetown University in Washington. Lori’s team is one of a few exploring the idea that it may be possible to wean people away from the demanding regimen of AIDS medicines without actually curing them of their infections. Lori presented his findings at the 6th Conference on Retrovirnses and Opportunistic Infections. Some physicians are skeptical. They fear AIDS patients who learn ofthese attempts will stop taking the drugs on their own-withpotentially deadly consequences. "My concern is that this will be overplayed," said Dr. Robert Schooley of the University of Colorado, a conference orgamzer. "It sounds good to patients. Who wouldn’t want to stop treatment? But the real question is whether you can change the immune response. I worry pataents will stop therapy. Whenever that happens, inmyexperience, the vims comes roaring back.’" Loft calls the approach stop and go. The idea: Treat people with standard AIDS drugs until all signs of HIV vanish from the bloodstream. Withhold the medicines until the virus returns. Then give the drugs again, Keep repeating the cycle until eventually the virus never comes back, It probably won’t be eradicated entirely, so the theory goes, but the body’s immune defenses will be able to keel~ it from the explosive growth that is HIV’s killing trademark. Loft has tried the approach so far on three patients. While it’s still too soon to know whether it will work, Loft finds the first few weeks’ results promising. The interval before the virus returns is lengthening. Furthermore, he said that in more aggressive experiments on monkeys, the only practical nonhuman substitute for AIDS research, the approach seems to keep the virus at bay for good. The next step is amuchlarger study involving40 to 80 patients, he said. Dr. Bruce Walker is conducting similar early-stage experiments on patients at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston. "We really don’t have any data yet to suggest that this (stopping and starting therapy) is something we should be doing," he said. "I would not put one of my patients on this," said Dr. Roger Pomerantz of Thomas Jefferson University in Philadelphia, "Peoplehave talked about this, but it’s the first time I’ve seen anyone have the guts to try it." In Loft’s study, three patients took a combination of the drugs DDI, hydroxyurea and indlnavir. The first time .they stopped treatment, the virus returned m one week. Doctors treated them again and stopped. This time the virus stayed awayfor21/2weeks. Againdoetors started . and stopped the drugs. The virus disap- _" peared for six to eight weeks. ." No one knows how long this will go on ¯ or whether eventually these cycles will put the virus into permanent retreat. Glaxo Wellcome Tries Combo Drugs RESEARCH TRIANGLE PARK, N.C. (AP) - Glaxo Wellcome is developing new treatments for AIDS that combine existing drugs into one-dosage medications. The world’s second-largest drug company is in the final stage of development of a drug that would fuse Ziagen, a new AIDS drug that won Food and Drug Administration approval in December, with Epivir, or 3TC, and Retrovir, or AZT. Glaxo Wellcome - based in the United Kingdom but with U.S. headquarters in North Carolina’s Research Triangle Park - expects to submit an application for marketing approval to the FDA later this year. The combination follows the footsteps ofGlaxo’ s Combivir, a"cocktail therapy", that allows patients to take a variety of drugs in prescribed combinations. Combivir, which combined3TCandAZT into one pill, posted $443 million in worldwide sales in 1998, including $325 million in the United States. Glaxo is already the leading producer of AIDS drugs. No Extra Criminal Charges for Spitter WOODWARD, Okla. (AP) -A man who allegedly spit intentionally into an open knuckle wound on a police officer and then told the officer he was HIV-posifive has tested negative for the virus that causes AIDS, authorities say. Prosecutors said Dusfin L. Clower, 18,’wouldn’t face additional charges because of the spitting incident. The decision was made after a courtordered test determined Clower wasn’t HIV-positive. Clower appeared before Associate District Judge ]~inson Barefoot to present the preliminary blood test results from the state Department of Health. Clower was arrested following a fight in a restaurant parking lot in Woodward on Jan. 17. He struggledwith Officer Matt .Lehenbaur and allegedly intentionally spit into the split-open knuckle. Lehenbaur said in an affidavit that Clower told him after he spit on him that he was HIVpositive. Clower still faces felony charges of assault and battery on a police officer and attempting to escape custody. AIDS Ride Nets Only 15% to Charity DALLAS (AP) - Of $3 million in donations to the Tanqueray Texas AIDS Ride last year, 85% went toward expenses, organizers confirm. The costs included office space, advertising and the $280,000 fee of the for-profit producer, Pallotta Teamworks of Los Angeles, The Dallas Morning News reported. The 15%, or $450,000, that went to beneficiaries was far below both projections and industry standards for such activities.i Chris Cole, national director of Pallotta’s AIDS rides, said Pallotta generally projects that it will return about 50% of proceeds to participating charities, as it projected in Texas last year and has delivered elsewhere. Even that rate is unimpressive to Daniel Borochoff, president of the National Institute of Philanthropy. He urges a minimum of 65%. Producers of the 575-mile jaunt are promising to cut expenses and attractmore participants so that the second-year event, set for next October, is more successful. Les Ballets Trockadero ¯ January is an exhibit, Symbols of Faith ¯ and Belief, Art of the Native American de Monte Carlo : Church. The show features paintings, Dancing the fine line between high art ¯ drawings, photographs, objects and conandhighcamp, Les Ballets Trockadero de ¯ temporary art from the Native American Monte Carlo have delighted audiences around the world. In parodies of famous classical works, from Swan Lake to Giselle, and of the choreography oflsadora Duncan, George Balanchine, and Martha Graham, they offer performances which both dance afficionados and complete dance novices enLjoeys.Trockaderos began in 1974 and have performedin dancefestivals from New York, Spoleto, Italy, Vienna, Paris to the Nether-.. lands. Their tours have taken them across the US, Europe, South America andrepeatedly across Japan. And while the repertoire and casts of Les Trockaderos may change, the .original concept remains constant: acompany ofprofessional male dancers performing the full range ofballetandmodern dance repertoire. The humorous sight of male bodies delicately balancing in toe shoes as swans, sylphs and water sprites delight, amuse and still serve Les Trockaderos original purpose: to being the pleasure of dance to the widest possible audience. For tickets or more information, call 596- 7111. Outside Tulsa, call 800-364-7111 or online contact, www.tulspac.com Now open at the City of Tulsa’s Gilcrease Museum, are two exceptional, if divergent, exhibits. Opening in Tr ;kade Les Ballets Trockadero de Monte Carlo, March 16 only Norman Rockwell: An American Portrait at Gilcrease, 2/19-5/2 Alphonse Mucha, the Spirit of Art Nouveau, 4/25 - 6/20 Churchtraditions. The Native American Church developed in the late 1870’s with a ritual basedon the consumption of peyote cactus. For thousands of American Indian people, theChurchhas provided the spiritual and social basis for meaningful lives amid the disruptions and dislocations of 20th century life. Grounded in older tribal religions from the plains region, the Churchwas thef’Lrst native religious movement organized and dessiminated on the model of western Christian denominations. Just opening at the end of February, is a different aspect of America: Norman Rockwell: An American Portrait. This exhibitfeatures all 332 magazine covers the artist didfor the Saturday Evening Post overaperiodfrom 1916 to 1963. Even as Rockwell helped preserveAmericanmyths, he recreated them and made them new for following generations. After you’ve seen Les Trockaderos de Monte Carlo do their Swan Lake, don’t you think you ought to see Tulsa Ballet do the original? You have that chance, April 9-11. Call 749- 6006 for tickets. Also March 6, 11 & 13, Tulsa Opera will present Dialogues of the Carmelites, starring the Metropolitan Opera’s Rosalind Elias. Call 587-4811 for tickets and information. T. U. L. S. A. Hosts Review + Fundraiser The Tulsa Uniform and Leather Seekers Association (T.U.L.S.A.) will host the second annual charity fundraising event called"After the Leather, the GreatLeather Campout" on Friday, March 19. Making special guest appearances will be ahost of Tulsa and Oklahoma City entertainers and tifle-holders from numerous pageants and contests. The event, which organizers hope will be a ongoing effort, will take place at the Silver Star Saloon, beginning promptly at 10pm and will benefit three local charities: Our House, Tulsa C.A.R.E.S. Food Chain and the Tulsa Gay Community Services Center, formerly known as The Pride Center. Also this year a silent auction will take place beginning at 9pm. The regular auction will offer autographed portraits of Patti LaBelle, Cher, Susan Lucci, Rosie 0’Donnell, Troy Aikman, Reba McIntire, Travis Tritt, George Straight, Robin Williams, Michael J. Fox, Diana Ross, Hulk Hogan, Alec Balwin, Bruce Willis and others. A highlight of the auction will be an autographed CD of Sir Elton John. T.U.L.S.A. officers hope that this year’s ¯event will outperform last year’s which raised Over $2500 for charity. For any additional information, please call Randall at 1-918-762- 3212, or contactT. U.L.S.A, atPostOffice Box 33076, Tulsa, Oklahoma 74102 or www.tulsaleather.com NORMAN ROCKWELL: An American Portrait May 2, 1999 3 Performances Only! April 9-11 Tulsa Performing Arts Center Sponsored by Bank of Oklahoma and the Tulsa World TICKERS NOW ON SALE! _ 1998-1999 SEASON BROCHURES CALL Les Ballets Trockadero de Monte Carlo March 16 at 8 p,m. 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Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615. reviewed by Barry Hensley . sister andpulls out a shotgun to finish him Tulsa City-County Library . off. As he jumps into his pickup, never to What happens when a Gay male couple ¯ be seen again, he yells back to his wife,"a moves from New York City to Aiken, South Carolina to re- "Some merctmnts, man can only take so much temptation!" store a post civil war man- it seemed, couldn’t The religious aspect of rural sion?Almostanythingyoucan sell a pael~ of South Carolina was an eye ¯ imagine! Subtitled "A Resto- cigarettes.., opener for this sophisticated, rationComedy," this true story wltl~out invol~in~ urban Gay couple. Aiken is a is a wonderful memoir of two town that wears Christianity guys determined to restore a t]~e deity. Jesus on its sleeve, "Some metdilapidated work of art. was not only t]~elr chants,itseemed, couldn’tsell After searching across the savlor, ]ae was a pack of cigarettes , rent a country forjust the right piece tl~elr ~nanclal video, or launder a shirt withof property, the guys decided advlser.., out invoking the deity. Jesus that Joye was just the chat- was not only their savior, he lenge they needed. Built by Tl~ey call tlds was their financial adviserand robber baron William "talzln~ tl~e Lord’s marketing consultant." They Whitney,Joyecottagehasover name in ~aln." call this ".tak~,ng the Lord’s 60 rooms, 146 windows and name in gain. 128 doors¯ After being abandoned for " After three years of agonizing renovaover a decade, every room needed exten- - tion, Joye Cottage was finally ready for a sive work, and the house quickly became " grand opening. It came in the format of a a "money pit" and a "handyman special " ball, not unlike the kind Mr. Whitney from Hell¯" ¯ gave earlier in the century. After all they . We meet a tapestry of colorful charac- went through, the bookends with the guys ters who populate the lazy town of Aiken. " setting their sights on a 120 room housein Bubba, a construction engineer, took the Massachusetts! guys on an early tour of their unrestor.ed The subject of their being Gay rarely masterpiece. His comments along the way : arises, and the locals simply refer to them offer a glimpse into the culture of Aiken. " as "the boys¯" However, their campy re- As they pass the remains of a frog in the ¯ marks throughout the book remindus that basement, Bubbaexclaims"wherethere’s " they are constantly aware that Aiken is an frogs, there’s water!" In a effort to get " unusual setting for these longtime corncopies of keys made, Steve encounters a " panions. The authors have written several sweet lady in a hardware store who takes ¯ books together, and their masterpiece is up his afternoon by elaborately detailing " the Pulitzer Prize winner and National the exploits of her fourteen grandchil- " Book Award finalist, "Jackson Pollock". dren. This ain’t New York! : Their writing style is fun and witty¯ After Then, there’s a gardener, Ron, who ¯ your read this book, the idea of enclosing explains to the guys how women keep " the screened porch won’t seem as intimicoming on to him, but his religious beliefs " dating. and family responsibilities keep him on ¯ Check for this title at your branch lithe straight andnarrow. That is, of course ¯ brary, or call the Readers Services departuntil his wife catches him in bed with her . ment at Central Library.at 596-7966. by Lamont Lindstrom, Ph.D. Corey wants to go home to Pine Bluff, Arkansas. At the moment, he is living with an aunt in Oakland. He makes a bit a money as an impresario, running a stable of male strippers and also stripping occasionally himself. I met Corey at Oakland’s one African- Americangay bar during one ofhis shows. Hewas kept busy picking uphis strippers’ tips as they dropped these onto the floor. A wise precaution, I thought. The bar’s neighborhood was none too good. Who knows how many quick-fingered drunks in need ofarefill mighthelp themselves to a stray bill or two peeking out from gstring or sock? Deflecting a hustle, I nonetheless gave Corey afide home to his aunt’s house on Fruitvale Ave. We chatted about his two children,mychildren, Arkansas andOklahoma, his girlfriends, problems in California, and his dream of opening a club in Hne Bluff featuring the music tapes and CDs he has collected. Corey claimed that only oneofthe eight guys who had bared all that evening was gay. Yeah, right... I’m thinking. Actually, I am wondering about the psychology of straight-identified youngmen who are willing to be transformed into objects of homosexual desire for a thongful of dollars. Or perhaps it’s sociology, not ¯ psychology- stripping being a quick way : for the youthful, urban poor to make a few ¯ extra bucks. But it’s not just money. ¯ There’s something ,deeper than simple ¯ poverty thatmakes so-called straightboys find satisfaction, and perhaps even pleasure, in the desiring gaze of other men. ¯ Andmost of these were oldermen- the bar’s clientele running a little long in the ¯ tooth. And why were we there? We, with ¯ those slippery dollar bills? ¯ Here, we need anthropology, not Sociology. Cross-culturally, stripping is asso- ¯ ciated withrepression of sexuality and the ¯ human body. Salaciousness is impossible ¯ withoutguilty,hiddenbodies.Inthetradi- ¯ tional Arab word, harem and purdah and : female gowns and veils go along with ¯ belly dancing and other lubricious dis- : plays where those women get unveiled. : The body has long been a problem in ¯ America, too. Your great-grandma put : ruffs on her piano’s ruddy naked legs; ¯ your great-grandpa referred to his cocks ." as "roosters." But by the 1920s, strict : taboos onbodydisplayhad erodedenough ¯ so that people didn’t have to wear their : longjohns at thebeach any longer,women : lost their corsets, and Vaudeville per- : formers baredincreasingamounts offlesh. ¯ And now the cultural descendants of : Gypsy Rose Lee perform every Monday : night see Anthro, p. 13 Red Rock Tulsa Free Confidential HIV Testing Walk-in Clinics Tuesday Testing, 5 -8 pm Pride Center, 1307 East 38th Wednesday Testing, 5-8 pm Red Rock, 1724 East 8th Daytime appointments available. 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A friend of mine said her toilet ran all the time and that it was going to cost $50.00 to have it repaired, so she ought to just go ahead and buy a new one. Well, for about $7.00 and a half hour of time and with some of those tools you rushed out and bought after my last column, you can have a quiet, efficient toilet ¯ Now, that’s something to contemplate! The plumbing section at Homo Depot or Builder’s Queer or any other hardware store Will have a universal repair kit that includes afloat and a rubber stopper. Yes, these are the mysterious working parts of the toilet. You may now be nonplused. Don’t worry that the float doesn’t look like the one in your tank - you know, the copper rod with the little floaty thing attached. That was, quite honesty, called the "ball cock", so if I say your ball cock is dripping, don~t take it pei:sonally. They are a thing of the past, at least as far as plumbing is concerned. This should be all that you need, but it does prompt me to a standard warning - anytime you work on your plumbing, you may need to make extra trips for other parts you didn’t think you’d need. That’s because pipe fittings do rust, and those nice little chrome water cut-offvalves under the tankhave abitchy way of just twisting off when you try to shut them off. But that isn’t always the case, so dick your heels together three times and wish real hard. The first step is to get your tools together. You’ll need an adjustable crescent wrench and a pair of channel lock pliers, and it doesn’t hurt to have a pipe wrench on hand, either. If you don’t have these tools or the task is too daunting already, find a handy dyke, buy her some beer and cook her something fabulous and turn her loose. It’ll still be cheaper than the plumber. Have some paper towels or rags ready, because the toilet will leak, sometime and somewhere. Next, turn off the water. Most of the time, there is that chrome shut off valve under the tank and running into the wall. It probably hasn’t been moved in years, so expect some resistance (kind ofremindsme ofan ex...); you might have to wrap a rag around the handle and use your channel locks - genfl!! - and turn the handle counter-dockwiseuntil itcloses completely. Ifitdoesn’t turn or, more likely, the handle twists off but the valve doesn’t move, grab your keys and head for the hardware store - but we’ll address that in a little while. Assuming youhave successfully dosed the valve, flush the toilet to drain the tank and mop up the water remaining in the bottom ofthe tank. This will also get those nasty deposits out of the bottom that can cause problems later, so that’s a plus. Undip the little hose that empties into that tube in the center of the tank, remove the ball cock (ifyou have one) or float assembly, and then comes the fun part: removing the vertical water supply line into your tank. This is attached to the float assembly. You have to loosen a threaded collar on the bottom of the tank directly under that vertical inlet tube. Use your channel locks and remember that you’re working upside down and that it will unscrew the opposite of what you’d normally expect. Well, it’ s still counterclockwise to loosen, but only if you’re on your head. This is the time you’ll appreciate whether or not your toidy is in a tight spot or not. The cussing is directly proportionate to the amount of workspace you have. Welcome to Plumber’s World.Take the collar off, remove the vertical water supply tube and mop up the water on the floor. Replace it with the new float device and tighten the collar over the bottom. It will have a new rnbber or plastic tube that you clip onto the outlet pipe - pretty much opposite ofthe removal. You may have to adjust that ’~Fea enp"at the top of the float so youcan put tlae toilet lid back on, but that’s simply accomplishedby twisting itup or down as needed. You can also control the water levd this way, but don’t get too chintzy with the water supply, or you’ll regret it. Reattach the water supply from the shutoff up to the tank and you’re ready for the next step. Now, remove the old rubber stopper that’s attached to the handle. Take the little chain loose and then remove the flapper - it usually is attached to the stem of the outlet tube by a couple of little rubber or plastic ears and comes off easily. The rubber on the flapper can be kind of slimy, so use a rag to hold it when you’re taking it off. Replace it with the new flapper in the kit just the opposite of how youremovedit. Thelittle chain needs a bit of slack, but not too much or it winds around the lever from the handle and the water will still run and annoy the hell out of you. There are pretty good instructions on the package, complete with illustrations, so don’t fed too confused. However, the first kit I used forgot to tell.me about that locking collar on the bottom of the tank, and was I one frustrated lezzie until I figured it out! If you’re still uncomfortable doing this job but are determined to learn, find someone patient enough to coach you while youdo the work. It’s a great way to learn this stuff. If youhave trouble with the shut offyou have two options - yell for help or replace it yoursdf. This is where the pipe wrench come in handy. You have to be able to shut the water off at the curb; the valve for yourmain water supply is in themeterbox by the curb and the bar on top of the valve needs to be turned 180 degrees to shut it off. You can use a large wrench, but you can buy a device called a water key that makes it easier; it has a long hand, which is nice if your meter box is full of questionable water. They 0nly costabout $8.00 and are priceless when you really need them, so consider investing in one. After turning off the water, flush the toilet. If it fills back up, the main water isn’t offand you’ll have to try again. If the water is off, put some rags under the valve, grasp the pipe going into the wall with a pipe wrench and turn the collar of the valve see DIYD, p.13 by Esther Rothblum . ¯ Recently a number of books have been " published about the Lesbian identity or ¯ femalerelationships ofprominent women ¯ who lived in earlier historical periods. " .Mary Eichbauer was living in Paris when she became aware that much of the work of Natalie Barney (1876- 1972) hadnever before been published in English. She receivedpermission to translate some of Bamey’s writing and to find an English audience for this work. Eichbauer" described Natalie Bamey’s life and work to mein a recent correspondence: "Inherlastbook, Souvenirs Indiscrets (Indiscreet Memories), Natalie says that shehad always felt drawn to women, from her earliest days. In the first chapter, ’Renre Vivien,’ she describes an intense crush she.had on a beautiful young cousin, how " she loved to be close to her and comfort ¯ her (the young woman was pining for : some young beau). Natalie fell in loee " with a school friend when she was six- " teen, at a time when her family lived in ¯ Washington, D,C. and she was being : courted for her beauty (and her father’s " money) by more than a few young men. ¯ She and her friend Eva Palmer (heiress to ¯ abiscuitfortune) spent a summer together : in Bar Harborpla~ngnaked in the woods " at nymph (Eva) and shepherd (Natalie). Afterthatsummer, theirrespectablefanfi: ¯ lies made sure they were placed in sepa- ." rate boarding schools. : "Ironically, her father’s own egotism ¯ flna!!ygaveBamey the chance sheneeded : to begin her preferred way of life. Albert : Barney was so eager to get back to his ¯ beloved London (which Natalie always " thought of as a male city, as opposed to Paris, whichwas ruledby women), and so bored with the business of parenting, that heleft Natalie staying at a boarding house under scant supervision, supposing her to . be occupied, with shopping and ’fittings’ ¯ for a gown intended for her Washington : ’debut.’ Instead, Natalie visited Carmen, : an artist’s model who had posed for her ¯ mother. The beautiful Carmen welcomed : Natalie into her bed (Natalie’s first time) " and educated her in some of the ways of ¯ the world. (According to Jean Chalon, ¯ Natalie wasn’t quite sure that she could make love to a woman without getting " pregnant!) She walked home from her " first meeting with Carmen repeating to ¯ herself, spellbound: ’I have a mistress, I " have a mistress.’ ¯ "Next, she fell madly in love with one ¯ Liane de Pougy, a celebrated courtesan. Liane took Natalie for a ride in her car- [ riage through the Bois de Boulogne, and " their affair was launched. Later, Liane ¯ wrote Idylle.Sap,.hique ( ~apphic ldyll), a " novelabouther Flossie, thefirstofmany literary tributes that wouldbe dedicated tO Barney over the years (Ren~e Vivien, ¯ Djuna Barnes, Radclyffe Hall and Lucie " Delarue-Mardrus wrote novels featuring : Barney as a character, and quite a bit of [ poetry was dedicated to her). Bamey’s ¯ father never forgave her for causing such ° a scandal backhome. In fact, he boughtup : Natalie’s affair with Vivlen was tempestuous and involved frequent .separations. Although they loved each other dearly, they were essentially incompatible... She and Barney are hurled not far from ¯ inch other inthe Passy Cemetery... all the copies of Liane’s book he could find, along with the printing plates, and had them destroyed. Too late - the book had already been circulated widely. "The greatestpassion ofBamey’s youth, however, was Ren~e Vivien (born Pauline Tam), like herself, an expatriate in Paris (Tam was born in England). The first chapter of Souvenirs Indiscrets describes their affair in detail. Natalie’ s affair with Vivien was tempestuous and involved frequent separations. Although they loved each otherdearly, they were essentially incompatible. Natalie refused to pass upany chance for pleasure that came her way, and so Ren~e eventually left her for another woman. In the end, Ren~e died young, a victim of anorexia and alcoholism. She and Barney are buried not far from each other in the Passy Cemetery in Paris." As Barney says in Souvenirs: "Our opposed natures contrived to make us suffer at each Other’ s hands for a long time. This resulted for her in a fertile inspiration and formyselfin aninstructive defeat. Unable to live with her or without her, I do not know which was most painful: our dangerona meetings, our separations, or our attempts at infidelity. Like so many other lovers, wehad still more of those ’terrible adieus one goes back on’ and those exalt- .’ ing reunions that did not last. Apart, but irresistibly attracted to each other, only to lose each other once again, our persistent love endured all the phases of a fatal attraction that perhaps only death could end. I still loved Ren~e, but with a vanquished love, enslaved by the circumstances that she had allowed to have their ¯ way with us... (Souvenirs Indiscrets)" ~ Eichbauer states: "Natalie’s .life was ¯ more important to her than her writing. : She described the procxss of writing a : book as one of cleaning out her desk ¯ drawers. Her writingis seldom sustained; she expressed herself in sharp lightningbolts of intelligence. In her introduction to Souvenirs, she says, ’If too little of the love I invoke appears in this book, it is because I have better spent it elsewhere. Here there remain only fragments.’" Because of the importance of her salon, Barney is mentioned, at least in passing, in most accounts ofAmerican expatriates in Paris. Here are the books by and about Barney that Eichbauer recommends and that are most readily available: Natalie Barney. Adventures oftheMind. Tr. John Spaulding Gatton. New York: New York University Press, 1992. Natalie Barney. The One Who is Legion, or A.D. ’s Afterlife. 1930; Orono, Me.: U of Maine, National Poetry Foundation, 1987. Natalie Barney. 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Mon. & Thurs., 6-8 pm, Daytime testing: Mon-Thurs. by appt. ¯ H O P E HIV Outreach, Prevention & Education 834,TEST(8378), 3501 E. Admiral Place in tawdry Oakland gay bars. ~ We maintain enough taboo] on nudity for strippers to make a living. The flesh still titillates. Salacious gazingatunclothed bodies remains an American form of sexual pleasure. But there are (or were until recently) somehumancultures where people have escaped the kinkiness of modesty. No one wears clothing or, if they do, it’s for reasons of comfort. No Peeping Toms, no hidden videocams in restrooms, no voyeurs, no exhibitionists, no pornography, no one works to snatch an illicit glimpse at this or that body part. The body, sexually, is a bore in places whereit is never hidden- where exposure causes neither guilt nor shame nor desire. Or rather, body touch and smell may be sexualized but nevermere looking, where nudity is the norm. The details ofmodesty and display vary from one culture to another. Many have commented on American fixation on the female breast. Who knows if it’s childrearing customs, our relations with mom, or our marital relations that have supercharged theAmerican breast, the epitome being Barbie’s big and pointy boobs. In much of the South Pacific, women’s breasts traditionally were neither erogenous nor hidden. Male desire focused instead on meaty thighs. I’ve walked by many bare-breasted women who modestly busy themselves smoothing down their grass-skirts. On Tanna, where I lived for amunber of years, tmditionalmale dress consisted simply of a "penis-wrapper." Men wrapped theirpenes in leaves and fixed these upright to a barkcloth belt. Penis-wrappers had disappeared for years until a roving photographer from National Geographic passed through the island one year and convinced a number of guys to strip back down into penis-wrappers to make his South Sea photos appear more authentic to his Americanviewers. Since then, some ofthesemenhavemaintained the wrapper as a political statement of their traditionality vis-ii-vis their Christian neighbors. Nearly all malebody parts onTannaare boring, and never eroticized. No one, certaiuly, would toss dollars bills around to catch a glimpse ofmale belly or butt. The glans penis is the only body part that men are ashamed to display. As soon as boys are circumcised (between ages of5 and 10 or so) they begin covering themselves - and uncircumcised boys are teased merci- : lessly should their glans peek out of their ." foreskins. Stripping as a profession has ¯ little futurein much of the world. ¯ In Oakland, though, those flying dol- ." lars are sending Corey home to Arkansas. Lamont Lindstrom is a Visiting Prof.of ". Anthropology at the Univ. of Cal~ornia,- ¯ Berkeley, during Spring Term, 1999 (lamont@yana.qal.berkeley.edu) Mary Eichbauer lives and writes in northern California. Her annotated translation ¯ of Bamey’s "Rente Vivien"’ will appear ¯ in a forthcoming issue of The Journal of Lesbian Studies. ¯ EstherRothblum is Prof. ofPsychology ¯ at the Univ. ofVermont andEditor ofI’he ¯ Journal of Lesbian Studies. She can be ¯ reached at John Dewey Hall, Univ. of ". Vermont, Burlington, VT, email: ¯ esther.rothblum@uvm.edu. : with a crescent wrench. If the parts are ¯ rusted together, you can have a real wres- : fling match. Once the val~ce is off, remove ¯ the tube from the valve from ¯ the bottom of the toilet with the crescent ¯ wrench. Take everything to the hardware ¯ store, handittothehapless clerkinplumb- ¯ ing and tell them you want "this". Go ¯ ahead and get a new water inlet hose - ¯ you’ll be sorry later if you don’t. Also ¯ pick up a roll of the Teflon tape they sell ¯ m plumbing. Check out and cuss some : more, because this is costing more than ¯ the replacement kit, but remember that ¯ theplumber would be charging youlabor, ¯ and that hurts. ¯ Back at home, wrap a couple of turns of ¯ Teflon tape clockwise around the threads on the pipe sticking out of the wall. Use your wrenches again to attach the shut-off valve snuggly in place; wrap the threaded end on the valve with Teflon tape and attach the water inlet hose. Rule of thumb in plumbing - if it’s threaded, use Teflon tape on it. This helps give a good seal and also makes it a lot easier if you have to remove these parts again in the future. Now you can proceed with your toilet repairs as above. Once everything is attached and snug, turn your water back on and admire your handiwork! 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The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource March 1999 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource James Christjohn Jean-Claude de Flambeauchaud Barry Hensley J.P. Legrandbouche Lamont Lindstrom Esther Rothblum Mary Schepers Adam West Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Tom Neal/Tulsa Family News Relation A related resource Tulsa Family News, February 1999; Volume 6, Issue 2 Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Image PDF Online text Language A language of the resource English Type The nature or genre of the resource newspaper periodical Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Tulsa(Oklahoma)---newspaper Tulsa---Oklahoma Oklahoma---Tulsa United States Oklahoma Tulsa United States of America (50 states) Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context https://history.okeq.org/items/show/585 AIDS/HIV AIDS/HIV research arts and entertainment attorneys Barry Hensley Bars businesses churches Dave Fleischer Do-It-Yourself Dyke Dyke Psyche Entertainment Notes Esther Rothblum Eureka Springs gay bashing Gay Studies hate crime bill homophobia immigration James Christjohn Lamont Lindstorm Lobbying marriage Mary Schepers Methodist Church Murder Nancy McDonald National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Native Americans Partner Benefits performing arts PFLAG Read All About It Red Ribbon Gala representation restaurants sodomy laws Teletubbies Tom Neal Tulsa Area Prime Timers Tulsa CARES Tulsa Family News Tulsa Gay Community Services Center Tulsa Two-Spirited Indian Men's Support Group Tulsa Uniform and Leather Seekers Association vandalism https://www.history-okeq-org-red5.dev.unicomm.me/files/original/0f5c5a297cb644367e6ca3802399cadc.jpg 9f767686a7925d09e8f082502fc3f303 https://www.history-okeq-org-red5.dev.unicomm.me/files/original/c52cad5db7656600ffc7b20b992d792c.pdf b82e1103b092b333cea21afa7c6c8baf Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document New Campaign for Federal Hate Crimes Law Passage WASHINGTON (AP) - Oregon Sens. Ron.Wyden and Gordon Smith are renewing their campaign for an expanded, federal hate crimes statute, hoping thatpublic outrage over the torture and murder of black and Gay men will spur passage. "This is about drawing a line in the sand and saying America.is too good.., to look the other way in the face of violent, hate-filled acts," said Wyden, a Democratic cosponsor of the Hate Crimes Prevention Act of 1999, a replica of last year’s bill. Last month in Texas, John William King, a white supremacist, was sentenced to death for chaining a black man, James Byrd Jr., behind a pickup truck and dragging him to his death. Two men have been charged in the October slaying of Gay colleg..€, student Matthew .Shepard, who was pistol-whipped and’lashed to a fence m Wyoming. Two men also have been charged with beating to death aGay textile worker, Billy Jack Gaither, in Alabamalast month and burning his body on a pile of tires. Sen. Gordon Smith, another cosponsor of the bill, said that as a member of the Senate Foreign Relations Committee he often travels abroad and deplores hate crimes in other nations, see Federal, p. 3 Alabama Man Murdered in Anti-Gay Hate crime BIRMINGHAM, Ala. (AP) - An overflow crowd of mourners filled Covenant Metropolitan Community Church, honoring the memory of Billy Jack Gaither while also calling for an end to hatred against Gays. There was no standingroom at the 225-seat church as 17 speakers mostly clergy - decried Gaither’s death. A handful of anti-Gay protesters picketed outside. Steven Eric Mullins, 25, and Charles Monroe Butler, 21,.confessed to beating the 39-year-old Sylacaugaman to death with an ax handle last month and setting his body on fire atop kerosene-soaked tires because, they claimed, he made a pass at one of them. Gaither’s body was discovered by apasserby Feb. 20in CoosaCounty, a day after he was beaten and burned. "Mullins and Butler stated the reason they killed him was because he was ahomosexual," said Coosa County sheriff’s deputy Al Bradley. "We believe this to be the true motive." Mnllins and Buffer remain in the Coosa County jail. Gaither met with the two men in Sylaeanga, a community about 40 miles southeast of Birmingham, on the night he was killed, police said. Hehad last been seeninabarhefrequented. According to the statements, Mullins called Gaither and asked him to go to the bar, where they met and.apparently left together, Johnson said. Authorities said the men apparently took Gaither to a remote location, where the murder took place. The memorial service drew people of all races and ages, from all across the state, seeAlabama,p. 13 DIRECTORY)LETtERS P. 2 EDITORIAL P. $ US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P. 6 ENTERTAINMENT P. 8 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 DO-IT-YOURSELF-DYKE P. 11 DYKE PSYCHE P. 12 GAY STUDIES P. 14 Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tuleans, Our Families + Friends ~Cir~cuistion Comm..un" Pa eravailable In More Than 75 C" Locations Ok.lahom; iHou e K, IIs Hate ! Gay US Congres.sman Crime Amendment, HB1.211 :: FranktoAttend Pr,de’99 by Tim Talley and Tom Neal : TULS,A -.~Wl~i,’le some details remain unresolved, OKLAHOMA CITY (AP/TFN)- Hate crimes legislationis dead : Tulsa s Pride 99 organizers have announced that in the Oklahoma Legislature this year following defeat of a bill : .openly .Gay US...Congress.man, Barney Frank of that originally sought to add sexual orientation to the state’s list Mass,ach,nsetts will .attend this of hate erimes, year s June 12th event. An unprecedented number of supporters, including members ~ongressman Frank is _one of of Gay and Lesbian groups and representatives of religious me most respected l)emoorganizations such as TulSa Metropolitan Ministry, went to the _cra~cme..mbers of ~e,,United Capitol early in March to encourage lawmakers to support House ~ tate.s Hou,s e ox,,~,epre- Bill 1211. sentataves ana is well ~nown But the bill’s sponsor, Tulsa Rep. Don Ross said there was not enough bipartisan support to add sexual orientation to the Oklahoma Hate Crimes Act. "I said from the beginning I would not allow this issue to become a partisan wedge issue, used exclusively against Democrats in the next election," Ross said. The vote killing the bill followed more than an hour of sometimes passionate debate between supporters, who said that certain classes ofpeople deserve special protection, and opponents who argued that all citizens should be treated equally under the law. The bill’s final version would have made a first-offense hate crime afelony and providedfor enhanced penalties when~iolence was used but did not add "sexual orientation" to the existing law. Rep. Leonard Sullivan said the measure was divxsive and singled out certain groups for special treatment. The Oklahoma Hate Crimes Act distinguishes offenses committed because of race, color, religion, ancestry, national origin and disability. But supporters said special status has been given to crimes against children and women, and that similar recognition is needed for other groups because of who or what they are. "The law is an equalizing force," argued Ross, who is one of three Black House members. "The idea of equal protection is a very noble concept," but it is up to lawmakers to make it work, said Rep. Russ Roach, D-Tulsa. "This legislation protects all people," added Rep. John Sellers, D-Enid. Ross’ substitute bill deleting ~exual orientation was drafted in response to the Christian Coalition opposition. Toure said fear, hatred and misunderstanding are to blame for dropping sexual orientation from the measure. "I never knew the hatred toward Gay people as I do now," Ross said. TOHR’ Steve Horn shivers with Cimarron Alliance’ Terry Gatewood andfriend at Equality Begins at Home Capitol rally, Reverend Leslie Penrose Resigns as Methodist Pastor TULSA - On March 5,1999, the pastor of Community of Hope Base Shalom Congregation, the Reverend Leslie Penrose submitted a letter to Oklahoma MethodiSt Bishop, Bruce Blake initiating her withdrawal from the Methodist Church: The following is selections of her letter which circulated by e-mail in the Tulsa community: Dear Friends and Colleagues, It is with prayers for its future well-being, that I initiate the . processofwithdrawingfromtheUnitedMethodistChurch. The ", primary reason for my withdrawal after 18 years offull time ¯ ministry is the increasing focus on complaints and charges ¯ regarding my ministry of blessing same-sex covenant relationships.ltseemsthattheoptionshavefinallybeenreduced ¯ to either withdrawing or preparing for trial. I simply will not ¯ participate inputting God’s grace- or myprivilege as apastor ¯ ¯ to bless andcelebrateany andevery relationship where thefruits ofthe spirit bear witness to that grace - on trial. Nor will I hide ¯ or lie about the ministry I do. ¯ From the time six years ago when I was sent by the Oklahoma ¯ Conference to create a reconciling base community ministry in Tulsa, see Penrose, p. 13 for his skilled and often scathing debate. Mitchell Savage, member of Tulsa Gay Community Services Center’s Pride ’99 planning committee, also noted that in addition to attending the annual Tulsa Pride Picnic, planned again.for Veterans Park at 18th and Boulder, organizers are working on a dinner at which the Congressman would likely speak and possibly a Sunday morning event. Congressman Frank was graduated in 1962 from Harvard University andtaughtundergraduates there while studying for a Ph.D. Before completing his Ph.D. degree, Frank became Chief Assistant to Mayor Kevin White of Boston. In 1972, Congressman Frank was elected to the Massachusetts Legislature, where he served for eight years, until 1980. During that time, he entered Harvard Law School in September, 1974 and graduated in 1977. In 1980, Congressman Frank was elected to the US House of Representatives. In a recent evaluation of Congress, The Almanac of American Politics said "Frank is one of the intellectual and political leaders of the Democratic Party in the House, political theorist :andpit bull at the same time." Frank serves on the Judiciary and the Banking Financial Services Committees. For more information, contact the Community Center at 743-4297. BTW Boasts OK’s First Gay-Straight Alliance by Tom Neal TULSA - Elsewhere in the United States, high school Gay-Straight Alliances have often been met withconsiderable controversy. In Utah, some school districts got rid of all their campus organizations ¯ rather than allow a group which tries to supportGay o young adults andfoster tolerance andunderstanding. : However, Booker T. Washington High School, ¯ Tulsa’s magnet showpiece school, appears to have ¯ avoided much of that sort of uproar and is thought : to be the first high school with such an organization ¯ in the state of Oklahoma. ¯ Former SapulpaHigh School student, Will Allen ¯ and Emily Sizemore began the work of creating a ¯ Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA) latein 1998, meeting ." withformerBTWprincipal Mr. Stevens andt’mding ¯ a faculty sponsor, Doug Gronberg. ¯ Then in January this year, after creating flyers ¯ and making an public announcement on the school ¯ intercom, they held their first meeting. ¯ Muchto the astonishmentofAllen and Sizemore, ¯ 40 students showedup. In fact, Allen stated that the ¯ turnout was notable especially since that that first : meeting conflicted with a tryoutfor the Washington ¯ Drama Club’s production of West Side Story: ¯ Apparently BTW’s Gay population is well ¯ represented in theDramaClub and therefore, many ¯ who might otherwise have been expected to attend ¯ weren’t able. Allen also notes that similar groups in : Chicago and Boston frequently don’thave as many ¯ attending. : Allen said that the GSA is comparable to other : studentchapters on thecampus, suchas theNAACP ¯ see BTW,.p. 13 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria *Full Moon Care, 1525 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. 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Why were there only aprox. 300 folks at the capitol demanding that our innocent people’s executions stop? Where were you? I will speak for myself. When Mathew Shepard died, Tulsa had a candlelight vigil for him. It rained, and was nasty out thatevening, therefore, I decided toremain in the comfort of my warm home. After seeing the number of folks from the Westboro Baptist Church, that endured the freezing rain at Mathew’s funeral - in order to spew out hate and condemnation to the coldbody ofaninnocent child- I felt like aninsensitive, amoral, spineless snake for staying.home. Where were you? Howmany morefolks are going tohave to die in order for you / us to see that we need to attend these functions? The hate crime law was turned down- even in the state where Mathew Shepard was killed. Arethe"moral majority" ofourlawmakers hate mongers? I Thank God for MC Smothermon, Keith Smith, Paul Barby, and their likes. We need more folks like them at our capitol, to defend the rights of "minorities". We deserve better. Those who have died because of ignorant hate deserved better. Perhaps the world does not fully understand thathate crimes are committed every day. Ourminority citizens are scared to report attacks against themselves as such, because offurther condemnation, or for lack of concern by law enforcement. ¯ Folks are scared to speak up for equal ¯ rights - for fear of what few rights they ¯ currently have - will be torn away from ¯ them as a result. Receiving a pink slip ¯ from your employment, and adeath threat : because of standing up for.equal rights !s i reality. I know from experience. There ~s ~ plenty ofbehind the scene workthatnee~,s ¯ to be done, that will make a differencem : your salvation - and the lives of those in ¯ danger of ignorant violence. ~ I know ofmany hate crimes committed ¯ in Tulsa alone- which have not received ¯ the attention they deserve. I am aware of ¯ "minority" children that were victims of ¯ violent I~ate crime - which cannot tell ~ their parents for fear of getting kicked out ¯ of their ho,,m_es. Obvi,o_nsly the general " public says oh well,it s jt£st another fag, ¯ or blackie". Is the buckle of the bible belt ¯ so. tight.that it is r~.tri_cting blood flow to ; the brains of those who consider ¯ themselves "do-gooders"? God would ¯ never advocate hate. Never. .’~ The general media image of the Gay, Bi, Lesbian, and transgendered community is out cruising River Park, molesting littleboys, and spreading AIDS. Wall, I have not used the parks for sex, and see Letters, p. 3 Letters Policy Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on issues which we’ve covered Or on issues you think need to be considered. You may request that your name be withheld but letters must be signed &hay e phone numbers, or be hand delivered. 200 word lel- ¯ " " OB 701475 74170-1475 3_5.523_1.--42~. ; *~ ’ "t o~ Christ MCC ~2639 E. 32, Ste. U134 417-623-4696 ters are preIerrea~." "~’u~t.ters to other Ep~scopahans, P , ., . Spin . ..... . ¯ " - will be rinteo as is a propna~e. ¯Fellowship Congreg. Ctxurch,2900 S. H~vard~ . ~ ~4,~-,~7~7, , , tswl~ere¢oucanrmaTFN-N°’~au~’eGa’’owne~~ s ap~prop_n[~.: ¯Free S~iht Women’ s Center, call for locauon ~~mo: ~o/-~,u~ . theOklahomaStateCapitol as a local partofanational event, Equality Begins at Home. The turnout really Wasn’ t that bad considering that, in inimi table Oklahoma spring fashion, the weather had turned very, very chilly and rainy. It also wasn’t bad considering how the event’s Oklahoma City organizers had failed thoroughly to get the word out to the statewide community. Their failure actually is rather surprising because those organizers, Paul Thompson of the self proclaimed statewide OGLPC, the Oklahoma Gay & Lesbian Political Caucus, and Paula Hand Brown, an editor and reporter for The Gayly Oklahomanare easily two of the mostexperienced Gay civil fights activists in Oklahoma City. The event itself was only symbolic. The Capitol was locked and our only audience was, wall, ourselves and afew media types. Thereal lobbyingwas thatdoneatthebeginning of the month under the direction of Keith Smith and Nancy McDonald when the Capitol was unlocked and legislators werein attendance. But atleastOklahomacould say we were there; wewere one of those states around the country that did an "Equality Begins at Home" (EBAH) event. But the event was marred by a few parochial and petty aspects which by themselves are not that important but which point to flaws in our national and state movement. Th~se are the sorts of flaws that, frankly, often make u~as effective in hindering our movement as our enemies. One problem to which this newspaper has particular objectionis thefailure ofthese experienced andmedia savvy organizers to provide this newspaper with the most basic information about the event. While TFN earlier published " informationaboutEBAHbasedon the press releases provided by the national sponsors, the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force and the Federation of Stat,ewide LGBT Political Organizations, Thompson and. Brown apparently did not provide even the simplest press release telling precisely when the event was going to be held. Now in fairness, they claim that they telephoned TFN but oddly neither I nor any otherTFN staffever found amessage onour office number, our wireless voicemail,our e-mail, our fax machine, or even by that old fashioned method, by post! Some might suggest that Ms. Brown, an employee of a somewhat rival newspaper and Mr. Thompson, wall known to be dosdy tied to that newspaper might have had an interest in not sharing the information fully. Certainly, we at Tulsa Family News also acknowledge that if the only part of rtmning this business and getting a issue put together was to track down information from negligentcommunity organizers, then wecould have chased the information down as wall. However, we do have some other events we have to cover as well. For the record, Thompson and Brown did later telephone TFN and actually leave messages but only after we had gone to press and only after we complained to NGLTF organizers. But the real issue for Oklahomain the "Equality Begins at Home" effort is notjust that ofpoor communications. Part of the EBAH effort was a grant of to each participating state of $5,000. In Oklahoma, this $5K went to the Oklahoma Gay & Lesbian Political Caucus (OGLPC). Now if you just go by their name, you might assume that they are genuinely a statewide-organization. However, the organization in practice only ha~~ad a real impact in.central Oklahoma City. In that area, they have been fairly effective. An active OGLPC member claims that they have about 150 members, though they claim to have a mailing list of 7,000. He surprisingly was unable to provide any numberfor Tulsa members. And what many Gay and Lesbian civil rights activists believe, both in Tulsa and OKC, is that OGLPC really is just a OKC group. It’s never had any impact on Tulsa politics. Let us compare this with the Cimarron Alliance which, although much newer, hasboth Tulsa and other non~OKC members, and a track record of doing significant work outside of OKC. The obvious question is why did NGLTF give $5K to an organizationwhichhadlittle credibility as agenuine statewide organization, and which for years has seemed to be little more than an extension of the personality of Paul Thompson overTheCimarronAlliance withits documentable successes across the state? Here’s where petty local politics meets petty national politics. NGLTF knew quite wall that OGLPC was not widely considered credible as a statewide organization. see Equality, p.lO ~shocked many with his.suggestion that th~ solution to ¯ .famine in Ireland, then under English domination, was " for the Irish merely to eat their children. Swift, an ¯ Irishman himself,, indeed was being just a wee bit ¯ sarcastic and his essay is still readin literature classes as an example of that type of essay. It is the spirit of Swift that I’d like to ¯ invoke for part of this essay but I realize that these words taken out of context as ¯¯ they no doubt will be, will likely provoke shock and dismay and anger. All that said, ¯ I’d like to talk about hate crimes and hate ¯ crimes legislation, specifically that which ¯ was considered last month in our ¯ legislature. ¯ First, let us praise The Very Honorable ¯ Don Ross, one of Tulsa’s state ¯ representatives who introduced HB 1211. ¯ He can be cranky but as he once told me ¯ (and proved it), he’s one of our few _" dependable friends in the Oklahoma ¯ House. He’s also been supportive of ¯ increased funding for people living with ¯ AIDS. So, take some time to thank him - like :’ your momma said, it doesn’t take that ¯ long to write a thank you note. Also don’t ¯ forget him when the next election cycle ¯ comes up. Send hima checkif you can, or ¯ volunteer. If we don’t take care of our ¯ friends, who will? : And to highlight the positive, the ¯ progress HB1211 made is greater than ¯ anything that came before. That’s notjust ¯ my assessment but that of a Tulsa area ¯ Republican representative. He’ll be ¯ happier if I’ll leave him unnamed, but as ¯ he said, just getting the bill out of ¯ committee counts as progress. Headded that afew years ¯ ago,most of the people talking with us would not even ¯ have let us in the door. ¯ Again to recognize those whose work is making ¯ much of that difference, we need to thank Keith Smith ¯ who lobbies for our communities on his own while he ¯ does his other paid lobbying work. One day, if we are ¯ really smart as a community, we’ll figure outhow to pay ¯ Keith so that he can do even more. ¯ TulsaMetropolitanMinistry deserves great praise for providing the initial leadership on this bill, particularly ¯ the Reverends Mildred Banks, Gary Blaine, Gaff Kecny- ¯ Mulligan and no doubt others whose names I don’t ¯ know. Attorney General Drew Edmondson and former : DistrictAttorney Bill LaFortunealso were tremendousl)~ ¯ helpfui. Also, I would be remiss in not specifi.ca!,ly honoring Nancy McDonald for spearheading Tulsa S efforts on HB 1211. Standing 0utside thechamberoftheOklahoma ¯ House of Representatives with these two and~others, as or nlzed ome to lie in wait outside of notorious "straight"-bars, some guy walking to his ear alone, jump him and beat him senseless? Or when some %traight" couple has the nerve to flaunt their sexuality publicly, by holding hands or kissing, what if we drove up on the sidewalk to run them down or pulled a gun and shot at them. myfather and I did, is quite the education. Butnext time we need to get more of us there! But back to the blasphemous and scandalous, I have ¯ to wonder how quickly hate crimes laws would pass if " the situation were reversed? ¯ What if we organized some gangs of Gay men to get alittle drunkand liein waitoutside ofnotorious "straight" bars, and when we see some guy walking to his car alone, jump him and beat him senseless. Orwhensome straight couple has the nerve to flaunt their sexuality publicly, byholding hands or kissing, what if we drove up on the sidewalk to run them down orjnstpulled agunand shot atthem? At the very least, we could scream epithets at them so that they’ll know how hated and repulsive they are. And if that’s not good enough to intimidate those "straight" guys, wemight prevail on some of our lipstick Lesbians to chat them up in a bar, pretending to be "straight" and then lure them out to where they can be beaten or murdered or tortured - whatever. How long do you think it would take for hate crimes legisl.ation which included sexual orientation to pass? Though our legislature wouldlikely0uly makeitillegal for us to beat up "straight" boys but leave it just fine for them to kill us. Mind you I do not advocate any of the violence mentioned above; we all know it wouldbe wrong. I think it is a testament to the decency of most Gay people that we face the injustice and indignity with which we are treated with as much patience and kindness as we do. I can’t believe that it’s just because we have no choice. Consider this: in the early years of the AIDS holocaust, we had little hope; there were no or few effective treatments; we " had a government that was damning even more to death ¯ through its actions that were indifferent at best, and more often hostile, and yet we never saw any of our ¯ people resorting to violence - civil disobedience, yes, ¯ butmoredidnothappenas is the casewithdesperate and oppressed people in much else of the world. Even the ~ Jews became terrorists as old Palestine went on its way ¯ to becoming Israel. ¯ My old friend Peter and I have wondered how it is that ¯ none of those who might well have seen the world as without hope, sought vengeance or acted in violence? After all, when faced with the evil that Jesse Helms and others like that represent, why no one of us sought to send him or the many in Congress like him to the hell they surely deserve? But in the words of an old Holly Near song, "we are a gentle, angry people, and we fighting, fighting for our lives..." and maybe our persistence, along with the righteousness of our cause will move even the hardened hearts of Oklahoma towards justice someday. radio programming, the (seemingly)blackmailing Christian c~alition, and other attractive sprinkles of ignorance. Prejudice words such as "faggot, blackie, nigger, colored~ and queer" should never be allowed in hateful media - of any sort. This is the dawn of a new century political correctness changes - are we still Neanderthals? I think that we have evolved enough to cease advocating senseless -hate towards our brothers and sisters. Please make plans to attend the Pride ’99 Gay pride parade on June 12th. Perhaps we will be more inclined to attend a function of such ~xtreme value - if the weather is bright and sunny. Weneed to make it known to our leaders that hate crimes are not acceptable. Pride ’99 will be a wonderful vehicle to portray the equality we deserve and demand. Equal rights are just that - equal, not special. ¯ Please become more involved in advocating equality v~a organizations such as T.O.H.R., N.A.A.C.P., P.F.LA.G., and others. You will be, and feel like, a better person for your efforts. I am not pointing t’mgers. Just pointing and pitching in. Conform and be dull. - Ned T. Bruha, Tulsa Icert~ainly there are no more Gays interested in little boys than the heterosexual community. AIDS has no sexual preference. The words "Gay" and"black" arenot needed as verbs. In media, when we talk about an ¯" "average" citizen, we do not say"andin thenews today, ~ a white, heterosexual groi~p of’Christians gathered in a ." local church to discuss how to stop theGays fromkilling ¯ straight folks". Please. Why do we allow our radio stations to advocate hate ¯ via Gayjokes andracial slurs?Why does theFCC allow ." them that’’freedom of speech"? Why are websites such ¯ as the Gay Nazis, skinheads, KKK, Westboro Baptist, ¯ and Larry the Cable Guy allowed? They all seem to ." inciteignorantintolerance,hate, and sometimes violence ¯ - but when asked about what is inwriting- they refuse ¯ to admit it is hate. "We shouldbe outraged andalarmed, ¯ because theideas canlead to violent crimes"- as stated ¯ in the3/28/1999USAWeekendincludedin your Sunday ¯ papers. The minds of our innocent children are being " soiled by seemingly innocent media: Crayons using ¯ peach as skin tone, bandages are peach- for skin tone, Anti-Gay Stand Loses Church Its Building BROCKTON, Mass. (AP) - A dispute over Gay Christians has put a priest and his parishioners who oppose same-sex marriages on the street, so the evicted congregation held services right on the sidewalk. The Rev. Thomas Morris andabout adozen members of his flock prayed outside on a recent Sunday, despite their eviction by a judge in their ongoing dispute with the Episcopal Diocese of Massachusetts. Morris and his congregation at St. Paul’s Church opposed the diocese’s 1994 decision to sanction same-sex unions and ordain noncelibate homosexuals as priests. In opposition, the congregation began withholding fees it was bound to pay the diocese. Diocese officials maintained the dispute was not about beliefs or issues. "What this is about is this church needs a priest ingood standing with the bishop and other churches in the diocese," said the Rev. Donald Parker, the diocese vicar. The diocese is overseen by Bishop Thomas Shaw. In the decision, Judge Charles J. Hely said his ruling settled a legal issue about property, not a religious issue. In 1995, Morris’ predecessor at St. Paul’s, the Rev. James R. HAles,was defrocked after the diocese found him guilty of sexual misconduct. But many members of the church stand by HAles, and say the charges against him were concocted as punishment for his stance against homosexuality. Gay Irish Not Welcome in Bronx Parade Either NEW YORK (AP)= Members of a Gay organization got a Bronx cheer when they tried to join the first St. Patrick’ s Day-parade held in that borough in70 years. Six people, including state Sen. Tom Duane and City Councilwoman Christine Quiun, were arrested Sunday after a.doze~! supporters of the Lavender and Green’Al!ian.~ce stepped into the parade. "I’m an Irish person, I’m a Gay person, I’m here to try to march," Duane sai& % Lavender and Green Alliance founder BrendanFay said his group"originally "got a call to say we were welcome, but then we learned the welcome was being rescindedY The ~Bronx parade’s chairman, patrick Devine, d~d nrt ieturn telephone calls left at his home scekin~o crniment and did not make himself fi)aifable to reporters at.flae~ parade..... Another gr.oup, the Irish Lesbian and. Gay Organizafion,’hhs fifed unsuccessfully to join t13~ big St. Patriek~sD~y??Parade down Fifth Avenue in Manhattan f0t th(last half-dozen years criir~fruqfngs have held ~that the.private organizauons thaVsponsor parades may ch0.Os¢ which groups march Quim~,Duane, Fay and the others were arrested after the first marching band passed by and they stepped into the parade behind the Lavender ~and Green banner. They were stopped by a line of police officers and informed they would be arrested if they failed to l~ave. A few stepped aside, but others stood fast and were led away to a police-wagon and handcuffed before being charged with disorderly conduct."Let themmarch!" shouted a few supporters. "’Shame!" called outJimmy McNulty,who was among those arrested. "Why are we not welcome?" Several dozen spectators cheered when the parad~ resumed without the Gay group. "It’s an immoral lifestyle," said spectator Martin O’Grady. "If they wanted to march, the), could have marched without their banner," said Fannie Sclafani. "t have nothing against them, but it’s a community parade." Mary McGarry also said they shouldn’t have tried to crash the parade. "I have best friends who are Gay, but the parade is not about sexual orientation. It’s about being proud to be Irish," she said. The parade had the feel of a small-town event, featuring cheerleaders from parochial high schools, kilted bagpipers, babies in strollers decorated with Irish flags and groups like the Throgs Neck Homeowners, which consisted of a dozen ladies wearing off-white cable-knit fishermen’s sweaters. Spectators were sparsdy scattered along the mileand- a-half route along East Tremout Avenue. It was in sharp contrast to the annual Fifth Avenue parade, with its glitzy floats, booming drum corps and rowdy crowds. Stanley Rygorwas among a half-dozen people who stood on a sidewalk behind the Lavender and Green banner after the arrests took place. "They want them back in the closet. They want them to be anonymous," said Rygor, whose wife is Irish. He said his son died of AIDS five years ago, and he dealt with his grief by becoming an activist. "I’m here," he added, "in memoriam to him." Gay Vets Want to March FERNDALE, Mich. (AP) - A group of Gay military veterans are taking steps to march in this Detroit suburb s Memorial Day parade.Agroup of Ferndale s Gay veterans hope to join members of Friends and Neighbors of Femdale (FANS), a Gay group that has received tentative approval to enter the parade, according to a parade organizer. Femdale’s parade leaders have so far downplayed the significance of including Gays. "As far as I know, they are planning to meet all our reqmrements," Barbara Earl, a secretary with the Femdale Memorial Association, told the Detroit Free Press for a story Monday. The association puts on the annual parade, one of theregion’ s biggest and oldest, dating to at least 1919. Organizers say they will strictly enforce arequirement limiting any show of a group’ s identity to a display of its nagne. If enforced, that would mean FANS will march with no explicit banner proclaiming it is an orgamzation of Gays. "It’s not a day to promote your own agenda," Ms. Earl said. "This is a day for the veterans." Gay group leaders in Ferndale said they are ctmfortable blending in with the parade’s usual array ofhonor guards, scout troops, high school bands and politicians. "We wouldn’t want to do anything to incite controversy," said Chuck Simon, president of FANS, whichhas about 80 dues-paying members and a mailing list of several hundred. Parade rules require participants to refrain from displaying their own messages and instead stick to OffiCial Slogans, which this year are "Lest we forget" arid "’Fgt _those who gave their all." Navy veteran Ken Warnock, 32, who co-owns the Jn~ 4 ~’G~y. ~0oksto~e in F~rndale, told the Free Pre~;’fimi he will march in Ferndale’s parade with a ¯ mix ofpridd and bft-terhess. In 1987, Warnock, then - 20, was a hrgpital Corpsman aboard a Navy ship when he was. broughL.hefore his commanding officer, q~esfioned abouthis sexual orientation and th]:eafen,ed "’ With~perjury €iia~e, fie said. He resisted the Navy s " in~esfigatirnfor months, Wamock said. Ultimately, he.r¢cgived a lessZthan2honorable discharge - not q~-t.e as bad as a ~dishon0rable discharge, he said. On Memorial Day, Warnock probably won’t wear ¯ his sailor s umform- it s gettang a htfle t~ght - but beplans to carry an American flag while keeping a watchful eye for anyone angry at Gay participants. Despite his wariness, he said the inclusion of Gay marchers "speaks very well for Ferndale.’" Femdale Mayor ChuckGoedert saidhewas unaware of the Memorial Day plans but supports the inclusion ofFANS members and Gay veterans. "There are a lot of groups that participate in our parade to honor those who served. I don’t know why this would be any different," he said. Ohio Diocese to Reach Out to Gay Catholics CINCINNATI (AP) - TheArchdiocese of Cincinnati is creating a ministry for homosexual Catholics and their families. "The church wants to support the homosexual person but not homosexual activity," said spokesman Dan Andfiacco said. "There is a need for pastoral care of homosexual persons. The archdiocese wants to meet that need, and not cede teiritory to ministries that don’t support the teaching of the church." In recent years, RomanCatholicgroups nationwide have started Gay ministries such as DIGNITY, New Ways Ministry, and Parents, Friends & Family of Lesbians & Gays. Some conservative and traditional Catholics have criticized the groups, saying they OKLAHOMA COMMUNICATIONS Local- Long Distance Cellular- Paging 747-1508 Free Car Adaptor & Leather Case with New Cell Phone Want to get involved? 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Themini stry is an outgrowth of community meetings that Auxiliary Bishop Carl M0eddel led in October to discuss the U.S. bishops’ document on homosexuality, "Always Our Children." During those discussions, there was a"sense of urgency" among parents that the archdiocese have a ministryforGay ah~tLesbianCatholics and theirfamili es, Leslmey said. The Catechism of the Catholic Church holds thathomosexual activity is "contrary to thenatural law" and,objectively disordered," but thathomosexuals should be "accepted with respect, compassion and sensitivity." Gay Dallas Church To Televise Infomercial DALLAS (AP) -A federal court settlement announced Friday has cleared the way for Cathedral of Hope, the nation’s largest Gay church, to air a controversial infomercial onbroadcast superstationWGN-TV. Under the settlement, Cathedral ofHope will pay the Chicagobased cable station $35,000 for showing the program five times. Thehalf-hour video includes testimonials by members, scenes ofworship atthe3,000-memberchurch and discussions with the families of church members. Cathedral ofHope claimed the Chicago-based station reneged on a contract to air the church’s program last August. Church officials said the station pulled the infomercial shortly before the air date for unspecified reasons. WGN officials argued that they weren’t obligated to air the program because the station did not have binding contract with the church. TheDallas church filed alawsuitin October, claiming thatWGN accepted the a $13,000 check, made several suggestions that the church followed and then broke its contractandreturned the check after deciding the subject was too controversial. The Rev. Michael Piazza said he was pleased with the settlement. "Of course our desire was for it to have been aired last year," said Piazza, senior pastor at Cathedral of Hope. "But we’re very grateful to be able to resolved it." Pia77a told The Dallas Morning News that every other broadcast outlet approached by the church had refusedto air the program. ’qqaey don’t have to give you reasons, but a couple of the media buyers told us that stations were afraid the conservative religious programming would be withdrawn if ours was shown," he said. The minster said Cathedral of Hope was attracted to WGN because the station airs on cable outlets in the rural areas surrounding Dallas and Fort Worth. Maryland Gov. Supports Civil Rights Bill for Gays ANNAPOLIS, Md. (AP) - Gov. Parris Glendening testified for the first time before a legislative committee last month, describing his late brother’s hardship hiding his homosexuality and urging delegates to outlaw discrimination based on sexual orientation. Glendening’s brother Bruce served 19 years in the Air Force, including three tours in Vietnam. But as the decorated veteran lay dying of AIDS - when the pain was so great that it hurt to touch his skin - Bruce Glendening said it was more painful to keep his sexual orientation hidden for so long in order to keep his job, Gleiadening testified. "He lived in fear.. ," the governor told the House Judiciary Committee. "This has weighed on me a long tame... I’m here to ask ifwe couldmake this state amore fair and just society." Afterward, the audience applauded his three-minute speech. One of several people in the audience who shookGlendening’ s handas heleftwas SilviaRodriguez, chairwomanofthe stateHumanRelations Commi ssion, who said no other governor showed such courage in her 15 years with the group. "He knows this is just and fair for all the people of Maryland," she said. Delegates Sheila Hixson and Leon Billings, both Montgomery County Democrats, havefailed to get the bill approved for six years, but they have not had such a prominent supporter before. Onlookers packed the hearing room and one wall was lined with television cameras. The bill would add sexual orientation to a law thatbans discriminationin housing and employment because of aperson’s race, religion or gender. "The issue is simply a matter ofintolerance and bigotry," Ms. Hixson said. Baltimore City and Montgomery, Prince George’s and Howard counties have similar laws governing 49 percent of the state’s population. Glendening said Prince George’s County hasn’t suffered since it enacted the law in 1991 while he was chief executive. "Western civilization hasn’t collapsed because of the bill," he said. Glendeningleftbefore delegates asked questions about the bill. Several delegates appeared critical ofit. Delegate Emmett Bums, a Baptist pastor, said complaints from homosexuals would flood the Human Relations Commission and create further delays for Blacks and women who suffer discrimination. In the hearing’s testiest exchange, Billings retorted that everyone can suffer discrimination. Commission officials said 1 to3% of complaints in counties that have the law concern sexual orientation, Advocates argued that nobody should be discriminated against for any reason. "We’re trying to cast the net as broadly as possible," Billings said. Teens Protest Gay Story in Dawson’s Creek WILMINGTON (AP) - More than 30 teen-agers gathered outside Wilmington’s EUE Screen Gems Studios to protest the homosexual subject matter of thelocally filmed television show Dawson’s Creek. Members of Youths Against the Promotion of Homosexuality held placards Thursday reading "Jack and Jill, Not Jack and Bill" and "Hollywood: No More Gay Promo." Screen Gems’ employees were greeted with chants of "Don’t Holly-weird me!" as they drove into the studios’ parking lots. "We’re sick and tired of Hollywood trying to force its pro-homosexual values down teen-agers’ throats on shows like Dawson’s Creek," said Robert Hales, 17. "This show is 100 times worse than Ellen because they’re targeting high school kids with their ’pro-Gay’ propaganda." Ellen, which starred Lesbian comedian Ellen DeGeneres, created a national stir two years ago when the main character announced she was a.Lesbian. Theprotests aboutDawson’s Creek center around a 16-year-old character who announced in a recent episode thathe was homosexual. Kerr Smith, whose character Jack was introduced on Dawson’s Creek this season, said the show simply explores common adolescent themes. "’Everybody knows that Dawson’s Creek addresses prevalent issues about teen-agers, and one of them is homosexuality," he said. "It’s in the schools now. Ten years ago, it wasn’t talked about€but now it is." Killer Pleads Guilty LOS ANGELES (AP) - A man accused of murdering five Gay men because he thought it would stop the spread of AIDS abruptly ended his trial by pleading guilty to the charges, prosecutors said. Juan Chavez, 34, avoided a possible.death sentence in the capital case by unexpectedly changing his plea about 1 1/2 weeks into trial, prosecutor Mike Duarte said. He is scheduled to be sentenced June 21. Duarte told jurors during the trial that Chavez lured themen to theirhomes supposedly for sex and then robbed and strangled them Chavez coufessed to the murders while serving a prison sentence for an unrelated 1996 kidnapping. In September of that year, he was charged with strangling the five men in 1986 and 1989. 11 Year Old with AIDS Speaks Out CARSON CITY (AP) - Eleven-year-old Michael Dowling wasn’t supposed to live this long and he knows it. "I was born HIV-positive. My morn was told that I’d probably dieby the timeI was three years old," Michael told the Assembly as they designatedWednesday, March24as HIVAIDS Awareness Day inNevada. Hestood ¯ next to his adopted mother’s friend, Assemblywoman Barbara Cegavske, RLas Vegas, as he addressed thelegislators. The boy was born in Las Vegas to a drug-addicted mother who passed her disease along to him before she gave birth. Now, l~fichael hasbeen adoptedand is also living with full-blown AIDS. Michael said he has to make a trip to Washington,D.C., every couple ofmonths so he can get two sho~ of a medication called IL2 every day for a week. "I go to the National Institutes of Health. The doctors and nurses, there are the people that have kept me alive. If not for them I would be dead,? Mi.chael said,. Despite his disease, the youngster says heis planningto live afull andindependent life. "I plan to. grow up.and be a doctor. I do not plan to be disabled and live off welfare and_have Medicaid pay my doctor’s bills," he added. People.,~ith AIDS need Nevada’s help to find "good jobs and insurance to pay their medical bills," he said. After his speech, the entire 42-member Assembly and dozens of observers in the gallery stood~to applaud. "Mikie is not supposed to be alive. He’s such a fighter, he’s incredible," Cegavske said. Surgeon General at HIV/AIDS Meeting SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - Former U.S. Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders opened the nation’ s annualHIV/AIDS conference by urging the public to fight growing complacency about the disease. "We all have to be in this battle until it’s over, and I want you to know it’s not over," Eiders told about 2,000 people at the opening of the National HIV/AIDS Update Conference. Few doubted that among the hundreds of veteranAIDS health care providers and public health workers in the crowd. But now, Elders reminded them, there’s anew problem: growing public complacency. Lulledby encouraging early results from new drag therapies,many Americans have decided AIDS is no longer much of a threat, said Dr. Mervyn Silverman, the former San Francisco public health czar and chairman of the AIDS conference, which runs through tomorrow. He cited survey results that suggest people mustbe tuning out to all the AIDS awareness campaigns. The deadly virus is nearly always contracted through exchange of blood or body fluids, often during unprotected sexual activity or from sharing intravenous drag paraphernalia. In a survey taken in 1991, 41% still wrongly assumed that HIV could be contracted from sharing a drinking glass with an infected person. In 1997, the same misconception was found in 55% of those surveyed. Similarly, 34% of those surveyed in 1991 won-ied about catching the AIDS virus from a public toilet seat, as compared to 41°/0 in 1997. 87% ofyoung Americans believe they are at no risk of contracting HIV. Yet about one in four of every new infection occurs in the same age group, 17- to 22-yearolds. "Either we’re really gettingd.u.m.b.er, or some of us in this room are notdomgI ourjobs, Sdverm said. ’ ’ ~ Eiders offered-a familiar litany of su ,~gestions,inclUding universal access to health care and free needle-exchange AIDS Researcher Struggles for $ ¯¯ )rograms, both ofwhich seem as far from reality as when she left office in 1994. BERKELEY, Calif. (AP) - Researcher Peter Duesberg has become a scientific outcast because of his unorthodox AIDS theories. But he’s still in business, thanks to a fund-raising approach as unconventional as his beliefs. Duesberg, who maintains that AIDS is not caused by the human immunodeficiency virus but by illegal drugs and the AIDS medication AZT; has been raising money from private sources for some years, living from check to check. Buthis fund-raising tookonaddedurgency ast November when he.feared he was about to lose his lab at the University of California at Berkdey for lack of money. Friends of Duesbergsprang into acuon, soliciting donationsby way of the Internet and an ad in the alumni magazine. The ad brought in a stream of small contributions, which along with $200,000 in foundation money and some other big individual donations amounted to $325,000, enough to eke out another year of operations. Duesberg is grateful for the kindness of friends and strangers but said it’s a hard way to make a living. "You also begin to see how easy itis if youjust conform," he said. Twelve years ago, Duesberg filled out grant applications and the government sent him checks. Back then, Duesberg was a member of the elite National Academy of Scienees, winner of a 1985 Outstanding Investigator Award from the National Institutes of Health and aleading authority on retroviruses, a family that includes the AIDS virus. But after he published his HIV theory, his reputation tanked. The mainstream AIDS community has rebuffed his theories, saying it is clear that HIV does cause AIDS and that arguing otherwise dangerously undercuts the safe-sex message. "Whatever inroads we have made to help people to practice safer sex or to exchange needles - that all goes out the window," said David Evans of Project Inform, an advocacy group in San Francisco. Since 1987, Duesberg has had 20 grant applications turned down. A spokesman for the NIH declined to comment. As a tenured professor of molecular and cell ¯ biology, Duesberg still has his salary and : position at Berkeley. But without grant ¯ money, he cannot operate a lab, which is ¯ crucial to continuing his research. ¯ The private donauons can t overcom ¯ another problem: no students. Duesberg ¯ said students visit early in the semester ¯ andseeminterested.Butafterafew weeks, ..th.ey.t.aa.e.a.wa.y. "TheY’re told bY the ¯ graduate advisers and by their peers they ¯ may not be able to get ajob, I may not be ¯ able to pay them,,,a,n_,_d it would be bad for their reoutations, he said. ¯ Stuar’t Lynn, head of Duesberg’s ¯ division said the Berkeley ,c~_mmumty ¯ hasn’t o~tracized Duesberg. ’ Ev,eryb.o.dy~ kind of looks at him an amusea sort oz. way," Lynn said. "Berkele,,y has alotmore radical people than Peter. ¯ Duesberg said his lab and money ¯ problems reflect his one-man battle with Medical Excellence And Compass.ionate Care S nce 1926. ¯ ¯ ST. JOHN MEDICAL CENTER Medical Excellence ¯ ComlxtSsionate Care John Serrot, MSW LEAH HUNT, MSW Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1515 S. Lewis (918) 743-4117 JUDY SEYMOUR, CADC JOHN SERROT, MSW Serving a Diverse Community Are You Gay or Bisexual? 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"Most people don’t realizehow an-freeweare to do sciencein America," he said. ’q’hey can afford to give mill.ions, but they cannot afford to give me $100,000 or $200,000 to prove them wrong." Condom Program in Cambodia Works PHNOM PENH, Cambodia (AP) - Declaring a pilot program to increase condom use in Cambodia a success, the World Health Organization and the Ministry of Health announced plans on Friday foranationwide campaign to tackle the impoverished country’s skyrocketing AIDS rate. Targeting commercial sex workers who are the mainlinkin the spread of sexually transmitted diseases in Cambodia, the "100% Condom-Use Program" has significantly increased condom use in brothels in thepilot’s targetarea, according to a preliminary report released ahead of nextweek’s National Conference onHIV/ AIDS. Prostitutes in the seaside town of Sihanoukville, 185 km (115 miles) southwestofPlmomPerth, wereinstmcto byhealth workers in October to require all their customers to wear condoms. Ifmen refused to comply, the sex workers were encouraged to report them to police. "Many sex establishments are actively participating and there has been a rise in the distribution and use of condoms," Health Secretary of State Mare Bun Heng said Friday. "We are pleased with these results and.., this year we would like to expand the program nationwide." The condom program was inspired by a similar campaign in Thailand that increased condom use in sex establishments from 15% in 1989 tomore than90%in 1992, preventing an estimated 2 million HIV cases, according to the WHO. Cambodiahas the highestHIV infection rate in Asia, with 50 to 70 people believed to become infected every day. Recent studies have estimated that 3% of the adult population in Cambodia is infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. State Won.’t Require HIV Marriage Test NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP) - A Memphis lawmakeris no longer pushing legislation that would require couples wanting to get married in Tennessee to be tested for the HIV virus and other sexually transmitted diseases. Rep. Henri Brooks said she changed her mind after the Health Departmentestimated the tests wouldcost Tennessee taxpayers almost $5 million a year. She amended the bill to require county court clerks to make information about venereal diseases - such as chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea and hepatitis B - available to marriage license applicants. "We are not trying to be Big Brother or say who should and should not marry. All we want to do is be responsible as policymakers," the Democrat said. "The ones who have to pay for these healthrelated illnesses end up being the taxpayers." The bill,, approved by a House subcommittee, also requires that a small sign be conspicuously located in the area ¯¯ Wherepeopleapply formarriagelicenses. It would read: "AIDS KILLS. HIV and : other sexually transmitted diseases can ¯" occurwithoutyourknowledge. Don’trisk ¯ thelifeofsomeoneyoulove.BETESTED : NOW." : In addition, the bill requires the Health : Department to make annual reports to the ¯ Legislature on the status of HIV and -" sexually transmitted diseases by gender : and ethnicity. ¯ Brooks said sheproposed thelegislation ¯ ¯ because one of her constituents found out her husband was HIV positive after they : mamed. She said she may renew .her ¯ efforts for testing later. Harvard to Study AIDS in Africa ¯ BOSTON (AP) - The Harvard AIDS Institute has been given a $2.5 million : grant to research the AIDS epidemic ¯ devastating southern Africa. The grant ¯ from the Oak Foundation will support a ¯ three-year program on research and ¯ vaccine development. The grant will also ¯ support a demonstration project to test : drugs nsed to block mother-to-infantHIV : transmission. ¯ The AIDS Institute’s basic research ¯ involves sequencing the genes found in ¯ theHIV strainprevalentinsouthernAfrica. ¯ No place in the world has been harder hit : by AIDS than southern Africa. In ¯ Botswana, Namibia, Swaziland and : Zimbabwe, up to one-quarter of people aged 15-49areinfected withHIV 0rAIDS. AIDS has killed 10 million people in sub- " Saharan Africa - 90% of the world’s ¯ AIDS deaths. Another 20 million are : expected to die, Harvard researchers ¯ added. ¯ Max Essex, chairman of the Harvard ¯ AIDS Institute, and his colleagues have ." beenresearchingAIDS inAfricaformore ¯ than a decade. The Oak Foundation, an international philanthropy, has offices in ¯ Boston, Geneva, London and Harare, ¯ Zimbabwe. : Know Your Legal Rights :A Seminar for People ¯ Living with HIV and AIDS ¯ ¯ TULSA- TulsaOklahomans for Human Right, theTulsaGay Community Services ¯ Center and the Oklahoma Lesbian and ¯ Gay Lawyers Association (OLGLA) are hosting a seminar at 7pro on April 22 on legal issues for people living with HIV/ ¯ AIDS. Kathy Nelson, executive co- . ordinator for the AIDS Legal Resource ¯ Project will conduct the seminar at the Tulsa Gay Community Services Center at : 38th and Peoria, 2nd floor. ¯ The AIDS Legal Resource Project was ¯ created three years ago to help provide ," people living with HIV/AIDS with the ¯ resources to meet the challenges in their : lives. The Project provides free legal ¯ assistance to those who qualify through a network of 150private attorneys statewide. : The Project can assist those qualified in receiving denied Social Security benefits .and in addressing health, life or disability ¯ Insurance discrimination. : Ms..Nelson is an alumna of Oklahoma ¯ State University and Oklahoma City : University School of Law. She has had a : private practice in oil and gas law, family ¯ law, estate planning and probate law. She ¯ also serves on the board of directors for ¯ CarePoint, Inc. a non-profit consortium : for HIV/AIDS health care and support in : Oklahoma City. Info: 743-4297. by James Christjohn Broadway dance. And a relative-of mine, "Spirit - A Journey in Dance, Drums Raymond Christjolm was one of the and Song" combines the power of ° singers! Broadway choreography and contem- ° The cast includes 20 dancers with both porary music with the songs, chants and o modemand traditional training, including dances born of Native Indian Nation dancers Americanculture to tell Act I eontlnues with the story of one ¯ person’s- andanation’s "An Ea~le Above." in - search for renewal by wlaleh Ron Anquoe exploring ancestral roots. (Kiowa tribe, Oh|ahoma) This multicultural per[orms t]ae ritual performance event, which debuted on PBS Ea~le Dance as part of the March 1999 pledge drive and to convey the le~eud d will be released on the Ea$|e Feather. video April 20, was conceived by Peter provldln~ the youn$ man Buffett, working in with [~uow|ed~e and collaboration with Chief Hawk Pope. courage [or the journey. Buffett composed the music for the pivotal Fire Dance scene in Kevin Costner’s Oscar-winning film "Dances with Wolves." "Spirit - A Journey in Dance, Drums and Song" features the choreography and stage direction ofT,o.nywinner Wayne Cilento, who blends his demanding trademark "urban dance" movement with traditional Native American dance. And by the~ way, the video is worth getting just to view the dancers. They are all beautiful, with appeal to Gay men, Lesbians, straight folk.., something fol everyone! And boy can they move! 01~ yeah, themusic’s great, too; the CD is availablenow, and I highlyrecommendit. Peter has been one of the few artists te successfully blend ancient music with modem. Usually, whenthatblendis made, it comes out a mess, but he’s done an excellentjob ofretaining the impact of the ancient with the feel of the modem, rising above time and space to create anew form that is emotionally satisfying on a level few reach. LoreenaMcKennitt is the only other artist I would say that about in her blending of ancient and modem Critic influences on her CD’s. But I digress, back to "Spirit: A Journey...". Taped during the show’s premiere performance weekend at the Weidner Center inGreen Bay, Wisconsin,"Spirit - A Journey in Dance, Drums and Song" features more than 80 performers - dancers, choir, percussionists and orchestra - selected from the worlds of Native-American performance and by Allan Smithee, special contributor Anyone see "Footloose" whileit wasin town? It had all the appeal of a really bad high school play. Bad script, awful choreography and songs worthy ofmaybe two verses stretched out till one thought the record player had broken and was skipping, all added up to an evening of dreck, despite the cast’s sometimes overenergetic performances -and especially the nights when one cast member was off key. It is usually against my principles to walk out on a show, no matter how bad - I hold that it’s rude to the actors and people around you - but Footloose is one I would have walked out on after the first 30 minutes. I find it ironic that local homophobe and religious bigot Larry Payton, famous arrayed in fancy dress of feathers, beads and bones. The orchestra features both modem and traditional Native- American instruments, a string section and percussionists playing a variety ofdrums. The 40-voice Green Bay and Oneida Nation Girls’ Choir provides additional vocals. The program also features soloists Robert Mirabal (also very handsome), a renowned Native- American flautist, vocalist and percussionist; Ron Anquoe, a traditionally trained Eagle Dancer who is a member of the Kiowa Tribe of Oklahoma; and Chief Hawk Pope, a vocalist, lyricist and composer who is Principal Chief of the Shawnee Nation, United Renmant Band of Ohio. Chief HawkPopenarrates. Joanne Shenandoah, Oneida Nation of the Iroquois confederacy, adds her beautiful voice to the proceedings. "Spirit - A Journey in Dance, Drums and Song" opens Act I with "Urban Overtures" as a group of city dwellers reacts robotically to the stressful sounds of daily life. Determined,to escape this chaos, one young man decides in "Fire Dance" to look back to his roots and search for a new way to live. In "Coashelleaqu (The Shawnee Letter)," a Native-American grandfather encourages him to begin this journey of renewal. "Hidden Heritage" celebrates the 500 Indian Nations. ActI continues with"AnEagleAbove," in which Ron Anquoe (Kiowa tribe, Oklahoma) performs the ritual Eagle Dance to convey the legend of the Eagle Feather, providing the young man with knowledge and courage for the journey. "Passage," Robert Mirabal’s haunting flute solo, continues the young man’s quest to embrace the past. Act I ends with Spirit Dance, bnngmg together dancers from the traditional Native-American and contemporary urban cultures for a celebration, see Spirit, p. 10 for censoring shows andrewriting themto make them safe for the good Baptist families of Tulsa to see would bring in a show that pretty much rips the views of fundie-brand organized religion. In case some of you are too young to remember the film, it’s based on an incident in Elmore, OK wherein dancing was made illegal by virtue of a powerful minister in town who held that dancing would lead to all kinds of sinful behavior. In the film and play, a kidfrom Chicago challenges the dictatorial evil minister, and wins the right to hold a school dance. As a film, it was worth a couple hours at the dollar movie. As a musical, well, it’s not worth that much. But Tnlsans seemed to like it - the shows were sold out. Maybe it’s that even a bad touring show beats anvthin~ on TV9 At any rate, the cast was ~mlfor~v cute,’so that hellxd a little. Tulsa C.A.R.E.S. in association with PFLAG presents Chastity Bono at the 2nd Annual Red Ribbon Ball Saturday, April 17th 7:30pm, dinner + entertainment, tickets begin at $75/person/all proceeds benefit Tulsa C.A.R.E.S., Information: 834-4194 Spring Concert May 7 & 8, 1999 7:00 PM All Soul’s Unitarian Church 2952 S. Peoria COUNCIL OAK MEN’S CHORALE For tickets contact a chorale member or call the COMC Ticket Office. 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Ifyour organization is not listed, please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615. It is a fabulous number to see. R makes you want to stand up and cheer, even if it is a video: Act II of"Spirit- A Journey in Dance, Drums and Song" begins with two numbers - "The Place Where Crying Begins" and "The Dream" - offering a sensual exploration of the relationship of man and woman in a more natural world. "Aubenaubee(Prelude to Rebirth)" begins the young man’s journey back to his own world; m The Thunderbird, he returns as anewly enlightenedmemberof society. In the final number, the two cultures - traditional andurbancontemporary - dance in unison, recovering the true spirit of America. The showitselfwas a seamless blending of ancient and modem, combining to tell a story that many of us can relate to today of alienation from roots, a discontent with where man in general is today in the world, and a yearning for reconnection to the earth in an age where the earth has become one more commodity to exploit. It held me spellbound. Seamlessly integratingmusic, dance, ..and storytelling, it moved me to tears-- something that doesn’t usually happen at all, especially withregards to avideotapedperformance. It was beautiful. I have been in communication with the composer/ creator, Peter Buffett, and, he has mentioned the possibility of brfilging the live show here in the fall. (ya heard it here first, folks!)If that happens, don’t miss it. It willbe an experience that will touch you deeply, as theatre was meant to do. Andif the video is able to move me to tears (along with several others I spoke with that saw i0,imagine whatanimpactseeing the performance live wouldhave! Usually I find videos of plays, especially musical performances, lacking. Something is lost in the translation from live to tape. Not so in this case. Peter’s other CD’s are well worth picking up: "Spirit Dance", from which many of the numbers in "Spirit: A Journey..." were taken, is great, and the soundtrack to "500 Nations" is another winner. Joanne Shenandoahhas anumber ofCD’s out, and "Matriarch" is one ofmy favorites ofhers. RobertMirabal has CD’s out as wall, and he is fantastic. Peter tends to get lumped in the "New Age" although his musicfar surpasses theimage that particular labding conjures up, While the other artists are found, at least in Borders, under "Native American". Other places might have them under "World Music". They knew so because for the last two years, a representative of Tulsa Oldahomans for Human Rights (TOHR) had participated in the planning for this eventand in the creation oftheFederation. FromTOHR,NGLTFknew thatCimarron was the only Oklahoma group genuinely doing statewideorganizing, Sowhy would they give $5,000, a huge sum for a small and under orgamzed state like Oklahoma, to those less likely to put it to good use? Well, it turns out that a number of the individuals who are involved with Cimarron have also worked closely with NGLTF’s semi-rival, the Human Right Campaign (HRC). And rumor has it that NGLTF didn’t want to help an "HRC" organization. So, the money which conid really, really have made a difference in : Oklahoma went to OGLPC. ¯ WhatdidOGLPCdowiththosedollars? : They rented a bus to bring Tulsans to the : rally, and they rented portapots and got : the necessary, permits for the event. But ¯ interestingly they also hired and paid Ms. : PaulaHandBrown to help co-ordinate the ¯ event. And they used the funds to pay for : advertising in various publications, albeit ¯ not this one. (For the record, TFN : frequently donates ads completely free of : charge to community non-profit : organizations unlike our rivals who ¯ typically provide atmosta20%discount.) ¯ Also, OGLPC is permitted, according to : NGLTF organizer, Dan Haws, to keep ¯ any leftover funds to subsidize their ¯ organizational work. ¯ Perhaps, OGLPC will transcend its past and prove worthy of the $5K they were : granted. Butif the reasoning for choosing : them over Cimarronis true, then OGLPC : and Oklahoma’s communities have ¯ become once againpawns in the games of : our"national" organizations. ¯ The bottom line is the money should go ¯ to those who can most effectively use it. ; And you have to wonder if those who : can’tevenissue a simplepress release, are ¯ the ones who can make the best use of the ¯ money. " "I speak out abroad, I must not be silent at home," the Republican said. In a positive : sign for supporters, Senate Judiciary ¯ Chairman Orrin Hatch, R-Utah, has : scheduled hearings on the legislation for ¯ next month. ¯ But it still faces a difficult road. Some ¯¯ co.ngr.es.sionalRepublicans have expressed mxsgxvmgs that the legislation is ¯ unnecessary because dozens of states have ~ laws protecting the groups identified in ¯ the bill. ¯ Backers are also concemed that social : conservahves may construe thelegislation ¯ as extending special protections to ¯ homosexuals. "This is not a bill that will, ] in one way, advantage one group over ; another," said Wyden. "I can’t believe ¯ any members of the United States Senate ¯ want to be soft on violence." Pennsylvania Republican Sen. Aden Specter, R-Pa.., another bill cosponsor, said he wasn’t as optimistic as some of his colleagues. "A lot of opponents.., pick out hate crimes legislation for a great deal of criticism," he said. "This is a tough bill to get very much support." Under the bill, current law would be expanded so theJustice Department could prosecute crimes based on a person’s sexual orientation, gender or disability. Now, the statute only covers crimes based on race, color, religion or national origin. Also, the bill would make federal prosecution ofhate crimes eas~er. Current ¯ law limits prosecution to situations whexe ¯ the victim is targeted for engaging in : certain, federallyprotectedactivities,such ¯ as serving on a jury, voting or attending ¯ public school. : Over40 states havehate crimes statutes, ¯ but only 21 cover sexual orientation, 22 ~ cover gender and 21 cover disability, ¯ according to the White House, which ¯ supports the bill. : Senator Edward Kennedy, Democrat - ¯ Massachusetts, the bill’s lead author, said ¯ the measure wouldn’t undermine the role ¯ of the states in prosecuting hate crimes, ¯ jnstbringinvestigative andother resources ¯ of the federal government to bear where ¯ necessary. 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No, I suppose most of you want me to get on with that damned project you werelefthanging withacouple of months ago, and so I shall. The DIYD is perfectly confident that you have not been squandering the intervening months but have quite diligently been scoping ideas to steal and make your own in our Kitchen remodel on the shoestring. Now, being Now, heln~ economical does not equate with being. cheesy, so wall the rather " enthusia~tle dyke with the ~tn of Rust-o-leurn economical does not equa[e please with being cheesy, so will the eooIher"jets. rather enthusiastic .dyke with ,’i-,’I the can of Rust-o-leum please....... t ne DIYD cool ~her jets. The DIYD promises that she shall get her shining moment when we discuss refurbishing the garage sale find garden furniture. You have 0aonesfly] assessed both your finances and the state’of yourcupboards? Decidedwhat you can livewith stylistically’? Then lef’s get cooking. We will be working on the assumption that your cabinets are sturdy enough and laid out in amanner that is endurable until the money for the Dream Kitchen appears (The pessimistic side of the DIYD cautions.that any time you have spare money, either your house or your car will find out about it, so be sneaky! A friend of hers adds "girlfriend" to this .corollary.). Given those two assumpuons, you have options. And we all love options, don’t we? The easiest approach may be to repaint your cupboards, put up new hinges, and handles and a bit of tasteful shelf paper. Yes, you still have to prep things for successful results. Sorry. Youwill need to lightly sand the surfaces and clean them, then put on a primer coat. NOT Water based! That raises the grain of the wood or separates the veneer..Oil based only. This might be a good time to review the past articles on painting and brush care. I will always recommend that you "extinguish pilot lights on the range if you have them and to open windows and doors for good ventilation. Solvents are just ugly. Then use Kilz brand paint; it is trouble-free as oil based paint goes, and dries in an hour or less. The DIYD strongly recommends taking one cabinet door at a time offwhen repainting, and then adding thenew hinges and handles when putting it hack on. Or you can take the cabinets off all at once, but mark them or handle them in some other methodical way. Especially in older homes, all things are not equal. One coat of primer then, unless you get somebleed-through, then apply two coats. When that’s all dry, you can paint on your finish paint. TheDIYDurges you to invest in a semi-gloss or gloss formulated especially for kitchens. These paints can stand up to the moisture, and you’ll really be grateful when you go to wipe off that errant cake batter. Put in your shelf paper and the you’re ready for those new hinges promises that she shall get we discuss ref~rbishin~ th..e garage sale find g.arden ~urniture. and handles. Regardless of which option you choose, you will probably want new h,ardware on the cupboards and drawers. It s amazing how much it spiffs things up; it is also amazing how much it costs when you add them all up, so take a count of what you need, then use your calculator when you go shopping. It is also wise, if possible, to find hardware that is similar to the old as regards screw hole placement. If you don’t have to drill anything new, why bother? Put a little woodfiller in the hole, orbreak a match stick off in it, then attach your new hardware. Always remember to look at how the hardware you are removing was attached, especially hinges. This is not frivolous advice! Another option you have is resurfacing, and this can yield some remarkable results. If you are handy and rather intrepid, you can handle the job yourself. They have supplies and instructional videos at Homo Depot and other stores of that ilk. If you’ve a bit extra tucked back in the cookie jar and a low reserve of patience for chaos, by all means look into having the job done by professional resurfacers. They can even take care of that god awful formica counter-top while they’re at it. As usual, get lots of quotes, demandreferences, and check thembefore making this choice. The option of last resort would be stripping and refinishing the cabinets. You should choose this only if a)your cabinets are fabulous butjust dark or dingy;b) you have prior refinishing skills; c) You have an infinite reservoir of patience; d) your beloved has an infinite reservoir of patience. Nodream ofglowing wood cabine.ts is worth a week on the couch - alone. The dog will be in your place in bed. It can be that bad, darlings. As usual, it all sounds so very easy in print, but ~rd up your channing loins, dare to be anal retentive and methodical and you’ll find the work rewarding. I’ll be back next month when we deal with the walls - if you’ve finished climbing them by then: and confabulations of underwear collectors - and they establish all those thousands of websites and chatrooms on the Intemet. Anthropologists call these "special interest ~oups" and, despite pessimistic impresszons that nobody in the country anymore talks to their folks and neighbors, the number of interest groups in this country has expanded astronomically since the 1950s. Where once people hid their fetishes as painfully embarrassing, now, like Jay, we happily call ourselves fetishists and proudly broadcast our fascinations. So I feel like I’m in good company when I’ve got Jay working onmy toes with a dreamy look in his eyes. It’s my contribution to the modem American Way. by Esther Rothblum The Antarctic is the coldest, highest, and driest continent on earth. Unlike the Arctic, which consists of frozen water surrotmded by land, the Antarctic is land surrounded by water. Land is colder than water, so the Antarctic has Tkere temperatures ranging from ." here are strong spirited to start with,.and ¯¯ stronger stilluponleaving. BeingaLesbian was not a contributing factor, whereas ¯ persistence, flexibility, emotional and physical strength are more important. ¯ There is ajoke that usually goes around is a joke town toward the middle of the season: How do you get 40 degrees Fahrenheit in the warmestpartofthe continent in summer to minus 100 degrees Fahrenheit (.not including the wind chill factor) in the winter. 98% of the continentis covered with ice, and in fact the Antarctic contains 90% of the world’s ice. The ice is several miles thick in parts oftheAntarctic interior, so that the altitude is similar to high mountainous regions. Even though the Antarctic contains 68% of the world’s freshwater locked up as ice, the almost total lack of precipitation classifies it as a desert. Frequent blizzards and high winds form "white outs" that make it difficult to see, and the view is often a monotonous sheet of white snow and ice. Why would anyone choose to go to this barren continent? In 1913, explorerErnest Shackleton placed an ad in a newspaper . that stated: "Men wanted for haTardous journey. Small wage, bitter cold, long months of complete darkness . . . Safe return doubtful.., and recognition in case of success." He received about 5,000 applications. Most people who have come "to the ice" in recent decades engage in scientific research or support those who do. About a dozen nations have built permanent research "stations" in the Antarctic.For several years, I conducted research on womenin the Antarctic. I wanted to study women who take risks, and the Antarctic seemed the ideal setting. This work resulted in the recent book Women in the Antarctic(HaworthPress, 1998), co-edited with Jacqueline Weinstock and Jessica Morris. Only one woman that we interviewed for this book came out as a Lesbian, and shewas part ofan all-women’s expedition that skied to the South Pole. Our research team did not feel we could ask our participants about their sexual orientation. In those days the U.S. Navy transported personnel to the Antarctic (these days, it’ s the Air Force) and as a result we were concerned that our participants might not want to come out to us as Lesbian or Bisexual. But we speculated that there might be some Lesbians among the women who live and work in the Antarctic. So I was intrigued to readan article entifled"Below the Ice: An Antarctic Journal" by Peggy Malloy in a recent issue of Weird Sisters, a Colorado Lesbian newspaper. I emailed Peggy in the Antarctic (the wonders of technology!) and she responded as follows: For most people who come to work in Antarctica, it is the sense ofadventure that draws us to this extreme environment. Most ofus wouldnever have themoney to be a tourist-visitor; and we would not be able to learn to love ffduring such a short visit, as many of us have done over the seasons. Those who get through a season that usually goes around town toward the middle of the season: How do you get a date with a woman? Answer: be one. There are approximately 30g females working in the Antaretle program. a date with a woman? Answer: be one. There are approximately36% females working in the Antarctic program. Yes, there are other Lesbians in town, and a very small handful of Gay men. The men are quite closeted. This was a military base at one time and there are still plenty ofmilitary influences since so many ex-military currently workfor Antarctic Support Associates, the civilian contracting firm in the Antarctic. The Lesbians are generally out, but several are not. This is a generally ¯ accepting environment, mainly since we ¯ all have to work andlive together forlong ¯ periods of dme. If someone doesn’t agree ¯ with a lifestyle, it’s futile to fightit. I do ¯ not try to hide my sexuality, but I don’t ¯ flaunt it either. There is always a fear that : one won’t get rehired because of it. ¯ However, this seems to be residual from ; living in northern society, and not well ¯ founded in the hiring practices of this ¯ company. If there are any prejudices, I ¯ would say it is against women in general, ¯ not just against Lesbians. There is no : attempt by the U.S. Antarctic Program to ¯ be Lesbian-affirmative, of which I am ¯ aware. : I have worked at the U.S. McMurdo ¯ StationontheAntarctic continentfor three ¯" seasons so far. Each year the circle of : friends increases: friends of friends tell : friends,andendupcomingworkherewith ¯ us. Each year there seem to bemoremales : who gravitate to our circle. These are : straight men who feel more comfortable ¯ striking friendships with us,mosdy since ¯ we are"safe." There is no concern thatwe ¯ will wantanythingmorethan afriendship. ¯ Email is the best way to keep in touch : withcommuffityfromhome. I amgratefnl ¯ to those who write and keep me informed ¯ of happenings, and gossip, and events ¯ such as the Rainbow Chorus concerts. I : was quite involved with them before ¯ coming to work down here. This is such ¯ an isolated place, very little outside ¯ stimulation from color (th!ngs are brown or white), smells (only the smell of fuel), ¯ and life (nothing grows here naturally : other than some algaes). We see some ¯ seals andmaybe somepenguins at the end ¯ of the summer season. News from home ". or small care packages from friends are ¯ treasured like a long lost love’s return. ¯ Anything, and everything, is a special ¯ gift. This is also the time when I have ¯ more contact with friends than usual, as I ." can sit at the computer and drop a quick ¯ note to say, "hi, how are you doing?" : Peggy Malloy can be contacted via ¯ email: malloyma@hotmail.eom. Esther ¯ Rothblum is Professor of Psychology at ¯ the University of Vermont and Editor of ¯ theJournal ofLesbianStudies. Shecanbe ¯ reached at Dewey Hall, University of ¯ Vermont, Burlington, Vermont. ¯ email: esther.rothblum@uvm.edu. IGTA member Call 341.6866 nternationa Tours:ormoreinformation. 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"We’re here to celebrate this evening that God is not hate, but God is love," said the Rev. Lawton Higgs St. of United Methodist Church of the Reconciler. Roger Lovette, pastor of the Baptist Church of the Covenant, encouraged people to remember Gaither as a person, not a symbol. "He was like the rest of us with hopes, dreams and needs," Lovette said. Rodney Max, co-chairman of the Coalition Against Hate Crimes, urged legislators to pass alaw including offenses motivatedbyhomosexuality on the state’s list of hate crimes. "That should never, ever happen again in this state," Max said. After the two-hour memorial service inside the church, people lit small candles and stood outside singing ’~his Little Light of Mine." Across the street, a small group of protesters from Westboro Baptist Church in Topeka, Kan., held anti-Gay signs in protest. "We are outraged at this violent crime, but the issue is the homosexuals are exploiting it," said Westboro’s pastor, the Rev. Fred Phelps. "It is no longer merely an event for the family and friends to grieve." Protesters held signs saying "Billy Jack Gaither bums in hell.’" Max Griffies, 9, stood near the church’ s step holdin,,g a sig,n declaring, "God loves all people. Max smother, Leah Griffies, but that still some homophobic remarks were expressed by afew teachers to classes after the announcement was made. and flyers went up. However, since a large part of the group’s mission is to educate faculty and other students, Allen characterized these negative remarks as something to be expected, until Gay and Lesbians students and is sues become more visible. BTW’s GSA typically meets during an intermittent free period in the school schedule and the group often discusses issues or plans for upcoming events. One such event is the "Day of Silence" on April 7th which is intended to be a day of protest in support of civil rights for Gay and Lesbian persons. Washington’s Sizemore is actually the key organizer for the US and Canada. Also, the BTW GSA is planning to participate in the upcoming Tulsa Pride Parade. And Booker T. Washington’s example has paved the way for GSA’s in at least two other Tulsa high schools. Smaller and more informal groups have come together at Central and East Central High Schools. All of these groups have joined together in an organization, S.A.F.E. - Student Alliance for Equality which meets at the Tulsa Gay Community Services Center (the Pride Center). For more information, messages may be left for the BookerT. Washington Gay- Straight Alliance or S.A.F.E. at the Tulsa Gay Community Services Center, 743- GAYS (4297). said she wanted her son "to know you don’t kill people, regardless of who they are, and especially for what they believe in." The message seemed to sink in as Max watched the protestors across the street. "Itmakes mefeel disgusted because everybody is created equal and all people are created by God," he said. Police originally charged Mullins and Butler with murder, which carries a maximum sentence of life imprisonment .with a chance for parole. However, grand jurors upgraded the charge to capital murder, which cames only two possible penalties: electrocution or life without parole. In Washington, DC, the Human Rights Campaignissued the following comments: "in 1997, (the latest FBI statistxcs available) Alabama reported no hate crimes to the FBI for any category. Reporting of statistics is voluntary under to the Hate Crimes Statistics Act of 1990. Alabama’s hate crimes law does not cover sexual orientation. ’This case in Alabama shows the great inconsistency between states in tracking and prosecuting hate crimes We call on Congress to pass the Hate Crimes Prevention Act, to set a uniform federal response for hate crimes and signal that anti-gay violence is unacceptable in our society,’ said Human Rights Campaign Political Director Winnie Stachelberg." Kevin Ivers, director of public affairs .for Log Cabin Republicans added, ’’There IS something wrong in society when gay people are continually murdered in this maimer, and our leaders have amoral duty ~o address it.., The leaders of both parties must speak out with eqtml forceagainst the anti-gay hatred and intolerance that is feeding such crimes. . Every political leader, especially those who seek-the presidency, must reflect on why this is happening, and what they can do to,.h,elp stop it from continuing." those who gathered to becomd~othe Community of Hope have i~orked to be honest about who we are and what our ministry is. without insisting that others agree with or embrace our ministry, We have consistently insisted that ministries of healing and hope, and not, Gay advocacy, be ourfocus; while at the.same time naming that homophobia and inhospitality are antithetical to the Gospel, and refusing to be silent in the face of them. We have asked only for tolerance and respect, and have tried to offer the same. However. increasinly, the goodness and dignity of Gay and Lesbian persons and their loving, committed relationships are so consistently and ’officially’ devalued and dishonored within in this Conference and by this denomination, thatI can no longer maintain myaffiliation with integri&. Secondly, I have decided to withdraw because the ministries of justice and compassion to which God’s church has been calledand in which this congregation is engaged, are too urgent and too important for us to faithfully allow any more time or energy to be diverted by denominational arguments aboutwhether or not Gay and Lesbian persons are part of the body of Christ, Since the day this congregation was called into being, Gay and Lesbian persons have been BEING the body of Christ - offering their gifts and graces, their time and energy, their hearts andhands, in loving service to God and neighbor - see Peurose, p. 14 while the Church has debated their acceptability. "Anyone who does the will of God is my brother or sister"(Mark 3: 35), Jesus said. That debate was settled long ago. And yet, women, men, and children in Oklahoma, in the US, and around the world continue to be robbed of life every day by hunger, homelessness, abuse, addiction, and violence, while the UMC spends more and more of its time andresourcesfight~ng over who is allowed to love who. Internal struggles over control and authority, have seduced our Church intoforgetting its call to be the bearers of God’sgospel ofhopeandlove to a hurting worM. I am weary ofthe ’forgetting’ and the fighting, and want my life and our ministry as a community offaith to once again be about ’remembering Jesus’ in ways that honor the life he lived among andfor us. Therefore, on Thursday afternoon, by Lamont Linstrom, Ph.D. My feet are looking niighty fine these days. I~have been seeing a new friend named Jay, who calls himself a foot fetishist. And he has been working these toes down to hubs, almost. Jay describes foot-worshipping parties he has attended where shoes andboots and soqks goflying in all directions. He has intro~oced me to foot magazines. The personal ads are remarkable. They come withphotographs showing everyone thrusting his best foot forward into the camera lens. And websites, too. The intemet is one big fetish supermarket: rubber and latex here, feet over there, underwear at the back. Or uniforms:-I have another friend with a closet full of uniforms. I never know if he’s going to show up dressed in Boy Scout drag, or as Marine, or perhaps a water meter reader. While Jay was mass_aging my feet one afternoon I thought abouttheword"fetish" - a term oddly shared by anthropology, psychology, and sexology. SigmundFreud himself seems to have been the first to borrow "fetish" from 19th century anthrol~i0gy. Scholars of West African religion had.firstused thewordto describe religip~s..objects from Ghana - small carvings, amulets, and’the like-thatpeople bdieve&~were inspirited with divinity. Feti~h deriYes from the Latin facticious whi.€.k once.meant "handmade" or "man~0~tU~ed" (e.g., see also "factory," and "factotum"). The word’s connations of "artificial," in the original sense of "made" or "constructed, "expanded to absorb secondary meanings of "unreal" or "fake"-or "false." Thus, the fetish originally was a man-made, artificial image of-God that African devotees believed to have divine powers. The term is still used occasionally in anthropology and beyond to refer to sacred objects. My Bay Area newspaper, for example, last week contained an advertisement for an upcoming sale of Pueblo Indian jewelry whichfeaturedZuni fetishes- these small, carved animal figures sold as both decorative and spiritual. I am not sure why Freud borrowed fetish to describe sexual kinkiness. We can guess, however, that he shared the same sorts of. European cultural biases that led to th~ earlier anthropological use of the word. The savage religious devotee focuses his attention on the artifical fetish - the man-made object - and thus misses ¯ March 4, I submitted the following ¯ statemen¢ to.Bishop Blake: ~ " Bishois.Bruce Blake ¯¯ Oklahoma Annual Conference United Methodist Church ¯ It is with a deep trust in God’s steadfast ¯ and unconditional love that 1 write to ¯ informyou thatlaminitia,ting theprocess ¯ ofwithdrawalfrom Zhe United Methodist ¯ Church in order to transfer my ministerial ¯ orders to another denominate’on. 1 have chosen to begin this process because I ¯ cannot remainfaithful to the Gospel and ¯ honor the requirement of the United ¯ Methodist Church not to celebrate and ¯ blesssamesexcovenantrelationships.As ¯ one who has been baptized to "resist. ¯ injustice and oppression" and ordained : to"lookaftertheconcernsofChristabove ¯ all," I am called and charged to offer the ¯ full ministry ofthe church--including the ¯ blessing ofdovenant relationships- to all : God’s people, including those who are ¯ Gay or Lesbian. I will do nothing less. : - Rev. Leslie Peurose the larger supernatural reality ofgod. The : sexual fetishist similarly misdirects.his ¯ attention only to this or that body part or : object, and also misunderstands the ¯ broader, complex whole of human ¯ sexuality. The foot fetishist sucks toes, : but ignores everything above the ankle. ¯ The hair fetishist gets tangled and stuck : up there and never moves along towards ¯ "normal" sex. The 19th century anthropologist and ¯ psychologist both shared the belief that ¯ they could indeed define normal religion ¯ and natural sexuality. Whatever fell short ¯ of this standard could be defined away as ¯ artificial - just a fetish. Lucky for us, ¯ maybe, things aremuchmorecomplicated : nowadays. Some complications have ¯ come along with 20th century Hedonism. ¯ While hardly triumphant (especially in ¯ Oklahoma),latterday influentialhedonists : like Dr. Ruth proclaim that all forms of ¯ sexual behavior are good, as long as ¯ nobody gets hurt. And even that can be ¯ good, too, as long as a person wants to get : hurta,ndiftheboundaries andgroundrules ¯ (we Americans are so legalistic) are ¯ negotiated beforehand. ¯ Jay finds sexuality in toes just as West Africans discover divinity in beads and : wood. So fixations .on feet, jocks, : underwear, underarms, hair, rubber sheets ¯ - it’s all reoently wonderful. ¯ Well, perhaps not that kid living down the street who’s discovered to have 2000 ¯ pairs ofwomen’s panties hiddenunderhis ~ bed thai he’s stolen from neighborhood ¯ clotheslines. Butmostly fetishes are good. Isn’t the right toa feti~h protected in the ¯ Constitution? At least they contribute to : the economy. ¯ Sex nowadays is also complicated by ¯ the duty our culture demands of us to ¯ cultivate our individuality. Fetishes here ¯ are extremely useful. They help ¯ differentiate ourselves as unique ¯ individuals. If you remain stuck in plain ¯ old boring vanilla sex, you are just a ¯ cypher in the crowd. Youneed a focus, an : angle. Somespecial way to define yourself ¯ whenfilling outoneofthosebearortwink ¯ codes one sometimes sees flaunted in ¯ email signature files. But the American ¯ desireforindividuality and our cultivation ¯ of sexual fetishes also eventually leads ¯ around to American sociability. Those ¯ fetishes are shared. Fetishists quickly go ¯ to work organizing societies of foot ¯ fanciers, seeAnthro, p. 11 BODY WORSHIP GWM, into body worship, looking for a WM, 35-40, who’s into body budding. (Tulsa) ~10314 I’M WORTH THE CALL Looking for a one-night stand with a very muscular, well-endowed top. If interested, give me a call. (Tulsa) ~r13401 NEED BEEF Looking for a Guy, 35+, with lots of muscle. If you’re Tulsa’s answer to John Holmes or Hulk Hogan, leave me a message. (Tulsa) ’~’13126 GIVE ME THE BEEF If you’re Tulsa’s answer to Larry Holmes or Hulk Hogan, give me a call. I think you’ll find this call worth your while. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Texas House Passes Hate Crimes Bill WASHINGTON-TheTexas HouseofRepresentatives passed a bill late in March (vote count: 83 to 61, including the support of 9 Republicans) that would enhance penalties for hate motivated violence directed against a person because of their race, gender, religion or sexual orientation. In addition to the House vote, a new poll shows that the vast majority ofTexas residents support hate crimes legislation... "Reason and principle triumphed in the Texas legislature today," said HumanRights Campaign (HRC) Executive Director Elizabeth Birch. ’‘Texas lawmakers took a giant step towards combating hate violence against all residents of the state." The Human Rights Campaign is the largest national Lesbian and Gay political organization. A new Scripps Howard poll for The Dallas Mormng News revealed that 72% of Texans support hate crimes legislation. According to the newspaper, the poll said that the public supports the inclusion of all groups currently included in the legislation: 81% for race; 80% for women; 78% for religious groups; and 76% for Gay people, see Texas, p. 14 TU Hosts Women + AIDS Regional Conference TULSA-The Second Regional Conference onWomen and AIDS will be held on The University of Tulsa campus Monday,June 14,intheAllen ChapmanActivity Center, located at 440 South Gary Avenue. Theconferenceis a comprebensive, one-dayprogram to raise awareness, promote discussion and provide opportunities for new directions in HIV prevention, care and treatment for women. "We will gather together in the spirit of concern for our community," says Jauice Nicklas, Senior Planner of the Commttnity Service Council and Conference Spokesperson. According to Nicklas, the conference will benefit everyone - women living with HIV and AIDS, people whodeal with women’sissues, educators, policymakers, youth organizations,healthand social service providers, family members, volunteers and concern.ed citizens. "In theArms oftheAngels," a documentary produced by the National AIDS Fund Americorps Team Tulsa, will open the conference at 8:30 a.m. with a look at women and AIDS. Patty Lather, author of "Troubling the Angels," will give the keynote address at 8:45 a.m. In addition to a series of workshops, the conference will feature a panel of HIV positive women who will share their stories. Judith Billings of the President’s Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS will give the luncheon address. Saiadra McDonald, the founder of Outreach, Inc., will present the closing address on "WhatWe Can Do to Be a Force for Change." see Women, p. 11 MJ DIRECTORY/LETTERS P. 2 EDITORIAL p. $ ~I~I~. US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P. 6 ~ ENTERTAINMENT P. 8 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 DO-IT-YOURSELF-DYKE P. 11 DYKE PSYCHE P. 12 "" GAY STUDIES P. 13 Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations Gay Businesses Open + Close Lesbian-Owned Daycare and Gay-Owned Restaurant Open But Concessions Closes by Tom Neal TULSA - Maybe it’s just spring but a couple of new Gay owned and oriented businesses have, or are about to open this month. Andone ofTulsa’ s most visible Gay businesses has unexpectedly dosed. From Lesbian Baby Boom, Comes Gay Daycare The origin of GLAD, Gay & Lesbian Affordable Daycare, reflects the frustrations of two new moms, Teresa and Joan, 33 and 32 years old, trying to find good daycare for their 4 month old son, Joseph (Joey) while they worked. For Teresa, the final thing that convinced her to leave her 70- 80 hour a week managerial position to start a home based business was a conflict about getting time off when their son was sick. But for both, there was more. After their son was bom, they explored many alternatives for infant care. Some options using relatives or friends just didn’t work out. Many of the day care operations which they reviewed just didn’t seem to be very good. And most had inflexible rules and were very expensive, with high deposits, inflexible contracts and schedules. For example, many day care operations require a year round contract with perhaps only 10 days off allowed. Any more days off have to be paid for regardless of whether the child is at the center or not. For these morns, one of whom is a teacher and has the summer off, it makes no sense to pay for care year-round. However, if they don’t, they take the risk that no place will be available in the fall again. Furthermore, Joan and Teresa also were concerned about raisxng their son in an enviroment wherehe will not be mistreated because he has two morns. And they know that they are not the only Gay parents who have these concerns. At some of the day care centers they inspected they were asked, "where’s the father" and were received with not very well disguised hostility. They say that they’ve sometimes felt they had~o say they were"sisters" in order to be treated fairly. So finally, after thoroughly researching state requirements, theyjust decided tO start their owndaycare in their cozy midtown bungalow, see Businesses, p. 14 Red Ribbon Gala + SwanAwards TULSA, Okla. (AP/TFN) - Some members of Tnlsa’s Gay community say they were pleased Chastity Bono visited this weekend because the author has helped mainstream Americans become more tolerant. "Just by her coming to Tulsa, it means a great deal to us. It helps people to come together," said Nancy McDonald, who recently was national president of Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG). Bono was the keynote speaker Saturday night, April 17th at the Red Ribbon Ball, an annual black-tie gala that benefits Tnlsa CARES, the Center forAIDS Resources, Educationand Support. The event attracted more than 250 to the Downtown Doubletree. Bono, the Openly Lesbian daughter ofSonnyandCher, formerly served as the entertainment media director of the Gay & Lesbian Alliance’Against Defamation. She was involved in controversy for suggesting that the television show of Lesbian comedian, Ellen Degeneres, was "too Gay." Bono, 30, spent part of the day autographing copies of her book "Family Outing," which details how she and others revealed their sexual orientation to their families. Also, at the Gala, the co-sponsoring organization, the Tulsa Chapter of PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays presented their annual Swan awards. Among those honored were State Rep. DOn Ross, the Revs. Leslie Penrose and Gary Blaine, The Tulsa World, represented by editorial board writer David Averill, and PFLAG board member Tim Gillean. The award to Gillean was met with consternation by two former TOHR presidents attending the Gala,’Deb Starnes and Tom Neal, as PFLAG credited him as ’~he founder" of the Community Center. Both noted that Gillean helped start the Center, particularly doing early fundraising but that after he was voted out as TOHRpresident, he had dropped his member at the time when the building was found and leased. "No single person can claim the Center; Kelly Kirby was president when we began, Tim certainly did a great deal but Deb Statues, Midge Elliott and I sweated blood to get that building open, walls tomdown and the place painted. Tim’s done enough other work that PFLAG doesn’t have to rip anyone off to honor him," said Neal. PFLAG president and Swan award presenter, Jan Allen, stated that she was not aware of the history of the Center and that PFLAG had not intended to slight any of the Center’s organizers. Pride ’99 Shaping Up: Picnic, Parade & More US Rep. Frank to be Grand Marshall of First Tulsa Parade + Community Unitarians Host First Gay UU Pastor TULSA - Tulsa’s Pride ’99 organizers have confirmed that openly Gay US Congressman, Barney Frank of Massachusetts not only will attend this year’s June 12th event but will serve as grand marshall of Tulsa’s very first Lesbian/Gay pride parade. The parade will begin at 10 am at Tulsa’s Gay Community Services Center at 38th & Peoria and will go north on Peoria to 31st Street. From there it will go west to Riverside Drive and will continue north to Veterans (Boulder) Park, the site of the Picnic as it was last year. The principle sponsors for this year’s event are Bud Light and MCC United. The picnic will be from noon until 5pm again. Bud Light will be providing a large tent to provide some shelter from the sun as wall the sound system. Local drag diva Kris Kohl is organizing entertainment. These range from a local band, an appearance by the Council Oaks Mens Chorale, various female impersonators and titleholders, and more. Refreshments as always will be free. Congressman Frank will also be the guest of honorat adinner Saturday evening at the Greenwood Cultural Center at 322 No. Greenwood near the OSU-Tnlsa campus. Thedinner will be hosted joindy byTOHR/Tulsa’s Gay Community Services Center and by the Cimarron Alliance, Oklahoma’s Gay and Lesbian political action committee. Cocktails begin at 7pm and dinner will be at 8. Dinner and a cash bar cocktail pre-party will be $50/person anddinner and a complimentary cocktail reception with Congressman Frank will be $125/ person, see Frank, p. 3 "One Fool" Play Coming To Eureka Springs, AR EUREKA SPRINGS, Ark. - As part of the May Festival of the Arts, OneFool, a one-woman, oneactplay will bepresentedTuesday andWednesday, May25-26, 8 p.m. at Center Stage (on Spring Street m the downtown Historic Distric0. The play, featuring Orlando improv-actress, Catherine Goodison, was written by Terry Baum and will be directed by Lewis Routh. ’One Fool is a riotously funny play about a woman’s search for the ’one love’ withwhomshe canlive forever," says director Routh. ’‘This wild odyssey takes her across the world and into your heart." Catherine Goodison began her acting career in 1994 under the direction ofLewis Routhin the play BarDykes, where she played the role ofabig butch. She and Routh have worked together on several projects since that time, including the 1994showing ofOneFool in Orlando. Goodison, whosecomedic talenthas foundits way tomany ofFlorida’s stages, including the famed Fringe Festival, has been a featured performer with Act Out Theatre and the Improvabilities comedy troupe. As part of the troupe, her most memorable roles include Lucy in You’re a Good Man Charlie Brown, and the roles of the Nanny and the school teacher in Baby With The Bath Water, both plays directed by Routh. Playwright Terry Bantu is the founder of Lilith, the San Francisco Women’s Theater, and was its artistic director from 1975 to 1980. During that time, sheco-wroteand/ordirectedeveryproduction. Moonlighting, which she directed and co-wrote, toured Europe to great acclaim in 1979. 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School Ave. 501-442-2845 : JOPLIN, MISSOURI ¯ *Spirit of Christ MCC, 2639 E. 32, Ste. U134 417-6232696 ¯ * iswhereyoucanfindTFN.NotallareGay.ownedbutallareGay-friendly. NGLTF Leader :Resigns From Millennium March It is with great regret that I resign as a member of the Board of Directors of the Millennium March on Washington, effective immediately. The reasons for my resignation stem from three basic issues, which have¯ continued to grow over time. First, I have significant political disagreements with the March call and planning, which ha~’e not been addressed. Secondly, I have grown increasingly skeptical of the value of this event for the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender (GLBT) movement at this time. And finally, I cannot endorse certain decisions made by theBoard. Although I have great trust and affection for each of you individually, it does not assuage my concerns and questions. I now believe I will be most helpful to thecommunityfrom outside the Board. Since the initial call for the March, grassroots activists have consistently challenged us as national leaders. Their concerns address the credibility and legitimacy of the March and they have demandedanopening of the Marchprocess for greater discussion. Thequestions have been on whether to march, what agenda to march for, and how best to use the tremendous platform and visibility that such marches provide. Despitemypolitical disagreements with the call and process, I agreed to serve on the March Board, believing my participation could change the course of the process. I also felt that as a representative of the oldest national political organization, and one of the few explicitly progressive national GLBT groups,myvoice was needed in theMarch planning process. I stated at the time that I wouldremain onthe Board as long as my. presence represented the best interests of Task Force members, our constituents, and the movement as a whole. Since I joined the Board, my participation has been challenged by members and activists with whom we have deep andlongstanding relationships. Individuals from all perspectives have intensively engaged me, the Task Force staff, and our Board. I took their concerns to heart and carried them in my work on the March Board. During my tenure, I voted in the minority on key resolutions on personnel issues, the naming of the March, andthebroadening of theplanning effort to allow more people a seat at the table. I helped lead the successful effort to ensure that funds raised by the March would go to statewide organizations, people of color organizations and other constituents underrepresented in our movement. However, the Board has ¯ largely ignored the fundamental issues that lead me into become involved: why we should march, the agenda, and the involvement of the entire GLBT commnnity. I cannot serve onaBoard that will not open itself to greater input and see Letters, p. 3 Letters Policy Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on issues which we’ve covered or on issues you think need to be considered. Youmay request that your name be withheld but letters mustbe signed&have phonenumbers, or be hand delivered. 200 word letters are preferred. Letters to other publications will be printed as is appropriate. Talking with people inthe community, I was relieved to learn that I was hardly the only one who was disappointed with the celebrated Chastity Bono. Ms. Bono was "the keynote speaker" at the recent Red Ribbon Gala benefiting Tulsa CARES, our local co-ordinating organization for HIV/AIDS services. The dinner was nice enough and the attendance was about double that of last year’s inaugural event. The organizers dearly deserve praise for their efforts. But Ms. Bono was, to be kind, unimpressive, both as a speaker and at her book signing at Tnlsa’s Gay Community Services Center. To a number of observers at the Center, it appeared that Ms. Bono had little interest in being there. At the dinner, shefredy admitted that she’dmadenoeffort to prepare any.remarks -and that degree of preparation showed. Two things saved her performance. First, it was mercifully short, and second, she did have a good, if scatological, anecdote aboutconfronting the Rev. FredPhelps of "godhatesfags" infamy in Topeka at a booksigning. Her appearance may indeed have helped the event. Attendance at the Red Ribbon Gala was about double but then that might have happened just from being the second year for the event. Her appearance does raise questions, though, about America’s preocuppation with celebrity and notoriety. AftermeetingMs. Bono, it’ s hard not to regard her as a vcryho-hum ’~vonderbread dyke" (as one ofmy Lesbian friends put it) who but for the accident of her birth would hardly be getting a second hearing,!et alone a book contract. Ms. Bono’s elevation seems to exemplify the worstAm~rican tendency to Value notoriety over any shred of content. But what really raises some concern about her appearance was learning that despite her having reduced her appearance feeby one-half, it still cost almost $10,000 for her irresistible charms. Oursou~,,ce indicates thatMs. Bononormally charges $15,000 for her appearances" but that du~ to her friendship with the daughter of PFLAG’s Nancy McDonald, Bono reduced it to only $7,500, plus expenses, of course. This is what many wouM call a damnfine racket. One wouldhope that the organizers came up with aspecial donor to take on these expenses andno harm was-done to the genuine financial needs of Tulsa CARES. And no doubt organizers will argue that it wonld not have been nearly as successful without her appearance. But all I can think of is how much medicine or food that $10,000 might have bought for persons living with AIDS - Hello, the peop!e, this is supposed to be all about? Maybe that $10k s money that would not have come into this effort except for supporting Ms. Bono in the fashion to which she’s become accustomed. But then, maybe, just maybe, it could have been given to care-giving, and surely, there are speakers, ones who actually prepare their remarks andwhohave something worth saying, who’d speakfor, say, only two or three thousand. Makes you wonder, don’t it? - Tom Ne.al, editor &publisher Several special ’levels. of participation in the event are available with,the most cxdflsiCe being the Platinum table ($2500), whichincludes six seats at a table with Congressman Frank. There will be only one Platinum table. Also Offered is the Gold level, a table with 8 seats and an invitation to the cocktail party with the Congressman ($1500), a SilVer level ($250) which is two seats and cocktails, and a Bronze level ($500), a table for 8 and the .cash bar cocktail party. For tickets or for more information, call 743-4297. Also, Sunday morning Congressman Frank will probably be attending an interfaith prayer breakfast. Details for that event will be announced soon. Also in honor of Lesbian and Gay Pride, Community Unitarian Universalist Cohgtegation (cuuc) has invited the:Rev. DougStrong.of Community UU Church ~h ~iano~ T~xas to be guest minister attheir Sunday, May 16th, 1 lain service. After the service, all are invited to’join CUUC and Community of Hope ~for a potluck picnic cookout.~ The service and picnic .will be at Community of Hope Church, 2545 So..Yale where CUUC meets regularly. Guests are encouraged to bring both lawn chairs and food to share or t6 cook. TheRev. Strong is a 6th generationUnitaftan-Universalist and an openl~ Gay. man who has served congregations in Maine, Massachusetts, Virginia, California, Wisconsin and Arizona. Mr. Strong was the first openly Gay man to be called to serve as a pastorAn the history of the Unitarian- Universalism f~iith. Thiswas in 1980 inAugusta, Maine.- by Tom Neal Editor & Publisher The Tulsa WorMreally is gettmg better. Whileit’s not of the quality of TheDallas Morning News or other such papers,itis shedding someofits moreparochial qualities. Ofcourse, since the state’s only other major daily is The Oklahoman, now officially recognized as the worst paper an the United States as ¯¯ Oklahomans have long known, it’s never been hard for The World to look better. ¯ More investigative journalism is being ¯ allowed at The World. So instead of just ¯ supporting the status quo, an elected ¯ official like Dist. 4 City Councilor Anna ¯ Falling is being held accountable for her ¯ liberal spending of public dollars on ¯ "working" vacations or for possible " conflicts of interest she may have had ¯ when her spouse was applying for public ¯ monies which theCouncil would have to ¯ approve. ¯ This last month, The Wormalso printed ¯ a week series of in,depth stories about ¯ Tnlsa’s Latino communities. This series is similar to ones doneaboutTulsa s Black ¯ communities. All this is very well and ¯ good. Tulsa’s "establishment," our ¯ wealthy, our influential have long taken ¯ advantage of Tulsa’s minority com- " munities without sharing the benefits, ; without sharing the decision-making ¯ process,-most often not acknowledging ¯ even the existence of our communities. ¯ The fact that The WorM, the ultimate ¯ establishment mou~piece of Tiflsa, the : country club paper par excellence, is now ¯ willing to acknowledge the existence of Latino, Black, Indian and Asian commlmil~es is.progress. But the real proof of The World’s commitmenttojournalistic fundamentals, i.e. covering the community as it is. rather advertise my gift shop, tomfoolery! which now has The Tulsa World really is Settln$ better. While it’s not of the quality of The Dallas Morrdn¢ News or other such papers, it is sheddln$ some of its more paroehlaJ qualities. Of course, slnee the state’s only other major daily is Tl~e Oldal~oman, now offleially reeoSnlzed as the worst paper in the United States as Oklahomans have lon$ known, it’s never been hard for The World to look better. than as its ownership wants to present it, will come when The World does a similar piece on Tulsa’s Gay, Lesbian, Bi and Transgendered’communities. ¯ Ironically, more than five years ago, Worldreporters ¯ were set to do such a series. I discussed aspects of the ¯ proposalwithTulsaWorldreporters,JanetPearsonand ¯ David Fallis. The proposal was killed by-then executive ¯ editor, Bob Haring. And while I believe Joe Worley, ¯ current executive editor, is fundamentally a fair person, ¯ in general, and in particular towards.Gay people, it ¯ appears that he is constrained by the prejudices of the ¯ paper’s ownership. ¯ The Tulsa World’s owners and top business ¯ management are responsible for the newspaper’s many ¯ year’ s oldandquite official anti-Gay advertisingpolicies. : I first encountered these policies in the middle 80’s when a Lesbian businesswoman tried to advertise her Gay oriented book and gift shop. I later encountered the exact same policy almost 10 years laterwhen I tried to : scrutiny from the communities we claim to represent. ¯ ° Thesecondreasonformyresiguationisthatlcontinue : to doubt the value of this March at this time. I honor the ¯ valueofour previous nafi6nal Marches andacknowledge them as having been political turning points in the lives of many current leaders and activists. However, the effectiveness of sflCh dn enormous commiimeiit ofiJme and resources at a moment when more and more energy is demanded of the GLBT movement at the state and local level is questionable. Nothing so dramatically reinforced this as the success of Equality Begins at Home. ’Held one month ago and sponsored by the Federation of LGBT Statewide Political Organizations and the Task Force, EBAH was supported by national and local groups, including the March Board. It demonstrated the incrediblepowerofinveslinginstate and localmovement building. It also exemplified the real possibilities for political advancement of GLBT equality in eyery state~ Morefavorable bills wereintroducedin state legislatures, transmuted into The Pride Store at Tulsa’s Gay Community Center. The World’s anti-Gay policy stung PFLAG, Parents, Families andFriends ofLesbians andGays, morerecently when the orgamzation placed an advertisement supporting fair treatment for Lesbians and Gays but was not allowed to spell out their full legal name because, of course, it includes the forbidden word: "gay". In contrast, The Worm accepted an advertisement from West Tulsa churches attacking Gay people but The ~VorM allowed the churches to use the word "gay"! It’s bad enough that they have the bigoted policy but worse that they enforce it selectively. And it only adds injury to insult that The World, counter to the pohcies of the best media corporations in the country, has no non-discrimination policy that includes "sexual orientation" to protect the Lesbian and Gay reporters and staff. Nor has the corporation seen fit to provide equal pay for equal work by providing benefits for the families of Lesbian and Gay workers. In a day when health care is so expensive and benefits become a significant part of the "total employment package", this is no little issue. But maybe it shouldn’t be too surprising that The Worm doesn’t recognize the families of their Gay workers since part-0f TheWorld’s anti-Gay policy also includes arefusal to print engagement, anniversary or tmion announcements for Gay and Lesbian couples. Several years ago, v~fien I asked Joe Worley about thi~ discriminatory policy, he responded by asking if all I had to do each day was to dreamup hard questions for The Tulsa World. The answer to thatis "no"but the issue remains. Would The WorMban such ads frominterracial couples? Those relationships were once not recognized as legal, in many states. All this might not be that surprising for a corporation which has barely integrated its newsroom racially, and which was cited for (and settled) an EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) complaint for racist hiring practices (this according to their own pages). It still doesn’t make it right. So while we are making progress with The World, they really have a still some way to go. And as daily newspapers struggle to retain their relevancy in an increasingly media-diverse culture, organizations like The World will have to lose their country-club narrowness, with its largely useless and clearly pretentious regular columns devoted to who attended what soiree, and their outdated view of how-minority Tulsans, Gay as well as racial and religious groups, are to be treated, and look at our world as it really is. more allies were reached and involved, more media ¯ coverage was generated in every state on GLBT issues than had ever been achieved at the state level. Because ¯ . of its overwhelming success, the campaign is likely to ¯ be repeated in years to come, perhaps even annually. "" The National Gay and Lesbiafi Task Fbrce has ¯ committedthevastmajorityofitsresources to deepening ¯ and growing political power in every state. The time I have spent on the March Boardhas taken awayfrommy ¯ °iniportani work ~t( ~he state and i~tl level. I need to ¯ concentrate my energies on. NGLTF’s efforts to build this state-by-state movement and on advocating for our ¯ grassroots constituents at the national level This is the ¯ heart and soul Of our work and it requires us to have the ¯ courage of our convictions. ¯ Finally as a Board member, I have had personal ¯ financial responsibility and liability for the non-profit ¯ corporation producing the March. I am concerned that ¯ theMarch is notmoving forward in a strategicmanner. ¯ I am also concerned that neither the Boardmembers nor ] our GLBT community have full access to information ] about March management and finances. ¯ see Letters, p. 10 Arkansans Challenge: Gay Foster Care Ban l LITFLE ROCK (AP) - Six people are suing the state, seeking to overturn a state policy that bans , Gays from serving as foster parents. TheArkansas : Child Welfare Agency Review Board approved ¯ the banlast month. It also prevents heterosexuals from serving as foster parents, if a homosexual lives in their home. "This prohibition imposes a significantburden on (the plaintiffs’).., intimate, highly personal relationships with their partners, as they will not be allowed to serve as foster parents unless,they terminate those intimate relationships," says the lawsuit€filed in Pulaski County Chancery Court: Department .of Human Services spokesman Joe Quinn said the state expected the issue to go to court. "I don’t think there was ever much doubt," he said. The state averages 2,600 foster children daily in about 700 homes, Quinn said. He said the state doesn’t keep track of how many foster parents are homosexuals. Board memberWandaGooden said before the ban was approved that it was "my strong conviction that children thrive best in two-parent homes where there is a father and mother." Ms. Gooden said thenew rulewonld not significantly reduce thenumberoffoster families in Arkansas. According to the lawsuit, the plaintiffs are two Eureka Springs men who adopted children ages 6 and 2 and want to be foster parents; two Little Rock men who want to serve as foster parents; a Fayetteville woman who wants,,to be a foster parent and a Fayetteville man who has a homosexual son living at home. Fewer But More Vicious Attacks BOSTON (AP) - The number of hate cnmes against Gays in Massachusetts dropped last year, but the attacks thatdidhappenweremore vicious, according to state figures. There was a36% drop in the number of hate crimes against Gays and Lesbians, Bisexuals and Transgenders reported to policeandother organizations, said theFenway Community Health Center in Boston. But there was a 13%increase in attacks that caused serious injury, and a 5% increase in attacks with a weapon. Nationally, the number of hate crimes against Gays was down 4%last year from 1997, but cases of violence increased 12%. The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs said 33 Gay men and women were, killed in hatemotivated attacks last year, twice the number in 1997. The coalition said two of those killed were in Boston, but police said they were not certain those killings were hate crimes. Friends said a27-year-oldGay man committed suicide last October, about one year after two men beat him in Boston’s South End and carved an "F" on his shoulder with a knife. "Let’S not be fooled by the numbers" showing a decrease in hate crimes, said Attorney GEneral Thomas Reilly. "I see a very frightening increase in violence.’" ¯ David Shannon of the Fenway center’s Violence Recovery Program said that since the killing in October of a Gay college student in Laramie,Wyo., "therehas been ahigher visibility of hate crimes against Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals and Transgenders." "There has also been increased targeting and violence," he said. Dentist Refuses to Treat Lesbian FRANKLIN, N.H. (AP) - Tricia Thompson had been going to the same dentist for two years. Dr. Jay Roper had done her fillings and cleanings and repatred cracked teeth. He s always bee nice," she said. Or he was until two weeks ago, when Thompson came in for a root canal and Roperquestionedherabouthersexual orientation. After learning she was a Lesbian, he refused to treat her and told her to leave his office, she told the Concord Monitor. Katharine Daley, executive director of the state Human Rights Commission, said for a dentist to refuse to treat someone because,of their sexual orientauon is illega! in New Hampshire. Thompson said she may file a civil rights complaint against Roper. ~f the commission finds he i!legally discriminated against her, he could be fined up to $10,000 and ordered to pay compensatory damages. Thompson said when she first signed up as Roper’s patient, she put a former partner’s name on the"spouse" lineofher registrationform. The name was clearly a woman’s. About a month ago, when Thompson went "ln with a bad toothache, she was asked to fill out a new card, ~he said. She put down the name of her new partner; they had performed a commitment ceremony in February. Roper then told her she needed a root canal, put in a temporary filling and told her to returnMarch 23. By the time she came back, accompaniedby her partner, the temporary filling had come out and her tooth was in pain. Before taking herinto his office, Roper heldup the registration card she’d filled out and told her he had questions about it, she said. Thompson and her partner said Roper asked whether Thompson’s "spouse" was the woman with her. She said yes. He asked whether she had been married to her previous partner, then divorced and remarried. When she said yes, he asked if she had a marriage license. She said she asked him, "What business is it of yours?" He shot. back, "Do you have AIDS or something?" she said. She said she didn’t, but she also told him she did not like his questions. Roper shook his head, told her, "I.don’t believe in it," and insisted he had the right to refuse anyone treatment, she said. Roper then put her file, her registration card and chart on the counter and told her to take it and leave the office. Thompson said she reminded him she had been his patient for years. But he said he hadn’t previously realized thatherpartner was awoman, she said. "Basically, he kicked me out of his office and said have a nice life," Thompson said. ’He didn’t even ask me how my tooth was." Roper confirmed that he denied Thompson treatment: ’qZor my own personal reasons, yes,’’ he told the Monitor. ’~ecause ofmyownpersonal philosophy, yes." Asked what his philosophy was, Roper replied, "I’hat stays in the office." Asked ifhe routinely informed patients about his philosophy, he responded, "What philosophy?" Roper said he told Thompson she could file a complaint with the state dental board if she was unhaplSy withhis decision. TheAmerican Dental Association’s "Principles of Ethics," which governNew Hampshire dentists, say they cannot refuse to treat patients on the basis of race, creed, color, sex or national origin. It does not mention sexual preference, but does say, ’‘The dentist’s primary obligations include dealing wi~ people justly and delivering dental care without prejudice." A spokesman at ADA headquarters said the issue of withholding treatment because ofa patient’s sexual preference had ne~er come " up before. However, New Hampshire law is dear, Daley -" said. In New Hampshire, health providers are : considered a "public accomodation;" and equal ¯. access to public accomodations for Gays and ¯ Lesbians is protected by state law, she said. ¯ Gay Priest Being :: Considered As Bishop ¯ WEARE, N.H.(AP) - The Rev. Canon Gene ". Robinson again is a finalist for bishop and if he ~ becomes the spiritual leader of the Diocese of ¯ Rochester, N.Y., he will be the first openly Gay : bishop in the 2.5 million-member Episcopal : Church of America~ ¯ Robinson oneoffive nominees from a field of ¯ 86 applicants for the bishopric, was cited by the Kelly Kirby CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation 74-7-5466 4021 S. Harvard, Suite 210, Tulsa 74135 MCC-United formerly Family of Faith & Greater Tulsa MCC Joined as one body of believers. 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"I’m hoping it doesn’t become a big issue," said Janet Farnsworth, president of the Diocese of Rochester’s Standing Committee. "We wanted a person who would lead us spiritually and a person who was willing to speak out on social issues. We wanted someone who would be apastorto all our clergy and theirfamilies andhe’ s known for his work in clergy wellness," she told The Concord Monitor. Robinson, assistant to Bishop Douglas Theuner of the Diocese of New Hampshire and a priest for 25 years, finished third last year in his bid to become bishop of the Diocese of Newark, N.J. "As honored as I felt to be nominated in Newark, I’m overwhelmed at the privilege of being nominated in a diocese like Rochester and the courage they have shown in nominating me," he said. "The way I can help Gay and Lesbian people the most is by being a good bishop, not a Gay bishop," he said. Buthis sexuality will be alightningrodfor some. Atthe international level, the church has taken a strong stand against homosexuality. A majority of Anglican bishops at the Lambeth Conference of Bishops in England last year declared homosexuality contrary to scripture. While that group has no authority over the Episcopal Church - the Anglican communion in the United States, it has pressured American bishops to conform. Thatpressure alsocomesfromwithin. Theconservative Episcopalians United takeissue with Robinson, believing homosexuality sinful. The group worries his dection could cause rifts in the church. ’’We expect a higher standard of our leaders than our members," said its board chairman, the Rev. Sandy Greene of Christ Church in Denver, Colo., who supports ministries that encourage peopl9 to renounce their homosexuality. Robinson was married with two children when he acknowledged he was Gayin 1986. Henow lives with his partner, Mark Andrew. In early June, he and2Madrew will meet with voting delegates throughout the diocese. On June 19, the diocese’s clergy and three lay people from each of the 54 congregations will vote on a candidate, who needs a simple majority from both groups to win. Should Robinson be elected, he faces an even bigger hurdle. To be ordained bishop, he must be "consented to" by a simple majority of the nation’s Episcopal bishops as wall as standing committees, comprised of laity and clergy. The church went through a similar controversy in 1994 when it elected the first female bishop, Barbara Harris of the Diocese of Massachusetts. Yet it hasn’t rejected a bishop electedby adiocese since thelate 1800s. James DeKovan, rejected twice, now is a church saint. New Haven Police Targeting Gays NEW HAVEN, Conn. (AP) - Police here admit they are targeting bJacks, Hispanics, women, Gays and Lesbians - not as suspects, but as candidates to join the force. At a time when images of police brutality have been seared into the American psyche, the New Haven Police Department is recruiting the very people who have often been seen as their victims. The department began its campaignrecently, printing advertisements in alternative publications and distributing fliers to inner city organizations, churches, and a commumty center for Gays and Lesbians. The fliers say, "I want you" in bold letters and feature photographs of minority and women officers. ’’We wantpopulations thathave beentraditionally underserved by police and underrepresented in police departments," said Kay D. Codish, director of training and education. Similar recnfitment drives have had mixed results in San Francisco, Boston and elsewhere, said Penny Harrington, director of the National Center forWomen& Policing in Los Angeles and former chief of the Portland, Ore., police department. "A lot of women and minorities do not see policing as a place for them. In the media, on television, they’re frequently shown in subsidiary roles," Harrington said. "If an agency is serious, they have to go out and target." Hubert Williams, director of the Police Foundation, a Washington, D.C.-based research organization, said mistrust of police in some minority communities has reached crisis proportions because of "racial profiling," allegations that police make traffic stops and detain people based on race. "In order for the police officers to dotheirjob, they musthavepublic support," saidWilliams, f6rmer director of police in. Newark, N.J. "You have " populations that see the police in hostile ways, that they’re not there to protect and to serve, but to control and ¯ oppress." ." James Mclver of the National Orgamzation of Black Law Enforcement Executives in Alexandria. Va., said ¯¯ studies show thatapolice force that reflects the community it serves demographically is less likely to have accusations ¯ of police brutality lodged against it. He pointed to two ¯ recent cases inNew York City. Four police officers have ¯ ¯ been charged in the fatal shooting ofAmadou Diallo, an unarmed West African, and four other city officers are ¯ charged with sodomizing a Haitian suspect. ¯ According to the U.S. Justice Department Bureau of ¯ Statistics, there are about664,000 full-timepolice officers ¯ in the country. At the municipal level, the latest figures : available show that roughly 11% are black, 6% are ¯ Hispanic, and about 9% are women. The federal ¯" government does not keep track of officers’ sexual "orientation. New Haven’s 447-member department ¯ already is diverse compared to national statistics, with ¯ 39% being minorities and 16% female. ¯ In a newspaper editorial earlier this month, Police ¯ ChiefMelvinWearingsaid thereis noquotaandminorities ¯ don’t get extra points on their applications just for being ¯ who they are. "Our goal is simply to increase the number ¯ of applicants from those groups that, in the past, have not ¯ presented themselves for consideration in substantial ¯ numbers," he said. ¯ However, police union officials have questioned the recruitment effort and some have said they fear white ¯ male candidates will feel unwelcome to apply for the 40 ¯ job openings. "Ifyoustartencouraging one certaingroup, ¯ others might feel slighted. We would like to see an open ¯ recnfitment. The key is that tlmy be qualified,’7 said Frank ¯ Lombardi, vice president of the local union. Most, if not ¯ all, police departments say they are "’equal opportunity ¯ employers,"butCodishbelieves lawenforcement agencies must go further by advertising in unlikely places such as women’s health clinics and day care centers. Catholics Attack Boston Partners Benefits BOSTON (AP) - City paramedic Kay Schmidt works ¯ hardand thinks she deserves healthinsurance benefits for ¯ her familyjust like any other city worker. Butthe Catholic Action League of Massachusetts says its members don’t ¯ want the city to subsidize Lesbian relationships like ¯ Schmidt’s. The Supreme Judicial Court heard arguments ¯ in the Catholic Action League’s challenge to the city’s ¯ domestic parmer policy. The court’s ruling could affect ¯ Boston and other communities that offer benefits for ¯ domestic partners. Springfield, Northampton, Brookline ¯ and Cambridge also provide domestic partner benefits. ¯ Thequestionbefore the state’ s highest courtwaswhether Boston had the authority to extendhealth benefits to those ¯ not stipulated by state law. "Providing these health ¯" insurance benefits complements the state law, it certainly ¯ doesn’t defeat its purposes," said Jennifer Levi, of the Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, who argued ¯ before the court on behalf of Schmidt. ¯ Vincent McCarthy, representing the Catholic Action ¯ League of Massachusetts, said the city needed to get permissionfromthe Legislature, but failed last year when ¯ Gov. Patti Cellucci vetoed the measure. Mayor Thomas ." Menino then signedanexecutive orderputting themeasure ¯ into effect. ’"What they’re trying to do now is an end run ¯ around the Legislature," McCarthy told the court. ¯ McCarthy, counsel for the American Center for Law ¯ and Justice, whichdescribes itsdf as a.nonprofit pro- " family organization, said the city’s executive order was ¯ legally and morally wrong. "It encourages heterosexual : and homosexuals to form what, in essence, are common ¯ law relationships which are illegal in Massachusetts, ¯ without the responsibilities of marriage, and really ¯ discourages people from getting married as well," ¯ McCarthy said. The SJC took the arguments under ¯ advisement. ." Boston defines domestic partners as two people, of at ¯ least 18 years of age, who are not married, but who share ¯ living expenses so that one assumes responsibility for the ¯ ¯ welfare of the other. It is not limited to Gay couples. Schmidt, speaking outside the courthouse with her ¯ partner Diane Pullen and their 8-month-old daughter, ¯ said she was not looking for special privileges as a : Lesbian, but the benefits her co-workers enjoy. She said ¯ they decided Pullen would stay home with the baby and ¯ their 7-year-old child. They said it was perfect timing : when the city began offering health benefits for domestic ¯ partners in November. Were they to lose that benefit, the ¯ two women said Pullen would likely have to return to ¯ work and the two would pay for day care for the baby. Responding to those critical of their"lifestyle," Schmidt ¯ said, "We are two parents rinsing two children. I work, : we’re a family. There’s no way anybody can deny we’re a family. And why shouldn’t we have affordable health insurance like any other family, like your family?" ¯ Federal Hate Crimes Bill Uncertain ¯ WASHINGTON (AP) - Legislation that would broaden ¯ the federal hate crimes law by including offenses based ¯ on sexual orientation faces an uncertain future despite ¯ President Clinton’s call forlawmakers to pass it this year. : A similar bill, which Clinton also pushed, died in the last ¯ Congress. Neither the House nor the Senate or any of the ¯ appropriatecommittees voted onit. TheWhite Houseand ¯ other supporters hope public outrage over recent well- " publicized hate crimes will help advance the measure tbis ¯ time around. : But opposition, however, appears so strong that a lead ¯ sponsor, Sen. Arlen Specter, R-Pa., doubts whether " Congress will approveit. "Wehave to face the reality that ¯ it’ s a very tough sell," Specter, a former local prosecutor, ¯ said in a recent interview. "After a while you can develop ¯ a majority (of votes)but I think we’re a long way from it." ¯ Senate Judiciary Committee hearings are expected later this month. At a recent White House ceremony, Clinton said ¯ Congress should pass the bill this year and "send a : message to ourselves and to the world that we are going into 21st century determined to preach and to practice what is right." The Hate Crimes Prevention Act would add disability, gender and sexual orientation to federal anti-bias laws andmakeit easierfor the Justice Department to inveslagate ¯ and prosecute such offenses. Current law prohibits crimes ¯ based on race, color, religion or national origin. Eight ¯ state have no hate crimes laws. Laws in 21 states cover ¯ sexual orientation, 22 state laws include gender and 21 ¯ cover disability. ¯ Richard Socarides, Clinton’s civil rights adviser, said ¯ the White House was more optamistic this time because ¯ of public sentiment over the killings and the upcoming ¯ Senate hearings ,The signs are better than ever before," ¯ he said. ¯ David Smith, spokesman for the Human Rights Campaign, a Gay and Lesbian political advocacy group, ¯ cited a Gallup poll, conducted in mid-Febrnary, that ¯ found that 70% of the public favors having a hate crimes : law in their state. ’’We would be very happy for there to ¯ be no need for this legislation," he said. ¯ Some opponents believe federal Intervention is ¯ unnecessary, because states already are prosecuting ¯ ¯ allegations of hate crimes, and discriminatory. Social conservatives,meanwhile, view thebill as creating speci~d ¯ protections for Gays. "By including hate crimes : enhancement for some groups, the message is that the ¯ government cares more about those victims than other ¯ people," said Robert H. Knight, senior director for cultural ¯ studies at the conservative Family Research council. ¯ Among the recent hate-crime cases: - In Texas, white supremacist John William King was : sentenced to death in February for dragging James Byrd ; Jr., who was black, to his death behind a pickup truck in ; June 1998. Two other men await trial in the slaying. ¯ - In Wyoming, Russell Henderson, one of two young ¯ men charged in the beating death of Matthew Shepard, a ¯ Gay college student, pleaded guilty Monday to murder .. andwas se~itencedtotwoconsecudvelifetermsinprison. ¯ - In Alabama, two menface murder charges in the Feb. ¯ 19 killing of Billy Jack Gaither, who was Gay. Police say ¯ he was beaten with an ax handle and burned to death because he allegedly made a pass at one of the men. Coburn Calls For "¯ bMealiceGveusffieh,ew, htoohoa, disdecdiedaedd.toSboecowmheena HIV ProgramAudits "- "medi missiona ,"touredthedis°ase- infested areas of western Kenya 12 years OKLAHOMA C1TY (AP) - Questions " ago, sheunderstoodhow muchits residents about spending pmctices and other aspects " were suffering. 1,,was appalled at what, of federal AIDS/HIV programs have . they didn’t have, said the 75-year-old prompted U.S. Rep. TomCobumand two plastic surgeonfromNew City,New York. Republican colleagues to request an audit ¯ She returned home and founded the of those programs. " Society for Hospital and Resources Coburn, a practicing physician from Exchange to improve health care for Oklahoma, House Majority Leader Dick Armey of Texas and Commerce Committee Chairman Tom Bliley of " Virgima sent a letter requesting the audit " to the General Accounting Office on ¯ Tuesday. They question spending ¯ practices and other aspects of the programs. "X2ongress has a moral obligation to those suffering with AIDS/HIV to ensure thatthenearly$9bilfion directed to federal AIDS programs is s,p,ent for purpos.~ for this it is intended, Coburn said m a prepared statement. "Over the past five years I have encountered too many instances where federal AIDS/HIV funds have been misused." In addition to requesting any evidence on misuse Of federal AIDS funds, the letter requests a report on whether disparities existinAIDS funding regarding race or gender, what criteria are used to determineAIDS Drug AssistancePro.gra~. distributions and whether tkose criteria favor any particular region, and information regarding compliance with federal laws within the programs.. Other requests madein theletterinclude information on how much money fromfederal AIDS programs is used to pay for overhead and other non-care related activities rather than on direct treatment of patients. Black Men 7x More " passioninitandputssomuchenergyint° it, that probably impressed me more than Likely For AIDS " anything," Violante said. MONTGOMERY, Ala. (AP) - Public " Violanteesdmatedhehadtrainedabout health officials are sounding an alarm, for Alabamablack males,whoare seventtmes more likely than white males (o contract the virus that causes AIDS. The, Department of Public Health, which held a news conference last month to discuss the problem, said the spread of the disease has reachedcrisis proportions amongblack men. The dan,g,er .lies in the f.ac,t that. m~any blacksdon tknow they areimected, they might believe the disease is still one of homosexual white males, said Jane Cheeks, AIDS director at the state Health Department. A former public health worker in Jefferson County, Ms. Cheeks recalled working with the first people i,n Birminghamto be affectedby HIV, which causes AIDS. Most were homosexual white males. Thediseaseis now strikingmoreheax[ily among blac.k.la.e.te.lu.~ezx-uals ¯ "We’re seeing this as aleading causeofdeathfor African- American males ages 25 to 44, and that’ s got to stop," she said. She said the state has spen{ $1.6 million On HIV/AIDS education programs since 1993, but more must be done. "It’s not working," she said. "Weneed to join commumty efforts to address this at a local level." HIV Fight in Kenya KISUMU, Kenya (AP) - Dr. Martha ,’Bobby"MacGuffiehas knownpain.Two of her sons died of the AIDS they contractedfromblood transfusions. Their older brother, crushed by the deaths, disappeared into a haze of drugs. She ¯ westemKenyaby sta_,aing clinics, donating medical equipment and educating residents how to avoid disease. Kenya’s government provides little medical care for many rural districts, leaving private groups like SHAREto care,f0r the _ps~o.pl,e. Inrecognition ofSHARE s work, Lion s ¯ Club International named MacGnffie its 1998 Humanitarian of theYear, anhonor ¯ previously given to Mother Teresa and ¯ Jimmy Carter. The award comes with a $200,000 grant. ¯ On a recent trip, she and other SHARE ¯ volunteersfromNewYorktreatedpatients and sprinkled donations throughout " Nyanza province, about 160 miles (250 ". kms) west of the capital, Nairobi. They ¯ gave money to expand a local hospital. ¯ They paid the school fees for AIDS orphans. They donated drugs to treat ¯ children wit.h, disfiguring Birkitts Lvmphoma. "It s a greater need here than ~.,h....l~e" said Eleanore Schafer, a N’~e~v~’~]t~y’;o~ial worker who set. up ¯ SHARE’s program for sponsoring orphans. ~ David Violante, a paramedic from ¯ Wallkill, New York, was on his fifth visit ¯ to train Kenyans in emergency medical ¯ ¯ techniques. HemetMacGuffie nine years when she taught a course for his ¯ paramedics class, andthree years later she ¯ persuadedhimand threeotherparamedics ¯ to visit Kenya. "She just has so much ¯ 500 local paramedics and brought over hundreds of thousands of doll.ars worth of ] donated backboards, stretchers, cervical ¯ collars and other trauma equipment. MacGuffiehas spent millions here, she ~ said, wheedling donations from drug ¯. companies, civic groups and corporations. ¯ Shehas raised.tens of thousands ofdollars ¯ from her Rockland County neighbors and ¯ collected single dollars fromchildren she ¯ lectured to at schools. She remains determined to continue working inKenya ¯ as tong as Americans support her. ¯, Editor’s Note: SHARE, c/o Martha MacGuffie, 591 S. Mountain Rd., New City, New York. USA, 10956. Dentist Settles HIV Bias Lawsuit BOSTON (AP) -A dentist and his office manager will pay a combined $60,000 for allegedly committing Medic~’,"dfr,aud and discriminating against people who were HIV-positive, the attorney general’s office said. Dr. Guillermo Recinos, 38, and Yolanda Jereidini, 46, were sued in civil ¯ court in October 1998 by the attorney ¯ general’s office. They were accused of ~ violating federal discrimination laws by ¯ refusing to treat patients who were HIV- ¯ positive. ¯ They also allegedly told employees not ¯ ¯ to take patients who wereHIV-positive at their clinic in the city’s Jamaica Plain ¯ neighborhood. When one dentist in the ¯ office took a patient who was HIVpositive, Recinos andJereidinididn’tgive Power To Do Good. Supporting Local Community Events Is Something Everyone Can Do. PSO has served the electrical needs our customers here for almost 80 years now. But we also serve broader needs. 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The remaining $8,450 will be donated to the Battered Children and Women’s program at the Elizabeth Stone House in Jamaica Plain. Under the terms ofthe Medicaidfraud settlementapproved by Kottmyer, Recinos alone will pay $40,000 in civil penalties and restitution. So. African Women Criticize Govt. JOHANNESBURG, South Africa (AP) - Women’s groups criticized the South African government Thursday for failing to provide medical treatment they say could help prevent victims of rape from contracting the AIDS virus from their attackers. The activists are demanding the government provide rape victims with a three-drug cocktail of AZT, 3TC and a protease inhibitor Crixovan. The threedrug cocktail is available for $820 on the ¯ private market, which represents five ¯ months of wages for an average South ¯ African. ¯¯ The Centers for Disease Control and ¯ Prevention in Atlanta recommends the three-drug therapyforhealthcare workers ¯ who have been exposed to HIV through ¯ contaminated needles because some ¯ studies have found AZT alone has prevented themfromcontracting the virus. "The state has removed the death ¯ sentence" for crime, said Johannesburg : journalist Charlene Smith. "Now we are : asking them to remove the death sentence ¯ for rape survivors." Smith, who wrote ¯ recently about being raped and her ¯ attempts afterward to obtainAIDS-related ¯ medical treatment, spoke at a news conference sponsoredby women’s groups : who represent rape victims. : Doctors and others have also ¯ complained about a decision by South ¯ Africa’s Health Ministry last year to shut ¯ ¯ down pilot projects to treat HIV-positive expectant mothers in the last month of : pregnancy with AZT, which reportedly can reduceby half the transmission rate of : HIV to newborns. ¯ A womanin South Africa is three times ¯ morelikely to be raped than in the United ¯ States, and South African men are much : more likely to be infected with HIV, the ¯ virus that causes AIDS, said Nthabiseng Mogale, head of People Opposed to WomenAbuse. SouthAfricanwomenare : entitled to treatment as a human right, ¯ Mogale said. ¯ One in eight South African adults is ¯ infected with HIV. The rate is tWice that ." for pregnant women, the government has said. Police say about 65,000 women and ¯ girls are assaultedevery year, but activists insist the number is much higher. Medical Excellence And Compass.ionate Care S nce 1926. ¯ ¯ ST. JOHN MEDICAL CENTER I P Medical Excellence. Compassionate Care ¯ Botswana, South Africa’s wealthier " neighbor to the north, has introduced free ¯ AZT treatment for infants born to HIV- ¯ positive mothers, said Vicki Ehrich ¯ spokeswomanfor Glaxo Wellcome, which ¯ produces AZT. Glaxo Wellcome wants to supply the ¯ South African government with the drug ¯ for $65 perbirth, orone-third ofits market ¯ price. But the government says that’s too : expensive. ’°We cannot afford this type of intervention," said Khangelani ¯ Hlongwane, spokesman for the South ¯ African Health Ministry. ¯ Physicians at state-rim hospitals have ¯ clashed with the government on theissue. ¯ ’oWe’re trying to convincethegovernment ¯ that it’s actually cost effective," said Dr. ¯ Avy Violari, a pediatrician at Chris Hani : Baragwanath Hospital in Soweto. ." The United Nations AIDS program ¯ estimates that about 600,000 HIV ¯ ¯ infections are spread during childbirth worldwide, butnofigures for SouthAfrica ." were available. Transmission of HIV ¯ through sexual assault has been less ¯ studied, partlybecause rape and AIDS are ¯ not as widespreadin Europeand the United : States, wheremostresearchis carried out, ¯ Smith said. :$ for HIV Falling Behind Its Spread ¯ GENEVA (AP) - Spending by donor : countries to combat AIDS in developing ~ countries is failing to keep pace with the ¯ spreadofthe disease, now infecting nearly ¯ 6 millionpeople worldwide each year, the ¯ United Nations said recently. ¯ "it is alarming that AIDS is expanding three times faster than the funding to control it," said Dr. Peter Piot, executive director of UNAIDS, the Joint U.N. Program on HIV/AIDS. Piot called on industrialized nations to do more to fight the disease in developing countries. The agency said wealthy countries’ support for the global fight against AIDS IS being vastly outpacedby the epldennc, which has infected47 million people over the past two decades. That figure includes those who have already died from the disease and those hying with HIV, the AIDS-causing virus. Funding to fight AIDS in developing countries was $273 million in 1997, less than double the $165 million spent in 1990, it said. During the same period, the number of people living with HIV around the worldmore than tripled to 30.3 million from 9.8 million. UNAIDS said a study by the Harvard University School of Public Health found the United States was "by far the largest tnbutor to the lnternat~onal campaign, giving $135.2 million-in 1997. But it said that other countries ranked higher when their contributions weremeasured against the size of their economies. Norway gave $93 for each $1 million ofits gross national product; the Netherlands gave $92. Denmark was third at $52 per 1 million of its gross national product, followed by Swedenat $49. Australiagave $31, Canada $21, Britain $19, Belgium $18, United States $17, Finland $10, Switzerland and Germany $6 and Japan $2. Industrialized countries are spending less than 1% of their development aid on the fight against AIDS, according to UNAIDS. ’oWeighed against the global catastrophe of the AIDS epidemic, the level of spending for HIV prevention around the world is minimal," Piot said. He said in order for any aid to benefit ¯ developing countries, more money needs to be given to fight AIDS. UNAIDS says 95% of the people living ¯ with the AIDS virus are in developing ¯ countries, most of them in Africa. ¯ Agency officials said developing ." countries are also contributing to the ¯ campaign against AIDS. The study ¯ showed domestic spending varied from a low of 8% in the Caribbean and 9% in ¯ Africa to 57% in Asia, 67% in Latin America and 79% in Eastern Europe. ¯ Economics Making :HIV Fight Harder BANGKOK, Thailand (AP) - Asia’s economic crisis is worsening Thailand’s ¯ AIDS crisis, experts said, predicting that ¯ more than 100,000 Thai children will be ." orphaned by the disease by the end of the ¯ year 2000. ¯ Prime Minister Chuan Leekpai, ¯ opening Thailand’s annualNationalAIDS ¯ Seminar, told hundreds ofresearchers and ¯ health workers that the government will ¯ scrimp to findnow-scarce funding to keep the AIDS epidemic under control. ¯ But Wirut Poolcharoen, a Health ." Ministry official, acknowledged that ¯ Thailand’s government does not know ¯ how to cope with an expected explosion ¯ in the number ofAIDS orphans. Most are taken care of by their grandparents or other family members. "The number of ¯ orphans whose parents die of AIDS will ¯ double by the end ofthe year 2000,"Wirnt ¯ said. "The government does not yet know ¯ how to carry such a huge burden to ensure ¯ the well-being of these children." ¯" Statisticians at Mahidol University released a report showing that in 1997, the ¯ year that recession struck Thailand and : much of Southeast Asia, the country had 34,349 AIDS orphans, about a quarter of them under age five. By the end of 2000, ¯ the report predicts the total figure will be ¯ 116,508childrenorphanedbyAIDS,with 30,845 of them under five¯ Acquiredimmunedeficiency syndrome ¯ claimed 51,000 lives in Thailand in 1997 alone, according to research presented by ¯ Bangkok’s prestigious Chulalongkorn University. Death figures were not ¯ available for 1998. "It takes years for ~ p.eople to realize they have contracted the ¯ virus, and its consequences are thereby affecting quality of life of their family ¯ members and of society as a whole,"Wirnt said. ¯ In the early years after AIDS was discovered, Thailand refused to ¯ acknowledge it had a single case of the disease, fearing damage to the lucrative ¯ prostitution industry that is a mainstay both of tourism and the sex lives of many ¯ Thai men. A change of attitude coupled ¯ with aggressive condom distribution and ¯ ¯ education programs brought the epidemic somewhatundercontrolbythemid_ 1990s, ¯ but the gains are eroding due to cuts in the ¯ health budget in ’the recession-era economy. The government’s spending on ¯ AIDS pre~iention has fallen about 25% to ¯ 1.4 billion baht ($39 miillion) Since 1997. ¯ Thailandneeds toprepareitselftohandle ¯ the social and economic consequences of : AIDS and the HIV virus that leads to it, ¯ said Supachai Kunarattanapruek, an ¯ adviser to the Health Ministry. Though Thailand spends little on long- : term care for AIDS sufferers, the country will pay a high price for the loss of ¯ economically active people, experts said. About two-thirds of the country’s AIDS ¯ sufferers are 25-39 years old, their prime ¯ working years. It’s the end of the season but things are ¯ relationship between the artist and patron, hardly slowing down. Tulsa Opera will ¯ and includes the museum’s patron, end its season with our favorite opera, " Thomas Gilcrease who with John D. Mozart’s Magic Flute. Performances are : Rockefeller, Jr. was a patron of artist May 1,6 &8 at 8pm, except onThursday, ¯ JosephHenry Sharp. Formoreinformation the6thandare or directions in the Chap- Designer Showcase to the man Music museum, call Hall. This 596-2700 or work, in visit the German with website at translations www~ shown above T u 1 s a the stage, has Philharmonic not been seen will wrap up It in Tulsa in Chamber more thanl0 Classics years and the season with cast looks to pieces by be excellent. Bizet, Ravel It is, of course and Haydn on a fairy tale, May 7th at the complete with Waiters Arts an evil queen, 319 East 21st Street Center at and of course, Holland Hail we can all relate to that, can’t we? Don’t " School. Three local Episcopal choirs are miss it. ¯ featured, Saint John’s, Saint Dtmstan’s Switchinggearsfromtheartstoreligion, ¯ and Trinity’s. For tickets and moreinfo., those radical, free thinking, wild eyed " call 747-7445. liberals, those Presbyterians are going to ¯ Also, check out the Philharmonic’s havethenationalconferencefortheMore ¯ DesignerShowcaseat319East21stStreet. Light Presbyterians (the official,ly Gay- : It’s a great way to see what the latest in friendly ones) in Oklahoma’City at " high "foofI3"’ and decorating is and to OklahomaCityUniversity’sAngieSmith ," support a great organizatxon. This is the Memorial Chapel, NW 23rd and 26th year for the showcase and the 50th Blackwelder, onMay21-23. Theprogram : year for the Philharmonic. Tickets are $10 begins with a dinner and worship service ¯ and it’s open Tues. to Sat. from 10-4pro at 6pm on Friday. Workshops are : and Thurs. from l0-8pm, Sundays l-4pm scheduledfrom8amto 10pmonSaturday ¯ but don’t get ther after 3pm or 7pm on and Sunday will be devoted to a"ministry ¯ Thurs. if you want to get in. FYI, no of presence." Speakers include Chris ¯ cameras and it’s not handicapped Glaser, Janie Spahr, Scott Anderson and accessible. more.Info:JohnMcNeese,405-848-2819 " Finally ourregular entertaiment writer or john33 @ix.netcom.com , shares the following with credit to "News Moving to the arts but still with a " oftheWeird"andofcourse, Rolling Stone: religious theme, Philbrook Museum opens : "Prominent ’Christian’ radical right an Italian Old Masters drawing exhibit in psychologist Patti Cameron told Rolling May.TheexhibitfeaturesworksbyCrespi, Stone magazine that he feared Gay sex Luti, Cambiaso andCantafiniandTiepolo would supplant heterosexual sex unless a and will hang from May 9 to Sept. 12. vigilant society repressed it. ’Marital sex Philbrook is at 2727 Rockford Rd. tends toward the boring,’ he said. Gilcrease Museum continues to ’Generally, it doesn’t deliver the kind of eelebrateits50thanniversarywithashow sheer sexual pleasure that homosexual opening on May 16th. ’q’aos Artists and sex does.’ ’If all one seeks is an orgasm,’ Their Patrons,1898 -1950" was organized he said, ’the evidence is that men do a by the Snite Museum at Notre Dame U. betterjobonmen, andwomenonwomen.’ but draws on the collections at the Metro- ’Homosexuality,’ he said, ’seems too politan, the Museum of Fine Arts in Santa powerful to resist.’ " Fe, the Harwood Museum of the Amazing. Time to set up more University of New Mex-ico in Taos, recruitment stations. With publicity like Chicago’s Art Institute and more. The this,ourplantorulethewofldwillproceed show parti-cularly explores the much faster... - TFN editors TOHR & Cimarron Alliance present A Black Tie Optional Dinner with US Congressman Barney Frank 4th District, Massachusetts Saturday, June 12, 1999 Greenwood Cultural Center 322 North Greenwood Dinner and cash bar cocktails: $50 Dinner and cocktails with the Congressman: $125 Information: 743-4297 1 WORKIHG CLASS HEROES.IMAGES FROM THE POPULAR CULTURE Fred Jones Jr. Museum of Art 410 W. Boyd The University of OklaSoma TULSA-TheCouncil OakMen’s Chorale will present it’s spring concert "MUSIC" to be held on May 7 and 8, 1999, at All Soul’s Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria. Concerts on both evenings will begin at 7 PM. Advance tickets are available from The Pride Store, chorale members or by contacting the COMC Ticket Office at 585-COMC. Tickets will alsobeavailable atthedoor. Tickets areS 10.00andadvance purchase is recommended due to sdl-out audiences at previous events. The program will feature a variety, of musicfrom"Swell the Full Chorus"by G. F. Handel, to 60’s sensation’q’umArotmd, Look at Me". "Our audiences have come to expect the Standard choral repertoire ¯ with an occasional twist of humor that ¯ only the men of Council Oak can do so ¯ eloquently.., trust me, concert-goers will not be disappointed," said Rick Former, ¯ Jr., Artistic Director. ¯ Recently, members of Council Oak Men’s Chorale performed on the floor of ¯ the Oklahoma State House of ¯ Representatives as a lobbying effort for ¯ passage of House Bill 1211. The work performed there, ’Wile Voice," was an ¯ original composition by chorale member : Greg Davis, and will also be given its ¯ concert premiere on May 7 & 8. -" . Don’t miss the opportunity to enjoy an ¯ evening of beautiful and exciting music ¯ performed by Tulsa’s all-male chorus, ¯ Council Oak Men’s Chorale. 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Thepopular series ofJ. K. Lasser’s financial guides now includes Gay and Lesbian topics, and none too soon. It is often mentioned, by political friends andfoes alike, that Gays and Lesbians have a lot of expendable income. Here is a book to help you put together a rosy financial future, regardless ofhow much money you’re making right now. Through aseries of charts and sample worksheets, you’ll learnhow toprepareforbuying a house, starting a business, saving for a vacation and, yes, retirement. Although many people share similar financial goals, Lesbians and Gay men need to approach the topic differently than straight ¯ people. The most obvious concerns are the legal barriers that prevent Gay andLesbian couples from participating in the financial benefits of .marriage. In addition, most rnsurance and benefit programs do not yet include same sex couples. Although some people are not planning to retire, some of us are! There~sagoodchapteronpreparing for retirement. (Hint: As youalready know, the earlier you start, the easier it will be.) The scary part of this is estimating how long you’ll live after retirement, and how much income you will need. The charts to determine these figures are fairy simple, I can no longer accept the personal risk my participation on the Board requires. I hope that my colleagues, many of whom are working very hard and responsibly, will push for information and accountability in the planning process. In dosing, I want to assure you that the- Task Force will be visible at the Millennium March on Washington to encourage Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgendered people from around the country to continue their work through state andlocal organizing. They will come to Washington to experience thepower of gathering in their nation’s capital, to feel strength in numbers, and to create a show of force for the GLBT community. We will be persistent in our efforts to ensure that the energy and momentum of the March cames to local communities. The fmancial commitments madebythe March .Board to organizations dedicated to statewide organizingand people of color organizing could:be the finest legacy the March will leave to our movement. If significant changes are made in the March planning and organizing, the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force will gladly considerrejoining theplanning efforts for the Millennium March on Washington. In the meantime, we will advocate for the inclusibn of our entire community in the March process and for the linking ofour agenda to those of other movements for social justice. 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As difficult as it may be, it is necessary for every individual to have a valid, up to date will. The possible legal disputes that arisefrompoorestate planning canquickly wipe out any assets you may have built. Don’t let it happen to you, or your significant other! Although the topic is never muchfun, it is vitally important that everyone, regardless of orientation, age or marital : status, address their financial planning needs. This is a good, basic book to help you start thinking about the unthinkable. ." Cheek for this title and others on similar ¯ topics at your local library, or call the Readers Services departmentatthe Central ~ Library at 596-7966. : theseissues will be reflected in the March : planning and agenda. ¯ - Kerry Lobel, Executive Director ¯ MaineTown Passes Rights Protections ¯ FALMOUTH, Maine (AP) - The Town ¯ Council has unammously adopted an ¯ ordinance that bars discrimination based ¯ on sexual orientation, but a conservative ¯ activists says he will try to overturn the : decision in a June referendum. The 7-0 ¯ vote followed remarks by speakers on ¯ both sides of the civil-rights issue. ¯ Mark Finks, a leader of the opposition, : vowed to continue a petition campaign ¯ that would seek to overulrn the ordinance ¯ in a June election. ¯ Councilor Jacob Manheimer said he ¯ wouldnot be intimidated by Finks’ threat. ¯ "Let’s adopt the ordinance, but put it ¯ squarely to the people if they want to ¯ repeah"t,"he stu" d. 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Now that you’ ve gotten ),our cupboards in the kitchen all spruced up, it’s amazing how, well. dingy the counter tops look now. And the sink looks about as stained as Redneck Bubba’s teeth, what there are of them. That’s the down-side of a drawn out, stage by stage renovation - until you’re finished, youjust have to putup with it. Hm, that sounds like a straight girl’s commentary on sex, but we just won’t go there. Instead, we’ll go to the old drawing board and look at our options for counter tops. As usual, it will be time to review the budget and sharpen the old pencil when it comes down to making your choice. The constraints of this column don’t allow me to teach you about installing prelaminated counter tops or tiling, but fortunately, there are several large home improvement stores who will help you out with classes and videos, so for the skilled and intrepid, your ¯ options- and savings- will be greater. And strictly from an aesthetic view point, there are usually lots of other ’Tamily" there, so happy cruising. Honey, they don’t call it "Homo" Depot for nothin’.The DIYD blushes to admit that more than tool lust carries her thither on a regular basis. But yourDIYD digresses. Yes, you can call in Surface Doctor or a resurfacing company of that ilk, butby the time it’ s all said and done, you might just as wall pay for a new surface. Of course, check it out anyway, but please review your options before buying.Dating should be the same way, but hopefully, you’ll show a bit more discipline - if you’re the impetuous sort. So that leaves you with the option of removing the oldcounter top andreplacing it with prdaminated counters, or tiling over the old laminate, if it is only ugly but not warped or popping up. You can also remove the old counter top, replace the surface and tile from scratch, but why don’t we save that kind of labor for later? The easiest optionmaybe replacing the counter tops. If you have a relatively uncomplicated lay out, with counters no more than 10 foot long at a run, then you can go and buy the counter top from a largehomeimprovement store. Some will do themitercut and cutouts for sink,range or whatever; others won’t, but can recommend someone who will do two miters [one comer] and a sink cutout for about $40,whichisn’tbad:Itis remarkably easy to install these counters yourself if YcoachOUhave a simple L, and the store will youonwhatto do. The backsplashes come pre-rolled inmost cases, so you can finish them off with a smart little bead of caulk. If your counter top layout is more complicated or longer, you will have to have the counter tops custom made, and possibly even installed by a contractoI butthat will bepartof yourreview process. : Tiling over is an option if the counter is ¯ basically sound - the base must be : absolutely sound and solid to work. : Darlings, I know some of us prefer to be more loose and fluid, but save that viewpoint for the finer things in life. Once again, yourhomeimprove-ment store will bemore than happy to help out And strletly from an aesthetle v~ew point, there are usually lots of other "fatally" there, so happy erulsln~. Honey, they don’t call it "Homo" Depot for nothln’. The DIYD blushes to admit that more than tool lust earrles her tldther on a regular basis. with classes, advice and other resources - they want to sell you the materials, remember? Keep in mind when buying the tile that if you go with lower-end, cheaper tiles fethe most part and then use the horrendously expensive accent tiles, the job will be more economical overall, and quite attractive, to boot. You will be applying a thinset mortar, then your tiles and then grouting the next day. Consider using a darker grout, or avoid white all together, because darlings,itjustdoesn’, t age well, even after sealing the grout. And if you tile, you will seal the grout, won’t you? The DIYD does not tolerate whining from those who choose not to follow her sage wisdom. The DIYD cannot recommend highly enough that you buy a long level and using it for setting up your lines. Also, lay out the tiles dry and see if a little rearranging of the cross lines , won’t make for an easier job. Sometimes ¯ working off of true center is not best, : especially if you’re cutting tiny pieces of file. ¯ Realizing she hasn’t been of much : practical help at all, the DIYD wishes you : a fond bon voyage on your trip to the ¯ home improvement center until she : astounds and amazes youagainnextmonth : when she has you on your knees on the floor. The mere thought of it makes her ¯ purr with anticipation... : ¯" Hispanic and Native American Women ¯ Speak Out; Expanding Clinical Trials and ¯ Treatment Research for Women; Special ¯ Issues for Children in Families Affected ¯" by HIV/AIDS; The lank Between HIV Infection, Violence Against Women, ¯ Homelessness and Substance Abuse; and ~ HIV Programs for Women: A Fdnder’s ¯ Perspective. ’This conference will allow ~ us a chance to look at the progress thathas ~ been made over the years, and the ¯ challenges which still confront us when ~ dealing with women and AIDS," says ¯ Nicklas. ¯ Conferenceregistrationfeeis $35before ¯¯ May 20 or $40 after May 20. The fee for the luncheon only is $15. Special student ," rates are available. Seating is limited. ¯ Some confidential scholarships for ¯" housing, transportation and conference fees are availableforHIV positivewomen. ¯ Call 585-5551 ext. 231 to receive an ¯ application. Arespiteroom and child eare ¯ are available for HIV positive women. ¯ Formore information or to register, call ¯ 585-5551. Workshop topics will include: Breaking the Silence - White, Mrican American, by Esther Rothblum. Ph.D. . Research begins to happen when the There has been some speculation about : governmentputs funds behindit, andright whether Lesbians are at higher or lower ¯ now the Institute of Medicine of the riskforbreastcaneerthanareheterosexual : National Academy of Science has women. Buttherehasbeenlittleresearch. ;. publishedareportOnLesbianhcalthwhich Now Dr. Deborah Bowen, a psychologist at the Fred Hutchin~nCancerResearch Center and a member of the Lesbian Health Research ¯ Institute, is conducting researchonbreastcancerthat includes Lesbians. "Five years ago, this was guess-work; there was no data," shetoldme in a recent interview. "At my Cancer Center, we do a lot of research about the causes of breast cancer and how to prevent breast cancer. There are many experts on breast cancer, so I had a lot of colleagues I could talk to about my ideas about Lesbians andbreast cancer." In talking with Lesbians, Dr. Bowen realized that the commonperception was that breast cancer was more frequent among Lesbians and that perception was frightening to Lesbians. As a scientist, she knew there was no proof yet one way or the other. "That’s when I beganthinking thatwecould make some in-roads into this," she said, "either by collecting new data on Lesbians or else by including questions about sexual orientation into existing studies." Dr. Bowen has done both - she has written research grants to fund studies specifically onLesbians andbreast cancer and also begun to examine sexual orientationin somelarge-scale community surveys on hundreds of thousands of women. "Thebiggestriskfactorforgetting breast cancer is being a woman," Dr. Bowen said, "and the second biggest risk factor is age. Even though we hear a lot about younger women getting breast cancer, it is really a disease of older women. And the problem is that very few people have studied older women who are past menopause. So wedon’ t evenknow much about breast cancer in womenin general." Other risk factors for breast cancer are having a family history of breast cancer. "Having a close or even a distant relative who has had breast cancer is now known to ~put women at higher risk for breast c~._cer, but we don’t know much about why this is so," Dr. Bowen continued. "Much of the research has focused on women Who have multiple relatives with breast cancer~ but that only accounts for abOut 4% of all women. What about the womanwhohada great-atmtMatildawho had breast cancer? How does Aunt Matilda’ s breast cancer transfer to her?" Cancer researchers are also. beginning to learn more about environmental exposures, "the toxins, chemicals, and maybe even the radiation that we experience, some ofit naturally occurring and some it put there by technology" as Dr. Bowen described it, "but we don’t how andwedon’ tknow whenthe exposure to these environmental factors has to occur inorder tobecomeariskforbreastcancer." The theory goes that ff Lesbians have a harder tlme finding affordable and affirmative cheek-ups, then they may he less likely to have mammo~rams or to interact with a health provider in a Way that would help with early diagnosis. So it may be that Lesbians aren’t at hi’her risk for breast eaneer, just that Lesbians don’t get good health eare . . . will stimulate research on Lesbian health issues. Dr. Bowen said: "It’ s expensive to do this kind of research. You have to have lots of money to call up 20,000 women, and with breast cancer you have to call a lot of women in order to reach somewhohave thedisease." Dr. Bowen’s research team now asks about sexual orientation inboth paper and pencil surveys and in telephone interviews. They ask this in two ways - by asking about identity (do women identify as heterosexual, bisexual, Lesbian, or other) and also by asking about sexual behavior. "ffwe only ask the former, we lose women who have sex with women but don’t identify as Lesbian, and .if we just ask about sexual behavior we lose womenwho are notcurrently sexually active," she explained. Dr. Bowen thinks there are two camps of thoughts in the Lesbian community about breast cancer. ,One has to do with reproductive ¯ factors. FewerLesbians have children than ¯ do heterosexual women. The ’fewer’ can ¯ range from about 36% to about 60% of Lesbians whohave had children. Whereas ¯¯ with heterosexual women it’s actually quitehigh-between 80-90% of all women ¯ havehad children. Nothaving had children : or having had children late aright be a ¯ factor in developing breast cancer. ¯ Pregnancy might cease certain hormones ¯ that are linked to the development of ¯ breast cancer." ~ "The other camp of thought has to do ¯ with access to reliable, good, open, access ¯ to health care," Dr. Bowen said, "and ¯ Lesbians may not have such access. We ¯ know that if cancer is caught at a later ¯ stage when it has had more chance to ¯ growandspreadtootherpartsofthebody, ¯ it’ s harder to treat and can’t be treated as ~ wall. The theory goes that if Lesbians : have a harder time finding affordable and ," affirmative check-ups, then they may be ¯ less likely to have m~mmograms or to ¯ interact with a health provider in a way ¯ that wouldhelp with early diagnosis. Soit ¯ may be that Lesbians arCh’ t at higher risk ¯ for breast cancer, just that Lesbians don’t ¯ get good health care and are likely to be ¯ diagnosed with breast cancer at a later ¯ stage when it is harder to treat." ¯" I asked Dr. Bowen what she would ¯ reconamend that health care professionals ¯ do to increase the comfort of Lesbian ¯ patients. Her suggestions: "The person : who comes to a doctor has to trust that ¯ doctor and she has to feel comfortable ¯ bringing scary problems to that doctor. ¯ And I’m hypothesizing that one of the ~ problems bringing up sexual orientation : in a health care setting is that you aright ¯ feel okay saying you have a cold or a : stomach ache, see Psyche, p. 13 IGTA Calmlem3b4er1.686’6[ .~~.~~ International ToursSormoreinSormation. Red Rock Tulsa O’RYAN Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network Outreach Program Thurs. 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His parents expect him to marry and if he returns to Pakistan he knows he ..would find tfimself quickly caught up in an arranged mamage with some woman selected by his father. So he remains in San Francisco, despite his homesickness, hoping to arrange his ownmamage- but withaman. Ahmad’ s problem is shared by the characters of a recently publishednovel that deals with Gay lifein India, P. Parivaraj’ s ~restern stories of romantic love, and the emergence of a separate Gay identity are powerful notions that have spread Oobally. Shiva and Arun. In this book, a group of Hindu and Muslim schoolboys face difficult challenges related to their homosexuality. They can only be honest with each other about their desires that they hide from family and even their closest friends. After leaving school, one is fired when his boss discovers his sexual orientation. All of them are pressured by family to marry and have children. One is rejected by his father when he refusesto do so. Another gives in and is only able to have awkwardsex withhis new wifeby thinking -. of his boyfriend. He soon kills himsdf. Marriage has failed to quell his homosexual desire. I discussed Shiva and Arun with a Gay colleague who has lived in India. Based on his experience (some of thi.s rather intimate), .my colleague argued that the novel’ s tragic suicide is unbelievable. He has met hundreds of happily married homosexual Indian men who juggle parallel lives with wife and children in public, and discrete sexual encounters with men in private. Almost all Indian and Pakistani men - whether they desire womenormen- marry without complaint as the normal, human thing to do. Those who want sex withmen can easily pick up partners by cruisi,ng in appropriate places. Stephen Murray s 1997 book, Islamic Homosexualities, describes street corners in Karachi where men drive by to find dates. I asked Ahmad why he just didn’t give in and go home, make his dad happy by getting married, and find an occasional lover on the highway roundabouts. He replied gloomily that he couldn’ t do this. He wants instead to live as what he really is, a Gay man. He is exiled in California, torn between family duties and personal desire. Shiva andArun taps into this sentiment - a model of Gayness that is recently "diffusing" (as anthropologists put this) from West to East. Parivaraj seemingly rejects the conclusion that Indians have borrowed Western patterns of sexuality. None of his characters identifies himself as"Gav,." Pather, they are "menwho love men." Still,he clearlyhas adoptedWestern concepts of individuality and romantic love. Two of his boys manage to find happiness in the end. They fall in love, leave their families, and move in with their boyfriends to establish at least quasipublic homosexual households. The notion of long-term household relations between two men founded in corner before going home to wife and kids is no longer good enough. . Previously, in many societies, even if you were a man-loving-man, there was no obvious alternative to what ¯ all men did. You accepted the woman that your parents arranged for you and you served your family by fathering children. In future, however, there may be more and more Ahmads who are unwilling to go along with traditional ¯ " expectations. Western stories of romantic : love and the emergence of a separate Gay ¯ identity are powerful notions that have ¯ spread globally. , When one of Parivaraj’s young men breaks with his parents by confessing that ¯ he loves men, they think he must be a ¯ transvestite prostitute -the only local ¯ gender category they have available to try ¯¯ tounderstandhim. Buthe snot. Although ¯ hemay not call it thus, he has adopted the Western identity "Gay" that is : fundamentally defined by a romantic ¯ desire for boyfriends. ¯ Those ofus who celebrate individuality ¯ andlovemight applaud Abroad’ s coura.ge ¯ at defying his father, abandoning his mother and sisters, and casting himself : into Gay-dating hell - that horribly lonely ¯ search for romance. ¯ In my more paranoid moments, ¯ however, I worry about the recent ¯ proliferation and spread ofall sorts ofnew social identities, including "Gay." The ¯ global economic system in large part depends on the cultivationof multiple and ¯ splintered identities that serve-as niche ¯ markets for its goods. : So, in addition to all the foods, and ¯ clothing, and furniture, and art, andmusic ¯ that Ahmad seems to need to buy in order ¯ to demonstrate his Gayness, I pray thathe can manage to snag a boyfriend. But he : already knows that they can cost a lot. ¯ Lamont Lindstrom is a professor of ¯ anthropology at the University of Tulsa. ¯ However, this semester he is teaching at "~ the University ofCalifornia, in Berkeley. ¯ but not that you want the provider to feel your breast, for example. Lesbians might also worry that the provider might force them to use high-tech solutions for their ¯ problem when they would prefer to begin ¯ with alternative solutions. Lesbians often ¯ have good reason got to trust ’the system’ ¯ and right now the solutions we have for ¯ breast cancer have to with technology, : such as chemotherapy, radiation, or ¯ surgery." She also recommends that ¯ Lesbians look for open, trustworthy ¯ providers if these exist’ in their ¯ communities. : Esther Rothblum is Professor of Psychology at the University of Vermont i and Editor Of the Journal of Lesbian : Studies.ShecanbereachedatJohnDewey : Hall, UniversityofVermont, Burlington, : VT, email: esther.rothblum@uvm.edu. If the hate crimes bill passes the Senate, where it has been in committee, it will ¯come before Bush who can either veto it or sign it into law. "Wehope the state Senate and Governor Bush will follow the leadoftheHouseand the people of Texas and pass hate crimes legislation," said Birch. At aWashington press conference last month, family members of twohate crimes victims announced their supportforfederal and state hate crimes legislation. Both Judy Shepard, mother of University of Wyoming student Matthew Shepard, and Darrell Verrett, nephew of Jasper, Texas resident James Byrd Jr., urged Bush to pass the Texas legislation. As reported in The Dallas Morning News, in 1997 - the most recent year for available statistics-360 hate crimes were reported in Texas. The Department of Public Safety reported that 167 crimes were directed againstAfrican-Americans; 64 against Gays and Lesbians; 22 against Hispamcs; and 21 against Jews. Theeffort to pass hate crimes legislation is led by Dianne Hardy Garcia, executive director of the Lesbian and .Gay Rights Lobby of Texas and state Rep. Senfronia Thompson, D~Texas, Chair, Judicial Affairs Committee. ’q~he incredible leadership of Dianne Hardy Garcia and Representative SenfroniaThompsonhas madeit po,s.sible for the House to-take this great stride forward," said Birch. ’q’his is a textbook example of how effective engagement in thepolitical process throughlobbying and education can have a significant societal impact. Today, millions ofTexans are one step closer to receiving protection from hate violence." Only 21 states have hate crimes laws that include sexual orientation and eight s.tates havenohate crimes laws. Nationally, since 1981, hate crimes have nearly doubled. In 1997 - the FBI’s most recent reporting period-race-related hate crimes were byfarthemostcommon,representing nearly60% ofall cases. Hate crimes based on religion represented 15% of all cases. And hate crimes against Gay, lesbian and bisexual Americans increased by 8% - or about 14% of all hate crimes reported. The Scripps Howardpoll of 1,003 adults was conducted by telephone, March 30- April 17. It has amargin of error ofplus or minus 3 percentage points. The home can hold up to 6 or 7 kids from infants to older, and is filled with plenty, of toys. and a nice, little backyard for play. The operation will belicensed andbonded, and one of the morns is qualified to work with special education and hearing impaired children. And in a very 90’s touch, they are considering adding an internet camerawhichwouldallow parents who have web access at work to log into a web site and checkon~ their kids!. GLAD, Ga)~. & ~bian-Daycare ~il1 als0 ~b~a [~t[¢: 1:~§~ ;expensi.ve~ than~ comparable:qUality opera.tions. The ~riollgrcahmar.gwehi$c1h0i0s dpueer two eoepkenvemrsidu-sMtahye $125phis which Teresa andJoan found to be more common. And they are willing to provide evening and weekend care by special arrangement. GLAD,’s orgamzers will be having a special garage sale on May7th&8thto help kickofftheprogram. For more information, call 808-8026. Good Food, Good Service, No Anti-Gay Attitude Tulsa’s neverhad that many choices for late night dining but now, with Burger Sisters,just opened the last week ofApril, Tulsa’s Gay community not only can get good food but be treated right in the process.. John Rothrock and Steve Walley, owners of the Silver Star, just down the way in the same shopping center, have opened a "comfortable, clean" restaurant. Rothrock notes that the restaurant welcomes all, Gays, straights, young and old but especially, it will be a place where Gay people can be free and comfortable to hold hands or to come in late from the clubs in drag or leather and not be hassled. In other words, straight people are welcome - as long as they behave themselves ! Rothrock notes, "it’s time for Gays to grasp the respect we’ve earned.., not tO be ashamed..." and he adds, "when you eat here, you don’t have to hide who you are. Burger Sisters, which opens at 6am offers a typical, "downhome" breakfasts, hamburgers, fries, salads as wall as a daily dinner special. Monday to Thursday, the cafe will be open till 10pro. OnFriday and saturday, they’ll stay open till 4am and Sunday, the hours will be 10am - 3pro (all subject to some change, after all they’ve been open only a few days when this goes to press). At this point, the cafe accepts only cash, no credit cards but their prices are very reasonable. Burger Sisters is located at 1545 So. Sheridan, just north a few doors from the Silver Star. Tel: 835- 1207. Four Years They’re There, One Night They’re Gone According to some of their now exstaff, Concessions, for more than four years one of Tulsa’s largest dance clubs closed precipitously the last Saturday of April. 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Title A name given to the resource [1999] Tulsa Family News, May 1999; Volume 6, Issue 5 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document American MedicaiAssociatiOn: Gay TeensAt Higher Suicide Risk National Organizations Fight Television War WASHINGTON - Gay and lesbian youths are at high risk for attempting suicide, according to anew study by Dr. Robert Garofalo ofthe Children’s Hospital, Boston. The study, published in April in the American Medical Association’s Archives of Pediatric & Adolescent Medicine, found that students who are Gay, lesbian, bisexual or not sure of their sexual orientation are 3.41 times more likely to report a suicide attempL Data for the study came from the Massachusetts 1995 Centers forDiseaseControl(CDC)YouthRiskBehaviorSurvey, which included questions about sexual orientation. The study said that factors which may exacerbate this problem, are "psychological stresses such as marginalization, isolation, and rejections" "These statistics underscore that anti-Gay prejudice is a life-threatening problem confronting this country;’ said David M. Smith, Commtntieations Director of the Human Rights Campaign (HRC0, the largest national Lesbian and Gay political organization, with members throughout the country. "Suicides, and violence against Gay people will continue as long as extreme fightwing groups continue to dehumanize GayAmericans see Gay Teens;p.10 London Gay Pub Bombed Hampshire Man Arrested LONDON - Three people died and more than 70 were injured, many seriously, in a nail bomb explosion at a crowded Gay barin London’s Soho area. The device wentoff at 6:37pmwithout any apparent warning in the Admiral Duncan pub inOldCompton Street. It blew out windows, sending glass anddebris flyinginto the street. Hundreds ofpeoplewereevactuatedandeyewimesses reported seeing injured bodies lying on the pavement. Many suffered severe injuries and at least two people had limbs blown off. A 22-year-old engineer, David Copeland, from Hampshire appeared in a west London court a week later facing three counts of murder and three counts of causing explosions with intent to endanger life in three separate nail bomb attacks in London. However, Copeland does not have any ties to the Nazi groups Combat 18 and the White Wolves that had been claiming responsibility for the bombings which have killed three people and injured more than 100. Police believe he had been working on his own. They said that he wasnotresponsible for the hate mail sent to ethnic community ldaders and minority groups since the firstbomb was detonated in aBrixton street on April 17, injuring 39 people. A second bomb, in the midst of the Bengali community in Brick Lane, Fast London, exploded a week later. The attack on the Admiral Duncan, aimed at hurling the Gay community which thrives in the streets around Soho square, see Pub Bombing, p. 11 |1| DIRECTORY/LEI"I’ERS P. 2 EDITORIAL P. 3 mmm US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 ~IEALTH NEWS P. 6 ~ i~NTERTAINMENT P. 8 (~OMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 DO-IT-YOURSELF-DYKE P. 11 DYKE PSYCHE P. 12 "" GAY STUDIES P. 13 Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations Gay Parade PermitApproved TulsaActivist Dies TULSA, Okla. (AP/T~N) - The parade will go on. After twice delaying consideration of a permit for the Gay pride parade, the City Council unanimously approved the permit May 20th. Four citizens testified against granting the permit and three in favor. Those opposing the permit made references to "unhealthy lifestyles" and implied connections between the school shooting in Littleton, Colorado and allowing the parade permit. However, City Councilor Art Justiss had directed all speakers to limit their remarks only to those concerning the parade and that anyremarks about "lifestyles" would be ruled out of order. Progressive Alliance co-chair and longtime environmental activist, B.J. Medley spoke in support of the parade, citing Barney Frank as one of her heroes. Not one but two Libertarian party activists spoke in favor. One noted that if the parade were ofsci-fi fans,thecontroversywouldnotbetakingplace. Libertarian Scott Pearson noted he and his wife and child would march with the parade because of their respect for freedom and tolerance for those who are different. West Tulsa City Councilor Darla Hall sniped that Gays will have to answer to Godfor their "lifestyle" andhoped that they are as prepared to met GOd as they are for their parade. "We cannot single out a group and limit them in ways that we do not limit other groups," Councilor Brady Pringle said. He said the parade permit was not a moral issue, but a legal one. Pringle noted that the average street dosing for parades was two hours (this permit requested 2 1/2 hours). Councilors acknowledged that they wererequired tobe content neutral and merely to assure that all administrative standards had been met. However, Pringle stated that the bad news for callers objecting to granting the parade permit was that the city had been "too consistent" in granting permits to any and all, and that now not to grant the permit would dearly be based on content. Pringle also stated that granting the permit did not constitute "an endorsement ofthe Gay and Lesbian lifestyle" and suggested that putting off granting the permit just called more attention to a divisive issue. Pfingle also added that it served "to further a cause that none of the councilors wish to advance." Parade organizers had threatened to sue if the permit, which allows the dosing of streets for theparade, was denied. Organizers noted i~.~.a press release that the permit application was "lost" twice by city staff over a several month period, see Parade, p.3 Arkansas PFLAG Mom Praises Court Decision FAYETTEVILLE, Ark. - Carolyn Wagner, a PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) Regional Director and resident of Fayetteville, Arkansas praised last month’s U.S. Supreme Court decision which says schools may be liable in student-on-studentharassment. Wagnerhad successfully pressed federal officials to recognize and intervene against sexual harassment directed at Gay and Lesbian students. The 5-4 ruling reversed a federal appeals court decision that said Title IX, a federal law, never applies to student-on-student harassment. Abuse ofGay and Lesbian students can often involve sexual harassment, as well as other types of violence. "This" landmark decision by the highest court in our land reinforces that federally-funded schools must address and stop student-on-student harassment that interferes with their access to education," said Wagner. "This is a critical tool for all youth and their parents to help secure a hostile-free learning environment for all students," said Wagner, who with her husband, Bill, has worked closely with PFLAG since 1996 to meet with, and to be heard by, federal officials on the issue. "We are relieved to hear that the Supreme Court is making it crystal dear to schools that they have an obligation to protect all of our children," PFLAG Executive Director Kirsten Kingdon noted. The Supreme Court ruling that peer-on-peer sexual harassment was included under Tide IX strengthened the main tool currently available to Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgendered students. The Wagners helped secure a historic agreement last year-between federal education officials and Fayetteville Public Schools which says that the Arkansas school district must take specific steps to handle various forms of sexual harassment, including sexual harassment directed at Gay and Lesbian students. The agreementcamein response to a complaint brought by their son, Willi, who charged that the local school system did not act after he was harassed repeatedly and beatenup by a gang of students. The Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund represented him in the complaint. The decision last June was the first time new Tide IX guidelines, issued in 1997, have been applied to sexual harassment directed at Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgendered students. Phil Wiley Worked on Gay & HIV Issues by Tom Neal, editor &publisher TULSA - Phil’s gone but not forgotten. In a near northside Black Baptist church, we gathered to mourn, to praise, to laugh and to cry for the loss of one of Tulsa’s most remarkable men. Survived by his longtime companion of 28 years, Vernon L. Jones, his morn and dad, Ester Mac Stanley Wiley, Willard Robert Wiley, Sr., brothers, a sister, aunts, uncles, cousins,nephews, niecesand step-daughter Lenita, Phillip Amett Wiley’s passing was noted bynoless thanfive pastors, the Reverends Maxwdl, Davis, Bailey, LaCour and the Reverend Leslie Penrose who gave the eulogy. Phil was nearly 45. He was born June 16, 1954 and died at Saint John Hospital on May 16, 1999. He’d been living with kidney disease, diabetes and with being HIV positive. And while it was kidney disease that took him ultimately, see Phil, p. 3 HIV/AIDS Events Red Ribbon Run & Regional Women + AIDS Conference TULSA - Saturday, June 12, the second annual Red Ribbon Run will open registration at 7am with the mens run to start at 8am and the womens at 8:30am. The event includes a 5 kilometer run, race walk and casual walk, all at LaFortune Park. Registration will be held at the southeast shelter with parking at the south parking lot. The event is $12 pre-registered or $8 without a t-shirt,,and $15 and $10 that day. This is aUSATFsanctioned eventandall proceeds benefit InterfaithAIDS Ministries and the Regional. AIDS Interfaith Network. All contributions are welcome even from non-runners. For more information, call 438-2437. Then on Monday, June 14, the Second Regional Conference on Women and AIDS will be held on The University of Tulsa campus, in the Chapman Activity Center, at 440 South Gary Avenue. .The comprehensive, one-day program hopes to raase awareness, promote discussion and provide opportunities fornew directions inHIVprevention, care and treatment for women. "In the Arms of the Angels," a documentary produced by the National AIDS Fund Americorps Team Tulsa, will open the conference at 8:30 a.m. with a look at women and AIDS. Patty Lather, author of "Troubling the Angels," will give the keynote address at 8:45 a.m. In addition to a series of workshops, the conference will feature a panel of HIV positive women who will share their stories. Judith Billings of the President’s Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS will give the luncheon address. Sandra McDonald, the founder of Outreach, Inc., will present the dosing address on"WhatWe Can Do to Be a Force for Change." Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston Burger Sisters Restaurant, 1545 S. Sheridan *Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria *Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria *Jason’s Dell, 15th & Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 832-1269 592-2143 835-1207 599-9512 583-6666 749-4511 599-7777 749-1563 744-4280 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Cdlular 747-1508 *Affinity News, 8120 E. 21 610-8510 *Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 5231 E. 41 665-4580 Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15 712-1122 *Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955 *Borders Books &,Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272 *CD Warehouse, 3807c S. Peoria 746-0313 Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117 Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700 Tim Danid, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468 *Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620 *Devena’s Gallery, 13 Brady 587-2611 Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. P,e,o,ria 744-5556 *Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503 *Ross Edward Salon 584-0337, 712-9379 *Floral Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595 Four Star.Import Automotive, 9906 E. 55th PI. 610-0880 Cathy Furlong, Ph.D., 1980 Utica Sq. Med. Ctr. 628-3709 Gay & Lesbian Affordable Daycare 808-8026 *Gloria Jean’s Gourmet Coffee, 1758 E. 21st 742-1460 Leanne M. Gross, Insurance & financial planning 459-9349 Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440 *Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111 *International Tours 341-6866 Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750 *Jared’s Antiques, 1602 E. 15th 582-3018 David Kanskey, Country Club Barbering 747-0236 The Keepers, Housekeeping & Gardening 582-8460 *Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070 Kelly Kirby, CPA, 4021 S. Harvard, #210 74%5466 *Living ArtSpace, 19E. Brady 585-1234 *Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3rd 584-3112 Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 663-5934 *Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Hace 664-2951 David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672 Puppy Pause II, 1060 S. Mingo 838-7626 *Peace Of Mind Bookstore, 1401 E. 15 583-1090 The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor 743-4297 Rainbowz on the River B+B, PUB 696, 74101 747-5932 Richard’s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617 Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921,747-4746 *Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301 Paul Tay, Car Salesman 260-7829 *Tickled Pink, 3340 S. Peoria 697-0017 *Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria 742-2007 *Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis 481-0558 *Venus Salon, 1247 S. Harvard 835-5563 Fred Welch,LCSW, Counseling 743-1733 *Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767 Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & Universities AIDS Walk Tulsa, PUB 4337, 74101 579-9593 *All Souls UnitarianChurch, 2952 S. Peoria 743-2363 Black & White, Inc. PUB 14001, Tulsa 74159 587-7314 Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center, 2207 E. 6 583-7815 *B/IJGFr Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780 *Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston 585-1201 *Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th H. & Florence *Church ofthe RestorationUU, 1314N.Greenwood 587-1314 *Commtmity ofHopeUnited Methodist, 2545 S. Yale 747-6300 *Commtmity Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595 *Council Oak Men’s Chorale 585-COMC (2662) *Delaware Playhouse, 1511 S. Delaware .712-1511 *Demoeratie Headquarters, 3930 E. 31 742-2457 Dignity/Integrity of Tulsa - Lesbian & Gay Catholics & Episcopalians, PUB 701475, 74170-1475 355-3140 *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 918.583.1248, fax: 583.4615, POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 e-mail: TulsaNews@ earthlink.net website: http://users.aol.com/TulsaNews/ Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal Writers + contributors: James Christjohn, Jean-Claude de Flambeauchaud Barry Hensley, J.-P. Legrandbouche, Lamont Lindstrom Esther Rothblum, Mary Schepers, Adam West Member of The Associated Press issued on or before the 1st of each month, the entire contents of this ~uow,~balincadtiomn aaryenportobteectreedprboyduUcSedcoepityhreirgihntw19h9o8leboyr in part without written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate a person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise ~ted,_rnust be signed & becomes the sole property of TJ.€~ Each reader is entitled to 4 copies of each edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. ¯ *Free SpiritWomen’s Center, call for location &info: 58%4669 ¯ Friend For A Friend, PUB 52344, 74152 747-6827 ¯ Friends in Unity Social Org., PUB 8542, 74101 582-0438 ¯ ¯ *HIV ER Center, 4138 Chas. Page Blvd. 583-6611 *HIV Resource Consortium, 3507 E. Admiral 834-4194 ¯ *Holland Hall School, 5666 E. 81st 481-1111 ¯ HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education 834-8378 ¯ ¯ *House of the Holy Spirit Minstries, 3210e So. Norwood Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 ~ *MCC United, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 ¯ NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral Pl. 748-3111 ¯ NOW, Nat’l Org for Women, PUB 14068, 74159 365-5658 ~ OK Spokes Club (bicycling), PUB 9165, 74157 : *Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960 ¯ PFLAG, PUB 52800, 74152 749-4901 ¯ *Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674 : Prime-Timers, P.O. BOX 52118, 74152 ". *R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195 ¯ Rainbow Business Guild, PUB 4106, 74159 665-5174 *Red Rock Mental Center, 1724 E. 8 584-2325 ¯ O’RYAN, support group for 18-24 LGBT young adults ¯ O’RYAN, Jr. support group for 14-17 LGBT youth ¯ St. Aidan’s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati 425-7882 ¯ St. Dunstan’s Episcopal, 5635 E. 71st 492-7140 ¯ *St. Jerome’s Parish Church, 205 W. King 582-3088 *Tulsa Area United Way, 1430 S. Boulder 583-7171 ¯ TNAAPP(Native American men), Indian Health Care 582-7225 : Tulsa County Health Department, 4616 E. 15 595-4105 : Confidential HIV Testing - by appt. on Thursdays only ¯ TulsaOkla. for Human Rights, c/o The PrideCenter 743-4297 ¯ T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222 ¯ *Tulsa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule ". *Tulsa Community College Campuses ¯ *Tulsa Gay Commumty Center, 1307 E. 38, 74105 743-4297 ~ *OSU-Tulsa (formerly UCT, formerly Rogers U. whoever...) ": BARTLESVILLE : *Bartlesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone 918-337-5353 ¯ OKLAHOMA CITY/NORMAN ¯ *Borders Books &Music, 3209NWExpressway 405-848-2667 : *Borders Books & Music, 300 Norman Center 405-573-4907 ¯ TAHLEQUAH ¯ *Stonewall League, call for information: 918456-7900 : *Tahleq,mh Unitarian-UniversalistChurch 918-456-7900 ¯ *Green Country AIDS Coalition, POB 1570 918-453-9360 NSU School of Optometry, 1001 N. Grand ¯ HIVtesting every other Tues. 5:30-8:30, call for dates ¯ EUREKA SPRINGS, ARKANSAS : *Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy. 23 501-253-7734 ¯ *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457 ¯ DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807 ¯ *Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445 ¯ MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337 "_ Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, PUB 429 501-253-2776 ¯ Old Jailhouse Lodging, 15 Montgomery 501-253-5332 ." Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-624-6646 : Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001 ¯ *White Light, 1 Center St. 501-253-4074 ¯ FAYETTEVILLE, ARKANSAS5 *Edna’s, 9 S. School Ave. 501-442-2845 : JOPLIN, MISSOURI ¯ *Spirit of Christ MCC, 2639 E. 32, Ste. U134 417-6234696 ¯ * is where you can findTFN. Notall are Gay-owned butall are Gay-friendly. ¯ To: Dr. Dean P. VanTrease, President .¯ Tulsa Community College Original Letter Date: February 3, 1998 ¯ A few months ago, I read your TCC ¯ Strategic Vision with great interest, ¯ particularly Section VII. This part states ¯ that TCC will reflect the pluralistic ¯ community they se.rveandthattheCollege ¯ will conduct workshops on diversity. I ¯ have some concerns about this based on ¯ negative experiences with other Tulsa : institutions which have defined diversity ¯ narrowly, usually just as racial issues. ¯ . However, Lesbians and Gay men also are ¯ part of the diversity of our city, and in ¯ particular, I would suggest that TCC has - greatly benefited from our cxmtribudon~ as students, staff and faculty. I hope that ¯ your workshops also will address issues ¯ of sexual orientation. ¯ ¯ I am also concerned about TCC’s lack of a comprehensive non-discrimination ¯ policy (on page 57 of your fall class ¯ schedule).While I suspect that in practice TCCmostly does not discriminateagainst ¯ Lesbians, Gay men or Heterosexuals on ¯ the basis of sexualorientation, the lack of : an explicitnon-discriminationpolicy puts ¯ Lesbians and Gay men at risk - never ¯ knowing whether or not we may be the : target of discrimination and clearly ¯ knowing that there exists no recourse if ¯ such occurs. Heterosexuals haveonly very ¯ rarely been persecuted because of their °¯ heterosexuality, and therefore, the issue ¯ weighs less heavily on them. While federal and state laws do not ." mandate the inclusion of "sexual ¯ orientation" in non-discrimination ¯ ¯ statements, these laws do not prevent private or public institutions from adding ¯ thelanguage- federal law sets aminimum ¯ standard for non-discrimination, nora ¯ maximum. Public and private institutions ¯ likeThe Universities ofTexas, Michigan, ~ Wisconsin,California, as well as Harvard, ¯ Yale, Stanford have long had these ~ policies. You may have noted also that ; Rogers University (ed. ’s note: now OSU- ¯ Tulsa) recently adopted this language. ¯ I hope to hear from you that TCC will ¯ update its non-discrimination policy. : Thank you. - Tom Neal, publisher/editor In response to your inquiries concerning : TCC’s Affirmative Action policy, we would like to inform you that one of the goals ofTCCas statedin theTCCStrategic Vision is that "employees will accurately reflect the pluralistic community they serve." TCC is fully compliant with both Federal and State guidelines with respect to Affirmative Action. The College also seeks to promote diversity among its student body through many recruitment programs, student organizations, and several academic advisement/counseling services. Thank you for your interest in TCC. - Dean P. VanTrease, Ph.D. Editor: Makes you wonder why it took 14 months and calls to two powerful state senators to get even this lame response - it’s not as though he bothered to answer what he was asked. But the refusal to answersuggests bias is aproblem atTCC. Letters Policy Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on issues which we’ve covered or on issues you think need to be considered. You may request that your name be withheld but letters must be signed & have phone numbers, or be hand delivered. 200 wordletters are preferred. Letters to other publications will be printed as is appropriate. by Tom Neal, editor &publisher It doesn’t happen very often, but it’s certainly welcome to hear that others agreed with Tulsa Family News’ assessment of Chastity Bono’s lame performance at the Red Ribbon Gala. Some of these other critics include include a number of the event’s orgamzers. They were quick to let us know that only a tiny amount of funds from the event went to Ms. Bono. In fact, it appears that only a couple of hundred went to pay her hotel bill. All other costs associated with her visit are the responsibility ofevent co-sponsor, the Tulsa Chapter ofPFLAGandtheir"anonymous donor" thoughyouprobably won’t need three guesses to know who that is. Unfortunately, PFLAG, Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays has been less forthcoming in correcung its factual error crediting PFLAG volunteer, Tim Chilean as the single person responsible for Tulsa’s Gay community center. This is what they published in their newsletter, even after they weremade aware of their error at the Red Ribbon Gala: "It was his idea for [a] Community Center and his dream is now a reality, a place for persons to come together to talk, to meet, to dream. A Safe place for young people to gather, a library, a store... " Of course, the editor of the PFLAG newsletter is none other than Chilean. This misattributionofcreditwas madewhilePFLAGgave Chilean a Swan Award for community service. As PFLAG was told, Chilean’s other work merits recognition on its own without giving him all the credit for shared efforts. Chilean was part of the team that created the Center but it was not his dream, idea or work exclusively. And he was voted out as TOHR president because of questions about whether a community center under his leadership would genuinely represent the broader community’s interests or that of Tulsa’~Gay ruling class. Come on, PFLAG, you’re credibility is on the line. Check your facts - it’s really easy, get it right and say you’re sorry. still HIV played a role because of the nearly total .ban on organ transplants for people who are HIV positive. The service was fairly long filled with music, and testimonials from friends and family. Jessie Scott broke our hearts with an exgmsite version of "God Is" backed by the choir of Paradise Baptist Church. Regina Tyler and Sandra McClellan sang with equal joy and sorrow. Testimonials were given by his dear friend, Diane Zike of InterfaithAIDS Ministries, Hilary Kitz of the Office of the Mayor of Tulsa, Janice Nicklas of the Community Service Council, Midge Elliott, longtime HIV/AIDS specialist, and Sharon Thoele of Tulsa CARES and members of hisTamily. ManY "Phil stories" were told. Janice Nicklas told of going on wild car tides out to meet then Vice-president Dan Quayle. Others told of hearing him speak about HIV and AIDS. He would say,"I’m your worst nightmare: I’m Black. I’m Gay. And I have AIDS. Now that that is out of the way, let’s talk." Phil devoted himself to making the world better. His friends cannot have been surptised that even after death, his activist spirit was at work. In its June 1st edition, The Tulsa World featured a lengthy story on Phil Wiley, and the issues involved in organ transplants for people who are HIV positive. The story was frank mad fair t(~ Phit, to Vernort, to Phil’s morn and dad. Phil would have liked it. Editor’s note: this article is a personal reflection more than a newstory. Phi! was a39iend and o.hero, a source of encouragement and bdvice as has been Vernon Jones. My life is richer for having know them and 1. was honored to count Phil as afriend, and to continue to count Vernon as one. - Tom Neal. Tulsa Oklah~mans fox~ Human Rights, Inc. contrasted their expe~tiencc:with that of Nelson’s Buffeteria, which received a street closing inless than24hours withouteven completing the multi-step application process. The June 12 parade will be the first for the local Gay community,, though several marches have been held. US Congressman, the Honorable Barney Frank, Democratfrom Massachusetts will serve as grand marshal and will speak at a dinner the eveuing ofthe parade at tli~ Greenwood Cultural Center and at a prayer breakfast at .7:30 am at Fellowship Congregation Church, 29th and Harvard, Sunday, June 13. :- Lastmonth, I wrote about ¯ ¯ .The Tulsa WorldhighYlghtmg some of the progress : the newspaperhas madeand ¯ also some areas where improvement is needed. ¯ And ironically, this last ¯ month, I’veheardfrom two ¯ unconnected individuals about how Roxanna and : Bob Lorton, the principal ¯ ownersofTheTulsaWorM, ¯ are not only not prejudiced ¯ but are even rather Gay- " friendly. Indeed. ¯ I suppose the mani- ¯ .festation ofthis goodregard ¯ ~s The World’s blatantly bigoted, specifically anti- ¯. Gaypolicies.Afterall, since the paper is privately ¯ owned, those who create ." and enforce those preju- ¯ diced policies answer ¯ directly and only to the ¯ Lortons. And since those ¯ policies have received ¯ significant negative publicity in the past years, their ¯ deliberate, continued exis- ¯ tence can only indicate ¯ some sort of ongoing approval. : Perhaps, another area that Some ofmy best friends are jews. Some ofmy best friends are black. Some ofrny bestfriends are faggots. Some ofmy bestfriends are dykes. - Yeah, right. ¯ indicates theirwarmregard ¯ for us Gay people is the ¯ failure for more than five years of the University of " ¯ Tulsa, on whose board they sit and on which they have " ¯ significant influence as major fundraisers, to a~lopt a ¯ ¯ non-discriminationpolicy pledging minimal fairness to ¯ Lesbians and Gay men, not to mention Bisexuals and " ¯ Transgendered individuals. ~ Let us not forget also their complicity in the hiring of ¯ the allegedly reformed homophobe, TU president, Bob ¯ ¯ Lawless. Does anyone think it was accidental that of all " ~ the newspapers in the Southwest The Tulsa World was " ¯ the only one NOT to report on Lawless’ scandal at ¯ Texas Tech about his anti-Gay attitudes? Even the " ¯ wretched Daily Oklahoman covered that nasty history. " ¯ Let:sgetreal. TheTulsaWorldandtlfisfanfily, which ¯ ¯ ¯ has become, by most people’s standards, enormously ¯ wealthy through the inflated profits which mainstream : ¯ newspapers have reaped over the years, have great " ¯ influence in this provincial litde city. ¯ Andthe reality is that these people, and the others like : : them wh~make up what flatulently claim to be"Tulsa " ¯ society" do say that "some" of their "best friends" are " ¯ Gay - they hire us to do their flowers, decorate their ¯ : houses, paint their portraits, cater their parties, and plan ." ¯ their wedi:ling§,and girl! - dotheir hair ± all While they " ." call us faggots behi.nd our backs, and give money to " people-like Jim Inhofe ,and Don Nickles and Steve ¯ ,:. Largent-~politicianswho dlikelyputnsinconcentration. ; : ,. camps, if they thought they could get away with it. : ¯ But let me be clear, I don’t really want to pickjust on ¯ ¯ theLortons. They are hardly alone among the guilty, but ¯ they do occupy a position of singular responsibility. " They really, really couldprovide theleadership for civil " ¯ rights that this town so desperately needs. And it would ¯ hardly imperil their fortune or daily print monopoly. ¯ : However, so they won’t feel alone as named among : the guilty, let us single out in shame some others: " ¯ First and foremost, in the list for rank and unreformed ¯ hypocrisy is, of course, the National Conference for ¯ Community and Justice, which claims ~t cares about ¯ civil rights while it’s running as fast as it can in the " : .opposite direction. The organization is tremendously ¯ ¯ successfulinits Southern Hills Country Club fundraisers ,_ When it’s aft said and done, you either are part of the solution or you are the problem. And the message to the Lortons, to Mayor Susan Savage, Rabbi Sherman, NCCJ’s Nancy Day, to the so-tailed Democratic leadership, is that you must take as stand: either you support fundamental human rights - even for Gay people, or, if you choose to do nothing, if you choose only to cover your ass or to sit on it, then you don’t even have as much as integrity as the Klan. They, no matter how repulsive, at least are morafly consistent. What they talk, they walk. : (isn’tit convenient forNCCJ that Southern Hills finally ¯ decided a few years ago to let afew Jews, Catholics and Blacks in?) and in making Tulsa’s elite feel like it is less racist and bigoted than it really, really is but NCCJ has steadfastly refused to include Lesbians and Gay men within its work for justice despite repeated r.equests. And at least m one documented case, it’s deliberately discriminated against Tulsa’s Gay community. Some of the fault for this lies at the feet of NCCA leader Rabbi Charles Sherman, who is openly discussed in Tulsa’s tiny but vocal Gay Jewish community as "having aproblem with us." So it should hardly comeas a surprise thatNCCJ gave its award for "human rights promoter" of the year, last year to, guess who? - BobLorton! whosebusiness engages in disctiminatory practices. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’d rather deal with groups like the Westside Ministerial Alliance and the Klu Klux Klan than groups like the National Conference for "Commtmity and Juslice" because with the Klan and the evangelical Biblebased hate mongers, at least there’s no doubt where you stand. Better the evil on which you can depend, than those who talk and talk the talk but who never walk it. Who else should be called out for our hall of shame? How about Oklahoma’s Democrat Party? Is the best thing that we can say about Oklahoma Democrats is that Oklahoma Republicans are worse? Now in fairness, the Tulsa County Party has been welcoming of Lesbians and Gay men but how do you explain the support for noted anti-Gay bigot, Mike Mass as S tate Democratic party chair by Sally Frasier, a non- Gay member of Oklahoma’s Lesbian and Gay political action committee, the Cimarron Alliance? It suggests that Ms. Frasier’s involvement in Cimarron’s may be more about trying to control the direction ofGay dollars into Democratic coffers rather thanany real commitment to civil tights. She sure managed to get some big bucks for Tulsa Mayor Susan Savage despite Savage’s wretched track record on issues that concern Lesbian andGayTulsans, like diversi ty tmiuing forTulsapolice, or voluntarily tracking of hate crimes. After all it’s important to remember that no matter how many horrible things Oklahoma Republicans have been saying about us for all these years, it’s been Democratic majorities in both houses, combined with not that long ago, Democratic governors, who’ve had the votes and whohave failed to pass hate crime reform, ci’~fl andfamilyrights protections forOkl~0maLesbiahs and Gay men. Republicans make talk nasty about us; Democrats just do us dirty. . And isn’t interesting ~ at hov¢ the. pro-civil, rights Democratic party planks adopted at local levels mysteriously did not appear in state, level documents until Gay party activists (credit on this, I’m told, goes to Tim Chilean) noted, the omission? When it’s all said and done, you either are part of the solution or you are the problem. And the message to the Lortons, to Mayor Susan Savage, Rabbi Sherman, NCCJ’s Nancy Day, to the so-called Democratic leadership, is that you must take as stand: either you supportfundamentalhumanrights - evenforGaypeople, or, if you choose to do nothing, if you ch,oose only to cover your ass or to sit on it, then’you don t even have as much as integrity as the Klan. They, no matter how r~epulsive, at l~t are morally consistent. What they talk, they walk. - Tom Neal, editor & publisher Florida Adoption Ban Challenged MIAMI (AP) - The American Civil Liberties Unionhas filed a class-action lawsuit to overturn Florida’s law against Gay adoptions, the only such statewide ban in the nation. TheACLU was also joined by a child advocacy group in the lawsuit filed Wednesday in Key WeSt. "They trustGays and Lesbians to befoster care parents but not adoptive parents," said Howard Simon, executive directorof theACLUin Florida. ."What we want is to remove that blanket prohibition.., so that they wouldbe evaluated-as to their fitness and suitability to be adoptive parents just like everybody else,’~ Simon said. George Waas of state Attorney General Bob Butterworth’s office declined to comment. Florida is the only state with a law that bans homosexuals from adopting children. Lastmonth, New Hampshire repealed its ban on Gay adoptions. At least two states - Arkansas and Utah - have state agency rules preventing adoption by Gay people. The lead plaintiff in the Florida suit is Steve Lofton, a 41-year-old registered nurse. He and his partner of 15 years, also a registered nurse, have raised three foster children ages 8 to 11 from birth. Two are HIV-positive; the third, born positive, no longer tests positive for the virus that causes AIDS. The family recently moved to Oregon° NY State Gay Senator Makes Issues Personal ALBANY, N.Y. (AP) - Somewhat sheepishly, state Sen. Tom Duane rose to his feet in the Senate one day this month and apologized to a colleague fbr not having complained about a provision in his bill sooner. The measure would provide for state. reimbursement for counsding to the spouse, child or stepchild of a crime victim. Duane asked the sponsor, Sen. Michael Nozzolio of Seneca County, if domestic partners - the unmarried partners of heterosexuals and homosexuals alike - were eligible under the legislation. They are not, Nozzolio said. If Duane’s own domestic partner is murdered, would Duane be’eligible for counseling? No was the eventual answer from Nozzolio. Duane pleaded with Nozzolio to amend the bill. Nozzolio refused. Duane conceded that he should have noticed the omission earlier, arid was not springing"some kind ofa surprise attack" on Nozzolio by only now complaining about it on the floor of the Senate. "You might find this hard to believe," Duane said. "I have been Gay for longer than I have not been Gay, but it’s not the first thing I think about in the morning." Still, Duane’s sexual orientation is an undeniable aspect of his personality, never far from the surface in both how he goes about his job as legislator and how others regard him. That and the fact he is infected with HIV, the virus which causes AIDS. Duane and the state Senate, dominated as it is by conservative Republicans from suburban and upstate New York, would seemlike an awkward fit. Butnearly five months into his first term in Albany, the Democrat from Manhattan says he has been treated well by his new colleagues and he believes his presence has had an effectinnndgingforward abill toughening penalties for hate crimes and another providing more civil rights for Gays and Lesbians. "Neither all of the other senators nor I knew exactly what to expect," Duane, 44, said. "But I think that time together and familiarity has in some ways lessened the mystery about each other." Twice so far on the floor of the Senate when hate-crime related bills were being discussed, Duane has spoken at length about the three times he was assaulted by people spouting anti-Gay epithets. "I’m not even going to talk about all the times I’ve been verbally harassed," he said each time. ] Matt Foreman of the Gay advocacy group ,’ Empire State Pride Agenda said having a sitting ¯ senator offering suchpowerful testimony cannot i help but have an effect on softening attitudes, ¯ even in the Senate, which Foreman derides as ¯ "one of the last bastions ofignorance andbigotry gamst Gay people. It is a whole new dynmmc i for us to have up here a senator who can go peer- . to-peer and talk to people about our issues," ¯ Foreman said. ¯ Senators and spectators alike listened with ¯ "rapt attention" when Duane talked about Gay- : bashing incidents he was involved in, according ¯ to Foreman. "It becomes real," Foreman said. ¯ "HIV issues become real, and living with AIDS ¯ becomes real when a colleague is facing those : issues himself. My sense is people thought he ¯" was going to be a radical... If anything, Tom can ¯ be one of the most charming and funny people in the w0rld." Duane said he may be impassioned, but he is still not all that comfortable discussing his homosexuality or HIV-positive status. That is despite spending seven years on the New York City Council as an advocate for Gays and people living with AIDS before being elected to the Senate last November. "When I decide to raise the issues, I have to take a somewhat deeper breath than I do when I am going to speak on other issues because it is so personal and it has come with along-term personal struggle with the whole issue of being out," Duane said. "It still doesn’ t come naturally," he added. "I have to put together my inner forces to be able to get up and speak on Lesbian-Gay issues and AIDS issues with the self-assurance and spirit that I think it needs to move my colleagues." One issue where Duane has had no effect is on changing the state Senate’ s policy ofnotextending benefits to the domesticphrtners ofits employees. The Democrat-controlled state Assembly does so, and so does the executive branch of government under orders of Republican Gov. George Pataki. But the Senate does not. Its majority leader, Joseph Bruno, once referred to homosexuality as an "abnormal lifestyle." "It sends a signal that discrimination is tolerated," Duane said of the policy. "It provides a disincentive to people not to be more out front.. ¯ It is blatant discrimination." Family benefits are designed for married couples and their children and there are no plans to change the policy, Bruno spokesman John McArdle said. Methodist Anti-Gay Witchhunt Continues DENVER (AP) - A Methodist layman has accused a Denver-areabishop ofbreaking church law by al.lowing a minister to officiate at samesex tmions. Mel Brown of Johnstown filed the complaint against Bishop Mary Ann Swenson with the denomination’s College of Bishops. The charge centers on the activities of the Rev. Toni Cook, pastor of St. Paul’s United Methodist Church on Capitol Hill, who acknowledges she has officiated at same-sex unions for"committed, ¯ lo.v’.mg couples." Brown said church law bars ¯ mlmsters from officiating at same-sex unions. ¯ He claimed Ms. Swenson is guilty "of ¯ disobedience to the order and discipline." The ¯ church’s Book of Discipline, says bishops are to ¯ "teach and uphold the theological traditions of ¯ the United Methodist Church." The church’s ¯ highest court, the Judicial Council, ruled earlier ¯ this year a person could face church charges for ¯ officiating at same-sex unions. Any church court : proceeding would be lengthy. If Ms. Swensonis ¯ found guilty of disobeying church law, she may : be removed from her position. : Ms. Swenson said she has felt "Mel Brown’s : rage" for several years. The filing of charges is ." just another step in his efforts to force-her ¯ resiguadon, she claimed. 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One was found guilty andonewas foundinnocent. "To chargea supervisor (bishop) after the fact may not go directly to the issue (of same-sex union)," Dew said. Church law requires Dew to ask the parties to meet to resolve their differences. If that fails, a three-member committee is named which will meetwith the two parties. If that committee decides the charges are grave, an investigative committee will meet to decide whether a church trial is warranted. "In all my 63 years I’ve never seen a bishop on trial," said Dew. "A person should be absolutely clear and serious about charges against a bishop." Brown, a semi-retired farm supply dealer, said he filed the charges against Ms. Swenson rather than Ms. Cook"to getmorenational attention. Mary AnnSwensun should resign." Hepreviously calledforherresignationin 1996 because she, along with 14 other Methodist bishops, publicly supported the right ofpracticingGays to be ordained. The 15, who made the dissent statement during the church’s national convention in Denver, said they would follow church law that bans such ordinations. Over the years Brown has written letters to Ms. Swensbn to complain about her salary, how she spends vacation time and how she votes on church issues. Massachusetts Gay Bashers Sentenced NORTHAMPTON, Mass. (AP) - Three men have been sentenced to jail for a Main Street attack on a Gay man a year ago. Jameson Conz, 19, of Northampton; Zachary Keefe, 20, ofNorthampton, andJoshuaPhelps, 22,pleaded guilty in Hampshire Superior Court to assault and battery with intent to intimidate a person because of his sexual orientation. Conz, who had gone to high school with the 19-year-old victim, and Keefe were ordered to serve 18 months of a 21/2-year jail sentence. Phelps was ordered to serve six months of a 2 1/2-year sentence. After shouting anti-Gay slurs, the three beat and kicked the victim on May 24, 1998, according to prosecutor Renee Steese. "The incident was an unprovoked act of violence against an individual simply walking back to his truck after work," Steese told thejudge. "Ithad a very traumatic effect on the victim." Oregon House Considers Anti-Gay Marriage Bill SALEM, Ore. (AP) - A key state lawmaker has warned that a court decision giving Gay public employees the same benefits as married workers could dear the way for same-sex marriages in Oregon. Rep. Kevin Mannix, R-Salem, has proposed an amendment to the state constitution to define marriage as only the union between amanand a woman. The measure would also bar the courts from requiring that unmarried partners be entitled to domesticbenefits. Mannix said that the measure is aimed an Oregon Court of Appeals ruling last year that banned discrimination against homosexuals in the workplace and required governments to provide insurance benefits to same-sex domestic partners of government employees. ThedecisionwasbasedonaPorflandnursingprofessor’ s case against Oregon Health Sciences University, where she has worked for 12 years. Christine Tanner, a mother Of two who in a long-term.relationship with another woman, told the House Judiciary-Civil Committee that Mannix’s proposal would erase that ruling. "Please, pleasedonotsendamessagetomychildren that, somehow, their family is less-than equal in the eyes of the state," she said. ¯ Jean Harris of Basic Rights Oregon, a group that fights ¯ anti-Gay measures, saidtheproposal was a thinly disguised ’ ¯ attempt at discriminating against homosexuals. "We : already can’t get married - so why push this out?" she : asked. "It’s about keeping us from having benefits." ¯ Mannix said the appeals court ruling leaves room for : others who are barred from marriage - like first cousins ¯ - to also ask for rights that have been reserved for ¯ heterosexual married couples. Hecalled the appeals court ¯ ruling "perverse reasoning," and said most Oregonians -" would support a constitutional amendment, which the : courts could not change. "What we are doing is taking a : position of neutrality," he .said. "But we are drawing a ¯ firmlineinprotecting a traditional family unit: marriage." Others said barring same-sex marriages would protect : children from being raised outside of the "secure ¯ environment ofaheterosexual umon. Weare not taking ¯ the institution of marriage as seriously as we ought to," : said Jerry Propst, a Baptist minister from Hillsboro. "The ¯ institution of marriage is a sacred trust." ." Dave Fidanque, director of Oregon American Civil ¯ Liberties Union, argued that the proposal would ¯ discriminate against Gay Oregouians - and that it has : taken years to remove other discriminatory provisions ¯ from the state constitution. ’q’his proposal would permit ¯ discrimination against a class of citizens in our state,"he : said. "It would be as much of a mistake as past ¯ discrimination." The measure is HJR29. Bank Closeto Opening ¯ PENSACOLA, Fla. (AP) - G&L Bank has entered the ¯ final phase of the federal approval process and is looking ~ toward a possible fall opening as the nation’s first bank : designed primarily for homosexual customers. ¯ Thebank, whoseinitials stand forGay and Lesbian, has : received a "deemed complete" letter on its application ." with the Office ofThrift Supervision, saidG&Lpresident : St_even Dunlap. That means the federal agency has 60 ¯ days to approve or deny the bank’s request to operate. ." "We have no reason to believe we won’t get an up sign," ¯" said bank president G. Kay Griffith. G&Lofficers earlier ¯ had hoped for a spring opening, but the approval process : has taken longer than anticipated. : In addition to focusing on homosexuals, G&L would ¯" beamongoulyafewbanksoperatingnationallyprimarily ¯ on the Internet and the first to offer consumer loans via e- : commerce, saidGriffith, aformer NationsBankexecutive : and bank consultant. The downtown bank plans to hold ¯ an open house over the Memorial Day weekend, when : thousands of Gays and Lesbians traditionally flock to i Pensacola area beaches. A similar open house last year attracted 1,400 visitors from 21 states, Dunlap said. G&L ¯ also is getting interest from Blacks and unmarried heterosexual couples who are looking for"a bank which : doesn’tdiscriminate agaiustanybody,"Dunlap said. Many ¯ .banks refuse to consider dual incomes when unmarried ~ .couples apply for loans or mortgages, he said. ¯ Black Gay Church Thrives : CHICAGO (AP) - For Black homosexuals, many .of ~ whom say they feel misunderstood by other Blacks as ¯ well as the white Gay commtmity, one church offers a ¯ haven where they can worship without fear of discrimination. : Men with men, women with women, their children and ! parents are all welcome at the Church of the Open Door, say its founders, the Rev. Alma Faith Crawford and her . : partner, the Rev. Karen Hurt. The two pastors started the church, whichis affiliated with the Unitarian Universalist ¯ Association, three years ago as a Bible study group in their apartment. Since then, the congregation has grown to 275 and has : settled into its own red brick house of worship in the : Chicago Lawn neighborhood on the city’s southwest : side. At a time when many faiths are divided over the inclusion of Gays and Lesbians and the ramifications of ¯ same-sex marriages, Open Door is the only place of : worship in Chicago founded specifically for those who i are both Gay and Black. Members say they joined Open Door after feeling :¯ unwelcome in other churches. "They will takemymoney - but they won’t let me into heaven," said Lloyd Kelly, 38. ¯ Kelly said he eventually grew fired of pastors and priests ¯ : elsewhere saying that homosexuals will bum in hell. ¯ Among the Open Door congregation are also members : who previously attended churches that were open to Gays and Lesbians but were predominantly white and not always culturally sensitive. "It’s not that the Gay white church letme down; the difference is that here my culture as an African-American is celebrated," said Elandria Henderson, 50, who drives across the city to attend Sunday services at Open Door. The church’s two flagsa rainbow banner of Gay pride and the red, Black and green African-American heritage- are symbolic of most of its congregation. But Open Door’s founders say they also want others in the diverse working class neighborhood who have felt the sting of discrimination to feel welcome. "We want to cross those bridges that divide us as African-Americans, as immigrants, as peopledue to class, education or sexual orientation," Crawford said. To that end, the church offers English as a second language and computer training in its annex. Church leaders also have worked with neighbors to rid the area of drug dealers and to start a block club. It is the church’s commuuity involvement, police say, that has likely prevented any protests over what many might consider a controversial congregation. "They want to be good neighbors,"said police Sgt. John Andrews. "Sofar they’re been proactive and productive." Virginia "Sodomy" Law Challenged ROANOKE, Va. (AP) - A Gay activist invited four of Roanoke’s top law enforcement officials to join him in a private act of sodomy, arguing if they don’t prosecutehim for soliciting sex, then they cannot prosecute 18 men charged with allegedly seeking Gay sex in a city park. Franklin Kameny, 74, a longtime Washington, D.C., Gay activist sent letters last week to Circuit Judges Richard Pattisall and Robert Doherty, Assistant Commonwealth’sAttorney Alice Ekirchand Police Chief Arias "Joe" Gaskins. The goal of the letters, he said in a telephone interview, is to bring attention to "these antiquated sodomy laws in Virginia... which malc.e felons of virtually every adult member of the populous of the state." "It raises the question that if they’ve been solicited and they don’t respond, how can they charge otherpeople for solicitin~?" he said. The four letter recipients have either ruled in’he park sex cases or been involved in prosecuting the men. Ms. Ekirch said she received the letter, which she believes does violate the law against solicitation. She declined to comment further, citing the ongoing cases. The other recipients also have declined to comment. Kameny was notprosecuted afterhe wentonan Alexandria Gay issues radio show in December and solicited the entire state of Virginia for sodomy. For years, Roanoke police have brought misdemeanor charges against "cruisers" who sought anonymous Gay sex in the park and other public places. Police said complaints from citizens about blatant sexual activity in WasenaPark led them to seek felony sodomy indictments against the men in the latest cases. In his letter, Kameny invited the f.our officials "to engage withmein an act or acts of sodbmy of your choice and as defined by Section 18.2-361 of the Virginia Code, in some indisputably private place in the state ofVirginia, at a time of our mutual convenience.’" Kameny wrote that the letter would be "published and publicized, with intent to embarrass each of you individually and by name, and to bring you into public contempt and ridicule nationally, as well as to make a contemptible laughingstock of your benighted, barbaric, backward state." Theletter is similar to one Kameny wrote to Washington officials in 1972 as part of a three-decade movement to have the district’s sodomy law repealed. It finally was repealed in 1993, with Kameny writing the statute. Kameny said he "would be absolutely delighted" to be arrested because it would afford him the opportunity to make a media circus of a probable extradition hearing in Washington, and each subsequent hearing in the case. In open court, he said, he would solicit the judge for sex, forcing him to disqualify himsdf from the case, and continue soliciting everyjudge broughtin to hear the case until no state judges remained eligible. Kameny also has posted e-mails on the Internet urging others to solicit law enforcement personnel in Roanoke. "You push whenever you have the opportunity and hope something comes of it," he said. Florida Adoption Ban Challenged MIAMI (AP) - The American Civil Liberties Union has filed a class-action lawsuit to overturn Florida’s law against Gay adoptions, the only such statewide ban in the nation. TheACLU was also joined by a child advocacy ~roup in the lawsuit filed Wednesday in Key WeSt. "They mastGays and Lesbians to be foster care parents but not adoptive parents," said Howard Simon, executive directoroftheACLUin Florida. ."What we want is to remove that blanket prohibition.., so that they wouldbe evaluatedas to their fitness and suitability to be adoptive parents just like everybody else,’Y Simon said. George .Waas of state Attorney General Bob Butterworth’s office declined to comment. Florida is the only state with a law that bans homosexuals from adopting children: Lastmonth, New Hampshire repealed its ban on Gay adoptions. At least two states - Arkansas and Utah - have state agency rides preventing adoption by Gay people~ The lead plaintiff in the Florida suit is Steve Lofton, a 41-year-old registered nurse. He and his partner of 15 years, also a registered nurse, have raised three foster children ages 8 to 11 from birth. Two are HIV-positive; the third, born positive, no longer tests positive for the virus that causes AIDS. The family recently moved to Oregon. NY State Gay Senator Makes Issues Personal ALBANY, N.Y. (AP) - Somewhat sheepishly, state Sen. Tom Duane rose to his feet in the Senate one day this month and apologized to a colleague for not having complained about a provision in his bill sooner. The measure would provide for state. reimbursement for counsding to the spouse, child or stepchild of a crime victim. Duane asked the sponsor, Sen. Michael Nozzolio of Seneca County, if domestic partners - the unmarried partners of heterosexuals and homosexuals alike - were eligible under the legislation. They are not, Nozzolio said. If Duane’s own domestic partner is murdered, would Duane be’eligible for counsding? No was the eventual answer from Nozzolio. Duane pleaded with Nozzolio to amend the bill. Nozzolio refused. Duane conceded that he should have noticed the omission earlier, and was not springing "somekind ofa surprise attack" on Nozzolio by only now complaining about it on the floor of the Senate. "You might find this hard to believe," Duane said. "I have been Gay for longer than I have not been Gay, but it’s not the first thinS I think about in the morning." Still, Duane’s sexual orientation is an undeniable aspect of his personality, never far from the surface in both how he goes about his job as legislator and how others regard him. That and the fact he is infected with HIV, the virus which causes AIDS. Duane and the state Senate, dominated as it is by conservative Republicans from suburban and upstate New York, would seemlike an awkward fit. Butnearly five months into his first term in Albany, the Democrat from Manhattan says he has been treated wall by his new colleagues and he believes his presence has had an effectinnudging forward abill toughening penalties for hate crimes and another providing more civil rights for Gays and Lesbians. "Neither all of the other senators nor I knew exactly what to expect," Duane, 44, said. "But I think that time together and familiarity has in some ways lessened the mystery about each other." Twice so far on the floor of the Senate when hate-crime related bills were being discussed, Duane has spoken at length about the three times he was assaulted by people spouting anti-Gay epithets. "I’m not even going to talk about all the times I’ve been verbally harassed," he said each time. -" Matt Foreman of the Gay advocacy group ¯ Empire State Pride Agenda said having a sitting ¯ senator offering such powerful testimony cannot ¯ hdp but have an effect on softening attitudes, ¯ even in the Senate, which Foreman derides as ¯ "one of the las t bastions ofignorance andbigotry gamst Gay people. It is a whole new dynaunc i for us to have up here a senator who can go peer- . to-peer and talk to people about our issues," ¯ Foreman said. ¯ Senators and spectators alike listened with ¯ "rapt attention" when Duane talked about Gay- " bashing incidents he was involved in, according : to Foreman. "It becomes real," Foreman said. ¯ "HIV issues become real, and living with AIDS ¯ becomes real when a colleague is facing those : issues himself. My sense is people thought he ¯ was going to be a radical... If anything, Tom can : be one of the most charming and funny people in ¯ the w0rld." ¯ Duane said he may be impassioned, but he is ¯ still not all that comfortable discussing his ¯ homosexuality or HIV-positive status. That is despite spending seven years on the New York ¯ City Council as an advocate for Gays and people ¯ living with AIDS before being elected to the ¯ Senate last November. "When I decide to raise ¯ the issues, I have to take a somewhat deeper ¯ breath than I do when I am going to speak on : other issues because it is so personal and it has ¯ come withalong-termpersonal struggle with the ¯ whole issue of being out," Duane said. "It still ¯" doesn’t come naturally," he added. "I have to put together my inner forces to be able to get up and ¯ speak on Lesbian-Gay issues and AIDS issues ¯ with the self-assurance and spirit that I think it ¯" needs to move my colleagues." ¯ One issue where Duane has had no effect is on changing the state Senate’s policy ofnotextending ¯ benefits to the domesticpartners ofits employees. ~ The Democrat-controlled state Assembly does ¯ so, and so does the executive branch of ~ government under orders of Republican Gov. ¯ George Pataki. But the Senate does not. Its ¯ majority leader, Joseph Bruno, once referred to ¯ homosexuality as an "abnormal lifestyle." "It ¯ sends a signal that discrimination is tolerated," : Duane said of the policy. "It provides a ¯ disincentive to people not to be more out front.. ¯ . It is blatant discrimination." Family benefits are ¯ designed for married couples and their children ~ and there are no plans to change the policy, ¯ Bruno spokesman John McArdle said. ¯ Methodist Anti-Gay " Witchhunt Continues ¯ DENVER (AP) - A Methodist layman has ¯ accused a Denver-areabishop ofbreaking church ." law by.al,lowing a minister to officiate at same- . sex umons. Mel Brown of Johnstown filed the : complaint against Bishop Mary Ann Swenson ¯ with the denomination’s College of Bishops. ¯ The charge centers on the activities of the Rev. ¯ Toni Cook, pastor of St. Paul’s United Methodist ¯ Church on Capitol Hill, who acknowledges she ¯ has officiated at same-sex unions for"commiRed, ¯ loving couples." Brown said church law bars ¯ ministers from officiating at same-sex unions. ¯ He claimed Ms. Swenson is guilty "of ¯ disobedience to the order and discipline." The ¯ church’s Book of Discipline, says bishops are to ¯ "teach and uphold the theological traditions of " the United Methodist Church." The church’s ." highest court, the Judicial Council, ruled earlier ¯ this year a person could face church charges for ¯ officiating at same-sex unions. Any church court : proceeding would be lengthy, ff Ms. Swenson is ¯ found guilty of disobeying church law, she may ¯" be removed from her position. ¯ Ms. Swenson said she has felt "Mel Brown’s ¯ rage" for several years. The filing of charges is : just another step in his efforts to force, her ¯ resignation, she claimed. Ms. Swenson said she : is "not aware of actualities or specifics" about ¯ Ms. Cook’s ministry, but added that "there’s ¯ been no criticism of her work by the Kelly Kirby, CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation 4021 7 47-5466 S. Harvard, Suite 210, Tulsa 74135 MCC-United formerly Family of Faith & Greater Tulsa MCC Joined as one body of believers¯ Come celebrate with us. Sunday Services, 11 am 1623 North Maplewood, 838-1715 GLAD (~ay & Lesbian Affordable Oaycare) Joan & Teresa Wright P.O. 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Ms.Cooksaidsheis"dumbfounded,’aboutthecharges. ¯ "I believe my job as pastor is to offer the same pastoral " support, sacraments and rituals to all members and that includes Gays, Lesbians, Bisexuals and Transgendered ¯ people.Wedon’thave second:class citizens at St. Paul’ s," she said. " St. Paul’s declared several years ago thatitis open to all " people, including Gays. Brown’s charges wereforwarded ¯ to Bishop William Dew of Phoenix, who said that no bishop has ever faced charges for allowing a minister to officiate at same-sex unions. In the past several years, a mi.’nister in Chicago and one in Nebraska were tried in church courts forperforming such unions. One was found guilty andone was foundinnocent. "To chargea supervisor (bishop) after the fact may not go directly to the issue (of same-sex union)," Dew said. Church law requires Dew to ask the parties to meet to resolve their differences. If that fails, a three-member committeeis named which will meet with the twoparties. If that committee decides the charges are grave, an investigative committee will meet to decide whether a church trial is warranted "In all my 63 years I’ve never : seen a bishop on trial," said Dew. "A person should be ¯ absolutely dear and serious about charges against a -" bishop." Brown, a semi-retired farm supply dealer, said he filed the charges against Ms. Swenson rather than Ms. Cook"to getmorenational attention. Mary AnnSwenson should resign." Hepreviously calledforherresignationin 1996 because she, along with 14 other Methodist bishops, publicly supported the right ofpracticingGays to be ordained. The 15, who made the dissent statement during the church’s national convention in Denver, said th,e~( would follow church law that bans such ordinations. Over the years Brown has written letters to Ms. Swenson to complain about her salary, how she spends vacation time and how she votes on church issues. Massachusetts Gay Bashers Sentenced NORTHAMPTON, Mass. (AP) - Three men have been sentenced to jail for a Main Street attack on a Gay man a year ago. Jameson Conz, 19, of Northampton; Zachary Keefe, 20, ofNor~harapton, andJoshuaPhelps, 22,pleaded guilty in Hampshire Superior Court to assault and battery with intent to intimidate a person because of his sexual orientation. Conz, who had gone to high school with the 19-year-old victim, and Keefe were ordered to serve 18 months of a 21/2-yearjail sentence. Phelps was ordered to serve six months of a 2 1/2-year sentence. After shouting anti-Gay slurs, the three beat and kicked the victim on May 24, 1998, according to prosecutor Renee Steese. "The incident was an unprovoked act of violence against an individual simply walking back to his truck after work," Steese told thejudge. "It had a very traumatic effect on the victim." Oregon House Considers Anti-Gay Marriage Bill SALEM, Ore. (AP) - A key state lawmaker has warned that a court decision giving Gay public employees the same benefits as married workers could dear the way for same-sex marriages in Oregon. Rep. Kevin Mannix, R-Salem, has proposed an amendment to the state constitution to define marriage as only the union between amanand a woman. The measure would also bar the courts from requiring that unmarried partners be entitled to domesticbenefits. Matmix said that the measure is aimed an Oregon Court of Appeals ruling !ast year that banned discrimination against homosexuals in the workplace and required governments to provide insurance benefits to same-sex domestic partners of government employees. Thedecisionwas basedonaPortlandnursingprofessor’s case against Oregon Health Sciences University, where she has worked for 12 years. Christine Tanner, a mother of two who in a long-term relationship with another woman, told the House Judiciary-Civil Committee that Mannix’s proposal would erase that ruling. "Please, please donot sendamessage tomychildren that, somehow, their family is less than equal in the eyes of the state," she said. Jean Harris of Basic Rights oregon, a group that fights anti-Gay meusttres, said theproposal was a thinly disgnised attempt at discriminating against homosexuals. "We already can’t get married - so why push this out?" she asked. "It’s about keeping us from having benefits." Mannix said the appeals court ruling leaves room for others who are barred from marriage - like first cousins - to also ask for rights that have been reserved for heterosexual married couples. Hecalled the appeals court ruling "perverse reasoning," and said most Oregonians would support a constitutional amendment, which the ¯ courts could not change. "What we are doing is taking a : position of neutrality," he .said. "But we are drawing a ¯ firmlineinprotectingatraditionalfamilytmit: marriage." : Others said barring same-sex marriages would protect ¯ children from being raised outside of the "secure : environment"ofaheterosexual union. "We are not taking ¯ the institution of marriage as seriously as we ought to," : said Jerry Propst, aBaptistminister from Hillsboro. "The : institution of marriage is a sacred trust." _" Dave Fidanque, director of oregon American Civil ¯¯ Liberties-Union, argued that the proposal would discriminate against Gay Oregonians - and that it has taken years to remove other discriminatory provisions from the state constitution. "This proposal would permit discrimination against a class of citizens in our state," he said. "It would be as much of a mistake as past ¯ discrimination." The measure is HJR29. ",Gay Bank Closeto Opening ¯ PENSACOLA, Fla. (AP) - G&L Bank has entered the : final phase of the federal approval process and is looking : toward a possible fall opening as the nation’s first bank _" designed primarily for homosexual customers. ¯ Thebank,whose initials standforGay andLesbian,has ¯ received a "deemed complete" letter on its application ," with the Office ofThrift Supervision, saidG&Lpresident ¯ Steven Dunlap. That means the federal agency has 60 ¯ days to approve or deny the bank’s request to operate. ¯ "We have no reason to believe we Won’t get an up sign," ¯" said bank president G. Kay Griffith. G&Lofficers earlier , had hoped for a spring opening, but the approval process i has taken longer than anticipated. ¯ In addition to focusing on homosexuals, G&L would : beamong only afew banks operating nationallyprimarily ¯ on the Intemet and the first to offer consumer loans via e- ¯" commerce, said Griffith, aformer NationsBank executive : and bank consultant. The downtown bank plans to hold ¯ an open house over the Memorial Day weekend, when : thousands of Gays and Lesbians traditionally flock to ~ Pensacola area beaches. A similar open house last year ." attracted 1,400 visitors from 21 states, Dunlap said. G&L ¯ also is getting interest from Blacks and unmarried ¯" heterosexual couples who are looking for "a bank which : doesn’tdiscriminate againstanybody,"Dunlap said. Many ~ banks refuse to consider dual incomes when unmarried : .. couples apply for loans or mortgages, he said. ¯ Black Gay Church Thrives CHICAGO (AP) - For Black homosexuals, many of whom say they feel misunderstood by other Blacks as ¯ well as the white Gay community, one church offers a ¯ haven where they can worship without fear of ¯ discrimination. Men with men, women with women, their children and : parents are all welcome at the Church of the Open Door, ¯ say its founders, the Rev. Alma Faith Crawford and her : partner, the Rev. Karen Hurt. The two pastors started the ¯ church, whichis affiliated with the Unitarian Universalis! ¯ Association, three years ago as a Bible study group ~n their apartment. ¯ Since then, the congregation has grown to 275 and has : settled into its own red brick house of worship in the ¯ Chicago Lawn neighborhood on the city’s southwest side. At a time when many faiths are divided over the inclusion of Gays and Lesbians and the ramifications of : same-sex marriages, Open Door is the only place of ¯ worship in Chicago founded specifically for those who ¯ are both Gay and Black. ¯ Members say they joined Open Door after feeling ¯ unwelcome in other churches. "They will takemymoney ¯ but they won’t let me into heaven," said Lloyd Kelly, 38. Kelly said he eventually grew tired of pastors and priests : elsewhere saying that homosexuals will burn in hell. Among the Open Door congregation are also members : who previously attended churches that were open to Gays and Lesbians but were predominantly white and not always culturally sensitive. "It’s not that the Gay white church letme down; the difference is that here my culture as an African-American is celebrated," said Elandria Henderson, 50, who drives across the city to attend Sunday services at Open Door. The church’s two flagsa rainbow banner of Gay pride and the red, Black and green African-American heritage- are symbolic of most of its congregation. But Open Door’s founders say they also want others in the diverse working class neighborhood who have felt the sting of discrimination to feel welcome. "We want to cross those bridges that divide us as African-Americans, as immigrants, as peopledue to class, education or sexual orientation," Crawford said. To that end, the church offers English as a second language and computer training in its annex. Church leaders also have worked with neighbors to rid the area of drug dealers and to start a block club. It is the church’s community involvement, police say, that has likely prevented any protests over what many might consider a controversial congregation. "They want to be good neighbors," said police Sgt. JohnAndrews."Sofar they’ve been proactive and productive." Virginia "Sodomy" Law Challenged ROANOKE, Va. (AP) - A Gay activist invited four of Roanoke’s top law enforcement officials to join him in a private act of sodomy, arguing if they don’ t prosecutehim for soliciting sex, then they cannot prosecute 18 men charged with allegedly seeking Gay sex in a city park. Franklin Kameny, 74, a longtime Washington, D.C., Gay activist sent letters last week to Circuit Judges Richard Pattisall and Robert Doherty, Assistant Commonwealth’s Attorney Alice Ekirchand Police Chief Arias "Joe" Gaskins. The goal of the letters, he said in a telephone interview, is to bring attent~" on to "these anta" quated sodomy laws m¯ Virginia.. which make felons of virtually every adult member of the populous of the state." "It raises the question that if they’ve been solicited and they don’t respond,how can they charge other peoplefor soliciting?" he said. The four letter recipients have either ruled in the park sex cases or been involved in prosecuting the men. Ms. Ekirch said she received the letter, which she believes does violate the law against solicitation. She declined to comment further, citing the ongoing cases. The other recipients also have declined to comment. Kamenywas notprosecuted afterhewentonan Alexandria Gay issues radio show in December and solicited the entire state of Virginia for sodomy. For years, Roanoke police have brought misdemeanor charges against "cruisers" who sought anonymous Gay sex in the park and other public places. Police said complaints from citizens about blatant sexual activity in Wasena Park led them to seek felony sodomy indictments against the men in the latest eases. In his letter, Kameny invited the f,our officials "to, engage withmein an act or acts of sodbmy of your choice and as defined by S ection 18.2-361 of the Virginia Code, in some indisputably private place in the state ofVirginia, at a time of our mutual-convenience.’" Kameny wrote that the letter would be "published and publicized, with intent to embarrass each of you individually and by name, and to bring you into public contempt and ridicule nationally, as well as to make a contemptible laughingstock of your benighted, barbaric, backward state." Theletter is similar to one Kameny wrote to Washington officials in 1972 as part of a three-decade movement to have the district’s sodomy law repealed. It finally was repealed in 1993, with Kameny writing the statute. Kameny said he "would be absolutely delighted" to be arrested because it would afford him the opportunity to make a media circus of a probable extradition hearing in Washington, and each subsequent hearing in the case. In open court, he said, he would solicit the judge for sex, forcing him to disqualify himself from the case, and continue soliciting everyjudge broughtin to hear the case until no state judges remained digible. Kameny also has posted e-mails on the Internet urging others to solicit law enforcement personnel in Roanoke. "You push whenever you have the opportunity and hope something comes of it," he said. superintendent or her congregation." "It’s not my job to be a policeman," Ms. Swenson said. Ms. Cooksaid sheis"dumbfounded"aboutthe charges. "I believe my job as pastor is to offer the same pastoral support, sacraments and rituals to all members and that includes Gays, Lesbians, Bisexuals and Transgendered people.Wedon’thave second-class citizens at St. Patti’s," she said. St. Paul’s declared several years ago thatitis open to all people, including Gays. Brown’s charges wereforwarded to Bishop William Dew of Phoenix, who said that no bishop has ever faced charges for allowing a minister to officiate at same-sex unions. In the past several years, a minister in Chicago and one in Nebraska were tried in church courts forperforming such unions. One was found guilty andonewas foundinnocent. ’~To charge a supervisor (bishop) after the fact may not go directly to the issue (of same-sex union)," Dew said. Church law requires Dew to ask the parties to meet to resolve their differences. If that fails, a three-member committeeis named which will meetwith the two parties. If that committee decides the charges are grave, an investigative committee will meet to decide whether a church trial is warranted. "In all my 63 years I’ve never seen a bishop on trial," said Dew. "A person should be absolutely clear and serious about charges against a bishop." Brown, a semi-retired farm supply dealer, said he filed the charges against Ms. Swenson rather than Ms. Cook"to getmorenational attention. Mary AnnSwenson should resign." Hepreviously calledforherresignationin 1996because she, along with 14 other Methodist bishops, publicly supported theright of practicing Gays to be ordained. The 15, who made the dissent statement during the church’s national convention in Denver, said they would follow church law that bans such ordinations. Over the years Brown has written letters to Ms. Swe~on to complain about her salary, how she spends vacation time and how she votes on church issues. Massachusetts Gay Bashers Sentenced NORTHAMPTON, Mass. (AP) - Three men have been sentenced to jail for a Main Street attack on a Gay man a year ago. Jameson Conz, 19, of Northampton; Zachary Keefe, 20, ofNorthampton, andJoshnaPhelps, 22, pleaded guilty in Hampshire Superior Court to assault and battery with intent to intimidate a person because of his sexual orientation. Conz, who had gone to high school with the 19-year-old victim, and Keefe were ordered to serve 18 months of a 21/2-year jail sentence. Phelps was ordered to serve six months of a 2 1/2-year sentence. After shouting anti-Gay slurs, the three beat and kicked the victim on May 24, 1998, according to prosecutor Renee Steese. "The incident was an unprovoked act of violence against an individual simply walking back to his truck after work," Steese told thejudge. "Ithad a very traumatic effect on the victim." Oregon House Considers Anti-Gay Marriage Bill SALEM, Ore. (AP) - A key state lawmaker has warned that a court decision giving Gay public employees the same benefits as mamed workers could clear the way for same-sex marriages in Oregon. Rep. Kevin Mannix, R-Salem, has proposed an amendment to the state constitution to define marriage as only the union between aman and a woman. The measure would also bar the courts from requiring that unmarried partners be entitled to domesticbenefits. Mannix said that the measure is aimed an Oregon Court of Appeals ruling last year that banned discrimination against homosexuals in the workplace and required governments to provide insurance benefits to same-sex domestic partners of government employees. Thedecisionwas basedonaPortlandnursingprofessor’ s ease against Oregon Health Sciences University, where she has worked for 12 years. Christine Tanner, a mother Of two who in a long-term relationship with another woman, told the House Judiciary-Civil Committee that Mannix’s proposal would erase that ruling. "Please, pleasedonot sendamessage tomychildren that, somehow, their family is less than equal in the eyes of the state," she said. - Jean Harris of Basic Rights Oregon, a group that fights anti-Gay measures, said the proposal was a thinly disguised attempt at discriminating against homosexuals. "We already can’t get married - so why push this out?" she asked. "It’s about keeping us from having benefits." Mannix said the appeals court ruling leaves room for others who are barred from marriage - like first cousins - to also ask for rights that have been reserved for heterosexual married couples. Hecalled the appeals court ruling "perverse reasoning," and said most Oregonians would support a constitutional amendment, which the courts could not change. "What we are doing is taking a position of neutrality," he said. "But we are drawing a firmlineinprotecting atraditional family unit: marriage." Others said barfing same-sex marriages would protect children from being raised outside of the "secure environment"ofaheterosexual union. "We are not taking he institution of marriage as seriously as we ought to," said Jerry Propst, a Baptist minister from Hillsboro. ’q’he nstitution of marriage is a sacred trust." Dave Fidanque, director of Oregon American Civil Liberties .Union, argued that the proposal would discriminate against Gay Oregonians - and that it has taken years to remove other discriminatory provisions from the state constitution. ’q’his proposal would permit discrimination against a class of citizens in our state," he said. "It would be as much of a mistake as past discrimination." The measure is HJR29. Gay Bank Closeto Opening PENSACOLA, Fla. (AP) - G&L Bank has entered the final phase of the federal approval process and is looking toward a possible fall opemng as the nation’s first bank designed primarily for homosexual cnstomers. Thebank, whoseinitials stand forGay and Lesbian, has received a "deemed complete" letter on its application withthe Office ofThrift Supervision, saidG&Lpresident Steven Dunlap. That means the federal agency has 60 days to approve or deny the bank’s request to operate. "We have no reason to believe we won’t get an up sign, said bank president G. Kay Griffith. G&Lofficers earlier had hoped for a spring opening, but the approval process has taken longer than anticipated. In addition to focusing on homosexuals, G&L would beamong only afew banks operating nationally primarily on the Internet and the first to offer consumer loans via ecommerce, saidGriffith, aformer NationsBank executive and bank consultant. The downtown bank plans to hold an open house over the Memorial Day weekend, when thousands of Gays and Lesbians traditionally flock to Pensacola area beaches. A similar open house last year attracted 1,400 visitors from 21 states, Dunlap said. G&L also is getting interest from Blacks and unmarried heterosexual couples who are looking for "a bank which doesn’tdiscriminate againstanybody,"Dunlap said. Many banks refuse to consider dual incomes when unmarried couples apply for loans or mortgages, he said. Black Gay Church Thrives CHICAGO (AP) - For Black homosexuals, many of whom say they feel misunderstood by other Blacks as well as the white Gay community, one church offers a haven where they can worship without fear of discrimination. Men with men, women with women, their children and parents are all welcome at the Church of the Open Door, say its founders, the Rev. Alma Faith Crawford and her partner, the Rev. Karen Hutt. The two pastors started the church, whichis affiliated with the Unitarian Universali.st Association, three years ago as a Bible study group m their apartment. ¯ Since then, the congregation has grown to 275 and has ¯¯ settled into its own red brick house of worship in the ¯ Chicago Lawn neighborhood on the city’s southwest side. At a time when many faiths are divided over the ¯ inclusion of Gays and Lesbians and the ramifications of ¯ same-sex marriages, Open Door is the only place of ¯ worship in Chicago founded specifically for those who ." are both Gay and Black. Members say they joined Open Door after feeling unwelcome in other churches. "They will takemy money : but they won’t let me into heaven," said Lloyd Kelly, 38. : Kelly said he eventtmlly grew tired of pastors and priests : elsewhere saying that homosexuals will bum in hell. ¯ Among theOpen Door congregation are alsomembers ¯ who previously attended churches that were open to Gays and Lesbians but were predominantly white and not always culturally sensitive. "It’s not that the Gay white church letme down; the difference is that heremy culture as an African-American is celebrated," said Elandria Henderson, 50, who drives across the city to attend Sunday services at Open Door. The church’s two flagsa rainbow banner of Gay pride and the red, Black and green African-American heritage- are symbolic of most of its congregation. But Open Door’s founders say they also want others in the diverse working class neighborhood who have felt the sting of discrimination to feel welcome. "We want to cross those bridges that divide us as African-Americans, as immigrants, as people due to clas s, education or sexual orientation," Crawford said. To that end, the church offers English as a second languageand computer training in its annex. Church leaders also have worked with neighbors to rid the area of drug dealers and to start a block club. It is the church’s comrmmity involvement, police say, that has likely prevented any protests over what many might consider a controversial congregation. "They want to be good neighbors,"saidpolice Sgt. JohnAndrews."Sofar they’ve been proactive and productive." Virginia "Sodomy" Law Challenged ROANOKE, Va. (AP) - A Gay activist invited four of Roanoke’s top law enforcement officials to join him in a private act ofsodomy, arguing if they don’ t prosecutehim for soliciting sex, then they cannot prosecute 18 men charged with allegedly seeking Gay sex in a city park. Franklin Kameny, 74, a longtime Washington, D.C., Gay activist sent letters last week to Circuit Judges Richard Pattisall and Robert Doherty, Assistant Commonwealth’s Attorney Alice Ekirchand Police Chief Atlas "Joe" Gaskins. The goal of the letters, he said in a telephone interview, is to bring attention to"these antiquated sodomy laws in Virginia... which make felons of virtually every adult member of the populous of the state." "It raises the question that if they’ve been solicited and they don’t respond,how can they charge other people for soliciting?" he said. The four letter recipients have either rnled in the park sex cases or been involved in prosecuting the men. Ms. Ekirch said she received the letter, which she believes does violate the law against solicitation. She declined to comment further, citing the ongoing cases. The other recipients also have declined to comment. Kamenywas notprosecuted afterhewentonan Alexandria Gay issues radio show in December and solicited the entire state of Virginia for sodomy. For years, Roanoke police have brought misdemeanor charges against "cruisers" who sought anonymous Gay sex in the park and other public places. Police said complaints from citizens about blatant sexual activity in WasenaPark led them to seek felony sodomy indictments against the men in the latest eases. In hi.s letter., Kame.ny invi.ted the.four of.ficials "to engage withmein an act or acts of sodb~ny of your choice and as defined by Section 18.2-361 of the Virginia Code, in some indisputably private place in the state of Virginia, at a time of our mutual convenience." Kameny wrote that the letter would be "published and publicized, with intent to embarrass each of you individually and by name, and to bring you into public contempt and ridicule nationally, as well as to make a contemptible laughingstock of your benighted, barbaric, backward state." Theletter is si rail ar to one Kameny wrote to Washington officials in 1972 as part of a three-decade movement to have the district’s sodomy law repealed. It finally was repealed in 1993, with Kameny writing the statute. Kameny said he "would be absolutely delighted" to be arrested because it would afford him the opportunity to make a media circus of a probable extradition heating in Washington, and each subsequent hearing in the case. In open court, he said, he would solicit the judge for sex, forcing him to disqualify himself from the case, and continue soliciting everyjudge brought in to hear the case until no state judges remained eligible. Kameny also has posted e-mails on the Intemet urging others to solicit law enforcement personnd in Roanoke. "You push whenever you have the opportunity and hope something comes of it," he said. Thymus Gland May : Offer AIDS Hope LOS ANGELES (AP) - An immune ¯ system gland once thought to be inactive ". in adults actually continues to function : late in life, according to research that ¯ couldlead tonew waysofreactivating the : natural defenses of AIDS and cancer ] patients. " The thymus, a pinkish-gray organ near the heart, is the primary source of germ- : fighting T cells. It was believed to be ] active only during fetal development and childhood before slowly turning into fat : in adults. The research reported in the ] journal Immunity suggests that although ~ the gland’s productivity slows with age, it ¯ remains active nonetheless. "It gives us hope thai if we can find ways to boostup the activity ofthe thymus, we could speed up the replacement of T cells"lost to the AIDS virus, stud Beth D. Jamieson, a biologist at the University of California, Los Angeles AIDS Institute who led the study. "There’s still a source available forT cells, which wasnotthought to be the case previously.’" Drugs also could be developed for" cancer patients whose immune systems have been destroyed by chemotherapy. But tests ofpossible treatments are at least two years away, Jamieson said. David Schwartz, professor of mol.ecular microbiology-immunology at the Johns Hopkins School of Public Health, said the study offers important information that will be "very useful for understanding how we can generate new immune responses as we get older." "It means we don’t have to rely on T cells that are produced in the first decade of our lives," he said. Previous studies showed that new T cells were being producedby AIDS patients who had been taking potentcombinations ofAIDS drugs. But it was not known where in the body those cells were being created. The research found that the thymus continues to turn stem cells produced .by bone marrow into T cells that recogmze the body’s foreign invaders and eider attackthemdirectly orproduce antibodies to finish them off. The UCLA researchers studied more than a dozen thymuses from organdonors andpeoplewhohad sections of their glands removed during heart surgery. Although agi.’ng does not appear to decrease the effecttveness of the new T cells,it does lead to areductionin quantity. The oldest subject in the testing was 56. for75% of HIV eases among Mississippi women. Blacks make up 12% of the U.S. population and 45% of new AIDS cases, according to statistics from the Centers for Disease Control Prevention. State statistics show "the trend for African Americanwomenhas beenonaconsistent rise and that is disturbing," Thompson said. "AfricanAmericanwomenconslatute the fastest and only increase in population in terms of morbidity with HIV disease," he said. Cultural mores about the medical community, a lack of medical care and money to pay forit and thenumber ofmen who are having sex with both men and women are among the reasons HIV is growing amongBlackwomen,Thompso.n said. But the state health department is ¯ committed to working toward reversing ¯ the trend. "We’re trying to funnel federal ¯ prevention funds into community based ¯ organizations that work very dosdy with ¯ African American women to detect what ¯ places them at the greatest risk and what ¯ can be done to prevent that risk," ¯ Thompson said. ¯ Fivemillion dollars in state and federal ¯ funds are also available to assist HIV and AIDS patients receive medicine, he said. ¯ Data shows education is critical to ¯ decreasing the transmission of the HIV virus, Thompson said. "It’s encouraging ¯ to look at the trend over time and look at ¯ where the money has been placed," he ¯ said. "African ,amaerican women are a ¯ number onepriority for f.unding so maybe ¯ in the next several years we will see these ¯ . numbers will go down." Women also need tobecome advocates ¯ mddemandbetterfunding and educational programs, said Tylene Harrell, resource coordinator for the National Black Women’s Health Project in Washington, . D.C. It is critical to address cultural and economic issues that affect the Black ¯ women because social issues affect their behavior and their behavior can put them at risk, Thompson said. "Poverty, sexual abuse, family planning, virtually every thing that happens in the state affects people’s behavior," he said. Modifying behavior and examining relationships are essential to preventing the spread of HIV, said Jackyie Coleman, director of assistance with the National Minority AIDS Council in Washington D.C. "We must discuss the meaning sex, the roles of men and women and trust issues, Coleman said. Jordan agrees. "Love cankill," she said. "It was somebody that I thought I loved and cared for thathad done this to me. But I got over that. I amnot the victimbecause I didn’t do what I should have done. We ¯ need to start investigating partners before we get involved with them." Arming ¯ people with information and knowledge ¯ is apart of Jordan’s life mission now that ¯ ¯ she has contracted the virus. "I want to egapower boys, girls, men and women to ¯ know what’s out there." she said. "ff you ¯ don’t take charge of your life you give ¯ ¯ somebody else charge to destroy your life." BlackWomen Need Info. to Fight AIDS JACKSON, Miss. (AP)-Seven years ago when Betty Jordan was told she had contracted the HIV virus she was devastated anduninformed. "WhenI found out I had HIV I didn’t even know what HIV and AIDS was," she said Friday at the Women with a Mission AIDS forum for Black women sponsored by State Department of Health. "When they told me what it was I said ’youjusthanded me adeath sentence that I don’tknow anything about,’ "Jordan said. Jordan, a 47-year-old AIDS educator from Hattiesburg, is one of the many Black women in the state who live with HIV and AIDS. Black women make up 21% of Mississippi’s population living with the virus, that causes AIDS, said Craig Thompson, director of the STD/ HIV division of the state health department. Thompson said Black women account ¯ High Court Lets HIV PrOtections Stand : WASHINGTON (AP) - The Supreme ¯ Court rejected an appeal Monday by a ¯ Maine dentist who was sued for refusing ¯ t’o treat a woman in his office because she ¯ had the virus that causes AIDS. The court ¯ turnedawaywithoutcommentDr. Randon ¯ Bragdon’s contention that filling a cavity ¯ in Sidney Abbott’s tooth at his office Power Do Good. Supporting Local Community Events Is Something Everyone Can Do. PSO has served the electrical needs of our customers here for almost 80 years now. But we also serve broader needs. By contributing to the education of our By supporting cultural events in communities. And by working h.andin- hand with business and government to strengthen our economy. Because at PSO, we believe one of the best things about being your power company...is having the power to do good. Public Service Company of Oklahoma A Central and South West Company www.csw.com Medical Excellence And ¯ Compass. onate Care Since 1926. a ¯ ST. JOHN. MEDICAL CENTER !~ Medical Excellence-Compassionate Care would have posed a "direct threat" to his health and safety. Lower courts rejected the claim and ruled for Abbott without even holding trials on her claims of discrimination. Although the action was not a ruling and set no national precedent, it was praised by Gay civil-rights advocates. "This is the final chapter in a long history of this case, which established that health-care providers cannot refuse critical services to patients with HIV based upon unscientific beliefs about HIV transmission," said Bennett Klein of the Boston-based Gay & Lesbian Advocates &Defenders. He servedas one ofAbbott’s lawyers. Bragdon, who did not return a message left at his Bangor, Maine, office, had urged the nation’s highest court to use the case to clarify when disabled people can be treated differently under a federal antiprejudice law, the Americans with Disabilities Act. The ADA protects the disabled against discrimination in jobs, housing andpublicacenmmodations. The same Maine dispute was the subject of a major Supreme Court decision just last June, whenthejustices saidpeopleinfected with HIV can sue under that 1990 law. That decision was the court’s first ever involving the human immunodeficiency virus that causes acquired immune deficiency syndrome. It was praised by Gay civil-rights activists. In returning the Maine case to a federal appeals court~be justices said then that a health-care provider’s actions should be judged according to "the objectivereasonableness of the views of health-care professionals without deferring to their individual judgments." Public health authorities say ilieNis no documented case ofa dentist contracting theAIDS virus from apatient. Bragdon contended he should be allowed to use his ownjudgment on how to safely treat suchpatients. Hehad offered to fill Abbott’s cavity at ahospital near his office, but the procedure would have cost more there. When the 1st U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals restudied the case, it ruled in December that Abbott’s legal victory in the discrimination case should stand andthat no tlial was necessary. She had won a judgment saying Bragdon should stop discriminating but received no monetary award. High Schooler May Help Cure AIDS AMES, Iowa (AP) -Ahigh school junior who moved to the United States just six years ago is winning someofthe country’s top scholarships and conducting research his teachers say could help win the fight againstAIDS. When Feng Zhang came to Iowa six years ago with his mother, he spoke no English, but was eager to learn the language - and more. "I didn’t know how big this thing was I was getting into," he says. "I just felt fortunate to have the oppormnity."Today, Feng is a 17-year-old junior at Roosevelt High School in Des Moines. In tile past three years he has won $54,000 in cash and scholarships. The highlight came in Philadelphia earlier this month, when he captured the $40,000 first-place award in an international science fair sponsored by Intel Corp. That makes him one of the top student scientists in the world. Experts say Feng’s research offers clues about stoppmg theAIDS virus. "This has an applicationth;at could truly be revolutionary," says Dr. Robert Donato, Are You Gay. or Bisex.ual? Are You Nat,ve Amer,can? Suppo~ Group is here for you! ¯ Evening sup~ group meetings ¯ Relationship workshops ¯ Sho~ trips, outings and retreats ¯ Free HIV testing For information call Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project at 582-7225 Ext. 208 or 218 ,I WORKING CLASS HEROES.IMAGES FROM THE POPULAR CULTURE ,it Fred Jones Jr, Museum of Art 410 W, Royal TSe University of Oklahoma one of thejudges. Feng says he has always known his mission. ’q?he purpose was to get a good education and to do what I can for the people around me," he says. He learned that early, in the Chinese city of Shijiazhuang, a sister city of Des Moines, in the province of Hebei, a sister state of I0wa. His parents are chemical engineers, his mother a computer expert as wall. His father also is a university administrator. Feng remembers what they told him, day after day: "Do the best you can do. Be the best you can be. And do something for humanity." "Definitely. That’s the meaning of being alive," be said. Feng’s mother, ShujunZhou, says she noticedhis uncanny ability to memorize names as a toddler. In 1989, as a visiting scholar at the University of Dubuque, she decided the United States offered more advanced educational and technological opporttmities for her bright son. She accepted ajob in Des Moines and brought Feng, her only child, with her. The boy’s father remained in China. Marilyn Ritz, who teaches English as a second language at Callahan Middle School, was in her office when Feng, his mother and a sponsor arrived. "What’s your name?" she asked him. No response. "He hadno cluewhatI was talking about," she says. The school had a part-time teacher who spoke some Chinese. The rest was up to Feng. He listened for key words, thenlooked themupin his Chinese- American dictionary. "I wanted to learn to commumcate as soon as possible so I could learn other things," he says. Says Ritz: "Before long, he was getting everything." But while Feng is a serious student, "he also has a nonsenous side to him," says Sean Stanek, 17, a classmate who also won an award in the Intcl competition. "He’s not like one of those Type-A personalities." Feng will tell you he’s not perfect. He plays no musical instrument, has no hook shot, and enjoys Saturday morning cartoons, particularly Bugs Bunny. But Stanek expects big things fromhi s friend."He’ s the future,"he says. "He’s bound to discover something profound." Maybe he already has. Two years ago Feng began studying at the Human Gene Therapy Research Institutein Des Moines. For his science fair project this year, Feng chose to study a retrovirus similar to HIV, the AIDS virus. While AZT and protease inhibitors try to prevent the duplication of the AIDS virus, Feng wondered if it was possible to genetically interfere with the creation ofthe virus andrenderitharmless. The results are promising. Can Feng’s work lead to an AIDS cure? "I’m not sure," he says. "I’d have to be very lucky to do that." John Levy, a staff scientist at the institute, plans to have Feng’s research published in a scientific paper. "This could have enormous implications," he says. Feng’s not sure what to do next or where to attend college. He would like to combine his interests in biology and computers and see where that leads him. U.Pittsburgh Leads HIV Research PITTSBURGH (AP) - To the Gay men they sought for blood samples, the University ofPittsburgh researchers were known as the "vampires," people who lurked in the basements and back rooms of bars with needles at the ready. They worked in cooperation with bar owners ¯¯ who plied subjects with free beer. They enlisted the help of popular barflies who ¯ goaded other patrons into participating. ¯ They became the lifeblood of a ¯ pioneering researchproject, now 15 years ¯ old, that has changed treatment for HIV ¯ and offered a definitive glimpse of its : history. ’qqae study raised the awareness ; level,"Gay bar owner Chuck Home said. ¯ "Just being involved in the study and ; goingevery sixmonths andkeeping (HIV) ¯ prominent in your mind, there was a ¯ tendency to lean to safe sex. "I fear to ¯ ¯ think how many other people we would have lost if we hadn’t had the study." ; Pitt’s researchers began looking for ~ study participants in 1982, two years ¯ beforeHIV-the virus that causes AIDS - ¯ was identified, the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette ¯ reported in Sunday’s edition. That initial. ¯ effort won them the opportunity to take : part in the national Multicenter AIDS ¯ Cohort Study, also known as MACS, in : 1983. The study officially began the ¯ following year in Pittsburgh,LosAngeles, ¯ Chicago and Baltimore. At the end of ¯ 1982, only three AIDS cases had been : identified in Allegheny County, far fewer ¯ than in other cities. But the National ¯ Institutes of Health, which awarded four- " year grants toMACS sites,was impressed ¯ with the Pitt team’s ability to find study ¯ volunteers and wanted a low-incidence city for comparison. Researchers were ¯ helped by Gay bar owners, who promote ¯ the studyin their businesses and paid their ¯ staff to attend AIDS education classes so ¯ they could educate customers. The bar ¯ owners also helped set up recruitment ¯ tents atholiday picnics that attractedmore than 3,000 Gay men. ¯ Honse, co-owner of Images and the ¯ Holiday Bar, both in Pittsburgh, recalled ¯ a Gay Philadelphia bar owner who asked ¯ him why he would want to chase, away ¯ business by reminding people about the ¯ virus. "When people die, they don’t buy ¯ any drinks at all. They’re not ever coming ¯ back," Honse remembered telling him. : Nationwide, more than 5,600 Gay men ¯ have participated in the MACS study, ¯ including 1,242 from the Pittsburgh area. ¯ Of those involved in MACS, 1,685 ." volunteers have died, 214 from the ¯ Pittsburgharea. The studycontinues today. ¯ ¯ Twice ayear, participants give samples of blood, semen, urine, feces and throat ¯ secretions, and can participate in other ." studies about psychological aspects of ¯ HIV infection. New data is used to learn : about the role ofgenedcs andimmunology ¯ in the disease’s progression. MACS data ¯ set the standard formeasuring when HIV ¯ develops into full-blown AIDS and ¯ focused attention on the role of T-cells. : Dr. John Mellors, director ofPitt’s HIV/ ¯ AIDS program, tested the idea that viral ¯ levels in the blood reflect disease : progression, as opposed to measuring its ¯ progress solely with T-cells. His findings : led to a review of stored blood samples ¯ from more than 1,600 MACS volunteers, ¯ and life-saving drug regimens now are ¯ based on viral load as well as T-cell count. ¯ "pittsburgh has been right there at the : center of MACS, provi,,ding leadership : and active participation,’ said Dr. Sten ¯ Vermund of the University ofAlabamain : Birmingham. He watched over the study : for the NIH from 1988to 1994. This year, ¯ Pittsburgh was chosen as a testing site for : AIDSvax, an AIDS-prevention vaccine. Wemaybemovinginto snmmerbutthe ¯ arts are as busy as ever. One of Tnlsa’s : great traditions is snmmer films on the ¯ lawn at Philbrook. Gates open at 7pm for : .picnicking and the films begin at dusk, ". usually about 9pro. It’s only $5 ($3 if ". you’re a member). The first film is "The Miracle of Morgan’s Creek," a 1944 comedy by Preston Sturges. Early in July (7/2), Shirley MacLaine stars with John Forsythe in Hitch-cock’s ’q’he Trouble with Harry." Down at Tbe Performing Arts Center, Theatre No_rib presents the gospel musical, Gospel at Colonus based on Sophocles’ Oedipus at Colodus,f~omJune 24-27in the Doenges Theatre. Theatre Tulsa is doing something but as usual, that organization continues its several year policy of discriminating against Tulsa’s Lesbian and Gay press, and therefore, Gay theatre-goers, and still only provides information to some media. You’dthinkby now they’d get it. 33 cents, I guess is too much extra to spend for some free press. However, our thanks go to American Theatre Companywho’vebeengreat to work with in the last few months. ATC will be presenting Shakespeare in the Park with the greatbard’ s "As You Like It" rnnning June 10-12 and June 17-19 at Manion Park,3003 East56th Street, direcdy behind Nimitz Middle and Grimes Elementary Schools. This is anotherpicmcopportumty and tickets are only $6. Slxmsors are the Oklahoma Arts Council, Fox 23, KCFM and Z104 and one of those other aewspapers out there. ATC will also present a musical premiere, "Big Blondes" on July 9-24 at thePAC’s WilliamsTheatre. BigBlondes featuresMaeWest, Marlene Dietrich,and Marilyn Monroe and is directed by, of course, Jim Queen. Imagine that. The d-the p~t l~ve ml,htr "white," it’s ~ee to ~a little sn~~ there. N~ ff ~*~ i~*t do ,o~tM~O a~ut the eomp~sory heter~xuality -oh wait, we fo~t, hom~ls of any ~to~l si~n~ and even ~ tkere we~, here O~ho~ w~re not ~gto a~ut them. fo~t Dr. Davy Goble ~ve us ym~ of hom~fr~ Tul~ ~story. Definitely one not to miss. Early this month, theArts &Humanities Council will be presenting Chautauqua, Voices ofRagtime, Visions ofour Future Past at OSU-Tulsa, 700 No. Greenwood. Interestingly, these free presentations which feature amateur recreations of historical figures have added this year, a Black historical figure, Madame Walker, a selfmade millionaire entrepreneur. The Chautauqua’s of the past have been mighty "white," so it’s nice to see a little diversity sneaking in there. Now if we could just do something about the compulsory heterosexuality -oh wait, we forgot, there werenohomosexuals ofany historical siguifieance and even ff there were, here in Oklahoma, we’re not going to talk about them. Don’t forgetDr. DnnnyGablegave us 100 years of homo~free Tulsa history. And while we’re picking on the Arts & Humanities Council, any one want to bet that this year’s "Wedding Sampler in the Tradition of Harwelden" remains as oblivious to the emergence of I_~sbian and Gay Unions as the first one? Not that the issue hasn’t been brought to their attention both by this newspaper and by one of theirreally, really cool board members. We’ll see. Also, the big arts organization have announced their upcoming seasons. The Opera’s going traditional with, alas, no Mozartthis year. TulsaBallet will provide the Oklahoma premiere "Lady of the Camellias" based on the novel by AlexandreDumas. This storywas also the inspiration for Garbo’s Camille and Verdi’s La Traviata. Tulsa Ballet will open its season early in October with Anna Karenina and will close the season with Carmina Buranain April 2000. - TFN entertainment editor TOHR & Cimarron Alliance present A Black Tie Optional Dinner with US Congressman Barney Frank 4th District, Massachusetts Saturday, June 12, 1999 Greenwood Cultural Center 322 North Greenwood Dinner and cash bar cocktails: $50 Dinner and cocktails with the Congressman: $125 Information: 743-4297 & goddesses tlairtIappTtlour Tuesday Thursday 3pmtoSpm 835-5563 1247 S. Harvard,Tulsa, NearTO TheShefaFund, aPhiladelphiafoundation has started a new initiative to move the Jewish community beyond mere acceptance a~dinclusionofGay,Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgendered Jews toa stance ofwelcoming and celebration. The Pooled Fund for Jewish Community Activism on Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgendered Issues is now seeking proposals in its t-h-St year of grantmaking. The Shefa Fund anticipates granting $40,000 in 1999, with grants in the range of $5-20,000. "The Jewish community has made strides toward more inclmive policies regardingGay andLesbianJews andtheir families;’said Sue Hoffman, Shefa Fund Associate Director and manager of the grantmakingprogram."Buttheexperience of young teem and families with Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual members indicates that the Jewish community still does not o welcome- let alone celebrate- our lives :¯ and leadership potential." Acenrding tothe ShefaFmadpresident, : Jeffrey Dekro, "the point is that Gay, ¯ Lesbian and Bisexual oppression is a : mainstream Jewish issue. The expansion ¯ of rituals that we seek would expand the ¯ -range of ritmal for dl Jews; the visibility ¯ that we seek would increase visibility for : a/t Jews in their communities; the anti- " violence activism that we seek would ; increase the safety of a/l Jews. This is about expanding possibilities and ¯ inmgrating identities." ¯ Priority will be given to projects that ¯ promote social change, rather than ; providing community SerVlCe~. ¯ Formoreinfo. contact: TheShefaFund, ¯ 805 E Willow Grove Ave., Wyndmoor, ¯ PA 19038, tel: 215-247-9704, fax: 215- ¯ 247-1015 or by e-mail: : shefafnd@libertynet.org Housekeeping& Gardening Service Contact Paul on: (918) 582 846O POB 3150 Tulsa, OK, 74101 Want to get involved? Need to get tested for HIV? Need a Coming Out Support Group? Call 743-GAYS Tulsa Gay Community Services Center 1307 E. 38th at Peoria, 2nd floor PRIDE ’99 "PRIDEFUL PAST... POWERFUL FUTURE! TULSA’S FIRST ANNUAL 1PARADE W/GRAND MARSHALL REP. 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Yale, 749-0595 Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist Service - 1 lam, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314 Metropolitan Community Church United Service, 1 lam, 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715 House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 10:45am, 3210b So. Norwood Parish Church of St. Jerome (Evangelical Anglican Church in America) Mass - 1lain, 205 W. King (east of No. Denver), Info: 582-3088 University of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gayfrransgendered Alliance 6:30 pro, Meets at the Canterbury Cir., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 Council Oak Men’s Chorale, rehearsals at 5pro, Info: 585-COMC (2662) ~ MONDAYS Mixed Volleyball, Helmefich Park, 71st & Riverside, 6pm, call Shawn at 243-5190. HIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required. Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm, 834-TEST (8378) 3501 E. 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Norwood Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group, more information, call 582-7225 TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632 Lambda A-A, 7 pro, 1307 F~ 38th, 2nd ft. I~ THURSDAYS HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education ~ Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing:. 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 F~ Admiral Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN) Support/social group for 18-24"s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325 Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS, Into: 83~. "!. 194 i~- FRIDAYS SafeHaven, Young Adults Social Group, 1st Fri/eachmo. 8pm,PrideCtr., 1307 E. 38th ~’~ SATURDAYS Narcotics Anonymous, 11 pro, Community of Hope,1703 ~ 2nd, Info: 585-1800 Lambda A-A, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 F~ 38th, 2rid fl~ ..... : ~OTHER GROUPS , ~ T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222 Gal-A-Vantiag, Womem Social &Cultural Group Call for info: Mary at 743-6740, Kathy at 322-6322, or Barb at 459-6825. OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organizalio~ Long tides: 7am, 6/5 & 6/19 and short ride: 6:30pm, 6/9 from Zeigler Park. Long ride: 9am, 6/26 and short ride: 6:30pm, 6/23 from Tulsa Gay Community Center. Write for info: POB 9165, Tulsa, OK74157 lfyour organization is not listed, please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615. by Barry Hensley Tulsa City County Library System One group often overlooked in the Gay community is Gay and Lesbian Aftican- Ameticans. There is finally beginning to be somerecognitionofthis ignoredgroup, and Keith Boykin’ sbookfills animportant need. "One More River to Cross" is divided into chapters on various topics, includingBlack Homophobia, Gay Racism, Faith in the Lives of Black Americans, andAreBlacksand Gays the Same? In discussing Black homophobia, Boykin review how some Black leaders, including Eldtidge Cleaver, Frances Welsling andMinister Louis Farrakhan, who have associatedhomosexuality with the decline of the Black community. In one of the more improbable examples,Boykin quotes controversial walter ShahrazadAli (author of’q’he Blackwoman’s Guide to Understanding the Black Man’) as she claims that all movement Black male homosexuals "’... cook, sew and bake and are emerges as the determined to be a better woman than all the women they know." Many interesting topics are citedhere, including homophobia in rap music and instances of Black magazines and parade organizers rejecting participation by Black, Gay groups. In the chapter on Gay racism, Boykin points to several national Gay organizations, such as the Human Rights Campaignandthe National Gay&Lesbian Task Force, and is astounded that , although they claim to stand for equality for all, they have very few Black employees. The Gay media, also, is a target: "like its heterosexual counterpart, the white Gay media usually projects Eurocentric images of beauty that transmit messages inferiority to Black and others who do not Boykln cites several other instances where the terms "Black" and "Gay" are interehan~ah]e. eorre]ation between the Black eivll rightsmovement and the Gay elvll rights and anti-Gay harassment flourishes uncheckedin ournation’s schools." Smith added that despite the evidence in the AMA report that stigmatization can have devastating consequences for Gay youth, the"extremetightcontinuedtheir ongoing attacks this week by unveiling an anti- Gay television ad in Washington." - HRC has singled out a television ad, which aired on UPN’s Washington affiliate. The ad whichHRCcharacterizes as "anti-Gay" is an extension of last summer’s $500,000 "Truth In Love" newspaper campaign. The ad shows a son thanking his mother for telling him what she regards as the truth about homosexuality, and that he could change through the help of an "ex-Gay" ministry. "My son found out the trdth, he could walk away from homosexuality. But he found outtoo late. Hehas AIDS," says the actor pla~ing the ad’s "morn." TheHumanRights Campaigncountered the "truth In Love" ad with their own advertisement. The 45-second HRC ad titled "Baby" urges parents to teach their most intriguing argument in this book. ¯ " fit the white stereotype. ¯ "Are Blacks and Gays the Same?" : includes an interesting quote from former ¯. Texas senator John Tower, commenting ¯ on the 1964 Civil Rights Act: "[it would] ¯ deny to millions of employers and : employees any freedom to speak or act on the basis of their religious convictions or their deeprooted preferences for associating or not associating with certain classifications of people." Boykin’s comment: ’q’he complaints rings loudly-today against homosexuals as they did yesterday against Aftican- AmeticallS." The argument that was used in the "Gays in the military" controversy ofafew years ago, first emerged as integration of the US Armed Forces in the 1940’s was discussed. In 1948, opponents of integration said, "The presence of Black soldiers in the Army would create disharmony and drive away whites." In the 1990’s version, "hiding behind the amorphous, catchall ,phrase, of ’unit cohesion, supporters of the Gay ban argue that Lesbians and Gay men serving openly wouldmake other soldiers feel uncomfortable." Boykin cites. several other instances where the terms "Black" and "Gay" ¯ are interchangeable. ¯ The correlation between the Black civil rights movement and the Gay civil rights ¯ movement emerges as themostintriguing ¯ argument in this book. While the other ¯ chapters peak the reader’s curiosity and ¯ interest, they pale in comparison to the ¯ sections on these similar movements for ¯ equality. ." Check for "One More River to Cross" ¯ at your local branch library or at the ¯ Readers’ Services department, 596-7966 at the Central Library. : This review first ran in Tulsa Family ¯ News, vol. 4, no. 3, February 1997. ¯ kids tolerance and to not discriminate. ¯ Produced l~y TBWA/Chiat/Day, it ¯ featured an infant with a narrator asking ¯ who will teach the baby the important ¯ joys and lessons of life. "Behold wonder. ¯ Who will teach him to tie his shoes? To ¯ ride abicycle?To find faces in the clouds? ¯ Who will teach him to love and respect ¯ people for who they are.., unless they’re ¯ Gay? Who will teach him that? Will ¯ you?" ¯ ¯ HRC’s Smith added, "these suicide statistics show that it is imperative to ¯ reach Gay andlesbian youthwith positive ¯ images to counter the barrage of anti-Gay : material put forth by the far tight...We ¯ hope our ad and other similar efforts ¯ contribute toward creating a societywhere the next generation of Gay and Lesbian : youth can live relatively free of the : indignities and violence that many of : today’s youth face." ¯ HRC’s ad ends with a line saying : "choose tolerance," and an imagereading ¯" "In memory of Matthew Shepard, 1976- ~ 1998." Neither the "Truth In Love" ¯ campaign nor HRC have announced any "- plans to air these commercials outside the : Washington, D. C. area. Red Rock Tulsa Free Confidential HIV Testing Walk-in Clinics Tuesday Testing, 5 -8 pm Pride Center, 1307 East 38th Wednesday Testing, 5-8 pm Red Rock, 1724 East 8th Daytime appointments available. 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We will look at your options only on the vinyl flooring, since anything more ambitious, such as tile or Petgo, really belongs in your real kitchen rehab; it is too cost-prohibitive for this project. But if you insist on it, darling, your DIYD’s admonitions are for naught. Thatleaves us with sheet vinyl [one piece] or peel and stick squares. The peel and sticks have several advantages - they’re relatively inexpensive and easy to install, there are lots of .cglors and styles, and they are readily available. You will need to start from a spot in the center of the room and work outward, as you do in file. Also, lay it out "dry" and make any adjustments that will keep youfromcutting httle bits ofsquares. You will want to start down the middle of has instead brought it closer together withinitself, and also with the rest ofSoho community, according to Nick Laurence, of the American Retro store in Old Compton Slreet. He said the spiritin Soho over the weekend had been one of "high resilience." Mr Laurence said: "One of the real positive things to come out of this is that people’s initial reaction has been one of humanity." A service of remembrance was held in the gardens of Soho’ s St Anne’s church, and began at 6:40pro - the time the bomb went off. Clare Herbert, the rector of St Anne’s, said: "In that act of proud reflection we very much hope the people of Soho, of this community which offers a welcome to so many people and which has been so badly shocked will come ¯ an aisle and work outwards if that is a : consideration. Think of where the eye ¯ falls in looking down an aisle- thelength. ¯ You don’t want to stray off, and this is very critical if the aisle connects two ¯ rectangles. ¯ You’ll want toremoveany quarterround Your DIYD leh you on your knees languishing at her feet last month - oh, don’t move yet! I’m not finished with you. I want to see what you can do with your tape measure. Are you thinking naughty thoughts? ~rell, save that for later; right now we need to concentrate on finding the square [ootage of your kitchen floor, then we’ll discuss your options for flooring materials... and thenreplace itwhen you’re finished; you’ll probably have to put in new, since it doesn’t rip off gracefully, it will also help hold your vinyl tiles in place. This is a good time for a warning about vinyl tiles - they have a bad habit of"floating", so keep the following tips in mind: buy the thickest, sturdiest ones you can find and can afford; keep everything fight - where you join them, where they butt the wall, and so on; and don’t try to cheat by not putting any under the fridge or the stove. ff the existing flooring is in good shape, with no tears, ridges orbumps, youcan apply the tiles right over the top. Make sure the floor is Joan Crawford immaculate. Use a square and a board and utility knife to cut your edge files, and remember - snug!!! For sheet flooring, Armstrong makes some that you can do yourself. It comes with a kit so that you can make a template of your floor, cut it out, then glue it down. There is a video that gives you the particulars. This is arewarding project for anyone who has somebasic skills, fearlessness and good anal retentiveness. For those of you who are less intrepid or who have a more challenging kitchen layout, haveit installed. Itdoesn’t take long and the cost increase is relatively minimal. Take time to shop around; some of the discount flooring houses can ¯ be a good value, but be careful andbe sure ¯ to ask for references and then call them. ¯ Sonow yourkitchen has been repainted, ¯ the new counter tops are gleaming, and the floor looks so lovely - it’s time to show : it off. Have a nice dinner. Invite your ¯ DIYD. She’ll be so proud of you. ¯ together with the other community that ¯ has been shocked and injured, the Gay ¯ community." ¯ In Sohd Square, people from across ¯ London have come to lay flowers for ¯ those killed and injured. On the Sunday ¯¯ justafter thebombing, thousands ofpet.pie packedinto Soho Squarenear thebombed ¯ pub to mourn those hurt. Angela Mason, ¯ a director of the Gay and Lesbian lobby ¯ group, Stonewall, told the’crowd of 2,000 : people: "Nobody, butnobody, is going to ¯ bomb us back into the closet." The chairman of the Commission for : Racial Equality, Sir Herman Ouseley, ¯ warned in a TV interview that ethnic ¯ commumties could rise up against"racial : terrorism." "I think you have got to ¯ understand the way in which some ¯ communities have been under siege for a ¯ longperiod oftime- it’s notjust areaction : to the bombing," he said. by Esther Rothblum : is aperception thatroleplays are somewhat Lesbians, like other women, face : fake, butinfacttheyeanbeverypowerful." challenges finding affordable andquality ¯ I asked Dr. White what some good -health care. But are there particular " opening questions are for doctors who difficulties being a Lesbian patient in the : want to be sensitive to Lesbian patients. health care system? I "Youcanstartbyasking’are interviewed Dr. Jocelyn White, a physician who has .conducted research on Lesbians’ access to health care. "Lesbians face all the typical issues such~having health insurance, traveling somedistanceforhealthcare, finding child care while they visit a health care provider, or being able to take time off from work," she said. "In addition there is a specific domestic partner, issue that Lesbians have, because unlike heterosexual women who are legally married, few Lesbians can be insured under their parmer’s policY. But the real issue is providers’ inability to communicate sensitively and .effectively with their patients. Also, providers often have a lack of knowledge about the health issues of Lesbians." Dr. White has found that many providers would like ito have Lesbian patients but don’t have theknowledge or experience to be good providers. She and her "It’s very interesting for the heterosexual doctors and nurses to have to play the ¯role of a Lesbian," said Dr. White, "because they have to start trying to identify with what it feels like to be a Lesbian patient who has d’doctor say something to them that is insensitive. colleagues have traveled around the country educating health care providers in how to communicate effectively with Lesbian patients and increase their .knowledge base of Lesbian health care Issues. She says "inmy workshops I give a talk on the primary care of Lesbian patients. Wetalk aboutparenting, comingout, HIV, sexually transmitted diseases, cancer risk and screening, depression, substance abuse, domestic violence, hate crime violence, and social issues. Many of the doctors who come to these workshops will go on to teach these issues to their students and medical residents, so it’s important for me to teach communication skills." In one of Dr. White’s role-plays, a workshop leader will play a Mexican- American data entry technologist who comes in wanting to talk about parenting options. "The task of a workshop participant is to determine her sexual orientation and discuss options such as insemination, consider appropriate referrals, and deal with these issues sensitively," Dr. White said, "The person playing therole ofthe patientis scripted to present somechallenges."Otherworkshop participants are asked to be observers and comment on what they saw andfelt during the role play. InanOther role play, the worksh0pleader plays thepart ofapatient who has breast cancer, and tells the doctor that her partner no longer wants to have sex with her. "It’s very interesting for the heterosexual doctors and nurses to have to play the role ofa Lesbian," said Dr. White, "because they have to start trying to identify with what it feels like to be a Lesbian patient who has a doctor say something to them thatis insensitive. There you partnered, married, single, or divorced?’ rather than launching right in with such questions as’whatkind of birth control do you use?’ she answered. "You can ask ’do you have a significant other?’ or ’who is in your family?’ in order to demonstrate that you are open to hearing about broader definitions of relationships and families. She added, "You want to learn aboutthe social history of the patient and it’s also important to be comfortable taking a sexual history if necessary. Few doctors are comfortable taking a sexual history, even if they do it every day, because we don’t talk much about sex in our culture. Sexual questions by doctors need tomakeit clear to the patient that an), response is possible." Dr. White has surveyed Lesbians about advice they wouldgive doctors. "Almost to a person they all said ’don’t assume I’m heterosexual’ so we need to ¯ workonbreakingdown thoseassumptions : of heterosexuality," she said. LesbiAn : respondents also told ofnegahveincidents : with their doctors. Dr. White described ¯ one of these anecdotes: "One woman had severe vaginal hemmoraghing and went to the. emergency room. The doctor, assuming she was heterosexual, asked about birth control and pregnancy. When she told the doctor she was a Lesbian, he flushed, got embarrassed, terminated the interview, left the cubicle, andnevercame back. A different woman came back and completed the pelvic exam. The Lesbian patient was horrified and felt humiliated. She immediately sought out a Lesbian doctor." Another anecdote: "A Lesbian was in a motorcycle accidentin which she collided head on with a bus. She told the doctor she was a Lesbian, and he putin 100 sutures in her leg without novocaine. He didn’t xray her skull, even though she had lost consciousness during the accident, and missed a skull fracture. So this doctor committed assault and battery as well as malpractice and now he is being investigated." In sum, Dr. White’s mission is to hdp doctors provide better care for Lesbian patients and help Lesbians feel goodabout themselves so that they know their fights in the doctor’s office. She encourages Lesbians to keep looking foragooddoctor and. keep moving on until they find a doctor they can be happy with. She tells Lesbians to talk with their friends about doctors who are trusted in their community, or else go to talks given by doctors and ask questions about affirmative doctors. "We deserve a good doctor..It’s our right and we should not tolerate poor health care. We should just walk out if the doctor is homophobic, and IGTA member Call 341.6866 International ToHrsformoreinformation. AUTHENTIC FRESH 1TALIAN RAINBOW CUSINE TROUT ofEureka Springs Voted Number One in Arkansas! (501) 253-6807, Closed Wednesday 5 Center Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 Red Rock Tulsa O’RYAN Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network Outreach Program Thurs. 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They waggled their signs and bellowed hoarse abuse’ at passing muscle boys inmuscle cars whb, in turn,honked their horns to drown out the chatter of these volunteer Jeremiahs. The emergence y space and the assertion - by parading - of rights to this territory are even newer... These battles continue over equal rights to publle space... One symbolic curbside barricade, and one bored, roly-poly cop, separated the hecklers from the heckled. This sole whi te woodenbarricade made me think about the social meanings of space. Anthropologists are interested in the ways in which people spatially organize their societies. Anthropologist Edward Hall c.alled this study Of the meaning and use of space "proxemics." He investigated how we communicate nonverbally by arranging ourselves and our possessions in various spatial poses. Parades, for example, are fascinating ritual events. People’s organized movement through space sends important messages. It is no surprise that governments get nervous at parades and do their best to regulate and control these. Parades reveal the existence of communities with at least enough unity andpurpose tomarch together. Andgroup unity-and purpose may threaten powersthat- be. Marches across a landscape also assert fights to that territory. Parades, although symbolic, are serious political events in that they display claims to place. In Northern Ireland, competing Catholics and Protestants parade through each other’s neighborhoods sparking violence and death. Closer to home, the circumnavigation of the University of Oklahoma’s football field by that Sooner Schooner after every touchdown is a similar sort of ritual claim to place. Like small town Fourth of July parades everywhere, this movement symbolically displays people’s rights to occupy territory - land claims that, in Oklahoma, are still a little uneasy in that they are often less than a century old. The emergence of "Gay space" and the assertion ~- by parading- of rights to this territory are even newer. Until recently, few Gay spaces existed. And where they did - Gay bars, bookstores, beaches, and the like - people still had continually to protect themfrom invasionandregulation by saaightpolitical authority. These battles continue overequal rights to public space, or room on library shelves, or signage on Peoria Avenue in Tulsa. That white barricade on Long Beach’s Ocean Avenue separated two territories and two claims. In the street, Gays and Lesbians asserted theirunified community and their claims to occupy Long Beach. Behind the barricade in the vacant lot, the heterosexual hecklers contested theseGay claims, struggling to reassert their own control over the territory. Although the barricade kept their bodies out of the Gay street, they ydled and preached - casting their voices up into the air above the avenue to compete with those of the marchers. Straight attempts to regain control by limiting and regulating Gay space, for the moment at least, have weakened. Gay space is expanding. ".Gay ghettos"l~.ve grown up rn every major Americancity. Publishers such as Damronand Spartacus make money by providing guidebooks to Gay spaces around the world. Gay pride marches down city streets are increasingly visible ritual events. These parades show off the Gay community and assert its ; rights to occupy local territory. The tables : even, here and there, have turned. Some ¯ denizens ofSanFrancisco’s Castro District ; now complain that their neighborhood is ," attracting too many straight residents and : businesses. Theydemand that cityplanners ¯ pass regulations to keep troublesome heterosexuals out of the Gay ghetto. :/ Some paraders marched along the : avenueholding hands, as didmany couples also on the green near downtown Long : Beach where the pride celebration was : headquartered. ¯ Hand-holding is another powerful : proxemic message about sexual identity : and love. My friend Devre observed that : he had once felt uncomfortable holding ¯ men’s hands in public. Now he demands -" more Gay space. He wants to live in a ; place where he can hold his partner’s : hand. ¯ The"gaying"ofpublic space, however, : can bring violent response from those : desperate to protect heterosexual control of the landscape. But a passing parade at !easttemporarily Gays’ space. I hold hands mpart of the city where otherwise I might have second thoughts. I look across that barricade to another place which is no longer mine. On my side, though, I am holding a boyfriend’s hand. : of The Journal Of The Gay And Lesbian ¯ MedicalAssociationandco-editorofThe ¯ Lesbian Health Book. She teaches at Legacy Portland Hospital and is amember ; of the Lesbian Health Research Institute. : Esther Rothblum is Professor of ¯ Psychology at the University of Vermont ." and Editor of The Journal of Lesbian ¯ Studies. She can bereachedatJohn Dewey ¯ Hall, University of Vermont, Burlington, ¯ VT, email: esther.rothblum@uvm.edu. .we should report these doctors to the insurance company or the HMO." Dr. Whitehas found that Lesbians happy with their health care tend to have high oelfesteem and a sense that quality health care is their right. She hopes to teach other Lesbians that this is their right as well. Dr. JocelynWhitepractices as ageneral internist in Portland, Oregon. Sheis editor | | Use Free. 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Title A name given to the resource [1999] Tulsa Family News, June 1999; Volume 6, Issue 6 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document First Gay Ambassador, James Hormel, Sworn In WASHINGTON (AP) - Sedate events are the norm in the gilded confines of the State Department’s eighth floor reception room but there can be exceptions. The atmosphere was downright raucous on Tuesday, June 29 over a seemingly routine happening.." the swearing in of a new ambassador. James Hormel, who is Gay, took the oath as ambassador to Luxembourg in the presence ofhundreds offriends whohad siipported Hormel’ s ofttroubled nomination since it was first announced 20 months ago. Hormel’s supporters cheered loudly as he was sworn in as America’s first openly Gay ambassador. "What an inered!ible privilege it is to be standing before you today,’ said Hormel, an heir to the Audiin, Minn.-based Hormel Foods Corp. fortune.Secretary of State Madeleine .Albiight was there, along with Sens. Ted Kennedy, D-Mass., and Dianne Feinstein, D-Calif. Television cameras lined the rear of the majestic State Department hall. Normal procedure on such occasions is to bar the press altogether. Uncertainty had shrouded Hormel’s appointment almost from the day he was nominated because of opposition from a few senators, see Hormel, p. 12 30 Years After Riot, Gays & Lesbians Take Stock NEW YORK (AP) -~,years ago, police raids on Gay bars were a fact oflife~ You took themfor granted the way you took being hated for granted," says Joan Nestle, a writer and activist who started going to, Greenwich Village bars as a tean-ager in the 1950s~ Volunteers carried a 120footRainbowflagfrom the Community Center to Veterans Park where Congressman Frank spoke. 2000 Attend 1st Tulsa Parade TULSA-Tulsa’ s firstGayPrideParade was declared a sweeping success by its organizers and by almost all who attended. -According to The Tulsa World, more than 2000 attended the event which featured US Congressman Barney Frank, Democrat from MassaChusetts as grand marshall and which had more than 35 entries. Frank spoke at the traditional picnic which followed the parade and again at a dinner that evening at the Greenwood Cultural Center. At both events, Frank suggested that straight Americans are not essentially bigoted but rather bdieve that they are expected to be anti-Gay. He strongly encouraged Gay & Lesbian citizens to become politically active. Sponsors of the events indued Mark & Mike, Cimarron Alliance, the Parish Church of Saint Jerome, MCC United, Council Oak Mens Chorale, PFLAG, Bud Light, Pepsi-Cola/Dr Pepper Bottling Co. of Tulsa, Jason Reed, The Storm, Jack Wallace, T.W.’s A.F.A.B. Catering, Tulsa Family News and some others. Photos of the parade andpicnicfollow on page 3. Cath, of St. John the Divine Hosts Stonewall 30 Service NEW YORK (AP) - U.S. Rep. Barney Frank, speaking on the eve of the 30th anniversary of the Stonewall riot, urged Gays and lesbians Saturday to bring their fight for equal fights to the ballot box. The congressman, who was greeted with a standing ovation ata Manhattan celebration of the 1969 incident, told the crowd So when the patrons of a bar called the Stonewall Inn ¯ fonghtbackJune 27,1969-attackingpolice with rocks, .bottles and fists that stmtling act of defiance became an . instantwatershed event. Gayactivists considerit akin to the .Montgomery bus boycott or the lunch-counter sitins that galvanized the civil rights movement. This lastmonth~parades andralfiesinNew York, San Franciscoanddozens ofcities worldwidecommemorate the Stonewall riotandmarkthreedecades ofremarkable change. While Gay pcople are not universally accepted - a Time/CNN Foil last fall found that 48% of Americans believe homosexuality is morally wrong-Lesbians and Gay men are becoming increasingly integrated into American society. "We’ve made a sea change in notjust public opinion but public policy as well:~ says Kerry Lobel, executive director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, a lobbying groupbasedin Washington, D.C."We see that ." in areas like civil rights, hate crimes; family issues and ¯ sodomy repeal, we have more possibility of legislative : change than ever before." Lobel cited Nevada, whose Legislature recendy ." banned job discrimination see 30 Years, p. 14 . DIRECTORWt.E’I’rERS P. 2 : EDITORIAL P. 2 ; US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 " HEALTH NEWS P. 6 " ENTERTAINMENT P. 8 . COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 . DO-IT-YOURSELF-DYKE P. 11 ." DYKE PSYCHE P. 12 . GAY STUDIES P. 15 ~.that the gains made by the Gay comm_u~,’,ty were substantial. But ¯ ne s~sed.~that the.struggle continues. °We have fought on our .terms, said Frank, D-Mass., one of only three Gay members of ". Congress. ,ButI urge you to take the next step. Use our political . ¯ power..You have to vote. Your friends have to vote." Frank-was one of about two dozen speakers, performers and activis~ appearing at "Stonewall 30: A Sacred Celebration." Some. 1,500 Gays and lesbians turned out at.the Cathedral of St. John the Divi~e for the event, which commemorated the start of the Gay rights movement. OnMonday,June28,the Christopher Street siteofthe Stonewall Inn will .be Added to the National Register of Historic Places. Angry Gays fought with police who had rousted them from the Stonewall on June 27, 1969. : Frank, whotookpot shots at closeted Gays in Congress and the : -Rev. Jerry .Falwell, said that there should be no complacency : among Gay civil rights activists. "No one should ask us to be ¯ grateful because there’s less bigotry," Frank said to rousing cheers. "It never should have been there at all." Therest of the ceremony,was by turns solemn andcomical. The New York City Gay Men s Chorus sang a requiem for the late Matthew Shepard, the Wyoming youth killed by Gay-bashers, and a group called Lavender Light performed "We Shall Overcome." But actor Jay Goede did a hilarious reading of a 1969 Daily News article on the Stonewall riot, opening with its homophobic headline: "Homo nest raided. Queen bees are stinging mad." Later, drag performer Miss Coco Peru - in red wig, matching lipstick and sequined purple dr~s - stood in the pulpit with Gay police Sgt. Edward Rodriguez. As a Gay boy growing up in the Bronx," Miss Peru said, "I never dreamed I’d be in the world’s largest Gothic cathedral, in the pulpit, in full drag." She smiled, and the audience applauded. Longtime activist Jimmy Flowers stands before Parade Grand Marshall US Rep. Barney Frank. Community Leadership Meeting Called for 6/20 TULSA - Established community leaders, Marty NewmanandDennis Neill, have called acommumty leadership meeting for 6pro on Tuesday, July 20. According to the letter that went out under Newman’s and Neill’s names, the intent of the meeting is to capitalize on the "renewed sense of excitement and energy" that’s resulted from the recent Pride weekend events: Tulsa’s first parade, the annual picnic and the dinner featuring US Congressman Barney Frank from Massachusetts. The letter went to nearly 50 businesses and organizations, from bars to churches inviting each to send one representative to present their priorities, fo seek ways better to work together, and to "work towards building a more cohesive Gay & Lesbian community." see Meeting, p.11 From one religibus extreme to another at the Parade, Rev, LesliePenroseto anti-Gayprotesters, Rev. PenroseAccepted in UCC; l her Religi .us i Groups Also Welcomzng ¯" TULSA- TheReverend Leslie Penrose, pastor of : Community of Hope Base Shalom Congregation ¯ has had her request for transfer of her.ordination : accepted by the Ecclesiastical Council of the ¯ Oklahoma Association of the United Church of : ChrisL Penrose, _had received her ordination within : the United Methodist Church but had been : experiencing harassment within that denomination ¯ by anti-Gay activists because she had performed : religious ceremonies that blessed same-gender ¯ relationships, i.e. "holy unions." : Pem’ose, writing in Community of Hope’s newsletter, noted that the process of being nszderedfor transfeXincludedpreachingasermon : and presenting several papers and then waiting for : the vote by the council. But she also said that upon ¯ arrival, she’d been greeted with a comment from : the Rev. Russell Bennett saying, "your name’s ," already on the cakeF’ And indeed after the "yes" ¯¯ vote, Peurose was .welcomed at a reception where there was a cake that said,"Welcome, Leslie, to the ¯ United Church of Christ!" : But the UCC is not the only Christian group : trying to welcome Lesbians and see Leslie, p. 14 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine 832-1269 *Boston Willy’ s Diner, 1742 S. Boston 592-2143 Burger Sisters Restaurant, 1545 S. Sheridan 835-1207 *Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria 599-9512 *Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E. 15th 583-6666 *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria 749-4511 *Jason’ s Dell, 15th & Peoria 599-7777 *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th 749-1563 *Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square 744-4280 *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st 745-9998 *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan 834-4234 ¯ *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main 585-3405 *TNT’ s, 2114 S. Memorial 660-0856 *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Cellular 747-1508 *Affinity News, 8120 E. 21 610-8510 *Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 5231 E. 41 665-4580 Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E 15 712-1122 *Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955 *Borders Books & Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272 *CD Warehouse, 3807c S. Peoria 746-0313 Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117 Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700 Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468 ~Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620 *Devena’s Gallery, 13 Brady 587-2611 Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556 *Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503 *Ross Edward Salon 584-0337, 712-9379 *Floral Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595 Four Star Import Automotive, 9906 E: 55th P1 610-0880 Cathy Furlong, Ph.D., 1980 Utica Sq. Med. Ctr. 628-3709 Gay & Lesbian Affordable Daycare 808-8026 *Gloria Jean’ s Gourmet Coffee~ 1758 E. 21 st 742-1460 Leaune M. Gross, Insurance &financial planning 459-9349 Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440 *Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111 *International Tours 341-6866 Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750 *Jared’ s Antiques, 1602.E. 15th 582-3018 David Kauskey, Country Club Barbering 747-0236 The Keepers, Housekeeping & Gardening 582:8460 *Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070 Kelly Kirby, CPA, 4021 S. Harvard, #210 747-5466 *Living ArtSpace, 19 E. Brady 585-1234 *Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3rd 584-3112 Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 663-5934 *Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Place 664-2951 David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672 Puppy Pause II, 1060 S. Mingo 838-7626 *Peace of Mind Bookstore, 1401 E. 15 583-1090 The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2rid floor 743-4297 Rainbowz on the River B÷B, POB 696, 74101 747-5932 Richard’ s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617 Ted Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921, 747-4746 *Scribner’ s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749~-6301 Paul Tay, Car Salesman 260-7829 *Tickled Pink, 3340 S. Peoria 697-0017 ~,Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria 742-2007 *Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis 481,-0558 *Venus Salon, 1247 S. Harvard 835-5563 Fred Welch, LCSW, Couusding 743~1733 *Whittier News Stand, 1 N; Lewis 592-0767 Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & Universities AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 4337, 74101 579-9593 *All Souls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria 743-2363 Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 587-731~4 Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center, 2207 E. 6 583-7815 *B/L/G/T Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780 *Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston 585-1201 *Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th PL & Florence *Church oftheRestorationUU, 1314N.Greenwood 587-1314 *Community ofHope United Methodist, 2545 S. Yale 747-6300 *Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595 *Council Oak Men’ s Chorale 585-COMC (2662) *Delaware Playhouse, 1511 S. Delaware 712-1511 *Democratic Headquarters, 3930 E. 31 742-2457 Dignity/Integrity of Tulsa- Lesbian & Gay Catholics & Episcopalians, POB 701475, 74170-1475 355-3140 *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 918.583.1248, fax: 583.4615, POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 o-mail: TtlLsaNews@earthlinlc net t~8~:+l~.~9[Jsers.aol.com/TulsaNews/ l~om Neal ~/riters + contributors: lean-Claude de Flambeauchaud Barry Hensley, J.-P. Legrandboucbe, Lamont Lindstrom Esther Rothblum, Mary Schepers, Adam West Member of The Associated Press Issued on or before the 1st of each month, the entire contents of this ~abul~ication are protected by US copyright 1998 by rJ.4~ ~:..,~ and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part witt~out written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate a person’s sexual orentafion. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unles~,ot,herwjse nqted,,r~ust be signed & becomes the sole property of !~ t’,~.’. N~w~. Each reader is entitled to 4 copies of each edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. : *Free Spirit Women’ s Center, call for location &into: 587-4669 ¯ Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827 Friends in Unity Social Org., POB 8542, 74101 582-0438 -" *HIV ER Center, 4138 Chas. Page Blvd. 583-6611 ¯ *HIV Resource Consortium, 3507 E. Admiral 834-4194 ¯ *Holland Hall School, 5666 E. 81st 481-1111 HOPE, HI~ Outreach, Prevention, Education 834-8378 : *House of the Holy Spirit Minstries, 3210e So. Norwood ¯ Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438~2437, 800-284-2437 ¯ *MCC United, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 ¯ . NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral P1. 748-3111 : NOW, Nat’lOrg.forWomen, POB 14068,74159 365-5658 ¯ OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157 ¯ *Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960 ¯ PFLAG, POB 52800, 74152 749-4901 ¯ *Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674 ¯ Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 : *R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195 ¯ Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 665-5174 ¯ *Red Rock Mental Center, 1724 E 8 ~ 584-2325 ," O’RYAN, support group for 18-24 LGBT young adults ¯ O’RYAN, Jr. support group for 14-17 LGBT youth St. Aidan’ s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati 425-7882 : St. Dunstan’s Episcopal, 5635 E. 71st 492-7140 ¯ .*St. Jerome’ s Parish Church, 205 W. 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Grand : HIVtesting every other Tues. 5:30-8:30, call for dates : EUREKA SPRINGS, ARKANSAS : *Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy. 23 501-253-7734 : *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457 ¯ DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807 ¯ *Emerald Rainbow,45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445 ," MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337 : Geek to Go!, PC Specialist; POB 429 501-253-2776 ¯ Old Jailhouse Lodging, 15 Montgomery 501-253-5332 ¯ Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-624-6646 ¯ Sparky’s, Hwy..62 East 501-253-6001 ¯ *White Light, t Center St. 501-253-4074 ¯ FAYETTEVILLE, ARKANSAS5 ¯ *Edna’s, 9 S. School Ave. 501-442-2845 JOPLIN, MISSOURI ¯ : *Spirit of Christ MCC, 2639 E. 32, Ste. U134 417-623-4696 ¯ * iswhereyoucanflndTF~.NotallareGay-owaedbutallareGay-friendly. by Tom Neal, editor &publisher For this month, I’m going to try just to ¯ say something nice. It’ s not what comes ¯ naturally now. After almost 6 years of ¯ journalism and more than 10 years of all but full-time, unpaid activism for civil ¯ rights for Lesbian and Gay Americans, ¯ I’ ve grown cynical. It’ s hardnotto become ¯ thatwayworkinginOklahoma andTexas ¯ - dearly not Gay-friendly environs. :- But this last month’ s success of Pride ¯ ’99 helps to bolster that wee bit of hope " that’s not entirely faded. And Pride ’99 : organizers deserve to behonored for their ¯ work.Severalnamesneedtobementioned ¯ particularly: Rick Martin who chaired the ¯ picnic for his second year, and Mitchell Savage who chaired the Barney Frank ¯ dinner. Others also merit recognition: ¯ Steve Horn as TOHR president, Kerry ¯ ¯ Lewis aspro-bonolegal counsd, andTim Gillean who was honored as TOHR ," volunteer of the year, Robin Leach, and ¯ the rock, in the sense said by the Christ to ¯ Saint Peter (and graphic designer par ¯ excellence)ofthecommunitycenter,Greg ," Gatewood. There are others, no doubt, ¯ who should also be named, a host of ¯ additional volunteers, and I wish to honor ¯ -them as well. ¯ Congressman Frank was a joy to hear, ¯ an inspiration, a gentle goad to us as a ¯ commumty toovercomeourcomplacency. : Especially in a state where Gay and ¯ Lesbian citizens effectively have no ¯ ¯ politicalrepresentation,itseems ourvoices are heard in our own government at least : through this Congressman from ¯ Massachusetts. My hope is that his message willbe taken to heart and that our ¯ people will get politically involved - we : can change this state. It’ s already happening, thanks in huge : measure to the Cimarron Alliance’ s work ¯ at the Oklahoma Capitol, and as I have ¯ said before, in particular to Keith Smith’ s ¯ and Nancy McDonald’ s work there (yep, ¯" you did read that -nice words even for ", those with whom I’ve occasionally, or : even frequently, disagreed). ¯ Now post-Pride, we must build on this ¯ success. There are signs this is happening. ~ Two of our most respected community ¯ leaders have called a leadership meeting ~ to see what common ground we can : establish. This is great. It’s been tried : before but the time wash’ t right and these ~ two have the stature to bring together ¯ those who might not otherwise meet. ¯ However, I’ll suggest that the goal of : such organizing should not be "unity." ¯ We are a widely diverse group with class, : race, gender, educational, age, and health ~ status differences, and recreational ¯ preferences. Unity in such a diversity is ¯ impossible, andinourpast,nationally and locally, has frequently been "achieved" : through a kind of Gay fascism, where : those with dissenting views were told to ¯ conform or pay the price usually by an : economic, gender and racial elite, i.e. ¯ rich, white guys. : However, building consensus, through ¯¯ long hard work, by really listening to.the diversity ofourcommunity(communities) ¯ is possible, see Pride, p~ 10 ¯ Letters Policy Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on ~ssues ~ which we’ve covered or on issues you think ¯ need to be considered. You may request that ," your name be withheld but letters must be ," signed & have phone numbers, or be hand ¯ delivered. 200 wordletters are preferred. Letters : to other publications will be printed as is ~ appropriate. A giantRainbowflag ends theparade at Veteran’s Park. Cimarron Alliance may have had the most artistic float, Al & David had the coolest bikes in the paradel The University ofTulsa’s Bi/Lesbian/Gay/Trans Alliance Gay-j~iendly straight supporters also marched. Paul Barby behind Marthd Hardwick & her kazoo band.. Greg Gatewood, US Cong. Barney Frank, & BJ Medley T.U.L.S.A. - butch guys with sweet smiles. PFLAG’s McDonald Hilary Kitz & son. CSC"s Janice Nicklas Father Walt Rockabrand " Fabulousdiva&fundraiserAudraSommersandfriends. Counci!OakMens ’. Chorale alsoperformed atthepicnic. The cross ofHouse of the Holy Spirit stood in witness. Theparadecoveredmore than a mile, Peoria to Riverside. Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation Miss Gay Black Oklahoma America 1999 The University ofOklahoma’s Gay/Lesbian/Bi Alliance ¯ ,. FrustratedHousewivesplayedanexcellentsetattheend. Lawmakers Fight Anti- ¯ agenda." - Supporters said it is a long-overdue Gay Discrimination WASHINGTON - Democratic and~Republican lawmakers from New England revived efforts last month to pass a federal law prohibiting job discrimination against Gays. To boost the measure’s chance of passage, lawmakers have rewritten it to explicitly prohibit preferential treatment of Gays, such as hiring to meet quotas or designing affLrmative action standards to make. up for past discrimination. Opponents of the Employment Non- Discrimination Act, known as ENDA, have successfully fgught it in three previous Congresses on the grounds that it would extend special protections to Gays. "ENDA will achieve equal rights - not special .flights- for gays and lesbians," said Sen. James J~fords, R-Vt., who plans to pass the bill out of his Health, Education, Labor and Pensions Committee andthen try to force considerailon.by the full.Senate. In 1996, the Senate defeated a similar bill by one vote. Vice President A1 Gore, campaigning in Los Angeles at a Gay and Lesbian center, voiced support for the legislation. "It does not confer any special rights, but it does outlaw the kind of discrimination that has become all too common in our society," he Said. The bill was introduced by Jeffords and Sens. Edward Kennedy, D-Mass., and Joseph LielJerman, D-Conn., and in the House by Reps. Barney Frank, D-Mass., and Christopher Shays, R=Conn. "If they’re able to get it out of the Senate, that would create tremendous pressure on the House," said Shays, an influential moderate. Shays and other ENDA supporters argue that the bill would pass the House - if conservative Republican 1eaders allow it to comeupfor debate -becauseit is backedby amajority ofAmericans. ENDA would extend basic civil rights protections in the area of employment to cover sexual orientation. Such protections are already afforded to people on the basis of race, religion, gender, national origin, age and disability. Eleven states --California, Connecticut, Hawaii, Massachusetts, Minnesota, New Jersey; Rhode Island, Vermont, Wisconsin, New Hampshire and Nevada - already prohibit job discrimination against gays. ENDA would prohibit employers of 15 or more, employment agencies and labor unions from using an individual’ s sexual orientation as the basis for employment decisions, such as hiring, firing, promotion or compensation. The bill would exempt the .military and religious organizations. It would not require benefits for workers’ same-sex partners. Oooonents aren’t buying the argument that the bill- ~v~n’ t confer special-rights. RobertH. Knight of the conservative Family Research Council said sexual orientation shouldn’t be a category that receives federal protection from job discrimination because it involves behavior. Other specially protected categories, such as race, gender and disability, do not. "What if that person was representing a company and it became known that that person had wild and bizarre sexual tastes?" he asked. "That reflects on his employer. An employer should have the right to say,’I don’t want to have that kind of person working for me." " : statement in support of equality, since same-sex ¯ couples cannot marry. ¯ The list would be similar to those in about 50 : cities across the country, including Atlanta, ~ Boston and Madison. Under the measure, same- " sex couples could pay $30 to have their names ¯" placed on the registry. They would have to be 18 ." or older, live together and show some form of : financial unity, such as a joint bank account or ~ joint ownership of a vehicle. ¯ Two years ago, the council rejected by a vote ~ of 14-3 an effort to give health and funeral leave ~ benefits to unmarriedpartners ofcity employees. ¯ However, the currentmeasureis less controversial ¯ becauselittle,ifany, taxpayermoney is involved= Still, about 130 people came to the meelang o! ~ the council’s Judiciary and Legislation ¯ Committee. T,,h,er~ewereapplause,hisses,mut.ters ~ and "Amens during testimony for and against ~ theproposal. CaseyLepianka, whocalledhimself ~ anevangelist, told the committeethattheproposal ¯ condones Sinful behavior and would help send same-sex couples to "the fires of hell." ¯ Bill Attewell of Milwaukee said the.registry would make it easier for himto get benefits from ¯" his partner’s employer. "It angers me that simply : by living my life with my partner, it becomes a ~ politicalissue," Attewell said. If approved July 13 by the council and signed Milwaukee May Register Gay Couples MILWAUKEE (AP) - A Common C6~incil committee has approved the creation of a voluntary city-run registry that would allow Gay couples to formally declare their relationships. Tile measure, which passed 3-1 over the loud objections of Bible-quoting critics, goes to the full council next month. Opponents said the registry is the first step toward carrying out a destructive "Gay-fights Kelly Kirby, CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation 747-5466 4021 S. Harvard, Suite 210, Tulsa 74135 MCC-United formerly Family of Faith & Greater Tulsa MCC Joined as one body of believers¯ Come celebrate with us. Sunday Services, 11 am 1623 North Maplewood, 838-1715 ". by Mayor John O. Norquist, the registry would ¯ take effect in September. Gore Visit.s LA Gay CommunltyCenter ,de .N.M ! od LOS ANGELES (AP) - Vice President AI Gore, seeking to bolster his credentials as a unifier, ¯ " fo"rgi ~n_d_ _A~d~l-llt~ offered a forceful defense of affirmative action. I MeG ted 6_2_3 71.e? and paid tribute to aGay andLesbian.€ommunity center. He faced a skeptical audience at the Gay i. 1 center, where Javier Garcia :asked, !’I want to know exactly why you’rehere."Garcia saidlater Io July 26-30th, 6-8pm each night hewas"suspicious" thatGore’sappearance was [ I 838-1715 C~ll Soon tO Enroll. purdy political. I Gore’s tour of the center came exactly one weekafter his rival for the Democraticpresidential nomination, formerNew Jersey Sen. Bill Bradley, visited it. "I’m here to learn and to pay honor to this ~lace," Gore said, adding the Gay and Lesbian Center of Los Angeles was helping to chang, attitudes and abolish some .. irrationa~ discrimination thetis all toocommon."Hegranted his only interview of the day to the Advocate, a national Gay and Lesbian news magazine. "Thevicepresidenthas alongtimecommitment to bringing our country together," said Gore spokesman Chris Lehane. "He strongly believes that we’re much stronger as a country when all aspects of our community work together and come together." Gore said he supports federal legislation that would outlaw discrimination against homosexuals at the workplace, and bills criminalizing certain hate crimes. Michelle Byler, 22, said she didnrt find Gore convincing. "He didn’t really speak to me or say anything to impress me," said l~yler, who said she left the Army after acknowledging her~ homosexuality. She added that she had reef. Bradley aweekearlier andfoundBmdleyequally. tmimpressive. Arkansas Sodomy ¯ Challenge Continues : LITTLE ROCK (AP) - A group challenging the ¯ constitutionality ofArkansas’ law against s°d°my ; can continue with itscourt acdon against the ; state, the Arkansas Supreme Court-ruled. In its ¯ June 24th opinion, the court ruled against a ¯ request that the law be thrown offthe books. ¯ The court overturned a chancellor s refus to ~ grant a motion by the state attorney general’s ¯ office and the Pulaski County prosecutor to Mingo Valley Flowers 9413 E. 31st St. Tulsa 74145 918-663-5934 fax: 663-5834 800-44A.-5934 ¯ ~amily Owned ~&Operated ~ HOUSE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT Sun. Worship, 10:45 am, Sunday School, 9:30 am Wed. Bible Study, 7 prn ¯ note our new address 3210b S. Norwood :Info., call 224-4754, Chris & Sharon Sandra Hill M.S. Licensed Professional & National Certified Counselor, Certified Hypnotherapist Psychotherapy & Clinical Consultation After Hours Appointments Available 2865 E. 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However, the courtdisagreed with their argu.m,en.ts, that a constitutional challenge must be.postponed until ¯ true," said Guess, of Zion United Church of someoneisarrestedandchargedwithviolatingthesod°my ". Christandco_ch"aWirmeansohfothuelHdenndoertsohnFavaiernetSoScfalmeepaiogunr. ¯ statute. The justices ordered that the case be transferred to ¯ communities of choice becauselegal protections : ccoirncsutiittuticoonaulritty, owf ictrhimjiunarlisldawicst.ioAnny tsouchdedcecidlaerattihoen ": areino1f9fe9r4ed,Hinenbdigergseorncrietiveiss.e"ditspersonndpolicy ¯ so that it doesn’t discriminate against employe~.s could be appealed to the Supreme Court. . ¯ The suit that seven homosexual men and women filed on the basis of sexual ofientation. However, It ¯ " applies only to people working or seeking ¯ in Pulaski County.Chantry ~?.~,,t. ~,k.,e~l., ,Ch.:an~.d~ ~; e~ployment in;cit’y governmehL " CollinsKilg°re~°ldeclarethes°dOmyiawunc°nsttmu°n ¯ Guess said Fairness Campaign officials have ¯ and to bar enforcementof the statute. . : . ¯ ¯ TheLambdaLegalDefenseand,FxlucationF.lm,d.hafltsedee . met with the four city commissioners and the mayor to share stories of people being denied the decision ,,Welookforwardtotlaenextstepln,tmsca:s, ¯ apartments or being turned down for.jobs. ~dade] ¯ ---the chanc~ to show that the.sodomy,law, .violate,s,,tlae . Fairness Campaign plans to present a mo ¯ p.riv.a.cy.an.d ~e,qi,u~aIlnpmrohtdeactionflraiwghvtesroStuzLaensemBanGaonldtb~eargy ¯ ordinance to the commission in August .or ¯ ArKansans......staf. - ¯ ¯ " September. Opponents are promising to defeat it Shehad argued the case since it was filedln January 1998. The suit said members of the group had performed and saying thelaw would guarantee special rights ant ¯ would perform in the future,sexual ac.t.s bar~ed, by~ me_ that homosexuality is morally wrong and against statute, and that they feared prosecuuon. ~oaomy l~ " Biblical teachings. . , misdemeanor under thelaw, ptmishableby up to a year in " City Commissioner Robby Mills opposes, me ordinance but admits it has a chance ot passing. jail and a $1,000 fine. The suit says the law violates their ruingdhetsr ttohperliavwacsyi,nacsewthelel asstatthueteirdfiogehstsntootepqruoahlipbriot taeccttsioonf ¯" HlitetlesatyoswtnhleikdeeHbaetnediesrspooninbdeelosso.k"iWnghayt tshhisouislsduea ¯ tha~evenourstateandfederalofficeh°lders cannot sodomy between heterosexuals. , : CoOunntyapPperoals,ecthuetoarttLoarnrreyy Jgeegnleeyrala’srgoufefdic,eaamnodngPuolathskeir ¯ dspeceinddemony?t"imhee wsaoidrrylaisntgwaebeoku.t"wI hwaot usltdreleitksewtoe things, thattheirofficeswereimmunefromlawsuits, that " are going to pav,e, next and what sewer project we : the chancery court was not the proper place to file the are going to d& ¯ lawsuit and that the law should be challenged only in ". Guess said the measure has the support of several area congregations and church leaders, : defense of a prosecution. " from Catholic priests to Presbyterian ministers. : Gay Couples Covered by : Lon Oliver, senior minister at First Christian ¯ . Church, said he has been shocked by the tone of ¯ Domestic Violence Law someopponents,whohavesaidthattheordinance " would lead to teaching homosexuality in schools ¯ TAMPA, Fla. (AP) - A circuit judge has ruled Florida’s : and that Henderson would become a haven for ¯ domestic violence law covers Gay couples¯ "To hold Gays . ,’The harslmess of the rhetoric and the fear ¯ otherwise would undermine the efforts to safeguard, " has surprised us all," he said. ¯ regardless of gender, the rights of victims of domestic ¯ The Green Valley Baptist Association, which ¯ violence," Judge Ronald N. Ficarrotta wrote in his rifling, represents 30 churches andabout 14,000members " " The ruling came in the case of David Baker who was . _themajorityoftheminHendersonCounty~has ¯ charged with violating a domestic violence restraining " adopted a resolution denouncing the ordinance. ¯ order taken out by his former partner, David Lozier, 39. ¯ Mills, the city commissioner, said that ¯ Public defenders asked the judge last week to dismiss " Henderson citizens generally do not accept the ¯ the case against Baker, saying the injunction was invalid. " homosexuallifestyle¯"Our community is apolite ¯ They maintained the judge who signed the injunction commumty that will not g. .I~O,,P,....... ’ " et in le’s face and ¯ ,,w.rongly recognized ahomosexual relationship a~ family. " say, ’You shouldn’tbe doing that, lae sam. . The court, in issuing, this, injuncu~on,, r,eco.~g~i~zed. a ¯ when this is brought forward, you’ll see a huge ¯ homosexual relationship as a family, which vlotates me " amountofpeoplewanting to voice their opinion." ¯ longstanding policy of ~e Flori,da, Constitution, s~tut.e~s_, ¯ The debate could go statewide. State Rep. Kathy Legislature and courts, Baker s lawyers wrote, rmnoa - Stein,D_Lexington,hasproposedabillthatwould ¯ doesnotrecog~.’.zemarriagesbe.twee,ns,a,.m..e-,s.exp~,ar,m_~oS~ ¯ protect homosexuals, from discrimination.,s The ¯ FicarrottasaldBakerandLozter, wnouvextt°gemert . measurecouldbediscussedatnextyear General .. seven years, sharing ahousehold andjointbank accounts, ¯ Assembly session. ¯ didlive together as family. Legislators who expanded the ¯ domestic violence law in 1991 intendedit to protect all " Namibian Court Rules ¯ meLmobzieerrshoafdaahcocuusseedhohlids,ohneetsiamideipnahrtinseorr°dfers.-trhkinghim for Lesbian Couple andlaterharassing him wlth threatemngphone calls. I m . WINDHOEK, Namibia - Namibia’s high court ¯ very happy with the decision," he said. ¯ ¯ Hillsborough County Public Defender Julinnne Holt has ruled that Gay and Lesbian couples have ¯ saidherofficewillr,e,viewthejudge’sorderbef°redeciding " exactly-the same fights in the country as ¯ whether to appeal. Webelieve that it’s not dear that (the " heterosexual couples. The Namibian newspaper " "d ..... if " said the ruling was a rebuke to often hom°ph°bic ’ " law) covers same-sex couples, she sal . the term, as ~ afnmily,"isnotdefinedinFloridala~v andthereapparently ¯ government that had sought to deny a German are no previous cases on the issue, according to court ¯ woman a residence permit because of her ¯ " relationship with her Namibian parmer. ¯ records. In theruling, Judge Harold Levy also ruled the ¯ Small Kentucky Town May of Home Affairs must supply reasons ¯ for refusing an application for permanent : Ban Anti-Gay Bias ¯ residence.Thejudgerejectedministryatguments ¯ that the nature of the rdationship betw~m Liz ¯ HENDERSON,Ky.(AP)-WhentheLonisvilleB°ard°f " Frank, a German, and Elizabeth Khaxas, a ¯ Aldermen voted earlier this year to ban discrimination ~ Namibian, had no bearing on the application. ~ against homosexuals in the workplace, the Rev. Ben ¯ The couple has been living together for several Guess was at city hall to celebrate. Now, Guess finds years and are ratsmg a son. Not only is thi ¯ himself involved in a similar debate in his own city of relationship recognized, but the respondents ¯ Henderson¯ A group of citizens is urging M_ayor Joan ¯ (HomeAffairs)shouldha,v,.etakenit~toa.ccx).unt,." Hoffman and the City Commission to make it-illegal to ¯ Levy said in his ruling. I have no hesitation is ¯ discriminate in employment, housing and public saying that the long-term relationship between ¯ accommodations based on aperson’s sexual orientation. ¯ the applicants in so far as it is a universal ¯ If approved, Henderson would become the second partnership, xs recogmzeo t~y ia , wrote Levy. MARK T. HAMBY Attorney Bankruptcy & Civil Matters Call for More Information 1500 Nations Bank, 15 West Sixth Tulsa, Oklahoma 74119 744-744~ Fax 744-9358 OPENARMS,OPENMtNDS,OPEN Saint Aidan 4045 N. Cincinnati, 425-7882 Saint John 4200 S. Atlanta Place, 742-7381 Saint Dunstan 5635 East 71st. 492-7140 Trinity 501 S. Cincinnati, 582-4128 The Episcopal Church Welcomes You Anonymous HIV Tests Droppin ATLANTA (AP) - Fewer Americans are choosing to remain anonymous when tested for HIV at federally funded clinics, hospitals and prisons, according to a government report¯ In most states, people can get tested for the AIDS virus without giving their names. But the number of federally fundedanonymous tests declined nearly 27% between 1995 and 1997, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported recently. "One of the reasons perhaps is that people are beginning to see HIV as more of a treatable condition and perhaps less of a stigmatizing disease," RobertJanssen, deputy director of HIV and AIDS prevention at the CDC, said. The decline coincides with theemergence of powerful drugs that have allowed HIV patients to live longer, more normal lives. Also, new laws and regulations have been designed to protect the confidentiality of people who give their names when tested. The study period alsoincludes the arrival of the home AIDS test, which went on the market in 1996 and gav.e people another option for checking their HIV status anonymously. The CDC looked at 6.3 million HIV tests conducted at health clinics,hospitals, drug treatment centers and prisons.~Those sites conduct about 15% of H~.V tests in the United States. Federally funded HIV tests declined8% overall,from2.5 million tests in 1995 to 2.3 million in 1997. The drop could reflect the wider options available for testing and a growing population thathasbeen tested anddoesn’t feel the need to do it again, Janssen said. Joycelyn Elders at AIDSWalk Michigan DETROIT (AP) - Former Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders advocated the use of condoms, commumty involvement and needle exchange programs in Michigan’s fight against AIDS. Elders kicked offAIDS Walk Michigan - Detroit, a September fund-raising event coordinated by the Michigan Women and AIDS Committee. The walk’s organizers, who helped bring Elders here, said they hope to raise community awareness of AIDS and HIV, especially among minorities. In 1997, AIDS was the leading cause of death among blacks ages 24 to 44, despite falling AIDS death rates for the general population, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. It was the second leading cause of death among Hispanics in that age group in 1996. But Denise Stokes, a member of President Clinton’s AIDS Advisory Council and a speaker at aregional AIDS/ HIV conference here this week, said HIV and AIDS do not strike limited ¯ communities. "The only requirement to get HIV is to be human," said Ms. Stokes, who has lived with HIV for 17 years. Elders saidthegovernment is harming society bynbtmaking more clean needles a~ailable to. drug users. ~’I consider that absolutdy abuse," Eiders: said during a Detroitnew~ conference. Some Michigan cities have privately funded needle exchange programs. Elders also highlighted the experiences of families with mothers with AIDS. She said thatin thepast, criteriafor diagnosing AIDS were based on men, not women. Thus,womenoftenreceivedlate diagnoses and didnotreceive treatmentIn time. "We have almost 100,000 children who have been orphaned because of the death of their mothers,", she said. She urged churches and communities to talk with young people about HIV and AIDS, but said telling them to abstain from sex isn’t enough. Instead, she would make condoms available to students, many of whom are sexually active already, she said. "Weknow abslinence works, heaven knows it works," Elders said. "But we are sexual beings, and the vows of abstinence break far more easily than do latex condoms." Arab World Needs More AIDS Info ABHA, Saudi Arabia (AP) - AIDS specialists, health workers and government officials wound up a threeday conference with the ~onsensus that information onthe deadly disease must be more vigorously disseminated throughout the Arab world. Cases ofAIDS and HIV - the virus that causes AIDS - remain relatively low in the Middle East and North Africa region - 19,000 adults and children in the region were infected with the human immunodeficiency virus in 1998, compared with44,000 infectious in North America and 30,000 in Western Europe. But the disease is slowly spreading; and nearly 500 people gathered in this mountain resort some 1,000 kilometers (620 miles) south of Riyadh this week to hear the latest on how to combat the epidemic. "The stumbling block is that thefigures (onHIV-AIDS infections) may not be accurate," said Dr. Fahad A1- Rabiah, a specialist oninfecfious diseases at King Faisal Hospital in Riyadh, the capital. The conference, the third such gathering held every five years, was organized by the King Faisal Hospital and Research Center, the World Health Organization and the Saudi Health Ministry. Strict social and moral codes that prohibit premarital sex, adultery, homosexuality and drug abuse are effective in slowing the spread of HIV infections in Arab and Islamic countries, the speakers noted. But these same codes consider discussing sex and sex education taboo, limiting the flow of information about the disease. WHO estimates that there were 210,000 adults and children with HIV or fully developed AIDS in the Middle F_~st and North Africa region in 1998. The conference speakers pointed out that the number of cases will continue to rise as more young people experiment with sex and drugs without knowledge of safe sex methods and other precautions. MostHIV cases in the region are attributed to heterosexual transmission and shared drug needles. Adding to the growing concern, many Arab governments are not willing to treat AIDS as athreatening epidemic, so testing for HIV and medicine supplies are inadequate. According to ,1998WHOfigures, there e~are~. 373 AIDS patients" in Saudi Arabia, ¯ considered the most socially and religiously strictcountryin theArabworld. "The figures are low, but that should not make us become lazy (in combating AIDS)," Dr. A1-Rabiah said. "The most important way to fight the disease in the kingdom now is to make people aware of it and admit that it exists." Timothy W. Daniel Attorney at Law An Attorney who will fight for justice & equality for Gays & Lesbians Domestic Partnership Planning, Personal Injury, Criminal Law & Bankruptcy 1-800-742-9468 or 918-352-9504 128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma Weekend and evening appointmenls are available. Are You Gay or Bisexual? Are You Native American? Tulsals Two-Spirited Indian Men’~ Support Group is here for you! ¯ Evening support group meetings ¯ Relationship workshops ¯ Short trips, outings and retreats ¯ Free HIVtesting For information call Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project at 582-7225 Ext, 208 or 218 Jot, goddesses HairHappyHour Tuesday& Thursday 3pm to~pm 835-5563 1247 S. Harvard, Tulsa, NearTO He. Stay Healthy Naturally ¯ .Wellness Rejuvenation Longevity Dr, Terrance L. 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Or are the attitudes and practices of doctors and hospitals making it harder for these patients to get it? "At least on an unconscious level, some providers may have more aggressively tried to provide these treatments to certain patients," said Dr. Martin F. Shapiro of the University of California at Los Angeles, lead author of the study being published today in the Joumal.-of the American Medical Association (JAMA). Shapiro also noted that the differences in care based on insurance type and race persisted, evenwhenresearchers took into account such factors as how the person contracted the virus. This, he and others said, reflects larger disparities in the health system that go well beyond AIDS. "The voices of the poor are not heard well in this country," Shapiro said. ’-’In the case of HIV, the consequences of that can be quite profound." Overall, care improved from 1996 to 1998. At first, just 29% of ~all patients were receiving care that met all six standards. Thatjumped to47% two years later. But the care differed widely among groups. In 1998, for instance, 88% of whites were receiving powerful protease inhibitors, but just 80% Of blacks were. Similarly, 87% of men infected through sex with other men were taking these drugs in 1998, compared with 81% of those infected through drug use. Some of the gap had narrowed, but researchers found that tread had slowed, meaning further improvements were not likely. While disparities in access to health care are widespread, unlike other diseases, mostpeople with theAIDS virus can trace their infection to one of two sources: homosexual men or intravenous drug USerS. Part of the explanation is simple economics. People infected through intravenous drug use, or sex with a drug user, generally have less money, less education and more life problems - all of which keep them from getting effective care. Someone who can’t pay the rent or buy groceries or who is addicted to drugs may find getting medical.care a low priority. "That tends to be much more of adown-and-outpopulationinevery way,, said Dr. Alvin F. Poussaint, who studies racial disparities in health at Harvard Medical School. At the same time, the Gay commLlnity has mobilized around the disease, educating its members about treatment options and the importance of getting care. But while the AIDS epidemic hit homosexnal men first, black~ are the fimting growing group of victims, now accounting for nearly half of all new infections, making the disparities in care even more alarming to public health officials. There are many AIDS clinics in. the Gay community but few that are targeted to drug users, said Peter Lurie of Public Citizen’s Health Research Group. "The injection drug users are a relatively forgotten part of this epidemic," he said. The new research comes from the HIV Cost and Utilization Study, the first national data on care for people with HIV and AIDS. Researchers identified about 231,400 American adults with HIV.who were receiving at least some medical care outside the militaiy or prison, in all states except Alaska and Hawaii. From this group, a random sample of more than 2,000 patients was chosen for interviews beginning in early 1996 and againin early 1998. Researchers measured six components of care- three relating to use of medication and three related to use of doctors and hospitals. Morgues Stay Open Longer DuetoAIDS HARARE, Zimbabwe (AP) - State morgues are extending their hours to cope with Zimbabwe’s soaring death rate, mostly as a result ofAIDS, the main state- . controlled newspaper reported in June. An estimated 3,000 people now die every week in the southern African country, nearly 70% of them from AIDS-related illnesses, The Herald reported. Harare’s main hospital will now staff its morgue around the clock and other hospital mortuary facilities will extend closing time by four hours to 8 p.m., health authorities said, according to the newspaper. Families ofthe dead also were being asked to remove corpses within 24 hours of death to reduce overcrowding in morgues, the paper said. The National AIDS Coordination Program estimaies that more than 80,000 Zimbabweans will diefromAIDS-related illnesses this year. The World Health Organization says some 25% of Zimbabwe’s 12.5 million people are infected with the virus that causes AIDS. Churches Helping Support PLWAs RALEIGH (AP) - Churches and secular groups in one area of North Carolina are consolidating to work together on what they call a holistic approach for AIDS patients. A coalition of faith-based congregations Will consolidate with two secular AIDS service agencies to create the largest Triangle organization helping people cope with the virus. Triangle is the ¯ name for the central geographical area of North Carolina. : Thenew entity, which still has no name ¯" or central location, will help people with HIV or AIDS secure federal funding for " housing, track Social Security benefits : andfind supportgroups. Anditwillmatch ¯. clients who want spiritual help with a chaplain or a congregation ready to help i them. "It’s one thing to give lip service t,o, compassion; it’s another thing to do it, "_ said Stacy Smith, who chairs the Triangle ¯ AIDS Interfaith Network’s board of ¯ directors. "For congregations, the : consolidation points to a way they can : walk the walk- not just talk the talk." ¯ BeforeAIDS advocates agreedto allow : churches to work with them, they insisted : on two conditions: All clients would be i treated equally no matter how they were infected, see Health, p. ~4 by TFN Entertainment Editor Can youbelieve that it’s nearly the year 2000? And that 1999-2000 is Broken Arrow Playhouse’s 20th ~nniversary season? 13APC is celebrating this milestone with six productions: You’re a GoodMan, CharlieBrown, Murderonthe Nile, Greater. Tuna, Arsenic & Old Lace, Steel Magnolias, and The Sound of Music. While none of these productions are strict-. ly Gay plays, this is a company doing good work that’s always been Gay-friendly. Yes, it is ajourney out of mid-town to the wilds of Broken Arrow (except for those of you who live out there anyway) but the productions merit the journey. Speaking of good works, Saint Louis Bread, and .local franchise owners, Jim and Gaynell Magers havebeen great about supporting local charities. So when they opened their fourth _and fifth Tulsa locations, it ~should be little surprise that they gave 100% (100%! ! ! !) ofthe proceeds of their opening "dry runs" to charity. When the Woodland Hills ,location opened, the proceeds benefit~l Tulsa CARES (formerly the HIV Resource Consortium) and the Girl Scouts. The opening ofthelocationnear Bishop Kelley benefited Bishop Kelley. So when you dine next at St. Louis Bread, thank them for their community spirit - they don’t ¯ have to do it and it really helps. St. LouisBreadBenefitfor TulsaCARES and the Girl Scouts: co-owners Jim & Gaynell Magers, Tulsa CARES presidentJoeINorvetl, &J.A. Hankins, Bishop Kelley Director ofDevelopment : And if you’re thinking of taking in a ¯ meal at The Polo Grill, consider dining ¯ thereonJuly 6th, whenthose two fabulous ¯¯ Gay guys, financial guru,SteveD,Wright and his buddy, Taimadge Poweil will be : the Polo Grill’s guest chefs. It should be great menu - you can get a preview on KJRH’s morning show on July 5th. Make your reservation now ! Don’t forget that Gilcrease has the exceptional show, Taos Artis ts and their Patrons, 1898-1950 up through July 18th. And opening in August is their show featuring extra- . ordinary masks from Northwest Native ¯ American tribes. ¯ At theendofSeptember,THENAMES ¯ PROJECT will hold its annual Feast for ¯ Friends on 9/25 at the Tulsa Marriott ¯ Sou-them Hills. If you don’t recall, this is ¯ theeventwhereyoudine withyourfriends, ¯ casually or formally and then join all the : other Feast supporters for dessert. The ¯ event raises funds for HIV/AIDS ¯ education and specifically to present : portions of the AIDS Memorial Quilt. ¯ The next local presentation of part of the ¯ quilt is planned for World AIDS Day, ¯ Dec. 1, 2000. Into: 748-3111. Also, ¯ Council Oak Mens Chorale has a " performance planned for August. We’ll : bring you more about that. Stay posted. by the Rev. Mel White, Soulforce, Inc. On June 26, the Huntington Library in Pasadena, California, announced the first publicexhibitionof the Nurembergpapers. Signed by Adolf Hitler himself, the original documents havebeenonfile since they were donated by General George Patton in 1945. Hitler decreed these brief laws to guarantee the"racial purity" ofhis Third Reich. They redefined the role of Jews in Germany and opened the doors to holocaust. "I felt like I was viewing the first draft of the death warrant that led to the demise of one-third of world Jewry," said Dr. Uri Herscher. "Once deportation began" added UCLA professor Saul Friedlander, "these laws determined who would live and who would die." The four primary paragraphs were pnblishedin the Los Angeles Times. I was stunned by their familiarity. The minute .they are on display, Gary and I will be there to see them. IhopeI won’tembarrass him with involuntary tears. We should publish them in every GLBT paper in the country With the warning: It could happen again! Paragraph 1: Ended theright of Jews to marry freely. Sounds like a reason to work even harder to defeat the "Antigay Marriage" laws. Paragraph 2: Ended the right of Jews to have sexual intercourse freely. Sounds like a reason to continue our efforts to rescind the "Sodomy’’ laws. Paragraph3. Ended the right of Jews tO employee or be employed freely. Sounds like a reason to support ENDA, the Employment Nondiscrimination Act. . paragraph 4. Ended the right of Jews to ¯ display/serve the nation’s flag freely. ¯ Sounds like areason to seek thatpromised ¯ executive order from President Clinton to ¯" end the ban on gays in the military at last. ; While we’re celebrating all our hard- " earned victories (and we deserve the time ¯ to celebrate), we need to remember that ¯ Berlin in the 1930s was the most gayfriendly city in the world. How quickly ¯ life as cabaret became a nightmare of suffering and death. ¯ Too many of us believe our adversaries ¯ are ~fools who are only using us to raise funds and mobilize volunteers. In fact ¯ they are sincere believers, determined to ¯ end our rights. Too many of us think that it is NOT important for us to contribute time and ¯ money to help continue our struggle for ¯ equal rights. Infactany one ofour primary adversaries raises more money every ¯ month in part to end th.ose fi.ghts than our entire commumty raises in a year to ¯ preserve and protect them. ¯ Too many of us think the danger is passed and that time is on the side of ¯ justice. In fact Dr. King madeit very clear. ¯ "Time is on the side of injustice." ¯ Even if Pat Robertson, Jerry Falwdl, ¯ James Dobson and the others look to you ¯ likefools who arelosingpower, their antihomosexual rhetoric is reaching critical mass in thehomes and churches of our childhood. Let these documents remind us that it could happen again. Our ¯ "Nuremberg Laws" are in place or on the ¯ ballot. All it would take is for you or for ¯ me to do nothing. 3,600 Honda & Acura Owners Believe in Our... 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Info: 743-4297 PrimeTimers, mens group, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th Coming Out Support Group (TOHR/HOPE) Tuesdays, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, info: 743-4297 ~" WEDNESDAYS Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Service - 7pro, 3210b So. Norwood Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group, more information, call 582-7225 TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632. Lambda A-A, 7 pro, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft. ~= THURSDAYS HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 E. 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Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library One of the biggest controversies surrounding the Gay civil rights movement today is the act known as outing- one person publicly identifying another, closeted person as homosexual, against their wishes. Although this trend seems to be winding down, there are still many people, young and old, who are unable to .identify themselves as Losblian or Gay. Because they ar~ not prepared to,acknowledge their orientation, they lead double lives to disguisethe truthfromfriends, families and eoworkers. "Outing Yourself," by Michelangelo Signorile, recognizes the difficulty of these situations andprovides a step-by-step program for making the .journey from "Identifying Yourself" to"Not Thinking About It at All." Signorileoutlines 14 steps, under six general parts which include "Outing Yourself to Yourself," "Outing Yourself to Other Gay People," "Outing Yourself to Your Straight Friends," "Outing Yourself to Your Family," "Outing Yourself to Your C0workers," and, finally, "Coming Out Every Day," which includes ways to help others undertake the same journey. Signorile examines the most difficult steps in the first chapter, where he presents the thoughts of other authors, including film historian Vito Russo, who said, "The truth will set you free, but first it will be a pain in the neck," and Mark Thompson, who commented, "Basically, coming out is a death and rebirthexperience. To come out, something has to diewhateveritwasyouthought your were...In asense, you’rekiiling aformer constructed identity and creating anew one." Also in this chapter are exercises to do whichmay seem simplistic to some, but helpful to others, depending on how comfortable one is with the coming-out process. We can create a list of shared goals, particularly here in Oklahoma where we have so far yet to go. i’11 be so bold as to list afew I hope will make the cut: continuing the work to pass improved hate crimes protections in the Oklahoma Legislature, asking for nondiscrimination policies in private and public corporations and agencies; replacement .of elected officials who support prejudice against Lesbians, Gay men, Bisexuals and Transgendered persons. Some of this canbe the work ofjust one individua. Rogers University, now OSUTulsa, added~€term "sexual orientation" to its non-discrimination policy because one.person asked them to do so. That was me. Now had that request not been heard by social progressives ontheRogersboard like Nancy Feldman, Dorothy Dewitty and SharonKing Davis, it wouldnothave passed. But they wouldn’t have run with that ff someone hadn’t asked. Each of us canbring this reform effort to someaspect of our lives.- A. number of significant Tulsa ¯ As the journey continues, the author ¯¯ documents true experiences which reveal the common frustrations related to- " homophobia and the act of : "deprogramming yoursdf" from stereo- . types and the myths that cause lesbians : and gays to feel out of place in a straight S;~norlh... presents the thoughts of other authors, ineludlng film hlstorlan Vito Russo, who s~;d, ’~Fhe truth will set you free, but first it will be society. In "Meeting Other -Gay People," the reader is reminded that today, with gay community centers, organizations, newspapers and computer bulletin boards, the gay bar is no longer the primary gathering place. There is a list of related books, many of which arein thelibrary, which should be consulted to further explain the sometimes complex and contradictory feelings that many people experience. In "That First Talk," Signorile prepares readers for the inevitable questions and concerns that arise when having thatimportant chatwith parents or other family members. He acknowledges that it is not always wise to come out to parents immediately. Timing is everything, and it may be best topostpone yourconversation. As you get near the end of the book, which deals with coming out at work and helping others to come out, it is apparent that a common thread has been woven through chapter after chapter: maintaining a positive approach. Regardless of who is being addressed, people coming out are urged to ignore negative comments and concentrate on having a truth-" ful, uplifting and educational conversation. ¯ Signorile has also authored "Queer in ¯ America" and numerous columnsfor na- ¯ tional periodicals.Afew years ago,hehad : a notorious reputation for outing public " figures, but he has mellowed consider- " ably and this book is a patient and under- . standing guide, free from harsh judge- ~ ments or urgings to sacrifice oneself for "the cause." ." institutions have already made the pledge ¯ to treatGaypeoplefairlyin theworkplace: ~ our largest employer, American Airlines, ¯ Public ServiceCompany, Kimberly-Clark _. and others. Wenee~l, to build alocal public ¯ awareness campatgn about their good work and encturage others to follow that : lead (like TU, for example and Home ¯ Depot to mentionanother). : I have one last agenda item. We’ve got : a great community center but as many ¯ know it’s got a lease that will not be ¯ renewed. Now is the time to plan for tke : next center, one that is bigger and : preferably owned by us. It’s certainly ¯ feasibleifalotofus withmodest incomes : join withfew of our community members : with not so modest resources to find a i buil~ng and to endowit. One community wag s saidthatifafew of’ourcommunity’s : wealthiest merely redirected a portion of : their interior decorating budgets, we’d : have a buildingpaid off and its annual operating costs covered. I, ofcourse, don’ t know if that’s true butwehave to ere.ate a : vision of a better future. And while we’re : atit, how about a Gay neighborhood too? ¯ Not just a midtown where we’re part of : the fabric but one where we really can : even hold hands, without fear. Imagine. 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She was sweaty. She was close to her work. Polishing. Grinding. And then it occurred to her - "Am I being safe?" The answer, unfortunately, was "No." Removing rest with power equipment requires a minimum of personal protective equipment (PPE) to keep you safe. Rest assured, Muffins, that your DIYD promptly set her work aside, had a cool drink of water, put on her safety glasses, a pair of leather gloves, a dust mask and some earplugs. Then she returned to her work, whioh she brought to a very satisfactory, and safe, conclfision. All too often, the important element of working safely at home eludes us. It’ s awkward. It’s uncomfortable. The job will only take a few moments, so who needs it? Or, more often, wejustdon’t think about it. So this month, your DIYD happily dons her Safety Cop uniform to coax you ~nto submitting to safer work practices in your fabulous home. Surrender, Dorothy! First, read instructions. The law requires s afety notices and admonitions onmost products fi .power tools, adhesives, pmnts, and lawn chemicals. Follow the safety instructions fully. It’s a good idea to have some PPE handy around the house for when you need it. Make a kit and keep it sealed and stored in a clean, dry place where you’ll remember it. Suggested items: Dust and mist tuasks (don’t reuse these, Rockefeller!); latex or vinyl gloves; earplugs (clean the reusable type after every use. Don’t reuse disposable ones); safety glasses and/orgoggles; work gloves that fit. Lawn and Garden Work: For mowing, weed eating, grass blowing and edging, preserve and protect them. Too many of us think the danger is passed and that time is on the side of justice. Infact Dr. Kingmadeit very clear. "Time is on the side of injustice." Even if Pat Robertson, Jerry Falwell, James Dobson and the others look to you like fools who arelosing power, their antihomosexual rhetoric is reaching critical mass in the homes andchurches of our childhood. Let these documents remind us that it could happen again. Our "Nuremberg Laws" are in place or on the ballot. All it would take is for you or for me to do nothing. "" o In 1997, the Rev. Dr. Mel White received the ACLU’s National Civil Liberties Award for applying the ’soul force’ principles of Gandhi and King to the liberation 9fsexual minorit~’es. He ts a cofounder of Soulforce, Inc.and the author 0fStranger at the Gate: To Be Gay and Christian in America. wear safety glasses to protect your eyes from foreign objects, earplugs for your hearing, and a dust mask if ~AII too often, tke important element d workln~ safely at home eludes as. It’s awkward. It’s uncomfortable. Thejob will only take a few moments, so who needs ~t.~ Or, more Often, we just don’t think about it, So thls month, your DIYD happily dons her Safety Cop uniform to coax you into submittln~ to safer work praetlees in your fabulous home. you are allergy prone or asthmatic. Drinklots ofliquids and work early if it’ s hot. Lawn Chemicals: If using liquids, wear long sleeves and pants, work upwind, spray 0nly on calm days, wear latex or vinyl gloves and safety glasses. Most chemicals can be absorbed through skin and mucous membranes, andduckling, if it will kill weeds or ticks, think about what it can do to you! For dry chemicals, wear gloves, a dust mask and safety glasses. Shop Work: Wear your earplugs and safety glasses. Never disarm guards m~ant to protect you. Don’t use worn out blades, bits or other components. Use a dust mask and keep the area well ventilated. Using a table saw? Then use push sticks when cutting your stock. Saw kickbacks are truly ugly. Refinishing and painting: Do it outside, if at all possible. Wear gloves, safety glasses and possibly arespirator. Look at less harmful options. There are several products for stripping and refinishing that are more environmentally - and human - friendly. Do not use strippers, Solvents or solvent based stains and : finishes near flame sources, such as gas ¯ water heaters, oven pilot lights and ¯ furnaces. We do not want you to go Sha- ¯¯ boom, sha-boo~n. Na-na-na-na-na, etc. Sorry. Having a retro moment. ¯ This is just an overview to get youin the ¯ habit of looking at the safety precautions your home projects may require. Be safe, ¯ be healthy and be back for next month’ s : column. Your DIYD wants to tell you what to do.for a long, long time. : meeting is to gather, learn and find ways ¯ several "possible outcomes:" : - a commitment to regroup every six ¯ months; - a review of our calendars for events ¯ where we might work together; ¯" - discussion of combining mailing lists with provision for privacy of each ¯ organization’s original list; : - discussion of a community wide fundraising event, similar to Dallas’ Black Tie dinner to benefit all organizations ¯ instead of competing for thee,same dollars; ¯ - consideration of aft ~fimbrell~ co¯ ordinating organization ~or these eff0~ts. Those receiving the letter were ¯ encouraged tO alert the Organizers ~J any ¯ group not listed who should be invited. ¯ However, the contact number listed on ¯ the letter rings to a disconnected message ¯ but Newman’s no. is 582-4673. : Editor’s note: this month’s editorial, ¯ Say Something Nice: Praise for Pride ’99, also comments on this meeting and some ¯ possible community goals. The letter suggests that the point of the better to work together but also identifies by Esther Rothblum : recommend the book Eden Built by Eyes: What’s the first thing that comes to , TheCultureofWomen’sMusicFestivals, mind when we think about women’s ¯ by Bonnie Morris (Alyson Press, 1999) music.’? Many Lesbians will recall Alix Dobkin’s album Lavender Jane Loves ¯ Women. I r~eq,ently spoke with Alix and asked how she first became a Lesbian musician. "I was writing aboutmy own life," she recalled, "so music waspartofmyconsciousness raising." Alix had been a professional folk singer for many-years. "I was at the right place, at the right time, with the right background, doing the right thing," she told me. She produced a number of albums of women’s music: Lavender Jane Loves Women (1973), Living WithLesbians (1976), XXAlix (1980), These Women (I986), YahooAustralia (1990), andLoveandPolitics ( 1992, acompilation album). .., Living with Lavender Jane (1998) wa~ a re-release ontoCDofthefirsttwoalbums. In addition, Alix Dobkin’s Adventures in Women’s Music (Not Just a Songbook) was published in 1978. I asked Alix what other music was around for Lesbians when she first began performing. The answer: notmuch. Robin Tyler had produced Maxine Feldman in 1972; a 45-rpm record with two songs. There was the Chicago Women’s LiberationRockBandand theNew Haven Women’s Liberation Rock Band Double Album. And in New York, Lesbian Feminist Liberation conducted a talent show and recorded it - the record was called A Few Loving Women: Lavender Jane Loves Women was the first album of women’s music that was distributed internationally. "Those days were tremendously exciting," Alix said. "First of all, I was writing about myself AS A LESBIAN. I was writing the kinds of songs in which you could not change a pronoun and have it still make sense. In other words, you could not change my music into heterosexual songs. They were clearly and openly songs about women loving women. I realized that as long as I was writing songs like that, I was writing umque material. No one had ever written that before, and even the women depending on Lesbian audiences almost never write about Lesbians - in fact; they rarely mention womenF’ Even today, Alix feels that there is a great need for Lesbians to be writing about their lives. She has sensed at times that women’s music has received a bad rap, when in fact it is precisely because of the foremothers in .women’s music that performers like theIndigo Gifts havebeen successful. "There is this belief that women’s music is confined to folk music, which it never was," said Alix. "The negative reaction coming from many young Lesbians is due largely to the backlash against feminis~a. Our communities very much reflect what is going on in the world generally and feminism has been dismissed, even by women in our own communities. I would "There is this belief that women s music is confined to folk music, which it never was," said Alix. "The negative reaction coming from many .young Lesbians is due largely to the backlash ag.ai.nst emlnlSm. for an excellent overview and more details. Women’s music is about raising consciousness, and most people don’t even know ~vhat ttiat is anym0re. Furthermore, due to budget cuts in education, we’vealso lost a generation that was schooled to appreciate music" Nevertheless, Alix is excited by the fact that many of her performances these days are atuniversities, so that she does have an impact on young women. After a lifetime in New York, Alix is now living in California. She stillperforms around the country, and is involved with a club that features concerts by women and holds and furthers our chlture. The Director, Barbara Price, used to co- ¯ produce the Michigan Womyn’s Music ¯ Festival. Alix is writing a column for : Chicago Outlines and working on a book ¯ of her memoirs. ¯ Visit Alix Dobkin’s webpage at : www.ladyslipper.org/vendors/ ¯ ladyslipper/alix_dobkin.xtml To order ." Alix Dobldn’s music and music by other ¯¯ women and Lesbian musicians, contact Ladyslipper Music, P.O. Box 3124, ¯ Durham, NC 27715, tel. 1-800-634-6044 ¯ or 919-383-8773. ¯ Esther Rothblum is Prof. ofPsychology ", at the Univ. ofVermont and Editor of the : Journal of Lesbian Studies. She can be ¯ reatz-hedatDeweyHall, Univ.ofVermont, : Burlington, VT, email: ¯ esther.rothblum@uvm.edu. : President Clinton broke the impasse three ¯ weeks agowhenhemadeHormel a"recess : appointment"-amethodthatcircumvents : the normal Senate confirmation process. ," The State Department generally shies ¯ away from partisanship, but the whiff of politics was in the air as Albright joined ¯ Hormel, a longtime Democratic donor ¯ and activist, for the festivities and spoke ¯ on his behalf. Civil rights for Gays and ¯ Lesbians have been a high-profile theme ¯ for the Democrats as campaigning for : next year’s election picks up steam. Vice ¯ President A1 Gorevisited aGayandlesbian ¯ centerduringacampaignvisittoCalffornia : last week. ¯ The Traditional Values Coalition, a ¯ churchlobby thatopposedthenomination, ¯ said in a statement that the swearing in of ¯ Hormel marks "the beginning of the Gore ¯ campaign’s efforts to woo thehomosexual : vote." Coalition members demonstrated ~ in protest outside the State Department as ¯ the ceremony was taking place. : ’"Unis is one of those glorious days : when thenice guy finishes first," Albright ¯, told the gathering. "Neitherrace, norcreed, ¯ nor gender nor sexual orientation should ¯ berelevant to the selection ofambassadors ; for the United States. ¯ . Said Kennedy: see Hormel, p. 13 IGTA member Call 341.6866 International TOUrs !ormorein ormation. AUTHENTIC FRESH 1TALIAN RAINBOW CUSINE TROUT ofEureka Springs Voted Number One in Arkansas! 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Hula, like Hawaiian language, surfing, slack key guitars, kalua pork and lomilomi salmon, and similar cultural symbols, represents "Hawaiianness." Hula dancers celebrate their Hawaiian identity and tla~ir links to ancestral tradition. There.~e twohula styles: ’auana,which often is tourist-trash hula which shakes to the beat of guitar andukulele, and kahiko, where dancers bodies move When ,]ames Cook’s ships llM at the Island of Hawai’i in 1789, the En~llsh were hor~f;ed to d~seover that l ding Hawai~n ehlefs bo g n& in addition to to accompany traditional chants. You might guess that our stodgy academic seminar was treated to the more formal, higher status huta kahiko. But I prefer kahiko style--I must confess--in that the guys d~ce shiftless in skimpy malo; orloindoths. It is certainly easier to appreciate dance when the performer wears little on his body. Traditionally, only men danced hula. ¯ Although no doubt always entertaining, hula was principally a religious ritual meant to communicate with gods and ancestors. Dances took place at temples and shrines that were taboo to women. Nowadays, hula is mostly-women’s business though there are several popular men’s troops that perform and compete in regular hula festivals. Many male hula dancers are gay as have been some noted kumu hula (dance school teachers and leaders). Drivenundergroundby Christian missionary opposition in the early 19th century, the hularetumed as a legitimate art form in the 1880S under the patronage of King Kalakaua. Gay dancers have long cultivated and daborated hula and today, a century later, huladoes very wall as both tourist spectacle and marker of Hawaiian cultural authenticity. Nowadays the local words for "gay man" that one hears most often are mahu and "muffy," these often indicating some degree of effemininl~y. Traditionally, islanders also .spoke of:aikane - a word that appears to have meant "male lover" though today people use the word for any dose friend. When James Cook’s ships called at the Big Island ofHawai’i in 1789, the English were horrified to discover that leading Hawaiianchiefs hadboyfriends in addition to wives. Charles Clerke, second in command of the expedition, wrote: every chief "according to his rank keeps so many women and so many young men ([aikane] as they call them) for the amusement of his leisure hours; they talk of this infernal practice with all"~’ indifference in the world, not do I suppose they imagine any degree of infamy init." Kamehameha, who would unify Hawai’i and.become the archipelago’s first king, also had a boyfriend. David Samwell, ship’s surgeon, met the future king’s lover when Kamehameha visited us, as we have had opportunities before of being acquainted with a detestable part of his Character which he is not in the least anxious to The Hawaiians - shrewd observers no doubt - asked the English if some of the ship’s boys and young sailors on board were the aikane of the ship’s officers. One might guess that a trim ship’s boy might begin to look rather attractive, even to the most heterosexist officer, on an extended two-year voyage around the world in the dose quarters of a small leaky ship. Still, the English were offended by the Hawaiians’ pointed questions. I suspect they mostly were mortified and embarrassed that the Hawaiians, unlike the English, were not anxious to conceal their homosexual relations, nor "imagine any degree of infamy" in them. Any officer who might havebeenmessing witha ships’ boy would have been desperate to keep this on the down low. Today, as Hawaiians ofall sorts continue to argue the possibilities of homosexual marriage, the aikane serves in this debate. Some suggest that the State of HawaJ~i should legalize gay marriage as a way of respecting and celebrating the past and these islands’ onetime traditions. The "English" view of boyfriends remains dominant, however, and aikane are still partially in hiding. Where once Hawaiian homosexuality was indifferent and therefore normal, today it has become different and thus dangerous to admit. There are popular statues and images of the great King Kamehameha on view in many public places here but in none of these does the King have his boyfriend at his side. Nonethdess, the past lives on in hula. As I watched the sinuous hula dancers in their malo I could see back into a time and place where men saw no reason to conceal their honorable affairs with their boyfriends. "There was never any honorable question abouthis qualifications tobe ambassador." The opposition to Hormel was ¯ "irresponsibleandunacceptable," he said. ¯ Feinstein, noting that Hormel’s ¯ appointment teared the SenateForeign ~ Rdations Committee by 16-2, said he ¯ would have been approved by an ¯ overwhelming majority had the Senate ¯ voted as a whole. By tr~idition, even one ¯ senator can preventa Vote on anomination ¯ because of a personal grievance. In Hormel’s case, his appointment was ¯ blockedby Oklahoma senator, Jim Inhofe, who formerly represented in Oklahoma’s ¯ (mostly Tulsa) First District in the US House. Inhofe has received national attention for his anti-Gay views. "In Jim’s [Hormd] appointment, I think ¯ we open a door," Feinstein said. ..) and-AIDS education wouldcontinue, even if it meant handing out condoms at Gay bars. "We wanted to make sure we don’t repeat the mistakes of the past," said Jacquelyn Clymore, director of client. services for AIDS Service Agency of North Carolina. The consolidation, which will become official in December, will unite the AIDS ServiceAgency of NorthCarolina, serving Wake, Durham and Orange counties, the AIDS Service Agency of Orange County and theTriangleAIDS Interfaith Network, a coalition of 60 churches and one synagogue. The secular agencies will get help from a crew of about 500 committed church volunteers, many of whom feel called to help people with AIDS. In the early days of AIDS, Gay men with the virus were unwelcome in many churches, while those who had contracted AIDS from heterosexual contact or blood infusions were called "innocent victims." But in recent years, many Christians and Jews have quietly begun reaching out to people with AIDS, acting on scriptural commandments to love thy neighbor. Today, HIV infection rates are- highest among low-income African-American men and women, many of whom ¯ contracted the virus througli heterosexual contact or sharing needles. It took four years of talking for the consolidation to move forward because this time, it was the AIDS advocates who harbored stereotypes of religious groups. Some feared they would bejudgmental, if not sanctimonious. "We asked ourselves: ’What’s in the best interest of the client?’ "said Bill Brent, executive director of the AIDS Service Agency of North Carolina and director of the new agency. The three groups, withbranches across the Triangle, will consolidate their staff, apply for grants and raise money as one. Man3" church volunteers say they are happy to avoid the politics of AIDS. They don’t ask about sexual orientation or past drug use. "We don’t even talk about that. It’s the relationship here and now that’s important," said Earl Wiggins, who leads the care team at Greater St. Paul Missionary Baptist Church in Durham. "Love is the key component." againstGays, andNew Hampshire, where lawmakers repealed a 1987 law thatbarred Gays fromadopting children or serving as foster parents. "You can sort of pick the state and measure progress in every state on the legislative front," she said. Unimaginablein 1969was the visibility of-Gay people today in politics, entertainment and everyday news coverage. Think Ellen DeGeneres, k.d. lang; Melissa Etheridge, Flton John, Ian McKellan, Rupert Everett. Three current members of Congress are openly Gay - Democrats Barney Frank ofMassachusetts and’Tammy Baldwin of Wisconsin and Republican Jim K01h¢Of Arizona- as are scores~of other.deeted officials around ’, theS(ountry. ’:.The love that dare not speak its name now ~on’t shut up," says TomAmmiano, president of San Francisco’s Board of Supervisors. In 1%9, Ammiano was a27- year,old,, sp,,ec~_’al education teacher and no~e,t, ’out as, a Gay man, although, he salt. ’it wash t hard to surmise - the wrists and everything." He subsequently b~e a stand-up comic and a member of die Board of Supervisors;,where three of 11 members are openly Gay. President of the board since November, he’s considered a likely challenger to San Francisco Mayor Willie Brown Jr. The progress made by Lesbians and Gay men has been accompanied by setbacks as well. Eighteen states still have sodomy laws ontheirbooks, five of which single outhomosexual sodomy, Efforts to include Gays in federal civil rights and hate-crime laws have stalled. Current law prohibits crimes based on race, color, religion or national origin. Recent murders of Gay men- Matthew Shepard, a University ofWyoming student who was beaten and tied to a fence last October, and Billy Jack Gaither, an Alabama textile worker who was beaten with an ax handle mad set on fire - raised awareness of the persistence of anti-Gay violence. AIDS has decimated ageneration of Gay men, and nearly 20 years into the epidemic there is no cure. Still, few could dispute that Lesbians and Gay men in 1999 enjoy rights undreamed of in 1969. Karl Rusterholtziives in Mission Viejo, Calif., with his partner and their twofoster sons. They are active in their church, where Rusterholtz and his partner celebrated their union with a commitment ceremony. "l would say that we’re just pretty average," says Rusterholtz, 36, a microbiologist. "We’ve gone to pride marches and stuff, but it’s not our cup of tea." Rusterholtz says he "would like to see federal protection, that Gays and Lesbians would not worry about losing their jobs or losing their homes -or losing their children." But his own experience negotiating the foster care system inconservative Orange County has been "nothing but fabulous." Margaret Blankenbiller, 21, works in a florist’s shop inProvo, Utah. "I’d like to be able to hold my girlfriend’s hand when we go out to dinner and not worry about someone slashing our tires," she says. Still, her family is supportive and her coworkers - many of them members of the conservative Mormon church - treat her Lesbianism "like it’ s pretty normal." Nestle, who founded the Lesbian Her’story Archives and is now 59, remembers when being a Lesbian was anything but normal. At one bar she frequented, Nestle and her friends had to line up to use the bathroom one at a time "because we couldn’t be trusted" not to misbehave inside together. Toilet paper was doled out shut by sheet. "Something in me was moving from knowing I was a freak to saying that someday I will refuse this moment of humiliation;’ she says. Nestle has ;been chosen one of two grand marshals for Sunday’s Gay pride parade in New York. "It’ll be a very special moment," she says. "I see it as the largest grassroots demonstration in the world." Gay men into its worship life. Unity Church of Christianity at 3355 So. Jamestown has welcomed a new pastor, Steve Colliday, who happens to be an openly Gay -man. The Unity tradition has ¯ been welcoming of Lesbians and Gay ~meri for some time. And College Hill Presbyterian Church (CHPC) is considering becoming a"More Light" congregati.on which is the Presbyterian version of bein.g a "welcoming" congregation. College Hill close by the University of Tulsa, has a tradition of being involved in progressive causes.Avote is expected in afew months. to ads...FRF.E! Use Free Code 717 SEX... ;e Free Code 7000 9699 Tolsa 18-6 Oklahoma Megaphone does not prescreen callers and assumes no liability for personal meetings. 24 hour customer service (800) 289-1489. 18+ ~ ~) ] 998 PC u’ll g Closing on Horr Equity Loans! hat~ right. Home Equity Loans at Bank of Oklahoma now come with no closing costs, so y()u can save hundreds of dollars. Use your home’s equit:y to bom:)w t~:~r just a[x)ut anything .-~ home im.provenmnts, bill consolidation, college tuition, or buying a car. 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Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource July 1999 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Jean-Claude de Flambeauchaud Barry Hensley J.P. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Gay Couple Murdered In California; Senate Passes TwoAnti-Hate Crimes Bills HAPPY VALLEY, Calif. (AP) - In this tiny, largely conservative farming community, Gary Matson and Winfield Mowder were accepted. It didn’t matter that they were Gay. They gained respect through their community Work. They helped create alocal children’s museum, and Matson helped establish the 20-year-old Redding Farmer’s Market. Now tWO brothers who Eave been linked to a series of arson fires at Sacramento synagogues are accused of killing the couple, police said. Authorities said one of the alleged gunmen, Benjamin Matthew Williams, sometimes sold vegetables andherbs atM~son’s ~narket. "It’s beyond words that the farmers market may be the connectionbetween the victims and thekillers," said Margaret Jensen, who tends a market stall stocked with squash and onions. "If they burned the synagogues, too, that takes it to a level that is just staggering from someplace we think of as a small community." The bodies of Matson, 50, and Mowder, 40, were discovered July I at theirhomeinHappy Valley, a small community just outside of Redding in northern California. They had been shot in their bed. Afew days later, after one of the victims’ credit cards was used, police staked out aYuba City business where the creditcardpurchasewas to be delivered, andarrested the Williams brothers. The brothers were both armed and one was wearing a bulletproof vest, police said. Yuba City is about 120 miles southeast of Redding. see Hate, p. 10 Council Oak Mens Chorale Presents August Concert Other UpcomingEvents: Feast + AIDS Walk TULSA-TheCouncil Oak Men’sChorale, Tulsa’s Gay men’s singing organization will present a concert, Brothers Forever on August 27 & 28 at 8pro in the John Williams Theatre at Tulsa’s Performing Arts-Center. COMC will be joined in concert by Positive Voices of Dallas, Texas. Areception willfollow theperformances and tickets, $12, are available through the Performing Arts Center box office at 596-7111 or 800-364-7111 (outside of Tulsa). Also, coming up is the annual Feast for Friends, a ftmdraiser .for-THE NAM-ES~ PROJECT-,. the. AIDS Memorial .Quilt. In the event, organizations and individuals join each other for private dinners at which theattendees donate to supportTHENAMES PROJECT and then all of the various dinner groupS’ come together for entertainment’and dessert at 8:30pro at the Southern Hills Marriott. For more information, call 748-3111. Later in October, the annual AIDS Walk will be held on October 2nd. For more information, call 579-9593. DIRECTORY/LETTERS P. 2 EDITORIAL P. 3 US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P. 6 ENTERTAINMENT . P. 8 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 READ ALL ABOUT IT P. 11 DYKE PSYCHE P. 12 GAY STUDIES P. 13 " Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered TuIsans, Our Families + Friends " Tuisa’s Largest Circulation CommunityPaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations ° TOHR Center News: President "Resigns; $5k Grant Received TOHR&Community CenterformerpresidentSteve Horn (right) and with hisfriend Phil at Pride ’99. TULSA - Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, Inc. (TOHR), Oklahoma’s oldest non-religions Gay and parentorganization of the Tulsa Gay Community Services Center has experienced a change in leadership. Board president Steve Horn resigned in July in order to take anew job in Dallas. Horn had been employed with CFS. Upon his resignation, TOHR vice president, Greg Gatewood became president. Gatewood praised Horn for his leadership and noted that the change in leadership would not affect any of the programs that TOHRand the Center had planned. He noted that for August, the ¯ organization had calle~,,a work day at the,,C.enter on 8/8 at noon, a planning meeting for MilleniumPride, the Parade and Picuic Next Gay Community ’ for 2000 on 8112 at 7:30 and acommunity potluck with a"Cajun" " theme for 8/21at Tpm. Meeting Called for 9/14 Other significant news for the Center was the receipt of a " $5,000 grant for general operating expenses from the Gill TULSA -. With about 40 people attending, ° Foundation. Center volunteer of the year, Tim Gillean, was representing most of Tulsa Lesbian and Gay, and ¯ responsible for writing the grant application~ New president HIV related groups, the first community wide ¯ Gatewood emphasized that while the grant would help the Center meeting in several years brought together young :. develop a small emergency reserve, see TOHR, p. 14 and not so young, Gay and non-Gay, political and non-partisan groups. Therepresentattves spent over two hours discussing their group’s goals and what ¯ NGLTF Starts Family Program common ground they may have. : VeteranAttorney Paula Ettelbrick to Lead Initiative WashingtonHigh School’sGay-StraightAlliance and TU’s BLGT Alliance were there along with ¯ JULY 26, 1999--The Policy Institute of the National Gay and most of the Gay-friendly religaons groups in the ¯ Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF) today announced creation of a city. Cimarron Alliance and Tulsa Oklahomans for ° Family Policy program to secure inclusive definitions of family Human Rights also attended with RAIN, the ¯ in national, state and local policy contexts. The Family Policy Regional AIDS Interfaith Network, and HOPE, ¯ Program will engage in research, policy analysis, coalition HIV Outreach, Prevention and Education as well. building, strategy development and collaborative work with a Under the facilitation of Marty Newman and ¯ wide range of family-focused organizations to ensure that the DennisNeill(who’dissuedthecallforthemeeting) ¯ needsofGay, Lesbian~BisexualandTransgender(GLBT)families a number of possible community goals were ¯ are considered and protected, identified: to replace the Tulsa Community AIDS "We are in the midst of a revolution in family creation within Partnership funding (which is due to end soon), ¯ GLBT communities, but ironically, and inaccurately, our relocate the Community Center when its lease ¯ movement is characterized as being anti-family," said NGLTF ends, ~o-ordinatecommtmity fundraisingandeven:s : Executive Director Kerr3, Lobel. "This Program at NGLTF’s to better support various organizations, and where Policy Institute takes aim at the myths that persist about our appropriate, do political and civil fights related families and will formulate a genuinel y pro-family public policy work. see Aleetin~, ~. 1] agenda from the vantage point of GLBT people’s lives." TheFamilyPolicyprogramatthePolicyInstituteisfundedby Saint Jerome to Host major gifts from several parents., including Seattle City Councilwoman and philanthropist Tina Podlodowski, and Ordination Ceremony California-based donors Jennifer and Kathy Levinson through a TULSA - The Parish Church of Saint Jerome will gift from the Lesbian Equity Foundation of Silicon Valley. welcome clergy and lay leaders of the Evangelical Urvashi Vaid, director of the Policy Institute announced that AnglicanChurchinAmericafromacross thenation nationally known Lesbian attorney and family advocate, Paula for the denomination’s annual ordination Ettelbrick, has been hired to direct the Family Policy Program. ceremonies. The RightReverendCraig Bettendoff, Ettelbrickha~ worked onlocal, state and national family policy presiding bishop will ordai~ or receive candidates issues for the past 13 years. She is former legal director of duringtheregularworshipservicesofSaintJerome Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund, where she developed on Sunday, August 8th at llam. The weekend the group’s.emphasis on family advocacy and founded the eventsbeginatlpmonSaturday,August7thandan Family RelatioushipslProject. She served as publicpolicy director Evensong service will be held that day at 6pro with for the National Center for Lesbian Rights. dinner to follow. Since 1994, Ettelbrick has been legislative counsel for the Candidatesfortbediaconatewillbepresentfrom Fan.pire State Pride Agenda, where she is credited with helping North Carolina, Arkansas, Illinois, and Oklahoma. wm passage of New York City’s comprehensive domestic BishopBettendorfwillalsoordaintothe presbytery, . partnership policy and drafting innovative municipal and state ¯ pro-GLBT family laws. candidates fromNew Mexico,New York, Colorado, ¯ California and Florida. ¯ Ettelbrick and her partner, Suzanne Goldberg, have a two-year All events are open to the public. For more ¯ old son and are expecting another child in September. She has information, call Father Rick Hollingsworth at the ¯ taught law for 10 years and currently teaches a course on Parish Church of Saint Jerome, 582-3088. ." sexua!i~ty and the_law atNewYorkUni versity Law School and the ¯ UniversityofMichiganLawSchool.Earlierthisyear, Ettelbrick ¯ Served as the National Coordinator of the highly successful Tulsa C.A.R.E.S Gets ""EqualityBegiusatHome"campaigu, spousoredbyNGLTFand Phili.p Morris Grant ¯ tbe Federation ofStatewideLGBTPolitical Orgamzations, which : encompassed 350 rallies and other events in all 50 states plus : TULSA -Tulsa C.A.R.E.S., Tulsa’s Center for : Puerto Rico and the District of Columbia last March. ¯ AIDS Resources, Education and Support, formerly and observed that Ettelbnck s experase will be invaluable to known as the HIV Resource Consortium, has : .thenational GLBTmovement’s efforts to organizearoundfamily : received a grant of $15,000 to its food pantry from ¯ issues. She pointed out that as of June of 1999, almost 50 anti- : the Philip Morris Companies, Inc. : GLBTfamilybillshadbeenfiledinstatelegislaturesthroughout ¯ Stephen C. Parrish, senior vice president for : the country. "This nationwide mobilization against our families : corporate affairs came toTulsathelastweekofJuly ¯ comes directly from the anti-Gay religious fight and its think " to announce the award to the Tulsa Area United ¯ tanks," Vaid said. "It is an effective strategy because the GLBT : Way agency. According to comments reported by ¯ political movement at the state level remains understaffed and ¯ The TulsaWorM,executivedirector, SharonThoele, ¯ underfunded." " indicated that the grant word be matched by The NGLTF Family Policy program will pursue three major " $15,000 from another philanthropic organization " objectives: first, to provide the data and arguments that can " and wonldhelp purchase afreezer and refrigerator. ¯ enable activists to secure inclusive definitions of family in ¯ The award was oneof38 given to organizations in - national, state and local policy frameworks see NGLTF, p. 3 " 24 states, and the only Oklahoma award. Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston Burger Sisters Restaurant, 1545 S; Sheridan *Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria *Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria *Jason’s Deli, 15th & Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square *St.~ Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S Main *TNT’s,. 2114 S. 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Grand HIVtesting every other Tues. 5:30-8:30, call for dates . EUREKA SPRINGS, ARKANSAS : ¯Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy. 23 501-253~7734 ¯Jim & Bren.t’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457 ¯ DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807 ¯ ¯Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445 " MCC of the Living Spring 501:253-9337." Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 501-253-2776 Old Jailhouse Lodging, 15 Montgomery 501-253-5332 : Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-624-6646 : Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001 : ¯White Light, 1 Center St. 501~253-4074 ¯ FAYETTEVILLE, ARKANSAS5 ¯ ¯Edna’s, 9 S. School Ave. 501-442-2845 ¯ JOPLIN, MISSOURI ¯ Spirit of Christ MCC, 2639 E. 32, Ste. U 134 417-623-4696 ¯ ¯ is where you can find TFN. Notall are Gay-owned butall are Gay-friendly. Zoning Concerns On the eve of the August 10 bond election for street improvements, I find myself in the awkward position of being asked to vote ’yes’ while some of my basic property rights are under the threat of seizure. Againstmy very vocal protests, the Tulsa Metropolitan Area Planning Commission (TMAPC) recently voted to ’downzone’ myhomefrom amulti-family to a single-family category. I purchased my house with the intention of adding a rental .unit in the future for supplemental income, and I wish to retain the existing zoning designation. Currently, I have theright to build eleven apartments on my property. If the zoning is changed, I will have the right to one single-family dwelling. This constitutes an obvious taking of my development rights without fair compensation, and I resent the TMAPCIs insistence on rezoning without my consent. Doesn’t theTMAPChave enough to do without tinkering with the privateproperty of a taxpayer who is satisfied with the existing zoning? The ’planners’ should attend to their business of more efficient metropolitan planning by allowing residential infill development in the downtownneighborhoods. Then,perhaps we would not be faced with multi-million dollar bond elections to support hundreds of miles of streets and utilities sprawling across such a sparsely populated city. -Sincerely, Paul Uttinger, Tulsa TITLE VII. Earlier this month, another Eastern Districtjudgehadrejected aclaim that harassment aimed at gays is covered under the federal anti-discrimination statute, Title VII ofthe Civil Rights Act of 1964. In rejecting the suit of a Gay postal worker who claimed he was subjected to a hostile work environment, Judge Leonard B. Wexler ruled in Simonton v. Runyon, that discrimination based t~pon sexual orientation did not fall within Title VII’s ban of "sex" discrimination. However, Judge Spatt ruled in Qninnv.~ Nassau County Police Department, No. 97-3310, that there is no such similar limitation upon a claim framed.directly upon the Equal Protection clause in the U.S. Constitution. Title VH specifically enumerates five types of discrimination that it bans, and the list does not include discrimination basedupon sexual orientation, Judge Spatt pointed out. In contrast, he wrote~-the Supreme Court in Romer recognized that homosexuals are directly protected trader the Equal Protection Clause from "invidious and irrational discriminationbased on sexual orientation." Chris P. Termini, of McCabe, Collins, McGeogh & Fowler, represented Nassau County. Two individual defendants were separately represented by Ronald J. Morelli, of Mulholland, Minion & Roe, and Alan J. Reardon. Susan Fitzgerald;of Leeds & Morelli, also represented Mr. Letters Policy Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on issues which we’ve covered or on issues you think need to be considered. You may request that your name be withheld but letters must be signed & have phone numbers, or be hand delivered. 200 wordletters are preferred. Letters to other publications will be printed as js appropriate. In many parts of the United States, Gay, lesbian, " running for any office in this party." While I had good bisexual and transgendered (GLBT) persons have achieved an equal status in the communities in whichthey live. But not in Oklahoma. Not yet. The Democratic National Committee (DNC) recognizes GLBT persons. But not the Oklahoma Democratic Party (ODP). Not yet. In 1998 the DNC adopted a policy requiring each state to nameGLBT delegates to the National Democratic Conventions. The DNC has recognized that the majority of GLBT persons, like the majority of straight persons, are caring and responsible citizens entitled to an equal, not special but equal, presence in the DNC. The ODP, once moving towards inclusion of GLBT persons, now under new party leadership, rejects or ignores that DNC policy. Much has been accomplished in Oklahoma for which GLBT persons should all be proud. Moving a hate crimes bill from a legislative committee to the House floor for debateis somewhatmiraculous, considering the prevailing Oklahoma attitudes only a few years ago when the Oklahoma City Council rejected and terminated the HumanRights Commission. Whathas been accomplished can be attributed to the efforts of GLBT and affiliated political organizations such as OGLPC (Oklahoma Gay & Lesbian Political Committee), The Cimarron Alliance Group, TOHR (Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights), PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) with the support of the NAACP and various labor and faith organizations. Although these organizations are the heroes in the efforts to date, they are not adequate for what is yet to be accomplished. These organizations focus on issues and review candidates from a non-partisan perspective. What is missing in Oklahoma is the partisan participation of GLBT persons, open partisan participation within the major parties, not unlike the women’s organizations and other caucuses. Straights raise families; GLBT persons care for the community in which those families live. Just look at who we are. We are present in every profession and job category as wall as present or have been present in every elected office level, whether we admit it publicly or.not. Throughout recorded history GLBT persons have often been the movers and shakers for communities, the caregivers, the compassionate, the artists, even leaders of historical fame. Themajority ofus as GLBT persons have the same expectations and dedication to our communities as the majority of straights among whom we live and work with side by side. But you would not know that if youJistened to partisan leaders in both major Oklahoma parties. As a congressional candidate for Congress from Oklahoma’s Sixth District in 1996 and again in 1998, I made many friends with Democrats. I know and have good contacts with Democrat. leaders in each of the 24 counties comprising the Sixth District. That is an asset that I believe valuable as a party worker. I let it be known that I wanted to serve as the District Secretary when the incumbent indicated the day before the convention that he would not run for re-election. Without detailing the series of events leading up to the conclusion of my attempt to place my name in line for District Secretary, the man who became District Chair at that April conventionblockedmefromrunning for office. During a fifteen-minute conversation with him prior to the Convention, hemade it clear that he and other elected officials in the Sixth District did not want me to run for any office. He would not say it was because I am Gay but his remarks left me with only that justification for his statement, "I am running for chair to keep you from ~ support among delegates I had contacted in that 24-hour ¯ period leading up to convention, I knew that it would be ." difficult to fnnction as a team. I did not seek the nomination ¯ during the convention. There was no caucus to turn to for ¯ support. A quotation from the May 25 Daily Oklahoman interview with the newly elected ODP Chair, Mike Mass, speaks to my concern as a Gay person: "Mass said he thinks the party under Hall has eottoned too much to what he calls splinter groups¯ He and Hall were both at a funetlon, and a Gay and lesbian advocate asked Mass what he was going to do to help the Gay eommunlty. ’Nothing,’ Mass replied. Mass thinks the party has tended to make a big deal about such groups." Even amore glaring concern for GLBT persons is the election of a new state chair for the ODP during its May 15 convention. Representative Mike Mass, a very vocal opponent ofthe hate crimes bill in the legislature, was elected by a two-vote margin in an election fraught with fraud. (I am leading a challenge of that election for the purpose of restoring integrity to the ODP. A petition calling for a new election was signed by more than ¯¯ 200 co-signors and filed with the DNC ou June 9.) ~ quotation from the May 25 Daily Oklahoman interview with the newly elected ODP Chair, Mike Mass, speaks to ¯ my concern as a Gay person: ¯ "Mass said he thinks the party under Hall has cottoned ¯ too much to what he calls splinter groups. He and Hall ¯ were both at a function, and a Gay and lesbian advocate ¯ asked Mass what he was going to do to help the Gay ¯ community. ’Nothing,’ Mass replied. Mass thinks the ¯ party has tended to make a big deal about such groups." ¯ If therewas apartisan presenceofGLBTpersons in the ¯ ODP, or at least the acknowledgment of the DNC’s ¯ directive to include GLBT persons as delegates, this ¯ archaic attitude would be a relic of the past instead of ¯ facing us for the future in the ODP. ¯ There are national part~san organizations for both the Democratic and Republican parties - The Log Cabin ¯ Republicans and the National Stonewall Democratic ¯ Federation (NSDF). GLBT persons in Oklahoma need that partisan identification so that they can have a"seat at ¯ the table" when partisan political decisions are made. : The NSDF was organized at Kansas City in May 1998 ¯ for the purpose of mobilizing GLBT persons through a ¯ national grassroots network of GLBT Democratic clubs. ¯ There are GLBT Democratic clubs that are joined with ¯ their state Democratic party. Colorado and Michigan ¯ both have a federated GLBT Democratic dub within ¯ their State Democratic parties. GLBT Oklahomans need ¯ that presence in our state party. An Oklahoma Stonewall ¯ Democratic Club must be organized. I am a recently ¯ ¯ electedregional director for theNSDFandurgeinterested persons to check out the website at www.stonewalldemocrats.org or contact me by e-mail, paulb@pldi.net. The mere thought of a public GLBT presence in the Oklahoma Republican Party (ORP) is breath-taldng. But itcan midmustbe Created. WhenthoseGLBTRepnhlicafs who have been supporting their party in the background with contributions and party activismmake their presence known to the ORP, then there is an opportunity for inclusion in ORP policy making. Republican Oklahoma GLBT persons should connect with the National Log Cabin Republicans and establish an OklahomaLog Cabin Republican Club. Wemust do this. Wemust orgamze a partisan presence of GLBT persons in each of Oklahoma’s major parties. That is the Gay agenda that I am aware of- to be treated as an equal in civic life as we continue to hold ourselves to the same standards of responsibility and caring as expected of straights. Wemust ask for a place at the table. Editor’s note: I agree with Paul Barby but Would even speak more strongly. We must demand our place at the table and must challeng~ bigots like Mike Mass. We might also question some of our "friends"like Tulsa Democrat Sally Frasier who helpedgetMass "elected." by Tom Neal, editor andpublisher By now, Steve Hornis probably getting settled down in his new home in Dallas. Steve, until his recentjob related move, was in the middle of his second term as president of the board ofTulsaOklahomans for Human Rights, Inc. (TOHR) - the parent organization of Tulsa’s Gay community center (the awkwardly renamed Tulsa Gay Community Services Center). Tulsa has been fortunate in havln~ a number of dedleated volunteers to our Lesbian and Gay eommunltles (and BI and Transgendered) over many years. Unfortunately, we haven’t really done a very ~ood job of reeognlzlng or thanklng them for their work. Tulsa has been fortunate in having a number of dedicated ~,olunteers to our Lesbian and Gay communities (and Bi and Transgendered) over many years. Unfortunately, we haven’t really done a very good job of recognizing or thanking them for their work. We use themandthen ignore them when we’re not actually vilifying them. There are, of course, a few exceptions, individuals who repeatedly receive recognition but many more don’t. So I’d like to be one to clearly thank Steve Horn for his dedication to TOHR. Steve became president just after I served, inheriting the same big mess with TOHR’s HIV testing programs that I and several previous TOHR presidents had inherited. And while he and I would still disagree profoundly about how those issues were resolved, i.e. the separation of the testing clinic into a stand-alone organization, his work as a whole was great. He continued and expanded onalegacy ofvolunteerism andleadership that’s continued for nearly 20 years with TOHR. see Horn, p. ]4 Legal Win: Bias Against Gays Unconstitutional Editor’s note: the ruling noted below has greatpotential for judicial remedies for anti-Gay bias in the United States. Traditionally, many civil rights advances in this country have come through court decisions and this shows promise for fair treatment for Lesbian and Gay citizens.- TN by Daniel Wise, New York Law Journal, July 6, 1999 In a ruling believed to be one of first impression, a federal judge in Uniondale has found discrimination against homosexuals in an employment context to be actionable as an Equal Protection violation. Eastern District Judge Arthur D. Spatt issued the ruling in upholding a $380,000 verdict that ajury awarded two weeks ago to a former Nassau County police officer who claimed he had been hounded out of his job by his fellow officers and supervisors after they learned he was Gay. The officer, James M. Quinn, resigned after enduring nine years of taunts that included the prominent posting in his stationhouse of cartoons labeling him a child molester, a transvestite and a sadomasochist. " "Judge Spatt is the first judge to explicitly recognize that. discrimination based- upon, sexual- orientation .can give rise to a hostile work environment claim under the Equal Protection Clause of the U.S. Constitution," said Mr. Quima’s lawyer, Frederic Ostrove, ofLeeds &Morelli in Carle Place. In concluding that harassment based upon an animus against homosexuals was actionable lmder the Equal Protection clause, Judge Spatt relied heavily upon a 1996 U.S. Supreme Court ruling, Romer v. Evans, 517 U.S. 620. Thatruling struck down an amendment to ColOrado’s constitution that prohibited Gays and Lesbians from obtaining any legal protections -legislative orjudicial - from discrimination. The Supreme Courtin Romerconcluded that the statute withdrawing legal protection from homosexuals could not stand because it was motivated by "irrational fear and prejudice," Judge Spatt pointed out. Similaxly, thejudge reasoned, thehatecampaignagainst Mr. Quinn had been motivated "by irrational fear and prejudice towards homosexuals." see Ruling, p. 2 Gay Conversion Group Holds Convention WHEATON, Ill. (AP) - Exodus International, a : Seattle-based organization that claims homosexuals can be converted to change their sexual behavior, openedits annual conference as protesters sang gospels softly nearby. "A whole new chapter has opened up," said Bob Davies, executive director of Exodus. "For the first time in our 23 year history, the body of Christ has gotten behind this ministry." About 1,200 people attended the rally, the biggest attendance, since the group began in 1976. Leaders attributed the large turnout to a nationwide ad campaignpromoting conversionfromhomosexuality, As the group clapped inside, the Rev. Bradley Mickelson of the Metropolitan Community Church of the Incarnation in Oak Park, Ill., led a quiet march of 50 people outside. "We need to be a voice for people who think they’re living in sin, to tell them how to be liberated and free," said Mickelson, whose Chicago-area church is open to homosexuals. Exodus International burst.into public notice a year ago with full-page ads m major newspapers proclaiming its belief that Gays and Lesbians can change. Conservative groups such as the Christian Coalitionhelped pay for the.campaign. Exodus teaches that"freedomfromhomosexuality is possible through -. repentance and faith in Jesus Christ" and seeks to provide hdp for "men and women who desire to overcome their homosexuality." The conference, a mixture of training workshops and inspirational rallies, is meeting at Wheaten College, a prominent Evangelical Protestant school, but is not sponsored by the college. Cynthia Marquardt, member of the Oak Park congregation, said sexual conversion is impossible and that Exodus’ message contributes to -violence against Gays and Lesbians. "Exodus has a right to their message, and we will continue to proclaim that God loves us just as we are," she said, Exodus is afederation of 131 independentministries located in 38 states and the District of Columbia, plus several overseas affiliates. Theorganizationis staffed by people from a var~,ety of Christian denominations. Manyofthegroup sleaders saytheyusedtobeGay or Lesbian and merely offer options to people that want them. Exodus is closely aligned with Homosexuals Anonymous, a twelve-step movement patterned after Alcoholics Anonymous, and with the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality,madeup ofpsychological counselors who work for change through "reparative therapy." Both the American Psychiatric Association and American Psychological Associationhave denounced Christian-based reparative therapy, saying it doesn’t work and can cause psychological damage. Phelps to Protest in Vermont MONTPELIER, Vt. (AP)- Members of a church that organized a picket outside the funeral of a murdered University of Wyoming student last year plan a protest on the lawn of the Vermont Statehouse next week. The Westboro Baptist Church of Topeka, Kans., plans to have a dozen people in Montpelier on Aug. 3 to picket against Gay marriage, said Shirley Phelps- Roper, a church a!!orney and dangh,ter of founder the Rev.FredPhelps. Whenthenation smilitant, activist fags brag about a place - watch out!" said an announcement distributed by the church. "Well, they’re bragging about Vermont from sea to shining sea. They think Vermont will soon allow filthy fag beasts to marry each other." The Vermont Supreme Court is considering a lawsuit seeking to overturn the state’ s refusal to issue mamage licenses to same-sex couples. Some legal experts have predicted that Vermont could become the first state to legalize such marriages. Phelps-Roper said a dozen members of her church would spend the weekend in Ottawa and Montreal, protesting a decision on domestic partnership by the Canada Supreme Court and then picketing the Montreal Gay pride parade. The group then will travel to Vermont, slie said. The church is virulently anti-Gay and pickets frequently. In October, it picketed-outside the funeral ~fMatthew Shepard, who authorities say was killed in part because he was Gay. Oregon Anti-Gay Marriage Bill Dies SALEM, Ore. (AP) - A watered-down proposal that began as a ban on Gay marriages failed in the Senate last month. The proposed ballot measure would have asked voters only whether the Legis!~ture sh.ould have the power to define What cbiastitutes a marnage. As passedby the House, the proposal definedmarriage as atmionbetweenmanand woman. Sen. Neil Bryant, R-Bend, said the measure as reworked by the Senate set a middle ground in the dispute, but foes argued the revised measure would accomplish nothing. The proposal stemmed from an Oregon Court of Appeals ruling that employers cannot discriminate against homosexuals and must provide benefits to same-sex partners ofgovernmentworkers. Supporters of the anti-Gay mamage measure contended that the court decision opened the door for legalization of Gay marriages. Alabama Passes Gay-Friendly Law MONTGOMERY, AIa. (AP) - The Alabama Legislature is drawing praise from the National Gay and LesbianTaskForcefor passing domestic violence legislation that could make Alabama the first state to cover homosexual couples. In its legislative update July 16, the task force listed the Alabama domestic violence legislation as one of the "highlights" of legislative sessmns nationwide. Butthe sponsor of thelegislation, state Rep. Yvo,,n~e Kennedy, D-Mobile, said, "That’s way off base. At issue is a bill passed on the Legislature’s final day June 9, when dozens of bills were flying through the House and Senate with little or no discussion. Gov. Don Siegelman signed the bill imo law June 19. Ms. Kennedy and Carol Gundlach, executive director of the Alabama Coalition Against Domestic Violence, said the purpose of the legislation was raise the cost of a marriage license by $15 to provide more funding for shelters for domestic abuse victims and to broaden domestic abuse laws to cover more than spouses. The legislation expands domestic abuselaws to cover violence "occurring amongfamily, household, dating, or engagement relationships.’" The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, a Washington-based group that works to eliminate prejudice and violence againstGaypersons, is focusing eta the word "household" in the new Alabama law. "You couldhave two peoplein a same-sex relationship and that’s a household," said David Elliott, communications director for the task force. The task force’s legislative report said Alabama "’became the first state to enact a bill expanding the state’s definition of domestic violence to potentially includeGay, Lesbian, bisexual and transsexual people under Alabama’ s domestic violence law." But Elliott concededit will probably take acourt case to determine whether the task force’s view is correct. Ms. Kennedy, who sponsored the bill for the Coalition Against Domestic Violence, said the new law is silent about sexual orientation. But she said homosexual couples were never mentioned in any of the legislative debate on the bill. Ms. Gundlach said the language was copied from Alabama’s 1989 warrantless arrest law. That law allows police to make assault arrests without an arrest warrant when an assault occurs between two people living together. She said she has heard of cases where police used the law to make arrests involving homosexual relationships that turned violent. ’q’hat’ s just common sense. People in homosexual relationships can and do assault each other and the victim needs protection," she said. But she said the xndusion of"household" in the 1989taw and the 1999 law does not legitimize homosexual rdationships trader state law. Jerry Bassett, director of the Legislative Reference Kelly Kirby, CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation 4021 747-5466 S. Harvard, Suite 210, Tulsa 74135 MCC-United formerly Family of Faith & Greater Tulsa MCC Joined as one body of believers. 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Cincinnati, 582-4128 The Episcopal Church Welcomes You Service and chief bill-writer for the Legislature, said the new law was supposed to apply to couples who could get married, but chose not to. "Whether you could extend that to people who couldn’t get married if they wanted to, I don’t know," he said. He agreed with the task force’s spokesman that it would take a court case to find out. While the legislative update from the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force complimented Alabama on the domestic violence legislation, the state Legislature camein forcriticismfor refusing to expandAlabama’ s hate crimes law to cover sexual orientation despite the Feb. 19 beating death of Billy Jack Gaither of Sylacauga. ButAlabama was not alone. Twenty other state legislatures turned back similar ~.egislation, the task force noted. Gay Couple Appeals Adoption Ruling ERIE, Pa. (AP) -Twomenhope an appeals court will allow them to become adoptive parents and help defineparental rights forGay couples in Pennsylvania. The couple has asked the state Superior Court to overturn a decision by Erie County Judge Shad Connelly, who nded las t month that state law dictates that only one man can be the legal parent of the two children. Lower court judges have differed on the issue, and appeals courts have not made a definitive decision. Connelly said the Legislature should specifically sanction Gay marriages before judges can allow Gay couples to adopt. The children, an 8-year-old boy and a 7-year-old gift, were adopted by one of the men and raised since infancy by the couple. The man who does not have legal custody said he wants to be officially named a parent in case his partner dies. "The children have been and will continue to live with their family regardless of the court’s action," said Karen Engro, a la~vyer for the couple. "ff the adoption is granted, everyone wins. Bydenying it, everyone loses." The men, who are 43 and 42 years old, have been together for 18 years and are identified only by their initials in court records. They have asked reporters not to use theirnames to protect the children’s privacy. Another lawyer for the couple, Chris Biancheria, said other Common Pleas Court judges in the state have granted "second parent" adoptions for Gay couples. She said a Superior Court ruling in favor of the adoption could help establish guidelines for lower courts. "It would mean that these type of adoptions would have to be granted in every county," she said. She said Connelly, in ruling against the adoption, ignored the Legislature’s stipulation that all adoptions be consideredin light of "the children’ s best interests." In his ruling, Counelly wrote that the "best interest" issue was irrelevant because the request was illegal to begin with. "Because the Legislature has not seen fit to specifically sanction such adoptions-as this, this court is not empowered to grant the petitaon for adoption," he wrote. High School Gay-Straight Alliance Recognized MANCHESTER, N.H. (AP) - West High School on Thursday formally recognized a support group for Gay and Lesbian pupils. The action, in a formal letter, gives theWestHighGay/Straight Alliance recognition retroactive to April 1. The letter follows the school board’s narrow margin approval ofthe dublast week, 10 weeks after several current and former pupils filed suit over Principal Robert Baines’ decision not to recognize the group without school board approval. Jennifer Levi, a lawyer from Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, a Boston nonprofit representing thepupils, said Thursday the recognition "is a great day for the students at Manchester High School West." The lawsuit charged the principal discriminatedagainstthe group under the Equal Access Act because no other student association has been required to get school board approval to use school facilities. Supporters of the Gay Straight Alliance say it offers support and acceptance to pupils ~ho are Gay, Lesbian or bisexual in an often hostile environment. Italso helps educate others abouto~fensive stereotypes and acceptance of differences. Court Rejects Ex’s Visitation Appeal SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - Despite pleas by Gay civil-rights groups, the state SupremeCourthas turaed down an appeal by an Alameda County woman who sought the right to visit two children she helped raise with her Lesbian partner. An appellate court ruled in April that the woman, Kathleen C., had no parental rights because she was not the biological mother, and because there was no evidence that the children were being harmed by living with their biological mother. The state’s high court denied review of the case in July. Only lustices Stanley Mosk and Janice Rogers Brown voted to grant a hearing, two short of the needed majority. The appellate ruling is now binding on trial courts statewide. The case was closely watched by Gay civil-rights groups, who wanted California to follow a handful of court rul!ngs in other states that have granted parental rights to former members of same-sex couples. Kathleen and her partner, Lisa W., started living together in February 1985, when Lisa’s daughter was almost 3. They had a child together by artificial insemination in 1987 and separated in 1990. Kathleen was allowed to visit the children onalternateweekend until November 1994, when Lisa cut off visitation. Kathleen argued that she should be considered the children’s "de facto parent," one who develops a parent-like relationship by providing daily care, affection and concern over a long period. An appellate court in New Jersey ruled this March that a woman who had helped her .Lesbian partner raise two children was a "psychological parent" entitled to visitation. Courts in Wisconsin and Pennsylvaniahave also granted limited parental rights to former members of Lesbian couples. ButAlamedaCounty Superior CourtJudge Roderic Duncan ruled against Kathleen C. and was upheld by the 1st District Court of Appeal. Kathleen had shown the characteristics of a "de facto parent," but there is no legal authority to grant a non-parent visitation rights "’over the objection of the biological parent and in the absence ofany showing of detrimentto the child," said the opinionby Presiding Justice Daniel Hanlon. The ruling means Kathleen cannot see the children until they turn 18. They are now 17 and 12. The state Supreme Court appeal drew support from the National Center for Lesbian Rights, the Youth La~v Center, the American Civil Liberties Union and other advocacy groups. The appdlate ntling "leaves the two children... locked in the embrace of but one of their mothers, denied by her - and by the courts of this state - any contact with the other woman they call ’Morn,’ "said E. Elizabeth Summers, alawyer for Kathleen, in court papers. She acknowledged that a Lesbian partner can get parental rights by adopting the child with her partner, but said not all California counties, or judges in the same county, allow adoptions by same-sex couples. Mormans Lose Members Over Anti-Gay Stance SALT LAKECITY (AP) - The Mormon church says it regrets a protest by dozens of dissident members trying to quit the church because of its campaign in California against Gay. marriages. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints issued a statement saying it was defending the "traditional family" by pushing for a California ballot initiative that seeks to preempt legalized same-gender marriages. The dissidents say the church crossed a line from religion to politics by asking its 740,000 California members to "do all you can" to assure passage of the initiative. Church spokesman Dale Bills said, "we regret that any member would ask to have his or her name removed from our records because the church has joined a coalition in California to oppose samegender marriage." New Test Catches HIV Quicker RICHMOND,Va. (AP)-Theagency that collects most blood donations in central Virginiais still usingtwo standard tests to screen blood for the AIDS virus, four months afterfederal healthofficials urged blood baul~ to use a new test. The new test, called Nucleic Acid Testing; was recommended by the Food and Drug Administration on March 3. NAT may significantly reduce the time thatHIV can avoid detection in current blood tests. ¯ reaching," MethodistHealth Care System ¯ president Peter Butler said. : Science Advances, i Prejudice Remains ¯ OKLAHOMA CITY (AP) - T.J. ¯ contracted the virus that causes AIDS 18 : years ago. He says nothing’s changed. ¯ "Wall, almost nothing," "he said. "A lot : has changed in medicine, but very little : has changed in stigma and prejudice." So ¯ little that he feels obliged to use T.J. ¯ instead of his real name. TheFl’)A’sreq°mmendati°n~et"w°° i ,,~’li~eitl arural’~rea~ w~s~.~f_5,re ~iPetet~b~gman; William good iqtca, (o use my name, he said. T.J. C C~ippy ¥6tmg~" tmderwent:V~seular~ ~ hdped form the Long Term ~Survivors surgeryat~MedicalColleg~ofVirginia : Group for people living with AIDS in Hospitals in Richmond..Young said he : Oklahoma. It has about 200 members. contracted HIV from a blood transfusion he received during the surgery. Virginia Blood Services, the regional blood bank., last week acknowledged that a unit of blood it sent toMCV may have been tainted with HIV. The unidentified donor tested negative when theblood was given but later tested posluve. The NAT procedure is not yet required because it is experimental and there are questions abouL how to implement it nationwide But FDA spo,k,eswoman Len0re Gelb said the test will’ help close the window" when. HIV cannot, be detected. Virginia Blood Services has used the test for another virus, hepatitis C~"since April 15 as part of a study, said spokeswoman Laura Cameron. She said the procedure would be used to test blood when it is licensed by the FDA, which is awaiting results .of NAT experiments around the country. Atthe timeYoung contendshe received the taintedblood, only afew blood centers had the technology to implement the ne.w test for AIDS, said Dr; Celso Bianco, the president of America s Blood Centers¯ "Even if the (NAT) test worked, it would not have benefited this recipient," Bianco said. The new test detects HIV at very small concentrations even before the body produces antibodies to the virus. Blood banks now use a test that spots antibodies to HIV and another that finds a protein attached to the virus. In a study published this month in the medical journal Transfusion, scientists studying an HIV-infected chimpanzee discovered that the new test narrowed the detection window by three weeks. They also found that blood from the HIVinfected chimp did not infect another animal until the virus concentration was detectable using the new test. New Medical Center HOUSTON (AP) - A new cell and gene research center here could revolutionize therapy for many illnesses, including cancer, cardiovascular disease, diabetes and AIDS, say doctors. Formation of the International Center for Cell and Gene Therapy, a collaboration by Baylo,r College of Medicine, Texas Children s Hospital andTheMethodist Hospital, was announced this morning. Officials said the center will be the first in the world to combine basic science mid clinical research with pediatric and adult celland- gene-therapy transplant facilities. Creation ofthe center was prompted by new understanding of the molecular basis ofdisease and theneedfornovel strategies for cell and gene therapy.-"We realize the medical possibilities are endless and the potential impact on patients is far- : "We’ve had members burned out of their ¯ home and run out of town," he said. "One ¯ family just recently moved to the city ¯ (from a natal community) because they ¯ couldn’t take it anymore. The mother has AIDS." T.J. said the quality and length of life for people living with AIDS has ¯ improved because of medical advances, ¯ but there is still a long way to go. "People ~ have started believing thatit’s over. It’s a ¯ long way from being over," he said. Pam Cross, director of the Regional AIDS Interfaith Network, agreed that the ¯ much of the general public remains ¯ ignorant of the disease. "People have ¯ ¯ become quite complacent. They’ve taken good news from headlines and TV about ¯ medical advances," she said. "They think it’ s a cure for HIV and there’ s not. "We’re ~ not seeing a drop. Nationwide, we still have 40,000 people a y,e,ar becoming ¯ infected with this disease. T.J., who got AIDS from a Gay ; relationship, fits into the Centers for ~ Disease Co~,trol and Prevention"Pre- 1987 : Definition. That definition refers .to the, Original list of"oppormnistic infect|ons. In other words,he got the virus that causes AIDS before AIDS had a name. In Oklahoma, there have been 5,441 reported HIV/AIDS cases, according to theOklahomaState Departmentof Health, which began tracking the disease in 1982. Figures show no confirmed heterosexual ¯ cases were recorded the first four years records were kept, but in the past four ¯ years about 10% of overall cases have ¯ been heterosexual. ¯ ’t ¯ Ms. Cross said documented cases don ¯ fully represent the amount of people who ¯ have the disease. "If they’re anonymous, ¯ ¯ there’s noway oftellinghowmany people have it. I’ve heard estimates that cases ¯ could be as many as 10 times higher (than ¯ what is documented)," Ms. Cross said. ¯ ’qqaere are alot of people that don’t know ~ theDyorne"iJnofhecntseodn,, ashe19s-myea. r survivor of ¯ AIDS, said he thinks the biggest reason ¯ ¯ for increase in heterosexual cases is ignorance andalackofAIDS educationin ¯ Oklahoma. "There’s still a lot of that ’It ~ can’ thappenhere’ attitude.I don’ t see the ¯ education taking place that I see in ~ California," saidJohnson,41, whois G.ay. ¯ "The schools there have a curriculum that ¯ involves HIV prevention. There is not the ¯ samecommumtyawarenesshere, hesaid. ¯ Shelly Hickman, spokeswoman f.o,r .,file i state Department of Education, sam m.e ¯ state requires that schools have a certain : amount of AIDS education curriculum, ¯ but much of it is left up to the schools¯ ¯ ’‘There is some discretion on how it is ~ taughtandwhenitis taught," Ms. Hickman ¯ said."Weareinfavoroflocal communities ~ that they use what’s best for them." ¯ Peggy, who would not use her real Timothy W. Daniel Attorney at Law An Attorney who will fight for justice & equality for Gays & Lesbians Domestic Partnership Planning, Personal Injury, Criminal Law & Bankruptcy 1-800-742-9468 or 918-352-9504 128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma Weekend and evening appointments are available. 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Peoria, Brookside, 712-1400 name, said the state doesn’t do enough to protect future generations from getting .AIDS. "People think this diseaseis starting to go away," she said. "This is afact oflife - we have to protect our future and give them the information they need to protect themselves. How can we do that if we have to be careful about what words we say or don’t say in this state? "This generation is not like generations in the past. We can’t treat our youth like we did three or four generations ago. They’re having sex younger and younger." Peggy said she got HIV from her late husband when’he got it from a blood transfusion in the mid-80’s. She said she and herhusband hid their disease from the community toprotecttheir children. "Until society accepts this disease and is able to talk about it, it will go on and on," she said. "Heterosexual people are afraid to ¯¯ country can import lower-cost drugs without infringing on patents. ¯ The issue of African access to AIDS ¯ drugs has taken on a political dimension ¯ recently. Gore has been caught in a fight ¯ between AIDS activists seeking cheap ¯ generic drugs for South African AIDS ¯ victims of the disease and U.S. laws : intended to protect drug companies from ¯ having theirpatents violated abroad. Gore : has saidhedoesnotopposeSouthAfrica’s ¯ attempts to produce or obtain generic ¯ AIDS medicines as long as those efforts ¯ donot violate laws protecting patents. ¯ A 1997 South African law granted the ¯ government unspecified power to obtain ¯ cheaper AIDS drugs. About 40 ¯ pharmaceuticalcompanies worldwide are : challenging the law in South African : courts, fearing itmay beusedin a way that ¯ violates patent rights. be tested because they’re afraid they’ll be : labeled as Gay. So then they go and ~x;e : it to someone else and the cycle goes on.r’ ¯ Congress Hears ¯African Appeal WASHINGTON (AP)-AnAIDS patient from Malawi asked Congress for help in settling trade-disputes that could deprive poor African countries such as her own of vital drugs. Chatinkah Nkhoma, 37, believes she would be dead now had she stayed in Lilongwe, Malawi’s capital, where the drugs she needs either are tmavailable or cost too much. Millions of other Africans are not as lucky, said Nkhoma, who came to the United States as a graduate student. ~’I’m their voice. I’m here to cry for help," Nkhoma testified tearfully before the HouseGovernmentReform subcommittee oncriminaljustice, drug policy andhuman resources. The government did act in response: Vice President Gore on Monday announced a new $100 million proposal to help Africa stop the spread of AIDS. Nkhoma also appealed to lawmakers to ¯ reject arguments that the drags may cause more harm than good in poor nations unable to ensure AIDS patients adhere to strict drug regimens. Experts have said that people who do not take the drugs as prescribed actually may become sicker or devdop drug-resistant strains of theAIDS virus. AIDS deaths in the United States have declinedbecause ofadvances in treatment, but they remain on the increase in Africa, where it is the leading cause of death. Trade disputes have developed over some countries’ efforts to reduce the cost ofimporting AIDS drugs, withsomeblame directed at pharmaceutical companies. "What happens to countries who.., do not purchase their AIDS drugs from drug companies, instead looking to. buy them through cheaper sellers, often times other countries? Under direct pressure from the pharmaceuticalindustry, they arepunished bythe UnitedStates," Rep. Bernie Sanders, I-Vt., said in a written statement. He said thesecountries couldlose theirpreferential tariff treatment "all because the pharmaceutical companies do not wish to lose any of their tremendous profits." Joe Papovich, an assistant U.S. trade representative, said the Clinton administration believe it can resolve the disputes, which involve drug companies’ efforts to protect their patents and help recoup research costs. He said the administration is working with South Africa, where 45% of the military is infected with the AIDS virus, so that More Die From : AIDSThan War : NAIROBI, Kenya(AP)-AIDS killed 1:4 : million people in eastern .and southern ," Africa last year, overtaking armed ¯ conflicts as the No. 1 killer in the region, ," the U.N~ Children’s Fund said recently. : Theepidemic, whichhas hit this portion ¯ of the African continent harder than : anywhere else in the world, has left 6 : million children orphaned in eastern aud ¯ southern Africa, amounting to70% of the ¯ world’s AIDS orphans, said UNICEF ¯ DeputyExecutiveDirectorStephenLewis. ¯ 48% of the world’s AIDS cases are in this ¯ region, Lewis said during the release of ¯ UNICEF’s annual report on AIDS. It ¯ called for emergency action to curb the ¯ spread of AIDS in Africa. ¯ "Fundamentally,AIDS is spreading and ¯ stifling the economic and social " infrastructure of the entire continent. It is ¯ killing the most productive age group," ¯ Lewis said. "It is doubling and tripling ¯ infant mortality rates. It is returning life -" .expectancy to the levels of 1960s." "It is : the modern incarnationof the Dante’s ¯ Inferno," Lewis said. "Neaier has Africa ¯ faced such a plague." ~ Worldwide, some 16,000 people daily " are infected.by HIV, the virus that causes ¯ AIDS, and there are 8.2 million AIDS : orphans, most in sub-Saharan Africa, the " report said. The report warned that AIDS : could increase infant mortality in eastem ¯ and southern Africa by 75% and double : the death rate of children under fivein the ¯ region in the next decade. "Thenumber of : orphans in Africa constitute nothing less ¯ thananemergencyrequiring an emergency : response," the report said. ¯ In Uganda, some 1.1 million children ¯ under 15 - or 11% of the country’s child ¯ population-have lost one or both parents ¯ to AIDS, the highest number of AIDS ¯ orphans in the world. In the developed ¯ wodd, that figure is at 1%. ¯ Especially important was educating ¯ people on prevention and on building ¯ tolerance in the region, where AIDS ¯ victims arefrequently shamedinto silence. ¯" Men, more than women, were intolerant ¯ of the disease, often refusing to be tested : or to support wives stricken with AIDS, ¯ Lewis said. : Lewis attacked Western nations for not : financing the fight against the scourge in ¯ Africa. "It is morally indefensible," Lewis ~ said, "That the West is prepared to spend : upwards of $40 billion to fight war in the ¯ Balkans then to engage in the economic ¯ restoration ofKosovo, andless than 1% of : that to save the lives of tens of millions of ¯ women, children and men in .adriea." by James Christjohn Well, Just saw the new Muppets in Space (MIS). It only served to make me nostalgic for the days when Jim Henson was at the helm of Muppetland. His son, Brian, strives to follow in his footsteps and for the most parts does a pretty good job, but for whatever reasons, the muppets justseem to be puppets now, not beings with personalities. In MIS, the plot focuses on Gonzo, who doesn’t know what he is. Neither does anyone else. Turns out, he’s an "alien from outer space that.got left behind on a mzsslon many years ago, and now his family is looking for him. This could have been the setup for a really tinny "Pigs in Space" type romp, taking on all the big space films, like Star Wars, Close Encounters, Star Trek, etc. And, while it has a few cute moments, it fizzles like booster rockets with a furl leak. I was really hoping it wout~d be good, so it is with heavy heart I ~rite this. Missing are the cameos that populated the first three muppet films to such success, the rapid fire jokes, and the witty commentary on society that was the secret weapon of the muppet minds. This is not to say that you won’t find a few chuckles in the film, which is worth seeing at the dollar movie. Especially relevant - and attention getting - are the bits where Gonzo is telling the gang that"I didn’ t choose to be this way, I was’born this way." There are other moments like that as well, which indicates more of an overt Gay sensibility to the film that one might suspect. These moments are what makes the film worth seeing.The pacing is-off on most of the jokes - many of which absolutely depend on the perfect timing to be funny rather than misfires. The ending leaves one wishing formore - morebuildup,more climax, betterjokes. It is kind ofperfunctory, and at no time do the muppets sing any of the songs except for one perfunctory number, and it’s an oldie everyone will recognize, mainly because it was overplayed in the 80’ s way toe much. It was obviously thrown in at the last minute, probably as a result of a production meeting wherein someone said, "But we HAVEto have a muppet musical number! It’s expected!", and someone else said,"Well... OK. I guess so. What’ll we do?" "How about some old song from the 80’s that everyone knows? That way we won’t have to pay for songwriters?" That, too, was disappointing, for one who remembers the Muppet Movie for the music as wall as the dream of one little green frog to "make millions of people happy." Switching hats here, I thought I’d cross over into TFN Book reviewer Barry Hensley’s territory and make a recommendation for "Queer Astrology for Men" by Jill Dearman. Ms. Dearman writes in a humorous style, which can seem light until you read - really read - whatshe’ s writing. (Shemustbea"sadge" - Saggitarian) It makes the more ~ challenging aspects of the signs a little ¯ easier to take, and makes one aware of ¯ them without alienating or antagonizing, ¯ except in a good natured, "just kidding" " kinda way. She’s been writing ¯ professionally aboutastrology for 9 years, and has studied astrology since childhood, and she does seem to One of my favorite numbers was the "Jadhouse Tango", wherein a bunch of murderesses explain why "they done it". I think anyone who’s been in a relationship could probably identify with many of the reasons. know her stuff. As an astrologer (Gemini MoonAstrological Services, see ad within these pages), I am always on the lookout for new and informative information on astrology, especially pertaining to Gay and Lesbian folk This book fits the bill quite nicely and accurately, Informally written, it is an overview of the sun sign..(themost basic part of one’s personality. Of course, for a really accuratepicture, afull interpretation or birthchart is necessary; since the other planets can mitigate/ amplify the sun sign’s qualities in any given person.) As such, it is scarily on the target. As a Sagittarius, I found that section (sometimes unfortunately) to be dead-on: And having spent more than my share of time around Leas, I read that section as an objective "test" of the accuracy of the writing, and again, it was quite right. So, if you’re looking for a quick overview of someone’s personality, and what makes them tick, tiffs would be one of the better book. For a more complete picture, if you know the person’s moon sign and rising sign, I would recommend reading those sections as well. Sun: basic ego quirks and personality; rising sign or ascendant: how they appear to others (Which explains why a sun sign appears to be something else entirely, emphasis on the "seems".); and moon sign: emotions and the subconscious - the way someone filters/ expresses emotional tendencies. Or, in the case of one Leo I know, not. It’ s a worthy addition to thebookshelves of anyone curions about what makes people tick, psychology, or mateshopping. And, as a former total skeptic and a psychology major, I can say give it arty; you’llbe surprised. Forget the overly general newspaper tidbits (especially the Tulsa World -"Sagittarius: Today you’ll have a day" just doesn’t cut it with me), and go for the real stuff. This is a good start, If you can, check out "Chicago", at the PAC throughAugust 1 st. The Kander and Ebb musical starring Sandy Duncan is worth seeing. The men and women are all gorgeous, and the staging is perfect. 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Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222 Gal-A-Vanting, Womens Social & Cultural Group Call for info: Mary at 743-6740, Kathy at 322-6322, or Barb at 459-68251..i OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Long rides, 7am on 8~ & 8/ 21. Short ride, 6:30pm on 8/5, 6pm on 8/18 from Zeigler Park. Short ride, 6:30pro, 8/ 25 from Tulsa Gay Community Center. Write for info: PUB 9165, Tulsa. OK74157 lfyour organization is not listed, please let us know. Call 583-I248 orfax 583-4615. READ ALL ABOUT IT reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-Couniy Library For a short time, in 1997, the worldwas mesmerized’by the odd and frightening story of Andrew Cnnanart, as he went on a killing spree across several states, ending.with themurder Indiana’s of fashion designer Gianni ¯ ". ~ " Versace in Miami. This ¯recounting of Cunanan’s interesting life and horrifying death makes fascinating, ff difficult, reading. Growing up in a lower middle class family,Cunanan learned early in life to embellish tte truth to make him seem more important. He studied the.finer things in life beginning as a child, and by - high school, dazzled his teachers with his knowledge andtaste, andwonrespectfrom other students with his sharp wit, easy’ demeanor and exceedingly good looks. As he eased into gay life in " sentence at California, Cnnanan learned thathe couldeasilymanipulate ~’- 39~0 words! otherpeopleinto situations that were advantageous to him. He had a few seim-serious relationships and even had a sugar daddy at one point. The two people he was serious about, David Madson and JeffTrail, each soonrealized thatCunanan was a fraud. To get away from him, they each left the state, ironically both ending up in Minnesota. As Cunanan’s friends deserted him, with no job and low on funds, he went to Minnesota, hoping one of his old boyfriends wouldinvitehim to stay awhile - untilhe wasbackonhis feet. BothMadson and Trail, who barely knew each other, were simply hoping that he wouldstay for acoupleofdays andleave. Whenitbecame gravcst sin, and the thing that makes the book so hard to read, is his highly approach to sentence structure. I do kd The brothers were being held in lieu of $150,000 bail on charges of receiving stolen property after authorities said they found awallet, credit card, driver’s license and Social Security card belonging to Matson. Federal and local authorities said the brothers also were being investigated in connection with the Sacramento synagogue fires onJune 18 that caused $1 million in damage.. TheWilliams brothers livedinamodest, wood-frame house in Redding, where investigators said they found material espousing white supremacist beliefs. Amongthematerial foundwas literature from the Illinois-based World Church of the Creator, according to news reports. A former member of the church, Benjamin Smith, killed himself last week after a two-state shooting spree targeting minorities inTndianaand ~linois thatkill~.~ two men and wonnded nine others. Also found in the house was alist of32 prominent Jewish and civic leaders in Sacramento, and FBI special agent James Maddock said protection was ordered for those individuals. Officials also urged Reddin~’s only Jewish congregation, Temple Beth Israel, to increase secun y. ii evident that no offers were forthcoming, Cunanan tttmed bitter and surly. After a minor betrayal by Jeff Trail, Cunanan snapped, bludgeoning Trail to death with a hammer. And so began his killing spree which also included Madson, an elderly friend in Chicago, an unlucky cemetery worker whose truck Cunanan needed, and finally, Versace. Author Gary Indiana did a lotofresearch butmuch of the book revolves around what Cunanan was thinking, how he formulated his plans, and conversations between Cunanan and his victims. Since all of the participants are dead, Indiana is simply making up. a good story,, With events that may ormay not be true.But, Indiana’s gravestsin, and the thing that makes the book so hard to read, is his highly unusual approach to sentence structure. I clocked one sentence at 320 words! Frustrations aside, this is an interesting story, and there are some fairly good photographs to help put faces ¯ with names. There is an unseemly photo ." Of Ctmanan’s bloody corpse, after his ¯ suicide, which is better suited to a tabloid ~ thanarespectablebook. Ctmananwas ful! ¯ of contradictions; smart but doing stupid ¯" things, sweet yet mean to those around him, and;mostofall,complex yetshallow. ¯ His is a warning to materialistic social ". climbers that there is more to life than superficial appearances, and if you take ¯ things too seriously, you can wind up : hurting yourself and those you love. ¯ Check for Three Month Fever at your : local branch library, or call the Readers : Services departmentatthe Central Library, ¯ at 596-7966. i Anti-Hate Crimes Legislation : Advances in Senate ¯ WASHINGTON - The Senate has taken i a ,strong stand against the rising tide of hate violence in America by adding the ¯ Hate Crimds Prevention Act to the ¯ Commerce, Justice and State appro- ¯ priations bill, both the Human Rights "_ Campaiguandthe National Gay&Lesbian ¯ Task Force asserted recently. ¯ "The Senate took a dramatic step ¯ forward in making this nation a safer ¯ place for all Americans," HRC Executive : Director Elizabeth Birch said a day after ¯ the Senate added hate crimes language to ¯ the appropriationsmeasure. "We appla.ud ¯ this responsibleeffort to stem the growing : trend of hate crimes in our country." ¯ ’q’his is the first concrete action taken ¯ by either chamber since America buried ¯" Matthew Shepard, James Byrd Jr., Billy ~ .Jack Gaither, and many transgendered : people whose names and faces do not make the newspapers," said Kerry Lobel, ¯ executive director of the National Gay ¯ and Lesbian Task Force. _" "It is a good first step. But we have a ¯ long way to go and we must now mm to ¯ the House and tell our representatives : how critically important this legislation ¯ is. In short, we must keep up the heat." ¯ Theamendmentapprovedby the Senate : see Hate, p, 14 Red Rock Tulsa Free Confidential HIV Testing Walk-in Clinics Tuesday Testing, 5 -8 pm Pride Center, 1307 East 38th Wednesday Testing, 5-8 pm ¯ Red Rock, 1724 East 8th Daytime appointments available. 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Also, for those who have missed the regular "Stevie" updates, Ms. Nicks’ album is nearly completed, with an October release date, The most concrete action taken, however, was acommitmenttomeetagain as a group on Sept. 14, at the TulSa Gay Community Services Center (the Pride Center) at 1307 E. 38th St. probably at 6pro. For more information, call Marty Newman at 582-4673. Want to get involved? Need to get tested for HIV? Need a Coming Out Support Group? Call 743-GAYS Tulsa Gay Community Services Center 1307 E. 38th at Peoria, 2nd floor HUman Rights Campaign Fears Religious Liberty Bill May Threaten Civil Rights WASHINGTON - The House passed the ¯ discriminate on the basis of sext~A ~::i.: Religi~us Liberty ProtectionAct (RLPA) : orientation. last month and defeated a substitute bill that would have closed a dangerous loophole in RLPA that could threaten civil fights ff not remedied in the Senate, according to theHaman Rights Campaign. "In its current form, this bill poses a grave threat to civil rights laws throughout thecountry," saidHRCExecutive Director Elizabeth Birch "In an unconscionable vote~.the U.S. House of Repre.sentatives has indicated its willingness, to trample onthb civil rigllts ofwomen, people of color,. people with disabilities and Gay and Lesbian Americans." "While we support the intentions of the Religious Liberties Protection Act, it is shameful that the House rejected an alternative bill that would have protected civil rights," said HRC Political Director Winnie Stachelberg. A substitute bill sponsored by Jerrold Nadler, D-N.Y., was defeated in theHouse 190 to 234 after an hour-long debate. The Nadler bill would have clarified RLPAby preventing an individual from using religious beliefs to undermine local or state civil rights statutes. Without the Nadlerbill, which was necessary forHRC support, the Rep. Charles Canady0 R-Fla., sponsored Religious Liberty Protection Act-a bill designed to safeguard religious expression- passed the House306 to 118. RLPA would prohibit any state or local law from placing a "substantial burden" on a "person’s religious exercise" even if. the rule is not designed to infringe on a person’s religious beliefs. The problem is; the bill currently does not clarify whether state andlocal anti-discrirhination laws can be ignored by a person who claims that these laws violate his or her religious beliefs. "We cannot support legislation that might threatenanti:discrimination statutes thatprotect Gay andlesbianAmericans in 11 states and 101 municipalities," said Stachelberg. Thefollowing is an excerpt of a letter that was sent by HRC executive director Elizabeth Birch to our allies who are supporting the RLPA without civil rights protection. The- Human Rights Campaign is proud to have the support of a broad-based coalition ofreligious organizations in the struggle for Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual equality. However, in light of the position many such organizations took on last week’s House vote in support of the Religious Liberty ProtectionAct(RLPA), I wouldlike to share withyou our thoughts on RLPA. First, we believe the intent of this legislation is a worthy one - religious freedom is an important righL But, as currently drafted, this bill is flawed. We strongly believe support for this legislation, as currently drafted, is not consistent with support for Gay and Lesbian rights.... Like you, the Human Rights Campaign strongly supports the principle of protecting the free exercise of one’s personal religious beliefs that serve as the foundation for RLPA. Just as strongly, we believe that Lesbian, Gay and bisexual Americans shouldnotface discrimination at work, at home or in their communities because of their sexual orientation. It is clear from statements made by members of the coalition supporting RLPA that they believe individual landlords and employers should be allowed to ’_ Unfortunately, the question ¯ answered during last week’s debate <~n : RLPA is, in my mind, the most import~zt : one: what religious liberty fights wo~.! d ¯ be lost or weakened by the inclusion of a : civilrights provision?Formembers of the ¯ coalition supporting this bill who profc.qs ¯ a desire to resolve this impasse in good : faith, I find the rejection of this provision ¯ completely bafflin.g....: ¯" " Our ~ concern! ls:.com~pou,n,ded by statements made by (he bill’.s chief: ¯ sponsor, Congressman Charles Canady, ~ and one of the leading members of your ¯ coalition, Steve McFartand, of the ¯ ¯ Christian Legal Society. During Saturday’s broadcast of the CSPAN " program Washington Journal, Canady ¯ said"I believe there are contexts in which : this bill could result in a claimant who is ¯ defending agmnst the application of a ¯ local Gay rights ordinance to raise a claim that would be successful - I think this law would trump the Gay rights ordinance." ¯ Mr. McFarland also acknowledged this ." intended use of RLPA in response to a ¯ question fromCongressman Jerry Nadler ¯ during his congressional testimony on ¯ RLPA before the House Judiciary ¯ Committee.’s Subcommittee on the ¯ Constitution on May 12, 1999. I am sure ¯ you can understand why such statements ¯ do little to dispel the very real fear that ¯ some intend to use RLPA as a sword to ¯ strike down the civil rights of others in the ¯ name of religious liberty. Whether it is ; your intent or not, opposition to a civil ¯ rights exemption ts support for ¯ discriminationbased onsexual orientation " - a position in direct opposition to the ¯ principles that are the foundation of the Employment Non-Discrimination Act. : We are particularly passionate about : the need for a civil rights provision in ¯ RLPA because of the lack of any federal laws prohibiting employment ." discrimination on the basis of sexual ; orientation. The eleven state laws and ¯ nearly 200local laws are the few and very : hard fought civil rights protections ] availableforGay and Lesbian Americans. : Many of those laws took fifteen years or ¯ more of struggle by the local community ¯ to pass.... The Religious Liberty Protection Act, .~ as currently drafted, will put more ¯ Americans at risk of discrimination, not ¯ fewer. Enacting this legislation without : stating clearly in the bill that RLPA does ¯ not provide a defense to non-compliance ¯ with stateor local anti-discriminationlaws ¯ undercuts those laws .... ¯ To allow RLPA as a defense against : discrimination is to defend religious ¯ practices that do real and definable harm ¯ to others. From our perspective, your ¯ opposition to the civil rights provision ." means you are defending the right of a ¯ religious individual, who chooses to be a : landlord or employer, to impose their ¯ religious beliefs on a Gay or Lesbian ¯ American by denying them a job or a : place to live because of their sexual : orientation. To find ourselves in this : disagreement with you, our long-time ¯ allies, deeply saddens and angers us... ¯ We ask you to join with us as this bill ." moves forward to strongly encourage the : Senate to include a civil rights provision ¯ and enact areligious liberty protection act : for all Americans. ¯ - Elizabeth Birch, Executive Director byEsther Rothblum, Ph.D. Giventhenumberandrange ofresearch projects about Lesbians in recent years, it is easy to forget how challenging it was to survey Lesbians even a decade ago. In the 1980’ s, Caitlin Ryan and Judy Bradford conducted @hat became the National Lesbian Health Care Survey. This study eventually resulted in 1,925 completed questionnaires from Lesbians in all 50 U.S. states. It figured prominently in the recent Institute of Medicine Report of the National Academy of Sciences. Even today, there are Lesbians (including me!) who remember completing a questionnaire for this study 15 years ago. I recently asked Caiflin and Judy to describe the "herstory" and process of conducting the National Lesbian Health Care Survey in the mid- 1980s. In the late 1970s, Caitlin suggested forminganational organization thatwould be multi-disciplinary, focus on Lesbian - and Gay health issues, and sponsor research and education. She began to talk with other Lesbians about the need for a survey. There was no av~i~lable information on how Lesbians conceptualize Lesbian health. She was also interested in how stigma affected health, mental health, self care, and access to care. Sheapplied for agrant though thenewly formed National Lesbian and Gay Health Foundation and hired a research consultant, Dot Parkel, who was a sociologist and survey researcher. Dot’s role was to help design the study and to develop drafts of the questionnaire, using the input Caitlin had received from many Lesbians. Caitlin told me: "I remember talking with a researcher who was herself a closeted Lesbian, who sat down with me and basically told me that I could not possibly do a study like this. She just felt that it was not feasible. And, of course, therewas no such thing as arepresentadve sample. I saw this womanrecently and we laughed about her earlier skepticism. She said, ’I told you that you couldn’t do and you went out and did it.’ " Judy got started by attending the Intemational Lesbian and Gay Health and AIDS Conference atNew YorkUniversity with a good friend, a man who was in her class in graduate school. They were both interested in AIDS research, which was just getting started then. EverywhereJudy looked- and she went to a lot of sessions at the conference - there were mostly men. Then she noticed in the Conference program a scheduled time for a women’ s group meeting. It turned out to be an orgamzing meeting for the National Lesbian Health Care Survey, and Caitlin was facilitating the group. When Judy said she was a graduate student and described a little of what she was doing, she suddenly became co-investigator and was responsible for data analysis and preparing the survey report. One of the things Caitlin had been very concerned about was inclusion. So many of the early studies, and even those conducted today, have shown very highly educated samples of Lesbians. Shewanted ¯ . . it is easy to forget how challenging it was to survey Lesbians even a decade ago. : to include women of color and women of ¯ diffeient economic backgrounds and not ¯ have language be a barrier. So she talked with people about how to ask clinical ¯ questions in a non-clinical way. Caitlin ¯ said: "I talked with women bus drivers, day laborers, women who had been ¯ recently diagnosed withcancer, about their ¯ experiences and how we should ask these ¯ questions. All of that helped frame how ¯ we would shape a questionnaire." She elicited suggestions about language in a series of focus groups that took place in several different parts ofthe country. They pre-tested the questxonna]re at several Lesbian and Gay conferences and with individuals around the country. They would ask the womenin the focus group to fill out the questionnaire, and ¯ then they would sit around and talk about ¯ it alittlebit, and hearwhat people thought ¯ of it to make it more accessible. After " several go-arounds using that process, : they finalized the questionnaire. ¯ SinceCaitlinhaddone the early Lesbian ¯ andGayhealth organizing, shehad alarge ¯ address baseofpeopleall overthecountry who were willing to help distribute the ¯ quesdounaires. They set up a distribution ¯ plan that was kind of an unusual approach ¯ tO snowball sampling. The methodology ¯ was intended to get the questionnaires out ¯ as broadly as possible to people all over the country, including Alaska; They were concernedwithgetting the survey to underrepresented populations that hadn’t been sampled before, so they made a commitment to getting it to Lesbians in the military, Lesbians living on Indian reservations, and Lesbians in prison. They also. tried reaching non-English speaking women and they tried to reach Lesbians of color in a variety of ways, including having Lesbians of color give it out to their networks around the country. The National Coalition of Black Lesbians and Gays sent a mailing about the survey and how important it was and how to participate. The Wisconsin Governor’s Task Force sent out mailings that went all over the state of Wisconsin. The National Organization of Women sent out information abeut the survey, and information about it was published in a variety of Lesbian and Gay newsletters. The survey went out in the fall of 1984 and by early 1985 they had received surveys back from 1,925 Lesbians from every U.S. state. It was a wonderful experience for them,hearing from somany Lesbians across the country, and had the sense of a national movement. There was an electric energy - everyone had a great sense of how important the survey was. Of course, a major issue was how to obtain money to fund data entry and data analysis. The early 1980s was not a time for funding Lesbian projects. Once the struggles for funding were over (though the study was funded on a shoestring), Judy sent the questionnaires out to the Virginia State Prison, where all the lab’s data entry was done at that time. She told ¯ me: "The questionnaires did not arrive ¯ back. When our project manager called ¯ about this, seePsyche, p. 13 IGTA member Call 341.6866 International Toursformoreinformation. AUTHENTI~ FRESH 1TALIAN RAINBOW CUSINE TROUT ofEureka Springs Voted Number One in Arkansas! 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But I was still worried when I moved to Japan for seven months. My hair grew faster than I could learn Japanese. I riffled desperately throughmyratty oldJapanese "useful phrases for tourists" looking for haircut vocabulary. I had the book in my pocket when I picked a shop at random from the scores of salons in downtown Kagoshima. Lucky for me, the stylist and owner had trained with Vidal Sassoon in London. And he remembered enough English to understand roughly how I wanted my hair. He had an army of assistants, too, who shampooed me and got me ready for the cut. (They would drape a cloth over my eyes while working on me - I wasn’t sure if this was to keep out the suds, or spare me the rude view of their nostril hair.) The shampoo always finished with a beautifully relaxing head massage - a standard service in Japanese salons. I have just finished reading an analysis of hair styling written by anthropologist Grant McCracken: Big Hair: A Journey into the Transformation of Self. McCracken interviewed both stylists and customers about the transforming powers of hair. He suggests that we Americans get new hairstyles in order to recreate and change ourselves. When we reach a point in life where we need a change, we redo our hair. Or when the boyfriend dumps you, a new buzz cut and goatee can help relieve the pain. A few years ago there was a weird outbreak of ponytails among my 40- something straight-guy friends Something about hitting the Big 40 made these aging friends cultivate their long, graying locks. Perhaps they figured this was the last chance before it all fell off anyway. Psychologists from Freudondownhave commented on the sexual meaning of hair. Delilah cuts away Samson’s hewas told ,they wouldn’ t code the surveys. I got another company to.do it and the same thing happened. Finally when it came to the third company I was told that the data entry staff were afraid to touch the questionnaires for fear of getting AIDS !" Over the years, wherever Judy and Caitlin are, they continue to nm into Lesbians who participated in the survey, and who want to talk about the impact that it had on them. Many women wrote pages of material in addition to the answers they gave to the items on the questiormaire. For published results of the National Lesbian Health Care Survey, see: 1. Bradford, J.B., & Ryan, C. (1991). Who we are: Health concerns ofmiddle- ¯ manhood by fleecing his curls. Though ¯ nowadays- thanks to Michael Jordan and ¯¯ others - the bald knob is equally sexy. Whether one goes for flowing ponytail or ¯ smooth, shiny scalp, the pointis that when ¯ life gets messy or gloomy, we run to our ¯ barber. ¯ In Kagoshima, someof themoreelegant ¯ salon assistants had dyed their black ¯ Japanese hair blond and I wondered if ¯ they were Gay. But then I felt guilty for ¯ thinking stereotypically. All hair stylists, ¯" of course, are not Gay. Warren Beatty in Shampoo.testified to that. Still, Gay men ¯ have, been deeply involved in the ¯ emergence of today’s hair industry. ¯ McCracken reviews some of the giants of ¯ 20th century hair styling: Ernest Adler, ¯ Alexandre, and Antoine - the 1950s forerunners of Sassoon - and many of ¯ these men dearly were Gay. ¯ Furthermore, theAmerican marketplace ¯ feeds off cultural creativity generated ~ within local, often otherwise unap¯ preciated communities. It steals hiphop stylefromurbanstreets;itborrows stylistic ¯ developments in language, dress, and hair from Gay men and women. The long hair ¯ of the 1960s and the cropped hair of the ¯ 1990s both largely originated in Gay circles. The combination ofhomosexuality and ¯ personal service is not unusual across the ¯ world. Many of the small town beauty ¯ salons springing up in the Philippines and elsewhere, for example, are established ¯ by Gay men. ¯o It may be that culturally ambiguous ¯ homosexuality-whichstands bothoutside and between the categorical opposition betw.eenmal,e andfemale-makes personal service easier. If the server is somehow outside the arena ofordinary heterosexual gender competition and dalliance, then his touch is easier to bear. It is not news that. map.y Gay men provide personal service m restaurants, hotels, hospitals, rest homes, as well as in hair salons. Next time you need a new you, do something about that hair. It may be that developments in genetics and cloning one day will replace plastic surgery to allow us effortlessly to remake ourselves: Perhaps change our skin color, orbuy new orange eyeballs, or a bigger set ofpecs, or trade in our ears or more personal body parts. But until that day comes, we’ve got our hair. You can redo with a new do. Which renfinds me. It’s about time for a haircut. Lamont Lindstrom, Ph.D. teaches anthropology at the University of Tulsa. agedLesbians. In B. Sang, J. Warshow, & A.J. Smith (Eds.) Lesbians atmidlife: The creative transition (pp. 147-163). San Fransisco, CA: Spinsters Book Company. 2. Bradford, J.B., Ryan, C.,&Rothblum, E.D. (1994). National Lesbian Health Care Survey: Implications for mental health care. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 62, 228-242. 3. Ryan, C., & Bradford, J. (1993). The NationalLesbian Health Care Survey: An Overview. In D. Garnets & D.C. Kimmel (Eds.) Psychological perspectives on Lesbian and Gay male experiences. New York: Columbia University Press. Esther Rothblum is Professor of Psychology at the University of Vermont and Editor of the Journal of Lesbian Studies. She can be reached atJohn Dewey Hail, University of Vermont, Burlington, VT. E-mail: esther.rothblum@uvm.edu. and to effectively refute the anti-family policies of the right-wing; second, to actively build an effective and collaborative national pro-GLBT family network among GLBT and mainstream organizations working on family issues; and third, to educate the general public about the value and values of GLBT families. Ettelbrick will assist NGLTF in articulating a voice in policy debates that have a great impact on GLBT families, including debates on adoption, coparenting, foster Care, alternative insemination and recognition of "broader family support networks. In addition, NGLTF will raise GLBT perspectives in debates that have traditionally excluded consideration of GLBT perspectiyes. Examples include definitions of family in Social Security reform proposals~ the Older Americans Act and immigration policy. Noted Vaid, "A number of legal and advocacy groups do excellent work in the arena of family issues, but no group currently coordinates the efforts of our movement in this area so that collaboratively we can muster the resources weneedto changefamily policy. In addition, there is no national research center for policy development and policy analysis ~n family issues. With GLBT families facing attack on so maiiy fronts, the need for a coordinated national approach has never been greater." Announcement of the Family Policy Programis partofalong-term commitmenl on the part of the NGLTF Policy Institute toGLBTFamilies. Beginning in the 1980s, NGLTFhousedthefirstnational Families Project. Throughout the 1990"s, the Task Force worked actively on a number of family issues. Last year, NGLTF organized "Celebrating Our Families," a 15-city national tour to raise the visibility of GLBT family issues and to organize against attacks by right wing groups. In 1999, the Policy Institute published The Domestic Partnership Organizing Manual to help employees and citizens around the country mobilize to obtain important benefits for their families. Founded in 1973, the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force works to elimiinateprejudice, violence andinjustice against Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual andTransgenderedpeople at thelocal, state and national level. As part of abroader social justice movement for freedom, justice and equality, NGLTF iscreating a world that respects and celebrates the diversity ofhumanexpression andidentity where all people may fully participate in society. For example, if anyone had suggested that in the third year after weheld the first Pride March (all 65 brave souls - likely more non-Gay than Gay) that we would have hnndreds at the Pride Parade and Picnic of this year with no less than Congressman Barney Frank as grand marshal. While the principal credit for that goes to Mitchell Savage and Ric Martin and many others, it was nndcr Steve’s leadership that these people came together. Andjustkeeping theCommunityCenter afloat is no little task. While the Center continues to serve many. groups and members of the community, it still needs broader support. Air conditioning has to be paid for (air conditioning repairs have to be paid for) as well as rent and other expenses. I would suggest that the greatest way in which we can honor Steve Horn - and those who served before him as well - is to continue to support the work he did: to help keep our community center open, to improve it; maybe one day, even to help build our own building - imagine. would expand federal authority to prosecute hate crimes. Currently, federal officials canouly intervene if a victim is engaged in a federally protected act such as attempting to vote, go to school or serve onajury. Federal officials catmotintervene at all in hate crimes based on disability, sexual orientation or gender. The Senate also passed a watered-down amendmentby Sen. Orrin Hatch, R-Utah, that does not cover sexual orientation, disability or genderand wouldonly expand federal jurisdiction to hate crimes committed after the crossing of state lines. "The Hatch amendment fails to recognize that no one should be a target for bias-motivated violence," Lobd said. "Hate crimes legislation that doesn’t cover sexual orientation, disability and gender is a farce." The Hate Crimes Prevention Act has been a top. legislative priority of both organizations and passage of the amendment culminates months of work."With strong administrationbacking and bipartisan support in both houses of Congress, we expect to be in a strong position in the conference committee to ensure final passage of the Hate Crimes Prevention Act," Winnie Stachelberg, HRC’s political director, said today. The Hate Crimes Prevention Act has strong supportfrom President Clinton and the administration has made passage a priority. Rep. Henry Hyde, R-Ill., has scheduled a hearing on the measure in the House Judiciary Committee on Aug. 4. HCPA currently has morethan 180House cosponsors from both parties. theneed for individuals in the community ¯ to support the Center remained. According to Tracey Conaty, "- spokespersonfor the Gill Foundation,Tim , Gill, software developer of Quark, established the Fmmdation in 1994 as a : catalyst for and’to provide resources for : communities in pursuit of justice and ¯" equality. The foundation also seeks to buildawareness ofthe contributions which : Gay men and Lesbians make to American ¯ society. Since its inception, Tim Gill and ¯ the Gill Foundation have provided nearly $13 million to hundreds of community ¯ organizations. Gatewoodalso mentioned several other ¯" events at the Center. On Sept. 25th, the ¯ Centerwill host aFeast for Friends dinner in support of THE NAMES PROJECT. ¯ And in Oct. the Center will present a ¯ National Coming Out Day Festival and ¯ ¯ Fair. This event will include a mini film festival as well beginning on Oct. 8th. : More information will be available as the ¯ event approaches. For Good Home Friendly,~ honest~ & very experienced 42 year young realtor seeks sincere &motivated buyers &sellers. Into MLS. You won’t be disappointed. 712-2252 or 745-2245 John Kirk, Keller Williams, Realty Use Free Code 717 Free Code 7000 A|ways 1 8-663-270 Oklahoma 5-524- Megaphone does not prescreen callers and assumes no liability for personal meetings. 24 hour customer service (800) 289-1489. 18+ ( Closing Costs on. Home Equity Loans! Oklahoma now come wi.fl~ no closing cost:s, so you can save hundreds of dollars. 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Text Any textual data included in the document United +AmericanAirlines To Offer Partners’ Benefits WASHINGTON - In a bold move with global ramifications for Gay and Lesbian workplace equality, United Airlines - the world’s largest airline - became the first major U.S. airline to offerfull domestic partner benefits, according to a press release from the Human Rights Campaign (HRC). United Airlines announced the decision on July 30. ’q’his enormous victory will have a global impact in helping to create fair and equitable workplaces for Gay and Lesbian people," noted HRC Executive Director Elizabeth Birch in a statement released early in August. "We congratulate Unitedforjoining therapidly growing legion of compames who realize that treating all employees with dignity andrespect is goodfor business. United has definitely earned their wings. This is a noble challenge to other carriers to now align their benefits packages to reflect fairness and equality for every employee." As a result of United’s action, Equal Benefits Advocates, a San Francisco-based group, declared an end to the educational boycott of United. That organization called the.boycott in Febrtmry to .raise public awareness of United’s lawsuit, see United, p. 2 Arizona Legislator Takes On "Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell" by Melanie Carroll, Associated Press Writer NEW YORK - "Don’t ask, don’t tell?" Doesn’t work. ¯ That’s the word from an openly Gay Arizona legislator " and Army Reserve officer being investigated for : dischargeby the military. State Rep. Steve May,inNew ¯ York recently for a meeting of the Log Cabin Republicans, a Gay political group, called for an end to . the military’s policy on Gays. "A.t a time when recruiting and retentionis becoming ¯ a serious problem, and some members of Congress are . discussing a reinstatement of the draft, how much " longer will we degrade our military readiness by ¯ discharging competent, qualified, trained men and ¯ women?... This policymustcome to an end,"May said. " A spokesman for the Army Reserve confirmed an " investigation of May is under way; it started Aug. 7. ¯ ’¢foday I am facing discharge proceedings because I ¯ have refused to lie about who I am," May said. While never discussing his sexual orientation with military ¯ officials, he was open about it when seeking election ¯ last year. May, who still serves in the Army Reserve once a month, saidhe willlikely be discharged when the " Army’s investigation is complete. - ¯ Sen. John McCain, a former POWl said thereis room : in the GOP for openly Gay _r,ep,r.,e.sen,t~tives, but,add,~e~,’ " that besupports [he fiiiiitary s ’dOn t ask~ don t tell’ " policy. "We should in our party refrain from ¯ discrimination in any form,.M.cC.aan.satd. As-forMay, : "he’s a fine man," McCain added. "I have the greatest respect for him?’ Yet, as a member of the:mili~,May is subject to constraints growing out of the natur~ ~t~the military service, McCain said. Hesaid that sincesoIdiers ¯ must live in place and with people not of their own . : choosing, the policy regarding a soldierrs Sexual _" orientation makes sense. Stacey Sobel, a senior attorney with the Washingtonbased Service Members Legal Defense Network, is representing May against the Army Reserve. see Officer, p. 2 Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tuleans, Our Families + Friends Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations Congressi,onal Committee Hears Tulsans On Hate Crimes WASHINGTON-TheHuman Rights Campaign (HRC), the nation’s largest national Lesbian and Gay political organization, with members throughout the country, brought Tulsa hate crime victims Tony Orr and his partner Tim Beaucamp to Washington in early August to testify?before the hearing ot the House Judiciary committee on the .faced for a stonger federal response to hate crimes, specifically asking the House of Representatives to pass the Hate Crimes Prevention Act (HCPA). InSeptember 1997, Orr and Beaucamp were standing at an ATM at State Bank in the Brookside neighborhood when three men approached them. They called the two men "faggots" and proceeded to brutally beat them. Orr suffered a concussion and received stitches for the many gashes onhis head. Bcauchampreceivedpermanentnerve damage after the orbital bone around his eye was broken. Speaking at a press conference before the Congxessional hearing, HRCexecutive director Elizabeth Birch introduced Orr, saying, "we urge Congress to listen to the courageous men and women who came forward today to speak ofthe unspeakable hate cr~mes that irreversibly changed their lives.., it is clear that hate crimes are a national problem and now is the time for Congress to embrace real solutions. The House should follow the Senate’s lead and pass the Hate Crimes Prevention Act (HCPA)." To demonstrate the reai-life impact of these crimes, Birch introduced "A Decade of Violence: Hate Crimes Based on Sexual Orientation," a newly published report by the Human Rights Campaign and the Southern Poverty Law Center. The report details the rise in hate crimes and the impact it has on its victims and society. Tulsan Orr noted, "people like us in communities all across this country need some place to turn seeCongress,p.lO Tony Orr & Tim Beauchamp ¯ ’Jenny Jones’ Murderer Guilty ¯ PONTIAC, Mich. (AP) - A jury rejected a claim that Jonathan ¯ Schmitz was driven to kill a Gay.acquaintance because of his unrelenting and unwanted advances, starting by revealing a crush on a talk show. "If he was Gay and a woman had approached him that way, would it have been right for him to kill her because she put anote and a flashing light in his door?" askedjuror Kimberley Manney. Schmitzwas convicted inlate August of second-degree murder in the death of Scott Amedure,who had appeared with him on ’q’he Jenny Jones Show." It marked the second time that a jury hadfoundhim guilty of that charge. The first conviction was later overturned"We wanted to send a message that it’s not all right to act this way," juror Ted Hight said. Schmitz’s second trial avoided the debate over the role played by Ms. Jones’ show, which was amajor part of acivil trial against the-show and Schmitz’s first murder trial. Instead, the jury debated Schmitz’s state of mind. As the verdict was read, Schmltz, 29, hung his head, stared down and clasped his hands under his chin. Schmitz’s first conviction for second-degree murder in 1996 resulted in a sentence of 25 to 50 years in prison; the Verdict was thrown out on appeal due to an error in jury selection. Oakland County Assistant Prosecutor Donna Pend~rgast Raid ~he Would ask for the same penalty when Schmitz is sentenced Sept. 14. "I always knew if thejury followed the law it would come back with this verdict," she said Schmi tz’s attorney, Jerome Sabbota, sought a le~s~r verdict Of manslaughter, saying that Amedure continued to pursue Schmitz to the point Schmitz "lost all reason." The segment never aired. He said Amedure lied to Schmi tz about the show, entitled "Same- Sex Secret Crushes," and set Schmitz off byleaving a suggestive note and blinking construction lightonhis door. Amedure "never let up and he never backed off. He created a situation when any reasonable person would have snapped," Sabbota said. The facts in the case were not disputed in the four-day trial. On ¯ March 6,1995,Amedure revealed his crush on’q’heJenny Jones Show," along with a sexual fantasy. Schmitz told him he was ." heterosexual. The two flew back to Detroit together and stayed ." out late drinking with a mutual friend, Donna Riley. : Onthe morning of March 9, 1995, see Jones, p. 15 ¯ Community Center News ¯ TULSA - Tulsa’s Gay Community Center and its parent organization, Tulsa Oldahomans for Human ¯ Rights (TOHR) have announced a full schedule of ¯ events for the next several months. On Sept. 11, ¯ TOHRandParents, Families &Friends ofLesbians &Gays (PFLAG) will hold aGarage Sale to benefit ¯ both groups. The sale will run from 7am to 4pm at ¯ 5303 E. 27th Place atDarlington. Donations of sale ¯ items may be left at the Center up to Sept. 8. Later, on Sept. 25, TOHR along with many ¯ others will host a Feast for Friends dinner which ¯ supports THENAMES PROJECT, theAIDS Quilt ; organization. TOHR’s dinner at the "Double T ; Ranch" will begin at 5pro and a $15 donation is ¯ requested. Those who cannot attend a dinner can ¯ join the dessert finale at the Southern Hills Marriott ; at 8:30. Into: TOHR, 743-4297 or THE NAMES ; PROJECT, 748-3111. ¯ Along with the First Annual Film Festival on Oct: 7-9 (see TFN’s Entertainment column which begins on page 8for more details as well as the Film Festival ad on page 8), the Center will host ¯ TOHR’s first Coming Out Fair "Discovering ¯ Yourself" from noon to 6pro on Sat. Oct. 9th. ; TOHR is also kicking off a new project, the CommUnity Pages, which is a Gay & Lesbian ; "yellow" or "pink" pages, or directory to Gay and ¯ Gay-friendly businesses and organizations. ; Tulsa formerly had such a directory called "Gay Tulsa" which was published by former resident, Kharma Amos. Amos, however, moved to the ; Northwest to attend seminary and for a number of ; years, no directory has been published. (Editor’s ¯ note:TulsaFamilyNewsalsoprovidesfreelistings ¯ in its directory to those who request them.) ¯ TOHR volunteers will be soliciting advertisers ¯ this fall and hope to publish a community directory ; early next year. Those interested in being listed or ¯ advertising should contact TOHR board member, ¯ Kerry Lewis, at POB 2687, Tulsa 74101 or by email at pride_center@yahoo.corn ¯ Wichita: No GaysAIIowed Tulsa Big Bros: No Prob. ¯ WICHITA/TULSA (AP/TFN) When the ¯ Sedgwick County Big Brothers Big Sisters went ¯ asking for mentors for a new program, everyone ¯ was invited to participate. Everyone exceptmembers ¯ of Ten Percent, a campus Gay and Lesbian group. ¯ Big Brother Big Sisters of Sedgwick County ¯ began its search for mentors by sending letters to ¯ Wichita State University student organizations. ¯ Thoughit wasn’t supposed to,Ten Percentreceived ¯ a letter soliciting volunteers. The letter said Big : Brothers Big Sisters clients were "waiting for a ¯ mentor like you." However, Ten Percent, which describes itself as : a"campus organization for Lesbian, Bisexual,.Gay : and Transgendered university students and their ¯ friends and allies," didn’t fit Big Brothers Big ¯ Sisters’ policy. The youth group does not allow ¯ Gay men or Lesbians to serve as mentors. ¯ Casey Ritchie, spokesman for Big Brothers Big : Sisters, said theletter was part of a mass mailing to ¯ all Wichita State University groups. "We simply ¯ feel it’s not in the best interest of the youths we : serve to put them in the middle of any potential ¯ controversy," Ritchie said. The letter was addressed to Chris Taylor, vice ¯ president of the 50-member group, whose name is ¯ based on studies that suggest that 10% of the : nation’s population is Gay. see 10%,p. 3 DIRECTORY P. 2 EDITORIAL p. $ US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P. 6 ENTERTAINMENT P. 8 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 D-I-Y-D P. 11 DYKE PSYCHE P. 12 GAY STUDIES P. 1:3 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Boston Willy’s Diner, !742 S. Boston Burger Sisters Restaurant, !545 S. Sheridan *Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria *Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House. 3509 S. Peoria *Jason’s Deli, 15th & Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial . ~ *Tool~Box, t338 Ei 3rd ’:~ ~ ~ ~ - 832-1269 592-2143 835-1207 599-9512 583 -6666 749-4511 599-7777 749-1563 744-4280 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 656804--018350682~ Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Celhdar 74%1508 *Affinity News, 8120 E. 21 610-8510 *Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health& Life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 5231 E. 41 665-4580 Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15 712-1122 *Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955 *Borders Books &Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665 Brookside Jewdrv, 4649 S. Peoria- 743-5272 *CD Warehouse,’3807c S. Peoria 746-0313 Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. 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"It’ s ironic that his qualities ofintegrity and honesty got him elected in Arizona. ¯ Now thosequalitiesaregettinghimkicked ¯ out of the Army Reserve," Sobel said. ¯ Sobel added that since the implementation of"don’t ask, don’t tell," ¯ in 1994 the number of people discharged ¯ from the armed services has increased. ¯" "This demonstrates that the policy is not ¯ working," Sobel said. Lastyear the Army ¯ discharged 1,149 members of the armed ¯ fo.r..ccs ~or being G.ay~,ua.der. ’~do!~t. ask,. ~" don’Lt~ll." In 1~97, idi~lhw f6i~ 997 ~: ~eopte-0ut of die miii~_y. In 1994; 6i7 :,’. ~eople were dismissed. May, a lieutenant trained in nuclear, chemical and biological warfare defense, also is qualified as a paratrooper. He is second-in-command of the 348th Transportation Company. "The boycott was a success and now it’s over,;’ Jeff Sheehy, founder of Equal Benefits Advocates, told HRC. "We are grateful thatHRC supported this action;it really made a difference. Together, we liave sent amessage to corporateAmerica that this issue is important to our commlmity." "Wehave changed the world, and given that United is providing worldwide benefits, that is not hyperbole," said San Francisco Supervisor Mark Leno. "I want to commend and recognize HRC’s early and immediate support upon our request to honor the Equal Benefits Advocates in their designing of the boycott. Theboycott certainly played arole in the outcome, as did the courts." United’s domestic partner benefits package will offer a full range ofcoverage toGayandLesbian couples. Thesebenefits include medical and dental benefits, life insurance, pension survivor rights, bereavement and medical leave and flight discounts. Heterosexual domesticpartners will only receive non-economic benefits such as bereavement or medical leave and flight discounts. The decision will affect 97,000 United employees worldwide. According to the SanFrancisco Chronicle, the airline said their domestic partnership program will not go into effect until May. United came under heat from Gay and Lesbian advocates this year for.joining in a lawsuit to stop San Francisco from making them comply with a local ordinance that said they must offer domestic partner benefits in order to do business in the city. United argued that they did not have to comply with the ordinance because they were a national company that only had to follow federal government mandates. U.S. District Judge Claudia Wilkin recently ruled that the airlines had to provide "soft benefits" such as bereavement or medical leave. However, they did not have to offer employees economic benefits, such as pensions or health insurance. Theairlines, represented by the Air Transport Association, are appealing the ruling. Letters Policy Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on issues which we’ve covered or on ~ssues you think need to be considered. You may request that your name be withheld but letters must be signed & have phone numbers, or be hand delivered. 200 wordletters are preferred. Letters to other publications will be printed as is appropriate. Guest Editorial: Keeping Gay Kids Safe Too l~y Kerry Lobel, National Gay & Lesbian Task Force More than 50 million young people in grades K~ 12 trek back to school this month. They bring with them the concerns of their parents and their communities over the issue of school safety. Seeing the flood of back-to-school stories on the local news, I sense that something - or someone - is missing from this picture. Specifically, five million someones. That’s thenumber ofestimatednumberofGLBTQ (Gay, -Lesbian, Bisexual, transgendered or questioning) students in "our public schools. For them, safetyis aneveryday concern. Let’s consider some statistics: - 28% Of Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual youth drop out of school because of harassment and verbal attacks, according to a study conducted by the U.S. DepartmentofHealth and Human services. - 22% ofboys and29% of girls perceived as Gay or Lesbian have reported physical attacks by students, according to another study by the same agency. -80% of Gay and Lesbian teens report feelings of severe social isolation at school, What can you do? Demand that your school dlStrlet adopt pollees that protect students and teachers from harassment and discrimination; p~-ovlde staff with workshops and training; support eurrio~la that includes information about the llv~s and contributions of GLBT people; and allow for the formation of Gay-Stralght Ai~’~anees. , . according to statistics provided by the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network. Right now, our nation is having a public discussion overwhat to do about violence in the schools. President Clinton held a summit. Columbine, Colorado officials put in place a policy of "zero tolerance" for harassment and taunting. Many are pointing fingers at the entertainment industry or the gunindustry or the Interact. Republicans and Democrats, in typical fashion, are pointing fingers at each other. But once again, our voices are left out of the debate. Our voices are enriched by painful experience, for who among us can forget the frequency with which epithets like "fag" and "dyke" are casually tossed around on the playground, in the school cafeteria, inthe locker room, Nevertheless, airlineindustry experts expect Other airlines to follow United s lead~ ¯ even in the school classroom. ¯¯ What can be done? The good news is progress can- and is - being made to ¯ protect our schoolchildren. In the state of New York, for ." example, legislators this summer filed (but have not yet ¯ passed) the Dignity for All Students Act, which would ¯" direct schools to adopt policies to create a safe school environment for all students. The proposal would revise : state curriculum requirements to include human relations ¯ education. This curriculum Would enable students to ¯" :foster an appreciation- of people of different sexmd ¯ orientations as well as different racial or religious backgrounds. In the state of California, legislators defeated similar legislation by one vote. That was disappointing, but the bill progressed further than ever before, and I amhopeful California and New York will join Connecticut, Massachusetts and Wisconsinin protecting their students. Across the country, hundreds of school districts have examined ways to keep young people safe. Perhaps some ofyoureading this columnhavejoined in this effort. I like to say that equality begins at home- and there’s no better place to join the battle for GLBT equality thzn at your local school district.Groups such as the National Youth Advocacy Coalition (www.nyacyouth.org) and the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network (www.glsen.org) are already working across the country to improve the lives of GLBTQ youth. What can you do? Demand that your school district adopt polices that protect students and teachers from harassment and-discrimination; provide staff with workshops and training; support curricula that includes information about the lives and contributions of GLBT people; and allow for the formation of Gay-Straight alliances and other clubs that address homophobia and heterosexism in school. As the award-wiuning documentary producer Debra Chasnoff ("It’s Elementary") taught us, children are not bornwith bigotry andintolerance- they learn it. Wouldn’t it be wonderful, if we used back-to-school season as a platform to address safety for our children? Five million children are waiting for us to act. Founded in 1973, the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force works to eliminateprejudice, violenceandinjustice against Gay, Lesbian, Bisexualandtransgenderedpeople at the local, state and national level. Aspart ofa broader socialjustice movementforfreedom,justice andequality, NGLTF is creating a world that respects and celebrates the diversity ofhuman expression and identity Where all people mayfully.participate in society. According to the Chronicle, a spokesman for the Air Transport Association said that although none of the group’s members except United is offering the benefits, they probably will, even as they press for appeal Just a few days after United Airlines announced ~ts decision, AmericanAirlines officials informed theHuman Rights Campaign that they would become the second major U.S airline to offer domestic partner benefits to Gay and Lesbian employee~ worldwide. -.HI~ ~ s Birch~said of,American Airlines’ decision, "W~ are witnessing history and the beginning of a new era of fairness for Gay and Lesbian airline workers. United’s landmark decision has clearly had a domino effect, where walls.of discrimination-.are:falling each day." And Birch added, "American Airlines is HRC’s official airline and we ate enormously proud that they have taken this important step." American’s domestic partner benefits package will offer a full range of coverage to the partners of Gay and Lesbian workers. These benefits include medical and dental insurance, life insurance, pension survivor fights, bereavement and medical leave and flight discounts. The decision will affect more than 100,000 American and American Eagle employees worldwide. American and United Airlines join a greater trend in corporate America where employers are increasingly offering domestic partner benefits to Gay and Lesbian employees. Overall more than 2,800 U.S. employers currently offer domestic partner benefits, according to HRC’s WorkNetprojectwhich tracks this trend. Currently 70 Fortune 500 companies offer these benefits, including AT&T, Chase Manhattan Bank Corp., General Mills, IBM, Mobil Oil,TimeWarner, and Walt DisneyCompany. In addition, more than 99 colleges and universities, 73 state and local governments and hundreds of non-profit organizations and trade umons are currently offering domestic partner benefits, according to HRC’s WorkNet. I-IRC’ s WorkNet project, which also assists companies in implementing domestic partner benefits and with other workplace issues, worked closely with GLEAM, the Gay employee group atAMRCorporation, the parentcompany, of American Airlines in formulating the policy. Taylor said the group would use the incident to try to get Big Brothers Big Sisters’ policy changed. However, in contrast to the Wichita group, Tulsa’s Big Brothers Big Sisters has no "’across the board" ban on Lesbians or Gay men acting as mentors. The group’s spokesperson, Martha Desmond, Community Relations Director, did note that the issue probably would come up in the screening interview and would be shared with the child’s parent. She said she was not aware of the issue having arisen before. According to executive director, John Jacobs, the agency’s overriding concern had to be the best interest of the child, especially since most of the children served by the program may already have challenges which they face. Also, Jacobs stated that while a parent might veto a potential mentor because he or she is Gay, a parent, for obvious reasons, may also chose to take into consideration matching race, or religion or a nnmber of Other factors as well. ¯ Call me foolish or [ naive if you llke, but I ¯ still hope {or an Oklahoma that ¯ could stand up to any ¯ other state in our nation in justice, in equal opportunity, in : decent education. I ¯ believe our people are ¯ up to it. I just wish we ¯ had leaders who were. by Tom Neal, editor & publisher A few years ago, my father and I prevailed upon Sen. Don Nickles to meet with us about Gay &Lesbian issues, and we trekked over to Oklahoma City one warm winter day. We figured with one conservative Republ,ican and one progressive Democrat, one straightman and one Gay one, we were presenting a bipartisan view on civil rights issues. We were scheduled for 15 minutes and gotnearly -30.......... When all was said and done, Oklahoma’s senior senator, hardly surprisingly had not changed his mindone little iota, though he was quite civil. All we got out of the meeting was the c~mpliment that "you are a good spokesman for your cause." Gee thanks. So it’s not as though I really thought any constituent comment made to his office would make a difference, but periodically I like to try to bdieve in our American democracy: that if you have faith and speak the truth, that eventually right will prevail, despite the ample evidence ofmostofourhistory whereminority Americans are involved, be we Black, Indian, Female or Gay, or any combination thereof. But after reading one or another bits of tripe from the senator about the recess uomination by Pres. Clinton of openly Gay ambassador James Hormel, I figured I should at least not let Mr. Nickles believe that all Oklahomans agreed with him. I called. I left a~ message. I didn’t think much more about it. That was until I got a form letter from our senator saying how he agreed withmy position and in which letter proceeded to trash Hormel. Obviously that was not my position. Now mind you, this sort of inverse idiocy ~s just the sort of thing we’ve come to expect from Oklalaoma’s jtmior senator, Jim Inhofe, of pornographic office computer fame. Sen. Inhofe, who sings the praises of private enterprise although he’s lived off the public dole most of his ilfe, ts reputed by thosein this town who should know. not to be particularly bright. And I can say from first hand experience, that he’s rude to constituents. So the simple incomp.etence of getting a constituent’ s~position enurely wrong is somewhat expected from his office. But from Nickles, we should be able to expect a bit more. But then again, I also still believe in democracy. So of course, I called again to ask if it’s possible for Nickles’ office to do better. Because surely, surely no matter how much evil been done in this state in one way or another, nothing could have been so bad that we deserve two Inhofes! Nickles" staff did begrudgingly ad~nit that maybe they should have gotten it right. But they made the claim that they really don’t have to represent all the c~tizens of Oklahoma, that all Nic.kles has to .do is ,to represent whatever he said in his campaign that gothim elected and that was enough. So forget about whatever you may have believed about representative democracy, about the need for elected officials to find solutio~as for all their constituents, it’s winner take all and the rest be damned. I can’t believe that this approach is in our state or nation’s best ~nterests. I believe that Americans and Oklahomans in particular, are fair-minded people who would respond to leaders who sought compromise and consideration for all instead of the "leaders" wehave who wallow in prejudice and bigotry to fill their campaign coffers and get elected (mind you, I’m not picking just on Republicans, too many Oklahoma Democrats are just as bad, the only difference is Democrats just don’t talk as dirty about you when they’re stabbing you in the back). Call me foolish or naive if you like, but I hope for an Oklahoma that could stand up to any other state in our nation injustice, in equal opportunity, in decent education. I believe our people are up to it. I just wish we had leaders who were. Colorado Springs Holds¯ Gay Pride Parade & Rally COLORADO SPRINGS, Cold¯ (AP)-Two-year-old : Kyle wore a T-shirt that said "I love my Gay ¯ mommies," and knows 25-year-old Jennifer " Porterfield as "mommy" and 32-year-old Becky " Lewton as "mama." Each year Porterfield gets a card ¯ on Mother’ s Day and Lewton gets breakfast in bed on "Becky’s Day." "We’re no different than a straight " family," Lewton says. "We argue about the same " stuff. Believe me." . " They were among.those p.articipating .in the. m,n,th " annual Colorado Spnngs PrideFest parade and ratly, " held on the last Sunday in August. At the end of the ¯ parade, police estimated between 3,500 and 4,500 ¯ people filled Acacia Park for a celebration sponsored " by the Pikes Peak Gay &Lesbian Community Center. " "We’reteachers. We’relawyers. We’reprofessional " pa,,,,,l~" Lewton said. "(The oarade) is certainly not ¯ s’~xV’t~l thing, and thats"- wha’t people think it is." About a dozen protesters, some holding placards i and a couple of them carrying crosses; stood at one ¯ street comer as the parade passed. Police reported no ¯ problems. The .rally capped a week that brought Gay.iss..ues into the headlines in Colorado Springs, including those triggeredby ameeting oftheNational Religious Focus on the Family Christian ministry xor aueg y "inflammatory" rhetoric about homosexuality. Focus respondedonSundayin~tfull-pagenewspaper ad that said its staff members who attended the conference had hopes of establ}shing dialogue but were blind-sided by the accusataon. Focus, and the Christian Coalition of Colorado, also had criticized Colorado Springs Mayor Mary ~Lou Makepeace for sigmng a proclamation recognizing Gay-Pride week. ButCity Councilman Richard Skorman marchedin the parade and told the crowd at the park the mayor would have faced controversy regardless of her response to PrideFest organizers’ request for the proclamation. The banners in the parade heralded civil,rights groups, support groups, Gay pageant winners and Gay-friendly churches, includingFirstCongregational Church, All Souls Unitarian Church and Pikes Peak Metropolitan Community Church. The handful of protesters staked out the no,rthw.e,st comer of Platte Avenue and Tejon Street wlaere me six-block parade terminated. Parade participants occasionally taunted and blew kisses to the protesters who called for the marchers to "’repent." Missoula Gets First Gay Community CenterAgain MISSOULA (AP) - Wanting to show they’re "just next-door people," volunteers will open a downtown Gay and Lesbian community center here Wednesday¯ Founders of the Wes tern MontanaGay and Lesbian Community Center have Seen raising money for the project since last fall and now have about $19,000 from 50 paid members. But finding an affordable rent in Missoula’ s visible down~own axea wa.s ~ bigger challenge than raising the money, supporters said. With a rent budget of $800 a month and their goal focused on downtown, themembers havebeencombing thereal-estate market formonths:: ...... -, ’ -: - -’ ’-~. ":. What they ended up with is a two-room office state wi~ hardly=the room for a dance or even a public lectfire. But it’s a start, said Cat Carrel, one of the lcadera~pf the effort. ’qlais is a start-up space," she,, said,"and itrsa good first start-up. Wecan get goln~. Missoula last had a Gay and ,L~,,sbian commumty ~enter during the first half of the 80s, when the nowdefunct organization."Out in Montana" hadoffices in the Wilma Building in downtown Missoula. After 15 years without asocial and service-oriented center; the town’ s Gays and Lesbians wanted aplace to meet that was not a bar, said Randy Chancy, executive director of the Missoula AIDS Council. The center’s fledgling efforts had a wide variety of allies, from student groups at the Uni~iersity of Montana to several area churches. Early in the effort, the center got a $1,000 grant from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The money will go toward a Healthy Lifestyles Program, which .will include health and mental health support serwces, stress reduction and education about sexually transmitted infections. The Gay Outdoors group, Gays and Straights Together, and other organizations will also use the community center as their headquarters. ’°I’he idea is to have our space available for other groups, and to use our office for as a resource to bring other groups together," said volunteer Casey Charles. The group has also drawn a $5,000 grant from Broadway Cares, a fund of ~the actors’ equity organization inNew York. It willhelp starta speakers’ bureau and foster work on HIV prevention. The center will have security measures in place, but its members stress they’ve had no trouble with opposition to the center. OtherMontanacities have services forGay, Lesbian, bisexual and transgender people, but the. closest community centers are in Spokane and Boise. The group is working on bylaws and hopes to have a board of directors in place by the end of the year. Utah Bans Unmarried Foster Parents OGDEN, Utah (AP) -The s tate Division of Child and Fnmily Services has adopted apolicy to bannnmarried couples from providing state-sponsored foster care. The new policy, adopted Friday, August 27th, by a5- 2 vote by the DCFS board, defies standards set by the Child Welfare League of America, a professional association representing more than 1,000 voluntary and public agencies. Board chairman Scott Clark, the drivingforcebehind the decision, said unmarried, unrelated adults living together abuse children more often than married men and women. "I read in the newspaperjust last night of two cases in which boyfriends abused the children in their girlfriends’ homes," Clark said. In the past, Clark has also referred to Gay couples - who, because they cannot m.ar~,,_, w!ll be b~ar~,e~,, from fostercare-as contributing to gendercontusion of children in their care. Only twoboardmembers, Regnal GarffandVirgrnia Higbee, opposed Clark’s recommendations. They argued the new rule would narrow the field of foster parents, who are already outnumbered nearly 2-to- 1 by children in state custody who need homes. Garff, a retired juvenile court judge, also criticized Clark’s example because neither of the cases sited involved foster children. "I am relterating my opposiuon to this whole thing.., that example is poorly conceived and poorly argued," he said. The changebrings matches similar state restncuons ¯ passed earlier this year for adoptive parents. But groups like the Child Welfare League of ¯ America, the American Bar Association and the ¯ American Civil Liberties Union have opposed such policies. Opponents say too many quesuons are left ¯ unanswered by the policy. For example, there is no ¯ provision for common-law marriages, which go into ¯¯ effect after seven 3,ears. And it is unclear if the rules apply when an unrelated adult rents living space from ¯ a foster or adoptive paxent. ¯ The Child Welfare League is so staunch ih its ¯ opposition that the association recently sent DCFS Director Ken Patterson aletter asking its end°rsement ¯ be removed from the agency’s po!icy manual...Th,e ¯ board gwiftly a~ounrt0datedthat reituestb~removing ¯ thephrase that refers toDCFS policy as "in accordance with the standards of the Child Welfare League of ¯ America." ¯ Gay Pastor’s Church : Work Continues in Ames ¯ ¯ AMES, Iowa (AP) -Though technically an outcast in the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, Steve ¯ Sabin’s ministry continues at Lord of Life Lutheran Church. The ELCA has removed Sabin from its roster of ] ministers because he has a Gay parmer. 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Cincinnati. 425-7882 Saint John 4200 S. Atlanta Place, 742-7381 Saint Dunstan 5635 East 71st, 492-7140 Trinity 501 S. Cincinriati, 582-4128 The Episcopal Church Welcomes You earlier this month voted to keep its ride requiring homosexual ministers to remain celibate. "My call right now is ministry at Lord of Life," Sabin said. "I’m going to stop holdingmy breath for the ELCA to come along." When Sabin was.removed from the church’s list of ordained ministers last year, the 150-member congregation supported him. By keeping him as their pastor, the congregation risks .expulsion from the While Bishop Philip Hougen of the Southeastern Iowa Synod said he is "uncomfortable" with Sabin as Lord of Life’s minister, he has not asked the Synod Council to expel the congregation. ’To remove them in,order tomakesome sort ofpoint about purity seems t0be~to benot worth the effort," Hougen said. "I don’t want to cause any more pain." At the Churchwide Assembly earlier this month in Denver, ELCA leaders passed a resolution that reaffirmed previous assembly statements that committed the church to continuing discussion of the issue of ordination of Gays and Lesbians. "How long do you have to keep studying it?". Sabin asked last week. Sabin, who has two daughters, was ordained as a minister in 1985 andbecame pastor at the Lord of Life Church inAmes later that year. He was married at the time, but the 10-year marriage ended i.n 1990. Sabin began living with Karl von Uhi abont four years ago. Former Lesbian Couple Must Share Custody GOLDEN, Colo. (AP) - A district judge has ordered a former Lesbian couple to share custody of a 10- year-old girl they raised, but ruled the youngster must live in New York with her biological mother during the school year. Jefferson County DistrictJudge Christopher Munch said he based the decision on what he considered the best interests of the child. The youngster will spend summers and school vacations in Colorado. He noted she will be able to make friends and attend a neighborhood school in Albany, but if she remains in Colorado, she will have to commute daily from Aurora to Jefferson County, rougtfly a ’40-mile round trip, Munch said. "(Gift M) will be living in a race middle-class, rural to suburban home with her morn and stepdad," Munch said. Thejudge emphasized that he did not consider the past rdationship of the two women or their sexual orientation when he made the decision. Identifiedin court papers as "Gift M," the youngster was raised by Leaune Bueker, her "psychological" mother, and Kelly Cunningham, her bio1ogicat mother, until the two women separated two years ago. The womenwere awardedjoint custody in February 1998, but the arrangement became complicated when Ms. Cunninghammarried Michael Naylor andmoved to Albany. Ms. Bueker remains single. Mrs. Naylor "was pleased with the decision. "The judge gave appropriate (onsiderat~on to the facts and came up with a. decision that was difficult to make," said attorney Ron Litvak. Ms. Bucker declined comment. Sen. Hatch Apologizes to Blacks But Not To Gays SALT LAKE CITY (AP) - Sen. Orrin Hatch said Wednesday hehad been "inarticulate" and apologized to NAACP officials for a statement in which he compared Gay civil rights with black issues. . The Utah Republican, who is a GOP presidential candidate, came under fire earlier this month for saying,"People of color can’t do anything about their color." Hatch continued: "I do believe Gay people have a choice to live within the legal rules or not. That’s why we have civil-rights laws to protect African-Americans from discrimination." JeanettaWilliams, presidentof the SaltLakebranch of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People, called Hatch’s remark "a poor articulation of what he was trying to say." Heather Barney, a Hatchspokeswoman, said Hatch "apologized for being inarticulate." "He did note that he was coming from a strictly legal perspective, that there is judicial precedent that the courts have treated race as distinct from sexual orientation, which is the point h~ was making," Barney said. Darin Hobbs of the Gay and Lesbian Political Action Committee in Salt Lake said Hatch did the right thing by apologizing to the NAACP. Next, he saidHatch shouldapologize to Utah’s Gaycommunity. "The senatoris unable to recognize the commonalities between homophobiaandracism," Hobbs said. "Both are bigotries rooted in fear and ignorance." Williams and Edward J. Lewis, president of the NAACP tri-state conference for Utah, Nevada and Idaho, said they felt Hatch’s’apology was sincere. They were scheduled to meet with Hatch at 1 p.m. but di’dn’t arrive at his Salt~Lake office until-an hour later. Hatch pushed back other meetings and talked with them for 45 minutes. "The importance of this meeting was we established a need to sit down and have a dialogue with him," Lewis said. Williams said she also discussed concerns about Hatch’s voting record on civil-rights issues. She said Hatch made no promises but agreed to consider the NAACP’s views. Hatch and Sen. Bob Bennett, RUtah, received F’s in the NAACP’s latest congressional report cards. Also, Bennett apologized to theNAACPfor saying Texas Gov. George W. Bush would win the GOP presidential nomination unless "some woman comes forward, let’s say some black woman ~omes forward, with an illegitimate child that he fathered." Comparing the remarks by the two senators, Lewis’ said: "On,e, was more severe, but they were both in the same pie. Williams and Lewis said Hatch and his wife, Elaine, are lifelong NAACPmembers. Hatch co-sponsored a bill to award civil-rights pioneer Rosa Parks the Congressional Gold Medal, whichis Congress’ highest honor. Barney said Hatch has enjoyed a good relationship with the NAACP. "His door has always been open to Jeanetta and the NAACP," she said. "They meet regularly and he is proud of some of the things he has been able to accomplish which benefit minority communities in Utah." Hatch has previously raised the ire of Gay civilrights groups. In 1988, he called the Democratic Party "’the party of homosexuals; they are the party of abortion." InJune, he told delegates to the Republican state convention they could be proud because "we don’t have the Gays and Lesbians with us." Gay Couple Murdered After Recording Message REDDING, California (AP) - Two brothers killed a Gay couple after forcing them to record an answering machine message saying they had suddenly become ill and were leaving town for medical help, authorities say. Benjamin Williams, 31, and James Willianas, 29, could face the death penalty ifconvicted of murdering Gary Matson, 50, and Winfield Mowder, 40. The men were found shot to death in their bed July 1. in rural Happy Valley near Redding, northeast of San Francisco. The suspects have pleaded innocent. According to the court documents, sheriff’s deputies went to the victirrisr home after Matson’s relatives thought the answering machine message sounded forced and odd, and may have been someone else’s voice. The message said the. victims were headed to San Francisco to see "a specialist friend"for medical help and would return "in about a week." "Off the message, it’s evident that the person who recorded themessageis under distress andwas possibly forced to make the recording," officers said. In the background, another voice can be heard saying, "just calm down." Based on information from Matson’s father and brother, investigators said the message was recorded "very dose" to the time of the slayings. Thedocuments were unsealed following a legal challenge by several news organizations. Evidence in the brothers’ homes also allegedly links themto the arson ofthree California synagogues. Those fires caused more than $1 million in damages. Authorities also found handouts from the World Church of the Creator, a white supremacist group, which preaches extreme racial and religious views. AIDS Deaths Decline ATLANTA (AP) - Two years after powerful new drugs brought a sharp drop in AIDS deaths nationwide, new government figures released today show the declinein AIDS deaths slowed sharply a year later. AIDS killed 17,047 people in the United States last year - a decline of 20% from 1997. From 1996 to 1997, the drop in deaths was a much more dramatic 42%, which health officials attributed to the effectiveness of new drugs. "As we anticipated, we are now seeing the first signs ofa slowing in this trend,’" said Dr. Helene Gayle, director of HIV prevention for-the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, said during the National HIV Prevention Conference. "In a period of only two years, new combination therapies cut the annual level of death in half," she said. "But for the time being, it appears that much of the benefit of these new therapies has beenrealized." In 1995, 49,351 people died from AIDS in the United States. By 1996, that dropped to 36,792, and the number was down to 21,222 in 1997. TheCDClisted several possible causes for the slowdown in reductions of AIDS deaths. Most people who know they have HIV are already being treated, Gayle said. Drug resistance among some AIDS patients causes the treatment to fail, and other patients fail to keep up with, the complicatedjuggling of pills they,have to take for the drugs to be effective. New HIV infections in 1998 were estimated at roughly 40,000 - a number that’ s held steady for the past decade. The CDC said AIDS continues to kill blacks in higher numbers than other racial groups. Blacks, who make up about 13% of the population, accounted for 49% of AIDS deaths in 1998. Thirty-two% of deaths were among whites and Hispamcs made up 18%. "In many ways, the story of how well we do in HIV and AIDS will be told by how well we do with the African- American population," Gayle said. The three-day conference, organized by theCDCand 17 other agencies, features 2,000 scientists, doctors, researchers and advocates addressing efforts to monitor and prevent the spread of HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Gayle and others opened the conference by warning against complacency. "It’s becoming increasingly difficult to get people to pay attenuon to HIV prevention and that in and of itsdf is a primary reason for this conference," she said. Since the 1980s, more than 300,000 have died of AIDS. The recent success of some treatments have made some people complacent about the disease. "Despite a growing complacency about the need for HIV prevention, HIV remains a serious disease that is still very much with us and there is a greater need for HIV prevention today more than ever," she said. Black Churches To Step Up AIDS Fight BOSTON (AP) - Local black religious leaders plan tomeetwith state Department of Public Health officials and members of the AIDS Action Committee to discuss ways to better educate their congregations about the disease. The meeting, involving 26 black leaders, signals a change in the black church’s approach to AIDS, religious scholars and activists told the Boston Globe. They said the conservative theological views about homosexuality, intravenous drug use and premarital sex held by many black religious leaders have led them to shy away from the issue. But leaders are now seeing they must pay attention to the disease because of their obligation to help people in need, according to Pemissa Seele, founder of the New York-based Balm in Gilead ministry. The ministry raises AIDS and HIV awareness among black congregations nationwide. "Their responsibility to save lives has nothing to do with their theology on homosexuality or sex outside marriage," Seele said. "We’re talking about two different apples." In the Boston area, only about 90 of450 black churches promote HIV awareness, the Globe reported. Meanwhile, blacks account for 26% of all AIDS cases in Massachusetts, though they make up only 6% of the population. Nationally, AIDS is the leading cause of death for black men and women ages 25 to 44. Rev. Conley Hughes, pastor ofConcord Baptist Church in Boston’s South End, said thechurchcanbe apowerful influence in the fight against AIDS because it has historically been an institution blacks could count on. Many blacks consider the church society’ s most credible source of authority, Hughes said. Experts-Discuss Vaccine Progress BALTIMORE (AP) - Doctors and scientists from 20 countries gathered in Baltimore las t month for a conference to . discuss progress made in the effort to find an AIDS vaccine. The annual meeting, which began years ago as an informal gathering of Dr. Robert C. Gallo, codiscoverer of the AIDS virus, and his colleagues, has grown into one of the largest AIDS conferences in the w6rld. More-than 1,000 physicians, scientists and others are expected to attend the conference, hosted by Gallo and the University of Maryland’s Institute of Humafi Virology, which he directs. "It is possible that the components for a reasonably successful vaccine are almost there, in our hands, but we don’ t know it yet," Gallo told The(Baltimore) Sun. ’Tm much more positively inclined than a year or two ago." However, it could be years before a vaccine is developed. At the conference, Gallo expected one of the more significant discussions to deal withTat, or transactivating protein, which is made by HIV. Researchers have found that Tat plays akey role inHIV spreading. "You can regard it as one of the missiles from HIV infection that leads to the problems in the immune system and facilitates the virus’ spread," said Gallo, who has done some of the work. Researchers have -shown that vaccinating monkeys against Tat lowers the amount of the virus and lessens the immune system’s impairment. Gallo and his collaborators have tested Tat in humans for safety, both as a preventive vaccine and as a therapeutic one. He said his group’ s strategy will be to create a sort of vaccine cocktail, by combining aninactivatedTatprotein with another vaccine approach. Over the past 10 years, more than 40 preventive AIDS vaccines have been tested worldwide involving about 10,000 volunteers. Only oneAIDS vaccine, made by the California company VaxGen, is headed for the-testing stage that will determine if it prevents HIV. Medical Excellence And Compassionate Care Since 1926. ¯ ¯ ST. JOHN MEDICAL CENTE_R q P Medical Excellence. Compassionate Care Are You Gay or Bisexual? Are You Native American?/ Vulsa’s Two-Spirited Indian Men’s Support Group is here for you! ¯ Evening support group meetings ¯ Relationship workshops ¯ Short trips, outings and retreats ¯ Free HIV testing For information call Tulsa Native Amencan AiDS Prevention Project at 582-7225 Ext. 208 or 218 Dial-Up Accounts Dedicated ISDN Connections Virtual Hosting Visit our web page "www.igisweb.net" (918) 622-4965 I nternet Marketing E-Commerce Web Page Design On-Sit~ Setup Available Stay Healthy Naturally Wellness Rejuvenation Longevity Dr. Terrance L. 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What he does want is data - hard numbers that will prove or disprove the theory that transplants can help people infected with HIV. Key toHIV transplants i s finding patients who are healthy enough to qualify and are willing to take care of their new organs once they get them. Another key is controlling hepatitis C, which is often found in HIV patients and invariably reinfects the new liver once i~ has been transplanted. At this point, there is very little data on transplantation for patients infected with HIV, the virus which causes AIDS, and no papers have been published, experts said. Only recently have a select few surgeons performed the procedure knowingly, although there is some historical data from before patients were checked for HIV infections. "’People think we’re crazy for doing it," said Dr. John Fung, head’of the Um~ersity ofPittsburgh Medical Center’ s transplant center. But early indications show that liver transplantation is effective in reversing the complications of end-stage organ failure m some HIV-positive patients, Fung said. He presented findings at the conference on four HIV patients who underwent the procedure between September 1997 and March 1999. In all the cases, the liver transplants reversed the distinguishing characteristics of chronic liver failure, including fluid retention, muscle wasting, fatigue and jaundice. HIV traces remained undetectable with patients who continued the drug combination with protease inhibitor and none developedopportunistic infections, Fung said. Medical experts often question Fung and others about the.use of scarce resources - in this case, healthy human organs- and the safety of surgeons operating on HIV Calif. A! ow Needle Exchange SACRAMENTO,Calif. (AP)- Tryi:n~ to slow the spread of AIDS, the Legislature sent Gov. Gray Davis a,bill that would let cities and counties setup n~dle-exchange pro~s for ~g addicts. Cmwent state law b~s such progrmns butfour CNifo~a cities - Berkeley, Los Angeles, San Fr~cisco and Santa Cruz - ~d M~n County have adopted emergency ordi~s ~lowing needle exchm~ges. Davis’ office said the Democratic governor has not taken a position on the Nll, wNch passed the state Senate. At le~t 15 o~er states have authorized ne~e-exch~gepro~s,~ough~ere ~e exch~ge progr~s operating in more th~ twi~ that m~y states, according to AssemNy~vomanKe~ M~zoni’s office~ Supporters of her proposN sNd studies have shown exchange progrmns redu~ the spread of the A IDS vires. There lmve been atleast six o~erneedleexch~ ge bills intr~uced in ~ifo~a since 1993. They either died in the Legislature or were vetoed by then- Repubti~ Gov. Pete Wilson. infected patients in a procedure that Chemist Gets $7 m. For AIDS Research NEW BRUNSWICK,’N.J. (AP) - A Rutgers University chemist who helped researchers study the most lethal part of the AIDS virns will get nearly $7 million in federal fnnds to continue his work. Dr. Edward Arnold has won an award from the National Institutes of Health that will double federal suppor~ of his research. The prize, called MERIT for Method ~o Extend Research in Time, will extend his funding from a five-year grant for $3.4 million to a grant spanning 10 years and providing nearly $7 million. His work is aimed at developing longerlasting drugs to fight the deadly AIDS virus. "The whole philosophy of research is the more you know, the better chavce you have to fight something," Arnold told the East Brunswick Home News Tribune. The new funding will aid his study of a protein called reverse transcriptase, or RT. The protein plays a key role in the virus’ early life cycle, giving itinsm~ctions to duplicate its deadly properties. It is the involves a lot of blood . . molecule targeted by anti-AIDS drugs S0cietallv sorn0 ~o,,~,i,~ ,~;.J ~,.,, ¯ includingAZT, DDI, Nevirapineand3TC. whether org~a~s sho~d~’tiao~’~ : The virus colnmonly mutates so quickly lifestyle choices may have led to their " that it becomes irmnune to drugs. Arnold infection, said the doctors, who prefer that medical reasons determine who gets a transplant. Recently, the University of California in San Francisco received a $1 million grant to perform transplants on HIV patients. The state money will fund transplants for 10 people, and doctors hope the information will help build a database to determine if the operation can be a medical success in HIV patients. "I think there is a great deal of trepidation in the medical community, and I don’ t think it’s ill-founded at all," said Peter Stock, associate professor of surgery at UCSF. "We have to be very cautious." While some insurance companies in the ." is trying to devise a way to see what drug resistance looks like. Heis mapping three- . dimensional pictures of the RT protein, _" getting a look at its detailed atomic " structure. Such views can help researchers ¯ see how the virus interacts with" drugs. ". "We need to understand how drugs can ¯ fail," Arnold said. "If we can do that, we - can be more aware of how to design them .* - how to avoid those hurdles." ¯ His work first gained prominence in 1992 when he and others created a threedimensional computer model of the RT protein. Arnold’ s workis also focusing on the design and development of an AIDS vaccine, something that has eluded researchers thus far. J by James Christjohn TFN entertainment writer Hey there, hi there; ho there! Whereho? There ho? Who you callin’ a ho? Sorry, just had to. Something about Disney inspires that kind of mania, especially after having lived with a Beast for so long. (editor’s note: aren ’tlucky the Beast is occasionally quitefor-bearing?) Speaking of beasts, Beauty and the Beast is here! They’ve been building sets, chopping sets, recreating and creating costumes for a month now, working 15 hour days[ And it looks to be faaaabulous ! Especially those moving pillars., I LOVE those moving pillars t There’s just something so intrinsically... phallic about moving pillars ! I want somefor my. house! Really the- magic begins September 7 and runs through the 19. And the conductorand assistant conductor, James and Brent, are very handsome and char~i,"ng men, so say hi if you can when they re out on ~e town! Call 596-7111 for tix. Lynn Flewdling has written one of the best series of Gay fantasy novels to come along since Mercedes Lackey’s "Last Herald Mage" trilogy. "Luck in the Shadows", which I’ve written of before; "Stalking Darkness", and the just out "Traitor’s Moon" follows the trail of intrigue and romance of Seregil and Alec, the main protagonists. I recommendthe books highly to anyone ¯ with or without an interest in the genre. They have everything: magic, intrigue, romance, murder, and just about everything else you can think of, in a artistically perfect package. The events and characters are such that you hate the book to end, and the characters stay with I wondered ff the average fantas~ r~.a+der would follow that far - they have, and ¢ladly for the most part. I eet letters from straiCht Curs sayln~ essentially "I shouldn’t be ok with t~s, but I amP’... Others ~ve sald it made it ~sler to talk ~th Gay relatives. youlong after the lastpage is turned. ~Lynn was gracious enoughto spare some time for some questions while working on the new book, "The Bone Doll’s Twin:" JC: I have enjoyed the Nightrunner series. Your characters are so welldrawn, that theyseem real enough to wonder what they’re up to long after the book isfinished. LF: I’m so glad to hear that the story and the characters work for you. That’s high praise indeed. That’s how I feel about my favorite books. JC: What inspired you to write these characters as "Gay" men (Seregil & Alec, the protagohists) ? LF: Well, as I recall, I wanted to create "a hero that challenged the stereotypical molds set by Eddings. or Jordan (well known fantasy writers). Hence his profession and methods. The Gay part - not: sure. Partly the mold breaking, bu~ mostly just how he wanted to be. Perhaps he’s my animus? Whatever the case, the characterjust cameout that way and I love him. Alec was more ofa conscious choice. I could see where it was all headed, see Fantasy, p. 14 by.TFN staff As we move into the fall, Oklahoma’s arts calendar is increasingly busy. On Sept. 11, at 8pm at Holland Hall’ s Branch Theatre, Richard Gere Productions, the Loseling Institute and Unity Church of Christianity and Unity Center of Tulsa present "The Mystical Arts of Tibet" featuring the Drepung Loseling Monks. This group ofmonks have performed with composer Phillip Glass, and performers such as Paul Simon, Natalie Merchant, the Beastie Boys and others. For tickets, call 582-6624 or 749-8833. Already open at Gilcrease is an exhibit of Inuit artwhich will be shownuntil Nov. 7th. The .works, which include sculpture, prints and tapestries, draw on a private collection which has never before been publicly exhibited. Pieces from Gilcrease’s-collection will complement the exhibit. Gilcrease anthropology curator, Jason Jackson, suggested that these works will appeal to those who appreciate traditional Native American art as well as those who like modem art coming outofwestern Europeantmditions. hffo: 596-2700. Local youth activist Emily Sizemore is one of the organizers of Arts for AIDS, an event scheduled for Sept. 25th. They are looking for singers, other musicians, writers, actors, visual artists, etc. If interestedinparlicipating, please call 361- 1000. That same evening, the Tulsa Philharmonic will open see Arts, p. 14 "It’s Elementary" Tolerance Film Provokes Debate CHICAGO/TULSA (AP/TFN) - Thirdgraders in New York debate the idea of Gay mamage. Storytime for first- and second-graders ata school in Cambridge, Mass., includes the book "Asha’ s Mums" about a little girl who has two Lesbian mothers. Eighth-graders in San Francisco fire questions at a Gay man and Lesbian who visit their classroom. All areexcerpts from a controversial documentary, "It’s Elementary: Talking About Gay Issues In School," which first caused a stir when several public television stations decided to air it this summer. Now it’s being used by many schrol districts nationwide as a training tool for teachers, most recently in Chicago - unifying what some say is a growing move to incorporate Gay and Lesbian issues into curriculum, from elementary to high school. Critics say talkabout suchissues belongs at home. But others say it’s a matter of dealing with issues that students already see every day innewspapers,ontelevision, in movies - and maybe even in their own communities or classrooms. "Both schools and families have to address the issue somehow because it’s there - and it’s not going back into the closet," says Tony D’Augelli, a psychologist at Penn State’s College of Health and Human Development who studies Gay youth ~sues. see Elem.,p.15 T Call today to receive a 1999-2000 season brochure Season subscriptions, starting at $44for adults, are now on SALE! FOR 1999-2000 SEASON BROCHURES CALL TULSA~PERA 1999-2000 SEASON MEET THREE WOMEN To.DIE FOR CARMEN MANON TOSCA Season tickets on sale now! Save 25% off single ticket prices! Season tickets start at just $36 for three operas! FOR 1999-2000 SEASON BROCHURES CALL TULSA PHILHARMONIC HoT THE SEASON! ¯ Mas~Ywol"~s " . Classics usic on . "toe RocRs" No ! 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Long rides & short rides from Zeigler Park. Long & ~hort rides from Tulsa Gay Community Center. Write for info: POB 9165, Tulsa, OK 74157 Ifyour organization is not listed, please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615. Associated Press - Your lawn crunches ¯ like potato chips.when you walk on it.. Even your older trees are showing stress. : Although you mightbe tempted to coddle _" your plants, you can kill them with too ¯ muchkindness, say experts inPenn State’ s : College of Agricultural Sciences. *- "Pruning, fertilizing and watering can fool plants.into thinking it’s springtime and trigger new growth," said Robert Nuss, professor of ornamental horticulture. "New growth won’t have time to mature before the frost. Not only will you kill it, but you’ll use up next year’s buds." "If you have a landscape contractor or arborist do your work, there’s only so much they’ll want to do during a drought," said Rick Johnson, associate extension agent in Delaware County. "Since normal plant care practices might be harmful under drought conditions, under- "Focus your water~ng-efforts on plants you ~n do some~blng about, llke ornamentals," ke added. "With lawns, it’s just a waiting game until the rMn and cool w~ther return." stand that these contractors may advise against them." Nuss and others offer some specific suggestions. "Grasses gO into a semidormant state and become vulnerable when it’s dry," said Peter Landschoot, associate professor of turfgrass science. "Now that the water’s been turned off, you should limit activities and traffic on lawns as much as .possible. Come September (October in Oklahoma) - if we get rain and cooler weather- you can fertilize and overseedto getsomerecovery. Ifwe don’t get enough rain in September, wait tmtil next spring to oversee&’" "Focns your watering efforts on plants you can do something about, like ornaments," he added¯ "With lawns, it’s just a waiting game until the rain and cool weather return.’" "Pruning’s a gamble," said Nuss. "If you’re sure the parts are dead - if they’re brittle and dry - go ahead and cut back to the live tissue. This will promote some healing and help the plants aesthetically. Butremember, ffweget somerain,proning can trigger growth in the buds." "Fertilizers are salts - even organic materials such as manure -and salts can bum roots," Nuss said. "If you want to give plants nutrients, wait until October (late November or December here) when they’re fully dormant." "Watering is key for woody plants," Nuss said. "When the top 1-11/2 inches of soil are dry, water down to 8-10 inches - to the root zone," he said. "You can accompllsh~ this by dire~t, slow watering. Trickle water on very slowly so it soaks into the soil, with no rtmoff. Also, when you water at night, you lose less to evapOration." But watering has its dangers. "If you overwater in areas with heavy soil or slow drainage, you can saturate the root zone and force out the air," Nuss says. "This can suffocate the roots and kill them." Whenroots die, you’ll _see top wilting in ¯ the plant, Nnss says. "Mostpeopleinterpret this as a lack of water, add even more and aggravate the problem. After watering, most plants should recover overnight. But if the plant remains wilted, you may have root damage from overwatering." For new plantings, Nuss recommends keeping the initial root ball moist. "Water bevond the planting hole, not just at the base of the plant," he said. "That way, you don’t drown the roots, and new roots have moist soil to move ~nto." Mulching is the next best solution to watering, Nuss says. "But be sure to water under mulch, not on top of it. It takes at least an inch ofrain to get through organic mulch." In extreme conditions, Nuss said covering the soil surface with black plastic will retain extra moisture. "You.can hide the plastic with organic mulch," he says. To supplement watering, use gray water (from such uses as cooking and the laundry rinse cycle) on ornamentals, Nuss said. "But move from tree to tree soyoudilute it. Also, don’t use water that contains chlorine bleaches or laundry softeners. For health reasons, don’t use gray water on leafy vegetables or root vegetables. "With a drought this serious, I’d focus watering on highvalue plants and shrubs," Nuss ¯ said. "Savefresh waterforyour vegetables, ¯ use gray water on the ornamentals, and ¯ don’t water your flowers. Flowers are ¯ going to die with the. first frost anyway." "Droughts have a negative effect on ¯ most insect and mite pests that attack : landscape plants," says Greg Hoover, extension entomologist. "Because of last year’ s drought, forinstanee, wehavefewer adult Japanese beetles this year, and probably will see even fewer next year." But hot, dry weatherfavors two different groups of insect and mite pests. "Woodboring insects successfully attack trees and shrubs that are stressed," Hoover said. "If you don’t have water restrictions, the bes~ thing you can do for woody plants is water them. Supplement watering with rainfall collected in buckets or barrels, or water from dehumidifiers." "The two-spotted spider~mite, acommon pest on garden and landscape plants, also thrives in hot, dry weather," Hoover said. "The winged euonymus - what some people call ’burning bush’ -is particularly vulnerable. When indicated, use an appropriate miticide on infested plants." Hooverrecorfimends using wetpowder insecticide formulations. ’q’hey’re less likely to damage plant tissues during hot, dry Weather when used according to label directions." whenjustice is not served. 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There’s a proper time and place for buckles and pinches, but it’s not on your lawn furniture. Or perhaps it will be... Minor rust holes on the runners are not unusual as long as the runner is still relatively strong. Find that welder and have a new half round piece welded on for about fivedollars, unless you know ofone who can sit with you on your soon-to-beseductive glider. Quid pro quo can be so entertaining. Paint removal can be a real chore. the rust and paint (trust your ¯.. The palntln~ DIYD on this one: it isn’t anything like a big vibrator. is where you e.an Jollies are definitely limited); really express or take it down to the friendly yourselves with Dip ’n Strip furniture refinisher and pay a modest color, color, color! stun to have it done for you. Go wild with The DIYD strongly recommends the latter, if only for those hold colors the reason that people tendeo - it pays to fo paint these chairs with leadbased paints, and inhaling the advertise! dust is quite dangerous. Or irritate l~he Got most of that loose paint and rust off now? Oh, you’re neighbors with a doing so well! As you may hot pink that remember from painting our kitchenproject,weleftarather matches your enthusiastic dyke vigorously lawn ~larnln~oes. shaking her can of Rust-OLeum Well, girlfriend, it is The possibilities your time to shine! are endless! Put your stripling chair on newspaper and put on the coat ¯ of spray primer. Darlings, I know you’re : coIor conscious, but it doesn’t matter if ¯¯ you use the red or the gray primer. It really doesn’t. Please follow the directions on ¯ the can. Keep the can about 10 inches ¯ away from yourwork, use a slow side to : sidemotion, andrememberthatthreelight ¯ coats are better than one heavy one that ¯ willrun and trailandjust ruin your look of ¯ urban sophistication. 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The Hate Crimes Prevention Act limits the federal governrnent’ sjurisdiction to only themost serious violent .crimes directed at persons, not property crimes. Lead House sponsors ofthe Hate Crimes Prevention Act are Reps.. John Conyers, D-Mich; Mictiael Forbes, D-N.Y.; Connie Morella, R-Md;TammyBaldwin, D-Wis.; and House Minority Leader Richard Gephardt, D-Mo. The Hate Crimes Prevention Act was passed by the Senate this summer as an amendment to the Commerce, State, Justice Appropriations Bill. President Clinton has-promised to sign HCPA into law if it is passed by ¯ ¯ Congress. This bill would allow states with inadequate resources to take advantage of ¯ Department of Justice resources and personnel in limited cases that have been ¯ authorized by the Attorney General. The Hate Crimes Prevention Act has broad ¯ bipartisan backing and support from notable law enforcement agencies and state and local leaders, including 22 state ¯ attorneys general, the National Sheriff’s ¯ Association, President Bush’s former Attorney General Dick Thoruburgh, the Police Foundation and the U.S. ¯ Conference of Mayors. ¯ Hate.crimes basedon sexual orientation were up 8% in 1997, according to the ¯ latest FBI statistics. Sexual orientation ," was the third highest category of hate ¯ crimes behind race and religion and ¯ represented 14% of all hate crimes ¯ reported. Currently, hate crimes ¯ monitoring and enforcement consists of a ¯ patchwork of laws that offer citizens ¯ varying see Congress, p. 12 by Esther Rothblum, Ph.D. get cervical cancer." Two women even Dr. Sue Wilkinson is currently reported that they were considered conducting the first national survey of "virgins" by the medical profession Lesbian health in the United Kingdom because they had had sex withwomen but with doctoral student Julie Fish. The" not with men! survey managed to contact Lesbians in But the pap smear is not a comfoitable almost every postal district of the United procedure for many women, and may be Kingdom, from the southern particularly painful, uncomtip of England to the islands Cervical cancer fortable, unusual or trauoff northern Scotland. Over. appears to l~e matizing for Lesbians. 38% of 1,000 Lesbians answered the Lesbians in the U.K. study questionnaire, which focused .connected. with reported .that they. had never on breast cancer, mammo- sexual activity, had a cervical smear for this grams, breast self-exam, particularly reason. One Lesbian reported cervical cancer, and pap that she viewed a speculum as staears, penetrative sex "a huge metal crocodile." I recently spoke with Sue wlt]~men. Tl~is Othershadheardhorrorstories about the early results of this . from friends and partners that studY, Which focus oncervica1 Is why Lesi~ians the procedure was aversive, screemng. Unlike many lmve traditionally humiliating, or painful. cancers, cervical cancer has ]~een vlewed as Finally,, Lesbians raised an early warning stage, with questions about havingamale abnormal cells present. This is at low rls]~ for health provider "pokingwhy women are told to have cervical cancer, around in my body," regular pap smears (or cervical specifically, in the vagina. Or smears, as they’re called in the. But Lesglans they were concerned that the U.K.). may lmve ]~ad health care provider con- SueandJuliefoundthat 12% sex with men ducting the procedure would of Lesbians eligible for result in questions about their cervical screening had previously, and/ sexual activity or would NEVERhadapap:mear.This or t]aey may ]~e assume they were heterois higher than comparable U.S. sexual. figures of 5% found by the ha’~cln~ sex with This important study raises National Lesbian Health Care men evenw]a~le some questions about cervical smears. DoLesbians whohave However,Surveiynthisthefiguremid-19lo80w’Se.isr eallln~ t]aemselves neverhadintercourseneedpap than that of 17% for women in Lesl~ans. smears at all, or need pap the general U.K. population Cervical cancer smears less often? How can who report never having had a cervical smear. What is is not well pap smears be performed in a matter that is more positive surprising about these low understood, so for Lesbians? figures for womenin the U.K. ineludin~ is that the U.K. has national Fish can be contacted at the women, Sue Wilkinson and Julie health service. Pap smears are Lesl~ians, may l~e Department of Social free, and women receive a at rls]~ for other Sciences, Loughborough reminder letter every five years,withtwoorthreefollow- reasons unrelated University, Loughborough LE11 3TU United Kingdom. uplettersiftheydon’tcomein tosexualaetlvity. - Esther Rothblum is for the pap sinear, Professor ofPsychology at the When Sue andJulieexaminedLesbians’ ¯ University of Vermont and Editor of the written comments about cervical Journal of Lesbian Studies. She can be screening, they found that one reason for " reached at John Dewey Hall, University non-attendance was lack of time. "But " of Vermont, Burlington, VT. E-maih apart from that, it looks as though the two ¯ esther.rothblum@uvm.edu. main categories of response are-that " Lesbians feel they don’t need a smear and ° secondly, negative aspects of the ¯ procedure," said Sue, "they imagine the " procedurewillbepainful,orembarrassing, ° levels of legal protection depending on or thatthey will encounterheterosexism." where they live. Twenty-two states and Cervicalcancerappearstobeconnected " the District of Columbia have hate crimes with sexual activity, particularly " laws that include sexual orientation. penetrative sex with men. This is why ¯ Twentystateshavelawsthatdonotinclude Lesbians have traditionally been viewed- ¯ sexual orientation. Eight states have no as at low risk for cervical cancer. But " hate crimes laws at all. Lesbians may have had sex with men ¯ SpeakingwithTFN, Orr&Beauchamp previously, and/or they may be having ¯ expressed their disappointment with how sex with men even while calling Tulsa district attorney staff members themselves Lesbians. " handled theprosecution of their attackers. Cervical cancer is not wall understood, ° They indicated that had Orr not had so women, including Lesbians, may be at ¯ .professional experience as a journalist, risk for other reasons unrelated to sexual : specifically covering crime stories, they activity, In the U.K. study, about 40% of : likely would have given up in frustration Lesbians felt they did not need a cervical : while trying to get information abouthow screen because they had never had ¯ the case was going. Their perception intercourse. Many Lesbians wrote that : remains that Tulsa DA considered the they had specifically been told this by a " assault to unimportant because they are doctor or nurse. Examples of this were: : Gay men. ’¢I’he doctor has decided that I do not ¯ Orr noted that finally they contacted require one as I am a Lesbian and have " Susan Ellerbach, managing editor of The never had a sexual relationship with a : T.ulsaWorld, andthatoulyafterTheWorM man," or "the nurse informed methat it : wrote about their experience, and having was virtually unheard of for a Lesbian to to out himself see Congress, p. 13 Red Rock Tulsa Free Confidential HIV Testing Walk-in Clinics Tuesday Testing, 5 -8 pm Pride Center, 1307 East 38th Wednesday Testing, 5-8 pm Red Rock, 1724 East 8th Daytime appointments available. Call for more information: 918-584-2325 Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist 11 am, Sunday ’1314 North Greenwood 587-1314 We knowyou’re going to love this[ Restaurant & Cabaret East First Street 18-599-9949 Massage Therapy Services ¯ Edgar O. Cruz, L.M.T. 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We’ve learned to use the word to label a peculiar mental state and aching body sensation sparked by our love interests. The word has been around for years. English speakers of the 12th century borrowed ’jealousy’ from Old French. And those speakers on the continent previously had adopteditfrom the Latinzelus, derived from the even more ancient Greek zelos, that originally m,,eant something like ardor or "fervor." Jealousy andzeal-andjealous and zealot - are linguistic cousins, all derived from the samerootconceptofemotional upheaval and intensity. Jealousy’ s deep cultural and linguistic roots indicate the popularreachofboth emotion andconcept. We use a language of jealousy to understand why Shawn’s boyfriend dumped him. Whose lips were kissing Shawn before his? Whose arms had already held that waist? Yet, anthropologists debate the facts ofhuman emotion. Can we say that there are emotions that we all feel because we are human? If so, which ones? Love, hate, happiness, sadness, fear, anger? Are there other emotions that people in one culture cultivate and learn to feel thatareunknown or less important m other societies? Just how normal - and how universal - are feelings such as sexual jealousy? Those anthropologists of the sociobiological persuasion often figure that jealousy ~s indeed a human universal ¯ with an adaptive function. Men are never completely sure that the baby a woman carries is theirs. Jealousy works = so goes the story - to motivatemen to police their women in order to better the odds that the.y have fathered her babies. An), easygoing man withdut Some yet~to-beidentified gene for.jealousy would have contributed less to thehuman gene pool in that he may not have fathered the children he thought he did. Butwhatof women?They always know that they are the mothers of their children, so what should they care if the guys mess around elsewhere? Andwhat of Shawn? It’s unlikely thathis boyfriendwas jealous because of evoluationary womes that a rival would make him pregnant. We could argue that our bodies have an inbnilt heritage of emotions, includln. jealously, nomatterwho arelovers happen to be. Still, other anthropologists argue that our body feelings are only half the story. The other half - perhaps the more important half - is the way we have of labeling, understanding, and talking about those feelings. We sense a rush of chemicals through our brains and body, butwe can’tknow what is happening to us until we put these feelings into words. Anddifficult cultures have different ways of.classifying and interpreting those same chemical flushes. anthropologists debate the facts ofhuman emotion. Can we say that emotions that we all feel because we are human? If so, whleh ones? Love, bate, bappiness, sadness, f~r, anger? Are there other emotions that people in one culture eultlvate and learn to feel that are unknown or less important in other soeieties? You may have heard of the German emotion schadenfreude - which is pleasurefelt atsomeoneelse’ s misfortune. Many of us also take pleasure from other’s misfortunes, but English has nowordthat specifically labds this twisted enjoyment. Does this lin,g,nistic gap mean that wedon t sense this pleasure as deeply as do Germans? And even if jealousy is a human universal, it may be that some ofus experience the feeling more intensely. Gore Vidal reports in his autobiography Palimpsestthat he and his lover never have sex. This he finds this on the street. His "lover," instead, provides breakfast conversation and other forms of sexless companionship. Clearly, many couples have created similar "open" relationships inwhich they are able to at least mute any feelings of sexual jealousy, Some occasionally have campaigned to open up all relationships. During the 1960s, many : preached and sometimes practiced "free love."They hopedto stifle sexualjealousy ¯ in order to rework the economy of ¯ relationships. No one was meant to own ¯ anyone else. No one ought get jealous. Sex was healthy recreation, freedom, even ¯¯ spiritual; jealousy was wrongly possessive, limiting, and neurotic. ¯ It was no dice, though. For most of us, ¯ jealousy remains the flip side of love- or of love American-style anyway. The ¯ babyboomers failed to stamp outjealousy ¯ because they could not remake the ¯ associated emotion of love. It remains ¯ ¯ might) hard to love and not get jealous. If you don’t feel jealous, can you really be in love? It is plausible that humans in other ¯ places and at other times have experienced ¯ and understood the body flashes that we ] call jealousy in various ways. But around ¯ here, don’t let me catch you messing ¯ around! Lamont Lindstrom teaches anthro- ¯ pology at the University of Tulsai: ¯ profesgionally, did local law enford~ment; ¯ take the casemore seriously. SpecifiCally, ¯ two of their assailants had not been made : to perform their sentences whichinduded community service and a fine to the court. ¯ Orr and Beauchamp also stated that it is ¯ typical in assaults of this type for the ~ victims to receive compensation for their ¯ losses due to the assault, and that they ¯ specifically requested compensationfrom ¯ theDistrictAttomeys, see Congress, p.14 butwonderedifthe averagefantasy reader would follow that far - they have, and gladly for the most part. I get letters from straight guys saying essentially "I shouldn’t be ok with this, but I am!" even if it makes them a little uncomfortable any-way. Others have said it made it easier to talk with Gay relatives. Ifmy stories have anysocial value, perhaps it’s .that. Mostly, I just follow my muse where~she leads and hope it works. JC: Andhow haveyou managed to do it so well? LF: Love is love. JC:Andhow doyou keep trackofall the .intrigues? My head is spinningfrom what l’ve gotten through in "Traitor’s Moon!" LF: Copious notes and charts on the wall. I see that Bantam (though they cut my glossary, now available on.my web page) left a blank page at the ends. I hope people will use it for notes, like I did reading "Trainspotting." The next book, ’‘The Bone Doll’s Twin" goes back in history to one of the. Skalan queens, but there will bemoreNightnmners, too. A&S are already prowling restlessly about my brain, hungry for more work. JC: 1 understand you’re appearing at Gaylaxicon, a sci-fi convention for Gay and Lesbian fans of the genre in Alexandria, Virginia. LF: Gaylaxicon promises to be a lot of fun. I’ve had a lot of contact with the organizers and they are simply the best I’ve ever dealt with. Hope to teach a writing workshop forthemwhile I’m there. JC." Have you heard of Loreena McKennitt? Her music and appearance reminds me ofsome ofyour "aurenfaie" characters. LF: Aurenfaie? I’ll claim her. "Mask and Mirror" is my personal favorite of all her disks. My husband is a great fan of female vocalists and has amassed quite a collection, which I dip into. (My tastes seem torunmore to GeorgeThoroughgood and Melissa Etheridge a lot of the time, along with someLeonardCohen and Rufus Wainwright, a new discovery.) JC: Andon thatmusical note, l ’d like to say thank you to Lynnfor sharing some of her inspirations, writings, and - methods behind the madness’ with us. !ts 51 st season wiihpianist John Browning m a program featuring Brahms, Tchaikovsky and Berlioz. Prior to the concert at 7pm, long time radio man and the voice of the OK Mozart Festival (Simon Estes - he’s the bestest!) Edward Dumit will lead "Musical Moments" a pre-concert discussion. For more information, call the Phil at 747-7445. Also at the end of Sept. Heller Theatre, one of Tulsa’s theatre companies that actually interested in newer works (as opposed-to recycling the same old stuff, again and again and again), are presenting "Dallas to LaGuardia R.T." on Sept. 23- 25 and Sept.. 30-OcL 2, a play about a couple that misses a flight and winds up invited to stay .over with complete strangers. Later in Oct. Heller will present "Fortinbras" revisiting Hamlet in a contemporary political context. Early in Oct. the Oklahoma Center for Poets and Writers presents its Celebration of Books on Oct. 1-2 at OSU-Tulsa with a remarkable assemblage of artists, even including some Gay ones. Some names include Michael Wallis, William ¯¯ Bernhardt,GuyLogsdgn,CliftonTaulbert, Eddie Faye Gates, C.J. Cherryh, Rich ¯ Fisher and folksinger Michael Martin ." Murphey. Info: 594-8215. ¯ Alsoin Oct. the Performing Arts Center Trust presents Sabella, featuring"global" ¯ music on Oct. 2 and on Oct. 8th & 9th, ¯ TPACT’s Celtic series (now so popular that they’ve added 2nd performances, and alas, forgotten their friends who helped ¯ them before the Celtic series got so ¯ popular) will start with Natalie ¯ MacMaster,fiddler extraordinaire. I don’t think any of the Celtic series artists I’ve ¯ seen have ever been bad, so check it out. ." And on that same busy weekend, both ¯ Tulsa’s and Oklahoma City’s Gay ¯ communities are presenting arts events in ¯ honor of National Coming Out Day. ¯ OUTART’99inOKCwillfeature 10new ." release films, two plays, a music special ¯ and visual artists. The Gala opening, A ¯ Black Tie Dinner and A Movie, Friday, ¯ Oct. 8th will present the southwest : premiere of the film"Edge of Seventeen" ¯ as well as a buffet dinner and wine bar. ¯ For more information or tickets, see the ¯ advertisement on page 16, or call 405- ¯ 752-2762 or 800-722-8866. ¯ That same busy weekend, TOHR and ¯ the Gay Community Center will hold ¯ TOHR’s first film festival at the Center. ¯ The first film will be shown at 7:30pro on Thursday~ Oct. 7 with films also being ¯ shown on Fri. evening and on Sat. ¯ afternoon and evening. Call 743-4297 for ¯ more information. : It also appears that local presentation of ¯ Gay and Lesbian films may show back up on a big screen. AMC Southroads 20 will ¯ present a Lesbian themed film, "Better ¯ Than Chocolate" on Sept. 10, and a Gay ¯ film, "Trick" on Oct. 1st. The key to ¯ getting theseon aregular basis is to support the theatre that takes the risk. S o vote with your dollars ! None was ever received. In fact,-this ¯ became an issue in Orr’s Congressional testimony. Rep. Mary Bonn, widow of the ¯ late Sonny Bonn, attacked err and ¯ Beauchamp saying that the Tulsa District ¯ Attorneys office claimed that they had ¯ been uncooperative with th DA and had ¯ notfilled out the forms necessary toreceive ¯ compensation..Orr and Beauchamp ¯ counter that not only-did they not receive ¯ the forms, thry did not even know of their existance until Bonn raised the issue. ¯ Commenting to TFN, Human Rights ¯ Campaign Political Director Winnie Stachelberg said, "I urge "the Gay and ¯ Lesbian community ofTulsa to act now in ¯ support of this bill (HCPA), so that incidents like these are prevented.... i~t is ¯ important that the; Gay and LeSbian ¯ community of Oklahoma is protected at a federal if not at a state level.’" Want to get involved? Need to get tested for HIV? Need a Coming Out Support Group? 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Ifnothing .else, ~ ays : parents can ask to have their , v~.:~ Chicago school officials- who stress ¯ excused from a lesson the-: find that "It’s Elementary" will not be shown . objecttonable: SaysP~,~shall, Mywarm g to students -are atadskittishabouttalking to parents would be: Beware.’ " about, their plan. They confirm that the In Oklahoma, there’s been no public district’s 589principals will view thefilm " outcry about "It’s Elementary" because beginning in September and receive a " the Oklahoma Educational Television copy of the Video for their schools - a plan ¯ Associationhas chosen not to air thepiece. funded by Lesbian tennis star Billie Jean " Malcomn Wall, executive director of King.But several teacherswho vealready " OEFA, claimed that OETA’s decision viewed the film on their-own declined to : not toair theprogram was not based onthe be interviewed out of feat of criticism, content, i.e. Gay & Lesbian issues but A city official who helped get the film " rather that OETA is offered far more - in part due to backing from chicago " programs thaJa it can ,possibly. air. He Mayor Richard Daley ~ .into the dis~t characterized it as.a routine passing over. was more forthcoming. She says the " However, Wallis relatively new at OETA decision was aimed at fostering tolera9,ce ¯ and the association has had a history of and, in turn, preventing violepce ag..mns,t " mostly refusing to air programs with Gayand Lesbian students. "It’s pmcttcm. Lesbian and Gay content. One notable Itmakes good sense. It’s about safety_, for " exception was the airing of an award children.Idon’tthinkanybody,regardless winning program, "Breaking the Code" of their religious background, can argue ¯ about the Gay man who broke the Nazi with that," says Mary Morten, Daley’s ¯ messagecodeinWorldWarlI. However, liaison on Gay and Lesbian issues. " OETA first refused to air this program School officials in San Francisco, who ] and did so only after being pressured by are also using "It’s Elementary" have ¯ Oklahoma City’s Gayly Oklaho_.man gone as far as imposing a ban on anti-Gay newspaper and Tulsa Family News. "they slurs. "Go stand on a playground. I " also waited to air the program later in the guarantee you that you will hear within " summer of 1998 after the Oklahoma Ru.n.ut.es..ra.os..~a.yin~",,,’Oh, that’s so Gay¯ ¯ Legislature was out of session, instead of What at(you a fag? says KevinGogin, airing in May or June like many PBS director of support services for sexual : affiliates did. minority youth for the San Francisco ." Unified School District who regularly ¯ speaks to teachers and principals nationwide. ¯ Moves to address Gay and Lesbian " Schmitzarrivedhometofindthenoteand issues in the classroom are not, however, " light in his doorway from Amedure. without opponents, among them tough- Schmitz withdrew money from his bank, talking radio talk show host Dr. Laura " bought shells and a shotgun and drove to Schlessinger and several religious groups " Amedure’s mobile home. Schmitz went who have made "It’s E"lementary" a "¯ inside to see if Amedure was home, then went back to his car, got the gun and shot priority target. Patti Johnson - a member of the " ~maedure twice in the chest- all while Colorado Board of Education who has wearingthegreenbowtieandwhitemxedo spoken out against use of the filmin her shirt from his job as a waiter. state - says she agrees with having a no- Pendergast told jurors that Schmitz slur policy but says some teachers are " werreactedtomereembarrassment."The going too far. "I don’t thinkyou have to go ouly reason that murder is an issue is that into bl , deep explanattons, especlall.y Scott Amedurewas Gay and (Schmitz’s) when kids are little, Johnson says. It s manhood, so to speak, was insulted on kind of like when you want to stop a 2- national TV," she said. "Wall, you know year-old fromrunninginto the street. T.hey what? Get over it." Jurors said while some don’t always understand death or dying, agreed with. Sabbota at first, they But they understand a quick swat on the eventually decided that Schmitzacted too slowly for the crime to be an actofpassion. butt." One official at the Washington-based "There was just way too much time Family Research Council, calls the film involved for a reasonable person to make ,,anindoctrinationtool-plainandsimple." some choices," said juror Bruce Sole. Sabbota said he would appealthe "Whyareyoucreating aresource to create abei~htened sensitivity.., on a behavior verdict, saying Oakland County Circuit choice that is cons!,,dered problematic to a Judge Wendy Potts should ,have letjurors whole lot of folks? ’ asks JanetParshall, a hear about Schmitz’s history of mental former teacher and spokeswoman for the illness andalcoholism. Hehadbeentreate~t. nonprofit organization which is known " for manic depression and tried to comnnt for its anti-Gay policy positions. , suicide four times in the years before the Filmmaker Debra Chasnoff says she s killing. "We knew it was an uphill battle simply providing resources to teachers from the start," Sabbota said. whoalready have to deal with such issues Ms. Jones and the producers of the in the classroom. "It just doesn’t work to show were not called to testify, as they say, ’We’re ,going to all be race to one hadbeenintheprevioustrials.Thejuryin another; don t use those words here.’ I the civil case awarded Amedure’s family thinkyouneed to explain who those words $25million; that verdictis being appealed. are hurtful to," says Chasnoff, director Jurors said the show played a role in the and co-producer of "It’s Elementary. kilhng,butwas not the sole cause. I think The debate is not likdy to end soon. most of us felt it Was a whole series of Thisfall,Chasnoff’s SanFrancisco-based events, H~,ht sal . media center also will begin distributing a After seven jurors spoke to the media, curriculum guide for.elementary teachers Amedure’s father, Frank Amedure St., that includes lessons they can incorporate shook hands with each one. "ijust want to into discussions about Gay and Lesbian thank the jury. God bless you," he said. Schrmtz’s father, Allw~ Sc~unitz, said 1ssues. " Such moves frustrate Parshall, who he didn’t ka~ow what to think about the notes that - w~le parents don’t ha;’e verdict. "T~crc’s no wwcaer~, or losers much control over what teachers use lot here," he said. "’Everybody loses." 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document European Union to British Army: No More Gay Ban STRASBOURG, France (AP) - The European Court of HumanRights ruled latein September that Britain’ sban on homosexuals in the armed forces is a breach of humanrights. The court found in favor ofthreemenand a woman who were discharged from the British armed forces in line with its absolute ban on homosexual personnel after they admitted their sexual orientation. The court said the British policyyciolated Article 8 of the European Convention on Human Rights which defends the right to respect for private and family life. "The Court considered the investigations, and in particular the interviews Of the applicants, to have been exceptionally intrusive," thc European court said in a statement. "The investigations conducted into the applicants’ sexual orientation together with their discharge from the armed forces constituted especially grave interferences with their private lives," it said. The verdict cannot force a-change of law, but the applicants considered it a step towards ending discriminationin thearmedforces. Defense Sec. George Robertson said other existing cases involving Gays in the British armed forces will be put on hold while the government studies the implications of:the ruling. Gay Demos Organize TULSA- Local. Democratic Party activists will hold an organizational meeting for a Tulsa chapter of the the National Stonewall Democratic Federation on Sunday, October 24th, at 4pro at the Tulsa Gay Community Services Center (the Pride Center), at 1307 East 38th Street, 2nd floor.. Stonewall Democrats, acaucus within the Democratic Party works to secure the rights ofall people, regardless ’of sexual orientation or gender identity and serves as a voicewithin the DemocraticParty for Lesbians andGay men. Organizers noted in their press release that the Oklahoma,Democratic party is rather conservative with regard to civil rights for Gays and Lesbians and seek to educate state party leadership about Lesbian and Gay issues. They list the following specific goals of the National Stonewall Democratic Federation as: (1) mobilizing voters through a national grassroots network of Gay and Lesbian Democratic clubs and individuals to advance the fight for Gay and Lesbian civil rights; (2) improving the record of the Democratic party by - pressing it further inthe direction of full recognition of the rightsofGay men, Lesbiansand Bisexuals to befree from prejudice; (3) educating voters on the vast difference that exists between the two major parties on our issues, and the importance of voting Democxatic as the most effective way to achieve our goals; (4) fighting the anti-Gay rhetoric of the Republican conservative-wing, which has increasingly become the instrument of those d~dicated to denying us our rights. The organizers are encouraging those who share these values to come to the October 24 meeting which will feature membersfromthenewlyformedOklahoma City Stonewall Democrats chapter. Paul Barby,whoran as an openly Gay candidate for US Congress in Oklahon~a’s 6th district will speak. For more information, telephone Start Simpson at 582-6557. ~ :.Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsane, Our Families + Friends ¯ Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations i Tulsa Area United. W .y Fun.ds Support Anti-Gay D,scr, minat,on : TULSA (TFN) - In a recent promotional piece printed and ¯ inserted in The Tulsa Worm for free, Tulsa Area United Way ¯ (TAUW) touted its strong points. TAUWclaims to be thelargest ¯ non-governmental funder of health and human services.in the ¯¯ Tulsa area, funding some 231 programs at 68 member agencies. TAUW also claims to have a lower than 10% overhead as ¯ compared to overhead of up to 40% declared acceptable by the ¯ National Charity Information Bureau. ¯ Joe Cappy, chairman/CEO and president of Dollar/Thrifty Automotive Group, in the Tulsa World insert, claimed, ’q’ulsa ¯ Area United Way gives each of us a sensible, cost-effective ¯ approach to helping the people in our community who need it ¯ most..." ¯ But there are those who take issuewith some aspects of United Way s funding,, partacularly that of the Indian NaUons Council of ¯ the Boy Scouts of America (BSA). The BSA is one of the earliest ¯ organizations funded in Tulsa by the predecessors to the current : United Way but the Scouting organization has been under fire ¯ nationally for its anti-Gay policies. The BSA claims the Scout ¯ pledge to be "morally straight" refers to being heterosexual and ¯ .therefore bans Gay youth from being Scouts or Gay men from ¯ being Scoutmasters on the grounds that to be Gay is intrinsically ¯ to be "morally non-straight." ¯ Recently, the BSA lost a legal challenge to thi s anti-Gay policy ¯ brought under New Jersey state law. Former Eagle scout James Dale won his lawsuit but in response to questions from The Tulsa ¯ World,aspokespersonfortheTulsa-basedIndianNafionCouncil of the BSA r~affirmed the ban in this area. ¯ And when TAUW kicked off its 75th anmversary campaign, ¯ running from Sept. 10th to Nov. 1 lth with a goal of raising $21,497,725.00, some of these individuals said no to helping ¯ United Way because of the funding for an organization which blatantly discriminates. ¯ Most ofthe individuals who spoke asked to remain anonymous ¯ citing fears ofretaliationfromTAUWor risk to their employment ¯ by public.ly speaking ~bout Lesbian and Gay issues in’h city with fewprote~tious again~wolkplace discriminationbasedon sexual ¯ orientation. ¯ One Gay couple, both of whom are public ¯ employees, had slightly different reactions to the issue of funding for the Boy Scouts.-One noted that ¯ "we’re so used to it, thatwedon’ t think about it"but ¯ he added that it’s "time when United Way needs to start analyzing what they’re doing." : However, his parmer noted that the organizations ¯ his employer was set to help for United Way’s Day ¯ of Caring were the Boy Scouts and the Salvation Army, both organizations which he claims ¯ discriminate against Gay people. He notified his ¯ employer that he would not participate in the Day ¯ ofCaring because of those organization’ s anti-Gay ¯ policies. ¯ Another couple, Lesbian, said that it was a"tough ¯ question." One women, again who requested ¯ anonymity because of her job (she is a teacher), ¯ characterized the Boy Scouts’ policy as ¯ reprehensible but noted too that United Way funds ¯ the YWCA, an organization which has a non- " discrimination policy which includes "sexual ¯ orientation." Her partner added that TAUW also ¯ funds Youth Services of Tulsa (YST) which has ¯ programs that benefit Lesbians and Gay men but ¯ she also acknowledged that YST hadkept those ¯ programs "closeted,"i.e. not publicized because of ¯ fears that UnitedWay fundingmight be withdrawn, despite the fact that the failure to publicize the ¯ program significantly limitedYST’s ability toreach ¯ those whom the program was intended to help. : Tulsa Area United Way’s marketing representative, Beth Kuehnert was asked to explain ¯ TAUW’s continued funding for the BSA and ¯ initially, in a cordial and civil conversation, Ms. Kuehnert said she was not aware of the Boy Scouts’ position nor see TA UW, p. 12 ¯ Community Center News Eureka Springs Holds Community Meeting 111 6. Diversity Celebration ¯ TULSA - Organizers of the First Annual Community Center ¯ EUREKA SPRINGS - Fall is around the comer, ¯ Film Festival to be held on Oct. 7-9, Tulsa’s Gay Commtmity : andintheOzarks,it’salmosttimefor thebi-annual ¯ Center andits parent organization, TulsaOklahomaus forHuman " Diversity Celebration Weekend in Eureka Springs, : Rights (TOHR) will show both Lesbian and Gay films, both : Ark. ! Organizers say this event, scheduled forNov. ’. feature length and shorts beginningat 5:30 onThurs, and Fri. and " 5-7, will be bigger and better than ever! : from 2pm on Sat. and Sun. ¯ Metropolitan Community Church’s Friday night ¯ In addition, theCenterwillhostTOHR’sfirstComingOutFair " dance and camival will kick off the weekend at the : "Discovering Yourself" from noon to 6pro on Sat. Oct. 9th. A " top of the Basin Park Hotel. On Saturday morning, ." record number of community organizations have committed to " strollthestreetsofEurekaonahistoric(andcolorful) ¯ particil~ating in the Coming Out Fair. . walking tour, canoe on the White River, or hike in ¯ GregGatewood,TOHRboardpresident,noted that at the Sept. ." Lake Leatherwood Park. ¯ .14th commlmity wide meeting held at the Center about 35 " Intheearlyaftemoon,bringthekidstoa"family" ihdividuals attended and the representatives decided through a family picnic at Harmon Park, sing like you’re in i largely consensus process to convene a commlmity council of the shower at karaoke, or listen to the sounds of ¯ organizations, churches and businesses. The group also decided : localandvisitmgGay/Lesbianmusiciansatseveral toaskTOHRto co-ordinate theproposedbi-monthlymeetings to " different venues around town. And please be sure : exchange information and ideas. . to visit all the wonderfully unique shops, and ¯ Marty Newman, a Human Rights Campaign board member, : support the Diversity Cooperative businesses of ¯ who along with TOHR co-founder Dennis Neill, called the first " Eureka Springs. : meeting this summer, expressed his satisfaction with the Sept. " Then, after a delightful dinner (it’s Eureka - ". meeting and the general progress of the process. Newman-noted ¯ Spri.ngs’ Food and Wine Festival this weekend, ¯ thatTulsaPFLAG chapter co-founder,Nancy McDonaldattended ¯ too),work offthosecaloriesattwofantasticdances. ¯ the meeting and that Mrs. McDonald recalled that TOHRs by- : AtCenterStage, DJ Jonwillraisetheroofwithhigh ." laws had at one time had a provision for a community advisory ¯ energy club music. And the Basin Park Hotel ¯ council. Meeting co-convener Dennis Neill, an attorney, was ¯ Ballroom will come alive with electrifying i given the task of drafting a contract to clarify the relationship " performances by "Barnes", a dynamic GLAMA- ¯ betweenthevariousgroups.Formoreinformationaboutthenext ~ winningsinger/songwriter seeEureka, p. 14 ¯ community meeting, call the Community Center at 743-4297. ." : Also, the CommunityCenter will be the site ofanall-community ¯ ¯ Halloween Costume Ball to be held on Saturday, Ocotober 30th, : ¯ 8pm at 1307 East 38 Street, 2nd floor. The event will be BYOL " ¯ but soft drinks and ice will be provided. : : Organizers suggest that while this is a costume party, a loud ¯ ¯ shirt and simple mask will-do. Guests should not feel compelled : : to spend a lot of money, just to use a little imagination. 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Admiral 834-4194 *Holland Hall School, 5666 E. 81st 481-1111 HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education 834-8378 *House of the Holy Spirit Minstries, 3210e So. Norwood Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 *MCC United, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral P1. 748-3111 NOW, Nat’l Org. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 365-5658 OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157 *OSU-Tulsa (formerly UCT, formerly Rogers U. whoever...) *Our House, t 114 S. Quaker 584-7960 PFLAG, POB 52800, 74152 749-4901 +Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674 Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 *R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195 Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 665-5174 *Red Rock Mental Center, 1724 E. 8 584-2325 O’RYAN, support group for 18-24 LGBT young adults O’RYAN, Jr. support group for 14-17 LGBT youth St. Aidan’s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati 425-7882 St. Dunstan’s Episcopal, 5635 E. 71st 492-7140 *St. Jerome’s Parish Church, 205 W. 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Grand HIVtesting every other Tues. 5:30-8:30, call for dates EUREKA SPRINGS, ARKANSAS *Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy. 23 *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. *Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. MCC of the Living Spring Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 Old Jailhouse Lodging, 15 Montgomery Positive Idea Marketing Plans Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East *White Light, 1 Center St. FA YETTEVI LLE, ARKANSAS5 *Edna’s, 9 S. School Ave. JOPLIN, MISSOURI *Spirit of Christ MCC, 2639 E. 32, Ste. U134 501-253-7734 501-253-7457 501-253-6807 501-253-5445 501-253-9337 501-253-2776 501-253-5332 501-624-6646 501-253-6001 501-253-4074 501-442-2845 417-623-4696 * is where you can ftndTFN. Notall areGay-ownedbutallare Gay-friendly. Holy Union Ceremony Alan Williams and Gregory Casillas celebrated a Holy Union Ceremony on Friday, September 24, 1999, in Eureka Springs, AR. Presiding over the intimate union was Reverend Vivian Juett. The commitment ceremony was witnessed by Zoe Dearing and Nancy Ermding. After traveling to Dallas, TX, San Francisco, CA and Nashville, TN to celebrate with friends and family, the couple will reside for’a short period in Tulsa. Obiturary Dr. W. Malcolm Jacox, a veterinarian well known in the community for his kindness and gentleness with both his animal patients and their caregive~s, died Sept. 22. Services were held at Floral Haven Memorial Gardens Mausoleum on Sept. 25. He will be greatly missed by many both in and out of the Gay He is survived by his family and his longtime companion. Those who wish to honor his memory are encouraged to support a charity of their choice. Condolences may be sent care of Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 East 15th, Tulsa 74104. Mr. Tulsa ¯ Leather 2000 The Mr. Tulsa Leather 2000 contest was held September 10, 1999, at the Silver Star Saloon in Tulsa, Oklahoma.The evening included a benefit for Miss Gay Mid America, Catia Lee Love. Love will participate in the Miss Gay America contest. Four contestants participated in the contest: Jay Fleming, Kelly Kirby, Dayvid Montross, and Tony Hall, all of Tulsa Oklahoma. Themencompeted in Personal Interview, Street Wear, Swimwear/ Physique, and Full Leather Image events. The judging panel consisted of: Ron Greenwood, Mike Ryan, Ed Smith, John McCuistian, Don Lawrence, all also from Tulsa. The tally master was James Murray, Mr. Tulsa Leather 1997. The winner of the contest was Jay Fleming of Tulsa. Jay is a past "Mr Gay. Leather Long Beach 1987" and the 20th Elected Emperor, Greater California Empire. Fleming will compete for the Oklahoma Mr. Leather 2000 title on October 22-24, 1999. Heis an event promoter for such events in Tulsa as Mayfest, Gatesway Balloon Festival and chairmanof Street Party 2000; benefiting Street School and Tulsa at risk youth. Contestproducer, Ric Poston,MrTulsa Leather 1999 and the Oklahoma Mr Leather 1999, said of Fleming, "he is an outstanding citizen and will be a great representative for the Tulsa Leather Community." The first runner up was Kelly Kirby and the 2nd runner up was Dayvid Montross. For more information on OML2000, check the T.U.L.S.A. website at WWW.TULSALEATHER.com Editorial: Un!ted Our Way by Tom Neal, editor andpublisher This year is the 75th anniversary of a program of charitable giving in Tulsa which has become known as Tulsa Area United Way (TAUW). Tulsa’s United Way supports some 231 programs offered by 68 member agencies and hopes to raise over $21 million and help perhaps 250,000individuals this year. Obviously, all this is worthy. For example, oneof the I’d suggest that agencies which TAUW supports is Tulsa instead of letting "C.A.R.E.S., formerly and" TAU~V’ sllee its tare moreaccuratelyknown as the HIV Resource Consortium. Tulsa Area UnitedWayalso funds the Community Service Council that manages the Tulsa Community AIDS Project, one of the most effective funding sources for fighting HIV infection and for providing care for. individuals with HIV relatedillnesses. These are worthy organizations - as are many, many others which TAUW funds. However, along withthe many good organizations which TAUW funds is another. Thatis the Indian Nations Council of the Boy Scouts ofAmerica. It off the top, glve your dolhrs dlreetly to Tulsa C.A.R.E.S. or other or~an{zatlons in our eommunlty... groups that really do give a damn about us. Let’s stop using our dollars and those of our families and friends to support United Way’s prejudlee and eowardlee. Let us be unlt,~ our way. is the official policy of the Boy Scouts, both locally and nationally, to discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation. They’ve been rather explicit about this. The last time the Indian Nations Council of the Boy Scouts of America voiced this policy locally was in August when James Dale, a former Scout in New Jersey, successfully challenged the BSA’s apartheid policies under New Jersey state law and won. A local BSA representative however reiterated-its support for BSA prejudice. Now as a former Boy Scout, I’m hardly hostile to the true values of the organization. But I do not believe that thephrase, "morally straight," ori_ginating around th_etum of the century, ever, ever could be thought to refer to heterosexuality, using an interpretation of the word "straight" whichnever existed until at leas t some 60 years later. However I recognize that it is the prerogative under current federal, state and local law, of the BSA to engage in invidious discrimination if it chooses to do so. It is reprehensible behavior but it is quite legal. However, even if this bigoted conduct is legal, there is no justification for Tulsa Area United Way to use the funds it receives from the community as a whole to subsidize the systematic discrimination of the Indian Nations Council of the Boy Scouts of America. After all, if we were to substitute "no Jews allowed" or "no Blacks allowed" lot"no fags allowed," I would hardy have to be writing this essay. Part of why TAUW still funds this apartheid organization is an accident of history. The Boy Scouts have been funded for most of TUAW’s existence. Back in thoseearly days theBSA was one ofafew organizations that did address youth issues. That is no longer so. Andin contrast with the BSA, the Girl Scouts, for example, have explicitly said that sexual orientation is not relevant to participation in their organization and they have a nondiscrimination policy. Now if Tulsa Area United Way had a comprehensive non-discrimination policy, they might have some greater degree of credibilityas an organization committed to fair treatment of all. But they don’t. Infact, Ms. "duck’n’cover" KathleenJ. Coan, president and chief professional officer, is so gun-shy of the issue she’s managed not to returnphone calls to this newspaper for nearly four years -now that’s what I call real professional conduct (though in fairness, Ms. Coan did take aphone call once whenTFN was calling on deadline and her p.r. person was unavailable) But it does call into question, Ms. Coan and TAUW’s commitment to all of Tulsa’s communities when she seems primarily willing to talk to non-minority news orggnizations, for example, ." The Tulsa World- not frequently known for challenging ¯ the Tulsapower establishment, often inseparable from it. ." And what is more troubling about the unexamined ¯ decision to continue to fund the Indian Nations Council ¯ of the Boy Scouts of America by TAUW is the lack of ¯ leadership from TAUW’s board of directors. ¯ A number of TAUW board members come from ¯ corporations that claim that they do not discriminate on ." sexual orientation. Foremost among these are Public ~ Service Company of Oklahoma, Dollar Thrifty ¯: Automotive Group, Inc. and Bank of America, and yet, somehow, not one of these very highly paid and : presumably ratberintelligent men seem to havemade the _" connection between their own corporate policies ¯ emphasizingfairness andTAUW’s supportfor ablatantly ¯ bigoted program. Or perhaps they’vejust not"counected ." the dots." Or perhaps, they’re hoping thatnoone will ever ¯ hold them responsible. ¯ Regardless, until Tulsa Area United Way see fit to : begin to treat Lesbian and Gay Tulsans as equal human : beings by adding sexual orientation to its non- ,. discrimination policies and chooses not to fund ¯ organizations which discriminate, the best bet is for us to ¯ not to contribute to Tulsa Area United Way but to take ." those same dollars and to give them directly to worthy ¯ organizations. ¯ I’d suggest that instead of letting TAUW slice its take ¯ off the top, give your dollars directly to Tulsa C.A.R.E.S. ¯. or other organizations in our community, like the ¯ community center, or the Cimarron Alliance or PFLAG, ¯ groups that really do give a danm about us. Let’s stop ¯ using Our dollars and those of our families and friends to ¯ support UnitedWay’s prejudice and cowardice. Let us be ¯ united our way. ¯ TulsaFamily News editorandpublisherTomNealhas ¯ volunteeredonaUnitedWayfundsdistributioncommittee ¯ on services for semor citizens tn the Tulsa area. ¯ Unfortunately, hefound thatTulsaArea UnitedWay staff went out of their way to censor and suppress questions ¯ about how well member agencies were serving Lesbian ¯ and Gay seniors, even when the agencies were willing to ¯ answer the questions and despite TAUW claims that ¯ their evaluationprocess is "volunteer driven." Neal also ¯ has asked to serve on the funds distribution committee ¯ which looks at the funding for the Boy Scouts Indian ¯ Nations Council but, for some reason, keeps getting ¯ reassigned to senior services - imagine that. First and foremost, let me put your mind at rest about ¯ two of our regular columnists, our fabulous Do-It- " Yourself-Dyke, Mary Schepers and Tulsa City-County ¯ Library book reviewer, Barry Hensley. Both columns ¯ will resume next month. ¯ An,other upcoming event is the annual World AIDS ¯ Day Memorial Service. This year’s event will be at ¯ Mount Zion Baptist Church under the auspices of the ¯ Rev. Calvin McCutchen, Sr., one of Tulsa’s most ¯ distinguished religious leaders. The date, as always will ¯ be Dec. 1st which is a Wednesday but the details of the ~ march and precise time of the service will be announced. ¯ It is expected that Council Oak Mens Chorale who had ¯ their first ever performance at a World AIDS Day ¯ Memorial Service will again lend their talents. The event . is being co-ordinated by Diane Zike, former executive ¯ directorof Interfaith AIDS Ministries andBeverlyDenton ¯ Galbreith. For more information, call 438-2437. - TN An nouncements Policy Tulsa Family News will provide space for holy union ¯ ceremony, mamage ceremony, birth, adoption and death " announcements on a space available basis. Photos are ~ wdcome, though we cannot promise placement or return ¯ them, so please send copies to TFN, POB 4140, Tulsa ¯ 74159. ¯ Letters Policy ¯ Tulsa Family News¯ welcomes letters on issues which ¯ we’ve covered or on issues you think need to be considered. You may request that your name be withheld but ¯ letters must be signed &h.ave phone numbers, or be hand ~- delivered. 200 word letters are preferred. Letters to other ~ publications will be printed as is appropriate. Drug-resistant Strains of AIDS Virus Rising CHICAGO (AP) - Highly drug-resistant strains of the AIDS virus are on the rise, showingupin as many as 4.5% ofnewlyinfectedpatients in twonew studies. "Resistance is slowly increasing," said Dr. Roger J. Pomerantz, an expert not involved with either study, "If you were looking at this five years ago, you would see zero." The studies - published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) - involve mostly Gay white men. Resistance, however, may be more prevalent in other groups, such as drug users and their sex partners, researchers-said. About 40,000 new HIV infections occur yearly in the United States. In recent years, powerful drug cocktails have subdued the virus to undetectable levels in many patients. But studies have found the virus persists or comes roaring back in 10% to 50%. The complicated drug regimen has proved difficult to adhere to, and many patients who missed doses or quit taking theirmedicines developed drug-resistantinfections that are now being passed’along to others. "I wasn’t that surprised. This is what happens in infectious disease," said Pomerantz, director of the Center for Human Virology at Jefferson Medical College in Philadelphia. HIV is still so new that scientists disagree even about how to define resistance. And since both studies used laboratory tests, no one really knows how the definitions will translate into patient care. Giving high doses of a drug may be enough to overwhelm a virus’ resistance, Pomerantz said. In one study, researchers at the University ofCalifornia at San Diego defined resistance as a 10-fold increase in HIV’s ability to withstand a drug when compared with a laboratory strain. That study, led by Dr. Susan J. Little. tested 141 patients - in San Diego, Los Angeles, Dallas, Denver and Boston- and found that three (2%) had HIV with at least 10-fold greater resistance to one or more drugs. An additional 36 patients (26%) had HIV that was 2.5 to 10 times more resistant. In the other study, researchers at Rockefeller University in New York defined resistance as a threefold increase in HIV’s ability to withstand a drug. That study, led by Dr. Daniel Boden of the Aaron Diamond AIDS Research Center, tested 80 subjects in New York and Los Angeles. Of 67 in whom resistance could be tested, three (4.5%) had HIV that was highly resistant- fivefold resistant- to multiple drugs. The subjects were among 18 (26.8%) with HIV that was at least threefold resistant to at least one drug. Testing every newly infected patientfor drugresistance would be impractical because the tests cost several thousand dollars and are difficult to interpret, Pomerantz said. But if a patient takes a drug cocktail faithfully and it isn’t working, testing should be considered to see how the combination of medicines might be reformulated, he said. Don’t Go to Sleep Yet For a while, it seemed that there mightbe a light at the end of the tuunel of the HIV/AIDS pandemic. And for many ¯ things are better than they used to be: to become HIV ¯ positive is not immediatdy to know that your death was likely six months away like it was in the 80s. But the news report above from The Associated Press ¯ should slam home the message that we cannot be ¯ complacent; we must continue to educate ourselves and ¯ our children about protecting themselves against HIV ¯ infection, through all appropriate means: safer sex with ¯ its reduced risk, no sex, i.e. abstinence where appropriate ¯ and through the strengthening of longterm relationships ¯ through their legal recognition not only for heterosexuals ¯ but for Gay men and Lesbians. ¯ The best way to deal with AIDS is to prevent further ¯ infections but also to insist on adequate funding for ¯ proper care for those who are already infected and more ¯ funding for more successful treatments for AIDS. ¯ Please, please be safe, hdp those still in need and ¯ remember those whom we have lost. -Tom Neal Accused Killer of Gay Soldier To Stand Trial FORT CAMPBELL, Ky. (AP) - An Army private charged with premeditated murder in the. beating death ofafellow FortCampbell soldierwill stand trial at a general court-martial, the Army said Sept. 24th. Thecharge against Pvt. CalvinN. Gloverwas referred to court-martial by Maj. Gen. Robert T. Clark, Fort Campbell’ s commanding gelleral. Clark reviewed an iiiv~tigative hearing he~’d in August for Glovet and rexx:ived recommendations from the investigating officer, brigade commander and staffjudge advocate. The hearing was similar to a civilian grand jury investigation. Glover, of Sulphur, Okla.,is charged in the death of Pfc. Ban-y L. ,Winchell, of Kansas City, Me. No date has been set for G10ver’s courtmartial, which will be open to the public. The courtmartial is scheduled to be at Fort Campbell. According to Army investigators, the 21-year-old Winchellwas beaten with abaseball batinhis barracks on July 5 and died the following day at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville, Tenn. Gay civil-rights advocates say anti-Gay sentiment m,ay have been behind, or at least contributed to, me ldlling. Winehell was perceived as Gay by some soldiers in his mlit and friends contend he was beginning to explore his homosexuality when he Another investigative hearing was held several weeks ago for Spec. Justin R. Fisher, who is accused of being an accomplice in Winchell’s death. Fisher, of Lincoln, Neb., is accused of .encouraging Glover in the attack and lying to Army ii~qestigators about his iiavolvement. No decision has been made yet on whether Fisher’s case should proceed to a courtmartial, an Army official added. Both Glover and Fisher are being held at Fort Knox. Gay Priest Resigns NEWARK,N.J. (Ap)-AGaypriestwhoseordination divided the Episcopal church has left theparish where he ministered for six years, blaming the controversy that surroundedhim. Rev. Barry Stopfel said the furor strained his relationship withhis partner, andpreached his last sermon at St. George’ s Church in Maplewood at the end of September. "My ministry has not been a typical one," Stopfel toldThe Star-Ledger ofNewark, N.J. in a story published recently. "It has been deeply gratifying but very stressful, and ithas taken its toll on me and our marriage." When Stopfel was ordained as a deacon in 1990, conservative Episcopal bishops filed heresy charges against Newark Bishop Walter Righter. Righter’s trial was averted, but a church court in 1996 ruled that church doctrine does not explicitly bar the ordination of practicing homosexuals. The division, however, remained between the church’s conservative and liberal factions. Stopfel, 51, andhis partner aremoving to a 25-acre farm in an Amish area of Pennsylvania, where he said he will write a book. Methodist Minister Faces 2nd Church Trial OMAHA, Neb. (AP) -The Rev. Jimmy Creech, who faces another church trial for performing a Gay union ceremony, said the churchlaw against suchceremonies amounts to institutional bigotry againstGayChristians. Reached at his Raleigh, N.C., home, Creech said he was disappointed but not surprised with.a church committee’s deci~i0n ordering him to stand trial. Nebraska United Methodist Church Bishop Joel Martinezannouncedthfit theformerNebraskaminister will stand trial for Officiating a Chapel Hill, N.C. ceremony fortwo meninApril.AMarch 1998 church trial cleared Creech of violating church law for a similar 1997 ceremony involving two women. At least two complaints were filed as aresult of the April ceremony. Atissuein Creech’s 1998 trial was whether thechurch’s ban on same-sex unionswas a pastoral guideline or church law. The church has since established the ban is church law. Creech said the trial will be "a detriment to the church." "It’s a waste of time and money. The trial is an actofviolence againstLesbians, Gays andbisexual people," Creech said. While Creech said he admits he violated the churchlaw byperforming the Chapel Hill ceremony, the immorality of this law makes him innocent of violating the order.and discipline of his denomination, ofwhichheis accused. "I think thelaw itself is a violation of the highest ethical standards of the United Methodist Church," Creech said. Creech said thechurch’ s positiononGayunions is comparable to racism. "How can such an encumbered church witness to the grace bf God?" he asked. Martinez’s assistant, Rev. Mel Luetchens, said Martinez will .appoint another bishop as presiding authority for the case. A jury of 13 ministers will [ecide Creech"s fate. Ministers will lead the defense and theprosecution.Thetrial likely will beinNebraska in the next couple of months,-Luetchens said. If convicted Creech faces a wide range of possible )unishments, including dismissal from the United Methodist clergy. Creech is on voluntary leave of absence after. Martinezdeclined toreappointhim pastorofOmah.a’s First United Methodist Church after the earher controversy. He remains part of the Nebraska conference and is answerable to Martinez. Vermont JudgeJudged By His Wife’s Vote MONTPELIER, Vt. (AP) - A group opposed to same-sex marriage; "Take it to the People," says a VermontSupremeCourtjusticemightnotbeimpartial as he reviews a pending case. "Take it to the People" says the wife ofJusticeJohn Dooley voted in June as a member of the Governor’s Commission on Women to give an award to the three same-sex couples who are challengxn.g Vermont marriage law. Sandra Dooley’s vote raises questions about whether the justice is impartial in the case now before the Vermont Supreme Court, said Ruth Charlesworth of Burlington, a member of the antimarriage group. "I think it is outrageous that the wife of the Supreme Courtjusdce should come out (with a public stand) when this issue isn’t yet decided," Charlesworth said. ’‘This isn’t fair to the citizens of Vermont." Thecourtis considering alawsuit seeking to overtmal the state’s refusal to issue marriage licenses to samesex couples. Despite its concerns, ’’Take it to the People" hasn’tformally requested thatJustice Dooley disqualify himself from the case. Judith Sutphen, executive director ofthe Governor’ s Commission on Women, said Sandra Dooley has been on the commission for 15 years. Theorganization has supported allowing same-sex couples to marry since. 1996 - before the lawsuit brought by two Gay men and four Lesbian women was appealed_ to the Supreme Court, Sutphen said. Commissioners have the right to take independent votes on issues, Sutphen said. "A wife has a right to vote as she chooses, as does a husband," she said. "The votes of one spouse don’t necessarily reflect the . judgment or opinion of the other spouse." "Take it to the People" argues that rules of judicial ¯ conduct sayjudges should disqualify themselves when their spouses have interests that could be substantially : affected by the proceeding. The lawyers at the office ." of the attorney general who are defending the state’s mamage lawweren’t available to comment. -" Beth Robinson, an attorney representing the three : couples in the Supreme Court appeal, said she felt confident the deliberations would be fair. "We have : no reason to question Jusdce Dooley’s ability to ~ impartially judge this case on its legal merits," : Robinson said. "Justice Dooley and his wife are two ¯ different people with two different jobs to do." ¯ Judge Dismisses Same- Sex Marriage Lawsuit ¯ ANCHORAGE (AP) - A judge has dismissed a lawsuit filedby twoAnchoragemenwho claimed that : the state’s marriage laws discriminated against them. ¯ Judge Peter Michalski took the action late in ¯ September, nearly a year after Alaska voters ¯ overwhelmingly passed a constitutional amendment ¯ limiting marriage to a union of one man and one Kelly Kirby, CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation 747-5466 402i S.Ha~vard, sifite 2.10~-T~llsa 74135 MCC-United forme.rly Family of Faith & Greater Tulsa MCC .Joined as one body of believers. Come celebrate with us. Sunday Services, 11 am 1623 North Maplewood, 838-1715 HOUSE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT Sun. Worship, 10:45 am, Sunday School, 9:30 am Wed. Bible Study, 7 pm 3210b S. Norwood, Info: 224-4754, Chris or Sharon Sandra Hill M.s. 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Cincinnati. 582-4128 The Episcopal Church Welcomes You Jay Brause and Gene Dugan had claimed in their lawsuit that it was discriminatory to not allow samesex couples the same health insurance and other benefits that married and unmarried heterosexual couples enjoy. It was their lawsuit that spurred the pbtition drive that put the same-sex marriage amendment before voters last November. Bob Wagstaff, the lawyer representing the two men, says the case will be appealed to the state Supreme Court. Wagstaff says his clients’ lawsuit is at its heart an equal-rights case, not a Gay marriage Town Considering Partners Registry ASHLAND, Ore: (AP) - Same-sex couples can’t get married in Oregon, but in this town, they may soon be able to get registered. The City Council is likely to consider settingupsucharegistry for domesticpartners at its upcoming meeting Oct. 5. City Attorney Patti Nolte said he is unaware of a similar registry in Oregon. The registry would allow domestic partners - two unmarried people age 18 or older who live togetherto document that relationship. Gay couples cannot marry under Oregon law, which recognizes marriage as the union of a manand a woman. "I believe it is appropriate that AglJland, as a caring community, should lead the way," said Neil Sechan, speaking for the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Political Caucus of Southern Oregon. The local chapter of Parents, Family and Friends of Lesbians and Gays are also backing the proposed registry. Mayor Cathy Shaw said she believes a registry would have limited effect on unmarried couples, whether heterosexual or same-sex. "I would be incredibly proud to be mayor of a community that provides this service," she said recendy. "I am a great believer in the institution of marriage... I understand why this community is asking us to do this -.how importantit.is to be able to celebrate in an official way your commitment to another person.’" Rosemary Dunn Dalton, also speaking for the caucus, said a registry would let unmarried couples establishrelationships for purposes ofvisitation rights in hospitals and other institutions. She said a registry would provide proof of partnership for businesses offering benefits to domestic partners. The Oregon Court ofAppeals decided last year that if local governments offer benefits to domestic partners, they cannot deny benefits to same-sex couples because of the constitutional guarantee of equal protection. The court did not nile on Oregon’s legal definition of marriage. Ashland is among the local governments that have extended benefits to same-sex couples to comply with the ruling. A proposed ballot measure, to write the definition of marriage into the state constitution and bar benefits to unmarried couples, died in the 1999 Legislature. Albuquerque To Vote On Discrimination Ban ALBUQUERQUE (AP) - Lillian Mueller says she Gays in Albuquerque have lost their jobs and been denied housing because of their sexual orientation. Mueller, the mother of a Gay son and president of the local chapter of Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, has formed a new group called TheCampaignforHumanRights. The group’s purpose is to mobilize support for a proposed amendment to the Albuquerque city charter that would add sexual orientation and mental disability to the antidiscrimination section. The issue will be on the Oct. 5 municipal election ballot. The charter now bans discrimination based on race, religion, sex and national origin. "It’s not a question of special rights," she said. "It’s a question of equal rights.’" Butthe Christian Coalition ofNew Mexico strongly opposes the charter amendment because it believes "the Gay lifestyle" is wrong. Mark Burton, Christian Coalition executive director, said his group will alert people in voters guides that go to about 300 churches. "It’s not a behavior that we want to have a nondiscrimination policy for," he said. "It’s a health haTard. It spreads AIDS, sexually transmitted diseases, so there’s no reason to endorse a behavior that’s dangerous and hazardous." Albuquerque added a human rights section to its charter in the early 1970s. The state Legislature in March rejected a bill that would have outlawed discrimination based on sexual orientation. It was the "third time such a measure was killedin the House. The bill would have expanded the state’s Human Rights Act to cover sexual orientation, malting it il!egal’to discriminate on that basis in matters of empld’yment, housing, credit, public-accommodations and’union membership. Eleven states and more than 170 local governments include sexual orientation in their nondiscrimination statutes, supporters Of the bill say. The cify of Albuquerque bars Such discrimination against its employees and when providing public services. Alleged Killers of Gay Men Must Stand Trial REDDING, Calif. (AP) - Two brothers accused of murdering a Gay couplemust stand trial and may face the deathpenalty ifconvicted, ShastaCounty Superior Court Judge James Ruggiero has ruled. Benjamin M. Williams, 31, and James T. Williams, 29, will each be tried on two counts of murder and related charges. The brothers are accused of killing Gary Matson, 50, and Winfield Scott Mowder, 40, in July. They are also suspects in June arson fires that caused more than $1 million in damage to three Sacramento-area synagogues. Matson and Mowder were found shot to death in their bed July 1 in rural Happy Valley, about 165 miles north of Sacramento. The Williams brothers, being held without bail, have pleaded innocent to first-degreemurder and four robbery, burglary and auto theft charges. The judge ruled that prosecutors can seek the death penalty, a decision that hasn’t been made. Prep School Attacker Free Until Trial GREENFIELD, Mass. (AP) - A Tennessee youth accused of using a knife to cut anti-Gay slur into the back of a fellow prep school student can continue college classes while awaiting trial, a judge said. Matthew Rogers, 20, of Franklin, Tenn., pleaded to charges of assault with a dangerous weapon. Franklin Superior Court Judge Lawrence Wemick continued bail at $10,000 cash or $50,000 bond on condition Rogers live with his parents or at the University of Mississippi where he is taking classes. Before his arrest, Rogers had held an appointment to the U.S. Naval Academy. Rogers and another student at the Northfield Mount Hermon School, Jonathan Shapiro, 18, of Keene, N.H., were initially charged in Greenfield District Court following the May 27 incident. The two are accused of slashing the word "HOMO" in shallow cuts on the back of a 17-year-old student during a dispute over music. Authorities said no one actually believed the victim was Gay. The argument arose over the rock band Queen and the characterization of its music as "Gay." Promoters of Community Center To Respond ELK CITY, Idaho (AP) - Promoters of a community education and performing~center expect to respond to charges by critics of the ~roposed c~nter who fear it could be used by homosexuals and become a place where teen-age girls get abortions. Plans to build the center have created division in the town of about 400 in remote Idaho County. Objections to the center range from locating it on school property to the fear homosexuals will use it to stage performances and teen-age girls getting abortions there. Critics have said since the center would be on public land there could not be restrictions placed on who uses it. New AIDS Drug SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - A medicine developed in North Carolina that blocks the AIDS virus from getting inside cells is showing promise among patients whofail to respond to standard AIDS drugs. The medicine, code-named T-20, is still in early-stage testing, but researchers said it could offer a reprieve for those who have run out of options. "It looks quite good," said Dr. Michael Saag of the University of Alabama. "We are looking at something with a.totally different method of. action. It is an important, potent new option." T~20 was discovered at Duke University. It is being developed by Hoffmatm-La Roche Inc. and Trimeris Inc., a small biotech company in Durham, N.C. Thedrug is the furthest along of a new class of AIDS medicines called fusion inhibitors. They work by thwarting the virus’s ability to fuse with blood cells and insert their genetic material into them. However, the treatment has one large drawback compared with other AIDS drugs: Instead of being a pill, it must be injected twice daily. Nev~rtbeless, Saag said patients in advanced stages of AIDS are willing to give themselves shots, and they seem to tolerate the drug well. The results were reported by Dr. Jay Lalezari of Quest Clinical Research in SanFrancisco atameeting ofthe.,Aga,erican Society for Microbiology. Other AIDS drugs work principally by thwarting the virus’s ability to stitch its genetic material into cells it has invaded orbyblocking its ability to dispersemature copies of itself. Doctors gave T-20 to 55 people who had high levels of the AIDS virus despite trying many different combinations of AIDS medicines. While these standard drugs have proved to be life savers for many with AIDS, they do not work for all patients. Doctors administered T-20 in combinationwith other drugs, eventhough the patients’ HIV was resistant to the older medicines. After four months of treatment, virus levels fell significantly in 33 of the volunteers. In 20 of them, the virus fell to levels too low to bemeasured. Saag cautioned that the treatment is unlikely to work forever. But he said doctors hope it will dday rebound of the virus for perhaps-a year. T-20 is part of the protein thatmakes up the AIDS virus’ outer coat. Ordinarily it comes into play with another peptide- T- 21 - as the AIDS vinm grabs onto blood cells andprepares to enter them. Scientists found that flooding the body with extra copies of T-20 gums up this attachment process, Another AIDS study released at the meeting found that treatment very early in the course of an AIDS infection does not wipe out the virus entirely, as some had hoped. Dr. Martin Markowitz of the Aaron Diamond AIDS Research Center in New York City reported on four patients who started treatment within seyen to 90 days of catching HIV. All signs of their virus disappeared, andthey chose to stop therapy after three years: Thevirus reappeared within two to three weeks, One patient went back on treatment, but the three others stayed off. After shooting up, their virus levds fell again to low butdetectable levds. Researchers said the results raise the possibility that in such situations, the ¯ body’s immune system may be able to ¯ k~p I-HV in check without completely eliminating it. Are You Gay or Bisexual? : Satcher Looks at Are You Native American? :¯ Kids’ Health , . , Tulsa s Two-Sp,r,ted ,nd,an Mens : ROBINSVILLE, Miss. (AP) - U.S. ¯ SurgeonGeneralDavidSatcherhasissued Support Group is here for you! ¯ a warning about the health of America’s ¯ children. Satcher, speaking to a health ¯ Evening support group meetings : association recently in Tunica County, ¯ said children are growing fatter, lazier, ¯ Relationship workshops ¯ more sexually active and increasingly ¯ Short trips, outings and retreats ¯ addicted to toxic substances. ¯ Free HIV testing ¯ Satcher, former president of Meharry ¯ Medical College in Nashville, .Tenn., -spoke tO 400 public health care workers ¯ and advocates at the annual meeting of the ¯ Mississippi Public Health Association. ¯ Regarding the disparity in health care, ¯ Satcher said that in the last 10 years minorities, women and children have : fallen behind in many areas. ¯ Satcher said progress has been made in ¯ dealing with infectious diseases and there ¯ has been a decrease in the number of ¯ cancer cases, injury-related deaths and ¯ adult smokers. However, the munber of : teen-age smokers has risen_rapidly, Satcher ¯ said. Obesity has become a virtual epidemic ¯ among both adults and children, Satcher said. The current generation of children ¯ and teen-agers is the most inactive the ¯ country has ever had. One of the results of that inactivity has ¯ been an increase in Type 2 diabetes in ¯ children. In the past, physicians were told never to look for Type 2 in individuals ¯ - under40 years old, Satcher said. Now, the disease is occurring in children under the age of 10. Emphasis must be placed on physical activity and on diet, Satcher said. The American diet consists mainiy offats and sugars, he said. In one year, the average American will consume 156 pounds of added sugar. Weneedto promotehealthy lifestyles, Satcher said. "We need to promote physical activities. We need to promote nutrition and avoidance of toxins like tobacco, alcohol and illicit drugs. We need to promote responsible sexual behavior." 40% of college students and 30% of high school students are binge dri.nking, Satcher said. That has contributed to an increase m automobile accidents and irresponsible ~exual behavior. "Weneed to talkmorewith ourchildren aboutwhatit means tobesexually active," Satcher said. "When we don’ t teach sex in ¯ the schools, at home and in the churches, ¯ but they do teach it out on the streets or ¯ after school when there are no adults ¯ around, our children aren’t going to ¯ become responsible, sexual adults." ¯ His warning was directed not just to teen-agers, but to all people. Every day, 16,000 peoplebecomeinfected with HIV, ¯ the virus that causes AIDS. In the years : since the disease’s discovery, HIV has ¯ infected 50 million people and resultedin 14 million AIDS-related deaths. ¯ "In my opinion AIDS is the worst : epidemic since the plague of the 14th : century or maybe the influenza epidemic ," of 1918," Satcher said. "AIDS is : increasingly a disease o,,f people of color, ¯ women and the young. : African Americans account for almost : 50% of new cases; Hispanics, 20%; and ¯ women, 25%. Not enough is being done ¯ to prevent the disease, Satcher said, even though people know how to stop the ¯ spread. For information call Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project at 582-7225 Ext. 208 or 218 Dial-Up Accounts Dedicated ISDN Connections Vi rtual Hosting Visit our web page "www.igisweb.net" (918) 622-4965 Internet Marketing E-Commerce Web Page Design On-Site Setup Available ~ Medical Excellence And Compass.ionate Care S nce 1926. ¯ ¯ ST. JOHN MEDICAL CENTER q P Medical Excellence-Compassionate Care Stay Healthy Naturally Wellness Rejuvenat "on Longevity Dr. Terrance L. 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"We’re at the beginning of an epidemic, not the end of an epidemic, with no vaccine, no cure," she told reporters before the walk began. "It’s not going to be over next week. It’s not going to be over in 10 years. It’s probably not going to be over in my lifetime.’" A sign of hope is the success of anti- AIDS drugs that are keeping thousands of people infected with the HIV virus free from symptoms. ButinmanyThirdWorld natxon~, including much of AIDSdecimated Africa, the medicines remain unaffordable and the publichealth system inadequate, she said. This is the second year of a coordinated AIDS WalkMichigan. Lastyear, 10 walks statewide raised $2~0,000, This year, walks also tookplace Sunday inAnnArbor, BerrienCounty, Flint,Grand Rapids, Holland-Saugatuck, Kalamazoo, Lansing, Muskegon, Port Huron, Saginaw-Midland-Bay City and Traverse City. But organizers sdid/he ~)etro’it event was particularly important because of the high rate of AIDS in the city. With about 10% of the state’s population, Detroit has nearly half of the reported AIDS cases, they said. "It’s the No. 1 killer of young African- American males and the No. 2 killer of young black females," said Detroit Episcopal Bishop R. Stewart Wood Jr. as he set out on the walk. Wood’s diocese, which has 35,000 members from Lansing to the Ohio line, has not been immune from the effects of AIDS. "Every one of our congregations has been touched by AIDS - members or loved-ones who have the disease. We’ve lost two of our clergy to AIDS," he said. Teresa and Bill Snell came in from Wayne County’s Redford Township to walk in this year’s walk, taking turns pushing 15-month-olddaughter Courtney in a three-wheeled jogger’s stroller. They raised a total of $49, most in pledges of $2 to $3, for their part in the walk. The 20 walkers from Mrs. Shell’s agency, the Detroit Hispanic Development Corp., raised $1,500 for. the fight, against AIDS. "It affects so many people and families around you," she said. "I don’t know anyone who has died,.of AIDS, but I do know that it is something that affects all kinds of people," her husband said. "It’s something that’s got to be stopped." Award Given to African Groups NEW YORK (AP) - The world’s largest humanitarian prize - $1 million - was awarded to an organization whose accomplishments include bringing health care to the Maasai and Turkana, two of Africa’s nomadic tribes. The Conrad N. Hilton Humanitarian Prize, awarded to the African Medical and Research Foundation, will give the organization funds it needs for additional work in AIDS and malaria prevention. It will also helppay to trainmore health care workers. ’q’his million will go along way and it will allow us tokeepmanyprojects afloat," saidJohn R. Batten, director ofthe Nairobi, Kenya-based AMREF, who accepted the prize at a ceremony in New York on Tuesday. Startedin 1957as aprogram thathelped needy Africans get specialized medical care- particularly reconstructive surgery - AMREF now provides health care services to 21 African countries. Programs are run from offices in Kenya, Tanzania, Uganda and South Africa. This year’s budget was $19 million. Over the years, AMREF built a twoway radio network that boosted hospital communications in East Africa, spearheaded the use ofinsecticide-treated mosquito nets to reduce childhoodmalaria deaths and performed more than 40,000 operations. It also has trained thousands of health care workers and specialists and brought services to the most remote corners of Africa, including to tribes that roam the continent. What sets AMREF apart from most international non-governmental organizations is that more than 95% of its employees are Africans. ’q’he approach we use in tackling all of theseproblems is community-based," said Peter Muchiri Ngatia, director for AMREF’s Uganda office. "Some prdl~lems "in A~r~ca, such as AIDS and HIV, areaggravatedby cultural practices." Much of the prize, which will be spent over three years, will be directed at two of Africa’s biggest killers - AIDS and malaria. "AMREF’s success in building an African-led and African-run health care system that is accessible to all provides a strong model for aid agencies around the world," said Barron Hilton, chairman of Hilton Hotels Corp. and a board member of the Conrad N. Hilton Foundation. AMREF was selected out of 225 nominations made by members of the international community, including diplomats, foundation leaders and academics. Once nominations are made, the Hilton foundation researches the organization and performs On-site visits. After that, selections go to an independent international jury. Last year, Medecins Sans Frontieres, or Doctors Without Borders - the largest independent international medical aid organization - won the prize. ¯ Feds Pushingf0r : Name"Reporting ¯ FRANKFORT, Ky~ (AP):-, The General ¯ Assembly could be asked to require : doctors treating people infected with the : virus that causes AIDS to report them by ¯ name. It is the only way to ensure that : federal money for AIDS treatment and " program keeps flowing, a task force’s ~ reasoning goes. : "The practicality is this," Dr. Anna ¯ Huang, see Health, p. 11 byJames Christjohn, entertainmentQueen By the time you read this, the film will be gone (thanks toWoodlandHills Cinema for bringing it to us!), but as it will be a great stocking stuffer - no catty remarks, please - I will review it for your reading pleasure anyway. And since I’ve never worried about timeliness before, why start now? "Get Real" was a wonderful film about a 16 year old Gay boy in England, and the process of "coming out" - he runs into an older boy at his school, and they find themselves in "love", or what seems to be love. Only one problem: The older boy is ashamed of his Gayness, and wants everything kept "hushhush." Needless to say, many poignant moments ensue, all of which rang true for me and the other person viewing the film with me. Much was true to life, although much of it was kind of "what if I had come out at 16 instead of 21" speculation for me. I was a late bloomer, what can I say? Speaks a lot for "the environment. At any rate, I found the film absorbing and realistic, in many aspects. As my friendpointed out, "Yes, but there were so many’cinematicmoments.’ "Myresponse was, "yes -and ? - life is made of ’cinematic moments.’ Sometimes we’re lucky enough to havelots of them." I pointed out several ’cinematic moments’ that we shared that he’d forgotten, and he conceded the point. He also took umbrage with the ending, whichwas realistic. (Warning: Don’tread beyond this point to the next paragraph if you haven’t seen it and don’t want it spoiled) He wanted a more romantic ending ¯ (ironic, given his criticism only moments before of the "cinematic moments"). The ¯¯ boys split, our hero deciding against a futurebased on deceptionand hiding with : one so.uncomfortable with himself. ¯ To me, that was a happy ending - he : was strong enough to standup for whathe believed, both in a public And of course, no column written by yours truly would be complete without a mention of "You Know Who." And if you don’t know, then you’ve not been reading this seetion regularly, now have you? and personal sense, and wasn’t willing to "settle" for less. Yes, the sappy ending myfriendproposedwould have been ok, and his rationalewas that so many mowes with Gay characters end up with depressing endings that he’d have liked to have seen an alternate ending where both come out and live happily ever after. Yeah, maybe it. would have been nice, but I applaud the author and producer’s strength to stick with this ending. And to me, it was a happy ending of sorts. All ¯ depends on perspective, I suppose. At any ¯ rate, The activg was top-notch, the ¯ characters were real, and it is definitely a ¯ film destined to be at the top of my DVD ¯ wish list." : "Beauty and the Beast" ended its run on ¯ aninterestingnot.e.Abeautifulproduction, ¯ albeit with sometechnieal difficulties (the. : first week’s shows were in reality : "previews", in which technical errors are : more or less expected and worked out) ¯ such as bad timing on the lighting, ¯ ° reveahngcharacter’ s "di° sappearances"to ¯ beactors running inand out oflights when ¯ it should bedark, beasts transforming into : princes and getting stuck in mid- ’ transformation by malfunctioning ¯ "magic" ("this spell canceled due to ¯ technical difficulties") and mysterious ¯ illnesses taking out cast members. ". see Beast, p. 14 by the Helmerich Foundation October 16, 22 & 24 Tulsa Perf:oming Arts Act Now! 587-4811 596-7111 for tickets. OKLAHOMA T 0 H R by John Curran ATLANTIC CITY - The flowers and dime-store crown were real. Nearly everything else was fake, from the eyelashes to thecleavage tothetip-synched songs. WelcometoAtlantic City’ s otherbeauty pageant, the one for men dressed in drag. Seven blocks and a world away from the stage where Miss America 2000 was crowned, the Miss’d America Pageant lampooned its famous older sister with a raucous, gender-bending spoof funny enough to bust a girdle. Held annually on the night after Miss America’s crowning, Miss’d America provides a sarcastic antidote to the applepie sincerity of the real pageant. The swimsuit competition? A display of chunky thighs and muscular arms. The musical production numbers? Over-thetop atrocious. The evening wear contest? Outright hysterical. The only serious thing Sunday was the cause: Theeventraisedmorethan $15,000 for support programs run by the South Jersey AIDS Alliance. "It’s the wildest show this side of the Boardwalk," said Bill Mattel, the alliance’s former chief executive. Wild, indeed. There was Miss Sallotta ¯ Tea, who squeezed 240 pounds into a : sequined black cocktail dress and opera- " length black gloves. Down the runway ¯ wentMissTea, pushing acartloadedwith ¯ goodies and warbling a versionofthe title : song from the musical "Cabaret." "Life is ¯ abigb,uf,fet, myfriend. Socometothebig buffet, sang Miss Tea. ¯ Then there was Miss Tenee, a 6-foot-3 : inch, 205-pounder, who began a talent ¯ segment in a purple Afro wig and brown ¯ velour dress. That soon disappeared, : revealing a silk chemise. Miss Tenee won : the crown, was given a dozen roses and ¯ headeddown the bulb-adornedrunway as ¯ the crowd sang a reworked version of ". "There She Is," the Miss Americastandard. ¯ The capacity 600-person crowd was a ¯ mix of Gay and straight, casino workers and local politicians, Miss America ¯ Pageant hairstylists and female ¯ impersonators. , Not that there wasn t some authenticity ¯ to the proceedings. Miss America 1998 : Kate Shindle, who spent her reign ¯ promoting AIDS advocacy and needle : exchanges, sang "My Man" during the : show. "As far as I’m concerned, what’s : any pageant without a former Miss ¯ Whatever singing StreisandT’ she said. M E TI"VAL OCTOBER 7, 8, 99 9 9 9 Professional Business "You don’t have to know ballet to love ballet. You just have to try it." AR11Sl1[: :Mixed Repertory includes two Oklahoma premieres Exposition ~SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 Community of Hope (Welcoming), Service - 6pm, 2545 S. Yale, 585-1800 Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation Service - 1 lain, 2545 S. Yale, 749-0595 (Welcoming) Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist Service - 1 lain, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314 Metropolitan Community Church United Service, l lain, 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715 House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 10:45am, 3210b So. Norwood Parish Church of St. Jerome (Evangelical Anglican Church in America) Mass - 1 lain, 205 W. King (east of N. Denver), Info: 582-3088 Unity Church of Christianity Services: 9:15 & 11:00 am, 3355 S. Jamestown, 749-8833 University of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance 6:30 pm, Meets at the Canterbury Ctr., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 ~ MONDAYS Mixed Volleyball, Helmerich Park, 71st & Riverside, 6pm, call Shawn at 243-5190. HIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required. Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm, 834-TEST (8378) 3501 E. Admiral (east of Harvard) HIV Rap Sessions at Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center 7:30pro, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays 2rid Mon/each mo. 6:30pro, Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard Women/Children & AIDS Committee, call for meeting date, noon, 585-5551 Council Oak Men’s Chorale, rehearsals - call for times, info: 748-3888. I~"TUESDAYS AIDS Coalition of Tulsa, call for next meeting date. 1430 S. Boulder, 585-5551 Live And Let Live, Commuuity of Hope United Methodist, 7:30pm, 2545 S. Yale Multicultural AIDS Coalition, call for next meeting date. Urban League, 240 East Apache, 584-0001 PrimeTimers, mens group, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th Coming Out Support Group (TOHR/HOPE) Tuesdays, 6 pro, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, info: 743-4297 I~ WEDNESDAYS Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Service - 7pm,’3210b So. Norwood Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group, more information, call 582-7225 TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632. Lambda A-A, 7 pm, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft. ~THURSDAYS HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 E. Admiral Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN) Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325 Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS, Info: 834-4194 I~" FRIDAYS SafeHaven, Young Adults Social Group, I st Fri/eachmo. 8pro, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th ~" SATURDAYS Narcotics Anonymous, 11 pm, Commmlity of Hope, 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 Lambda A-A, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd t, ~i~ _ I~’ OTHER GROUPS ...... T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info:298-0827 Gal-A-Vanting, Women~ Social & Cultural Group Call for info: Kathy at 322-6322, or Barb at 459-6825. OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Long rides & short ddes from Zeigler Park. Long & short rides from Tulsa Gay Commtmity Center. Write for info: PUB 9165. Tulsa, OK 74157 Ifyour organization is not listed, please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615. by George Bria POUND RIDGE, N.Y. (AP) - Gardening ~njoys suchaserenereputation thatgetting njure~ at it seems almost laughable: Yet anoverzealous greenthumbcanalsomean a sore elbow. Thecasualtyhsts are. swelled, ofcourse, by the power eqmpment ix~juries oaten stiffered through ¯ in’attention or failure to wear ,:protective gear~ But.whatwe’re talking about here is soreness, strains and sprains. A common ailment is tendonitis. You can get tennis elbow just pulling weeds, the repetitive squeezing motion inciting inflzmmation. Back muscle spasm is another trauma that threatens the wheelbarrow lifter or the person who bends abruptly or improperly to perform some taskinflowerbed or vegetable patch. Sometimes it just happens without an easily pinpointed cause. Having suffered both these : abdominal muscles," Pearlman says. "In ¯ essence, thesemuscles act as"guy wires," ¯ to keep your baekmhne. She prescn a series of abdominal strengthening : exercises and also exercises to condition ¯ other muscles related to the back. : If, in spite of all this, back spasm suddenly strikes, Pearlman says stop your garden work immediately, head for the house and lie down on an ice pack for 20 minutes. That’s just a beginner. Then do some exercises and maybe take a pain reliever. Repeat the sequence four or five tames during the first day. In two or three days you should be better, she says, and if not, think of going to a doctor. Pearlman prescribes a variety of push-ups and weight-lifting exercises to -strengthen arms. One. way to strengthen hands, she says, is repetitive squeezing of a semisoft rubber ball.. Aside from strengthening exercises, "Lets get down to earth and be real;’ Pearlman says, "gardening is an active, contact "sport." "When is the last time you sat still in your garden?" - Barbara Pearlman ailments from my gardening, I can testify : they’re just as painful as if you got them " on the tennis court, as I did, or from some ° other sport or at work. To add to potential miseries, a bad elbow you got in tennis might heal only to flare up again in the garden. Tendonitis can hit the shoulder, too,andoften does. There are conditioning exercises youcan do, andprobably should do, to prevent injuries, but in my experience inflanu~tory ailments like tendonitis sometimes seem to happen willy-nilly. One day you’re fine after w.eedigg an,d. anotherday you develop pain tlaat doesn t go away. The same thing happens to a pitcher or a hard-serving teums player despite conditioning. Proven therapies, involving drugs, exercises or even surgery, exist to heal such injuries but preventing them from happening in the first place is something else. Nevertheless, suggestions exist, and a good book has just come out aimed at conditioning youto minimize the chances of getting hurt while gardening. "Gardener"s Fitness" by Barbara Pearlman (Taylor Publishing Co., $12.95, paperback), a Manhattan fitness expert and a gardener, prescribes exercises, proper posture and attire and relaxation teclmiques. The 151-page book contains easy-to-follow instructions and helpful illustrations. "Lets get down to earth and be real," Pearlman says, "gardening is an active, contact "sport." "When is the last time you sat still in your garden?" she asks, "If you’re not hauling heavy rocks, you’re pushing a wheelbarrow, toting tools, dragging the hose, or whacking weeds. You’re in perpetual motion, unless of course your idea of gardening is planting :apot of~etunias orp~msies onyourpaso?’ Pearlman identifies tlie body parts mat workhardestinthe garden as arms,: ,,l~ees, hands "and, abov,~ all, your back,. Back pain,"shesays,~s the gardener sbugaboo. Unless your back is made of steel (in which case, youprobably can’.t g.etinto ,al,1 the contorted positions gardemng cans for) at some point during the season, your back is bound to protest." ’The very best defense against back painis agoodoffense, whichmeans strong knee fitness involves proper squatting in the garden, Pearlman says. This means keeping your heels flat, otherwise far : much pressure is placed on your knees." : "Knowing how to bend over andhow to ¯¯ lift an object (or yourself) the correctway is crucial to gardening," Pearlman says. : ’The chance of straining your back is far : greater if youneglect tobendyourknees." ¯ When carrying things, she says, "you ¯ should use the strongest and largestjoints and muscles (those in your arms) for the ." job to avoid direct pressure on your ¯ smallestjointsandweakestmuscles (those : in your hands and fingers.)" ¯ "There is a right way and a wrong way ¯ to move when you garden and malting th,e, ¯ right moves makes good garden sense,’ ". Pearlman says. 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A survey of 1,200 boys, ranging from 10- to 17-yearsold, revealed their favorite entertainment often depicts brutality as a heroic way to solve~problems, said Harvard psychologistWilliam Pollack, who helped analyze the study for ChildrenNow. "It’s gender straight-jacketing," Pollack said. ’q~hese boys believe that in order to be a real man- like the ones in the media - they have to be violent and aggressive."About74%ofthe characters and sports figures viewed by the participants committed brutal or defiant acts or demonstrated antisocial behavior such as ridiculing or lying, Pollack said. The study was released at the start ofthe group’ s anntml conferencein Los Angeles. Children Now, an independent advocacy group for children in Oakland, plans to use the findings to call on entertainment executives to promote a more compassionate image of men, said Lois Salisbury, president of the organization. According to Ms. Salisbury, the kickboxing crimefighter on "Walker, Texas Ranger" on CBS and the sensationalized crashes and arrests on Fox’s "World’s Wildest Police Videos" were among the worst for reinforcing negative stereotypes ofauthoritativemen. "Theyjust glorify heavy-handed tactics," she said. She also speculated that professional wrestling’s blend of scantily dad women a University ofLouisville assistantmedical professor, said: without federal money, only people with insurance will have access to the relatively few doctors with experience in AIDS treatment. "I think we’re at a point the legislation needs tobe considered,"Huangsaidduring a public hearing by the legislature’s Task "It’s gender straightjacketing," Pollack said. "These boys believe that in order to be a real man - llke the ones in the media - they have to be violent and aggressive." - William Pollack : and muscle-bound fighters could cause ¯ relationship problems for adolescent boys "_ who might imitate the behaviors they see ¯ acted out by the wrestlers when trying to : woo women. ’The image is that men are meant to be defined by anger and violence and power and sex," Ms. Salisbury said. ’There is very little roomfor a range of behaviors such as compassion and compromise." She points to ABC’s ’¢Fhe Drew Carey Show" as an example ofaprogram that has very little violence and draws itshumorfrom the crew-cutted comedian’s portrayal of schlepping throughamundane job. "He’s stuck in ajob that’s going nowhere and the whole basis (of the show) is that he is ¯ . . a loser," Ms. Salisbury said. "That tells boys that the only place to be is at the top. Otherwise, you’re to be laughed at." Michael J. Gerson, a psychologist and lecturer at Loyola Marymount University, criticized Children Now for ¯¯ drawing what he characterized as an elementary conclusion about the effects ¯ of media violence on young people. ¯ "Researchers canunderestimate the ability of children to make distinctions between ¯ fantasy andreality,"Gerson said.’~A child ¯ may s~oot his fingers like a gun, but he doesn t have to develop a killer mentality ¯ or wish to be destructive." i-iowever, ¯ Gerson saidChildren Now was correct in ¯ proposing that the blending of sex and ¯ violence can confuse adolescents who ¯ should instead associate gentleness with ¯ intimacy. "I do object to movies where the ¯ girl and the guy get into the back seat of ¯ the car and a Miler pops out and cuts them ¯ in half with a chain saw," Gerson said. ¯ "That can cause problems." Force on HIV/AIDS Prevention, Services " and Financing. " Thirty-three states require people ! infected with HIV, the human ¯ immundeficiency virus, to be reported by " name. The federal government is : pressuring all other states, including ¯ Kentucky, to follow suit. Those that balk ¯ could lose federal funding for AIDS, the " task force says in a report. ." The recommendation brought a fierce ¯ response aboutprivacy-evenamong task " force members - at the public hearing. "I " call it blackmail," said Barry .Norris, a ," task force member from Louisville. But, ¯ Norris asked, what choice does Kentucky " have. Do we just not take themoney9... ° ¯ Do we make a principled stand?" Jeff ." Vessels, executive director of the ¯ American Civil Liberties Union in " Kentucky, said states should challenge the federal agencies. "It’s a terrible thing that we have to sacrifice so much privacy in the name of money," Vessels said. An AIDS patient said the stigma of the disease would drive many people underground. "For the fear of reporting their names, they simply will not go get tested," Michael Seidler of Louisville testified. Thestate keepsrecords ofAIDS patients by name, but not of people infected with ttIV..For that reason, the state’ s reports of HIV infection are considered suspect by federal record keepers at the Centers for Disease Control. Mollie’Adkins, of the Kentucky Department for Public Health, said name reporting is the most reliable way yet found to ensure cases are not duplicated and statistics are not inflated. Names would he maintained, in a state database, not passed along to the CDC. The task force also says the legislature should restrict access to the information and enact stiff penalties for breaches. Seidler, the AIDS patient, said that was wishful thinking. Computer hackers got into Florida’s HIV-test database, he said. "Ifyoucan guarantee somethinglike that’ s not going to happen..." Seidler said, "by all means go outand get tested yourselves." by Esther Rothblum, Ph.D. Do Lesbians drink more alcohol than heterosexual women? In the not-toodistant past, the Lesbian bar was one of the only places " ~ome d the where Lesbians could go to early studies meet other women. On the otherhand,many Lesbianbars su~,rested that h~iVe Closed down, indicating Pdr.einrhkainpgs lt~hsast aLndeshbaivaensot-haerer- upd-toLoensblei~atnhlsrdplaces to socialize, To find out more about Lesbians and alcohol-use, I interviewedDr. TondaHughe~ in the Department of Nursing at the University of Illinois at Chicago. ,Some of the early studies suggested that up .to one third of Lesbians were serious alcohol abusers," she said, "but often these researchers collected their data from Lesbians in bars. So itis not surprising that this method found a large number of Lesbians who were heavy drinkers. I think that that is why we have the bdief that Lesbians are atriskfor alcohol abuse." Nevertheless, Dr. Hughes believes that Lesbians drank more than heterosexual women in the 1960s and 70s. "Lower rates of drinking among Lesbians now is partly due to changes in drinking in the whole population, to more health consciousness, and to the AIDS crisis, which has alertedus to the risks ofalcohol and drug use," she said. She also felt that Lesbians used to drink more during the coming out process, in order to deal with social anxiety and stigma involved in meeting other women and coming to terms with being a Lesbian. In a study conducted in Chicago, New York City, and Minneapolis/St. Paul in the mid-1980s with more than Lesbians, Lesbians overall were no more likely to reportalcohol-relatedproblems than we.re ° heterosexual women. Only Lesbians in the 50-60 year old age range reported ¯ more alcohol problems than did their " heterosexualcounterparts. Dr. Hughes has ¯ conductedaseries of studies withLesbians " and heterosextml women that focus on ° various mental health factors, including ¯ alcohol use and abuse. Her results indicate that Lesbians these " days are no more likely to drink heavily " than are heterosexual women. In fact,-- Lesbians were more likely to report ¯ abstaining from alcohol altogether for the " past year than were heterosexual women.." Most of the Lesbian and-heterosexual ¯ womeninher sample drank alcohol at low " levels. White Lesbians, however, drank " morethandid AfricanAmericanor Latina ¯ Lesbians. "Interestingly, there are more Lesbians ." who report that they are in recovery, " though" she added. Only 2% of." heterosexual womenhadbeenin treatment for alcohol or in 12-step programs, compared with 17% of Lesbians--a large " difference. This may be the result of prior ¯ heavy drinking among Lesbians. Or it " may be thht Lesbians are more aware of " were serious alcohol abusers~~ she said, ’but often these researchers co||ected tbelr data [rom Lesblans ;n bars. So it’s not surprlslng that this method [ound o[ Lesbians who were heavy drinkers. I think that that is why we bare the belld that Lesbians are at r~sk [or alcohol abuse.’" ~ substanceuse issues than areheterosexual ¯ women. Oneofthe questionsinthesurvey is "Have you ever wondered if you had a drinking problem," and 47% of Lesbians answered "yes" to this item compared with only 14% of the heterosexual women. This finding again hints at heavy alcohol use in thepastonthepartofLesbians. Finally, there was a trend for older Lesbians to report more drinking, and these are the Lesbians who were adults during earlier times when drinking was more part of the Lesbian commurtities. Dr. Hughes is interested in exploring patterns of drinking across various age groups of Lesbians. Specifically, she is interested in whether older Lesbian~ who were adults during earlier times when drinking was more part of the Lesbian cotumunities are continuing to drink heavily. She is also interested in the question of how Lesbians and their partners moderate each others drinking, because research on heterosexuals shows that partners’ drinking is a major factor in how much people drink. We still know very little about all Ihe factors that increase or decrease Lesbians’ risk for alcohol abuse or alcohol-related problems. Esther Rothblum is Professor of Psychology at the University of Vermont and Editor of the Journal of Lesbian Studies. She can be reached at Dewey Hall, Univ. of Vermont, Burlington, VT, ¯ emaih esther.rothblum@uvm.edu. of The Tulsa Worldnews story about the New Jersey ruling. Ms. Kue.lmertpromised to check into the issue and to telephone back the next day. TAUWenjoys significant supportfrom some of Tulsa’s most well known corporations. Debbie Graham ofQuikTrip Corporation said that her organization had supported UnitedWayformany years because it helps a vast variety of agencies but-that QuikTrip doesn’t get involved in "the politics of individual agencies." And while Ms. Graham could not confirm that Quik Trip has a nondiscrimination policy which explicitly includes "sexual orientation," she noted that it is their practice not to discriminate. Quik Trip had provided promotion of the United Way campaign in the form of a printed solicitation for support on Quik Trip paper bags. Emily Gill of Dollar Car Rental did confirm that her company and its parent group, Dollar/Thrifty Automotive Group (DTAG) which Mr. Cappy chairs, does have an explicitnon-discrimination policy butMs. Gill wasunable to address whether any one atDTAG saw any conflictbetween their internal non-discrimination policy and see TA UW, p. 13 Red Rock Tulsa Free Confidential HIV Testing Walk-in Clinics Tuesday Testing, 5 -8 pm Pride Center, 1307 East 38th Wednesday Tdsting, 5-8 pm Red Rock, 1724 East 8th Daytime appointments available. Call for more information: 918-584-2325 Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist 11 am, Sunday 1314 North Greenwood 587-1314 We knowyou’re going to love this..r Restaurant & Cabaret ltxst~~ tla~ ~’f~rO~ ¯. 310 East First Streel 918-599-9949 Massage Therapy Services Edgar O. Cruz, L.M.T. Pager: 918-889-5255 Voice Mail: 918-697-9282 Lic. #C4133 Want to get involved? Need to get tested for HIV? Need a Coming Out Support Group? Call 743-GAYS (4297) Tulsa Gay Community Services Center 1307 E. 38th at Peoria, 2nd floor Country Club Barbering Custom Styling ¯ for Men & Women David Kauskey 3310 E. 51st, 747-0236 Tues.-Fri., 8-5:30, Sat. 8-5pm ¯ IGTA member Call 341. 6866 International Tours/ormoreinformation. Red Rock Tulsa O’RYAN Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network Outreach Program Thurs. Nights Meet Others in a Safe Enviroment Call for meeting times and place: 918-584-2325 ERESH ITALIAN RAINBOW CUSINE TROUT ofEureka Springs Voted Number One in Arkansas! (501) 253-680Z Closed Wednesday 5 Cen~er Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 TOM NEAL BUILDING & GARDEN DESIGN 583- 1248 Compatibility reports . for you and your friends or lovers. 599-0717 Gay Owned, Operated & Rainbow Proud Gay Mecca of the Ozarks Beautiful Eureka Springs, Arkansas by Lamont Lindstrom, Phdg. Last snmmer I wentto afriend’ s fiftieth birthday p~arty.,] I think actually it was at least his tbir or even fourth fiftieth birthday. He is de_t,_e~_.ined.n_o,t to get any older. Freezingone s agent50ts somewhat more mature than those of us who fixate on 30, or even 25. Another birthday boy I know is at 28 and holding. Andmy friend Steve- who is 33 and gorgeous - always shaves five or six years off his age on those tempting messages he leaves on telephone dating, lines. Welcome to America. Growing up around here is good. But growing old can be a problem. We all know about the bittersweetness of birthdays. Next time you are in a card store, have a look at those nasty if cruelly funny. cards that we are encourag to giveanyoneunlueky enough to have turned 40. Women complain that the onusof age falls most heavily on them. Men, as they wrinkle, gray; and sag, at least might bope.~o grow to be distinguished. Women, on the other hand, age into grannies and crones. My sly friends who have recycled or lost a few of their blrdadays, however, don~t seem to be waiting eagerly for distinguished, silver-haired maturity. They, too~ would rather stay young and juicy. Theexplosion of men’s hair dye, plastic surgery, and youthful herbal supplement commercials flashing daily on my television screen suggest an increasingly desperate age-panic among all of us, no matter our gender. When I was 24, I lived on Tanna, an isolated South Pacific island. Everyone there is related to everyone. Newcomers - quickly receive "fictive kin" identities in order better to fit into village life. Soon after I arrived, all the kids began calling me kaha - "grandpa." I was taken aback by this. Why, back then, I had hardly any gray hair after all! OnTanna, though, as in most places on earth, ageis pr_estigio.us.. Those kids were doing me abig favor wttla that grandpa thing. Myislandfriend Nariu, who was hardly older than me, within a few years had started referring to himself (and me) as "’we old men." Nariu was ambitious and since old men ran his society, he was determined to become a senior citizen as soon as he could. American fears of aging clearly have much to do with how years connect up with power and prestige. I sometimes ask my university students when they think adulthood begins. When do you truly become an adult? They tend to place this somewherein the20s-afew years bey.ond their own age. Most Americans associate adulthood with economic independence: having one’s own job, paying 0n.e’s.o.wn bills. We see some 35-year-old still hvlng with mother as sadly still a little juvenile. I also askmy youthful students for their, defimtmns of nnddle-aged and old. Answers here are more variable. (Some startmiddleage-at30.) Generally, though, true oldness connects with retirement. Once we leave the workplace for good, we lose salary, power, prestige, and any final fleeting claims to youth. People throughoutmost of the world can’t wait to get old. The older they are, the more ¯ authority and influence they have within their fzmilies and societies. Here, if you : want to be president at age 69, like Ronald ¯ Reagan you’d better pour on that black ¯ hair dye. . Gay menmay bemore panickedby age : than most Americans. We have all heard : bitter complaints about our agi_sm ~ a~,d lookism- and such gripes are often samy : justifiedbypersonal experience. (Lesbian ¯¯ society is,l~___ha,p_s kinder to it_s wrin.kl,ed sisters ) It s fun to read the age limitalmns in classified personal ads. "Gay men may Most of the lovelorn are ISO sweet-youngthings. Notmany be more want to date those of well-. panicked by age than most Americans. We have all heard bitter complaints a~out our agism -- and lookism - and such gripes are often sadly justified by personal experience." aged .and mature vintage. Many ads have upper age cutoffs - commonly 30 or 35 or, morerarely, 40. Some seekers are willing to date over a decade’s span-five years younger to five years older than themselves. Many 40- somethings speei-ficaldl’y request none but the 20- something... Good luck... More gray hair on the way for you, I think. Or there is the daddy niche: Sugardaddies,leatherdaddies, bears and cubs. A few yonngish personal advertisers won’ t touch anyone underneath 45 or 50. They want~eir daddy. At.leastthere remarns, here m .agist American, one specialized market opporUmity for mental, ,facial,,and financial maturity. So you can atways ouy a youth if you can’t have youth yourself Then there are the age-blind. They "go bv~t_he s,n_i_r_i t. "Thev_o_romisetodateanyone 18 to 88, or so they say. I logged onto a 61- vear-old’s personal page on the Internet. "Ageis only a state of mind,"it said. Yeah right. Are you from Tanna or America? Check out your mirror. But I’m taking notes. Those birthdays keep rolling. And next year the cake might set off the smoke Lamont Lindstrom. Ph.D. teaches anthropology at ~he University of Tulsa? the discriminatory policies of the BSA and United Way’s failure to pledge not to discriminate. Ms. Gill promised aresponse after consulting with others in her organizationbutfailed to respondby press time. Likewise, Jean Johnson, Bank of America’s southwestern press spokesperson, pointed out that the bank, with its origins in San Francisco, has some of themostprogressive policies, not only pledging not to discriminate but also ¯ prowiding domestic partner benefits to ¯ their employees. She added that Bank of ] America is one of United Way’s largest ~ supporters on a national level. Roger ¯ Whaley ofBank of America serves on the ~ board of directors of TAUW. : The Tulsa Area United Way campaign ¯ enjoys further promotional sup.port fr,.om Tulsa area television stations. Accoromg ’. to the staffperson at KOTV, Channel 6, : the stations which represent the major ~ networks and Fox all agree to do public ¯ service announcements. " Pat Baldwin of KTUL, Cbannel 8 who ¯ is a member see TAUW, p. 14 The regular Belle’s father was hospitalized during the run, and at the last matinee, folks in the audience neverknew of the backstage drama going on. The Beast became ill at the end of the first act (where he flings himself across a balcony In despair of ever being loved, and the curtain falls). When the backstage crew revolved the set to help him down, they found the actor playing the Beast hanging over the balcony - passed out cold. They revived him, and he decided to go on with the show: However, you could never tell from the audience that anything was wrong. After the performance, he was whisked to the hospital as soon as the curtain fell. It appears he may have been suffering from a bleeding ulcer. The understudy went on that evening, and I hear he did well, despite misgivings on the part of some of the crew and other castmembers-not tomentionhehimself! I was sorry to see the troupe leave - they were such nice folk. October events at the Performing Arts Center (596-7111 for tix) include Tulsa Ballet’ s "AnnaKarenina", Oct 1-3; Sabella Oct 2; The Celtic Series with Natalie McMaster, Oct 8-9; Tulsa Opera’s "Carmen, Oct 16-24; ATC’s Titanic mystery, "Scotland Road", Ok 22-30; and The Phil’s pops concert, "Sound and Sorcery" Oct 29-30. I look forward to the arrival of Petula Clark as Norma Desmond in "Sunset Boulevard." However, I still think Carol Bumett should tour with the show; that would bea .fresh interpretation in many respects. The reviews I’ve read and heard from friends thus far have reassured me we are in for an excellent show. The magicin themaking will arriveNovember 23 -28. And of course, no column written by yours truly would be complete without a mention of"YouKnow Who."Andifyou don’tknow, then you’ve not been reading this section regularly, now have you? Shame on you! The ever-ethereal Stevie Nicks made a stumling appearance on the top-rated Sheryl Crow and Friends concert on the ,Fox network, and it was interesting to note that she garneredthemostenthusiastic audience response of the eminently talented bunch. "Gold Dust Woman" never sounded better, and according to the rumor mill, her new CD’s in the can, awaiting release. Sheryl Crow produced theCDin between tours. Also, Lesbian Icon, Melissa Etheridge, if you follow the Tulsa World columns, is rumored to be scheduling a Tulsa appearance. We’ll be awaiting word on that situation. And "heart-and-other-body-partsthrob" Ricky Martin will be in Dallas November 4th. Ay cammba! of the board of directors of Tulsa Area UnitedWay, failed to respond to the voice mail asking him to call. In contrast, Bud Brown, new general manager ofKOTV, Channel 6, noted he’d only been in Tulsa for 3 weeks, and had not seen the Tulsa World article in which the Boy Scouts reaffirmed their anti-Gay stance but he noted that his corporation, The Belo Corporation which owns the Dallas Morning News, WFAA in Dallas and a number of other television_ stations, : is "very clear...very firm" on their ¯ corporatenon-discriminationpolicy which ¯ includes "sexual orientation." : Greg Gatewood, president of Tulsa ¯ Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR), ¯ was one .Gay person willing to have his : name used though he emphasized that he ¯ was speaking as an individual not for ¯ TOHR. Gatewood saidhefeltUnitedWay : did a lot of good, funding for example, ¯ TulsaC.A.R.E.S.andotherorganizations, ¯ and that he’d given to United Way in the : past. However, he added that he did not ¯¯ agreewith theBoy Scouts’ policy and that he’d like to see United Way open a : discussionwith theGay community about ¯ the Boy Scouts, trying to f’md common ¯ ground. He added thathe’dlike to include ¯ the Boy Scouts in that dialogue also. ¯ He suggested that instead of asking ¯ Tulsa Area United Way to stop funding ¯ the Boy Scouts that TAUW should be : asked to fund an organization which : provides services to Tulsa’s Lesbian and : .Gay communities. Gatewood emphati- ¯ tally agreed thatTAUW shouldamendits : ownnon-discrimination policy to include ¯ "sexual orientation." : A prominent member of Tulsa’s Gay ¯ community, Vernon Jones, partner of the ¯ late Phil Wiley and civil rights and HIV/ ¯ AIDS issues activist, recalled that Tulsa ¯ Area United Way also has a history of : racial discrimination. He remembers ¯ newspaper articles from his youth ¯ reporting on how TAUW refused to fund ¯ agencies which served Tulsa’s Black ¯ commtmity. Jones,likeothers appreciated ¯ TAUW’s support for HIV/AIDS services ¯ " but thought United Way should not fund. the BSA. Beth Kuehnert, Tulsa Area United Way’s marketing representative, did not call back as she promised. When asked about this by telephone, she accused Tulsa Family News of calling and harassing United Way supporters, naming one in particular. Ms. Kuehnert was informed that a news story required speaking with more than just her and that all contacts with United Way supporters had been through their designated press representatives and clearly identified as news inquiries and had been quite cordial. And despite earlier promises to try to answer questions about United Way’s decision to fund .the Boy Scouts, Ms. Kuehnert now stated that "I’m not going to ask this question in the middle of the campaign.., the decision [to fund the Boy Scouts] was made in the spring [last spring]." When TulsaFamilyNews contacted the UnitedWay corporate supporter who had allegedly been the subject of TFN harassment,TFN was told that they’d said nothing of the sort but only that they’d called Tulsa Area United Way president ¯ and chief professional officer, Kathleen ¯ Coon, to say that the issue of funding the : Boy Scouts had been raised. ¯ This corporate spokesperson ¯ characterized the conversation with TFN ¯ as very civil and cordial. At press dine, Tulsa Family News had ¯ made either three or four phone calls over : at least a four year period to Tulsa Area ~ United Way president Kathleen Coan ¯ requesting the courtesy of a return phone ¯ call. ¯ To date, Ms. Coon, despite an apparent ¯ ready accessibility to The Tulsa World ¯ and other non-minority news orgam- ." zations, has refused to return any calls. ¯ For a related editorial, please see ; United Our Way, p. 3. 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(and former lead singer of "lnae Nylons), whose sound is an eclectic hybrid of electronicpop witharock ’n’ roll swagger, and the fabulous "Doris Daze", an allwomen’s pop/rock band that is currently making a big splash in Dallas. (Check out these websites, www.mp3.com/dorisdaze and www.loudboybarnes.com, to get a taste of their music.) And it’s not over yet! Don’t dare miss the dance and drag show on Sunday afternoon at Center Stage. Besides the always exciting, always surprising performances of Domonique Daniels, .Carla Renee, Miss Helga, Tara T’Neil, and Tabitha Taylor of Tulsa, Okla., and our ever-popular DJ, Jon Caswell, "Barnes" will make a guest appearance! So call your friends, select your wardrobe, and make your lodging reservations now!! You won’t want to miss this weekend!!! Call The Emerald Rainbow at (501) 253-5445 or visit www.shimaka.com!eureka/diversity to get a full schedule of activities. DIVERSITY CELEBRATION SCHEDULE OF ACTIVITIES " bRIDAY, NOVEMBER 5 2:30 pm - 5:00 pin"Family" musicians perform at Mud St. Espresso Cafe on Main St. 6:00 pm - 7:30 pm More entertainment at the Kaffeehaus Aroma in Basin Park Hotel. 8:00 pm - 12:30 am M.CC. of the Living Spring hosts Carnival Under the Rainbow - Dance and Game Night. Game booths- will raise funds for local projects and organizations while Jon Caswell spins an eclectic mix of dance music. A great way to kick off the weekend! Basin Park Hotel Ballroom. Cover: $4.50 per person, $7.50 per couple. Must be 21. SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 6 10:00 am - Noon Catch the end of the fall colors canoeing down the beautiful White River. Call the Dam Store at (501) 253-6154 for details. $22!canoe. 10:30 am - Noon Enjoy a "colorful" historic walking tour wi~ Bill. Meet at Sweet Springs on upper Spring St. next to Rogue’s Manor. No charge. 1:00 pm - 3:00 pm Bring the kids to a "family" family picnic at Harmon Park. Food and games. Call Samuel Strickland for details (501) 253-7837. Children of all ages welcome. No charge. Be sure to check out the unique shops andrestaurants listed in the Eureka Springs Diversity Cooperative. Let them know you’re here for Diversity Weekend! 1:00 pm - 4:00 pro, Did you bring your singing voice? Give Karaoke a whirl with Lita at the Hole in. the Wall off Center St. No cover. 2:00 pm - 5:00 pm, Give your feet a break, and listen to some great musicians at Mud St. Espresso Cafe and Kaffeehaus Aroma. Tips appreciated. 9:00 pro- 1:00 am Party, party, party!! Dance, dance, dance!! Come on out to Center Stage, and dance like you mean it to Jon’ s high energy club tunes;ORShake your booties at the Basin Park Hotel Ballroom to the live performances of dynamic GLAMA-winning L.A. Singer/ songwriter Barnes, and the fantastic pop/ rock Dallas-based women’s band Doris Daze. (Both will have their CDs available for sale.) Must be 21! Cover charges: Center Stage only - $5 per person. Basin Park only - $10 per person. Both venues - $13 per person. What a nightt ! SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 7 2:00 pm - 6:00pmYou can’t leave yet!! Meet us again at Center Stage for our tea dance and drag show. Those girls from Tulsa, those talented, and always fantabulous entertainers, Domonique Daniels, Carla Renee, Miss Helga, Tara T’Neil and Tabitha Taylor will knock your socks off with their dazzling performances, while Jon graces us with his DJ magic once again. AND, to add to the excitement, Barnes will be there to sharehis terrificvoice andpowerful music in a Special guest set. Must be 21! Cover: $5 per person. 7:00 Inn M.C.C. of the Living Spring Service at 17 Elk St. Call (501) 253-9337 for information. All are welcome! OTHER HAPPENINGS * Friday night from 10 p.m. ’til close, Clary and K.J. will havelive entertainment and dancing at Center Stage. * If you’re feeling adventurous (and a little brave), you may want to check out the Ghost Tours at the Crescent Hotel. They start at 7 p.m. and 9 p.m. on Friday, Saturday and Sunday, and last for approximately anhour andfifteenminutes. Discounted price of $8 per person to anyone wearing a purple"Eureka Springs Celebrating Diversity" button (available for half a buck at The Emerald Rainbow). Call (501) 253-8030 or 2428 for details. * In keeping with both themes this weekend, Judy at Pond Mountain Lodge, is hosting a "family" wine tasting, with hors d’oeuvres, from 5 to 7 p.m. on Saturday. Admission is a favorite boftle of wine from your state or $10 per person. Pond Mountain is on Hwy 23S about two miles from its intersection in town with Hwy 62. Call (800) 583-8043 for reservations. * After the dances on Friday and Saturday nights, Basin Block Cafe (across from Basin Park Hotel) will be open for breakfast from midnight ’til 3 a.m. * This weekend is also Eureka Springs’ Food and Wine Festival, and many of the town’s fine restaurants are offering special menus, from light fare to exquisite multicourse dinners. If you’re interested, call theChamberofCommerceformoredetails at (501) 253-8737. Be sure to stop byThe EmeraldRainbow to pick up your Diversity Cooperative booklet and discount coupons from some of the Coop’s businesses! And please join us at our next Eureka Springs Diversity Celebration Weekend on April 7, 8 &9, 2000 ! ! ! Keep an eye on www.shimaka.com/eureka~diversity for details. The Eureka Springs Diversity Celebrationweekendis producedby Linda Williams and M.C. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document THE NAMES PROJECT Quilt Tours Black Colleges Coretta Scott King Slams Homophobia ATLANTA (AP) - During the AIDS Quilt tour of historically Black colleges and universities, Coretta Scott King told those viewing the memorial that homophobiahas prolonged and worsened the epidemic within the Black community. "It is particularly sad tome when I hear Black people, includiug some in leadership positions, making homophobic comments and attacking t.he humm] rights of Gay and Lesbian people," the widow of die Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. said Monday during the tour’s opening ceremonies at Clark Atlanta University, Regardless of sexual orientation or gender, Blacks have a signiticantly higher risk of becoming infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Stati-stics show ntost new HIV infections occur among people 25 and younger. The Black community has been hit particularly hard. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Blacks account for about half the new HIV infections, AIDS cases and AIDS deaths, though they represent only 13% of the U.S. population, "With the stigma on homosexual behavior mthe African-American coxmnunit~¢, ¯ see Ki.,t~, ~9.: 15 Matthew Shepard Murder Trial Update LARAMIE, Wyo. (AP) - Gay college student Matthew Shepardwas pumaneled to deathby Aaron McKirmey in a drunken, drug-induced rage after Shepard made a pass at him, McKirmey’s attorney Said as: his trial began. "’Did Matthew Shepard deserve to die? No, that’s ridiculous-. No manslaughter victim deserved to die," Jason Tangeman said in opening statements. "That’s what Aaron McKirmey is guilty of, manslaughter." The roofer’s judgment that night Vas affected bv alcohol, methamphetamines and "~ome sexuall} traumatic and confusing events in his life," Tangeman told jurors. Prosecutor Cal Rerncha said his case against McKinney will not deal with Shepard’s Gayness. "It will simply be about the pain, suffering and death of Matthew Shepard at the hands of the defendant, Aaron James:McKimaey," he said." The Human Rights Campaign, a national Gay civil rights organization strongly condenmed the use of the.’’blame the victim" defense in the trial. Shepard, McKinney and Henderson met in a Laramie bar about a year ago, where Shepard asked McKinney for a ride home, humiliating him in front of friends because McKinney believed Shepard was Gay, Tangeman contended. Tangeman said McKinney, 22, was confused by three homosexual encounters that occurred when he was 7, 15 and 20: In one case, McKinney was forced into an oral sex act with a neighborhood bully, Tangeman said. Rerucha said McKirmey and Henderson drove Shepard, 21, to a remote area, where they robbed, lashed him to.the fence and pistol-whippinghim into a coma. Opening statements were made after ajury of 10 men and:six women, including four alternates, was seated in McKinney’s trial on charges of first-degree murder, kidnapping androbbery. Thejury includes three students at the University of Wyoming, where Shepard was a freshman. McKinney could receive the.death penalty. Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations World AIDS Day Memorial Service at Historic Mt. Zion Baptist Church Dedicated to the Memory of HIV/AIDS Activist Phil Wiley TULSA - The 10th annual World AIDS Day Candlelight March and Memorial Service will be held at one of Tulsa’s most historical traditionally African-American churches, Mt. Zion Baptist Church, led b~ the Rev. Calvin McCutcheon. The march will begin gathering at 6:30 near St. Monica’s Churchjust south of Carver School east of Greenwood Avenue This is just south of Pine. The march will begin about 7pm and will continue about a mile south on Greenwood to John ttope Franklin Bottlevard which travels west through the Oklahoma State University at Tulsa campus to Elgin. Mt. Zion is on FJ~n just across the OSU-Tulsa parking lots near 1-244. The theme for the march and memorial is "Fa~d the Silence" and the service will feature the music of Ernestine Dillard, the Council Oak Mens Chorale and the Mr. Zion church choir. Tiffs Tulsa service is dedicated to the memory of 1o"cal ttIV AIDS and Gay civil rights activist Phil Wiley who died of kidney failure last summer. Orgamzers note that all tilnes are approximate aud that lhey will provide candles and matches but encourage marchers to bring banners and bells to nng on the march. For more information, call Interfaith ..\ IDS Mira stries at 438- 2437. Also on World AIDS Day, an organization called "\Vc The Peopl.e Li.ving .with AIDS/HIV’" will join with thousm~ds of other orgmuzatlons m remembering, fiercel3, those the~ lmvc !ost to the AIDS epidemic. They will do this through the posting of the manes of their members, friends and loved ones lost to ,A IDS on the. \ IDS \Vatch webpage, which will display the .,aan]es of tens of thousands of people who have died from :kIDS. one at a mnc in the 48 honrs before and after December ist. They request that readers consider adding the uames of those whom they have lost to AIDS to the list. The page is localed m http:/iwww.aidswatch.org. Click on "’Add a name "’ to include the name, of~v°ur loved one, friend or colleague to the li st. Community Center News All Community Meeting, Nov. 16, 6:30pm TOHR Meeting, 11/9: Carol Petersen, Author, Poet + Gay Man in Hitler’s Navy TULSA - The third all community meeting will be held at the Communiiy Center on Tues., Nov. 16th at 6:30pm. About 35 individuals attended the last meeting in Sept. and the representatives of a number of organizations, churches and businesses decided to convene a community council with TOHR, Tulsa Oldahomans for Human Rights, the parent organization of the Tulsa Gay Community Services Center, coordinating the exchange of information. Local attorney and original meeting co-convener Dennis Neill will present a draft contract to clarify the relationship between the various groups. For more information about the next conmaunitv meeting, call the Community Center at 743-4297. On Tues. Nov. 9th at 7:30pro, TOHR will hold its montlflv membership meeting. The meeting, which is open to the publiC, will feature remarks by Carol Petersen, a Romanian born poet, biographer and educator. Petersen, a Gay man.~ even found lfimself serving in the German Navy during the N~i government of Adolf Hitler. Petersen has-published works on Albert Camus, Andre Gide, John Steinbeck, Goethe, Spanish poet Lorca, Thomas Mann as wall as works of poetry. He has taught French and German literature and awarded one of the highest honors in France, the Chevalier de L’oi’dre des Palmiers Academique de France. Other News: House of the Holy Spirit Calls Pastor House of the Holy Spirit Ministries announces that they have selected a new full-time pastor, Chuck Breckenridge. Breckenridge served in a pastoral capacity in a Wichita congregation where he formerly resided. Breckenridge is also known for having published and edited The Parachute, a now defunct regional publication. He also started The Triangle Of which he has recently served as general manager. Breckenridge was installed as pastor on October 17th. Troy McGoveran, spokesman for House of the Holy Spirit notes, "the entire congregation is very excited about the movement going on in our church.., we.. welcome Pastor Breckemidge to our church.. ?’ Falwell MeetsWith Gays LYNCHBURG, Va. (AP)-The Rev. Jerry Falwell, who has denounced homosexuals for years, held an .unprecedentedmeeting with GayChristians recently m an attempt to reduce violent acts against Gays and Christians. Both sides said the gathering was productive. Dozens of anti-Gay protesters denmnstrated outside, yelling at Gay supporters as they entered the church parking lot. The Rex’. Fred Phelps of Topeka, Kan.. whose congregafiou also taunted Gays at the funeral of slain Gay college studcm Matthew Shepard. said Falwdl is a hypocrite for ineeting with the Rev. Mel White, a Gay minister and his followers. "Falwell used to teach the Bible word for word. now he’s going off and meeting with these fags and going against everything he’s ever taught," Phelp,~ said. "He always says ’hate the sin. bnt love the simmr,’ but it’s ~mpossible to separate the t~o Does ajudge send the crime or the crintinal tojail’?" Falwell. who has long believed lha~ homosexuality is a sin, insists he will not change Iris views, but has agreed to tone down tfis anti language that Gay civil rights activists encourages hatred and violence towar~t homosexuals. "’We are here because ihnocent people ol vari~ faiths, racial and ethnic groups and sexual preferences have increasingly had their live~ abruptly mid violently ended by people ~vilh opposing vie~\s.’" Fah~ell told th~ group of 4 delegates in ~velcomiug then] to the anti "~ml,,ncc fortun Saturday afternoou x~q]itc brought 200 Gays mid Lesbians l’rom 3~* slates to p~ticil)atc in the forum. They were ]t)]ncd by 2~)evm~gelic~d Chnsfians who supjmrt Fid~ cEstmacc "q hi s is the first step iu ourjoume3 tm~ auct~ reconciliation." s~d White, who held a pra3 e~ ~ ~gil Ffida3 mght for 20 Gay men or gm~sgcndcred people killed because of their sexu~ oneutation. see Fahvell, p. 10 France OK’s Gay and Non-Gay Partnerships The British Broadcasting System (BBC) reported in October that the French Parlimnent has approved a controversial bill that gives Gay couples mare of the rights enjoyed by married people. The NatiOnal Assmnbly passed the Civil Solidarity Pact (PACS) by 315 votes to 249. The PACS allows unmarried couples to register their umon and enjoy some of the tax, legal and social welfare benefits associated with marriage. It is intended to allow Gay and heterosexual couples who are not married to "’organise their common life". Partners who want to separate will be able to do so via a letter of separation. According to Justice Minister Elisabeth Guigou, the bill will improve the lives of more than five million people. Conservative opponents immediately said they would ask the Constitutional Council to role whether the law was unconstitutional. Religious leaders have strongly denounced the law, saying it enables a form of homosexual marriage. The PACS wasintroduced by the riding socialists and the government’s majority made approval virtually certain. It has been one of themostbitterlycontested pieces of social legislation for years, opposed by conservatives and by leaders of the Christian, Jewish and Muslim faiths in France. see France, p. 15 LI~ DIRECTORY P. 2 EDITORIAL P. 3 ~I~ US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 . HEALTH NEWS P. 6 ~ ENTERTAINMENT P. 8 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 READ ALL ABOUT IT P. 10 Z DO-IT-YOUR-SELF DYKE P. 11 DYKE PSYCHE P. 12 mmm GAY STUDIES P. 13 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston *Empire Bar, 1516 S: Peoria *Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House; 3509 S. Peoria *Jason’s Deli, 15th & Peoria *The Mix, 2630 E. 15th *Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 832-1269 592-2143 599-9512 583-6666 749-4511 59%7777 749-1563 744-4280 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Cellular 747-1508 *Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 5231 E. 41 665-4580 Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15 712-1122 *Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955 *Borders Books & Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272 *CD Warehouse, 3807c S. Peoria 746-0313 Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117 Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700 L:m Daniel. Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468 " ~_~eco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620 *Devena’s Gallery, 13 Brady 587-2611 Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S Peoria 744-5556 *Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503 *Ross Edward Salon 584-0337, 712,-9379 Events Unlimited, 507 S. Mai~’ 592-0460 *Floral Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595 Four Star Import Automotive, 9906 E. 55th P1. 610-0880 Cathy Furlong, Ph.D., 1980 Utica Sq. Med. Ctr. 628-3709 Gay & Lesbian Affordable Daycare 808-8026 *Gloria Jean’s Gourmet Coffee, 1758 E 21st 742-1460 Leanne M. Gross, Insurance & financial planning 459-9349 Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440 *Sandra J. Hill, MS. Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skellv 745-1111 *International Tours 341-6866 Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750 *Jared’s Antiques, 1602 E. 15th 582-3018 David Kanskey, Country Club Barbering 747-0236 The Keepers, Housekeeping & Gardening 582-8460 *Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070 Kelly Kirby, CPA, 4021 S. Harvard, #210 747-~-!-66 *Living ArtSpace, 19 E. Brad3,’ 585-1234 *Midtown Theater. 319 E. 3rd 584-3112 Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 663-5934 *Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Place 664-2951 Puppy Pause II, 1060 S. Mingo 838-7626 *Peace Of Mind Bookstore, 1401 E. 15 583-1090 The Pride Store. 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor 743-4297 Rainbowz on the River B+B, POB 696, 74101 747-5932 Richard’s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617 Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921, 747-4746 *Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301 Paul Tay, Car Salesman 260-7829 *Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis 48t-0558 *Venus Salon, 1247 S. Harvard 835-5563 Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733 *W~hittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767 Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & Universities AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 4337, 74101 579-9593 All Souls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria 743-2363 Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 587-7314 Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center, 2207 E. 6 583-7815 *B/L/G/T Alliance. Univ. of Tulsa United Min. Ctr. 583-9780 *Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston 585-1201 *Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th P1. & Florence *Church ofthe Restoration UU, 1314N.Greenwood 587-1314 *Community ofHope United Methodist, 2545 S. Yale 747-6300 *Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595 Coundl Oak Men’s Chorale 748-3888 *Dela}vare Playhouse, 1511 S. Delaware 7!2-t511 *Democratic Headquarters, 3930 E. 31 742-2457 Dignity!Integrity of Tulsa - Lesbian & Gay Catholics & Episcopalians, POB 701475, 74170-1475 355-3140 *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 *Free Spirit Women’s Center, call for location &info: 587-4669 918.583.1248, fax: 583.4615 POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 e-mail: TulsaNews@earthlink.net Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal Writers + contributors: James Christjohn, Barry Hensley, J.-P. Legrandbouche, Lamont Lindstrom, Bob Rounsavell, Esther Rothblum, Mary Schepers Member of The Associated Press Issued on Or before the 1st of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1998 by To],~ ~:~ Now4 and may not be reproduced either in whole orin partwithoutwritten permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate a person’s sexual orientataon. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomes the sole property of Tofl-~ .~€,~.’. N~- Eachreader is entitled to 4 copies of each edit!on at distribution points. Additional cop~es are available by calling 583-1248. 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Not all are Gay-owned but all are Gay-friendly. Audra Sommers: To All .My Friends Tiff s ruessage brings to youinformation about my up-coming benefit called ’~onnecting The Hearts of Tulsa" Friday November 5th, at 10:30 p.m. at the Silver Star. This eventfocuses onthe Prescription Assistance Program which as youknow is very, very important to many. As a community of caring individuals I ask all ofyou once again to come together as compassionate and sympathetic members of our community and show your support. Without fai! every year, you pull out all the stops and arrive in droves. My heart shines with delight to see all of your faces as we raise the much needed money to keep those who can’t afford the necessary medications alive and well. Come, meet new people and see some new faces. Uniting together_we make the difference. Please join all my guests: Miss Gay America - Catia Lee Love Miss Gay Oklahoma America - Bridgett Lee Miss Gay Oklahoma USofA - Kris Kohl Miss Fish-Lake Nevada - Slutisha Swamppussy Miss Midwestern Plains USofA - Victoria Turrell Miss Tulsa USofA 1998 - Jasmine Turrell Miss Gay University Of Tulsa Homecoming Queen 1999 - Audriana Sommers The Green Country Cloggers Miss Silver Star USofA 1996 - Tera "T" Neil Miss Gay Oklahoma At Large USofA 96 - Domonique Daniel’s Miss Feticia Winters Miss Ebony Hall Miss Tabatha Taylor Miss Gain A Pound Miss Miranda McMillian Miss Tore McMillian Miss Audra Sommers and her special "Grab Bag Segment" Mr. Steve Sludder And Mr. Brock Masters - video star along with many, maaay others. I look forward to seeing everyone at the StarFriday NovemberSthat 10:30p.m. It is going to be the best show ever! With love and respect, - Audra Marie Sommers Announcements Policy Tulsa Family News will provide space for holy union ceremony, marriage ceremony, birth, adoption and death announcements on a space available basis. Photos are welcome, though we cannot promise placement or return them, so please send copies to Tulsa Family News, POB 4140, Tulsa 74159. Letters Policy Tulsa Family Newswelcomes letters on issues which we’ve covered or on issues you think need to be considered. You may request that your name be withheld but letters must be signed & have phone numbers, or behand delivered. 200 word letters are preferred. Letters to other publications will be re-printed as is appropriate. Editorial: Singing Those Millennium March Blues To March or Not March? That is the question - ok, ok, yes that’s tired and perhaps, even trite but I couldn’t help it. The millennium does indeed approach and with it, the next great Gay march scheduled for next April. Called by Robin Tyler, Lesbian event organizer par excellence, taken up by the Gay community’s organizational 800 pound gorillas, the Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) and the Human Rights Campaign(HRC), the Millennium Marchhas beenfraught with controversy from its beginning. No one doubts that these events are tremendously ehapowering for those ofus who attend. I can attest to that from my experience.at the last march. My long-suffering ex (just ask him ;-) and I organized a group mostly of students and others on limited incomes from Texas to travel bybus to DC. Since this was a budget trip we stayed about 12 to a room, 3 or 4 to a bed with some on the floor of a hotel in the Virginia suburbs. But the moment ofmy epiphany was when weboarded the Metro (subway) at the 2nd to the last stop that far out into the suburbs, and everyone waiting, and everyone on the train but for perhaps one or two per car, w,as Gay, or Lesbian, or Bi, ornon-Gays whomwe’ddearly welcomed into our tribe. For once tobe safe, for once to be inOUR space is a rare and precious thing. There we could hold hands in the street without the fear that we Were taking our !ives literally in our hands. For once, we could say that we don’t mind "straights" as long as they "behave" themselves. Formany this was alife transforming experience¯ From it, they came back and became active in the organizations of their hometowns. This clearly is go6~l: And yet, some questions remain. First of these i.s whether, this march will even come off at all. Because MCC and HRC proclaimed that a march was going to happened before they consulted the many other organizations which make up the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgendered civil fights and cultural movement, the March was immediately caught up in controversy. This "movement" is-tremendously diverse and building consensus is long hard work. Prior march organizers did do so through long and sometimes painful (I write this Do you know where a number of Tulsans have been during the last 18 months? Buried in trash. We studied different curbside recycling programs from around the state and from across the country. About 100 cities were looked atby theTAREboard’ s subcommittee onrecycling. Ourmost important discovery: each community is unique in its requirements for recycling. In Tulsa, most of the trash we generate is incinerated at the trash-to-energy plant. The burning process results in waste by-products that can mad do pollute our air. For example, some substances like plastic can be harmful when burned. Recycling will take them out of the trash collection burned at the Walker Hall recovery plant. The more Tulsa recycles, the more we improve Tulsa’s air quality for our young, our elderly, and most significantly, our chronically ill. And let us not forget that we are breathing the same air. Recycling does not ouly helpinmaking the environment cleaner and healflfier; it also has economic benefits other than quality of life. Once Tulsa citizens recycle enough items that can be reused, a recycling industry will be created an become a viable part of the economy with added job opportunities, In the beginning, Tulsans, will be able to recycle four types of items. Newspapers, includin°g the slick advertisement sections, compose the first recycling category. Now you cannotrecyclemagazines and business forms; these are another category which may be added at a later date. However, you can still take them to MET recycling centers. The second category acceptable for recycling in Tulsa will be aluminum. Drop all aluminum beverage cans inj the recycling container; however, you cannot recycle other forms of aluminum. Please rinse them immediately after use. Remember that recycling pick up is every other : from serving as a representative) meetings. ¯ And according to the Nov. 9th i°ssue of The Advocate, ¯ control of the event has _been shifted from Robin Tyler to ~ Malcolm Lazin, interim executive director. Kerry Lobel, executive director of the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF), earlier resigned from an oversight board for the March because of concerns about event "...the moment of my epiphany was when we boarded the Metro (subway) at the gnd to the last stop that far out into the suburbs, and everyone waltln~, and everyone on the train but for perhaps one or two per ear, was Gay, or Lesl~ian, or Bi, or non-Gays whom we’d el rly we6om l into our tdl . " organization and raised the question of whether the event would need to be rescheduled or dropped. But another question to ask is this: is this the best use ofour communities’ resources? NGLTFhas been arguing that we, as a movement, should be putting more of our energies into local and state efforts at change. This doesn’tmean abandoning federal level efforts but working harder locally. In Oklahoma, we’ve started to see some results from just such efforts; the Cimarron Alliance has substantially changed somelegislative attitudes in theOklahomaHouse. FundingforHIV/AIDS care andprevenfionhas benefited from lobbying by Tulsan Steve Eberle. These things would not have happened unless some Oklahomans decided to invest in local efforts. According to Kelly Kirby, former Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR) president, longtime activist and current Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) board member, at least 40-50 Tulsans stopped by a reception Marty Newman gave at the last march. And likely there were some from the city who did not attend. So I have to ask, as another former TOHR president who begged for money for that organization and for the community center, what would happen if some of those week. Besides, you will make it so much easier for those separating our recyclables. Plastic is one of the most important things to recycle. As petroleum-based products, these items release toxins when burned. You can recycle all plastic beverage bottles including mostpop, milk, and water containers, as well as soap and detergent bottles. Rinse our the container to prepare these items for recycling and dispose of the lids. It is easy to remember which plastic items are acceptable. Look for the number "1 "or "2" inside the little triangle on the bottom of the container. .The final or fotu:th category for Tulsa’s new recycling program is glass. Both clear and colored glass bottles and jars will be accepted. Nounbroken glass will be taken, nor will the program accept other housewares or plate glass from windows. Since the glass before putting out for collection and discard the lid. Because of the once-everytwo- weeks collection, you may want to rinse after use, if it contains food. Curbside recycling is a great addition to Tulsa’s solid waste disposal program. Now it is up to us to make it succeed. Begin sign up for this new service. Just call the Mayor’s Action Center at 596-2100 and tell them that you wish to sign up for curbside recycling. It is scheduled to start on Nov. 1st. The cost is only $2/month; it will be added to your city utility bill. Recycled items will be collected twice a month on an every other week basis. Before the program begins, you will be informed about your curbside pickup days. You can also sign up by clicking on www cityoftulsa.org/recycle or www.tulsarecycles.com. Remember this program can succeed only ifenough ofus participate. So sign on now! Bob D. Rounsavell is a freelance Tulsa writer who specializes in environmental education. dollars did stay here in Oklahomainstead of adding to the profits of American Airlines, or United, or Marriott or Hilton? Let’s guess that many of those 50 attending spent about $500 to $1000 for their visit. A few who traveled as I did with my student group perhaps spent as little as $200- 300¯ One might argue that an average expenditure might be about $600 for a total of $30,000. But on the other hand, $30k would pay the current rent on the Community Center for almost two years ! Now that other TOHR ex-president argues that while many in our community are willing to spend that money on whatis in essence an extraQueer vacation, he feels that few would be willing to mm around and invest that amount into our community if there’s no immediate gain for themselves. And sadly, I would like to argue with him but as a community organizer, I can’t - because I’ve seen that what he claims is mostly true. What if we did value our rights and invested in our communities as much as we did our fabulous vacations, great clothes, stylish homes and cars?Whatcould we accomplish then? After all, ifwe don’t take care of ourselves, who is going to? "Straight" people? - Tom Neal PS: those of you who’ve already got this message, thanks! Keep up the good work and drag a friend along. Tom Neal, publisher & editor ofTulsa Family News, helped tofound and direct the Coalition of Lesbian/Gay Student Groups and the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation, Dallas Chapter andhelped iofoundGLAAD National. He also served as co-chair ofthe University of Oklahoma Gay & Lesbian Association, and helped to found the Rice University Gay Alumni group as well as serving on Tulsa’s Pride committeefor several years. On Nov. 9th, Tulsans will have the opportunity to vote on a $109 million bond package to invest in the needs of Tulsa Public Schools and the children of the district. The Citizens Bond Development Committee has identified more than $600 million in building, facilities, teaching materials and transportation needs for the District in a comprehensive, strategic plan that covers 20 years. The bond issue to be presented to voters on Nov. 9th will be m~ important step in adequately addressing the need of the District and in creating a District ofunparalleled excellence in the state... - Sincerely, Ruth Ann Fate President, Tulsa Public Schools Board of Education Chair, Citizens for Better Education 2121 So, Columbia, Suite 103, Tulsa : by Tom Neal, editor/publisher ¯ Some Gay readers will likely look at the excerpted ¯ letter above and respond: "yeah right, why should I care ~ - I don’t have kids"and"TPS is ahomophobic institution ¯ which doesn’t deserve my support." Some non-Gay ~ readers will likely read this and also wonder why Gay people should care about education issues. But the reality is that many Gay people (using the term broadly to include LGB and T folk) do have children, some by marriages to non-Gay folk before coming out, and some by adoption, and some creative Lesbians and Gay men are having our own children. Even those of us who do not have children directly of our own, like me, have no fewer than eight nephews and nieces about half of whom were educated in Tulsa Public Schools. And we have friends with children too. .My pointis that despite the an.ti-Gay stereotypes which paint Lesbians and Gay men as anti-family, we have a strong interest in providing a good educational system to the children of our community. We also have some selfinterest in that there tends to be a correlation between education and the lessening of anti-Gay prejudice. And if we insist that TPS, an educational system which we help fund, seek to teach the values of respect and tolerance for all citizens, to teach that the diversity of our city makes us stronger, then we, Gay and Lesbian citizens, regardless of whether we have children who directly benefit from TPS, will gain. Therefore, on Nov. 9th, please consider voting yes: do it for kids. Friends Mourn Murdered Gay Pastor SACRAMENTO, Calif. (AP) - Calling him a "an oversized angel inhumanform,"mourners andfriendsof a slain pastor and Gay civil rights activist led tributes to him. The Rev. Edward R. Sherriff, 68, an associate pastor at the Cathedral of Promise MetropolitanCommtmity Churchin Sacramento was found stabbed to death in his home Oct. 20 in what police believe was a robbery. More than 300 friends andfzraily crowded into the church where Sherriff served as co-pastor for 11 years. Later in the day, mourners filled the sidew~ilks to "celebrate the home~zoing" of the slain activist. A t~ndf-ul.of local religious leaders paid tribute to Sherriff, including Sister Catherine Connell, director of the Catholic Wellspring women’s center, and the Rev. Isaiah Muhammad of the Nation of Islam. Sherriff’s daughters were als0 among the crowds. "It’s amazing to me the people who love him, who truly love him," said Scharlene Sheriff. Sherriff’s other daughter Marsha Lanier said she does notbelieve her father’s murder was ahate crime. Helikely died because he went out ofhis way to help, Lanier said. ’That’s one thing he would have been proud of," she said. Court to Reconsider Religious Bias Ruling SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - The federal appeals court that allowed religious landlords to deny rentals to unmarried couples agreed to reconsider recently at therequest of states, cities andcivil rights groups. The 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals said an 11-judge panel will decide whether property owners with religious objections to certain types of tenants are entitled to exemptions from housing discrimination laws. The case involves state and local laws in Anchorage prohibiting housing discrimination based on marital status. The ruling would also al’fect discrimination based on sexual orientation, where barred by law, and possibly other categories covered by laws in the nine states of the nation’s largest federal circuit. A panel of the court ruled 2-1 in January that enforcement of the discriminationlaws would violate the rdigious freedom of two Anchorage landlords who had religious objections to providing homes for unmarried couples. With no compelling state interest at Stake, the landlords could not be forced to choose between their businesses and their religious beliefs, the courtmajority said. The court said a majority ofits 21 activejudges had voted to set the January decision aside and order a new hearing before the 11-judge panel, at a date not yet scheduled. Requests by Alaska and Anchorage for a reheating were supported by national civil liberties and Gay civil-rights orgamzations, cities including Los_Angeles and San Francisco, and the states of California, Nevada, Washington, Oregon, Montana and Hawaii. California Attorney General Bill Lockyer, who enlisted his counterparts in the other states, said discrimination laws would be affected in every state. "q’here’s no inherent conflict between state antidiscrimination laws and the private religious view s of a landlord," he said. "Fhe issue is whether they can discriminate in their commercial and business activities." Kevin G. Clarkson, lawyer for the Anchorage landlords, said he wasn’t surprised by the rehearing, but argued that his clients’ ’interests were more important than those of the state or would-be tenants. ’%Vhat’s at stake is the First Amendment right of property owners to manage their property consistent with their religious beliefs," Clarkson said. He said there was no evidence that unmarried couples in any state have had trouble finding housing because of the religious objections of a small number of landlords. Conservative religious organizations such as Focus on the Family and the American Center for Law and Justice, as well as the more liberal National Council of Churches, have filed arguments supporting the landlords. The Supreme Courts of Alaska and Californiahave upheld their state discrimination laws against challenges .by religious landlords. But if the federal appeals court sides with thelandlords, property owners throughout the circuitcould sidestep statecourtrulings and go into federal court for religious exemptions. The suit was filedby KevinThomas and Joyce Baker, who each own several rental properties in Anchorage and said they had consistently refused to rent to unmarried cohabitants because of their Christian beliefs. They have not been accused of violating the state or local laws but asked the court to bar" their enforcement. In the January ruling, Judge Diarmuid O’Scannlain said the law not only placed an unconstitutional burden on landlords’ religious practices but also violated freedom of speech, by prohibiting owners from asking about a tenant’s marital status, States can imposesuchrestrictions onbusinesses for compelling reasons, such as preventing discrimination based on race or sex, O’Scannlain said. But he said discrimination on the basis of marital status isn’t banned by the Constitution, federal law or the laws of many states, and no compelling interest has. been shown for its elimination. The case is Thomas vs. Anchorage Equal Rights Commission, 97-35220. Methodists Attack Boy Scouts’ Anti-Gay Policy tIACKENSACK, N.J. (AP) - The Boy Scouts of America could lose an important ally as it prepares to appeal a New Jersey Supreme Court ruling that the group couldnotremove aNew Jersey manbecausehe is Gay. The United Methodist Church, which sponsors about 15% of the 3.3 million Scouts in the United States, has scolded the group and is threatening to halt its sponsorship if things don’t change. Although the church "would like to enthusiastically affirm and encourage this continuing partnership of the church and Scouting, we cannot due to the Boy Scouts of America s discnmanat~on agmnstGays; the Gener Board of Church and Society said earlier this month. The board is a top policy-making body of the Methodists. It also encouraged the Boy Scouts to stop the policy barring homosexuals. ’"We further, for the sake of our continmng partnership, call upon the Boy Scouts of America to discontinue this exclusion of Gays," the board concluded in the Oct. 10 statement. The Methodists earlier had said the church wanted to triple the number of Scouts it sponsors. But the Boy Scouts say the threat won’t dissuade themfrom appealing to the U.S. Supreme Court. Greg Shields, a spokesman for the Boy Scouts, said the organization hopes the case will be heard before next year’s summer recess. Shields also said he believes the Boy Scouts’ longtime relationship with the Methodists will endure. "We feel like we have a ¯ strong base of support within the congregations," ¯ Shields told The Record of Hackensack. ¯ The appeal plan follows aunanimous Augustruling : by the state Supreme Court that says the policy of keeping out homosex~mls violates the state’s anti- " discrimination law. The court said the Boy Scouts ¯ organization constitutes a "place of public accommodation" because it has a broad-based membership and forms partnerships with public ¯ entities such as police and fire departments. ¯ James Dale, 29, ofMatawan inMomnouth County, ¯ was an assistant scoutmaster whe was kicked out of the Boy Scouts nine years ago whenleaders found out ¯ he is Gay. He sued., seeking reinstatement. Dale ¯ earned 30 merit badges, seven achievement honors ¯ and other awards, and became an Eagle Scout during ¯ his 12 years in the organization. He was expelled by ¯ theMoumouthCouncilin 1990 after the group leamed from a newspaper article that he was Gay. The Irving, ¯ Texas-based organization has said if forced to accept ¯ Gays, the organization would not be able to build ¯ moral character in boys. The New Jersey ruling contrasted with a March ¯ 1998 decision by the California Supreme Court inthe ¯ Boy Scouts’ favor. In that ruling, alsounammous, the ¯ court said the organization was not abusiness and was : therefore free to exclude Gays, as well as atheists and ¯ agnostics. The U.S. Supreme Court refused to hear an : appeal of that decision. Kelly Kirby, CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation 747-5466 4021 S. Harvard, Suite 210, Tulsa 74135 MCC-United formerly Family of Faith & Greater Tulsa MCC Joined as one body of believers. Come celebrate with us, Sunday Services, 11 am 1623 North Maplewood, 838-1715 HOUSE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT Sun. Worship, 10:45 am, Sunday School, 9:30 am Wed. Bible Study, 7 pm 3210b S. Norwood, Info: 224-4754, Chris or Sharon Sandra Hill M.s. 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Atlanta Place, 742-7381 Saint Dunstan 5635 East 71st, 492-7140 Trinity 501 S. Cincinnati, 582-4128 The Episcopal Church Welcomes You Boeing ExtendsBenefits to Same-Sex Partners SEATTLE (AP) - The Boeing Co., citing the need to maintain a quality work force and the benefits of diversity, plans-to extend health-care benefits next year to same-sex domestic partners of salaried nonumon employees. The decision, announced to company managers by electronic mail, was praised by Gay civil rights advocatesl It was criticized by unionleaders, however, for leaving outtheirmembers and nnmarried heterosexual partners. Company officials did not say how many employees would be affected. RoughlyhalfofBoeing’s 202,000 employees worldwide are salaried and non-union. A recent Forbes Magazine survey indicated unmarried partners are covered by health benefits in 10% of the businesses with at least 200 employees. Companies that provide same-sex-partner benefits include Lotus Development Corp., Microsoft Corp., IBM, Walt Disney Co., U S West, Honeywell and Xerox. In the e-mail, James B. Dagnon, Boeing’s senior vice president for personnel, said the move was made for two reasons: ’~First to attract and retain talented employees, and second to walk the talk on diversity. "Diversity, with a capital D, means acknowledging employees have different backgrounds, preferences and interests." A task force of personnd managers and minority employees w.asformedto study theissue last year, bu.t consii~eration of an initial proposal was stalled until the company’s financial performance improved in recent months, Boeing spokesman Peter Conte said. The decision is long overdue, said Charles Fay, chairman of Hands-Off Washington in Snohomish County€ and Dennis Rybicki, a spokesman for the SnohomishCountyElections Committee., which,r~an~__. s political candidates on Gay and Lesbian xssues, q’his should send a signal to other employers, large and small, that it’s goodbusiness to recognize the value of all families," Fay said. Charles Bofferding, executive directorof the Society ofProfesSional Engineering Employees inA.erospa.~, said the move seemed to be designed to sabotage ,his group’s contract-negotiations, which begin soon. SPF.EA, formerly the Seattle Professional Engineering Employees Association, is the second-largest imion at Boeing, representing 23,000 scientists, engineers, manual writers and technical workers. SPEEA negotiators will seek the benefit but don’t want to sacrifice other potential contract gains to obtain it, Bofferding said. ’This attitude, that management knows best and employees will take whatever is dished, out, this is outrageous ,"he said. "Is the Boeing Co. going to discriminate againstheterosexuals now?" Conte said health-care benefits will not be offered tO unmarried heterosexual partners because they can get married, an option from which same-sex parmers are barred by law. Tim Flynn, a spokesman for the International Association of Machinists and Aerospace Workers, which r~ep~resents hourly producuon workers and is Boeings largest union, said Machinist leaders may discuss same-sex benefits before expiration of the three-year contract that was ratified in September. Annetta Small, director of the West Coast office of Kerusso Ministries, which seeks to persuade Gays and Lesbians to become heterosexual through Chrsfianity, said she opposes any extension ofbenefits to non-married partners. "We are giving benefits to a behavior that I believe is wrong and that I believe is immoral," she said. "I don’t believe that we should extend these benefits to people who are not married." Hate Letters Sent to Rhode Island Politicos PROVIDENCE, R.I. (AP) - Threatening letters with anti-Gay sentiments have been sent to the Providence mayor, the city’s liaison to the Gay community and two men who were recently assaulted in a Gaybashing attack. One letter, which Mayor Vincent A. Cianci Jr. received, described Providence as a ’Tag lovin’ city". Leaflets that said "Fake Action Against Queer’s, ¯ were also scattered downtown and placed on cars. ¯¯ City and police officials said they are taking the threats very seriously because they appear to be part ¯ ofan organized effort. Inresponse, thepolice assigned ¯ extra officers downtown. "In this day and age, this ’- should not be. We’re not going to tolerate it," Cianci ~ told The Providence Journal. ¯ W. Fitzgerald Himmelsbach, the city’s liaison to the Gay and Lesbian community, also received a " death threat over the telephone. He received a call at ¯ his business from aman who said, "Die, you fagg.ot . ~ All the letters said ’~omosexuality is a sin against ¯ humankind and God," and all were signed "The ¯ Trench Coat Mafia" - the name used by a group of "- students at Columbine High School, in I.ittleton, ¯ Colo., that .included the two gnmmen who killed 13 ¯ people there last spring. - Himmelsbach saidletters receivedby the twoassault ". victims threatened that they would"endup inhell like [ Matthew Shepard," the Wyoming college student ¯ who was beaten to deathlast fall because he was Gay. ¯ The letters were sent to Ed Webb, 34, and Noah ] Schwartz, 41, both of Providence. On Sept. 19 in : downtownProvidence, themensaid about20college- " aged men yelled "faggots" and then five of the men ¯ beat them up. ¯ Both Himmelsbaeh, who has been the liaison for ~ two years,and Cianci saidreceiving threats is nothing ¯ new but both are worried that this is part of an ~ organized effort. ’~Eianci vowedto fred the "cowards" .. who are the perpetrators and then prosecute them for . hate crimes. Police do not have any suspects yet. : Denver Considers :: Couples Registry ¯ DENVER (AP) - City Council members are : considering a proposal that would create a registry to ~ record the relationships of Gay and Lesbian partners and other committed but unmarried couples. The ¯ proposal, heard by the city council, would allow Denverites to officially record their partnerships to ¯ qualify for insurance benefits some companies offer ¯ to the "domestic partners" of their workers. And, for ¯ same-sex couples, it would allow their unions to be : acknowledg?,.d,, if only nominally, by local " government. It sfinallytimeforthecitytorecognize ." committed relationships," said Councilman Ed ¯ Thomas, who, along with Councilwoman Cathy ¯ Reynolds, has beenplanning such aregistry for several ¯ years. . ¯ To qualify, both members of a couple would have ¯ to be unmarried, 18 years or older and sharing the ¯ ¯ same household with a partner who is not a blood relative. A filing fee at the city’s clerk and recorder’s ¯ office is expected to be about $20. Couples would be ¯ ¯ required to notify that office if their relationships dissolve. The plan had tentative approval by most members ofthe city s Safety and Personnel Commatt ¯ except council member Ted Hackworth, who said it ¯ "doesn’t make sense." ¯ Itis slated for further discussionby council members ¯ in the coming weeks. Advocates hope to have the registry in place by Valentin~ s Day. If approved, ¯ filing with the registry wouldn t constitute amarriage or common-law marriage, nor would it affect ¯ inheritance rights. ¯ Still, advocates say itwouldprovide documentation ¯ ¯ for couples seeking benefits from United Airlines, Coors, Denver city government and other employers ¯ who insure domestic partners of workers. Proponents ¯ also hope it would help advance rights whenit comes ¯ to visiting partners in the hospital ormaking medical ¯ decisions on their behalf. Theregistry would similarly ¯ benefit seniorcouples who choosenot to marry because ¯ they would lose Social Security or other benefits. ~ Boulder has a similar registry program, as do the state ¯ of California and 35 cities in 25 states nationwide. ¯ Irish Jury Convicts Writer’s Assailants : PHILADELPHIA (AP)- Ajury in Irdand convicted ¯ two men in the near-fatal beating of a well-known ¯ Philadelphia writer of Gay-themed books who was ¯ overseas researching a novel see News, p. 13 Magic Johnson Plays in Sweden BORAS, Sweden (AP) - Magic Johnson entertained a sellout crowdTuesday night with some of the trademark skills he used to help the Los Angeles Lakers win five NBA rifles. The 40-year-old star, 10 years older than the second oldest player on the court, had 14 points and 11 rebounds as Magic M7 beat Sallen 84-60 in.the Swedish basketball league. "The first half was a little tough, but the second was easier.,"Johnson told the 3,319 spectators after,the game, his first nonexlfihition contest since leaving the NBA for good in 1996. Johnson missed some easy layup attempts. "That’s easy when the atmosphere was as charged and the euphoria as high as it was tonight," he said. After a standing ovation before the game, Johnson drew further cheers when he promised to return to play more games for Magic MT. MT, which missed the playoffs last season, is 7-0 this season,.with Johnson’s appearance generating great interest in the sport in Boras, a city of 110,000 in western Sweden. Johnson, who led Michigan State to the 1979 U.S. National Collegiate Athletic Association rifle, learned he had tested positive for the HIV virus that can cause AIDS in 1991. He retired for the first rime justbefore the startof the 1991-92 season. After returning to play on the U.S. Dream Team that won the gold medal in the 1992 Olympics, he made a brief comeback before the !992-93 season, but quit again after several players expressed concerns about playing against him. In January 1996, he returned to the Lakers and played the remaining half of the season, retiring again, at age 37, after the Lakers were eliminated from the playoffs. Louganis in Nun-Drag? HOLLYWOOD, Fla. (AP) - Greg Louganis has picked up a new habit. The Olympxc gold medal-winning diver is starring in the musical comedy, ’~lunsense A-Men," which runs through Dec. 5 at the Hollywood Playhouse. Lougams, who wonfour gold medals in two Olympics and later disclosed he was Gayand HIV-positive, will pull on a habit six rimes a week for his role as Sister Robert Ann, a streetwise nun who always wanted to be a star. All the nuns in this production are men. The former diver, author and motivational speaker says he likes working in an ensemble cast. "There’s always someone there to hold your hand," said I_ouganis, 39. "It feels more supportive, I guess.’" Thou.gh Louganis now has AIDS, he looks and feels healthy. He says he does not think aboutbeing arole model. "We’re all haman. We all make mistakes," he said "Role model, in my mind, is perfection and one can’t be that. I try to encourage young people to be their own heroes and their own role models." AIDS & So. Africa JOHANNESBURG, South Africa (AP) - After the end of apartheid, South Africa pushed to get patients out of overcroWded hospitals and into preventive care clinics. But as fast as the country has built 700 ¯ new clinics since 1994, traditional state ¯¯ hospitalshavefilledupwithAIDS patients who occupy up to 60% of the beds, South : African Health Minister Manto ¯ Tshabalala-Msimang said recently. ¯ ’’We expected the demand for hospital ¯ caretodrop,"shesaidatanews conference ; at theheadquarters oftheAfrican National ¯ Congress. "But the HIV and AIDS ¯ epidemic has increased the burden." The ¯ briefingwas one ofa series by theANCon ¯ its progress in ruling the country. ¯ Tshabalala-Msimang chairs the party’s ¯ health committee. -" Some 3.6 million South Africans are ¯ infected with AIDS, roughly one in eight ." adults, and the government says 1,500 ¯ new :infections occur every day in one of ." the world’s fastest rates of infection. A ¯ narionalAIDS councilwillbefunctioning : by year’s end, Tshabalala-Msimang said. ¯ ’’We should have had the council in place : already," she said. : Controversial proposals, such treating : pregnant women with HIV with a drug ¯ therapy to prevent transmission of the ¯ virus to infants, will be discussed next ¯ month at a meeting of regional health ¯ ministers, she said. The government so far : has rejected the proposal as too expensive : and possibly even dangerous in terms of ¯ long-term side effects. ¯ The healthministers fromthe Southern ¯ African Development Community will ¯ also discuss blood safety anddevelopment ¯ of an HIV vaccine. : AIDS Threatens Asia’s Prosperity KUALALUMPUR, Malaysia (AP) -The AIDS epidemic in Asia could erase the region’s economic gains over the last two decades unless governments maintain funding for social programs, aWorldBank expert warned late last month. In Indonesia, Thailand, Cambodia, Myanmar, Malaysia, Vietnam and Southern China, AIDS had gained a "strong foothold," even before the economiccrisis struckin 1997, saidMartha Ainsworth, a senior World Bank economist. The dreaded virus "threatens to slowly unravel the progress in improving the human condition.and to diminate if not reverse the benefits of the economic miracle,’’ Ainsworth told the 5th International Congress on AIDS in Asia and the Pacific. The region’s two-year economic crisis may have further hurt Asia’s fight against AIDS, said Ainsworth. Cash-strapped governments wereforced to slash budgets and lower wages. The crisis also pushed thousands of families into poverty and many women into prostitution. "’Even before the crisis, political commitment to AIDS prevention in the region was weak," said Ainsworth. "Many policy makers are still in denial." Development policies before the crisis channeled funds into education and health ¯ care budgets, resulting in higher life expectancies and reduced poverty: ¯ "The full impact of the crisis on HIV : depends critically on how well ~ governments and households succeeded ¯ .in maintaining socialsafety nets," said : AJnsworth, an expert on the effect of ¯ AIDS on households. Ainsworth said : AIDS hadalready subtracted several years ¯ offtheaveragelifeexpectancies ofcertain ¯ countries. A U.N report released at the four-day ¯ conference esrimates that by 2010, the ¯ overall death rate will be 20% higher in OECE~% WorldAIDS Day 1999 Candlelight March & Memorial Service sponsored by Interfaith AIDS Ministries Wednesday, December 1st End the Silence Mount Zion Baptist Church 419 North Elgin (next to OSU-Tulsa) Gather 6:30 at St. Monica’s, Marshall Place at Greenwood (just south of Pine), March at 7pm, Service at 7:30, all times approximate! Bring banners & bells; candles provided. Info: 438-2437. Are You Gay or Bisexual? Are You Native American~.~ Tulsa s Two-Spirited Indian Men s ¯ Support Group ~s here for you! ¯ Evening support group meetings ¯ Relationship workshops ¯ Short trips, outings and retreats ¯ Free HIV testing For information call Tulsa Native.American AIDS Prevention Project at 582-7225 Ext, 208 or 218 Dial-Up Accounts Dedicated ISDN Connections Virtual Hosting Visit our web page "www.igisweb.net" (918) 622-4965 Internet Marketing E-Commerce Web Page Design On-Site Setup Available Oklahoma NARAL cordially invites you to a chocOlate and champagne fete in support of abortion and reproductive rights in Oklahoma. Celebrating 26 Yedrs.of Choice Sunday, November 7, 1999, 1:30 - 3:30 p.m. to be held at Resonance 1608 S. Elwood, Tulsa, Oklahoma Champagne, Coffee, Chocolates $25 per individual Please R.S.V.P. to the NARAL Office: 494-9585 Stay Healthy Naturally Wellness Rejuvenation Longevity Dr. Terrance L. Sullivan Doctor ofNaturopathy Certified Colonic Hygenist Certified Reflexologist Certified Herbalist Certified Accupressurist provides consultations by appointment Iridology- Hair Analysis - Herbal Supplements Pain Control - Nutritional Analysis 4520 So. Peoria, Brookside, 712-1400 Myanmar due to AIDS fatalities. In Cambodia and Thailand, it may rise 15% because of AIDS. The United Nations estimates that 7 million people in Asia are infected with the HIV virus or AIDS. Speakers at the conference, which ends Wednesday, have urged Asia to act fast to curb the epidemic or risk the devastation now facedby Africa, which has 21 million AIDS-related cases. Experts areparticularlyconcemedabout the effects of AIDS on Indonesia, the world’s fourth largest country, where the regional economiccrisis was compounded by political upheaval. It diverted attention and funding from the AIDS epidemic, Aiusworth said. ’~olitical turmoil nodoubt increased risky behavior for the spread of HIV," Ainsworth said. She said countries such as Thailand one of the high-risk areas in Asia, had proved that maintaining commitment to AIDS -prevention programs paid dividends. HIV cases dropped among prostitutes,menwith sexually-transmitted diseases and blood donors in Thailand despite the economic crisis, she said. "Many governments in this region have a window of opportunity to act early and prevent an epidemic," Ainsworth said. Children at Risk in South Africa JOHANNESBURG, South Africa (AP) - Seeking to help young children deal with a soanng number of sexual assaults, national health and education officials are considering an education program for primary students to teach about rape and HIV infections, a newspaper reported Sunday. A pilot program was tested in the Nor~ern and F~ee State provinces, where about 700 children received the lessons, the Sunday Times of Johannesburg reported. About 14,000 children are sexually violated every year, police reports say, but a large number of rapes go unreported, anti-rape activists say. About 8% of the adult population is HIV positive. One factor that experts belie,ve has contributed to child rape is the persxstent myth that sex with a virgin can cure the disease. Abraham Seckle, an Education Department official, was quoted assaying the program would "empower learners to protect themselves." A consultantinvolved in the project, Darleen Edwards, said that children are taught to "run, yell and tell" in the program. PLWA to Race in Iditarod Next Year MESA, Ariz. (AP)-The first Arizonan to enter Alaska’s most grueling sled dog race faces two major obstacles before he even steps to the starting line. Chuck Kin.g, 39, of Tempe, has no experience racang. He has only 100 miles actually riding a dog sled. And King is. HIV positive. Every day, he takes fisffuls of anti-viral pills just to stay alive. But he doesn’t see this as a setback. He views his illness and the March 4 Iditarod sled-dog race as a chance to prove that people with AIDS don’t have to concentrate on survival alone. "In the last seven years, I was supposed to have died three times and I made it through all of that," King said in a telephone interview from Wasilla, Alaska. The Iditarod this year will stretch 1,152 miles fromWasilla to Nome, takingracers " at least 10 days to complete. And that’s : only if the expected 80 participants keep up a good pace. The snow layers the trail ¯ in multiple feet, not mere inches. ¯" Temperatures dip deep into thenegatives, numbing hands and lungs. At night; ¯ Sections of the woods-darkened course ." are lit only by the aurora borealis, which ¯ crackle and cast shadows in the trees and : snow. Switchbacks get so steep in some ¯ areasthatdrivers can’tseetheleadoftheir ¯¯ 16-dogpack.A driver unlucky enough to fall off gets left in a cloud of snow and ¯ regret. ’q~here ain’t no waitin’ in this ." race," said Raymond "Raymie" ¯ Redington, King’s sled-dog trainer. ’q’he ¯" huskies are bred to go. They’ll bolt off the ." starting line even if you say halt." ." Redington should know. The 54-year- . old Alaska native’s father founded the ¯ racein 1973. He has been in 111ditarods; : his highest placing was seventh. Since : September, Redington has trained King ¯ on a four-wheeler that simulates a sled- : dog team. King will work with the dogs as ¯ the snow starts to fall. ¯ King began training last year, gaining ¯ ¯ about 100 miles of mushing experience. Oddly, being a native Arizonan could give him a boost: King was trained as a bo.y to handle amule drawn wagon, which ¯ ~mrrors mushing techniques, Redington ¯ said. King will have to be up to speed by : Jan. 1, whenthelditarod’sfirstqualifying race, the Knik 200, takes place. The 2nd ~ qualifier is a week later. ¯ Only after the 500 miles of racing will ’ Redington know whether King is ready : for the Iditarod. "I don’t know how he’s ¯" going to do when it gets real freezing," ¯ said Redington, who remembers the 38- below zero wind chill he endured in the ¯ 1974Iditarod. "Buthelooks healthynow. "" ¯ That hasn’t always been the case for ¯ King. Six years ago, the 6-foot man had ¯ wastedto 118pounds. Doctors gav,eKing, ¯ a former respiratory physician, 90 days to live after diagnosing him with multidrug ¯ resistant tuberculosis. At one point, his Tcell count, a measure of the body’s ¯ resistance to disease, bottomed out at 40; ~ a virus-free, healthy person’s T-cell coun! usually reaches 1,000. Kinghad one wish: to see Alaska before ¯ he died. Two years ago he took a cruise ." there, and he caught another bug. This time, it was mushing. "That’s all he could ¯ talk about," said his father, Dick King. ¯ "He was suicidal, depressed at times. BUt this brought him out." Science lent a hand, too. Strong anti¯ viral drugs called protease inhibitors became available. King was soon on a ¯ five-drug ’.’cocktail"prescribed to him by Scottsdale’s Dr. Thanes Vanig. He began ¯ popping about 26 pills a day. He said he ¯ has to smoke marijuana to beat down the ¯ nausea caused by themedieation. He also ,- has to take percocet, and even morphine, ¯ to numb the neurological pain to his lower ¯ legs that was caused by the tuberculosis ¯ and AIDS drugs. His T-cell count has ¯ jumped to 560, the lower side of normal. ¯ He’s also gained 44 pounds, thanks in ¯ large part to injections of human growth : hormone, a $4,000-a-month drug that he ; said was donated by a pharmaceutical ¯ company. ¯ WhenKingrecentlyreturned to Alaska, ¯ his spirits were high, His po~c,k,etbook is ¯ - the opposite. King is feveris!!) lining up ¯ sponsors, such as Tempe Mayor Neil ¯ Giuliano, to make it through the race and ¯ bring AIDS awareness to a new level, ¯ "It’s not just for people with AIDS," he ¯ s.aid. ’q~hemessageis for everyone: Don’t ¯ g~ve up. Don’t ever give up." L by James Christjohn Upon viewing the PBS production of "Spirit: A Journey in Dance, Drum, and Song" on PBS, I contacted Peter Buffett, the composer and creator. Upon learning that there would be a National Tour with a stop in Tulsa at the Brady Theatre on January 3, 2000; I had the opportunity to askafew questions. You can get the video of the production that originally aired on PBS, as well as theCDat areamusic/video stores. It’s powerful in those mediums (reviewed previously), and one can only imagine the impact of the piece live. JC: Hello, Peter! PB: Hello! Well... finally I’m answering your questions. I was frantically finishing a record for a friend. It had to be done by yesterday (which it was) so I can go to New York today to start all the mechanics it’s going to take to get the "Spirit" showon the road by the Fall. At somepoint, you’11 have to get the’’making of" part of the video. I think you’ll really enjoy it. "(Note: The "Making of..." is included on the retail vide~’Of the show.) JC: It’s such an amazing piece that works on so many diffdrent levels, l was wondering whatinspired the idea to bring together the different elements - dance. song, etc. - to create the show? PB: I wanted to bring all the elements together for two main reasons. One, "A hundred years ago people sang the Ghost Dance songs in the hopes that the world would return to the way it once was, Now, the choir in some of the Spirit songs are singing those very same words in hopes that the world can become what it could be. "" - Peter Buffett because in Native cultures, song anddance are usually linked. You can’t have one without the other. They both contribute to the telling ofthe story. Andthe projections help bring the natural (or unnatural.., or supernatural) worldinto the theatre. That’s the "art" reason. The "commerce" reasonis that I knew my show would be competing with larger and larger events. Not only theatrical, but lmaxmovies,hugebudget movies and all sorts of entertainment that tugs at the consumer. I wanted to try and create something thatpeople could honestly say they hadn’ t seenbefore (no small feat). So this was my attempt.. JC: Well,judgingfrom the response at the taping from the audience, and the incredible response I’ve seen to the video, l’d say you achieved your goal. PB: It’s important to note that I’m not in the "bigger is better" : camp (as it may sound) but people want and deserve their money’s worth. Andit’s getting harder to "outdo" the last thing ~n [ terms ofp0werful soundandimagery. My [ hope is that the message of the show has as much effect on people as anything else. JC: I can only speak from my own ¯. experience, and that oflistening to others ¯ who have seen the video, to say that it was very powerful in that regard, and ¯ communicated its message wonderfully. see Buffett, p. 14 couNciL Is proud to present gie Hall veteran soprano, Floxane La Combe. nature "COMC Sound" has attracted sold out audiences. Order your tickets in advance. November 19 & 20 JOHN WILLIAMS THEATRE TULSA PERFORMING ARTS CENTER Call 596-7111 for tickets www.counciloak.org ~’~#Made possible in part oy a grant from the Tulsa Pedorming Arts Center Trust. by That Entertainment Guy Livin La Vida Loca Tour, the Divine king, Ricky Martin appears in Dallas al Reunion Arena, Dallas, Thursday, Nov 4, 1999, at 8:00PM. Now this would be the concert to take binocnlars to - and the telephoto mini-camera. Ticket prices for the Prince ofPop: $35.00- $75.00 Charge- By-Phone #: 214-373-8000. The Divine Queen of All Things is also performing in Dallas in November. No, not Stevie, although she is the otherQueen of All T’nings Divine; but the Divine Ms. Millennium Tour: Bette Midler in Concert, A Beaver Production takes place Sunday, Nov128,1999 at8:00prn at ReunionArena. As she said in one early concert tour, ’qTais ain’t no cheap meat you’re lookin’ at!": Ticket prices run $50.50 - $150.50, Charge-By-Phone at 214-373-8000. Peter Buffett’s "Spirit - A Journey in Dance, Drums and Song" is a music, dance and percussion spectacle that combines the power of contemporary music with the songs, chants and dances of Native American culture. The release of the CD coincides with the PBS Broadcast ofthe live show of Spirit, which features over 80 performers - including twenty dancers with both modem and traditional training, an orchestra withboth modem and ancient tribal instruments, a flits choir and percussionists pounding outheart-stopping rhythms on a variety of drums. The show runs in Tulsa, January 4-9, at the Brady Theatre; and if you miss that, then you can catch "Spirit" in Dallas, March 7-12 at the Majestic Theatre. You really didn’t think I’d let you get away without the obligatory mention of Stevie Nicks herself, did you? Yes, La Diva nicks is performing three shows: Two in California’s HOuse of Biues in December, and one in Las Vegas HOB on New Year’s eve. Tickets went for an outrageous $127 (balcony seating) and $227 (Orchestra - STANDING!). There only a few floor spaces left for the New Year’s show.. All others sold out. Believe it or not. Anyone wishing to contribute to the "Send the obsessed reviewer to see S tevie and not come back fund" can send contributions to TFN. Just make sure my name’s in big letters on the envelope, or I’ll never see the money. It’ll end up in the "buy the publisher new household gimmicks" fund. The Divine Ms. Nick’s new album should be out the 1st of the year, if not sooner. And hopefully, with a more affordable tour. Apparently the cost of chiffon has risen - a lot. Fight Clubis.amovie that under ordinary circumstances, I would have never gone to see. However, I was not under ordinary circumstances, and was swept along to see it. I thought I’d hate it. After seeing it, I think everyone should see it. The acting is dynamic, the pace is breathless, and the intellect behind it is tremendous. The violence is not that bad, one scene aside, and the points the movie makes are well worth the viewing. The humor is well done, and the homoeroticism between Ed Norton and Brad Pittmakes it worthwhile. see Fight, p. 15 .Parade of Ligh! s. Come celebrate the spirit of the holiday season at the PSO Christmas Parade of Lights. Saturday, December 11, Downtown Tulsa at 6 p.m. View parade floats up close, Friday, December 10, at the HolidayFest (Brady Arts Distriot) fl om 6-9 p.m. Pubfic Service Company of Oklahoma A Central and South West Company I B B (I T Z "emotionally and visually rich ..." -Performing Arts Review, Taiwan "unforgettable scenes of disparate beauty" -Davar "intense in feeling ... deep in intellectual content" -The Plain Dealer "bold, flLnging athleticism" -The Kansas City Star November 16 at 8 p.m. Chapman Music Hall Tulsa Performing Arts Center 3rd & Cincinnati Tickets: $15, $22, $25 Call: (918) 596-7111 Outside Tulsa: 1-800-364-7111 Online: www.tulsapac.com Presenting by Rami Be’er Co-presented bj,: Oklahoma Israel Exchange "Dazzling," "Pounding," "Unsettling," "Erotic" "The dancing--real, vital dancing--of these 18 people becomes a dyfiamo for transforming experience and recharging the spirit." The Village Voice Sponsored in part by: "You don’t have to know ballet to love ballet. You just have to try it." -- MARCELLO ANGELINI ART ST C D RECTOR :Mixed Repertory includes two Oklahoma premieres FRIDAY 8 PM NOVEMBER 5 SATURDAY 8 PM " NOVEMBER 6 SUNDAY 3 PM NOVEMBER 7 Be one of the first anywhere to witness Tulsa Ballet’s first commissioned piece. Tailored to the strengths of the Company by an international genius. Classical ’roots, contemporary movements A prime-time performance of2Oth-century choreography. The way people dance today. Andwili tom0rrow: " Tickets start at $8. THE 199.9 - 2000 SEASON IS SPONSORED IN PART BY: Order tickets,by calling The Tulsa Ballet Ticket Office at 749-6006, PAC at 596-7111 or Carson Attractions at 584~2000 * 4512 S. Peoria Ave. ¯ Tulsa, OK 74105-4563 Visit our web site at www.webtek.€omitulsaballet ~ SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 Community of Hope (Welcoming), Service - 6pro, 2545 S. Yale, 585-1800 Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation Service - 1 lain, 2545 S. Yale, 749-0595 (Welcoming) Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist Service - 1 lam, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314 Metropolitan Community Church United Service, 1 lain, 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715 House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 10:45am, 3210b So. Norwood Parish Church of St. Jerome (Evangdical Anglican Church in America) Mass - 1 lam, 205 W. King (east of N. Denver), Info: 582-3088 Unity Church of Christianity Services: 9:15 & 11:00 am, 3355 S. Jamestown, 749-8833 University of Tulsa Bisexuai/Lesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance 6:30 pm, Meets at the United Ministry Cir., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 ~ MONDAYS Mixed Volleyball, Helmerich Park, 71st & Riverside, 6pm, call Shawn at 243-5190. HIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required. Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm, 834-TEST (8378) 3501 E. Admiral (east of Harvard) HIV Rap Sessions at Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center 7:30pm, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays 2nd Mordeach mo. 6:30pro, Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard Women/Children & AIDS Committee, call for meeting date, noon, 585-5551 Council Oak Men’s Chorale, rehearsals - call for thnes, info: 748-3888. ~ TUESDAYS AIDS Coalition of Tulsa, call, for next meeting date. 1430 S. Boulder, 585-5551 Live And Let Live, Community of Hope U~fited Methodist, 7:30pm, 2545 S. Yale Multicultural AIDS Coalition, call for next meeting date. Urban League, 240 East Apache, 584-0001 PrimeTimers, mens group, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th Coming Out Support Group (TOHR/HOPE) Tuesdays, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E 38th, info: 743-4297 ~ WEDNESDAYS Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 House of the Holy Spirit Ministries,. Inc. Service - Vpm, 3210b So. Norwood Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group, more information, call 582-7225 TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632. Lambda A-A, 7 pm, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft. ~ THURSDAYS HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 E. Admiral Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN) Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325 Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS, Info: 834-4194 ~ FRIDAYS SafeHaven, Young Adults Social Group, l st Fri/each mo. 8pm, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th ~ SATURDAYS Narcotics Anonymous, I 1 pm, Community o!~ Hope, 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585;-1800 Lambda A-A, 6.pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd fl. ~ OTHER GROUPS T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 298-0827 Gal-A-Vanting, Womens Social & Cultural Group Call for info: Kathy at 322-6322, or Barb at 459-6825. OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Long rides & short rides from Zcigler Park. Long & short rides from Tulsa Gay Community Center. Write for info: POB 9165, Tulsa, OK 74157 Ifyour organization is not listed, please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615. reviewed by Barry Hensley : substanceabuse and, now, a sympathetic Tulsa City-County Library : wife with a decidedly un-Christian like Whathappens whena"radical Lesbian" ¯ penchant for screaming and yelling. The goes undercover to infiltrate the " author’s interaction with this member of organizations of the religious Focus on the Family is most right? She writes a book, of course! Fortunately, this isn’t "jnstaanotherChristianbashing book, as Minkowitz is able to see past her obvious disagreements with these groups and find some real, human common ground. Life is full ofgray area, as this book shows. Ferocious Romance is a humorous but serious lookinto religious fight organizations, such as Promise Keepers and Focus on the Family. Minkowitz dons a fake monstachc and lowers her voice to attend a Promise Keepers weekend that really opens her eyes. In addition to experiencing the fully expected propaganda of men itaking charge of the familyi and making women submissive, she al~o witnesses burly mencrying,hugging each other andexpressing words offorgiveness. She enjoys discussing this absurdity of the feminization of the Christian Men’s movement~ Her discussions with James Dobson’s Focus on the Family are of more concern. She has long conversations with a cute voung man named Bobby, who is an ~tthappy "ex-Gay." It becomes evident that Bobby’ s life is in a shambles due to the cumulative effects ofchildhood abuse, "The a.thor’s interaetion with this member of Focus on the Family is most ;nsi~htful. She also meets with several high level exeeutlves in the or~anlzatlon whose arguments t~t they are not homophone are astoundln~ in their h~oe~sy." insightful. Shealso meets with several high level executives in the organization whose arguments that they are not homophobicareastoundingin their hypocrisy. After these encounters with the religious right, the author inexplicably dives into an account ofthe International S/ M Leather Fetish Celebration that she attended inNew York City to-celebrate the twentyfifth anniversary of the Stonewall Riots. We really learn more than we ever wanted to know about her involvement in S/M. This topic surfaces occasionally throughout the book and her comparison of conservative Christians and S/M practitioners is humorously ¯¯ enlightening. As the 2000 elections approach, the : religions right will undoubtedly take center .. stage to promote their candidates and , agenda. It is in everyone’s best interest to : understand what these groups have in ¯ store for the country, should their ¯ candidates be elected. This book gives a : bit ofinsightinto what’ s going onin these ¯ organizations. Check out Ferocious Romance at your local branch library or ¯ call the Reader’s Services department at : Central library, at 596-7966. Members of each group were paired together at the tables and encouraged to gettoknow each other. Before the meeting, the groups agreed to disagree on whether Gays can be Christians and to focus on ways to deter violence against Gays and Christians, Falwell cited the September shootings at a Texas church and recent school shootings inwhichChristians were targeted. At a news conference following the meeting, Falwell andWhite apologized to each other for harsh words they have said about the other’s groups over the years. "I’ve been a preacher for 47 years, a preacher of the gospel.., but in the end homosexuality is. wrong," Falwell said. ’’It is my hope that evangelicals might build a bridge of friendship -to Gays and Lesbians as we have to alcoholics and unwed mothers." White, an author and minister with the Metropolitan Community Churches, was the ghost writerofFalwell’s autobiography before White acknowledged being Gay. Delegates from both groups thought the meeting was good. The same weekend, many of Mel White’s groups listened to Falwell’s Sunday sermon. Falwell, 66, began the serviceby welcoming White andhis guests and briefing his congregation on the antiviolence forum conducted at the church the day before. At that meeting, both sides apologized for harsh words said over the years and discussed ways to reduce vio~lence against homosexualS. ¯" ’His sermon was amazang, said David ¯ Chandler, 36, a Gay man from San : Francisco and one of the more than 4,000 : worshippers who jammed into Thomas ¯ Roads BaptistChurch. "Hesentamessage : to parents to love their children no matter ." what.... I admire and respect Falwell for ¯ taking that stand." In his sermon, Falwell ¯ stressed that he will hot change his belief ¯ that homosexuality is a sin. But he added, ¯ "That has nothing to do with the love : factor involved. We are to be lovers of all menand women."Falwell’ s sermon came ¯" from Proverbs 13, which offers advice on ¯ successful living in the eyes of God. He ¯ spoke on the importance of working hard, ¯ living with integrity and not focusing on ¯ material things. He also talked at length : about the importance of parents loving : their children unconditionally. ¯ "For him to invite these fags here and ¯ into his church is an abomination,"Phelps : said outside the church. "Now, Jerry ¯ Falwell is just as much a sinner as Mel ¯ White and both will bum in hell." : Theservice endedwiththe congregation, ." singing the hymn "Only Trust Him. ¯ Falwell interrupted the song to reiterate to : worshippers that what he or anyone else : thought of them did not matter, but what ¯ was important is their relationship with ¯ God. White said it was "a shame" that : protesters like Phelps brought hostility to ¯ aplace of worship. "What we have hereis ¯ a great moment for our country, Gays and ¯ Falwell worshipping together," White ¯ said. "It’s a small start, but it’s a start." The Gift of Pride In Honor of... Or In Memory of... Someone Special to You. For a small gift of $25.00, you can donate a beautiful Christmas poinsettia to a local AIDS hospice. Your gifts will adorn the stage at" "A Council Oak Christmas," November 19-20. Call Today for COMC Carolers at Your Holiday Party! To Order: Call COMC at (918) 748-3888 Medical Excellence And Compassionate Care Since 1926. ¯ ST. JOHN MEDICAL CENTER WJj Medical Excdlence ’ Compassionate Care Timothy W. Daniel Attorney at Law An Attorney who will fight for justice & equality for Gays & Lesbians Domestic Partnership Planning, Personal Injury, Criminal La w & Bankruptcy 1-800-742-9468 or 918-352-9504 128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma Weekend and evening appointments are available. RESTAURANT AT PHILBROOK TUES-SUN, I I-2 $13.95 ¯ Sunday, II to2 ¯ Reservations, 748-5367 TOHR Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights Home Holiday Tour Saturday, December 11,noon- five o’clock Several homes in historic Tulsa. Reception at the Center tofollow. More info. after Dec. 1st. 743-4297 by Mary Schepers, Do-It- Yourself-Dyke Hey, baby, it’ s coldoutside. Andbefore you start heating it up in front of the fireplace, take some precautions. Notjust theustml ones, ducklings! Thehouseneeds some love and attention, too. And by attending to a few simple details, not only will your house o’ love be snug, but safer, too. You know what a raving bitch your DIYD is about safety, but she does it out of a place of love. Which place, she demurs to answer.. The first order of business is to keep the winter winds and drafts outdoors where they belong. Inthe oftrepeated words of the Oracle, ’We don’t have a heating contract with the great outdoors,’ although you may feel that way when you get the first heating bill for the winter. And the side benefit is that if you can keep the house warm, you won’t have to bundle up, and neither will your schnookie, unless,ofcourse, youfred the layers of sweats and sweaters an erotic challenge. From thereon, you’re on your own! Try to take care of your outside heat sinks (places you lose heat) before the weather dips to 45 degrees during the day. Mostofthematerials you will useperform better when it’s warm - that’s a life philosophy worth adopting! Checkaround windows and doors for loose or cracked caulking and replace where needed. Around pipes or conduits that enter the house, use an expanding foam product like Good Stuff or better yet, Daptex, which can be tooled, painted and cleaned up with water, It costs a little more but is worth it. Use this also to seal any gaps between your foundation and the siding of your house. It’ s like mousse with attitude. Work it, girl[ If you’re really hard core, make a trip under the house and seM up around the pipes coming up into your house, and the same from the garage. This also discourages unwanted visits from mice, who use pipe and conduit holes like a superhighway to the supermarket. And darlings, there’s no way to make trapping mice attractive. Think about it. It is also a good idea to insulate behind switch and wall outlet plates. Special foam. cutouts can be bought at your local home repair store, so that all you have to do is unscrew the plate, fit the cutout in and replace the plate. It is amazing how much cold air leaks in that way, especially in older houses. Occasionally, thefitbetween the plate is too tight, but not often. The foam cutouts are cheap and it takes little time to do this. Before firing up the furnace for the first time, it is advisable to have a contractor come and give it a gogd cleaning and inspection - the older your unit, the more important this step is. Most heating and cooling contractors will do a combined winterandsummerservice forareasonable sum, resulting in increased efficiency and ¯ reduced chance of injury. Heater ¯ malfunctions can result in explosions or ¯ fires, and sweeties, we have worked so ¯¯ hard to make your house into a fabulous home.- It’s worth your peace of mind and personal safety. If you have a fireplace, 6all a licensed sweep to clean thechimneyandto inspect and repair the firebox and flue: Your DIYD prefers to do this in the spring, when scheduling is less hectic for the sweep, and then the fireplace is ready togo as soonas inspiration and a little cool weather hits. This should be an annual event for masonry fireplaces, and every two years if you have a metal flue. If you’re the intrepid sort who doesn’t mind scampering out on the roof like a rabid squirrel, get a good extension ladder and do some maintenance and cleaning on the roof..Be sure that the ladder has firm, steady footing and is not placed near any powerlines. Get a hose with a power nozzle or a blower and blast those gutters clean, especially at the downspouts. Clean any ; leaves, sticks or debris offthe valleys and ¯ gables of the roof, and look for any loose ¯ shingles. Use an appropriate kind of roof ¯ goo or caulking to repair, and use this also ¯ around any flueflashings thatmightbenefit ¯ from some extra sealant. This is a good ¯ time to evaluate if you will need to repair ¯ or replace your roof in the spring. Be : careful up there, and never crawl around ¯ on the roof without having someone at ¯ home in case you need help or get hurt. Make sure she or he is not glued to a ball ¯ game or otherwise out of contact. At a ¯ time like that, you deserve the extra ¯ attention, pookie! ~" This is a good time of year for a lube ¯ job, or perhaps several. No, we’re not back in front of the fireplace with Baby ¯ justyet-patience,my impetuous darlings ! ¯ Borrow Dorothy’ s oil can and put a drop on door hinges and garage door chain ¯ drives to keep things smoothly operating ¯ and silent in the winter, when the metal ¯ ¯ contracts and squeaks. You know your DIYD considers the aesthetics as well as ¯ the practical matters. If you have storm windows, give them ¯ a good cleaning to let in as much winter ¯ sunlight as possible, and check for any necessary repairs. Ifyoudon’ t haveenergy ¯ efficient windows,consider getting ~torms ¯ or even using the heat shrink film to ¯ provide some dead air spacq on your ¯ windows and to keep your house toastier. 0 : Now that the DIYD has planned your : social life for the next couple of weekends, ¯ you can get busy making your nest cozy ¯. and snuggly for the winter: And if you’re ¯ very lucky, perhaps you will get yourjust ¯ reward- and we’re not only talking about ." a lower bill! Why don’t you go get a ; couple pairs of silk boxer shorts,just to be ¯ prepared? Be hot, not frigid, this winter! ¯ Ciao, ducklings! "This is a good tlme of year for a lube job, or perhaps several. No, we’re not back in front of the fireplace with Baby just yet - patience, my impetuous darlings! Borrow Dorothy’s oll can and put a drop on door hinges and garage door ehaln drives to keep things smoothly operating and silent in the wlnter, when the metal contracts and squeaks. You know your DIYD eonslders " the aesthetles as well as the practleal matters." by Esther Rothblum, Ph.D. Coming out as a Lesbian is difficult enough, but is even more stressful when the woman is an immigrant and is struggling to come out in anew countryand using a new language. For several years now, Dr. Oliva Espin, a professor of women’s studies at SanDiego State University, has been studying the lives of immigrant and refugee Lesbians. The topic had to do with her own life experience as an., immigrant and with the imm.!granteli.ents she was seeing m her psychotherapy practice for over twenty years. "I saw that there were some experiences that .were common to immigrant women," Dr: Espin .told me. "A major theme I found most interestingwashow often the woman would be talking to me in Spanish~ for example, and then switch to English when she began talking about being a Lesbian. There seemed to be something about using a second language that helped distance Lesbians from whatever they had been told was bad in their i also think that women who have come outas Lesbians when they were still children, may have more disruptions about theirownidentity," Dr. Espin said. ’q’hey ask ’who am I?’ or ’What is wrong with me?’ For .them, coming out so young gets mixedup with other issues ofidentity. For girls who also fecl that they are not ’rexd Americans,’ or who as immigrants are different in color or in language or in cultural traditions - being Lesbian is one more thing that strains their relationship with their parents." Furthermore, the parents may feel that their daughter’s Lesbianism is something she has "caught from those Americans." When immigrant Lesbians come out as adults, they have a stronger sense of identity and coming outdoes not getmixed up with the turmoil of adolescence although it may get mixed up with the turmoil of migration if they are recent immigrants. Dr. Espin has been conducting research and interviewing immigrant women. She found two types of immigration experiences. Some women were Lesbian before the migration, or else where somewhatdissatisfied with what they were even if they had no language for this. ’~2oming to anew countrymadeitpossible for them to come out. This is true for women from all countries, not just those from traditional cultures. Being awayfrom the familiar environment gave them permission to come out; being I_~sbian Dr. Espln has been.., interviewing immigrant women... "Coming to a new country made it possible [or them to come out. This is true for women from all countries, not just those from traditional cultures. Being away from the familiar environment gave them permission to come out; being Lesbian was very freeing in this way. I’ve even spohen with Lesbians born in the U.S. who have told me that they had to move all the way across the country in order to come out." was very freeing in this way. I’ve even spoken with Lesbians born in the U.S. who have told me that they had to move all the way across the country in order to come out." The other group of women Dr. Espin interviewed was actively Lesbian in their home country, immigrated to the U.S., and found that the U.S. Lesbian culture was different and had to adjust their way of being to the new culture. That was sometimes very difficult. "Some women who were used to playing roles very actively," Dr. Espin continued, "if they were used to being ’the man,’, they couldn’t understand why their partner did not want to cook their meals, for example. Or, vice versa, women who lived lives that were ve~ closeted in their home countries, foundit terribly offensive when I would use the word ’Lesbian’ and were threatened by not having a cover-up." In general, Dr. Espin has found that immigrant communities focus very much on the "decency" and "purit.y" of the women in their community. "Because the communities are experiencing difficulty adjusting to the U.S., they want to prove that they are good people. It is the behavior of women that describes the family. So : when you have a Lesbian daughter, how ¯ are you going to explain that to yourself : andto your community? They may think : , that this is what happens to all women ¯ when they come to America." Dr. Espin has also found that Lesbian : daughters tend to be more educated than : their parents or their heterosexual sisters. ¯ As a result, the Lesbian daughters tend to : bemaking more money andin many cases : runmng the community centers and ¯ activities. "So coming out is also difficult : for the Lesbian immigrant in terms of the : community losing their mast in her. The community doesn’t have the language skills, the education, and the access to the dominant culture that she does." Dr. Espin has written about her experiences intwo recent books. Formore information, see Women Crossing Bbundaries: The Psychology of Immigration and the Transformation of Sexuality (Routledge, 1999) and Latina Realities: Essays on Healing Migration and Sexualities (Westview, 1997). Esther Rothblum is Professor of Psychology at the University of Vermont and Editor of the Journal of Lesbian Studies. She can be reached at Dewey Hall, Univ. of Vermont, Burlington, VT, email: esther.rothblum@uvm.edu. Red Rock Tulsa Free Confidential HIV Testing Walk-in Clinics Tuesday Testing, 5 -8 pm Pride Center, 1307 East 38th Wednesday Testing, 5-8 pm Red Rock, 1724 East 8th Daytime appointments available. Call for more information: 918-584-2325 Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist 11 am, Sunday 1314 North Greenwood 587-1314 We knowyou’re going to love this[ Restaurant & Cabaret 3 i 0 East First Street 918-599-9949 Massage Therapy Services Edgar O. Cruz, L.M.T. Pager: 918-889-5255 Voice Mail: 918-697-9282 Lic. #C4133 Want to get involved? Need to get tested for HIV? Need a Coming Out Support Group? Call 743-GAYS (4297) Tulsa Gay Community Services Center i307 E. 38th at Peoria, 2nd floor Country Club Barbering Custom Styling for Men & Women David Kauskey 3310 E. 51st, 747-0236 Tues.-Fri., 8-5:30, Sat. 8-5pm IGTA member Call 341.6866 International Toursformoreinformation. Red Rock Tulsa O’RYAN Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network Outreach Program Thurs. Nights ’ Meet Others in a Safe Enviroment Call for meeting times and place: 918-584-2325 AUTHENTIC FRESH 1TALIAN RAJNBOW CUSINE TROUT ofEureka Springs. Voted Number One in Arkansas! (501) 253-6807, Closed Wednesday 5 Center Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 TOM NEAL BUILDING & GARDEN DESIGN 583- 1248 eeze FRESH CLAMS VEI;IE STIR FRY COtaUILE ST. JAI;IUES MAHI-MAHI RACKOF LAMB CHOCOLATE SOUFFLE Compatibility reports for you and your friends or lovers. 59%0717 Gay Owned, Operated & Rainbow Proud Gay Mecca of the Ozarks Beautiful Eureka Springs, Arkansas at the time of the assault. A Circuit Court jury in northwestIreland deliberated about two hours before finding 20-year-old Ian Monaghan and 21-year-old Glen Mahon, both ofSligo, guilty of "recklessly causing serious harm" in the Jan. 31 attack on Robert Drake, at his apartment. The defendants were convicP,xlofIrishcharges equivalent to aggravated assault in the U.S. Barely conscious, Drake lay for more than 12 hours in a pool of blood before a friend, Ciaran Slevin, discovered him. A police officerwhorecordedDrake’s words as he lay motionless inhis blood-spattered kitchen with a severe head injury told the jury that he believed he was recording Drake’s "dying declaration." Thedefensecontended thatDrakemade acrudehomosexual pass atone ofthemen and that the other then struck Drake in the face to make him stop. Doctors had to open a hole in his windpipe to ease his breathing; he also experienced pneumonia, kidney failure and other complications. Drake returned to Philadelphia by medical transport in March to undergo five months of rehabilitation to learn to walk and speak again. Though he was released from the hospital two weeks ago, his speech and mobility remain seriously impaired. He uses a wheelchair to get around, and a letter board to assist in communicating. Drake was in the middle of a speechtherapy session at his Center City apartment when word of the verdict reached him. Through a friend, he said that he was pleased with the verdict, ’"out not surprised." Monaghan and Mahon are free on bail awaiting sentencing Jan. 10, when they could get up to 10 years in jail. "It speaks volumes that Robert, eight months after ¯ theincident, needs round-the-clock care," said Slevin, an Irish physician now living with Drake in philadelphia. "I hope the severity of the punishment meets the severity of the crime." Brattleboro Offers Partners Benefits BRATI’LEBORO, Vt. (AP) - Selectmen have voted to extend health benefits to same-sex domestic partners of town employees. TownAttorney Robert Fisher said the decision to extend the privileges to same-sex parmers, but not unmarried partners of the opposite sex, followed the trend of law in Vermont and other states. The University of Vermont extends benefits to same-sex couples, Fisher said. The city of Winooski is planning to as well after an employee filed a complaint with the Vermont Labor Relations Board. "Winooski hasn’t come out with a policy just yet," Fisher added. "They’re still researching insurance issues. But if they don’t follow the arbitrator’s decision, they’ll likely wind up back in court." He said Burlington, Vermont’s largest city, extends health benefits to all the domestic partners of city employees, whether the rdationship is same-sex or opposite sex. The town of Middlebury also offers benefits to same-sex couples, said Steve Jeffrey, the executive director of- the Vermont League of Cities and Towns. TheVermontSupremeCourtis deciding whether to legalize same-sex marriages in Vermont. If it does, the towns’ policies : will be irrelevant, Fisher said. The policy : passed tmanimously. The issue wasn’t ¯¯ controversial, Fisher said. "It’s one of these things where they’re wiseenough to ¯ realize that if there were a grievance with ¯ respect to this sort of an issue, that based : on the case law both around the country ¯ -and the Labor Relations Board here in ¯ Vermont, that they would be fighting an : uphill legal battle," Fisher said of the : select board. "I think they look at it as an ¯ opportunity to perhaps steer clear of ¯ possible legal pitfalls in the future." " Blue Cross-Blue Shidd of Vermont, : which supplies health insurance to most Vermont municipalities through the ¯ VermontLeagueofCities andTowns,has : offered domestic partner benefits to large ¯ groups for a few years now, said Leigh Tofferi, a company spokesman. Those benefits were available to same-sex and different-sex partners. Lesbian & Gay Seniors Sought : BOSTON (AP) - Targeting an older : generation open about its sexuality and ¯ thinking about its golden years, some developer~ are looking to build Gay- " friendly retirement communities. : "We want to create something that ¯ mirrors the life they’re living now," said ¯ BoSton real estate agent John Goode, part ¯ of9gr°up planning .an urban homosexual ¯ reUrement commumty in Boston. ~ In generations past, societal pressures ¯ forced many Gays and Lesbians to keep ¯ their sexual orientations under wraps. : Today,developers think those who helped ¯ pave the wayfor vibrantGay communities ¯ will want to continue living in Gay ¯ communities after retirement. ¯ "In the mainstream aging community, there is the assumption that everyone is ¯ straight," said Terry Kaelber, executive ¯ director of the New York-based Seniors Active in a Gay Environment. ’’We have : a place that does not assume that. In fact, ¯ it assumes that old people can be attracted : to old people of the same gender." ¯ Kaelber’s group is working with a real estate development company to locate a ¯ site and investors for a 100-unit, mixed- : income assisted living facility. Current options for Gay- and Lesbian-themed ¯ retirement housing consist primarily of a ¯ handful of mobile home parks and small ¯ resorts in Florida and Arizona. Goode’s group of seven partners wants ¯ to build a 75- to 100-unit retirement community somewhere in Boston. The project, called Stonewall Communities, ¯ is named after aGay bar inNew York City ¯ where a 1969 police raid sparked what many say is the begimfing of the modem ¯ Gay civil rights movement. ¯ Other entrepreneurs across the country ¯ also have begun thinking about how the ¯ Gay and Lesbian baby boomers pushing ¯ into their 50s will want to spend their ¯ retirement years. "I’m looking for the ¯ active retirement market," said Peter Lundberg of San Francisco, who is trying to round up capital to build a Gay ¯ retirement community in California. ¯ Gay retirement housing options will : likelyincreasedramaticallyinthecoming ¯ years, said Laura Connolly, who chairs ¯ theLesbianandGayAgingIssues Network ¯ for the San Francisco-based American ¯ Society on Aging. "I think it will grow ¯ over the years," slie said. "They will be in ¯ a variety ofconfigurations, from the more : affordable trailer park options on upto the ¯ more upscale and expensive models." How did the story develop? PB: Many years ago whilereading "Son of the Morning Start’ I was struck by what we all may have lost by the greed and ego of relatively few men. I wasn’t so much taken by Native history as I was the belief system behind the firstpeople of.this land. JC: One of the things that struck me while viewing the show was that this was much more than a show, this was a ritual, what theatre started out as. And ritual that worked successfully to bridge past andpresent. PB: I alsoknew thatmostpeople (myself included) thought of Indian history asjust that.., history, museum pieces etc. So it was important to do a couple of things. Bring the culture into the present and future tense. And incorporate a mythical story about aman"sjourney tofindhimself. By understanding his past - better understanding his role in this life. I was hoping to bridge worlds for people on both sides. Wemight be able to accept, as _ opposed to feel guilty or angry. And if we can get to acceptance, we can progress to learning. JC: I like that philosophy PB: A hundred years ago people sang the Ghost Dance songs in the hopes that the world would return to the way it once was. Now, the choir in some of the Spirit songs are singing those very same words in hopes that the world can become, what it could be. JC: What a lovely vtsion. PB: Pretty lofty goals., but hey, somebody’s got to try. JC: !’d say, from what l’ve seen and heard, you’ve succeeded admirably. Before I wear out my welcome, one last question: What inspired you to utilize Native American music in 3,our works ? PB: To me, almost all Native tribes on may land have the true connection and understanding of that land. Here, not only can we learn things about how we fit into the fabric of the physical world through Native American culture. But we can also learn a thing or two about the spiritual world. PB: I’m really glad that you hear the music staying true to the ancient as well as the modem. The show (and the music) can’t work any other way. It’s where the two worlds combine that the magic happens. JC: That is so true. in more ways than one. It’s a dzfficult balance, and rarely have I heard it done so well. PB: If you liked the video, I’m sure you’ll love the live version! JC: Having seen the video and the impact it had on people, 1 can barely begin to imagine the effect ofseeing it live. I can’t wait. Thank you, Mr. Buffett. © 1999J. Christjohn, all fights reserved A unique opportunity to view and purchase art works and hand crafts from local women artists occurs Nov. 5 - 6. Hosted by local artists Kathleen Pendergrass andMary Schepers, the show and sale will also highlight works by Susan Norris, Robin Dunn, Donna Richardson, Cara Liggett, Nicolasa Kuster, Gayla Norman and others. "We want to showcase the incredible talent that we have in the Tulsa area," Schepers said. "There ’are a lot of very talented artisans here who are not represented in galleries or who are just starting their careers. We’re having the show at my house and studio to keep the whole setting fun and relaxed, as well as making these exciting works accessible to a broad audience. ’~lt’s a good time to consider buying a special gift for the significant people in ~our life, or for adding an original piece of art to your own home, or even for buying something practical likehath salts, candles, display cases or smudges. Prices are reasonable, especially compared to the premiums paid for works shown in galleries or higher priced venues such as Eureka Springs. We’ll have clayworks and sculptures, paintings, etchings, and many other fun items." The preview for the show is Friday, Nov. 5 from 7:00 pm to 9:00 pm. The show and sale continues Saturday Nov. 6 . from 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 pro. The address is2727E. 56thSt. (51sttoColumbiaAve, South on Columbia to 56th St) in Tulsa. For details or directions, please call Mary at 743-6740. The Kibbutz Contemporary Dance Company, an Israeli arts group will present ....Aide Memoire"," a full-length contemporary dance by renowned choreographer and KCDC Artistic Director Rami Be’er at the at Tulsa Performing Arts Center’ s Chapman Music Hall on November 16 at 8 pm. Tickets are $15, $22, and $25 with discoants for groups of 10 ormore and student discounts at the door (call (918) 596-711 lot order online: www.tulsapac.com). Choreographer Rami Be’er states that ....Aide Memoire.... is not about the Holocaust nor does it describe the Holocaust; it deals neither with documentation nor a historical account. Rather, "Aide Memoire" introduces the maaner in which the remembrance of the Holocaust can be approfiched and expressed in an inspired, artistic medimn. The subject of Holocaust remembrance is relevant to present-day life and reality as it lurks in the background of mundane existence, penetrates deep subconsciousness, and dwells forever in personal and collective memories. "’Aide Memoire" presents the audience with a sequence of scenes moving about the stage just like a cinematic flashback. Theproduction conveys afleeting glimpse of images which.the audience must face in a lfighly personal manner. The audience has ne alternative but to use its senses to impart meaning to the images. "Aide Memoire" has no central narrative, nor do two opposing sides face each other. Cruel stormtroopers are absent, yet there exists a reminder of the struggle by those who were there and experienced those atrocities firsthand. Within this conflict, we observe their efforts to continue the fabric of human relationships, whether as : individuals, couples or xn groups, and to express the fundamental right of every ¯ person to continue to dream. Be’er joined Kibbutz Contemporary : Dance Company in 1981 as a dancer and ¯ choreographer. His works have won ¯ several international awards and have ~-become the trademark of KCDC’s : repertoire. He became the company’s Artistic Director in 1996. ¯ The Kibbutz Contemporary Dance : Company was founded in 1970 by _" Holocaust survivor Yehudit Arnon. : Although based in Kibbutz Ga’aton near ¯ the Lebanese border, see Dance, p. 15 use code 393 ~eqaDhone does noI presereen sal[ers & assumes rio liability for personal meetings. 24hr Customer Service. 18+ only. © 1999 PC Sprint PCS" The Glear Alternative to Cellular Serint PC$" Select Retailer ;9935 :25.oo $74.95 New Sprint PCS Phone Less instore rebate " Net cost Buy any Sprint PCS Phone and get S25 off!* Everyone is approved! :~,.o~,,,,,: ,~.,,,~.;.,.~,.:,oc,.,,,¢., All Sprint PCS service plans include: ¯ Free Voicemail ¯ Free Caller ID phonesistartingat. ¯ Free. Call Waiting¯ Free 3 way calling ................ ¯ No activation, fee o No contract required ¯ 100% Sprint PCS Nationwide Network. Tulsa Locations: 2001 S. Garnett, 437-2444 3733 S. Memorial, 6600344 1216 S. Harvard, 587-1778 Sapuipa Location: 109 N. 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Slowly, leaders say, more attention is being focused on the issue. Earlier this month, Black churches in Atlantagathered for the first National Black Church HIV/ AIDS Institute. Thegathering was an effort to help pastors learn how to deal with the disease. Last Thursday, faith leaders, policy makers, commumty activists and AIDS researchers met in Atlanta to discuss combating AIDS among Blacks. On the same day, the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People, announced a series of educational films aimed at raising HIV awareness. The CDC has also awarded $39 million in federal funds to 100 national, state and local organizations to help prevent HIV infections in minority communities. "We must mount prevention and treatment strategies that deal with people where they are now, not where we want them to be or where we imagine them to be," said Phill Wilson, director of the AIDS Social Policy Archive. Nonetheless, the statistics continue to upset AIDS activist Denise Stokes, who has been HIV-positive fo~ 17 years. "One day, this is ultimately where I’m going to end up," she said pointing to the quilt. "I’m going to be a panel on some wall in some library. "I just hope the library isn’t full of people with AIDS." A lot of straight folk are going to go into this thinking it’s aboutbeating otherpeople up, and come out thinking about a lot of things. Some of you, due to the timing of the paper will have seen it - don’t ruin the ending for those that haven’t. And if you haven’t seen it because you don’t think it"s your kind of movie, go see it. You’ll be surprised. Brad Pitt’s bod is well worth seeing. Amd since I work in a football sized building filled with cubicles, I could relate well to Ed Norton’s plight in the beginning of the film- living life to support things he’s bought, working in a mindless dronin.gnumbness of cubicality. Anyway, go see It. Oh yeah, Helena Bonham Carter turns in a magnificent performance as well. I kept wondering why her character was sleeping with guys, though. In the interest of a public service announcement, I will pass this along: Warrior Way Martial Arts is offering a 3 hour class on selfdefense againstpunches, kicks, and grab attacks; knife and gun attacks; and club attacks. This takes place on Saturday, November 13 from 12 - 3 PM at Warrior Way martial Arts, 2717 S. Memorial. The cost is $25 in advance; $35 after Nov. 6. Call to register at 664- 9100. These guys are serious and know their stuff, and with the violence against Gay folk on the rise, I think everyone should make an investment in something like this. Knowledge is power, and in this case could mean the difference between life and death. Literally. Learn, and practice what you learn, and stay safe. And my final words for this column: life is notabout surviving orjobs orl’mding love, although it’s nice if it happens. It’s about facing fears and making dreams come true, struggling against yourselfand others to find your strength and make things happen. Being ready, and in the right place and time for opportunity to strike is important. Butifyou’re notready, or are afraid, it will pass youby before you know it, and that’s when regret sets in, which leads to bitterness. So try all the things you can, and do all the things you wanted to do - and it’s never too late. - James Christjohn its members come from settlements all over Israel. The dancers rehearse five days a week at Ga’aton Studio, but on weekends return home to work on their various kibbutzim. Not only is KCDCone of Israel’s foremost companies, it has also earned an international reputation of renown and is invited to perform at numerous festivals worldwide. Kibbutz Contemporary Dance is copresented by the Oklahoma Israel Exchange. Sponsors for this event include the Oklahoma Arts Council, Heartland Arts Fund. 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Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Friends RallyAround Accused Musician District Attorney Suspected of Bias by Tom Neal, editor &publisher Around Tulsa’ s Gay community, the reaction is one of dismay and disbelief at the allegations of indecent exposure made against musician and chorale leader, Rick Fortner. According to a Dec. 3rd Tulsa Worm story, a 16 year old man has accused Former of masturbating in front of him in a sauna of All-American Fitness Center in Broken Arrow. A spokesperson for the Broken Arrow p01icenoted that themanand Former were the only ones in the sauna. Friends and acquaintances notethat F,grmermaintains his innocence, and have stated their suplJort for Former. Mitchell Savage, spokesperson for the Council Oak Mens Chorale (COMC) for which Former is music director, said that the board of directors of the organization has voted to express its support for Former and their belief that his innocence will be established. - TheCOMCboardposition was endorsedby the group’ s general membership also. Savage added that he has been acquainted for 15 years see Fortner, p. 10 Anti-Gay Harassment Alleged in Public Schools Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations V rmont Marriage Victory SOUTH BURLINGTON, Vt. (AP) - By the time Nina Beck and " previously said he would support Gay mamage, ¯ Stacy Jolles got the news, it seemed like everyone already knew: ¯¯ The Vermont Supreme Court had issued its long-awaited ruling on Gay marriage. They had won. ¯ The court ruled unanimously that Gay and Lesbian couples in ¯ Vermont should enjoy all benefits and privileges afforded to ¯ heterosexual couples who can legally marry. It is the first court : in the nation to make such a sweeping ruling on the question. ’ But the justices split on whether it should amount to marriage. ¯ Onejustice splitfrom themajority’ s view that the state Legislature ¯ should decide whether Gays and’Lesbians should actually be ¯ allbwed to marry or shouldbe given domesticpartnership benefits ¯ equivalent to heterosexual marriage. The split was of no immediate concern to Beck and Jolles and ¯ the other two couples who sued in 1997 when their town clerks denied them marriage licenses. "It’s just fantastic this decision ¯" could come following his birth," Beck said as Jolles stood ¯ alongside her holding their month-old son Seth. The issue now will be the subject of debate before the : Legislature, which convenes on Janl 4. "I think the court has ¯ broken all barriers by dearly riding that we have a class of ¯ individuals in Vermont who are being denied their rights and I thinkit is the Legislature’ s responsibility to correct that injustice ," ¯ said Peter Shumlin, Senate president pro tern. ¯ But the question will be how. Should Vermont statutes be ¯ amended to permit two men or two women to marry? Should a ¯ domestic partners registry be established for Gay couples to ¯ record their relationships and therefore qualify for the benefits ¯ now accorded heterosexual mamed couples? ¯ "I think it’ s going to take a couple ofweeks, anyway, forpeople ¯ tounderstand what this means," said Rep. Thomas Little, chairman ¯ of the House Judiciary Committee. "Everyone wants to have a : virtually immediate informed reaction to it, but I think it takes ¯ longer than.that." : Gov. Howard Dean said same-sex marriage "makes me ¯ uncomfortable, the same as anybody else." He predicted the ¯ Legislature would comply with the court decision by enacting a ¯ domestic partners law rather than making marriage legal for : same-sex couples. House Speaker~Michael Obuchowski, who ¯ Evergreen Awards Recognize i Beal, Campbell, and Others TULSA -Allegations of anti-Gay harassment have risen at two Tulsa high schools. On two campuses, teachers contend that they and some students have been singled out for inappropriate attention. While Tulsa Public Schools (TPS) does have a nondiscrimination policywhich TPS’s attorney interprets as protecting Gay teachers, staff and students from discrimination, that policy does not explicitly ban discrimination based on sexual orientation. It "The Board is committed-to-the concept of nondiscrimination in relation to race, religion, sex, age national origin, handicap and other human differences. This policy will prevail in al matter concermng staff, students and the public." However, in the interests of protecting these teachers from possible further harassment, their names are being withheld. One teacher, who is active in a local Gay mens’ singing group, was called into his principal’ s oftrme and was shown a copy of the group’ s concert program. His participation in the group was highlighted with a - comment, -*’is -this~ legal .w’ Another teacherwhohelps, With a support group for Gay kids. had a self-identified "Christian" fundamentalist teack-zr attending support group meetings andthe teacher whodoes notidentify as Gay but as Gay-friendly felt there was an intent to identify her as Gay and therefore to threaten her job. Andatonecampus;twoyoungwomenwere suspended for a public display of affectkm. A Gay teacher and other students whb were familiar with the incident claim that the two women were not behaving with any less discretion than heterosexual students use in the same circumstances, They do claim that the administration response w~:much more harsh than for heterosexuals. However,~ TPS spokesperson, Tiffany. Bruton responded to TFN inquiries, saying that the students’ conduct was well beyond socially acceptable behavior even for heterosexuals. The students involved did not respond to TFN requests for an interview. TULSA - The 1999 Evergreen Awards recognized the work of a number of Tulsans involved in HIV/AIDS issues. Prominent among these were Dr. Jeffrey Beal and his parmer Ted Campbell for their years of service as Tulsa’s principal physician treating HIV and AIDS related illness and for Campbell’s mental health practice around those issues. The lunch ceremony was held at the offices of the Community Service Council (CSC) on Dec. 7th, and opened with a remarks Ted Campbell & Dr. Jeffrey Beal by ~chael Conley of Tulsa CARF~, Melanie Speetor of Tulsa ’County Health Dept. and John Hawk Cocke of Indian Health Services. Presenters and the recipients of the awards included many of Tulsa’ s most prominent activist/workers around HIV/AIDS care and prevention. Sharon Thoele, exeentive director of Tulsa CARES, Erie Ramirez of Planned Parenthood, Kathy Bird of RegionalAIDS Interfaith Network, Tulsa officewere afew of the presenters andrecipients included videographerAllisonCosslett, Wendy Weisberg, Audra Sommers for her fundraising work, Kay Rollins for NAMES PROJEC~ leadership, and Jeremy Simmons for prevention education. The Evergreen Awards are presented by the Tulsa AIDS Coalition which was introduced at this event by Tim Gillean and represented by CSC staffer, Janice Nicklas. : said politics might prevent that. "What I’m hearing ¯ from my colleagues is that they’re saying that ¯ domestic partnership is amorepolitically attainable situation and I think I’d have to agree with that ¯ analysis,"saidObuchowski,aDemocratlikeDean. ¯ Thoughthey were ecstatic, the three couples who sued will hold off on their celebrations until they ¯ get an opportunity actually to say their vows in a ¯ wedding ceremony. "I think the acttml celebration ¯ will be when we get married," said Stan Baker, standing withhis armaround partner Peter Harrigan. Winnie Stachelberg, Political Director with the ¯ Human Rights Campaign, one national Gay ¯ organization noted,"we are thrilled that the Vermont ¯ Supreme Court had the wisdom and courage to hand down this historic, landmark decision. There ¯ has never been a logical or justifiable reason to exclude same-sex couples from marrying, and ¯ decision validates the unfairness of exclusion. This ¯ is a tremendous victory forGay and Lesbian couples ¯ in Vermont who are now one-step closer to being ¯ considered equal in the eyes of the law." ¯ Paula Ettelbrick, attorney and Family Policy Director at the National Gay and Lesbian Task ¯: Force Policy Institute said, "the court’s decision is unique in that it commands that the state give samesex couples every benefit and protection that : currently provides to married couples." ¯ "However, bystopping short offully recognizing : the freedom to marry, the court has opened the door ¯ to complete equality but has not constitutionally ¯ guaranteed it. Now the batde progresses to the : Vermont Legislature," Ettelbrick continued. "We ¯ have the opportunity as a community to convince lawmakers to provide the full badge of citizenship ¯ by recognizing the freedom to marry." ¯ Ettelbrick noted that Vermont is a logical state to ¯ become the first see Vermont, p. 12 New Leather Contest TULSA- Ric Poston, Oklahoma Mr Leather 1999 and his partner James Murray _Mr Tulsa Leather 1997 have announced they are producing a new leather contest, Mr. Sooner State Leather. The contest will be a preliminary event to the StateTitle of "Oklahoma Mr Leather" and is open to any Oklahoma resident. This first event will be held in Oklahoma City on the weekend of April 21 - 23, 2000 and any profits from the contest will benefit the Leather Archives and Museum in Chicago.. The event will provide education and information about the community, "demonstrations," opportunities for brotherhood, a brunchonSunday,andthe contestitselfon Saturday night April 22, 2000. Judges for the contest .will be Dave Rhodes, owner and editor of The Leather Journal, Terrell Brown, Oklahoma Mr Leather 2000, Oklahoma Drummer2000 (to be announcedin February 2000), and Michael Vrooman, the current International Miss Gay Rodeo and a former International Mr ~sayRodeo,MarkMalonInternational Mr. Leather, tRunnerUp-t997;and alternatejudge, Ed Smith who is an avid supportor of local and nadonal Leather and Drummer events. The contest will be held at the Habana Inn, Oklahoma’s all Gay hotel and bar complex. For reservations (be sure to mention the contest for special rates), contact the Habana Inn, 2200 Northwest39thExpressway, OklahomaCity,73112 1-800-988-2221, www.habanainn.com. For any furtherinformation about the contest, applications, and weekend packages contact: ms.oonerstatelthr@aol.com. Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Chasers, 4812 E. 33 *CW’s, 1737 S. Memorial *Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. 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Not all are Gay-owned butall are Gay-friendly. 501-253-7734 ," 501-253-7457 ¯ 501-253-6807 ¯ 501-253-5445 " 501-253-9337 " 501-253-2776 " 501-253-5332 ¯ 501-624-6646 " 501-253-6001 -’. 501-253-4074 " 417-623-4696 " It’s Elementary + more... December 22, 1999 On the heels of a tremendously successful campaign togetIt "sElementary aired on public television, we are thrilled~ to announce our new media series for kids. We are writing to you today to tell you a little about the project and to ask for yo~help: .W.e.hopeyo.u’!l eonside.rm.~king a year-end contribution toward its completion and distribution. We’ve been asked repeatedly by It’s Elementaryfans, "When are you going to make sombthing we can show to kids?"" .Finally wehave an answer -- THAT’S A. FAMILY! -- a video for elementary school children about family diversity. To learn more about THAT’S A FAMILY! and to make a donation to ensure its successful completion, please read the rest of this email, or go to: http:.//www.womedia.org/support.html on the internet. THAT’S A FAMILY! is the first video in our. long-awaited media series for children, "Respect for All." THAT’S A FAMILY! introduces children to different kinds of families, while the second and third videos~in the series center on dispelling Gay and Lesbian stereotypes and confronting anti-Gay name-calling. In THAT’S.A FAMILY! you’ll meet children’ who were adopted; are multiracial; haveparents whoare divorced; are being raised by step-parents, single morns or dads, or by grandparents and guardians. There also are children with Gay dads or Lesbian morns, and their stories are intertwined with those of the other families. THAT’S A FAMILY! is scheduled for release in the spring of 2000. It has the potential to reach hundreds of thousands of children, giving elementary schools a truly inclusive, respectful teaching tool that children will love to watch. Wehave no doubt that the long-term impact of this project will be tremendous. Giving elementary school students the opportunity to hear the words "Gay" and "Lesbian" described in a matter-of-fact way by their peers, and experience Gay and Lesbian families inthe contextofsuchanincredibly diverse group of other families, could have a profound effect on their values and behavior for the rest of their lives. To kick off this ambitious media series for children, we need your help. We need to raise additional funds to finishTHAT’S A FAMILY! this winter and to launch its distribution. Our work is not commissioned- instead we independently produceand distribute ourmediaprojects. see It’s... p. 14 Announcements Policy Tulsa Family Newswitl provide-space for holy union ceremony, marriage ceremony, birth, adoption and death announcements onaspace availablebasis. Photos are welcome, though we cannot promise placement or return them, so please send copies to Tulsa Family News, POB 4140, Tulsa 74159. Letters Policy Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on issues which we’ve covered or on issues you think need to be considered. You may request that your name be withheld but letters must be signed & have phonenumbers, or behand delivered. 200 word letters are preferred. Letters to other publications will be re-printed as is appropriate. by Tom Neal, editor & publisher January is National Volunteer BloodDonor Month and most newspapers in the city have received press releases exhorting Tulsans to donate blood. According to Tulsa’s chapter of the American Red Cross’ communications manager, Maggie Jewell, "the winter time is a crucial time for blood donations and that many new donors are needed to help meet patient needs in local hospitals...many donors who regularly give find that they cannot during the winter months because of a cold or the flu.., the nation’ sblood supply... [is] just a few hours aheadofdemand. Asit stands today, ifeveryone stopped donating blood, our nation’s supply would disappear within only two days..." So you’d think that the Red Cross would welcome all donors. In the Red Cross" press releases, they state, "to donate, one must be 17 years or older, weigh at least 110 pounds, and be feeling wall the day of the donation..." What they don’t say is that ffyou are Gay, you don’ t lie about it, and you give blood, they throw your blood away - even though ALL blood is tested for HIV antibodies anyway! Anyone who’s had sex with someone of the samegender since,ifmemory serves me, 1984, is banned. To reframe a 19th century prejudice: "Irish need not apply" becomes "Faggots need not apply." The local Red Cross shrugs off responsibility, saying it’s a national policy. The national Red Cross places the blame on the Federal Drug Administration (FDA). They all know that thisis bad science. " Once one might have presumed-a tight correlation between sexual orientation/behavior and HIV status. Today, those exposed to the HIV virus can just as easily be heterosexual. Infact, one of the parts ofour population whichhas disproportionately highinfectionrates is young Mrican-Americans. Does anyone think we’d see the Red Cross or FDA saying, "Young Blacks need not apply"? The reality is that this discrimination is socially wrong as well as bad public health policy. TulsaArea Red Cross can’ t:change it by itsdf but its Board of Directors can go on record to call for a change in the policy (it wouldn’t hurt if they added a non-discrimination pohcy too). And it can stop trying to sweep this prejudice under the rug. Until it and the FDA change their policies, its press releases should read, "to donate, one must be 17 years or older, weigh at least 110 pounds, and be feeling well the day of the donation.., andnot be aGay or Bisexual man." by Tom Neal, editor/publisher Early on the morning of Dec. 3rd, like many others, I was shocked to see the face of a friend, someone whom. I respectandlike, inTheWorld accused ofa vcry unlikely act. Reading the article and knowing the man, my first reaction was to wonder that the charges had been brought at all. It is a classic, "he said, she said" recast as "the straight ’boy’ said, the Gay man said." According to comments made to the Tulsa World by Broken Arrow police, the only persons present at the allegedactwere RickFortner and themanwhohas accused him of lewd behavior (I say man who accused because at 16 if he were a murderer, he’d be considered an adult and 16maynotbevery wise, but it’s hardly a child in this day and age). I then wondered at possible motivations for his accuser. Was this the sick behavior of a young man struggling with his own homosexuality andprojecting his self-hatred onto another target? Or is he yet another young American man warped into mindless hatred Of men who love other men by a society whose need for some hated "other’ dates back to before the Republic was founded (let me see: we Americans havehated Indians in the East, we’ ve hated Blacks, we’ve hated Jews, we’ve hated Germans, we especially hated the Irish, we’ve hated Catholics, and Poles, and again Indians in the West, and Asians: Chinese, Japanese, Fast Indians, we’ve hated Commumsts, Socialists, Unionists, women who dared to vote -or merely not be endless baby-factories, hell, we’ ve even hated some Republicans - I personally have thought that Ronnie Reagan was one of the most profoundly and blandly evil men of our time but I digress). Former says he is innocent and I believe him as do his friends and colleagues at his work, All Souls Unitarian ChurchandinCouncil Oaks Mens Chorale whichFortner founded and leads, and I hear his family, thank God. But even when his innocence is proven, and these charges likely are shown to be shameless political opportunism by Tulsa County District Attorney Tim Harris, Fortuer remains victimized by the accusation. His reputation has been called into question and defending " Fortner says he is innocent and I believe him... But even when his innocence is proven, and these charges likely are shown to be shameless politlea! opportunism by Tulsa County District Attorney Tim Harris, Fortner remains victimized by the accusation...." himself can 0nly be costly even if the charges are without merit. So why is this haptmning? Political and other observers have known for some dme that Tulsa District Attorney Tim Harris is closely associated with right wing political extremists who call themselves "Christian." Tulsa’s DA’s earlier demonstrated their willingness to abuse the powers of the office to promote a ultra rightwing agenda when they failed to prosecute seriously the brutal hate assault against Tony Orr and Tim Beauchamp until after prim media had written about the DA’s bias, failing even to get them victim’s compensation for their medical injuries as the DA’s office does for other crime victims. Local attorney and TOHRboard member Kerry Lewis suggests that Harris is shamelessly using this accusation to appeal to the part ofhis electoratewho are rabidly prejudiced, to appear as though Hams is "fighting crime" andjust incidentally destroying Rick Fortner’s lifein the process. We can likely anticipate that much of our District Attorney’ s strategy, if they have the nerve to push such a seemingly meritless case so far, is going to be to engage in blatant legal "Gay-bashing." It will be suggested that, ipso facto, Rick’s a"homo" and therefore capable of any evil, and that any accusation by a red-blooded, all- American boy is, of course, God’s own Truth! But what’s really on trial here, is American justice itself. As has played out generation after generation, with minority after minority, the reality has been that our justice, at its best- is uneven, and more often than not is wildly unfair, favoring wealth, whiteness and heteromaleness. And all the problem is not in the DA’s office. Some Tulsa police, year after year, engage in varieties of anti- Gay bias, including breaking the very law, with no restriction nor anti-bias training from Chief Palmer nor the elected official to whom he answers, Mayor Savage. But right now, what matter is that Rick Former is treated fairly. I don’ tknow if he’ s got alegal defense fund set up but he may need it. I’d suggest that any help readers might give, be sent to the Rev. Suzanne Meyers at All Souls Unitarian Church. They’re in the book. by Dave Fleischer National Gay & Lesbian Task Force Ask voters a question - then listen to their answers - and you get what Lily Tomlin calls a "goosebump experience." Why the adrenaline rush? Because you challenge not only your cherished ideas about the voters, but also what you believe about yourself. I was reminded of this while campaigning in Carol City, an African-American, working-class Miami neighborhood. I was with a team of volunteers from SAVE Dade, the group preparing to defend their county Human Rights Ordinance. Scene: short, bald, Jewish me at.the door, talking to a voter: "The Ordinance protects all of us from discrimination, whether we’~re aman or woman, black or white, Gay or non-Gay. The newest part of the law is the part that includes Gay people. Some people want to take the law .apart and remove Gay people from it. But we think that s wrong-wethink everyone ought to be treated with dignity and respect. What do you think?" ,,W,_ith barely a pause, the voter began "My church says. ¯. Oy ray. I figured I knew where we were headed, and it wasn’t the promised land. "My church says--Jesus loves everybody. Diseriminadon is always wrong." She and I had a brief, affirming discussion. I went to door #2, said my piece, and the voter immediately began,"My church says..." I listened. "My church says homosexuality is a sin. It’s wrong. Read your Bible, and you’ll see the Lord has a plan for a better life for you." As he amplified his point of view, I was : trying to decide how quickly to exit. When he stopped : talking, we paused and looked at each other. Then I said, "Well, I’m Gay. I likemylife, and if IYm doing a goodjob ¯ at myjob, do you think my boss should be able to fire me ¯ just because I’m Gay?" ¯¯ The voter looked astonished: "Wall of course, no one should fire you for that." That started a back-and-forth ¯ that surprised both of us. Wedisagreed about why people are Gay. We agreed that discrimination against G.ays is ¯ unacceptable. After a fewminutes, as hewas prepanng to ¯ read tomefrom the Bible, I called ahalt, thanked him, and ¯ moved to the next door. : What I learned about myself was how hard itis to ask : a question and hear the answer. Both times, it only took : three words before I thought I knew what was coming. ¯ Both times, I was Wrong but I realized why asking ~¯ questions is uncomfortable.Whenwe ask a question, and really wait to hear the answer, we are not Controlling the ¯ situation. We are sharing control with the other person. American culture teaches us all to like control. To ¯ celebrate our individuality - to believe that one pe.rson ¯ can make a difference - to have it our way--is as ¯ American as a.microwaved Mcwhopper. But growing up Gay raises the stakes. Many of us realize early on that we’ re different, subject to ridicule or ¯ hurt. So we crave control as a way to protect ourselves, ¯ and to survive. We pump up our talent for isolated ¯ individual achievement, sometimes neglecting team- " building and our curiosity about others. : Our life becomes a search for refuge. To protect ¯ ourselves, we build communities and organizations ¯ designed to shelter us. Butwe thenmiss genuine, reciprocal ¯ connectionwithotherpeople, especially thosewho aren’ t just like us. Werarely ask them what they think ofus. We ¯ assume we know. ¯ When we don’ t ask real questions - like "What do you think?"- we rely on Our past experience. No wonder that ¯ we hold onto ahigh level of paranoia. We can’ t forget the ¯ feelings we knew when we were young. We can’t miss ¯ the hostility expressed by right-wing extremists now. that ¯ we are older. ¯ But, guess what? Neither has much to do with where ¯ most Americans stand today. When we lack confidence ¯ in other people, it is no wonderwe struggle in campaigns. ¯ Ourlifeis a niche, but in elections we need50% + 1 of the ¯ participating voters on our side. ¯ It is understandably scary to put aside our past hurts to test the possibilities in the present. It’s easier to avoid person-to-person campaigning; it’s tempting instead to ¯ rely on every other possible form of communication, all of which have at least some value. But what price do we [ pay for our lack of curiosity, our unwillingness to risk : authentic exchange? Are we, without meaning to, buying ¯ intothelargerculture’stoleranceofstereotypicalthinking? ~ Who is most imperiled when it’ s a deviant act to ask a ¯ question - or to question a stereotype? Let’s rescue ¯ ourselves. Goosebumps are ours, for the asking. Dave Fleischer is a seniorfellow at the Policy Institute ofthe National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. Nationwide Insurance : Allen said. Allen said much of the group’s time is Adds Partners’ Benefits:¯ teachers can ha,,v.e a tough time discussing even with COLUMBUS, Ohio (AP) - Nationwide Insurance those~who don t have a disability. Company has just begun to offer employees a new : The Arc, formerly known as th.e .Associatio~ benefits package that will recognize same-sex : Retarded Citizens, adopt,e~,.. a posmon paper mr d0mestic partners. The plan also .will cover relatives " " year~ ago affirmin_g that. indiv]~du,~.s with m~enn~ _ including extended family members~uch as : retardationarepe°plew~tlasexualIeel.mgs’~nhee~n~} ’grandparents - roommates and unmarriedpartners ~vho live w,ith the .employees, Donna. James; [ the 7:2 million people with,,mental retardation in the Nationwide s senior vice president :of ihuman ¯ United States, s~ys people have fundamental ri,g,h,ts resources, told The Outlook, an iaiiependent [ as individuals to have privacy, love and be loved. ¯ eater Columbus Ga,c community. ~ Sfill,. 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The.Virginia Court of Appeals agreed to ~ear. the -IBM, Walt Disney Co.,Honeywell and Xerox. ¯ ~i~s ~)f nine men convicted of soliciting sodomy ¯ " " e : from undercover police posing as Gay me~... . McCam, Forbes:Endors : The case will test alaw that some autho~taes say ~ a legitimate way to deter public sex acts. opponen ’Don’t Ask, DOn’t-Tell’- ": 0fthelawarguethatit’sanarchaicinvasionofprivacy .... .........si .that targets homosexu~,,s. The law, referred to as WASHINGTON(AP)-TheClintona~stxatto.n polieybarfing0penh0mosex.ual~sfro,m,..military~e_ ; ,crimes against nature, applies to all consenting ~vorksandshouldbepreserYed,Kepumtcancanoauate~ ’" adults, homosexual and heterosexual, who engagem " oral sex in public or private. Violating the law is a Sen. JohnMcCainanffSteveForbes s~din Decem~ber; ¯ McCain~ a former naval officer and prisoner oI war felony, plmishable ,by up to five years in prison. inVietnam, Saiahewo,~dhave sen.1.°r o,f.fieer,s,re,v]ew Those who say it s time for Virginia to join the list the p0ffcy, but ad,d,ed, I support me poncy, i oeueve of states that have abolished their alifi-sodgmy laws that it;s working. ’ ,, , " i are. encouraged that the appeals court has agr.e.e,d to On"Fox Ne~s Sunday, Forbes said: ’The military ¯ hear the case. The sodomy law also was invokedmthe is not an institution for socialengineering. It has. a ¯ case of Sharon Bottoms, a Richmond-area woman ~:ery real,role of protectingus. It... operates in very " who lost custody of her son in 1993 when ajudge said speJzial circumstance§, and theref0reapresident must " she was an linfit mother because she and her female take heed of leaders such as Gen. Powell and G.en. ¯ lo~er engaged in oral sex. Scfiwarzkopf Who s,a,y that you cannot have open inhispetitiontothe.appealscourt, Garrison said,,,the Gays in the military.. The Repu.bh,ca~,~ fro,nt-ru~n~ar~ ’ : case is not just a Gay issue, but one that affects me ri ht to 4 5 million adult Virginians to be Texas Gov George W.-Bush, also nas. enaorseu Clinton policy. " , The position of Vice President A1 Gore, a,Viemam they have a reasonable expectataon to privacy, t ne veterat~, and.his Democratic Opponent Bill Bradle~ is appeal attacks the law from several angles: that it that people who.can be firefighters, police officers ¯ violates privacy rights guaranteed by both state and andmembe~s,ofColigress shouldhaVeopenaccess to federal Constitutions; that it is based on religious .military service as wall. Gay civilrights activists who ¯ met with Clinton ¯last week said the president¯ told " them the ~’don’.t ask, dOn~t.tell’’ policy was a failure.. R.., ,rded-Gays and ¯ Lesb"ia"ns" "Find Support. NEW HAVEN, Conn. (AP)- For decades, the ¯ sexuality of people with mental, dis~abi!i_ti_e_s,^W_~e]~ ¯ taboo a subject that parents ann prolesslonm~ ,o~ ~ acknowledged its ..ex~stence. The disabl.ed were o~ften ¯ treatedas if they Were eternal children; immune irom desire. Bu,t as people with mental disabilities come of : age in a more accepting’atmosphere, they are’: grounds and thus violates the separation ofchurch and state; and that its potential five-year prison sentence subjects defendants to cruel find unusual punishment. Eighteen men were charged under the law-in the Roanoke Police Depfirtment;s sting. The biggest challenge for those appealing .their convictions may be convincing the appealS.court that they have legal standing to overturn a’law that affects not just them, but all adult Virgimans. In 1979 - the-last’ time a higtier state court heard a challenge of the sodomy_. law, the Virginia Supreme Court ruled that a man arrested in Richmond had no such standing2 ’ Since then, several states have recoglfized that defendants arrested for alleg.ed public ~.ex acts are entitled to fight the law not just as it was applied to them, but as it potentially co~d be applied to bthers.i formerly Family of Faith & Greater Tulsa MCC Joined as one body of believers. Come celebrate with us. Sunday Services, 11 am ~aplewood, 8~18-1715 Kelly Kirby, CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation 747-5466 4021 S. Harvard, Suite 210, Tulsa 74135 HOUSE OF THE HOLY SPIRIq Sun. Worship, ~0:45 am, Sunday School, 9:30 am Wed. Bible Study, 7 prn 3210b S. Norwood, Info: 224-4754, Chris or Sharon Sandra Hill M.S. Licensed Professional & National Certified Counselor, Cel:tifled Hypnotherapist .,Psychotherapy & Clinical Consultation After Hours Appointments Available 2865 E. 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Cincinnati, 425-7882 Saint John 4200 S; Atlanta Place, 742-7381 Saint Dunstan 5635 East 71st, 492-7140 Tdnity 501 S. Cincinnati-, 582-4128 The Episcopal Church Welcomes You Amanda met her partner, "Helen," in 1984 when they were living in Georgia. Helen was artificially inseminated in 1993 and gave birth to a daughter that December. Amanda was involved in the preparations for the birth and helped take care of the little girl for a year and a half. The relationship ended in 1995. The next year, Helenmoved to Chicago with her daughter and has refused to allow Amanda any contact with the child since 1997, the court said. Amanda’s suitargued that even though she was not married to Helen, She Should have the same rights parents have under common law. Sawyer, an attorney for the Eainbda Legal Foundation, said a decision would be made later on. whether to appeal to the Illinois Supreme Court. Helen’s attorney, Leon Finkel, noted that Illinois does not recognize common law in such cases’~ He said boyfriends, aunts and uncles and in some cases even stepparents are among those whoare not entitled to visitation rights under Illinois law. Finkel also said limiting the list was a good idea. because parents should only m special instances be forced to give up the power to determine who is allowed to visit their children. He added that while Illinois doesn’t recognize same-sex marriages, it does recognize same-sex adoptions. Had Amanda legally adopted the girl, she would have had visitation rights and the dispute would never have taken place, he said. Study Says Marriage Ban Would Hurt Children SACRAMENTO, Calif. (AP) - At least 40,000 children living with Gay couples and 100,000 more with Gay single parents would be affected by a proposed state ban on same-sex marriages, according to a new study. Those children could feel ostracized by. society if their parents’ Unions were considered invalid, concludes the review by Michael Wald, a Stanford University law professor who specializes in public policy’s effect on children. Proposition 22 would let California recognize only marriages performed between a man and a woman. It will be voted on in March. ’q’his alleged study, which promotes homosexual marriages, is nothing more than a bogus political campaign hit piece against Proposition 22 and the institution of marriage," said Robert Glazier, a spokesman for the Yes on Proposition 22 campaign. Wald’s review used findings by the American Psychological Association and several research studies on same-sex parents. "By all reports, these families are doing very wall," Wald said. "It is different, obviously, growingup in afamily with two parents of the same sex, but children adjust to it." Studies have shown that the children of Gay parents are welladjusted and do wall in school, but often face intolerance, he said. The report drew criticism from David Orgon Coolidge, director of the Marriage Law Project atThe Catholic University ofAmerica inWashington, D.C., who called it "an attempt to mislead voters." "prop 22 is not about same-sex couples," Coolidge said in a written statement. "Prop 22 is about whether Californians will be allowed to decide for themselves how marriage will be defined in this state." Colorado Anti-Marriage Amendment Progresses DENVER (AP) - A proposed constitutional amendmentto restrict same-sexmarriages in Colorado has been approved by the .secretary of state’s office and now advances to a 30-day challenge period, ifapproved by voters, the measure would recognize only marriages between, a man and a woman and would make same-sex marriages performed in other states invalid in Colorado. Themeasure, which cleared the secretary of state’s ritle-setting board in December, will face opposition. "As a statewide agency,we are eommitted to fighting this every step of the way," said LoriAnn Girvan, executive director of Equality Colorado. "We feel that the taxpayers of Colorado don’t need another anti-Gay ballotinitiative that will re-ignite our state’s reputation as a place of intolerance." Candace McCune, an Englewood lawyer representing proponents of the measure who formed the group Coloradans for Traditional Marriage, said the measure would close a loophole in the state Constitution. The Legislaturelast year rejected an attempt by Sen. Marilyn Musgrave, R-Fort Morgan, to pass a statute similar to the proposed amendment. Opponents oftheinitiativehave 30 days to challenge it. Ifit survives, signatures ofnearly 64,000 registered voters. W~ould have to be collected tO.l~m the ~easure off ~1i~ ~6all0t. Coloradatis- for Tradiu6nal" Marriage also withdrew a proposal to ban same-sex marriages. Hank Aaron Slams Pitcher’s Comments ATLANTA (AP)- Hall of Famer Hank Aaronjoined thebarrage ofcriticism against AtlantaBraves pitcher Johp_ Rocker, despite his apology for making derogatory comments about Gays and minorities. Aaron said he was "very sick and disgusted about the whole situation" and questioned how Rocker could continue in baseball. "I have no place in my heart for peoplewhofeel that way," the all-time home run king, who is the Braves’ senior vice president, told syndicated radio host Jay Mariotti. About 15 activists protested outside Turner Field, urging the Braves to fire Rocker for the comments, which were published i~n a recent Sports Illustrated. "There may be some room for redemption, but not as anAtlantaBrave," said Michael Langford, president of the United Youth-Adult Conference. "We encourage him to enter his resignation right now and go into an early retirement." Rocker told Sports Illustrated he would never play for a New York team because he didn’t want to ride a subway train "next to some queer with AIDS." He also bashed immigrants, saying, "I’m not a very big fan of foreigners... How the hell did they get in this country?" While driving in Atlanta during the interview, Rocker criticized Asian women: Look. Look at this idiot," he said of another driver. "I guarantee you she’s a Japanese woman. How bad are Asianwomenatdriving?" Healso calledan overweighl black teammate "a fat monkey." Rocker apologized in a ffritten statement, saying he was carried away by his "competitive zeal" against New York Mets fans. He said heis not a racist mad the comments do not reflect his true feelings. Civic groups and a member of the Atlanta city Council delivered aletter to Braves owner TedTurner and general manager John Schuerholz demanding Rocker’s immediate firing. "We would have hoped there would havebeen amore scathing condemnation of these comments," said Councilman Derrick Boazman. "This was more thanjust rhetoric. This was hate." There was no answer at Turner’ s office, and his publicist did pot return a telephone call. Baseball Commissioner Bud Selig called Rocker’s remarks "inappropriate and offensive." He said baseball is reviewing the matter and would take "appropriate action." There is precedent: Former Cincinnati Reds owner Marge Schott was suspended from baseball for the 1993 season for her use of racial and ethnic slurs. ¯ Pentagon .Seeks Tougher : Stand Aga,nst Harassers ¯ WASH!NGTON(AP)-The U.S. Defense Department ¯ is piessing armed services leaders to re-emphasize to ¯¯ commanders that harassment of troops based on their sexual orientation will notbe tolerated. The Pentagon : has drawn fire recently for its "don’t ask, don’t tell" : policy. Critics say an increasing number ofGay and Lesbian servicemembers arebeingharassed, contrary : to the stated policy ofpermitting them to serve so long : as they do not declare their sexual orientation. : The criticism sharpened after a court-martial in ¯ which anArmyprivate was convicted of murdering a ¯ Gay ,soldier harassed with the knowledge of his ¯ superiors. PresidentBill Clinton said earlier lastmonth ¯ that the Pentagon’s policy on Gays was "out of ¯ whack." ". see Briefs, p. 14 Older Americans With HIV Increasing HOUSTON (AP) - An aging population, life-extending treatments, and a misperception that AIDS is a disease of the young have fostered an increase in AIDS infections among older Americans, the Houston Chronicle reported recently. Nationally, about 11% of reported AIDS : cases are in people 50 or older, the newspaper reported. Seniors are the age group with the fastest-growing AIDS rates - up 22% between 1991 and 1996, compared with a 9% increase among people age 13-49, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in Atlanta. However, health officials warned that the increases seem dramatic because the numbers are small. A 106% increase in the number of older women infected through sex, for example, is based on an increase from 340 eases to 700 eases. "’At this point, the numbers are so small that they really have notbeen perceived as a problem," said Dr. Rose Brownridge, acting bureau chief of the Texas Department:of Health division that deals with AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases. She added, however, that the issue needs further study. About 72,000 .americans age 50 and over and about 4,50(3 Texans have been. diagnosedwithAIDS. N~gneknows how many seniors are infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, because not all states require HIV reporting and because older people arethought to be tested far less often than their younger counterparts. According to the CDC, slightly more than one-third of older people with AIDS are Gay or Bisexual men. About one of five was infected by using a dirty needle to inject drugs. While popular attention has been focusedon declining infection rotes among children, AIDS among seniors has been virtually ignored. That must change, said Marcia try, chief of social science research on aging at the National Institute onAging. "The pointis that society cannot ignore AIDS in that pediatric population, in the young adult population or the older population," Ms. try said. "For people living longer or getting infected at_ an older age, these people are incredibly isolated, and they may not getthe treatment they need." That is likely to change with the onslaught of baby boomers nearing retirement age, said Kathy Nokes, a New Yorknursewho works withinfected older patients and editor of a book on seniors with AIDS. "Baby boomers talk about everything, try everything, demand everything," she said. "To a 60- or 70- year-old, that’s not polite." Ironically, the drug Viagra that has allowedmanyoldermento revive dormant sex lives also has heightened concern aboutthe spread ofAIDS. "They are pretty AIDS-unaware as they venture out into the world of sexual activity," said Sara Selber, executive director of AIDS Foundation Houston. "AIDS wasn’ treally on their screen at the time they were (previously) sextmlly active." Fish Gene Key to Immune System TAMPA, Fla. (AP) - A gene discovered in puffer fish - which have immune systems similar to humans - may hold secrets to learning more about diseases that affect the human immune system, such as AIDS, medical researchers say. ~esearchers doing work at St. Petersburg’s All Children’s Hospital published their findings in this week’s Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, an academic journal. Despite the finding, researchers do not know what the newly found gene does, said Gary Litman, the University of South qoridaimmunologistwholedthe research effort. However, they do know the gene plays amajor role in theimmune systembecause of its complex structure. In addition to the puffer fish, the ~mportant gene is found in other bony fish, including zebra fish and sharks. "The hunt is on for this gene in man," said Litman, who is working with eight other researchers in Florida and in California and Massachusetts. "Now we know where to look." Researchers are using computers .to search human DNA for the identical or similar sequence of 114,000 amino acids found in the fish DNA. There are about 3 million amino acids in the human body. Discoveries about the immune system can affectnew developments in treatments for diseases ranging from common allergies to cancer and Alzheimer’s disease. Litman said thenew gene mightprovide clues to an additional type of immunity that doctors might not have realized. AIDS Most Important Story HUTCHINSON, Kan. (AP)- The discovery of and ongoing efforts to treat and find a cure for AIDS was the top story of the century, according to a survey of a group ofhigh school history students. The students surveyed by The Hutchinson News otherwise generally agreed with adult readers surveyed by the newspaper, but, adults gave AIDS barely a mention. ’ It had such a high impact on what they thought about their own mortality," said Susan Smith, a teacher atHutchinsonHigh School. "They didn’t think they could die, and they certainly didn’t think having sex could make them die." Lindsey Derr, 16, saidnews aboutAIDS is evenmoreimportantnow that the disease is generally understood by experts and millions of people have been identified as AIDS,positive. Jacqui Faber, 16, said a lot of people still don’t know enough about where and how to get tested. Some issues identified by students as mostimportant occurred long before their lifetimes, such as womengaining theright to vote in America. Other issues that are again xn the news, such as the Scopes "Monkey" trial pitting evolutionary theory against creationism, weren’t seen as important. Other stories that were big during their lifetimes, such as the explosion of the space shuttle Challengerandthemeltdown ¯of the Russian nuclear power plant at Cheruobyl, were neat the bottom of the high-school list. Thebombing ofPearl Harbor that led to U.S. entry into World War II, top of the general readership’ s list,was infifthplace among the students. A high-ranking story on the students’ list that ranked low among the gener~ readership was the "I Have a Dream speech given by the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. Talesha Brassield, a 16-year-old junior, said King’s speech was still a reminder that Americans have a lot to learn about respecting each other. "There The Second Annual Progressive Alliance Summit The State Capitol Oklahoma City Saturday Januar 15th, 2000 Join activists from many different progressive movements from across the state for skills and coalition building. Keynote Speaker: Frosty Troy The Oklahoma Observer For more information or for reservations contact Planned Parenthood in Tulsa at 918-587-7674 or Keith Smith at The Smith Group: 405-840-2219 Are You Gay or Bisexual? Are You Native American? Tulsa’s Two-Spirited Indian Men’s Support Group is here for you! ¯ Evening support group meetings ¯ Relationship workshops ¯ Short trips, outings and retreats ¯ Free HIV testing For information call Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project at 582-7225 Ext. 208 or 218 Dial-Up Accounts Dedicated ISDN Con nections Virtual Hosting Visit our web page wwwag~sweb.net (918) 622-4965 Internet Marketing E-Commerce Web Page Design On-Site Setu p Avail able Medical Excellence And Compassionate Since 1926. ST. JOHN.MEDICAL CENTER THE HUMAN RIGHTS CAMPAIGN FOUNDATION PRESENTS Equality Rocks Saturday, April 29, 2000 Robert F. Kennedy Memorial Stadium, Washington, DC Hear Our Voices Our Vision For the New Millennium IsAWorld Where Peopl.e Can Live With Hope, Equality and Safety. Join Melissa Etheridge, Ellen Degeneres, Anne Heche and a Host of other Stars as They Rock. the New Millennium and Take a Stand for a Safer, BetterWorld for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender People Everywhere. Tickets on Sale at 800..551.SEAT or www.ticketmaster.com are still people that believe people have to think the same, look the same and believe the same things," Talesha said. Thais Protest US Drug Monopoly BANGKOK, Thailand (AP) - Some 120 Thai activists and HIV-AIDS patients camped Wednesday outside the Health Ministry demanding an end to a U.S. pharmaceutical monopoly thatmakes antiviral drugs too expensive for most in Thailand. They want theThai government to enforce a patent act to legalize local manufacture of Didanosine or DDI, a medicine that suppresses the deadly HIV virus in a patient’s blood, delaying the onset of AIDS. Few. of the more than 1 million HIV postive individuals in Thailand, a country of 62 million people, can afford drugs such as DDI and AZT, imported to Thailandfromoverseas,mainlyfromU.S. manufacturers. DDI,manufacturedby U.S. ftrmBristol- Myers Squibb, is sold at50 baht ($1.25) a tablet in Thai hospitals. Patients need at least fourtablets aday, costingin all about 6,000 baht-10,000 baht ($160-250) a month. A Thai office worker earns about 4,400 baht($110) amonth. Thedrugprice would be halved if Thailand produce it locally. Last month, Medecins Sans Frontieres, the Nobel Peace Prize-winnlngemergency healthcare group, said U.S. trade pressure has made proper health care for H!V/ AIDS patients nnaffordable in Thailand and other less developed countries. Activists said access to DDI, used by around 5% of people living with HIV in 1997, declined over the past two years due to Thailand’s economic recession. Since theHIV epidemicbeganin the early 1990s, more than 260,000 Thais have contracted full-blown AIDS. ’q’he government has full legislation to enforce the act butit fears the U.S. will be angry andit mightlead to trade sanctions," said Paisal Tan-ud, spokesmanoftheThai Network For People Living With HIVAIDS. The activists plan to camp outside the ministly in Bangkok until they get an answer from the government. Earlier this year, campaigners succeeded in demanding local manufacture of Diflu.can, a drug used to treat cryptococcat memngitis, a fungal infection of the brain which occurs in HIV-AIDS patients. The government has allowed two local pharmaceutical compames to produce the drug, originally manufactured by the U.S. drug company Pfizer. Girl + Grandmother Tell Their Story WOODBRIDGE, Va. - When Annisha Wilbum was 4 years old, she went to live with her grandmother, Valerie Reeder- Bey, who is HIV-positive. Reeder-Bey knew she had to talk about her condition with her granddaughter. The hard part was finding a way to do it without frightening her or delving into uncomfortable details. "I was living in fear that anything could happen," said Reeder-Bey,46,wholives inWoodbridge. "I wanted to tell her. I just really had to find the way without being graphic." She started by jotting down things that Annisha shouldn’tworry about: "It’ s okay to hug," she wrote. "It’s okay to hold hands." As the girl got older, she started making her own contributions to the list. ¯ Talking on the telephone with her : grandmother was OK, Annisha pointed ¯ out, or going rollerblading together. ¯ Thus was born "My Grandma Has : AIDS: Annisha’s Story," a 14-page ¯ illustrated children’s book that was ¯ published this year by a pharmaceutical " ¯ company and distributed at the U.S. Conference on AIDS in Denver and a World AIDS Day commemoration in ¯ Boston. "- Annisha and her grandmotherare both ¯ listed as authors, but thebookis writtenin ¯¯ Annisha’s voice. "Hi. My name is Annisha. This is a story about my grandma," the book begins. "She is real : special to me. Mygrandmaisjustlikeany ¯ other grandma. My grandma has AIDS." The book goes on to describe the various things they do together. "I know that ifmy friendhas AIDS, I cannotcatch itbybeing ~ their friend," Annisha says in the book. ~ Reeder-Bey, who also lives with her ¯ husband, Tommy, is excited about the : book’s distributionandhopes parents will ¯" use it to introduce the subject of AIDS to i¯ tHheeairvcehniilndrVenie.wS,haeniosnaplrsoofitthtehafotpurnodveirdeosf : health counseling and support groups for ¯ people living with AIDS. "I would love ¯ forit to be in ev,,e~y household. That’s ~e ultimate dream,’ she said. "Even if it s ¯ not in every household, I want everyone ~ to know about it." : The road to "My Grandma Has-AIDS: ¯ Annisha’s Story"was along one. It began ¯ ¯ whenReeder-Beywent toherownmother, looking for solace after she learned she ¯" was HIV-positive. Reeder-Bey said she ¯ spent 22 years as an alcoholic and drug ¯ addict. Her mother could not accept the : diagnosis and sent her daughter away, she : said: "I forgive my mother now, but then, ¯ I couldn’t take it," she recalled. ¯ Six years later, Reeder-Beywas alcohol- . and drug-free andembarking onanew life ¯ as an AIDS activist and drug counselor. ¯ Then her daughter, who has had her own : struggles with addiction, asked her to take in Annisha. "Wehad already spent a lot of ." time together," Reeder-Bey said of ¯ Annisha. "She just became a part of my : life." When Annisha was 6, Reeder-Bey ¯ thought the two of them had a book worth ¯ sharing. She went to several well-known : children’s book publishers, who told her ¯ that the subject matter was inappropriate ¯ or didn’t fit their needs. ¯ Butthebookdidcatch the eye ofofficials ." at Agouron Pharmaceuticals, a La Jolla, ." Calif.-based company that makes the ." AIDS drug Viracept, and Agouron ¯ published it. Agouron has an active : outreachprogramthatfocuses particularly ¯" on minority communities, and the book ¯ worked well with that program, said Joy ¯ Schmitt, a company spokeswoman. : Reeder-Bey also made sure that Prince ¯ WilliamCounty school administrators got : a copy of"Annisha’s Story." Annishais a ¯ third-grader at Featherstone Elementary. ¯ Agouron said it plans to distribute the ~ book at otherAIDS conferences, with the ¯ authors’ permission. In the meantime, ¯ Reeder-Bey is a one-woman distribution ¯ machine, bringing books to her doctor’s ¯ office, to work, to wherever she thinks ¯ someone would pick one up. "I want : people to open up and start talking to kids : about it. Kids want you to be open with : them," Reeder-Bey said. ¯ And Annisha said she plans to keep ¯ writing. She has advice for other would- ~ be authors: "I think they should write ¯ what’s in their imagination, and write : what’sin their heart." Happy New Year and Century to " hit Broadway, running for 2 years. This everyone! "If you’re with me, next year : ground breaking drama about 9 Gay men willbe... The perfect year!" Sorry, Petula ¯ gathering for a birthday party with catty, left a little Norma Desmond behind. (The ¯ emotionally trying results spawned a film line is from a song that features ~ -by William Friedldn (who went on to prominentlyinthemusical, direct "the Exorcist", and "Sunset Boulevard".) Actually, there were afew days I couldn’ t tell the two apart. What, me catty? I don’t know what you mean. . . (Eyes bat iunocenfly. Well, as close as I can get... Shaddup! Stop snickering amongst yoursdves!) January at the PAC: Ben E. King performs with the Tulsa philharmonic the 7 &8. The armchair traveler goes to France on the 10; and the All State Music Festival happens onthe 15. "Gaelic Storm," the Irish band that played in the 3rd class steerage section of the Titanic appears at the PACJanuary 19 &20. Leo danced a jig to their tunes in the film. Latin music is played by Scarles, Allen and River on the 22, and a concurrent concert hapl~L’ns with Janina Fialkowska at the piano. On the 23, Das Puppenspeil (I love that name!) puppet theatre performs with the Philharmonic, and the month closes with "Buddy," the Buddy Holly musical from the 25 through the 30. "Crossing Delancy" opens on the 28. More info on these artists to come. If ~ou lust can’t wait, you can always call e f~iendly folks at the PAC ticket office at 596-7111. Forthose abitmoreventuresome, Dallas seems to be the place of interest in upcoming months. GeorgeWinstonplays Majestic Theatre Jan 7; and for those who recall a rather large member of the Rocky Horror Picture Show cast, Meat Loaf performs at McFarlin Auditorium Jan 16. My, they’re really bringing in the class acts now, aren’t they? For the more modem crown, Counting Crows plays the Bronco bowl Jan 25, and Beck plays there Jail 26. Kids in the Hall, the all male cross dressing comedy troupe of some fame in the mid-90’s plays the Bronco bowl Feb 3. The Pretenders, with opening act "Gay Dad", perform at the Bronco Bowl Feb 6. The Chieftains, for those who like their Irish music Irish, are at the Fort Worth Bass Performance Hall Feb 6. Back in Dallas, Diana Krall plays the Majestic Theatre Feb 18. And for those into boy bands, Backstreet Boys (almost has-beenS) are at Reunion Arena March3-4. For themorefolksy set, Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young are playing Reunion Arena March 7th. For thosepining for somedecent theatre - and I know many of you are, even if you don’t attend it- Mort Crowley’ s seminal work, "The Boys in the Band", runs through January 29 at the Fort Worth Theatre (817-921-5300). It rated a full page storyin theFortWorthStarTelegram. Apparently, Fort Worth has become a progressive town, in that one of its oldest and mostprestigious theatres has started a series of Gay plays called the "Labor of Love" series. They have sold out. Hello, Theatre Tulsa! "Boys" opened in April 1968, and was one of’the first, if not the first, Gay play to "Sorcerer") and nnhinged the closet door that held Gay theater locked inside and blew it down the hallway. . FortWorthTheatrehas already produced two shows this season thathad to do with some aspect of homosexuality: "Seducing Sally" and "The SantalandDiaries". Folks, this is a city nicknamed "Cowtown". Hello? It’ s about the size of Tulsa. They have 3 theatres there that are unafraid to try something new -CircleTheatre, Stage West, and now, the most staid of the Fort Worth Theatres. We have Heller, and : sometimes TU, and the quality of theatre ¯ in this town is very hit and miss. I know : that’ll tick some folks off, but it’s true. ¯ And more often than not, it’s missing. : Let’s work on that, shall we? I mean, ¯ Cowtown, really! Tickets are $10 - $12 dollars, and a ¯ percentage of ticket sales goes to AIDS ~ Resources of Rural Texas. And from the : pics of the cast, it looks like it would be a ¯ handsome evening, indeed. Thanks to : Mark Lowry of the Fort Worth Star Telegram for some of the info used in this : tern. Usually, when I write of an album wherein the songs, music and lyrics, tend to eerily reflect events in my own time space, it’ s a safe bet that I’m writing about Stevie Nicks. Shejust does thht sort thing. I got walloped this last week by an album my best friend Karin (who’ s straight, by the way) mademelisten to. She started off by saying some of the songs reminded her of me and one of my last major romantic entanglements. Then she started playing it, and I was just about knocked out of the car. The album is by an artist I never gave much ~hought to, except to wish that I’ d never hear the phrase "I Wanna Come Over" again. Yes, I was ~,valloped by a Lesbian MdissaEtheridge slat~stalbum, "Breakdown" (an ironic rifle, given the album’ s previously stated significance) is a treasure trove of powerful lyrics and dynamite music. The song "Stronger Than Me" is one of the ones my best friend Karin related to : my experience from her viewpoint. The ~ lyrics are dark and intense, and the music ; echoes their intent. "I don’t know how : you can take it / invest your heart and then ¯ youbreakit / I don’ tknow how youcan set : it free / you must be stronger than me" : certainly sums up my somewhat ¯ overoptimistic romantic enthusiasms according to Karin. "Breakdown" is a power ballad about a ~ love gone so wrong one has left, but the ¯ other p~rson keeps pulling you back like ~ a pit of quicksand. "I’m coming to your ~ breakdowntonight.""Enough ofMe" was ¯ another sock to the stomach in its eerie : capturing of what the last year of my last ; majorrelationship was like. see Jirn,p. 14 The Tulsa Phiharmonicpresents pianist Janina Fialkowska the third concert in the, Masterworks Series Saturday, January 22, 8pm Tulsa Performing-Arts Center Debussy, Prelude a l’apres midi d’une faune Grieg, Piano Concerto in A minor, op. 16 Wagner, selections from Der Ring des Nibelungen Tickets: 747-PHIL or 596-7111 earles, Allen & Rive.ra URBANTULSA THE KERR FOUNDATION, INC. FOUNDERS AND ASSOCIATES, INC. "cO IJ/IELLIAS cao~oea~v:VAL CANIPAROLIw~€:FREOEIIIC CHOPIN Long before multi-million dollar book deals - were the fashion, Alexandre Dumas’ son (yes, the "The Three Musketeers" author) converted his torrid:turned-terminal love affair into a best seller. From there, composer Guiseppe Verdi adapted the story for opera (hello, "La Traviata"). Today, choreographer Val Canipamli finished the iob of turning "La Traviata" into dance. Using drama, not melodrama. For understatement underscored. A full-length love story. "You don’t have to knew ballet to love ballet. You just have to try it." -- MARCE£LO ARGELJNI ARTISTIC DIRECTOI~ " FRIDAY 8 PI~EBRUARY 11 SATURDAY B PMFEBRUARY 12 SUNDAY 3 PMFEBRUARY 13 SEASON SPONSORS: ABC Music Order tickets by calling The Tulsa BaJlet Ticket Offica: 749-600| 4512 S. Peoria Ava. , Tulsa, OK 74105-4563 ¯ VisH GILCREASE MUSE I~" SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 Community of Hope (Welcoming), Service - 6pm, 2545 S. Yale, 585-1800 Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation Service - 11am, 2545 S. Yale, 749-0595 (Welcoming) Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist Service - 1 lain, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314 Metropolitan Community Church United Service, llam, 1623 North Maplew00d, Info! 838-1715 House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 10:45am, 3210b So. Norwood Parish Church of St. Jerome (Evangelical Anglican Church in America) Mass - 1lain, 205 W. King (east of N. Denver), Info: 582-3088 Unity. Church of Christianity Services: 9:15 & 11:00 am, 3355 S. Jamestown,749-8833 University of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gayfrransgendercd Alliance 6:30 pm, Meets at the United Ministry Ctr., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 ~’ MONDAYS HIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required. Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm, 834-TEST (8378)3501 E. Admiral (east of Harvard) HIV Rap Sessions at Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center 7:30pro, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays 2rid Mon/each mo. 6:30pm, Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard Women/Children & AIDS Committee, call for meeting date, noon, 585-5551 Council Oak Men’s Chorale, rehearsals - call for times, info: 748-3888. I~" TUESDAYSAIDS Coalition of Tulsa, call for next meeting date. 1430 S. Boulder, 585-5551 Live And Let Live, Community of Hope United Methodist, 7:30pro, 2545 S. Yale Multienltural AIDS Coalition, call for next meeting date. Urban League, 240 East Apache, 584-0001 PrimeTimers, mens group, Pride Center. 1307 E. 38th Coming Out Support Group (TOHR/HOPE) Tuesdays, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, info: 743-4297 ~ WEDNESDAYS Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Service - 7pm, 3210b So. Norwood Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group, more information, call 582-7225 TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632. Lambda A-A, 7 pm, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft. ~" THURSDAYS HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 E. Admiral Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN) Support/social group for 18-24’ s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325 Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS, Info: 834-4194 ~ FRIDAYS SafeHaven, Young Adults Social Group, 1 st Fri/each mo. 8pm, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th I~" SATURDAYS Narcotics Anonymous, 11 pm, Community of Hope,1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 Lambda A-A, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft. t~= OTHER GROUPS T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 298-0827 Gal-A-Vanting, Womens Social & Cultural Group Call for info: Kathy at 322-6322, or Barb at 459-6825. OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Long rides & short rides from Zeigler Park. Long & short tides from Tulsa Gay Community Center. Write for info: POB 9165, Tulsa, OK 74157 Mixed Volleyball, non-active in winter, call Shawn at 243-5190 for spring activities. Ifyour organization is not listed, please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615. reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library Here are a couple of new books at the library that you shouldn’t miss! A few years ago, author Rik Isensee wrote an eulighteningbookforGay men, rifled "Reclaiming Your Life: The Gay Man’s Guide to Love, Self-Acceptance and Trust." He’s back with a new winner for those of us in our, ahem, late thirties (and on up), "Are You Ready?" The time has come for the community to understand that Gay life doesn’t end simply because you remember Watergilte. This book helps you learn to celebraie i the positive things about aging (flexibility, " greater "One d Isensee’s primary tasks is to help Gay males reach closure with a youtlt~l identity¯ The key to this is learning to stop living for the moment¯ For a ¯ reclaim youthful ambitions. This tendency : can be compared to the stage of ¯¯ ’bargaining’ in grief reactions. If only I’d just work harder, exercise more, go to ¯ bars, get a facelift, get a tattoo- I’ll be all ¯ right." One of the suggested steps toward stabilizing your life is to get in a long term relationship. Just because it didn’t work whenyouwereyoungand foolish doesn’t mean it won’t work now! There is a good section that provides some basic guidance toward finding a rdationship, including "what are you looking for?," "distinguish _between desirables.and necessary qualities," and variety of reasons, "be open to men who " don’tfityouinsual type." we are living longer. _There are alsosomegood tolerances, self ann " 1- .... ¯.... " ~ d nav" ate neell to remmn acceptance) an lgate~_____-~_~. the negatives (dis-eti~ vital and involved. over physical aging, d i s i 11Usi onm e n t,--It Is very Important examples of how depressio,and lethargy). One of Isensee’s to-not waste time primary tasks is to help re]ivln6 - Gay males reach closure with a youthful identity, the past.. The key to this is learning to stoplivingfor themoment. Fora variety of re~ons~ we are living long~-and need to remain vital and involved. It is very important to not waste time reliving the past. As Isensee explains, "During this uncertain time, when we’ ve lost our way, there may be a sense of not having accomplished anything. Itmay be difficult to remember earlier goals or to ascribe any significance to them. It’s also hard to imagine what else we would like to do. Rather than tolerating the anxiety of not knowing, some men are tempted to make up for lost time - through some radical change for its own sake, or a mad dash to with Former and does not believe the accusation to be credible. Attorney Kerry Lewis, who is also a board member of Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights suggested that anti-Gay bias and political opportunism on the part of Tulsa County District Attorney Tim Harris and his staff may be behind this accusation. Lewis noted that such a case would have appeal for Republican Harris whose voter bast is tied to religious extremist elements in the Republican Party. Lewis also said that given the level of anti-Gay prejudice in the area’s jury pool; Harris maybecalculating thatheneednotactually prove Former guilty, that is that merely being a Gay man accused by a younger man will be taken as proof of guilt in a legal system. that is hostile to minority citizens. DrumwrightattorneyTimDaniel whose practice~has’included defending Gaymen relationships change over the years. No, thesethi~gs are not easy, but the hard work will pay off in. the end! Another new book is, ’q’he Book of Gay and Lesbian Quotations." This is a fun compilation of quotes by Gays and ¯ Lesbians; and Gay-friendly peopleas well, ¯ from ancient times to the present. It is a ." simple reference book broken down into ¯ broad subjects: solitude, morality, hope, ¯ etc. : Some of the better quotes are: "a waist ¯ is terrible thing to mind," "anyone who ¯ says that softball is a boring game to . watch isn’t looking at the right things!," : and "the only way of getting dd of temptation is to yield to it." This is a super : book for one liners. : Check for these and other fun books at ¯ your local branch library, or call the ¯ Readers ServicesdepartmentattheCentral : Library at 596-7966. : who say they were entrapped by Tulsa ¯ Police, believes that the Tulsa County ¯ DistrictAttorney uses anti-Gay bias in the legal system to plea bargain cases, : knowing that accused Gay men, even if ¯ they are not guilty, or even if the police ¯ engaged in illegal conduct themselves in ¯ order to make an arrest, will accept a ~ "deal" rather than risk having a hostile ¯ jury and even more serious charges and ¯ punishment. : Anti-Gay hate crime victims, Tony Orr ¯ &TimBeauchamp, also have pointed out ¯ that Hams’ office failed to assist them in : getting normal compensation for their : medical expenses due to the assault on ¯ them, and that the DA’s office did not ¯ even prosecute seriously their assailants ¯ until after The Tulsa World wrote a story : about the DA’s inaction. ¯ Fortner did return a call to TulsaFami!y : Newsbutonadviceofhis attorney declined ; to comment onthe allegations. 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The holidays are over, the mistletoe " - I resolve to keep saw blades sharp and delightfullynsed, abusedandrefused.The ¯ clean. I will unplug power saws before long nights and short days of winter seem ¯ removing the blade. to stretch on forever. It is - I resolve to use trendy the time to dreamoffuture projects that will not be started until spring time comes. And it is time for making all of those godawful New Year’s resolutions that endurebutfor a mere matter of days. Why not combine home projects with good intentions andmake some resolutions you’ll actually keep? Inall modesty, and with absolutely no sense of overstepping boundaries, your DIYD gently offers her own suggestions for your approval and implementatzon. Considerityourblueprint for a millennium of satisfying home projects. Or consider it your DIYD telling you what to do - again. And always. Why should this century be any different than the. last? You love it, ducklings, you know you do! Now, repeat after me - I resolve to always work safely! I will read and follow direction~ and will not by-pass guards or safety devices. I will use personal protection (safety glasses, earplugs, etc.), and ask for help if I need it. -I will measure twice (minimum!) and cut once. Woodis expensive and screwing up makesmecranky and unbearable. Let’ s avoid that this year. -I will not swear to the extent and/or noise level that the dog or cat needs deep therapy. -I will always involve my partner (if applicable) inhome repair and decoration decisions. Even if they say they "don’t care" - trust me, cupcake, theydo! - I resolve to take good care of my tools. I will keep them clean, organized and in good repair. I will thereby not waste precious project time obsessing about the mystery location of the screwdriver or paint roller. - I resolve not to treat any ofmy partner’ s questions as stupid - no matter how glaringly obvious the answer or solution. - Iwill not loan out tools I care about to people who abuse them or do not return them, I will acknowledge my emotional/ psychological bond with my tools, especially thoserequiring apower supply, - I will buy that leather tool bdtas soon as I can. And I will use it (silk boxers optional). - I resolve to always set my ladder up on a stable, even surface and to havesomeone watching out for me nearby. That especially applies if I am on the roof. The dog does not count as my ’safety buddy.’ -I resolve to overcome my fear and loathing of spiders and slugs long enough to enter the crawl space and make that minorplumbingrepair to thebathtub drain. Other-wise, I will overcome my aversion to paying a plumber to do the same. "In all modesty, and with absolutely no sense of overstepping boundaries, your DIYD gently offers her suggestions for your approval . . . Consider it your blueprint for a millennium of satisfying home projects. Or consider it your DIYD telling you what to do - again. And always. Why should this century be any different than the last?" colors and designs in my home sparingly, remembering fullyhow appalled I was by the ’50’s Peptopink bathroom walls, tile and tub. I am leaving a legacy! (this does not apply if you wish vengeance on your heirs) - I will always get three quotes for any contract labor, as well as references. - I resolve to be more respectful for the people wor.king atmylocal home repatr palace, even thal patronizing boob in plumbing. Fantasize about replumbing his fixtures, butdon’tactually threaten to do it this time. -I resolve to buy very good paint brushes and keep them clean and properly stored for a lifetime of painting pleasure. -I will not tell friends, family or relative strangers how they screwed up their latest project and what I wouldhavedonebetter. Do give them a stack ofDIYD columns as a form of gentle guidance. - I resolve to do one project this year, no matter how small, to improve the aesthetics, efficiency or value ofmyhome. - I resolve tomakemy DIYD that cocktail - a Manhattan with two cherries - as a small token of the gratitude I bear her for enlightening my life and improving my home! And your DIYD resolves to be back next month to help you make good on some of these intentions. PS: Your DIYD doesn’ t waste precious energy tying cherry stems into knots with her tongue when it is better applied to practical projects! ¯ By the time ~this song played, I was ¯ becoming a fan. So much so, I bought the CD If ’ , : you ve been depressed, and couldn t ¯ explain how debilitating a state it really ¯ can be, "Into The Dark" is one of those ¯¯ songs you play for people to make them understand what the dark night of the soul ¯ is all about. One ofthemore powerful and dark songs on thi~ album, it leaves you ." haunted. It’ s a ditty about going "into the ¯ soullinto the heart/into the dark", and : realizing that one’s been spinning one’s wheels keeping a dead relationship alive, ¯ not that Iwouldknowanythingabout that. "There was tire/therewas death/there was ¯ lyingonyourbreath/Itumedaway/Iwould ¯ pretend/but the fire never ends/I’ve been ¯ here sleeping all these years. " _" Lest you think it’s all doom a~ad gloom, : JulieCypher, Melissa’s longtimepartner, ¯ requested a more upbeat song for fear her to recognize same-sex civil marriage. It was thefirst state to offer domesticpartner benefits to state workers, one of the first states to recognize second-parent adoptions and one ofthe first states to ban. discriminationbasedonsexual orientation. -The Mormon church, which has campaigned.-against Gay marriage in Vermont, Hawaii and California, issued a brief statement repeating its position and ¯ saying,"As the legislative process moves forward, The ChUrch of Jesus Cqh-’ist of Latter-day Saints urges the citizens of Vermont and their elected representatives to protect the uniqueness and sanctity of traditional marriage and to preserve the family ~ the basic unit of society." Next Door In New Hampshire A statelawmakeris trying to make sure Gay New Hampshire couples do riot take advantage of the Vermont ruling. Rep. Gary Torressen, R-Center Harbor, says he was disappointed by the decision that Gay couples are entitled to the same benefits and protections as husbands and wives. Torressen said he filed., his bill, which would prevent New Hampshire from recognizing same-sex marriages contracted out of state, in anticipation of the Vermont court’s decision. The Legislature repealed a ban on Gay foster parents and Gay adoptions. The state also has a law that protects Gays and Lesbiansfrom discrimination in housing, employmentand access topublicfacilities. State Sen. Rick Trombly, a Boscawen Democrat who is Gay, said New Hampshire shouldgo further and set upits own domestic partnership system. Rep. Martha Fuller Clark, D-Portsmouth, has filed a bill that would extend medical benefits to domestic partners, andrecently, trustees for the state university system approved domestic partner benefits for employees. But Gays and Lesbians still lackfull acess to the samehealthinsurance, disability benefits, tax breaks and inheritance protections that married couples enjoy. Trombly believes New Hampshire lawmakers would support a domestic partnership system as a fundamental affirmation of equal rights. But he does not believe they would support Gay marriage, because many believe heterosexual marriage has a religious significance. State Sen. Pat Krueger, a conservative Republican from Manchester, said Tuesday she had Gay friends whose lives were complicated by their lack of legal protections, and she would consider supporting domestic partnerships. A spokeswoman for Gov. Jeanne Shaheen said the governorremains opposed to Gay marriage. Spokeswoman Pamela Walsh declined:comment on Shaheen’ s .view of domesticpartnership.legislation, sayingit was premature. Excerpts from the Supreme Court decision on marriages: Maythe stateofVermontexclude samesex couples from the benefits and protections that its laws provide to opposite-sex married couples? That is the fundamental question we address in this appeal, aquestionthatthecourtwellknows arouses deeply-felt religious, moral, and political beliefs. Our constitutional responsibility to consider the legal merits of issues properly before us provides no exception for the controversial case. The issue before the court, moreover, does not turnon the religious-or moral debate over ¯ inlimate same-sex relationships, butrather ¯ on the statutory and constitutionai basis for the exclusion of same-sex couples : from the secular benefits and protections : offered married couples. ¯ We conclude that under the Common Benefits Clause of the Vermont Constitution, which, in pertinent part, e,ads, that government ~s, or ought to be, instituted for the common benefit, ¯¯ protection, and security of the people,. ¯ nation, or community, and not for the particular emolument or advantage ofany i single person, family, or set of persons, ¯ who are a part only of that community," plaintiffs may not be deprived of the : statutory benefits andprotections afforded ¯ persons of the opposite sex who choose to ~ marry. We hold that the state is ¯ constitutionally required to extend to ¯ same-sex couples the common benefits : and protections that flow from marriage under Vermont law. ". (and) ¯ While the laws relating to marriage ¯ have undergone many changes during the ¯ last century, largely toward the goal of ¯ equalizing the status of husbands and ¯ wives, the benefits of marriage have not ¯ diminished in value. On the contrary, the ¯ =benefits and protections incident to a : marriagelicense under Vermontlaw have : never been greater. ¯ (andfrom Justice Denise Johnson) ¯ This case is undoubtedly one of the ¯ most controversial ever to come before ¯ this court. Newspaper, radio andtelevision ¯ media have disclosed widespread public ¯ interest in its outcome, as well as the full ¯ spectrum of opinion as to what that ¯ outcome should be and what its ¯ ramifications may be for our society as a ¯ whole. ¯ .One line of opinion contends that this is ¯ an issue that ought to be decided only by ¯ the most broadly democratic of our ¯ governmental institutions, theLegislature; ¯ and thatthe small group ofmenandwomen : comprising this court has no business deciding an issue of such enormous ¯ moment. : For better or worse, however, this is ¯ simply not So. This case came before us ¯ because citizens of the state invoked their ¯ ¯ constitutional right to seekredress through the judicial process of a perceived ¯ deprivation under state law. The Vermont ¯ Constitution does not permit the courts to decline to adjudicate a matter because its ¯ subject is controverslal, or because the ¯ outcome may be deeply offense to the Strongly held beliefs of many of our ¯ citizens. ¯ We do not have, as does the Supreme ¯ Court of the United States, certiorari -’ jurisdiction, which allows thatcourt, inits ¯ sole discretion, to decline to hear almost ¯ any case. To the contrary, if a case has ¯ been brought before us, and if the ¯ established procedures have been ¯ followed, as they were here, we must hear ¯ and decide it. : Moreover, we must decide the case on ¯ legal grounds. However much history, : sociology, religious belief, personal ¯ experienceor other considerations may ¯ inform our individual or collective : deliberations, we must decide this case, ¯ and all cases, on the basis of our ¯ understanding of the law, and the law ¯ alone. ¯" Thismustbethe trueandconstant effort ¯ of every member of the judiciary. 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Call 743-GAYS (4297) Tulsa Gay Community Services Center 1307 E. 38th at Peoria, 2nd floor Country Club Barbering Custom Styling for Men & Women David Kauskey 3310 E. 51st, 747-0236 Tues.-Fri., 8-5:30, Sat. 8-5pro IGTA member Call 341, 6866 International Toursformoreinformation. A UTHENTIC FRESH 1TALIAN RAINBOW CUSINE TROUT OfEureka Springs ,Voted Number One in Arkansas! (SOD 253-6807 Closed Wednesday Center Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 Red Rock Tulsa O’RYAN Oklahoma Rainbow ¯ Young Adult Network . Outreach Program Thurs. Nights Meet Others in a Safe Enviroment Call for meeting times and place: 918-584-2325. TOM NEAL BUILDING & GARDEN DESIGN 58:3- 1248 by Lamont Lindstrom, Ph.D. ¯ into gender patterns as soon as they are One of my students owns 189 pairs of ~ born, wrapping them in blue or pink athletic shoes. Not quite Imelda Marcos, ~ blankets. Walk into any toy store and you butgettingthere.Anthonyisjust20years ¯ knowwhenyou’veenteredthegirls’aisle. old and already he is a sophisticated ¯ Everything suddenly has turned pink. collector. Collecting things is oddly ¯ Several of my friends with young sons importantformany ofus. I have other friends who accumulate Native American artifacts. And books. And jazz vinyl recordings. And Cacti. And uniforms. Most of us collect some-thing evenif this is only string or a draw full Of condoms. Our houses are museums. One ofmy professors saved sheets of toilet paper from bathrooms around the world. Me, I have.a stupendous collection of refrigerator magnets. We buy stuff; we give it away; we receive it; andwe curateit: Think of all those shoeboxes lined UP in Anthony’s bedroom. Things, clearly,are important for reasons beyond the utilitarian. Evenwearing themevery second until the day he dies, Anthony will never use up all his Shoes. He buys themto ownandnot particularly to wear. They helpmake sense ofwhom he is - or at least who he thinks he wants to be. Because ofthiS, ormaybe it’s their smell(they give him a buzz. Having just survived the holiday season, we know the pleasures and pains of stuff. Did you get what you want for the holidays? Did you make a list? Did you check it twice? Everyone grumbles about the materialism of a onetime religious celebration. But complain away, I sure had a lot of desperate company last month when I went foraging for things in the bleak shopping expanses of Walmart. "We slot our ehildren into gender patterns as soon as they are born, wrapping them in blue or pink blankets. Walk into any toy store and you know when you’ve entered the girls’ aisle... Several of my friends w~th young sons complain that it is difficult to find gender-neutral toys. ’One two-year old boy loves to play with brooms and vacuunl cleaners. His morn, of course, has to go to the girlS’ side to find toy household eleanlng equipment. And, worse, the kid likes to play with dolls. His father nervously protests his son’s babydoll games. " Je~z! Can’t you buy the boy atru~k?" This connection Of stuff and identity is characteristically American. We learn early on to~ define ourselves in terms of things, We_+play a:game with children called "favorites." Weinsist that kids tell us their favorite"color~ music, television show, make of car,.or ice-cream. Evenif complain that it is difficult to find gender-neutral toys: One two-ye~ old boy loves to play with. brooms and vacuum cleaners. His ~m0m+ of course, has to go to the girls’ side to find toy household cleaning equipment. And, worse, the kid likes to play with dolls. His father nervously protests his son’s. babydoll games. Jeez! Can’t you buy the boy a truck? This paternal nervousness signals the symbolic strength of the connections we draw between things and identity, ff doll equals girl, thenboy-whoplays -with-doll equals girlish, perhaps even Gay. Our use of particular things sends messages, accurate or not, aboutwho. we might be. We know that both men and women need to.practice nurturing. Butthe doll-loving boy, like the toy gun-toting girl, violates the cultural code of consumption that attributes gender to things. And, who knows? Maybe the Kid really just likes dolls. Or maybe he has already figured out our consumption code and he likes dolls on purpose in order to Send dad a message. My daughters, too’old for dolls, and also,too old for Pokemon, this year wrote Gameboy camera on their Christmas lists. They didn’ t seem worried about the name. Why Gameboy and not Gamegirl? In hierarchical systems, it is easier to "ups,h,ift" than "dowm Shifi. Gifts wear pants. Not .too many boys wear ¯ dresses. Women become d0ctors; not too ¯ many mendreamaboutbecominganurse. " Except, perhaps+ some of those sweet, ¯ doff-loving boys of course ~When I was a kid, Barbie dolls didn’t :~ last long in my neighborhood. We’ d steal ¯ themfromour sisters .and use thbm cruelly. we aetuallyhave,nofavorites-~ this question ¯ They,w~ould.’be J..gan of Arc atthe stake, puslies~s tomeasureandsztuateoursel~es: . andWor~.~ If ~eh~d any ~ense, w~ W~~d svi_thin the w0dd of goods.. So goes .,".ha’ve,ca~-~f~illyst6i?&l them away intheig American.inff!~iduality:;~and.so..goe~rour..: ." boxes to’become’rich by selling them to _economy:as well....... ~ , - ....... " ........ ., today’s fanatic Barbie ¢_ollectors: I can Favorites make less senseintta.ditional~ ~ recommend a great website with-pictures societies where individuality is ,muted~ ." of.Ken, from 1961 to 2000: Check out and where the range of goods is.litfiited. ¯ www.manbehindthedoll.com. This guy But even in ¯simpler societies,¯ things: ." ~ really likes,his boy dol|s.J’m suggesting differentiate gender.. Women wear : to Anthony thathe build a similar Shrine differentarticles of clothing than do men~ : to his boy shoes :’ . z They oftent~s~different tO~Is~ The)~ may .~ Lamont Lindstrom, Ph.’D,~ ~teaChes noteatihesamefoods~.W,eslotourchi.’l.dren. "- anthropology, at .t:he.~University of Tulsa, We dedicate an enormous mount of resources to outreach, networking, building allies and forging ties with advocacy, educational and religious organizations. Even when distribution goes well, though, it hardly covers our costs. To do this kind of media work, we rely on outside support from our friends who share our goals and understand the unique role films like IT’ S ELEMENTARY and THAT’S A FAMILY!canplayinprevenfingprejudice and violence. Pleasehelp us keep thehugemomentum IT’S ELEMENTARY generated going strong. Help us welcome the millennium by getting THAT’S A FAMILY! out of our editing room and into elementary school classrooms all across the country. 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Women’s Educational Media 2180 Bryant Sreet Suite 203 San Francisco, CA 94110 (415) 641-4616, (415) 641-4632 fax Pentagon spokesman Kenneth Bacon said thatRudyde Leon, the under secretary of defense for personnel, and Douglas Dw0rkin, the acting general counsel,raised the matter in a Dec. 18 memorandum to service leaders. "It is important that the leadership of each of the services issue a strong statement to the field that harassment~of service members for any reason, to include alleged or perceived homosexuality, will not be tolerated," according to thememo,releasedThursday by the Defense Department. Bacon said it had not been made sufficiently clear to commanders that a service member’ s complaint about being harassed for alleged homosexuality is not grotmds forinvestigating the complainant. Instead it should be the basis for investigating the harassers, he said. image would be one see Jim, p. 14 of a liorrible drago,n,, given the tone of the oth~"rdationship songs. Melissa asked her~f,"How much do I love Juiie? I love her~uchthat I would want to die in her ar~ Quite a wonderful thing to say aboi~.’ anyone’s lover, male or female. "S!O~p" was the answer to the question, a lovely song about getting away from the noise ofthe world and snuggling into your ¯¯ lover’s arms and listening to him/her breathing, and feeling trusting and ¯ comfortable enough with another person : to be able to sleep. It’s a lovely song of ¯ quiet comfort. ¯ And then there’s issues of equality. : "Truth of the Heart"is a wonderful ballad ¯ to the truth that "We all begin this race at : the start" and about how "deep down : inside we’re all the same / try not tojudge ¯ someone / and never shame." Partnered ¯ for almost 11 years now, the two have two ¯ children of their own. Melissa wrote this ¯ song to explain to their children about ¯ how to deal with life. Words to live by. In : "MamaI’m Strange", thejoys of growing ¯ up Gay - or just different - is artfully : explored, with just the fight amountof ¯ angst to remind us where we came from ¯ and how hard the struggle could be at ¯ times~ ¯ The single most striking song is called : "S~carecrow", and it’s about Matthew ¯ Sheppard. She said she hadlots of trouble ," w~riting that because here she was also ¯ writing ’’Truth of the Heart" as well and ¯ felt she couldn’t be writing about people : being good in one song and denounce ¯ them in another. So the end of the song is ". her way of forgiving (but not forgetting) ¯ the second attacker (I think he was going ¯ to trial or prison at that time). It has to be : heard to be experienced. If you aren’t ¯ crying and angry after hearing it, you’re ¯ dead. ¯ There are two versions of this CD, one ¯ of which is already hard to find. It has ¯ three extra songs, "Touch and Go", : "Cherry Avenue" (where she mentions the name of one-of the Lesbian bars in ¯ which she sang for about 4 years before being discovered -Que Sera), and "My ¯ Beloved", and is released in a cardboard ¯" case. The regular version has 11 songs in theusual plasticjewel box; Whichincludes : the lovely ode tounrequitedlove, ’"’Angels ¯ Will Fall". That’ s the one most folks are ¯ going to be familiar with at this point. ¯ For you men out there: I know that in ¯ some-minds, there’s a big chasm between ¯ Gay men and Lesbians, and this extends ¯ to performer preferences. I’ve heard the ¯ nasty comments - from both sides. All I ¯ can say is, get over your prejudices, and ¯ get this CD. It’s well worth it, and ¯ incredible in its beauty and reflection of ¯ life. And, Melissa, you have a new fan. Thank you Karin, for your contributions ¯ to widening my musical horizons and the infolmation contained in the above article ¯ about the backgrbund of the songs. Seems ¯ ironic that I’ mbeing tutoredinGay culture ¯ and musical icons by a straight woman, ¯ but suchis life. I feel like I shouldknow all ¯ this alrcady! ." There’s a few things Karin said that I ¯ think bear repeating, for both Melissa ¯ fans, and more importandy, for us all: "I ¯ am so happy that I could bring a singer ¯ into your life who writes and sings from ¯ ¯ the heart. VH1 is rertmmng her "Behind the Music" next week, and I’m going to tape it for you You’ll like it. It’ s the only ¯ oneI veseenwheretheartmtlsn thit~hing ¯ about something. Someofthemjustwhine ¯ endlessly. ’I love Shania Twain, but her ¯ BTM special was one endless bitch and ¯ whine. ¯ Stevie Nicks doesn’t bitch, but she’s : had such lousy things happen, to her, by : her own hand, that it just sounds so ¯ depressing. You know Melissa has been ¯ depressed, butthere’s somuchshedoesn’t ¯ say. I saw John Mellencamp’s BTM ¯ (Behind the Music), I’ve sc~en Cherts ¯ dozens of times, along with Madonna’ s, and Melissa’ s just seems so upbeat that Timothy Daniel Attorney at Law An Attorney who will fightfor justice & equality for Gays & Lesbians Domestic Partnership Planning, Personal Injury, Criminal Law & Bankruptcy 1-800-742-9468 or 918-352-9504 128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma Weekend and evening appointments are available. SprinL Sprint PCS" The C ear Alternative to Cellular Sprint PCS" Select Retailer $99.95 New Sprint PCS Phone -25.00 Less instore rebate $74.95 Net cost Buy any Sprint PCS Phone and get $25 off!’ Everyone is approved! All Sprint PCS service plans include.~ ¯ Free Voicemail, Free Caller ID ¯ Free Call Waiting ¯ Free 3 way calling , No activation fee ¯ No contract required ¯ 100% Sprint PCS Nationwide Neb,vork. Tulsa Locations: 2001 S. Garnett, 437-2dd~. 3733S. Memorial, 66003zl4 1216 S. Harvard, 587-1778 Sapulpa Location: ,109 N. Mission, 227-2322 Meet Local .Guys for Hot Ti @Origin. 18+. Additional features from personal ads see Jim, p. 15 she seems to have had a great life. Like I said before, growing up Gay anywhere, I know from you, is awful, but growing up Gay in Leavenworth, Kaus~ must be the pits. She doesn’t make much of anything depressing. I was veryimpressed. Thanks for the remark to the Gay men to listen to Lesbians. I think they shodd each take heed of that. And remember, she’s the only one I know of getting the word out to the .mainstream crowd. P,e~,,ple like her so much that they tend to. forget" (or tryto ...forget) that she’s Gay. She doesn’t let them. ("Someone’s spitting blood/face downinthe dirt/someone’ s thinking about ~ a gun/to try and stop the hurt/someone drew conclusious/on the wail of destiny/ someone’s getting louder/and that someone would be me.") That should be importanttous ail."- Miss KarinGregory. And I agree. Janis Ianis performing Saturday March 4 in Dallas, TX at a club called Uncle Caivin’s with Buddy Mondlock. And ladies, as aiways, if you have something to contribute or would like to see in this column, please let me know care ofTFN, or email me at tfnentritr@aol.com. I wouldn’ twantto disappointthe diehard readers of this column, so now it’s time for... The Stevie Nicks mention. She has a featured track on the new Sheryl Crow and FriendsCDand video. The song is the venerable Gold Dust Woman, and she’s never sounded better! The CD’ s out now, video to follow. Sarah. McLachlan, Chrissie Hynde, the Dixie Chicks and others aiso sing with Sheryl. And Stevie still has a few shows left to do in Las Vegas at the house of Blues this month. Hernew album, first duein October oflast year, now set for sometime this year, maybe, is being produced by one of the better known producers of hip hop and rap. I’d mention the name, but I caff t rememberit. Shery! Crow was producing, which wouldhavemadefor an interesting aibum - she did the excellent jobs of producing the Stevie songs forthe Practical Magic soundtrack. Stevie and rap... That will be interesting as well, aithough I fear for different ~easous. We shall see.., or hear. The ever handsome pianist Jim Brickman performed at the PAC on December 10, 1999, along with the very talented John Trones and the beautiful Anne Cochran. The show was lovely, an eveningofromance and seasonal favorites, and as Mr. Brickman described the evening, much like a gathering of friends round the piano. Okay, if the friends had areally large living room, and reaily good - moodlighting. Andamplifiers. Thegroup .i did a swell job ofmaking a cavern into an intimate cabaret. Mx. Brickman has a charming sense ofhumor and intelligence .to complementhis goodlooks. (Evenbetter m person and up close. I love my job...) He seemed very relaxed, and it was like meeting an old friend for the first dine. His playing can certainly set amood, from exuberant to melancholy and romantic all at the same time; and has a warmth to it thatis reminiscentof spending the evening with a loved one by a fire. Or, if you’ re .single, as I am, curledup in a comforter with a good book and cup, of cocoa. Now that weknow how I spendmy evenings... What? Have I said too much? Mr. Brickman is a prolific songwriter as well, setting words to music that is lovely : to hear and unabashedly sentimental in feeling. : Anne Cochran, who met Mr. Brickman ¯ inhigh school, where they formed aband, : has one of the most incredible voices I’ve : heard. And her phrasing with a song is : immaculate. Shecaptured thewarmthand joy of the compositions she performed withexpertease, andhas alovely, energetic yet relaxed stage presence that also added to the ambiance of the evening. She has a new CD out called "Lucky Girl’_’, which I would highly recommend for a gift based on whatI heard that evening. Iwould have one in my hot little hands right now had they not been sold out. She isa name you might be familiar with, she has had a top ¯ 5 hit with Jim Bfickman on the song : -"After All These Years" which has been : reed by skater Rosalyun:Summers, both : live and recorded. It was also the song ¯ used on the final episode of "Home : Improvement", andshe will be featured in :- the Lifetime television speciai"A Golden Moment". Definitely worth checking out. You can order her CD at www.AnneCochran.com. John Trones (pronounced ~tro-ness’), who is as nice and gorgeous as he is .talented (what a voice! whata smile! what a chest! what a pleasant man!), was a delight to listen to as well. With a million dollar smile that shines like a searchlight, and a voice that has incrediblerange and expressiOn,hejoined Anne on several numbers and had some lovely solos. His singing soared through the Chapman theatre and could melt the most hardened heart. He has an aibum of standards and ballads out called "Forward", which I was able to snag and most definitely would make a great Valentine’s girlie for the special man on your list. He can melt the ice off the fiorth Pole with that voice, and his phrasing and reading of the standards is right on target. A pity he’s in Minneapolis, I would love to see more of him. He does Cabaret there at Blanche’s, and has performed in a number of Gay plays, listed on his web site, www.JohnTrones.com, which is worth a look. You can also order his CD there. After listening to several review CDs of dubious quality sent to TFN, put out by Gay artists of dubious talent, attempting to sing standards and not succeeding very well at anything other than murdering the music, I am glad to say that his would be the one I would, and did, purchase. They were joined by Tracy Silverman on electric violin, and he did quite an interesting variationonthe Beade’ s"Here Comes The Sun". His playing added an interesting embellishment to Mr. Brickman’s piano. I will say he had the most lovely and LONG hair I’ ve seen on aman in along time. He has an album out on Windham Hill records. If you get the chance to catch any or all of these artists should they make a return appearance, DO SO! You won’t regret it. Just make sure you have a date, and one that won’t stand you up. I was looking forward to Peter Buffett’ s "Spirit: A Journey in Dance, Drum, and Song"aunique blend of Native American and contemporary music, dance, and storytelling, to have been held January 3 and 4th, 2000 at the Brady Theatre. According to the latest info, ail spring dates have been put onhold. According to my sources, a late spring tour is in the plans. James Christjohn serves as TFN Entertainment editor with emphasis on the performing arts. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Bishop.Spong Retires TEANECK, N.J. (AP) - Bishop John Spong, an outspoken supporter of the ordination of Gays and women, and blessings of same-sex unions in the Episcopal church, retired in January as head of the Diocese of Newark. Spong, 68, celebrated one of his final services as bishop at the Glenpointe Marriott ballroom before hundreds of guests. His successor will be John Croneberger. Since his elevation to bishop in 1976, Spong has raised eyebrows and blood pressures for his beliefs_ ranging from women becoming priests to supporting same-sex marriages to the ordination of openly Gay ministers. ButSpong, a native of Charlotte, N.C. who speaks with the slightest ac~ut, left the diocese with few words of controversy. "It’sjust the next stage ofmy life," said Spong. .’,. "Basically, I’ve been a bishop, but also an author and lecturer," he said. "But in all ofmy ordained life, it was participating in movements of people who’ve been diminished in society, like people of color and Gays, that the church has diminished where I’ve worked." Among those present at Friday’s 126th annual convention of the Diocese of Newark were the Rev. Richard HollowayofEdinburgh; ~.-~- - See Spong~.p.lO Southwest Air Adds, Non- Discrimination Policies DALLAS - Southwest Airlines has amended its nondiscrimination and anti-harassment policies to include sexual orientation, according to Chief Executive Herb Kelleher. The move, announced Jan. 24, came after a spate of alleged anti-Gay harassment at the airline, which led some Southwest employees to raise safety concerns. The tensions boiled over when Southwest Airlines’ Pilots’ Associationpublished ahomophobicletterfrom one of its members in its December newsletter. The letter, by Capt. Gary S. Ward, urged Kelleher to reject calls for the airline to provide domestic partner benefits saying, ’Will therebeaneedto hireadepartment to check on who is shackin..e, t~p with whom?" The newsletterinstructedpilots to write theirownlettersand deliverthemto their SWAPArepresentativefordeftvcry to Kelleher. Dean Hervochon, vice president of the Transport Workers Union Local 556 representing Southwest’s flight attendants, said the publication "institutionalized homophobia" and created a hostile work environment that "could jeopardize the safety of all persons on the aircraft." "If the front doesn’t talk to the back of the airplane, you’ve got a problem," Hervochon told WorkAlert. Kelleher and leaders of sWAPA and TWU met Jan. 17 to discuss how to respond.TWUrepresentatives also pressed Kelleher to add sexual orientation to the antiharassment andnon-discriminationpolicies. Meanwhile, the vice presidents for flight operations and in-flight services along with SWAPA and TWU officials sent a letter Jan. 20 to flight attendants and pilots attempting to defusethe situation. Howcver, Gayemployees criticized the letter as inadequate and for using objectionable language, such as "lifestyle choices." Then Kelleher announced the change in company policy in a letter to all Southwest Airlines employees. "Forsomeyears, I have explidfly declined toamendour anti-harassment and see SWAir, p. 10 " Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families .+ Friends Tulsa’s Largest Circulation CommunityP~perA~vailable In More Than 75. City Locations !Teachers Credit Union: No :-Loan for Lesbians as Couple : Credit Union AskedAuto Dealer If They Were Gay ¯ TULSA- WhenTheresaandJoanWrightwenttoTulsaTeachers " Credit Union, they just wanted a car loan. The women are : expecting their second child and had found a van.at a local auto : collection. And since they have shared checking and savings accounts at Tulsa Teachers Credit Union, and good credit, they : naturally went there, expecting that getting a loan would be : relafivd~ painless. " .i.~ ~Wlmt they experienced they say, however, was hurtful and ~; dUenmioenan(riInTgC. U,A)c, cnoortdoinnlgytroeftuhseedWtoriegvhatlsu,aTteutlhsaemTeaascahceoruspCler,eid.ei.t : basing alOan!on their combined income but someone from the : creditunion evencalled theauto dealershipaskingifthedealership : staff"knew they were Gay?" ¯ And the Wrights characterized the behavior of their loan officer, Sandy Roth as very rude, particularly about the issue of : evaluating their joint income for loan purpose. Roth refused to ¯ look at their joint income saying it was because they are not ". married. In contrast to Tulsa Teachers Credit Union, a loan officer at i Tulsa Municipal Employees Credit Union stated that they accept ¯ unmarried couples withcombinedhouseholds as loan applicants, : noting that she’d assisted at least two Lesbian and two Gay : couples with loans. ¯ Bank of Oklahoma stated that they had not always accepted : couples whose relationships were not legally recognized but that : they now do so. And a senior officer at Spirit Bank encouraged ¯ Lesbian.and Gay couples to apply with her bank, noting that : Spirit Bank would not tolerate anti-Lesbian or Gay bias. ." Theresa Wright noted that Ms. Roth refused even to look her : in the eye when she went in to sign the loan papers. The Wrights : noted that the dealership, in contrast to the credit union, was very ¯ nice, and that irwas the manager assisting them in purchasing ¯ their new vehicle, who said, "I’m just going to say something. : Your bank called and wanted to know the nature of .your : re!ationship-are they Gay?" Heassuredthemthathis organization ¯¯ welcomed everyone and also had Gay people working for it. Ms. Rpth’s su_l~’visor-at TI’CU, David Snyder refused to comm~h~ and ref~ed’~ to Chuck Reed, ~ see Credit,p. 10 ¯ TulsaPFLAG & TOHRmembersmarchedfor thefirst time in the ¯ Martin Luther King, Jr. Commemorative Parade in January. TOHR Receives a. $10k Grant i TULSA-Inmid-December, TulsaOklahomasforHumanRights ¯ (TOHR) received a $10,000 grant from the Colin Higgius : Foundation. Thegrantis for the Tnlsa Gay Community Services : Center programming, marketing and development expansion ¯ project. Specific goals of the project include the production and : distribution of a €ommttnity referral guide, the enhancement of _" Lesbian Connection- a program that encourages increased : involvementfromthewomenofourcommunity, and anexpanded ¯¯ Pride 2000 Festival. The marketing and development aspects of the project will focus on enhanced communication and media inaterial as well as ¯ increased membership and volunteer involvement. : The Colin Higgins Foundation is based in San Francisco, : California. Colin Higgins,screenwriter, director and producer, : established the Foundation in 1986. Mr. Higgins is remembered ¯ for his remarkable human comedies, including Harold and : Maude, Silverstreak, Foul Play and Nine To Five. : He created the Foundation in order to further his humanitarian : goals. OneoftheFoundation’smainprioritiesistoempowerGay menand Lesbiansby supporting community-based organizations : that combat homophobia and foster leadership. : TOHRdirectors indicated thatitis honored to receive thegrant : and that they have ambitious goals for 2000 and beyond. New Pastor Leads at Tulsa’s MCC-United ¯ TULSA - After a number of months with an ¯ interim pastor, Oklahoma’s oldest extant Lesbian ¯ andGayorganization, theMetropolitanCommunity ¯ Church United (MCCU), has a new pastor, the ¯ ReverendCathy l~liott, whojoinedthecongregation ¯ at theend of 1’999. ¯ Elliott,grewupin themidwest, butcame toTulsa ¯ from Florida where she was invoIved with two : Metropolitan Community Churches in the MCC Fellowship. However, prior to working in Florida, ¯ she served a Congregation in-Rochester, New York ¯ and some years ago, was associated with the MCC ¯ in Little Rock. Like many MCC pastors, Elliott came to the ¯ MCC Fellowship through a winding path, having ¯ become more serious about her faith while at university. There, she joined a church that was ¯ theologically evangelical, but after a fe~v years, as ¯ sheacknowledgedbring Lesbian, she foundherself ¯ becoming involved in an MCC that was about 40 miles away. Anditwas fromthis initial association, : that her calling to the ministry came. ¯ In a recent interview with TFN, Elliott praised ¯ theworkhernew congregationhaddoneinmerging ¯ the formerly two separate churches, MCC-Greater ¯ Tulsa and Family of Faith MCC. As she and they ¯ havebeguntobecomeacquainled, thecongregation ¯ is looking at how they will grow, spiritually and otherwise. ¯ Some members of the congregation .have also ¯ become involved in a serious social action ¯ organization, called Soul Force. The group was ¯ founded by MCC pastor and writer, the Reverend ¯ Mel White. White, who once wrote for anti-Gay ¯ evangelical such as Jerry. Falwell, modeled Soul ¯ Force on the theories of non-violent confrontation " for social .change of Martin Luther King, Jr. and ¯ MahatmaoGhandi. see Elliott, p. 11. ¯ Marriage Is Civil-Rights "Issue Says Vermonter : MONTPELIER,Vt. (AP)-One ofthemostpainful : things about figuring out he was Gay as a teen-ager ¯ was coming to the realization that he would never : get married and have a family. Ed Flanagan came ¯ from an Irish-Catholic family, one of five kids, : "four straight and one Gay," he says. His fatherhad : an alcohol problem and"the end resnlt was that we ¯ childrenwerevery, very closein terms ofsupporting : each other to get through that environment." His : relationships with his brother and three sisters : "have been very crucial in terms of all of the five of : us surviving and flourishing," Flanagan said. "It’s ¯ a very strong presence that we all feel with one : another and a source of important emotional ¯ support." Trying to find a place within the Gay comrmmity : ofthe 1960s and ’70s wasn’t easy for someone with : such strong family ties. "That culture back then did ¯ not accommodate the id_ea,,o,f family," he said in an interview this past week. In the midst of the Gay : culture I felt Very alien, for that reason and others." : Now that culture is changing, it’s "becoming more ¯ family-oriented, and longer-term relationships are ¯" becoming more prevalent," Flanagan said. And ¯ state law appears to be changing, too. ¯ Today, Flanagan sees a future in which getting married, perhaps even being aparent, may become : options forhimandotherGaysandLesbians. There ." may be an oasis on the horizon for people who have ¯ wandered much of their lives in an emotional : desert. 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Member of The Associated Press : Issued on or before’the 1st~af,cach~m0nth,-the enUre~contents.; of this publication: ar6 ptrt~t&l?l~tda:~yrightl~~ T~€( F~,~ N~€~ ~fid may ~6t~ ~q~oducetl’,~ ~: wholeorin partwithoutwritten~Ssionfromth~publisli&:. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate a person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is, assumed to be. for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed& becomes the sole property of T~J.~~Nc~u÷ ~acli reader is entitled to 4 copies of each edidon at ,distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. " Gay Pro Lifers March On ¯ Onjanuary24,2000,about20members :of the Pro-Life Alliance of Gays .and : Leshi.ans. (PLAGAL). did an am.P_y~ng :,~ at the annual Marcia ior Lit-e protesung :. the Roe vs. Wade decision on its i nnniversary despite being .tl~¯cate_n.e.d .: March told PLAGAL that they~.~uta no_ ¯ march, s~n,,c~_, they. ,,w,ere Gay.-Now, if :. PLAGAL closet’ed themsd~ andjust ....~9A%~e’Righ.t to t~te MarCH, an oth groups,_w, eaUow t0.ma@be,. hind ~: b:~nners- refl~tingtheir various eiamcnes, : organizations or states but if.PLAGA~ ¯ m~mbers carried its banner, they woma ". be arrested and thrown in jail. ¯¯ This being known at the annual PLAGALmeefngontheeveofthemarch, " members decided to risk being arrested. "_ After all, they reasoned it would be hypocritical ffPLAGALhid at the March ,FHufiieVndEsRinCUennitteyr,S4o1c3ia8lCOhrags.,.PPaOgBeB85lv4~2a, 174101 - -558832--60641318 .:~ .fhoarrdLtiofebewinhcelnudfoerdoypeearnslytihnepyrifdoeuegvhetnstos :Tulsa C.A.R:E.S., 3507 E. Admi 834Z4194 : ~-indparadeswithinitsowncommunity.in Holland Hall School, 5666 E. 81st " 481-1111 ." addition, if PLAGAL bowed to the HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention,.E~_u__ca~on _ 83~8378 : 0ressmesimposedbytheorganizers, they *House of the Holy Spirit Miustries, 3?~l,0e,,S,~%Nff~rw~oo~ 2437 .. : ~do the Gay ~)mmunity no, g.oqd.. lnt,~fslth IDSMinistries ’ ~..~6-/~-I,DI, OUU-~.~’I-z¢’~, ... By.not marching, they would be ~’l~"~mA’ted,i623 N, Maplewood - .: g ~8-~~ ~ ac~nowiedging that is was fight t~o hate I~AMES Project,3507 E. Ad_mi,ml_ ~PI,: ..... ~, ~,~a~_~.~ ¯ and this would be a backward step. NOW, Nat’lOrg. forWomen~POB lqotas, t,H3y :)to-o,, :. PLAGAL members do not want to be OK Spokes Club ~cyding), FOB 9i65, 74157 . excluded from the Gay community just *OSU-Tulsa . " PFLAG, FOB 52800, 74152 749-4901 - *Harmed parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 58%7674 : Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 *R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network ~ 749-4195 *Red Rock Mental.Center, 1724 E. 8 584-2325 ." .O’RYAN, support group for 18-24 LGBT young adults : O’RYAN, ~r. support group for 14-17 LGBT youth " St. Aid,art’s Episcopal Chinch, 4045N. Cincinnati 425-7882 S,, r~,,-~tan’s EniScoval, 5635 E. 71st 492-7140 " ~t.Jer~--~me’s P~arish ~hurch, 205 W. King 582-3088 " *Tulsa Area United Way, 1430 S. Boulder 583-7171 *TNAAPP (Native American men), Indian Health Care 582-7225 ?ulsa County Health Department, 4616 E. 15 595-4105 Confidential HIV Testing - by appt. on Thmsdays only Tulsa Olda. for HumanRights, c/o The Pride Center 743-4297 T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 298-0827 *Tulsa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule *Tulsa Community College Campuses *~ulsa Gay Comn;unity Center, 1307 E. 38, 74105 743-4297 Unity Churchof Christianity,3355 S. Jamestown 749-8833 BARTLESVILLE *Bartlesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone 918-337-5353 OKLAHOMA CITY/NORMAN *Borders Books &Music, 3209NWExpressway 405-848-2667 *Borders Books & Music, 300 Norman Center 405-573-4907 TAHLEQUAH *Stonewall League, call for information: 918-456-7900 *Tahlequah Unitarian-UniversalistChinch 918-456-7900 *Green Country AIDS Coalition, POB 1570 918-453-9360 NSU School of Optometry, 1001N. Grand HIVtesting every other Tues. 5:30-8:30, call for dates EUREKA SPRINGS,~ARKANSAS " - Autumn Breeze Restamant, Hwy. 23 *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main DeVito’s Restamant, 5 Center St. Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. MCC of the Living Spring Geek to Go!,~ PC Specialist, FOB 429 Old Jailhouse Lodging, 15 Montgomery Positive Idea Marketing Plans Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East White Light, 1 Center St. JOPLIN, MISSOURI *Spirit of Christ MCC, 2639 E. 32, Ste. U134 501-253-7734 " 501-253-7457 " 501-253-6807 ¯ 501-253-5445 501-253-9337 ¯ 501-253-2776 " 501-253~5332 501-624-6646 ¯ 501-253-6001 " 501-253-4074 " 417-623-4696 * is where you can find TFN. Notall are Gay-owned butallare Gay-frlendly. becameoftheirpro-lifebeliefs andvalues, ~okmewise, they do want to be excluded the pro-life communityjustbecause they are Lesbian and Gay. Therefore, despite the threats, PLAGALappegr,ex]_at themarch,andwhenthepolicebamcaneu . them. PLAGAL .members maneuvered. around the police and entered the parade further up the street marching under their banner with the word "censored" taped across so everyone would know what the vords were underneath. Their decision to ignorethearrestthreatsfromtheorganizers was noted in The Washington Post, The Washington Times, and several others news publications throughoutthe counlry. Themajority ofGays and Lesbians may not share the briefs ofPLAGAL,but the~ shouldbeproud ofthis small group within its community. PLAGAL’s presence was a step toward bridging the gap between those individuals and the Gay community as a whole. At the end of the march, members of FemtmstforLife , Colleg~ates for Life , Catholic priests and bishops, and others from all walks of life and religions congratulated and thanked PLAGAL. see Letters, p.8 An nouncements Policy Tulsa Family News will provide space for holy union ceremony, marriage ceremony, birth, adoption~ .and death announcements ona space availablebasis. Photos are welcome, though we cannot promise placement o~r ,re~ttEn ~e~, so please send copies to I utsa ~ amtty ~vews, POB 4140, Tulsa 74159. ~ ¯ ~. Letters Policy :~’ i" Tulk~’Fam@ News welcomes letters 0~ issfi~:,which we’ve covered or~on issues you think need to be considered. You may request that your name be withheld but letters must be signed & have phonenumbers, or be hand ddivered. 200 word letters are preferred. Letters to other publications will be re-printed as is appropriate. byChristoptterGraff " ~ Solawmakers arefaced withadivision thatis widening ¯ !dONTPF.l.lP.R, Vt,(AP)-DonnaLescoeofStarksb°r° ¯ atatime they are looking for .~...useus~s_;ReP.- T~o~. Little, : had a simple message for legislators when she testified the chairman of the.HouseJudidary COmm;ttee, ls aman ,,onGaymmriage."Beheroes~" ~ who has a keen ability to fmd commonground and to lawmakers tohavethe courage toextendi¯ stitch together=. divisions, He Js -a Repubfican who : the nmrriage laws tOincludeGays¯ and Lesbians. , commandS’.re.speCt.from-b.oth par.fies~:~But he seetmhaend ,r :, -~ ,,,~h, SO simule It is hard to be a hero , frustrated this past. week by the w~demng rather bv Tom Neal, puoltflg,r & eaztor .... . u ~t ~,~,. ,~ v _:.. ..... ¯ ¯ . ohab y most non-Gry O @Oma : i .".es,the o ti=.rew.lawmakers they had no Lesbian orGcoa:ynstfl.uents.. wmlesomeoi *_..m°nmemlle’mmma-,em. vm,.~°~-nsare.s°ucmP."......... _,. mp ..-...~ . " w~’lling to casts: vote that them aresimply bigots, many of them know that they- . looked _li~..e .anything bu.~....... . €ouldbothdrlast.Nomatter oughtto:~be mpportive of basic.civil fights for Gay "- heroe~ folio.wt~.g a re~,,.m " ’~f’k,, ~-~..!. f~ogn6 lavcmaker~ ~. - l~nw stron~ the evidence that ........ " " " ¯ Ilk UUIIC aaa,o ..~.~ .~--~- .~ ~aUzens.’But they are scared that,treating Gay people Tuesday__ mg P, . _ _ ¯ ,. " . ¯ " ’, , . " " ¯ " .. " * " ~..,faidy. ..w..a.l.l so, mc,e,nse. othvegr te:rs~.. that they., are=oft.m__:..., _h-.~,g~!tgo~-a.~a-~.t ....... not ea@-. It ~s nothln~ less dmiedthdr dviln~ghts;~t~s ~.~lhdistta~ttishfibt~ fr0in Oldalaoma R~publicans. ,,-~ ~ ~ ....shell’sn,°q~cm-a~Y-~ ~ : ~ ./ !* ..../ ....L .... - t...a f~ra leoislator to cast a ¯will be~ deaded 0n TU~da.y;Match 14th. Some 0f,the " them9bPere:!lapfs noeverr e. o[ Freedomand Unlt-~. firestormot races are dfeetivdy settled (Brady Pringledoes~have a i have .1..~0,l~.!e att_~dyd Democratic oppon~eatbut in thai~ heavily Republican . a pum~c nearing at me " How to ~ve Gays and Lesbians :polls in November. district, it likely doesn’t matter), but others ~ar~.. still : Statehouse.Andthenumber unsettled. " - ~ ¯ ~ " : ¯ would have been thousands Of particular interestto TulSa’s Lesbian and Gay - moreifasnowstormhadnot commlmities is Cound! District 4 .for which former ~ kept many away. .~ Yes, eye.one who spoke And even if lawmakers tl~elr ~xlom an~l yet preserve tl~e craft a package extending to unity at the state~ Gays and Lesbians benefits such as having a say in the It is the stm~ heroes are madeo[." medical decisions of, their incumbent Gary W~tts ischallengingcurrentincumbent parmers;theyknow therewill Anna Falling. While _.Gay and ~tiian households a~ - wascivil.Butthecivilitydid foundthroughont thedty~-thisdistri¢t,mosflyMidtown, ; not mask the passion: Or the division. The tremors in " be a vote on the.floor on same-sex marriage - and that is. easily the most. heavily Gaylone.of the..dt~ For_ ~ people’s voices, a mixture of nerves .and emotion, spoke - tally, no matter what the outcome, will beused in .the fall examp!e,jnstonornextttlny_v~;shortbloek~thereare " volumes about-the depths of feeling.~ What became " elections. " Following .the hearing it seemed m the at least six Gay families2 . i-.~~ ~. - ,.. -. :. apparent’at theheming is thatthe two sides are moving : Statehouse timt lawmakers would like to f’md a way to . One could argue, of course, that- Ms~ Fallingrs very -- fresher aparL - avoidany voteonthis issue this year.Theideaofcreating nubile lan.qe., in oood iudoment onnon-Gav issues (win ~-" WhentheSupr_em~eC.o.urtissuedi~.~be.r.idec.i.’s.ion :.a special com~!ssio.n .to .craft. a solu~o~n ,~an~d .rgel~O~ht;o~ r..::-:~.,r.:-- ,, < .,r-~-.,. ..... : ~. nsband~s~ -_ sa g Gays and Lesbians are eg.~fled tP the rights,. ". law.n~Kersnex[yearmt~mgatscus.ssa.tmt _P~r.napsua~ her recycling program pu.bfic or private, her h ...... ym ¯ ¯ ¯ - - ...... . o t the ¯ n,mmdfi~oroaniTatlon arml~n~f0~nUbficfundson.which ¯ bendits and protecuons gtvenroamedcouples, e_veryone ¯ ~sjustamo.m~entar~. ,.a.nd, ex.p.ected hesitancy foil w ng ~.~’~l"~.---e7------rr:~--~, r , i . - . ,~ " .t,d--.A ~,~,~teww P,,-a~e and I ~=~h~rt~ ~.q e coul"t -" na~sion80t tile DUDIIC lleallnl~. ¯ . .snewastovote),areenoughtopersuaaeLesmananatJay - ’-~..’2p~. ""~"*,?." ""~ .’~"..~"~’.’.’-:...l.~a~s.ed the.. . ~_~__,= _r.t.~_.,~,,t,.nm,~tttiiiX~endnnhowthedebateis _ " ~.F2.-............¯,.;~.l,~.t~.i .r~v.r,~--..,~.t.~.n.f.~..e.-~_e.x. mam__aaoge al80 rimmed ¯ frmned m the comm~_ weeks. Opponents ll,ge me. m. p ,L. arg.en.t a.n.dl.na.ol.e .sul.tra.-e.xtr.em.e.re.ng.to.-po.n.u.co.s,.a.no..-..~,¯ .t.~, b~" ause the court di¯d not stri¯ke down the state,s .¯ are seeki"ng to" portray the Supreme Court deeimon as her rtosuu[y Io OUr t’I1oe evenls, it s Cl~ar Inat amlost . ,a,.~..j . . . . . . . ,,~....,,1,1 h~ ~,~tt,~ ¯ mamage laws~ Bishop Kenneth Angell calle~_, the court . some_ra.di.’.ca.l, andug,com.ttm.~fio.na).mo.ye ,F~Ve.nnon.t.ers, ~:................ - ruling aadecisivevictoryfor.tradifionalmamage." ¯ thoughdtlshardtotmagrnet~meIJusuceJenreyAmestoY, Thatbringsus toGaryWatts. Gary,likesomeOklahoma - Democrats is not particularly prejudiced. Like those : R seemed at that moment that legislation creating same Democrats, he’s not shown much leadership, He : dthormouegshti.cBpuatritnnetrhsehmiposnftohrsGinacyestahneddeLceissbioianntshewtowuolds.l~ose~s and they don’t haleus - theyjust don’.t want to deal with - our issues. have’ staked out positions worlds aparL ,But sOi~eone"s got to.start, kno@ing that.we’ll lose the first or five engagements but that.each time our issues, like a city non-discrimination ordinance, or equal compensation (full benefits for our familiesas well as equal wages)for Gay cityemployees, or a city domestic partners registry, are debated,the public learns. I believe that-Oklahomans are basically fair and eventually will respond to a reasoned argument. And in the meantime, a fair-minded city councilor could push for administrative changes, like getting the "diversity" training forourpolice departmentto deal with more than just race. After all, it’s our city too. : Bishop An,g,ell recently-condemned domestic : partnerships as steponetowardfullacceptanceofsame- " ¯ sex marriage" and has evenchallenged ~evalidity ofthe ¯ Supreme C,o.~_~ ruling itseLf, saying ~.his~t.o ,arms,to . Catholics, q~ere are many sound legm minus WhO . ¯ question the Supreme Court’s authority to even issue " ¯ such mandates to the legislature.’" : At the same time, Gays and Lesbians are saying a ¯ system of domestic partnerships is insufficient to meet " the spiritofthe Supreme Courtrtding. Adomesticpartner " sounds like someone who cleans the house, Jonathan Radigan told lawmakers. : amuchbeloved andeminentlyrespectedpersonwhois as : moderate and generally as cautious as they come, doing ¯ something radical or unconstitutional. It was Amestoy : who wrote the court rnling. : Andthe hearingdidmuchtoeducatenotju~tlawmnkers, but also the public at large. ~Vermont Public Radio did a great service by broadcasting the hearing statewide. Vermonters of all political and social back_groun.ds .got a chance to hear the scripture readings, the pasmon, the division. They also got to hearfrom the real.people whose lives will be most affected by the legislative action. The task facing lawmakers is noteasy. It is nothing less than living up to the state’s motto of "’Freedom and Unity." How to giveGays andLesbians theirfreedomand yet preserve the unity of the state? It is the stuff heroes are made of. by Dave Fleischer, Senior Fellow Policy Institute National Gay and Lesbian Task Force We love coming out - except when we hate it. Welovereminiscing onand celebrating ourpast acts of daring. Comingoutishow wediscoveredbothcommunity and freedom. It’s how we found both love and a life. But it’s hard to snmmon the energy and courage to come out 24/7 - to ask, tell, and pursue on a daily basis. That’s why campaigns sidestep the "G" word. When we say~ person-to-person, "What do you think ,a,b~,ut tl~."s anti-Gay ballot measure?", we are also asking, "What do you think about me? Do you see me as a human being, although I’m Gay and you probably aren’tT’ ’. Most campaigns avoid coming out, way out_ They rarely engage voters .perso.n-to-person, and of,te~, av~oid mentioning sexual on~mtataon. Recent research oy ls.en ~eager (himself an openly-~ay candidate for office) ~uggests that57% of candidate’~ who think of themselves as "openly Gay" don’t actually disclose their sexual orientation to voters before the election. Likewise, many campaigns to defeat anti-Gay ballot measures twist themselves into p~etzels to avoid the words "Gay", "Lesbian", or that new scare word (rarely so clearly): ifax Thd challengeofbeing outhas turned us inward before. : Look around our community. Most of our organizations : are refuges -"safe space"- safe from meaningful ¯ encounters with straight people. We draw 200,000 to a : pride parade to celebrate, yet only a relative handful to ¯ political campaigns to safeguard our fights. ¯ But relying onrefuges is a risky strategy. It suggests to : our opponents that the rest of the world is theirs, and it ¯ leaves us vulnerable topolitical attack. Soplease consider ¯ afew specificcoming-outactionsthatbuildourcollective ¯ power and don’t unduly disrupt your everyday life. ¯ 1. Join acampaign where you get to ask voters one-on- : one, preferably face-to-face, if we can count-on their ¯ votes. ¯ In 2000, California, Miami-Dade County, Florida, ¯ Maine, and possibly Oregon face ballot measures that ¯ affect your rights. If you live in one of these places, join ¯ your local campaign. ¯ If you used to live in one, make a list of everyone you ; know in your old hometown. Dig out your old address book or high school yearbook. Ask your siblings or ¯ parents to jog your memory. I’ll bet you know at least 50 ¯ people you can call. Whea you reach them, explain the and ask if we can count on : "Hometown Project", because it builds on the power of ¯ our relationships with family and friends, even when ; we’ve been out of touch. : If you have never lived in the hot-spots du jour, don’t ¯ feel neglected. Make a list of everyone you know who ¯ does live in one. You must know 20 people. Send them ¯ this colnmn. Follow uponthephone.Weneedevery vote, ¯ and you will help create a new habit of doing the one-on- " one ask. ~ 2. Host a house party to raise money for one of the communities under attack. Invite 120 friends and ." acquaintances to your home to hear about this new wave ¯ of ballot measures. Call all 120 personally and ask each ¯ to come. You will bring together 40 people, raise a ¯ minimum of $1000, and f’md at, least six new volunteers. ¯ 3. Get training. If face-to-face voter contact sounds : intimidating, seek out training, At the¯National Gay & ¯ Lesbian Task Force Creating Change conference ¯ November 10-14, we taught the nuts and bolts, went ¯ door-to-door talking with Oakland voters about the anti- -¯ Gay-marriage Knight Initiative. In one evening, we will identified hundreds of our supporters, and educated undecided, voters. ,. rput up the periscooI~..~::~t~sgreat that our community - but reality In some cases, the registry document can provide further legal proof of a relationship, Roche said. It could come into play, for exhmple, when a Gay couple with jointly owned assets separates. The registry stirred relatively little opposition in Ashland, where it was approvea by a 4-1 vote of the City Council, Roche said. Nationally, registries have spurred voter initiatives and lawsuits. Courts validated Atlanta’s registry but overturned a registry in Minneapolis, according to the Lmnbda Legal Defense and Education Fund. The registries can be designed !o ~PP!~ ~ both Gays and t~f~rosextml~i~,as Seattle s i~,i[~i~ ~bepurely ;~.~ml~6iic o{’~iV~ sp~i~...d tl~e-~ ’~ :: ~ :": " ~. -" ’ .~ i .Reform :Same-Gender Rituals NEW YORK (AP).=-Two years after they postponed a contentious showdown over same-sex blessing rituals, the rabbis ofJudaism"S liberal Reform branch will face a decision on the issue at this year’s convention. Leaders of the 200-member Women’s Rabbinic Network have agreed to force the issue by submitting a resolution sanctioning such ceremonies to the Central Conference OfAmerican Rabbis, which holds-*its national convention, March 26-29 in Greensboro, North Carolina. The coqeaders of the women’s network, Rabbis Shira Stem and Susan-Stone, said the resolution agreed" to’recently will differ only slightly from a proposed text the same group published in January. " That text said: "The relationship of a Jewish, samegender couple is worthy ofaffirmation through appropriate Jewish ritual and. :-: .each rabbi should decide ab0ut-0l’ficiafio-n- a~,Ysfdin-g-t6 hig/her"own rabbinic conscience." The conference’s top two officials had signed a January declaration urging all American tdig~ons to normalize same-sex couples. And a conference Sexuality study committee in 1998 .. endorSed recognition rituals for such couples. The women’s net~brk cffes the sexuality i C~mtifittee’s view that Judaism’s historic opposition ¯ to homosexual behavior no longer applies. But there is division within Reform rabbinic ranks. : The conference’s "responsa comnuttee,’,whose ¯¯ rulings guide the practices of Reformrabbis, opposed thechangeinaT-2decision.Amemberoftheresponsa committee majority, .Rabbi .:Jeffrey Salkin of Port Washington,NewYork, saidReformrabbis arealready free to conduct same-sex rituals if they want. But Salkin fears that officially approving the practice would"tearrdati,onships apart" amongReformrabbis, and hurt Reform s relations ~ith otl~[r branches and its hopes-.~fot full a-cce~tance.in {g~el?-Whatevet happens, Salkin said; ~’We:are looking at something that will ha¢e massive historical iml~pr~ce." ~ "- ¯ Me,mawhile, the Episcopal’Churchig~s to release a proposal on same-same rituals within a weekortwo Conventions ofthe Presb~[6ri~m Ch~Ch (U,S.~.) an~ United Methodist Church will also deb~!le the issue this year. .:. ~- " ~ Gay Club Embraced at Catholic College United in God’s Love MCC-United Reverend Cathg.E~liot Pastor ~) Sunday Worship 11:00 am 1623 N. Maplewood 918/838~715 ~.~,~ ~ "7.- Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation at Community ofHope 2545 South Yale, Sundays at llam, 749-0595 A Welcoming Congregation HOUSE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT Sun. Worship, 10:45 am, Sunday School, 9:30 am .................. Wgd_._Bible- Study, ~7 pm 3210b S. Norwood, Info: 224-4754, Chris or Sharon Sandra Hill M.s. Licensed Professional & National Certified Counselor, Certified Hypnotherapist Psychotherapy & Clinical Consultation After Hours Appointments Available 2865 E. Skelly DriSe, Suite 215,745-1111 Red Rock Tulsa- O’RYAN Oklahoma Rainbow Y0hng Adult Network i~’ Outreach Prografn Thurs: Nights Meet Others in a Safe Enviroment ~. .: Call for.mee.ting tinies ~ind place: ~ 918-584:2325 Mingo Valley Flowers II Court UpholdsPortl and Civil Rights Ordinance SALEM, Ore. (AP) - Gay rights advocates have won a round as the Oregon Court of Appeals upheld a Portland ordinance against discrimination based on sexual orientation. The court, in a 9-1 ruling reversing a lower court, said the city had the power to give citizens the right to go to state courts to enforce the anti-discrimination ordinance. Even some,of,the appealsjudges in the.majority, tho~.igtr, ~orried-@ati tl~e~c0~ ~.i,,hav~ V~iatut~d roofs, toward giving private partigs new..avenues sUeiffSeateeo.ur~s overlocaHa~sx.The rightto sue-was tthet~yi~su~-,N~bod~:oIai,m~4ltmt!hecity1aek~ ~he ~weri lx~:iid0pt~:~e-ordinanee.in~t991., that bars disNNmati~n, i~ eniployment, housing, and public accommodations.. ,S~te.taws against employment discrimination don’t include sexual orientation. The city ordinance also outlaws discrimination based on sources of income, which is aimed at protecting welfare recipients. "This is a great day for civil rights in Oregon,P said PortlandMayor Vera¯ Katz..Port.land ~.s once.agatn a leaderin efforts to protecttherights ofall our citizens." The case decided involved employment. A MultuomahCounty temporaryjudge, MonteBricker, ~n .1.997 ruled against David Sims, who claimed he was fired as a cook at Besaw’s Cafe in .Portland because he is Gay. Owners of the business denied the accusations and have not made a decision-on whether to appeal to the oregon Supreme Court. Bricker said the city couldn’t givepeopleapathway to state courts to seek enforcement of rights under a local law. But the appeals court said the city didn’t exceedits authority, giving Sims the chance to continue ............with hislav~sttitin_which he.~6"nght either damages or Basic Rights Oregon, a leading Gay civil rights advocacy organization, also praised the decision. "We’re very pleased to hear that the court has upheld employees’ access to fight discrimination at the state courtle el, : stud spokeswoman Maura Roche. More than one appealsjudge hadmixed feelingson thecase, which had been before the~cottrt since fall of 1998. Only Judge Walter Edmonds Jr. dissented entirely. But four others, including Chief Judge Mary Deits, said while they agreed with the outcome, the court went further than necessary. The decision "sweeps too broadly" in deciding that cities can broaden the "duties and liabilities of private parties," Judge Virginia Linder wrote in a separate concurring opinion. Edmonds said the decision violated the concept of state sovereignty over local governments. Oregon City/Count,y May Try-Partners R gistry RTL N , Or . eit: of t’ortland and Multnomah County are ~nsiderir~ theadopdon of a domesdcpartuefship registry as away~’prGay couples t6 Officially iog thdr ~;~i~onships, A jOint ~registry wotfld be ihe second ,~.::~gon ,ag_.d~ong three dozen nationwide. In Oc~be~AsKihhd approved a registry for s/tree-sex couples 18:or older. So did California. Seattle has had one since 1994. And New Orleans, Boston, New York and Iowa City, Iowa also have them. The registries stop far short of conferring marriage s-tatus- on- Gay -couples= "~Bul~, it’s~ ,still-. an acknowledgment of. a relationship that two people who are committed to one another have," said Maura Roche, spokeswoman for Basic Rights Oregon. "And it’~ s away~to aeknoWiedge i-t in:a pt~bli~.forum~ which hopefally Wi~,leadito. ~g~puh!ie: understanding ¯~at~drmi~icaneedi:BotmJ~T~] cxec~ti:ve director Of She.-said the~Ialks are;.~.~st~p)i’~-thffright direction becaus,e a registry represent§ a chatNejn family. That s oae o~ the mNn..eoiicerns of Lou Bores exec~utive ~r...e.rgtor ~:;ffae:C~eg0ii chapter of the :.~)::: :~ais in Po~ilanO;and the na~9~’~, heL~aid:Beres added that he would try to organize h:pmtegt~a~ainst Katz and Naito if registries were e~(tended io homosexual PORTLAND, Maine (AP) - When Dan Neuville started classes as a freshman at Saint Joseph’s College in Standish last year~ the Gay man felt very lonely. Considering the church’s stance on homosexuality, Neuville wasn’t suq:rrised that there was no Lesbian- ¯ Gay studentorganizationlike.~ose at-secular colleges. "Tl~ere was-novd~ere form~to go.on,campus," Neuville said........... Now Newzille has creati~d ~dmewhere to go.,~qaough Catholic ze~cNag bars ~homosex~mt¢ from tam’Gage and sexual activity, &e State’[ only Roman Cail~olic college has:f0~-med a stude~tdub where heterosexual and homosesua! smdcms The Gay/St~ight stat~ff "as s~uden~ dozen Jennifer B@iiton;pres~d~nt~of: the student.senate; 9413 K 31st St., Tulsa 74145 918-663-5934, fax: 663-5834, 800-444-5934 Family Owned& Operated - - - - -- ~" ~- --7--- - - - 1307 E. 38th, 2nd floor Tulsa Gay Commtmity Sen,ices Center 743-GAYS (743-4297) 6=~pm, Sunday - Friday.. "12-9~m, Saturday; all sales.benefit’the Center/~-.i. Local - --KEVIN BURLESON Keller ~Willgams Rea!ty 712-2252 Burleson@kw.com 2651 East 21st Street, Ste. 100, Tulsa 74114 An Independent Member Broker OPENARMS,OPENMINDS-,OPENHEAKq’S Saint Aidan ,<. .Saint Dunstan 4045 N. Cincinnali,i~7882 .ii~~East 71st 492~7140 Saint John :......Td~ty - " 4200 S. Atlanta Pla~.~/42-7381 .,501: $.: Cincinnati, 582-4128 Welcomes You. said the ~cp.llege’s administrators, staff and students have received the new group well. "On our campus, iwe’re open to all issues, and as students we’re encouraged to discuss issues in society. Gay issues are one of those," she said. Thealliancehasmoreheterosexual than homosexual members and is not intended to compel anyone to endorse homosexuality, Neuville said. "We’re not a .. ~ mili~antgroup. We’renotprotesting,pickefn,g, saying, "Damn it, we want you to accept us,"" he said. club Gay on .to talk andleam tissues andbias against l to make Of troths .Saint Straight For the problematic sexual ¯ whether homosexuality is a choice or biological is ." irrelevant. "Gay and Lesbian people are not treated ." equally in many respects,’" sa~d Jane Marquardt, an ¯ attorney who donated to the Shepard scholarship ." fund. The scholarship is meant "to help a particular ." Gay student develop leadership skills, than people ¯ can realize Gay people are no different than anyone ." else," Marquardt said. :: Gay Student Sues School RENO. Nev._ (AP) - A former Washoe County high i School studentclaimsWashoeCounty school officials : failed t0 stopverbal andphysica!harassmentinflicted i-liy classmates becaus~ h~,is.Gay... In afederal lawsuit :. fded recendy, Derek Henkle ailcges school officials 1 : denied him~i:~te~:~.~.elofhls sexual .. ofientation:~d ,d~died,’:.~ fr~:, ~li:rigllts by; ’: allegedly urging him tohide being ~ay. Tl~_e suit als0~ .. maizes claimsofnegfigenceandinfliclionofemolional. ¯" distress. " ’" ...... :’=. ..... : I-Ienkle:~suit is .being h~ndled.~by me:Lamb~a : Legal Defense and Eduction Fund, a New York- ¯ : : based Gay rights.o~ganiza~on, it seeks unspecified t .::damages, Namedas defendan.ts are prindpals;a vice : prin~pal, a.teache~, and ~pus poSce officers. : School district offi~:ials had no iimnediate comment. ¯ "we haven’t been served with anythin$ yet and unSl " wedo,obvionsly we~m’tcommenton thespedfi~," district Spokesman~Steve Mulvenon said. Jon ,a~Gay .~"It’s not a conditiOn who is But the Catholics, : shouidbe~ Catholic ,Derek thandled I and at:the-hands .of said. call: :.Henkle clearly what :the stated -.Gay Scho|ershi including students ~and faculty at University have raised more than $50 ~e. Matthew Shepard Scholarship enaowment wil!.pro~ide $2,000 a year Bisexual ortransg~ grade point average,.= "I think it makes":us a, Hinds,. a Weber: State staff member who : a highway~ " administrators ~ At Washoe ! relatedlY : students to said his complaints to lot while two campus Davidson said the p_ri’ncipal pcople hewas Gay. students who tell Lesbians and Gay closet," Davidson said. ¯Gay Pride to. Happen pite vatican --~, Wyo., ROME (AP) - A Gay Pride week that comes smack .: college studentwho was Severely pistol ’ i iirnktehdetmheidVdalteicoafnt,hbeuRt Roommane,CsmatahyoolircinHsoislytedYtehaarththaes. left to die. The - ¯ " laws across the nation. : ."_.-i .Scho!arshiplapplieants must be a sophQ~ or :: aelvoenngtwwiiltlhbethalelo.Gw,,ae~ydptoritdaekeepvleancte,."bYutoiutmwioguhltdnobtegoa : higher level, t~king 12 credit hours per s~es~er. A : mistake to ban it, Mayor Francesco Rutelli said. 500 to 750 word essay, the World Pride Roma 2000 is expected to bring needs, academicperformance .: hundredsofthonsandsofGaysandLeshianstoRome with or service to the pay, Lesbian, Organizers are working to finalize scholarship endowment with the there are no applications. "There are sexnal m~inorifies.Andthis is "there’s a scliolarship here,"’ said President But said Weber State student Niki with culture ¯ at the same fire,the eityis overflowing with religions : pilgrims eomingto th~Jubileemillenniumcelebrations : calledby PopeJ0hnPaul II."Romehas amillenninm- : old code of welcome~.and respect that won’t change in ¯ 2000." RutelEtold a city council meeting on Holy : Year issues:,~:The. ~Vatican, which condemns : homosexual acts but.not homosexuality itself, had no official comment ~the July 1-9 event. Vatican Officials denied~.~.~ that the Holy See had tried to ÷:: cgoent diitticoanncoelfe~a.-,.n~iio;~[n~,~~ti_.,thae lsooffaiccikanlso,wwlehdogeSdptohkaet tohne Vafica was irritate, by the fact that the gathering t~mes ~:J~ee yeax. seeNews,p. 10 rZ Better.Drugs i Oral Sex Not As Equal Fewer Pills i Safe As Thought SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - Powerful new ¯ AIDS drugs in development should help relieve one of the biggest problems of treatment - the pill burden. Over the past four years, new treatment combinations have revolutionized AIDS care, changing HIV infection from a death sentence to a disease that is treatable, if not curable. However,patientsmustadhereto atedious and exacting sehedule of downing pills, .often more than 20 a day. Now, drugmakers are working on new drugs that require m~ch smaller doses as wall as better versions of the old standbys that can be taken less frequently. Experts say that if all goes well, overthe next two or so years it may be possible to reduce the .pill burden to just four tablets taken once a day. "Most drugs are dosed twice or three times a day for a reason. Once a day is not enough. The Holy Grail would be to take all your medicines once aday with as few capsules as possible. We are not so far from that, maybe in the next couple of years," said Dr. Eugene Sun, head of antiviral drug research at Abbott Laboratories. About half of all patients who initially respond to treatment eventually find their virus levels rebounding, and the most common reason for this is failure to stick to apill schedule. Thepill-taking schedule is more than just a nuisance. 71~ose who miss even a few doses risk losing control overtheir virus. Withoutenoughmedicine in the bloodstream, HIV comes roaring back, often generating mutant versions that are resistant to the drugs. Akeyingredient of mostdrug regimens is a class of medicines called protease inhibitors. They are often combined with two or three older kinds of drugs, such as ddI and AZT. At last month’s 7th Conference on Retroviruses andOpportunistic Infections in SanFrancisco, doctors describedresults of testing with new varieties of prot.ease inhihibors. Some of these medicines are 10 times more powerful than the ones that transformed AIDS treatment. Protease inhibitors are by far the biggest lump in the pill burden. Typically patients must take three of them three times a day - a total of nine pills -often on an empty stomach. In the works areproteaseinhibitors that doctors hope will need to be taken twice or even just once a day. One of these is Bristol-Myers Squibb’s drugcode-named BMS-232632. In preliminary testing directed by Sanne, it appears that one or two ofthese pills once aday is as effective at suppressing HIV as the standard dose of nelfinavir, an older protease inhibitor. Abbottpresentedpromising results with its experimental protease inhibitor ABT- 378, showing it Seems to work against strains of virus that are already resistant to SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - Many Gay men consider oral sex a safer alternative to intercourse, but a new study finds it carries a real risk of spreading AIDS. Even without condoms, oral sex is widelyregardedtobe safe sex, eventhough : health agencies have never officially : conceded that. A new study conducted in i San Francisco shows that frequent unprotected oral sex can also be risky, ." though certainly not as much as anal sex. : "The message is not that everyone will ¯ get infected through oral sex," said Dr. -" FrederickHechtofSanFrancisco General ." Hospital, a coauthor of the study. In fact, ¯ analintercoursecouldbe 100timesriskier. ¯ Because of declines in unprotected anal : intercourse, therehas beenabigreduction ." in high-risk exposure, I-Iecht said. But ~ -~._~ere is still plenty of low-risk exposure ¯ tl~ough oral sex without condoms, "and ." that low risk adds up." His study found : that oral sex was probably the cause of8% ¯¯ of recent HIV infections among a group of homosexual men examined in S~m ~ Francisco. ¯ In the past, there have been occasional ¯ reports ofpeopleapparently catching HIV orally. But health investigators have had ¯ difficulty being certain, since Gay men ¯ who have do oral sex also may engage in ¯ ¯ other, riskier sex practices, such as anal intercourse. ¯ Now diagnostic tests allow doctors to ¯ narrow downthe timing ofHIV infections. ¯ They were used in the latest study, ." described as the most definitive on the subject to date. The work, conducted with ¯ the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and ¯ Prevention, was presented in San ¯ Francisco at the 7th Conference on ¯ Retrovirases and Opporttmistic Infectious. ¯ "’Wlfile oral sex may still be safer than ." anal intercourse or vaginal intercourse, it ¯ is not without risk and perhaps has higher ¯ risk than we would have expected ¯ otherwise," said Dr. Helene Gayle, the CDC’s AIDS chief. " The researchers sought to learn the ¯ meaus ofinfectionin 102 GayandBisexual ¯ men who had recently caught HIV. When ¯ all other possible means of infection were ¯ ruled out, oral sex turnedout to be the only ¯ risk behavior in eight of these men. Most 0 said they thought- oral sex had little or no ° risk. ° Because o~ the strict criteria used, the : real number of cases resulting from oral ° sex may actually have been higher. For ° instance, two men said they had oral sex -" but not anal sex. But they also said they o had blacked out once and could not be ° sure what had happened, so they were ¯ excluded from the total. . All of the men apparently caught the ¯ virus by giving oral sex, rather than receiving it, and none used condoms. ¯ "We know that the only safe sex is total other drugs. The drug will be combined 0 abstinence or sex with a mutually smaller doses~ wel!..... ~ ~ .~’ Ufie~p~.cteff~ide et~l~b.cts can quickly derail deq~loptuent of these drugs -MerCk Research Laboratories was scheduled to presentresultS ofits new protease inhibitor at the meeting. But two weeks ago, it suspended human testing of the drug after rat experiments turnedup possible kidney damage. Themedicine, called MK-944A, is acombination ofanew protease inhibitor and an older one, called indinavir, into a single pill that would be taken once or Timothy W. 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Electronic filing is ~yailable for faster refunds. 747-5466 4021 South Harvard Avenue, Suite 210, Tulsa 74135 Are You-Gay or Bisexual? Are You Native American? Tulsa s Two-Spirited Indian Mona _ / ~\~"~ Support Group is here for. you! .~i=-J.~Y LX~ ¯ Evening support group meetings ¯ Relationship workshops ¯ Short trips, outings and retreats ¯ Free HIV testing For information call Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project at 582-7225 Ext. 208 or 218, giving up anal intercourse. "A lot of us in the public health field havebeen saying all along to be careful of ~akrottehceteridskfieslllaotwio,,"buhtewshaaitd.s l"oPwe?o"ple AIDS Virus First Emerged in 1930 SANFRANCISCO (AP)-Theworldwide AIDS pandemic has beentraced to asingle viral ancestor who emerged perhaps around 1930. Earlier research had ¯ suggested that the ol~tbreak began in the ¯ first half of the 20th century, but the latest : analysis, doneat the Los Alamos National ." Lab in New Mexico, appears to be the ¯ most definitive so far. -" Bette Korber, who keeps a’database of HIV genetic, information at the lab, calculatedHIV’s family treebylooking at the rate the virus mutates over time. She assumed these genetic changes happen at a constant rate and used a supercomputer to clock the mutations back through time tO a common ancestor. Korber estimates that the current pandemic goes back to one or a small group of infected humans around 1930, though this ancestor virus could have emerged as early-as 1910 or as late as 1950. From this single source, she suggests, came the virus that now infects roughly 40 million people all over the .world. ’This offers a small piece in a larger puzzle concermng the origins of HIV," she said. Experts believe that HIV’s ancestor is a virus that ordinarily infects chimpanzees. Somehow it spread to people - .perhaps thirough abite or hunting mishap -~n west equatorial Africa. Justwhenthis happened, though, is .still a mystery, Korber Said. The leap from chimp to man could have beenaround 1930. Oritmayhaveoccurred much earlier and the virus stayed within a small group of humans. Theworkchallenges atheory thatAIDs actually began in the 1950s, when HIV was accidentally mixed with the polio vaccine. In last year’s book ’¢Fhe River," Edward Hopper theorizes that HIV contaminated batches of the vaccine that were grown in chimp dssue. This then spread when the vaccine was tested in the Belgian Congo. Korber said this is highly unlikely, since it would require the introduction of at least 10 genetically separate strains ofthe virus into the vaccine from different chimps. Dr. Steven Wolinsky of Northwestern University called Korber’s project "a computational tour de force." Korber based her work on the genetic codes of 160 different copies of the AIDS virus. She analyzed them on a Los Alamos supercomputer, called Nirvana, that can perform l trillion computations per second. The earliest existing sample of HIV was found in a blood specimen obtained in Leopoldville - now Kinshasa - in 1959. Virus Testing Helps AIDS Treatments SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - Doctors say they can improve the chance of successfully treating AIDS by measuring how each patient’s virus stands up to the drugs intended to kill HIV. Through evolution, HIV can grow resistant to any of the standard AIDS drugs, andoftenitis invulnerable to several at once. The specific combination of viral resistance varies from patient to patient. In theory, doctors can brew up the most potent AIDS drug cocktails for their patients if they know the strengths and vulnerabilities of the viruses they carry. In the past, doctors have attempted to dothisbychecking the virus forthegenefc mutations that make it impervious to various drugs. However, complex mixes of mutations are sometimes hard to translate into drug treatment plans.’ In a new approach called phenotypic resistance tesdng, doctors can check the virus against all of the standard drugs to see which ones can kill it, then .use~the results to tailor their strategy. "With this information, you can make better decisions," said Dr. Calvin Cohen. Understanding virus resistance is especiallyimportantwhenputting together new drug combinations after the initial drug cocktail fails to wipe out all visible signs of the virus. Doctors have 15 AIDS drugs to pick from, and the choice often amounts to an educated guess. Cohen and colleagues studied phenotypic testing at the Community Research Initiative of New England, an independent AIDS research organization in Brookline, Mass. He described the results Monday, in San Francisco at the 7th Conference on Retroviruses and Opportunistic Infections. . The test was developed by Virco N.M., a European biotechnology company that financed the study with Glaxo Wellcome Inc., the pharmaceutical company. Doctors say anadvantage ofp,henotypic testing is the simplicity of ~lle results. "The person’s virus is grown in a culture and then ,put into a test tube with each antiviral drug," Cohen said. "We monitor to seehow wellitgrows. Ifitstops growing, .that drug works. It’s that simple." The new test costs $800 per patient. Screening the geneticmutations inHIV to figure outdrug resistance has beenaround longer and cOsts about $400 to $500 per patient. Doctors say that trying to understand how well drugs will work by analyzing viral genes can be daunting when the virus is resistant to several drugs. Sometimes resistance to one pill can help the virus withstand another, even though it does not specifically have resistance to that medicine. "Phenotypic resistance testing will be attractive because it is so mucheasier to interpret," said Dr. Douglas D. Richmanofthe University ofCalifornia at San Diego. To check the test’s value, Cohen’s team studied 274 patients who had failed to respond to an initial round ofAIDS drugs. Half were randomly assigned to receive phenotypic testing, while the rest got standard care without testing. After 16 weeks, 58% of the patients getting phenotypic-testing had responded so well to their new combination of drugs that the virus hadfallentoolow tomeasure. By comparison, 37% of those without testing did this wall. "Until this study, all of this was reasonable but unproven," Cohen said. "Now we can prove it." ~:~":Wa~ to get involved? Need to.get tested for HI~ or a Coming Out Support Group? Call 743-GAYS (4297) Tulsa Gay Community Services Center 1307 E. 38th, 2nd floor ~ J. Christjohn Happy Imbolc, Groundhog’s Time for initsfirstt for some~ the ,~cultural list of events and. relevance. ~ At thispoint, I or film and, : On with the ." good month for staying in and riding out ¯ winter storms. Orgiving into spring fever y ." when possible. when ¯ Now for those thirty-somethings that : recall growing up to the sounds of the Partridge Family. with "As you may fondness, David ~sidy hasaCDoutentitled:"Old notice, I’ve’-~: Dog, .Ne~ T~ck." S~inging ~no is so. it’s ok, is else, an and the Of -interest ,dosed music v URL: it 13th. 18th pretty of the~ show that fisten on tS~ Partrid childhood favorites in col~. Back to.the present.. VALENTINE’S DAYis 9oming!~Gift idea?i,.The ever handso.m~,<~piani~t’.:Jim Bric~provide~ lovely~usic p~ect for,~elight dinners, an~ohn T,rones croo~,the perfect ballads t6~t]hem0od for ..~gh romance on [h~ir-~CDs, restively. ThelIX~rfect m~ic.to ~t the moodfor a romanticev~.... Ok,themomentyou :reall-~n atting for. TheStevie Nicks mentioa.She’s back ¯" in the Studio working onthe~W CDafter ". the performing break i~’Vegas and i Cafifomia. SherylCrow isagamproducing - no mention of what happened to Mr. ." Hip-Hop producer. Thank G~oddess! , m,~chers ¯ wereGay or straight, what mattered was i the sl~ed.belief of those ~ching that day. ~dnow those Right to’Life March org~fi have Somethingto. think h!~out ¯ for n~t ye,ar, : o~~. . .::~. .Ch~,..’.rman-oMfPicLhAaGelAFLeP~A¢.nCs : : -~lie ~4~li~al Action Committ~for ~.- i~: " .~.=~Lffe Lesbians and~ays . . :.::~. Long b~fom multi:million-dollar book deals were the fashion~Alexandre Dumas’ son (yes, the "The Three Musketeers" author) converted his tonidLtomedqerminal love affair into a best sel~.~lhe~, composer Guisep.,pe Ve~: ~dpted. ~8r story for o~ra (hello, ka Travi~), Toda~ choreoorapher Val Canipamli flni~edthe job of turning. "La Traviata" into dance. Usino drama,. not melodrama. For understatement underscored. A full-lenoth Iovestory. 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Admiral (~st o~ Hazard) HIV Rap Sessions at Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Ceater 7:30pro, 220"7 E. 6th, 583-78t5 PFLAG, Parents., Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays 2nd Mo~/~ach too. 6:30pro,Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard Women/Children & AB)S Committee, call ~or meeting date, aoon, 585-5551 Council Oak Meu’s Chorale, rehearsals - ca]! for times, imfo: 748-3888. ~ TUESDAYS AIDS Coalition of Tulsa, call, ~or ne×t.m~ting date. 1430 S. BouJder, 585-5551 ~!~e=~d Let Liye, CommlmitT o~ ~0pe ~nitedMethodist, 7:~, 2,~5 S. ~ale IYlultieultural ~I])S Coalitiou, call for ne×t m~ting date. ~rban L~ague, 240 E~st Apache, 584;0001 PrimeTimers, meus group, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th Coming Out Support Group (TOHR/IIOPE) Tuesdays, 6 pro, Pride Genter, 1307 E: 38th, irffo: 743-4297 I~" WEDNESDAYS Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Service - 7pm, 3210b~o. Norwood Tulsa-Native American Mens Support Group, more informatidJL. ~call 582-7225 TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call fo_r..info: 595-7632. Lambda A-A, 7 pro, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft. - -. ...... I~’THURSDAYS , H~PE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Edu~(ion "~:;~)~": _ Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing:,~ ~ 8:313pm 834-83.-7~ 3507’E. Ad~niral " ~ O~lahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’.RYAN) " - Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health a~ 584-2325 .... Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS, [nfo: 834-4194 I~" FRIDAYS Safe Haven,~iotm~AduJts Sc;ci~d Group, l st Eft/each ~no. 8pro, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th ~" SATURDAYS out-of their h0mes~ ! can’t i~..gin~e throwing my Child out of;the hbu~e: ; TheS~~mby Holloway, ~as ¯S~tan,wh0:cam¢.~s’s am~’Who ’ had been r6b~andiron on the road. In the story, the priest, afraid of being deemed unclean, passes by. But the Samaritan stoppedtocarefortheunknown mall. "The point of the parable is that good refiglon, following, traditions in these Scotland, dozeus of prints, and Spong’s -" anti-discrimination policies, to. include second:wife; ChriSti~i~. ’When In~arried ," specifically :sexual- orienta’tion::~ Why?: Jack, I knew. what was ahead," said Christ.i.ne.,.w.,h..o..m..a..m..e.A. Spong. m..19.9.0......nc.e.xl.ed. Kelleher wrote ’Perha " was ’When ~ou:-~up. (forGays)~,you~r¢~ =/Wrong going to ge~:hit. ?You cannot know Gay ." _ think so, at least with restart to theVast imd Lesbian people without wanting to .. maioriW of oar nconle." kelleher addrd hugthcm.Someofthcmhavebeenthr~wn ." he was modifying the pohcy to include ¯.. o~rsmagnex;iewthyatmcivgehrtuhncaevretaeixnits~t,e-dam-boingutihtiys ." score." _" ’WVhat happened at. Southwdst is an ¯ example -" well-mcnningexecutives simplyto donor _" give sexual orientation issues in the workplace the consideration they deserve, stud Kim I. Mills, HRC s ." education director. "We applaud ." Southwest Airlines for taking this_stcp developed systems, can now get in the toward creating an inclusive work .,w.a.y. ofus g~tting t,o~:~ saidI~oll0way..~ environmont~ for ih~ OayandLesbian e~. of us arc, w_all~g on the road to i amployees., While Southwest has added Jericho,andwem~tIookf~Himbecause along the s~d¢ of the road...... .’. offer dom=sticParm~r~:healthbenefits. priestandmothcr,stoodnexttoSpongas policies and e~pects a sign language interpreter. "He will be :: announc=ment nO later the,, June. " sord~ missed,." saidDeats, whowas first ,." _ _ " ............. ago.~Imayn0tagreewithevcrythingh¢ ! [~]l=-Ie.ll -....- I says; but I truly minfi..~’re and respect him . . for stan,.d~n.gup,f0r~hat he believ~ in." ._. vice president orlon"di.ng, andI_~s Rector, Deats said she believed in more ." president, neither of.whom had returned traditional routines of-prayer. "It can be ¯ calls by press time. Dr. Jerry. Carr611, boring, I know. And I’m not saying the -" chairperson of the TTCU board of bisho~ does.n’t pray, bu~ I believe ~-nore ." directors,andpr0vostatOSU-Oldahoma .stronglyin themystical practices ofprayer in the ~hurch," said De~ts. Croneberger was rector of the Church of the Atonement in Tenafiy for i8 years, and a priest for more thsn 34 years. Croneberger~60,was oneofsix candidates - all ofwhomfavor ordaining noncelibate Gays and blessing same-sex unions - in a field that included the Rev. Canon Gene RobinsonofNewHampshire,whomissed becoming the first openly Gay Episcopal bishop in the nation by several votes. Asfor Spong, he willlecture at Harvard University starting next month, buthas no plans to move from Morris County. His latest book, "Here I Stand," was published this year. Spong, father of three daughters, said he found talking to students a great pleasure, Last week, Spong lectured at Lewis & Clark University in Portland, Ore.- "I love the minds of 18- to 23-yearolds," Spong said. "Nothing is sacred and they asked all kinds of questions." There were no,,questions asked here duringthe service, buttherewas amomen! of fear when the Rev. Dana Rose slipped off the back of the riser as Spong and others wereblessing breadandwine. Rose was helped to his feeti and Spong quickly gave him the sign of the cross. Rose, a Gay priest who’s also black, was ordainedfirstas adeaconby Spongin May 1998. "People say, ’You’re a priest and you’re GayT" said l~ose, who works for the Gay and Lesbian ministry in the diocesez "Now, there are ;many, priests who are Gay, but black? I believe in inclusion of all people, like me, into .the church, just like the bishop." City, did callback andsaid he thought theremustbe"amajormisunderstanding" and that the "professional loan officers would not do that [make inquiri~,into. loan applica=s sex~.orientation]~. .- as saying that the Vatican "expects from the premier a gesture ofcommon sense," anapparentcallforthe Italiangovernment to intervene to cancel the Gay event. Sodano also was quoted as saying the controversy "puts into question" the concordat, adocumentregulalingrelafions . between Rome and the Vatican that was first signed in 1929 and was revised in the 1980s. A pro-Vatican member of parliament, Mario Baccini, called the mayor’s decision’a "moral and material slap" in the face of the Holy See. Vatican officials said theHoly See was displeased by the city’s cooperation with the organizers, including allocation of $180,000 to cover municipal costs like security. Rutdli has been a big Jubilee booster, shepherding the city through major constructionprojects-includingaVatican garage-to spruce itupforan estimated30 million pilgrims. Gays have criticized the pope’s teachings on homosexuality, but Italian Gay leaders denied any disrespect is intended by holding World Pride during theJubilee. "It’s not an anti-Jubilee event nor an event against the pope," said Francesco Falsetta, an official oftheMario Mieli Homosexual Cultural Association, one of the organizing groups. World Pride’s main event will be a July 8 march through the city. Organizers say it will also feature conferences, sporting events and parties.. Massage Therapy Services ¯ Edgar O. Cruz, L.M.T. Pager: 918-889-5255 Voice Mail: 918-697-9282 Lic. #C4133 Country Club Barbering Custom Styling for Men & Women DavidKauskey 33i0 E. 51st, 747-0236, Tues.-Fri., 8-5:30, Sat. 8-5pm -~Spri~t. 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" ;-y0ufeelgt~fig~ed:t.0makeit’diff~emtrom ¯Bu~aoindividualwinsanelection;alone i ~ theCivil m~a~e’ 6flexed to ~ght If!we don’t engage oth~r humanb~ings, ; VermonterS?" ~ " ¯ ~. we remain tempting targets to-the :bullies : Hanagan said :he believes there’s an ontheright:IfwewanttoendGay-baiting " analogy to be drawn from the experience in public life, we have ~o use what we know: the power of one h,man being talkln£ to another human berg about what matters. We need to be outward bound, despite the discomfort. Because, in elections, the greatest thing wehave to fearis fearitself. Hanagan can see diagonally across-State Street to the Statehouse, where the Vermont Legislature this year is crafting a response to ahistofic decision from the .stat~-~ i :~Supreme " ~ i ,:.~.Court. That decision said i~"~iola~d the VermontConstitution todeny~tted Gay-and Lesbian couples the~i~health of other benefits heterosexuaV~ed couples take for granted. .=.!i!:."ii( Hanagan, 49, is in his fourthi~year term as ~mditor and long has beea.,kn~_w,.n_ to harbor loftier potitical ambiO~,He s ~md~,ttaking 0ae long-expected:~i~tfo_r higher office this year, and has.raised morethan$400,000" alotforachallenger inVermont- so farinhis campaignfor the Democratic U.S.. Senate nomination. He’s been able to raise money around the country from supporters of Gay men and Lesbians, but even more so from former Harvard Law School classmates who have found themselves in lucrative careers and can afford to be generous. Flanagan took a risk five years ago when he acknowledged for the first time publicly that he was Gay, and he’s taking arisk now in being such a strong advocate for same-sex marriage. "I assume any professional political consultant would advise against it," he said. "But some issues are so compelling and so pure that political considerations becometrivialand inappropriate. This is at the core of my beliefs. I’mnot going to equivocate in the slightest and I hope Vermonters will respectmycommitmentto prmcipl,,e, even if they may not thoroughly agree. More often than the campaign trail, Flanagan is drawn these days to the Statehouse, because he senses history in the making, because he relishes and is fascinated by legislative deliberation and because he knows that, for many lawmakers, he can put ahumanface on an abstract set of issues. As he’s walked the Statehousehalls lately, Flanagan sm.’dhe’ s noticed "people tend to move ~n my direction more often than normal. I’m a person they know and most often like quite a bi~ and relate to. I’m real. I have a real personality that they’re familiar with, so there isn’t that fear component of something foreign. "I don’t think often people are as homophobic as they think they should "For me, some time tc mamage stress come when many Gays and’ Lesbians had coming to grips with themselves 20 or 30 years ago, to the straggle many straight people are having now When thinking about somethinglike same-’sexmarriage. "When you foste~ real bigotry againast iso.mdeonoef he said. "That’s-the of bigotry.. It weighs years, but and "one’s private life will be put back into its private place." Flanagan, who said he has "a great capacity tolove," also offered a glimpse into whatapersonal heavenonearthmight look like. "I would love to be a dad. I’ve always cherished the idea of being a dad and I think I would be a good dad?’ Locally, members ofMCCUnited have created a chapter of Soul Force and at least one member joined White and 200 other Gay and Lesbian (or friendly) Christians in a meeting with FalWell. Elliott has as a personal goal, the development of the Community of the church, not the building or the number of members as much as the network of support for the members - much like the model of the earliest Christian communities. However, Elliott and other congregational leaders do discuss the possibilities of physical change for the group. Acknowledging the s~ ,newhat isolated location of the church build~ z (off major streets in a ver) q~ neighborhOod)~, they consider that t tufty-sell this building and find a more visible .and central location. But Elliott emphasizesthat these things are ouly just possibilities and are not anything which will happen soon. The spiritual life comes first and the rest will follow as the Spirit calls MCC-United to be. For more information about the Metropolitan Community Church United or about the Soul Force efforts, call 838- !715. The Eight Annual 2000 Saturday, March 4 Cocktails, 7pm, Dinner, 8:15 Myriad Convention Center, Grand Ballroom Auction & Dancing, Blacl( or Red Tie to benefit the Oklahoma AIDS Care Fund 1999 Beneficiaries: AIDS Support Program, Inc. American Red Cross, Oklahoma County Chapter CarePoint, Inc. Cimarron Alliance Foundation LegalAi6ofWestem Oklahoma, Inc. Northern Lights Altematives Oklahoma AIDS Care Fund, Individual Assistance Fund Oklahoma Hemophilia Foundation Oklahoma Medical Research Foundation Oklahoma Mental Health Council - RedRockBehavioral Health Service Other Options, Inc. Planned Parenthood of Central Oklahoma Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN) Tulsa CommunityAIDS Partnership Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. 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Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Bomber of London Gay Pub Pleads Guilty LONDON (AP) - A man accused of setting off~in~bs i Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulaans, Our Families + Friends : Tulsa’s Largest Circulation CommunityPaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations Louganis to Lead Pride 2000 ¯ Olympic Champion Will Be Parade Grand ¯ Marsha|l and Black Tie Dinner Speaker The Rev. Mel Whiteto Begin Week’s Events TULSA - Some Gay community observers might have thought Rights, the parent apparently targetedatracial minorities andGays pleaded " guilty to three counts of manslaughter late in February " and admitted causing three explosions thatinjuredmore than a hundred people. David Copeland, 23, admitted " planting the bomb that killed three people on April 30,- " at the Admiral Duncan, a Gay pub in central London. " Prosecutors did not immediately accept the ¯ manslaughter pleas, and a further hearing was set for " sometime in March. Copeland also admitted ¯ responsibility for explosions .on April 17 in Brixton, a : south London neighborhood with a large black ¯ population; and April 24in Brick Lane, an east London " neighborhood with a large Banglades.~ population. " NY State’s 1st Gay Mayor " PLATTSBURGH, N.Y. (AP)-. Dan Stewart, New York’s first openly Gay mayor, is intimately acquainted ." with Gay-bashing bigots..AYter all he used to beone.." "When I was in high school, two boys went to court over . the right to go to the prom together," Stewart said. "I ¯ spoke out loudly against them on TV, on the steps of the RhodeIsland Supreme Court. Imade amockery ofthem - because I knew who I was, and I was scared ~to. death people would find me out." ¯ Two decades later, Stewart has no such fears. He was " open about his homosexuality when he ran for mayor of ¯ this lakeside city near the Canadian border last fall. "I told the people,’Iam what ! am- Takeme or leaveme,"’ : Stewart said."Itold them, ’Ifyouchooseto takeme, I’m " going to do one hell of ajob for you. But if you choose ¯ not tO take me because I’m Gay, I understand. I used to : be prejudiced too." : Asittumedout, his sexualitywasn’tanissue. Perhaps ¯ it would have been, had hebronght a male partner to a : political event during his,six years on the City Council. ¯ But Stewart keeps his personal life out of the public eye : ~- mostly 60 miles away in Montreal, where his partner ¯ lives. It also helped that his opponent, the five-term " Democratieincumbent, was knOWn for supporting Gay ." and Lesbian issues such as nondiscrimination statutes, ¯ and had long enjoyed the endorsement of Gay lobby ." groups. "The.race was on community issues," Stewart " said. "My opponent never used the words ’sexual ¯ orientation. ’" ¯ Buoyed by endorsements from Republican Gov. ¯ George Pataki and the city police union, the former Air ° Force sergeant and long-haul trucker won by a narrow ¯ margin, becoming one of five openly Gay city mayors ¯ in the country. " In some ways, Stewart has taken more heat for being " GOP than for being Gay. The Empire State Pride : Agenda didn’t endorse him until the llth hour - and then, he insisted that part of the Gay lobby group’s " $1,000 campaign donation go to the Republican Party. : "I always get thesame thing (from Gays) wherever I go: How canyon be Gay and be a Repubhcan. What as wrong with you?Are you insane?,’"- said Stewart, a tall, " dapper man with an enthusiastic manner and a dimpled : grin. "But there’s a change going on. In exit polls over ¯ the past 10 years, consistently ~a third of people who ¯ identified themselves as Gay have said they voted " Republican." : In a recent interview in his second-floor City Hall ¯ office, see Mayor, p. 7 " that the annual pride festival organizers would be hard pressed to top their accomplishments of 1999 withUS Congressman Barney Frank, Democrat from Massachnsetts, serving as grand marshall of Tulsa’s first Gay Pride Parade. However, event organizers fromTulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, have, at the very least, matched the stature of last year’s speaker with US Olympic champion, Greg Louganis, to se’ive as Grand Mhrshall for the Millennium Pride Parade this June. Louganis’ appearance will cap a week of Pride events which will begin with aninterfaithworship service featuring the Reverend Dr. MelWhite. White is known as an author, forhis autobiography, "’Stranger at the Gate," and formerly as a ghostwriter for right wing religious leaders like Jerry Falwell. White more recently has been leading a social change organization, Soul Force, modeled on the ideas of Martin Luther King, Jr. and Mohatmas Ghandi. Like White, Louganis is also an anthor and an actor as wall as an athlete. His autobiography, "Breaking the Surface" topped the New York Times bestseller list, and as a lecturer, he has spoken about his chall~nges with a difficult childhood, his struggles in coming out and with dyslexia, his experience with domestic violence and with being HIV positive. Louganis wonhis first Olympicmedal, a silver, at age 16 in the 1976 Games. In 1984, at age 24, he won two gold medals, one for the platform and one for the springboard - the first man in 56 years to accomplish this feat. In 1986, he again won awards the same events in the World Championships, and then in 1988, won double gold medals for diving in two consecutive Olympics. Louganis will speak at a black fie optional dinner to be held at the prestigious Summit Club on Friday, June 9th. Tickets for th,e, event are $75/person and there will be a VIP reception at $50~ person. These events will benefit Tulsa Oklahomans for Human : Vermont:Married or Partners? MONTPELIER, Vt. (AP) - Lawmakers debated last ~nonth whether to limit aproposed domesticpartnership system to stonesex couples or to allow opposite-sex and blood-relative couples to qualify, also. There are some in the Legislature who believe that broadening the proposal might make it more politically palatable to a greaternumber ofpeople, improving its d~ances of passing. But others argue that such a revision would diminish the central aimofthelegislation beingdraftedby theHouse Judiciary Committee: providing therights andprotections ofeivil marriage to Gay and Lesbian couples. As the Judiciary Committee prepares to finish its work on the bill,that debate is coming into sharper relief. Members of the committee faced the issue, along with the potential political implications. "Iunderstand that there are people who see expanding this ... enhances the attractiveness of the legislation," said Committee Chairman Thomas Little, R-Shelburue. "’But I’m not sure we have the time to expl.ore all that stuff." "I support that in prineiple, but it’s a significant diversion from what we’ve been working on," said Rep. Steve Hintgen, P-Burlington. "q hope it doesn’t drive this to a halt." "ff you don’t do it you might drive it to a halt," said Rep. Michael Vinton, D-Colchester. In sum, that’s what the comunttee faces. In recognition of that, Little has been trying to develop a companion to the domestic partnership systemknown as reciprocal benefits, that falls short of the marriage-like benefits that would be provided to Gay and Lesbiancouples. Thereciprocal benefits,.however, might include workers’ compensation benefits that could flow to a reciprocal benefits partner, certain inheritance and real estate and other property benefits. Althouglino votes have been taken,noconsensus has developed in the Judiciary Committee that opposite-sex couple should be included in the domestic partnership system, which the panel has taken to calling "civil domestic unions." There also has not been a lot of discussion in the committee about permitting blood relatives- such as two brothers, two sisters, a brother and a sister, or a daughter and her elderly mother - to become domestic partnerships. ¯ But such expansions have been discussed down th~hall in the Ways and Means Committee, the tax-writing panel that will have to review the tax implications of the bill Rep. Albert Perry, DRichford, see Vermont, p. 5 orgamzation of the Gay Community Center and Oklahoma’s oldest Lesbian and Gay non-religious organization. Organizers anticipate that the Greg Lougams parade will follow the stone route as last year, beginning at the Ga~’ Community Center.at 37th and Peoria and ending. at Veterans Park at 18th and Boulder. The parade will begin at llam. The Pride Festival will also begin at Veterans Park at 1 lain and will continue till about 7 or 8pro, finishing off the week’s events. TOI-IR organizers include Kerry Lewis as chairperson of the overall effort, "Htunanity United for Human Rights - Diversity Celebration 2000," Greg Gatewood,TOHR presidentandfestival chair. Audra Sommers, parade chair, Lynn Moesteller, sponsor chair, Mitchell Savage, media chair, Kris Kohl, festival entertainment chair and Ned Bruha, in charge of festival booths and beverages. Other Pride events include a Soul Force workshop, led by the Rev. Mel White, to be held in the Performing Arts Center (PAC) LowerLevelTheatre onJune3, Saturday,from 2-5pro (free). That evening also at thePACDoenges Theatre,theTOHRFollies, not seen for a number of years, will reprise, 100 Years of Broadway with tickets available through the PAC. see Pride, p. 11 : Gordmans recently invited diva Audra Sommers to try shopping with them again after shefirst receivedpoor treatment atthe Yale Ave. store. Sommers praised the Corporate and store managementfor their.responsiveness, Gay Men’s Chorale to ¯ Hold Spring Concert ¯ TULSA- Council Oak Men’s Chorale will present ¯ two concerts on Friday and Saturday, April 7 & 8 ¯¯ at 8pm in the John Williams Theatre of Tulsa’s ¯ Performing Arts Center. The concerts, entitled "’Harmonic Diversity" will feature music from ~ Broadway tunes, 5O’s & 60’s pop songs, "sea ¯ chanteys," a Welsh lullaby, and a baroque piece. -" The Green Country Cloggers will perform a cameo ¯ number. : The Council Oak Men’s Chorale is a fellowship of Gay men dedicated to musical excellence who : seek to provide a source ofpride, unity and support ," and to present a positive image for themselves, the ¯ Gay community and to society, as a whole. The ¯ group is a chapter of the Tulsa-baSed Vocal Pride Foundation, and a member of GALA: the Gay and " Lesbian Association of Choruses. Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Chasers, 4812 E. 33 *CW’s, 1737 S. 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Later, a few video screens and film clips are added. ¯ Still, nothing else is reallyneeded to tell ¯ the story of Matthew Shepard and the effect his-murder had on the town-of ¯ Laramie, Wyo. It is a spartan, yet ¯ appropn,’,ate setting for "The Laramie Project, astirring, emotional tale, almost ¯ epicinscaleas itswirls through thedetails of this young gay man’s brutal death and ¯ how the residents ofLaramiedealtwithit. The-play, which had its world premiere ¯ in February at the DenverTheater Center, ¯ presents a cavalcade of characters ¯ portrayedby eightactors from theTectonic TheaterProject, aNewYork-based troupe. ¯ They even play themselves. "TheLaramie Project," writtenby these ¯ actors as well as otherTectonicmembers including founder Moises Kaufman, was drawn from their interviews with more than 200 people. Yet it is more than just ,docudrama. It is a story of feeling as well ¯ as fact. Each gets its fair share of stage ¯ time, grounding the evening in reality ¯ without sacrificing the emotional intensity of people trying to deal with their hopes, ¯ fears and prejudices. ¯ What makes "The Laramie Project" so ¯ intriguing are its shades of gray. Nothing is simple. There are no easy answers in coming to terms with Shepard’s death. ¯ Kaufmanandctmpanypresenta variety ¯ of memorable portraits culled from their taped interviews. There’s Reggie Fluty, ¯ thepolicewomanwhountied Shepardfrom ¯ the fence post. As vividly portrayed by ¯ Mercedes Herrero, Fluty is a vibrant ¯ woman, confronted with something so ¯ horrific that she says, at one point, "They ¯ show showed me a picture.., days later I saw a picture of Matthew... I would ¯ have never recognized him." ¯ Equally unnerving are comments from Rulon Stacey, spokesman at the hospital where Shepard died. In Greg Pierotti’s intense performance, Stacey breaks down, ¯ watclfingthecourageofShepard’sparents ¯ as they confront their son’s death. Pierotti also gives weightandan emotional honesty : to the commonsense statements from a ¯ priest, Father Roger, who decides to get ¯ involved in leading a vigil for Shepard. What ties the townspeople together are ¯ their efforts to understand. As the doctor ¯ who first treated Shepard when he was ¯ broughtintoaLaramiehospital emergency ¯ room says,"This is something thatoffends us. I used that word a little earlier and I ¯ think that’s a good word. It offends us!" Stephen Belber excels at two of the ¯ showier roles in the play - particularly a ¯ tough-talking taxicab driver who ¯ epitomizes the "live and let live" ¯ .philosophy that threads its way through ." the speeches of many of the many of ¯ people interviewed. ¯ Right now, "The Laramie Project" is ¯ still undergoing changes. Thirty minutes ; were cut from the play after the .first ¯ preview. Even now at two hours and 45 minutes, it could use more of a trim. : Shepard himself is not a character in ¯ "The Laramie Project," but his presence ¯ haunts the play. It hovers sweetly yet sadly over the entire proceedings, as well ¯ as the town he loved so much. That is only appropriate. As one of the residents says at the end of the evening, ’¢I’he last thing Matthew Shepard saw on ¯ this Earth were the sparkling lights of Laramie, Wyo." Lesbian Survey Results In the past two years, you may have seen an amlouncement about a study on how "Lesbians and thei? sisters are similar or different." This mmouncement appeared in 200 Lesbian mad Gay/Lesbian periodicals (including Tulsa Family News). It was also sent to 614 Lesbian/Gay religious orgamzations; 105 Lesbian bars: 54 women’s bookstores; 346 cmnpus Lesbian/Gay Bisexual/Transgender groups; and 83 groups listed as "’etlltlicimttlticul tural." Tiffs research was conducted by Esther Rothblum, a liprofessor of psychology at the University of Ver-mont, who studies Lesbi~m igsue~. She was interested~in how Lesbians mid their heterosexual sisters differ on demographic factors. For exanlple, manv studies about Lesbimas have found them to be highly educated, not very religi,ous, and livi~’lg in l:u’ge cities. Obviou_’~ly, this does not describe all Lcsbia~, but there mav be reasons why Lesbimls are differeut flom women iu the general U.S. population. .... eontrlbutes to [Lesbian] demoSraphle factors? ¯ .. }-][ere are some speeulatlons: - Hi her education may result in beeomln Lesbian . . Y For example, Lesbians may move to large cities to find other Lesbians, to moveaw@froth their parents and their politically conservative home town, or to be more anonwnous. Similarly, Lesbians nmy have high levels of education bccanse they didn’t get married innnediately after lugh school, or didn’t have clfildren at a you age. In this study, Rothblunt conipared Lesbians’~vith thei?~ sisters. Unlike members of other minority groups (e.g., African-Americans, Jews, inunigrants), Lesbians (mad Gay men) differ m one importm~ respect in that their sibhngs me generally members ofthe domimmt gr0tq~ (hctcrosexnalsL In the case of biological sisters, thex would share the stone race m~d etlmicitv, and have had th~ s~une parents. The\ mav also bc close in age. So tiffs method would allo~, vou’to exmnine the lives of Lesbimls side by side with sistel.s who m-e not Lesbian. A total of 1,2(~- questiotmmres were requested bx email, telephouc, or mail. mad 762 of these were retullmd. Ilcrc are the results of the 184 sister pairs iu which one was Lesbim] mid the other \vas heterosexual: - Lvsbians arc older thm] their heterosexual sisters. - Lesbiaus are also more likely to be first-bores when looking at ages of all l)rother’s mad sisters. (This is interesting, because research on Gay men has sho~vn thcnt to be younger sons.) - Lesbians have higher levels of education th,’m do diet r heterog~’,~Ual sisters. - Heterosexual women are more likely to be homemakers than their Lesbian sisters. There ,are no differences in other types of employment status, or on occupational level. - Because Lesbians have higher educationM levels, they would be expected to have a higher individual income. Still, Lesbians mad dleir heterosexual sisters had similar individual mid fanlily incomes. - Heterosexual women were part of formal religions iu adulthood, whd’~as L~lSfan~ Were mtte likely to endorse altenmtive spiritual beliefs. - Lesbians were more likely to be living with a female partner or living alone. Heterosexual sisters were more likely to be married, li vh~g with:a,~ale p.,?r,mer, m~d living with children - For those wonlen . in a relationslfip with a partner (121 Lesbians ,and 149 heterosexual women), heterosexual women have been in this relationsltip for a longer time period ( 11.4 years) than Lesbians (6.87 years). - Lesbians were more likely to be"]iving in a large city than their heterosexual sisters. - There is no sig~fificant difference in how many years sister pairs have been living in their current location. - But Lesbians live further from their previous location than do heterosexual sisters. ¯ by Dave Fleischer : Senior Fellow, Policy Institute ¯ National Gay and Lesbian Task Force ¯ As ourcommunity faces anew wave of Millennial anti- " Gay ballot measures, it would be easy to be fearful about ¯ our prospects. After all, eight out of twelve votes on ¯ homophobic referenda went against us in 1998 and 1999 ¯ alone. Yet the shocking thing about our cotmnumty ¯ losing so many elections is that we actually "know how to ¯ win them. What effective strategy ¯ persuades voters to stand :-, with-us? After six years ¯ training Gay, lesbian, ¯ bisexual and transgender ¯ (GLBT) leaders around the ¯ country to run for office and ¯ manage campaigns, I know ¯ it’ s when we "come out mad ¯ talk" - engage voters one- ¯ on-one and ask them what ¯ they think. ¯ Vehen we do, the fuzz)’, unflattering image of us as ¯ oddities from an X-Files episode dissolvcs._ Voters ¯ reconsider who we are and are much less likely m fall ¯ for propaganda that makes us out to be something we’re ¯ not. Just as importantly, what proven strategy identifies ¯ voters who are already supportive? The very stone ¯ conversation. Because when we do "voter I.D.’" -askiug ¯ each voter "Can we count on your vote’?" - we build a ¯ reliable list of Gay and pro-Gay voters to whom ~ve can ¯ return, to turn out our vote, election after election. Since ¯ many of our strongest supporters often miss clectious, ~vc _. lose without this kind of follow-up. Making a voter I.D. list isn’ t glamorous, but it makes or ¯" breaks our campaigns across the country. Maine offers a useful case study. In February 1998, fineGLBTconmlunit3 ¯ lost Maine’s state-wide law bmnung discrinlination ou the basis Of sexual onentation. It had taken Maine leaders ten years to pass the law: die Christian.C.oalition erased it ten months after it passed, despite a vali-anl battle bv our How did we lose? The New York Times post-electiou analysis was ~ shockingly clear. It quoted a Bowdoin .: College professor with 25 years, of Maine polling ¯ experience, who said, "Maine is no more mtolcrmn than ¯ other states, and given a well-lq_ln "gay;-rights- c&mpatgn, would likely split into tw.o canlps, with 55%. supporting ’Gay rights’ mad 45% against." A well-rim cmnpaign is built on turmng out its base. The low turnont of pro-Gay voters cost us the election. How did the Christian Coalition tuna out ~ ts supporters. ¯ when we couldn’t? They prepared for the election by starting tQ identify their voters well m ad\m~ce. Eigl~t months before electiol~ day, the Cln’istian Coalitiou gathered 58,000 petition si~latures to call the February 1998 election. They began the cmnpaign With the name, address and phone number of 58.000 voters who they could turn out to vote. Pro-Gay activists started withno sitnilar list. We cotfld have- m November 1995. voters across Maine defeated ml m~ti-Gay measttre. But the "95 cmnpaign didn’t talk with voters oue-on-ouc to idenlify our supporter,s. Of the 221.562 people who voted with us, our comnmnity eudcd "... eight out of twelve votes on homophoble re~erencla went-a.~M~nst us in 1998 and 1999 alone. Yet the shoekin$ thln$ about our eommunlty losln$ so many eleetlons is that we actually hnow how to win them . . 7’ the canlpaign -l~aowing the nmnc. address and phone number of fewer than 3000 Gav.and pro.Gay,voters. - -. X\~ began the" 98 cmnpmgn with 30(~) on our list..versus 58,000 on theirs. Whc~ e]ectiou day ’98 crone, wc lost by 7.299 votes, bccansc 83,409 who voted wiOa us in "95 didn’t ttma out to vote again in "98. We lost Ihal election, but we shouldnt lose [le~’l - so long as lcmn from theexpencucc. For cxmnple, wc will likely fnce an anti-’Gay repeal vote just like Maine’s m *’liami-Dade Couutx The upconm~g cmnpmgl~ is hatmtcd bx the one wc losl [111977 It Anita Brvaut"s "’Save timChildren" cauapai~n Fortunatel y, key leaders in SA VI ~ Dade, the local lmlnan rights group, Jorge Murstfli. Shcila O’Fmlell, Gcore Kctclholm. mid Griscl R~xlrigncz, have begun to bnihl their list. By lcachiug lcssous flom other canq)aigus, thcx have motivated their vohmtccrs to talk face-to-face VOleI’S. On July 29. SAVI~ l)adc had its biggest voter I success v~t. In twelve hours. 300 volunteers had facc-tofacc couversations with 4.909 voters. SAVE Dadc has ~dreadv built its list to iududc 15.000 Gay and pro-(~a vol~rs. Ofcourse. 15.0(~) i s not cu~)n~ h. ’l’bc Chfis finn ( ~o~ d i u will begiu their cmnpmgn with a lisl of 33,000 SUpl)ortcr~ of their own. Ihe number ol l)ClH~on ~igllaturc~ Ihc~ to put lhc issue on lhc ballot Butdm SAVE l)adc strategy to invite our fi’icnds to Ihi election ~s a winning one. On July 29, as they realized what they had done and bcguu, Shcila O’ Farrell c-nmilcd me: "’Well. Dave. you szfid 6.000 and I laughed. You ~aid 30 phonc bm~k~ with 10+ vohmtccrs m~d I rolled m~ c~ And tomght we exceeded any expectations I ever had do you kuow what? 1 guess that trap we teach rcall’ woi:ks~ I think 1 had quit bclicvmg thal Thanks cliallenging mc " In tough elections, there is uo SmUt Claus. XVc have ~lOW who our friends ;u’c if we xv~uit to win:’]’o klloXv xx they ~u-c, wc have lo ask. onc-oll-OllC. Then wc C~l~ thai List mid check il twice - and win the Iougla election. that lic almad - Lesbimls live flirther from their lnother :rod from thcilfather than do their heterosexual sisters - l~sbim~s have moved to fl]cir CUlTent locatiou because of their oxvn cducatiou. I [ctm’oscxtud women have movcd to their cu~ent location because of their partuer’s job. - Lesbians have higher self-esteem titan do their beterosexuM sisters -There are at differences bet~veen sister pmrs ou any measure of mentM health (such as depression, m~xietv. etc,) z Lesbians and their hEterosexnalsigters ~e 6x~ctlx the san~e average height (5 feet 5 inches) but Lesbians w~igh more (161 lbs on average) than do hctcroscxn~d sisters (143 lbs). -Lcsbimis are more likel~ to have been in l)sychotherapy than their heterosextu~ sisters. - Both sisters tend to have heMth insurance, but heterosexual sisters are more likely to have health insurance through their parmer, and to have dental lnstlr~lce, hnplications: HeterosexuM women ~e more like census data of U.S women than are Lesbians on: m~age, living wifl~ rome pm’tner Ctfildren Religion ~ucation Population density Convelfience smnples of~sbim~ flint fiud that I ~sbim~s live in l~ge cities, ~e lfighly educated, have a lo~v income relative to education, and may not be religious, may~morerepresentative ofthe ~sbians who p~ficipate m Lesbian communily organizatious ~md c\cnt.s What is it about being a Lesbian that contributes to dcmoglaphic factors? llcrc arc some speculations: 13cing older and firsl boru may result in Increased education. - Not bciug mmTied or havi~ tg children at a yotmg age, living Mone and/or not beiug in a long-term rclationslfip umv. result iu highcr education and geographic mobility. tli~hcr education may result iu becoming I.csbimi - Liging in l~ge cities nmy expose women to l.esbian " d0nmlfinifies. ............ Wlmt is it abont being a Lesbian that contribntcs mental health and other factors’? Ilelc arc some specu.lati ous: - Do l.esbians reln~fin<~m~l:byedin order to mmff}ain hcMth insurance whereas liet:~ro~eXnM lnm’ried can become homenmkers due to their husbands’ 6cncfits? - Are Lesbiaus less focused ou weight and appearance? Or do heavier young women become ~sbians m~d!or increase edncadon becanse of fewer dating or relatiouship options? - Does Lesbians" greater use of psychotherapy account for dmlack ofmentM hemth differences between ~sbians (a stiglnatized group) and their heterosexnM sisters? - Does belonging to a supportive conmm~fity account for Lesbians’ higher self-esteem A Newspapers Refuse to Print PFLAG .Listing LOS ANGELES (AP) - A family of weekly newspapers distributed free to 126,000 Central Coast households and businesses has created an outcry over its refusal to publish news deemed favorable to Gay orpro-choice viewpoints. More than adozeneditorial employees of tWO of ~he papers have quit since the policy came to ,light last week. The papers, which circulate in San Luis Obispo, Paso Robles andAtascadero, have beenhit with about 400 cancellation-requests. Earlier this week, about 100 people protested outside the County courthouse in San Luis Obispo, some carrying signs that read, "No Bigotry. in My ~owa,’: : The c~rttro~er~y:ste:r0s from:a ¢:ommuuity calendar listing; for~ Parents, Friends and ~Eamily~0f Lesbians ahd ~ays~ Bisexuals .and Transgendered Persons, which ran in the’Atascadero Gazette from Nov. 25 until Feb..17.~’=That’ s whe,n the paper’s editor, Ron Bast, wa~ ioid tlie chain S owner had 6rdered the listing pulled.Bast-said he was told there were to be no storie~ tli~ ~lit~ed Gays or abortioninafavorable light. He has since quit, saying he believes the paper has failed in its mission to provide unbiased coverage of the community. Civil rights acavists, meanwhile, said theywere appalled at the action ofcompany owners Mary and DavidWeyrich."Hehas th~ fight todothi~ofcourse, ¯ incorporating as a nonprofit organization, outlining : possible programs and figuring outhow to pay for the ¯ gathering place. : Travis Blackwell, 33, co-chairman of the planning ~ committee, said he hoped the center would be a place ¯¯ for anyone to getin touch with the Gay community. "And I hope it will raise asvareness, understanding : and tolerance for the lesbian, Gay, bisexual and transgender community," Blackwell said. "That’s. one aspect. Theotheris actually having a central place. where we cau all be safe and meet and take part in programming and workshops and things that better each of us as well as our community as a whole.’" Gay centers across the country offer everything from soccer leagnes to medical services, counseling -and day.care. Although cities nationwide of about the same size as-Charlotte have had. them.for years, no other North Carolina city has a center, qocai ;Gay leaders ,said. In 1996, Mecklenburg County commissioners cut arts funding after a local production of the Pulitzer prize-winning play "Angels in America," because of its homosexual content. And last year, Samantha Gellar won a contest for young playwrights in 1999 with her story of two women who meet on a bus, fall in love and share a kiss. The contest sponsors would not allow it to be performed, saying its subject matter was not appropriate for the festival’ s middle and high school audience. . United in God’s Love MCC-United Sunday Worship Reverend Cathy Elliot 11=00 am Pastor 623 N. Maplewood 9181838-1715 " ~ i" f"~ ......... Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation at Community ofHope 2~Lg South Yale, Sundays at llam, "/49-0595 A Welcoming Congregation hnttheparttliatupsetmepers°nallyisthathehadaI MiSSiSsippi Lawmakers representing this as atmecommuuity .newspap~," Move to Bar Adopbons said Robyn Murphy, past president ~of.the central, i Coast Gay and.L~bian Alliance. . .... i , , . . ; JACKSON, Miss. (AP) - Mississippi lawmakers The vtfeytichs m-owned billlioard giant Martin.i moved, to bar Gay couples from adbpting children Mediabefoxe thecompany wassold fo~$610 mi’llion, with a Tuesday debate about morality and the fea~ of great deal of support starting out because he was HOUSE OFTHE HOLY SPIRIT Sun. Worship, 10:45 am, Sunday School, 9:30 am t... ,~,~,~ ~,,. :rt..,~..,, u~,~. ~ \Ve~,~,~ : e~ag homosexuality. The executive director Wed. 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He said-the Gazette papers, which promote themselves with the slogan "Hometown Journalism at its Best" on the bottom of each front page, also refuse advertisin,g from nightclubs and tobacco companies. ~’We ve picked.up 13 new advertisers because of this," Hansen said. "We’ve received 400 e-mails this week that arejustpo,sitive mid supportive. Pemple resiXct,,us for’what ~ve ve Said ~and that we stand up for it. One observer says the debaie has at least one upside - forcing residents to discuss the meaning of the First Amendment. ’YI’he idea that free speech and a free press is being discussed is extremely healthy,!’ said Randall Murray,a California Polytechnic,,U,niversity,. San Luis Obispo, journalism professor¯ While not embracing~Weydchor..his,views, ~ereali~.Lhat he is peffecdy secure to set editorial policy. Rather than impose on him ,o,ur editorial policing, the remedy is coUnter-speech. " i ’ ~: " Charlotte Gays Plan Community Center CHARLOTTE (AP) - Charlotte, the city that has drawn national attention in recent years for its anti- Gay atmbsphere, could have its first-ever community center for Gays as early as 2002. The Community Center Planning Committee will spend the next six months scouting for a location, ¯ They would make good parents," Barber said. " The Rev. Jim Futral, the Baptist leader, said by ~ allowing Gays to adop,t., the state would encourage ¯ homosexual lifestyles. These kids will be influenced ¯" in a way wedon’ t want them tO beinfluenced," he said : during the hour-long meeting. Rep. John Reeves, RJac. kson, the subcommittee chairman, said the bill was not meant to punish Gay people but was "trying to do what’s right by the children." Rep.. Gary Chism, R-Columbus, said legislators should be concerned about children and "we shouldn’t place them. in a lifestyle that’s unnatural." "It gives an indication to thatchild that this is aproperrelationship," Chism said. Mississippi is among five states this year debating legislation over adoptions, by Gays, according to Hector Vargas,’a lawyer for the Washington-based National Gay and Lesbian TaskForce~o,The others.are . Hawaii, Oklahoma, South Carolina and Utah: vargas said judges’ rtmin consideration "should be whether or not the parents are a loving couple and can provide for the child." " The bill also says that the state will not recognize ¯ adoptions by Gay couples in other states. That : provision could be unconstitutional, Vargas ~id. "_ Several states have been sued over policies banning ¯ Gays from adopting.. Only Horida statutorily bars " Gay couples from adopting. ~ Robin Lemer, staff attorney for the American Civil ¯ Liberties Union in Mississippi, said state lawmakers : shouldbe worried about crime committed by children ¯ who grow up without families. ’‘The greater issue is " how can we best raise children to be good adults," she said. Red Rock Tulsa. O’RYAN Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network Outreach Program Thurs. Nights Meet Others in a Safe Enviroment Call for meeting limes and place: 918-584-2325 Mingo Valley Flowers .... . 9413E. 31st St., Tulsa 74145 ¯ 918-663-5934, fax: 663-5834, 800-A.A..A-5934 Family Owned & Operated Trinna L. W. 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Cincinnati. 582-4128’ The Episcopal Church Welcomes You Georgia Hate Crimes Bill ATLANTA (AP)- Several hours after Palm Sunday seryices ended at Red Oak United Methodist Church, parishioners found themsdves watching from the cemetery outside as the ehnrch was Consumed by fire set by monists. "I stood there in the graveyard with mymembers, singing while it burned down," saidthe .Rev. John W: Pace, pastor of the black church in Stoekbridge. ’ It was hopeless. We could not stop the fire." Pace says his congregation was victimized by a hate crime. And he wasn’t alone in asking the Hons~ ~ J~.di~ary C0mmitte,elo appr~ove stiffer penalties.for cn.mes .~lotivated by race, religion, gender or sexnal onentataon. Committeemembers also hear~~rom arabbi whose -synagogue was vandalized and a Gay mm~ who was assaulted with a knife at his throat. "Terrorism has an impact both on the victims and an .impact on the community at !arge," said Sen. Vincent Fort, DAtlanta, ~e bill s author. "Hate crimds are terrorism because of that fear." Barron Segar,.a professional fund-raiser, told the committeehow he was~surrounded by eight menafter -leaving aGay nightclub in Atlanta:in 1992. One ofthe men grabbed Segar from behind and helda knife to ¯ But Rep. Dan Grossman, D-Denver, and other : oppo.nents said the Vermont Legislature appears to be ¯¯ moving towardrecognitionof ’~domesticparmerships’’ rather,than same-sex marriages. The final vote came ¯ after opponents argued it was a simple attack on ¯ homosexuals. "Thebillis nothingmore than something : based on fear and I think it is an irrational fear,’" : Grossman said. "What horrible thing would happen : to us. It s gratmtous and mearisspirited:’" ~, - : ¯ Supporters denied that. "It’s based oh the ¯ accumulated wisdom and experience of cultures for ¯ 7,000 years," said Rep. Shawn Mitchell, RBroomfield. "We alwayshave i:ecognfized as-self- !eviklent that marriage i~s~joinih~dfopt~site m~mbers :~ .,o~ the human species." Pas~hail !said ~h~ Offered the measnre as a reiriforcement OP’gootl publicpolicy." Gay Teens Ask. ,Peers For Tolerance MIDDLETON, Wis. (AP) - Cal!ing.for an end to harassment and narrow-mindedeess, a group of Gay and Lesbian teen-agers and their friends,is trying to ¯ persuade a majority of teachersand students to sign a p edge ..calling for tolerance_ 9.f ~students of all hi.s .thro.at. "This is what we do to (Gays)," the man i b~k.:grounds and persuasions..! .... : - . . . ,:v, s;xtut.d~,:~uxs~i;n~g:;.a~n.~,=e.~.p,i.,t.~h.e=t..f~o.r~~=h2o~~.a,:,;o,_s~.e:.x-~u..a.l.s....~~:.e.~a.~l’,t.~~k.e.r...¯ , ~ndse,y.Clough., one of t.he s.~,d.e.nts o~g.amzang the - ~.,.~.~.~;mto ~g~uuuu mau-m¢ men scattere~; u o pma- ge0~,o~ nve.~ stud _s_he. ~dent.do.;~~ es-w...i.m... the GaY hves-w~th;’me~erV day: tstilt~liaTe=iti!~h~es,’’ ¯ coun~.l!mty m. part tw.eause a €~e friend of her ;Sdgari~"dt~B~ifhly~~ttaek~dis d0h; ( Tli~se~’~r~ed tw~ : family lost a partner to AIDS.. 8hedeS..eti’bed, her " W~eks mtail ...... ..... " ,, ~. childhood as extremely difficiilt~ .r and said she has :: :;~ Rabbi;,TS.= ¯Robert Iehay of ~-Coni~te~ati~ix:,or: found. ,Goys and.lesbians to be’,~’0_~e.~0f the most : VeShalrmre~lled:h0w ~e synagog~e.~ ~D~I~alb. ¯ und..d.~smnd.ingpe°ple I’ve met in.~y~|ifei:r . "- C0tmtv ~ag vandalizex~1~4,e~;ffi-th~ag~iV",~ai~t’~ " ] ne stug~nt ~oup says its goalis to get most of the ¯d .. - , .r..’~ ¯ M ~1-~ ¯ " ,-~ " ¯ ::Nl~ri:sw~ligas~dthewords~bloodsuek~r~~ ot~b~t~ " : school s 1,600 students and 200. teachers.to s~gn a ,~Sihee’thetL~I~l~ysaid,:the c0n~i~galion ~~-had:a ."-pled~e’.~f!~lerance andinthe.p~to~e~at the police.om~atev~’serv~ce~unetion=indMing_ i s¢.h~l a~qepts a!l students..... weddings .iWe~sleepat¯ni~ht;’;hesaid::"Bat~livavs ~. :rng~schoolisoftenaprimepla~efor~a.ystudents " t~i.tll;an.e~ie :6~,, .in case~°omea,~,;; k~,,,~a,,~ ,,,-: -~ : ¯ to be dbused, accordimz to a reoort last. Year bv the " Fort~s bill ¯passed -the Senate,bv~jttst’two~rtes ~ Gay,...L~,~fib!an and Strmght Educatto.n Network. The -. ~arlier thi’s m~nth, Thebi!t~,a!lr~S.~n~es to ii~se -. gr°up~,~9_Yed teens in32 states imd f~un~ that 91 percent of Gay and lesbian teens reported up to five years in cases Where.~ey determine the : "homo.phobic" remarks at school and 69perccnt said victims were chosen because of race, color, religion, national origin, ancestry, ei’hnicity, gendei, disiibility or s~xiial 0dentationl ...... . COlorado -Ban-on Gay Marriage Advances DENVER, (AP) - A marriage.between, one man and one woman would be the 0uly uniOn r~cogni2ed as .legally validby the state under a’bill approved by House lawmakers. The House,-which approved the .measureon a 36-29 vote; sent it to-the-Senate, where -it- probabl.y wDuld :pass,.,according to Sen. Mark Hillman, R-Burliugton. Senators approved a shnilar proposal earlier this inonth. Gov. Bill Owens has said he.would sign the bill if approved by the I eegislature. In its original version, House Bill 1249 would have authorized courts to enforcenbnee0n0~nic provigions of prenuptial ¯contracts Spousoring Rep; "Mark Paschall, R-Arvada, succeeded Monday in.stfippi.ng all language from the bill-and substituting it with provisions to ban same-sex.marriages and to ensiire the state, would not recognize S,’une-sex marriages ,pefformedJoutside~tsbordet~: :=:~ ,:, ~,, As it did Moilday, the Hbuse on :ruesda) .rejected a motiOn ,to~ send the bill to- the:House~:Jddiciary Committeeforapublic hearing. Moderate~Republieans _. on.. that, com~ttee.lastl v~ab joined.~t~b~rats in kiliing a-’.similar;bill2 Coni~nitteemeinb~sargued~hat they should be allowed.to, giv~ ~the-bill a(public~ hearing; but Paschall and other supporte,,r.s~ said¯ the~ -concept l~as :had extensive public input. obvious, transparent attempt to kill the bill, said House Majority Leader Doug Dean; R-Colorado Springs. He and other supporters said the measure is necess.ary to avoid forcing Colorado to officially re¢ogmze same-sex marriages performed elsewhere. Supporters said a recent ruling by the Vermont Supreme.Court called for legislative action on samesex mamages, and that action could mean official recognition of such unions. ¯ theyexperieneedsomeformofharassmentorviolence. " Patrick Kelly, an openly Gay freshman, said that while Middleton tends to be more accepting of Gay : students,thanmany otherhigh schools, there is always ¯ room forJmprovement. ¯ "’ LisaAarli, a teacher who advises the student group, says she has seen great enthnsiasm over the pledge ¯ event. "It’ s given a lot of kids someflfiug to Nab onto for a lot of different reasons," she,said. :’The kids on ¯ the margins ,are being pulled into something big m~d ¯ prayerful in tke school." . .... ¯ said he beieved the l~gislature sliotfld be.as.inclusive ¯ as possible in the bill nmv, rather th,-m have to face ~ such questio~m agMn some other, time. "My persom~ ¯ opimon is I don?t wm~t to have to.go t~ough ins for " another reason. I don’ t want another ~gislature to go " tl~ough ~s," he said. Little wo~d prefer to keep tfie_~co~.e:.’of the bill focused on the Gay and ~sbi~conples who sued for " the fight tomTy in the fi~st place..~at’s ~vhy the qivii d0m~l[¢.u~on bill~so~eloselyznfi~ors~age ¯ statutes. ?We haven’t seen ~y, eviOence that people ¯ that ~e.bro~ers and sisters, bro~ers ~d ’bro~ers, " sisters: ~d sisters seek to eslablishthe:s~e,.Nnd of " : inti~m~ -~i!~~:ha~e~felt~th~ discfi~fio~~their efforts toestablis~$~ly : u~," ~tfle sMd. ’~e desi~ of the ~iIl, we hope, is " to ereate~ a NNo~on" ~vherN~e~ ~ n6-~:~ateriM ¯ ~ ~, 7 " -~ ~’ ¯ ~:,..~ =~ .: ~:.~;,~ ~,,,~ : ~. ~:~.~ . ¯ff~en~ between ~fir~age-~fl domeshc"umons) ~d t-herefore no consti~utionM differe-n~’~between " ~€ tWO." . However at a r~ent Repub]i~ S~te Co--tree : meet~g, Ve~ont Republic.s rejected, at least ¯ tempos]y, a push by the p~ty’s state chM~, " Pa~ck G~, for a ConsdmdonM ~en~ent " supporting opposite-gender m~fiage o~y, The ¯ pro~sM stated ~atbemuse ~e state Supreme Court’ s : derision in B~er v. State open~ ~e door for s~e- . gender m~age, ~e OenerM Assembly shoedbe~ ¯e pro~ss of ~en~ng ~e constitution. ’4, JeSSeJackson Get H!Y Test WASHINGTON (AP) - The Rev. Jesse : Jackson stuck a cotton swab between his ." cheek and gums Thursday to demonstrate : how easy it is to take an oral test for the ¯ virus that causes AIDS and to encourage ." other black Americans to be tested. " ’q’he crisis has not left. It is no longer " fron.t-page. It’s not gunfire. It’s not ." cocame, crack or heroine. It:s not gang ¯ warfare," said the civil rights leader, " speaking at the Max Robinson Center of " the Whitman-Walker Clinic, in one of the ¯ capital’s poorest neighborhoods. "But nobody is safe," Jackson said. "I want to " send amessage to everyAfrican-American : that does not know his or her HIV/AIDS ¯ status to get tested." ." Jackson, who said he had taken a blood " test for the virus years ago, took the newe~ ] oral test to draw attention to the issue as ¯ hundreds of people gathered in ¯ Washington for the Johns Hopkins " University 2000 National Conference on African-Americans and AIDS¯ ¯ Theresults ofJackson’s testate expected " to be ready Saturday but, as is common : practice, they will remain confidential. It ¯ was-not immediately clear if Jackson " would release results of his test. " Blacks make up 13% of the U.S. ; population, but they account for 57% of ¯ all new HIV infections detected and nearly’,.: half of all cases of full-blown AIDS, " according to the Centers for Disease ; Control and Prevention. Additionally, ¯ more treatments have become available, ¯ but AIDS deaths among blacks increased ¯ 45% between 1991 and 1996, even as ¯ mortalityamongwhites decreasedby24%, " statistics show. " Jackson .called on the president, first :~ lady and leading presidential candidates to set an example by submitting to testing, noting, "The first issue is to remove the taboo and reststance to testing." Patent Could Block AIDS Research LOS ANGELES (AP) - A feud between two groups of researchers over who owns the rights to a gene helpful inAIDS therapy threatens to slow the development ofnew drugs and treatment, The Los Angeles Times has reported. Maryland-based HumanGenomeSciences securedapatent earlier in February ~hat gives it a 17-year claim on a gene that apparently controls how AIDS begins infecting its victims. However, thebiotechfirm only isolated and decoded the gene. Company officials acknowledge they had no knowledge of its use when they applied.for a patent in June 1995. Agroup ofacademic scientists say they were the ones who proved the gene could be used tO explain why. some people repeatedly exposed t6 HIV never develop the disease. Meantime, the patent, gives Human Genome Sciences control over who can use the gene in commercial,devel’0p~ient of new AIDS drugs, potentially limiting the practical use ofthe academic research. The ownership decisionby the U.S. Patent andTrademark Office outraged the group ofacademic scientists whosay thebiotech firm co-opted their discovery. "If the patent office awards a patent to someone who clones a gene, even though they have no notion of its function and no real idea of its use, that would be like saying, ’I found a fungus, therefore I should get credit for penicillin,"’ said the University of Maryland’s Dr. Robert :Gallo, Whoheaded the group,of academic researeher~ studying HIV infection. That group and several other independent researchers learned in late 1995 that the gene is a so-called "viral receptor" that the HtV virus attaches to. They also discovered that defective versions of the gene generate a protein that suppresses infection by preventing HIV from attaching to cells. "The likelihood is that this is the molecule that needs to be used for the virus to go from one person to another," said New York University’s Dr. Dan Littman, who also contributed to the academic study. William Haseltine, chairman and CEO of Human Genome Sciences, maintains companyresearchers did extensive work isolatingthe gene that justifies the firm’s ownership of the patent. Haseltine said thepatentwill notimpede outsid~ research, adding that the company is making the gene available to academic researchers at no cost. He said the patent will only stem the unauthorized use of the gene for commercial purposes. AIDSactivists havereacted withvenom toward the company, which they accused of capitalizing on the suffering of others. "’These guys are the robber barons of the geneticage," saidGreggGonsalves, policy director of the Treatment Action Group, a New York-based AIDS lobbying organization. ’q’his is not about making progress on AIDS; its about making money.’" Meantime, the U.S. patent office plans to enforce new guidelines in March that would require applicants to better demonstrate the function and usefulness of discoveries. Officials at the National Institutes of Health, however, complain that the new regulations fail to go far enough. i Clinton Plan May ¯ Benefit HIV Postive ¯¯ WASHINGTON (AP)- In an experiment that could significantly, expand federal ¯ benefits to patients with the AIDS virus, ~ the Clinton administration is allowing .. Maine to provide Medicaid payments to ¯ people are HIV-positive but do not yet ¯ have AIDS. Previously, patients could ; notqualifyuntil theyhadfull-blownAIDS. ¯ Health Secretary Donna Shalala said ¯ Thursday that Maine would be the first ¯ state to offer such a plaff,"whichcan give ." more people living with HIV access to ¯ promising therapies.’" Several other states : are looking at offering a similar plan, ¯ officials said. "Betterresearch, prevention ¯ and treatment is helping people with this ¯ ¯ disease livelonger, healthier lives, even as.we continue our search fora cure," said ~ Shalala at a conference on black people ¯ with AIDS. ¯: Recentstudies have showfl that the early use of.AIDS-fighting drugs can slow the ." disease and increase life expectancy. However, many people with HIV ¯ _generally do not qualify for Medicaid, ¯ which provides health insurance to low- " income Americans, until they have ¯ symptoms and are considered disabled." ¯ Without the plan, "the Medicaid ¯ program was in the untenable position of ¯ having to wait until someone grew so sick ¯ with AIDS that they became disabled" ¯ before treatment and drugs conld be made ¯ available, said Francis Finnegan, Maine’s ¯ Medicaid director. ¯ ¯ The state’s five-year demonstration projectbeginsinSeptember.Tobeeligible, ¯ a participant must be HIV-positive and ¯ haveanincomeofless thanabout $25,000, ¯Timothy W. Daniel Attorney at Law An Attorney who will fight for justice & equality for Gays & Lesbians Domestic Partnership Planning, Personal Injury, Criminal Law & Bankruptcy 1-800-742-9468 or 918-352-9504 128 East Broadway,-Drumright, Oklahoma Weekend and evening appointments are available. January April July October DecOnber Even Out Your Monthly Electric Bills. 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Tulsa s Two-Spirited Indian Men’s Support Group is here-for you! ~_~’/,~ ’ Evening sup~ group meetings ¯ , ¯ Sho~ trips, outings and retreats ¯ [ Free HIV testing ~or informat~n call Tul~ Native American AIDS Prevention Proj~t ~’:~whlch is three times the federal poverty ,: level. Before the plan, only children, .: pregnant women and the elderly or disabled with incomes below the poverty ! the 37-year-old mayor mused:about level were eligible for assistance. The surprising twists and turns in his life. "It’s benefitpackage will indudedrugtherapy, office visits, lab services, case management, hospitalizations, mental health and substance abuse services. About 1,300 Maine residents are infected with HIV and 350 have AIDS, according to the Maine Bureau of Health. The new waiver will allow the state to offer treatment to about 300 people who couldn’ t otherwise afford it. Officials said the early intervention is expected to reduce the need for costly hospitalization and prevent addi tional infections. Nationally, about 900,000 people are infected with HIV, a third of those with full-blown AIDS, said Kathryn Bina, a spokeswoman for the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. A third of those whose HIV hasn’t progressed into AIDS, about 200,000 people, don’t know they have the disease, she said. Claudia French, acting executive director ofAIDS Action, a national AIDS support group, said more states need to ad’o~t suchaplan. ’~roday’s announcement will prolong the lives of low-income Mainers with HIV, but we want all HIVpositiveAmericans tohave access to drugs that could keep them from developing full-blown AIDS," said French. ’Shooting Gallery’: to Open in Sydney ¯ SYDNEY, Australia (AP)- This nation’s : first experimental heroin "shooting ¯ gallery" will open later this year in a " former pinball parlor in Sydney, the Uniting Church, which will run the 18- " month government-approved trial, " announced at the end of February. " The Site in Kings Cross, a suburb : notorious for drug use and prostitution, " has been approved by New South Wales : police and the state’s health department. : It will be run by an expert on AIDS and ¯ aim to provide a clean, safe environment : for addicts to take their drugs. "Our primary aim in operating the medically supervisedinjecting centeris to save lives," said Uniting Church spokesman Rev. Harry Herbert." New South Wales state premier Bob Carr said he understood concerns of local residents who have fought to prevent the gallery being opened, but said it would help improve public health. "We think it mayhelp save lives and get the problems out of the streets of Kings. Cross into a medically-supervisedlocation,’? Cartsaid. Thecenter’ s medical director Dr. Ingrid van Beck said about 200 addicts would ¯ use the center to shoot up when it opens, : possibly as early as July,, just weeks " before Sydney hosts the 2000 Olympic Games. . United Nations drugs experts this week " condemned "shooting galleries" but authorities in Sydney and two other cities have said they will forge ahead with plans to open them. Want to get involved? Need to get tested for HIV or a Coming Out Support Group? Call 743-GAYS (4297) Tulsa Gay Community Services Center 1307 E. 38th, 2nd floor the : ~a strangejourney," he said,, shaking ¯ his head. "I started drugand alcohol abuse : when I was around 10," he said. ¯ The drug and alcohol abuse worsened when h_e was a teen-ager having conflicts with his policeman stepfather and struggling with the emer~ng realization that .he was Gay. "I joined the military when I was 18 to escape a lotof things, and because I wanted ~o be somebody," Stewart said. "And, I onestly thought that in the military, I d go straight. It didn’t quite work out that way. I found more Gay people in the military than I’d ever known." His eight years in the Air Force brought him to this city of 21,000 on the shore of Lake Champlain. When his tour of duty ended, he started driving a tractor trailer. Then came a drug and alcohol relapse. "I fell flat on my face," Stewart said. With the help of a network of friends, Stewart struggled to overcome his addictions. "I sobered up on Dec. 14, 1988, and I’ve been clean and sober ever since." It was the recovery process that led Stewart out of the closet. "I was 26 years old, sitting in the basement of a church at a recovery meeting at 1 a.m. on New Year’s Day. I said, ’I can’t stav sober !,f, I .keep hiding the truth,"’ Stewart said. It lifted a huge burden. When you live a lie, you suffer the consequences." Backin the eabofabigrig, he considered his furore. "I wanted a sense of inclusion in the system, having a positive role," Stewart said. He got involved with the AIDS activist group, ACT UP, handing out condoms on the street. His activism ultimately led him into mainstream politics. Of roughly 500,000 elected officials at the local and national level across the country: about 180 are openly Gayand the vast majority are Democrats, according to the Gay & Lesbian Victory Fund, a .Washington-based group flint seeks to ¯ increase the number of Gay and lesbian ¯ public officials. "It’s hard to overstate the . value of having outstanding opeul3,,’ Gay ~ and lesbian people in public office, said ¯ Sloan Wiesen, a spokesman for the Gay & : Lesbian Victory Fund. "When Gay and straight legislators are working together : on less contentious issues, like education, ; health care, or fixing roads, people are ¯ more inclined to stand up f0rfairness ¯ when a nondiscrimination issue comes : up," Wiesen said. Stewart hopes the national attention he " ¯ en.j,,o,ys,by .virtue 0f,,b~,ing aGayRepublican Will neip the city. I m invited to all these events - the State of the State address, the State of the Union. It gives me the opportunity to get the message out that Plattsburgh exists, and we need" things here. A lot of people around the country want to help, because they want to see me succeed." Stewart does have some regrets. 0~e is that he never worked up the courage:to talk to his mother about the fact that he’s Gay before she died in a car acdident four years ago. "I was making visits to the White House on Gay issues, but I was afraid to talk to my own mother about it. It shouldn’ t have been that way," Stewart said, his voice trailing off. Another regret was that he taunted the boys who wanted to go to the prom at Cumberland High School. see Mayor, p. I1 TWO REVIEWS AND A MUSE! [love John ~Villiams’ film scores. I really do; they are sweeping, grand things, alwaySsuitable for driving to, especially the S~.Wars and Indiana Jones scores¯ Hedidagreatjob.on 1979’s Draciihi, d~ea~iiig, an o~atie score that soared andswooped al,ong with Dr~c~ffd~tly..It s my all= score.- too :bad it h~Snot been reissued comp!etdy as some of his others have¯ What happened was, way backwh~,scores were not released in the version heardin the film. Williams was 7::..notorious for rerecording .chopped up bits~iof, his: sc0~ds, edited t6gethdri .....ahogether diffe~gntly ~ft0ffa~the film, aadrdea~edas the ori mdtifnpicture s’dundtrack qt is a nice thing to wish for peace ~ndha~mony amm~.~p~oipl~ I wonder if it will ’ever kappen. ~ One can, only hope that. Deganawida will come along and help create a world that engenders with .a just-too~tight cardboard Slip case covenng the CD case mid the thick liner notes abit too tightly, so that getting die blasted tiring out is enough to prejudice your listeafing experience (childproofCD cases?).If you’re a purist and a Williams collector., .this is for you. If not, well, rent the film. ~ .Jomme~he~mndoahhas a uewirelease out,and it is well worth seeking out mid buying. A member of the Wolf Clan of the Oneida (Iroquois) Indians in New York, Joaame has put out a :number of bestselling, award-wi~ufing CDS that arejustincredible tolisten to (Orenda, ~Matriarch, Lifeblood)¯ She_has a lovely, clear,: bell-like voice that .Ires an intimate quality to it that can’t, be :beat. Sheap,,l~ffed in Peter Whnt~.y0a ggt Wasnot the laarmony anaong Buffet.t" S y Spirit,:- A s0u.fidi~,.a~(.~,er~annoying d-f€- ¯ ~,, " 1 ’~.- .- Jotmley in,Dance, Drum, to~p.ufiS.~!, b.uLa reerea.ted ~re~ng~ peop,es_~. : ~ .-m!d:,~oug",,:-and opened .~rms.~...ash:..o[~,hat rmght ’ : :.. " :~ :;. ’- ~Wo.odstock ~94. :She:~has ha~g:~n~n!h9 soundtrack at somepoint~ ;. been€ailed~-aa!~i-ve Ameii.can:yersion of In!re.a~..~ ca~_e~.,, this was disap~ointing, ~; Enya,:.a.1,.lhough; L.~eall~-!-hiak.,that’s This,~beguntochange,firstwithpufists ,~ ,c,ompari~g:,oa.pl~e~.:,~,d,+,oranges. rais~g~:S~jhenwithrecordcompanie,s : Pea~gmai~er,_SJoameyr:i:sanenchanting ,a,ct~[yt,iste~nipg. The score to Williams - r ~lbmn:, wi~h beautiful~melodies. Iti~ sung Close-Eae0unters of the 3rd Kind".was ~ in her~nativg~Oneida Jaaguage, and- the one::of .the. first to be remastered and ~ liner;aotes~.~conta_;n the :story. :and a rel~:witli all cues (music bits) int.act.. ¯ trans!afioa:~into:English of:/he lyrics: It is ~di]s:reallygreat~sincemuchofw.hat , the.p~effeet:~bumt~li-ght~some,oandles, mad~ the sou~dtrack~so great were ~CU! : and relax -~ith, with-its genre :melodies ¯ ."~" ~. " ’: : "- ’.~ ’ ~ ’6 --~ ....~z ~-~ ~ ,:~-~-~,~,~-,. ,~;’,’::-, ,~:’L~"~’J-~ . ~nta~t. ~twas also great. Then the S-.~y~ i,. mumc,-ofLtl~ ~f~ri~:~ of,~.lroqums V~$i ~l~gy was. released with:.,t..b.€~;~: Co~f~%~li~x~i~ihg,~t6~er-~ter sou~atra_~ks"intact. That was beyond"~:~ many.:cemu~eS-ofW-~;-~-tli~M61iav~k, wonderful. Now, Rhino records has ~ ~Onei~;.Onoiidaga, Cayuga; Seneca; and released, something score purists have " TuscaroralndianNations.~’Peacemaker’s desired since-the film came out: The "Superman". soundtrack, complete, and, no pun intended, uncut. Great in that the quality of sound is incredible for a score recorded in 1978, great that the record companies are releasing complete sets ofsoundtrack CDs. Notso.hot after a listen and the realization that Williams copying Williams is not really worth a 2" CD set, because almost every cue on the two CDs (despite what the liner notes claim) is almost lifted note - for.~ note/from Star Wars. Oh a few sequences are rearranged, but "Luke Skywa~ker!s~" i.Theme" is clearly recognizable in one cue, and the original openingnotesfrom"StarTrek" are audible in another; in.what one might surmise to beatributes,Williams borrowing ofthemes is nothing new;’,many classical references abound in Star Wars; but to blatantly borrow so much from oneself is just lazi~s~’~ ~:of.. li.ke~a~in~;i’~Well, I don~f~[lik¢i~ri~ti~t,g~~,,w.hat can r.borrow from the .~,~gltv~l,~ear~ S~n~.~ays,~eco~zes. T0,~,fair, m~be~h~J~.t d~dd’"~h~,~e-lmucl~ tim.e .~d that. w~- tiieifio~t practic~i, s01ution~- ai~d maybe-theirwas why a fully complete score was never released. Still, it’ S a pleasant listen, especially if you recall the thrill of Christopher Reeve in blue tights and hotpants fondly, as I do. Who paid attention to the score? I must say that Rhino has done a fine job on the remastering; the sound quality is, as I said, incredible. The packaging is odd, : Journey isdedicated-to children ¯" everywhere and to th0se striving forpeace ¯¯" betweenpeople andharmonyfor all living things. ¯ Peacemaker’ sJourney tells the storyof ¯ Deganawida and Hiawatha, who smv the tribes warring ambngst themselVes, and : sought to bring peace and harmony to the ¯ people~ -Relationships ~etween the tribes ¯" had deteriorated into constant war, blood : feuds~and revenge killings. In danger of : self-destruction; the Iroquois were saved ¯ by the sudden appearance ofa Huron h01y ¯" man known as the "Peacemaker." : Deganawida (Two RiverCurrents Flowing ; TogetheO re.ce~yeda vision from the ¯ Creator of peace’and cooperation among ". all Iroquois.Apparently he was hindered 2 by either.a language or speech difficulty, :... but :~ganaw,ida~ ~eaxttialty,, w:o~ ~the ¯ support of Hiawatha (.Mionwatha - He ¯ Makes Rivers), an Onondaga who had ~ beeo~n~..~:;Mg~aw.~:~ar~ ~i,ef. With :: t.h~irfighiiii~Mdjoin i6~th~inale~i~ue. : ~~end tdiS~fii Degan~widablotted 3ut : thesun"t;6:~dh~,~il~:tfieS:’,elucima~t;’~,i~oi~r ¯ eclipse, visible ’ih(upstate New York ." occurred in 1451 suggesting another ~ possible¯ d~t~ for these events. The ¯ formalion ofthe League ended the warfare : between itsmembers bri~ging the Iroquois : a period of unprecedented peace and ¯ prosperity. It also brought political unity ¯ and military power. : "Peacemaker’s Journey" will be ~ releasedMarchT, 2000. seeAmuse, p. 11 The University of Tulsa The Bisexual, Lesbian, Gay & Trans Alliance presents ANiOKLAHOMO PROMO 2000 2-’~ightSi.~~di’,~y ~f:C£11~loid Scintillation B+~n+i’:~,+++~m+~:~+~*~@+~;~;Chi.~olls, and Out of Se~on Friday, Ma~h 24, 7- I2:0~ midnight .GOd Shave (he Queen,Watermelon Woman Indecent Acts: O~car Wilde, Cynam, P~t~ in Motion, and C~sh Sunday, March~ 26, 2-7pm Different for Girls, All Over Me, Under Heal, and Our Mom’s a Dyke ,.+ Chapman Hall Theater, 2835 East Fifth Street : -. :’- ~.: (not~the+:Alleri~Chapman~Activity Center) Eas{ of Delaware Avenue on the University of Tulsa campus. Please look lL~r rainbow flags to lead you in off Delaxvare Avenue. ¯ Thi+ ex;+fit is offered in +6iijunction withomyn,~& Hentage-Month. Actlvtt~es. P!.eg.s,e=,<+c~+ntact,..~g. J~6~s~+~at’ 63.1~:~3 i:!5 to make arrangements for accessibility, accommodations. A Jurnpin ", Singin " . Movin" and Groovin" Good Time! Warren Vach4 and the NEW YORK CITY ALL,STAR BIG BAND and direct from London! THE JIVIN’ LINDY HOPPERS Sunday, March 19 at 7:30 p.m. Tulsa Performing Arts Center, Chapman Music Hall, 3rd &.Cincinnati Tickets: $15,-$20, $2S, *Includes post-performance swing dance ’ Discounts a~aihble ~or~gr6h’p~ and’ ~tudents Call: 596-7111 or Outside Tulsa:~1-800-364-71il "Online:.’Rrano.tulsapac.com Tulsa PerformmgSA~s Center Trust Holland Hall SCHOOL MIDDLE & UPPER SCf-IOOL TESTING (GRADES4 - ll) PRIMARY SCHOOL TOUR (AC~ 3 - GRADE 3) PRIMARY SCHOOLTESTING ~qDERGARTEN- GRADE 1) To reserve your place, please call the i Admlssi~n Ot~ce at .,t81-1111, exte~i~n 25 t. 5666 E. 8 Ist Stre~J~.~ Bet~eea~le.& Sheridan ~ Tulsa ~ www.hollandhalLorg HSllatid Hall admits q~lifid’~studm~i ivfit~ ~egard to rat6 sex, religion, national or ethnic origin, or physical disability. Church,of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist 11 am, Sunday, 1314 North Greenwood, 587-1314 by Mary Schepers, Do-lt-Yourself-Dyke There was your DIYD, on her knees, aching, throbl~ing~-on the verge of tears - wondering why her mouth says "yes" when her brain screams "No, no, no!" No, gentle readers, we are not revie~ving the DIYD’s-latest forays into courtship, but ~rather her most recent Volunteereffort to help out a friend in need. As you accumulate handy skills ..~and .-become geuerally perceived as arather useful indiv:idual, expect to be asked to help out others. This is quite fair; after all, most ofus, your DIYD included, have accumulated skills and learned lessons (someti~nes not positive ones) from those who:have helped us on our ownprojects: Quidpro qu,o is a conunon currency tn the world of home improvement; the student evolving into the teacher is an apt, and expected, metaphor. - " In short,_darlings;give backwhat has so generously been shared.withyou~Orbegin ficcumulating favors(that can be repaid later in yourown moments Ofdire need:It is common proffer; it is cxpected,~and it’ is honorable, and as sly as your DIYD may seem, she is absolutely honorable.. Therein lies the.theme; the exemplar. and the moral of our m0nthlytale. Listen’ closely and ieani from yore DiYD.-And remember that this is a. cautionary story; not a vehicle for blame,unlessR is your poorDIYD’S~ whodidn°taskforsufficient "There was your DIYD, on her knees, aehln~., thr0bhi O;on the ver~e o~ tears - wonderln$ why her mouth says ’yes" when her : infomiation before promising her vast ¯. array ofskills, tools and energy to a friend : The particulars of die story ,’ire not ~ important. What matters is that a favor ¯¯ was asked of the DIYD - to help lay tile. ¯ Rule number one: if the task at hand is one that you are not only good at, but have a particular vanity over, watch out! You m’e very susceptible! Alld the DIYD is the tile and grout di~’a. Having refitedevery c6nv~i~tionatstiffaeeinher liouse, she finds herself wonderizi~,7 Liii unguarded moments, whether the garage or the front porch could, benefit from the tasteful application of ceramic tile. She was, m fact, ripe for the phscking. She graciously agreed. Wlfich brings us to rule nmnber two: agree on and set all the parameters around the proposed ! project befom.taldng it On: For those o,,f you.whoshudderat theword "bom~dafies," ¯" find a word thai works, b~t doi t~ al!ddo it : thoroughly. This not only protec.ts you ~ from unpleasant surPrises, but the party to i whom you are lending assistance aswelE Nothing can sour a friendship like an : ~tmisin4¢rpretedand goneaw.ry. ’ : Both sid~ should knowwhat is expected, ¯ ’ what wil! actually occur, ~hat amount of ¯ dme is involved, how~.much work is : inv61vht, hoW much each person is. : responsible for, and~ whatthe fairexchange will, be. Any changes should be E comm,tmi.¢ated u~ front:..,., ." _’ .’," " 50 New-Books at the Library by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library Over the last few momhs, .the Tulsa City-Cotmty Libraryhas acquired dozens of recent tides of interest to the gay community. Cheek your local branch library for these dries, or call the Readers Services department at 596-7966. LESBIAN FICTION Shy Girl by Elizabeth Stark Tipping the Velvet by Sarah Waters Hers 3: Brilliant New Fiction by Lesbian Writers 6th Sense: A Cassidy James Mystery by Kate Calloway Bogeywoman: A Novel by Jaimy Gordon Lost Daughters by J. M. Redmann November Ever After by Laura Tones The Other Woman by Ann OiLeary The Vintage.BookoflnternatiomdLesbian Fiction GAY MALE FICTION Breakfast with Scot by Michae! Downing Comfort and Joy by Jim Grimsley Justice at Risk: A Benjamin Justice ~iYnkStSelriypbbyyJoRhintaMCiorregsain,Wilson Surrender.Dorothy by Meg Wolitzer Minions of the Moon by Richard Bowes Capital Queers by Fred Hunter EveryManfor Himselfby OrlandOudand His 3: Brilliant New Fiction by Gay Writers LESBIAN NONFICTION The Queen of Whale Cay by Kate Surmnerscale TheWhole Truth:A Case ofMurderon the Appalachian Trail by H. L. Pohlman Monologues and Scenes for Lesbian Actors by CarolynGage- Janet, My Mother; and Me: A Menloir of Growing Up by William Murray Baby Precious Always Shines: Selected Love Notes by Gertrude Stein Lesbian Health: Current Assessment and Directions My Lesbian Husband: ALandscape ofa Marriage by Barrie Borich Hunting the Witch byEllen Hart ApplesandOranges:MyJourney Through Sexual Identity I~y Jan Clausen RestrictedAccess: LeSbians on Disability To Believe in Womem ’What, Lesbians Have Done for America by’ Lillian Faderman GA~ MALE NONFICTION How to Survive Your Own Gay L~e by Pet~ Brass " . VulgarFavors:Andrew Cunanan,G’ianni " Versace, and the Largest FailedManhunt in U S. History by Maureen Orth Crisis ofDesire by Robin Hardy Love in A Different Climate by Jeremy Seabrook Finding the Boyfriend Within by Brad Gooch When It’s Time to Leave Your Lover by Neil Kaminsky see Read, p. 1: by Lamont Lindstrom, Ph.D. "Faggots !" I was sitting inmy car talking to my friend Errol when I heard the word. One of ErroF s cantankerous neighborsno pal, obviously - had barked at us as he marched past the car. I didn’t know whether tO feel outraged or amused. It had been a long time since anyone "called me a name, at least publicly. Sticks mad stones, I thought. And did I really mind being a faggot anyway? Still, the hairon my neck Stood up. Rude slurs are good e~idence of the power of words. Even-if 0nly symbolic, words have an ~mpact. Some words ,are deeds. Linguists study "’speech acts" that shape or change the world. Utterances like "I promise, "I apologize," "I resign," or "[I name you] faggot!" have serious consequences (as anyone knows who has been "pronounced" man or wife). Language can’carry either a positive or a negative charge. Both sacred speech and profane speech are dangerous. In many religions, no one knows the name of god. Or even where onedo..,e.s; the deity’ s name is never uttered aloud, Magical words can change the world. The secret word "sesame" opens the cave. Abracadabra pulls the rabbit from the hat. Uttering a sacred name can have unintended consequences. You might wake sleeping gods. It’s safer to steer clear of charged labels. A similar sort of ritualized avoidance of naming characterizes many kinship systems around the word. Son-in-laws never pronounce the personal names oftheir wives’ parents, and .vice versa. In other societies, brothers and sisters avoid ¯ in public? Who can use which word, and ¯¯ in which context? "Gay" and "Lesbian" have recently become broadly accepted ¯ terms for homosexuality. Some have also ¯ attempted to revaluate "queer." Revaluation succeeds when the labeled ¯ themselves embrace a slur as their own, defusing its negative charge. Thus,"Queer Theory" is currently being taught in ¯ Ameficau umversities. Then there’s "faggot." Faggot, as a negative homos’exual label dates back ¯ onlyto 1910, although it was used as early ¯ as the late 16th century to slur women. In ¯ fact, a number of today’s Gay slurs - ¯ including the term "Gay" itself- were ¯ first applied to women. A "Gay" woman ¯ in 1650 Faagland was a prostitute. Robert ¯ Scott’s Gay Slang Dictionary (online at http:/!~vww.hurricane.net/.~vizard/ 19.htnfl) lists 156 synonyms for"fag" mad ¯ more appear else~vhere in the dictionary. (Scott also has 37 terms for "Lesbian.") These include Spmfish-derived’~maricon" ~ and "’pato," French "tapette" (although ¯ pede ~srmss~n~),~dd~sh fe~,ele, and ¯ British/Australian "poofter." Then there are the more obscure "’cot betty," ¯ "daffodilly," "fu," "whoopsie boy," and "uffimay" - "muffie’" in Pig Latin. ~’Faggot,’" unlike "Gay". or "Queer," ~ still remains impolite. The ~vord is ¯ dangerously profane.. Not many of my ¯ academic colleagues are willing to teach ¯ courses ~in "Faggot Theory." But the profane is always close to the sacred. ." Because of its charge, "faggot" is more ¯ hurtful but also thusmore useful indefining ¯ who and what we are. When we name ¯ each other by the word, we make a strong, each other’, s names like hot potatoes. ~ pt~blic claim to belong to a shared world Anthropology suggests" that such ¯ .~oFfaggotry. So, still sitting in ~ny 4,’if; I "avoidance relations" smooth over areas of potential social conflict. Negativel5 charged words are equally powerful. The profane also carries a wallop. A curse c,’m kill. The villagers I lived with in Vanuatu were always fearful when someone spoke evil of thegn. Even if someone swore without thinking, in the heat of an angry moment, the ancestr~fl ghosts ufight hear and punish the person who cursed, or the person who ~vas cursed. or both. Sociologists of the 1970s formulated what tlaey called "labeling theory?" They analyzed the ways in which lal~els, like faggot, impact both society and the individual. Socially. an arsenal ofnegative labels maintains power inequalities. Those on the bottom of the social ladder shoulder the brunt of these terms. Individually, such slurs unavoidably tinge our sense of who we are. Like muttered curses, they can harm. Even if we are of the strong, "words may never hurt us" sort, we still have to take into account their social currency:We must respond tO slurs ifonly to deny their validity and power over us. Labeling theory in the 1970s particularly noticed ethnic slurs the N word, the H word, and all those othe~ lfibels ,that~e today t66 impolite to say. Dhrin~"~iE last generation, American speech etiquette (what socio-linguists call "pragmatics") has shifted to make use of these labels hazardous. More recently, the same has occurred with words like faggot. In a way, however, new politeness rules give these words even more power than they once had, as Errol’ s neighbormay have realized. There is a politics of labeling here. Whose words will become the standard labels - the one everyone safely may use jnst gave that !@#S% the evil-eye. But in 1996, at a Gay pride parade in Providence, R.I., he took the opportunity to make ,’unends, "’I stood tip in t¥ont of 3,000 people mad lnade a public apology to the Gay couununity aud the two gentlemen who went to that prom together," Ste~vart said. "It was very emotional." " Stewart 1]as been criticized bv some iu the Gay connnumty for not being more out froht with his personal relationslfips. He bristles at that. "’My personal life is extremely private," he said. "People have a lot of gall to impose their opinions on someone who’ s trying to make a difference - to tell me that because I’ ve reached a certain stature, I have to promote some Gay agenda." ’~¥qaen it comes to being a role model, Stewart believes it’ s more important to be a greatmayor than to spotlight his personal life. 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Yet, I watch TV, and see Will and Grace, and many other shows that have or feature Gay/Lesbian characters, I see films that are about Gay folk even showing here in the crotch of the bible belt (Beautiful Thing, for instance) and can see a difference. Because when I grew up, the onlyimage I had ofGay folk were the man mentioned in the book on birds and bees my parents gave me at 14 - published in 1945 - that stated homosexuals were men who hung around playgrounds in trench coats offering you candy. I remember thinking - in a rare moment when I wasn’t busy suppressing, repressing and denying - that that was what I had to look forward to? That’s what I was? Ick. And the news at the time, if Gay folk were mentioned at all, "was nothing but images of the most whacked out, far out people on the planet. Lovely. Now, kids have it much easier. Is it paradise? No. Obviously not, and there are people who are very much fighting to prevent growth and understanding, and raising monsters all around us. As Melissa Etheridge wrote in her song "Scarecrow" on the albttm "Breakdown": "’We all gasp ’this can’t happen here’, we’re all much too civilized, where can these monsters hide?’" She answers: "But they are knocking on our front door, They’re rocking in our cradles, They" re preadfing in our churches, And eating at our tables." And she’s absolutely right; that’s exactly where they are. The boogeymen are out there; and occasionally they do get you. In another song on the same album, she writes: "There is no marc, There are no secrets, We all begin this race at the start, But I have come this farWith a truth of the heart. Deep down inside I think we’re all the same. Try not to judge someone And never shame. I do bdieve that people are good. They just want hope and respect And to be understood. Sometimes it hard sometimes it’s strange But the truth of the heart is people can change" And this is true; I’ve seen it happen. Far too infrequently, but it can happen. And that’s the hope that can feed the fire of change, andkeepus going whenit gets too much. And it does feel that way, sometimes. I had gotten to that point, after seeing the internal strife within the communities, as well as from outside. How can we hope to change the world when we can’t even agree amongst ourselves? I’ d certainly decided it wasn’ t worth an effort. Butmy best friend Karin, aftermany years ofcomplainingabout the world, has finally taken steps. To at least make an attempt. And her doing so has reignited a flame within me. And if that spark might ignite another, then perhaps the tamers of the world can unite. And thus is hope reborn, like a phoenix frown the ashes. And the world has changed; it is so much easier tocome out earlier. There’ s less a chance ofsomeone being afraid that they’re the only one - like I did, There were no role models. There were no out Gay folk that I could talk to. There were few resources available even at.the library, unless it was reinforcement of the writing in that booklet morn and dad gave me. Thanks to the folks who were willing to come together and fight and be,,,~ocal ~md out when it was much more dangerous to do so, the younger Gay folk do have options we older folk didn~ t have. For thai reason alone, the fight must continue. So get involved, even if it’s coming out to someone youhaven’ t yet. The only way to dispel the lies and misi~ffonnation of the radically wgong is to present ourselves as we are - hmnan beings. That h~s done more to change folks around me tha_u all the marching and worn out footwear in the world. And what is it that we all seek, really? Not sex; and people who think that’s what it’s all about are just plain wrong. Tell them so. It’ s about the right to love without being discriminated against. And if they give you guff about that, just tell them what author Lynn Flewelling told me: Love is love. Tuesday, June 6th, an art exhibit, "United" will openandonThursday, June 8th, there will be a film night. Locations and times will be announced later. For more information about these events, call the Gay Community Services Center at 743-4297 (Gays). Groups who want to enter a float in the parade are encouraged to attend the float clinic on March 11 from 1-4pro at the Center. Gay Men’s Friendships: Invincible Cotnmunities by Peter Nardi The Elusive Embrace: Desire and the Riddle ofldentity by Daniel Mendelsolm Prayer Warriors by Stuart Howell Miller Widescreen Dreaths : Growing Up Gay at the Movies by Patrick Horrigan Victory Deferred: How AIDS Changed Gay Life in America ¯ by Johi~-Manual Andriote ; OF INTEREST TO EVERYONE ¯ Gay Parents/Straight Schools: Building ¯ Comnfftnication attd Trust by Virginia Casper ¯ Witness to Revolution: The Advocate ¯ Reports on Gay and Lesbian Politics ¯¯ 4 Steps to Financial Securityfor Gay attd Lesbian Couples ¯ by Harold Lustig Multicultural Detective Fiction: Murder ¯ from the Other Side Outon Stage: Lesbian andGay Theatre in ". the Twentieth Century ¯ by Alan Sin.field ¯ TheQueerSixties by PatriciaJuliana Smith ¯ Gaylaw: Challenging the Apartheid of ¯ the Closet ¯ by William Eskridge : To Be Continued, Take Two i by Michele Karlsberg Disidentifications: Queers of Color and ¯ the Performance ofPolitics ¯ by Jose Munoz "- SomethingInside: Conversations with Gay ¯ Fiction Writers CouNCiL oak meN’S c or<aLe presents an~eclectic mix.of.choral.literature ranging from Baroque to Broadway, from pop classics of the ’50s and ’60s to a bawdy sea chantey aod an American Folk song featuring the Green Country Cloggers. Friday and Saturday, April 7 & 8, 2000 at 8pm Williams Theatre, Tulsa Performing Arts Center (reception following) Tickets: PAC box office, 596-7111 in Tulsa, 1,800-364-7111 or online at www,tulsapac.com council oak a fellowship of gay men dedicated to musical excellence in the performnnce of choral literature:, providing a source ot" pride, unity, and support, w;h{]e presenting a positive image for ourselves, our community, and society as a whole. FOR MORE INFORMATION about the council oak me~’s Cl~oI~aLe and its parent organization, the non-profit Vocal Pride Foundation,visit our award-winning website at www.counciloak.org. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [2000] Tulsa Family News, March 2000; Volume 7, Issue 3 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. 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